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SPIRITUAL DIMENSION

TO SINGLENESS
Yomi Oshin

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Spiritual Dimension to Singleness
Copyright © 2007 by Isaac Abayomi Oshin

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CONTENTS

Foreword .....................................................6
Chapter One................................................9
IT IS SPIRITUAL......................................9
Chapter Two..............................................13
THE SPIRIT HUSBAND/WIFE ..............13
Chapter Three ...........................................25
MARITAL LOCKS AND KEYS ..............25
Chapter Four.............................................37
SOUL TIES ............................................37
Chapter Five .............................................49
SATANIC VEIL.......................................49
Chapter Six ...............................................53
SPIRIT OF DESOLATION .....................53
Chapter Seven ..........................................59
SPIRIT OF WHOREDOM ......................59
Chapter Eight............................................65
FAMILIAR SPIRIT..................................65
Chapter Nine .............................................71
SPIRITUAL DIMENSION TO BEAUTY
AND ATTRACTION ...............................71
Chapter Ten ..............................................77
THE WAY OUT.......................................77
Spirit husband/wife.....................................86
Marital Lock and Keys .................................88
Soul Ties ..................................................90
Satanic Veil ...............................................95
Spirit Of Desolation ....................................96
Spirit Of Whoredom ....................................97
Familiar Spirit ............................................98
Spiritual Dimension To Beauty And Attraction .101
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DEDICATION

To the glory of God and all the singles


still searching withing the body of
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Acknowledgements

Before going to press I read this book over. I was


convinced that it is more than I could possibly
have written. It is the work of God. He handed it
over to me to deliver it to the singles of this age.
The ultimate glory is to God and I sincerely thank
our heavenly Father for making me a vessel in His
hand to write this book.

I must acknowledge the contribution of my father


in the Lord , Rev. Rasaq B. Akinwale, the Oshodi
District Overseer of Foursquare Gospel Church
in Nigeria. I requested for his foreword but he did
more than that. He refined the book to make it
what you are holding. I am proud to be called
your protégé. You are truly a father in the Lord.

I want to express my appreciation to my big


brother in the Lord, Rev. M. O. John. I
particularly appreciate your encouragement. You
have read this book over more than any other
person before its publication making contribution
at each reading.

I must also appreciate my wife, Kenny and our


two sons; Tobi and Seyi. I thank you for putting
up with my withdrawal now and again when I was
writing this book. I love you all.
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Foreword
To many people, marriage is merely a social
institution. Many others consider sexuality
basically an institution for biological expressions
and relationship. This wrong assumption has
obviously misled many people into treating their
sexuality as part of the natural process of the animal
kingdom.

However, it must be noted that marriage is spiritual


institution created by God for sexual relevance the
enemy is quite aware of the general human
weakness and ignorance. Hence he mobilizes his
demons to torment and harass bachelors and
spinsters spiritually and psychologically. He
inflicts injuries on them which continue to make life
unbearable for them as individuals and as family
people later in life.

Pastor Yomi Oshin has done a strong ground work


on some crucial areas of sexuality and family life
which are rarely considered seriously by authors on
marriage and family matters.

With this fantastic book, he has given serious


insight into the dangers of spirit spouse which many
people don't believe up till now. This work has
done very well to educate youngsters on the dangers
of marital lock and key.
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Many people's marital lives are really under locks


and keys. This could affect them and the pre or post
wedding period with devastating effects. Many of
our wayward youngsters are quite ignorant of the
factors of such ties which they contract daily
through their careless and ungodly living. The
Bible says you can not blame God because
whatsoever you sow, you will surely reap.

This evil association has led many into having


satanic veil, filling their lives with familiar spirits
and horrible managers. Many eventually fall into
the realm of spirit of desolation which could even
lead to psychiatric problems and suicide. The
prayer presentation in the book is spiritually
powerful for self-deliverance and spiritual
cleansing.

I strongly hope that those who read this well


researched and inspired book will not only enrich
their lives but they will have a lot to share with
others for the recovery of all that enemy has stolen,
killed or destroyed. Hence, they will have life and
have it abundantly from the giver of life and re-
creator of ruined and mutilated destinies.

Rev. Rasaq B. Akinwale


District Overseer
F. G. C. , Oshodi
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Chapter One

IT IS SPIRITUAL
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but
against principalities, against powers, against the
rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual
hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places Eph.
6:12

Are you single and truly desire to be


married? Well it is the will of God that you
are. In actual fact if you don't desire
marriage something may be wrong
somewhere somehow. And the LORD God
said, "It is not good that man should be
alone; I will make him a helper
comparable to him." (Gen. 2:18). This is
the scripture pointing to the fact that God did
not design it for you to be single. You may
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begin to wonder why we have so many


singles; men and women, in the church.
That is one of the purposes of this book. To
identify some of the reasons why many are
still single in the church and the world at
large today despite the fact that they are
meant to be married.

My first book was on how to win and marry


the man of your dream as a young lady and it
dwelled so much on the physical dimension
to attracting men, dating and courting. It
also touched on spiritual aspect to marriage
though not as extensively. I also observed
that many authors on the issue of marriage
and family generally emphasize the physical
and psychological dimensions to
relationship rather than spiritual though
these books are on the Christian book
shelves. This is what led to the development
of this series Spiritual Dimension. This
book is meant to x-ray the spiritual
dimension to attracting, dating and
eventually marrying your God-given spouse
whether you are a lady or a man. Many
people have observed all the social laws of
attracting partners and some have become
slaves in order to get the commitment of
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suitors. Yet they are either not attracted to


the right persons or they end their
relationships up in disappointment. This
book is meant to deliver such people from
frustration.

Some years back in the neighbourhood


where I was living, a lady was said to have
committed suicide because at an age she
considered late, she was single and no man
asked her out. Many people criticised her
for her decision, and rightly so, but could
anyone take his/her life if in proper frame of
mind? Our Lord Jesus Christ said in John
10:10 that the thief comes to steal, to kill
and to destroy…. Satan is at work now than
ever before and his work has been cleverly
disguised with civilisation, prosperity,
liberation and the likes. The ultimate aim is
to destroy people. The family and family
structure is under severe attack from the
devil and it is important that we employ the
weapon of our warfare against him and his
cohorts, knowing fully well that the
weapons of our warfare are not carnal but
mighty in God for pulling down
strongholds, (2 Cor. 10:4).
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Chapter Two
THE SPIRIT
HUSBAND/WIFE
That the sons of God saw the daughters of men, that
they were beautiful; and they took wives for
themselves of all whom they chose. Gen. 6:2

For a very long time I have been hearing


about the spirit husband and have been very
inquisitive to know the reality before I start
talking about it. Then in the course of
counselling and ministering to the singles I
was led to minister deliverance to many. I
came across situations where a demon will
take over the voice of the person being
ministered on to say that “she belongs to me,
no marriage”. With holy anger against
these demons I have demanded to know who
was talking in some instances and got such
responses as claim to be the prince of
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darkness. In my analysis of some of these


cases, I have established some of the
features of the spirit husband in their lives.
One of the prominent features or effects on
some is lack of desire for marriage. Many
have no relationship with men that could be
termed romantic and they seemed to be so
satisfied. Often time there are several other
problems in their lives, most of which could
not be easily sorted out (a cluster of
problems).

This situation is not peculiar to ladies but


also young men. I have met men that are
single at an age of around forty and yet not
keen on marriage. You may attribute the
singleness of such men to shyness until you
come close to them. Some of these men may
give the excuse of their parents' broken
marriages and some the general trend in
marriage breakdown as the reason for their
lost of interest in marriage but all in all it is
excuse to avoid marriage.

In some cases the person may have


relationships but they never translate into
marriage. Engagements and courtships just
break up on minor grounds, sometimes due
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to sudden eruption of anger which is later


regretted but hardly amendable. This often
becomes a pattern. In other instances, the
suitors are just put off without any cogent
reason.

There are people who would dream of being


in a village square and people dancing
around as if they are getting married. Some
men have wet dreams not because they are
sex starved but because they were having
sex in their dreams with spirit wives. It is
true that if the mind is filled with immoral
thoughts, wet dreams may occur but often
time, it is the evidence of spirit wife
particularly if the man is having problems
keeping a steady relationship. The dream is
blissful but the life is miserable.

The problem of spirit husband and wife


could also affect married people, but here I
want to limit my discussion to how it relates
to the singles, both male and female. The
spirit husband or wife in the life of a single
person gives the impression that the person
is married. While in some there is no desire
to get married, in others, every suitor is put
off and people around the person see him or
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her as being unserious, though the person


does the best possible to keep the
relationship. If a spirit husband is operating
in the life of a lady, it may manifest in such a
way that any man intending to marry her
may be hard-up financially so much that
their marriage becomes practically
impossible. There could be loss of job or
decline in the business of the suitor.

Who are the spirit husbands and wives?


How do you get in contact with them?
Undoubtedly, spirit husbands and wives are
demons or fallen angels. Gen. 6:2 says that
that the sons of God saw the daughters of
men, that they were beautiful; and they
took wives for themselves of all whom they
chose. There are various interpretations of
this passage but the study of the Bible as one
whole show us that the godly are referred to
as the children of God. In Exodus 4:22 it
says "Then you shall say to Pharaoh,
'Thus says the LORD: "Israel is My son,
My firstborn. When we come to the New
Testament Rom. 8:14 says For as many as
are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons
of God. The spirit husbands and wives are
immoral spirits using men to express
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themselves. In his book, Mysterious Secrets


of the Dark Kingdom, J. P. Timmons
identified four departments of the Satanic
kingdom, each of which is headed by a
principality. These principalities are
Appollyon, Abaddon. Belial and The Beast.
Abaddon which means “eternal
destruction” is responsible for polluting
human race through habits of fornication
and all forms of immorality. He has under
him such powers as Diana; the prostitute
goddess of the Ephesians, Venus; the
goddess of love etc. And under these
powers are such spirits as spirit husbands
and wives.

I can not exhaust the ways and manners in


which they operate nor how they get into
one's life. However, from the Biblical
inferences and manifestations during
ministrations, it is evident that people could
contact them through some of the following
means.

Evil dedication
This is the pledging of one's life to an
ungodly cause, institution or personality.
There are few occasions when people so
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dedicate their lives consciously but some of


the time they are not conscious of it. This is
because many are dedicated at birth or very
early in life when they are yet to understand
what was going on. When people are
desperate for child-bearing, they often go
any length to have children. Some time they
are made to make pledges even on behalf of
the unborn child. These children are given
as wives or husbands to the idols.

On the other hand, there are people who


claim to be traditional, and every one of their
children is dedicated to the family idol even
when they are far from their home towns.
They do this by either sending money to the
extended family at home with or without the
name of the child or outright dedication of
the child to the idol.

Satanic protection
Similar to evil dedication is satanic
protection. This involves seeking
protection from Satanists who parade
themselves as herbalists, Alfas or even
prophets. It involves rituals that call a
demon or more into the life of the victim.
This class of demons are often referred to as
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spirit guides. They are all fallen angels and


often their undisclosed price for this
assignment is marriage to their unsuspecting
victim. If you have ever been given
anything like cross, candle or leather pouch
for protection, then, you have engaged a
spirit guide.

Masturbation
Masturbation is an escape route for
loneliness and sexual urge. I use to think that
it is only men that masturbate until I met a
lady who owned up to me that she was
masturbating. She was a Christian and a
virgin at the time. She admitted that she
satisfies herself sexually by masturbating.
Physically speaking masturbation is not
more harmful than normal sex except the
frequency is usually higher because you do
not need a physical person to carry it out. As
such there is the risk of exhaustion resulting
from over indulgence. However,
psychologically, it has been proven that
people who indulge themselves in
masturbation often don't miss their partners
in marriage, in actual fact, they are often less
interested in sex.
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Masturbation involves imagination of a


partner with whom the act is being carried
out. You maintain a picture of someone in
your mind with whom you are doing it with a
high level of concentration which otherwise
blanks your mind. At that point, you open
yourself up for demons to come into you
spiritually. Given the kind of thought that
you maintain during masturbation, it is
reasonable to assume that only demons from
the immoral department of Satan will come
in as your spirit husband or wife. After some
time, you may be having sex in your dream
with your spirit spouse.

Immoral Fantasy/ Thoughts


One major entrance into the spirit world is
through imagination and fantasy. The Bible
says in 2 Cor. 10:4 5 (For the weapons of
our warfare are not carnal, but mighty
through God to the pulling down of strong
holds;)
Casting down imaginations, and every
high thing that exalteth itself against the
knowledge of God, and bringing into
captivity every thought to the obedience of
Christ; (KJV). Note the underlined. It is
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sad to note that many Christians today are


being lured into the act of ungodly
imagination and visualization thereby
opening the doors of their souls to demons.
Naturally, we learn to imagine things early
in life but some grow up to live in the world
of fantasy. People who fantasize about
marriage may end up with spirit husband or
wife.

I see a strategy of Satan today with the


dressing of the young ladies. The trend now
is to expose part of their nakedness, either
their bosom or buttocks. This is a seductive
act but beyond being seductive, it leads to
fantasy in the mind of weak men that look at
them on the street. Sexual teasing has
always been the underlining theme of ladies'
dressing. Many ladies are taught as early in
life as possible how to make themselves
desirable, attractive and possibly
provocative in dressing, speaking, standing
and behaviour but recent trend is to tempt
men while withholding sexual satisfaction
and thus throwing them into the fantasy
world. It is possible for young men to be
exposed to spirit wives through this sort of
fantasy.
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Sexual Perversion
Sex is often taken to be physical but a careful
study of the subject has shown that it is
highly spiritual. I observe that it is one
action that could have the most enduring
consequences. It is the only action that
threatens spiritual power whether in
occultism or Christianity. Sex defiles and
drains energy, even spiritual energy.
Unfortunately people engage in sex freely
today without considering the spiritual
implications. In Exodus 19:15 Moses said
to the people, "Be ready for the third day;
do not come near your wives.". When I
read this passage, I came to the conclusion
that sex in itself is powerful whether in or
out of marriage. If it is then performed
outside of marriage it is suicidal..

Sexual perversion means distorting the


purpose and meaning of sex. Sex is aimed at
uniting souls in marriage and its true
meaning is the bond of life. This meaning I
derive from the original meaning of erotic
from the root word 'Eros' meaning the force
of life. By having sex with people that are
not your spouse you have contracted
marriage with them in the spirit realm.
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Some of your sex-partners may strongly


desire you in marriage and as such maintain
you in their minds as their spouse even when
you are not married. Their spirits
consequently become your spirit husbands
or wives.

At the extreme of sexual perversion is


homosexuality which is spreading at an
alarming rate in recent years. The fashion of
gay and lesbianism is satanic and always
attract the anger of God. "Sodomites" were
men addicted to the beastly lusts alluded to
in Gen. 19:1-38. Satanic agents are every
where recruiting unsuspecting people into
eternal doom. The epidemic knows no
bound now; rampant among the ladies, even
very young little girls as well as men.
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Chapter Three
MARITAL LOCKS
AND KEYS
The key of the house of David I will lay on his
shoulder; So he shall open, and no one shall shut;
And he shall shut, and no one shall open. Isaiah
22:22

Almost everything we see is a symbol of


what we don't see. Keys are very symbolic
of spiritual power. Our Lord Jesus Christ
said in Matt. 16:19 "And I will give you the
keys of the kingdom of heaven, and
whatever you bind on earth will be bound
in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth
will be loosed in heaven." By this He
promised us access to happiness as
Christians.

Keys grant people access to valued places or


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things. Any place or thing that is kept under


lock has value. Whoever holds the key to
such a place or object possesses power.
Marriage is a precious thing, He who finds a
wife finds a good thing, And obtains favour
from the LORD (Prov. 18:22), and we talk
of entering into it which means it has
entrance which may be opened or locked
against someone. The reason behind the
singleness of many people is that the door of
marriage has been locked against them
spiritually. When the door is locked against
someone, the person requires the key to
open the door. But how would you know if
your case is of locked door?

When the door is locked against someone, it


is noticed by the one seeking access through
the door. It means you are seen to have
marriage potential by all and you sincerely
desire marriage. In addition you often move
in that direction but only to a point when you
seem stopped. When the door of marriage is
locked against someone, there is a hindrance
to his or her getting married. The suitors
may be available but as they move towards
marriage, a barrier is encountered on the
way which frustrates their effort. In many
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instances, there may be no quarrel neither


disagreement but something just stops the
process. There are many people who have
gone far in their relationship only for
travelling opportunity opens to either of
them and that ends it. Some people have
intruders. You may have been dating
someone for a long time and by satanic
arrangement, the person may just be lured
into a one night stand and get pregnant for
another man. The case of infidelity is
proven beyond every doubt but she may not
have deliberately done it. It happens with
men too. He may be satanically set up and
with just one mating, someone will return
with pregnancy for him. It may also be that
the man will lose his job and request that the
marriage be postponed. Also it may be the
sudden death of the sponsor of either
partner. Let me tell you here that if the door
of marriage is locked against you, you will
often be the victim of this sort of
circumstances. Why is it your own
relationship that is often so frustrated? They
are circumstances beyond your control
physically. It is not a function of whether or
not you are attractive, not because of your
manner or even because of your wealth or
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poverty. It is spiritual. What are the causes


of locked up marriage?

Causes
Direct action of the enemy
Someone's marriage may be shut up by
direct action of the enemy. In our society,
the concept of satanic padlock is not strange.
There are instances when people feel injured
and they consciously take the step to shut up
marriage against their victim. They contact
the Satanists who perform the satanic rituals
and lock up the marriage of the victims with
padlock. No matter how close the person
may be to marriage, once the marriage is
locked up, it never happens. Men and
women who feel jilted by their partners are
the most common of this class of people.
But it also includes other enemies such as
step mothers, relatives or even neighbours
who are just wicked.

Evil counsellors
There are also the evil counsellors, who
because they have either lost their marriage
or are single, out of frustration, they advise
young ones against marriage. These people
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can be likened to the Pharisees in the Bible


days. Matt. 23:13 says "But woe to you,
scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you
shut up the kingdom of heaven against
men; for you neither go in yourselves, nor
do you allow those who are entering to go
in. There are suitors who are not willing to
marry you but may lock up the door of
marriage against you if you allow them. For
example, people posing as your boyfriend or
girlfriend when in actual fact there is no
relationship between you and any of them.

Parents
Parents can also shut the door of marriage
against their children whether consciously
or otherwise. There are parents who involve
their daughters in unclean businesses such
as beer parlour attendance. Some send their
daughters to big men in position of power to
get contract. Along the line, these innocent
ladies may be blacklisted by the young men
and every one dates her for the sake of
sleeping with her. There are also such
parents who are over protective and
diabolical. They seek satanic help to keep
men away from their daughters while
growing up. Sometimes, the parents
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involved may be dead before the maturity of


the daughter and her marriage might have
been locked up.

Curses and/or Anti-marriage


Pronouncements
The door of marriage could also be shut
against someone by curse. A curse is an
utterance of God, or of a person invoking
God or spirit consigning or intending to
consign a person or thing to destruction,
divine vengeance, misery, etc. The general
misery of human race is consequent upon
the curse pronounced on man in the Garden
of Eden. All that can be said is that curses
bring about the evil pronounced on the
cursed. A school of thought says that curses
are effected by demons but when man was
sent out of the Garden of Eden, the cherubim
and Seraphim were placed on the gate. In
my opinion, by the power of the tongue
according to the ordinance of God, a curse
causes cosmic changes that affect the world
of the cursed. It is spiritual and cannot be
fully explained. We know that is real. A
curse must have a basis for operation Prov.
26:2 Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying
swallow, So a curse without cause shall not
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alight. The cause is the legal ground for the


operation as consideration is in the law of
contract. The value is not relevant, whether
significant or insignificant. Once the basis is
established, then it holds. Curse can be
specific or general. The specific curse is
that one which is peculiar to a person. The
general curse is the curse of the law which
applies to mankind generally. The general
curse is broken at salvation. Gal. 3:13
Christ has redeemed us from the curse of
the law, having become a curse for us (for it
is written, "Cursed is everyone who hangs
on a tree"),.

The general curse is the curse of the law


which we all break naturally before we are
born again. The Bible says in 2 Cor. 5:17
that if anyone is in Christ, he is a new
creation; old things have passed away;
behold, all things have become new. You
may be asking why does the evil persist in
your life? One of my dearest sisters one day
asked me, Pastor, why am I still going
through this? The Bible says all things have
become new. All of the general curse that
you inherited as a human being has been
removed. However, by the same blood of
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Jesus your specific curse can be removed


but the blood has to be applied specifically,
This is what many people do not understand.
This is the root and stronghold of the enemy
in the life of many singles, particularly those
that the many vigils, prayers and fastings
have not been able to solve their problems.
These specific curses may include casual
evil pronouncements hanged on trivial
things or pronouncements out of pain or
even pleasure. The curse may be placed on
your ancestor and his descendants. A
Biblical example is the curse placed on
Gehazi in 2 Kings 5:27 "Therefore the
leprosy of Naaman shall cling to you and
your descendants forever." And he went
out from his presence leprous, as white as
snow. The specific curse can also be
immediate or futuristic as deferred
judgment. Again, we have an example of
this in the Bible when Joshua placed a curse
on whoever would build the wall of Jericho.
Josh. 6:26 Then Joshua charged them at
that time, saying, "Cursed be the man
before the LORD who rises up and builds
this city Jericho; he shall lay its foundation
with his firstborn, and with his youngest he
shall set up its gates." This curse has
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another feature that is worth noting. It was


conditional; anyone who rises up and builds
the city of Jericho. It becomes effective
once that action is performed and on
whoever performed the action. Again, it
was not placed on the person directly but on
his first and last born. This subject is rarely
given thorough treatment and as such many
people are frustrated because they desire
immediate solution to a complex situation.
The curse that Joshua placed in the book
Joshua came to pass in 1Kings 16:34 In his
days Hiel of Bethel built Jericho. He laid its
foundation with Abiram his firstborn, and
with his youngest son Segub he set up its
gates, according to the word of the LORD,
which He had spoken through Joshua the
son of Nun. Joshua placed the curse at a
time around 1406 BC and Hiel of Bethel
brought the curse upon himself at about 930
BC that was approximately four hundred
and seventy-six years (476 yrs.) gap.
Several generations had come and gone.

In essence, certain conditional curses could


have been placed on somebody or group of
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people; the curse may come to pass on one or


the group together. Let me also say that
specific curses can be placed on an
individual, lineage or a people like the
Gibeonites.

Covenants
A covenant is a mutual agreement between
two or more people to do or refrain from
doing certain acts. It is a formal agreement
or promise of legal validity. Let me illustrate
it briefly here. Someone may say to his or
her partner while they are still young and far
from marriage that it is you or no one else. If
circumstances prevent them from getting
married, the covenant may work against that
person's marriage. A promise was made and
the heaven has recorded it. There are many
careless statements that people make to
impress or convince other people but which
may have enduring consequences. Take the
statement above for example, it was a one-
way commitment. The other person may
get married to another woman or man but the
one that made the careless statement pays
for it.
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Embargo
Have you ever been to a function where
handbags are placed on vacant chairs or
other items to reserve the seats? Or have
you heard such a statement as embargo
placed on importation of something?
Embargo means a prohibition impediment
or restriction on an activity. With the
placement of handbags on a chair, people are
restricted from occupying the seat. In the
same way, many singles are placed under
embargo which restricts people from
approaching them for marriage.

People can lay claim on you without


marrying you and they can spiritually place
embargo on you. A physical illustration is
someone hanging around you always
without having a relationship with you.
Unknown to you, other people that may
want to approach you or come close are kept
away by that person they see with you
always. In the same way, some create
emotional ties as friendship and similar
gestures to the bond of soul tie.
Consequently they put others off. The Bible
says in Luke 11:52 "Woe to you lawyers!
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For you have taken away the key of


knowledge. You did not enter in yourselves,
and those who were entering in you
hindered." Every relationship in your life
that cannot be clearly defined is better
stopped so that you don't allow someone to
put embargo on you and thus lock the gate of
marriage against you.
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Chapter Four
SOUL TIES
The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David,
and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 1Sam.
18:1

The Greek word commonly translated into


'Soul' in the New Testament of The Bible is
'Psuche' and the Hebrew word is 'Nephesh'
both of which can be translated to mean
'life'. Going by the definition of the Hebrew
word most commonly used in the Old
Testament (Strong's 5315) it refers to the
inner part of the being. But it does not
distinguish it from the spirit as clearly as can
be seen in the New Testament.. I have copied
out these definitions to throw light on the
subject.
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nephesh, Hebrew 5315, ???


Strong's
nephesh, from Hebrew 5314
(naphash); properly a breathing
creature, i.e. animal or (abstract)
vitality; used very widely in a literal,
accommodated or figurative sense
(bodily or mental) :- any, appetite,
beast, body, breath, creature, × dead (-
ly), desire, × [dis-] contented, × fish,
ghost, + greedy, he, heart (-y), (hath,
× jeopardy of) life (× in jeopardy),
lust, man, me, mind, mortally, one,
own, person, pleasure, (her-, him-,
my-, thy-) self, them (your) -selves, +
slay, soul, + tablet, they, thing, (× she)
will, × would have it.

psuche, Greek 5590, Strong's


psuche, (pronounced as 'psoo-khay' ;
from Greek 5594 (psucho); breath,
i.e. (by implication) spirit, abstract or
concrete (the animal sentient
principle only; thus distinguished on
the one hand from Greek 4151
(pneuma), which is the rational and
immortal soul; and on the other from
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Greek 2222 (zoe), which is mere


vitality, even of plants: these terms
thus exactly correspond respectively
to the Hebrew Hebrew 5315
(nephesh), Hebrew 7307 (ruwach)
and Hebrew 2416 (chay)) :- heart (+ -
ily), life, mind, soul, + us, + you.

The 'Soul' of any person is the 'I' in that


person. The soul denotes not only the vital
aspect of the person on the physical level,
but also one's emotional energies. It denotes
the person himself, the seat of his or her
emotions, one's inmost being. For example,
when Jesus was agonizing about his death,
he spoke of his soul being crushed (Mt
26:38; Mk 14:34; cf. Ps 42:6). In an entirely
different setting, Jesus promised rest to the
souls of those who come to him (Mt 11:29).
Here, as elsewhere, “soul” denotes the
essential person (cf. Lk 2:35; 2 Cor 1:23; 2
Thes 2:8; 3 Jn 1:2).

Soul tie is therefore the binding together of


the souls of two people through their
emotional energy. It is the uniting of two
people at a level beyond the physical. It
makes the joy of one to be the joy of the other
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and the sorrow of one, the sorrow of the


other. A good example is the case of David
and Jonathan as contained in 1Sam. 18:1 …
the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of
David, and Jonathan loved him as his own
soul. At the level of friendship as this, the
tie is voluntary, that is, it is a conscious move
by the parties and subject to their spirits.
However, where the soul tie is through
sexual intercourse, it is stronger with more
enduring implications.

I want to borrow from what I have written


for the married couples in my book Spiritual
Dimension To Sex and Fidelity In
Marriage. Let us read the account of the
institution of marriage in Gen. 2:24
Therefore a man shall leave his father and
mother and be joined to his wife, and they
shall become one flesh. The joining here is
Soul-tie brought about by sex. This truth is
established further in 1 Cor. 6:16 Or do you
not know that he who is joined to a harlot is
one body with her? For "the two," He says,
"shall become one flesh.". The word 'join'
in this context is more than mere bringing
together. The root word so translated as
'join' is cleave in the King James Version of
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the Bible which in Hebrew is dabaq, daw-


bak' a primitive root; meaning properly, to
impinge, i.e. cling or adhere (Strong Hebrew
Dictionary 01692 in KJV).

Sex is an act that binds two souls together


especially when it is orgasmic. The binding
is such that one cannot be separated from the
other without injuring the two. It is like two
sheets of paper glued together. They become
one and cannot be separated without tearing
both. Our Lord Jesus Christ emphasised this
in Matt. 19:5 "and said, 'For this reason a
man shall leave his father and mother and
be joined to his wife, and the two shall
become one flesh'? This is one
fundamental spiritual implication of sex.
The effect is far reaching.

As a man and a lady go into the love world


through sex, they are spiritually joined
together as a husband and wife even when
they have not chosen to be so physically.
The love world is the orgasmic stage of
sexual intercourse that makes a couple to
lose the sense of self. Momentarily, a
person in such state losses the control of his
or her normal self until the person has come
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out of the state. This is joining together.


When you so join yourself with someone,
you inadvertently accept the responsibility
of marriage to that person. What is this
responsibility? Again let us go into the
Scripture for answer.

In Gen. 3:16 To the woman He (God) said:


"I will greatly multiply your sorrow and
your conception; In pain you shall bring
forth children; Your desire shall be for
your husband, And he shall rule over you."
Note the underlined. The implication for
the woman is that such a man with whom
you have joined yourself will continually
rule over you. This is why a man that has
become history in the life of a lady will still
call the shots for the lady and she will obey.
This is sometimes erroneously called the
power of the first love. From my
experience, I know that it needs not be the
first man in the life of the lady but one who
had journeyed with her into the love world.
This is one major reason why it is forbidden
for a lady to have sex before marriage. You
will only make your self a slave spiritually
and emotionally to the man and impinge on
your allegiance to your husband later in life.
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The implication of Soul-tie is not dangerous


to only the lady. As a man, the moment you
enter into love world with a lady, you have
spiritually accepted responsibility for her.
This also is established in the history of
creation (Gen.2 : 21 23) And the LORD
God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam,
and he slept; and He took one of his ribs,
and closed up the flesh in its place. Then
the rib which the LORD God had taken
from man He made into a woman, and He
brought her to the man. And Adam said:
"This is now bone of my bones And flesh of
my flesh; She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man." Again
this truth is often ignored but when a man
has entered into the love world with a lady,
he consciously or unconsciously becomes
responsible for her. This is the reason a lady
with whom a man has ended a relationship
will still expect the man to respond to her
financial or emotional needs. With
confidence, she would request for help as if
it is mandatory simply because the man had
entered into love world with her.
Unreasonable demands could be made on
the man, and he would still feel obliged to
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the lady because their souls are tied. The


story of Shechem and Dinnah in Genesis
chapter thirty-four is the very popular
example of the situation. Let me cull out
some verses of the chapter. Gen. 34:2-3 And
when Shechem the son of Hamor the
Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he
took her and lay with her, and violated her.
His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah
the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the
young woman and spoke kindly to the
young woman. The word translated to
attracted in this passage is the same as
cleave in KJV and it is the Hebrew word
dabaq, daw-bak' explained earlier on. Here
are verses 12 & 13 "Ask me ever so much
dowry and gift, and I will give according to
what you say to me; but give me the young
woman as a wife." But the sons of Jacob
answered Shechem and Hamor his father,
and spoke deceitfully, because he had
defiled Dinah their sister. And verses 24
26 And all who went out of the gate of his
city heeded Hamor and Shechem his son;
every male was circumcised, all who went
out of the gate of his city. Now it came to
pass on the third day, when they were in
pain, that two of the sons of Jacob, Simeon
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and Levi, Dinah's brothers, each took his


sword and came boldly upon the city and
killed all the males. And they killed Hamor
and Shechem his son with the edge of the
sword, and took Dinah from Shechem's
house, and went out. The people were
wiped out because of the soul-tie between
Shechem and Dinnah. It is still happening
today in various forms.

Before I conclude on the soul-tie, it is


important to note that not all sexual
relationship leads to soul-tie. In such
situations as when one is imposed on the
other or it amounts to brutality to either party
the reverse may be the case. Compare the
story of Shechem and Dinnah with that of
Amnon and Tarmar, in 2 Sam. 13:14 15
However, he would not heed her voice; and
being stronger than she, he forced her and
lay with her. Then Amnon hated her
exceedingly, so that the hatred with which
he hated her was greater than the love with
which he had loved her. And Amnon said to
her, "Arise, be gone!" People who attempt
to soul-tie themselves to others through sex
often blame themselves.
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You may begin to wonder how the Soul-tie


affects your singleness. Let us read together
what our Lord Jesus Christ said to the
Samarian woman He met at the well. John
4: 17 18 The woman answered and said, "I
have no husband." Jesus said to her, "You
have well said, 'I have no husband,' "for
you have had five husbands, and the one
whom you now have is not your husband;
in that you spoke truly." When you have
entered into the love world with several
people, it is as if you have married yourself
to these people and to that extent, you have
torn yourself apart. As a lady, you have
become enslaved to several men all of
whom would rule over you spiritually. And
if you are a man, that has been soul-tied to
several ladies, you have saddled your life
with their burdens.

Whoever you are soul-tied to can


manipulate you selfishly. This brings us to
another form of soul-tie; the parental soul-
tie. The bond of love between a parent and
child could lead to soul-tie. There are
matured men who refuse to leave home and
the decision to remain in their father's house
hinders their ability to get a woman to marry
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them. Sometime, the parent may become


over protective and dictate for the child. At
the extreme end of this parental soul-tie is
the conscious efforts of unbelieving parents
who, in an attempt to secure the love of their
children spiritually tie the souls of their
children to themselves. In this instance, the
parent call the shot and until such a child is
released by the parent his/her heart cannot
be drawn to any suitor. It is my prayer that
as you read this book, the Holy Ghost will
open your understanding to the reality of
your situation and help you to take the
necessary steps to receive your freedom.
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Chapter Five
SATANIC VEIL
And He will destroy on this mountain The surface of
the covering cast over all people, And the veil that is
spread over all nations. Isaiah 25:7

Veil can mean either spiritual blindness as in


2 Cor. 3:14 But their minds were blinded.
For until this day the same veil remains
unlifted in the reading of the Old
Testament, because the veil is taken away
in Christ.. Or covering as in Isaiah 25:7
…The surface of the covering cast over all
people, And the veil that is spread over all
nations. In either case when a veil is cast on
somebody spiritually, marriage may elude
the person. The implication of veil is that
the person is not noticed by people who
would have married him/her. In a lady, the
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veil covers the beauty and in men, it is a


metal covering cast over the man preventing
him to express himself as a man financially
and otherwise such that he is unable to
attract a lady.

Spiritual blindness in a man will prevent


him from noticing his God-given wife no
matter the proximity. It makes men to be
looking at wrong places for their wives.
And over a lady, it may manifest as spirit of
haughtiness which makes her to be
distasteful to men who would have married
her. There was a lady whose husband could
not approach her for relationship while they
were in the same campus because she was
considered to be snobbish. In her words, the
guy was not fashionable and not in her class.
Long after their graduation, the lady was
single and searching. All the supposedly
fashionable men were untruthful. She wept
and cried unto the Lord for a husband and
when God intervened, the man went through
a friend to ask the lady out. After praying
about it, the lady accepted and they are now
married with children. There are people
who have snubbed their supposed husband
because the enemy has blind-folded them
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with satanic veil.

Satanic veil can also take the form of


rejection. When a veil is covering
something, the value of such thing is either
over estimated or under estimated. When
someone is suffering from satanic veil, the
person's value is under estimated. For
example, he/she may appear as an illiterate
to people when in actual fact the person is
well read.

There are ladies that may appear beautiful


today and tomorrow they look less
attractive. This can also be the work of
satanic veil covering their beauty. In Songs
of Solomon 4:1 … Behold, you are fair, my
love! Behold, you are fair! You have dove's
eyes behind your veil. Here it is said that
beauty is behind the veil. Until the veil is
removed, a beautiful lady under veil is not
seen as such. This is equally applicable to
men.

I must also include here the fact that Satanic


veil makes people to close their eyes to the
reality of the circumstance of their partner.
For example, there could be Satanic agent
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targeted at the person with the aim of


destroying his or her life and when someone
else who could see between the lines advises
such a person of the imminent danger he/she
would not heed. This is also spiritual
blindness as I have said. I pray that every
Satanic covering over your life and beauty
be consumed by the fire of Holy Ghost in
Jesus name. Amen.
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Chapter Six
SPIRIT OF DESOLATION
Isa. 62:4 You shall no longer be termed Forsaken,
Nor shall your land any more be termed Desolate;
But you shall be called Hephzibah, and your land
Beulah; For the LORD delights in you, And your
land shall be married.

Imagine this hypothetical case. You were


committed to your academic work. Then
you refused every love proposal even from
the serious minded people. That was
commendable because you wanted to get
your priority right. You were making
friends and looking forward to when you
will be ready for a date and get married.
Suddenly along the line, a parent got ill and
you started taking care of your parent. You
thought it was going to last for few days or
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weeks but the sickness of your parent


spanned for years and wrecked the family.
Your social status suddenly changed. The
relationship that you were having broke
down and gradually your friends left you
one after the other. All of your mates in the
university are married and you are too old
for the guys and girls around you.

David wrote in Psalm 25:16 Turn Yourself


to me, and have mercy on me, For I am
desolate and afflicted. Time of great
affliction is a time of desolation. People that
are in problem are often deserted by friends
and even their own families. Unfortunately,
even the church can desert you. I have
experienced this before. So I say
authoritatively that you can not trust that any
one will stick around you through. Only God
knows who He will use to rescue you. One
thing often signifies the stone of desolation.
In the above scenario, I have used the
sickness of a parent but it varies from person
to person. However the pattern is the same.
Satan afflicted Job with spirit of desolation
as contained in Job 16:7 But now He has
worn me out; You have made desolate all
my company. .Can you recall an incidence
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that occurred and led to people falling out of


your life gradually until you became lonely?

Spirit of desolation makes empty a full


house. You may have been surrounded by
the opposite sex before and a star among
your friends but suddenly you just become
lonely. Sometimes, it is a secret sin of sex
and unexpectedly you got pregnant. The
man declares that he is too young to be tied
down or you discovered that he is already
married. After this, you became stigmatised
among your friends. They started deserting
you one after the other and the guys too keep
their distance. The spirit of desolation can
manifest in any way. However, as I said
earlier on, the reality is the same, you are
deserted. As you read this book, every stone
of desolation thrown into your life, with the
hand of God, let them be returned back to the
sender in Jesus name. What is the cause of
spirit of desolation?

Enemy attack
Spirit of desolation can be a direct attack on
your family. You may just be a victim by the
reason of being a member of such a family.
Sometimes it is aimed at the head of the
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family to wipe out his lineage. But I have


good news for you in the Book of Isaiah
62:1 4 For Zion's sake I will not hold My
peace, And for Jerusalem's sake I will not
rest, Until her righteousness goes forth as
brightness, And her salvation as a lamp
that burns. The Gentiles shall see your
righteousness, And all kings your glory.
You shall be called by a new name, Which
the mouth of the LORD will name. You
shall also be a crown of glory In the hand of
the LORD, And a royal diadem In the hand
of your God. You shall no longer be termed
Forsaken, Nor shall your land any more be
termed Desolate; But you shall be called
Hephzibah, and your land Beulah; For the
LORD delights in you, And your land shall
be married.

The enemy are good at turning the house of


honour into desolation but if one will turn to
God just as David said in Psalm 25:16 then
God will rescue you.

Sin and Curses


Desolation is one common consequences of
sin. If God turns away His face on any
person or family, that person will suffer
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greatly in the hands of the enemy. In several


passages of the Bible, we read of desolation
as a consequence of sin. In our society
today, there are people who have dealt
wickedly with other people and have been
cursed. Such people often suffer desolation.
It is sad to note that many people with
power, however insignificant, even as a
recruit of law enforcement agency, use their
power to oppress. The victims of such
oppression often place curse of desolation
on the oppressor. From my personal
experience, I have established correlation
between certain groups of people and
hardship of their descendants. People recite
Psalm 109 when they feel oppressed and the
consequence is more on the children than
the oppressor him/herself.

Abominations
Certain things are abomination before God
and man. It is an abomination for a parent to
sleep with their children or siblings to sleep
with one another. The case of Amnon and
Tarmar 2 Sam. 13 points to this. In verse 20
And Absalom her brother said to her, "Has
Amnon your brother been with you? But
now hold your peace, my sister. He is your
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brother; do not take this thing to heart." So


Tamar remained desolate in her brother
Absalom's house. People carry out this
sort of abominations under satanic influence
because it draws demons into the lives of the
victims. Many become moody after the
incidence; tormented by spiritual heaviness.
Satanists could be required to sleep with
their own daughters for ritual purposes and
the lady becomes spiritually injured.
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Chapter Seven
SPIRIT OF WHOREDOM
And it came to pass about three months after, that it
was told Judah, saying, Tamar thy daughter in law
hath played the harlot; and also, behold, she is with
child by whoredom Gen. 38:24 (KJV)

Hosea 4:12 says My people ask counsel at


their stocks, and their staff declareth unto
them: for the spirit of whoredoms hath
caused them to err, and they have gone a
whoring from under their God. (KJV)
Literally speaking, whoredom means
harlotry and prostitution but the spirit is
actually a spirit of error. It is an error for
anyone to leave her husband and go after
other men for money or any other thing.
Though this term ordinarily relates to ladies
but in the context of this book, it is as
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applicable to the young men also.

This spirit, when it is present in the life of


someone, it makes the person to be attracted
to wrong persons with whom there can be no
marriage. Some young men are often
attracted to married women and even have
affairs with them. Some are attracted to
older women that are far from them in age.
In the same vein only the inappropriate
people are attracted to persons under the
oppression of spirit of whoredom.

There are ladies that could be tagged


prostitutes but who are fighting the spirit
within them except that they do not
recognise the enemy they are fighting.
People are so possessed sometimes to
destroy men of God or people of high social
class. The story of Judah and his daughter-
in-law, Tarmar, is a biblical example (Gen.
38:12 26). Tarmar was possessed by the
spirit when she disguised as a prostitute to
get Judah and the same spirit attracted Judah
to her. Sometimes, the spirit can be for
vengeance. A man that had violated a young
lady may have a daughter so possessed
attracting only older men and/or other
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inappropriate suitors because someone has


placed the curse on the father.

On the other hand, it can be aimed at


destroying the life of the victim so that after
much affliction, the person may come to
satanic agents for help and consequently
initiated into Satanism. It may also be to
plant a satanic agent in the life of someone.
For example, a man may have a call on his
life while still single and the kingdom of
darkness may wish to have their agent in his
ministry. Spirit of whoredom is sent
through a lady to him. When the man is
sexually pulled to the lady, he may think it is
love and if not careful will enter into
marriage with her.

The most prominent feature of the spirit is


the sexual pressure. The possessed person
feels pressed for sex and often towards an
inappropriate person. In most cases, after
mating with the target, either or both parties
will have regret but the damage would have
been done. Going by the Scripture in Hosea
4:12 above, the spirit causes the children of
God to err.
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It operates in both men and women the same


way. A man possessed of the spirit will be
attracted to ladies unreasonably. He may be
married and wealthy but will constantly lust
after young ladies who sometimes are young
enough to be his daughter. The
unsuspecting target too will feel that she is in
love because of the satanic pull until the
damage is done. In the same way, a lady so
possessed is pulled to inappropriate men
now and again sleeping with her victims for
next to nothing, just the sex.

The most painful aspect of it is that once the


spirit gets the target infected, he or she
becomes promiscuous. It is a spirit of
corruption. Until the spirit is cast out, the
person can not attract suitable marriage
partner and many ladies end up becoming
second wife at best.

The most common door for this spirit into


the life of people is having sex with a carrier
after which one becomes promiscuous. The
other entries include watching of immoral
movies (blue films), staying in polluted
areas such as brothel, watching
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pornography and the like. The more you


feed yourself on such things from the
kingdom of hell the more you expose
yourself to such spirit and threaten your
marriage.

Have you ever prayed and the Holy Spirit


answered you in the first person language
such as “I will do it”? Immediately, you are
happy because you have heard God. But do
you know the demons also suggest to man in
the first person language and you mistake
the voice for your voice? The voice may
say in you such thing as “I love this person”
only to get you into trouble. You wonder
how you can differentiate your voice and
that of such demon. It is simple, if this is
followed by strong sexual pull, it is not from
you but a demon. True love develops out of
appreciation of the person, his or her real
person, not sexual pull. It evolves out of
true friendship and care.
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Chapter Eight
FAMILIAR SPIRIT
'Give no regard to mediums and familiar spirits; do
not seek after them, to be defiled by them: I am the
LORD your God Lev. 19:31 .

The Hebrew word translated to familiar


spirit in the King James Version of the Bible
is owb the meaning of which I have
reproduced below.

0178. ??? 'owb, obe Strong's


Search for 0178 in KJV
from the same as Hebrew 1 ('ab)
(apparently through the idea of
prattling a father's name); properly, a
mumble, i.e. a water skin (from its
hollow sound); hence a necromancer
(ventriloquist, as from a jar):--bottle,
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familiar spirit.

From the above definition, it will be seen


that a familiar spirit is a demon that you
know and/or knows you. I will treat the
issue from each of these perspectives.

Familiar spirit that you know


Here is Lev. 19:31 'Give no regard to
mediums and familiar spirits; do not seek
after them, to be defiled by them: I am the
LORD your God. God gave specific
instruction to His children not to have
anything to do with demons but what is the
reality today? Witchcraft and sorcery have
been decorated in coats of many colours and
many people are being drifted into Satanism
every day. The gospel of Christ Jesus is
being distorted and visualisation is being
taught in place of vision. The emphasis is on
if you can't see it you can't have it. If you
can't see what? Is it the vision that God is
giving you or the image you are creating for
yourself out of your flesh, your lustful
desire? Jer. 29:8 For thus says the LORD
of hosts, the God of Israel: Do not let your
prophets and your diviners who are in your
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midst deceive you, nor listen to your


dreams which you cause to be dreamed.
Many people are learning the art of creating
their own dreams rather than catching the
vision of God for their lives. Many young
people are becoming easy prey for the
enemy through false doctrines of
visualisation and imagination techniques.
The world of imagination is a spirit world
and if one is given to it without caution, the
person's life will be opened to demons. This
is established in 2 Cor. 10: 3 5 For though
we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the
flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are
not carnal, but mighty through God to the
pulling down of strong holds;) Casting
down imaginations, and every high thing
that exalteth itself against the knowledge of
God, and bringing into captivity every
thought to the obedience of Christ; (KJV)

Visualisation techniques to achieve selfish


ambition open people to demon. Though
you may become financially rich but Satan
does nothing for nothing. It may cause you
your marriage among other dangers. When
you master the technique, you get to know
the demon, that is, you get familiar with the
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spirit and the consequence according to the


word of God is ruin (Lev. 19:31).

There are also those who practise sorcery


and witchcraft with familiar spirits. In the
same vein, the price is their marriage. When
they come for deliverance, many a time,
they don't want to give up their spiritism
power but they want a change in their
situation. This class of people include those
called abiku or ogbanje (spirit children that
are believed to have died and come back) in
Nigeria. According to the Scriptures there is
no re-incarnation but Satan deceives people
into believing this by possession of the
babies at birth with a demon such that put a
mark on their body as they died with. By the
reason of this possession, they have the
power to go into spirit worlds and have
fellowship with the world of darkness and
come back to this world. They usually
demonstrate their power in beauty, wealth or
supernatural display. In like manner, the
price for this power may be marriage. Until
you sincerely give up this power, renounce
the devil and consecrate your life to Jesus,
the power of God may not fully manifest in
your life, not even for your marriage.
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The Familiar spirit that knows you


The spirit is familiar with a family and the
family is familiar with the spirit. What is the
implication of this for anyone? The familiar
spirit is the one that ensures evil family
patterns in a family lineage, Some people
call it family heredity. This same spirit
deceives people into believing that their
ancestors have come back in their children.
I have first hand knowledge of this with my
younger son when he was born. As early as
the first day of his life, he displayed the
muscular gesture of my late father and my
sister was quick to say her father had come
back to life. At about the age of two, he
started claiming to be the big daddy but I
noticed that he was not very cooperative at
our family altar. It was at this point that the
Holy Spirit revealed to me that a familiar
spirit is at work. The Bible says in Heb 9:27
it is appointed for men to die once, but after
this the judgment. I rebuked the spirit and
cast it out of my child and firmly corrected
the boy. Immediately all the games of the
familiar spirit stopped.

One of the major works of this spirit is to


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ensure continuity of evil in a family.


Unfortunately, people accept the evil pattern
as the family heredity or are completely
ignorant of it. The pertinent question for a
single person is this, in what way does my
life resemble that of either or both of my
parents other than physically? There are so
many sects today that preach reincarnation
and make people accept the family spirit and
the evil pattern. Family idol is a familiar
spirit and hardly is any family in Africa
without a family idol in the lineage. Until
you stand your ground against every family
idol and renounce them, the evil pattern may
continue in your life.
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Chapter Nine
SPIRITUAL DIMENSION TO
BEAUTY AND ATTRACTION
"Your fame went out among the nations because of
your beauty, for it was perfect through My
splendour which I had bestowed on you," says the
Lord GOD Ezek. 16:14

Beauty
Beauty is the totality of quality or
combination of qualities which delights the
senses or mental faculties; esp. that
combination of shape, color, and proportion
which is pleasing to the eye. This quality
personified is called beauty. Let me say here
that beauty is not limited to the physical
appearance but all other qualities that
attract. What gets you noticed and desirable
is your beauty regardless of your gender. In
my book How to win and marry the man of
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your dream I talked about how to enhance


the physical turn-on but you may be
physically attractive and yet attract no
person for marriage. There are people who
are familiar with such statements as “I like
you as a friend but nothing more, please
don't let us spoil the friendship”. There are
people who bleach their skin, both men and
women, with the aim of becoming more
attractive but they are mostly frustrated
because they fail to attract the people they
intend to attract. I am very careful in my
dealing with such people because I know
that they have very low self-esteem. I don't
condemn them but pity them knowing fully
well that it is natural to desire love but
ignorance to think bleaching will enhance it.
Both beauty and attraction are spiritual
matter.

The Bible says in Ezek. 16:14 "Your fame


went out among the nations because of
your beauty, for it was perfect through My
splendour which I had bestowed on you,"
says the Lord GOD. Physically, God
bestows beauty on people; it is God that
makes one to be comely physically. In fact,
children of God are meant to be handsome
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and beautiful. Ps. 139:14 says I will praise


You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully
made; marvellous are Your works, And that
my soul knows very well. But the death
demon and spirit of infirmity distort the
beauty of people. This is no sentiment. This
is the spirit mentioned in Luke 13:11 And
behold, there was a woman who had a spirit
of infirmity eighteen years, and was bent
over and could in no way raise herself up.
By the operation of this spirit, the woman
had been bent for eighteen years. How old
the lady was we were not told. May be she
was just a lady of twenty five years of age
who had been so bent from age seven or
something like that. The point I am making
is that your beauty may be distorted by
demon. I have seen so many young men and
I see the face of beasts on them. During
ministrations these people have confirmed
this by the manifestation of the demon in
their lives. This demon is responsible for
many people who are deformed in one way
or the other, sometimes with medical
explanations and sometimes without.
People did not have the consciousness of
these spirits before Jesus Christ came but
after Him, His disciples built on the
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foundation He had laid for them. Can you


recall the incident at the beautiful gate (Acts.
3:2 10)? Today medical explanations have
dampened Christian faith such that they
allow these spirits to have swell time.

Let me also say here that there are people


that are extra-ordinarily beautiful by the
workings of demons as well. There are
those possessed of marine spirits and their
skins are sleekly as that of the fish glittering
like glass and beholding to the eyes. Some
are so attractive today and ugly tomorrow.
On the issue of beauty, let me give you the
parting shot from the encouragement of
Peter to the Jews scattered all over in 1 Peter
3:3 4 Do not let your adornment be merely
outward--arranging the hair, wearing
gold, or putting on fine apparel-- rather let
it be the hidden person of the heart, with
the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and
quiet spirit, which is very precious in the
sight of God

Attraction
It is sometimes thought that attraction is a
function of beauty but it is also said that
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You see
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people who are physically beautiful yet


could not attract someone for marriage and
others that are less beautiful physically
attract gorgeous partners. Many ladies have
to turn themselves practically into slaves to
win the love of young men who have no
interest in them. In like manner, some
young men attempt to buy the love of ladies
to their disappointment. In all these cases,
people overlook the truth that our Lord Jesus
said in John 6:44 "No one can come to Me
unless the Father who sent Me draws him;
and I will raise him up at the last day.

Attraction is a force, a spiritual force. When


you are drawn to someone, you rationalise it
by attributing the attraction to the person's
qualities but often time, the attraction
precedes your discovery. Hosea 11:4 says
I drew them with gentle cords, with bands
of love, and I was to them as those who take
the yoke from their neck. I stooped and fed
them. One secret behind the force is the
reciprocity. The more love you give to
people whether known or just
acquaintances, the more love you attract.
Unfortunately, many people love
selectively, often with selfish motive. The
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Bible says in Luke 6:38 "Give and it will be


given to you: good measure, pressed down,
shaken together, and running over will be
put into your bosom. For with the same
measure that you use, it will be measured
back to you." If you can learn to love God
and man unconditionally, your life will
begin to attract love.
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Chapter Ten
THE WAY OUT
I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be
praised; so shall I be saved from my enemies 2 Sam.
22:4

I don't know if you have been able to identify


your situation in the earlier chapters of this
book but now we have come to the crux of
the matter; what has to be done to reverse the
unpleasant situation. Spiritual matter has to
be handled spiritually. This does not imply
going to a stream or river or going to a
mountain or hill. It is coming to Jesus Christ
the Saviour who is abundantly able to
deliver and to save. More so, He is willing
to save you.

One of the greatest challenges that I have


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faced in the ministry is getting people to


accept Jesus Christ for the sake of salvation
of their souls without attaching any
condition to it for our Creator. I want to ask
you at this point, are you truly born again? I
mean, have you given your life to Jesus
Christ and surrendered to Him as Master and
Lord of your life? Don't feel insulted, many
people come to church but are yet to be born
again. Our Lord Jesus Christ said in Matt.
7:21 "Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord,
Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven,
but he who does the will of My Father in
heaven. Many confess Jesus Christ as Lord
and Saviour but they don't trust Him enough
to forsake other gods and their evil ways.

The mission of our Lord and Saviour Jesus


Christ is mainly to deliver the captives of the
mighty, you inclusive. Here is what He said
in Luke 4:18 "The Spirit of the LORD is
upon Me, because He has anointed Me To
preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent
Me to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim
liberty to the captives and recovery of sight
to the blind, to set at liberty those who are
oppressed;. But how many people truly
desire deliverance?
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Many people want to eat their cake and still


have it. There are those who enjoy romance
with their spirit spouses and yet want to get
married in the physical. Many think of
deliverance only when they feel oppressed
but they are not ready to give up on their bad
habits. Deliverance is a process not just a
single anointing. The sequence of the
process is given in the Epistle of Paul to the
Ephesians 6:14 17 Stand therefore,
having girded your waist with truth, having
put on the breastplate of righteousness,
and having shod your feet with the
preparation of the gospel of peace; above
all, taking the shield of faith with which
you will be able to quench all the fiery darts
of the wicked one. And take the helmet of
salvation, and the sword of the Spirit,
which is the word of God. Let us take the
sequence in turn.

Be prepared
'Stand therefore' means be prepared for war.
How do you prepare? The preparation for
spiritual warfare starts with truthfulness.
You need to be truthful to your self and
others. This may not be as simple as it
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sounds though it should not be that difficult.


It simply means you admit the truth of your
life. If you are not sure of your salvation,
you fall on your knees and confess that you
are a sinner and that you believe Jesus died
for you and as such ask God for forgiveness
and that your name be written in the book of
life. Then, you have to be truthful about
your situation. Are you living in a secret sin
that opens the door of your life to Satan and
his cohorts? Admit it to God and ask for
forgiveness. Truthfulness means facing the
reality of your life and the truth of the gospel
of Christ Jesus. John 8:32 "And you shall
know the truth, and the truth shall make
you free."

Next, in accordance with that scripture is the


breastplate of righteousness. Have you seen
the police escorting bullion van? You will
notice their bullet proof jacket; this is the
equivalent of breastplate today. The Bible
says, in the spiritual realm, your
righteousness is your bullet proof jacket.
Righteousness means being right with God.
If any one promises you deliverance while
you are not living right, that person is
deceiving you or is a Satanist. You can not
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expect someone to fight for you when you


are not in good term with such a person. You
cannot expect God to fight for you when you
refuse to have a cordial relationship with
Him. Again, when you get born again, you
take on the righteousness of Christ Jesus but
you need to live your life according to His
standard through the help of the Holy Spirit.
Are you still with me?

Next in the preparation is to shod your feet


with preparation of the gospel of peace. It
means, be prepared to move on from here to
beyond because as Christians, we are
pilgrims, heaven is our home. The
consciousness of heaven gives peace and
makes you daring to the devil. Too many
people are afraid to die and I often wonder
why? I regularly prepare my wife and
children for my death any time though I
know that I cannot die unless God permits it
for a purpose to the glory of His holy name.
In actual fact, I know that I will not die by the
sword of the enemy but my master can call
me home anytime.

The next armour is the shield of faith with


which to quench the fiery darts of the enemy.
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The Bible says in Heb. 11: 6 But without


faith it is impossible to please Him, for he
who comes to God must believe that He is,
and that He is a rewarder of those who
diligently seek Him. I hope you remember
that you are being prepared for the war.
Faith is so important; you need to trust that
God will do your own. He is faithful. The
Lord God had pulled me out of so many
messes in life. I have fallen into sin and He
pulled me out. I have been down and He
raised me up. My life is full of testimonies.
God preserved me for this mission. He
prevented me from some terrible sins.
When my flesh was weak, His strength was
made perfect in my life. I have also seen
someone who was married for over twenty
years before having her first baby at over
forty years of age. Your case can never be
above God but you need to trust Him no
matter the appearance of things. Trust that
no matter the evil projected at you in the
course of the deliverance, the blood of Jesus
will insulate you.

The next important armour is the helmet of


salvation and I so love the interpretation of
Adam Clarke in his commentary. The hope
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of conquering every adversary and


surmounting every difficulty, through the
blood of the Lamb, is as a helmet that
protects the head; an impenetrable one, that
the blow of the battle-axe cannot cleave. He
who carries Christ in his heart cannot be
cheated out of the hope of his heaven. Do
you have Christ in your heart?

You can't go to war and leave your sword


behind, can you? This passage points to the
Word of God as the sword of the spirit. All
the earlier mentioned armour defends and
protects you but your offensive armour and
weapon is the Word of God. The more of the
scripture you know by heart the more your
chances to deal with the enemy spiritually.
The Word of God is His ordinance which
governs the world of man and spirit. Those
in the world of darkness understand this and
they quote the laws of nature to deal with
man. Most of the evil that they do against
man is based on such quotations. Before the
demons can be invoked, they have to say
some things. But as Christians, we have the
supreme laws of nature on our side. For
example, they may associate your life with
the rising and setting of the sun, but if you
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can recall the power that suspended the


setting of the sun for Joshua to win the battle
for the children of God, you can call on God
on such ground and demand that every law
of nature working against you be suspended.
There are thousands of promises of God in
the Bible for His children only for us to
discover them and use them to our
advantage. As we go in this session, you
will need to memorise some verses and use
them regularly.

Time for War


Prayer is not regarded as armour by the
writer of the epistle to the Ephesians. This is
because that is the act of war itself. The
battle field is the mind of man. Warring
means prayer and fasting but the weapons of
warfare are those we have talked about. You
have to be prepared for war before coming
into it. There are many casualties in the
spiritual warfare because they don't know
the principles of spiritual warfare. Let me
ask you again; are you ready for war by the
reason of the preparation that you have
made? In the next paragraphs, I will suggest
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additional ways of getting out the specific


problems and share with you such prayer
points on the issues mentioned so that you
can begin to tackle the enemy and claim
your victory.

It will also be an added advantage if you can


combine these prayers with fasting and
possibly vigils. If you have someone you
trust to join you in the war the better. This is
based on the promise of our Lord Jesus
Christ in Matt. 18:19 20 "Again I say to
you that if two of you agree on earth
concerning anything that they ask, it will
be done for them by My Father in heaven.
"For where two or three are gathered
together in My name, I am there in the
midst of them."
Every session must start with worship and
praise of God in songs and words for at least
ten minutes. Thereafter, you sing a couple
of power songs and begin your prayers
starting with renouncing the devil and his
works and consecrating your life to Jesus
Christ. Confess the scriptures out loud.
Repeat every prayer point three or seven
times.
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Spirit husband/wife
Confessions:
Matt.22:30 "For in the resurrection they
neither marry nor are given in marriage,
but are like angels of God in heaven.

Jude vs. 6 And the angels who did not keep


their proper domain, but left their own
abode, He has reserved in everlasting
chains under darkness for the judgment of
the great day;

Prayer points:
1. It is forbidden for angels to be married.
Every spirit husband/wife in my life, you
have not kept to your domain, so therefore
according to the Word of God be bound in
everlasting chains in Jesus name.

2. Every satanic dedication of my life be


revoked in Jesus name. I renounce every
satanic dedication of my life to any idol in
Jesus name.

3. Every satanic marriage of my life I break


you with the blood of Jesus in Jesus name,
break, break, break, break, break, break,
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break in Jesus name.

4. Every satanic dowry paid for me I refund


you with the blood of Jesus in Jesus name.

5. Every satanic bond of love in my life,


break off by the fire of Holy Ghost in Jesus
name.

6. Every spirit husband/wife be separated


from me by fire in Jesus name.

7. Every spirit guide of my life, I terminate


your appointment over my life in Jesus
name be bound and cast out of my life in
Jesus name.

8. You spirit of immoral thought and fantasy


according to the 2 Cor. 10:4 5, I cast you
down in my life in Jesus name. Henceforth,
I refuse to masturbate in Jesus name.

9. (Anoint yourself as you pray this prayer)


It is written that the anointing breaks the
yoke, every yoke of spirit husband/wife over
my life break in Jesus name.

Masturbation can be difficult to break as a


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habit but with determination, the Lord will


set you free from it. One good way to
overcome it is to get yourself involved in a
project of your interest that is bigger than
you. Then commit yourself by telling
people you have started this project and due
to be completed at a given point in time. The
person you should tell must be someone you
respect and value his/her respect such that
you are engrossed in the project to avoid
embarrassment.

Marital Lock and Keys


Confessions:
The key of the house of David I will lay on
his shoulder; So he shall open, and no one
shall shut; And he shall shut, and no one
shall open. Isaiah 22:22

"And I will give you the keys of the


kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind
on earth will be bound in heaven, and
whatever you loose on earth will be loosed
in heaven." Matt. 16:19

Prayer points:
1. I receive the key of the house of David by
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my faith in Christ Jesus, every door of


marriage shut against my life be opened in
Jesus name.

2. Every action of my parents past or


present working against my marriage be
reversed by divine intervention in Jesus
name.

3. Lam. 3:37 says Who is he who speaks and


it comes to pass, When the Lord has not
commanded it? God commanded that I
shall be fruitful and multiply therefore every
pronouncement against my marriage be
swallowed up by the voice of God in Jesus
name.

4. Isaiah 8:10 says let them speak the word


it shall not stand, every word spoken against
my marriage you shall not stand in Jesus
name.

5. Gal, 3:13 says I have been redeemed


from the curse of the law, every curse upon
my life hindering my marriage, be broken by
the blood of Jesus in Jesus name

6. Every work of iniquity against my


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marriage be destroyed by the blood of Jesus


in Jesus name.

7. Every embargo on my marriage be lifted


in Jesus name.

8. Every covenant that I might have made


consciously or unconsciously, directly or
indirectly on my behalf against my
marriage, I revoke you by the blood of Jesus.

9. Whatever I owe to anybody hindering my


marriage, I pay back with the blood of Jesus
in Jesus name.

Soul Ties
Confessions:
Matt. 18:18 "Assuredly, I say to you,
whatever you bind on earth will be bound
in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth
will be loosed in heaven.

Prayer points:
1. I set myself loose from every ungodly
soul tie in my life in Jesus name.

2. Every satanic cord between me and any


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human being or demon living or dead, be


broken by the blood of Jesus in Jesus name

3. According to 2 Cor. 5:17, I receive


newness of life separate from every ungodly
soul tie in Jesus name.

4. I confess my sexual sin and receive


forgiveness by faith in the blood of Jesus. I
am redeemed from the curse of the law, so
therefore, every soul-tie in my life
consequent to my past sexual sin be broken
by the blood of Jesus in Jesus name.

If there is a particular person (s) that you are


always drawn to rephrase the prayer to
personalise it as follows:

Every soul-tie between me and …………..


(mention the name(s)) break by fire in Jesus
name.

Sexual perversion
Sexual relationship is not as easy to break
but let me remind you that sex not only join
you to your sex partner but also make you to
share of the curses in the life of that person
(read the portion on curse over again). You
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have to determine to break every sexual


relationship outside marriage if you must
enjoy your life now and after your marriage.

For girls, there is always the temptation that


if you don't give in to him you may lose him
but research has shown that the contrary is
true. Men will not let go of a lady that they
have not slept with unless there is a very
strong reason for that. They always feel that
they have lost out. The fear that you may
drop them will often make some to press you
for sex as security but the law of diminishing
marginal utility sets in immediately they
have their way. Ladies should as a rule
refuse to sleep with the man before
marriage. You may have lost your virginity,
let him know that but that you don't want to
repeat the mistake. If you refuse the man
sex until marriage, he will thereafter trust
you with his life. But if not, particularly if
you have lost your virginity before meeting
him, he can not trust you no matter how hard
you try.

For men, it is not easier because there are


also ladies who will make you feel
inadequate. Remind yourself that you are
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not ashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ.


There are evil counsellors who will create
fear in you that she is having it with other
men but tell them that, she has the case to
answer to God if that is true but you trust
God that He will do the best for you.
Remember that Joseph stood his ground to
become the prime minister in Egypt. He
never knew the benefit in material terms
when he refused the sexual advances of
Potiphar’s wife but now we all know that it
pays to be principled for God.

Here are some tips for breaking sexual


perversion:

1. Break the relationship with every of your


sex partners without allowance for
friendship,

2. If in courtship, avoid being alone with


your partner in privacy. If you must discuss
anything that is personal, let it be outside
though far from other people. If he/she is
somebody that you have slept with before, it
is highly unlikely that you will be able to
resist one another when alone together.
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3. Avoid cuddling and caressing however


harmless it may appear. It will always
progress to unquenchable fire inside of both
of you. Make it a law that no kissing or
hugging until marriage. Let your closeness
be limited to handshake at best.
4. Avoid discussion of sex with your friend
or partner it will often arouse curiosity and
desire in you.

5. Finally pray with this scripture Gen. 20:6


And God said to him in a dream, "Yes, I
know that you did this in the integrity of
your heart. For I also withheld you from
sinning against Me; therefore I did not let
you touch her. Saying Lord God you
prevented Abimelech from sinning against
you, prevent me from having sex with
……… until my marriage to him/her
according to your ordinance in Jesus name.

Pray this prayer sincerely regularly


whenever you are tempted and you will be
surprised how God will save you. I am
talking from experience.
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Satanic Veil
Confession:
Isaiah 25:7 And He will destroy on this
mountain The surface of the covering cast
over all people, And the veil that is spread
over all nations.
Prayer points:
1. According to the word of God, every
covering cast over my beauty and glory be
destroyed by the blood of Jesus in Jesus
name.

2. Every Satanic veil covering my eyes to


the truth of my situation be consumed by the
fire of Holy Ghost in Jesus name.

3. Oh Lord, deliver me from every form of


spiritual blindness attempting to pull me
into satanic trap in marriage in Jesus name.

4. You spirit of rejection the Lord rebuke


you in my life in Jesus name.

5. Every power making marriage to elude


me, die over my life in Jesus name
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Spirit Of Desolation
Confession:
Isa. 62:4 You shall no longer be termed
Forsaken, Nor shall your land any more be
termed Desolate; But you shall be called
Hephzibah, and your land Beulah; For the
LORD delights in you, And your land shall
be married.
1. I plead the blood of Jesus for myself and
my family. Every line of confusion as in
Isaiah 34:11 in my family be consumed by
Holy Ghost fire in Jesus name.
2. Every stone of emptiness thrown into my
life and family by the hand of God be thrown
out in Jesus name.

3. According to Isaiah 62:4, I shall no


longer be termed forsaken in Jesus name.

4. In Jesus name the land of my life is no


more desolate.

5. Lord make me a delight of good people


suitable for my marriage in Jesus name.

6. I receive the anointing for marriage in


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Jesus name.

Spirit Of Whoredom
Confessions:
Gen. 38:24… Tamar thy daughter in law
hath played the harlot; and also, behold,
she is with child by whoredom (KJV)

Amos 9: 15 I will plant them in their land,


And no longer shall they be pulled up From
the land I have given them," Says the
LORD your God.

1. Lord I confess my sin of promiscuity and


genuinely repent of it, I receive forgiveness
according to 1 John 1:9 by faith in Jesus
name.

2. You spirit of whoredom and promiscuity


be bound and cast out of my life by fire in
Jesus name.

3. Every satanic force pulling me into


sexual sin lose your power over my life in
Jesus name.

4. According to Amos 9:15 through the


power of God and according to His promise
I will not be pull into whoredom again in my
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life.
5. According to Col 2:13 and 14, Jesus has
forgiven my sin and taken away the
consequence. You demon holding my
marriage because of whoredom, lose your
grip on my marriage in Jesus name.

6. Every spirit of lust in me get out of me by


fire in Jesus name.

7. You power pulling me to wrong people


die over my life in Jesus name.

8. You Angel of God that brought the ram to


Abraham for offering, locate my
husband/wife for me wherever he/she is
hidden and bring us to the knowledge of one
another in Jesus name.

Familiar Spirit
Confessions:
Gen.28:21 "… the LORD shall be my
God”.

Before sharing the prayer points, let me


remind you again that playing with familiar
spirit means playing with hell. Hell is real
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and if you refuse to give up familiar spirits


you will end up in hell non-withstanding
your suffering here on earth. Satan does not
have anything to offer except pain and
sorrow.

Many people seek deliverance but are still


practising visualisation and astral
projection. Whatever you have collected
from Satan must be returned to him. This is
an important step in your case.

Next, you must renounce the devil and all


his works in your life. I will strongly
suggest that you discuss with your pastor or
a minister of God that you trust the anointing
upon him. There are many people in the
deliverance ministry that are complicating
the problems of their victims because they
are satanic agents. Be sure of the power the
minister is operating. Deliverance is not
usually concluded in one session. There
may be manifestation in the first session but
depending on how long the demons have
been in one and how strong they are. You
must be willing, I mean strongly desire
deliverance before you can be separated
from familiar spirits because they are used
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to the environment of your body. Having


said all these, let us take some prayer points
to start with.

Prayer points:
Sing this song: Holy Ghost by fire, fill my
spirit, fill my soul, fill my life 7ce

1. Every spirit in me that is not of the living


God, be bound and be cast out of me in Jesus
name.

2. Every power demon, death demon and


spirit guide in me by power by fire, get out of
me in Jesus name.

3. Every demon assigned against my will,


emotion and body I raise the blood of Jesus
against you in Jesus name get out of me.

4. According to Joshua 3: 15 16 as those


who bore the ark came to the Jordan, and
the feet of the priests who bore the ark
dipped in the edge of the water (for the
Jordan overflows all its banks during the
whole time of harvest), that the waters
which came down from upstream stood
still, and rose in a heap very far away at
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Adam, the city that is beside Zaretan. So the


waters that went down into the Sea of the
Arabah, the Salt Sea, failed, and were cut
off; and the people crossed over opposite
Jericho. So Jesus Christ step into my family
pattern, every evil pattern of my family
lineage stop over my life in of Jesus name.

5. By power by fire I possess my land of


marriage in Jesus name.

Spiritual Dimension To Beauty And Attraction


Confessions:
Ps. 139:14 … I am fearfully and
wonderfully made
Ps. 50:2 Out of Zion, the perfection of
beauty, God will shine forth.
Ps 90:17 And let the beauty of the LORD
our God be upon us,
Isa 28:5 In that day the LORD of hosts will
be For a crown of glory and a diadem of
beauty To the remnant of His people,
Gen. 34:3 His soul was strongly attracted to
Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved
the young woman and spoke kindly to the
young woman.

1. I have given my life to Jesus, God of


glory, according to Zech 2:5 be the glory of
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my life in Jesus name.

2. LORD God perfect your beauty in my life


and let your beauty shine forth in my life in
Jesus name.

3. LORD God, it is written that no one


comes to me unless my father in heaven
draws him, please Daddy, draw your chosen
partner for me for marriage in Jesus name.

4. The power that ordered the step of


Rebecca (Rebekah) into the life of Isaac,
order the step of my spouse into my life now
in Jesus name.

5. Every hindrance to my marriage be


consumed by the fire of God in Jesus name.

6. By power by fire I possess my land of


marriage in Jesus name.

On a parting note begin to worship God and


bless His holy name for great things He has
done. Be expectant because things are
changing with you from now on. Your
marriage is on the way, claim it.
SPIRITUAL DIMENSION TO SINGLENESS
This is Holy Ghost inspired book to open
the understanding of young people to
the reality of spiritual aspects of their
lives. It touches such subjects as spirit
Foreword by
Rev. Rasaq B Akinwale
spouse, marital locks and keys, soul tie,
satanic veil, spiritual dimension to
masturbation, beauty, attraction and
many more.
“The book is simply revealing and interesting. I will buy it
and buy for some people. Every single person needs
the book.” - Ebun Elliott, Youth Corper

“Pastor Yomi Oshin has done a strong ground work on


some crucial areas of sexuality and family life which are
rarely considered seriously by authors on marriage and
family matters” - Rev. R. B. Akinwale, District Overseer,
F.G.C., Oshodi, Lagos.

Pastor Yomi Oshin is the pastor in-


charge of Foursquare Gospel Church,
(Divine Favour Chapel) Fatolu, Ipaja,
Lagos. An Accountant by training,
Marriage Counselor, Public Speaker,
Deliverance Minister and Preacher of
The Gospel of Jesus Christ by
anointing. He has delivered several lectures to women
Yomi Oshin

at both state and national levels. He has also authored


several books on marriage and relationship.
He is happily married to Kenny and blessed with two
sons; Tobi and Seyi.
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