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By BNET Editorial
published on BNET.com 10/31/2007
Mentoring is generally considered to be an activity undertaken by someone “older and wiser” in the
same industry who acts as a role model, sponsor, guide, and adviser. Coaching, on the other hand,
can be undertaken by someone who is not necessarily in the same industry but who can ask good
questions and listen attentively to the responses. In this way, the coach acts as a sounding board as
the coachee brings his or her innate wisdom and knowledge to the surface.
A mentor may be considered, therefore, someone who shares his or her knowledge and experience,
whereas a coach may be considered someone who facilitates the birth of knowledge and experience
in another. In short, perhaps, the distinction boils down to the notion that coaches are “process”
experts while mentors are “content” experts.
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I find that I don’t have the time I thought to devote to my
mentees. What can I do about this?
If you have more than one mentee, you probably have too much on your plate. This means that you
may appear to be neglecting one or other of them—which is worse than not mentoring them at all!
Have a discussion with the mentee(s) who you are unable to support and see if you can help them
find someone who has more time. It is much better to have one mentee to whom you can give your
time and commitment than several who feel neglected.
What to Do
It is known that those who are fortunate enough to have a good mentor are much more likely to
succeed in their careers. Mentors will ensure that you are not left vulnerable in situations that are
challenging and difficult to deal with. They will be “there for you” in thought and deed, orchestrating
things within their network to ensure that you have a safety net and that you are seen in a good light.
They will sponsor, champion and open doors for you, much as a father might do when his son or
daughter enters the same field as himself.
Mentors are usually people who have no personal agenda of their own other than to support someone
they feel has potential. Mentors often emerge from the chemistry that exists between two people;
perhaps the mentor sees something of him- or herself in the mentee and feels able to assist the
mentee to reach his or her full potential. Often too, mentors feel that this is a way of giving something
back to the industry or profession that has served them well. The relationship that a mentee has with
a mentor is very supportive and affirming, and it speeds up a mentee’s access to the political network
within an organization.
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Consider Whether You Are Right for the Job
If you seek to mentor someone with potential within your professional sphere, here are some
questions you may wish to consider before entering the relationship:
• Do you think your potential mentee has hidden potential, and do you feel able to assist him or her
in tapping this reserve?
• Does he or she have the right set of skills, which, if developed and refined, could lead to more
senior roles with greater responsibility?
• Do you feel professionally qualified to act as a guide or adviser on your mentee’s chosen career
path?
• Are you knowledgeable enough about your mentee’s style to tailor your approach in a way that will
affect his or her performance positively?
• Is your relationship in good shape and do you enjoy each other’s company?
• Do you have a valuable network that will assist your chosen mentee in fulfilling his or her career
aspirations?
• Are you able to “let go” and allow your mentee to find his or her own way—albeit within safe
boundaries?
• Are you prepared to use your influence to open doors and champion this person?
• Finally, what is your motivation for becoming a mentor? Are you being selfless or are you creating
a clone of yourself or vicariously meeting an unfulfilled ambition of your own?
• arrange regular and purposeful meetings with clearly articulated intended outcomes;
• assist the mentee in understanding the dynamics of a situation so that he or she develops the
ability to diagnose and resolve future situations when they arise. This is in contrast to telling them
what to do;
• be prepared to honor meetings and timings as well as demonstrate that you have given attention
to the mentee’s issues;
• create an atmosphere of open and honest communication. This means asking good questions and
listening attentively to the answers, giving and receiving feedback and validating the mentee;
• give, and be prepared to receive, constructive feedback;
• permit the mentee to set the agenda and allow access when needed—within certain boundaries;
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• set targets and challenges and ensure the mentee is accountable for meeting these challenges;
• share his or her experience—but not tell endless “war stories.” Rather this will be done gently and
in the context of the issue facing the mentee;
• share his or her influential network and represent your mentee in circles that will benefit him or
her;
• sponsor and champion the mentee when possible;
• be ready, when unable to help the mentee, to facilitate a meeting with someone who can.
At your first meeting, therefore, you may want to set out the framework of your relationship and agree
to:
• the benefits you both seek and the expectations you have from the relationship;
• the style of your communication—an open, frank, and honest exchange;
• the role of feedback—both giving and receiving;
• confidentiality agreements;
• timings and regularity of meetings;
• the nature of the relationship outside the times when mentoring conversations are taking place;
• the level of access the mentee has to you between meetings.
Even though these agreements may sound very formal, they need to be made explicit so that no
misunderstandings can develop and get in the way of the relationship.
• asking open questions—Who? What? Where? Why? How?—These are the “tell me more”
questions;
• listening actively—suspending assumptions and judgments and allowing the full communication to
take place before responding;
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• focusing the conversation—ensuring that it stays on track and is channeled toward the agreed
outcome;
• giving and receiving constructive feedback—Typically, this is known as the “positive sandwich.” It
begins with what you liked, proceeds with a description of the behavior you observed, and ends
with what you would like to see done differently. For example: “I think you managed the project
really well. I noticed that you became stressed when people didn’t meet their deadlines. I would
like to see more contingencies built into the plan next time”;
• winning and maintaining trust—a non-trusting relationship defeats the whole point of mentoring.
Trust is gained through personal disclosure and demonstrating commitment through action;
• summarizing agreements and actions.
All good relationships come to an end. Be aware that the fruitfulness of your relationship may diminish
over time and eventually cease altogether. Your mentee may need to move to fresh fields to progress
in his or her career. It may feel like a young adult leaving home for college, but a parting must come,
and it may signify a valuable new beginning for both of you.
What to Avoid
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You Allow the Mentee to Rely Too Much on You
Mentors sometimes find that their mentees become over reliant on them and end up being a bit of a
burden. If you feel beleaguered by your mentee, try revisiting your initial agreement and renegotiate
the way forward. You may need to consider whether it is time that your mentee moved on.
Books:
Hawkins, Peter, and Nick Smith, Coaching, Mentoring and Organizational Consultancy: Supervision
and Development. Open University Press, 2006.
Alred, Geoff, and Bob Garvey, and Richard Smith, The Mentoring Pocketbook (Management
Pocketbooks). Pocketbooks, 2006.
Clutterbuck, David, and David Megginson, Techniques for Coaching and Mentoring.
Butterworth-Heinemann Limited, 2004.
Parsloe, Eric, The Manager as Coach and Mentor (Management Shapers). Chartered Institute of
Personnel and Development, 1999.
Parsloe, Eric, and Monika Wray, Coaching & Mentoring: Practical Methods to Improve Learning.
Kogan Page, 2000.
Brounstein, Marty, Coaching and Mentoring for Dummies. Hungry Minds Incorporated, 2000.
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Web Sites:
Center for Coaching & Mentoring: www.coachingandmentoring.com
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