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Kayli Meisner
Professor Ditch
English 115
1 October 2018
Happiness is seen as so many different forms throughout our life in different spaces whether
it is inside us or the external environment that we place ourselves in. Four authors have touched
upon happiness in both of these spaces. The Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler, Sonja
Lyubomirsky, and David Brooks claim for our happiness to resonate within ourselves, while
Graham Hills expresses it as what is outside that will determine how happy we are. The
arguments of The Dalai Lama and Cutler is that there are two ways of achieving happiness, get
all you want, or have what you need and to transform the outlook we have on ourselves with
inner contentment and worth. Lyubomirsky says that it is our own behavior and goals that will
allow us to be happy, so we need to control our state of mind and transform our lives through the
things we chose to experience, like who we are within in order to make us happy. Brooks has a
bit of a different approach when it comes to inner happiness and that is to take a traumatic
situation and turn this space into a “sacred gift” that cannot heal, but sooth our pain. As for
external happiness, Hill demonstrates how his life of material was not what he had hoped it to be
so the only way to make his life better was through transforming it by downsizing and having
Each of the authors explore and talk of the ways in which we experience happiness, whether
it is something we feel inside of us or what goes on around us that determines how we feel. The
Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler focus on how we believe that material items are what allows us
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to be even happier, but soon find out that that is in fact the opposite in that happiness lies within
ourselves. Cutler interviews a friend of his that has had great success, and a lot of money, at a
young age and when asked how she has been doing she responds: “it’s strange; after I got over
all the excitement of making all that money things kinda returned to normal… I don’t think I’m
much happier than I was before” (21). There is this set notion that money will make us happy
and we will forever live a luxurious life, but we soon come to realize as humans it is seems about
impossible to keep us satisfied forever. The Dalai Lama and Cutler believe that our space can be
transformed from having inner contentment, meaning to be okay with what we have and have
inner worth which is what will allow us to have a positive outlook in life. Not being happy with
what we have causes us to become greedy and not appreciate all of the things that we have,
which then leads to unhappiness. This then ultimately “leads an individual to a feeling of
frustration… and a lot of problems” (The Dalai Lama and Cutler 27). To be able to look inside
ourselves to see that we do not need over half the things we want will alleviate problems, that
may not be visible now, but will affect us in the future. We see this same thing happen with
Graham Hill where his life of luxury does not last long and soon beings to control how he lives
David Brooks takes a different approach in explaining how we ourselves are the masters of
our own emotions, even in times of despair, and turn that emotion into something we can
appreciate to the best of our abilities. When we experience times of trauma “many people don’t
come out healed; they come out different” (Brooks 287). After losing a loved one it would be
hard to wake up the next morning as if nothing happened, but as time goes on we accept what
happened, although because those people’s lives have been altered tremendously it is hard to
adjust to that major changes. For Brooks the way to transform our state of depression and sorrow
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is to turn it into something that is holy and sacred to us. When going through a trauma like losing
a child “parents who’ve lost a child start foundation” (Brooks 286). Though this will not heal the
parents fully, it will give them a sense of peace in that what they have done to change their sad
situation into something that can be appreciated for not only themselves, but for other parents
who have suffered from that same sorrow. These parents would not fully heal in any way, but
they would manage to make their emotions into a project in which they can cherish and
remember for as long as they live. Like how we choose to spend our times of sadness, it also
depends on how we choose to spend every day that determines our happiness.
Sonja Lyubomirsky tells us that our foundation of happiness lies beyond genetics, but how
we spend our time in our day to day lives. It is true that we all have a “set point” (189) for our
happiness, but the amount of space that we have to form our own happiness is a lot and ours to
manipulate any way we want. According to Lyubomirsky, “50 percent of the differences among
our happiness levels is determined by set points (and 10 percent… by circumstances), fully 40
percent is still available to us to mold” (Lyubomirsky 189). A large portion of who we are is still
dependent on the environment we chose and allow ourselves to be in. We are by no means glued
to what our family traits have given us naturally. If we live in a life where we see only negative
inconveniences, we then live a life of constant sorrow and frustration. We are always free to
transform that negative perspective through what we do and who we are with, which suddenly
we can allow ourselves to see our world through a brighter lens. In Lyubomirsky’s article she
notes that “there is no happiness without action” (Lyubomirsky 196). If we sit around feeling
sorry for ourselves all the time, there is no way to be able to actually be happy. It is all in how we
decide to spend our time that will allow us to feel the satisfaction of happiness. For people to
change their lives means to get out of our comfort zones in order to go out and explore new
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things and meet new people, which for Lyubomirsky, is the key to be able to make your life your
In contrast with the three other authors who see our happiness as internal, Graham Hill
focuses on what is with us externally that will determine our happiness being that he himself has
been through the experience of having more money and materials than he could control. Hill saw
first-hand that all these things made his life “unnecessarily complicated. There were lawns to
mow, gutters to clear, … roommates to manage (it seemed nuts to have such a big, empty
house)” (Hill 309). Money by no means made his life easier, in fact it gave him more chores to
deal with, although the rest of us believe that it is money that will take care of us, but as we are
shown through his experience it only gives us more to deal with, leaving less time to actually
live. Hills also mentions his feeling of being alone that the money has brought upon him. The big
house emphasized his lack of true connections with what truly matters in his life. Hill
transformed his life of money to one that “was full of love and adventure and work [he] cared
about. [He] felt free and…didn’t miss the car and gadgets and house; instead [he] felt as if [he]
had quit a dead-end job” (Hill 311). Hill was able to change his external environment of a lot of
new and expensive materials to being able to let go of all that and live a free life of only what he
needs. Hills proves through his own life that having the money to buy whatever he wants is not
how to live a happy life. You need to take out the fantasy of the need for the newest phone or car
because that leaves you with more responsibly than anyone realizes, showing that the expensive
materials that we possess externally in our lives is not enough to make up happy. Owning less
Happiness comes from so many different areas of everyone’s life because each of us leads an
entirely different lifestyle from one another. These authors showed that we could go from
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sadness and transform it into a gift, a lot of materials to a little, what we are born with in our
genetics to what we decide to make of ourselves, or even just being content with what we have
and who we are. We all live different lives and have different areas whether it be what we have
outside or inside that make us happy. It may be going out and making real connections with other
or just making sure you have only what you need that make us happy. But at the end of the day
we know what makes us happy because happiness comes in different forms to everyone whether
it is what is outside or the internal aspects of our lives that make us happy.
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Works cited
Brooks, David. “What Suffering Does.” Pursuing Happiness, edited by. Karen S. Henry,
Hill, Graham. “Living With Less. A Lot Less.” Pursuing Happiness, edited by Karen S. Henry,
Lama, Dalai, and Howard Cutler. “The Source of Happiness.” Pursuing Happiness, edited by
Lyubomirsky, Sonja. “How Happy Are You and Why.” Pursuing Happiness, edited by Karen S.