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21 Jan. 2019
found that I need to work on actively listening, and that I go to great lengths to avoid
confrontation, or expressing differences of opinion with people I don’t know very well. For this
part of the assignment, I interviewed my boyfriend, my mom, and my sister. I will examine their
responses to the provided questions, and reflect on what I learned about myself from this
experience.
My sister said I’m competent in this area and getting better. She noted that I try to explain
what I’m looking for in a concise way, although sometimes I get frustrated if I’m misunderstood.
She also stated that I’m straightforward when I need someone to do something specific, rather
My mom said I’m good at sharing my opinion with her, but I’m not keen on sharing
things that are antagonistic. I’m good at helping her understand what my problem is. She
mentioned that I don’t only rely on voice, but also body language and tone.
My boyfriend said that I am very thorough when addressing my concerns about anything,
and I explain why I feel the way I do. He stated that I’m very perceptive on whether he’s
confused on a subject or not, and I give him clarification without him needing to ask. He said I
always think about what to say before I say it, and usually provide a well-articulated response.
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He explained to me that I sometimes cut people off when they’re speaking, to express my point
further, before letting them respond first. When he and I have a disagreement, I think through
things that are bothering me, and include points and explanations about why I feel that way. This
Listening
My sister mentioned that I sometimes interrupt people while they’re speaking, but she
can tell that I’m listening to her as long as I’m not looking at my computer or phone. She further
explained that she isn’t bothered by me interjecting into the conversation if what I’m saying is
contextually appropriate, but that it does bother her when she is telling me a story and I interrupt
with something seemingly unrelated. She said I ultimately show her that I’m listening by making
eye contact, and responding in a way that shows I am paying attention to the conversation.
My mom said I am a great listener, and I don’t just purely sit and listen. I also ask
comments shows her that I’m empathetic, I’m listening, and I’m paying attention. She said when
we are face-to-face and she is talking to me about a problem, I am sincerely listening. She did
say that the only time she feels as though I am not giving my full attention to the conversation is
My boyfriend said I am a good listener, aside from cutting others off when they’re
speaking. He said I show him I am listening by adding to the conversation, I consistently look
like I’m engaged in what he’s saying, and I make eye contact. He stated he has always liked that
I turn to face him if we are having a serious conversation, and he feels as though I am listening
even if we are not facing each other or making eye contact. One thing he mentioned is how I
don’t listen to anything else when I am watching TV. He said that there are a few times when
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he’s caught me not paying attention to the conversation because I’m focusing too much on the
TV.
Nonverbal Communication
My sister said I make great eye contact and I seem open to talk to with my body
language. She said my face can’t lie, though, and explained how she can always tell when I’m
upset about something, based on my facial expressions. She said I often get distracted by things
happening outside of the conversation, and she can tell because I focus my gaze on something
else. I could improve this by not allowing myself to get distracted by things outside the
conversation.
My mom said that she can tell when I’m listening to her, I make eye contact, and I
communicate well with my body language. She said if I’m facing away from her, for example:
while cooking dinner, and we’re talking, she can still see that I’m participating in the
conversation.
My boyfriend said that I’m expressive with my body language and facial expressions. He
said I am able to hold his attention when I’m speaking, and when I’m listening, and he feels that
I express things to him in an effective way, whether verbal or nonverbal. He stated that I don’t
show him that I’m unapproachable or reserved, and that I always seem open to communication.
He explained that my body language gives off a positive attitude, shows that I’m easy going, and
Communication Strengths
suggesting solutions to problems when she asks for them. She said I am engaging, and can hold a
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stimulating conversation. She explained how I empathize really well when she expresses a
My mom said I put her at ease when I speak with her, and that my shyness used to get the
best of me, however, she can tell that I’m working to overcome it. I used to never order for
myself in restaurants, or talk to anyone on the phone, and I have been able to work through these
things to become better. She said I have a very nice tone of voice when speaking, and I come off
as a very nice, caring, person, who feels for everyone I talk to. She mentioned that I
communicate differently depending on who I am with, which to her is a strength, because I alter
My boyfriend said I hold eye contact very well, and I speak with clarity in any given
situation. He mentioned that I smile a lot when communicating, and it shows people how
likeable I am. He also said I am good to hold a conversation with, especially if I am passionate
about the topic. It is safe to share our views and opinions with each other, even if they are
equally.
Communication Weaknesses
My sister stated that I need to improve my active listening skills, and work on not being
easily distracted during conversations. She also stated that I can get defensive when people
suggest I do something differently, depending on the situation. I also tend to shut down when
having an argument with my family, and I often take myself out of the situation to calm down.
Then, once I’ve calmed down, I am able to talk through the situation more effectively.
My mom said I have always had problems talking in front of people, or being the center
of attention. She knows that I don’t like to speak publicly in groups or for presentations. She said
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that this depends on the situation as well, and referenced the speech I gave for my sister’s
wedding, which was in front of many people, although they were family members and friends.
She said I sometimes have a hard time getting to what my opinion is, depending on the situation,
and included that my communication has improved over the years as I’ve matured.
My boyfriend said I am afraid to speak my mind at times. I sometimes default away from
verbal communication, and expect him to understand what I’m wanting. He said that a lot of
confusion could be avoided if I would just tell him explicitly what I want.
My sister said conversations with me are engaging, and our conversations are usually a
lot of fun. We are able to have discussions about things that we don’t always agree upon, but we
hear each other out, and come to an understanding of the other’s opinion of the topic. She also
said that I make smart, funny comments about situations in everyday life.
My mom said I am one of her favorite people to have a conversation with. She said we
learn from each other, mentioned that I come up with great jokes or remarks on the spot, and
My boyfriend said having conversations with me is fun, and that I’m very approachable.
He said I am great at holding a conversation for hours, and if we do have differences of opinion,
mentioned if I have something that really bothers me, then I sometimes shy away from it and
have to be coerced into opening up about what’s bothering me. Other than that, I am clear and
concise about my feelings and what I want. He likes that I never come into a conversation
wanting to argue, and also mentioned how I make him laugh and have a quick wit, which he
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Summary
I was aware of a lot of the things that my mom, boyfriend, and sister mentioned to me.
For instance, actively listening, getting distracted, and shying away from confrontation. I was
pleased to hear them all say that I make them laugh, and that they think I’m funny. I also enjoyed
hearing that I make adequate eye contact and that I am engaging to communicate with. I liked
getting the opportunity to ask my loved ones these questions, so that I could see how others’
perceive me as a communicator. I also feel that this project benefits me immensely, as it has
pointed out some of my communication “blind spots,” or things that I did not initially see, but
now do. Having other people point out aspects of your communication skills that you did not
originally notice, can allow you to work on these aspects and, will improve your relationships
and daily interactions. I completely enjoyed participating in this assignment, and I would like to