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Increasing numbers of therapists are coming into contact with the problem of
compulsive sexual behaviour disorders. However, it is still a relatively new field
and there is little in the current literature available that enables the therapist to
work with and treat this problem. CBT for Compulsive Sexual Behaviour: A guide
for professionals addresses this by providing a guide to cognitive-behavioural
theory and practice which includes the assessment, diagnosis and treatment of
addictive sexually compulsive disorders.
Beginning with a description of addictive sexuality and an overview of cogni-
tive behavioural therapy in which CBT is presented as the most useful response,
Thaddeus Birchard provides clear therapeutic information about the implementa-
tion of CBT treatment intervention. The chapters included cover the neuroscience
that underpins the addictive process; a ‘how to’ chapter on the use of groups;
paraphilias; trauma and attachment; comorbid disorders and cross-addictions
and analysis on the function of internet pornography, all written from a cognitive
behavioural stance.
Using case vignettes throughout, Thaddeus Birchard draws on his own expe-
rience as a psychosexual therapist, along with the latest research in the field, to
enable the therapist to treat a range of compulsive sexual problems in a way that
can be applied in individual practice or in a group setting as well as how to prevent
relapse. This book will be essential reading for psychosexual therapists, cogni-
tive behaviour therapists and other professional working with sexual compulsive
disorders.
Thaddeus Birchard
First published 2015
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Birchard, Thaddeus, author.
CBT for compulsive sexual behaviour : a guide for professionals /
Thaddeus Birchard.
p. ; cm.
Cognitive behavior therapy for compulsive sexual behaviour
I. Title. II. Title: Cognitive behavior therapy for compulsive sexual
behaviour.
[DNLM: 1. Behavior, Addictive—therapy. 2. Sexual Dysfunctions,
Psychological—therapy. 3. Cognitive Therapy—methods. 4. Sexual
Behavior—psychology. WM 611]
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Thaddeus Birchard moved from New Orleans to the United Kingdom in 1966
to study theology at the House of the Sacred Mission, Kelham, Newark and
Nottingham University. After some years in parish ministry, he moved into psy-
chotherapy. He trained in psychosexual therapy at the Whittington Hospital and
London South Bank University. He proceeded to a Doctorate in Psychotherapy
at the Metanoia Institute and Middlesex University. He then trained in cognitive
behavioural therapy (CBT) at London Metropolitan University. First working as
Dr Thaddeus Birchard and Associates, he founded the Marylebone Centre for
Psychological Therapies in 2007. He is accredited with the College of Sexual and
Relationship Therapists and the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive
Psychotherapies, and registered with the United Kingdom Council for Psycho-
therapy. He is the founder of the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addic-
tion and Compulsivity. He founded the first treatment programme for sexually
compulsive men in the United Kingdom. Along with Joy Rosendale, he initiated
a partners’ programme. He works in three main areas: marriage and relationships,
psychogenic sexual disorders and CBT; he works with depression, anxiety disor-
ders, obsessive compulsive disorder and trauma. His doctoral research was in the
field of hypersexuality and he has focused on sexual addiction since 1988.
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This book is dedicated, with affection, to:
Marie Baker
Kenny, Chan and Alyssia Birchard
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Contents
1 Sexual addiction 1
2 Cognitive behavioural therapy and sexual addiction 14
3 The neuroscience of sexual addiction 31
4 The therapeutic alliance 43
5 The primary interventions 54
6 The principal interventions 62
7 The ancillary interventions 81
8 Group work 91
9 Paraphilias 114
10 Internet pornography addiction 131
11 Trauma and attachment 140
12 Cross addictions and comorbid disorders 150
13 Conclusion 157
Figures
2.1 Generic formulation 22
2.2 Sex addiction formulation 23
2.3 Two minds 25
2.4 Generic hot cross bun 28
2.5 ‘I might fail’ hot cross bun 29
2.6 ‘I am fed up’ hot cross bun 30
6.1 Trauma egg 71
8.1 Clinical outcomes in routine evaluation 105
8.2 Sexual symptom assessment scale 105
8.3 Sexual compulsivity scale 106
8.4 Sexual addiction outcomes in routine evaluation 106
8.5 Composite sexual addiction recovery scores 107
A.1 Cycle of addiction 177
A.2 Descriptive statistics 180
Tables
8.1 The primary treatment programme 97
8.2 The schedule of the women’s groups 102
Foreword
In his new book, CBT for Compulsive Sexual Behaviour: A guide for professionals,
Dr Thaddeus Birchard captures the essence of effective assessment, diagnosis and
treatment of sexually compulsive disorders in the twenty-first century. Although
the field of sexual addiction treatment is a relatively new and emerging one, indi-
viduals who currently present for treatment do so with a very different clinical
presentation from those who sought clinical intervention 20 years ago. The vast
capability of the internet continues to make our world increasingly smaller, and
contributes to those who suffer from sexual addiction having much greater access
to material that has only led them to become more captive.
Dr Birchard paints a very clear picture of sexual addiction as a disorder, cou-
pled with the neuroscientific processes that make the clinical presentation so dif-
ficult to break out of. Focus is given to the aetiology of the disorder and the role
of trauma and attachment failure in its development. He also addresses paraphilia
disorders and internet pornography, and how they sometimes fuel and are fuelled
by the addiction itself.
Ultimately, he addresses sound diagnostic principles coupled with effective
interventions that, if properly applied by the skilled clinician, will help to bring
relief to those who suffer from this illness and desire treatment. Cognitive Behav-
ioural Therapy for Compulsive Sexual Disorders: A guide for professionals will
prove to be a valuable resource to clinicians of all skill levels who are in the field
of treating sexually compulsive disorders.
Dr Matthew Hedelius
Director, Comprehensive Treatment Clinic, Logan, Utah
Preface
Introduction
This book is the product of two things: the outward journey and the inward. It is
a combination of the extrinsic and the intrinsic, the visible and the invisible, the
external and the internal. It is a fusion of these things, a composite of academic
research, clinical and pastoral care. Underneath this external journey there is a
more complicated inner journey. I will begin by writing about the outward and
then write about the inner.
Sipe 1995). I then undertook another direct research project on the presentation
of sexual addiction to psychosexual therapists in the United Kingdom (Birchard
2004). I have also published a small number of articles on religion, sexuality and
the paraphilias (Birchard 2011).
Finally, we have tried to blend a tradition of pastoral care with the therapeutic
frame. We are less scrupulous about the frame than would be normal for other
psychotherapeutic modalities. For example, I give out my personal mobile num-
ber. We are flexible about appointment times and we will often see people at
short notice. We sometimes see people individually and at the same time work
with them in a group. We also engage in email correspondence and text messages
with our patients. In addiction recovery work, there is often more self-disclosure
than would be normal in other therapeutic approaches. This self-disclosure must
be done prudently, for the benefit of the patient and not as an indulgence for the
therapist. We regard these adjustments as enlargements of the frame rather than
disruptions to it.
The Marylebone Centre started with me as sole practitioner. We now have a
psychiatrist, an existential psychotherapist, a forensic specialist, an integrative psy-
chotherapist, a psychoanalytic psychotherapist formerly from the Portman Clinic, a
specialist in eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) and a sexual
health nurse. The clinic is located in Marylebone Lane in central London.
The story behind the story begins long ago in my family of origin. I was the
child of an unhappy, narcissistically damaged and emotionally needy mother.
She was addicted to nicotine, alcohol and prescription drugs. She lost what little
money we had. Everything was sold. Eventually she was arrested for prostitution.
She was emotionally seductive towards me in childhood and sexually seductive
towards me in adolescence.
By contrast, my father avoided me. I am not sure he was my biological father.
The family was divided but stayed together. I belonged to my mother and my
elder brother belonged to my father, thus depriving me of a father and him of
a mother. My brother became a medical doctor and then a psychiatrist. He was
eventually diagnosed with a bipolar disorder and lost his licence to practice medi-
cine. For a time, he lived on the streets. This promising psychiatrist ended up as a
yard man (not even a gardener) for the town’s medical doctor. He died in poverty.
I write about him to give an indication of the level of disturbance in the family and
the severity of the consequences.
I grew up in New Orleans in the 1950s, an uncoordinated, fat child in a slim
athletic male-dominated culture, poor in a place of competitive affluence and gay
in a violent society that hated and despised gay people. Life was experienced as
fearful and dangerous. I felt myself to be contaminating and loathsome. In con-
trast to the violence all around me, I found in the Church acceptance and refuge. A
vocation to the priesthood offered me a way out. I know now that I sought ordina-
tion to quieten the shame. At the same time, before I knew what addiction was, I
became an addict. I used substances and behaviours to anaesthetise loneliness and
self-contempt. Looking back, there were other symptoms of the damage: a need
to control others to keep myself safe, fear of exposure, a marked tendency to split
and compartmentalise, chronic low self-worth masked by grandiosity, difficulty
in setting functional boundaries or respecting the boundaries of others, cyclical
depression, sexual shame, seductiveness, a need for admiration that could not be
requited, and the capacity to manipulate and cajole. I had never been in a relation-
ship with anyone and had little capacity for intimacy. We all have a past and I
would like to apologise to anyone I dismayed during this part of my life. I was, in
the words of a colleague, “a man more driven than called”.
Alongside addiction recovery, there have been a number of startling unexpected
beneficial side effects. I lost my fear of flying, fear of public speaking, my hypo-
chondria, anorexic/bulimic eating patterns, cyclical depression and indebtedness.
Perhaps most indicative of all was the development of a capacity for relatedness,
evidenced by the establishment and maintenance of a first and only committed
relationship. These were the fruits of recovery, not only from addiction but also
from the damage that creates the addictive hunger.
Content
Chapter 1 of this book defines and describes sexual addiction. It contains a brief
overview of the history of the concept. There is a short survey of the most recent
xvi Preface
Sexual addiction
Introduction
The term ‘addiction’ comes from the Latin addicare, which means ‘to be bound
over by judicial decree’. It suggests a loss of will. It describes a state or condition
that seems beyond individual control. There are overtones of slavery to a substance
or a behaviour that is outside volition or personal determination. This chapter will
describe and define sexual addiction. It will outline the historical antecedents and
explore nomenclature. The aetiology of sexual addiction will be considered and
the concept will be located in a variety of contexts. The chapter will examine the
drivers for sexually compulsive behaviour and briefly explore addiction as a means
of affect regulation, as well as considering comorbid conditions. The objections to
the concept of sexual addiction will be considered. The chapter will end with two
illustrative case studies of sexually addicted men. I will use the following terms
interchangeably: sexual addiction, sexual compulsivity, hypersexuality and ‘out of
control’ sexual behaviour. By this use, I attribute no particular preference for one
term over another and no term implies any particular aetiology.
Definitions
Sexual addiction is the label given to a pattern of sexual behaviour that is compul-
sive and preoccupies, that is difficult to stop and stay stopped, and that brings with
it harmful consequences. The behaviour is continued in spite of these harmful
consequences. It is largely used to anaesthetise intolerable affect states. It emerges
from the life story of the addicted individual.
Goodman gives the following definition of sexual addiction: ‘A condition
exists in which the subject engages in some form of sexual behaviour in a pattern
that is characterised by two key features: recurrent failure to control the behaviour
and the continuation of the behaviour despite significant harmful consequences’
(Goodman 1998: 9).
Kingston and Firestone (2008) cite Goodman as writing that the function
of excessive sexual behaviour is to produce pleasure and provide escape from
pain. Carnes and Wilson (2002) propose that a process would be considered an
addiction when the behaviours fulfil the following three criteria: 1) loss of control
2 Sexual addiction
According to Carnes, sexual preoccupation becomes an ‘analgesic fix for the sex
addict’ (1991: 21). He asserts that ‘sex addicts use their sexuality as a medica-
tion for sleep, anxiety, pain and family and life problems’ (1991: 23). This self-
medication view of sexual addiction has also been proposed in other forms by
many researchers from different perspectives (Bader 2008; Fenichel 1946,
reprinted 1996; Kahr 2007; Weisse and Mirin, 1997).
I define sexual addiction as a pattern of sexual behaviour that is made up of
four components:
There is increasing information that some people wander into sexual addiction
by experimentation. They opportunistically look at sexual sites and, by the strong
reinforcement provided by arousal and orgasm, find that they become addicted
(Hall 2013). However, in my clinical experience, I am not persuaded that this
is just a matter of opportunity, but rather a case of opportunity meeting a pre-
existing need.
Descriptive examples
It may be useful to illustrate the concept of sexual addiction with a range of
descriptive examples of the behaviours of clients with whom I have worked on
Sexual addiction 3
an individual basis and in a group setting. Additional material, in the form of two
case studies, is provided at the end of this chapter to further illustrate the concept
of sexual addiction. In each case, both the patient and I have come to the conclu-
sion that the behaviour fits the description of sexual addiction. The cases cited are
composite examples and do not represent any one patient. In my individual work,
I have witnessed the following:
• A young heterosexual male with a female partner and three children exhibited
‘addictive’ behaviours involving exhibitionist homoerotic masturbation in
showers and changing rooms and other public places.
• A middle-aged married heterosexual male had little control over his use
of internet pornography. He would go online for half an hour and then
compulsively masturbate for much of the night while on the internet.
Sometimes this would go on for several days.
• A young gay man took pictures on his phone, at the gym, of men in the
shower without their permission.
• An extremely able young male medical doctor had ritualised telephone sex
while talking through a fantasy of innocence and seduction. He told me that
he wanted a normal married life and a family.
Each of these patients reported some, or all, of the following harmful conse-
quences: powerlessness, self-contempt, personal danger, health risks, loss of
creative time and career opportunities, financial loss and impaired capacity for
intimate relations with a domestic partner.
Within my group treatment programme, participants have revealed the follow-
ing behaviours: one man having anonymous sex with men in public places, one
masturbating to pornography of women being beaten, another masturbating over a
mixed repertory of images of bondage and domination, two men using sex work-
ers in spite of being committed to fidelity in long-term relationships, and two
others compulsively masturbating over heterosexual pornography. In all but one
case, these men have problems with emotional intimacy and being sexual with
significant others. It is important to emphasise that this is not about heterosexual,
homosexual or solitary behaviours. The issue of concern here is not the type of
behaviour, or the amount of time it consumes, but rather the experience, function
and consequences of that behaviour in the life of the individual.