Money is a balm and a harm!
 Money can buy us:
If you want to know how rich
you are, then count the things
you have that money can’t
buy! He is rich or poor
according to what he is, not
according to what he has.
Superfluous wealth can buy
superfluities only. Isn't it?
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A bed but not sleep, books but not knowledge;
ornaments but not beauty, medicine but not health;
food but not appetite, servants but not their loyalty;
luxury but not culture, enjoyment but not happiness.
Of many things that money can't buy, top 15 things are..time,
happiness, inner peace, integrity, love, character, manners, health,
respect, morals, trust, patience, class, common sense, dignity.
Lack of money creates a little suffering, but lots of money is not a
cure for everything. So money is just a part of life, but not life itself.
It cannot be and it should not be!
 "No amount of money can make others speak well of you behind your
back", says a Chinese Proverb.
 It’s not money that makes us rich, but it’s our spending habits. "Do
not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after
saving", says one of the richest men. A simple fact hard to learn is
that the time to save money is when you have some.
 Less stuff, less work, less expense.. equals more money, more time,
and more joy! That's why wise men make themselves rich by making
their wants few, and they don't waste their time making money!
 A poor fisherman who knows the beauties of the misty mornings is
much richer than a wealthy man who sleeps till noon in his palace! Or
do you think, sleep is for those who have no access for internet?!
The greatest of all luxuries is.. not desiring them!

 Poverty wants some things, Luxury many things, Avarice all things.
 Money cannot buy happiness but it does buy a more pleasant form of misery!
 Many a time, man thinks that he is buying pleasure, when he is really selling himself to it. "The saddest
thing I can ever imagine is to get used to luxury", says Charlie Chaplin.
 The art of being happy does not lie in enjoying luxuries but lies in the power of extracting happiness
from common things. Isn't it? Better freedom with a crust, than slavery with every luxury.
 Warning: Luxury causes addiction, kills faster than the usual speed.
 Luxury! More perilous to youth than storms or quicksand, poverty or chains.
 Remember, on the soft bed of luxury most kingdoms have expired.
 One must experience poverty, to know the luxury of giving.
 Epicurean paradox: "Give us the luxuries of life, and we will dispense with necessities of life".
 Utility is when you have one cell phone, luxury is when you have a smart phone, opulence is when you
have two and paradise is when you have none. So do not envy the luxurious; pity them!
 Luxury creates more problems than it solves! Do you agree? It's not a luxury if you can't do without it!
 Contemplation seems to be about the only luxury that costs nothing! Isn't it? Or is it the costliest,
because it requires time, which none have these days!

A cycle runs on fat and saves money. A car

runs on money and makes you fat. Which of
them makes us healthy, wealthy and eco-
friendly? The high cost of living is due to the
cost of high living! Can you disprove it?
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Love of money is the root of
half the evil in the world, lack
of money is the root of the
other half. Many despise
riches, it means.. the riches of
other men. If money is a curse,
many want God to smite them
with it !
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The fruit and root of all evil!
 Prosperity does best discover the vice, but adversity does best
discover virtue. In prosperity our friends know us, in adversity
we know our friends.
 A rich man is not one who has the most, but one who needs the
least. He has the most who is content with the least. According
to Yogi Vemana, he who is without any debt, is surely the
wealthiest! It's like the one who has health is young!
 Where poverty is a crime, there money is a malady. Poverty is
not a shame, but being ashamed of it is.
 "India is the only country where poverty does not mean crime,
poverty does not mean sin. The Indian poor are angels. So it is
easy to uplift them", says Swami Vivekananda.
 In general, the poor are polite and the rich are rude. But God
loves those rich men who have the humility of the poor and
those poor people who have the magnanimity of the rich.
 A rich man is not a re-incarnation of God, he is nothing but a
poor man with money! Riches seldom make their owners rich.
 We live by the Golden Rule: Those who have the gold make the
rules. But if a society cannot help the many who are poor, it
cannot save the few who are rich. Isn't it?
 Nothing humbles a rich man better than a poor man who is
unwilling to do 'anything' for money.
 To have money is a fear, not to have it is a grief.
Be careful but not full of care!!!
 Beware: It's better to be safe than sorry!
 Beware of a silent dog and still water.
 Beware of the fury of a patient man!
 Beware of all free advice - including this!
 Beware of the barrenness of a busy life!
 Beware of a person who has nothing to lose! One never goes so
 Beware: The most dangerous thing is illusion.
 Beware of what you ask for, you may get it! far as when one does
 Beware of the friend who was once your foe. not know where he
 Beware: A mousetrap always provides free cheese. is going. So beware!
 Beware: Every wise quote has an opposite quote!
 Beware of the front of a bull and the back of a horse.
 Beware of the flatterer, he feeds you with an empty spoon.
 Beware of little expenses. A small leak can sink a great ship!
 Beware of fishing for compliments, you might come up with a boot.
 Beware of the half-truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong half.
 Beware of too much laughter, for it deadens the mind and produces oblivion.
 Beware: Failure lies concealed in every success, and success in every failure.
 Even after killing ninety-nine tigers the Maharaja should beware of the hundredth.
 Beware! Guard against greed. Life is not measured by how much you own.. says the Bible.
 Beware! Avarice engenders disrespect, rashness error, and over-circumspection loss.
 The fearfully over-cautious get into many troubles, than the usual, so be..be..beware!
 Beware: It's better to meet the danger than to wait for it and die of fear!

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The most courageous act in
the world was, is and will
be..to think for ourselves..
aloud! To think is difficult,
to act is more difficult and
the most difficult is to act
in accordance with our
thinking. Isn't it?
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You cannot hang men for what they think!
 All the problems of the world could be settled easily if only men
were willing to sit quietly and think! The trouble is that men very
often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because
thinking is such a hard work. Our minds are lazier than our bodies!
 Belief is when someone else does the thinking. Believing is easier
than thinking. Hence more believers than thinkers.
 Those who will not reason are bigots, who cannot reason are
fools, and slaves dare not use their reason!!
 In day-to-day life, the wise are instructed by reason, average
minds by experience, the stupid by necessity, and the brute by
instinct only. Few minds wear out; more rust out.
 We can lead a man to knowledge but we can't make him think!
 If we had to earn our age by thinking for ourselves at least once
a year, how many of us would reach adulthood?
 If everyone is thinking alike, then no one is thinking, or only one
does all the thinking! Do others think twice before they think?
 Think like a man of action, act like a man of thought. Got it? But
many think not with their head but with their pride!
 Machines should work; people should think. Is it happening?
 "We think too much and feel too little. We need humanity..more
than machinery. And we need kindness and gentleness more than
cleverness. Without these life will be violent and all will be lost",
warns Charlie Chaplin. So think higher, feel deeper.
At the gate of patience there is no crowding.
The reward of patience
 Patience is a bitter plant but it bears sweet fruit. Patience reaps peace
and rashness regret. "One minute of patience, ten years of peace", says is patience. Patience is
a Greek proverb. Infinite patience brings immediate results. Got it? the art of concealing
 The two most powerful and invincible warriors are.. patience and time. our impatience! O Lord!
Patience wins the race of life! There are two cardinal sins from which all Please give me patience,
others spring: impatience and laziness. and give it to me
 Patience does not help always, but impatience never helps. Patience is
not about how long one can wait. It is about how well you behave while RIGHT NOW!
you wait. The secret of patience is doing something else in the meanwhile.
 "An ounce of patience is worth a pound of brains", says a Dutch Proverb.
"Patience is the companion of wisdom", says St. Augustine. But we must
first have a lot of patience to learn to have patience. Isn't it?
 All human wisdom is summed up in two words: wait and hope. The key to
everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by
smashing it. "Let him that hath no power of patience retire within himself,
though even there he will have to put up with himself", says a saint.
 We can learn many things from children. How much patience we have, for
instance. With them, our patience will achieve more than our power.
 Indifference is an excellent substitute for patience. Much better is
detachment. It's not very different from courage. It just takes longer.
 Patience and tension are opposites of each other. Patience makes us
mentally strong and tension makes us strongly mental.
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People who think themselves
to be virtuous, unknowingly
make a vice, i.e., always
dwelling on the sins of
others! Counting other
people's sins does not make
anyone a saint. Other men's
sins are before our eyes; our
own are behind our backs.
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Sin is a pleasure and pleasure is a sin!
 The seven deadly sins of the Christian church are greed, pride,
envy, anger, gluttony, lust, and sloth. Satanism advocates indulging
in each of these sins as they all lead to physical, mental and
emotional gratification. Sin is the assassin of the soul.
 Pleasure is the foundation for all vice and selfishness is the soul
of all sin. This is the synopsis of all holy books.
 Hindu tradition has five fatal sins: killing a cow, stealing gold,
gambling, womanising, and the fifth one is making friends with
such a sinner! Sin is a spiritual illness. It's highly contagious!
 Every saint has a past, every sinner has a future. So hate the sin
but not the sinner. A sinner repenting for sins is no more a sinner;
a saint, so arrogant of his sainthood is no longer a saint.
 There are four things every person has more of than they know:
sins, debt, years, and foes. Do you agree?
 He that falls into sin is a man; that grieves at it, is a saint; that
boasts of it, is a devil. They sin and grin! For them, the only way
to get rid of temptation is to yield to it.
 Today's greatest sin is the refusal to delay gratification.
 It’s always easier to avoid temptation than to resist it.
 Not until we take God seriously will we ever take sin seriously.
The goal is to rise spiritually, not simply to avoid sin. He who
looks Godward has his back to sin. It is no sin to cheat the devil.
 Lord, forgive me! I am a sinner, who's probably going to sin again!
Religion is the most powerful alternative to God!?

 "When I do good I feel good, when I do bad I feel bad, and

that is my religion", says Abraham Lincoln. "Science without
religion is lame. Religion without science is blind", says Einstein.
 "Kindness is the foundation of all religions, pride is the parent
of sins", says Tulasi Das. Pleasure is the bait of sin.
 Religion is like a man in a holy place thinking about being
good. Spirituality is like a man out doing good, thinking about
God. Religion is like holding on to a rock in the middle of a
raging river; spirituality is learning how to swim. Religion is a
textbook, Spirituality is soul work. It's home is the heart.
 Religion is for those who don’t want to go to Hell. Spirituality In case of the Almighty,
is for those who have already been through it. religions are many! But when
 In the modern world.. capitalism is religion, banks are temples, it is a matter of money.. all
bankers are priests, wealth is heaven, poverty is hell, rich people
are saints, poor people are sinners, commodities are blessings,
seem to be of the same
money is God. Isn't it? Religion is behavior and not mere belief. religion! We should keep God
 People in general are equally horrified at hearing religion doubted, in the heart and money in the
and at seeing it practiced. bank. But modern man keeps
 A religion that gives nothing, costs nothing and suffers nothing, money in the heart and God
is worth nothing.. says a saint. It's more than rite and ritual.
 "Below the navel there is neither religion nor truth" - a proverb.
in the temple!
 Our real religion is what we do when the sermon is over!
 God wants spiritual fruits, not religious nuts.
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 Trust in God but tether your camel!

 "He needs no other rosary whose thread of life is strung with beads of
love, service, charity and renunciation", says Kabir.
 "All seek the Lord in a moment of need, none in a moment of joy. He that
seeketh him in a moment of joy never comes to grief", says Kabir.
 Always pray to have eyes that see the best, a heart that forgives the
worst, a mind that forgets the bad, a soul that never loses faith, or just
pray for a tough hide and a tender heart.
 Pray as if everything depends on God, and work as if everything depends
on you. Because prayer is not a substitute for work, thinking, watching,
suffering, or giving; prayer is a support for all these efforts.
 "I prayed for twenty years but received no answer until I prayed with
my legs", says Frederick Douglass, an escaped slave!
 "Two hands working for others can do more than a thousand clasped in
What God receives most
prayer. To fold the hands in prayer is well, to open them in charity is
is flattery, not worship. better", says a French proverb. A noble deed is a step towards God.
Top 3 prayers that God  If we could all hear one another's prayers, God might be relieved of some
frequently receives.. 1) of his burdens! Isn't it? God has no other hands than ours.
to earn money without  "Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is a daily admission of
one’s weakness", says Mahatma Gandhi. That's why God does not listen
working. 2) to be smart
to the prayers of the proud. So defend me, God, from myself!
without studying. 3) to  "I cannot believe in a God who wants to be praised all the time, and You
eat without getting fat! should never trust a person who prays in public", says a wise man.
 The secret of prayer: Pray to GOD by HEART, not just by HABIT.
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Most people like short prayers and heavy prasada!

 O God! From unreal lead us to the real, from darkness lead us to light,
from death, lead us to immortality. Lead me from death to life, from
falsehood to truth, Lead me from despair to hope, from fear to trust,
Lead me from hate to love, from war to peace. Let peace fill my
heart, my world, my universe.
 O Divine Master! Grant that I do not seek so much to be consoled as
to console, to be understood as to understand, to be loved as to
love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are
pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to everlasting peace!
 When we pray, God hears more than we ask. He gives more than we
imagine. But in his own time, in his own way, and according to his
own wisdom. Let us keep faith. God's delays are not His denials!
 I believe in the Sun, even when He is not shining.
I believe in love, even when I do not feel it. God grant me the
I believe in God, even when He is silent: These lines were found serenity to accept the
scrawled on a cellar wall at a concentration camp in Germany. (Where things I can’t change,
thousands of people were tortured to death, mostly for racial reasons!) the courage to change
 "The greatest prayer is patience", says the Lord Gautama Buddha.
the things I can, and
 Is prayer your steering wheel or your spare tire? The trouble with
our praying is, we just do it as a means of last resort. Isn't it? the wisdom to know the
 When you can’t put your prayer into words, God hears your heart. difference!
He can pick sense out of a confused prayer.
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 God’s answers are wiser than our prayers!

 I asked God for strength but

He gave me difficulties to struggle with!
I asked God for wisdom but He gave me problems to solve!
I asked God for courage but He gave me dangers to overcome!
I asked God for love but He showed me suffering people to help!
I asked God for favours but He gave me opportunities to utilise!
I asked God for prosperity but He gave me energy to work!
I received nothing I wanted but I received everything I needed!
I asked God for everything to enjoy life,
but I realized that He gave me life. It's more than anything.
 One day I asked God to move the mountain ahead of me, but He
said no, because he wanted me to experience the joy of being
on a mountain top.
 When God wants to make a man, he puts him into some storm.
God’s three answers for our  The best way to handle life, is to put your life in God’s hands.
God has never made a mistake, and will never make one!
prayers are..
 If our words fly up and thoughts remain below, remember words
1. Yes, without thoughts never go to heaven!
2. Not yet,  Most people do not pray; they only beg!
3. I have something better in  "What men usually ask for when they pray to God is that two
mind! and two may not make four", says a proverb. Let's not do it!
 "Weaving a net is better than praying for fish at the edge of the
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The believer is happy; the doubter is wise. Is man one of God's blunders, or
is God one of man's blunders?
 Look back and thank God, look forward and trust God, Because God is more talked about
look around and serve god, look within and find God. than the devil, but followed less.
 God is so big, he can cover the world with his love; so small, It seems that many render only
he can curl up inside our hearts; so wise, he knows all our
desires but grants what is good for us. He gives us enough lip service to God like me! Most
to meet our needs, not our greed. people wish to serve God, but
 "Adore God as you would if you saw Him, for even if you see only as his advisers! I wanted to
Him not, He sees you", says a Prophet. St. Augustine says, be an atheist, but there weren't
"Compared to God man is nothing. Yet we are everything to enough holidays.
God! God loves each of us as if others don't exist".
 "Whatever I am offered in devotion with a pure heart.. a
leaf, a flower, a fruit, or water, I accept with joy", says the
Lord in the Bhagavad-Gita. God sees hearts as we see faces.
 God helps those who help themselves, and God helps those
who cannot help themselves. Which is right? Both, because
God helps those who are tired of helping themselves or busy
helping others. But never does he help the lazy!
 Don't be greatly worried about all the problems of the world.
That's my job! ..yours lovingly, your God!
 People see God every day, they just don't recognize him,
says Vedanta. Think how? (Man - Desire = GOD).
 God is at home. It’s we who have gone out for a walk!
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 Success needs a ladder, not a road.

 Success is.. knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum
potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others.
 Success is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to success.
 Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of
enthusiasm. Because there is no failure, only feedback. Failure is not the
opposite of success, but a part of success. In fact failure is success in
progress! One may fail many times, but he is not a failure until he gives up.
 Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems,
wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom. This
is the key to success. In fact, there are no keys to success, only tools.
 Many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to
success when they gave up. To know how to wait is the secret of success.
 From success to failure is one step; from failure to success is a long road,
and the road to success always runs uphill. The road to success leads
The secret of success
through the valley of humility, and the path is up the ladder of patience and
is making our vocation, across the wide barren plains of perseverance. As yet, no short cut has ever
our vacation. When been discovered. So it's not about success, it's all about progress.
passion meets work,  The successful people are the ones who can think up stuff for the rest of
work becomes a the world to keep busy with. Isn't it? "To be successful, look for the job you
will take if you don't need a job", says Warren Buffett!
hobby. No rules for
 There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot succeed:
success will work if Those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.
we don't.  I hold the key to my own success! (You do too!)

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The door of success is marked "push" and "pull."

 Some people dream of success, while others wake up and

work hard for it. Some people succeed because they are
destined to, but most people succeed because they are
determined to. "We can do anything we want to do if we
stick to it long enough", inspires Helen Keller.
 "Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day
out. There is no elevator to success. You have to take the
stairs always.. ONE BY ONE!", says Mark Twain.
 The first step of getting what you want is having the courage
to get rid of what you don't want, and don't let what you
cannot do interfere with what you can do. Success without many problems
 Success in life is a multiple of two best factors: Self-effort is just a victory. But success
and Divine grace. Replace excuses with effort, replace laziness
with determination and grace will be bestowed. Success is a
after overcoming problems
ladder which cannot be climbed with hands in your pocket. makes history. Real success is
 Stop chasing money and start chasing your passion. Don't how high you bounce, when you
struggle for a salary. Do strive for excellence. Don't set your hit the bottom! A hard fall
goals by what other people deem important. means a high bounce... if you’re
 At first they will ask why you are doing it. But stick on! Later made of the right material.
they will ask how you did it!
 Top secret: Do not wait for success, go ahead without it.
 A great success story is always full of failures! Think why?
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Do we really gain anything,
if we conquer the whole
world and lose ourselves in
the process? Ours is a
world where people don't
know what they want and
are willing to go through
hell to get it!
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You can't be a howling success by simply howling.
 Success= dreams+ hard work+ dedication.
Success= I.Q.+ E.Q.
Success = 99% Attitude + 1% Aptitude.
Success = Sweat + Sacrifice.
Success = 1% inspiration + 99% perspiration.
Einstein's equation of success is A = X + Y + Z.
Where A = Success; X = Hard work; Y = Play;
Z = Keeping one's mouth shut.
 One of the hardest things in life is not to handle failure, but success!
Success has made failures of many men.
 If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend,
experience your wise counsellor, caution your elder brother, and
hope your guardian angel. Success is the child of two very plain
parents.. punctuality and accuracy.
 "The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical
and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing
weary", says Thomas Alva Edison. There is no secret ingredient!
 The one and only secret of success is, if you want to die for
something, the whole universe conspires to help you to achieve it.
 Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph.
Success is a personal standard, the highest that is in us, becoming
all that we can be. If we do our best, we are a success.
 If you go in search of honey, you must expect to be stung by bees!
Success.. no excuses please!

 The blue print for success..

believe while others are doubting,
plan while others are playing,
study while others are sleeping,
decide while others are delaying,
prepare while others are daydreaming,
begin while others are procrastinating,
work while others are wishing,
save while others are wasting,
listen while others are talking,
smile while others are frowning,
commend while others are criticizing,
persist while others are quitting, Working hard in something
If we have such confidence, practice and persistence,
we don't like is called stress.
believe me, success is ours!
 No man is a failure who is enjoying his life. Because real success Working hard for something
means, liking what we do, liking how we do it and finally liking we love is called passion! It's
ourselves. But don't forget.. NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF. not hard work really, it's all
 People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing! happy work! It takes many
 The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you've
years to become an
got it made. That's why many are sincere at least in faking that!
 Those who lift trophies of success are those who do what they do overnight success.
without stretching their necks to see who else is doing what?!

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A worldly prayer:
O God, if you can’t make
me rich, make my
neighbours poor; if you
can’t make me thin, make my
neighbours fat; if you can’t
make me intelligent, make
my neighbours forgetful! If
you give me 10 crores, I
will build a great gorgeous
temple.. worth 2 crores!
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The world is full of cacti, but we don't have to sit on them.
 The main dangers in this life are the people who are over enthusiastic
about changing everything, or highly stubborn about changing nothing..
 Everybody wants to save the Earth, but nobody wants to help his own
mother with the dishes. "Everybody thinks to transform humanity, but
no one thinks of changing oneself", says Leo Tolstoy. But it’s easier to
change oneself than everyone else. That's why a saint prayed every
day: Lord, reform Thy world, beginning with me.
 If everyone cleaned their own premises, the whole world would have
become perfectly clean. Likewise, if everybody minded their own
business, the world would go round a good deal faster than it does.
 Those who are at war with others, are not at peace with themselves.
He who cannot cut the bread evenly cannot get on well with people.
 "I like to see a man proud of the country in which he lives. I like to see
a man live so that his country will be proud of him", says Lincoln.
 The biggest change in the modern world is that the young don’t learn
from the old, they teach the old about the world today.
 We live in a world where we give our pounds to those who have too
much and our pennies to those who have too little!
 The question isn’t whether the world is perfect. The real question to
consider is: If it were, would you still be in it?
 We try to change the world, and the world tries to change us. So I
found out that I can’t change the world, and the best I can do is to
learn to live with it. The world changes only from within!
I am the best author of my life. Life is 50% what we make it
and 50% how we take it. The
 I am strong because I know my weaknesses. real problem begins, when we
I am beautiful because I'm aware of my flaws.
I am fearless because I learnt to recognise illusion from reality. overthink of how others take
I am wise because I learn from my mistakes. it! The unhappiest people in the
I am a lover because I have felt hatred. world are those who care the
I can laugh because I have known sadness. most about what other people
I sympathise with the miserable, because I know what it is to may think! In our concern for
suffer! But I know, I have to improve a lot!
 Real difficulties can be overcome. It's the imaginary ones that are others, we worry less about
difficult to conquer. Other's feelings are not always facts. So let improving ourselves.
us do our best and do not worry. Stop imagining and start living!
 Forgive many things in others; nothing in yourself. We cannot
control the evil tongues of others; but a good life enables us to
disregard them. . If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the
back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.
 What we really are, matters more than what other people think of
us! Isn't it? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for
others. But all charming people have something to conceal, usually
their total dependence on the appreciation of others. The desire
to impress others is one of the worst forms of mental imprisonment.
 The bad news is.. you can't make people like, love, understand,
validate, accept, or be nice to you. You can't control them either!
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Yesterday I was clever, so I
wanted to change the world.
Today I am wise, so I am
changing myself. People laugh
at me because I am different,
I laugh at them because they
are all the same.
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My biggest fear in life is to be average.
 I choose to live by choice,not by chance;
I choose to make changes, not excuses;
I choose to be motivated, not manipulated;
I choose to be useful, not used;
I choose to excel, not compete;
I choose self-esteem, not self-pity;
I choose to listen to my inner-voice,
not the random opinion of others.
I am more interested in what I can create
than in what I can consume;
in what I can share than in what I can own!
I choose to think and walk in the footprints
of the great; not blindly follow the crowd,
like a sheep in a flock!
Would you like to follow my path?
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself, any direction you choose!!
 You're not lost, so long as you know your way back home.
 Mankind's obsession with money and greed has them going down
a one way street to their demise. Modern man is busy.. in
manufacturing his way into extinction. What do you think?
 The world gives a way to the man who knows where he is going.
 Yes, be different, but not for the vanities of being different.
Conquest of the self is most gratifying!

 "The only conquests which are permanent, and leave no regrets,

are our conquests over ourselves. Victory over oneself is better
than victory over others. Not even a God could change into
defeat the victory of a man who has vanquished himself. Your
sworn enemy cannot harm you as much as your thoughts
unguarded. But once mastered, no one can help you as much",
says the Lord Buddha. Self-control is the greatest pleasure.
 We start growing when we have a hearty laugh at ourselves. It
makes the heart lighter! A lighter heart lives longer.
 The truest test of independent judgment is being able to dislike
someone who flatters us, and to admire someone who dislikes
us! Can we ever do that? Competition is the spice of
 If you have ever successfully resisted getting angry, then you sports; but if you make spice
know what it is like to resist a demon. Have you ever tried? the whole meal you’ll be sick.
 The intelligent desire self-control; but children want candy! If we continuously compete
 To know how to dispense with things is to possess them!
 If you have control over yourself, you have no desire to control with others, we become bitter.
others. Isn't it? Self-control leads to every kind of control. To become better, the only
 I am, indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself. No man person you should ever compete
is free who is not a master of himself. So make sure that your with is yourself. You can't
worst enemy is not living in between your own two ears. hope for a fairer match.
 Imagine that you are in control of your life. Now, the question
is: Why do you have to imagine this?
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 If animals could speak, mankind would weep.

 No two persons in this world are just alike; and both of them are glad for it!
 There are only two forces that unite men: Fear and interest. Two things
control men's nature.. instinct and experience.
 "The true value of a human being can be found in the degree to which he
has attained liberation from the self", says Albert Einstein.
 The man who thinks he can live without others is mistaken; the one who
thinks others can’t live without him is even more deluded.
 "One can live magnificently in this world if one knows how to work and how
to love", says Leo Tolstoy. True life lies in laughter, love and work.
 "I fear the day technology will surpass our human interaction. Then the
world will have a generation of idiots", says Einstein. He adds, "I do not at
all believe in human freedom in the philosophical sense". Schopenhauer’s
saying..'A man can do what he wants, but not will what he wants'! This
Among all the realization prevents us from taking ourselves and other people too seriously.
creatures, man alone It is conducive to a view of life which, in part, gives humour its due".
is born crying, lives  All are made for two reasons: to teach them better or to bear with them.
 Zoo: An excellent place to study the habits of human beings. Isn't it?
complaining and dies
 When a man’s best friend is his dog, that dog has a problem.
disappointed. Man  Man is the only animal that can remain on friendly terms with the victims he
is the only creature intends to eat until he eats them.
who refuses to be  I know at last what distinguishes man from animals; financial problems.
what he is.  The trouble with people is that they can't or don't understand people.
 God’s greatest tragedy is the creation of mankind. Do you agree?
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Threats and insults never rule a country!
A slave of sense
 If our actions inspire others to dream more, to do more, to learn pleasures can't become a
more, and to become more, then we are true leaders. Leadership master of himself and a
is not a position or a title, it is action and example. leader of mankind! A
 The challenge of leadership is..to be strong, but not rude, simple test of leadership..
to be kind, but not weak; to be bold, but not a bully;
to be thoughtful, but not lazy; to be humble, but not timid; turn around and see if
to be proud, but not arrogant; to have humour but without folly. anyone is following !
He should lead from the front, but not too ahead of his followers!
 "It is easy to get a thousand soldiers, but difficult to get one
general", says a Chinese Proverb.
 "When you can’t make them see the light, make them feel the
heat", says a leader! "But a leader should be slow to punish, and
quick to reward; praise loudly, blame softly", says a proverb.
 A good leader is the one who has sense enough to pick good men
to do what he wants to be done, and enough self-restraint to
keep from meddling with them while they do it!
 A true leader must be able to command with an iron fist, not just
with a humble heart! A leader must inspire or his team will expire.
 There is a significant difference between a leader and a cheerleader.
One measure of leadership is the calibre of people who choose to
follow him. Isn't it? So it's the last secret of leadership: Be the
kind of leader that you would like to follow.
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A great leader does not create
followers, he always creates
more leaders. A good leader
inspires confidence in himself,
but a great leader inspires
people’s confidence in
themselves! Avoid putting
yourself before others and
you can become a leader among
men", says Lao Tzu.
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Leadership, like swimming, can't be learned only by reading.
 No man can be a great leader unless he takes genuine joy in the
success of those under him. A good leader is one who takes a
little more than his share of the blame, and a little less than his
share of the credit. No man will make a great leader, who wants
to do it all for himself or get all the credit for himself.
 A leader is one, who can see more than others do, who can see
farther than others do, who can see before than others do, who
knows the way, shows the way and goes the way.
 There are 5C's which make a good leader. They are
1) Character 2) Commitment 3) Courage 4) Confidence
and 5) Communication. People buy into leaders through the 3R’s
of Leadership: Relationship, Reason, and Results.
 Leadership is the power of one harnessing the power of many.
 "Try to be a good follower first, then you are fit to become a
great leader. One has to learn to obey first, so that one will be
able to command later", says Swami Vivekananda. You cannot
be a leader and ask others to follow you, unless you know how
to follow too. If serving is below you, leadership is beyond you.
 If you command wisely, you'll be obeyed cheerfully. If you want
to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive.
 Those who command themselves, command others. The best
boss is the one who bosses the least. Isn’t it?
 A good leader is the one who speaks last and acts first.
Flatter a fool than fight him!

 What valour cannot win, flattery may. Only two groups of people fall for He who praises me on
flattery; men and women. People sometimes say that they hate flattery,
but most of them only hate the manner in which it is done!
all occasions is an
 Flattery is like chewing gum, enjoy it without ever swallowing it. enemy, who despises
 The most skilful flattery is to let a person talk on, and be a listener. me or a knave who
 A fool flatters himself, but a wise man flatters the fool. Fools are always wishes to cheat me! A
engrossed in praising themselves and criticising others. But wise men flattering friend is a
keep on evolving by finding fault with themselves, and praising the good
in others. Were there no fools, there would be no flatterers.
secret enemy!
 The trouble with all of us is that we would like to be ruined by praise
than be saved by criticism. The sweetest of all sounds is praise. Isn't it?
 He flatters me because he knows I am flattered by his flattering me. And
that flatters him. So when he flatters me, he is really flattering himself.
It seems to be a Vedantic explanation of flattery!
 Refusal of flattery may be a desire to be flattered twice!
 Remember, man does not live on bread alone! Sometimes he needs a
little buttering up. Flattery is the lime that catches many a human fly.
 I have been complimented many times and they always embarrass me;
Because I always feel that they.. have not said enough.
 We despise those who flatter us too much, and hate those who do not
flatter us at all. Do you agree? But they only flatter us who can't hit us!
 Remember, gossip is what you say about the objects of flattery when
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 How defenseless we are in the face of flattery!

Compliments cost nothing,  Flattery: Something a person tells you about yourself, that you've
yet many pay dearly for suspected all along. It is the sweet food of fools! Yet now and then
even men of wit, will condescend to take a bit. Flattery is like throwing
them. It is hard to resist dust in people's eyes, generally for the purpose of picking their pockets.
a flatterer who gets it  Praise is only a debt, but flattery is a present. It is easy to flatter, but
right, you see! He never difficult to praise. Who are fond of praising men on their faces are also
seems absurd! Flattery is fond of damning them behind their backs.
useful when dealing with  We swallow with one gulp the lie that flatters us, and drink drop by drop
the truth which is bitter to us, or we may reject it altogether!
youngsters. Try and see!  Flattery is praise without foundation. Flattery and knavery are blood
relations. He who knows how to flatter unduly, also knows how to
slander unjustly! The same man cannot be both friend and flatterer.
 Nothing in the world is harder than speaking the truth, nothing easier
than flattery. But flattery makes friends and truth makes enemies.
 Positive criticism is a good friend, but insincere flattery is a fake friend.
 "It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should
trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs", says Confucius.
 He that rewards flattery, begs it. Self-love is the source of all flattery.
People with high self-esteem are easy victims to flattery. If we never
flattered ourselves, the flattery of others would not hurt us.
 To speak ill of others is an indirect way of praising ourselves. Isn't it?
 "Grant me prudence to avoid him that flatters me, and patience to
endure him that contradicts me", prays Thomas a Kempis, a saint.

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