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Cardi B ‘epic’
bar mitzvah performance
● Rapper Cardi B revealed that she
performed at a bar mitzvah party
over the weekend, and the New York
Post claims that her fee was likely in
the ballpark of half a million dollars.
The “Bodak Yellow” singer said on
Instagram that she performed at the
reported. He feted financier Howard
Lutnick’s son Ryan at the Metropoli-
tan Museum of Art for a fee of ap-
proximately $200,000 to $300,000.
Guests included Sarah Ferguson, the
Duchess of York, and Melania Trump’s
former adviser Stephanie Winston

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party for a boy she called Jake at
the swanky Tao club in Manhattan. A
source told the Post’s Page Six about
the cost, saying she “wouldn’t get out
of bed for less than half a million.”
Cardi, born Belcalis Marlenis Almán-
zar, called the party “epic.”
Meanwhile, up-and-coming rapper
Rich the Kid performed at a bar mitz-
vah party at the same time, the Post
Wolkoff.
These two aren’t the first hip-hop
stars to perform at lavish Jewish
coming-of-age ceremonies. The last
one widely reported about was Nicki
Minaj, who appeared in an infamous
photo at one in 2015. Last year, the
rapper Drake threw himself a bar
mitzvah-themed birthday party.
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U.S., Israel stamp together for Chanukah
● Israel Post and the U.S. Postal Service
have issued a joint stamp for Chanukah.
The stamp also is meant to celebrate
70 years since the establishment of
diplomatic relations between Israel and
the United States, Israel Post said in a
statement.
The new stamp design was launched
simultaneously in the Touro Synagogue
in Newport, Rhode Island, the oldest
synagogue in the United States, and at
the American Center in Jerusalem.
“Today’s joint stamp issue is a symbol
of the shared values and the cultural af-
finity between the United States and Israel,” U.S. Am-
bassador to Israel David Friedman said at the Jerusa-
lem ceremony.
Postal Service Judicial Officer Gary Shapiro said in
Rhode Island: “Starting today, this work of art celebrat-
ing the Jewish Festival of Lights will travel on millions
CONTENTS
of letters and packages, throughout Amer-
ica and around the world.”
The stamp art features a Chanukah
menorah created using the technique of
papercutting, a Jewish folk art, by art-
ist Tamar Fishman. Behind the menorah
is a shape that resembles an ancient oil
jug. It represents the miracle of the oil
that burned in the candelabra in the Holy
Temple in Jerusalem from the time it was
recaptured until the next oil delivery ar-
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rived. Additional design elements include from the Jewish Home
dreidels and a pomegranate plant with
fruit and flowers. in Rockleigh explore Israel
The stamp is being issued in the United States as a
Forever stamp, which will always be equal in value to NOSHES ..................................................................... 4
the current first class mail one-ounce price. It will sell in BRIEFLY LOCAL ..................................................... 12
Israel for 8.30 shekels, the cost of a regular first-class ROCKLAND ............................................................. 15
stamp. Chanukah begins at sundown on Dec. 2. COVER STORY ........................................................18
JTA WIRE SERVICE JEWISH WORLD ................................................... 25
OPINION .................................................................. 38
THE FRAZZLED HOUSEWIFE ..........................44
CROSSWORD PUZZLE .......................................44
CALENDAR .............................................................45
OBITUARIES ...........................................................49
CLASSIFIEDS .........................................................50

Meet Robat, a robot that REAL ESTATE......................................................... 52

navigates in darkness like a bat IN THIS ISSUE: ABOUT OUR CHILDREN

● If bats frighten you, you’ll want
to steer clear of Tel Aviv University
graduate student Itamar Eliakim’s
latest invention: an autonomous
robot that navigates in the dark
like a bat.
“Robat” doesn’t fly like its bio-
logical inspiration, but scoots on
the ground on four wheels. The
similarities come into play when
the Robat finds itself in new terri-
tory. Like a bat, it uses echoloca-
tion to map its environment based
only on sound.
Scientists have long known that
bats emit sounds that are reflected by objects in their
surroundings. The bats use this echo information to
“see” in the dark. But applying echolocation as the ba-
sis for a robot rarely has been tried until now.
Robat is equipped with an ultrasonic speaker that
produces frequency-modulated
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Noshes
AT THE MOVIES:
Travails of a teen
and meth burnout
TICKET “Mid90s”
TICK
ET marks the
directing
debut of
JONAH HILL, 34, and he
also wrote the film. While
it is billed as a comedy/
drama, the reviews I’ve
read describe it as a
pretty gritty film with
just a chuckle now and
again. It follows Stevie, a
13-year-old with a tough
home life — his working-
class mother has a
parade of guys coming
through, and his much
older brother beats him
up. Stevie finds an
alternate family among a
group of rowdy new
friends who hang out at
a local skate shop and
often get into trouble.
Likewise, “Beauti-
ful Boy” isn’t exactly a
Disney film. It’s based
on memoirs by journalist
DAVID SHEFF, 62, and
his son NIC, 36, about
Nic’s battle with meth
addiction. Nic was raised
by his father and step-
mother in an affluent San
Francisco suburb. He
was a golden boy (wrote,
painted, surfed) until
he got hooked. The film
focuses on the efforts of
his parents (including his
mother) to understand
why he got addicted and
why he backslid after
several rehab stays.
Steve Carell plays David
and TIMOTHÉE CHAL-
AMET, 22, plays Nic. Most
critics noted that many
scenes are good, but the
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film, they said, often has
a slick, superficial feel.
Quite a few, however,
praised Chalamet, includ-
ing the Chicago Tribune
reviewer: “Chalamet’s
terrific throughout, ac-
cessing and deploying
every kind of emotion in
unpredictable combina-
tions. It’s an ideal follow-
up for him, coming after
his Oscar-nominated turn
in the languidly beautiful
romance ‘Call Me By
Your Name.’”
The Tribe
on the gridiron
TICKET
Here are the
TICK
ET Jewish
players on
an NFL
roster as of October 15:
NATE EBNER, 29,
defensive back, New
England; ALI MARPET,
25, center, Tampa Bay;
MITCHELL SCHWARTZ,
29, offensive tackle,
Kansas City; MICHAEL
DUNN, 22, linebacker,
Jacksonville (practice
squad); ANTHONY
FIRKSER, 22, tight end,
Tennessee; and JOSH
ROSEN, 21, quarterback,
Arizona. Rosen, a rookie,
began starting with his
team’s fourth game.
What about Julian
Edelman, the star New
England receiver? Well,
in common parlance, he
is one-eighth Jewish (a
Jewish great-grandfa-
ther) and he was raised
Christian. Yes, he’s a
friend of Israel and he
E L E V A T E
T W O L O C A T IO N S T O S ER V E Y O U B ET T E R - E N G L E W O O D , N J & H A RR IM A N , N Y - B E N Z E L B U S C H . C O M
“There were fans who ridiculed this and
said that I was trying to convert Harry
to Judaism, but really the point was just
to convey the cheer and festivity of making
up words to a holiday song.”
— JTA quotes the Harry Potter series English-to-Hebrew translator, Gili Bar Hillel,
explaining why Sirius Black sings a Chanukah song, “Mi Yimallel,” instead of
“God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen.” It’s so readers can relate to it, she said.
steamy six-episode BBC
series that began stream-
ing on Netflix on Octo-
ber 19. Joy, a therapist
(Toni Collette), and Alan,
a teacher, find that their
marriage is in a rut, sexu-
ally and otherwise, and
consider openly seeing
other people. British ac-
tress SOPHIE OKONEDO,
50, plays Angela, Joy’s
therapist. Okonedo, who
Jonah Hill Timothée Chalamet Josh Rosen was Oscar nominated
for her performance in
“Hotel Rwanda” (2004),
was raised Jewish by her
white Jewish mother. Her
father is Nigerian. She
told a British TV sta-
tion: “I feel as proud to
be Jewish as I feel to
be black.”
“Tell Me a Story” be-
gins streaming on CBS
All-Access on October 31.
Its publicity release says:
“Set in modern day New
Sophie Okonedo James Wolk Alex Karpovsky York…the world’s most
beloved fairy tales are re-
has a real affection for that was written and boundaries? (Reviews of imagined as a dark and
his Jewish roots. How- directed by NADAV this remake are almost twisted psychological
ever, I don’t count him as LAPID, 43. In this all positive). thriller.” The handsome
Jewish for the purpose remake, MAGGIE A 30-minute docu- JAMES WOLK, 33 (“Mad
of this column. I leave it GYLLENHAAL, 40, stars mentary, “Long Shot,” Men”), is a series regular.
you to decide how you as Lisa, the teacher. Lisa streaming on Netflix, tells “Homecoming,” based
count him. is bored with her work the true but unlikely sto- on a well-received fic-
and her family life isn’t ry of how evidence was tional podcast of the
More TV/streaming fulfilling. Then a boy in found that validated the same name, starts on
catch-ups and her class spouts a alibi of an innocent man November 2 on Netflix.
premieres brilliant short poem, accused of murder. With- Heidi Bergman (Julia
The original seemingly out of the air. out spoiling things, let Roberts) is a caseworker
TICKET
TICK
ET film “The Lisa is convinced he is a me just say that come- assigned to a young
Kindergarten genius and actively dian LARRY DAVID, 71, veteran at a secret gov-
Teacher” is mentors him. But is she improbably had a hand ernment facility. ALEX
now streaming on doing it only to make in this. David is charming KARPOVSKY (“Girls”),
Netflix. It is based on the herself feel special? Is and funny in his inter- 43, a series regular, plays
critically acclaimed Israeli she crossing the appro- view segments. Craig, another employee
film of the same name priate teacher-student “Wanderlust” is a at the facility. –N.B.
California-based Nate Bloom can be reached at
Middleoftheroad1@aol.com
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The group from Jewish Home Family facilities tours the Roman ruins at Beit She’an.

It’s never
too late
Seven seniors
from the Jewish Home
in Rockleigh explore Israel
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN

E
xploring Israel’s iconic tourist sites requires rigor-
ous footwork, what with the uneven cobblestones
and stone stairways of Jerusalem’s Old City, the
rocky-sandy beaches of the Dead, Med, and Gali-
lee seas, the cliffs of Masada, and the archaeological ruins of
Beit She’an and Caesarea.
Exploring these and many other areas with the aid of a
wheelchair or walker is dauntingly difficult.
But a combination of meticulous logistical planning and
a can-do attitude ensured that seven travelers from Jewish
Home Family facilities — two from the Jewish Home at Rock-
leigh and five from the Jewish Home Assisted Living Kaplen
Senior Residences in River Vale, ranging from 68 to 87 years
old — were able to participate fully in a 10-day Israel mission
whose itinerary rivaled that of a young-adult Birthright group.
This was the second such mission undertaken in the past
three years at the initiative of Carol Silver Elliott, the presi-
dent and chief executive officer of Jewish Home Family since
November 2014. In her daily trip blog, Ms. Elliott related how
the residents and their personal companions from the Jewish
Home staff gracefully conquered each challenge.
“One of our resident travelers has much difficulty walking,”
she reported in her entry about the group’s Dead Sea visit.
Jewish Home mission participants float in the Dead Sea.
“We walked her down and into the water and then our ever
resourceful director of nursing, Eric Riguerra, found a way to
use a plastic chair to help position her. Many hands helped tip
her back into the water and then the chair was removed and
she was floating. Words cannot come close to describing how
thrilled she was and how free she felt.”
Talking to the Jewish Standard over dinner at Jerusalem’s
Orient Hotel, participants reported that the excitement
began even before taking off on October 9.
Retired attorney Allan Horowitz said his heart swelled
with pride upon seeing the Star of David on the El Al plane
at Newark Airport. “You cannot be anything but emotion-
ally impressed by everything,” said Mr. Horowitz. “I was not
brought up religious but I can understand why people want
to move here because they’re participating in something
that’s living and growing. And being in Israel really enhances
your sense of oneness with the Jewish people.”
One of the group’s stops that day had been the Shrine
of the Book on the campus of the Israel Museum in Jerusa-
lem. The building, which houses the oldest extant biblical
manuscripts discovered in caves in the Judean Desert, has
a unique white dome evoking the lid of the clay jar in which
the first scrolls were found.
“I was so excited about seeing the Dead Sea Scrolls that I
didn’t even realize the building is in the shape of an urn until
our guide pointed it out,” Deborah Shrier said. She and her
husband, Jerry, had been to Israel most recently 24 years ago.
“The people are great and we’re getting an education,”
Eugene Landsman added. “It’s a beautiful country and the
guide’s been very informative.”
The guide they referred to was Yaacov Sivek, a spry
77-year-old who specializes in guiding Jewish elders and also
led the Jewish Home’s first mission in 2015.
Mr. Sivek traveled with the group as far north as Metulla at

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the Lebanese border and as far south as the Dead Sea.
Among the more unusual places on the jam-packed itin-
erary were Kishorit, a cooperative farm and winery in the
Galilee employing resident special-needs adults; Yvel, a fine-
jewelry design house that runs a social enterprise where Ethi-
opian immigrants craft a line of contemporary jewelry based
on their traditional styles; and Yad LaKashish (Lifeline for the
Elderly), where Jerusalem seniors — many of them immigrants
from the countries of the former Soviet Union — handcraft
Judaica items sold in an adjacent gift shop and online.
Jerusalem’s Western Wall — the Kotel — always is a spe-
cial highlight of a trip to Israel. The revered structure is a
segment of an ancient retaining wall of the Second Temple
compound built by Herod the Great. It’s customary to place
handwritten prayers into the cracks between its stones.
Ms. Silver arranged for Kotel replicas to be erected at the
Rockleigh and River Vale campuses before the trip so that
residents and staff could tuck in notes, which were collected
and brought to the real site.
“The Western Wall was very emotional for me and for the
residents,” Julie Cochrane, the director of recreation at Jew-
ish Home Assisted Living, said.
Ms. Cochrane had a typical Israeli small-world experience
when the group was touring the Golan Heights. They went to
Mount Bental, an inactive volcano that became an Israel sur-
veillance position after 1967. There, they ran into Israeli troops
hailing from 18 different countries. It turned out that one sol-
dier was from Washington Township, and he graduated from
high school last year with Ms. Cochrane’s nephew.
The Jewish Home employees on the trip, whether Jewish
A member of the Jewish Home mission puts a note
in a crack in the Western Wall.
or not, seemed just as emotional about the experience as
were the seniors.
Tracey Couliboly, the director of recreation at the Jewish
Home at Rockleigh, said she has worked in Jewish elder facil-
ities for 29 years. “I think the most rewarding thing I could
have done for myself and my residents was to go on this
mission with them because I feel like they actually raised me
into the person that I am today,” she said.
Ms. Couliboly, who is Christian, related a moving experi-
ence that happened at Neot Kedumim Biblical Nature Reserve.
“Three years go my mother passed away, and she always
told me to live life to the fullest,” she said. “One of the first
things we did when we got to Israel was planting trees. And
I planted my tree in honor of my mother. Putting my fingers
into the soil, I felt like I was bringing her on a spiritual jour-
ney with me.”
Ms. Couliboly’s traveling companion, Barbara Levy, cel-
ebrated her birthday during the mission. The two women
were not acquainted until they were paired for the trip.
“We had a couple of meetings so we’d get oriented to one
another, and we bonded prior to our first day in Israel,” Ms.
Couliboly said. “Barbara said to me on her birthday that now
we’re more than just friends, and every year we need to do
something to celebrate the moment we’re sharing today.”
The seven residents on the mission had applied voluntarily
and had to meet certain medical qualification requirements.
Those unable to pay their own way received assistance from
the Jewish Home Foundation.
“When we came three years ago we weren’t sure what to
expect in taking the seniors,” the Jewish Home Foundation’s
executive director, Melanie Cohen, said. “It’s very rewarding
to see Israel through their eyes, especially those for whom this
was a bucket-list item their entire lives, and for one reason or
another they didn’t make it. Now we’re making it possible for
them and it’s totally enjoyable for us as well.”
Board member Maggie Kaplen and her son and daughter-
in-law from Thailand also came along, and they helped par-
ticipants with mobility issues, as did Ms. Cohen’s and Ms.
Elliott’s husbands.
Ms. Cohen said the Jewish Home has shared its Israel Mis-
sion itinerary and professional contacts with other Jewish
elder-care facilities considering such a trip. “It is challeng-
ing, but if you staff properly you just do it,” she said.

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Reunions in Israel unite disabled vets

Those who met through Zahal Shalom in Bergen County get together at home
LOIS GOLDRICH

Every spring, a group of Bergen County

families hosts 10 to 12 disabled Israel veter-
ans for two weeks. If the impact of the pro-
gram on the soldiers is substantial — and
often life-changing — it is equally impor-
tant for the hosts.
“The program is magical,” Steve Korn-
blit of Waldwick said. “It works on so many
different levels of connection — between
you and the veteran, you and Israel, and
between the soldiers who come here as a
group.” The veterans’ wounds range from
visible physical injuries to less obvious but
no less real PTSD, he said. “Some don’t tell.”
Steve and Susan Kornblit are board mem-
bers of Zahal Shalom, and Ms. Kornblit is its
secretary. The group was created by Bergen
County residents in 1993, and it organizes
and sponsors the veterans’ trips. The Korn-
blits hosted their first veteran in 2005, and
they have hosted six veterans since then.
Members of Temple Israel and Jewish Com-
munity Center in Ridgewood, they first
heard about the program through fellow
congregant Nancy Bortingor, who links the
veterans with local families. “She came to The Kornblits and members of the 2010, 2015, 2017, and 2018 delegations meet at a restaurant. Three of the Zahal Shalom
us and got us to become hosts,” Mr. Kornblit alumni here are Druze.
said. “It changed our lives.”
Veterans and host families participate organize reunions of Zahal Shalom alumni together. In a few days, we will move to Jeru- city we also have a potluck dinner sched-
in many social activities in New Jersey, all over the country. They already had salem, and then finish up in Tel Aviv. There uled. In two of the cities, veterans volun-
New York, and Washington, and veterans been to Haifa and Beersheba. “It was all will be two events in each city. One event teered to use their homes to host. We did
have an opportunity to visit local schools hugs and kisses, and ‘so great to see you,’” in each city is a food tour, where we go to Beersheba last night. There were six vet-
and synagogues to discuss both their war- Mr. Kornblit said. a shakshuka or hummus or falafel place erans. The host cooked most of the meal,
time experiences and their everyday life While Bergen County families have vis- famous in that city. We’ve invited veterans but others brought dishes of their own or
in Israel. “They go through two weeks of ited “their veterans” in the past, Mr. Korn- from that city to come with us on the food dessert.”
incredible bonding,” Mr. Kornblit said. blit’s mission now is different. “When we as tour. It’s a nice way to meet again.” Mr. Kornblit said that the veterans in
“The bus to New York, the trip to Washing- American host and buddy families” — who “I contacted every veteran we hosted each place already may know each other,
ton, dinners, trips, social events. All those help out but do not house the veterans — from 2000 all the way to 2018 — about 180 either because they traveled to the United
things create an unbelievable feeling.” “visit, the Israelis want to do everything for people,” he continued. “It’s more difficult States together as a unit or because they
The Kornblits spent last week in Eilat, us, or have us stay in their homes,” he said. to reach people from the earlier years.” met through Beit Halochem, which cares
planning a brief respite in an otherwise “But my idea was to move around Israel The response has varied from city to city. for Israeli veterans who are disabled in
busy schedule. They were in Israel to and create events that would bring soldiers “But that’s just for the food tour. In each SEE VETS PAGE 29

In Haifa, members of the 2010, 2012, 2016, 2017, and 2018 delegations join Steve Members of the 2011, 2016, and 2017 delegations meet at the home of Yoni Deri,
Kornblit, center, for a reunion at a private house. a 2018 alum. Steve and Susan Kornblit join them.

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Follow the money

FEDTalk:Israel features attorney who bankrupts terrorists through ‘lawfare’
LOIS GOLDRICH Israeli women. sue a partnership, you can serve papers to any partner.

N
o, it’s not a typo. The Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey has introduced FED-
Talks, featuring speakers who are experts in
their fields. And if the more well-known TED-
Talks cover a wider range of topics, the JFNNJ series tar-
gets issues of vital importance to the Jewish community.
FedTalks:Israel is even more specific, and
self-explanatory, though the possibilities for
topics and points of view are vast. On Octo-
ber 29, Israeli attorney and human rights
activist Nitsana Darshan-Leitner will offer
one approach to combating terrorism. In
a talk called “Bankrupting Terrorism…One
Lawsuit at a Time,” Ms. Darshan-Leitner —
the founder of the Tel-Aviv based Shurat
HaDin, the Israel Law Center — will describe
the work of her group, which has fought ter-
rorist groups successfully in court.
Indeed, says the group’s website, Shu- Nitsana Darshan-Leitner
rat HaDin is using court systems around the world to go
on the legal offensive against Israel’s enemies. The orga-
nization works with Western intelligence agencies, law
enforcement, and a network of volunteer lawyers across
the globe to file legal actions on behalf of terror victims.
According to Ariella Noveck, the chair of the federa-
tion’s community relations committee, who is organiz-
ing the coming FEDTalk, Ms. Darshan-Leitner “has been
leading the legal fight against terror financing, the anti-
Israel boycott campaigns (BDS), and combating the mul-
titude of lawfare tactics utilized against the Jewish State
by its enemies.”
In a telephone interview, Ms. Darshan-Leitner said she
created Shurat HaDin in 2002. “After two years, we started
winning cases,” she said. Her firm assisted in blocking the
Gaza flotilla and terminated efforts to indict IDF soldiers for a partnership. “You can serve any one of the partners,”
war crimes. Not surprisingly, its founder has been named
by Israeli Forbes magazine as one of the 50 most influential
At the upcoming FEDTalk, Ms. Darshan-Leitner — the
mother of six children, including two pairs of twins — will
speak about her book “Harpoon: Inside the Covert War
Against Terrorism’s Money Masters,” co-written with Sam-
uel M. Katz.
The book details the efforts of a Mossad task force to fol-
low the money, stopping the flow of cash that nourishes
terror networks. Ms. Darshan-Leitner said
she was recruited by Mossad to participate
in “lawfare,” in which private law firms sue
banks, individuals, and organizations on
behalf of victims of terror. So far, her firm —
she has six attorneys — has won more than
$2 billion in judgments on behalf of these
victims. Collecting the money is another
matter, she said, although she has been able
to distribute some $300 million to terror
victims.
Her work with these victims is a natural
outgrowth of her previous legal efforts. “I
always wanted to help people,” she said, citing several
past cases — for example, she represented a belly dancer
raped by an Egyptian ambassador, and she has taken on a
medical forensic institution for misconduct. “I was always
involved with cases on behalf of all sorts of victims. When
the intifada broke out, I couldn’t sit idly by, so I tried to
represent victims of terror. No one sued the PLO at that
time. We took a chance and went to court.”
In the beginning, “Everyone thought it was insane.
How can you sue? What’s the point? Where can you
locate them? How can you collect?
“We believed we could win, but to do that was quite
amazing. We knew we could prove it in court” — but they
needed the court to buy into it. The “trick,” she said,
was in depicting her opponents not as a company but as
she said; there is a legal difference between suing a com-
pany and suing a partnership, she explained. When you
You just need one. And because it’s not secret where the
terrorist leaders are — either in Gaza or sitting in a jail —
it’s possible to serve at least one of them.
Of course, she added, “Not everybody shows up in
court. Hamas, Hezbollah don’t show up. The PLO does
show up. In any case, when you can convince the court
that they have the authority to hear the case, then even
if they don’t show up, you can collect.” She pointed to
laws in the United States enabling American victims to
file suit if a family member is killed or injured abroad
as long as the defendant is either present in the United
States or has done something here — “if you can estab-
lish some connection,” Ms. Darshan-Leitner said.
She also can sue on behalf of her own organization,
which is an NGO and has the right to go to the Interna-
tional Criminal Court to demand that a trial be opened for
war crimes. For example, she has undertaken a lawsuit
against the Hamas leadership, representing Israeli farmers
whose fields have been burned by Gazan rioters. The law-
suit specifically targets Hamas military wing leader Yahya
Sinwar and political leader Ismail Haniyeh.
Who: Israeli attorney and human rights activist Nitsana
Darshan-Leitner
What: Will deliver a FEDTalk on “Bankrupting
Terrorists… One Lawsuit at a Time”
When: On Oct. 29 at 7:30 p.m.
Where: Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey,
50 Eisenhower Drive, Paramus
Reservations: jfnnj.org/fedtalks
Cost: $10
For more information: Email Ariella Noveck at
AriellaN@jfnnj.org or call her at (201) 820-3946.
And also: Shurat HaDin’s Rachel Weiser will talk about
the organization’s work on Wednesday, October 31, at
8 p.m., at Congregation Ahavath Torah, 240 Broad Ave.,
Englewood. Call (201) 568-1315 for information.

Local school expands

Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High will grow by 50 percent
LARRY YUDELSON to yeshiva high school students. Last year,

T
hey keep on growing.
You drop your child off for
first grade, she’s barely able to
read, and eight years later she’s
discussing literature, factoring numbers,
and ready to enter high school.
Four years later she’s off to college,
probably taller than you, and shockingly
independent.
And still they grow.
The same is true of the schools they
attend, if the schools are successful,
well-run, and lucky enough in their
demographics.
Northern New Jersey has been fortu-
nate in its demographics when it comes
there were 1,423 yeshiva high school stu-
dents in the area’s schools; that compares
to 1,175 a decade earlier, according to sta-
tistics kept by the Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey.
And Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School
for Girls has shared in this bounty. It
now has 350 students, and given that its
ninth grade has close to 100 students, it
is headed toward 400. Its student body
keeps on growing.
So now it’s unveiling plans to grow its
building, with an addition that will expand
it by 50 percent, or 30,000 square feet.
The school is launching a $5 million capi-
tal campaign to pay for half of the costs
of the expansion. The other half of the
A rendering of what an expanded Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls will
look like after a $10 million construction project.
planned $10 million building project will be The school moved into its building in
paid for down the road by the parents of the 1996, in what then was Teaneck’s indus-
students who will be in the new spaces. trial zone but has now become a yeshiva
If all goes well, in both the fundraising zone (thanks to the neighboring Torah
and the planning, Ma’ayanot leaders hope Academy of Bergen County, a boys’ high
to begin work on the expansion in the school, and Yeshivat He’atid, an elemen-
spring and be able to move into the new tary school). Then, the building was too
spaces, and use the renovated old spaces, large, so Ma’ayanot sublet a portion, first
in fall 2019, next school year. SEE MA’AYANOT PAGE 51

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Briefly Local

JTS/Columbia University team up

Norpac hosts two representatives
during Republican fundraiser
Last week, the Kazmir family hosted a Nor-
pac meeting in Closter for Congressmen
Kevin Brady and Michael McCaul, both
Texas Republicans.
Kevin Brady chairs the House Ways
and Means Committee, with jurisdiction
over taxes, health care, Social Security,
Medicare, international trade, and wel-
fare. Michael McCaul chairs the Home-
land Security Committee, which seeks to
address the al Qaeda-Hezbollah terrorist
Representatives
Kevin Brady and
Michael McCaul flank
Dr. Munr Kazmir.
COURTESY NORPAC
threat, border security, and cyber secu-
rity while ensuring that the Department
of Homeland Security can carry out its
core mission — to protect the United
States. The private meeting was held to
raise funds for the Republican National
Congressional Committee. Mr. Brady and
Mr. McCaul answered questions about
national security, taxes, and the U.S.-
Israel relationship. Both are running for
re-election in November.
on a new dual master’s degree
The Jewish Theological Seminary and
Columbia University are offering a new
dual-degree MA/MPH program in Jewish
ethics and public health. The program
aims to prepare students to develop and
evaluate public health services within
the Jewish and broader communities.
The joint master of arts in Jewish eth-
ics and master of public health degree
program is offered by the Kekst Gradu-
ate School at the Jewish Theological
Seminary and the Columbia University
Mailman School of Public Health.
“We are pleased to announce the
launch of the Jewish Ethics and Pub-
lic Health dual-degree program, which
for the first time ever offers students
an opportunity both to develop and to
evaluate public health services from the
perspective of Jewish tradition,” JTS’s
provost, Dr. Shuly Rubin Schwartz, said.
“We are thrilled to launch this innovative
program, which equips future profes-
sionals with the moral vision to identify
issues of ethical concern in public health
as well as the skills to design effective ini-
tiatives to resolve them. We encourage
future scholars of this new MA/MPH
program to bring to bear Jewish values
in grappling with the many public health
challenges plaguing our world.”
“This joint degree represents a con-
tinued commitment by Columbia Mail-
man School to combine the depth and
breadth of expertise in two fields of
study, to propel discovery, and educate
the next generation of scholars to create
research-based solutions at the juncture
of public health and religion,” said Linda
P. Fried, MD, MPH, dean of Columbia
Mailman School. “Together with JTS we
will pave the way for new research and
engagement on complex issues facing
theologians and public health profes-
sionals to benefit our schools, our coun-
try, and the world.”
For more information, go to www.jtsa.
edu/jewish-ethics-public-health.

Temple Beth Sholom plans dinner dance

Honoring
Temple Beth Sholom in Fair Lawn will
hold its annual ad journal dinner dance,
Caterers with music by B’nai Jazz. The cost
is $180 per person in ads or donations. The
Rabbi
this year celebrating Israel’s 70th anni- deadline for ads to be included in the jour- Pomerantz
versary, on Sunday, December 9, at 5 nal is November 9. For more information, At Closter’s most recent
p.m. It will be catered by Exquisite Affairs call (201) 797-9321. council meeting, Closter
Mayor John Glidden, left,
presented Rabbi Fred
Pomerantz with a proc-
lamation marking the
Guest rabbi at 50th anniversary of his
Teaneck shul service. In the proclama-

PHOTO PROVIDED
tion, the town’s mayor
Rabbi Stanley M. Davids, left, discussed and council named Octo-
“The Fragile Dialogue Among Those ber 10, 2018 as Rabbi
BARBARA BALKIN

Who Love Israel” at Temple Emeth Fred Pomerantz Day.

of Teaneck’s annual Rabbi Joshua
Trachtenberg Memorial lecture. Rabbi
Steven Sirbu joined him.

Ben Porat Yosef welcomes

Menendez two new administrators
Ben Porat Yosef welcomed Gabrielle
meets with Altman as its director of develop-
Jewish leaders ment and marketing and Sharona
Grossberg as director of admissions
PHOTOS COURTESY BPY

Earlier this month, the Jewish Council and public relations.

for Public Affairs held one of its semi-
annual lobbying days in Washington.
Rabbi Neal Borovitz, rabbi emeritus of
Temple Avodat Shalom in River Edge, is
a JCPA vice chair. He introduced Senator
Menendez (D-N.J.) to Jewish community
leaders from across the country.
Senator Menendez spoke to the group
at their lunch session on criminal justice
reform and the plight of asylum seekers,
refugees, and DACA recipients.
Ms. Altman has more than 15 years
of experience in development, mar-
keting, public relations, grant writ-
ing, higher education, and nonprofit
administration at organizations
including Yeshiva University, NYU- Gabrielle Altman Sharona Grossberg
Langone Medical Center, Memorial
Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, and Weizmann Institute of Science. Ms. Grossberg has
nearly 20 years of professional and volunteer experience in Jewish and educational
Rabbi Neal Borovitz, left, and Senator organizations — she has worked in admissions, college guidance, public relations,
Robert Menendez teaching, student affairs and alumni engagement.

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Local
Daughters of Miriam Golf Classic sparkles in autumn
D
renching rain and floods on the
original date did not stop golfers
when they got together at the 38th
annual Daughters of Miriam Golf
Classic. Rescheduled from August 13 to Octo-
ber 3, the tournament took place on a beautiful
fall day at Arcola Country Club in Paramus. The
outing, in support of Alzheimer’s and dementia
care, brought business and community leaders
together for a day of golf and socializing that
began with a buffet brunch, followed by a shot-
gun tee-off, cocktails, and dinner.
Eight players who were closest to the hole on
the four par 3s had the opportunity to participate
in the $500,000 Gutenstein Family Foundation
Shootout. At the end of the regulation round, two
additional spots in the $500,000 shootout con-
test were auctioned off, with 10 golfers compet-
ing for the half million dollars from a distance of
165 yards. No winners walked off with the grand
prize, but one lucky player won a $2,500 cash
prize for coming closest to the pin.
The shotgun event also offered premium hole-
in-one prizes including cars, vacations, jewelry,
and cash awards. Hole-in-one prizes were made
possible by Frank’s Truck Center of Lyndhurst,
Route 23 Auto Mall of Butler, the Timepiece Col-
lection of Englewood, and Yanina & Co. of Cedar
Grove. All tournament participants received a
variety of gifts when they registered.
The 2018 event featured silent and live auc-
tions with items including foursomes at exclu-
sive golf clubs, football, hockey, and basketball
tickets, entertainment memorabilia, vacation
packages, and exclusive house seats for Broad-
way shows like “Dear Evan Hansen,” “Beautiful,”
“Aladdin,” and “Mean Girls.”
A 50/50 drawing with a $5,000 jackpot
capped the evening; Steven Klein of Edgewater
won it. The annual car raffle drawing was held
Pausing between holes, Eagle Sponsor Peter Levine, left, Larry Levine, Jerry DeWaters, and
John Delutis display the Premier Flag Sponsor McCutchen Foundation’s tee flag.
14 JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018
on the outing’s original date because of state
licensing regulations.
Alex Fleysher of West Caldwell, Andrew
Kanter of Wayne, David Kessler of Franklin
Lakes, and Leslie Levine of Clifton were the
golf co-chairs. Volunteers, headed by coordina-
tors Linda Fishman and Anne Kanter of Wayne,
and Leslie Levine of Clifton, staffed the outing
and helped make it run smoothly.
The committee included Jeff Abrams, Paul
Abrams, Michael Birnberg, Monica Cohen, Reid
Fader, Jared Kanter, Robert Kantor, Randi Koch-
man, Scott Norwalk, Jay Opper, Marc Rosen-
krantz, Avi Safer, Joseph Silverman, Jeffrey Sil-
vershein, Michael Sirota, Andrew Steiger, David
Topalian, and Morris Yamner.
The McCutchen Foundation was the Pre-
mier Flag sponsor ($25,000); the Gutenstein
Family Foundation was the Shootout spon-
sor ($11,000); A.L. Levine Family Foundation,
Levco Shopping Centers, Sylvia and Avi Safer Golf Shootout sponsor Jeffrey Silvershein of the Gutenstein Family
of Safer Textiles, Carole and Joel J. Steiger, and Foundation, right, heads out with David Malat, left, Daughters of Miriam
Valley National Bank were Double Eagle Spon- CEO Frank DaSilva, and George Chookasian.
sors ($10,000); Cole Schotz, P.C., Integra Hous-
ing Group and the Joined Management Team,
Leslie, Peter and Rachel Levine, Planned Com-
panies were Eagle Sponsors ($7,500); Jay Hor-
witz, Partners were Pharmacy Gold Tee Spon-
sors ($5,000); Evco Mechanical, Anne and
Andrew Kanter, Lisa and David Kessler, Nurs-
ing Network, Dr. Dely Go, Stephen A. Plos-
cowe, and Fox Rothschild were Birdie Spon-
sors ($2,500); and Randi and Tedd Kochman,
OptumCare, the Preferred Client Group, St.
Mary’s Hospital, and Wuhl Investment Group
of Wells Fargo were Meal Sponsors ($1,500).
Daughters of Miriam’s mission is to provide
quality health care and housing for seniors in Closest to the Pin Shootout winner Adam Cutler, center, receives a
an environment that enhances individual tradi- $2,500 check from Golf Committee co-chairs Andrew Kanter, left,
tions and lifestyles. Alex Fleysher, Leslie Levine, and David Kessler.
Golf Committee co-chair David Kessler thanks golfers for their partici-
pation. With him are fellow co-chairs Alex Fleysher, Leslie Levine, and
Andrew Kanter.

Louis Armstrong’s wonderful world
Chazen Jazz Concert will feature master’s music — and a look at his life
J
LARRY YUDELSON
erome Chazen of Nyack doesn’t
remember precisely how he first
discovered the genius of Louis Arm-
strong, only that it was in college, at
the University of Wisconsin at Madison,
sometime around 1944.
But he does remember the first time that
he heard Louis Armstrong play.
It was in Madison, not all that long after.
Mr. Chazen had graduated from jazz nov-
ice to jazz aficionado, scouring the second-
hand stores for old 78 records to build his
growing record collections from the detri-
tus of the Great Depression. He had begun
writing a column about jazz for the student
newspaper. And when Louis Armstrong
came to town with his band, young Mr.
Chazen arranged to interview him.
Nearly 75 years later, Mr. Chazen
remembers that conversation with Mr.
Armstrong, and what he learned about
the performer and composer. Mr. Chazen
had a particular question. His collection of
Armstrong records was happenstance and
eclectic. “If I saw a record by a musician I
knew or appreciated, I would buy it,” he
said. “Especially if it was Louis Armstrong.
I wouldn’t care what he was playing — I just
wanted the record.”
Listening to one of those records, Mr.
Chazen thought the music sounded like
that of Guy Lombardo, “a certain kind of
swishy dance music.
“I couldn’t make sense of it. Why
would Louis Armstrong sound like Guy
Lombardo?”
So Mr. Chazen asked Mr. Armstrong
that question. “Guy Lombardo?” Mr.
Tuba player David Ostwald and his Louis Armstrong Eternity Band will entertain
at a concert November 10 in Pearl River.
Louis Armstrong flashes his trademark smile in a 1955 photo.
Armstrong replied. “I love that cat!”
The trumpeter told the college student
how he had stayed in a hotel in Chicago
in the 1920s, while he was performing in
a nearby club. One night, walking from
the hotel to the club, he saw many people
standing in line. “A big long line of people
stretching around the block,” Mr. Chazen
recalled. “He followed the line and saw
they were standing in line to get into a the-
ater where Guy Lombardo was playing.
“If all these people are waiting to get in
to hear this guy, they must be on to some-
thing,” Mr. Armstrong said.
Mr. Chazen said that Mr. Armstrong
“was an appreciator. He was very much
Rockland
in tune with the audiences he was dealing
with. Louis believed in playing for an audi-
ence. If the audience liked it and loved it,
that was his job.”
Mr. Chazen next saw Mr. Armstrong per-
form in 1947. Mr. Armstrong was playing
in a Chicago night club — only 150 miles or
so away from Madison. Mr. Chazen drove
there with a group of friends. “That was a
lot of fun,” he said.
Later, after Mr. Chazen graduated and
moved back to New York, he would hear
Mr. Armstrong several times at concerts
and clubs. Mr. Chazen still has a picture
of the two of them, snapped by a cigarette
girl who worked the floor of the club Mr.
Armstrong was playing.
In recent years, Mr. Chazen has worked
to bring jazz to Rockland, sponsoring a
series of concerts through the JCC. (See
box.) This year’s concert will feature the
music of Louis Armstrong performed by
David Ostwald and his Louis Armstrong
Eternity Band, and an audiovisual pre-
sentation by Ricky Riccardi, director of
research collections for the Louis Arm-
strong House Museum and author of
“What a Wonderful World: The Magic
of Louis Armstrong’s Later Years.” Mr.
Riccardi will tell stories of Mr. Armstrong’s
life, including the important role a Jewish
family played in his childhood. His talk will
be accompanied by rare photographs and
videos from the museum.
David Ostwald is a tuba player. His
band, originally the Gully Low Jazz Band,
has been playing the famed Birdland jazz
club in Manhattan as an Armstrong salute
since the centennial of Mr. Armstrong’s
birth in 2000.
JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018 15
Mr. Ostwald’s first musical love was the
classical tuba. When he was in sixth grade,
his mother had taken him to see Rudolf
Nureyev in Sergei Prokofiev’s ballet of
Romeo and Juliet.
“There was a number, ‘The March of
the Capulets,’ that had this tremendous
tuba part that overwhelmed me,” Mr. Ost-
wald recalled. A few months later, during
recess, he saw a tuba in the band room,
picked it up, and played.
“The band leader could have been
angry,” he said. “Instead he gave me my
first lesson on the spot. There weren’t a lot
of kids who were dying to play the tuba.”
A few years later, he went to Sam
Goody’s Record Store to buy a new clas-
sical recording of Bach’s double violin
concerto. Checking out the cut-out bin of
remaindered discount records, he found a
Louis Armstrong record. He bought it. “I
went home and listened to it,” he said. “I
had my epiphany and became a huge Arm-
strong fan on the spot.”
Mr. Ostwald didn’t become an actual
jazz musician until he was a 21-year-old
college student at the University of Chi-
cago, and friends asked him to join in a
jazz band. “I can’t,” he said. “I need to be
able to read the music. I can’t improvise.”
So they prepared some sheet music.
After he became familiar enough with
jazz to be comfortable playing without the
written score, he began to wean himself
off them and learned to improvise. He also
learned that the tuba in a jazz ensemble
plays the role of the bass instrument, a
constant presence in the sound.
“That was very attractive to me,” he
said. “I could play instead of just count-
ing the measures in the orchestra. In the
orchestra, you play one or two notes on
the tuba, then you lay out for 10 minutes
and then you come in again.”
Besides Mr. Ostwald on the tuba, the
Louis Armstrong Eternity Band includes a
trumpet, a clarinet, a trombone, a banjo,
and a drummer.
“We don’t copy Armstrong’s perfor-
mances,” Mr. Ostwald said. “We play tunes
that he wrote and that are associated with
him. We don’t make an attempt to recreate
the recordings. We play them our own way.”
What: Chazen Jazz Concert
When: Saturday, November 10, 8 p.m.
Where: Pearl River High School
275 East Central Ave., Pearl River
Who: David Ostwald’s Louis
Armstrong Eternity Band and Louis
Armstrong historian Ricky Riccardi
How much: $25
Rockland

Broadway entertainment Holocaust museum benefit in November

in Montebello
The Montebello Jewish Center hosts “Broadway Voices
of Today & Tomorrow” on Saturday, November 3,
at 7 p.m. The concert features Broadway perform-
ers Janelle A. Robinson and J.D. Webster, with guest
appearances by MJC’s cantor, Michelle Rubin, and its Janelle A.
teen and youth choirs.
Janelle Anne Robinson’s Broadway credits include
“Mary Poppins,” “Oklahoma,” and “Showboat.” J.D.
Webster’s Broadway credits include “Wonderful
Town,” “Ragtime,” “Showboat,” and “The Gershwins’
Porgy and Bess.”
A dessert reception will follow the concert. The Mon-
tebello Jewish Center is at 34 Montebello Road. For
more information, call (845) 357-2430 or email office@
montebellojc.org.
The Holocaust Museum & Center for Tolerance
and Education’s annual benefit brunch is set for
Sunday, November 4, at 10:30 a.m. It will honor
Alan Moskin. Stefany and Simon Bergson are the
Elie Wiesel Memorial award recipients, and Jake
Ehrenreich will give a celebratory tribute. The
Robinson brunch is at the View on the Hudson in Piermont.
Alan Moskin, a museum trustee, is a member
of its speakers’ bureau. Since last year’s ben-
efit brunch, he has been the featured speaker
nearly 30 times, and he has reached more than
5,000 people. He talks about his experiences as
a G.I. in Patton’s Third Army and as a liberator
of several concentration camps.
Stefany and Simon Bergson, longtime
JD Webster museum supporters, are being honored for
their commitment to commemorating the
Holocaust and to teaching people about it. They
have been dedicated to helping build the new
state-of-the-art museum, which is scheduled to
open next year.
Jake Ehrenreich, a musician, author, and
playwright, is featured in the film “The Last
Laugh” with Mel Brooks and Carl Reiner. A
Brooklyn-born child of Holocaust survivors, he
is best known as star and creator of his musi-
cal, “A Jew Grows in Brooklyn,” which is also a
bestselling book.
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of the Rockland section of the National Council
of Jewish Women on Wednesday, November 7,
at 7 p.m. The meeting, co-sponsored by Rock-
land League of Women Voters, will be at the JCC
Rockland, 450 West Nyack Road, in West Nyack.
Refreshments will be served. For information go
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Road. Local rabbis and educators will teach six classes
covering Jewish history, Torah, philosophy, and life expe-
rience. Rabbi Brian Leiken of Temple Beth Sholom in New
City will lead “Ancient Rabbinic Judaism and Early Chris-
tianity.” Other classes include “Potpourri of Jewry” and
“Who are We and How did We Get Here.”
For information, call Roberta Seitzman, (845) 362-4200,
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Representative Nita Lowey
Miriam and Ezra Lightman hosted a Norpac pro-Israel
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(D-Dist. 17), who is serving her 15th term in Congress, rep-
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Lowey was first elected to the U.S. House of Representa-
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Fitting in, standing out
The country’s first
Sikh attorney general
talks about his work,
his community,
and his ideals
18 Jewish Standard OCTOBER 26, 2018
I
Joanne Palmer
s the United States a melt-
ing pot? A glorious mosaic?
A nation of immigrants? A
country that demands assim-
ilation? A nation that revels
in its differences? A place
that demands, commands, respects,
rejects, or reviles identity politics?
Or maybe it’s a country where all
those things are true.
Many members of our community
— the American Jewish community
— are successful, come from genera-
both to Jews who look noticeably Jew-
ish and those who do not.
tions of success, and look like every-
one else. But a sizable segment of the
So this is a long introduction to
someone from another group, who
community is recognizably Jewish: at
one end of that scale the men wear kip-
looks noticeably unlike most Ameri-
cans and who has made his own way
pot; toward the right women do not
wear pants and cover their heads; and
in this country, in the immigrant tra-
dition, relying on brains, hard work,
further still the men have big bushy
beards and the women cover most
openness, a self-established network
of friends, and some luck, and now
parts of their bodies through all sea- has one of the most important jobs in
sons of the year. the state of New Jersey.
Success, in other words, has come Meet Gurbir Grewal, New Jersey’s
 Cover Story

Left, Attorney General Gurbir Grewal talks about a civics-based project modeled after the nationally recognized Project
Citizen program at the Woodrow Wilson Middle School in Edison on October 18, 2018. Above, Mr. Grewal, State Police
Superintendent Patrick Callahan, and New Jersey Homeland Security Director Jared Maples sit with Rabbi Yosef Carlebach
and Rabbi Mendy Carlebach at the Chabad of Central Jersey at Rutgers University in New Brunswick on October 16, 2018.
 Photos by office of the Attorney General/Tim Larsen

attorney general. He is the first Sikh in
the country to become a state attorney
general.
His main office is in Trenton, but
recently he met with the Jewish Standard
at his office in Newark.
Mr. Grewal’s parents moved to Jer-
sey City from the Indian state of Punjab
in 1971, he said, and Gurbir was born in
1973. His mother has a master’s degree in
political science and his father is an elec-
trical engineer. They moved here, as most
immigrants do, in search of economic
opportunity. (Although Mr. Grewal speaks
eloquently about his own experiences, he
does not offer much information about
his family. He is a public person but they
are not, he says, and he chooses to respect
their privacy.)
“They faced a lot of discrimination in
those early years,” Mr. Grewal said. “There
were hardly any Sikhs in the country then.
It must have taken a huge leap of faith for
them to cross the ocean to come here. We
had no relatives here then.” There already
was a small Sikh community in Jersey City;
his parents went there because “it prob-
ably was the only place they knew about.”
The community soon grew, though. “I
grew up around people who looked like
me.” (Most Sikhs can trace their families
back to the Punjab; they are Indian, but
they are neither Hindu nor Muslim. Sikh
men are identifiable by their turbans and
beards.)
Soon, the family moved to Bergen
County — first Washington Township and
then Westwood, where Gurbir went to ele-
mentary school, and then to Essex County,
where he went to high school. Next came
college; Mr. Grewal decided to try some-
thing different, so he went to Bates College,
in rural Maine. “I thought I needed a small
liberal arts college,” he said. “I wanted to
be a writer. But then I took one interna-
tional relations course, and I was hooked.”
He soon ran through all of Bates’s
international relations curriculum, so it
made sense to transfer, and by that time
he realized that the deep country wasn’t
for him, so he finished college at George-
town, working through its foreign service

Jewish Standard OCTOBER 26, 2018 19

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curriculum. He wanted to be a diplomat, but
timing was against him. “I graduated in ’95,
and there was a hiring freeze in the State
Department then,” he said. “They were not
offering the foreign service exam,” the first
step to a diplomatic career.
What to do next?
“Then law school seemed like an option,”
Mr. Grewal said. “I had a lot of friends going
to law school.” And it seemed appealing also
“because I was a big ‘Law and Order’ fan.”
So he applied and ended up enrolling in law
school at William and Mary, the lovely Jef-
fersonian campus in Williamsburg, Virginia.
“I got hooked on law,” he said.
Like many fledgling lawyers, Mr. Grewal
was torn between the desire to do public ser-
vice and the often equally compelling desire
to make enough money to live comfort-
ably. (To be clear, it is not as if it is not
possible to live comfortably on a civil ser-
vant’s salary, and equally it is possible to
do socially compelling work in a big law
firm. It’s just harder.) During law school,
he spent one summer in the Essex County
public defender’s office, and another at a
then big, now gone D.C. law firm, Howrey
& Simon. He worked on litigation in both
places; he knew that no matter which
side of the public/private divide he went
to, it would be as a litigator.
From his law school graduation in
1999 to 2004, Mr. Grewal worked at
Howrey & Simon. He got married during
that time; his wife is a physician, and she
went to Columbia for her fellowship in
2004. That meant that “I knew we had
to move, and it seemed as good a time as
any for my passion for criminal justice”
to come to the fore.
There was something else, beyond
an intellectual love for litigation and an
emotional pull toward social justice, pro-
pelling Mr. Grewal toward public service.
He had a message to share. A message
he embodies. A message about hope
and diversity and difference and shared
values.
A message that he knew he had to
share throughout most of his life, but
that came into painfully sharp relief on
the days following September 11, 2001.
“On September 11, I worked at the law
firm in Washington,” he said. “It was a
normal Tuesday. A beautiful morning. A
perfect fall day. When I drove in, I started
hearing about what was happening.
“When I got in, my colleagues and
I came together and went up on the
roof.” They could see the Pentagon burn-
ing; one of the planes hit it. “Everyone
To be clear, people were staring at him
because they assumed he was Muslim,
and they assumed that if he were Mus-
lim, then if he were not actively respon-
sible for the hijacking and murders, at
least he was somehow complicit in it. He
must be in favor of it.
To continue being clear, Mr. Grewal
is not Muslim. Overwhelmingly most
Muslims were horrified by the attacks of
September 11, but that was irrelevant to
Mr. Grewal, who is no more Muslim than
Jews are.
“What really drove it home to me was
that I would walk out of my building at
work, and a group of homeless guys who
would hang out there would start yell-
ing at me. Yelling things like ‘Here’s Bin
Laden! We got Bin Laden!’
“They would trail me. It was embar-
rassing, and it also was frightening.”
Remember, he said, that the first vic-
tim of mob violence killed because of
an invented connection to September 11
was a Sikh; that was Balbir Singh Sodhi
of Mesa, Arizona, killed on September
15. “You have to be a bit more careful
about where you walk,” Mr. Grewal said.
“About where you park. About where
you buy groceries. I would pick the door
of my building it was safest to walk out of.
“ The whi spers and comments
prompted me to think about my own
experience, and about the Sikh immi-
grant experience,” he said. “You are
born here, but you maintain your own
religious identity, and so you look
different.
“You can check every box — play-
ing Little League, playing soccer, doing
every normal American thing — and
then one day you wake up and everyone
looks at you like you don’t belong.”

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m here and thrived economically and education-

, ally and socially. We have done well profession-
- ally. When you are growing up, your community
- wants you to be a good doctor or lawyer or engi-
neer. A professional. But no one says it is okay to
be a good public servant — a cop, a fireman.” Or
even a public service lawyer.
“So I thought, what better way is there to show
t people that I am as American as everyone else
than to engage in public service? Looking the
o way I do? Believing the way I do?
“At that point in my life, I wasn’t going to
go to the police academy or the fire academy,
s so I started looking at U.S. attorney’s offices. I
t thought I could be a federal prosecutor. I got a
couple of offers, and I accepted a job in Brook-
- lyn, at the U.S. attorney’s office for New York’s
n eastern district. And it was amazing.
“I got to get in front of grand jurors, looking
- as I do. I got to speak to federal agents from
” across the agencies. And not only was I giving
- back, I was being a sort of spokesperson for the
f entire community.
1 “I was showing that while we might look dif-
ferent, while we might have different beliefs, we
r are all in on the ideals of this country. We are
l changing minds, 12 jurors at a time, a few agents
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Above, Mr. Grewal looks at the names on the 9/11 memorial at Eagle Rock Reserva-
tion in West Orange during ceremonies last September 11. Right, the attorney gen-
eral speaks at the Jewish Federation’s annual meeting in Paramus on June 7, 2018.

security cases, terrorism cases, financial
fraud cases,” he said. “We were bringing
justice to the community. It was inspiring
and rewarding work.”
When he worked in Brooklyn, Mr.
Grewal and his wife lived in Hoboken, and
then they moved to Glen Rock. They’re
close to Glen Rock Gurudwara, the Sikh
temple there, and they’re active in it. It
was not a good commute, and Mr. Grewal
took a short break, working at Howey’s
New York office, “but it was just a tem-
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rewarding.”
Mr. Grewal returned to public service;
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and I worked my way up to heading the economic and
computer crime units, and I handled all major white-
collar federal crimes, from security fraud to computer
fraud to Russian hacking. I headed a team of 24, 25
people.
“I was there from 2010 to 2016,” Mr. Grewal said. “It
was a great ride.”
In 2013, then Governor Chris Christie, whom Mr. Gre-
wal had not met and did not know, nominated him to
be Bergen County prosecutor. Something happened,
though; he never got a state Senate confirmation hearing.
Mr. Christie nominated him again in 2016, he assumed
the office as acting prosecutor, and then got the job for-
mally later that year. “It was a wonderful, incredible job,”
Mr. Grewal said. “It allowed me to continue to be in pub-
lic service, and also to continue the public relations mis-
sion. It allowed me to continue to promote understand-
ing, this time in the county where I live.
“I took advantage of it to be out in the community
more than ever, to be at events and council meetings.
I took advantage of every opportunity to be out and
about, to talk not only about opiates — which is a very
important issue — but also to help kids, to maybe make
it easier for some kid who looks like me.
“I loved that job. I did it for two years, from January
2016 to January 2018, when I resigned to be state attor-
ney general.”
During that time, Mr. Grewal got involved in the eruv
struggle in Mahwah. Because he knew what it felt like to
be profiled and pigeonholed because of his appearance,
he was able to use his position and that knowledge to
help resolve the situation. The town could not use racial
profiling to keep charedi Jews from its public parks, he
said, and he enforced that finding.
In January 2018, the new governor-elect, Phil Mur-
phy, appointed Mr. Grewal to the position he holds now.
“The opportunity was not anything I ever sought out,”
Mr. Grewal said. “But we did a lot of work on the opiate
crisis and police-community relations and the eruv, and
I think we handled it all professionally. That got me on
Murphy’s list, and he nominated me. On January 16, I
was sworn in, and so was he.”
Many of President Donald J. Trump’s initiatives are
very unpopular in the Northeast, and he’s particularly
at odds with attorneys general in the states where he
has done business and left a trail of angry creditors
behind him. That includes New Jersey and New York.
Attorneys general are best positioned to push against
some federal regulations that conflict with their own
states’ laws. But, Mr. Grewal said, “I think that a lot of
folks just sort of look at newspaper headlines and think
that we spend every waking hour suing the Trump
administration.
“That is only about five to 10 percent of what we do.
We are pushing a very busy and active agenda.”
On the other hand, “One reason that the governor and
I really hit it off is that we agreed that the attorney gen-
eral’s office is an important line of defense against what
is coming out of Washington. And now more than ever,
it is up to attorneys general to uphold the greater governmen-
tal accountability when they violate the rules, norms, and our
sense of decency.
“When we first got here, almost daily we were racing to
something, from working against the travel ban to attacks on
women’s reproductive rights to attacks on the immigrants to
the census question to the attacks on the LGBT community.”
But the office does much more than that, he said. “I believe
that this is one of the most powerful attorney general offices
in the country. I am not aware of any other one that has com-
plete authority over criminal jurisdictions the way that we do.
We have complete oversight over law enforcement. Through
our department of criminal justice, we can bring our own
cases. We also have broad civil authority, because we are the
lawyers to the state. We represent every state agency. The col-
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“We also house the division of consumer affairs, which
oversees broad consumer protections, from games of
chance to security. In total, we are 73,000 folks and 13
divisions.”
He paused for a breath.
“I am appointed, not elected, and my term is co-termi-
nus with the governor’s,” he said. “That is good. We don’t
have to campaign. We don’t have to fund-raise. We are not
indebted to anyone.
“When we go to national meetings, there are Demo-
cratic and Republican attorneys general associations, and
we can’t get involved with either of them.”
This first year, Mr. Grewal said, his work largely has
been reactive, but next year it will be more proactive. “We
will push forward an affirmative agenda next year.
“We also have the division of civil rights; we now have
the time to consider how we can use our authority to build
something. To put forward rules so that the protections
that are being stripped away federally can be built up here.
“We can be a model for the rest of the country.”
He plans to start an honors program that will bring in top
law students; in return for a two-year commitment they will
be exposed to high-level work and have a rare opportunity
to learn and grow rather than to wait their turns.
Mr. Grewal thinks back to his childhood as he considers
the future, his chance to affect young people, and his abil-
ity to effect change.
When he was a child, “It didn’t matter where you came
from or what you looked like. We just knew each other,
and we just were friends.”
Attorney General Gurbir Grewal speaks at the
American Constitution Society in Washington, D.C.,
on June 9, 2018.
When he moved to Essex County in high school, “no
one knew me, and no one looked like me, and that was
where the hate started to manifest. There was a lot of star-
ing, and even some grabbing. Some physical attacks.
“But you develop a resilience, and you deepen it by
finding other folks from your community.”
Mr. Grewal is one third of an extraordinary trio of child-
hood friends. He is the first Sikh to be a state attorney
general. His friend Ravi Bhalla is the first Sikh to be mayor
of a town in New Jersey. And their friend Amardeep
Singh was the founder of the Sikh Coalition and now is
a senior program officer for George Soros’s Open Society
Foundation.
“We have a deep understanding of what it means to be
marginalized,” Mr. Grewal said. “Of being on the receiv-
ing end of hateful comments and bigotry. That helps you
understand what other people are going through.”
That’s why, despite the many far-reaching powers his
office gives him, the one that perhaps speaks most deeply
to him is the chance to give disaffected young people rea-
son to hope.
“When I am going to talk to a ninth grade class in
Glen Rock about heroin and opioids and I see a Sikh kid
slouched in his chair, clearly not part of the cliques — I
am there as much to help that kid as I am to talk about
opioids,” he said.
And make no mistake about it — he also very much is
there to talk about opioids. Those are not mutually exclu-
sive things.
“I always have done that, and now I have a much bigger
platform for it,” he said.
“I talked to someone, a Sikh, who told me that for the
longest time he didn’t wear a turban. But when he saw
my picture in the paper, he told me, he said ‘I will wear
mine now.’”
There are many ways to effect change. There are many
levers to pull. Mr. Grewal has access to them, and he is
pulling them.

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Republicans and Democrats both try to paint

the other side’s candidates as worse for the Jews
RON KAMPEAS
WASHINGTON — When Ron DeSantis,
the Republican congressman running for
governor of Florida, was asked in a debate
to defend his record on race, he pivoted to
his Democratic opponent’s record on Israel.
DeSantis and Tallahassee Mayor
Andrew Gillum each have a problem that
won’t go away — DeSantis with racially
charged language and Gillum with asso-
ciates who are anti-Israel. That may not
be surprising in a swing state where sub-
stantial Jewish and African-American
minorities can make the difference, and
where the race is too close to call.
But it’s not just Florida: In race after
race, sometimes in areas with few Jewish
voters, from upstate New York to Virginia
wine country, to Texas and Minnesota,
Council of America and the Republican
Jewish Coalition, are seizing on the other
party’s vulnerability and defending their
own side.
White nationalists “have a home in the
Republican Party because our president
has legitimized these movements,” Halie
Soifer, the JDCA’s executive director, said
in an interview.
Matt Brooks, her RJC counterpart,
referred to about a half-dozen Democratic
nominees that his group has singled out for
sharply criticizing Israel — in one case to say
that it should not exist as a Jewish state.
“It’s total hypocrisy of the Jewish Dem-
ocrats to throw these grenades at us, yet
not do anything and embrace some of the
problematic elements in the Democratic
Party,” he said. Sen. Ted Cruz debates with Rep. Beto O’Rourke at a TV studio in San Antonio,
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ers — bigotry and Israel — are touching
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In their campaigns to get out the Jewish
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san Jewish groups, the Jewish Democratic
expressed by both sides. Democrats con-
tinue to profess to be adamantly pro-Israel,
but years of tensions between the Obama
administration and the government of
Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu have
left many Democrats willing to openly
criticize Israeli policies, and more. The par-
ty’s relief in having a surefire congressional
nominee in Detroit like Rashida Tlaib , who
says Israel should not exist as a Jewish state,
would have been unthinkable a decade ago.
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times has seemed to welcome — the sup-
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Candidates
FROM PAGE 25
campaigning for incumbent Repub-
lican Sen. Ted Cruz in Texas, Trump
denounced “globalists” who he said don’t
care enough about the United States and
called himself a “nationalist.”
Neither term is necessarily anti-Semitic
nor bigoted. But “globalists” is often a
code on the far right for Jews, and white
supremacists have adopted the “national-
ist” label as their own.
“For those of us who remember his-
tory, to hear an American president
embrace and describe himself as a
‘nationalist’ is alarming, and it sends a
shiver up our spine,” Abe Foxman, the
former national director for the Anti-
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donors on the left, but it is Soros, who
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Soros “evil” for trying to “deChristianize
a culture and a nation.”
The DeSantis-Gillum exchange on Sun-
day evening was emblematic of each
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which he fought with and for blacks, first
in the military and then as a prosecutor.
Then he pivoted to Gillum.
“I look at what Andrew has done in
terms of aligning himself with groups
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Gillum pushed back — “my relation-
ship with Israel is beyond reproach,” he
said — and returned to the race issue.
“The ‘monkey up’ comment said it
all,” Gillum said. “And he has only con-
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color of my skin. And the truth is, you
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In races across the country, alleged
alignments with the extreme right or
the anti-Israel left have become an
issue:
• In Southern California, Rep. Dana
Rohrabacher, a Republican facing a
tough race, has been criticized for
endorsing a Republican who in the past
has made anti-Semitic and racist com-
ments on social media for the Orange
County school board.
• In Virginia’s 5th Congressional
District, encompassing the city of
Charlottesville and Virginia’s wine
country, the state Republican Party
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House of Representatives, has called

Candidates
FROM PAGE 27
march in Charlottesville. (Riggleman has
denounced the marchers.)
• In New York’s 19th Congressional Dis-
trict, an upstate region encompassing
the Catskills and the Hudson Valley, in a
debate this week embattled Republican
incumbent John Faso rapped his oppo-
nent, Antonio Delgado, for suggesting
that as long as Israel maintains control
of the West Bank Palestinian popula-
tion, it is not a “Jewish democracy.” (“I
am committed to a two-state solution —
a Jewish state of Israel and a sovereign
Palestinian state — because it is the only
way for Israel to fulfill its own aspirations
to remain a Jewish democracy for future
generations,” Delgado told Jewish Insider
in response.)
• In Iowa, Rep. Steve King, a safe
Israel an “apartheid regime.”
• In Texas, Republican Ted Cruz, in
a surprisingly tight re-election bid, has
attacked his Democratic opponent,
Rep. Beto O’Rourke, for accepting the
endorsement of J Street, the liberal Jew-
ish Middle East policy group, and once
voting against emergency funding for
Israel’s Iron Dome anti-missile system.
(O’Rourke has said he objected on proce-
dural grounds.)
The Jewish partisan groups have made
clear where they stand on at least some
of its bad actors: Brooks has said that the
Republican Jewish Coalition will have
nothing to do with Virginia’s Stewart
or Iowa’s King, and Soifer’s Democratic
group similarly has spoken out against
Tlaib’s and Omar’s views on Israel.
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san groups is to explain to the national hearing on Capitol Hill, Oct. 26, 2017. DREW ANGERER/GETTY IMAGES

Republican incumbent, endorsed a white party why it opposes a trend or a candi-

nationalist candidate, Faith Goldy, for
mayor of Toronto. The Canadian politi-
cian has associated with neo-Nazi web-
sites and referred to the “Jewish ques-
tion,” a commonplace anti-Semitic trope.
• In Minneapolis, Ilhan Omar, the sure-
fire Democratic nominee for the U.S.
date. Both Brooks and Soifer said they
are doing just that, but that they did not
expect the national party to shut out
actors like Omar, Tlaib, King, or Stewart.
“It’s important, as we do within the
Republican sphere, that we stand up and
make clear what the boundaries are in
terms of the statements that some of these
candidates are making,” Brooks said. “It’s
easy for us who have a clear set of values to
say ‘this guy’s views do not align with where
we are.’ It’s harder for the party, which has a
broader, bigger tent.”
Soifer said it was impor t ant to
distinguish between foreign policy posi-
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ometime between 4 and 6 p.m. managers of
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beverages to attract customers. Martinis, dry
with a twist, or with an olive, were de rigueur.
Seated at a mahogany bar, the patron would nurse the
drink and top it off with a handful of peanuts, usually
left at the bar to munch on with the drink as he would
unwind or conduct more business. Captured by the
writers of “Mad Men,” the iconic series on the advertis-
ing world of the 1950s or 1960s, that was what defined
the ritual of the cocktail hour.
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ative cocktails and creative cuisine that has become a
staple in the event-making business. The cocktail hour
may still be an hour, or sometimes an hour and a half,
but more frequently, it is the whole party. The tradi-
tional sit-down dinner has given way to the sampling of
foods and the variety and mingling that only a cocktail
hour allows.
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Closter, the cocktails still reign at the eponymous hour,
but they are so new and so imaginative, that even a
description of them sounds fun. Les Friedman, owner
of Northern Valley Affairs, said that what has become
the rage are signature drinks, like his-and-her drinks
with a play on the names of the groom and bride. For
instance, Mr. Friedman said, Mark and Pam had drinks
called “Mark’s Manhattan,” which included Marker’s
Mark bourbon, sweet vermouth, bitters and a slice of
orange. Pam had a “Pomegranate Martini,” with Grey
Goose vodka, triple sec, an infusion of pomegranate
and seeds floating on top. The custom-
made drinks were their signature, given
out at the bar at their wedding.
“Signature drinks have become very pop-
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who also has fashioned drinks in a color scheme
of the wedding, like serving blue-infused drinks when
blue or purple is used in the wedding. Another hot
item, the Pickle-back Shot, is a shot of Jamison Whis-
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is a smores martini that includes vanilla vodka, choco-
late syrup, crushed graham crackers on the rim of the
glass and mini marshmallows that are set aflame right
before serving.
“We try to do something to be different,” said Mr.
Friedman.
When invited to a wedding or another event, guests
love to arrive to make sure that they don’t miss the
cocktail hour, said event makers.
“I think the cocktail hour is the biggest and best part
of the wedding,” said Maria Daidone owner of The
Estate at Florentine Gardens in River Vale. “People
always talk about the cocktail hour.”
At The Estate at Florentine Gardens the cocktail hour
consists of the classic stations, which include pasta,
carvings, but also include trendier food items such as
gourmet grilled cheese, sliders, mac and cheese, and
taco bar mix.
“People love go to an array of stations and try differ-
ent foods and enjoy,” Ms. Daidone said.
Bill Zolna, owner of 4Sixty6 Caterers in West Orange,
said that a cocktail hour type of party is a natural for
a space like 4Sixty6. The former nightclub has a space
that is 25,000 square feet with the largest
disco ball in the area. It is conducive to
the mingling of people. Typically, said Mr.
Zolna, the cocktail hour takes place in the
upstairs area.
With the cocktail hour, clients can either
bring in a glatt kosher caterer or use the in-
house caterer who can provide more than
20 different dishes from which to choose;
from pastas to Asian food to paella to
sliders. In addition, the cock-
tail hour offers staffed food
stations.
“The old traditional sit-
down dinner is old,” said Mr.
Zolna. “Now there’s a feeling of
eat when you feel like eating. It’s not as formal. Peo-
ple’s eating habits are different. It’s a lot looser and
they want to be at the party.”
Patrice Jungermann, senior catering manager at the
Teaneck Marriott at Glenpointe, says the Grand Con-
course, the space right outside the Grand Ballroom
gives the cocktail hour a very special feeling.
“There is a huge skylight with natural light and a
very open area so guests do not feel confined in the
room” said Ms. Jungermann. “The space is very con-
ducive to mingling. People can walk around the long
concourse. We also have some couches and some soft
seating so there is a very homey feeling that guests
have during that time.”
The skylight also adds to the ambience, she said. In
some cases it is used as a decorative centerpiece. For
instance, crystals hanging down give the room a glow,
and because the light comes in from the outside, the
crystals reflect the change in the light from the out-
side from evening to night.
Of course, there’s is a lot of food action going on
with chefs at cooking stations and sushi bars, in addi-
tion to pass-around items. Another plus, because the
concourse is adjacent to the ballroom, guests can go
right into the main party room.
Danny Mizrahi, owner of Sababa Grill in Teaneck,
said that he makes the cocktail hour a mix of Middle
Eastern specialties and good-old Americana when
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he caters an affair. Typically, there would be carving
stations and shwarma and salad stations and pass-
around items such as cigars, kouba, as well as mini
hotdogs. Mr. Mizrahi would also offer wraps if they
were requested. Typically, the cocktail hour would run
an hour and a half.
Estihana is more than just its Asian-fusion begin-
nings. Yamin Dayan has been known to bring catering
to cocktail parties and beyond from his artistic and
sumptuous sushi, which dazzles the eye, to all kinds
of Asian inspired and everything-in-between dishes for
pass around and service at a cocktail type of event or
any event with a cocktail hour.
Samantha Snider, events manager at the Time Hotel
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in Nyack says the Speakeasy Lounge is a very atmo-
spheric place to hold the cocktail party for an event. It
has a standing capacity of 150 people, and “an indus-
trial chic look that is very cool. It has the speakeasy
feeling of being in an underground bar.”
While in the lounge, guests can nibble on such vict-
uals as Swedish meatballs, filet mignon, and other spe-
cialty items, in addition to enjoying specialty cocktails.
Event planner Arlene Star, who owns Star Studded
Celebrations based in Palisades Park, said that she
does a lot of political events that naturally lend them-
selves to the cocktail hour-style of dinner as opposed
to a sit-down event.
“We do a lot of stations of international cuisines and
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ferent spreads of hot and cold food.
“For this type of political event people want to
socialize and mingle. They don’t want to be stuck wait-
ing for the next course to come. For the political event,
the sit-down doesn’t work” the cocktail style of dining
is much preferred.
Giyora Malka, owner of Hummus Elite in Engle-
wood, said that he presents his specialty Mediterra-
nean dishes to pass around, in addition duck roils, cev-
iche, short ribs, cigars, falafel, kibbe, chicken sate and
more. Most of his events are drop off, but a few times a
year, he does do catering when he sends out the team
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Days of wine and sabras

Get a piece of your own Israeli vine/wine
Heidi Mae Bratt to a younger generation as it supports the country and
promotes its culture.

I
n the beginning there was the first generation of Zion-
ists who helped make the desert bloom, turning Israel
into a verdant homeland of milk, honey and trees
through planting and agricultural acumen.
Now a group of energetic, entrepreneurial millennials,
who more relate to Israeli exports like actress Gal Gadot
and the Netflix hit “Fauda” than to hora dancing or Na’ot
sandals, are taking their Zionist vision into the 21st century
– and into the vineyards of Israel.
Wine on the Vine, which is part of The Israel Innovation
Fund (TIIF), is an online fundraising platform that con-
nects people to Israel by planting vines at Israeli wineries.
Like its precursor of buying trees for the land, now one
can buy a vine and have a piece of Israel.
Founded by Adam Bellos, an entrepreneur and political
consultant who immigrated to Israel from Cinncinnati six
years ago, the nonprofit The Israel Innovation Fund aims
to develop programs that feature Israeli culture through
wine, film, art and party-like events.
The idea? To rebrand Zionism and make Israel appealing
“What we are selling is a vision for the 21st century
Israel,” said Mr. Bellos. “Not a country defined by strife,
but a nation defined by a culture of wine, technology, art,
and its beaches.”
In particular, Wine on the Vine offers wine lovers the
ability to plant vines in Israel and has thus far partnered
with eight wineries. The donations from purchase of the
vines go to support the organization as well as other Israeli
nonprofits.
Through Wine on the Vine (WOTV), people buy their
own vines for $18 per vine. Since its launch four months
ago, 2,500 vines have been purchased, Mr. Bellos said. In
time, those vines will yield the fruit for a “vine owner” to
have their own wine.
Want to have your own wine from your own vines? If
someone buys five vines, within four years they can have
their own 500-ml. bottle of wine. With 10 vines in the
same time period, there will be a yield of a standard sized,
750-ml. bottle of wine.
Wine on the Vine also want to promote Israeli wine to
not only be perceived as kosher wine (which it now is),
but to be seen on the world wine stage as a delicious and
refined product that can match or exceed any classic
wines from regions of renown for its wine.
For the visitor, said Mr. Bellos, Wine on the Vine, offers
myriad opportunities to sample wines at their partner
wineries or to have Wine on the Vine bring its wine to
the visitor at their hotel, home, or any other place of
convenience.
In addition to Wine on the Vine, TIFF also has divisions
that promote film in its What If? Studios; art, The Hebrew
Wallpaper Project; and Jaffa Nights, which sponsors twice
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Creative confections
Cakes, candies, cupcakes, and more
Heidi Mae Bratt
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hat would a birthday be with-
out a cake? How would the
celebrant blow out his or her
birthday candles? And where
would the bride and groom get their cut-
ting-the-cake picture at their wedding
without the classic triple-tiered white
decorated cake? How about a goodie
bag of treats when guests leave? That is
something that caps the party just so.
What is it about confections from
cakes to cookies to cupcakes to candy
— basically anything that puts on a
sweet ending or sweet beginning or a
sweet middle for an event — that peo-
ple love so much?
In a word, the sweets “makes an
event sweet,” said Joel Schiff, owner of
World of Goodies in Teaneck.
Mr. Schiff should know. His store car-
ries an array of sweets from loose by
the pound items — candies, chocolates
and everything in between — to bas-
kets and dishes that are decoratively
wrapped.
He recently started to offer sweet
bars at different events. He recently
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and chocolate to a baby shower.
“We set everything up and had a
staff member there, cutting the halva,”
he said.
Another newcomer to the sweet
scene, Giyora Malka, owner of Hum-
mus Elite, just started selling Shabbes
cakes at his Englewood restaurant. So
far so good, said Mr. Malka. The baker
is Rona Abramovitz, who is making a
variety of pareve cakes, including bab-
kas and other items.
“We just started about a month
ago,” said Mr. Malka. “Rona is a friend
of mine and a very good baker. She
needed a platform to sell, so I figured
we would try it out. We put the cakes
out on Thursday and they have been
selling very well.”
A veteran of the cake, bakery and
not-to-forget challah business is Zadies
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Zadies fans can’t get to the store for
their favorite baked goods, they can
pick up their favorites in various retail
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When it comes to cake, Zadies is
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“The benefit of getting a cake from
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Adam Steinberg, who runs the bakery
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Mr. Steinberg admits that the bakery
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“When we bring a cake to a cus-
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The well-groomed man dress better, you feel better.” Taking

guys wearing sneakers with formalwear or
Kristen Castillo
sporting a simple suit without a tie. “Cou-
advantage of online custom clothing and
tailoring will leave you looking polished
and feeling comfortable and confident.
Vests are back this year. If you choose
one, make sure it has a full back, not just
a single strap across your back, which
doesn’t look elegant. Or you could skip the
trend altogether; vestless dress is a thor-

B
rides aren’t the only ones who
care about wedding fashion. These
days, lots of grooms and grooms-
men want to look and feel red car-
pet-ready on their big day. Tuxedoes and
suits are highly customizable with various
colors, textures and styles. Additionally,
guys have many choices of accessories like
ties, shoes and vests.
“We’ve seen a big uptick in grooms not
only wanting to express their own person-
ality, but also giving room to their grooms-
men to be themselves,” said Mary Kate
Gough, a wedding consultant for the cus-
tom tailored menswear brand InStitchu.
The resulting look focuses on being simi-
lar in tone but not matchy-matchy. That’s
exactly what has happened in bridesmaid
fashion, too — an overall cohesive style but
nothing too precise.
Things are getting a bit casual, too, like
ples now want their special day to reflect
themselves more than anything else, and
their styling definitely reflects that,” said
Ms. Gough.
Whatever your fashion approach or
goals might be, menswear trends are sure
to have you looking and feeling your best.
Focus on Fit
“The defining trend in men’s wedding
fashion is the fit of formalwear,” said Derek
Tian, co-founder of Black Lapel, an online
custom clothier for men. He said that in
the past, men didn’t focus on how the
suit fit. They were only concerned about
the color or the style. “Then they would
end up swimming in that suit or tuxedo
on their big day,” he said. “Not only is
this unflattering for their physique, but it
makes for terrible wedding photos.”
Black Lapel believes that “when you
Menswear Trends
Prints ranging from plaids to florals to
checkers are in vogue for jackets, ties,
and other accessories. Groom style is
sleek and sophisticated. Gone are boring
looks like simple gray or black suits with-
out embellishments. Cummerbunds are
passe, too.
“There are more requests for dinner
jackets, specifically those in novelty fabrics
paired with solid tuxedo pants,” said Ms.
Gough, who’s also seeing more requests
for metallic colors like silver and chrome.
Slim-fit styles are in for jackets and pants,
and the new “it” color is royal blue. White
shirts are still the go-to formal color,
but many grooms are going for colored
shirts. For a unique twist to pull the look
together, go for suspenders or a belt. But
again, make sure the look is refined and
fits properly.
oughly modern formal look.
Typically, guys go for pops of color
in their ties. Neckties are dressy but not
overly formal. Bow ties are fancy and on
point. These days, both are available in a
range of styles, from solids to subtle prints
to statement designs that will wow.
All About Sole
Loafers, boots, and oxfords are making
a statement in men’s formalwear. More
specifically, burnished shoes are popular.
“Burnished shoes are where the color is a
darker hue at the tip of the shoes and fades
into a lighter, ombre tone throughout the
entire shoe,” said Wale Nubi, founder and
senior stylist of Jojayden, a one-stop-shop
men’s haberdashery with custom designs
in Chicago. “This shoe is extremely popu-
lar in Italy and is becoming a huge fad in
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The gift of the gift Over the years, I’ve encountered numerous instances
Knowing what to give for any event in which the giver’s priorities or preferences came before
those of the person who was to get the gift.
One time, a woman approached me for some advice.
Nancy Silberman Zwiebach Her daughter was turning 30 and she felt it was a mile-
stone birthday that deserved extra recognition. She told

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hen I was about 11 or 12, my teenage cousin had
something that I wanted to have in the worst
way. It was a transistor radio. It was the first I
had seen and the idea of being able to move and
take music with me was unbelievable. The radio was gray,
about 10-inches long, 8-inches high, and 1 ½-inches deep.
The handle, which also served as the antenna, was black
and about 2-inches high and as long and as wide as the
radio. It had a bar in the middle and one would swing it
around for better reception. It was just the coolest thing I
had ever seen.
As most kids do when they really want something, I
asked, begged, pleaded, and implored my parents to get
me one. It was summertime and my parents had a sum-
mer home in Putnam County where my mother and I
spent the whole summer, while my father would join us
Monday night to spend Tuesday, his day off. One week he
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and a feeling of tremendous satisfaction in pleasing his
daughter, presented me with a small, black, what seemed
like a minuscule radio, I was crushed. He was upset at my
disappointment and his own disappointment at my not
being thrilled with the gift.
Being a practical parent, he tried to explain how much
more sense it made to have this smaller-size radio. The
explanation meant nothing to me and I didn’t want to hear
it. The gift of the radio was not what I wanted, expected,
nor what I believed was promised. Amazingly, until today,
the letdown of being promised one thing and getting some-
thing entirely different, along with my father’s not being
able to understand my feelings at the time, arouse the
same feelings of disappointment, frustration and being
misunderstood as it did so many years ago. The experience
did, however, teach me an important lesson. Giving a gift
should be about pleasing the recipient and not the giver.
me she suggested to her daughter that either they make
a party for her in a restaurant or she could take a cruise
with her mom. Mom then said, “She said she wanted the
party, but I think I’ll make reservations for the cruise.”
She then she asked me, “What do you think?” I couldn’t
believe the question. The answer was clear; her daughter
wanted the party. Thankfully, her daughter got the party
she wanted in the end.
The other situation also involved a parent and her
12-year-old son. Again, mom asked her son what he would
like for his birthday. This was a boy who loved animals, par-
ticularly horses. He said he wanted to go horseback riding.
Mom’s response was, “That’s not a birthday present. What
do you want for your birthday?” Do you think it would be
possible for anyone to feel more dismissed than this boy?
He was told he was not smart enough to know what a birth-
day present should be; it became quite clear that he was
not going to get what he really wanted, and that, while his
mother pretended to take his wishes into consideration,
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festive style while also helping you avoid
stressing over every detail.
This year, rely on some timesaving
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of your own.
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it comes to decor, you can cover any old
box with some of last year’s leftover holi-
day paper to add some colorful touches
around the home. A similar idea: wrap
canvas art or other frames in pretty paper
to extend the theme up the walls.
Make easy attractive. Most holiday
celebrations center on the food, but it’s
still an area where you can shave some
time. For example, a simple but attrac-
tive option like the wide selection of Chi-
net Classic White products is designed for
practical use. They do not bend, fold or
leak, and are strong enough for extra help-
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For a more elegant affair, the Chinet
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dinated line of disposable plates, cups,
cutlery and wineglasses. Guests will barely
realize they’re not using the good china,
but you’ll definitely notice when you’re
able to skip time at the sink to spend more
precious moments with your loved ones.
Fill the freezer. Whether your enter-
taining is more impromptu in nature or
you host a single-sizable shindig, keeping a
well-stocked freezer can help make hosting
a cinch. Dedicate time to prepare items you
can easily defrost and serve later, like casse-
roles, appetizers, side dishes, and desserts.
Forgo fussy food. An elegant sit-down
meal isn’t the only way to enjoy a holiday
gathering. Guests may even appreciate a
break from traditional heavier fare. Sim-
ple food stations, finger foods, and even
store-bought meals are all time-saving
alternatives. Another timesaving option:
dressing up store-bought food as part of
a larger spread. For example, you can
top side dishes like mashed potatoes with
olive oil or butter and sprinkle with cheese
or embellish a main course such as ham
with rosemary sprigs and fresh fruit.
Keep cleanup simple. For a festive,
yet deceptively easy table, consider using
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hard at work in the kitchen is a host who
can spend more time with guests.
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3 tablespoons sherry vinegar
1 clove garlic
10 basil leaves
salt, to taste
pepper, to taste
4 slices crusty bread
Cut small cross in bottom of tomatoes and submerge in boiling water 30 seconds.
Let tomatoes cool in ice water 30 seconds then remove skins.
In blender, blend tomatoes, red bell peppers, shallot, extra-virgin olive oil, vinegar,
garlic, basil, salt and pepper, to taste, until mixture is smooth. Add mixture to large
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Kristen Castillo
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White tie, black tie, beach formal, dressy
casual? What do all the terms mean and do
Knowing if black tie, white tie or casual
they mean the same thing to everyone?
“The dress code is all dependent on the
couple and their personalities and also
on where the wedding/reception is being
held: under a tent, on a farm, golf course,
hotel, castle, etc.,” said photographer Alice
Bil, of studioEPIC photography, who has
attended and covered more than 300 wed-
dings as both a guest and a photographer.
She says couples should specify the
dress code on the invitation and guests
should follow the protocol.
“When in doubt, you may want to con-
sider asking for more information,” said
sister designers Valerie and Stephanie
Chin of Val Stefani, reminding guests not
to directly ask the bride or groom, who are
busy. Instead ask a member of the wed-
ding party or a family member, since those
individuals likely know the wedding style.
Here’s what you need to know:
White Tie
This style is the most formal.
“Whip out your best stuff ... purchase
or rent it for the evening,” said Ms. Bil,
explaining guests should dress like they’re
meeting the president or the queen. “This
is going to be a big event.”
Men should wear formal tuxedos,
dress shoes, and even gloves. Women are
expected to wear floor-length gowns, and
nothing too revealing. Consider getting
professional hair and makeup.
White-tie events are typically held at
government buildings, mansions, and
hotels.
Black Tie
Treat black tie like a red-carpet event.
“Pretend you are going to the Oscars
or opera,” said Ms. Bil, who calls this her
favorite wedding style.
Guys should wear tuxedos. Women
should dress up in gowns, which can be
eye-catching and designer styles.
“As a guest invited to a black-tie wed-
ding, you should opt for a formal gown in
a neutral color,” said the Chins. “You can
also wear a chic cocktail dress or a long
evening gown.”
Still not sure what to wear? “When in
doubt, picture what would look appropri-
ate next to a tuxedo,” they said.
Black-tie weddings are often held at
large venues including high-end hotels and
art galleries.
Black-Tie Optional or Formal
“Pretend you are going to your prom
again,” said Ms. Bil, who says that formal
is the most popular wedding dress code.
It’s often seen at weddings held at banquet
halls and hotels.
Women wear dresses, including shorter
styles, if desired. Men don tuxes or dark
suits and dress shoes.
Semi-Formal
This style has a slightly laid-back vibe.
“The important part, again, is not to
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aim too informal,” said the Chins. “And
this means jeans, no matter how nice, are
simply a no.”
Ties are optional for guys. Ladies typi-
cally wear dresses.
“Clothes can be comfortable, but still
presentable,” said Ms. Bil, who generally
sees this style at smaller venues such as res-
taurant receptions, bars, and golf courses.
With semi-formal, the time of the wed-
ding dictates what to wear.
“If the ceremony and reception are
later in the evening then wear darker for-
mal hues for an evening affair,” say the
Chins, who note a daytime wedding calls
for vibrant colors and lightweight fabrics.
Dress Casual
This style is seen at outdoor venues, as
well as afternoon weddings.
Guests can wear jeans if they want, but
dress them up with nice blazers and sharp
shoes.
Still keep Ms. Bil’s advice in mind: “Dress
as if you are going to meet the parents or
go on a nice date,” she said. “You still want
to look nice.”
Casual
“Anything goes, as long as you are com-
fortable, but obviously presentable,” says
Ms. Bil, who explains with this dress code,
even shorts are OK as long as they’re clean.
Still it’s smart to study the wedding’s envi-
ronment when deciding how to dress.
Casual attire is typically suited for out-
door weddings, including boat weddings
and tented affairs on a private property.
Beach Formal
Just because a wedding is at the beach
doesn’t necessarily mean it’s casual.
Dress up but remember the party
involves “sun, sand, and water,” say the
Chins, who suggest women wear dressy
sundresses with shoes that are beach-
ready, such as dressy flat sandals or espa-
drilles. Men should wear lightweight suits;
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 musings from the editor
T
he little screen appears much larg-
er when you’re in the audience of
a show being taped live. At least
that’s what it felt like when Shaina and I
went to see The View, ABC’s female day-
time talk show. Shaina had gotten two
tickets during Chol Hamoed Sukkot as an
activity. It was free, close, and featured ac-
tress Kristen Bell as guest. So it was a go.
We weren’t the only locals at the tap-
ing — Shaina even ran into a school friend
there — but the majority were tourists
and fans from as far away as Australia. I
was amused being there, having once had
a brush with The View years earlier.
As a feature writer for the women’s
section of the New York Post, I wrote a
story about the show when it launched
in 1997. Its premise was novel at the time.
Conceived by broadcast journalist Bar-
bara Walters, The View featured a multi-
generational panel of women (journalist
Meredith Viera, attorney Star Jones, co-
median Joy Behar, and newcomer Debbie
Matenopoulos, as co-hosts who discussed
the day’s hot topics. They also inter-
viewed a celebrity or politician. My story
focused on Ms. Matenopoulos, but I most
4 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • NOVEMBER 2018
remember my interview
with Ms. Walters because
she spoke to me between
bites of a tuna fish sand-
wich that she was having
for lunch. Multitasking
no doubt.
This time, there was
Ms. Behar, actress Whoopi
Goldberg, attorney Sunny
Hostin, and television per-
sonality Abby Huntsman
on the panel. Meghan Mc-
Cain, another regular, was
on leave.
While we were last to go into the hold-
ing area, when they seated us in the studio,
we got the best view of The View. Second
row aisle! What a thrill. The show went off
without a hitch, and we saw the behind-
the-scenes mad dash for hair and makeup,
and enjoyed the warm-up comedian, who
got the audience loose and juiced.
During one of the commercial breaks,
Ms. Goldberg came to chat with the folks
in the front rows and someone compli-
mented her shoes. She was wearing blue
metallic Doc Martins, and shared that
information with the
woman who noticed.
“I like them shiny,”
Ms. Goldberg said, and
a big picture of her
shoes f lashed on the
screen behind her.
At that moment,
what possessed me,
I don’t know. I pride
myself on being chill in
the presence of celebri-
ties, having interviewed
many over the years.
But somehow, I wanted acknowl-
edgement and got all fan-like.
After all, we were seated so close.
“Look, Whoopi,” I said loudly as I
stuck my foot into the aisle.
“I have sparkly shoes, too!” and bran-
dished my silver sparkly Toms, a favorite
shoe for walking.
At which point, Whoopi Goldberg
looked at me, and at my foot, and said,
“Good!”
What else could she have said?
That exchange thrilled me. And
then in our recounting of the experience
that moment morphed into something
like: “Whoopi Goldberg complimented
Mom’s shoes.”
After the show, Shaina and I took the
subway downtown and headed into the
Village for lunch. We walked through the
streets and I noted the changes that had
taken place (so many!) since I was a student
at NYU and lived in the Village. We walked
through Washington Square Park and since
it was Sukkot, we got to visit the Chabad
sukkah and shake our lulav and etrog.
We headed back uptown and stopped
at the American Museum of Natural His-
tory, where we had taken the children
umpteen times. This time, the view of the
dinosaurs was with my teenage daughter.
That day was filled with so many
new experiences bumping up against old
memories. When I think of it in the future,
and of spending that lovely time with
Shaina, I’ll remember to enjoy that view.

All the World’s a Stage
for Performing Children
Heidi Mae Bratt
T
he first time a parent sees their
child in a performance is a last-
ing memory for both parent and
child. I remember my own school perfor-
mances and how my mother worked hard
on making sure that I had the costume I
needed, and how hard I worked on mak-
ing sure that I knew the lines that I had
to recite.
There were class plays performed
in the school auditorium, like the fourth
grade musical about the early history of
the United States. I was in the “Going
West” section, a pioneer woman who
needed a long gingham skirt (sewn by
mom), apron and bonnet.
I also remember an even earlier piano
recital. The other students played tex-
tured, sophisticated pieces.
As quite the novice, I play
two very simple songs. When
I was to take a bow to the
applause, I could barely re-
member that moment as my
nerves were so pitched.
Later, there was the gen-
der-bending role (before it
was in vogue) when I played
Will in the camp play “Okla-
homa!” because there weren’t
enough boys who were will-
ing to be cast. That was an A performance at Kaplen JCC on the Palisades
interesting performance that in Tenafly.
required me to stretch as an “actress.”
There is no question that being on
stage had a major impact on me as it does
for so many youngsters who seek the per-
forming arts for fun, for expression, and
maybe for a dream in the future.
“I think whatever field they end up
in, the performing arts gives children an
amazing step up in their confidence and
knowing themselves,” said Deb Roberts,
director of the School of Performing at
the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades. “To be
able to express themselves lucidly with-
out shyness is a way of getting a sense
of yourself and knowing that whatever
you’re feeling is worth listening to.
“Just to stand in front of an audi-
ence and play someone else and then
to accept the applause as yourself, that
creates tremendous inner growth and a
sense of being a participant in the world
in whatever field they choose,” Ms. Rob-
erts said.
The Kaplen JCC has an extensive per-
forming arts program from which stu-
dents of all ages can choose to study a va-
On stage at bergenPAC in Englewood.
A class at Black Box Studios in Teaneck.
riety of classes. From drama to musicals to
singing to improvisation, the classes run
the gamut.
New programs offer youngsters op-
portunity to act as well as create their
own material, said Ms. Roberts. Courses
like Playmaking and Acting Skills and
Teen Acting and Script Writing allow
students to perform original material and
broaden their understanding of the per-
forming arts.
The Performing Arts School at
bergenPAC in Englewood offers introduc-
tory through pre-professional level classes
in music, dance and theater to students
ages 3 months to adult. The aim is to cre-
ate lifelong lovers of the arts and help
student develop their passions, whether
they want to perform for fun or pursue a
career in the arts.
Students can participate in ensemble
groups and enjoy opportunities to per-
form on the bergenPAC stage in a year-
end showcase. The Show Choir performs
with bergenPAC headliners. Past concerts
included Kristin Chenoweth and Patti Lu-
Pone. The music program also includes
opportunities to learn about songwriting,
recording production, and music business
management. The Young Professionals
Vocal Academy features renowned voice
instructor Amelia DeMayo and trains se-
rious students to take their singing to the
next level.
The Early Childhood Program starts
for children as young as 3 months with
child and guardian programs that de-
velop motor skills, creativity, and cu-
riosity, while also encouraging bond-
ing experiences.
Drama and musical theater classes are
offered for all ages. The Performing Arts
School’s summer musical draws teens
from across the region for a professional-
level experience and production.
Dances classes are offered in ballet,
Afro, jazz, modern/contemporary, tap
and more.
In Teaneck, Matt Okin, creative direc-
tor of Black Box Studios and Black Box
PAC, has grown a community of actors
and steady performances in more than
ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • NOVEMBER 2018
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About
10 years. He founded Black Box Studios
in 2007 and since then, Black Box has ac-
quired its own performance space in Te-
aneck and has been a steady presence on
the performing arts scene for youngsters,
teenagers, and adults. Last summer, Black
Box brought Shakespeare in the Park to
Teaneck and presented the musical “Hair”
as well as original scripted material,
“Sprouted!” a play based on the tale of
Jack and the Beanstalk.
“It’s a real confidence builder and you
learn how to think on your feet,” said Mr.
Okin, the creative director of Black Box.
“It is also a safe environment for public
speaking and a place that one can be cre-
ative. And there is also a real social aspect
to doing a play. Kids and adults become
close and build community. Here, with
our diverse community, students get to
interact with all people.”
Demand for classes has
been so great, said Mr. Okin,
that Black Box Studios has
added a Young Kids Theater
Class to Sunday afternoons,
in addition to its offering on
Mondays and Wednesdays.
Black Box PAC will be
presenting t wo plays in
the coming month. “Spring
Awakening” will play from
November 3 to December 2,
and this weekend until the
end of December will be per-
formances of “Junee B. Jones,” which had a
successful run earlier.
Miss Patti’s School of Dance in Mid-
land Park, established in 1994, has been
helping children to experience the wonder
and joy of dance in an environment that
nurtures their individual creativity and
personal growth. To create a school that
enhances children’s sense of confidence
and self-esteem, a place that would assist
them in developing a discipline which ap-
plies to other areas of their lives, is the
mission of the school.
In conjunction with JULIEDANCE,
some of Miss Patti’s School of Dance’s stu-
dents annually present “The Nutcracker”
with the internationally acclaimed Do-
netsk Ballet from Ukraine. JULIEDANCE
and Donetsk Ballet’s presentation of “The
Nutcracker” has become one of Bergen
County’s most endearing and entertain-
ing holiday productions, and affords our
dancers a great opportunity to perform in
a professional production with one of the
world’s leading ballet companies — and for
a great cause.
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About
Homework?
Get Your Children to Own Theirs
Adina Soclof
M
any parents often complain:
“My child never does his
homework! I always have to
stand over him!”
“My son’s knapsack is a mess! Nothing
I do seems to help!”
“My son never gets to school on time.
He is so lazy!”
We all want our children to succeed
at school. We don’t want to fight with our
children and create pressure and friction
in the home. We want them to get out on
time in the morning, stay organized, do
their homework without a fuss. We also
want them to feel capable and confident
that they can succeed in school.
Here are five ways to help our chil-
dren take responsibility for themselves
and their schoolwork:
1. Lose the royal we
I once was at an evening bar mitzvah and
6 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • NOVEMBER 2018
the woman I was talking to excused
herself, “I need to go. We have a
science test tomorrow.” She was
obviously talking about her child’s
exam. There are many parents who
talk about their children’s school-
work as if it is their own.
I have heard many parents say,
“We have a social studies project
due tomorrow.” Or they are simi-
larly enmeshed even if they say, “If
I don’t sit next to my child when he
is doing homework, he will never
do it!”
This is not how it should be. Kids
often do need help but parents should
ultimately encourage children to do
their own work. Parents need to re-
member that school is ultimately the
child’s responsibility.
We can do t his by c hanging
our phrasing:
• “You have a science test tomorrow, I am
sure you can manage on your own. If you
need some help just let me know.”
• “Good luck studying for your test.”
• “Oh, your project is due next week? You
might want to get started on that soon.”
• “You are playing rather than doing your
homework? Oh, I hope your teacher is
okay with that tomorrow…”
2. Find out what works for them
When we are always telling kids when to
do their homework, how to study
and what time they need to get up
for school, we send them the mes-
sage that they cannot live or make
decisions without our input. To en-
courage them to be responsible we
can ask them and invite them to get
involved in the planning.
• “I see you have trouble getting
up in the morning. Do you think
an earlier bed time would work
for you?”
• “When would you like to pack
your lunch? Right after dinner to-
night or after your computer time?”
• “What do you think would help you get
your book bag organized?”
This is especially effective with
homework:
• “It seems as if you are having a hard time
focusing on your homework.
• When do you think is the best time for
you to do your homework?
• Where do you think the best place is for
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you to do your homework?
• Will you need any of my help for home-
work tonight?”
When we talk to our children in this
way, we send them the message that they
are accountable and responsible for their
own actions. It also encourages children
to be in charge of their possessions, their
time and their schoolwork. They feel ca-
pable and dependable. They may think,
“Hey, if my Mom or Dad is asking me
what I can do to be a part of the solution,
they have faith in me that I can handle my
own problems.”
Don’t worry if it takes a bit of time
until your child finds a schedule that
works for them. Kids are just learning
how to manage their time and they need
some space to work it through.
3. Teach them to think positively
about their academic abilities
Many of us are familiar with the research
on positive self-talk. When we have a
problem in life and we tell ourselves, “I
can’t cope!” we will believe it. If we tell
ourselves, “This is challenging, but I will
somehow manage this,” we will be more
likely to solve our problems with equa-
nimity and confidence.
One teacher, Stephanie Skelton, at
Fieldcrest Elementary School, taught her
students to think positively about their
schoolwork and their capabilities. She
taught them the self-talk they needed to
take responsibility for their schoolwork
and to work through the academic chal-
lenges that they may have.
She taught them that instead of tell-
ing themselves, “I am not good at this,”
they should try thinking: “What am
I missing?”
• Instead of: “I give up,” try thinking: “I’ll
use some of the strategies we learned.”
• Instead of: “This is too hard,” try think-
ing: “This may take some time and effort.”
• Instead of: “I made a mistake,” try think-
ing: “Mistakes help me to learn better.”
• Instead of: “Plan A didn’t work,” try
thinking: “Good thing the alphabet has 25
more letters.”
4. Teach children to monitor
their own progress
When children bring home their test pa-
pers and homework assignments, it is a
great opportunity to teach them to be re-
sponsible for their own work.
When they get a good grade we want
to praise them for the effort they put in
to get that A: “You worked hard on this
math test. You studied by practicing many
of the math problems and asking your
teacher for help when you didn’t under-
stand the work. You should be proud of
this grade.”
If a child does poorly, don’t get an-
gry, instead act curious and ask, “What
do you think you need to do to improve
your grade?” “Can you pinpoint where
you are getting stuck?” “Is there anyone
at school that you think might be able to
help you?”
Sometimes parents are objective
about their child’s test grade or report
card but their child still wants their ap-
proval or advice. Children may ask their
parents: “Are you angry about this ‘C’ that
is on my report card?” Parents can re-
spond, “There is nothing for me to get an-
gry about — this is your report card and
your responsibility. The question is, are
you upset with yourself about the ‘C’?”
5. Talk about strategies that work
When I was in high school, I dreaded
chemistry. I could not grasp the concepts.
I did not how I was going to get through
the year. What saved me? I did know that
I was good at memorizing — and I utilized
that skill. I memorized everything I could
about chemistry and I got a B.
Kids need strategies that work for
them. Sometimes they don’t even know
that they are using effective techniques. It
is up to us to point it out to them.
Oftentimes children intuitively know
that they can’t sit down and focus on their
schoolwork right when they come home
from school. They will play outside, watch
a video, or have a snack. This helps them
relax so that they are better able to focus
on their work. This is an effective strategy.
We can tell them:
“I see that you came home and you
had a snack played outside a bit and then
you were able to sit down and do your
homework…It seems as if you need to un-
wind after school and then you can tackle
your work…That’s a good strategy.”
One of my kids walks around the
room as she memorizes the content.
Movement helps some kids focus.
Another one of my children, when
studying for spelling, spells the word
out loud, while another needs to write it
down. They have each found study strate-
gies that work for them.
Children need to feel capable and
confident when it comes to their school-
work and our actions can help them
feel that.
Adina Soclof is a parent educator, professional
development instructor, and speech pathologist.
She is the founder of ParentingSimply.com and
is available for speaking engagements. asoclof@
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Plenty of Yikes and Likes
in ‘Animal Zombies!’
Teaneck Children’s Author Chana Stiefel
Heidi Mae Bratt
D
id you know
that the cute
ladybug is
vulnerable to becom-
ing host to a female
wasp who injects an
egg into its body and
overtakes it — some-
times ending the la-
dybug’s life after the
wasp grows another
life inside it? Or, that Chana Stiefel
the male mosquito is
vegetarian and won’t bite you. Only fe-
male mosquitoes get their protein from
blood. Or that the rarely seen frilled
shark, a snakelike sea creature known
as a living fossil, has thrived for 80 mil-
lion years?
The beautifully photographed “Ani-
mal Zombies!” written by Teaneck chil-
dren’s author Chana Stiefel and published
by National Geographic Kids is full of
information about other “bloodsuck-
ing beasts, creepy creatures and real-life
monsters” that will chill and thrill readers
in the third grade and older (even adults!).
This is the newest book from Ms.
Stiefel, who has authored more than 25
Anne Frank’s Diary Comes to Life in Graphic Novel
The story of Anne Frank and her diary is
a timeless one that is rediscovered with
each new generation. “The Diary of a
Young Girl” stands without peer. For read-
ers it continues to capture the remarkable
spirit of Anne, who for a time survived
the worst horror the modern world has
seen, and who remained heartbreakingly
human throughout her ordeal.
“Anne Frank’s Diary: The Graphic
Adaptation” (Pantheon Graphic Library),
a comic book-like graphic novel has just
been released in the U.S. Adapted by Is-
raeli filmmaker Ari Folman, and illustrat-
ed by award-winning children’s illustrator
David Polonsky, it first appeared in Israel
and Europe last year.
The graphic novel adaptation was a
years-long labor of love for Mr. Folman,
who was Oscar-nominated for his Leba-
non War-based “Waltz with Bashir.” Mr.
Folman said he approached the acclaimed
8 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • NOVEMBER 2018
nonfiction children’s
books, her first for Na-
tional Geographic Kids,
and one that encour-
ages children to read,
as “Animal Zombies!”
informs in an enter-
taining and accessible
way. Along with the
facts about the creepy
creatures, the book
has lots of sidebars and
features, including tid-
bits of history, like that
vampires date back to
2000 B.C. with Lilith, an ancient demon
from Babylonian culture who lived on the
blood of babies; mini-bios of modern-day
scientists like Michelle Trautwein, an en-
tomologist (bug scientist) at the Califor-
nia Academy of Sciences; and other facts
and figures.
“I want to inspire kids to take a look at
the natural world, get a sense of wonder
that exists in nature and hopefully ex-
plore the world,” said Ms. Stiefel, whose
own childhood growing up in North Mi-
ami Beach was filled with natural enter-
tainment. Her family lived on a canal, had
a canoe, and she recalls collecting bugs,
tadpoles, and iguanas as part of her play.
“Diary of a Young Girl” with much cau-
tion and initially turned down the op-
portunity because so many adaptations
already existed.
“I tried to disconnect from the issue of
what it means to deal with ‘The Diary of
a Young Girl’ as much as I could, because I
think the more you are frightened by the
iconization of the literary piece, the more
you are paralyzed,” Mr. Folman reportedly
said. “We also did a lot of research to find
good solutions within the framework we
had to stay in.
“I’m worried we’re coming to an era
where there won’t be Holocaust survivors
on Earth, no living witnesses to tell the
story,” said Mr. Folman, the son of Holo-
caust survivors who told him and his sis-
ter “way, way too many” horrible stories
from the genocide. As they disappear, “the
entire story of the Holocaust risks becom-
ing something ancient so it’s essential to
She also remembers her fam-
ily spending much time at the
Everglades National Park and
taking “swamp tramps,” wad-
ing through fresh water with a
park ranger looking for interest-
ing creatures.
“I think that really instilled a
love of nature in me,” said Ms. Sti-
efel, who as an adult has contin-
ued her travel into natural habi-
tats like Costa Rica and Hawaii.
The germ of the book came
a number of years ago when Ms.
Stiefel noticed several articles
in the science sections of news-
papers about different parasites
and other organisms that live off
hosts. It ignited the idea of cre-
ating six different books about
“zombies” (animal, vampire, etc.).
At a conference she attended in 2014 for Ms. Stiefel will share her book, “Ani-
nonfiction children’s authors, she pitched mal Zombies!” with the public on Octo-
her idea and it took. The editor thought to ber 28 from 2 to 4 p.m. at Teaneck Public
combine all six into a single book and thus Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-
“Animal Zombies! was born.” 837-4171,www.teanecklibrary.org. There
“What was also important was that I will be books on sale, courtesy of The
didn’t want kids to feel that these things Curious Reader in Glen Rock.
are evil,” said Ms. Stiefel. “They have
adapted amazingly, and in some cases, are Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our
very helpful to humans.” Children.
find ways to preserve” inter- framed newspa-
est in the Holocaust. pers in the back-
The comic book , re- ground, including a
ferred to as a graphic di- Life magazine cover
ary by its developers, was featuring a picture
produced in cooperation of her.
with the Anne Frank Foun- Another shows
dation, or fonds — the her family members
organization that Anne’s and other Jews with
father, Otto, entrusted whom they lived in
wit h preser ving her hiding for two years
memory — and contains in Amsterdam de-
colorful illustrations both picted as animals, cor-
of realities described in responding to Anne’s
the book, including the humorous anecdotes
teen’s difficult relation- about their person-
ship with her mother and sister, and her alities. Other drawings
dreams and fantasies. feature allusions to great visual artworks.
One full-page drawing in the 148- The graphic novel remains faithful to
page book based on Anne’s writing about the original, while the striking illustrations
wanting to become a journalist, shows add layers of visual meaning and immedia-
an older Anne sitting at her desk with cy to a classic work of Holocaust literature.

This Year Give
the Best Gifts
Money Can’t Buy
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff
W
e are coming to the time of year when we
shower children with gifts. This year, let’s
take a few moments to focus on the greatest
gifts money cannot buy.
1. Time
Children crave time together with loved ones. They’re
hungry for positive attention. Kids seek some type of
affirmation of love, of our pleasure when we spend mo-
ments with them. We mistakenly throw toys and elec-
tronics at them, thinking that will make them happy, and
then we wonder why they’re whining minutes later.
It’s not the things that matter; it’s what we do with
them that counts. Do we sit down on the floor and play
the game, even once? Do we watch as they try the scoot-
er down the block? Do we delight in the doll?
More presence. Less presents. Time is the one gift
that can never be replaced. Ask your child what he would
like to do with you this holiday. Some children would love
to watch a ball game, others to go ice skating, paint pot-
tery, experience rock climbing or even build a model air-
plane together. Whatever it is, when you give the gift of
time be sure you give with all your heart. Don’t seem
disinterested. Turn off your phone. Don’t go grudgingly.
You will never regret time spent together. The memory
will remain with your child forever.
2. Smile
Sometimes the easiest gifts are the ones we find most
difficult. We smile when we cradle a newborn in our
arms or when we’re having a fun night out. But parenting
brings challenges. As our children grow we are stressed
and pulled in so many directions and we forget to smile.
The joy is missing.
Even if you don’t really feel it, give your child a smile.
Smile when you see him in the morning and when he
comes home from school. Brighten your home, bring sun-
shine into the room. Show that you are happy to see him.
When my mother was a little girl in Bergen Belsen,
my Zayde told her that she has a very important mission.
“Here? But I am just a child?
“Smile at each and every person,” my grandfather
said. “When they will see your smile you will give them
hope. You will make their hearts sing.”
My Zayde’s wise words speak to us all. If a child’s
smile could bring light to such a terribly dark world,
imagine the joy each of us can create today.
3. Model an Attitude of Gratitude
Stop the complaining. Stop comparing lives. Stop
awfulizing.
While it’s true that we have no choices about the
situations we sometimes face, we can choose how we
will react. Our children watch us. They hear our grip-
ing. They internalize our discontent. They mimic our at-
titudes. What are we teaching them?
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Preparation is Key
to Managing Diabetes in School
November is Diabetes Awareness Month, and for many parents, time away from socializing also vitally important to
unfortunately, the awareness is an everyday event because their to take their insulin or hav- help manage your child’s
son or daughter has diabetes. For anyone, diabetes is a challenge. ing to measure their blood diabetes. Work with the
For children who are in school, it is even more so. Dr. Paul Pelavin, sugar when they’d rather school health care pro-
a pediatric endocrinologist at The Valley Hospital, offers some be playing. But their health vider and staff to devel-
important advice for parents and children who are attending school. depends on good diabetes op a care plan. A school
management. Talk to your nurse can help you specify
child about his or her con- what, where, when and by
Dr. Paul Pelavin Even when children have a good grasp cerns, and brainstorm ways whom diabetes care tasks
on their diabetes while at home, parents to deal with fears or other will be provided in school.

G
etting ready to send your child to
school for the first time or pre-
paring an older child to go back to
school can be a daunting task, especially if
your child has diabetes.
When a child is diagnosed with diabe-
tes, there is a learning curve that both the
child and the parents must go through.
They all need to learn how the child’s
diabetes can be managed through diet,
exercise and medication, how to measure
blood sugar, and what to do when blood
sugar is too high or too low.
may feel anxious about sending them into
an uncontrolled environment. That’s why
it is important for children and teens with
diabetes to take special care to manage
their diabetes while at school just as they
do at home.
Creating a Care Plan
It can sometimes be difficult for children
and teens to come to terms with their dia-
betes — even if they have it under control
at home. Most kids don’t like being dif-
ferent, and having diabetes means taking
barriers. Dr. Paul Pelavin
You can help your child
by packing a healthy, balanced lunch to-
gether. Every packed lunch — provided
your child uses carbohydrate counting
to determine their insulin dose — should
include an index card listing the grams of
carbohydrates in each food in the lunch.
You should also encourage plenty of
outdoor play and exercise, and remem-
ber, your child should have blood sugars
checked before physical activity.
Having trained adults on your side is
You should work with
your doctor and school to
set up a 504 Plan for your child. A 504
Plan, which your doctor can easily draft
for you, sets out the actions the school
will take to make sure the student with
diabetes is medically safe, has the same
access to education as other children, and
is treated fairly. For example, such a plan
will allow for your child to take bathroom
breaks and breaks to check blood sugar
or take carbohydrate snacks while taking
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Keeping Them Going When the Going Gets Tough

Adina Soclof phrase “sometimes it helps.” For example: I’m glad I kept trying!” of perseverance. It might take a while, but
• “Too many words on a paper can be hard • “The printer was broken and I was get- with a little perseverance, we can do it!

T
eaching children to persevere
when things are tough seems to be
a huge problem for parents in the
modern era. Children seem to fall apart at
the first sign of adversity, and parents are
having a hard time moving them forward
through these everyday challenges.
In order for children to grow into re-
sponsible and emotionally healthy adults,
they need a “can-do attitude.” Making mis-
to work with. Sometimes it helps to use
your finger as a marker. Or cover the other
words on the paper with your hand.”
• “Sometimes it helps to look in the mir-
ror to see the zipper when you are trying
to zip up.”
2. Show respect for a child’s
eventual readiness.
Parents sometimes make the mis-
ting so frustrated. I turned it off, pressed
the help button and added a new ink car-
tridge. Then it worked! I’m glad I didn’t
give up.”
In our fast-paced world, it is impera-
tive that we teach our children the lost art
Adina Soclof is a parent educator, professional
development instructor and speech pathologist.
She is the founder of ParentingSimply.com and
is available for speaking engagements. asoclof@
parentingsimply.com, www.parentingsimply.com.

The Heschel School

takes, getting stuck and pushing through
are an essential part of learning how to
cope, gain confidence, grow and finally
succeed in life.
Many successful people failed repeat-
edly before reaching their goals. Howev-
er, the obstacles they faced were pushed
aside, as if success was achieved magically:
J.K Rowling’s “Harry Potter” was re-
jected 12 times from top publishers.
Oprah Winfrey was fired from her
first TV reporting job because they felt
she was unfit for TV.
Albert Einstein’s teachers supposedly
considered him sloppy and lazy.
How can parents help their children
develop the ability to keep trying when
they don’t succeed, along with solution-
oriented thinking patterns?
Achieving expertise in any area re-
quires many little steps and a lot of prac-
tice. When a baby learns to walk, we clap
and cheer for each step taken, no matter
if they fall. We need the same attitude
when our children learn to pour milk and
spill. Do a puzzle and get frustrated. Or
find themselves overwhelmed at a home-
work assignment.
Here are six ways to encourage young
children to keep on trying.
1. Show respect for a child’s struggle.
Instead of making light of a difficult
task (“This is easy. It will take you no
time to learn”), show respect for a
child’s struggle.
Telling a child that something is easy
often leads to a double-edged discourage-
ment. If he completes the task, then he
merely did something “easy” and it is not
much of an accomplishment. If he can’t
succeed, he has failed at something that
should have been easy.
If we show respect for a child’s strug-
gle and say “this can be hard,” or “it is not
so simple,” then we send a message that if
he does succeed it is a meaningful accom-
plishment. If he fails, at least he knows he
made the effort on a difficult task.
• “Reading new words can be hard.”
• “Tying shoelaces takes a lot of fancy fin-
ger work.”
You can also give more useful infor-
mation with the non-confrontational
take of disregarding children’s fears
and hesitancy:
• “There’s nothing to be afraid of. The
scooter won’t bite!”
• “Getting organized is easy. I’ll show OPENING MINDS, BRIDGING DIFFERENCES, LIVING JEWISH VALUES.
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Everyone needs encouragement. Try say-
ing things like:
• “Keep at it. You can do it!”
• “You should be proud of yourself. Even
though you fell, you brushed yourself off
and got right back on the bike.”
• “Let’s see how much of this puzzle you
can do.”
• “You look discouraged. What would help
you to keep going?”
4. Keep phrases handy to help kids
get back up after a mistake.
• “If we learn from our mistakes, then
they’re not really mistakes.”
• “Mistakes are a great way to learn new
ways to do things.”
• “In this house, nobody gets in trouble
for a mistake. Just be sure to learn for the
next time.”
5. Encourage children
to enjoy the process.
• “Tying shoes can be tricky and takes a
lot of practice. Each time you try, you’ll be
one step closer to success!”
• “You’ve completed six of your home-
work questions. Only four more to go!”
6. Be a role model.
Children do as we do, not as we say. If you
learn to persist in your own challenges,
this will set the best example for a child
struggling to achieve.
• “I finally learned how to bake bread. I
kept trying different recipes and talking
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Shaking Up the Lulav
Bergen County High School of Jewish
Studies celebrated Sukkot during the
“break” by shaking the lulav, drinking
lulav “shakes,” and playing Sukkot
bingo. The eighth-grade students took
photos with their new friends and
decorated fall photo frames.
Torah, Torah, Torah
In preparation for Simchat Torah, Rabbi Arthur Weiner of the
JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth Tikvah in Paramus led a
hands-on program with religious school students. SANDRA ALPERN
12 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • NOVEMBER 2018
Gallery
If I Could Talk to the Animals
Outragehisss Pets visited the Early
Childhood Program of Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley in Washington
Visit to Historic Bialystoker Synagogue Township. The youngsters were study-
The young people in Temple Emeth’s Emeth Teen Community program, open to eighth through ing the story of Noah’s ark and the ani-
12th graders, recently visited the historic Bialystoker Synagogue as part of a walking tour of mals. It was a day to meet the python,
New York’s Lower East Side. They marveled at the architecture of the renovated synagogue set chinchilla, wallaby, tortoise and more.
off by its stained-glasses windows.
Decorations Committee
Students gather with Hebrew School assistant principal
Karen Asher to decorate the Glen Rock Jewish Center Leaping Lizards at Gan Rina
sukkah. Gan Rina Nursery students welcomed all kinds of ani-
mals from kangaroos, to skunks, to lizards, and even
crocodiles to their classroom tevah or ark. The young-
sters learned about their responsibility to take care of
the world and God’s creatures.
Sukkah Coladas
Left, teens from Valley Chabad’s CTeen
group gathered for iced coffee and milk-
shakes in the sukkah during Sukkot. The
teens also had a chance to make the bless-
ing on the lulav and etrog, and created
model Torahs to be shared with seniors for
Simchat Torah. VALLEY CHABAD
Celebrating the Holiday and
Students Learning
Right, Congregation Temple Beth Tikvah in
Wayne celebrated Simchat Torah and, simul-
taneously, the new class of religious school
children was consecrated as they began their
study of Judaism. HARVEY HENDLER.
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TopChoices NOVEMBER 2018

Compiled by Heidi Mae Bratt

Thanksgiving Day Parade Balloons Blow-Up Preview

This pre-Turkey Day ritual held near the
American Museum of Natural History
in Manhattan has become almost as
crowded as the Thanksgiving Day Parade,
which will be held this year on November
22. On the day before, the Macy’s Balloon
Inflation will bring to helium life such
parade favorites as Pillsbury Doughboy,
Pikachu, Red Mighty Morphin Power
Ranger, Ronald McDonald, Charlie Brown,
Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Flying Fish, the
Nutcracker, Sinclair’s Dino, Paw Patrol’s
Chase, and Super Wings’ Jett and Olaf
from Disney’s “Frozen.” Watch them
take shape.
Wednesday, November 21, 3 to 10 p.m.
79th Street and Columbus Avenue
and around the museum
between 77th and 81st Streets and Central
Park West and Columbus Avenue.

Yes! My Child the Doctor At Liberty Science Center

Play doctor and perform check-ups
at the McStuffins Toy Hospital at The
Liberty Science Center in Jersey City.
Put on a doctor’s lab coat, pick up a
stethoscope, and perform checkups
on toys at the newest exhibit for young
learners, Doc McStuffins: The Exhibit!
based on Disney Junior’s award-win-
ning TV series Doc McStuffins. The
exhibit transports children to Doc’s Liberty Science Center
backyard clinic and the McStuffins Toy LIberty State Park
Hospital. There, families are invited to 222 Jersey City Boulevard
Jersey City
help Doc perform checkups in the ER,
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groom toy pets at the Pet Vet, feed baby
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toys in the nursery, X-ray toy animals
and more. It’s good practice.

Kid Flicks at Teaneck International Film Festival

The Teaneck International Film
Festival, a four-day film-filled event,
is hosting a special screening for
youngsters. There will be live action
and animated shorts for children,
targeting viewers ages 4 to 6. Kids
Flicks One is to be hosted by a local
celebrity, the affable Bob McGrath of
Sesame Street fame. The event will
run 60 minutes and is sponsored by
The Puffin Foundation. Another plus,
kids enter for free when a paying adult
accompanies them.
Sunday, November 4, 11 a.m.
Puffin Cultural Forum
20 Puffin Way
Teaneck.
For more information TIFF@
TeaneckFilmFestival.org
201-203-1723.

FunkeyMonkeys Take the Stage

at The Jewish Museum
Get out your balloon tails and
dancing shoes for the hilarious
antics and soulful sounds of the
beloved FunkeyMonkeys. Created
by Joshua Sitron, composer for
Nickelodeon’s “Dora the Explorer,” the
FunkeyMonkeys are a super-group of
professional musicians, comedians,
and teachers who deliver one-of-a kind
performances. Described as “Seinfeld Sunday, November 11
meets the Wiggles,” or “Herbie 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.
Hancock’s Vaudeville Bar Mitzvah.” The Jewish Museum
1109 Fifth Ave. at 92nd Street
Groove and giggle together with songs
Manhattan
from the albums Mustache and Sing
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Dance and Underpants among other www.thejewishmuseum.org.
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 The Good Life With Kids
NOVEMBER
This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, it’s a good idea to call to verify details before you go.
Saturday, October 27
“Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire” Live
Concert: NJPAC hosts the movie “Harry Potter
and the Goblet of Fire” as Oscar-nominated
composer Patrick Dyle leads a score by the New
Jersey Symphony Orchestra. 1 Center St., Newark.
888-GO-NJPAC, www.njpac.org.
Sunday, October 28
Local Author Chana Stiefel at the Library: Local
author Chana Stiefel will be at the library to share
her book, “Animal Zombies.” Event is from 2 to
4 p.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171,www.teanecklibrary.org.
Thursday, November 1
Mother Goose at the Library: This story time is
for children age 2½ to 3 years old. Read stories
and rhymes, sing songs, do finger plays and move-
ment activities, and have a great time. Free play
follows story time. Toys are provided. From 10 to
11 a.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org.
Author Marjorie Ingall: Evening at Little City Books
with author Marjorie Ingall. 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. Little
City Books, 100 Bloomfield St., Hoboken.
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Saturday, November 3
Family Services at Congregation B’nai Israel:
Congregation B’nai Israel in Emerson will offer
Shabbat services for all age groups. For adults
and children ages 12 and up there is a Learning
Service in the sanctuary at 10 a.m. For families
with children ages 8 to 11 there is an age-appro-
priate “8-11 Club” service from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m.
And for families with children 7 and under there
will be a “Family Shabbat program” celebrating
Shabbat with song, prayer, puppets, movement,
stories, and more from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. Pizza,
salads, ice cream, and cookies will follow all ser-
vices. 53 Palisade Ave., Emerson. 201-265-2272
or office@bisrael.com, www.bisrael.com.
Sunday, November 4
Panel Discussion on Addiction and Substance
Abuse: Community program on “Addiction and
Substance Abuse: Understanding the Landscape
and Its Impact on Us” will meet 7:30 p.m. at
Congregation Keter Torah in Teaneck. The dis-
cussion will include information on recent drug
trends, state and local initiatives, addiction, and
what can be done to address and prevent it.
DEA agents, addition professionals, local rabbis,
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Congregation Keter Torah, 600 Roemer Ave.,
Teaneck, 201-907-0180.
Monday, November 5
Lego at the Library: Lego Club for kids age 6 and
older After reading a story, build with Legos based
on the book’s theme. 7 to 7:45 p.m. Teaneck Public
Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-
4171, www.teanecklibrary.org.
Tuesday, November 6
Stop Defiance, Disrespect & Yelling: Congrega-
tion Beth Aaron is hosting a free workshop at 7 p.m.
“Stop Defiance, Disrespect & Yelling” led by Calm
Coach Kirk Martin and his son Casey. For parents
with children 2 to 22. Congregation Beth Aaron,
950 Queen Anne Road, Teaneck. 201-836-6210,
www.bethaaron.org.
Musikef at Academies @ GBDS: Great music is
a high energy, specially designed Hebrew/English
interactive music class that encourages emerg-
ing language, motor development, socialization
and bonding between parent and child. 9:30 to
10:15 a.m. 45 Spruce St., Oakland. 201-337-1111.
Friday, November 9
Night of Broken Glass at Temple Beth Tikvah:
Services commemorating the 80th anniversary of
Kristallnacht. All school children fifth grade and
older and their parents are invited to join. At 7
p.m. there will be a screening of the documentary
“The Night of Broken Glass.” Erev Shabbat services
will follow at 7:45, followed by an oneg Shabbat.
Temple Beth Tikvah, 950 Preakness Ave., Wayne.
www.templebethtikvahnj.org.
Tuesday, November 13
Musikef at Academies @ GBDS: Great music is
a high energy, specially designed Hebrew/English
interactive music class that encourages emerging
language, motor development, socialization and
bonding between parent and child. Ages 9 to 24
months. 9:30 to 10:15 a.m. 45 Spruce St., Oakland.
201-337-1111.
Thursday, November 15
Mother Goose at the Library: This story time is for
children between 2½ and 3 years old. Read stories
and rhymes, sing songs, do finger plays and move-
ment activities, and have a great time. Free play
follows story time. Toys are provided. From 10 to
11 a.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org.
Friday, November 16
Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth El: Temple Beth El of
Northern Valley will host a Tot Shabbat for local
families and their children from 5:15 to 6:15 p.m.
Join for a “Getting Ready for Chanukah” themed
service with Rabbi David Widzer and Cantor
Elizabeth Goldmann, followed by a fun craft proj-
ect designed for children up to age 5 and their
families. Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road,
Closter, 201-767-5112 or email the office at nsast@
tbenv.org. www.tbenv.org.
Friday, November 16
Music Service at Temple Emeth: Temple Emeth,
Teaneck, presents a Shabbat music service at
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Cantor Ellen Tilem by singing and dancing and
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Sunday, November 18
Sunday Pre-School at JCCP/CBT: For 2- to
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CPR Certification Class at Temple Beth
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Interfaith Thanksgiving: Congregation B’nai Israel
in Emerson will be hosting the Pascack Valley
Interfaith Association’s 50th annual Interfaith
Thanksgiving Service at 7 p.m. Rev. Marc Stutzel of
Christ Lutheran Church of Woodcliff Lake will deliv-
er the Thanksgiving address. The Pascack Valley
Interfaith Association is comprised of several dif-
ferent religious bodies in the area. 53 Palisade Ave.,
Emerson. 201-265-2272, www.bisrael.com.
Tuesday, November 20
Musikef at Academies @ GBDS: Great music is
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201-337-1111.
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Child/Infant First Aid & CPR Training: As part of
the Parent Speaker Series of the Early Childhood
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learn prevention, recognition and treatment of
first-aid emergencies. This non-certifying course
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or anyone who is around children and wants to
be prepared in the event of an emergency. 9:15 to
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Sunday, November 18
Temple Sholom Holiday Boutique: Get a head
start on gift shopping at the Temple Sholom
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ARIEL BLANK
Ariel Blank, son of Joshua Blank and
Jessica Blumenthal and brother of Kira and
Coby Blank, celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on October 27 at Congregation
Beth Sholom in Teaneck.
JULIA DAN
Julia Dan, daughter of Simona and Gary
Dan of West Milford and sister of Emma,
celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah on
October 6 at the Jewish Congregation of
Kinnelon.
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Wyatt Jacobs of Wyckoff, son of Amy
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Vets beginning to happen is when someone from our community second guest, in 2003, was injured when infiltrating into
FROM PAGE 8 — whether a host or a buddy family — goes to Israel and says, Lebanon. “He had a traumatic head injury and needed to
the line of duty. Beit Halochem centers in Israel pro- ‘Join me for coffee or beer at a restaurant,’ people show up. relearn how to walk and talk.”
vide a place where disabled people can participate in They’re getting to know each other, support each other. It’s During his stay in Bergen County, she said, “he began to
sports and related activities suited to their individual such a nice thing for them to continue to have the social life feel empowered. He insisted that we speak in Hebrew and
situation. Each center also offers a wide choice of with the American community and now with each other. It’s said frappucinos were the best thing ever.” After the visit, “he
social and creative activities for members. “They go fascinating to see who Steve is bringing together.” became employed again, doing private detective work. He
to Beit Halochem to do their rehabilitation, using the In 1999, Ms. Rosen and her husband, Michael, hosted a also started to have a plot in Ramat Gan community garden.”
facility’s pools, massage areas, and physical therapy,” soldier who had been a POW during the Yom Kippur War. For more information about Zahal Shalom, go to www.
Mr. Kornblit said. “There’s a center in all four cities “He and my husband bonded over billiards,” she said. Her zahalshalom.org.
we’re visiting.”
In fact, he said, while the October 25 Tel Aviv
reunion still would include a food tour, the second get-
together will be held not in a veteran’s home but at
Beit Halochem. “It’s got a different feel,” he said. “It’s
their place. A large contingent said they will cook and
bring the food there.”
Susan Kornblit said she already knew several people
at the Beersheba reunion. “I knew Yoni, who hosted us
for dinner.” She also knew Orly, who came to Bergen
County in 2011, bringing a newspaper article describ-
ing how her unit had been bombed. “She was hurt
badly. She didn’t think she would make it. But now,
she seems very stable and happy. It’s nice to see her in
her element. She’s working, and she has a nice job.”
Johanna Rosen of Ridgewood has been on the execu-
tive committee of Zahal Shalom for a long time, “15 to
20 years,” she said. “I haven’t hosted since 2006, but
I spend time leading groups in New York and Wash-
ington, D.C.”
Ms. Rosen clearly is excited by Mr. Kornblit’s reunion
project. “Wherever he is, people from different years
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Susan Kornblit, left, and an old friend

reunite in Israel.

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Jewish World
A conference of American Jews seeks dialogue
with Israelis. Complications ensue.
BEN SALES
TEL AVIV — On Sunday, a day before thou-
sands of American Jews descended on this
Israeli city to air their differences with the
nation’s government, Israel’s President
Reuven Rivlin had a listening session.
Rivlin invited a select group of about 100
American Jews to his official residence in
Jerusalem. While he sat in the center of the
room, in a cushioned chair, three leaders
of the diaspora’s largest Jewish commu-
nity explained their issues with the Jew-
ish state.
“The Jewish identity of many young
American Jews is reflected through the
lens of tikkun olam, social justice values,”
said Eric Goldstein, the CEO of New York’s
UJA-Federation. “And they experience a
mental discomfort when they use that lens
to look at many current Israeli government
policies: settlement policy, nation-state
law, treatment of asylum seekers, mar-
riage equality, and marriage rights — more
broadly, the monopoly that the Orthodox
have over religion and state in Israel.”
That laundry list of grievances — every-
thing from how Israel treats the Palestin-
ians to whose marriages it recognizes — is
what lies behind the theme of this year’s
General Assembly, the annual conference
of the Jewish Federations of North Amer-
ica, which is taking place here from Mon-
day to Wednesday.
FDIF NJ dinner raises more than $4 million
More than 400 people attended the annual
Israel Defense Forces dinner in Teaneck
earlier this month; the FIDF raised more
than $4 million dollars through th dinner.
Donna Calcaterra of Park Ridge, who
heads up the 613 Foundation, donated $3.7
million dollars for the Hatzor Air Force
Base Wellbeing Center in Israel.
This year’s event featured Sgt. Mikey,
a New Jersey native who is a lone soldier
in the Pioneer Combatant Youth Recon-
naissance Company. He also takes part
in the IDF’s Operation Good Neighbor,
which provides humanitarian aid to Syr-
ian refugees.
The dinner, co-chaired by FIDF New
Jersey Chapter board members Annette
Stern and Ellen Sokoloff, also featured 2nd
Lt. Sarah, who sustained serious injuries
from a terrorist attack and later became
the head of a branch in the research divi-
sion of the intelligence corps; and Brig.
Gen. (Res.) Ami Morag and his son, Lt.
Col. Idan, who are the only father-son pair
in IDF history to receive the prestigious
30 JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018
EYAL WARSHAVSKY/JFNA
Left, Jerry Silverman, CEO of the Jewish Federations of North America, speaks
at its General Assembly in Tel Aviv, October 23. Right, Isaac Herzog, head of
the Jewish Agency for Israel, speaks at the conference, October 23. He said the
Israeli and American Jewish communities need to talk, echoing the theme of the
General Assembly.
This year’s conference, which brings
together the leaders of the American Jewish
establishment for a mixture of sentimental
speeches, panel discussions on pressing
issues, and lots of schmoozing over weak
coffee, was titled “We Need to Talk.” The
explicit message is that American and
Israeli Jews have grown further apart and
need some relationship counseling.
Around the conference hall in North Tel
Aviv, signs displaying a series of statistics
showed that the world’s two largest Jew-
ish populations don’t think alike: Sixty
percent of American Jews believe in the
possibility of a Palestinian state, versus 40
Medal of Honor.
“This evening provided our supporters
a chance to meet and personally thank
the brave soldiers who risk everything to
defend Israel — and Jews worldwide,” said
FIDF New Jersey Director Howard Gases.
“This year we celebrated 70 years of Israeli
heroes and hope, and it was important for
the New Jersey community to honor all
those who served in the IDF.”
FIDF’s New Jersey chapter — often called
the “Lone Soldier Chapter” — was co-
founded by FIDF national board member
Sammy Bar-Or, who moved to Israel from
Iran when he was 13 and was a lone soldier
in the IDF’s Paratroopers Brigade.
“When I served, there was no real
understanding of what it meant to be a
lone soldier,” Bar-Or said. “Life is very dif-
ficult for IDF soldiers without immediate
family in Israel. Supporting the well-being
of lone soldiers is a personal calling — and
a very important part of FIDF’s mission.”
Also attending the event was FIDF
IMPACT! scholarship recipient Racheli
COURTESY OF JFNA
percent of Israeli Jews. Half of American
Jews are liberal. Israeli Jews? Eight percent.
And the past couple of years, Israel-
wise, have been especially rough for
American Jews with liberal proclivities.
American Jewish leaders had negotiated
for years to expand a non-Orthodox prayer
section at the Western Wall. Last year, the
Israeli government scrapped the compro-
mise. The government also has moved to
give the charedi Orthodox chief rabbinate
more power over Jewish conversion. This
year, Israeli police detained a Conservative
rabbi for the crime of performing a non-
Orthodox wedding.
Standing: (from left) FIDF Tri-State Executive Director Galit Brichta; Hadar Edel-
stein; Maj. Gen. Michael Edelstein; FIDF Chairman Emeritus Arthur Stark; Sylvia
Stark. Sitting: (from left) Brig. Gen. (Res.) Gila Klifi-Amir; FIDF National Director
and CEO Maj. Gen. (Res.) Meir Klifi-Amir; Donna Calcaterra of Park Ridge; Wayne
Fried; Isabelle Klaus.
Avruch, a Queens native whose donors,
Shelley and Chick Paradis of Livingston,
reunited with her there. The IMPACT!
Also this year, Israel passed a law defin-
ing itself as the nation-state of the Jewish
people. Recent months have seen a series
of Americans, mostly left-wing activists,
detained and questioned at Israel’s bor-
der. A two-state solution seems nowhere
in sight. President Donald Trump, reviled
by American Jewish liberals and never-
Trump Republicans, gets high marks
among Israelis.
Israelis, meanwhile, have chafed at anti-
Israel activism among some corners of
American Jewry, as well as criticism from
its leaders. Government representatives
say they make policies according to their
security and political realities, and con-
sider the will of the voters who actually
live in their country.
“Over the last few years, North Ameri-
can Jewry and Israel have defined their
relationship by the things we don’t have
in common,” Jerry Silverman, CEO of the
Jewish Federations of North America,
said, noting “varying issues of how Israelis
perceive American Jewry or are just com-
pletely apathetic to American Jewry. And
I think you have an American Jewry that
is growing up and is focused, especially in
the younger generation, on social action,
social justice issues and who aren’t really
looking through an Israeli lens.”
If the two sides “need to talk,” though,
it would be far from the first conversation.
Silverman and fellow American Jewish
program grants four-year academic schol-
arships to combat and combat support sol-
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law barring supporters of an Israel boycott from enter-
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more charedi Orthodox voices, or more Mizrachi Jew-
ish voices, or more talk of African asylum seekers in
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and more like them during the past two days.)
On Monday, a small group of young Jews protested
outside the conference with a sign reading “We need
to talk about the occupation.”
“I really believe that the leadership of the Ameri-
can Jewish community is smart and sophisticated
enough to deal with complex information,” said Rabbi
Jill Jacobs, executive director of the liberal rabbinic
human rights group T’ruah, which lobbied for more
talk of Israel’s West Bank occupation ahead of the GA.
“We’re talking about the Israeli-American dialogue
and the elephant in the room can’t be talked about.”
On the other side of the political map, a right-wing
Orthodox group called the Coalition for Jewish Values
complained that when the GA talked about American
Jews, what it really meant was non-Orthodox Jews.
American Orthodox Jews, the group said, tend to be fine
with an Orthodox monopoly over marriage and conver-
sion in Israel, as well as with a hawkish security policy.
“The leadership of the American Orthodox community
has been completely left out of the program, despite the
fast growth of this demographic,” the group said.
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This neo-Nazi group is behind those fliers

blaming Jews for the Kavanaugh allegations
JOSEFIN DOLSTEN Virginia, Massachusetts, and Illinois. in 2016, to build “a real-life troll army” to and an American flag bandanna.

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liers blaming Jews for the sex-
ual assault allegations against
Supreme Court Justice Brett
Kavanaugh appeared in appar-
ently random locations around the coun-
try last week.
“Every time some Anti-White, Anti-
American, Anti-freedom event takes
place, you look at it, and it’s Jews behind
it,” the fliers read.
They showed an image of the judge
surrounded by caricatures of Jewish
senators with stars of David drawn on
their foreheads, as well as the Jewish bil-
lionaire George Soros, a frequent target
of anti-Semitic conspiracy theories.
The fliers say they are “Brought to you
by your local Stormer Book Club.”
The Anti-Defamation League has con-
firmed that the posters appeared on col-
lege campuses and at organizations in
six states: California, Iowa, New York,
The organization behind them claims
also to have put up the posters in seven
more states.
How did the fliers turn up in
such a wide array of places
and who put them up?
The Anti-Defamation League and the
Southern Poverty Law Center, two civil
rights organizations that do research
on anti-Semitic and white supremacist
groups, have some insight.
What are Stormer
Book Clubs?
Though the name implies a literature
discussion group, that’s not exactly what
the clubs are about. Organized by the
Daily Stormer, a neo-Nazi site founded
by white supremacist Andrew Anglin,
they promote spreading anti-Semitic
propaganda and other bigoted messages.
Anglin proposed creating the groups
support his message, according to the Anti-
Defamation League. But it wasn’t until the
next year that the groups took off, when
Daily Stormer contributor Robert Warren
Ray took charge and started organizing the
network of groups.
The chapters are made up of young white
men. No women can join. Members are not
allowed to use their real names in person or
online and they must wear a uniform of red
New Balance sneakers, jeans, a white T-shirt
November
Events at
Congregation
Beth Sholom
All events are open to the public.
The groups are relatively small and chap-
ters usually are made up of only two to 10
people, said Carla Hill, a senior investi-
gative researcher at the ADL’s Center on
Extremism. Based on the latest campaign,
she estimates that the group has only about
50 members across the country. “They
struggled a bit to get going, but now it looks
like they’re picking up some chapters and
we expect more of this type of campaign,”
she said.

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The Stormer Book Clubs took credit for anti-Semitic fliers that appeared
across the country last week. 
What do they do?
Putting up fliers is one of their favor-
ite activities, said Keegan Hankes, a
research analyst at SPLC who focuses on
far right online campaigns. “It’s pretty
low risk, and it’s a good way to draw
attention to yourselves,” he said.
The clubs have run three major flier
campaigns this year, including the most
recent one, Hill said. All of the cam-
paigns specifically targeted Jews. In
September, the group distributed fliers
blaming Jews for conspiracy theorist
Alex Jones of InfoWars getting kicked off
various social media sites. In May, the
group put up posters that said Jews were
out to get rid of the Second Amendment.
The Kavanaugh campaign had the wid-
est reach, Hill said.
Though Jews tend to be their “favor-
ite target,” the book clubs also promote
bigotry against people of color, mem-
bers of the LGBTQ community, women,
and anyone else who is perceived as
“anti-white.”
“It’s just about everybody who’s not a
straight white male,” Hankes said.
Do they promote violence?
According to Hankes, the group’s main
goal is to spread its message and instill
fear in its communities, rather than
cause actual physical harm. It is unlikely
that members will take violent action,
he said.
However, he said that there have been
cases where people with alleged ties to
the Daily Stormer committed real acts
of violence. That includes Dylann Roof,
who murdered nine people at a black
church in Charleston in 2015, and James
Harris Jackson, who killed a homeless
black man in New York last year.
“The fliers showing up in a community
signals that you have people enthusiastic
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enough about the Daily Stormer to go out
into the physical world and take some
action, at least within driving distance of
their community,” Hankes said.
How do they compare with
other similar groups?
According to Hill, the Stormer Book
Clubs are the most overtly anti-Semitic
of the alt-right segment of the white
supremacist movement. They present a
less polished and more extreme image
than larger groups such as Identity
Evropa, which steers clear of neo-Nazi
language and imagery to try to position
itself as more moderate.
“They want to get involved in main-
stream politics, and be part of the ‘legiti-
mate far right movement in America,’”
Hill said of Identity Evropa. “Daily
Stormer is not even trying to pretend to
do that.”
Hankes said that the Daily Stormer had
seen increased traffic since the 2016 elec-
tion of President Donald Trump, who is
seen by its readers as “a champion for
them,” as well as the white supremacist
rally in Charlottesville, Virginia, last year.
“They had a really electrified base
throughout the election, and because
politics have remained divisive and so
contentious and so heated, we really see
some of that enthusiasm sustained, and
I think it probably will stay that way,”
he said.
Still, other signs point towards a weak-
ening of the alt-right. In August, only
two dozen people showed up to a white
supremacist demonstration scheduled
for the anniversary of the Charlottesville
rally. Organizers had thought some 400
people would be there. Instead the small
group of white supremacists was vastly
outnumbered by thousands of counter-
protesters.  JTA WIRE SERVICE
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Ileana Ros-Lehtinen honored in Israel
RON KAMPEAS
WASHINGTON —Touring Israel on one
of her final overseas trips as a congress-
woman, Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen is being
feted as one of the Jewish state’s best
friends in Congress.
Ros-Lehtinen, a Florida Republican
who has served in the U.S. House of Rep-
resentatives since 1989, met with Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahu on Mon-
day. A day earlier, at a Jewish National
Fund ceremony, she planted a tree in her
honor outside Jerusalem.
“I have said and I’ll say it again, we have
never had a better defender of Israel and a
better defender of the truth,” Netanyahu
told Ros-Lehtinen.
She replied: “Mr. Prime Minister, it has
been the joy of my professional life to
be the advocate for a strong U.S.-Israel
relationship.”
Ros-Lehtinen, 66, was raised Roman
Catholic and now is Episcopalian, but her
maternal grandparents were Turkish Jews
who had immigrated to Cuba. Her father,
who opposed the communist takeover of
the country, fled to the United States in
1960 when Ros-Lehtinen was 8, in 1960.
Elected to the Florida House from her
Miami-area district in 1982, and then to
the state Senate in 1986, she earned a rep-
utation as a moderate Republican who
fiercely opposed the Cuban regime.
In the Congress, Ros-Lehtinen added
leadership on Israel issues to her portfolio.
Her passion was foreign affairs, and many
of the Israel-related positions she intro-
duced later became orthodoxy not just for
Republicans but also for many Democrats.
She was the lead Republican advanc-
ing the Syria Accountability Act in 2003,
which set up the architecture for the U.S.-
led isolation of the country after the Assad
regime’s bloody repression of a civilian
uprising in 2011.
The George W. Bush administration gut-
ted the Iran sanctions she hoped to pass
in 2006, but her legislation anticipated
the sanctions that would pass in 2010
and were used as leverage by the Obama
administration to get Iran to the negotiat-
ing table to roll back its nuclear program.
In the mid-2000s, Ros-Lehtinen intro-
duced multiple bills to choke off fund-
ing to the Palestinians unless their lead-
ers renounced terrorism. Ignored by
the Bush and then the Obama admin-
istration, her recommendations have
become Republican orthodoxy under
President Donald Trump.
In 2011, Ros-Lehtinen became the first
woman to chair the House Foreign Affairs
Committee. She worked closely with an
array of Jewish pro-Israel Democrats,
including the late Tom Lantos of California,
Howard Berman of California, Eliot Engel
of New York and Ted Deutch of Florida.
Deutch, the ranking member of the
House Middle East subcommittee chaired
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Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen meets
with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin
Netanyahu in Jerusalem, Oct. 22.
by Ros-Lehtinen, insisted on naming
one of the last Israel-related bills they co-
sponsored the Ileana Ros-Lehtinen United
States-Israel Security Assistance Authori-
zation Act of 2018. The measure codifies
into law the $38 billion defense assistance
package to Israel.
“My friend Ileana Ros-Lehtinen has been
a stalwart friend of Israel throughout her
time in Congress, and it is a fitting honor
that this bill to strengthen the U.S.-Israel
relationship bears her name,” Deutch said
on the House floor last month.
Her moderation, and her representa-
tion of a diverse district, led Ros-Lehtinen
to become one of Trump’s most outspo-
ken Republican critics, particularly after
he equivocated in assigning blame for a
deadly neo-Nazi march in Charlottesville,
Virginia, in August 2017.
“Blaming ‘both sides’ for #Charlottes-
ville?!” she tweeted. “No. Back to relativ-
ism when dealing with KKK, Nazi sympa-
thizers, white supremacists? Just no.”
Part of her calculus in not seeking re-
election was the likelihood that antipathy
to Trump in her district would lead to her
own ouster — and indeed, the Democratic
nominee in her 27th District is seen as likely
winning the seat. She joins others whose
departure this year was spurred in part by
the difficulties of being a moderate Republi-
can under Trump, including Rep. Ed Royce
of California and Sen. Bob Corker of Ten-
nessee. Royce is the Foreign Affairs Com-
mittee chair and Corker leads the Foreign
Relations Committee in the Senate.
Ros-Lehtinen’s son, Rodrigo, is trans-
gender, and he is among those leading
the charge against a Trump administra-
tion proposal that would recognize only
one’s birth gender.
“Despite the cruel efforts of the Trump
administration, trans people #WontBeEr-
ased,” Rodrigo Ros-Lehtinen tweeted
Monday.
Bursting with parental pride, Ileana
Ros-Lehtinen, tweeting from Israel, made
clear whose side she championed.
“I am so proud of my son, @TransRigo!”
she said. “Your activism is an inspiration
to folks all over our country to live as their
true selves.” JTA WIRE SERVICE

Why are pro-Israel voices
joining the whisper campaign
against Jamal Khashoggi?
RON KAMPEAS
WASHINGTON — Two weeks after
he disappeared, Jamal Khashoggi, the
Saudi Washington Post columnist, is
getting his reputation run through a
wringer, and some pro-Israel voices are
joining the pile-on.
Even as gruesome allegations emerge
that he was tortured, murdered, and
dismembered after he walked into the
Saudi consulate in Istanbul, some Israel
supporters have joined other figures
on the right in describing Khashoggi
as a terrorist sympathizer and fierce
opponent of Israel. Their goal appears
to be to counter the image of him as a
Saudi reformer and free speech activ-
ist, and perhaps derail pressure build-
ing on the White House to punish Saudi
Arabia for his disappearance and pre-
sumed murder.
Notably, the mainstream pro-Israel
groups, like the American Israel Public
Affairs Committee, the Anti-Defamation
League and the American Jewish Com-
mittee, did not join in the attacks, and
Israeli officials were silent as well.
None of the purveyors of the attacks
on Khashoggi agreed to an on-the-
record interview, although other
observers suggested that the public
fight over Khashoggi’s reputation has
to do with a number of issues central
to the latest crisis in U.S.-Saudi rela-
tions: cultivating Saudi cooperation in
the diplomatic fight against Iran, keep-
ing the Saudis on board the Israeli-Pal-
estinian peace process, and maintain-
ing the kingdom as a bulwark against
violent forms of radical Islam.
Who’s saying what
The hits on Khashoggi, deriding him as a
radical Islamist and an anti-Semite, have
emerged alongside gruesome reports
by official Turkish sources about his
disappearance. According to the Turk-
ish reports, the U.S.-based columnist
entered the Saudi consulate in Istan-
bul for some paperwork ahead of his
planned wedding to a Turkish woman,
and a team of 15 Saudi agents was wait-
ing to torture and kill him.
As the Washington Post reported,
the anti-Khashoggi narrative is emerg-
ing among hardline conservatives and
is being circulated in Republican con-
gressional offices.
Donald Trump Jr. retweeted one of
the earliest attacks on Khashoggi, from
a correspondent for PJ Media, a con-
servative website. The correspondent,
Patrick Poole, had posted photos of
interviews Khashoggi had conducted in
Jewish World
the late 1980s with Osama bin Laden,
who went on to found al-Qaeda and
to plot the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks. “I
didn’t realize until yesterday that Jamal
Khashoggi was the author of this notori-
ous 1988 Arab News article of him tool-
ing around Afghanistan with Osama bin
Laden and al-Qaeda co-founder Abdul-
lah Azzam,” Poole tweeted on Oct. 12,
10 days after Khashoggi’s disappear-
ance. “He’s just a democrat reformer
journalist holding a RPG with jihadists.”
A photo showed Khashoggi posing with
a rocket-propelled grenade.
The interview was from a time when
the Reagan administration was backing
insurgents in Afghanistan. Khashoggi
indeed was sympathetic to bin Laden
(the Khashoggi and bin Laden families
Some Israel
supporters have
joined other
figures on the
right in
describing
Khashoggi as a
terrorist
sympathizer and
fierce opponent
of Israel.
were close). When bin Laden launched
terrorism operations against the West,
however, Khashoggi disavowed him.
Others joined the fray. FrontPage
mag, helmed by right-wing provoca-
teur David Horowitz, ran an article the
same day declaring, “Jamal Khashoggi
blamed 9/11 on U.S. support for Israel.”
The article cites a piece Khashoggi
wrote in 2001 after the attacks, pub-
lished in Arab News and the Guardian,
in which Khashoggi sympathetically
describes Saudi reactions to the attacks
but does not outright endorse them.
Khashoggi’s piece falls short of blam-
ing U.S. support for Israel for the attacks,
although he says that Saudis saw the
Sept. 11 attacks as of a piece with Isra-
el’s treatment of the Palestinians — a
posture that would offend Israelis and
many Americans. When Khashoggi does
express his opinion, it is to condemn bin
Laden for targeting civilians.
On Oct. 17, the Simon Wiesenthal
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Center’s European office sent out
a release titled “Wiesenthal Centre
Exposes Jamal Khashoggi Antisemitic
Tweets.”
“The Wiesenthal Centre expresses
its horror and revulsion at the pre-
sumed gruesome murder of journalist
Jamal Khashoggi,” the release said. “In
a search, however, of his official Twit-
ter account, Simon Wiesenthal Centre
Director for International Relations, Dr.
Shimon Samuels, discovered the fol-
lowing tweets of 16 October 2015.”
In the tweets, Khashoggi denies any
Jewish connection to the land of Israel,
and says the Western Wall was a Muslim
construction — a false narrative that infu-
riates Israelis and is commonplace in the
region, particularly among Palestinians.
But Rabbi Abraham Cooper, the
Wiesenthal Center’s Los Angeles-based
associate dean, said that Samuels’
post was premature. “It could be that
Shimon in Europe is not as sensitive”
to the repercussions of Khashoggi’s
reported murder, he said. “There’s a
lot of appropriate anger” at the Sau-
dis. At a later date, the center might
publish a fuller and nuanced account
of Khashoggi’s life and influence,
Cooper said.
Josh Block, the CEO of the Israel Proj-
ect, has posted many tweets implicating
Khashoggi in an array of terrorist activ-
ities. On Oct. 18, Block quoted a New
Yorker article describing Khashoggi
as a journalist, and commented, “Uh,
U mean frontman for Islamists & paid
spook for Qatar, Turkey & Turki al
Faisal, whose ‘journalism’ was a cover
for his real work, just as he wrapped
his Islamist ideas in flowery language
of ‘human rights’ as he praised Hamas
& called for Israel to be destroyed by
violence.” Block declined to comment
and his sources are not clear.
What is motivating the attacks on
Khashoggi? Some possibilities:
The Muslim
Brotherhood connection
Some accounts in mainstream media
have suggested that Khashoggi was a
more complex figure than the reformer
that his friends and allies have depicted.
“Several Muslim Brothers said this week
that they always felt he was with them,”
the New York Times reported, referring
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to the multinational Islamist group, the
Muslim Brotherhood. “Many of his secu-
lar friends would not have believed it.”
If Khashoggi was a member of the
pre-eminent Islamist organization in
the Middle East, his critics charge,
whitewashing that affiliation is a dis-
service to history, and helps elevate a
group that should be marginalized.
“#Khashoggi did not deserve his
fate,” tweeted David Reaboi, an analyst
with a conservative think tank, Secu-
rity Studies Group. “That said, the mis-
representation of his Islamist views as
championing ‘freedom’ and ‘democ-
racy’ is a repulsive whitewash.”
“[U]nless you are rooting for an
Islamist Middle East, it seems doubtful
that Khashoggi’s vision for the region
was a big improvement over the agenda
of the autocratic Saudis,” wrote Petra
Marquardt-Bigman, a journalist, in an
op-ed in Haaretz outlining Khashoggi’s
sympathetic views on Hamas and the
Muslim Brotherhood.
Tamara Cofman Wittes, a senior fel-
low at the Center for Middle East Pol-
icy at the Brooking Institution, knew
Khashoggi for a decade. She warned
against a simplistic take both on
Khashoggi’s views and on the Muslim
Brotherhood. The Muslim Brother-
hood, she pointed out, is a presence in
parliaments of U.S. allies in the region,
like Jordan, and in the governments of
allies like Morocco. “The Muslim Broth-
erhood is in the mainstream,” Wittes
said, and noted that Saudi hostility to
the group was recent. For decades, Sau-
dis welcomed and promoted the group.
“There was nothing out of the main-
stream, nothing oppositional about
being sympathetic to the Muslim Broth-
erhood in Saudi Arabia until a few years
ago,” she said.
Khashoggi, moreover, belonged to
the wing of the Muslim Brotherhood
that counseled advancement through
civil and democratic means, she said.
The “we need Saudi
Arabia” argument
White House adviser Jared Kushner sees
the Saudis, and Saudi Crown Prince
Mohammed bin Salman in particular, as
key to advancing the Israeli-Palestinian
peace proposal he hopes to unveil soon.
Right-wing pro-Israel figures have
embraced Trump because he has
embraced their outlook, moving the
U.S. embassy to Jerusalem and pulling

In the tweets, Khashoggi denies
any Jewish connection to the land
of Israel, and says the Western Wall
was a Muslim construction — a false
narrative that infuriates Israelis and
is commonplace in the region,
particularly among Palestinians.
out of the 2015 Iran nuclear deal, and
now they may be returning the favor,
said Michael Koplow, the policy direc-
tor for the Israel Policy Forum, a group
that backs the two-state solution.
Kushner has not revealed details of
the plan, but right-wingers are hope-
ful that it rolls back many of the pro-
Palestinian orthodoxies of past plans,
including statehood as an outcome and
a presence in Jerusalem’s Old City.
Netanyahu is counting
on Saudi Arabia
Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netan-
yahu has touted emerging ties with Saudi
Arabia and other countries as validating
his strategy of downplaying peace with
the Palestinians, believing he can make
Israel at home in the region without the
Palestinians. Bin Salman was a key figure
in this strategy.
“Much of the Israeli argument for the
lack of Israel’s isolation hinges on the
fact that Saudis are behind the scenes
friendly in ways we couldn’t imagine
before,” Koplow said.
Wittes was skeptical that Israeli
officials have encouraged the efforts
to puncture Khashoggi’s reputation.
Instead, she said, the attacks seemed
to be a result of the polarization on
the American political scene, in which
allies on the left or the right attack the
other side in a way that does not nec-
essarily serve their particular interests.
“What we’ve witnessed in American
politics is this intense polarization, and
when a stance is taken” by your side,
“you tend to echo that without reflec-
tion on your interests,” she said.
Don’t forget about Iran
Israel and the Trump administration see
Saudi Arabia as key to containing the
influence of Iran in the region. Some
of the pundits highlighting Khashoggi’s
Muslim Brotherhood past suspect that
supporters of the Iran deal are behind
an effort to smear the Saudis. Isolating
the Saudis, they fear, would undercut
support for the Trump administration’s
hard line on Iran, and his rejection of the
sanctions-relief-for-nuclear-rollback deal
negotiated by Trump’s hated predeces-
sor, President Barack Obama.
Khashoggi “made a tactical alli-
ance with former Obama officials who
Jewish World
seek to depict Trump’s pro-Saudi and
anti-Iranian policy as a disaster,” Mike
Doran of the conservative Hudson
Institute and Tony Badran of the hawk-
ish Foundation for Defense of Democ-
racies, write this week in the New
York Post. “Trump, in this view, is the
enabler of a young, impetuous crown
prince. Conflicts such as Yemen result
from Saudi recklessness rather than
Iranian expansionism.” Bin Salman has
directed a bombing campaign against
Iranian-backed forces in Yemen.
Daniel Shapiro, Obama’s ambassador
to Israel, rejects the argument that con-
fronting Iran is more important than
dealing with Khashoggi’s murder.
“It has a whiff of trying to say this
murder wasn’t as bad as it is because
of the investment made in Saudia Ara-
Some of the
pundits
highlighting
Khashoggi’s
Muslim
Brotherhood
past suspect
that supporters
of the Iran deal
are behind an
effort to smear
the Saudis.
bia under [bin Salman] as a strategic
anchor under the anti-Iran coalition,”
Shapiro, a visiting fellow at the Institute
for National Security Studies in Israel,
said in an interview.
Groups that want Iran isolated, and
quickly, are frustrated by the Khashoggi
distraction, Shapiro said.
“If indeed the United States cannot
conduct business as usual while this is
unresolved, it puts at risk that whole
kind of strategic concept Israel has
counted on and strong opponents of
Iran have counted on,” he said.
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Editorial
A woman alone vs.
a shul community
W A
hat makes someone a
member of a synagogue
community?
Is it the time you
spend being there? In the building?
Going to services? The time that you
put into volunteer work there? Is it
the friends you make who also belong
there, go there, work there?
Is it the money you pay to belong
there? Do you have to pay to belong?
Are you a community member if you
don’t pay but show up often? What if
you do pay but don’t show up, except
maybe twice a year, late for holiday
services?
How many years do you have to put
in before you truly are a community
member? Before you are able to say
“we” instead of “they”? How long do
you have to stay to maintain the mem-
bership? Does it end when you move
away? When you no longer can pay?
When you no longer do pay? When you
no longer show up? When you no lon-
ger can show up?
These questions have been nagging
at us since we heard a sad story last
week. An elderly woman, a widow,
who had put about 40 years, give or
take (because no one is around any-
more who remembers exactly) into
her synagogue, volunteering, showing
up, always being there, died. Before her
death, she had faded. She was home-
bound, with full-time care, no longer
able to go to shul, no longer much car-
ing, no longer really able to care.
The shul asked her to maintain her
membership, but she did not.
Then she died.
The family asked the shul to send an
email announcing her death. Most of
her friends — at least the ones still alive
— belonged to the shul, and the family
wanted them to know.
The shul refused. Notifications of
death are a perk of membership, its
leaders said.
There are allegations of poor behav-
ior, of meanness, of shouting, of
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nastiness, from both sides. We have
no idea what happened, and we don’t
think it’s relevant; it’s hard to maintain
equilibrium, on either side, in a situa-
tion like that.
But what of the situation? What
makes a community?
For one thing, a synagogue has a very
real need for money. It needs member-
ship dues to pay for clergy, staff, and
overhead. None of us live on air and
promises, not even shul employees,
and entities like power and water com-
panies tend to become appropriately
unhappy when they are not paid. That
is not an easily dismissable truth.
For another thing, a synagogue, like
any other institution, has to be able to
make rules, and to expect to enforce
them. A synagogue’s members belong
voluntarily, and always can chose to
leave. They can deal with rules they
dislike by going elsewhere.
But still.
But still. But still.
This woman’s funeral was bereft of
most mourners; the elegies echoed
in the empty space. Her friends have
been finding out about her death little
by little, one at a time, and they’ve
been upset. They would have gone had
they known, they say. And the family,
instead of being supported by the com-
munity, felt abandoned, just when they
needed to feel held, understood, and
loved.
We know it’s hard. Our imaginations
quickly put us among the mourning
family rather than with the rigid, cold-
hearted administrators. That might not
be fair, although certainly it is natural.
There no doubt is more to the story that
we do not know.
So, we ask again, what is commu-
nity? What is our responsibility to an
organization? To each other? To com-
munity builders? To mourners?
We know one thing, that we wish that
everyone who grieves in our commu-
nity finds comfort among the mourn-
ers of Zion and Jerusalem. —JP
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Farrakhan deserves
total ostracism
man last week got up on a stage
in the United States of America,
called the Jews termites, and
received a standing ovation.
That man was Louis Farrakhan.
The civil-rights activist turned religious
leader turned racist, sexist, homophobic,
anti-Semitic incendiary is the official leader
of the Nation of Islam. Both religion and
social movement, the Nation was born from
a combination of elements of traditional
Islam with black nationalism; a
healthy infusion of race-based
theology was added to the mix.
For example, official teachings
of the group claim that up until
just a few thousand years ago,
there were no white people. It
took an evil black scientist to
develop such beings in a lab
before setting them loose and
allowing them to take over Rabbi
the world — a development Shmuley
that they believe needs to be Boteach
corrected.
The Nation of Islam also is
one of the most powerful black organiza-
tions in the United States, with up to 50,000
members and a formidable list of powerful
allies and celebrity patrons.
The group, as you might imagine, has not
gone without controversy.
As a proponent of non-violence and equal-
ity, Martin Luther King Jr. famously called
the Nation of Islam a hate group. The South-
ern Poverty Law Center, one of the world’s
most renowned organizations for civil-rights
and legal advocacy, did the same, adding on
its website that the Nation has earned itself
a “prominent position in the ranks of orga-
nized hate.”
During the years of the civil rights move-
ment, the religious sect brought pride
and meaning into the lives of many young
African-Americans fighting for their God
given rights, which is why its hate speech
was overlooked. That contribution must
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be noted. Under the leadership of Louis
Farrakhan, however, the Nation of Islam
unfortunately has devolved and deterio-
rated into one of our country’s leading
spring of hatred against not only whites,
but against homosexuals, and of course,
the world’s most common recipient of
baseless hatred, the Jews.
While the movement always maintained
themes of black-supremacism, Farrakhan
mutated those ideas into the most viru-
lent hatred. He then took that
hatred and made it a sport.
About white people, Farra-
khan insists that they have only
the “potential” to be human
since they “haven’t evolved
yet.” “Murder and lying come
easy for white people,” he said
on another occasion, eventu-
ally topping off the accusation
with the judgment that “white
people deserve to die.” (He
actually said these words with a
massive banner directly behind
him reading the name of his
sponsor: the “Conflict Resolution Center.”)
In 1984, he referred to the world’s only
Jewish state as one “structured on injustice,
thievery, lying and deceit.” He accused the
Jews therein of “using the name of God to
shield [their] dirty religion…”
Like all haters of Israel, Farrakhan’s anti-
Semitism has nothing to do with a belief
in Palestinian rights. On the contrary, it’s
because Israel is filled with Jews.
And Louis Farrakhan hates Jews, pure and
simple.
Most often, Farrakhan parrots the old-
est anti-Semitic tropes. Taking verbiage
right out of the Nazi playbook, Farrakhan
has on a number of occasions referred to
Jews as “bloodsuckers” for having worked
as landlords in black communities.
He’s also taken time to point out the
severely unoriginal idea that the Jews
control Hollywood. He added to the
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conspiracy the even older idea that Jews use their influence to
bring people all over the world “down in moral strength” by
spreading “filth and degenerative behavior.” In this particular
instance, he was referring to Hollywood’s belief that it’s OK to
be gay. “It’s the wicked Jews, the false Jews, that are promoting
lesbianism [and] homosexuality.” He didn’t say this decades ago.
These quotes all come from speeches given in 2006 and 2018.
Where he went further than almost any of his Jew-hating peers,
however, was in his accusation that the Jews “have been conclu-
sively linked to the greatest criminal endeavor ever undertaken
against an entire race of people … the black African Holocaust.”
Unlike the earlier examples, these words were not spoken in the
heat of a speech or in the casual environment of a radio inter-
view. These words came right out Farrakhan’s book, “The Secret
Relationship Between Blacks and Jews.”
Last week, though, Farrakhan managed to surmount every
one of those poisonous words, tweeting out a clip of a recent
speech in which he declared “I’m not an anti-Semite. I’m anti-
Termite.” In Farrakhan’s universe, Jews no longer were just bad
people. Now, there were no people at all. They were vermin.
Cockroaches. Termites.
And we all know what you do with termites. You extermi-
nate them.
Throughout history, anti-Semites of all stripes have sought
to cast the Jews as something utterly worthless yet massively
destructive. It was a way of making the act of killing a Jew not
only necessary but meaningless. Hitler’s SS troops, therefore,
were able to exterminate tens of thousands of Jews in a day. You
see, they were killing an infestation, not people.
It may be extreme to compare Farrakhan to Hitler. But, you
see, he did it himself. During a radio interview, Farrakhan
acknowledged the fact that “[T]he Jews don’t like Farrakhan,
so they call me Hitler.” Instead of rebuffing the comparison, he
embraced it. “That’s a good name,” he said, “Hitler was a very
great man.” He then reinforced it. Hitler “raised Germany up
from nothing,” he explained, adding that “in a sense, you could
say there’s a similarity in that we are raising our people up from
nothing.” He’s also used the Holocaust as a metaphor to describe
what awaited the Jews in hell. My late friend Christopher Hitch-
ens personally heard Farrakhan punctuate a tirade against Jews
with this: “And don’t you forget, when it’s God who puts you in
the ovens, it’s forever!”
The only question that remains is this: how could leading polit-
ical figures like Bill Clinton have agreed to legitimize such geno-
cidal hate by recently appearing on the same stage as Farrakhan?
Farrakhan still has influence. He still stands before packed
venues delivering speeches that routinely draw millions of views
on YouTube. Just days before his termites slur, he announced
the release of a new music album made in collaboration with
some of the most powerful men in music, including Stevie
Wonder, Rick Ross, Snoop Dogg, and Common. At least seven
members of Congress — including Maxine Waters, Barbara Lee,
Danny Davis, Andre Carson, Gregory Meeks, Al Green, and most
famously, DNC whip Keith Ellison, have all sat down for per-
sonal meetings with Farrakhan while representing the American
people in Congress. Farrakhan even attended a 2005 meeting of
the Black Congressional Caucus. And, at that meeting, former
President Barack Obama even smiled for a photograph with Far-
rakhan just three years before he occupied the most powerful
seat in the United States.
American Jews need to draw a line.
Jewish communities across the United States must respond.
We must announce boycotts of musical artists who legitimize
Farrakhan’s hate. We must campaign against political figures
who meet with Farrakhan and grant him legitimacy. We must
call upon our brothers in the Congressional Black Caucus to dis-
sociate themselves from him completely.
I can’t say that any of these efforts will succeed individually,
but taken together they will finally send the unmistakable mes-
sage that genocidal rhetoric against the Jewish community is
abhorrent and will never be tolerated.
Never again must mean exactly that: Never again.
Opinion
Should Noah have argued
with God? And should we?
W
e’ve just passed the time in the Jew- self-blame. The question is why. Are we afraid that if
ish calendar when we read about
Noah and the flood, and once
again I glanced at a myriad of Torah
thoughts about Noah, many of which revel in criticiz-
ing his lack of intervention on behalf of humanity.
Thus, he is compared unfavorably with Abraham,
who argued with God over the destruction of Sodom
and Gomorrah, trying to mitigate their fate and elicit
God’s forgiveness.
I’ve tried to grasp this dilemma for years, and I’ve
often wondered what Noah should have done and if
he could have acted differently. It’s not as if God asked inflicted on millions of innocent people. They spent
him for his opinion or sealed a covenant with Noah.
Yet the criticism mounts, and though he is labeled a
tzadik — a righteous person — it is miti-
gated by the phrase “in his generation,”
suggesting that had he lived in Abra-
ham’s time, he might not have been con-
sidered as such.
I thought a lot about this recently,
after attending a funeral for a 19-year-
young Jewish boy, whose life was tragi-
cally cut short. Everybody agreed that
it was a tragedy. Rabbis spoke, his par-
ents eulogized him, and the accord was Soli Foger
clear: God wanted his gift back! No one
was angry at God. No one argued with
Him and no one blamed God for a cruel and unusual
act. The consensus was one of acceptance, repeat-
ing some version of the line “We cannot understand
God’s plan.”
We all want
accountability and
symmetry in our
relationship, but
maybe God is beyond
such a relationship.
I recently heard the author Dara Horn deliver a
lecture for Eli Talks about what she calls “The Eicha
Problem,” arguing that Jews relish blaming themselves
for everything. Her model was the book of Eicha —
“Lamentation” — which we read on the fast day of
Tisha B’Av. Eicha commemorates the destruction of
our Temple. “Why do we blame ourselves for the
Temple’s destruction?” she asks. Why not blame the
hatred of Babylonians, their weaponry, or their lead-
er’s megalomania?” She argues with the premise that
we deserve punishment. Then she brings up the book
of Job, who argues with God over his tribulations. Yet
the book of Job is hardly read, and sages claim that
Job didn’t really exist. In other words — the model of
arguing with God is not part of our Jewish tradition,
and our credo as Jews remains one of acceptance and
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we challenge God, we’ll get no answer? Or worse, —
we’ll be punished?
If so — and if we celebrate our acceptance and we
never argue with God, whose plan is beyond our
understanding — then why blame Noah for accept-
ing God’s orders without arguing? Is it because he
lived before the Temple’s destruction? Probably
not. Still, the question troubles me.
It reminds me of a story of Jews in a ghetto dur-
ing the Second World War who decided to prosecute
God for his cruelty and for the pain He allowed to be
hours putting God on trial, they found him guilty and
then they proceeded to pray Mincha. The idea is that
we can argue with God and still be part-
ners with Him in ordaining the world
with His kedusha — His holy spirit. This
story portrays a religious life where chal-
lenging and arguing with God is permit-
ted and where it doesn’t diminish our
faith and observance.
Dara Horn argues the same, that we
must find a new model of observance
without blinders and self-blame. She
suggests that we embrace our role as
partners with God and demand more
equanimity from Him. It seems reason-
able, but the only issue I have with this is that our cur-
rent model works. Jews still observe and have faith in
a just God, as I saw in the funeral I recently attended.
Jewish practice is still prevalent and growing, more
than two millennia after Eicha.
So why argue with success? If we change one thing,
who says that we can guarantee that Judaism will still
being here 100 years from now?
We all wish for a better, more just world, and
we often have perfect ideas about how to achieve
it. But what if our elders, the wise old rabbis, the
founders of our tradition, knew something we
don’t know? It is very possible that within what
we consider to be a flawed attitude of self-blame
and passivity lies the model for preserving our tra-
dition for the past two millennia?
We all want accountability and symmetry in
our relationship, but maybe God is beyond such a
relationship. How would the parents of the young
boy who died be better served in being angry with
God? Maybe having faith and being observant
depend on acceptance, patience, some degree of
retrospection, and willing self-sacrifice? It seems
that Judaism is the practice of such qualities.
The only question still remains — why is Noah
judged differently?
I guess I will have to keep asking. Let’s see what
the next year will bring. Maybe a new illumination
is waiting just around the corner.
Soli Foger, who is an architect, grew up in Israel. He
and his wife, the educator Dr. Tani Foger, have lived in
Englewood for 27 years. They have four sons and four
grandchildren.
JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018 39
Opinion

It is time for an independent immigration court system

I
mmigration courts have always had
a structural problem. That’s because
they are organized under the Depart-
ment of Justice and headed by the
attorney general under the executive branch.
Both immigration judges and the assistant
chief counsels, the so-called prosecutors in
immigration court, work for the attorney gen-
eral, and they can be fired at any time. In this
sense, the Justice Department is judge, jury, Michael
and executioner in immigration court. Wildes
Federal courts, on the other hand, enjoy
a significant degree of independence
because they are organized under Article III of the Con-
stitution. Federal judges receive lifetime tenure precisely
to avoid influence by threats to their livelihood. This is
what is known as our system of checks and balances.
Although they are flawed, immigration courts and the
Board of Immigration Appeals have worked reasonably
well in the past, when attorneys general have had less direct
influence on the courts’ day-to-day operations. That is no
longer the case. On October 1, 2018, a new job
performance policy for immigration judges
went into effect. The new quota system, pro-
mulgated by Attorney General Jeff Sessions,
requires that immigration judges adjudicate
a certain number of cases each year, and
that they render those decisions in a certain
amount of time, among other requirements.
Mr. Sessions also has directed decisions
J. in immigration cases that have had the
effect of further restricting options for
immigrants in court. For example, his deci-
sions have limited the use of administra-
tive closure, a remedy that puts removal cases on hold
where another avenue of relief becomes available, such
as marriage to a citizen. Other decisions by Mr. Sessions
have restricted the government’s discretion to terminate
cases, or to grant adjournments to permit immigrants
to retain counsel. He also has imposed several restric-
tions on asylum seekers. These policy changes have
been decried by the American Immigration Lawyers
Association and the National Association of Immigration
Judges as the “death knell for judicial independence.”
The American Immigration Lawyers Association has
called for the creation of a more independent immigra-
tion court system under Article I of the Constitution.
Article I courts are created by Congress, and they enjoy
a significantly higher level of independence, albeit not
at the level of Article III federal courts. Tax courts and
bankruptcy courts are examples of Article I courts.
Although Article I judges do not have lifetime tenure,
they typically are appointed for 14 or 15 year terms, and
their salaries are controlled by Congress. Article I courts
operate remarkably similarly to Article III courts, in the
sense that they are adequately staffed and do not face
unreasonable docket backlogs.
On the enforcement side, arrests by Immigration and
Customs Enforcement, the agency that essentially is the
immigration police, are up 30 percent from 2016 to 2017,
according to that organization’s internal statistics. Addi-
tionally, the arrest of undocumented immigrants who do
not have criminal convictions is up 146 percent from 2016.

I’VE BEEN THINKING

A tale of two loves

I
love books and I love baseball. Always and lots of history), behavioral economics the seventh game of the 1960 World Series on Shmini
have since I was a kid and still do. But (Dan Ariely is my favorite), literary novels, Atzeret (they had a maid who turned on the TV), and
there’s a difference. Sue Grafton, and Faye Kellerman among have my heart broken watching Bill Mazeroski’s home
When I was in elementary school, others. (I’m not into fantasy, so J. K. Rowling run off Ralph Terry clear the Forbes Field fence.
I would gobble up books. The entire Hardy makes the cut only through her pseudony- But things have changed for me with respect to both
Boys series (I was devastated to learn later mously written mystery series.) books and baseball. As for books, I rarely read them
that Franklin W. Dixon was simply a collec- As for baseball, well, as befits some- any longer, if by books and read you mean ink, paper,
tive pseudonym for a group of ghostwriters); one who lived even for a short time in the and eyes. I now mainly listen to audiobooks. This began
the Chip Hilton books by Clair Bee (an actual shadow of Yankee Stadium (760 Grand Con- about 13 years ago, shortly after my father died and I
highly successful college basketball coach Joseph C. course at 156th St. before our family moved began visiting my mother more often in Far Rockaway,
who was forced to resign when some of his Kaplan to Far Rockaway), I’m a lifelong Yankee fan. when I realized I had to do something else in the car
LIU players were implicated in a point-shav- (The fact that my grandparents, and then other than listen to WINS. After two bridges, the FDR,
ing scandal in which he was not involved); my wife’s family, lived at 164th St. and Wal- the Grand Central, the Van Wyck, and Rockaway Boule-
and many other sports books (the only title I can remem- ton Ave., and I often heard world series roars on the vard, I’d heard enough news, ball scores, and weather
ber is the 1951 version of “The Kid Who Batted 1.000,” Yomim Nora’im and Sukkot when spending the holidays to last an entire aveylut period. So when my sister-in-law
which is available on eBay for about $25. No, I’m not buy- with them, sealed the deal.) And I still remember one Andrea suggested I try a book on CD, I did — and I was
ing it. Tempted, but no. Really, no. Really.) Chol HaMoed Pesach as a teenager arriving at Yankee hooked. (The fact that she lent me David McCullough’s
Clearly, my parents believed, wisely, in letting me read Stadium in the bottom of the first with Mantle up, and “1776” didn’t hurt, because I’d been a McCullough fan
what I wanted, in the hope that my reading bug would waiting for his at bat to be over, before my date and I since reading “The Johnstown Flood” and “The Great
continue while my tastes would improve. found our seats, because I just knew he’d hit a home run Bridge” years before.)
As usual, they were right. The Hardy Boys eventually for us. Which he did. Listening directly from CDs in the car (and on a CD
turned into dozens of Landmark Books, mainly biogra- Being a Yankee fan didn’t mean I went only to the Sta- Walkman — an awful bit of personal listening equip-
phies of American presidents and statesmen (unfortu- dium. I often joined my father, a Dodger fan, at Ebbets ment), then changed to uploading CDs onto my com-
nately, few women), European composers, explorers, Field to watch the Duke play center field and hit home puter and downloading the files to my iPod/iPhone. And
inventors, and generals, which I read and reread — and runs almost as well as the Mick. Almost. And we some- once I discovered all by myself how to convert CD files
then reread again. They made an impression; indeed, times went to the Polo Grounds to watch the Say Hey into audiobook format I’m able to listen at double speed
every time I hear the Hallelujah Chorus, I’m reminded of Kid, who, sorry Mickey, really was the best of all. (and thus double the number of books in the same time).
the story in the Landmark biography of Handel of how I remember the World Series throughout the 50s, in Finally — for now — I usually eliminate the computer and
King George II, hearing it for the first time, was so moved which it seemed the Yankees almost always were beat- download audio files directly, via the OverDrive app, to
that he stood — and when the king stands, all stand, as ing the Dodgers (yes, sigh, I know about 1956 and Johnny my iPhone from BCCLS, the New York Public Library
we still do today. (Of course, whether the story is true is Podres), and whose Sunday games I actually could watch and, thanks to my daughter in Canada, the Toronto Pub-
another matter.) since those afternoon games ended before bedtime. As lic Library — all without setting foot in a physical library.
Eventually, my reading habit turned to classics (I actu- for weekday games, someone would always bring a tran- Now I listen when reading is impossible or difficult like
ally read Dickens for fun one summer in camp) and all sistor radio to school, and the good teachers allowed exercising, driving, walking around town, or shopping.
(yeah, all) the books of Agatha Christie, James Hilton breaks every 15 minutes to get the score; the really good But I still like print. In fact, I still love print. While I
(especially loved “Lost Horizon”), Isaac Asimov (science teachers allowed a kid to sit quietly in the back with the have great appreciation for the Times of Israel for carry-
fiction), William Goldman (remember Zock in “The Tem- radio at his ear so we could get immediate important ing these columns, I doubt I’d write like I do if I couldn’t
ple of Gold,” Gary?), and Donald Westlake, of whom I was updates, like Don Larsen’s final strikeout of Dale Mitch- first touch the newsprint and hold the issue of the Jewish
particularly fond. In later years I turned to history (lots ell. And I remember at whose house I was able to watch Standard in my hands before adding it to the collection

40 JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018


The message is clear. Arrest more immigrants, push them through
the crowded immigration courts faster, and deport them quickly and
unceremoniously. More resources are going toward arresting foreign
nationals, but fewer resources toward immigration courts. Pushing
more cases through an already backlogged court system is creating
pressures that undoubtedly will erode immigrants’ due process rights.
Free and independent immigration courts are crucial to the admin-
istration of fair and equitable decisions for immigrants. The Four-
teenth Amendment admonishes us not to “deny to any person within
its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.” That means non-
citizens who are present in the United States. They cannot vote, so we
the citizens must advocate on their behalf.
This administration has pushed the independence of our institu-
tions to its limits. Most of them so far have proven resilient. However,
because immigration courts are housed entirely under the executive
branch, it is becoming increasingly clear that immigration judges must
be divorced from the attorney general if they are to continue to render
fair and impartial decisions without being rushed, and without the
threat of termination looming over the heads of immigration judges.
Michael J. Wildes, a Democratic former mayor of Englewood, will be on
the ballot for that position in November. A former federal prosecutor,
he is the managing partner of Wildes and Weinberg, PC, specializing in
immigration law.
in my living room. As for those books that I can’t get as audiobooks,
well, that’s one more thing Shabbat and yom tov are for.
Baseball also has changed. Instead of starters having 20-plus complete
games a season, a “quality start” is six innings; instead of having a relief
pitcher for when the starter gets in trouble, pitchers include middle
relief, set up, left handed specialists, closers, and a new invention (oy!)
— openers; instead of hit and runs, stolen bases, and sacrifice bunts, we
have too many games seemingly consisting mainly of strike outs and
home runs; instead of articles about what happened at a game, the NYT
compares spin rates on curve balls; instead of reserving defensive shifts
for hitters like Ted Williams, they’re now used for those batting .238.
It’s not that I’m anti-sabermetrics (though $10 to the person who
can explain to me so I really understand how WAR is computed and
what it actually means). But the unrelenting reliance on statistics
makes the game feel overly mechanical at times, rather than a lovely
way to enjoy a lazy, long, sunny Sunday summer afternoon.
I can, and do, still enjoy a good game, like the one at the new Sta-
dium my mechutan Ray invited me to, and the one my daughter took
me to at Rogers Centre to watch the Blue Jays, my grandkids’ favorite
team — a highlight for me of our last visit to Toronto. The fact that our
excellent seats were close enough to the players to almost touch them,
and were near the kosher hot dogs and fries (something I dreamed
about as a kid) certainly didn’t hurt. But I go to games more rarely
than before, and watch them less on TV. It’s just not as much fun.
So why the difference between books and baseball. Why have I
adapted so well to significant changes in one of my loves and not
so much to those in the other? I have some guesses about possible
answers, but understanding the reason is not really what’s important.
What is important is the realization that I can pick and choose what
changes I like and can happily adapt to, and which ones I don’t. I’m
neither bound to the past nor committed to abandoning it for the
future. I can remember, cherish, and even relive the old while still
learning about, appreciating, and participating in the new.
I can be 71 and feel 15 at the same time. Sometimes.
Joseph C. Kaplan, a regular columnist, is a long-time resident of
Teaneck. His work also has appeared in various publications including
Sh’ma magazine, the New York Jewish Week, the Baltimore Jewish
Times, and, as letters to the editor, the New York Times.
J Street embraces terrorist
who blew up Israelis, Americans
L
eaders of the left-wing
American Jewish group J
Street last week embraced
a Palestinian terrorist
who was responsible for blowing up
Israelis and Americans in downtown
Jerusalem.
According to the official Pal-
estinian Authority news agency
“Wafa,” J Street president Jeremy Stephen
Ben-Ami and a small group of his Flatow
colleagues visited the Ramallah
headquarters of the PA, and met
with Palestinian leaders. It was a
warm encounter, with the two sides lavishing
praise on one another.
Wafa reported that the Palestinian side con-
sisted of PA chairman Mahmoud Abbas and five
other senior Palestinian officials. One was PA
Minister of Civil Affairs (and Fatah Central Com-
mittee member) Hussein al-Sheikh.
Don’t recognize the name? Allow me to
refresh your memory.
Thursday, March 21, 2002, was a pleasant
early spring morning in Jerusalem. King George
Street, in the heart of the city, was packed
with shoppers. Suddenly, a Palestinian suicide
bomber struck. The explosion left three people
dead, and more than 100 wounded. One of the
fatalities was Tzippi Shemesh, who was five
months pregnant with twins.
Among the wounded were a number of Ameri-
cans. The force of the explosion hurled U.S. cit-
izen Alan Bauer 20 feet. Two screws that were
packed into the bomb ripped clear through his
left arm. His 7-year-old son, Jonathan, suffered
severe shrapnel wounds and fell into a coma.
Jonathan subsequently underwent many opera-
tions to remove nails and screws from his head,
including one that was lodged in his brain. Need-
less to say, he was left with permanent injuries.
The Al Aqsa Martyrs Brigade, which is the mili-
tary arm of Abbas’s Fatah movement, openly
claimed responsibility for the bombing. In fact,
it was that bombing which moved the U.S. State
Department finally to put the Al Aqsa Martyrs
Brigade on its official list of terrorist groups.
Members of the Shemesh family filed suit against
the PA, and as a result, details of those who were
involved in the attack became public. Earlier this
year, the Jerusalem District Court ruled that the
PA was responsible for the bombing. In its ruling,
the court cited closed-door testimony provided by
Israeli intelligence officials who named names —
including “senior Fatah official Hussein al-Sheikh,
who met the suicide bomber and two other opera-
tives and gave them money and two hand grenades
to carry out the bombing.”
So Al-Sheikh literally put hand grenades into
the hands of the bomber and his assistants, in
order to murder innocent people, and financed
their attack. Which, according to American and
Israeli law, makes Al-Sheikh equally guilty of the
murders and maiming of their victims.
The passage of time has not diminished Al-
Sheikh’s affection for those who murder Israelis
and Americans. Here’s what Al-Sheikh posted
Opinion
on his Facebook page on March 8,
2015, concerning Dalal Mughrabi,
who murdered Gail Rubin, the
niece of U.S. Senator Abraham
Ribicoff (D-Connecticut), and 37
Israelis in a 1978 attack:
“In the Palestinian memory there
are women before whom it is impos-
sible not to stand in honor and admi-
M. ration. For March 8 (International
Women’s Day), thousands of bless-
ings for the soul of heroic female Mar-
tyr (Shahida) Dalal Mughrabi, and to
all of the Palestinian female Martyrs,
as well as the female prisoners, the mothers of the
prisoners and Martyrs, the wounded women, the
working women, and all women of Palestine who
stand firm and deal with the hardships and difficul-
ties of life alongside the men.”
Even before the Jerusalem court ruling, the
American government was aware of Al-Sheikh’s
terrorist background. Several years ago, a sched-
uled meeting between Al-Sheikh and U.S. diplo-
The passage of time
has not diminished
Al-Sheikh’s
affection for those
who murder Israelis
and Americans.
mats at the American consulate in Jerusalem was
canceled when U.S. officials realized Al-Sheikh’s
connection to the bombing.
Yet there were the leaders of J Street last week,
in Ramallah, shaking hands, embracing, and
heaping praise on Al-Sheikh and his comrades.
On a man directly involved in shedding Israeli
and American blood.
If J Street’s leaders knew about Al-Sheikh’s
background before the meeting, and chose to
embrace him anyway, then they have lost the
moral right to be treated as respected members
of the American Jewish community.
If J Street’s leaders didn’t know about Al-
Sheikh before the meeting — if they didn’t do
the most basic homework to find out just whom
they would be hugging — that would be incred-
ibly careless and irresponsible. But they can help
makeup for that horrible mistake by publicly call-
ing on the PA to extradite Al-Sheikh to the United
States for prosecution.
The ball is in J Street’s court.
Stephen M. Flatow of West Orange is an attorney
in Fairfield and the father of Alisa Flatow,
who was murdered in an Iranian-sponsored
Palestinian terrorist attack in 1995. His book,
“A Father’s Story: My Fight for Justice Against
Iranian Terror,” will be published later this year.
JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018 41
Letters
ZOA sponsors campus programs
I dove into Bob Peckar’s column, “Allies in the fight to
reclaim college campuses” (September 21), with both
personal and professional interest. I would like to
applaud Mr. Peckar for bringing this important issue to
your readership, but I feel compelled to add one more
very important national program that deserves extra-
special attention.
The Zionist Organization of America’s Campus program
(www.campus.zoa.org) is on more than 100 U.S. college
campuses and is one of the best, most comprehensive
opportunities designed to benefit not only students, but
the entire college community. ZOA Campus provides free
educational events, speakers, grants for programs, informa-
tional booklets, and fact sheets to enable pro-Israel educa-
tion and programming to students, professors, and college
administrators. Professional ZOA campus coordinators pro-
vide hands-on support, enabling Jewish and other Zionist
students to carry out successful pro-Israel programs, and
to respond effectively to anti-Israel rhetoric and activities.
Students are invited and encouraged to participate in ZOA’s
Advocacy Mission to Washington, D.C., and its annual gala
dinner. For a select group of students who demonstrate lead-
ership qualities and who commit to continuing on-campus
Israel advocacy and activism, ZOA offers an all-expenses-
paid student leadership mission to Israel. This is a boots-
on-the-ground, education, and advocacy training program,
Opinion
The deep threads of connection
between an armistice and Kristallnacht
T
wo grimly sobering
anniversaries fall in
November.
On the 9th and
10th, we will mark the 80th
anniversary of Kristallnacht —
the orgy of murder and violence
that devastated Jewish commu-
nities across Nazi Germany in
1938. The following day, Novem- Ben Cohen
ber 11, we will mark the centen-
nial of the armistice that ended
World War I — the most devastating military conflict the
world had so far experienced.
These two events, occurring exactly 20 years apart, were
intimately connected. Some historians argue that the 20th
century really began with World War I, which buried the
geriatric Habsburg and Ottoman empires and set the stage
for the modern totalitarian systems of communism and
fascism, directly paving the way for the rise in Germany of
National Socialism and its unprecedented war on the Jews.
In all senses you can think of, there was a dramatic trans-
formation in the position of Europe’s Jews between the end
of the “Great War,” as it was dubbed, and the Nazi Holo-
caust that consumed nearly two-thirds of their number. For
one thing, the record of Jewish military service in the war
rather gruesomely demonstrated that Jews were also loyal,
grateful citizens of the countries in which they lived. Given
that French-Jewish army officer Alfred Dreyfus had been
convicted of treason in an anti-Semitic show trial only two
decades earlier, that record was even more striking.
More than 50,000 Jews fought on the British and Com-
monwealth side, 100,000 fought with the Germans, and
42 JEWISH STANDARD OCTOBER 26, 2018
during which students visit Judea and Samaria, Jerusalem,
the Golan Heights, and the Knesset. Students return to cam-
pus as well-prepared Zionist leaders.
Alan Jay, Paramus
(Mr. Jay is the executive director of
the ZOA’s Northern New Jersey chapter.)
It’s important to talk to children
I was encouraged and grateful to see that the October 5 issue
of the Jewish Standard addressed the important issues of
mental health and the relevance of using current events as
a springboard for serious discussions with children.
As Cheryl Rosenberg points out in her op ed, “How to talk
about mental health,” when we clarify our misperceptions
about mental health and truly listen to others without judg-
ing or categorizing, we are not only helping those close to
us, but the community at large. Our high school and college
students are setting good examples for us in organizations
such as NAMI on Campus and Active Minds, which support
mental health awareness and programming on college cam-
puses across the country.
As a mental health professional, I encourage parents and
families to be open with their children; to include them in
discussions and meetings about school or social issues that
affect them. There should not be shame in mental health
issues, just as one would not be embarrassed to have a bro-
ken ankle.
300,000 fought with Austria-Hungary. Many thousands of
them lost their lives in the process. From outside Europe,
more than 200,000 Jews were among the approximately 5
million American service personnel in 1917, when the United
States joined the Allied side.
When it came to Jewish civilians, the toll in the eastern
half of Europe was particularly brutal, with hundreds of
thousands of Jews deported to the Russian interior or mur-
dered in bloody pogroms. Those ravages led several thou-
sand Jews to join the ranks of the Bolshevik Revolution and
even serve in its senior posts, but by the mid-1920s, the rul-
ing Communist Party was no longer a polyglot underground
organization. It was, in dramatic contrast, a ruling bureau-
cracy undergoing a profound process of Russification.
The experience of World War I left some Jewish commu-
nities feeling more integrated and secure, while others were
exposed as highly vulnerable, or even decimated out of exis-
tence. It also made realistic the proposal of a national home
for the Jewish people, an end-goal the British government
regarded “with favor” in its Balfour Declaration of 1917. On
November 11, 1918, then, the world’s Jews could see the prom-
ise of redemption on all the political paths — liberal-assimila-
tionist, revolutionary, Zionist — that were available to them.
Hardly any of them believed that mass extermination was
awaiting them within a generation. To have even suggested
such a thing to one of the 7,000 Jews decorated by Germany
for his war service probably would have been insulting.
But as the polarizing settlement that ended World War
I finally crumbled with Hitler’s launching of World War
II, the old libels against the Jews — that they were trib-
ally disloyal, that they profited from war both economi-
cally and in terms of political influence — returned with
a vengeance. The British writer George Orwell noted the
In Dr. Tani Foger’s piece on the Supreme Court confir-
mation hearings (“An embarrassing and cringeworthy but
teachable moment”), she points out that there is never a
reason to shy away from helping your children understand
current issues (at a level they are able) and the importance
of realizing the applicability of these events as they navigate
the world of parties, substance use and sexual behavior.
So power through your discomfort. Ask your children
what they have heard in the media about certain topics and
speak to your child about it at his/her level. The incidence
of suicides in our area is alarming. Don’t think your children
aren’t aware. Ask them what they have heard.
Our openness to discussing these types of issues will lead
to improvement in mental health and empowerment for the
next generation.
It is no mistake that these two articles were on page 36. A
real double chai for the Standard writers.
Eileen Schneider MSW, ACSW, LCSW, Hillsdale
Not fair and balanced
In your editorial about the cancellation of Lisa Daftari’s talk
at Rutgers (October 18), you give as one of the justifications,
“She does often speak on Fox News, and that in itself is divi-
sive.” The implication is that speech on CNN or MSNBC is
not divisive. It is an editorial, and you are entitled to your
opinion. But fair and balanced you clearly are not.
Alan Lewis, Fair Lawn
reluctance of his own government to combat such slan-
ders. “To publicize the exploits of Jewish soldiers, or even
to admit the existence of a considerable Jewish army in
the Middle East, rouses hostility in South Africa, the Arab
countries and elsewhere,” he wrote during World War II.
“It is easier to ignore the whole subject and allow the man
in the street to go on thinking that Jews are exceptionally
clever at dodging military service.”
But the British were far from alone in falling for the
myth that Jews are at their most disloyal in times, like
wartime, when everyone else is at their most loyal. That
trope was among the many anti-Semitic fabrications of the
Nazis, whose dehumanizing propaganda campaigns and
notorious racial laws discriminating against Jews exploded
in the violence of Kristallnacht. More than 100 Jews were
murdered on the streets of Germany during those hours of
fire and broken glass, while 30,000 more were deported
to camps whose names — Buchenwald, Sachsenhausen,
Dachau— now are indelibly associated with the Holocaust.
These are the basic facts that the forthcoming com-
memorations of these two events will reflect. For Jews,
these are occasions for profound historical reflection,
in a year that already has witnessed the 70th anniver-
sary of the State of Israel’s creation. Both anniversaries
are occasions to ponder how the crooked road of Jewish
emancipation, whose benefits these days still far out-
weigh the persistence of anti-Semitism, felt for those
who came before us. JNS.ORG
Ben Cohen writes a weekly column for JNS on Jewish affairs
and Middle Eastern politics. His work has been published in
Commentary, the New York Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street
Journal, and many other publications.

Cleveland Browns kicker Greg Joseph’s
long journey from Jewish day school to the NFL
Ed Carroll
CLEVELAND —Browns rookie kicker Greg
Joseph said it’s been a “wild ride” for him
since being cut at the end of preseason by
the Miami Dolphins, signing with Cleveland
in Week 3 of the regular season, and just
days later, playing an integral role in the NFL
team’s first victory in nearly two years.
To cap his “wild” five-week stretch,
Joseph booted a game-winning 37-yard
field goal — which reportedly was partially
blocked by a defender — in overtime on Oct.
7 against the division rival Baltimore Ravens.
After that win, Joseph returned to his
new home in Cleveland from FirstEnergy
Stadium and ended the day with a familiar
— and likely comforting — symbol hanging
outside his door: a mezuzah.
Rabbi Yossi Friedman of the Chabad of
Downtown Cleveland, who helped Joseph
and his parents, Glen and Ilana, put the
mezuzah up on his door, said Joseph recited
the traditional blessing during the process.
Joseph was introduced to Friedman by
Rabbi Yossi Denburg of Chabad of Boca
Raton, Fla., near where Joseph grew up.
Joseph, 24, was born in Johannesburg,
South Africa, and moved to Florida with his
family in 2001. He played football and soc-
cer at Donna Klein Jewish Academy in Boca
Raton, and also attended American Heritage
School in Delray Beach, Fla.
He graduated from Florida Atlantic Univer-
sity in Boca Raton in 2017 as the Owls’ all-time
leader in field goals made, points scored,
PATs (point-after-touchdown) made and field
goals attempted. He also holds the universi-
ty’s single-game records for PATs, field goals,
points scored by kicking and holds the record
for the Owls’ longest field goal.
He went undrafted but soon signed with
the Dolphins and was in a training camp
battle with fellow rookie Jason Sanders, a
seventh-round pick, to be the team’s kicker.
In three preseason games with the Dol-
phins, Joseph was 3-for-3 on field goals,
including a 54-yard kick. Unfortunately for
him, Miami decided to go with Sanders.
After being released, Joseph stayed ready
and stuck to his practice routine. Despite
being cut by a team far closer to where he
grew up and joining a team in a city he vis-
ited for the first time during a tryout, Joseph
couldn’t be happier than to be in Cleve-
land. “After I got released from Miami, [the
Browns] were the first one to get in touch
with me,” Joseph said. “It’s still an awesome
feeling. It’s good to feel wanted, especially
in this business.
“Everything happens for a reason. I had a
blast in Miami. I learned a lot about myself
in Miami. I learned how to be a better ath-
lete, a better man, just a better person over-
all. They do a great job with their personal
engagement program over there. And for-
tunately, I got the call to come over here.”
Greg Joseph celebrates after defeating the Baltimore Ravens at FirstEnergy
Stadium in Cleveland, October 7.
The Browns signed Joseph on Sept. 17, a
Monday, after which he had to prepare for
a prime-time Thursday night game Sept. 20
against the New York Jets. He didn’t com-
plain about the lack of time to prepare. “It’s
almost better to have a quick turnaround
like that because you don’t have time to
think about anything,” he said.
And since then, the Dolphins’ loss has
been the Browns’ gain.
Joseph is 8-for-9 on field goal attempts in
four games with the Browns, his only miss
coming on a 55-yard attempt against the
Ravens at the end of regulation. He also
missed a PAT in that game. His longest made
field goal with the Browns was a 45-yard
attempt against the Jets.
His impressions of Cleveland so far are
almost universally positive.
“I don’t know why everyone has such
a negative connotation about” Cleveland,
Joseph said. “The weather’s been awesome
and the people are nice.” Joseph hasn’t expe-
rienced a trademark Cleveland winter — lake
effect snow can affect playing conditions at
FirstEnergy Stadium, right on the Lake Erie
shoreline — but he’s ready for the challenge.
“I’ll take each challenge as it comes,” he
said. “Right now, the weather is good. I’ll
have to look into it further when [the bad
weather comes]. I’ll get in touch with people
who have kicked here and experienced it. But
then again, you can only learn so much from
them, you have to go through it firsthand to
really impact your learning curve.”
He hasn’t set any personal performance
goals for the season beyond trying to get bet-
ter every day and have fun while doing it.
“My main goal is to put the team in a bet-
ter position no matter what through my
kicking,” he said. “I am the guy who will sac-
rifice a couple stats — I don’t look into them.
I just want the team to win at the end of the
day. I will do whatever it takes and bust my
butt to help put my team in the best position
Jason Miller/Getty Images
Greg Joseph with Rabbi Yossi Fried-
man of the Chabad of Downtown
Cleveland. They are standing by a me-
zuzzah that Friedman helped Joseph
put up outside his new apartment in
Cleveland after kicking a game-win-
ning field goal against the Baltimore
Ravens in overtime on October 7. 
 Glen Joseph
to win each and every game.”
Joseph said the Browns players and staff
have been “extremely welcoming.”
“It’s been fun,” he said. “The Browns are
a top-notch organization. They take care of
you every way they can, and they’ve been
awesome in my transition — having a couple
hours to get up [to Cleveland] and helping
me find a place to live and sorting me out
for life overall.
“I’ve met some great people here,” he said,
singling out punter Britton Colquitt and long
snapper Charley Hughlett. “They’ve helped
me out immensely as far as teaching me the
ropes because I’m a rookie. They’re both
vets. They’re both kind of ‘jokester’ guys —
they keep the mood light and we have fun.
“Really, at the end of the day, that’s what
it’s about. Football is a game. It’s amazing
and it’s fun and it’s awesome how many
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followers we get and how we can positively
impact Cleveland as a whole, but you gotta
have fun doing it. Otherwise, it becomes
overbearing, and you have to make the
most of the opportunity you’re presented.”
Joseph said he wants to continue to fur-
ther acquaint himself with Northeast Ohio’s
Jewish community and give back as much
as he can.
“It’s a virtue close to my heart, since my
mom kind of instilled that in me from a
young age,” he said. “That’s why I’m lean-
ing toward going out and talking with some
Jewish day schools and hopefully something
with the Jewish Federation, which would be
very cool. That’s in the works, hopefully.”
He said his faith has “absolutely” guided
him during his life and career.
“At the end of the day, I believe it’s writ-
ten that what’s going to happen is going to
happen,” he said. “That’s why I go about my
business with a smile on my face because I
look at every experience as a learning expe-
rience. I believe there’s a plan. What’s writ-
ten is written, you just go by that. That’s why
I never take anything too heavily. I choose
to live my life in a positive manner, with a
smile on my face, positively impacting the
people around me, which is definitely a goal
of mine.”
Joseph said he was in Cleveland for Yom
Kippur, and after practice, he got a ride to
an evening service at Chabad of Downtown
Cleveland, where he met Friedman.
He moved into his apartment a few days
before the Ravens game, and now, for the
most part, he said he feels settled in his new
city — though he continues to get to know
people in and around town.
He noted the Browns normally get an off
day on Tuesdays — days he hopes he can use
to give back.
“Every Tuesday, there are community
service events,” Joseph said. “I just told our
community relations people to sign me up for
every one. I’ll be there, it’s something that’s
important to me. I want to reach out and use
this platform while it’s here to help whoever
I can help and positively impact the greatest
amount of people’s quality of lives that I can
possibly impact. Football is a great platform
for that, and I feel like I’d be wasting it if I’m
not using it. That’s my goal here, to get out
and help people.”
Joseph wants Clevelanders to know he
plans to do his best on the field, but he’s
here for more than football.
“The Browns are in a position to win,
but while I’m here, I want to get involved
in the community,” he said. “I want to try to
go talk to and inspire Jewish kids all across
Cleveland to let them know that it’s possible
to do basically whatever you want. It’s not
just football, it’s not just sports. If you have
a goal, my big thing is, put your head down
and work. Anything is possible.”
 Cleveland Jewish News via JTA
Kosher Crossword
“The Monster Mash”
The Frazzled Housewife
By Yoni Glatt, koshercrosswords@gmail.com
Difficulty Level: Challenging

Exercise and eat healthy

— or whatever you want

Across Down
1. Elite group 1. Star of “The Muppets”
2. Run off to the chuppah, maybe
6. 1976 Kiss hit
10. Basilica area 3. Actor Ehrenreich
14. Island near Manhattan 4. Sentence or cereal
15. Space measurement 5. Ashdod to Hebron dir.
6. Ally: Gaga :: Esther: ___
16. Israeli sandals
17. Pious, radioactive behemoth? 7. Jewish scholar Brown
20. Olympics blade
21. Toronto media inits.
8. Total brothers that conspired against
Joseph
22. Divorce document
23. Wiseman of the “Underworld” fran-
9. Book that predates the siddur
10. Moreno’s Oscar role
chise
24. Winged “woman” perched on the
11. Bud
12. Costa del ___, Spain
resting spot of Noah’s Ark? 13. Airborne guesstimate, for short
18. Words that follow Rent
29. “___ Breckinridge” (Vidal novel)
30. “You bet” follower 19. Round number
31. Chametz that’s permanently in
Jerusalem?
24. Psalm’s relative
25. Go-with to a big question
32. See 33-Down 26. Setting for settings
27. Ballet bends
34. It connects nearly all of the world’s
kohanim 28. “O.K.” from Tom Sawyer
35. Nile bird 29. Some Veterans Day honorees, for
36. Soulless creature in northern Israel? short
40. Ivanovic and Gasteyer 32. Lionize
41. Loudspeaker, for short 33. Keyboardist for 32-Across
34. Hors d’oeuvres mixture
42. Washingtons?
43. Took the cake 35. Fails to be
44. Blotter letters 36. Ogle
45. Place on the schedule 37. “___ baruch hu”
38. Slate or The Daily Beast, for short
47. Leviathan practicing self-defense?
50. Fed. entitlement org. 39. A Powerpuff Girl, e.g.
44. Lbs. and qts., e.g.
53. “___ be an honor”
54. 1988 Anne Spielberg penned hit 45. Practices frugality
55. Bridge 46. Alternative to Duplo
56. Brilliant regal ape? 48. Stamina
49. Regarding
61. Circular hairdo
62. Chicken, e.g. 50. Cricket or Polo, e.g.
51. Not so crazy
63. Broadcast network
64. Make up artist? 52. Like Sidney Lumet’s twelve men
65. Certain holiday structures, essentially 55. Outer layer
66. Diary segment 56. Start of Clark’s real first name
57. “___ Ran the Zoo” (Dr. Seuss book)
The solution to last week’s puzzle is 58. Piece activists?: Abbr.
on page 51. 59. First Lady before Eleanor
60. Scot’s denial
W
e are living in a health-
conscious society.
Vegans, vegetarians,
paleo, keto, are just a
few of the ways people watch what they
eat and how they eat. You can have fruit,
but not every fruit. You can have carbs,
but they have to be complex carbs. (Does
that mean they had a diffi-
cult childhood if they are
complex?)
And drink lots of water.
Water is the best. Water
all day long. No thank you.
Water makes me queasy.
The other day, I was at a
kiddish having a hot flash
(it also could have been a
panic attack, but we will Banji
go with the hot flash) and Ganchrow
I was pouring myself a cup
of Diet Coke. Some woman
looks at me and says, “You know, you
really shouldn’t be drinking that. It isn’t Fit. I am sure the name means some-
healthy.” I look back at her, give her my
very best are-you-kidding me smile,
and reply, “Well, if I end up dying first,
I won’t really know who was right, will
I?” And then I proceeded to enjoy my
cold cup of chemicals. And my hot flash
stopped flashing.
And then I
proceeded
to enjoy my
cold cup of
chemicals. And
my hot flash
stopped flashing.
When it comes to eating healthy, you
have to choose what is right for you.
What makes you feel best. And if that
is eating a peanut butter powder with
ground cocoa beans and pretending
that it’s a Snickers bar, then more power
to you. There are so many nutritionists
and health coaches out there to help you
lose weight. What about the poor people
who have to gain weight? Kids who don’t
weigh enough to be on the growth chart.
People who have been sick and haven’t
gotten their appetite back. That totally
should be my business. I could help any-
one gain 10 pounds in less than a week.
Who am I kidding, with the right sup-
plies, I could have you gain 10 pounds
in less than three days. Please, someone,
accept my challenge. I will even help you
for free!
Along with the joys of weight loss
comes the complement of exercise. I
happen to enjoy exercise. Well, I enjoy
walking, so we will call that exercise.
With the right anti-inflammatory for my
knee, I could walk all day long. It is the
best therapy there is, because you can
just talk to yourself and solve all of your
problems. And breathe in
the fresh air and appreci-
ate God’s beauty around
you. I also enjoy spin-
ning, because the music
is incredible and that class
takes place in a dark room
and no one can get scared
of what I look like from
behind. Enough said.
But this past week I
enjoyed an entirely dif-
ferent kind of class. My
friend Tiffany has started
working at a new gym, called Juma
thing about health and body and some-
thing healthy, but she was offering the
chance to take a free treadmill class.
That piqued my curiosity, because I can
do the treadmill. The treadmill requires
walking, and I know how to walk! So I
told Tiffany that I would love to be one
of her guinea pigs. I also told her that it
would be great for me to take her class
because she would learn how to use
the defibrillator when the big girl in the
back has a heart attack….
So I showed up at the Juma gym,
signed a release — apparently everyone
had to sign one, not just the big girl —
and we were ready to work out. I have
got to say that it was very enjoyable.
I walked, I ran, I ran faster, I walked
again…apparently this is called inter-
val training. Who knew? (Probably lots
of people, just not me.) Tiffany did a
great job motivating us and keeping us
focused and I was sweating enough to
warrant drinking the crystal light pink
lemonade that I brought along…still no
water. I guess it’s the one thing I have in
common with Odell Beckham Jr. (Prob-
ably the only thing — but at least it is
something.) And I was very proud of
myself that I made it through the whole
class without the need for the defibril-
lator. And Tiffany was probably happy
about that too.
Now if only I could learn to eat
healthy….naaaaaaaa. But for those of
you who do — good for you! And I will
see you on the other side.
Banji Ganchrow of Teaneck is looking
forward to the next time she can take
a treadmill class. And maybe she can
sneak a real Snickers into it.

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Sunday  Alumni Lounges (SC158)
at Ramapo College
OCTOBER 28 in Mahwah, 7 p.m.
Sponsored by Ramapo’s
School open house in Gross Center for
Teaneck: Ma’ayanot Holocaust and Genocide
Yeshiva High School for Studies. 505 Ramapo
Girls has an open house. Valley Road, Mahwah.
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kiddush followed by
meals with families;
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Israel holds a “Torah rynj.org. westorange.singles. Clifton Jewish Center
Film in Teaneck: The Town Hall” service called shabbaton@gmail.com. hosts a brunch with
Jewish Federation of “Our Elections, Our Addiction and open mic and comedy
Northern New Jersey’s Discourse, Our Future,” substance abuse by Steve Goldberg,
Israel Film Festival 8 p.m. 53 Palisade Ave. forum: “Addiction
presents “Scaffolding” (201) 265-2272 or www. and Substance Abuse:
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Saturday  community event, is
or www.jfnnj.org/
filmfestival. NOVEMBER 3 at Congregation Keter
Torah in Teaneck,
The Ten Commandments, artistically
School open house in 7:30 p.m. A panel will Congregation Rinat
Broadway music
Englewood: The Moriah discuss recent drug
in Montebello: The
trends, state and local Yisrael of Teaneck’s
School holds an open Montebello Jewish
house for parents of initiatives, addiction, adult education
Center hosts an evening
prospective students, of “Broadway Voices
and how to address committee pres-
7:30 p.m. Livia Marcovici, and prevent it. www. e n t s “ T h e Te n
of Today & Tomorrow,”
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featuring Broadway C ommandments
322, admissions@ performers Janelle
moriahschool.org, or — From the Bible
A. Robinson and J.D.
www.moriahschool.org/
admissions.
Webster, with guest
appearances by MJC’s
In New York to Rembrandt,” on
Sunday, November
cantor, Michelle Rubin, 11, at 8 p.m.
Thursday  and its teen and Saturday  Professor Jordan
Professor
Jordan S.
NOVEMBER 1
youth choirs, 7 p.m. NOVEMBER 3
34 Montebello Road. S. Penkower of Bar Penkower

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(845) 357-2430 or www. ASL-interpreted Ilan University will
Film festival in Teaneck: montebellojc.org.
The Teaneck International
Shabbat service: Town give a PowerPoint presentation on the
& Village Synagogue history of illustrations of the Tablets of
Film Festival begins its
four-day run. Information, Sunday  in Manhattan holds an
ASL-interpreted Shabbat
the Covenant and the Ten Command-
schedules, and tickets, NOVEMBER 4 service, with full readings ments from the Bible through the Middle
(201) 203-1723 or www.
teaneckfilmfestival.org.
from the Torah and Ages, in both Jewish and Christian art. The discussion will include the shapes of the
School open house in haftorah, 10 a.m. Kiddush
Paramus: The Frisch two tablets, the division of the Ten Commandments, the division of the sections (para-
will follow. 334 East
Friday , School holds an open 14th St., between First shot), and the Jewish sources upon which these representations are based. For more
house at the Mordecai and Second avenues. information, call (201) 837-2795.
NOVEMBER 2 and Monique Katz Underwritten by UJA-
Academic Building, Federation of New York’s
9 a.m.-noon. 120 Jewish Community
West Century Road. Deaf Interpreter Fund.
Judith Goldsmith, (212) 677-0368V, www.
(201) 267-9100, tandv.org, or email Bram
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Register at www.frisch.
org/openhouse.
Saturday 
NOVEMBER 10
Dr. Martin Dean Ramaz School open
COURTESY RAMAPO house: The Upper School
of Ramaz holds an open
Babi Yar massacre: Dr. house at the Morris & Ida
Martin Dean, historical
consultant at Babi Yar
Newman Educational
Center, 7:45 p.m. B
Holocaust Memorial
Center, discusses “Babi
60 E. 78th St. Shara
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Yar and the Holocaust in admissions@ramaz.org. T
Ukraine” in the Alumni Register at www.ramaz.
Lounges (SC158) at Book brunch: The United org/openhouse. A
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Mahwah, 1:45 p.m. hosts a book brunch t
Sponsored by Ramapo’s
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about “The Strange
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Shabbat in Closter: — saved thousands of West Orange e
Temple Beth El offers a premature American Shabbaton: Modern The klezmer-rock group Golem per- mix to create a contemporary klezmer o
guest artist Shabbat with Orthodox singles, 30-45,
New York Philharmonic
infants by putting them forms at Stangl Stage in Flemington on sound that gets people dancing wherever
in incubators in Coney are welcome to “Singles
violinist/TBE congregant Fall-Back,” featuring Saturday, November 3, at 8 p.m. the group performs.
Island sideshows and
Yulia Ziskel and pianist hiring skilled nurses Shabbat.com founder, Traditional klezmer combines ideas For tickets, google Golem Flemington
James Rensink. Mini- to care for them. Rabbi Benzion Klatzko. from traditional Romanian and gypsy Jewish Community Center. The evening
concert, 6:30 p.m., Kabbalat Shabbat
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Commemorating Kristallnacht Englewood artist displays

Temple Beth Tikvah in Wayne will mark were sacked and looted, and tens of thou- an environmental sampler
the 80th anniversary of Kristallnacht dur- sands of Jews were taken to concentra- Irmari Nacht of Englewood is
ing kabbalat Shabbat service on Novem- tion camps. This pogrom was named for exhibiting artwork with an envi-
ber 9. The evening begins at 7 p.m. with a the enormous amount of glass that was ronmental theme “REcycled:
screening of “The Night of Broken Glass.” smashed. Books and News — A Show of
Services follow at 7:45 and then an oneg All Holocaust and Kristallnacht survi- Sculptures and Collages” at the
Shabbat. vors are encouraged to attend. Transporta- Fifth Floor Gallery at One Ber-
On Kristallnacht — the “Night of Broken tion can be arranged. For information, call gen County Plaza in Hackensack.
Glass,” November 9, 1938, in Austria and (973) 595-6565, go to www.templebethtik- The solo exhibition of Nacht’s
Germany — almost 200 synagogues were vahnj.org, or email Aosur@optimum.net. work is on view through the end
destroyed, more than 8,000 Jewish shops The shul is at 950 Preakness Ave., Wayne. of December, with an opening
reception with refreshments and
music on Thursday, November 29,
at 7 p.m., in conjunction with the
Hebrew reading for adults annual Bergen County Arts Grants
awards ceremony. The gallery is
Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley is offering free weekly open to visitors during normal A mini-book, “Books97Hanuaka,” is among
Hebrew reading classes for adults at the shul, on Mondays work hours. the works on display at One Bergen County
at 11:45 a.m., with Rabbi Shelley Kniaz, the shul’s director Plaza, Hackensack. COURTESY IRMARI NACHT

of congregational education, beginning on November 5. No

prior knowledge is required. Participants will have to order
a book from Amazon for the beginners class. Advanced
Hebrew reading, for those with basic Hebrew reading skills,
is at 11 a.m. For more information, call (201) 391-0801 or
email gail@tepv.org. Rabbi Shelley Kniaz Mahjong
continues
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JSDD fundraising art exhibition
The Jewish Service for the Developmen-
tally Disabled, a not-for-profit social ser-
vice provider, hosts “Doorways To Infi-
nite Possibility,” a fundraising gala and
art exhibit, opening on Sunday, Novem-
ber 4, at the JCC Gaelen Gallery East,
in Wayne
Mahjong lessons started at
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760 Northfield Ave., West Orange. Pro-
For more information, email
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A kosher cocktail reception will run from
www.templebethtikvahnj.org.
6 to 8:30 p.m. For more information, call
(973) 272-7148.
Mahjong student
Paula Rindner shows
her winning hand.

Evening of chesed to aid hospital COURTESY TBT

Bobby and Rudy Kaplan will host a fund- Aryeh Simmonds, the hospital’s NICU
raiser at their Teaneck home on Wednes- chief, is the guest speaker. For more
day, October 31, at 7:30 p.m., to benefit information, email Judy.Rapfogel@
Laniado Hospital in Netanya, Israel. Dr. gmail.com.
Dr. Ruth is coming to Tenafly
Ruth Westheimer, better to Palestine, trained and
Brunch, lecture, known simply as Dr. Ruth, will
be at the Kaplen JCC on the
served as a Haganah sniper,
was wounded in an explo-
and museum trip Palisades in Tenafly on Sun- sion, and eventually came
The Dor L’Dor group at Congregation day, November 4, at 5 p.m., to to the United States, where
Ahavath Torah in Englewood offers a discuss her life and the lessons she worked as a maid before
talk by artist and curator Sheryl Intra- she’s learned. becoming a college professor,
tor Urman, brunch, and a trip (includ- Dr. Ruth, who is known for author, and celebrity.
ing transportation) to the Metropolitan speaking frankly about inti- Her new book, “Roller-
Museum of Art in Manhattan to see the mate matters, has enjoyed an Coaster Grandma,” is an auto-
Eugène Delacroix exhibit on November illustrious career as a late-night Dr. Ruth biography for a 8- to 12-year-
7. The day begins with lunch at the shul, radio, television, and pop cul- Westheimer olds that describes the ups
240 Broad Ave., at 10:30 a.m. For res- ture celebrity whose humor and downs of her 90-year-
ervations, call Eileen at (201) 569-4560 and warmth entertained and educated journey, using a trip to an amusement park
r or email dorldor@ahavathtorah.org. thousands of viewers and listeners since with her grandchildren as its backdrop.
r Sheryl Intrator Urman the 1980s. Born to German Jewish parents, Books will be for sale and she will sign
she was sent to Switzerland on a Kinder- them. Dr. Ruth’s talk is co-sponsored with
n transport when she was 10 to escape the the James H. Grossmann Memorial Jewish
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Rube Goldberg did way more than draw those wacky machines
STEPHEN SILVER

When you hear the name Rube Goldberg, one

concept instantly comes to mind: those fun
machines that complete simple tasks in overly
complicated and humorous ways. Think a ball
rolling down a long ramp that hits a series of
dominoes, which hits something else, so on
and so on.
Nearly 50 years after his death, his name will
come up in politics or another field to explain
something that’s unnecessarily complex. Car-
toonist Art Spiegelman, best known for his Pulit-
zer Prize-winning graphic novel “Maus,” once
said that “Rube Goldberg knew how to get from
A to B using all the letters in the alphabet.”
But as an exhibit at the National Museum of
American Jewish History points out, there was
a lot more to Rube Goldberg than the machines
One of Rube Goldberg’s more political
he drew.
cartoons is on display at the exhibit.
Goldberg, who was born in 1883 and died
in 1970, also was an extremely prolific edito-
rial cartoonist, as well as an inventor, engi-
neer, humorist and author. He even had stints
in the advertising industry and in Hollywood in
a career that spanned over 70 years. He won a
Pulitzer in 1948 for his political cartoons, and
is an enduring inspiration to children in STEM
(science, technology, engineering and mathe-
matics) fields, where his creations are still used
in lessons.
Goldberg’s complete life and work is the sub-
ject of “The Art of Rube Goldberg,” an exhibi-
tion that opened last week and runs through Rube Goldberg waded into the Israeli-Palestinian conflict.
Jan. 21 at the Philadelphia museum. The exhibit,
which follows stops at museums in San Fran-
cisco and Chicago but features some new items,
is the first major exhibition of Goldberg’s work
since the Smithsonian presented one shortly
before his death.
“The Art of Rube Goldberg” consists of
machines and cartoons, as well as artifacts from
Goldberg’s life. It includes many editorial and
political cartoons — on topics ranging from gov- Rube Goldberg on a poster by the Pathé
ernment austerity measures to the continual news agency calling him the “World’s most
struggle for peace between Jews and Arabs — famous Newspaper Cartoonist.”
that wouldn’t be out of place today.
Goldberg, in fact, drew an estimated 50,000 Goldberg died when Jennifer George was 11
cartoons in his career, but only a small frac- years old, but she is the primary custodian of
tion of them were related to his eponymous Goldberg’s intellectual property and legacy.
machines, his granddaughter Jennifer George “I remember him through the lens of a
said. He drew for papers such as the San Fran- child,” she said. “But when carrying on the
cisco Bulletin and the New York Evening Mail, legacy of Rube fell into my lap when my dad
where his strips were introduced to the masses A wall at the exhibit at the National Museum of American Jewish died, over a decade ago … I really had to do
through McClure, the country’s first newspa- History in Philadelphia. PHOTOS BY TEPHEN SILVER some heavy lifting.
per syndicate. He started the machine draw- “All of the cartoons that had once been on the
ings in the late 1920s in one of his several syndicated do with it. Goldberg was the son of Jewish parents in San walls of the den in the house that I grew up in, and in our
series — one involving a character named Professor Luci- Francisco and lived through a time of harsh anti-Semitism grandparents’ study, which I had never read, suddenly I
fer Gorgonzola Butts. before the world wars. had to start reading them, and I had to start educating
The exhibit, supervised in Philadelphia by chief curator The exhibition also includes more personal, never- myself as to who Rube Goldberg was, through the lens of
Josh Pearlman, is presented with the cooperation of two of before-seen items, such as a cigar box belonging to Gold- an adult, at least if I was going to do this correctly.”
Goldberg’s grandchildren — George and her cousin, John berg’s father. There’s a video installation showing modern- Several events related to the exhibit are planned, includ-
George, both children of Goldberg’s sons. The two sons, day movies — from Wes Anderson flicks to Wallace and ing a Rube Goldberg Machine Contest for local high school
Thomas and George, changed their surname to George Gromit tales to “Pee Wee’s Big Adventure” — that have all students. Admission to the exhibition will be free on Elec-
at the insistence of their father (yes, one became George used Rube Goldberg-like concepts. tion Day, Nov. 6.
George). He claimed that it was for their safety because Also new is a Forbes magazine cover drawn by Goldberg “We are preparing for a lot of serious and zany fun,”
he received copious amounts of hate mail for his politi- from 1967 that looked at “the future of home entertain- Ivy Barsky, the museum’s CEO, said at the press preview
cal cartoons, but there is debate within the family over ment.” It was tracked down recently by the daughter of a last week. “Which we don’t get to say a lot at a history
whether the name’s obvious Jewishness had anything to former Forbes art director and lent to the exhibit. museum.” JTA WIRE SERVICE

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Marcia Levens
Marcia Levens, née Civin, 92, of Emerson died October 21.
She graduated from Brooklyn College, received master’s
degrees from William Paterson University, and taught
and trained teachers in the New York City school system.
An adjunct professor at Manhattan College and Adelphi
University, she was active in Brandeis, BBW, and ADL in
New Jersey and Florida.
Predeceased by her husband, Sheldon, sister, Dorothy
Reich, and grandson, Kenny Cardaci, she is survived by
daughters, Marilyn Rappaport ( James), Susan MacLean
(Greg), and Rilly Miron (Louis); five grandchildren, and
one great-grandchild.
Arrangements were by Robert Schoem’s Menorah
Chapel, Paramus.
Steve Litt
Steve J. Litt of Glen Rock, formerly of Maryland, died
October 15.
He attended the University of Arizona, performed as a
stand-up comic, and worked in technology development.
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prayers, a space that barely can seat the entire student
body. The back wall of the synagogue can open up to allow
the expanded area to seat 700 people.
“It will be one of the larger spaces in the community,”
Daniel Altman, the school’s president, said.
“It’s not just about getting more rooms in our school,”
Ms. Kahn said. “We’re creating the space to provide the
kind of education we want to develop.”
“It’s not simply a matter of getting boxes you turn into
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of ) happening.
Shazur (Hebrew for “interwoven”), an organization
founded this year by Rabbi Amitai Fraiman, organizes
one-day tours of Jewish New York for groups of Israelis
in America, like young professionals or students. The
tours discuss the origins of American Jewish values —
from the immigrant experience to civil rights — as well
as the American Jewish experience today. And the tours
also include groups of American Jews, so that Israelis
can meet and talk with them face to face.
“Israelis have a huge knowledge gap,” said Fraiman,
who is an Israeli with American parents and now lives
in New York. “They don’t have an emotional connection
because they can’t sympathize with a country they can’t
understand. When you’re able to see with your eyes and
walk with your feet in these places, you make this emo-
tional connection, you can empathize with the other.”
On the developing world front, Olam, a coalition of
Jewish global service groups, is hoping to work with Riv-
lin on promoting joint American-Israeli Jewish interna-
tional aid work. Olam helped organize Rivlin’s recent
trip to Ethiopia, and its executive director, Dyonna
Ginsburg, says working in the developing world appeals
to both American and Israeli Jewish sensibilities. Israe-
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Architectural rendering of Ma’ayanot’s planned
new synagogue.
classrooms,” Mr. Altman said. “Our present building was
not built for the latest and greatest ways we want to edu-
cate our students. We realized something had to be done
to make our space more collaborative.”
Ms. Kahn said that with Ma’ayanot’s emphasis on the
study of Jewish texts in chevruta, study pairs, “we’re
excited to build a beit midrash where multiple classes can
come and study at the same time.” There will also be a
wing devoted to science and technology and art with new
laboratories, art spaces, and even a dance studio.
entrepreneurial instincts to work, and Americans can
engage in hands-on tikkun olam.
“I don’t believe it’s a panacea,” Ginsburg said regarding
the potential of aid work to resolve strife between Ameri-
can and Israeli Jews. “But I think those two things can hap-
pen in tandem. If any relationship between two human
beings is strained, you want to work on that relationship,
but you also want to figure out what brings you together.”
Given the conference’s theme, keynote speakers
devoted surprisingly little time to the Western Wall,
conversion, and marriage, three topics that have roiled
American Jewish-Israeli relations in recent years. Natan
Sharansky, the Soviet dissident who previously chaired
the Jewish Agency for Israel, was the architect of the
Western Wall deal and publicly criticized Netanyahu last
year for freezing it.
But Isaac Herzog, Sharansky’s successor, did not even
mention the Western Wall in his speech to the GA on
Tuesday. Instead he struck a more conciliatory note and
called for Israel to fund Hebrew language education for
diaspora Jews.
And on the afternoon of the second day of the confer-
ence, he said that, well, we need to talk.
“These are two different communities,” Herzog said.
“But we must honor our brotherhood as Jews by under-
standing that there’s a dialogue amid differences.”
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make her brainchild a reality. Teaming up
with The Tenafly Chamber of Commerce,
the event embraces the spirit of giving that
is ever present in the Tenafly community.
Everyone is a winner in this highly visible
and much anticipated event that is set to
become a community hallmark.
Donated items will go to three notable
organizations: Touched by an Angel, bring-
ing financial support and awareness to the
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able housing in Bergen County; and Planet
Filmmakers and actors will par- Jacqueline and Michael Kates.
ticipate in talkbacks this year at
Green, helping organizations raise funds by The filmmakers, Matt Starr
the 13th annual Teaneck Inter-
buying recycled ink cartridges, small elec- and Ellie Sachs, will attend
tronics and cell phones. national Film Festival, Novem- the screening with N.Y. Times
The organizations’ wish lists include cloth-
ber 1-4, at Teaneck Cinemas, reporter John Leland, who
ing, coats, toys, laptops, housewares, books,
Puffin Cultural Forum, Benja- wrote a series about senior citi-
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cell phones, and ink cartridges. Junkluggers zens as well as the story of this
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Center, and Temple Emeth.
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“We hope to make this premiere event Descriptions of all the films and informa- Chernick, will also participate.
tion about guests, tickets, and venues may
an annual or possibly bi-annual community The talkback will follow the screen-
be found at www.teaneckfilmfestival.org.
outreach day,” says Stacy Esser. “Here’s a ing and the short film, “Wendy’s Shab-
TIFF is proud to welcome back the
way to clean out the clutter while helping to bat,” which is being sponsored by Wendy
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efit from the work of these three remarkable
“Nana,” a documentary about an Aus- Josh Ull, a school teacher in NYC who
charitable organizations.” chwitz survivor whose life-long fight took members of a teen tour to visit with
against intolerance is being passed on
Rain or shine, Tenafly’s Charitable Com- the Sun City seniors who celebrate the
munity Clean-Up Day will run from 9 a.m.to new generations. Serena Dykman, sabbath at a local Wendy’s fast food res-
until 1 p.m. at the municipal lot across from
who made the film about her grand- taurant, will also be on the panel, which
Wells Fargo; Make as many trips as you mother, will participate in the talkback will be moderated by Sandee Barwarsky
after the screening, Sunday, November
want! Charitable donation tax receipts will a Teaneck resident and culture editor of
4, 3:40 p.m. at Teaneck Cinemas.
be provided. Newspapers, bags, or packing The New York Jewish Week. The two films
materials will be much appreciated. Spread “My Annie Hall,” a 30-minute remake will be shown at Temple Emeth, Sunday,
of the Woody Allen classic, directed by
the word and show your support by lighten- November 4, at 12:30 p.m.
ing your load in hopes of filling the hearts
two young people who found their cast Mark your calendar – buy tickets in
of others. at a New York City senior center, is being advance (make some difficult choices!) –
come to the movies.

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According to a joint statement issued
by the SASCO and Otterstedt agen-
cies, the combination of resources
and expertise will offer clients of both
agencies expanded services. “We are
clients, Joseph Parisi, Jr., Chairman of
Otterstedt, stated “adding SASCO’s tal-
ent and client base to our family makes
us a stronger agency and allows us to
continue to enhance our tradition of
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Recognized as one of the country’s
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ents since 1919 and will be celebrating
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Adler Center to host holiday Edgewood Country Club hosts inaugural

boutique on Wednesday,
November 7, in Maywood
Something Special, Adler Aphasia Center’s unique design boutique,
offers handcrafted jewelry and gift items made by stroke and brain
injury survivors living with aphasia. The center will host its annual
Holiday Boutique on Wednesday, November 7, from 4 to 8 p.m. at its
location at 60 West Hunter Avenue in Maywood. Light refreshments
will be served and door prizes will be given.
This boutique offers handcrafted jewelry and couture items,
along with desk items, serving pieces, bar ware and more made by
center members with aphasia. This is a unique opportunity to view
the entire line of Something Special handcrafted gifts and jewelry
in one location. With each beautifully gift-wrapped purchase, a bio
of the artisan is included, helping the center raise awareness about
aphasia. Many of the artisans will be on hand to greet attendees. All
proceeds from Something Special sales support the center’s schol-
arship fund, so that no one with aphasia is turned away from the
center’s programs and services for their inability to pay.
Golf Kitchen Edgewood Fine Dining Soirée
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On October 4, Golf Kitchen Magazine, in collaboration
with Edgewood Country Club of River Vale, hosted the
first “Golf Kitchen Edgewood Fine Dining Soirée” and
the premiere of the “Golf Kitchen Culinary Excellence
Awards.”
Anthony Villanueva, Edgewood’s executive chef
and host chef for the event, welcomed guest chefs
from some of the most prestigious golf clubs and
resorts throughout the Northeast and Florida.
The evening featured a lavish cocktail party and
a seated dinner prepared by the guest chefs in
Edgewood’s elegantly decorated ballroom. Diana
DeLucia, editor in chief of Golf Kitchen Magazine
and founder of the “Golf Kitchen Culinary Excel-
lence Awards,” presented Edgewood Country Club
co-owners Bruce Schonbraun and Eric Witmondt
with the “Golf Kitchen Award for Outstanding Culi-
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“We were so excited to collaborate with Golf
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noted Bruce Schonbraun, co-owner of Edgewood
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guests who were treated to a beautiful, best-in-class
culinary experience created especially for them by
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