1.

From Interns toCeoITips for the WorkplaceIt's all hidden

in this thing.

Ten years ago,Cuicui In the capacity of an intern, joinXiao

XiaoThe teacher's publishing company. Ten years, she was
fromA newcomer to the workplace, gradually grew into a listed
company executives, professional managers, fund investment
directors, in a variety of unknown areas have explored and tried.
I asked her if there was any "growing secret" that could
beGirlfriends, ladies.Share. She said there was no "secret", but
in the course of her "evolution" there was one
thingUniqueExperience, is:Change the point of view of the
problem, things can really be a new breakthrough.

"I think the biggest difference between people is cognition.

Before I realized it, I had experienced a lot of confusion. "In
today's article,CuicuiFor the first time in ten years, I have shared
her confusion and hope that I can enlighten you a little.

Ten years ago, I went through a very The time of the trough.
That year, the university has not graduated I entered a
publishing company internship, do planning editor. Originally I
thought, the editor is the quiet Manuscript review, all day not to
say a word.

But the fact is, the publishing company's planning editor, at the
same time to bear the manuscript, packaging, publicity each
link.

I never knew the day had to be done800Thing, and everything is

plugged in when the other one hasn't finished yet.

Every day is a very chaotic horse.

Internship to the first3Months, the company has to run a The

workshop for the national finance and economics author, told
me to do the coordination of activities. The preparation time was
very tense, I worked overtime for several days, or there were
many details not finalized.

One day, I was in the office, the boss suddenly rushed in, threw
the list in front of me, "You have been mistaken, unexpectedly
putXxxThe job was wrong! 」
XxxIt was a very important guest, and it took us a lot of effort to
get to him.

"asked his assistant several times, did not get a reply, can only
be checked on the internet first." "I reluctantly explained.

"Give me less excuses!" What I want is the result! Also, sub-

venue of the venue changed, you unexpectedly did not go to see!
What if there is a loophole in the day! This activity is directly
related to our manuscript volume and brand this year! 」He fell
out of the door.

I bite my lips and say a word, full of shame and rage.

I've done my best! It's all my fault!

Evening WithFMiss Dinner, I angrily said, "This activity is

finished, I intend to quit!" It's too tired! 」

FYoung lady I am a few years old, we grew up together. She left

for work in Beijing after graduation, from the four major job-
hopping to the consulting company, for me is also a teacher and
friends of the existence. She came to Hangzhou on business, just
met my emotional collapse of the day.
After listening to my cry, she smiled and asked me, "Who do
you think is the problem?" 」

"I confess I was wrong, but if not because they

hurriedScheduled activitiesTime, all of a sudden to arrange for
me so much work, the assistant was reluctant to reply, the
Logistics Department also temporary change site chaos——I
can't make a mistake! is theyThe Division of labor is
unreasonable! 」

"Oh, so I guess, your mind feels that they're going to bear90%'s

fault? 」

"Of course!" "I think of this period of hard work, feel wronged."

She continued to inquire:"Tell me who will suffer for this

mistake." 」

"Of course it's me!" Not only be scolded, but also may not be
trusted by other colleagues. And my performance! 」

"Then, tell me again, whose question is this?" "She's a hard nut

to chase."

I seem to understand her meaning a little.

"The problem may not have been you, but you have borne the
consequences and have been affected." That being the case,
that's your problem. This means that only you are the one who
can best take remedial action. Of course, you can continue to
blame others, but it's not going to do any good except to make
things worse. "She went towards me 眨 Blink.

A meal of Kung fu, I seem to feel a beam of light hit me.

Looking back at the difficulties I faced, I realized that my

complaints, pushed myself to the opposite side of the world,
in which I had no way to cooperate with anyone, nor could I
think of a solution.——Because all my energy is put on the
complaining and the resistance.

Over the next few days, I tried to stop complaining, turn around
with the team, and spread out the difficulties in the project., all
broken. The magic is that the whole thing suddenly appears to
be full of potential energy——The event hit the creation of a
brand in the field of financial writing.
Many times, we refuse to believe in what is in front of us simply
because it is beyond our comprehension. The limitation of this
kind of thinking is the real distance between people and people.

Out of the limits of thinking, often let me feel the "light" in life.

In the past, I was afraid to speak at the meeting, fearing a

positive dispute with others. The other people rushed to my
voice big, I will be very flustered, the face is flushed, reacts but
to say what. A long time, in the company also more and more no
sense of existence. More importantly, I do not have the idea of
expression, talent can not play, the heart is also very unwilling.

But after seeing the light, I suddenly realizedTo, for a long time,
I have confused others with my subject. I always think that
people are angry with me, the more I think, the more afraid to
express.

The truth is, the boss is angry because he is under pressure to do

things well,That's the subject he's going to face, not mine.I
have to deal with how to do my job better, instead of focusing
all my energy on the boss's anger.
With this perspective, the restraints that have been restricting me
have gradually begun to loosen.

Once, the boss was furious at me at the meeting, and for the first
time I was not nervous,Because I see not a devils authority,
but a disappointed face,He was angry at an irrelevant little girl.
It seems like the first time I can get out of my own eyes. His
performance for the companyBear so much pressure, so angry,
he is actually quite powerless.

I said calmly to the boss, "Don't worry." "Then turn around and
ask the team," Let's see, what are our remedial options? 」

All the colleagues froze a bit. But obviously, at that moment,

something different began to flow in the hall.

You see, I don't seem to have done anything, just a change of

thinking, but the change is happening just the way it really is.

In less than a year, because of the excellent business, I was

promoted to the supervisor. But when I heard the news, I
couldn't help playing retreat.——Because in the impression, the
manager is a strong gas field, and I was very introverted, poor
expression, do not work on the field of "slick." Not as a
manager's material.

HesitateInHappens to lookA book that mentions an

experimental conclusion that introverted managers can always
play a greater value. Because when they manage active
employees, they are more inclined to let assertive employees
play their own way. Another point is that, psychologists say,
creative people who are best at changing thinking and
presenting ideas, but they also have very significant inward-
looking traces. Because introversion is a very important factor
for creativity.

I suddenly felt that I put the "introverted" labelAsA negative

comment, firmly attached to yourself,But never thought,
"introverted" is a good advantage to take advantage of.

Then one time, talk to the boss about business. Because I know
I'm really not good at greeting and courtesy, I simply open the
doorSee Mountain Express the company's demands, and may
encounter difficulties. Did not expect to go out, party a customer
with the boss said, your team is very sincere, but also very
pragmatic, I like your style, veryExpect to followYour
cooperation.

Sometimes I think of the helpless little girl who almost resigned

many years ago, and I want to say to her,Life really has a
variety of bad, but, we began to have a way.

Later, I was exposed to a lot of successful entrepreneurs because

of my work, and I read a lot of psychology and management
related books. I found that whether it was tearing the label or
getting rid of the victim's thinking and mastering the initiative,
whether it was a "separation of the subjects" or an advantage
from the difficulties, such "transformation of thinking" was
everywhere in these successful people. They are very good at
handling offKey problem, solve life confusion, quickly switch
perspective, sharply point out the problem.

We always have the illusion that management only happens in

the enterprise. The truth is that the ultimate good of
management is to change life. Others ' and their own. Every day
we meet, every person, every thing, we need to manage.

Manage your boss:Flexibility affects their decisions and allows

them to gain more recognition.
Manage your colleagues:Skillfully resolve unnecessary
conflicts and quarrels, improve the work of coordination and
efficiency.

Manage your family:Even if the work is busy, can also deal

with their husbands, children, parents relationship between;

At the same time, we also have to learnManage yourself:Our

time, energy, emotions and goals, the way you want to be, they
all need to be managed.

And in the management behind, I will share to you a set of

flexible thinking methods, there are ways to see problems have
ideas, encountered problems have reverse thinking, proposed
methods have a new breakthrough.

从 6The first video lesson of the month is on the line now,2A

month has been near4million people on this trip "view switch"
train. They have a PhD in management.18A store, leading
thousands of sales staff of the manager, but also the pursuit of
self-full-time mother, there is hope to balance good family
relations warm father, as well as the first into the workplace, in
the confusion of the young people struggling forward.
They began to share their changes with me, applying upward
management, emotional management, division of Management,
and power management to the intimate relationship,Workplace
relationships, parent-child relationship, friend
relationship......One by one, theyI saw the light in my life.

We are in the workplace, in life, often have the feeling of being

trapped. It's not surprising. What we may not know, however, is
that what is trapped in us is not what is external, but often the
level of our own cognition.

The breakthrough of the problem lies in the inner one

turning, the transformation of cognition. This constitutes the
greatest difference between people. See different, can do not be
the same.

If you want to live out of yourself and be a man of ways,

2.Time management that everyone needs

Time is money. No, time is more precious than money. Time

can produce money, but money can not buy time, otherwise we
may be able to see Longyan, hehe!
Time and money can also generate compound interest. Of
course, time and money are also the same we do not know
where to spend? So first, let's take a look at where the time has
gone.

‘Time is mainly used in the following aspects: first, the

necessary consumption time. such as eating, sleeping, work
(school) and so on, this is essential. Second, idle time, such as
the lack of efficiency of lengthy meetings, small talk, playing
games and so on. Third, investment time, that is, we use to
learn, improve skills, self-improvement time.

Time management to do is to record the personal use of time, to

conduct a rough analysis, reduce idle time, for investment time.
Time management and financial management are similar, we
have to consider the happiness of life, but also for the future,
after all, we human life for eighty or ninety years, we cannot but
for the futureReserve.

Just as we can't save all our money when we manage our

finances, time management is not about making us superhuman,
it's about improving the happiness of our whole life process. So
we have to use time management to improve the efficiency of
time use, so that we increase the availability of time, let us
increased investment time. Instead of squeezing our normal
spending time.

01 Increase unit time usage efficiency

1.Take advantage of time-saving tools.

Sometimes the simple use of some tools will make our time use
efficiency greatly improved. such as cycling to work can reduce
the waiting time, bus station to the Office walk time. The use of
various types of electronic products can greatly save our time,
such as microwave ovens, sweeping robots and so on. As long
as we measure output and input, we should invest in it.

2.Learn skills to improve efficiency

The skillful application of computer software can obviously

improve our working efficiency. such as the speed of typing, the
mastery of shortcut keys and so on. VariousAPPSoftware can
also help us learn new knowledge.

3.Time Management Tools

Find a time management tool that works for you. I think the
tomato clock has a great effect on concentrating energy. A
tomato clock, which breaks the task down into half an hour or
so., concentrate on the work25Minutes after rest5Minutes, so as
to be kind of a“Tomato”。 Even if the work is not completed,
take regular breaks and then enter the next tomato time.
Harvest4 个“Tomato”After, can rest15 至 30Minutes. By this
kind of task subdivision, can greatly improve the unit time use
efficiency.

4.Dual taskOperating mode

We should try to make the brain work and do not move the brain
work at the same time. For example, you can read books while
waiting, you can plan when you take a bus, you can listen to
audio books when you do housework. Double the rate of
completion will greatly increase our unit time usage.

02 To find your20%

Pareto proposed, in Italy80%of wealth for20%People, and this

economic trend is pervasive. Later people found that there are
many things in the society development, has moved towards this
track.80/20Principle, that is, 80% of 的 The value is from 20%
factor, the other 20% is the value from 80% factor.
The same is true in the application of time. 24 hours a day to get
rid of your sleeping, eating, and on-the-road time, about 10
hours. If you think about it, you'll find80%The workload is
used20%The time has been done;80%Time to do some trivial
things, or time-consuming things, such as browsing the Web, e-
mail, send WeChat,QqChatting and other things.

Find you in a dayThe best, the full time to achieve your

life.80%it. Put the skills you want to improve and the things
you want to do in the golden two hours and stick to it. You'll
be fruitful.

If you're a lark, get up two hours early to make your dream

come true, if you're a cat head.膺 Type of people to use the time
of the night to do this thing. You did it after work.Matter
decidesThe space for your future development.

03 Overcoming procrastination with the principle of

brain science

Any solution that requires willpower to overcome is not a

good idea.By understanding how the brain works, we can get
along with it better. Any approach to confrontation with oneself
cannot be sustained. Do not think you can not complete the plan,
is a loser, a useless person. Just because you didn't fit in.The
principle of work. The problem of procrastination can be
effectively solved with only two methods.

Way 一 Decomposition tasks.

Most of the delays are due to psychological fear. The face of a

very difficult job, it is really scary, afraid to do bad, afraid to do,
such as psychology, people do not want to start. People's
psychology wants to be instant happiness, so laziness is the only
habit that human beings don't need to cultivate.

Knowing about human psychology, we need to find a way to

solve it. Of course, you can't do it against yourself. When people
focus on something, the hypothalamus or nucleus accumbens of
the brain secretes a substance called dopamine, and people get a
strong sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. We are punches and
trivial. Divide the big things into small pieces, focus on the eyes,
the brainwill be excited to complete this little thing quickly. The
little things accumulate and accomplish great things.

Method II Use timers to change the error perception.

People often make bad estimates of the time it takes to do
something, artificially exaggerating the time it takes to get
things done, and delaying the delay. In fact, when we measure it
with a timer, we will find that the time error we estimate to
accomplish something will even reach50%, the error will be
greater in what has not been done. Try to do a good job of
estimating the time it takes to do something, and the brain
won'tResist doingThis thing.

In time management can not only rely on the determination to

do things, simple and easy way to let us reach the goal
smoothly.

3.Life Management TechniqueList table

1, Energy Management: Division of Labor, whoTroubled whoA

slave who is responsible and does not make emotions

2, Action Management: Results determine action management

psychology expectations you will wait for him, and the plane
will not
 From the other side to seize the pain point, clear
implementation of the firm execution (the results can not be
inconsistent with the purpose), change the parameters

3, Power Management: empowerment, selective language,

behavioral tolerance, psychological default

See, Express, act

Accept out of control and accept the non-cooperation of

others

4, Mind Management: Labeling

See tags, list

Miracle questioning: Assuming specific behavioral

manifestations after a miracle occurs

Specific Description method: The conversion of labels to a

specific behavior, with the specific description instead of
subjective evaluation

Exception observation: He'sSet the situationIt's another

show.

5, anxiety management: attention and strengthening

 Redirection theory, diverting attention

Exposure therapy, List of worst results

Paradox intervention, from the positive view of the problem

of anxiety, it seems to bring some benefits, or can use this
problem to do something

6, potential management: believe that others are capable of not

rushing to intervene

Lay down the standard of self-righteousness, or a

predetermined result, to see more possibilities from another
angle

7, Communication management:U-Type
communication Who'sTroubled whoResponsible for

Each other's obsession with active listening (empathy

without pre-set questions to the other person to solve the
problem)

My obsession with facial techniques (descriptionTo

describe a behavior, a feeling, a cause or an effect, an act of
Hope)
8, up management: correctly speak my needs (I need, describe
information, influence)

To see each other's needs, observe, inquire

Find a winning way to negotiate

9, goal management: Look at the goal to ask yourself: I did not

do well, is because I did not do anything, I can also do what

Paradox question: If you want to keep my goals going,

who needs to do what?

List of barriers (who materialize+Behavior

Subject conversion: What do I need to do to eliminate

these obstacles

Clear goals: What I have to pay to eliminate these

obstacles and achieve the goals

10, incentive management: When asked to take the initiativeIt's

already passive.

Reverse perspective the other person does not actively

doa, then what is he doing on his own initiative?
 Discover his initiative to dobReason, not a critical
perspective, but a neutral perspective to see something deeper.

Active use

11, conflict management: Breakthrough fear, fear of trouble

psychological barriers

Black Imaginary Exposure Therapy

Materialize the worst outcome, prepare ahead of time, do

things wrong.

12, Cooperation management: consciousness: We have a

common goal, we are not opposites, we have no strength, right
and wrong points, we have to be involved in the face

When it comes to achieving the goal, everyone is

promisedSpecificQuantifiable responsibilities

I meet you one condition, you also promise me a demand

4.Time Management balancing Technique——RealizeLife

on the hookThe Efficiency Cheats
Win Room andMs. Dai, Japan's best-selling writer, graduated
from college to38Years of16In the years, I got the CPA, the
SME management consultant, the Network information
processing engineer, studied the financialMbaMaster's degree,
doctoral program,16Annual income increased by 10 times times,
achieving financial freedom. What's even more incredible is that
she actually raised herself.3A daughter, is definitely learning the
talent, the Master of Time management.

Yang Lan and the Victory room andMadam Dai, theyOpen the
Hanging ManThe realization of life, of course, there are the
ingredients of luck, but their time management balance, but it is
worth our deep thinking,As a career momMom, they manage
themselves, in their career success, but also take into account the
family and children.

They are examples of success, and of course, not everyA

professional.Can be done, then I would like to ask, how do we
do self-management in life, howBalanced jobWhat about the
field and the family?

In his book "Time as a friend," Li Huilai a view thatWe have to

manage not time, but ourselves.I agree with this point. We
may encounter an urgent and confusing situation in our work,
which will make our life mess, and we can controlCheck to see
if you have any of these situations:

Situation 一: I am very anxious, and others at the

same time into the company, every day busy also do
a lot of things, but helplessly watching others raise
salary, and can only lead a meager salary, stalled?

Scenario Two: I am very confused, every day

chasing play, brush mobile phone, do not know what
they want to pursue, feel life is not meaning?

Scenario Three: I am helpless, work on the life to do

more and more, the time available is less, do not
know what to do?

Situation four: I regret that people do nothing in

middle age, children are not educated well, do not
know what to do in the future life?

We can use8Word cheats, to address the above situation,

namely“Goal, self-discipline, reflection, calm”。

Goal: The middle age of people, ourWhere did all the time
go?
Read the book "Xiao Qiang Promotion,"Just let me understand
why the near middle-aged life will not get a sense of
accomplishment, just understand clearly and others have the
same time, why the final result is different.

Successful people are busy every day, mediocre people are

busy every day, the busy of successful people can make their
own career success, mediocre people busy is to let their
mediocrity. Most people do not know why they are busy,
because we are accustomed to this busy state. Blindness to
work is the key to stopping our rapid growth.

Some people have done a statistic to the successful people,

found that most of them have a sense of purpose, very clear
what they want to do, in the work life also developed a good
habit.

We work inWhy do you get confused in your life and worry? It's
because of us.There are no career plans or goals for your life.
Do not know what they will become in the future, with the
flow, let its nature. Because there is no goal, will let oneself
neglect study, do not haveCore of the
workplaceCompetitiveness.
It is very important to find the goal of life, it is particularly
difficult to search for life goals. Some people never have
their own goals for life, and some people are still young to
think well of their life goals. The difference between man
and man begins with the goal of establishing life.

So what can a person do to have a goal? And how do you

build your goals?

The Handbook of Life Efficiency tells us to use7Personal

laws to determine their own goals. It can either be used to
define a phased target orUsed to define the whole life goal.In
fact, I understand is the idol reproduction method, the dream of
our7An idol name to write down and find their common hard
skills. Put this on.The hard skills of learning as their goal. For
example, our goal is to become a professional trainer, the first
step to become an expert in this field, at least beyond this
field70%到 80%People, whose secondary practice lectures,
cultivate their own language expression ability.With the goal,
with the direction of effort, our sense of confusion will
naturally disappear.

Are you sureFinish the goalwill need to manage the annual

goals, dividing the goals into monthly targets,Dayand daily
goals, and then firmly believe that the strength of perseverance,
step-by-step completion of the goal.

Self-discipline: self-disciplined life is more free!

The premise of self-discipline is to define the goal and develop

good working and living habits. In the book "Xiao Qiang's
promotion", the author expressed the view that:Time is not
saved, but created. Life is like walking in the snow, looking
back is the trajectory of their way, look forward is a piece of
whiteness, and good life and work habits are accompanied
by their own life.

It's really hard to get into a habit。 For example, the habit of
early sleeping and getting up early May 能 Hold on for two or
three days. Sometimes when the alarm clock rang, they climbed
up. Sometimes, I have toStay in bed for a while.。 On Notwith
two days, sometimes have to do intense ideological struggle,
want not to get up, later this habit on the end, is the desire to
overcome the logic, logic convinced himself, never rise early.
In fact, the secret to cultivating habits is to be less slow, not
too fast.For example, the habit of early to bed and early
morning, you can make yourself into the early morning habit,
and get up early every month more than25Day is good,
occasionally put oneself a horse, this habit is easy to form.

How to develop habits?

1.Cultivate habits to find the driving force first.Have

aITCompanyDo the projectOf men, the habit of forming
is“Read a book every day”, has carried out378God, read
it.429The book, wrote a379A brief commentary on this book.
When he developed this habit, he found three reasons: a strong
curiosity, the elimination of the books that have not read, the
practice of reading methods. In the end, driven by this purpose,
you develop the habit of reading a book every day.

2.Cultivate habits to learn to reward yourself.Give yourself a

reward when you're done with a task., a project should be
celebrated together at the end. When cultivating a habit, a trivial
accomplishment is celebrated with a sense of ritual reward.

3.Develop habits with peers.There are many communities on

the Internet, such as early-morning punch-out groups, daily
exercise groups, breakfast 不 Repeating group. People in these
communities are all working together to develop a habit.

Self-discipline is freedom, a group of people with self-

discipline, more contagious and appeal. Good work and life
habits developed, self-discipline is not a problem, because good
life and work habits drive us to self-discipline. When
weDevelop good habits, daily exercise, study, study, become a
super self-discipline people. I believe that we will give our
children a good example, our children will be proud of us, they
will live foreverConfidence! Live the Sun!

Reflection: Accept the reality to admit the lack of self-

reflection.

In general, the degree of satisfaction and age distribution of a

person in all stages of life can be linked to aUType curve. Most
people are satisfied with their own degree, from15Years or so
began to decline, began to slowly realize that they are in this
world, in fact, is insignificant, and then in the so-called ideal and
distorted reality struggle, until45Years or so to gradually out of
the misery, slowly to their own life has affirmed.
Everyone wants to be perfect, but perfection doesn't exist. No
one can be perfect, we can be close to perfection. No matter
what we do, we need to endure all sorts of imperfections at all
times, otherwise things can't be done at all. Because life itself is
not perfect, whose life is notIs it stumbling? Who died, without
a hint of regret? The reality is that we can only accept it.

If you can't accept reality, you'll add to the myriad of

anxieties. Anxiety is the root cause of wasted time and
inefficiency.When we are in a state of anxiety, we may even
have a situation in which all sanity is emptied. A relatively
effective strategy for treating anxiety is:The problem can be
recorded first, and then continue to move forward, not to
ignore these problems, but when you live, experience,
growth to a certain stage, with a certain accumulation, you
have encountered problems naturally have the answer.

We have to provinces every day or week to reflect on

whether we are doing our best in the execution of our goals,
and whether there are areas that need improvement.We also
have to reflect on why we don't have enough time to work, the
more we doThe more? In addition to prioritizing, improve
efficiency.Win Room andMs. Dai has given two solutions in
the Book Time Investment Act:

The first one is the misuse of good people without

principle.This is because, too good for people, their own a lot of
private time will be occupied.In the workplace, the abuse of
good people, will eventually become a handyman. If we learn
not to refuse, blindly accept the continuous copying of
printing water and other miscellaneous work,blindly
whenIt's hard to have time to invest in ourselves, and it's
hard to have time to cultivate ourselves.WorkplaceHard
skills. The vicious cycle of long time, our self-worth will
become more and more poor, will eventually become a good,
except when the bad people are useless, not competitive.

The second is to prioritize what you like and what you're

good at.Give priority to the work you like, it will be very handy,
it is easy to create results, get paid.Do not be good at doing
things as far as possible, although some people will think
that as long as efforts, can make not good at becoming good,
but in the good things to strengthen time investment, will
increase the efficiency of time.
Leisurely article: Our time management goal is to live a
happy life calmly!

Knowing time management is the only way to understand

life. Management time, not to do the most things in a limited
life, to the death of their own tired, but to grasp the time to
do what they want to do, not only their own calmly, but also
to let us around the people, together to enrich and happy.
Famous Taiwanese writer,The host Wu Pale asIn the book
"Super-Easy Time management," The purpose of time
management is to let ourselvesTo be happy, to live
comfortably, is not to“Come on”或“Too much”, is not
always squeezing their own time, let oneself overwork, but to
spend time on the things we feel worthwhile, spend the time
that makes us feel happy!

We should pay attention to the value of time, do not waste

time forLittle CatchMad, for emotional disturbance, to get
out of the stuck life.

A person's life can be free of time in fact, not much, if live

to80Years old, about to have70Thousands of hours, andReally
can be used to allocate, at most only 300,000 hours, in this
can dominate the 300,000 hours, the most useful, in fact, the
first 100,000 hours。

All to the middle-aged still sigh underappreciated people, in

fact, is to spoil their talent and talent, they are not down-to-earth
to work, or seriously think about how to make your talent grow
over time. But in the young time has been tangled in some small
things, empty dream has not been put into action. If you don't
have the courage to stay away from the coastline and spend time
drifting alone at sea, we can never find new lands.All we have
to do is leave the time to the most important thing.

The book "Xiao Qiang's promotion" was presented in

nineLattice balanceHis life, the author believes that there
are five major needs of life, the mind, health, emotional,
mental, financial, the balance of these needs to meet, is the
rich life. Financial is only one of the five major needs of life,
the pursuit of material is not the whole of our lives, spiritual
abundance is really rich, the value of our life is not fully
reflected in the pursuit of material.

“Karate”Used“Calm Like water”To describe all the state of

readiness, when we clear the goal, to develop a good life and
work habits, has been self-disciplined to carry out, regularly
reflect on their own shortcomings and target
implementation, and improve, in the face of work and life is
not satisfactory, can be cultivated to calm the realm of
water, then our life will be more and more calmly,It's
open.Life will slowly wave to us!

5.Time and Energy management

1.Balance work life

The better the energy, the higher the efficiency, the more work
can be done in the effective time, the more balanced life.

2.Using talent

Yoga, Tai Chi, meditation and other energy practices can

improve your self-healing abilities, and the effects of these
exercises are a gift for everyone.

3.The illusion of time constraints

We do not have enough time to do everything, ignore the

method, regardless of the weight, overtime, wrong to think that
the more investment time can have good results. The fact is that
efficiency is even lower.
4.Objectives and Planning

Slow down, think clearly move, take some time to plan, and put
the plan into the schedule, to be more confident to do things?

5.Fear

When we face threats to our bodies or our status, we fear, fear

makes us ill, and in the face of fear, think rationally and stop
fear.

6.Anger

Too much anger can make us beat up, get angry, and figure out
why you're losing your temper.

7.Pay attention to yourself

You are the center of your own world, your world is turning at
its center, and if you fall, your world will cease to turn. Value
yourself to better protectTo protect themselves, more confident
and more objective to face life.

8.Attach importance to others

Attention to close people, family, colleagues, collective, team,

to better treat others, will not be self-centered, more empathy.
9.Pay attention to your value

From their own value, objectively treat their own value,

understand their contribution to others and value, from the point
of view of providing value, rather than time to start.

10.Immediate Action

Time management, energy management, energy practice, body

perception exercises, sleep quality management, these are
inseparable from practice and action, from the beginning of the
drip action, continuous practice, improve life and work
efficiency.

6.Open your eyes every day, as if it was too late to plan, changes
have been chasing us to run, remember to remind yourself:
things have priorities, pre-distribution, good choice, don't be
disturbed by unnecessary things; Learn to say at the right
time“好”And said in a firm tone“不”，“做”和“Don't do”Are
the same important decisions.

LearnMicro-timeManagement law, with Jiang main system,

implemented to daily18Minutes to find your own life.

7. 18Minutes3Steps, one day's priorities

Morning5Minutes: Plan to clarify

set outPlan, to clarify the5Areas of focus that can actually be

achieved.

Day8Minutes: Pause Awareness

Work every1HoursTime out, use1Minutes to ask yourself:“Am

I doing what I need to do right now?”

Night5Minutes: A review of reflection

Finish the day and reviewReflection, what's going on today,

what's going on, what doesn't work, what to do tomorrow

General principles of Time management

From planning to execution

From macroscopic to microscopic

From one year to one day to one hour to one minute

The first trick

Pause, unstoppable get a more macroscopic view

See your current situation and future direction with a macro

perspective

•To improve efficiency is to learn to stop reacting to the past,

butReacting for the future

•Know what you want, and remind yourself throughout your

day's work that you can concentrate on what really matters.

The second trick

Self-answer: what are you going to do this year and find the
focus
The sweet points of success and happiness will appear in
yourStrengths, weaknesses, uniqueness and passion are at
the intersection.

Choose a few important things to go all out and pick5Big Focus,

for5The big focus is to schedule daily to-dos, put95%of time
and energy.

The third trick

Ask yourself: What are you going to do today and do the

right thing?

1 Daily forms+Daily18Minutes=DailyMicro-timeManagement

Form=To-dos list+Schedule+Shelving List

List of today's to-dos: The thing to do today

Today's schedule:is the effective tool to put the pursuit of high

efficiency in the first place.

Today's shelving list:Summarize all the things that you don't

want to do today
Try to put the things you've got into your schedule every day
and put a waste of time into your list.

2 Spend every day18Minutes to complete routine procedures

To help you focus on what to do, again to review the next

day18Minutes of Operation Method:

Four strokes

Ask yourself, what are you going to do now, master the

initiative, the boundaries and yourself.

The hardest part of time management is not making plans, but

implementing them every day.

•Active attack:Learn to overcome procrastination and initiate

action. (Design your own space, create an environment, make
things easy, natural, efficient)

•Draw: Don't be distracted by other people's requests.

•Control yourself:To counter all interruptions with more

valuable pastimes.
Five strokes

Pick a thing you care about--realize it.

Knowing the right way, the best next step is to choose a thing
that will bring the biggest change and do it yourself.

Let yourself act, and when you experience a sense of

accomplishment, it will propel you into more positive loops of
experience.

8. Managing Life with Goal management

From the most direct feelings of several key words into the
Shoutan 谈 The experience of the course

Key words: concept, risk, energy, practice and

reflection

Concept

Concept definition: Excerpt from Wikipedia, the free

encyclopedia

Concept 是 AbstractThe general idea is to act as a

specified entity,Event 或 Relationship 的 Category
或类的 Entity。 In theirExtensionIgnored
inThingsThe difference, as if they were the same to
deal with them, so the concept is abstract. They are
equally applicable to all things in their extension, so
they are universal. Concept isPropositionThe
basicElementsAs 词是 SentenceThe
basicSemanticelement as well.

On the aboveExplanation lookis also foggy, say my most direct

impression of it.
- There is an article that saysand Oushin'sCommunication, a
word mentioned in the article# Zhouhari 窗 #, the article saw
the bottom, confused. Do not know what to say, stare at not
understand what to say. Until Baidu.# Zhouhari window #, only
a little to understand. The two great gods know# Zhouhari
windowModel #The concept of communication, some just
magnanimous and comfortable, such a grok feeling must be very
good. When everyone knows a concept,Often do not have to
explain more, a concept word is enough to express ideas, saving
the cost of communication and improve efficiency

- In the target class, there was no understanding of basic

concepts, such as "01-Path selection Tool table ", in the absence
of understanding the meaning of the path, what is the best path,
why choose the best path and purpose to clarify the intention of
the direct form, in the following forms will be blocked when
filling, there is no self-consistent situation If the logical
relationship between the path and the key results is unclear, the
key results cannot be clearly expressed or expressed in the
wrong way.3The tool table is a sequential, intrinsically related,
without understanding and clarification, even if the form is
completed, it may be filled in to fill in, lost the form set when
the system connotation, can not achieve the real effect. Basic
concepts are important, learning, rather slow, understand
straightened out, the whole system of understanding
andIntegrateThe penetration is fast. After this goal is
reachedTool tableFill and practice, seems a littleMing Shun
OldThe teacher wants to build the concept Library's deep
intention, the concept is the most basic and the most important
link, and the model, the frame is equally important. Figure out
the concept to a certain extent, the back can fly higher.

Risk

In the existing work knowledge system, there is a tool

calledPFMEA(Potential process failure mode and consequence
analysis), mainly in the development of new parts, the project
team through brainstorming, in advance to assess the part in the
process of production failure mode, and failure mode caused by
the failure of the results, and find out the cause of the
failure/mechanism to identify risks in advance and to do
preventive measures. The workOne of the five core tools in the
automotive quality system. The utility of this tool is of great
significance in the process of its own practice development
project. Course Toolsis also set up in the“Risk assessment”和
“Precautionary measures”Projects, anticipate risks and do well
in advance in the implementation of objectives, and secure the
final goal.Visible, Yong-Cheng bossThis tool form logic is
rigorous and powerful in purpose. Each item in the tool's form is
significant.

PFMEA Table header

Energy

About Energy,“Power Rack”I remember the ads, and the tools

in the form"8CEnergy”It is also a strong support process. and
risk pre-judgment are two of the most effective support
processes. The human energy is limited, the mood fluctuation is
also very normal, according to the survival minimum energy
dissipation principle, the person all tends to be lazy. In the
process of achieving the goal, due to various uncontrolled
factors, will be depressed, procrastination, internal friction, etc.
are normal conditions.8CIt's like a strong heart needle,In your
stallTime to give you the power to restart, to keep you moving
forward.

Practice and reflection

is probably2Months ago, the teacher laughed in the "wealth
Road" said: in action thinking. It was not possible to understand
the meaning of the sentence at that time. Now the
understanding: the most basic premise to establish psychological
representation is to do, if not to do, evenBasic motion perception
is not, what to build psychological representation, everything is
just fantasy. Only have done, will have the experience, only then
may have the sentiment, through the reflection will have the
promotion possibility. In the course“Practice Period”Training is
to follow this principle, according to their own goals to achieve
the tool table to practice, to verify the original goal definition
rationality. Through summing-up and reflection to further
increase the understanding of the goal of the operation. Such a
process is necessary to help improve the practical effects of
participating in the course. Although the process is a bit painful,
effective fruit is more important than anything.

Deficiencies:

In the Practice Period table,“Highlight Description”和

“Insufficient description”And“Cause analysis”Is the most nerve-
racking. The beginning of two days is not written, casually
wrote two to meet the job requirements. Thank you, counselor.
梓 The patient's guidance and enlighten, in the follow-up work,
thoughStill putNo grip, but with a clear direction: to explore 最
The essence of the cause. The essence of this quest is to think
about the depth and breadth of accumulation, not overnight. I
will always train myself to think, and finally have a satisfactory
day.

Thanks againTeacher Zi ChangTo give

FollowYong Cheng da UniversityFor two months, the

perception of the impact felt unusually strong, accompanied by
the desire to grow, brought inner anxiety. Has been trapped has
been not allowed to escape, combined with this "goal to achieve
the" course, faith and principles have been adjusted to support
me to follow the boss go down, not to collapse back to the
originalThe state of boiled frog in lukewarm water. Take the
goal management as the gripper, realizes the stage small goal,
accumulates continuously, obtains the bigger promotion.
RealThe value of the present life.

Belief:
- In the capacityCircle RangeWork,
enterPanicDistrict is not necessarily very sensible,
everyone's starting point is not the same, to recognize
this point

- Do not forget the meaning behind the effort,

perceived low-level diligence state

- First complete in perfect, progress oriented

- The establishment of a sense of order, first-win

experience

- My resources are abundant, I have done the best

state of the present stage, better than the progress of
yesterday

- Lengthen look at the length of time to look at the

problem

- Knowledge so much, is not learning, slowly,

continue to do

- Positive thinking, continuous accumulation, output,

re-disk, enjoy the slow process. Thinking falls into
action makes sense.
 - Take care of the body feeling

- Grasp the essence, pay attention to the efficiency of

unit time

- Don't forget your job, that's the basis for survival.

- Focus, follow the instructor.

Decision-making Principles

- Compounding, diminishing marginal costs, helping

to accumulate potential energy

9.How to manage your life after the age of 30

A friend wrote on her signature:Jaybird Ben Four GoMyself

Another friend replied she said: I envy you. To run four, you
seem to be quite carefree. But why do I always feel anxious?

See here, I was thinking, already more than 30 years old I, is

calm, or anxiety?
It's like both. Anxiety is always feeling that time is not enough,
busy all day, frankly, for the future life how to Live, the heart is
a goal, certainty.

Many people say thatBen Four., everything is settled, and then I

will make a yellow face.PO orMan bald uncle, life Ah, who is
not so?

The people who say this, I know, have made a concession to life
and to the future prematurely.

However, no one has let you compromise ah. What would you
do if you were 60 years old when you were 30 years old? What
do you do when you're 80 years old?

No matter how old you are, you should not give up the
possibility of getting better.

After 30 years of age, should be a more sober, more mature

attitude to business life, so that they have a light and rich,
rather than heavy exhaustion.

（1Take your work seriously.

Your work is the book of your own. I know that many people do
not like their work, they have dreams,Always want to be able to
put down the current drift, to pursue poetry and far away.

Some people will think, already 30 years old, I still have the
future? Do I still have a future? Think about it. Then let's get
along, mix it up.

Mixed is the solutionNo problem, just a waste of your time.

If you already have enough capital and are really bored with
your current job and are more disgusted with the relationships in
the workplace, you can resign and pursue the life you want.

If you don't have that capital, you'd better do your present job
with your heart.

Some people say I can work part-time. Of course you can do

other part-time jobs outside of work, but don't neglect your job.

You do one thing, that is, you do 10 things look, those who
can take a part-time, slowly bigger people, his main business
also must be done well, and only think about the work to
fool the past, his part-time also mostly do a mess.
Around a lot of friends, because the work is relatively easy to
start a micro-business, but some people are very good, whether
it is a job or part-time, are very focused on doing, so the normal
work of the bonus point no less, part-timeAlso made a lot of
money. Some people want everything, but not all the heart to
pay, the result of anything is not good.

（2) Be kind to your other half

There was a famous theory that said: every couple has500Times

to kill each other's impulses.

Long time together, when the passion slowly retreat, tired will
inevitably hit. ThirtyYears later, you gradually feel that your
other half is not so cute, not so generous, not so reasonable, the
contradiction and friction between you more and more, you
countless times to think: how can this person now so
unreasonable?

In fact, most contradictions are the result of love, but also

because of the end of love.

How long have you never huggedTaThe

How long have you been withTaHave a good talk?

How long have you been with meTaThe

Remember Wang Feng in a certain issue of the "Chinese new

song" In a similar sentence: Love is to solve all the problems of
the answer. The person who can say such a word, really know
how to love.

No wonder he and Zhang Ziyi (怡 Now so happy.

The writer Liu Zhenyun in the novel "A sentence top 10,000
sentence", said:

A person's loneliness is not lonely, one person to find

another person, a word to find anotherA word, is really
lonely.

Don't let your other half fall into this loneliness.

If you love too much, you can understandTa。 Most of the

time, you not only have to readTaYou have to understand what
you say.Ta's Heart.

Only when the heart is through, will there be“A sentence top
10,000 sentence”effect, it will only produce“At this time the
silence wins the sound”The tacit understanding.
 （3Love your parents, but don't try to change
them.

Writer Liu Yu wrote an article called "The Place of love without

burial", which describes a couple of particularly worried
parents:

Big to marriage, family, career, small to my nephew

what to eat lunch, when I go to learn to drive, my
brother today to that who who 谁 On the phone, I did
not use skin cream at night, naturally bathed in my
father's mother's sunshine and rain.

I remember when I read this article The reaction was: God, and
my parents (especially my father, about my father, I am in the
article "than“Poor thinking”More frightening, that's what it
says).

The best-selling author, Zhang Defen, also said in my mother's

reconciliation that she had a strong mother who was a devout
Christian, and regarded all other religions as the Devil Satan.
And she just like to study Buddhism, like to read Buddhist
scriptures, which in the mother's view is absolutely unacceptable
things, for this reason, the mother and daughter make very
unpleasant. Also after many years of insistence andSpiritual
Meditation, Zhang Defencai and mother reached a settlement.
She said:

There is a kind of thing called "gentle insistence". I

love you, but I can't do what you ask of me. I love
you, but I've decided to do what I want,Whether you
understand it or not.

Influenced by knowledge, environment, age and experience,

many of the parents ' ideas are old and difficult to change.

The best way to treat your parents is:Love them, influence

them, but don't try to change them.

As Zhang Defen in a speech: "I always buy a lot of things for

my parents, let them know that I love them, but I still have to do
my own thing."......Do not change others, practice is their own
practice.

If you change yourself, others may change. When you disagree

with your parents, don't get mad at them.“The gentle
insistence”。

（4Embrace your child with love and freedom.

In the Prophet, Gibran said:

Your children are not yours, but the children of life's

longing for themselves. They have come to you in
the world, but not from you, who live with you but
do not belong to you.
You can try.In order to likethem, but don't let them
be like you.

Every child is an angel given to us by God.

If you have complained that your parents did not give you
enough love and respect during your growth, remember not to
repeat their mistakes.

Do not be a dictator in the family because you are an adult.

Give children the right to cry, to give their children the right
to be vulnerable to unreasonable. Do not use adult standards
to ask a child, only children like children grow up, grow up
will be like adults have to play, understand responsibility
and give love.

（5) Don't give up.Reading

I believe many people will agree with this saying: Reading is the
most convenient and fast bridge for you to communicate with
the whole world.

2016years since I read about70This book, Classics, essays, best-

selling novels, psychology, ancient prose, covering all aspects of
the content, these books with me through a lot of low and dark
days, let me on life, fate, the relationship between people have a
more transparent view, I think I am more tolerant than before,
more able to understand others.

Especially after reading a lot of books on psychology, when

encountering problems, not as excited and irritable as before,
and others disagree, no longer try to improve the voice to let
others understand me.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong, in the book body knows the answer,

says:

Know yourself and be aware of your inner

psychological changesAnd not get lost in your own
outside world. The reason why others are projecting
hostility to you is that the root cause is simple
because there is a lot of hostility in your heart. If
 your heart is completely free of hostility, then the
hostile projection will be completely ineffective.

If you think others do not understand you, if you feel life

everywhere is not happy, so much reading it, let yourself
become enlightened and transparent, positive optimism.Reading
can let a person out of the limits of thinking, understand
such a truth: all existence is reasonable, all phenomena
behind have reason. Sometimes, to understand other
people's difficulties is to treat themselves.

（6) Develop your interests and hobbies

Music, film, Cooking, flower arrangement, tea art, we are now

in the best of times, you have 10,000 choices as your hobbies, so
do not putMost of the timeWaste on a mobile phoneOn

After 30 years of age, if you have a family, with children, how

the days will be like today's repetition of yesterday, everything
is so dull and boring, then you really need to take some time to
develop a hobby.

Maybe it's a sweat on the basketball court, maybe half an hour

of yoga every day, maybe a time spent cooking a good cup of
coffee for yourself, maybe a half-day stroll in a bookstore.
Don't underestimate these little hobbies, perhaps, it is the
only light in our ordinary life.

Do not put this light out, to take this light, so that they are
walking the road of life not so dull, not so boring.

（7) Exercise Good health

Many more than 30-year-olds will say: I'm old.

Don't moan it. Perhaps you are no longer the youth just the
small meat, but you should not be eligible to occupy“老”The
word.

Manage your own life, start by managing your own body.

If you do not love your body, do not cherish your health, the
result may not be you old, but you die. Without a healthy
body, everything above is zero.

30 years old, maybe you are still in the lonely confused

struggle, perhaps you still like chicken to look for
tomorrow's way out, may your career is not a little starting
signs, may your lifeI'm so lost to seeA little hope, so what?
No one is required to succeed at the age of more than 20. 30
years old after the road is very long, from now on to manage
their lives, everything is possible.