ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ

How assertive are you? Yes No

1. Can you state your needs clearly,

to the point and without apologizing? ........ ........

2. Can you ask for what you want

without demanding ? ........ ........

3. Can you say ‘No’ to unreasonable

demands upon your time,instead of saying
‘Yes’ or ‘No’ possiblely? ........ ........

4. Can you say ‘No’ without

sounding aggressive? ........ ........

5. Do you believe you have the right to change

you mind about decisions and arrangements? ........ ........

6. Can you accept you mistakes without

blaming yourself or others? ........ ........

7. Can you ask for help without thinking

“I’m not good enough?” ........ ........

8. Can you listen to criticism calmly assess

its validity, then agree or disagree? ........ ........

9. Do you take responsibility for your feeling

and say “I feel……” and not “you make me feel?” ........ ........

10. Do you recognize your anger ang channel it

contructively to make changes, rather then feel depressed
and disempowered? ........ ........

11. Do you recognize your strengths and achievements and

say them out loud to yourself and to others?
If you don’t know, and you don’t say, they won’t know,
will they? ........ ........

12. Can you manage without depending on other people

for approval?. ........ ........
 Yes No
13. Do you have a positive attitude? Do you believe all number
including this one are lucky? ........ ........

14. Can you be direct and assertive with indirect, non-assertive

people who try to manipulate you, put you down, are vague or
say ‘I don’t mind to get you to take decisions on their behalf? ........ ........

15. Can you negotiate equally with people whatever their role or
status? ........ ........

16. Overall do you have a good sense of self-worth?

........ ........

If you can answer ‘Yes’ to twelve or more of these questions,

you’re putting assertiveness into proactive in your life.
If not, make a conscious effort to work on those areas
where you’re answered ‘No’.