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Jennifer Bernal
Professor Kardell
ENG101
31 August 2018
Who Really Am I?
Growing up I always thought I was Mexican, I thought I looked like one, I thought I
spoke like one, I thought I acted like one. As I gotten older and moving from one grade level to
the next more and more people started to doubt my authenticity. I remember I was a freshman in
high school, this guy named Ruben came up to me and introduced himself. We started to have a
normal conversation like: what’s your name, age, what you do for fun, just usual topics to get to
know someone. During that conversation, he asked me, “is there anyone you dislike from the
class yet?” and I responded, “yo no voy soltar la sopa, ese chisme no voy soltar a
cualquiera”(I’m not going to spill the soup, that gossip I don’t give to just anyone). Ruben was
shocked, he had made an “O” with his mouth and eyes full of shock. I asked him, “what?”, he
replied by saying, “you speak Spanish? you’re Mexican? I honestly thought you were a white
girl”. I was absolutely flabbergasted and confused, like I was born from parents straight from
Mexico, like how do I not look like Mexican. That was the first time, I felt somewhat offended,
Later that day during lunch, I went to my friends and I asked one friends who’s Latino if
I looked like a white girl. His response shocked me, he told me that I do look “gringa” and if he
didn’t know me, he would thought I was Caucasian just by the way I looked and spoke. I was
just staring at him with confusion, thinking to myself how on earth do I look white if I’m tanner
than you. My Latino friend, Reynaldo, was very pale, his skin color looked like the color of milk
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and yet people think he’s Mexican and not me. We both had dark hair, and we had similar skin
color, I was just a little bit tanner, we both wore those golden chain crosses as most Hispanics do
and I wasn’t considered one of them. I was very upset, but I wanted to prove them wrong, so I
went up to random people from my school and asked them, what nationality they think I am.
People who were non-Hispanic thought I was Mexican and people who were Latino thought I
was white. That made my blood boil, I was being shut down by my people, they didn’t consider
me one of them, I started to wonder if I’m not one of them then who am I?
After school was over, I went home, and I really started to dissect myself and started to
think what I can improve to make my social circle accept that I am Hispanic. I would look how
they would act, clothing, how they spoke, and I would try to simulate that, but still be my own
person. I practiced my Spanish all that night with my parents, so I can sound more authentic to
my friends even though I felt like the way I spoke was fine. The next day, I went to school, I
dressed how my friends dressed, I had some shorts, a bold pattern top that was somewhat tight
and sandals. When I arrived, I went with my group of friends and I was talking in Spanish with
them and everything was fine. I didn’t get any weird looks or any criticisms, so I thought I
But, later on in day, it turns out I didn’t defend my title because my two best friends,
Reynaldo (Latino) and Inaya (Black), were having lunch together and I joined them. Inaya was
explaining to us how her dad doesn’t call me by name because he forgets my name all the time. I
asked her, “how is that possible my name is as basic as it gets?”, her reply was, “I don’t he just
calls you Becky”. My two best friends were laughing, and they were saying that, that name fit
me. I’m like how is that possible, I’m not white nor basic, because Becky has that kind of stigma.
I was really like hurt because I felt like I’m a complete opposite of a white girl or Caucasian.
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After that lunch, they started to call me “Becky” as my new nickname and it would infuriate me.
I would tell them to stop but they kept trying make “Becky” my new identity. I asked them,
“what can I do to make you guys considered me Hispanic and for you guys to stop calling me
Becky?”. They told me, “You’re like vanilla with some dolce de leche, you kind of act more on
the Caucasian side, meaning the way you speak, and how you act. You’re not the typical
Hispanic who talks really fast and speak in a loud voice, you know how to control yourself a
little more. You’re not as loud or have as much of a strong personality as a regular Latina, you’re
a little bit more on the humble side but you still have that little spicy in you.”. When they first
told me that I was like “what the heck” but as I started to think about it more it made sense. I
realized I don’t have a very strong personality or as much confidence as a Latina, I was a bit
more reserved but when provoked my Latina fire comes out and everybody better stand back. I
also found out that with the traditional Hispanic values, I don’t really agree with, I thought they
were very old-fashioned and sexist. Then slowly I started to accept I’m not fully Mexican as I
As the year goes on, I started to accept that I won’t be considered fully Mexican but
that’s okay because I’m not 100% Mexican, it’s in my DNA, I grew up in that culture, and I
speak the language, but I choose what part of my heritage I want as part as my identity. Same
thing with my American culture, I choose what I want to keep for my identity. I may look
somewhat Caucasian for my pale skin, my newly dyed blonde hair, and my obsession with
Starbucks, but I’m not as bubbly or overly adventures as Caucasians I met before. I will not be
joining them to jump off bridges or play with the Ouija Board to have an “adventure” as they as
say. But, I do agree with their modern and progressive views as far as equal pay for both women
and men, to not depend on your spouse for income, and do what makes you happy. I think
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Americans are very progressive and try not stay with traditions, where in Latino culture they try
to hold you back to follow the traditions. For example, marrying a spouse with money to depend
on them, be something realistic like a doctor, and what not. In my opinion, Americans or
Caucasians are more free-spirted and are open to change and that’s something I can agree with,
that’s why I think I get along with them because we have similar views.
Of course, they will never truly accept me as one of them because to them I have an
accent while I speak English, so I sound funny to them. They might think, I’m a little too loud,
speak too loud for them, or may think I have too much common sense for them because I don’t
want to play the Ouija Board, and I’m totally cool with that. But, overall where you go you can
connect with people, you may not have similar cultures, but there are bound to be a few
experiences that you have similarities with. Where ever you go and hang out with humans with
mutually have respect for you if you respect them. You can truly connect with anyone if you
both have mutual respect, you may have totally completely upbringings or cultures, but there will
be a few experiences you both share and new social circle and form. Even in social circles you
feel like you really identify with, you will not have similar experiences because everyone grows
up differently, you just may have a little bit more in common with them.
That’s what I learned, yes you may identify with this group because you have so many
things in common, but you won’t have everything common. For example, most of my Latino
friends have been with a chancla (flip flop) and I never been hit with one, but I know is an
Hispanic culture thing. You will find similarities in many different social groups that you may
have never thought you had in common. Any group there will be similarities and differences and
that’s ok, you shouldn’t just me stuck in one identity, it’s ok to have many identities because
everyone has differences and different experiences and we should embrace them. It’s ok to be
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Mexican, Caucasian, female, young or whatever you identify with because all that is a part of
you. No human is black and white, everyone is complex and has many layers to them, they’re
like a book you have to keep reading it to understand them even then you may not fully
understand. So, it’s okay to have different identities and is someone tries to question it, who
cares what they think, they don’t know who you are what you’re about. As long as you know