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Relational Bullying

And How It Affects High School Students

By Catherine Hall
Prof. Boerio
2018, June 10
What will we cover?

- What is relational bullying?

- Who does it effect and where?
- Why does it occur in high schools?
- How to avoid experiencing relational bullying!
- What to do and not do IF you have been bullied OR if someone you know is
being bullied!
- What is being done or should be done in the future to stop bullying!

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What is Relational Bullying?
Bullying is the abuse Relational means Put together: Relational
and mistreatment of constituted or Bullying is a type of
someone vulnerable by characterized by social manipulation where
someone stronger, more relationship tweens and teens try to
powerful etc. hurt their peers or
sabotage their social

Webster dictionary and https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-bullying-parents-should-know-about-4153882

What Happens?
Relational bullies often ostracize others from a
group, spread rumors, manipulate situations, and
break confidences.

What is the Goal?

To increase one’s own social
standing by controlling or bullying
another person

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An Example of Relational Bullying

Who is at Risk for Relational Bullying? Where does it occur?
Happens in the Occurs in
work place schools

Happens in the Takes place Takes place

home between friends within families
Relational Bullying: Focused on High School

In high school, relational bullying is particularly harmful due to…

- Close proximity to peers many hours per week
- First (or nearly first) time experiencing social groups
- Lack of maturity
- Lack of knowledge of self
- Lack of love for self
- Competitive atmosphere
- Many new experiences
What is the Origin of Bullying? Why does it happen?
Bullying stems from an internal issue or insecurity of the bullier. Oftentimes this may include
- a violent or unloving family environment
- a feeling of “not enough”, causing the bullier to prove that he or she is “enough”
- A feeling of social standing being threatened by someone who is smarter, more athletic,
more attractive etc.
- An insecurity within oneself of not being worthy of love
- The examples of older siblings or family members who were bullies
- Being bullied in the past
- An school or teacher who does not pay attention to bullying

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How to Avoid Relational Bullying

- Build Self-esteem
- Build Confidence
- Nurture Friendships
- Be Kind
- Love Everyone
- Tell an authority figure about
bullying when it first occurs

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What to do if YOU are experiencing Relational Bullying

First - Can you stop it yourself? Can you walk away? Can you “kill them with
kindness” ?
Second - Can you tell a friend? Can you use the buddy
Third - Tell an authority figure or parent!
What to NOT do if YOU are experiencing Relational Bullying

- Think that it is your fault - nobody deserves to
be bullied!
- Fight back or bully somebody else
- Keep it to yourself and hope it will just stop
- Skip school or hurt yourself to avoid this bully

What to do if someone you know is experiencing Relational
First - Talk to them!
- Show them they are not alone

Second - Stand up for them!

- Peacefully ask the bully to stop, have a conversation

Third - Tell an authority figure or a parent

- Get Help! You are doing the right thing.
What to do if You are the Bully
Perhaps you had not realized this was a type of bullying and now you see
this behavior in yourself….

It is okay! Now that you know, here are few things you can do!
- Make a resolution to not bully anymore.
- Apologize to those you have hurt.
- Make it up to the victims of your bullying.
- Encourage your peers to stop bullying.
- Make a positive difference!
Awareness Efforts
- There are state laws and policies regarding anti-bullying
- Staff training is available to all educators on how to recognize and
intervene bullies
- Staff training is available to all educators on how to recognize and
help victims of bullying
- School safety committees
- Celebrities are speaking out! Link to a list favorite of current high
school students :

Future Ways to Protect Against Relational Bullying

1.Mandatory Bullying Awareness 2.Mandatory Bullying Awareness

Training for all Educators Training for all Parents and

3.Mandatory counselors on high 4.Mandatory aids in classrooms and

school campuses who are trained in free times during the day to observe
anti-bullying strategies student behavior
What Actions Can the Student Take? (and some inspiration!)
An optional video link with a helpful summary:

- Relational Bullying is a type of social manipulation where tweens and teens try to
hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing.
- Everyone can be affected by relational bullying
- Bullies have normally experiences being unloved or bullied
- If YOU are bullied see if you can make it stop, then tell a friend, then tell an
authority figure or parent
- Bullying can be increasingly prevented through mandatory education and more
observations throughout the school day
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