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Shandy T Clark
Author Note
Page 4: Methods
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In America 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce, and the rates are higher for the
second, third and so on (n.d, 2017). When researching divorce, there is extensive research done
on how it affects the children of divorced parents. When researching impacts of dating for
someone that is divorced, there was little academic research actually done. With little
information on dating for a divorced person, significant factors in their emotional life go
unnoticed. Research needs to be done about the impacts of dating on divorced. What type of
Literature Review
Research on the specific topic of divorce impacting dating are limited, though
subcategories can be found to help one understand some of the effects of divorce. One study
emphasises how religious elements and how it plays a part in divorce rates and the process of
getting one. Another subcategory focuses single parents struggles in dating, and the impacts of
having a child while finding a mate. A third subcategory discusses having feelings for an ex
impacts views of yourself. The last study talks about online dating and the outcomes for people
looking for a serious relationship. These subcategories will lead to a better understanding of a
divorced person's emotional state. Also, they will help to address the specifics of how divorce
impacts dating.
Religion plays a huge role in marriage; people that practice tend to stay in their first
marriage. A study found that people that were married under a religious ceremony are 30% less
likely to separate over those who didn’t (Vaaler, 2009). Choosing to get a divorce can cause
strain not only at home, but also at church. Social costs are higher with couples that are part of a
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religion; this could delay or dismiss marriage separation (Vaaler, 2009). Knowing there are
higher social costs for separating for religious couples, dating after divorce could be more
Dating as a single parent comes with many of its own challenges and stresses. One study
found that when a woman’s dating profile picture is viewed, she is considered less attractive and
less datable when a child is posing beside her (Sommer, 2013). In today’s use of social media
and online dating, this finding can predict how tough dating can be for a single mom trying to
date online. When a mother places her child’s opinion over her own in potential dating partner,
they are more likely to have negative dating outcomes (Anderson, 2011). Dating, while being a
parent, they want their child to approve of dating partners. This can lead to having a more
difficult time trying to find a positive relationship between a new partner. From these studies, we
can see the hardships associated to these factors pose for single parents in relation to dating.
Online dating is the one of the most popular way to meet someone. 1 out of 10 Americans
online date and about 25% have found a partner or spouse through this platform (Wiederhold,
2015). Having more options and hand selecting who you want to be approached by, can increase
the success rate of dating. Compared to individuals who had met their spouse traditionally, those
who found their spouse online, found higher marital satisfaction, and less likelihood of divorce
(Wiederhold, 2015). With results like this, the appeal to look online after going through a divorce
while to lose feelings for someone, especially if they were your spouse. A person’s psychological
well being is poorer with the association of continued love for an ex partner (MASON, 2012).
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Taking some time to build yourself up will be more beneficial to finding a healthy relationship
down the road. After divorce, without a healing process, dating will become unsuccessful due to
Method
questions about their dating life. Using Facebook to gather participants through snowball
sampling, as well as having professors from SLCC to distribute the survey to their students.
Males or females ages 18 and up were asked to complete a 10 question survey during November
2017. The 27 participants were asked about the impact their divorce has had on their dating life.
Results
Views on dating
Going through a divorce can skew your views on many aspects of life, one of the biggest
is dating. The Survey asked the participants whether or not their divorce had affected their view
on dating or not. Forty-four percent of the participants found that they took dating more seriously
after their divorce and were more picky about who they dated. These individuals dating again,
want to pick right and minimize the risk for a second divorce. One participant stated “It’s a lot
harder to get back out there and date. But you know the qualities you don't/do want in a partner
How long you wait after a divorce can affect your healing processes. While some choose
to date and have relationships before finalization, 37% of the participants waited until after it
was. Many individuals found it uncomfortable, and weren’t ready to jump into the dating pool
just yet. A participant stated, “I didn't date or feel comfortable dating before my divorce was
finalized.”
Dating platforms
With 44% of the participants being the ages 18-25, dating platforms are important to
know. Fifty-six percent have used an online dating source to meet people. Out of that 56%, 30%
favored Tinder over the other online platforms. As one stated, “Tinder mostly, I’m still barely
learning the dating platforms. It’s all new and interesting to me.”
Forty-One percent found that their transition back into dating was very difficult. Fifteen
percent found it difficult because they have children with their ex-spouse. Dating as a single
parent has been known to be more difficult, than if you weren’t. One participant states, “The
hard part is feeling like I’m never going to meet someone because I am a mother with a lot of
baggage. It’s scary starting over and doing the process of meeting people that you could
potentially date. The easy part is There is no commitment it’s just having fun.”
A lot of these individuals experienced a lot of trust issues after their divorce. Nineteen
percent have stated that their lack of trust was the biggest impact. One statement from the survey
was, “trusting someone has become a lot harder. It has also made me more cautious knowing that
Discussion
From the results, being divorced makes an impact on dating. Trust and becoming open to
dating again were the most prominent reasons why people have struggled with dating again.
Going through the results, some limitations were found that would make a stronger case to why
divorce affects dating. One of these limitations was not getting much information about how the
divorce ended and how the finalization process was handled. Having more participants would
make these results even more concrete. The majority of the participants found a negative impact
on their dating lives. These findings will help others to make a better transition into the dating
References
Anderson, E. R., & Greene, S. M. (2011). “My child and I are a package deal”: Balancing adult
and child concerns in repartnering after divorce. Journal of Family Psychology, 25(5),
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(2016). Romantic and dating behaviors among single parents in the United States.
Kulik, L., & Heine-Cohen, E. (2011). Coping Resources, Perceived Stress and Adjustment to
MASON, A. E., LAW, R. W., BRYAN, A. B., PORTLEY, R. M., & SBARRA, D. A. (2012).
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Sommer, S., Plumm, K. M., Terrance, C. A., & Tubré, T. (2013). Perceptions of Younger Single
Vaaler, M. L., Ellison, C. G., & Powers, D. A. (2009). Religious Influences on the Risk of
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Wiederhold, B. K. (2015). Twenty Years of Online Dating: Current Psychology and Future
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