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Rene Nunez
Professor Granillo
English 103
18 January 2019
Society today must face our collective shortcomings when it comes to equality among
people of different gender, race, and sexuality. Feminist ideology, which advocates for women’s
rights to ensure equality of sexes, is working to mitigate this. Thanks to dedicated feminist
scholars, we now have a better understanding of how the patriarchy—male dominant cultures—
promote traditional gender roles that project men as strong and rational and women as
submissive and emotional (Tyson 85). While it would be false to say that society has not come a
long way in terms of addressing these problems but there remains a significant amount of issues
to amend. Music artists like Stella Donnelly make this evident by writing songs like "Boys Will
Be Boys." When looked through the lens of Feminist theory, “Boys Will Be Boys” criticizes the
the damaging effects it can have on women whilst starting much needed dialogue on the subject.
Stella Donnelly's song "Boys Will Be Boys" tells the story of her friend who confides in
her that she feels at fault for her own rape. She addresses this in the first verse and then sings the
chorus which reads, "Why was she all alone/Wearing her shirt that low?/They said, 'Boys will be
boys'/Deaf to the word 'no'" (1:02 - 1:40). Donnelly’s makes the point that society does not
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always want to recognize that sexual violence exists and in turn the blame is turned on the victim
of sexual violence. The later part of the song is then directed towards the rapist and his father
who pushed the blame on the victim. To rebut this she weaponizes the sister of the rapist and
begs the questions as to whether the father would place the blame upon her if the situations were
switched. Donnelly then ends the song with a statement to her friends rapist in which she says
that "Like a mower in the morning/I will never let you rest/You broke all the bonds she gave
ya/Time to pay the fucking rent" warning the rapist that she will not allow him to get away with
Donnelly opens up her song with the fact that her friend feels guilty for being raped
which establishes the narrative that people have conditioned her friend to place the blame on
herself. This becomes apparent when you analyze the lyrics utilizing the concepts established by
Simone de Beauvoir, a French author, existential philosopher, feminist and social theorist, and
political activist. Beauvoir asserts that women have been reduced to objects for men as a result of
men proliferating myth, denying subjectivity, and perceiving females as the other. Beauvoir
believed that social depictions of women, such as those shown in literature, television, and
music, resulted in the myth that all women’s mannerisms and motivations are uniform. These
myths are used as justification for physical and especially sexual abuse (Granillo). The effects of
the myth are present especially in the words of the rapist’s father towards the rapist which appear
in the second verse and read, "Your father told you that you're innocent/Told ya, 'Women rape
themselves'” (1:45 - 2:03). This line highlights the effect of myth in our culture and its use as
justification for sexual violence. The father of the rapist sides with his son, the rapist, and asserts
that he cannot be at fault because rape is self inflicted, but this is clearly not the case. However,
social depictions of women lead him to believe that men are infallible thus the victim is to blame.
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Donnelly recognizes that this is the case and attempts to rationalize the argument by utilizing a
hypothetical. The following lines read,“Would ya blame your little sister/If she cried to you for
help?" (2:04- 2:22). While ideally everyone would recognize the immorality of rape and the lack
of logic in the fathers rhetoric, not everyone will. Donnelly addresses these individuals by asking
the listener, by means of asking the father in lyrics, if they would blame a family member who
suffered the same situation. This hypothetical situation is also incredibly effective because it
shatters the idea of the other that was discussed by Beauvoir. Beauvoir asserts that men fail to
empathize with women on a mental, emotional, and physical level because if they accept the
myths as absolute truth then there is no need to do so. This results in men attributing
consciousness, or self, solely to themselves leaving women to be defined by men as the other
(Granillo). Donnelly recognizes that men will have difficulty empathizing with women they do
not know, so by utilizing a family member in this hypothetical situation it becomes possible for
these individuals to better understand the gravity of the situation as they are able to empathize
with immediate female relatives. Utilizing the ideas presented by Beauvoir it becomes more
apparent that the guilt felt by the friend is a manifestation of patriarchal myths bestowed upon her
Donnelly believes that our society's normalization of sexual violence is an issue of great
urgency and wrote this song as a means to start more necessary dialogue thus contributing to the
feminist movement. The song “Boys Will Be Boys” contributes to feminism as it is a form of
activism. Tyson asserts in his book, Critical Theory Today, that "All feminist activity, including
feminist theory and literary criticism, has as its ultimate goal to change the world by promoting
women’s equality. Thus, all feminist activity can be seen as a form of activism" (123). With this
definition we can establish that Donnelly's song is a form of activism because it attempts to
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change the world and promoting women's equality by bring attention to the issue of rape and
victim blaming. To further define the aim of Donnelly's song we can also establish that this song
addresses issues relating to the second wave of feminism which, as stated in "Harriet Martineau
& Gender Conflict Theory: Crash Course Sociology #8", is focused on female participation in
the labor force, equal pay, reproductive rights, sexual violence, educational equality, and divorce.
Donnelly’s song “Boys Will Be Boys” supports feminist ideology by advocating for change and
While victim blame is a large part of what is being conveyed, there are also other issues
that Donnelly would like to bring attention to. One such issue is the diluting of the word "no."
The chorus of the song reads “They said, ‘Boys will be boys’/Deaf to, deaf to/Deaf to the
word/’No’, ‘no’, ’no’, ‘no’” (2:45 - 3:17). In 2008, feminist writers Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica
Valenti published the anthology ‘Yes means yes!,’ popularizing the phrase. California became
the first state to write affirmative consent into law in 2014 (Mettler, 2018). This is especially
important to note because although society has recognized, through legislation, that consent is an
integral part of a sexual relationship, Donnelly asserts that this legislation alone is not nearly
enough to combat the prevalence of rape. This assertion is shown to be true using Statista’s
graph of Reported Forcible Rape Rate in the United States from 1990 - 2017. This graph
illustrates that reported forcible rape has been increasing from an all time low of 25.9 cases per
100,000 people in 2013 to 30.7 cases per 100,000 people in 2017. Donnelly demonstrates that
this issue necessitates further action to be taken by repetition of her lyrics which assert that the
word ‘no’, in context of sexual consent, is being outright ignored. Lastly, Donnelly very clearly
addresses the problems inherent in the phrase “boys will be boys”. Psychology Today has an
amazing article titled "The Danger of 'Boys Will Be Boys" written by Elizabeth J. Meyer, Ph.D.,
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an Associate Dean of Students and Associate Professor of Educational Foundations, Policy, and
Practice at the School of Education at the University of Colorado, Boulder. This article explains
that the phrase "boys will be boys" prompts students to construct gender stereotypes, allows
unconscious bias to proliferate, oversimplifies significant behavioral issues, and limits the full
expression of children. While not explicitly talking about myth, Meyer asserts that because “boys
will be boys” is targeted towards a single gender it encourages the construction of gender
specific stereotypes that will often be carried with children for a very long time. Subsequently
these ideas will be internalized by young individuals and shape their interactions with people of
opposite gender. While these assertions can be applied to various gendered phrases such as
greeting a classroom as boys and girls as opposed to children “boys will be boys” is more
disciplining children, specifically boys, who display distasteful demeanors. I believe that this
point is specifically what Donnelly was attempting to convey in her song because it closely
resembles the attitude of the father who dismissed the actions of his son, the rapist. Donnelly
makes a point to also address the dilution of the word “no” and the detrimental effects of the
When looked through the lens of Feminist theory, “Boys Will Be Boys” criticizes the
the damaging effects it can have on women whilst starting much needed dialogue on the subject.
Donnelly's act of activism and others like it are integral in enacting significant change to our still
flawed society. The song title alone sets a precedent for how Donnelly feels society perceives the
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issue of sexual violence. "Boys Will Be Boys" will never be an acceptable answer and is a call
for both men and women to stop the normalization of sexual violence and victim blaming as it is
Works Cited
Granillo, Ashley Jean. “Feminist Criticism: An Introduction” College of the Canyons. New
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Mettler, Katie. “'No Means No' to 'Yes Means Yes': How Our Language around Sexual Consent
Has Changed.” The Washington Post, WP Company, 15 Feb. 2018. Retrieved from:
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how-our-language-around-sexual-consent-has-
changed/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.bf7a20540bbe.
Meyer, Elizabeth J. “The Danger of ‘Boys Will Be Boys.’” Psychology Today, Sussex
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“Stella Donnelly - 'Boys Will Be Boys' (Official Music Video)” Youtube, uploaded by Stella
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VcD9EKeCtIY
Tyson, Lois. Critical theory today: A user-friendly guide. 2nd Edition. Routledge, 2006. New
“USA - Reported Forcible Rape Rate 1990-2017 | Timeline.” Statista, Statista, September 2018.
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