An Overnight Event

based on

S e x y Gi r l s
Hot?
How Hot Is Too

by
h ay l e y D i M a r c o
 Overview
5 Introduction

9 Friday Night
Dinner 1 hour
Large Group Session One (Covers Introduction–Chapter 3):
Your Accidental Image 1–1.5 hours
Free Time 30 minutes+

13 Saturday Morning
Breakfast 1 hour
Reading/Review Time 30–40 minutes
Large Group Session Two (Covers Chapters 4–9): A Closer Look at
Your Accidental Image 1–1.5 hours
Individual Time 30 minutes

23 Saturday Afternoon
Lunch 1 hour
Small Group Session (Covers Chapters 10–12): Creating an Image You
Love 30 minutes
Large Group Activity One: “Sexy Police” 15–20 minutes
Break 15 minutes
Large Group Activity Two (Covers Chapter 13): The Dressing Party 1.5–2 hours
Pack Up

23 Handouts

27 Author Bio


 Introduction
Let’s get real. Every girl wants to look good. What’s more, every girl wants the attention of that
cute guy she’s had her eye on. For many girls, looking sexy is the key to getting that attention.
And herein lies the problem. What a teen girl wears says a lot about who she is. But does she
know that? Does she stop to think that she’s advertising with every outfit she puts on? Take a
look at the girls in your youth group and in your church. Do they know what they are really
saying about themselves? Wish you could talk to them honestly and openly about the message
they are sending to the opposite sex?
The Sexy Girls event guide can help. It has been designed as an overnight event with ques-
tions and activities that coordinate with specific chapters from my book Sexy Girls: How Hot is
Too Hot? We’ll take a look at this thing called “modesty”, see why God cares about what’s in a
girl’s closet, and learn how to make good decisions about style. And by the time we’re done,
your girls will have learned to understand their bodies and how guys look at them (and they
are looking!)
The Sexy Girls event begins in the early evening and ends the following afternoon. The Friday
evening session should help introduce the topic, while still leaving plenty of time for games,
movies, or any other fun activities you might want to do together. Keep in mind that Saturday’s
schedule is more intense, so you will want to encourage your girls to get some sleep the night
before. The suggested time frames are listed in the Overview, but feel free to adapt these times
as needed. Be flexible and remember that the goal is to have meaningful discussion—not to
simply “get through” the schedule. Since the timetable doesn’t allow for a great deal of reading
time, we suggest that you hand out copies of the book to your girls at least two weeks before
the event. Encourage them to read the entire book ahead of time so you can focus your time
on discussion at the event.
Please note: Sexy Girls was written by a girl, for the girls, about a girl issue. As such, I highly
recommend that this study be led by a girl instead of a guy. If you are a male youth director or
pastor who thinks this study would benefit your group, I suggest that you ask a trusted adult
woman to lead the group instead of yourself. I also recommend that you use this guide over a
four-week period, tackling one session each week. That gives you plenty of time to prepare and
gives your girls plenty of time to read. And please feel free to use these activities and questions
to sculpt your own discussion. You may find that students come with enough questions to fuel
an hour’s worth of conversation. Or you may need to rely on the questions provided here to
keep the discussion rolling. How you want to use these questions is up to you. Just remember:
the goal is to generate a healthy discussion about modesty—not to simply “get through the list
of questions provided.


 Introduction

It’s almost time to get started. But first, here are some helpful hints about using this guide in
a group setting.

Before You Start

At its heart, Sexy Girls challenges women to dress in a way that’s attractive, but also sexually pure.
That’s a huge challenge—not just for teens, but for adult women as well. If you’re the adult lead-
ing this study, you’ve just taken on more than the role as discussion leader: you’ve just become
a role model in this area of appropriate dressing too.
So before you start the study, we highly recommend that you read through the book and take
an honest appraisal of your own clothing style. Keep in mind the standard of Ephesians 5:3—that
there should not be even a hint of sexual immorality in the way you dress. Does your wardrobe
live up to this standard or do you have some clothing that God would consider inappropriate?
Don’t be ashamed or frustrated if you find that some inappropriate clothing has made its
way into your closet. Just be faithful to God’s calling and make the necessary changes to portray
an appropriate style. Yes, it’s painful to make changes to your image, but the girls in your study
group won’t rise to the challenge of modesty if you aren’t willing to do it yourself. So be open
and honest with your study group about the changes you’ve made and why. Seeing you rise to
God’s standards may be just the inspiration they need to do the same!

Take-Away

To help your girls remember the Sexy Girl concepts you study during this event, provide some
sort of tangible item that they can take home with them. For a simple and easy approach, cre-
ate some wallet-sized, laminated cards that say “Join the New Sexual Revolution” and include
a copy of the prayer on page 147 of the book. Encourage the girls to keep the cards in their
wallet—where they’ll see them every time they decide to make a new clothing purchase.
If you have some creative girls in your group (or a mom whose gifted with crafting and sew-
ing), you might consider a fun project such as making a beaded keychain or sewing colorful
handbags that could be given to girls at the end of the event, along with the laminated cards
mentioned above.

Group Rules

Remind your girls that this study group is a place where people are to be valued and respected.
We suggest that you share these simple group rules with everyone before you begin.

» Practice confidentiality. What’s said in the group stays in the group.

» Respect other people’s views, even when they are different than your own.

» Listen. Listen. Listen. Don’t be the one who does all the talking. Let others have a chance
to share their views as well.

» Don’t interrupt. Wait your turn to talk.


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Tips for Leading a Discussion:

Here are a few ideas to help you keep your discussions rolling in a meaningful way:

» Prepare. Make sure you’ve read through the book chapters for each session. As you
prepare for the sessions, consider one or two personal anecdotes you may be able to
share during the group’s discussion.

» Be yourself. Thank students for sharing their thoughts and opinions, but don’t feel that
you need to agree with every one. Be honest with your students about the lessons
you’ve learned in your own experiences—even if they may not be what your students
want to hear!

» Encourage students to go deeper. When someone gives a simple response, ask them
follow-up questions such as “Why do you feel that way?” “What do you mean by that?”
“Tell us more.”

» Allow for silence. Remember your students haven’t read the questions ahead of time and
they may need some time to process a response. Allow for about seven to ten seconds
of silence before saying anything further, even when it makes you feel uncomfortable.
If necessary, you can reword the question or move on to another topic.

» Include everyone in the discussion. If it seems like the same two or three students are
responding to all of your questions, look for ways to bring others into the conversation.
Some students may need a little encouragement to share their thoughts and opinions.
Invite them to talk by saying something like “Lisa, I’m curious what you think about this
too,” or “Sara, I’d love to hear what you have to say about that.” Be sensitive to their
feelings, though. If the student has nothing to say or looks extremely uncomfortable,
give them an out by moving on to someone else.

» Be a good listener. The goal is to have a true discussion, not just a “talk” by the group
leader. Avoid putting words in the students’ mouths or overreacting to comments that
you may not agree with. Try asking “mirror” questions that challenge students to clarify
or affirm what you’ve heard. For example, say “What I hear you saying is this. Is that
what you mean?” or “So what you seem to be saying is this. Would you agree?”

» Bring God into it. Pray for the students before and after each session. Ask God to direct
your discussion and be open to the Spirit’s leading. It may be that he takes you in an
unexpected direction, so don’t get too hung up on “the plan.” If students are genuinely
interested and engaged in a healthy side topic, let the conversation go, saying a silent
prayer for God to be working on their hearts as you go.


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Dinner

I suggest that you start your event with a meal. Whether you order pizza, hit the drive-through,
or brave the kitchen together, dinner is a great time for the girls to get to know each other. The
more comfortable they are around each other, the easier it will be for them to share their hon-
est feelings later on. But be careful not to dull the mood. Keep the time light and fun so the girls
have the energy and focus they need to dig into the really meaty issues ahead.

Large Group Session One: Your Accidental Image

Opening Activity: Celebrity Watch

Supplies Needed: several celebrity news magazines (People, Entertainment Weekly,

etc.) scissors, glue sticks, paper, pens

Divide your girls into groups of three or four and give each group a couple of magazines, a
scissors, glue stick, pen, and some paper.
Tell each group to look through their magazines and cut out pictures of popular female
celebrities. Once they’ve created a pile of pictures, have them pick 5–6 celebrities they think
are the most popular with teens. They should glue those pictures to a piece of paper and then
do an analysis of what the celebrity is wearing. Tell them to rate this celebrity on the following
“Sexy Scale” and write the corresponding number next to the picture:

1 = Very Sexy Girl: likes to be risqué, pushes the envelope sexually

2 = Sexy Girl: dresses in a sexually suggestive way
3 = “Innocent” Sexy Girl: tries to portray a “good girl” image, with a hint of sexuality beneath
the surface
4 = Clean-Cut Girl: dresses attractively, but not in a way to attract attention to herself
sexually
5 = Anti-Sexy Girl: dresses in sloppy, careless, clothing that disguises her femininity

After about ten minutes, gather the groups together and have them share their results. Ask the
following questions as groups take turns sharing their results:


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Follow-Up Questions

» Do any of the celebrities you picked tend to dress differently than the way they were
portrayed in your photo? If so, what number on the “Sexy Scale” would you give them
for the way they usually dress?

» Based on your results, would you say that most female celebrities today portray a sexy
image or something else? Why do you think they choose to portray the image they
do?

» Do you think it’s ok to dress sexy? Why or why not?

» On the 1–5 scale we used, where would you say most of the girls in your school dress?
Give some specific examples of clothing that would fit into each category.

Student Feedback

Before moving into further discussion, ask students to share any questions or comments they
had as they read pages 9–57.

Discussion Questions for Chapters 1–3

1. Do you think most high school girls portray an image that is consistent with who they
really are? Why or why not?

» What kinds of things affect a girl’s image in a positive way? What things affect it in a
negative way?
2. Discuss this quote from p. 33: “Guys are visual creatures. They are turned on by what
they see.”

» Can you think of any examples of how guys tend to be more visual than girls?

» If it’s true that guys are turned on by what they see, then how do you think current
fashion trends impact them?

» How does it make you feel to know that guys of all ages notice what girls wear, not just
the teen guys?
3. What does God have to say about a person who leads someone into temptation? (Check
out p. 34 if you’re not sure.)

» Who should have more responsibility? The guys—to control their minds even if they see
sexually suggestive clothing? Or the girls—to dress in appropriate clothes so the guys
aren’t tempted to impure thoughts?

» Is it fair to hold a girl accountable for what a guy is thinking when he sees her in sexy
clothes? Why or why not?

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4. Consider this quote from p. 37: “Guys don’t take sexual girls seriously . . . They are so
clouded by your body parts that they won’t see you for the amazing girl that you are.”

» Do you think guys treat girls differently depending on whether they dress sexy or not?
If so, how are they treated?

» Which girls get more attention from guys: Girls dressed sexy or girls who don’t dress
sexy? Which girls get more respect?

» What kind of guy do “sexual girls” tend to attract?

5. Why do you think girls want guys to find them sexy, even if they aren’t planning to have
sex?

» How is this like false advertising?

6. Who gets hurt when girls dress sexy?

7. Ephesians 5:3 gives God’s standards about sexuality: There must not be “even a hint of
sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity. . .”

» Is God’s standard too high? Is it really possible to avoid even a “hint” of sexual immoral-
ity with current fashion trends?

» Can you think of any clothing styles that your church or school generally accepts, but
that still have a “hint” of sexual immorality?
8. On p. 55, Hayley says, “God esteem definitely has more power than self-esteem.” What’s
the difference between God esteem and self-esteem?

» What’s different about a person who tries to build God esteem rather than their
self-esteem?

» How does this play out when it comes to a girl’s decision about dressing sexy or not?

Free Time

Depending on how your discussion goes, you may have some free time to watch movies, play
games, give makeovers, manicures, or pedicures, or just hang out. Don’t forget to have fun!
Keep in mind, though, that day two’s schedule is more intense, so you will want to encourage
your girls to get some sleep tonight.

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Morning
Breakfast

After a full night’s sleep, your students will be ready to dig into more Sexy Girls topics. While
you munch on some cinnamon rolls and orange juice, get the girls talking. If you had free time
last night, ask them what they did. If you watched a movie together, ask them how they liked it
and what their favorite part was. Keep it fun and entertaining!

Reading Time

Before you begin your small group activity, ask the girls if they need or want more time to re-
view the next section of the book. If they have not been able to read through the entire book
before the event, you may want to start a little earlier this morning and work in some reading
time before you continue with the schedule.

Large Group Session Two: A Closer Look at Your

Accidental Image

Opening Activity: $100 Challenge

Supplies Needed: paper, pens/markers, scissors, glue sticks, several catalogs/maga-

zines

Divide your girls into groups of two to four for this activity, giving each one several pieces of blank
paper, along with some scissors, a glue stick, and a pen or marker. Give half of the groups the
“Second Glance Challenge” and the other half the “Blend-Into-The-Wall Challenge” as outlined
below. Give groups about ten minutes to complete their task and then bring them together to
share their results.

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The Second Glance Challenge

Imagine that you have been given the opportunity to earn $100 for every time you can get a
guy to do a double-take and check out your body during the course of a single day. Using the
catalogs/magazines and the rest of your supplies, create a “plan of attack” with pictures and
comments about the clothing, makeup styles, and other strategies you would use to make the
most money in this challenge.

Blend-Into-The-Wall Challenge

Imagine that you have been given the opportunity to earn $100 for every time a guy passes you
by without even noticing that you’re a girl. Using the catalogs/magazines and the rest of your
supplies, create a “plan of attack” with pictures and comments about the clothing, makeup styles,
and other strategies you would use to make the most money in this challenge.

Follow-Up Questions

» What’s worse—dressing provocatively so guys will check out your body or dressing so
sloppy or carelessly that people don’t even notice your femininity?

» What are the dangers of both of these strategies?

» What kind of guys would the “Second Glance” girl and the “Blend-Into-The-Wall Girl”
attract? Do you think either of their strategies would help them find true romance?
Why or why not?

Student Feedback

Before moving into further discussion, ask students to share any questions or comments they
had as they read pages 59–117.

Discussion Questions for Chapters 4–9

1. Do you agree with this statement: “Any piercing or tattoo that is strategically placed on
a sexual part of your body achieves only one thing: it gets sexual attention” (p. 65)?

» What kinds of tattoos or body piercing do you think are appropriate for a Christian
woman? What kinds are inappropriate and why?
2. What do you think Hayley means by this quote on p. 62, “To make yourself a sexual
object is to kill a part of you that was created expressly for relationship”?

» How can sexy clothes, tattoos, and piercing actually work against a girl’s romantic
dreams?

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3. What are some healthy motives for wearing make-up? What are unhealthy motives?

» What practical advice would you give to a girl who wants to wear make-up in an attrac-
tive, but not sexually suggestive way?
4. How do you think plastic surgery and liposuction affect our culture’s standards of
beauty?

» In what situations would you say plastic surgery is a good thing? In what situations is it
an unhealthy thing? Why?

» How do you think God views plastic surgery and liposuction?

5. Consider this quote: “Don’t let your exterior become your obsession or the cost could
prove to be your interior life.” (p. 78) How do you think this happens?

» How can a girl tell if she’s become too obsessed with her exterior?
6. Do you think it’s important for a girl to have some Christian friends in her life? Why or
why not?

» How do you know when a friendship has crossed the line into unhealthy territory and
needs to be cut off?
7. What makes a girl a tease? What’s wrong with being a tease?

» On p. 108, it says “things go badly very badly for people who lead others to sin.”

» In what ways do you think things might “go badly” for a girl who causes guys to stumble
by the way she dresses?
8. How does sexy clothing make it more difficult to stay sexually pure?

9. What’s the difference between sex, romance, and love? Which one are you more likely
to get with sexy clothes?

Individual Time

End your Saturday morning with a time of personal reflection. For this individual time, give the
girls some quiet space and a copy of the “In Style” handout found at the back of this guide. Handout
Encourage them to take an honest look at their fashion choices during this time—and to be open
to any changes God may be calling them to make.

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Afternoon
Lunch

How’s the weather outside? If it’s nice, why not have a picnic? Recruit your girls to help make
sandwiches, pack juice boxes, or wrap brownies. They can split up the responsibilities or work
on them together. Teamwork is great! When you’re ready, ask each girl to help carry some of
the food to a nice picnic area outside. If the sun is out, take advantage of the weather and go
for a walk with each other. A little adventure can be fun!

Small Group Session One: Creating an Image You Love

For the next discussion session, divide your girls into small groups of about four to five girls
each and give them a copy of the “Creating An Image You Love” handout. It’s ok to group girls Handout
together with their friends for this small group session—in fact, the closer their relationships with
the others in their group, the more effective this session will likely be.

Large Group Session Three: Sexy Police

Supplies Needed: teen magazines, markers, pen, and paper.

Divide into groups of two to four for this activity. Give each group a copy of one of the teen
magazines you’ve gathered for this activity.
Each group should page through their magazine as the “sexy police.” They must circle any
images that they feel portray inappropriate clothing. (Keeping in mind the Ephesians 3:5 stan-
dard of “not even a hint of sexual immorality”). Give groups five minutes with their magazine
and then ask them to count up the number of violations they found. Encourage them to keep
a tally in the following categories:

» Tight Ain’t Right: clothing that hugs the body so closely, it doesn’t leave anything to the
imagination

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» Under Exposure: underwear that shows underneath shirts or above pants, or exposure
of body parts b/c girl is not wearing underwear beneath her clothes

» Cleavage Control: shirts/dresses that reveal cleavage

» Skirt Flirts: skirts or shorts that are cut too short

» Tattoo Trouble: tattoos or piercing in sexually suggestive places

» Anti-Sexy Clothing: sloppy, dirty, anti-feminine clothes

» Other Violations
Have each group share their tally numbers with each other, and then ask them to go back to
their magazines and look for pictures that would receive a “Community Service” award for
dressing in an attractive, appropriate way. Have them tear out pages with these pictures on
them and tally the total number of appropriately-dressed pictures they find. After about five
minutes, ask each group to share their tally and show at least one of the “Community Service”
pictures they found.

Follow-Up Questions

» What was harder, to find sexy clothing violations or to find pictures of girls dressed
appropriately? What does this exercise tell us about our culture’s clothing standards
compared to God’s clothing standards?

» What’s more difficult: to notice clothing violations in magazines, or to notice them in

your own closet? Why?

» If someone were to create a magazine of photographs portraying girls from your school,
would there be more “Sexy Violations” or “Community Service” awards for the way
they are dressed?

Student Feedback

Before moving into further discussion, ask students to share any questions or comments they
had as they read pages 121–147.

Discussion Questions for Chapters 10–12

1. What is revolutionary about the ideas expressed in Sexy Girls?

» How should a Christian’s attitudes and values about fashion be different than the values
and attitudes of our culture?

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2. On p. 123, it says “God’s goal is not to make you happy; it’s to make you holy. I know
that sounds like a rip-off, but the truth is that those who are holy are in a continual state
of joy.”

» Why does pursuing holiness in fashion sometimes make us unhappy?

» What’s the difference between happiness and joy? What’s more valuable?
3. What are God’s standards for holiness when it comes to fashion?

» What are some key principles that should underlie a Christian girl’s fashion choices?

» How can dressing sexy become an abuse of God’s grace?

4. How do girls usually react to the idea of modesty? How about the idea of dressing
“discreetly”?

» At its core, what do you think true modesty means? What does it mean to be “discreet”?
(Check out pages 133 and 134 for some thoughts on this.)

» What misconceptions do you think some people have about modesty?

» Can you be modest and discreet and still have a stand-out style? Why or why not?
5. Share with each other the description of your image that you wrote on p. 137. What kind
of image are you hoping to portray to the world?

6. On p. 140, it says, “All of us have flubbed up. All of us have been ignorant of God’s law
in some area or another and messed up because of it.”

» As you read this book, did any of you discover areas where you’ve flubbed up in the
fashion world?

» What have you learned about God’s standards through this study that you didn’t under-
stand before?

» How do you hope to change?

7. Why do you think it’s important to share your spiritual struggles and goals with a Christian
friend?

» What are some good ways to connect with other Christians your age?
8. Using the diagram and questions on p. 145, discuss the guidelines you would make to
dress according to God’s standards. How hot is too hot?

Break

Depending on how intense your last discussion was, you may choose to take a short break before
you continue with The Dressing Party. Take this time to relax. Get some food and something to
drink. Or take a quick walk outside. If the girls want some time for reflection, encourage them
to use this time to think and pray.

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Large Group Activity: The Dressing Party

Before the Party:

This session will require a little pre-planning for both you and the girls. At least one week before
the party, you should plan the following details:

Location

If your group has been meeting in a classroom or another small room, you will need to find a
larger location for this event. Try to find a relaxed atmosphere—perhaps a group member’s home
or a youth room with cozy couches—with plenty of space for the girls to lay out their piles of
clothes. It would also be helpful to have a location with several bathrooms or bedrooms that
could be used as changing rooms throughout the evening.

Food

If you haven’t been sharing snacks at your sessions before this, now’s the time to start! Set a
fun atmosphere with some munchies and sodas for everyone to share. You may want to stick
with clear beverages and non-messy snacks so that you avoid any spills or stains on the clothing
that will be all around.

Invitations

Set the tone for this unique party by sending out special invitations to the girls in your study
group. You may want to create printed invitations on your computer and send them by post,
or save time by developing a creative e-mail invitation that you can send to the whole group at
once. Be sure to include the date, time, location, and a reminder for them to pack up all their
clothes and bring them along.

Supplies

To keep the girls’ clothing separate, you may want to bring along some special supplies. Consider
setting out a large plastic tote or cardboard box for each girl, labeled with her name, where
she can keep her clothing throughout the night. If totes or boxes are unavailable, at least be
sure to make a simple paper sign with each girl’s name that can be set by her pile of clothes. A
few simple organizing measures will save you the headache of having to sort out everyone’s
fashions at the end of the night.
Second, you will need to make a copy of p. 143, 145, and 147 before the party night. If
possible, enlarge these pages to poster size and hang them somewhere at your party location
where they’ll be easy to read as a group.
Finally, you may want to have a couple of trash bags on hand for items that the girls decide
are too sexy or inappropriate to wear.

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At The Party:

The Commitment

Start off your party with a joint commitment to dress in a way that pleases God. Refer girls to
your poster of p. 143, read through the commitment together, and then have each girl sign her
name on the poster.

The Standards

Remind your group about the discussion you had last week concerning “How hot is too hot?”.
Take a few minutes to look at your poster of p. 145 and draw lines on the diagram represent-
ing what your group has decided is appropriate. Then move on to the poster of p. 147, reading
through the prayer together, and filling in the blank lines about which parts of the body you will
keep covered at all times.

The Scrutiny

Most of your evening should be spent at this point—trying on and evaluating each other’s clothes.
Read through the section about the Dressing Party on p. 151 and 152 before you begin, and
follow the advice laid out there. Encourage the girls to focus on two goals for the night: honesty
and creativity. They should be honest with each other and point out any clothes that violate
the standards you have set. But they should also seek creative solutions for any “sexy” clothes
they find: with a little ingenuity they may be able to rework some of those outfits into a stylish
and more appropriate look.

The Closing

You probably won’t have time to go through every item of clothing in every wardrobes, so as
your party closes, encourage the girls to apply their new standards to any of the clothes they
didn’t have a chance to evaluate tonight. (And to future purchases too!)
End the evening with a brief prayer, thanking God for the gift of fashion and creativity, and
asking him to help everyone stick to their new standards.

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Handouts

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 In Style
We all want to be “in style,” don’t we? But the question is: what kind of style are we trying to
be in? Is it the styles of our world—or the style God calls us to? Take some time today to evalu-
ate your fashion choices, and hold them up to the standards of God’s Word. You can use the
following questions as a guide, but the most important thing is to simply listen for God’s voice.
What’s he trying to teach you today?

1. What are your motives when getting dressed in the morning? Want to impress certain
guys? Trying to rebel against fashion trends with your clothing choices? Just trying to fit
in with the other girls at your school? What makes you happy with an outfit when you
look at yourself in the mirror?

2. How would you describe your current fashion style? Would you say this reflects who you
really are?

3. Throughout Sexy Girls, you encountered several Bible references about the topic of
dressing sexy. Take a minute to page through your book and write out two or three of
the verses that most made an impression on you. What might God be trying to say to
you through these passages?

4. If you haven’t already written this verse above, write out Ephesians 5:3 here:

5. Do you think anything in your current fashion choices might offer a “hint” of sexual im-
morality? How do you think God feels about the way you dress? Does it reflect who he
created you to be?

6. Based on everything you’ve read and discussed so far, are there any fashion changes
you’d like to make? If so, write down the specifics here, and then say a prayer asking
God to help you stick to these changes.

If you haven’t done so already, end your quiet time by creating a personal style statement as
outlined on page 137.
 Creating an
Image You Love
Discuss the following questions with your group. Be honest and make the most of this opportunity
to encourage one another and share your personal goals and struggles in the area of fashion.
And remember, your discussion should be kept confidential: What’s said in your group should
stay in your group.

1. What is revolutionary about the ideas expressed in Sexy Girls?

2. Share with each other the description of your image that you wrote on p. 137. What kind
of image are you hoping to portray to the world?

3. On p. 140, it says, “All of us have flubbed up. All of us have been ignorant of God’s law
in some area or another and messed up because of it.”

» As you read this book, did any of you discover areas where you’ve flubbed up in the
fashion world?

» What have you learned about God’s standards through this study that you didn’t under-
stand before?

» How do you hope to change?

4. Using the diagram and questions on p. 145, discuss the guidelines you would make to
dress according to God’s standards. How hot is too hot?
About Hayley

Hayley DiMarco writes cutting-edge and best-selling books for teens includ-
ing Mean Girls, Mean Girls Gone, Sexy Girls, Technical Virgin, Dateable, The
Dateable Rules, The Dirt on Dating and The Dirt on Breaking Up.  Hayley also
writes books for former teens including Marriable and Mean Girls All Grown
Up.  Her goal is to give practical answers for life’s problems and encourage
readers to form stronger spiritual lives. Hayley is Chief Creative Officer and
founder of Hungry Planet, an independent publishing imprint and commu-
nications company that feeds the world’s appetite for truth. Hungry Planet
helps organizations understand and reach the multi-tasking mindset, while
Hungry Planet books tackle life’s everyday issues with a distinctly modern
spiritual voice.  For more information on Hungry Planet including leader resources and online
communities that revolve around the books, visit www.hungryplanet.net.