Consequences of Having An OFW Parent Amo

Consequences of having an Overseas Filipino Worker- parent among Adolescents 1
Consequences of having an OFW Parent among Adolescents
A Research
Presented to the Faculty of College of Arts and Sciences
Our Lady of Fatima University
Valenzuela City
In Partial Fulfilment
Of the Requirements for Sikolohiyang Pilipino
Atenas, Paulyn P.
Bobis, Clarence Faye DL.
Enriquez, Jennifer H.
Palabay, Maria Teresa Z.
Perez, Gieleen S.
Tucay, Laurice R.
Valeriano, Kristine Yna Mae
2016
Table of Contents
Table of Contents Page
Abstract
Introduction 1
Significance of the Study 7
Objective of the study 7
Conceptual framework 8
Related Literature and Studies 9
Methodology 15
Research Design 15
Sampling technique 16
Participant’s Demographic Profile 17
Data Collection 19
Interview Protocol 20
Data analysis 20
Results and Discussion 21

Theme 1: Longing for the Parental Role of the OFW parent 21
Subtheme: Pagtatampo 25
Theme 2: Distant Relationship 26
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity with the OFW parent 29
Subtheme II: Understanding Discrepancy 29
Theme 3: Numbness to Absence 30
Theme 4: Change in Family Structure 31
Theme 5: Financial Awareness 33
Theme 6: Debt of gratitude 35
Summary of Findings 38
Theme 1: Longing for the Parental Role of the OFW Parents 38
Subtheme: Pagtatampo 38
Theme 2: Distant Relationship 39
Theme 3: Change in Family Structure 40
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity with the OFW parent 41
Subtheme 2: Understanding Discrepancy 41
Theme 6: Debt of Gratitude 42
Recommendation 44
Appendices
A Participants Demographic Profile
B Research Interview Questionnaire
C Transcribed Interviews
D Response Strand Number
E Cluster and Themes
F Validators
G Informed Consent
H Personal Data Sheet
References
Curriculum Vitae
Abstract
This study explores the consequences of having an OFW- Parent among
adolescents. The main objective of this study is to show the impact of growing up without
the physical presence of the parent. The study is conducted among adolescents from
ages 13 to 19 years old whose parents are working abroad for not less than two years.
The study utilized qualitative phenomenology type of research. The participants were
purposefully selected using purposive sampling in which the participants are selected by
referral. The researchers created an interview questionnaire to have an in depth
understanding regarding the study. The results are based upon the experiences and
perspectives of the respondents on each of the questions. Using thematic analysis, the
responses of the participants are categorized into themes namely: longing for an OFW
parent, distant relationship, numbness to absence, change in family structure, financial
awareness, and debt of gratitude.

Introduction
“Money is something that’s earned with great difficulty. My mom’s having a hard
time earning money. Without even having the time to see me, from morning to dusk, mom
works to earn money. People earn money to be happy” (Shin, 2016). Those words came
from a certain child’s mouth. See how that child interprets the importance of money and
work for people? But if all people do is earn money from ‘morning to dusk’, do people
really live happily?
According to the Philippine Statistical Authority (PSA), from the 2015 Survey of
Overseas Filipinos (SOF), the total number of Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW) until
September 2015 was estimated to be 2.4 million already. The proportion of male OFWs
is lower compared to the female OFWs. As stated by the Philippine Overseas
Employment Administration (POEA), the highest number of OFWs was deployed in
Saudi Arabia, followed by United Arab Emirates, Singapore, Hong Kong, Qatar, Kuwait,
Taiwan, Malaysia, Bahrain and Canada. The remittances of OFWs according to World
Bank are a key factor for the resilience of the Philippines because their contribution to the
dollar reserved of the country sustains the level of economic growth of the nation.
Agricultural workers, sales workers, clerical workers, production workers, administrative
and managerial workers, service workers, professional, technical and related workers are
the major occupational groups of Filipinos deployed abroad.
Most of the Filipinos grew up in a condition or community where working abroad
seems to be a solution for many of their problems. Motivation in productivity at work must
equal the reward system and should be perceived by the workers as fair and just.
It must sustain his basic and a little of his social needs for him to be happy at work and
his relation with his family but the economic condition at present is in the subsistence
level, and due to extreme poverty, lack of public support for local entrepreneurs, higher
income and salary in abroad, in comparison to the low salary offered by local companies,
high unemployment rate in our country as the job opportunities in the local setting
continue to go down the drain, and less job opportunities for new graduates. There
is also a pressure from the family and peer influence, “Palakasan system”, unstable
economic condition, discrimination experienced when applying jobs locally, contractual
employment arrangement as the performance is limited to five month duration of
employment and poor benefits here. Filipinos also wants to enhance their career and
professional marketability globally. In addition, there is the opportunity to travel and
experience abroad, government supporting OFWs, and some even see it as a trend now,
are the unending problems in the country and some of the reasons why many Filipinos
want or need to work abroad. Most of them consider it as the only option to get out of their
impoverished situation. It can also be because it is our culture to work under other people,
being employed abroad and doing the same work that we do in the Philippines provide
us double or more income and salary than being employed in our own land, and that is
why numerous Filipino workers in the local setting are not happy at work. Also, Inductivo
(2011), indicates that OFWs choose to sacrifice their time away from their family, not to
mention the climatic and cultural orientations of those countries that every OFW has to
live with. Some treat this country as a tunnel where they cannot see any light at the end
of it, while others see it a hopeless case so the main reason why they are working abroad,
in accordance with Ramirez (2016), is to look for better opportunity, to earn more, to save,
to provide more for their family, for their kids, to prepare for a better and brighter future.
In short, to have a better life, even though it is not easy to work abroad, to be an OFW,
not only for the person abroad but also for their family in the Philippines. Some achieved
their goals, but many of them failed to do so. Likewise, Kasilag (2015), commended that
OFWs’ work, wealth, and honor associated with it do not automatically bring them the
quality of life they perceived to have. The loneliness of being away from your loved ones,
the discrimination from overseas employers, and the high cost of living abroad is very
sacrificial for OFWs (Fernandez, 2013).
In a perfect world, children would have a happy life, happy home, with two loving
parents who are financially and emotionally stable. However, there is no such thing as a
‘perfect world’. How great would that be if everyone encounters that? Unfortunately,
reality is so much different from fantasy. Not all children live a happy life, have a happy
home, with two loving parents, and that includes those children who have an OFW parent.
Some of the existing studies states that children who are left behind experience
psychological and emotional stress, are less well socially adjusted than those in intact
families and develop materialistic attitude (Arguillas, 2012). For young children, they only
see migration as a form of abandonment of their parents. They also have much higher
expectations from their mothers to provide care for the family even if they are working
abroad (Reyes, 2007). “The saying, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder,’ simply isn’t
true sometimes. Absence just makes the heart forget. It doesn’t just happen between a
husband and a wife. It also happens between mothers and their children,” says the
president of Laguna OFW Confederation, Lily Bru. Though children recognize the
economic benefits they are gaining, they do not see this as a form of care. They even
tend to be angrier, confused, apathetic and more afraid than recognize other children.
Absence of mother could be the most disruptive in the life of children. For pre-school
children (0-5 years old), the absence of mothers is easier to accept since no bonding
has yet been established, but for those who are 6-16 years old, it is more difficult for them
because they had already known and established affection with their mothers (Reyes,
2008). A study by Conaco and Battistella (1996), presented that children with absent
mothers showed poorer social adjustment and suffered impeded psychological
development which was contradicted by Scalabrini (2003), where the outcomes
substantiated that children have generally adjusted socially because of strong social
support from family members and relatives. Adolescents may either be receptive or
resentful and may not see the other side of the picture. It could however a positive or
negative effect. For them, they’re somewhat happy because of the materialistic benefit,
but the painful one is they cannot hide their sadness. Parental absence creates
displacement, disruptions, and changes in caregiving arrangement. It is experienced
particularly as a sense of loneliness and abandonment. They generally lagged behind
for there is always an emotional aspect that goes along with parents leaving their children,
especially for long periods of time. The parents’ long period of absence gives
an OFW child the feeling of ‘permanence of absence’ that is very similar to those
experiences of orphans and abandoned children. Their vulnerability to abuse and
violence is one of the worrying aspects of parental absence. Among the common form
of abuse are verbal, intimidating and it hurts the other children. Children’s closeness to
their parents is reflected in their children’s choice of their parents as role model.
Leaving the country means detachment from family members and be contented with
phone calls, having conversations through sending messages, parent-child association
with money, gifts and many other things are sacrificed in exchanges of life abroad.
Thus, parenting becomes a long distance love affair and their absence is substituted
through different technological mechanisms and this techy parenting will still not replace
the emotional bonding that can develop in the relationship when they are
physically present. Just as how children cannot negate the fact that they are longing for
love and care of their biological parents even they have their extended family who is
looking out for them.
One of the major stressor of Filipinos, as stated by Jocano Jr. (2016), is rejection
or fear of abandonment. According to him, a person feels rejected when he is not being
loved, not being valued, and when he’s not that appreciated by someone. Children who
were left behind felt abandonment, for they think that their parents have chosen work,
instead of them. It is also written above that they experience psychological and
emotional stress. Studies have shown that parents admit to have little information on
emotional development, even though they also admit that they know that they have an
important role and their actions have great influence on their children’s emotional
development. Negative emotional influences of family life that are common and harsh,
particularly in the child’s discipline model, can lead to problems with emotional
development and even psychopathology (Serapio, 2014). The absence of a parent may
contribute to those negative emotional influences of family life. In the Philippine culture,
Familistic is where the family is the core of paradigm. What is a family, anyway? It is a
common question for many children living on a planet filled with diversity. Children often
refer family as something that has a mom and a dad and brothers and sisters living
together. Still, this is not necessarily the case these days because of certain economic or
social life situations that makes it hard to answer the children’s question, “What is a
family”. No matter how much love a relative gives, the child still feels like something is
missing in him and that is the love from his real parents. Paternalistic is having some
sense of protectiveness coming from the father, but it can also be from the mother. And
because one of the parents is working abroad, the paternalistic is not enough for the child.
Then there comes the Personalistic that is oriented towards the other, the kapwa, the self
in the other, or other in the self, the sense of interconnectedness that most of the time fills
the missing part on the child that was left behind. They are the friends, the peers. But it
cannot always fill that hole from the child’s inside because “loob” is a social responsibility.
However, that responsibility cannot be handled by the others for that child all the time
because they have to fix their insides too that results to stress of the child. Since some of
them don’t have enough proper guidance because of having an OFW parent, it will be
hard for them to accept that distress is a normal part of life that people are expected to
endure. That leads to the kapwa problem which is a factor of drug addiction, depression,
and worst, suicide, which is an expression of frustration when the person’s loob eroded
which triggers greater loss of control. Children focuses on kapwa problem instead of
focusing on what he can do and see life as not that miserable. They may sometimes look
rebels or they really became rebels just to have the attention that they are seeking from
their OFW parent. Those are just some of the consequences of having an OFW parent.
The significance of this study would be beneficial to the participants which are the
adolescents, in order for the child to recognize the value of treasuring their parents despite
of the difficult circumstances in their lives. Also, for the OFW parents, this study gave
further understanding of the importance of proper guidance and appropriate care for their
child even when they are working abroad. This would also give them ideas on the
possibilities of what their child might feel once they get separated and how they should
approach them. For the Society, that some people become independent and responsible
knowing that their parents are even working abroad for their sake while some people may
act otherwise. Thus, this study would help the society be more understanding of the
differences on the development of adolescents with OFW parent in comparison to those
age-mates who grew up with the physical presence of their parents. Also, this paper would
serve as a great source of information to support future researches. This would serve as
a reference and guideline in order to fulfill the specifications in creating their own research.
Furthermore, this paper would benefit the readers as they would be given contrasting
opinions and knowledge towards understanding the behaviors of those adolescents that
is separated to their parents because they are working abroad.
The main purpose of this study is to determine the consequences of having an
OFW parent among adolescence. Specifically, the objective of this study is to show how
vital the presence of the parents in the midst of their children’s growing up years. The
effects of the absence of parents to children’s attitude & behavior will also be determined
in this research. Lastly, this study also aims to determine different factors that affect a
child’s development, considering the changes in the family structure and financial
aspects.
The researchers considered the changes in the child in terms of parental relation,
financial stability, maturity and social support.

First, the researchers gathered the data through interview in terms of the initial
changes in the child, the numbness due to the long absence of a parent/s and the feelings
of neglect and abandonment in Parental Relation. This is the time where
the child adapts the changes of set-up in his/her life. It gives the child a
feeling of loss or emptiness as he/she learns to adjust in the absence of his/her parent/s
(Atienza, Kapunan, Noe & Panlilio, 2012).
Then, the researchers wanted to know the consequences of having stability
financially. The child’s responses to financial benefits are observed. Furthermore, as the
child matures, he begins to understand the reason why the parent had to work abroad.
So, the researchers aimed to know the mindset as the child grows up on how they deal
with the situation and problems.
Moreover, when it comes to social support in terms of connectedness, an effective
communication is important for parent-child relationship to be able to communicate
openly. In general, if the communication with the parent is good, then their relationship
with others is good as well. Thus, through this study, the researchers would know the
positive and negative consequences of having an OFW parent despite of having someone
to lean on like extended family.
Many existing literature have emphasized the impact of family structure and
family changes in relation to a child’s well-being. One of the consequences of having an
OFW parent is the absence of a maternal or paternal figure which may affect a child
psychologically. A study conducted by Bandy and his co-researchers (2011),
reported that parents’ relationship quality is consistently and positively associated with a
range of child and family outcomes, including: child behavior problems (externalizing),
child social competence; child school engagement, child internalizing (depression),
parent-child communication, and parental feelings of aggravation.
Ellis and colleagues (2003), found that “earlier onset of father absence was
associated with a corresponding increase in girls’ rates of both early sexual activity and
adolescent pregnancy”. Several researchers have supported and identified the absence
of biological fathers from the home as indeed a major component influencing both early
sexual activity and teenage pregnancy. Secure Teen (2013), also states that in fatherless
family set-up, girls are more likely to experience teenage pregnancy than those girls who
live with both parents present at home. The most usual explanation given for this is stress.
The stress hypothesis suggests that girls are eager to engage in sexual intercourse and
pass on their genes in tough times. With the father absent, the household income tends
to stay low while stress stays high. It is also mentioned that, due to this constant exposure
to stress, the girl tends to ignore the dire consequences of pregnancy at such a young
age and consequently goes on with it.
Apparently, both boys and girls are affected by the absence of the parent,
but how it affects them and how they expresses their reactions to this matter differ.
According to Eddy and Reid (2001), as cited in Effects of Absentee Parents to the
behavior of Second year students of San Juan De Dios Education Foundation, Inc.
(2014), boys are more vulnerable to the stressful changes than girls are in general.
This results for boys to display externalizing behavior, while girls are more likely to display
internalizing behavior.
Aside from teenage pregnancy, Secure Teen (2013), stated that the absence of
the father may cause the child delinquency behavior. When a teen gets over fear, this will
alter by their anger resulting from feeling of abandonment. They will feel that life is unfair
aside from the fact that their parent abandoned them. Seeing and surrounding by people
who are apparently enjoying a good life, these teens tend to rebel against the society.
Even if the teen grew up in their mother’s case with only the father missing, the tendency
of developing criminal behavior is strong. By just watching their mother working well by
herself just to provide for them and without the help of the missing father, makes them
feel bothered and eventually they will feel fury fills them up. The absence of the parent
may be prone to drug addiction or consuming alcohol before they reach their legal drinking
age for the reason that without someone or a parent guiding them, they will start using
the freedom to harm themselves.
According to Bowlby’s (1973) attachment theory, the lack of contact between an
infant and parent will interfere in the development of the infant’s attachment to the parent.
After an attachment has developed, separation from the parents will develop emotional
reactions from sadness to anger, which in turn, will interfere with the optimal development
of the child (as cited in Eddy & Reid, 2001). If the attachment of the child and parent are
not met, the child may show attitudes which are associated with having low self-esteem.
According to Baumeister, Bush, & Campbell (2000), children with low self-esteem are
shown to be uncertain and confused about themselves, afraid to take risks and has
potential loss, shy, modest, easily get influence by people surrounds them, and they have
lack of confidence.
According to UNICEF (2008), the research shows that children’s relationship and
parents who work abroad also underwent big changes. There is recognizable lack of
interaction and both the number and quality of relationships had changed. It is very
important for parents to be able to communicate openly and effectively with their children.
It benefits every member of the family. In that case, the relationship of the parent and
child will improve their communication. When parents communicate effectively with their
children, they are showing them respect. Children then begin to feel that they are heard
and understood by their parents, which is a boost to self-esteem. On the other hand,
communication between parents and children that is ineffective or negative can lead
children to believe that they are unimportant, unheard, or misunderstood. Such children
may also come to see their parents as unhelpful and untrustworthy (Family Times, 2003).
Migrant remittances transferred to families in home countries directly become part
of household budget that can be spent on basic needs or serve as their extra funds. A
research on Economics took interest in finding the impact of receiving remittances in
household behavior. Families that receive cash abroad spend appreciably larger shares
of expenditure on education, health, durable goods, transport and communications, and
housing by lowering the share on food expenditures. In the study, there are observational
evidences shown that remittance-receiving families are having difficulties managing their
savings (Ang, Sugiyarto, & Jha, 2009). While most parents believe that children are not
affected by financial burden, a study by APA (2010) states that parent underestimate how
much stress their children experience and the impact their own stress has on their
children.
A research from Central Luzon State University (CLSU) aimed to determine the
role of solo parents in academic performance of children of OFWs. The study
was composed of 49 left parent whose spouses are working abroad, 49 children of the
left parent whose ages range from 6 to 12 years old. Using Pearson’s r, the data of the
study reported that the socio-demographic profile of the left parent in terms of income is
negatively correlated with the children’s academic performance (Cabansag-Taguiam,
2005). In addition to this data, a study by Asis & Ruiz- Marave (2013), studied parental
migration and school outcomes among young adolescents. Specifically, they
hypothesized that parental absence due to migration can negatively affect the school
performance of children. On the other hand, positive school outcomes are best associated
with a migrant-carer arrangement where fathers work abroad and mothers stay home as
carers- children in theses household fare very well when it comes to school pacing and
school achievement. The study concluded that families and households need to provide
both economic and psychological support to enhance the chances that children are at
pace with their schooling and are doing well at school. As for Maligalig & Albert (2008),
the three most important reasons given why elementary age children do not attend school
are (1) lack of interest, (2) others (could be too young to go to school, not admitted in
school, or lack of documents such as birth certificate), and (3) high cost of education.
They believed that lack of interest may actually reflect lack of financial resources, as borne
out by data showing that non-attendance in school decreases as the children’s
households increase in income level.
Emotional maturity, as defined by Atienza, Kapunan, Noe & Panlilio (2012), is
one’s ability to manage their emotions. As the child gets used to the fact that parent is
away, the child matures faster for the reason that they learn to be responsible and obliged
to manage the household duties such as paying bills, looking after their siblings, and do
the household chores. They begin to understand that the parent is not there to take care
of them personally, but instead they provided them financially to be able to get their basic
needs and it makes sense to think that their parents love them because they sacrificed.
Furthermore, being resilient is the way for adolescents to cope and be strong for the
family. They become more flexible to challenges and circumstances. They think that they
only need to adjust and always keep in their mind that this is all for the betterment of their
future. They also keep in their minds that they need to take care of their siblings, to build
strong relationship with them. A shall things for them mean a great deal and may result
for appreciation so, the steady connection already distinguished within the siblings.
Asis (2006), argued that younger children express their feelings of acceptance
towards their parent’s absence which they say has come with maturation. According to
Schram (2015) of Unversity of Amsterdam, knowing and understanding why parents
decided to migrate may positively affect the emotions children feels towards their parents’
absence. In her study, she mentioned that the respondents often mentioned that their
parents left for their own sake; for their education. The recognition of this sacrifice
sometimes leads to children attaining emotional stability, as it compensates for their
sadness and stimulates their acceptance of parental absence.
Sarason & Sarason (1985), defined social support as the availability of
interpersonal resources. Sources of social support can be from parents/family,
peers/classmates, and teachers which are purported to have a beneficial effect on health
and well-being of people.

Parental support refers to gestures or acts of caring, acceptance, and assistance
that are expressed by a parent towards a child (Shaw, Krause, Chatters, 2004). Parental
support has implications on parent-child relationship as the context within which important
social and psychological development takes place. For instance, if parents provide
children’s need for parental support, the children, as they age, may seek environment in
which social support may be readily available. Conversely, according to Bowlby (1980),
parents who fail to provide parental support may result in their children’s developed
lifelong patterns of withdrawal from and avoidance of others (as cited by Tifanny, 2009).
Methodology
Research Design
This study utilized Qualitative Phenomenology. Qualitative research is the development
of concepts which helped us to understand social phenomena in natural settings, gave due
emphasis to the meanings, experiences, and views of all participants (Mays & Pope, 1995).
There are many existing designs and types of approaches in a qualitative research, namely the
narrative, ethnography, case study, grounded theory, phenomenology and etc. The
researchers used the phenomenological approach in which, the researchers described the live
experiences of individuals about a phenomenon as described by participants. It is a design of
inquiry coming from psychology and philosophy and has a strong philosophical foundation that
typically involves conducting interviews (Giorgi, 2009). Cresswell stated that, for this study, the
researcher examined an issue related to the oppression of individuals and to study this, stories
were collected. Participants of this approach frequently ranges from three to ten, they were
interviewed at some length to know how they have personally experienced oppression.
Besides, it allowed room to be innovative and to work more within researcher-designed
frameworks as it also allowed them to be more creative, do literary-style writing or write in any
form that the researchers may like to use. Furthermore, according to Plummer (2001) as cited
by Burnett (2009), qualitative methods are good for retrieving the otherwise silenced invisible
account of social life and is a way into the underground history of life objects although others
see such silence as a function of the subordinate social locations in systems of stratification.
Burnett also said that, in the social sciences and cognate disciplines, qualitative methods are
well authorized and its approaches have a long history and were boosted by the so-called
biographic turn that they focus on feelings, meanings, views, and subjective understandings.
Sampling technique
The participants were purposefully selected for it was the best help for the researchers
to understand the problem. Four aspects were established by Miles and Hubberman (1994),
adapted by Burnett (2009), first was the setting where the research took place, the second one
was the actors or those who were observed or interviewed, next was the events which the
actors were observed or interviewed and lastly, the process where the evolving nature of events
were undertaken by the actors within the setting.
The researchers used the purposive sampling, which is a type of non-probability
sampling technique. The purposive sampling technique, also called judgment sampling, is the
deliberate choice of an informant due to the qualities the informant possesses. It is a nonrandom
technique that does not need underlying theories or a set number of informants. Simply put,
the researcher decided what needed to be known and set out to find people who could and
were willing to provide the information by virtue of knowledge or experience (Bernard, 2002;
Lewis & Sheppard, 2006).
Participant’s Demographic Profile.
The researchers’ selected five (5) participants in this study who are currently living within
National Capital Region with their relatives or guardians that portrays particular characteristics
that the researchers were searching in being a respondent.

The participants of the study were Filipinos, either male or female adolescents. Their
age must range from thirteen (13) to nineteen (19) years old whose parents worked abroad for
not less than 2 years.
The researchers aimed to find the actual experience, coping, perceived effects and
consequences about the situation of not having a presence of their parents. The researchers
also delimited on the relationship they had with their parents focusing only through the child’s
perceptions.
The data collection was through interview with the respondents alone.
The interviewers hid the first respondent’s name into Pearl. Pearl is a 19-year-old
graduating student who’s taking up Business Administration at Our Lady of Fatima University-
Valenzuela (OLFU). She lives in Novaliches, Quezon City. She has 3 siblings, 2 sisters, and an
elder brother. Since birth, Pearl’s father left to work in Saudi Arabia ever since she was really
young and is coming home every two (2) years. She is not close with her father so she tends
to just ignore him when he’s around. Aside from her father’s absence, she also doesn’t feel the
presence of her mother since for her, her mother’s priority is her elder brother (only boy). She
got used to be alone whenever there’s an occasion that needed the presence of her both
parents such as Family Day and Graduation Day. According to her the only person she was
with on her Graduation Day was her adviser. Since then, Pearl is closer to her elder sister than
her parents.
The second subject’s alias is Gea. She is an 18-year-old college student who’s taking
up Computer Science at Systems Technology Institute (STI), Caloocan. She is an only child
who lives in Malabon City with her father. Gea’s mother is working in United Arab Emirates ever
since she was 5 years old. She is staying with her father and her relatives in her father’s side.
Compared to her cousins, Gea have more material things which made her cousins envy her.
The third respondent was called by the name of Jany. Jany is a 19-year-old girl who lives
in Valenzuela City but she is temporarily staying in Antipolo, Rizal, with her eldest sister since
she had a conflict with her father and her second sister in Valenzuela. Her mother worked in
Japan when she was little, but later transferred to Saudi Arabia when she was 17 years old,
until now. She is currently in her 3rd year of college taking up Industrial Engineering in
Polytechnic University of the Philippines, Manila.
The second to the last subject was ‘Erza’, who is a 18-year-old senior high school
student, taking up STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) at University of
the East-Caloocan. She lives in Valenzuela City. Her dad is working in Saudi Arabia for 14
years now. Her mother watches over her and her elder sister.
The last interviewee’s nickname was Kylie. Kylie is a 17-year-old in senior high, who is
taking up STEM at Polytechnic University of the Philippines, Manila. She lives in Muntinlupa
City with her brother and her grandparents. Her mother left for Bahrain 2 years ago. Kyla is the
eldest sister. She has a younger brother whom she is really close with. She wanted to be an
architect someday.
Data Collection
The data collection steps included collecting information through interviews, established
the protocol for recording information, as well as setting the boundaries for this study. The type
of data collection that the researchers used was the interview, specifically the focus group
interview, in which the researchers were allowed to record responses, meanings, and
interactions in a systematic way by audiotaping or voice recording, given that the participants
were interviewed in a group (Burnett, 2009). In addition, this type of interview allowed
researchers control over the line of questioning, the participants provided historical information,
and researchers considered some limitations such as not all the interviewees were equally
perceptive and articulate, researchers' presence may bias responses, and it provided indirect
information filtered through the views of the participants (Cresswell, 2013). The researchers,
after recording the interview, transcribed it.
The data collection in the study did have a step by step procedure:
The researchers intricate the purpose and did an in-depth research. Each participant
was given an informed consent where the content of the letter includes the objectives of the
research and then permission for them to be a part of the study. After the researchers
explained the purpose of the study to the participants they agreed to be a part of the study, the
researchers administered the building rapport. Then, the researchers did the interview proper
to the adolescents ages from thirteen (13) to nineteen (19) by the week after the researchers
came. The researchers reassured the participants that the documents were handled in the
uttermost confidentiality. All questionnaires were retrieved, compiled, and organized for the
analyzation of data. The researchers, after encoding, did the themes on the data. Researchers
analyzed and interpreted the data gathered to see the results.
Interview Protocol
The researchers, as stated above, recorded information from interviews by audiotaping
or voice recording. Cresswell (2014), recommended that the researchers should take notes
even an interview is taped because the recording equipment might fail. The interview protocol
included the following components as a standard procedure of instructions that the researchers
followed, (1) orientation for the participants, for them to be well informed on what is the purpose
of the researchers and what is the study about, (2) showing the interviewees the personal data
sheets of the researchers, (3) ask for the participants' consent, (4) visiting the interviewees on
the settled time, (5) questions and follow-up questions to have the participants explain their
ideas in more detail by elaborating what they have said, (6) a thank-you statement for
acknowledging the time spent by the interviewees for the researchers during the interview.
Data analysis
MacQueen & Namey (2012), suggested that the researchers will have to winnow the
data, where they will focus on some of the data and disregard other parts of it. Winnowing will
aggregate the data into a fewer number of themes (Creswell, 2013).
The data collected in this study were interpreted using thematic analysis. Thematic
analysis is a qualitative analytic method for identifying, analyzing and reporting patterns
(themes) within data. It minimally organizes and describes your data set in (rich) detail (Braun
& Clarke, 2006). This type of analysis provides a flexible and useful research tool, which can
potentially provide a rich and detailed, yet complex account of data. Braun & Clarke (2006)
proposed the 6 phases of conducting a thematic analysis which includes: (1) Becoming familiar
with the data, (2) Generating initial codes, (3) Searching for themes, (4) Reviewing themes, (5)
Defining and naming themes, and (6) Producing the report.
Results and Discussion
This chapter provides the results, analysis and interpretation of the data gathered in this
research. The results are analyzed and categorized in themes or patterns in the responses of
the respondents.
Theme 1: Longing for the Parental Role of the OFW parent

Every anak craves for love and affection of their parents. Parents have the responsibility
to meet their children’s physical and emotional needs. According to the Convention on the
Rights of Children, parents have the moral obligation and responsibilities for the upbringing and
development of their children. An anak needs parents, especially in their growing-up years. It
is a must for parents to encourage and help their anak develop a sense of self-worth, discipline
and guide their behavior compassionately (in a way that it will not cause their anak physically
nor emotional damage), and give reassurance and affirmation, especially when they’re (anak)
going through their emotional years. How? By being with them. The challenge of parenting
adolescents is that, parents need to secure the young person in what is considered an insecure
time in development (Watin, 2013).
Based on the Hearts Apart Focus Group Discussion Research, the departure of one or
two parents leaves an emotional mark on the young children left behind. The anak longs for the
presence of the parent(s) working overseas. With the absence of the parents, technological
mechanisms like cellular phones and computers have become the default substitute to personal
parenting, but this will still not replace the emotional bonding that can develop in the relationship
when they are physically present (Amoguis, 2015).
“Mahirap kasing lumaki na wala yung mama mo sa tabi mo.. Iba kasi yung pagpapalaki
sa kapag may mama ka sa wala eh.. parang mas okay ka kapag nandyan siya.” (Gea, 2, 428-
430).
Parenting becomes a long distance love affair synchronized with the fast paced
development of technology. Anak is just being divested of parental tender loving care and
guidance essential in their development (Cabrillas, 2008).
For some parents, what they do for their anak is enough once they provide them well in
a material sense, but their anak are actually being emotional nurturance deprived. According
to Williams (2013), touch, time, and verbal affirmation play a very important role in a parent-
child relationship. For Overseas Filipino Workers parents, they only have a limited time to offer
for their anak who are left behind in the Philippines because they have to allot most of their time
in their work.
“Hindi na kami masyadong nagkakakita sa.. ano.. skype, ganon. Chat na lang. Madalang
sobra. Kasi busy din ako, busy din siya. Kaya kapag mayfree time, tsaka lang kami nagkaka-
chat. Chat lang.” (Gea, 2, 218-220).
Anaks’ body, heart, and mind hold the residue of pain, the residue of this longing. They
yearn and long for the type of love and care they did not receive, and desperately wanted. They
believe that when they find this love, pain will finally subside. And so, they search, they seek,
and they hope to consume whatever emotional needs that is there to be filled.
“Isang yakap niya (mama) lang, okay na. Iba kasi yung lambing ng nanay kaysa sa tatay
eh.” (Gea, 2, 433-434).
“Malungkot.. tapos syempre, bata ka pa lang, naghahanap ka ng mama.” (Gea, 2, 341).
Gea is left under the supervision of her father. The absence of a mother-figure is longed
from her Dad. However, this longing feeling is not satisfied. This is why even though her mother
left in her early years, she wanted her mother to stay.
Most of their answers are in contrast to what type of relationship they had with their OFW
parent before they left. The longing for the parental role is patterned to what relationship has
been already built between the adolescent and the parent. When the interviewers asked Jany
of circumstances that she felt the need of the presence of her mother, she responded: “Kapag
nanonood kami ng Koreanovela (noon), ngayon wala na. Wala na akong *girly screams*, yung
mga girl thing! Wala, mag-isa lang akong kinikilig.” (Jany, 3, 213, 217-219). It is common for
female adolescents to have a “girl- bestfriend” kind of relationship with their mothers. Jany
recognized the idea of a maternal presence in a way of sharing experiences of ‘kilig moments’
in watching romantic TV series.
Verbal affirmation may also be rare for both parties because of the time conflict. Touch
is also difficult because the OFW parents barely go home, there are even cases that ‘Suntok
sa buwan kung umuwi ang magulang’. The said situations cause things that affect their anak
greatly. Some misses the important events of their anak, like birthdays, graduation, school
meetings, etc. Parents compensate for the time they weren’t there by sending gifts, or anything
that will make their anak ‘happy’. While the anak may enjoy these perks and comforts (material
things), they also need and want other things like, a complete family during special occasions.
“Naiinggit din ako sa iba kasi kapag may Family Day. Tas walang umaattend sakin. Wala
sila. Nung graduation ko din, wala sila. Ever since nung elementary walang umaattend ng
graduation ko. It’s either busy sila, or ewan ko. Wala lang silang paki.” (Pearl, 1, 48-50, 52).
“Minsan, kapag kailangan ng representative sa school, minsan si lolo yung pumupunta.”
(Erza, 4, 33-34).
There is no substitute for parents’ physical presence to guide their anak and make them
feel like they are truly being cared by their magulang. An anak don't just need money, or
anything else, but also emotional support of their parents by being literally there, beside them.
Subtheme: Pagtatampo
"Pagtatampo" is an action done by an individual who avoids interaction with a person
that has a relationship with him/her (i.e, relative, bestfriend, etc.) that made a certain action that
caused damage to his/her feelings, ego and trust. "Tampo" is well known for Filipinos and it is
one of the most unique feelings around the world. There is no direct translation of the word
"tampo" in english.
Gea, herself, used the word tampo during the interview. Unlike the other respondents
who did not seem to have much emotional appeal to the question: “Anong naramdaman mo
nung umalis ang magulang mo?” Gea used the word nagtampo to specify her feeling.
“Kasi marami namang opportunities dito kahit mababa naman yung sweldo para
makasama kami tapos mag-aabroad pa siya.” (Gea, 2, 171-172).
Pagtatampo is not always said. It is more often showed in a not apparent way than it is
said. All the respondents did show a little pagtatampo to their parents based on the totality of
each interview. For them, they are nagtatampo because of the unfairity of certain situations.
For Gea, it is unfair for her that her Mama chose to work abroad than to stay with the family.
There is also an instance where she had a tampo with her mother because of selos she felt
every time she sees her mom being close to her mom’s mga alaga (in Saudi).
“Na-aano, nagseselos ako. Maano kasi ako eh, dati parang selfish ako.” (Gea, 2, 320).
“Parang ano.. hindi naman sa attention seeker. Parang pag gusto ko, ako, ako, lang.
Pag ako, ako lang. Selfish ako eh parang sa mama ko.” (Gea, 2, 322-323).
On the other hand, Jany also expressed her pagtatampo specifically about the conflict
with her sister. For her, it has been unfair that her mother had to take a sides in the fight favoring
her elder sister and not her.
“Lagi niyang sinasabi hayaan mo na, hindi niya nga ako kinakampihan.” (Jany, 4, 127-
128).
Theme 2: Distant Relationship

Having communication is one of the most important things that a parent and child should
have. OFW parents work in distant countries and it is necessary for both of them to stay
connected with each other. And the way for them to stay connected is through the use of
technology like (phones, via skype, etc.). Technology serves as a form of medium
communication to stay in touch. Although tech is the family’s friend to communicate, time
conflict is their enemy.
“Dumating sa puntong (ayaw kausapin si papa) kasi inaantok na kami (kasi gabi na).”
(Kylie, 5, 16-17).
For a child, it is important to stay connected for guidance. For a parent, they are obliged
to do their responsibilities as a parent even they are away. One of the participants clearly
mentioned that it is a responsibility of a parent to love their child. As she was asked “Ano bang
definition ng love para sayo?”, she answered in a resentful tone/manner:
“Yung totoong may care siya sa’yo, eh kasi tignan mo kapag nag-uusap nga kami sa
problema ko sasabihin nya, “hayaan mo na” pero nagpapadala sya ng pera” (Jany, 3, 207-209).
“Kasi yung resposibilidad nya nandon nga pero yung pagmamahal nya, wala.” (Jany, 3,
195-196).
“Sa perspective nya, mahal niya kami (kaya siya nagtrabaho sa ibang bansa) pero para
sakin, hindi.” (Jany, 3, 205).
It made her think very practically when it comes to understanding certain things than
feelings. The monetary support they received is not that enough to fulfill the gap in terms of
emotional support.
The physical absence of parent may have contributed to the distant feeling of the child
from the parent. When the researchers asked the respondents how they felt whenever their
parent is home, majority of the respondents’ reactions seemed ambivalently distant to their
parent.
“Nung una awkwardd” (Erza, 1, 21)
“Halos walang communication (kapag umuuwi).” (Erza, 1, 25).
“Nung una mahirap” (Gea, 9, 336).
On the other hand, when it comes to communication, there is a conflict in emotional
support between the parent and a child. As communication with parents becomes limited, the
little the understanding of the parents they can offer to their child, and the less their emotional
connection also becomes.
“Pag nagsusumbong or whatever na nagsasabi ako ng feelings ko, sasabihin nya
abnormal ako” (Jany, 3, 121-123).
This statement revealed how disappointed Jany is that her Nanay disregards anything
she ever say. As much as she wanted to have her Nanay as tell-everything-to person, the
misunderstanding between her and her mother creates a barrier for a mother-child relationship.
On the other hand, a respondent quoted “Okay lang. Hindi kasi ako palasabi ng serious
problem kay mama eh. Kapag may problem ako tapos kaya ko naman solusyunan, hindi ko na
sinasabi” (Gea, 2, 228-229). She don’t want to make her mom worried because she is too busy
working for them that’s why sinasarili (niya) ang problema (internalizing problems). It is very
usual for Filipino families and individuals sarilinin ang problema for they enormously care for
each other that they choose to bear their own pain and not share it with the others – although
it is discussed in the first chapter that “‘loob’ is a social responsibility”, that is stated by Jocano,
Jr.
“Ayoko silang ma-ano.. mag-worry. Kaya ko naman eh” (Gea, 2, 236).
Instead of telling what’s really happening, sinasarili (niya) ang problema. Every problem
shouldn’t be ignored and venting out is a must. But because one chooses not to talk about it
and sarilinin ang kung anumang bagay, relationship might become weaker, and distance might
become farther. Eventually, there will come a time that because of ‘pagsasarili’, as Jocano Jr.
put it, ‘bibigay’, “Hindi na nakayanan, bumigay”. Communication was the problem so let it be
the solution as well.
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity with the OFW parent
When the interviewers tried to unearth the underlying reason(s) why the respondents felt
‘awkward’ and uneasy when their OFW parents are home, Erza stated,
“Matagal hindi nagkita, hindi po ganoon kakilala nung umalis sya.” (Erza, 4, 27).
Erza said she was only 6 years old when her father left the country to work. In the
interview, Jany mentioned many times “Wala akong pake dito, di ko siya kilala” because she
grew up not knowing her mom. She said she had no memories with her.
“Komplikado, noong bata pa ako, di ko talaga sya kilala, kaya noong umuuwi sya, grabe
sobrang ilang ako, parang… ‘Sino to?’ ” (Jany, 3, 62-63).
Subtheme 2: Understanding Discrepancy
Erza and Jany had somewhat a similar situation when it comes to having an
understanding discrepancy with their OFW parent, even though there is a difference in
causality.
“Hindi niya kasi nabibigay yung hinahanap kong kasagutan. Diba minsan kapag
nagsasabi ka ng problema mo, meron ka namang naiisip na dapat niyang isagot tapos parang
nadidisappoint ako kasi laging iba yung sinasagot niya, eh parang ang layo tapos lagi niyang
sinasabi, ‘hayaan mo na’ ”. (Jany, 3, 140-143).
“Kapag may problema. minsan hindi naaayos kasi wala nang understanding (kasi
kulang, dahil wala si papa).” (Erza, 4, 60-61).
The parent and the child are on the opposite end of the line. They won’t meet in the
middle if none of them will take a step forward towards each other.
Theme 3: Numbness to Absence
There is always an emotional aspect that goes along with parents leaving their children,
especially for long periods of time. Children have a different level of acceptance or tolerance of
the situation depending on their “cognitive development” (Reyes, 2008). Going back to what
was written in the introduction in the first chapter, for young children, they only see migration
as a form of abandonment of their parents; while adolescents may either be receptive or
resentful (Carandang, 2007).
“Parang nasanay ako na wala siya, so mas parang magugulat ako na lagi siyang
nandyan. Nag-grow naman ako na wala siya.” (Pearl, 1, 35-36).
Since Pearl grew up without knowing her parent personally, she got used into the
physical absence which developed being independent for herself.
In the case of Jany, Pearl, and Erza, they were still so young when their parents left to
work abroad. As adolescents, all of them are receptive that they became practical in accepting
things, but in some situations, they also became resentful. Often, every person wants validation
for the pain of their wounds (emotionally). Anak may long for someone, most of the time, a
parent, to bear witness, to offer empathy, to understand what it was like for them to have
countless problems. Having an incomplete family in the house and dealing with problems where
one or both of the parents are away, is a struggle for an OFW child. Respondents told that they
are “nasanay na” or okay with it (parent’s physical absence) as they grew up. They felt
loneliness, yes, but apparently, they got tired of it, and so, they became numb to it. They had
full of pain inside them that they don’t accept any feelings anymore because again, they were
already full, they had enough. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” as what people said but
no, in their case, absence just makes the heart forget.
Theme 4: Change in Family Structure
Typically, an ideal family lives together under one roof together including a mother, a
father, and child/children. When the parent leaves the country, there is a sudden change in
pattern in the initial family structure. The change in family structure includes shifting roles in the
family i.e., older siblings are obliged to watch over their younger siblings to substitute the
obligation that the OFW cannot shoulder, or parents left with their child/children are taking over
the role of the parent who left.
In every single respondent that are interviewed, the change in family structure appeared
to be frequently mentioned. The role of the respondent, parent and siblings of the respondents
(if there are any) in the family are altered. Gea, eighteen (18) years old, talks about her assigned
tasks at home. “Ako kasi nagluluto kasi wala si mama, walang tao. Kailangan, ako yung
magluluto kay papa.”. “Ako yung naglalaba, naglilinis, nagluluto.” (Gea, 2, 477-478, 486). She
recognized the idea of the absence of her mother in doing the chores that her mom used to do
for them before she left for abroad. Furthermore, Gea explained that she has a close
relationship with her mother. Everytime her mom leaves for Dubai, the atmosphere at home
does not feel like home for her. “si papa ano eh, hindi ko naman masabihan ng problema kasi
lagi syang busy.” (Gea, 2, 237& 238). The absence of her mother whom she tells every problem
to was expected from his father. Her longing for maternal presence was projected to his father
which disappointed her because the role of her mom is irreplaceable.
The apparent change in the family structure is compared to what the family was like
before the parent left which varies every family. Some of the respondents emphasized the
absence of parental role as a change in the family structure.
Jany’s family, as she described, is dysfunctional in a denial way. “yung nanay ko, napaka
martyr yon kahit alam nya yung kalokohan ng tatay ko, okay. Mag-aaway sila pero bandang
huli, mahal nya talaga yung tatay ko. Nagpapadala siya sa mga dahilan ng tatay ko na parang
‘Hindi wala lang yun, wala yung babaeng yon.’, edi parang okay na sa nanay ko na ganon pero
bandang huli, yung nanay ko yung, normal na lang yung ganon.” (Jany, 3, 277-281). For Jany,
the presence of her mother in the house has an impact on her in both positive and negative
way. As much as she hated her dad for being a womanizer, she mentioned that she wanted
her mother to stay because her tatay is more cautious with his habits when her mother is
around. In the negative perspective of Jany, she didn’t have much freedom when her mom is
in the country. The freedom that Jany wanted from her mother is not having her mother to butt
in any decisions that Jany make. She grew up without much of attention from his father who is
way too busy to supervise them.
Pearl’s parents are almost similar to the situation of Jany. Her father, just like Jany, had
a family other than them except the difference is that it is her father who is the OFW parent. In
her family, there is a shifting of roles wherein her sister took responsibility over her as a mother.
Despite the presence of her mother, she never considered her as a mother. She reasoned out
that she never felt the love from her mother rather, she considered her more as a yaya. “Hindi…
hindi ko nararamdaman yung… as a mother sa kanya. parang siya yung naging yaya ko.”
(Pearl, 1, 93) Si mama, siya yung naglalaba, nagluluto sakin sa umaga, hatid, medyo kasi mas
gusto ko.” (Pearl, 1, 91).
On the other hand, Kylie had a close relationship with her mom. Her mom and dad are
separated which is the reason why her mom decided to work abroad. She was already at fifteen
(15) years old and she said to herself, that she was old enough to understand why her mother
is leaving. Yet, after all these, her and her mom kept a good relationship. At home, Kylie is
staying with her grandmother whom she calls nanay. Her Tita, her mother’s sister, also watches
over her.
Theme 5: Financial Awareness
Not every parent allows their children to engage in financial decisions in the family.
However, some children are allowed to be involved in decision-making when it comes to
finances and budgeting. This involvement gives children the awareness of financial
responsibilities of parents and the burden of financial obligations upon parents as
breadwinners. The reason why most children of parents working abroad are more financially
aware is because they are directly receiving remittances. Receiving a fixed amount of
allowance gives them the feeling of being responsible to spend their own money. The findings
in the interview revealed a uniform answer from the respondents. All of the respondents showed
an attitude of practicality in money matters. This attitude helped them understand how difficult
it is to earn money in the Philippines and accept the sacrifice of their parent leaving them
behind.
“nahihirapan daw tustusan yung mga gastusin.. gastusin sa bahay. Tsaka sa pag-aaral
ko. Eh nung time na yon, private pa ako kaya sabi ni papa, para daw samen naman yung
ginagawa ni mama. Kaya ayon. Pero nalipat din naman ako ng public nung grade three (3)
ako.” (Gea, 2, 178-182).

When the researchers asked the participants if they would have preferred to have their
parents to stay given that they won’t be earning much, 3 out of 5 of them said they prefer that
their parents are abroad than to stay. Among the three is Kylie who reasoned that there are too
many expenditures and the money that her Dad could’ve earned inside country would not be
enough for them.
Surprisingly, one of the respondents even told the researchers that it was her and her
siblings who had the initiative to convince their parent to work overseas.
Q: anong unang pumasok sa isip mo na dahilan kung bakit siya umalis?
A: “Ayon kasi walang trabaho yung tatay ko, edi kung walang kikilos, walang pera, kaya ayon.
Wala praktikal lang eh, kailangan din talaga kumita, parang wala, alangan naman maginarte
ka parang sa ibang bata, eh kailangan mo naman talaga ng pera.” (Jany, 3, 33-34, 48-50). The
entire interview, Jany highlighted the financial matters in her family. Her beef with her older
sister led the interview into a very long conversation about her sister being too materialistic. As
a ‘praktikal’ person as she described herself, She hated her sister for asking material things
from her nanay. “Nakakainis kaya, kaya naglayas rin ako sa bahay. Tapos isa pa na moment
yung ate ko na taga Antipolo, hiniram yung relo ate ko. Tapos sabi ng ate kong taga Valenzuela,
‘Sabihin mo na lang kay nanay. Magpabili ka ng relo’. ‘Nay bilhan mo ko ng ganyan ha!?’
LAHAT NALANG PABILI!” (Jany, 3, 350-353). Compared to her other siblings, Jany appeared
to be the most considerate and to appreciate her mom’s effort the most.
The bottomline is that financial awareness among children with OFW parents rooted out
from appreciation of the sacrifice of their parents and understanding the importance of money
knowing how difficult it is earned.
Theme 6: Debt of gratitude

Debt of gratitude is a very popular positive trait of Filipinos. The debt of gratitude is
defined to be an attitude when an achievement regardless of the size and nature is always
attributed to someone or those who have helped him/her accomplish the achievement (Panda,
2012). Children of OFW parents developed a sense of gratitude towards their OFW parents in
understanding the very reason why their parents had to leave.
Almost all the respondents use academic performance in returning the favor of being
financially sustained by their parents. Getting good grades in equivalent to how much their
parents work is their way of showing the sense of ‘debt of gratitude’.
The researchers asked: “So ikaw naman bilang anak, Paano mo masusuklian ung
sakripisyon ng magulang mo?” In this question, Kylie gave the researchers a very precise
answer “Siguro po by grades din po Para po pag dating ng ano Graduating na po tas work. Siya
naman po ung pagpapahingahin ko tapos ako naman po ung magwowork para sa kanya..”
(Kylie, 5, 191, 193-194).
“Pagpapatuloy ko yung pag-aaral kahit ayaw ko na talaga.” (Jany, 3, 372).
Jany’s motivation in studying already diminished because she wasn’t taking the program she
wanted in the very first place. She did not specify that the reason why she still kept going in
taking Industrial Engineering yet the conversation was driven to how much she felt bad that her
sister is an impulsive spender. “Tapos parang wala, gusto kasi talaga nila magpasosyal, tapos
iniisip ko bakit parang wala silang konsiderasyon sa nanay ko yun yung naghihirap. Tapos sila
nagpapakasasa lang, tapos yung ate ko yung cellphone ang mahal mahal, 17k yung cellphone
nya. Tapos naghulugan samantalang ako, nung nangailangan ako ng laptop sa autocad,
hanggat maari yung pinaka cheap na laptop yung pinili ko tapos yung scholarship ko, naghulog
din ako ng 4,500 para naman 10k lang sagot nya kasi iniisip ko talaga mahirap yung buhay sa
ibang bansa.” (Jany, 3, 322-329). Since Jany’s interview focused more on finances, another
way she expressed her gratitude is by not giving so much financial burden upon her mother.
As for Gea, to honor her mother’s hardships, her goals in life are too dedicated to her
mom. In a futuristic point of view of Gea, she enumerated every goal she is aiming for such as
graduating college, and getting a job as to repay her mom. “Gusto ko talaga silang bilhan ng
sariling bahay though may lupa na sa probinsya pero wala pang bahay.
Gusto ko talaga. Yun talaga yung pinaka goal ko”. (Gea, 2, 636-639).
We all might think that the OFW parents have the same reason for working afar from
their families. However, one of our respondents opened up about her situation with her father
working in Saudi Arabia. When she was asked her if she thinks that her father’s sacrifice in
working is worth it, she gave 2 insights. Trying to put herself in the shoes of her father, she told
the researchers: “worth it siya kung more on positive yung nasa utak ng Papa ko. Kunwari, ‘ah
para ‘to sa future ng anak ko, gan’to ganyan, kailangan ko magtrabaho ng mabuti’. Hindi lang
yun, pwede rin sa other side na ‘ah magtatrabaho ako para ano sa future mababalik naman
nila sakin yun na kapag humingi ako ng pera sa kanila maibibigay nila agad.’ ” (Pearl, 1, 308-
312). This statement was followed by a question “Ano sa tingin mo yung mindset ng Papa mo?”,
“Sinusumbat niya na bakit daw, bakit pa niya ko pinag-aral dati kung ganyan lang din
yung kinalabasan ko ngayon, ganun. Parang sinusumbat niya lahat” (Pearl, 1, 323-325). The
relationship of Pearl with her Papa that makes it different from the rest of the respondents is
that her OFW parent is looking forward more to his personal gain than to stand as a provider in
the family. Even though Pearl had a bad image of her father as an OFW, she still consider that
she owe a debt of gratitude to her Papa. When she was asked if she will give her father’s
demand of payback, despite all the hate she have towards her father, she gave a very
remarkable punchline…
“At the end of the day, tatay ko pa rin siya.” (Pearl, 1, 348-349).
Consequences of having an
OFW parent among
adolescent
Theme Theme Theme Theme Theme Theme

1: 2: 3: 4: 5: 6:
Longing for Distant Numbness Change Financial Debt
the Relationship to Absence in Family awareness of gratitude
Parental Role Structure
of the OFW
Parent
Subtheme 1: Subtheme 2:
Unfamiliarity Understanding
Subtheme 1:
with the Discrepancy
"Pagtatampo" OFW parent
(Figure 1)
Summary of Findings, Insights and Recommendation
This chapter presents the summary of the salient findings of the study,
the insights and the recommendations made for the future researchers for the same study.
Summary of Findings
Theme 1: Longing for the Parental Role of the OFW Parents
OFW or Overseas Filipino Worker was called to a person who work to foreign country
and sacrifice a lot in order to give a better life for their families here in the Philippines. They
provide needs and wants of their child in a way of material sense. The respondents emphasized
that the presence, loving of the parent(s) are the most important thing compared to the material
sense what their parents give.
According to Scalabrini (2003), matriarchal care or a woman who controls or cares a
family is most important for children in their growing-up years and also the struggle of being
student. Absence of the mother has more prone to a negative impact to their child emotional
well-being.
“Pagtatampo” is delicate feeling of behavior that is a result of not getting what a person
wants from a person he loves and never be expressed to strangers but it is temporary in nature.
Respondent felt “pagtatampo” when their parent goes to abroad because of higher income they
will get them from their job than to stay here in the Philippines.
According to Hays (2013), The Tagalog term tampo has no English equivalent. Magtampo is
usually translated as 'to sulk', but it does not quite mean that. 'Sulk' seems to have a negative
meaning which is not expressed in magtampo. It is a way of withdrawing, of expressing hurt
feelings in a culture where outright expression of anger is discouraged. For example, if a child
who feels hurt or neglected may show tampo by withdrawing from the group, refusing to eat,
and resisting expressions of affection such as touching or kissing by the members of the family.
A woman may also show tampo if she feels jealous or neglected by her beloved. Tampuhan is
basically a lovers' quarrel, often manifested in total silent treatment or not speaking to each
other. The person who is nagtatampo expects to be aamuin or cajoled out of the feeling of being
unhappy or left out. Parents usually let a child give way to tampo before he/she is cajoled to
stop feeling hurt. Usually, tampo in Filipino culture is manifested in non-verbal ways, such as
not talking to other people, keeping to one's self, being unusually quiet, not joining friends in
group activities, not joining family outing, or simply locking one's self in his or her room.
Theme 2: Distant Relationship
Cellular phones, video cams are created by technology. Technology is now a big part of
our society and this is the reason or a way of communication of an OFW parent and their child.
Facebook has advantage for the OFW because of the most popular site or Facebook, it
sustaining the relationship of their child among OFW families. The child really feels the
presence of their parent. Despite of physical distance they are still connected and sharing their
concerned related to education and especially about health.
According to Coyne et al. (2014), social networking with parents are said to increase the
connection between parents and adolescents. If the adolescents then feel that there is a strong
connection between them and their parents, there is a high chance that their behavioral
outcome will be higher pro social behavior. But then if the adolescent use social networking
without parents, it is said that there are following negative outcomes such as increased rational
aggression, internalizing behaviors, delinquency, and decreased feelings of connection. Social
networking with parents may strengthen the parent-child relationship and then lead to positive
outcomes for adolescents.
Theme 3: Numbness to Absence
Communication is vital to each and every one, especially to family. The Overseas Filipino
Worker parents are busy in working, they barely rest, while the children are also occupied with
other things. Some parents started working abroad ever since their children were still young. A
few of them grew up without their OFW parents, the adolescents knew little about them and
their relationship with each other aren’t that tact. That is why, instead of missing their parents,
the reasons above, made their children numb to their absence, they got used to it, as the saying
goes, “Absence makes the heart forget”.
Theme 4: Change in Family Structure
Once the parent/s started working abroad, there will always be a change in family
structure. One of the changes is that the child will take the responsibility of the parent/s in the
house such as cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry taking care of their younger sibling, etc.
some of the respondents emphasized the absence of parental role as a changed in family
structure.
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity with the OFW parent
The OFW as parents and as breadwinners are greatly concerned about their families
financial needs. Specifically, they aim to save up money for education of their children before
they grow old enough to go to school. Typically, a child starts schooling at the age of 4 years
old. At this early years, the child is too young to know that a parent left. As the child grows in
the absence of the OFW parent, they get used to not have their parents around and this result
to their unfamiliarity with the OFW parent. Some may recognize the parent and some may not
recognize them at all.
Subtheme 2: Understanding Discrepancy
At some point, both the parent and the child strive to create a bond between them. This
bond creates an emotional link between the two. However, even though there may be enough
communication, most find it difficult to build this certain relationship that both the child and the
parent longed for. Just like any other romantic relationship, a mother-child relationship takes
two ways. While the child wanted to receive feelings of understanding from their OFW parent
which more often are not met.
Theme 5: Financial Awareness
Financial awareness among children with OFW parent is because of appreciation of the
sacrifice of their parents and understanding the importance of money knowing how difficult it is
earned. All the respondents showed an attitude of practicality in money matters. This attitude
helped them understand how difficult it is to earn money in the Philippines and accept the
sacrifice of their parent leaving them behind. Being involve in financial decision making gives
the children the awareness of financial responsibilities of parents and the burden of financial
obligations upon parents as breadwinners.
Theme 6: Debt of Gratitude
Children of OFW parents developed a sense of gratitude towards their OFW parents in
understanding the very reason why their parents had to leave. Almost all the respondents use
academic performance in returning the favor of being financially sustained by their parents.
It has not been so difficult to gather participants in this study because of the increasing
number of parents who choose to work abroad for the sake of providing their children’s needs.
In Philippines, due to its current economic condition, Filipino parents consider leaving the
country to work elsewhere even though it would trade off being afar from their families. This is
both a challenge for both family left behind and the OFW-parent. Both experience feelings of
abandonment in many different ways. To be in a long-distance relationship with someone you
love requires so much emotional labor; from having to cope up with their physical absence to
getting used to not feel their existence at all.
The OFW-Parents, as the earners, do their best to best to fulfill their responsibility of
remitting money sufficient to sustain the needs and wants of their children. Some parents might
assume that their children fully understand the reason why they had to leave. But according to
some of the participants, they were too young to even know that they had a parent who left and
some felt not-at-all loved or cared for. Despite the economic benefits to the family, money and
material possessions cannot simply pay off the longing of a child for a parent. The financial
support is not taken as a form of love of a parent but rather affection is concerned more to be
fulfilled. For some, affection could be achieved through an effective communication with the
parent. Parents, however, cannot give enough time to communicate with their child effectively
due to their busy work schedule. Through the advancement of technology, communication
made it easier for them to stay in touch. Yet, the longing for affection still often comes unfulfilled.
The participants revealed that the primary concern of the OFW parent is their education.
Regardless of how distant the relationship of the participants with their parents, there is a
significant sense of debt of gratitude observed among them. Not to return the favor, but the
participants envisioned themselves to acknowledge the OFW-parent in every success they are
to achieve. As students, these adolescents are specifically concerned of their studies as well.
Their ideal way of making it up to their parents is to strive to graduate college as a way of paying
back their debt of gratitude. Even though the parents of the participants did not reach their
child’s minimum requirement, the participants consider themselves to owe gratitude from their
parents. Is it because they are morally obliged to?
It is of great importance that in every big family decision, the consequences and possible
outcomes are taken into consideration.
After the findings of this research, the following recommendations are offered as possible
ways to improve this study.
For adolescents. This study will help them realize that the purpose of their parents for leaving
is for their own sake. This will also help them understand why their parents come up with the
decision to work abroad to help them develop emotional maturity.
To the OFW parents. This study provides information that may help them understand the
longing of their children for them to know the importance of proper communication with their
family left behind.

For the teacher. The study helps understand the condition of the students who has an OFW
parent and help them in accommodating the tasks to achieve a success in life to help them
cope up with challenges.
For the Institution. The study will encourage to continue to extend moral, spiritual and even
personal assistance to adolescents for them to enlighten about their experience in the absence
of an OFW parent and must continue its program for children, or may adopt programs that will
help these children overcome anxiety and other problems brought by the changes that happen
in their own household caused by migration.
To the Future Researchers. This study would be beneficial to the future researchers who
wanted to gain more information and conduct further studies that may utilize about adolescents
of having an OFW parent. This will serve as their guide and motivation in understanding
research similar with this.
INFORMED CONSENT
I voluntarily agree to participate in research conducted by Atenas, Paulyn P., Bobis, Clarence
Faye DL., Enriquez, Jennifer H., Palabay, Maria Teresa Z., Perez, Gieleen S., Tucay, Laurice
R., Valeriano, Kristine Yna Mae L., Bachelors of Science in Psychology students from Our Lady
of Fatima University. I understand that the research aims to determine the Consequences of
having an OFW Parent among Adolescents
I understand that my participation is on a voluntary basis and I will not be paid in exchange of
my participation. I may also withdraw from the study at any point without any penalty.
I understand that the researchers shall exercise adequate safeguards to ensure that the
information I provide will be kept private and confidential. Results of the study will be reported
as a group, and not on individual terms.
The researchers have answered all the questions I have concerning the study and I understood
the explanation provided to me before I agreed to participate.
I have been given a copy of this consent form.
_________________________ ________________
Participant’s Signature Date
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Researcher’s Signature Date
For further information please contact:
Tucay, Laurice R.
09756902490
Appendix A
Participants Demographic Profile
Name of Age Gender School Parent Country

respondent working
abroad
Kylie 16 Female PUP Manila Mother Bahrain

Jany 19 Female PUP Manila Mother Japan
Gea 18 Female STI College of Mother UAE

Caloocan
Erza 18 Female UE Caloocan Mother Saudi Arabia
Pearl 19 Female OLFU Father Qatar

Valenzuela
Appendix B
Research Interview Questionnaire
Ano sa tingin mo yung dahilan ng pag-alis Mama/Papa mo?
Gaano siya (OFW parent) kadalas umuwi ng Pilipinas?
Nung unang beses mo nalaman na mangingimbang bansa si Mama/Papa mo, ano yung
naramdaman mo? Ano yung mga bagay na pumasok sa isip mo nung mga panahon na
iyon?
Kamusta naman ang relasyon mo sa iyong magulang bago sila/siya umalis?
Kapag may libreng oras o panahon kayo sa isa’t-isa, anu-ano yung mga bagay na madalas
napag-uusapan niyo?
Kamusta naman yung relasyon mo sa kanila (OFW parent) noong umalis na sila at nung
kapag umuuwi sila sa bahay niyo?
Sa anong pagkakataon mo naramdaman yung presensiya ng magulang mo? May mga
panahon ba na naramdaman mong kelangan na kelangan mo sila?
Para sa'yo, ano ang naging epekto ng pag-alis ng Mama/Papa mo sa'yo? Sa paanong
paraan?
May mga kapatid ka ba? Kamusta naman sila? Kamusta ang relasyon mo sa kanila?
Sapat ba yung mga ibinibigay sa’yo ng magulang mo para matumbasan yung kunganumang
mga pagkukulang nila sa’yo?
Paano mo masusuklian bilang anak ang sakripisyo ng magulang mo?

Appendix C
Transcribed Interviews
Respondent 1: Pearl
Date of Interview: January 25, 2017
Duration: 00:42:47
R: Respondent, I: Interviewer
1. I: Goodevening po. Ako nga po pala si Teresa.
2. I: Laurs
3. I: Kid
4. I: We want to interview you for our research in Filipino Psychology.
5. I: Ang pinakatitle namin is Consequences of having an OFW parent. So ayun,
6. since nabalitaan namin na may OFW parent ka, we want to know ano yung mga naging
consequences. So ayun lang, it’s gonna be a natural interview. Walang
7. mali, tamang sagot, it’s just personal Pearl and Tere.
8. R: Hello, I’m Pearl and OFW yung father ko. And nandun siya like ever since
9. pinanganak ako.
10. I: As in nung pinanganak ka or?
11. R: Yah.
12. I: Okay.
13. R: So every 2 years umuuwi siya pero, ewan ko, di kami close e.
14. I: Hindi kayo close…
15. R: Hindi.
16. I: Nung paguwi po ba ng Papa nyo, nalaman nyo po ba agad yung dahilan kung
17. bakit? Sinabi ba nya yung dahilan?
18. R: Alam ko naman na may trabaho siya.
19. I: Ilang taon ka po nun nung umuwi po siya? Unang uwi?
20. R: Unang uwi… Di ko na matandaan, tsaka hindi kasi, yung parent niya nag
21. -aalaga sakin.
22. I: Okay so gan’to, Pamula nung bata ka, nung nagkamalay ka na, kailan mo na
23. -meet yung Papa mo?
24. R: Mga.. 7? 6?
25. I: Ano’ng naging reaksyon mo nung bumalik yung Papa mo?
26. R: Wala, parang ordinary lang, babalik siya tapos aalis din.
27. I: Ano po yung unang nasa isip mo nun? Nung nakita mo na siya? Andun na
28. yung Papa mo. Nakita mo na ganun.
29. R: Naramdaman ko?
30. I: Nung first time mo lang sya nakita nung umuwi siya.
31. R: Syempre masaya din, kasi may tatay ako, kasi for the first time, may malay
32. ako na nandito siya, ganon.
33. I: Okay, so before sya dumating, ano yung feeling?
34. R: Wala, kasi..parang nasanay ako na wala siya, so mas parang magugulat ako
35. na lagi siyang nandyan. Nag-grow naman ako na wala siya.
36. I: Naku-kwento ba sya ng Mama mo?
37. R: Kasi may ano rin sila ni Mama dati, nagkaron siya ng anak sa iba.
38. I: Pwede mo ba ikwento yun? Anything about it?
39. R: Ewan ko, kasi nalaman ko na lang siya, nakatira pa kami sa Caloocan nun.
40. Umiiyak na lang si Mama, tapos nalaman na lang niya na may chorva si Papa,
41. may kabit, ganun.
42. I: Saang bansa ba siya?
43. R: Qatar.
44. I: Ano naisip mo sa Mama mo nung mga panahon na yun?
45. R: uhm.
46. I: Kumusta yung paglaki na walang Papa?
47. R: Siguro naiinggit din ako sa iba kasi may Family Day, ganun ganun, tapos
48. walang umaattend sakin, wala sila. Nung graduation ko din wala sila, ever since
49. nung elementary walang umaattend ng graduation ko.
50. I: Bakit daw? Bakit walang pumupnta pag special day mo?
51. R:It’s either busy sila, or ewan ko. Wala lang silang paki.
52. I: Panong walang paki? Pano mo nasabing walang paki?
53. R: Ano, kasi kapag every ano naman e, pag kailangan, yung mga PTA PTA, di
54. naman sumisipot si Mama kapag ganun, ever since talaga.
55. I: Ever since?
56. R: Ever since, nung grade 1 ako, wala rin naman, nagka-honor pa ko nun, kaya
57. tinamad din ako nun e, para magsipag mag-aral, parang nagaaral na lang ako
58. for my sake.
59. I: Sino po yung.. Diba magsasabit ng medal. Sino po yung umaattend?
60. R: Yung adviser ko lang.
61. I: anong naramdaman mo nung times na yun?
62. R: Wala.
63. I: wala?
64. R: Haha. Oo kasi nasasanay ako, ever since naman nasasanay na ko talaga sa
65. kanila na wala e.
66. I: Nung umpisa?
67. R: Nung umpisa syempre medyo naiilang kasi, ‘la ba’t kasama nila pamilya nila.
68. Parang ang weird, ganun, parang imbis na ma-sad ako, naweirdan ako.
69. Parang ‘la. Hahaha. Di ba nila kaya mag-isa. Haha.
70. I: May mga kaibigan po ba kayo nung grade school years mo po?
71. R: Oo, mas marami akong friends kaysa sa ano.
72. I: Kumusta naman po yung bonding nyo po?
73. R: Ayos lang, ganun, pero nagkakaano, bad record kami.
74. I: Anong nagkakabad record? Nanghahampas ka ng classmate no? hahaha
75. R:Hindi, nung kinder pa lang, kaya nga nalipat pa kaming MCU e, nangalmot
76. ako. Medyo wild, pero nung nasa MCU naman din, natutukan ako ng ate ko kasi
77. same school kami.
78. I: Ilan po pala kayong magkapatid?
79. R: 4.
80. I: Kamusta naman po yung relationship nyo?
81. R: Keri naman kasi mas close yung kaming magkakapatid kaysa dun sa parents
82. namin.
83. I: So nung mga ganung edad sabi mo kanina pati yung Mama mo hindi
84. umaattend ng PTA, hndi nagsasabit ng medal? Edi kumusta yung relationship
85. mo sa Mama mo nung mga panahon na yun?
86. R: Si Mama kasi mas priority nya yung kuya ko kasi only boy e.
87. Siya lang mag-isa, siya lang din yung nagpalaki dun, kaya medyo okay okay lang
88. parang siya yung… parang siya yung naging yaya ko.
89. Si mama, siya yung naglalaba, nagluluto sakin sa umaga, hated, medyo kasi
90. mas gusto ko.
91. I: Bakit mo nasabi? Bakit Yaya lang? bakit hindi Mama?
92. R:Hindi… hindi ko nararamdaman yung… as a mother sa kanya.
93. I: Baka hindi nila maintindihan na yung feeling na hindi mo na Mama mo siya?
94. Bakit?
95. R: Kasi… dahil nga mas inaalagaan niya yung kuya ko, parang… kahit ngayon
96. naman din ganun si Mama e.
97. I: pang-ilan po ba yung kuya mo po na sinasabi?
98. R: Pangalawa.
99. I: Pano nyo po nasabi na mas inaalagaan yung kuya mo?
100. R: ano siya… parang pag sa bahay lang, pag dating ko sa bahay walang
101. pagkain, tapos pagpauwi na si kuya dun lang siya magluluto o kaya uunahin
102. yung damit niya sa paglalaba.
103. Pag samin pag lalabhan yung damit, parang “Ba’t di kayo maglaba ganyan
104. ganyan ganyan.” Ganun.
105. I: Ah. So may favoritism si Mama?
106. R: Yeah, kasi sya nagpalaki dun e.
107. Eh ako naman, hindi siya nagpalaki sakin, si ate.
108. I: Di ba sabi mo po parang yaya mo yung Mama mo, tapos hindi siya yung
109. nagpalaki sayo?
110. R:Kasi nagtatrabaho siya.
111. Di ko alam kung san e.
112. Di ko na rin kasi matandaan.
113. Ano, simula nung sanggol talaga ako, sa ate ko lumaki.
114. Kaso nga lang nung nag-aral na rin si ate, kapag sa bahay lang kami
115. nagkakasama tapos si Mama parang hatid yung baon ganun ganun na lang.
116. I: Ano pong nararamdaman mo sa ate mong nag-alaga sayo?
117. R:Syempre parang mas ano siya, Parent type siya sakin.
118. Parang okay lang na, mawala yung parents ko, wag lang siya.
119. Sa kaniya lang ako nakadepende hindi sa parents ko.
120. I: Ilan taon na po ba yung ate nyo po nung naramdaman nyo po na..
121. R: Ever since talaga bata ako e, parang namulat na ko na ganun, kung hindi niya
122. lang pinakilala sakin si mama, hindi ako aware na ano.
123. I: Ilang taon na po ba si ate ngayon?
124. R: 30?
125. I: Panganay po ba si ate?
126. R: M-m.
127. I: Pano nyo po nasabi na siya po yung Mother figure nyo po? Ikaw lang
128. nakakakita sa kaniya nun? Pano yung iba mong kapatid?
129. R: Mga kapatid ko din syempre, kasi, nandito kami lahat sa circle tapos yung
130. parents namin nasa labas, so kami lang yung nandun
131. I: Ano po ba yung ano nyo, sa magkakapatid… babae, lalaki, babae, lalaki?
132. R: Hindi. Isa lang lalaki.
133. I: Nasabi mo na nasa circle kayo, tapos nasa labas sila?
134. R: Circle, nandito kami lahat, tapos andito sila, so sobrang layo.
135. I: Parang uninvolved sila? Ganun?
136. I: Sino?
137. I: Yung parents nila kasi nasa labas ng circle yng parents nila?
138. I: Para sa mga kapatid mo, paano yung relationship ng magulang mo sa
139. kanila.Kasi kung ikaw ang nagiging ano sayo is parang, ay si mama yaya ko
140. lang yan, si papa hindi ko kilala, pero nung dumating siya andun na e, may tatay
141. ako, pero yung sa mga kapatid mo? Kung iisa isahin mo? Si ate? Ano pangalan
142. nya?
143. R: Ate Sheng.
144. I: Si Ate Sheng. Pano siya makitungo sa magulang mo?
145. R: Si Ate Sheng kasi, hindi din si mama nagalaga sa kanya.
146. I: Sino nagpalaki kay Ate sheng?
147. R: Yung tita ko, sa side ni Papa, so andun siya sa Cavite. Cavite sila dati tapos si
148. kuya, si mama.
149. I: Edi kumusta si Ate Sheng tsaka yung parents mo?
150. R: Keri lang.
151. I: Paanong keri lang?
152. R: Siguro sa kanila nararamdaman nila yung nanay type, kasi alam mo yung
153. typical na nanay type na namamalo, na nandidisiplina ganon.
154. I: So naabutan nila yun?
155. R: Oo naabutan nila yun. So, si kuya oo, tutok na tutok ni mama yun tapos si Ate
156. Mau. Si Ate Mau di naman din lumaki dun, sa tita ko ulit, sa side naman ni
157. Mama, so parang naculture shock din siya nung nangingialam na sila mama sa
158. buhay niya, kasi parang nung si Ate Mau kasi bunganga nun, o ba’t ikaw
159. nangingialam ka ganyan ganyan ganyan ganyan. Mas nanghihingi pa din siya ng
160. permission dun sa tita ko. Nanghihingi pa rin siya ng permission dun sa mama
161. niya na tita namin.
162. I: Sa lahat ng ginagawa niya ganun?
163. R: Oo, mas nakakaalam yung tita ko, kaysa kay Mama.
164. I: Bilang anak pano mo nasasabi anong klaseng nanay yung nanay mo?
165. R: Si mama naman, keri lang. Hindi, okay naman siya maging yung typical nanay
166. na gagawan ka nang pagkain, lulutuan ka, pero yung sabihin mong,
167. pagmamahal na yung super ano nya
168. I: So, andun yung responsibility, asan yung pagmamahal?
169. R: yung bonding wala.
170. I: Ah yung bonding yung hinahanap mo?
171. R: Siguro yung ano na lang din, kung ano kasi kami ni ate dati yung wala pa
172. kaming pera nun tapos si ate bibigay niya sakin yung baon nya, tapos keri keri
173. lang tapos si mama, pag wala nang makain sa kanya na lang, except kay kuya,
174. favorite e.
175. I: Pano kayo nag-uusap sa bahay?
176. R: Ordinaryong usap lang. Si mama kasi parang normal lang din, pero mas
177. malupit kasi yun kay Papa.
178. I: Okay. Si Papa, pano siya maging Papa sa inyo? Simulan natin nung nasa
179. Saudi siya.
180. R: Communication namin nun, nung ano pa yun, grade 4 naman ako keri lang.
181. Nung elementary days ko syempre, bata ka pa hindi ka pa mulat sa mga ano
182. bang dapat kailangan maramdaman at hindi, lalo na sa parents mo.
183. Kapag nandyan lang sila bibigyan ka lang nila ng award na... katulad si Papa
184. dahil nga nasa ibang bansa sya, osige bibilhan kita. Kaso nga lang ganyan
185. ganyan magpakabait ka. Okay. Ganun. Yon.
186. Tapos after nung di ko talaga makakalimutan nung First year, ay de… nung
187. grade 6, nung umuwi siya nung summer din, nasampal niya ko, for some reason,
188. nasampal niya ko tapos ang nagalit si Ate Sheng, “Ba’t mo sinampal yan ganyan
189. ganyan”. Ayun nag-away sila, tapos ayun din nung first year ko, sa Bulacan,
190. nagkaroon ako ng first ever na line of 7 ko. Hindi din maganda kasi yung
191. sinamahan kong grupo nun or siguro naculture shock din ako kasi, public ako,
192. tapos super advance kasi sa private nun, so yung mga ano na nila, ano bang
193. tawag dun, Algebra nila hindi pa ganun naapply sa culture ko, so medyo, hala
194. ano ‘to. Ano meron dun. Ayun bumagsak nga ako. Tapos dun, si papa medyo
195. naano sakin, di ka nagaaral ganyan ganyan. So dapat talaga nun papatigilin na
196. ko mag-aral ni Papa. Ang ginawa ni Ate, umalis si ate, nag-abroad na sya.
197. So ang nangyari, parang yung isa mo pang nanay, isa mo pang parent, nasa
198. ibang bansa,
199. I: Saang bansa sya?
200. R: Qatar din, sumunod din siya kay Papa
201. I: Nung umalis si ate mo, ano sa tingin mo yung dahilan ng pag-alis niya?
202. R: Sakin. Baka may ano, pangaral ko.
203. I: Nung nalaman mong nasa ibang bansa sya, anong naramdaman mo?
204. R: Syempre nalumbay. Nalumbay ako sobra, kasi syempre, first time kong
205. maano sa kanya.
206. I: Ilang taon ka po nun?
207. R: First year e.
208. I: May itatanong ako tungkol sa Papa mo. Since hindi mo nga siya kilala nung
209. umalis siya, Ay anong edad ka pala nung nagpermanent na siya dito?
210. R: Nakalimutan ko na, basta high school, 4th year.
211. I: Nung fourth year ka, nung dumating na siya, pano ka makitungo sa kanya?
212. R: Uhm, medyo, nganga. Wala, nganga pa ko e, kasi medyo nangangapa pa ko
213. e, kasi parang biglang... May additional person dito sa bahay. Ano bang
214. kailangan kong ikilos, lalo na lalaki ganon ganon. Parang di ko na tuloy siya ano,
215. tingin sa kanya as father, pero additional person sa pamilya, pinapansin ko
216. naman siya.
217. I: Sa paanong paraan mo, kasi dati ang concern ni Papa pagaaral, dun siya
218. nagiging Papa e sa reward, nung nandito siya sa Pilipinas, ano yung naging
219. pagkakataon na naramdaman mo yung presence ng pagka-Papa niya.
220. R: Kasi ano siya, dahil nga ngayon ko na lang siya nakasama, so parang lahat
221. ng ginagawa ko, parang mas lumalaki yung distance namin imbis na magkalapit
222. kami.
223. I: Ano sa tingin mo yung naging effect na wala yun Papa mo dito nung lumaki
224. ka?
225. R: Hmm.. Kasi depende din kasi may mga ano naman din na OFW yung tatay
226. nila pero keep in touch sila tas maganda yung pakikitungo, kaya depende siguro
227. sa tao.
228. I: Ikaw bilang lumaki na wala yung presence ni Papa, ano sa tingin mo yung
229. naging effect sayo?
230. R:Syempre hindi kami close, hindi kami close talaga or kung andito man sya,
231. parang mas nakikita ko yung disadvantage niya na nagstay siya dito imbis na
232. umalis nalang siya ulit.
233. I: If ever, si Papa hindi nangibang bansa anong klaseng Pearl ang meron kaya
234. ngayon?
235. R: Di ko din maimagine e, kasi di ko kasi siya ganun kakilala.
236. I: Anong buhay ang meron ka ngayon? Dahil ba kay Ate? Or kay Papa.
237. I: Siguro kunyari, andito Ate Sheng, Ate Mau, Kuya, si Mama, Papa. Ano sa
238. tingin mo yung buhay na meron kayo kung hindi siya nang-ibang bansa?
239. R: Mahirap be, mahirap ang buhay.
240. I: Paano yung interaction nyo po nung nang-ibang bansa po yung Papa nyo
241. anong gamit nyong…
242. R: Internet, facebook.
243. I: Gano kadalas kayo nag-uusap?
244. R: Paguuwi ako, galing school, nag-uusap kami.
245. I: Palagi kayo nag-uusap? Every day sila nag-uusap… so keep in touch kayo?
246. R: Kasi yung usap naming parang, oh kumusta yung ano mo, oh sige alis na ko
247. ganyan ganyan, hindi ganun kaano, katagal.
248. I: Diba lumaki ka po na wala siya, tapos kaya sabi mo hindi mo siya ganun
249. kakilala.
250. R:Gusto ko siyang intindihin kung bakit siya ganun samin, kung bakit niya palagi
251. niya kami nilalagyan ng line na dito na lang anak lang kita, pinakain lang kita,
252. ngayon kailangan mong bayaran yung ginawa ko sayo ganun.
253. I: Kasi lumaki ka na walang papa sabi mama tapos, nung umuwi siya awkward
254. kayo kasi di mo siya ganun kakilala, uhh… ang tanong ko.. Hindi ka po ba
255. gumawa ng paraan para kilalanin siya?
256. R: Gumawa naman ako ng way, parang kinakausap ko siya pero pag sinasagot
257. ko siya pabalang na. Gagawa ako ng circle naming dalawa lang kasi para
258. maintindihan ko siya.
259. I: Sa mga kapatid mo po, kumusta yung relasyon mo sa ngayon?
260. R: Okay naman kami, except kuya ko.
261. I: Bakit?
262. R: Kasi… alam mo na diba. Ayun, ayun may kabit siya, habang yung asawa
263. tsaka anak niya na sa Marinduque, so medyo naging distance ako kasi alam niya
264. naman puro babae kami, tapos hindi niya naisip yung mafifeel name kung samin
265. nangyari yun.
266. I: Yung form of communication nyo po ngayon, Pano?
267. R: Sa kuya ko, or sa lahat?
268. I: Sa kuya mo po.
269. R: Sa kuya ko, wala naman… Pero nadistance lang din talaga ako sa kanya kasi
270. dahil nga dun.
271. I: May kinalaman dun yung Papa mo?
272. R: Yeah. History repeats itself.
273. I: So namana niya ganon?
274. R: Yeaah.
275. I: Nagtataka po kasi ako, magkakasama po ba kayo sa isang bahay?
276. R: Oo, pwera lang sa ate ko kasi nasa ibang bansa sya.
277. I: Magkakasama po kayong lumaki?
278. R: Si ate Mau, yung pangatlo, kasi andun siya sa tita ko, pero dumadalaw dalaw
279. siya sa amin.
280. I: Okay, nung nasa ibang bansa yung Papa mo syempre binibigyan ka nya ng
281. mga Barbie, sapat ba yun? Yung binibigay nya sayo para matumbasan na wala
282. siya sa bahay?
283. R: Kasi binibigay nya yun at, hindi dahil dun, dahil… ah gusto mo ganun ganun.
284. Hindi lang parang…
285. I: Bukod sa Barbie?
286. R: Wala na.
287. I: Sapat ba yung ibinibigay niya sayo para matumbasan yung kung ano man
288. yung pagkukulang niya sayo?
289. R: Yung love hindi.Hindi kasi ako materialistic.
290. Kasi mas gusto ko yung nakacapture ng mata ko yung moment naming, tapos
291. yung hindi lang siya dun sa gamit, kasi yung gamit diba nawawala, narereplace
292. siya, pero yung memory hindi.
293. I: So hindi sapat na parang,
294. R: Better siguro kung dito siya.
295. I: Si ate Mau po, pag umuwi po siya kumusta po yung relasyon nyo?
296. R: Ate Mau? Ate Sheng?
297. I: Opo. Yung nasa tita mo po.
298. R: ah si Ate Mau, keri lang. Aware naman kasi ako na kapatid ko siya pero mas
299. close ako sa tita ko.
300. I: Kung ikaw papipiliin, si papa mo na kinalakihan mo o si papa mo na nasa ibang
301. bansa?
302. R: Siguro mas gusto ko yung papa ko nasa ibang bansa.
303. I: Bukod sa bumalik siya ah.
304. R: Kasi mas nag-grow ako e, na diba parang yung iba mas naging independent
305. ako, kasi lumaki ako nang walang… hindi ganun kaclose yung parents,
306. I: Kung ikaw yung nasa kalagayan ng Papa mo, sa tingin mo ba worth it pumunta
307. ka ng ibang bansa?
308. R: Kasi dalawa yung iniisip ko, nasplit yung utak ko hahaha, kasi maganda din
309. naman na, kung worth it na… worth it siya kung more on positive yung nasa utak
310. ng Papa ko. Kunwari, ah para ‘to sa future ng anak ko, gan’to ganyan, kailangan
311. ko magtrabaho ng mabuti, hindi lang yung pwede rin sa other side na, ah
312. magtatrabaho ako para ano sa future mababalik naman nila sakin yun na kapag
313. humingi ako ng pera sa kanila maibibigay nila agad, ganun.
314. So ayun yung negative, yung hihingian ka.
315. Kung ako yung Papa ko, yung sa anak ko, ah kailangan, parang pagaaralin kita
316. para masuklian o mabalik mo sakin yung pinangaral mo sakin, yung ganun.
317. I: So ano sa tingin mo talaga yung mindset ng Papa mo.
318. R: Sa ngayon, yung nasa ibang bansa sya, yung negative.
319. I: Paano nyo po nasabi?
320. R: Sinusumbat niya sakin e.
321. I: sinusumbat? Na ano?
322. R: Yun. Sinusumbat niya na bakit daw, bakit pa niya ko pinag-aral dati kung
323. ganyan lang din yung kinalabasan ko ngayon, ganun, parang sinusumbat niya
324. lahat.
325. I: Ano pala sa tingin mo yung magiging worth para sa kanya? Nasa ibang bansa
326. ako hindi worth yung pag-iibang bansako kasi blank blank blank. Paano
327. magiging worth it?
328. R: Sa tingin ko, siguro magiging worth it yun kung nasa isip ni Papa ngayon,
329. kung yun nga, dahil pa rin sa pera, feeling ko nagtatrabaho talaga sya parang
330. yung parang, gusto niya lahat ng ginagawa nya ngayon may kapalit hindi siya
331. yung parang, hindi niya resposibilidad, parang ginagawa niya lang yun kasi gusto
332. niyang may bumalik sa kanya in the future.
333. I: Ikaw ba bilang anak, gagawin mo yun? Ibabalik mo ba sa kanya yung perang
334. pinaghirapan niya sa ibang bansa?
335. R: Kun yun yung gusto niya.
336. I: Gagawin mo?
337. R: Oo..Pero syempre joke lang. HAHAHAH de joke lang.

338. I: HAHAHAHAHAHA
339. R: magtatago na ko sa Korea.
340. I: Bakit?
341. R: kasi ano naman, kahit si Papa nararamdaman ko naman na parang napipilitan
342. na lang din siya, tapos syempre meron din akong side na, “ah tatay ko sya” kaya
343. kailangan ko siya intindihin, kailangan ko din lumawak yung pasensya ko nang
344. sobrang lawak kasi tatay ko siya, at the end of the day, tatay ko pa rin siya.
345. I: Kailangan maging mas understanding yung anak kaysa…
346. R: Hindi, kasiganun naman talaga e, parang kasi dalawa din yung iniisip ko, yung
347. talagang sa sarili ko, pero yung parang nature na nangyayari na, at the end of
348. the day, tatay ko pa rin siya kailangan ko siya intindihi, kailangan ko siya
349. mahalin, kahit na ano yung sabihin niya sayo ganun.
350. I: Ano pong gusto nyong sabihin sa Papa nyo na hindi nyo nasasabi?
351. I: Tissue guys, tissue. HAHAHAHA
352. R: Magbago ka na, HAHAHAHA. Para naman mas magaan yung trabaho ko.
353. De ayun, sana magbago na sya, wag na matigas yung ulo niya. Kasi sumasabay
354. siya sa Thesis e. Alam mo yun. Sakit sa ulo.
355. I: Ano gusto mo sabihin kay Ate Sheng?
356. R: Thank you sa lahat lahat ng natulong niya kung paano ako naggrow, sobrang
357. open niya sa lahat.
358. I: Bigyan ka na lang niya ng cookies.
359. R: Thank you.
360. I: Babye!
Respondent 2: Gea
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I (Interviewer); R (Respondent) [I1- Kid, I2- Pau, I3- Gieleen, R- Gea)
1. R: Game na.
2. I1:Mas gusto nyo po ba yung formal approach?
3. R: Ayoko. Yung parang ano lang, normal lang.
4. I1: Sino mags-start? Magp-pick ba tayo kung sino mag-start?
5. I2: Wait lang ha. Normal gusto nya.
6. I3: Ano?
7. I2: Wag natin isunod-sunod yung questions, basta.
8. R: Parang na-pressure naman ako.
9. *I, R laughs*
10. R: Baka hindi ko masagot agad ha?
11. I2: Hindi.
12. I3: Hindi, ano to, walang tama o mali.
13. I2: ..na sagot. Basta ayon, medyo kalma ka lang.
14. I3: Kung ano yung nasa loob mo, naisip mo, ganon.
15. I2: Nasa isip mo.
16. I1: Nasa puso mo, nasa tiyan mo.
17. R: Delikado pag nasa tiyan.
18. I3: Ayan. Start na. Diba alam na natin yung pangalan niya, yung nickname niya.
19. Age, 18
20. years old. Kasi pag ako nagtanong, alam ko na eh. /tumawa/
21. I2: Saan ka nag-aaral?
22. R: STI College of Caloocan.
23. I1: Gaano kalayo yung school mo mula doon hanggang dito po?
24. R: Hmm.. Sa Monumento kasi ako dumadaan eh… bale dalawang jeep. Di ko
25. lang alam kung ilang meters, pero may daan din dito sa may Sangandaan na
26. mas malapit.
27. I1: Gaano katagal po yung byahe?
28. R: Depende. Pero kapag walang traffic, siguro mga.. ah.. 45 mins or 30 mins
29. lang. Kung may traffic kasi, umaabot ng mga mag-1 hour.
30. I1: Ano pong course nyo doon sa STI po?
31. R: Computer Science.
32. I1: Bakit po Computer Science yung course nyo?
33. R: Peer pressure.
34. I1: Peer pressure?

35. R: Unplanned sya. Hindi sya.. planado na yun yung kunin kong course kasi ano
36. yun eh, kailangan mo nang pumili ng course. Eh lahat ng.. nung time na pumunta
37. ako sa mga universities, ano na sya, hindi na sya pwede, sarado na ata sila for
38. freshmen. Kaya ayon, Computer Science na lang nakuha ko. Tsaka ayaw rin
39. kasi ako payagan ng parents ko kapag malayo lalo na sa Manila. Kasi daw
40. mahirap bumyahe papunta.
41. I1: Kamusta naman po sa STI po?
42. R: Paanong kamusta? Yung.. environment? Yung sa environment, okay lang.
43. Masaya.
44. I1: May mga kakilala ka po ba doon sa pinapasukan mo po ngayon?
45. R: Kakilala?
46. I1: Kakilala parang nung high school.
47. R: Yes. M-m. Meron.
48. I1: Nagkakasalubong po kayo, ganon?
49. R: Oo, pero hindi kami nag-uusap kasi schoolmates lang eh. Di kami ganon
50. magkakaclose pero meron doon isang kakilala.
51. 4th year sya non tapos 3rd year ako nung high school tapos hanggang ngayon,
52. nagbabatian pa din kami.
53. I1: Batian? Ano po yung batian?
54. R: Parang nagkakausap konti…chitchat. Little conversations.
55. I1: Ah, chitchat. Nabubuhay ka po sa chitchat?
56. R: Ha?
57. *I, R laughs*
58. R: Nagulat ako.
59. I1: Hindi, kasi ano, yung sa part ko kasi, nakakamatay yung chitchat. Yung
60. parang halimbawa, magh-hi ka saken, parang pag-iisipan ko pa kailangan ko ba
61. mag-hello. Kasi diba, ganon yung ineexpect ng tao eh, kapag nag-hi ka,
62. kailangan mag-hello ako. Kaso parang inisip kong hindi ko naman kailangan..
63. Basta, gets, mo?
64. R: Ah, oo gets ko. Kasi kapag ako nagch-chitchat, kakaiba. Yung parang..
65. /hinampas si Gieleen ng malakas/ UYYYY KAMUSTA!!!! Yung ganon. Tapos
66. syempre, yung ano, yung isa naman, sasapukin mo… Yunnnggg parang ganon.
67. Yun yung chitchat para saken. Hindi yung parang simpleng hi lang. Ganon kasi
68. ako maglambing, mapanakit konti.
69. I1: Yung performance mo po sa school, kamusta naman po?
70. R: Okay lang. Kahit madaming tasks, time management lang.
71. I1: Oh. Pano po mag-time manage?
72. R: Ah.. L-list ko muna yung mga important activities tapos ayon yung una kong
73. uunahin. Tapos yung medyo hindi naman masyado importante, parang ayon na
74. muna yung medyo ih-hold ko, mas bibigyan ko ng konting oras.
75. I1: Astig.
76. I3: Ano bang mga ginagawa mo sa school?
77. R: Madami. Bawat kasi isang subject, parang kahit hindi major, nagpapaka-
78. major. Yung parang may essay, may reporting, tapos may defense, may..
79. gagawa ka ng ganito, parang bahay.
80. I3: Nire-require sa inyo?
81. R: Ewan ko ba. Ayun yung gusto nila eh… research, ganon.
82. I3: Pressure.
83. R: Kaya minsan wala nang tulog.
84. I2: Ah.. nabanggit niyo po kanina na ano.. nagt-time manage po kayo. Kailan
85. niyo po natutunan yon?
86. R: Nung nag-college lang ako. Kasi nung high school ako, parang wala lang eh.
87. Parang hindi ako masyadong gumagawa, nagre-review, kasi parang chill chill
88. lang nung high school pero nung nag-college kasi, parang don ko na-realize na
89. parang.. kailangan na mag-seryoso talaga kasi yun na yung parang last mo na
90. ano para makakuha ng magandang work sa field. Ayon.
91. I1: Ang bait niyo pong estudyante.
92. R: Medyo, medyo. Yung mga kaklase ko kasi, na ano ako, na-impluwensyahan
93. ako.
94. I3: Ganon din sila?
95. R: Oo, parang ano.. parang kailangan, mas maaga pa sa deadline, kailangan
96. tapos na yung mga ginagawa. Para di ka na ano.
97. I1: Naiingit ako..
98. I3: Ganon mga kaklase mo?
99. R: M-m, tapos todo review… magpupuyat, hindi na sila natutulog. Tapos
100. syempre naiingit ka rin kasi matataas grades nila. Kailangan galingan ko din kasi
101. nakakahiya kapag ikaw lang diba, pero madalas, ako yung mababa. Ewan ko
102. kung bakit… pero hindi naman sobrang baba. Mas mataas pa din sila. Yon.
103. I3: Bakit? nahihirapan ka sa mga subject?
104. R: Hindi ko kasi gusto yung ibang subject, parang hindi ko feel.
105. Boring, naboboringan ako. Lalo na yung ano, yung breadboard.
106. I3: Ano yung breadboard?
107. R: Yung circuits. Kailangan kasi samin non eh. /kinuha yung breadboard/
108. I3: Bread.. breadboard?
109. R: Nakakamatay yung subject na to.
110. I1: Mukha silang may engineering din noh?
111. I2: Kaya nga eh.
112. R: Wait lang ha.
113. I3: Computer Science..
114. R: /pinakita yung breadboard/
115. I1,2: Halaaaa
116. I3: Hala, parang ganito yung sa kuya ko.
117. R: Ganyan.
118. I2: Engineering..
119. I1: Electrical?
120. R: Ang dumi na nyan. Parang nung 2nd year pa ata yan or 3rd year.. Ang dumi na.
121. I3: Yung ganyan nung kuya ko ano eh..
122. R: Hindi kasi, nung una, hindi ko sya ma-gets. Yung mga kung saan ilalagay
123. pero nung bandang huli, medyo medyo nagets ko na din… tapos may bulb yan,
124. may bulb, tapos pagpapalit-palitin mo... tapos may mga conditional statements
125. na kailangan matama mo.
126. I2: Kapag hindi natama?
127. R: Mali ka. Bawas sa grade mo. Tapos yung mga ganong black, may mga
128. number yon, corresponding para gumana sya.
129. I3: Para saan yan?
130. R:Ha?
131. I3: Para saan?
132. I2: /kinakalikot yung breadboard/
133. R: Ano.. logic, yung sa timing. Parang logic sya… circuit.
134. I2: Designing lang yan?
135. R: Oo. Logic.
136. I1: Ano pong tawag ulit? Breadboard?
137. R: M-m. Breadboard.
138. I1: Bakit po breadboard?
139. R: Hindi ko rin alam. Akala ko ano syaaa, br- bread ng board. Oo akala ko
140. /laughs/. Sorry na. Tapos yung.. eto pala binili naming sa ano, san ba yung
141. bilihan ng mga ano.. electronics? Recto ba yun? Basta doon sa place na yon.
142. Pumunta pa kami kasi andaming kailangan. May bulb bulb pa kaya..
143. I2: Umiilaw ba yung bulb kapag..
144. R: M-m. Tinanggal ko na kasi.
145. I1: Wala sya yung ano.. hindi na po kailangan ng saksakan?
146. R: Hindi na.
147. I2: Paano sya umiilaw gamit yan?
148. R: Para kasing dumidikit dito tapos yun yung parang nagdadala ng flow ng
149. electricity. Dito ata yun eh.
150. I2: Solar ano ba yan.. solar..
151. R: Hindi. Hindi ko rin alam kung paano.
152. I3: Paano umiilaw yan? Parang may switch? Ganon?
153. R: Hindi ano, eto nagkokonekta.
154. I3: Connect connect lang?
155. R: Yung mga ano, wires. Tapos kailangan naka connect sa ano.. nakalimutan ko
156. yung tawag dito. Yung sa black. Oo, don sa black, tapos papunta doon sa bulb.
157. /explains pano iilaw yugn bulb/
158. I1: Anong taon po umalis yung mama mo po?
159. R: Sabi niya kasi saken, nung 5 y/o daw ako. Tapos every 2 years sya umuuwi.
160. Pero ngayon every year na.
161. I2: Sino kasama mo non? Dito?
162. R: Pinauwi ng parents ko yung kapatid ng papa ko, yung bunso na babae.
163. Tapos sya yung parang nag-aalaga saken non so bata pa ako non. Bale kapag
164. nagw-work si papa, sya yung nagbabantay dito saken. Galing siyang probinsya.
165. I1: May sinabi po ba sayo yung mama mo po nung 5 ka, before po sya umalis?
166. R: Hindi ko na maalala.
167. I1: Ano po yung una mo pong naramdaman?
168. R: Hmm.. nagtampo.
169. I1: Bakit ka po nagtampo?
170. R: Kasi parang… bakit? Maraming reasons na pumapasok sa utak ko kung bakit
171. kailangan niyang mag-abroad. Kasi marami namang opportunities dito kahit
172. mababa naman yung sweldo para makasma kami tapos mag-aabroad pa siya.
173. Kaya ayon. Pero nung lumaki na ako, naintindihan ko naman na lahat.
174. I2: Ano ung mga reasons na naisip mo?
175. R: Nung bata ako.. kasi naalala ko lang non, hindi ko lang matandaan kung
176. anong age ako non tapos umalis sya non, tapos parang di ko na kinaya yung
177. bigat na nararamdaman ko kaya nagtanong ako kay papa kung bakit kailangan
178. niyang umalis. Tapos sabi naman ni papa, para.. kasi daw ano.. nahihirapan daw
179. tustusan yung mga gastusin.. gastusin sa bahay, tsaka sa pag-aaral ko. Eh nung
180. time na yon, private pa ako kaya sabi ni papa, para daw samen naman yung
181. ginagawa ni mama. Kaya ayon. Pero nalipat din naman ako ng public nung
182. grade 3 ako.
183. I2: Every year sya.. Ay dati, every 2 years? So pag umuuwi sya ng ganon, kapag
184. may okasyon ba?
185. I1: Or kapag may vacation sa school?
186. R: Minsan kasi, iba iba eh. Umuuwi sya ng ano, nung bata ako, hindi sya umuuwi
187. ng occasion, ng December, ng birthday niya, ng New Year, di sya nakakauwi.
188. Nakakauwi sya ng mga.. bakasyon. Yon. Minsan may pasok ako.
189. I1: Ah. Depende po.
190. R: M-m. Depende sa paalam niya sa amo nya.
191. I3: Anong work ni mama mo?
192. R: Work… Hindi ko alam yung specific na work niya, kung anong tawag.. Kasi
193. all-around sya sa bahay eh. Di ko alam kung.. hindi naman sa.. yaya ng bata.
194. Parang di naman ganon. Parang minsan, naglilinis sya ng buong bahay, minsan
195. nag-aalaga. Kaya hindi ko alam kung ano’ng specific na trabaho nya talaga.
196. I1: Kapag umuuwi po sya dito, gaano po sya katagal nag-stay sa bakasyon po
197. nya dito?
198. R: Ngayon kasi, nung birthday ko, nung debut ko, ano.. 2 months, matagal na
199. yon. Bale dati, yung pinakamatagal nyang uwi, 1 month lang, Isang buwan at
200. kalahati, ganon lang.
201. I1: Anu-ano po yung mga ginagawa niyo kapag nandito po sya?
202. R: Ano, lagi kaming umaalis, lagi kaming nagb-bonding, ganon ganon.
203. I1: Kadalasan po, saan po kayo nagpupunta?
204. R: Ngayon? Or dati? Iba kasi dati eh.
205. I1: Pwedeng dati, pwede ngayon.
206. R: Dati kasi, madalang kami magpunta ng mga mall. Puro lang kami sa mga tita
207. namin, bumibili ng pagkain, tapos doon kami kakain, get together. Ngayon
208. naman kasi, parang lagi kaming nasa labas. Malls, sinehan, grocery. Laging may
209. stock ng pagkain.
210. 1: Pag nasa ibang bansa naman po yung mama mo, meron naman po bang mga
211. time na, parang nagkakaroon po ba kayo ng libreng oras par makapag-usap?
212. R: Yung serious.. hindi naman. Oo naman, kapag gabi. Minsan kasi, maaga
213. natutulog si papa kaya yun yung chance na parang makapag-usap kami.
214. Harutan, ganon. Pag gabi na.
215. I1: Yun po yung kapag nandito po sya?
216. R: Oo.
217. I1: Pero kapag nasa ibang bansa po sya?
218. R: Ngayon kasi, ano.. Hindi na kami masyadong nagkakakita sa.. ano.. skype,
219. ganon. Chat na lang. Madalang sobra. Kasi busy din ako, busy din siya. Kaya
220. kapag mayfree time, tsaka lang kami nagkaka-chat. Chat lang.
221. I1: Anu-ano po yung mga napag-uusapan niyo kapag nagch-chat po kayo?
222. Pwede po ba naming malaman?
223. R: Wala naman kaming specific na pinag-uusapan. Parang ano lang, “Take
224. care”, ganon. “Wag magpapapagod sa work”, tapos tinatanong niya ako if
225. kamusta ako sa school, kung okay pa ba ako, ganon, kasi nga mag-isa na lang
226. ako.
227. I3: Ano namang sinasabi mo kapag kinakumusta ka nya?
228. R: Okay lang. Hindi kasi ako palasabi ng serious problem kay mama eh. Kapag
229. may problem ako tapos kaya ko naman solusyunan, hindi ko na sinasabi.
230. I1: Bakit po?
231. R: Hindi ko alam. Parang.. nature na saken na ganon ako. Kasi nga nasanay na
232. akong maging ano..
233. I1: Niloloob mo po?
234. R: Oo.
235. I1: Bakit po ayaw mo pong ilabas?
236. R: Kasi parang ayoko silang ma-ano.. mag-worry. Kaya ko naman eh. Parang
237. bata pa lang ako wala na akong masyadong ano.. kasi bata pa lang ako, si papa
238. ano eh, hindi ko naman masabihan ng problema kasi lagi syang busy. Tapos lagi
239. ding problemado sa pagb-budget, ganon.
240. Kaya sarili ko na lang, since nung bata pa lang ako.
241. I1: Naalala ko po, pinauwi po yung bunsong kapatid na babae (tita)? So sya po
242. yung nakasama mo dito.. Tapos, nasan na po sya ngayon?
243. R: Nasa ano sya.. probinsya.
244. I1: Tapos bumabalik po?
245. R: Hindi na. Kasi may baby na sya. Nabuntis kasi sya.. kaya yon. Yung pag-uwi
246. nya parang, hindi sya talagang.. uwi na talaga.. dahil lang sa nabuntis sya kaya
247. sya umuwi.
248. I1: Sino na lang po yung nakakasama mo dito?
249. R: Nung umuwi sya, dumating yung pinsan kong babae, sa side ni papa. Tapos..
250. pinag-aral sya, ganon. Eh.. meron kasi syang sakit.. Parang syang may.. anong
251. tawag don? Yung parang may epilepsy, ganon. May parang ganong side sya na
252. parang.. mainit tapos biglang lamig, nainigas na gumaganon /demonstrates/
253. yung kamay nya. Eh natatakot kasi si mama, tapos sinabihan pa nung mama nya
254. nung pinsan ko yung mama ko na hindi daw naming pinapa-check up ganon,
255. tapos naiinis si mama na pinag-aral na nga sya, libre na nga pagkain tapos
256. ganon pa, kaya pinauwi na lang yung pinsan ko, kaya ngayon, ako na lang mag-
257. isa.. kapag wala si papa.
258. I2: Gaano kadalas na mag-isa ka lang dito? May times ba na hindi umuuwi yung
259. father mo?
260. R: Hindi naman. Ano kasi sya, maaga sya umaalis. Madalas, mga 8(AM) tapos
261. uwi sya ng mga 9(PM).
262. Bale uwi ko kasi, alas syete. Kaya yun lang. Parang yun lang yung pagkikita
263. naming ni papa. Umaga, tsaka gabi. Minsan, tanghali. Kung minsan, kapag 1
264. yung uwi ko, nagkikita kami. Pero saglit lang.
265. I2: Anong nangyayari kapag nandito na kayo? Parang.. may time pa ba?
266. R: Mag-usap?
267. I2: Kapag magkasama.. nag-uusap?
268. R: Kapag.. hmm.. minsan. Pero hindi madalas. Parang wala lang. Parang wala..
269. pumupunta sya, tapos kakain.
270. I2: Anong parang wala lang?
271. R: Parang wala lang, sya nandyan, tapos ako, tapos hahainan ko sya, tapos
272. matutulog sya tapos gigisingin ko sya. Ganon lang.
273. I1: Kamusta po ba yung relasyon nyo ng papa mo?
274. R: Okay lang. Uhm.. close naman kami pero hindi kasing close ng mama ko.
275. Parang kasi, kapag nandito si mama, parang binubuhos ko sa kanya yung oras
276. ko kasi nga, hindi kami masyadong nagkakasama, na parang ngayon ngayon
277. lang kami nagkasama ng mama ko. Kaya parang sa kanya ko nabubuhos yung
278. oras ko talaga.
279. —break—
280. I1: Ate break naman po diba? Pwede po magtanong ng hindi related? Gusto mo
281. po bang maging ibon?
282. R: Ibon? Hm.. hirap naman ng tanon mo. /laughs/. Ang hirap kasi ng ibon,
283. parang lagging pinaapalaya. Hirap namn lagging nakakulong.
284. *I, R laughs*
285. 198. R: Hindi, kasi diba, may ibon na kinukulong, may ibon na malaya? Ayon,
286. kaya mahirap magdecide kung gusto ko ba o hindi.
287. I2: Kung magiging hayop po kayo, ano kayo?
288. I3: Oh, yun na lang.
289. R: Ang hirap naman nyan.
290. I3: Pang-Miss Universe, dali.
291. R: Maging hayop.. (naiba yung topic, napunta sa province)
292. I3: Saan yung probinsya mo?

293. R: Ilo-ilo. Yun nga yung na-stranded kami ng ano, 12 hours.
294. I3: Bakit?
295. R: Kasi may bagyo. Doon sa Mindoro ata banda.
296. I3: Kailan ba yon? Last week?
297. R: M-m. (nagkwento ng pagka-stranded sa byahe dahil may bagyo tsaka about
298. Ilo-ilo, tsaka pagtira sa bundok, nagkwentuhan about sa baka)
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299. I3: /nakita namin yung pictures sa cabinet na nakadikit/ Bakit may bumbay?
300. R: Alaga yan ng mama ko.
301. I1,2,3: Ohhhhh
302. I1: May attachment yung alaga ng mama mo sa laga nya?
303. R: Oo.
304. I2: Ilang years na nagt-trabaho yung mama mo sa kanilang tatlo? Mas gwapo
305. yung pangatlo.
306. R: Hindi ko alam eh. Kasi andami na nila, meron nga doon ano eh, yung alaga
307. nya, nagkaroon ng baby. Bale parang apo nya na yon. Tapos ang popogi ng mga
308. alaga nya, malaki mata, meron kamukha ni Tanner, pero bata pa lang. Pag laki,
309. kamukha ni Tanner sa PBB. Angc-cute, parang mga manika.
310. I2: Yan lang yung mga pinagsilbihan nya or meron pang iba? Tas sa kanilang
311. tatlo lang pinaka-na-attach.
312. R: Hindi ko alam, Hindi ko nga kilala yang mag yan eh.
313. I3: Isang family lang?
314. R: Oo, isang bahay. Pero meron nang mga nakabukod kasi may ano na, asawa
315. na.
316. I1: Pwede po matanong if, ano yung nararamdman mo na..
317. I2: Close..
318. I3: M-m.
319. I1: Yon.
320. R: Na-aano, nagseselos ako. Maano kasi ako eh, dati parang selfish ako.
321. I1: Selfish? In a way na?
322. R: Parang ano.. hindi naman sa attention seeker. Parang pag gusto ko, ako, ako
323. lang. Pag ako, ako lang. Selfish ako eh parang sa mama ko. Nung una, selfish
324. pero parang sa huli, napagod na ako kaka-selos.
325. I1: Napagod ka kakaselos?
326. R: Naintindihan ko na.. trabaho nya yon. Part ng trabaho nya.
327. I1: Nagk-kwento po ba yung mama mo about sa kanila?
328. R: Oo. Minsan, dati, nung may laptop pa sya, nags-skype kami tapos
329. pinapakausap nya saken yung mga mananahi nila, yung mga kasamahan niya
330. don na Pilipino din, tapos yung alaga niyang malaki mata /laughs/. Hindi, malaki
331. talaga yung mata, ang cute. Dolly (?) ata pangalan.
332. I1: Ano yung nararamdaman mo nung pinapakausap ng mama mo sila sayo?
333. R: Okay lang.. parang.. okay lang. Parang wala lang.

334. I1: Since nangingibang bansa po yung mama mo, paano ka po nagc-cope up sa
335. pakiramdam mo na.. wala si mama?
336. R: Nung una mahirap. Hindi ko alam kung paano.. para kasing nasanay na ako..
337. na parang.. doon sa feeling na yon. Kaya dahil doon sa parang nasanay ka na,
338. parang.. out of nowhere bigla mo na lang magagawang pagaanin yung
339. pakiramdam mo. Ganon.
340. I1: Ano po yun ‘feeling’ na sinasabi mo na nasanay ka na sa feeling na yon?
341. R: Ano, malungkot.. tapos syempre, bata ka palang, naghahanap ka ng mama,
342. ganon. Ayon.
343. I1: Nasanay ka na pong maging malungkot? Tapos..
344. R: Mag-isa.
345. I1: Natutunan mo na pong pagaanin yung sarili mong nararamdaman..
346. I2: Paano nyo po napapagaan?
347. R: Hindi ko alam eh, parang bigla na lang. Parang biglang one day, pagkagising
348. ko, ganon na.
349. I3: Parang part of growing up? Ganon?
350. R: Kasi nagm-mature, may mga natututunan.
351. I1: Mature.. Paano po bang masasabi na mature na yung tao?
352. R: Kapag kaya na i-handle yung.. feelings.
353. I1: Feelings na?
354. R: Paano ba maging mature.. hindi ko ma-define eh. Pass /laughs/
355. I2: Naalala ko na nabanggit mo yung mga paghihirap noon, ano ba yung mga
356. bagay na kinonsidera mong paghihirap?
357. R: Wala si mama. Dati kasi, magkakasama kami ng tita ko, yung kapatid ng
358. mama ko. Hindi dito, palipat lipat kasi kami ng bahay. Malaki kasi yung bahay na
359. yon, parang doble neto. Tapos may second floor. So parang nagdecide ata sina
360. mama non na parang pagsamahin na lang, tapos maghati-hati sa rent, sa tubig,
361. kuryente, ganon ganon. Tapos yung tita ko that time, may galit yata sila saken or
362. inggit ata. Pero di naman nila sinabi na parang naiingit sila, parang
363. nararamdaman mo na lang. Tapos meron syang tatlong anak. Tapos parang lagi
364. nila akong inaaway. Hindi naman sa minamaltrato, parang yung pinagkakaisahan
365. nila ako. Diba bat aka, naalala ko pa, laruan, laruan ko, tapos parang inaagaw
366. nila, ganon. Syempre, ako parang.. hindi ako iiyak. Parang, nagkukulong na lang
367. ako sa kwarto, nag-iisip ng mga bagay bagay.
368. I1: Bakit sa tingin mop o, ganon sila makitungo sayo?
369. R: Feeling ko kasi naiingit talaga sila kasi yung parang nabibigay na needs ni
370. mama saken, may mga bagay na nabibigay si mama saken na parang wala sa
371. kanila. Lalo na yung mga anak, parang naiingit sila saken.
372. I2: Nasaan po yung papa mo that time?
373. R: Nasa work kasi sya non. Parang ganon din yung time ng uwi nya, mga 8(PM).
374. Tapos busy sya, nag.. anong tawag don.. nags-sideline sya. Nag-aayos sya ng
375. electric fan, minsan TV, ganon, dati.
376. I2: Nabanggit nyo po ba yung nangyayari? Or..

377. R: Alam ko nasabi ko yon kay papa eh. Kaya kapag pumupunta sya ng.. yung
378. papa ko kasi, ano sya, active sya sa simbahan nila, Catholic. Tapos kapag
379. pumupunta sya doon, gusto ko sumama kasi nga ayoko maiwan, tapos ayon,
380. sinasabi ko yung reason kung bakit. Kaya.. eh minsan hindi ako nakakasama
381. kasi nga.. ang kulit ko daw. Sobrang kulit ko kasi nung bata. Katumbas daw ako
382. ng 10 bata that time kaya hindi ako sinasama. Sabi ni mama, pag nakaupo daw
383. akong ganyan, hindi ako mapakali. Pupunta ako doon, aayusin ko yung ganyan,
384. ikakalat ko, ganon.
385. I1: Aayusin.. ikakalat..
386. I2: Nakakapagod yon. Hindi ka napaapgod?
387. R: Hindi ko nga alam yung pinag-gagawa ko eh.
388. I1: Ano po yung naging reaksyon ng papa mo po nung kwinento mo po yon sa
389. kanya?
390. R: Hmm.. feeling ko hindi naman sya nagulat.
391. I1: Hindi sya nagulat?
392. I2: Bakit sa tingin mo, hindi sya nagulat?
393. R: Kasi feeling ko, napapansin nya din kapag nandoon sya eh. Tapos bumabait
394. lang sila kapag nandyan yung mama ko. Parang bigla na lang.
395. I3: Ilang taon na ba yon, sila? Yung mga pinsan mo?
396. R: That time.. Uhm.. iba iba kasi eh. Pero meron akong ka-age. 8 ata or 7.
397. I1: Tapos ilang taon ka po non?
398. R: Same lang doon sa pangalawang anak. Ahead lang ata sya ng isang taon,
399. siguro mga.. 7? Tapos meron pang mas matanda doon, 10 ata. Tapos may bata
400. pa, 5 ata sya.. 6? Ewan ko, hindi ko na maalala.
401. I1: So.. pasabi po if mali ha. Base po sa kwinento nyo kung paano sila makitungo
402. sayo.. na-mental block ako..
403. *I, R laughs*
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404. I3: Ngayon, okay na kayo ng mga pinsan mo?

405. R: M-m.
406. I3: Naalala pa nila yon?
407. R: M-m.
408. I3: Anong sinasabi nila kapag naaalala nila yon?
409. R: Hindi na naming ino-open.
410. I1: Kamusta yung buhay mo nung bata ka pa tapos wala si mama mo.. tapos
411. ganon paying pakikitungo sayo ng mga pinsan mo?
412. R: Mahirap. Nagkukulong na lang talaga ako sa kwarto.
413. I1: Anong ginagawa mo sa kwarto po?
414. R: Wala. Nakaupo. Tapos nag-iisip ng ano.. bakit ganon sila, ano bang ginawa
415. ko, yung mga ganon.
416. I1; Ang sakit naman non.
417. R: Tapos may times din na, sa sobrang bigat ng feeling, parang kahit ayaw mo
418. umiyak, maiiyak ka. Yung bigla na lang parang, halimbawa, kapag, inaway nila
419. ako tapos may ginagawa, malaki na ata ako non konti, syempre parang bigla na
420. lang, bigla na lang.. lalabas.. kahit ayaw mo. Ayoko kasi na pinapakita na ano..
421. umiiyak ako..
422. I1: Kasi po?
423. R: Kasi.. parang feeling ko.. that time ha, that time.. na parang, kapag
424. umiyak ka, parang mas, lalo ka nilang.. ipagpapatuloy nila yung ginagawa nila
425. sayo kasi parang.. mahina ka, gaganunin-ganunin ka lang nila.. Yon.
426. I1: Meron po bang pagkakataon na.. hinahanap mo yung presensya ng mama
427. mo?
428. R: M-m naman. Mahirap kasing lumaki na wala yung mama mo sa tabi mo. Iba
429. kasi yung pagpapalaki sa kapag may mama ka sa wala eh. Parang mas okay ka
430. kapag nandyan sya.
431. I1: Paano mo po nasabi na parang mas okay kapag nandiyan sya?
432. R: Kasi parang, sasabihin mo sa kanya yung problema mo, parang mas close ka.
433. Tapos.. isang yakap nya lang, okay na. Iba kasi yung lambing ng nanay kaysa sa
434. tatay eh. Yun lang para saken.
435. I2: Since wala yung mama mo dito, tapos kapag may problema ka.. paano mo
436. nilalabas? May napagk-kwentuhan ka ba..
437. R: Ngayon?
438. I2: Ngayon, or kahit noon.
439. R: Hmm.. that time kasi, sa tita ko.. Nung nandoon na yung tita ko, andon pa din
440. yung family ng (yung isa nyang tita), tapos ilang years na rin ata, umalis na rin
441. sila. Doon ako nagk-kwento, sa tita ko. (I think yung tita sa father side nya, since
442. may conflict sa tita sa mother side nya)
443. I1: Ano pong reaksyon po ng tita mo kapag nagk-kwento ka?
444. R: Syempre, nagagalit.
445. I1: Nagagalit kanino po?
446. R: Sa kanila. Pero syempre, hindi nila pwedeng kalabanin yon kasi syempre,
447. mas matatanda pa rin yon.
448. I1: Kanina po, diba yung tanong naming, parang.. may time ban a kailangan mo
449. yung mama mo. Ngayon po, yung tanong naman po.. sa anong pagkakataon mo
450. po nararamdaman yung presence ng mama mo nung nasa ibang bansa siya?
451. R: Nagch-chat naman kasi sya by week eh. So parang feeling ko.. parang.. okay
452. na saken yon na kahit hindi ko sya kasama.. basta mag-chat lang sya na okay
453. sya, parang kampante na, ganon, okay nako.
454. I1: Meron po bang naging epekto yung.. hindi naman sa pagkawala kasi nandyan
455. pa rin sya.. yung temporary na wala sa tabi yung mama mo? If meron man po..
456. sa anong paraan po?
457. R: Mas nalaman ko kung paano mag-handle ng emotion. Parang kapag galit ako,
458. parang hindi ko na muna sya ipapakita hangga’t kaya ko. Kapag nalulungkot ako,
459. hindi ko sya pinapahalata. Pero kapag hindi ko na talaga kaya at naiiyak na ako,
460. parang pupunta ako sa ibang lugar tapos, hindi kasi talaga ako nagpapakita ng
461. totoong emotion.. maliban na lang kapag masaya ako.
462. I2: Bakit hindi mo pinapakita?
463. R: Feeling ko kasi, ij-judge ako.
464. I3: Na ano?
465. R: Na.. kapag naiiyak ako, na mahina ako. Ayoko talaga ng ganon. Yung may
466. nasasabi, yung may bulung-bulungan.
467. I1: Parang ayaw mo po ng pinag-uusapan ka?
468. R: M-m.
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469. I1: Ano pong hobbies mo?

470. R: Matulog, kumain, ngayon kasi, parang wala akong recent na hobby kasi super
471. busy. Yun lang, matulog, kumain.
472. I1: Ginto po yung pagtulog sa college.
473. R: True. Grabe. Tsaka pala magluto.. pag may time.
474. I3: Marunong ka magluto?
475. R: Oo naman.
476. I3: Ano mga niluluto mo?
477. R: Mga sinigang, adobo. Ako kasi nagluluto kasi wala si mama, walang tao.
478. Kailangan, ako yung magluluto kay papa.
479. I3: Paano ka natuto?
480. R: Internet.
481. I3: Mmm. Ikaw lang, sa sarili mo.
482. R: Oo.
483. I1: So parang ikaw po yung nag-aasikaso sa bahay nyo?
484. R: M-m. Ako yung naglalaba, naglilinis, nagluluto.
485. I1: Ano pong reaksyon ng papa mo kapag nakikitang ‘Halaa, nagluluto sya’.
486. R: Walaaaa. Dati kasi, parang high school pa lang, pinipilit na nila akong dapat
487. matutunan yung mga bagay na dapat.. kailangan mo yan, ganyan, blablablabla.
488. Kaya pinilit ko na matuto kahit ayoko talaga. Kasi natatakot ako sa talsik ng
489. mantika, mga ganong factor. Wala, wala syang.. reaksyon. Dati.. feeling ko
490. niloloko nya lang ako para ako lagi magluto. Sabi “Wow, sarap naman!”, ganon,
491. keme keme. Feeling ko, niloloko lang ako non eh. Kaya ayon.
492. I1: Ano po sa tingin mo yung nararamdaman ng mama mokapag nasa ibang
493. bansa sya?
494. R: Tinanong ko sya about dyan. Sabi niya, malungkot daw, nami-miss nya ako,
495. kaya nagch-chat sya saken kapag may free time sya.
496. I1: Ah.. share ko lang. May nakilala akong OFW recently. Tapos.. tatlong buwan
497. lang ata sya tumagal. Kasi sabi niya, sobrang lungkot nya kasi nag-aalaga siya
498. ng anak ng iba, pero yung sarili nyang anak hindi niya maalagaan. Grabe daw
499. yung homesick nya.
500. R: Ganon din yung naramadaman ng mama ko.. nung first time nyang mag-ibang
501. bansa. Pero kasi, mas parang.. inuna nya yung parang.. inuna nya yung priority
502. nya samen na kailangan nyang tustusan yung mga pangangailangan naming, as
503. a mother. Kahit na hindi nya ako na-aalagaan, basta pagbibigay lang ng mag
504. kailangan naming dito sa bahay, doon sya bumabawi.. yun yung sabi nya saken.
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505. I2: Aware yung mga magulang mo sa ganon?

506. R: Saan?
507. I2: Yun, yung may karelasyon ka.
508. R: Oo
509. I2: Okay lang sakanila?
510. R: Oo.
511. I2: Oh talaga. Ang luwag.
512. R: Hindi yung dati kasi sabi ng mama ko, “bawal ka magka-crush ha” sabi niyang
513. ganon sakin, high school yata ako non, so parang automatic na bawal magka-
514. crush so bawal din magka-boyfriend kasi parang yung crush, parang ano lang,
515. parang mababaw lang so pag boyfriend, parang ano na, ang deep na, tapos yon,
516. nung una di ko sinabi sakanila, kasi baka kung anong gawin nila sakin, patigilin
517. nila ko ng pag-aaral ganon.
518. I2: Paano mo sinabi yon?
519. R: Uhmmm… nung 4th yr highschool ako yata o college na, kasi ano, bigla na
520. lang. Hindi ko sinabi na “Uy may boyfriend nako” ganon. Kasi yung guy na yon,
521. friend nila, friend ni mama sa facebook. Tapos minsan, dati, pinoprofile pic niya
522. ako, syempre nakikita ng nanay ko, “sino to”, ganyan ganyan tapos tinanong niya
523. sakin ng personal tapos ngumingiti lang ako, tapos yun na, ayun na, parang
524. automatic na ganon. Nahihiya kasi ako magsabi na “May boyfriend na ako”
525. I3: Okay na kayo?
526. R: Ngayon oo
527. I3: Ngayon totoo na yan?
528. R: Sana
529. I2: Anong sana?
530. R: Kasi ano, nagkahiwalay ulit kami ng landas, mga 1 month yata or 2. Nag-away
531. kami bago kami umalis dati, nung pauwi ng probinsya.
532. I3: Ngayong taon lang?
533. R: Hindi! Hindi ngayong taon. Last year yata. Oo! Last year yata yon. Tapos yon.
534. Kasi sabi ko, hahanapin ko yung sarili ko, ganon na naman yung line ko. Laging
535. ganon yung line ko, “hahanapin ko yung sarili ko”.
536. R: Hindi kasi siya yung typical na guy na sobrang effort, bili flowers, surprises.
537. Dadalawin ka ng McDo pag gutom ka na. Hindi siya ganon. Parang ano
538. I1: Siya yung pag-eeffortan?
539. G: /tumawa bahagya/ Ako yung mag-eeffort. Ako talaga yung ma-effort. Ewan ko
540. kung bakit pero ngayon, binibilhan na niya ako ng flowers tsaka McDo. Ngayon
541. kasi may work na siya.
542. I1: Tapos na siya? Nag-aaral?

543. R: Hindi ko alam, pero pinagsasabay niya ngayon kasi nga pa-stop stop ganon,
544. kasi nga naghahanap siya ng magpapaaral sakanya kaya siya nag-work
545. I1: Uhm, nasaan ba siya ngayon?
546. R: Ngayon… Ngayong time? Nagwowork siya sa Navotas. Tapos umuuwi siya
547. minsan sakanila dyan pero minsan umuuwi siya sa blumentritt
548. I1: Sa blumentritt?
549. R: Sa tita niya
550. I1: Uy ano, nacurious ako don sa boyfriend mo. Kasi diba, tungkol din sa
551. relationship yon? Parang.. sa paanong paraan mo binubuhos yung atensyon mo
552. don sa boyfriend mo?
553. R: Ha?
554. I1: Paano ka, parang, nagbibigay ng atensyon?
555. R: Ngayon kasi parang ano, nagkukulang ako don, kasi nga busy. Busy sa
556. academics, thesis, reports, ganon ganon. Kaya may times na hindi maiwasan
557. yung away, tampuhan ganon, pero pag may free time naman ako, nagkikita
558. naman kami
559. I2: Ilang months na kayo?
560. R: Uhmm.. Paano ba? Nagbebreak kasi kami kaya hindi ko alam yung totoo,
561. pero pag hindi, 3yrs and something.
562. I2: 18 ka ngayon, so 15…
563. R: Oo mga ganon
564. I2: Paano kayo nagkakilala?
565. R: Classmate
566. R: Kukwento ko talaga?! /ngiti/
567. I2: Oo, nung highschool?
568. R: Third yr ba yon? Second yr
569. I2: Second yr? Tapos kalian nalaman?
570. R: Edi syempre second yr kami naging magclassmate tapos parang third yr, kasi
571. nung time… kukwento ko talaga?
572. I2: Oo. Second yr kayo naging magkaibigan?
573. R: Oo. Ako kasi nung second year, hindi naman sa maharot. Parang crush ko
574. kasi siya noon, crush na crush, ang cute niya pa kasi nung time na yun ngayon
575. hindi na /tawa bahagya/ joke lang. Tapos yon, parang lagi ko siyang.. Eh
576. magkasabay kami kapag umuuwi, kasi same way lang naman. /hand gestures/
577. Ito yung bahay naming, tapos ito yung bahay nila. Parang ganon lang yung
578. agwat
579. I2: Buti lagi kayong nagkikita ano
580. R: Hindi! Ang ilap niya kasi sakin, ewan ko kung bakit. Tapos lagi pa siyang
581. absent.
582. I2: Umaabsent?
583. R: Oo umaabsent siya. Hindi siya seryoso dati, sa pag-aaral.
584. I1: Kumusta ka nung third yr? General?
585. R: Masaya! Kasi napapaligiran ako ng mga positive na kaibigan

586. I2: Wow naman
587. R: /laughs/ Ayon
588. I1: Uhmm, masaya kang napapalibutan ng mga taong katulad nila? Anong
589. klaseng tao ba sila?
590. R: Parang kasi sila yung mga kaibigan na susuportahan ka nila sa mga desisyon
591. mo, aadvisan ka nila ng mas tamang desisyon. Kasi nung third year parang, ano
592. bang term? Uhmm.. parang mas ano kasi ako eh, parang ano ako sa lovelife
593. kaysa sa pag-aaral. Kaya yon puro sila advice. Ganyan ganyan. Kaya naging
594. masaya
595. I2: Nung third year ka, anong relasyon mo non sa family mo? Since mas close ka
596. na sa friends mo?
597. R: Wala, parang ganon pa rin. Parang ano pala, pag may alis, hindi ako
598. pinapayagan. Pero syempre, mas pinapahalagahan ko yung desisyon ng parents
599. ko kaysa sa friends ko. Pero mas open kasi ako sakanila.
600. I1: Saan?
601. R: Sa mga kaibigan ko. Madami kasi kami. Iba iba kasi. Iba iba yung ano eh,
602. parang may grupo grupo. Diba grupo grupo nung highschool tapos parang wala
603. akong permanent na group
604. I1: May pagkakataon bang nakukwento mo yung buhay mo, mga kaibigan mo o
605. relasyon mo or kung kanino man sa mama mo?
606. R: Uhmm, oo. Sa friends. Kilala ni mama yung iba kong friends. Pumupunta kasi
607. sila dito minsan eh may times na nandito rin si mama. Open naman ako kay
608. mama tungkol don pero hindi sa boyfriend
609. I1: Hindi sa boyfriend?
610. R: Ehh, natatakot nga ako diba kaya di ko pa naoopen. Di pa ako ready. Parang
611. ayaw ko silang masaktan, ganon
612. I2: Pero ngayon okay na?
613. R: Okay na.
614. I1: Maiba naman tayo. Uhmm, kung ikaw, kung ilalagay mo yung posisyon mo sa
615. magulang mo, sa tingin mo po ba, worth it yung pagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa?
616. Kung ikaw yung magulang
617. R: Para sakin kasi, pag ano, yung pagpunta sa abroad, hindi naman option para
618. buhayin yung pamilya mo, pero kung wala ka na talagang choice, bakit hindi mo
619. itry, kasi kung yun lang naman talaga yung lalabas na option. Pero kung sakin
620. talaga, hangga’t maaari, ayoko talaga kasi alam ko yung feeling na mawalan ng
621. isang member ng family.
622. I1: Uhmm, kung ikaw ulit yung nasa kalagayan ng parents mo, nasusuklian
623. naman ba yung mga pagsasakripisyo mo, yung paghihirap mo, sa trabaho sa
624. ibang bansa? Nasusuklian ba yon lahat? Kung ikaw yung magulang.
625. R: Paanong masusuklian?
626. I1: Parang, enough ba?
627. R: Feeling ko oo, kung nakikita kong nagbebenefit yung anak ko tapos nasa
628. mabuting kalagayan din naman sila, feeling ko masaya sila sa mga nabibigay ko
629. kahit wala ako physically dahil nabibigyan ko sila ng pangangailangan. Para
630. sakin, worth it naman pag ganon.
631. I1: Bilang anak naman, paano mo.. Ay! May balak ka bang suklian? Kung meron
632. man, paano mo masusuklian yung paghihirap nila.
633. R: Hmm.. Makagraduate. Tapos makakuha ng work. Tapos gusto ko talaga
634. silang bilhan ng sariling bahay though may lupa na sa probinsya pero wala pang
635. bahay, gusto ko talaga, yun talaga yung pinakagoal ko. Tapos next na dun yung
636. di na siya needs, parang wants na. Gusto ko bilhan ng kotse yung papa ko
637. ganon. Gustong gusto niya kasi yung kotse.
638. I1: Uhmm.. Tapos itong last question, pwede mong sagutin, pwedeng hindi. Kung
639. meron ka mang gustong sabihin na hirap kang sabihin o hindi mo nasabi sa
640. mama mo, ano yun?
641. R: Hindi ko nasabi…. /nag-iisip/. Parang wala naman akong nasabi. Parang
642. ngayon kasi, parang dahil dun sa pagtatago ng feelings ko dati nung bata ako,
643. parang ngayon ko binabawi na sabihin sakanila lahat lahat. Yung mga
644. naramdaman ko dati. Yung naramdaman ko ngayon. Tapos ngayon pakiramdam
645. ko, dahil dun, parang mas naging close kaming dalawa. Ngayon kasi, wala pa
646. akong hindi nasasabi sakanila.
647. I1: Mas naging close kayo..
648. R: Oo.
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R: Respondent, I1: Interviewer 1, I2: Interviewer 2, I3: Interviewer 3, I4: Interviewer 4
1. I1: Good afternoon po. Ako nga pala si Tere.

2. I2: Ako naman si Kym.
3. I3: Jennifer.
4. I1: Sino po pala yung OFW na parent?
5. R: Yung nanay ko.
6. I1: Ilang taon na po ba kayo ngayon?
7. R: 19
8. I3:Sino pala kasama mo sa bahay nyo ngayon?
9. R: Naglayas kasi ako /laughter/. Bale ang natira talaga sa bahay
10. namin yung ate ko tsaka yung papa ko. Eh lumipat akong Antipolo kaya ang
11. kasama ko, yung isa kong ate tsaka yung asawa nya.
12. I3: panganay ka ba?
13. R: pangatlo.
14. I3: kamusta naman ang relasyon nyo sa bahay?
15. R: Aahhmmmm… Magulo.
16. I4: dun sa dalawang bahay?
17. R: Yung isa, yung sa valezuela, nilayasan ko, magulo kaya ayoko don.
18. Nung lumipat ako sa Antipolo ayon, payapa ang buhay ko.
19. I4: paanong magulo?
20. R: Yung ugali kasi nila hindi ko masakyan, di ko kinakaya.
21. I4: sinasaktan ka nila?
22. R: Pwede rin.
23. I2: Sino sa parent mo yung umalis?
24. R: Nanay ko.
25. I2: Nanay tawag mo sakanya?
26. R: /nods/
27. I2: Ilang taon na nanay mo?
28. R: 44.
29. I2: Ilang taon ka nung una syang umalis?
30. R: 17… ? basta second year college ako nun eh.
31. I2: So nung 17 years old ka, anong unang pumasok sa isip mo na dahilan
32. kung bakit siya umalis?
33. R: Ayon kasi walang trabaho yung tatay ko, edi kung walang kikilos,
34. walang pera, kaya ayon.
35. I3: naipaliwanag naman ba ng maayos sayo yung…
36. R: Kasi parang, pinupush din namin eh, na mag abroad sya, kasi wala
37. talagang source of income.
38. I1: Maari po ba naming malaman kung ilang taon na yung mama mong nag
39. ibang bansa?
40. R: nagsimula? 42? Ayy 41.
41. I1:ilang years na po yun?
42. R: Bale ano eh, basta 2 years.
43. I1:Aaahh.. Ano pong bansa po siya?
44. R: Saudi Arabia
45. I3: Eh ngayon, ano yung nararamdaman mo sa binigay niyang rason?
46. Diba ilang taon ka na? 19? Pero ngayon na 19 ka na, ano yung naramdaman
47. mo?
48. R: Wala praktikal lang eh, kailangan din talaga kumita, parang wala,
49. alangan naman maginarte ka parang sa ibang bata, eh kailangan mo naman
50. talaga ng pera.
51. Syempre para di ka na magrereklamo.
52. I3: Ahhh, parang walang nagbago?
53. R: Wala
54. I2: Kapag ano.. umuuwi naman yung mom mo dun sa 2 years na nandun sya
55. sa ibang bansa? Umuuwi uwi naman sya?
56. R: Kasi diba yung sinabi ko nga, noong dati noong bata pa ako
57. umuuwi sya ng mga 3 months lang, tapos babalik ulit sya, noong bata pa ako.
58. Pero ngayon, may kontrata talaga, 2 years.Tapos kapag natapos na yung 2
59. years na yon, namamahinga sya dito sa Pilipinas, tapos babalik na rin sya, kasi
60. may bago na siyang kontrata ulit doon eh.
61. I2: So kamusta yung pakikitungo mo sakanya, kapag umuuwi sya?
62. R: Komplikado, noong bata pa ako, di ko talaga sya kilala, kaya noong
63. umuuwi sya, grabe sobrang ilang ako, parang… “Sino to?” Wala akong pake
64. dito, di ko sya kilala. Wala, parang bagong dating lang sa bahay. Ganon, parang
65. di ko talaga sya nanay. Tapos syempre ang daming years din natigil siyang
66. mag-abroad, edi ayon parang okay na yung relasyon namin napapgalitan kasi
67. noong nasa, tapos ngayon ayos pa rin naman, pero mas maigi kasi di na nya ko
68. masyado bahay din sya ayoko rin sakanya kasi wala kong kalayan sa bahay.
69. Tapos ngayon nakikita nya lang yung good side ko, yung parang akala nya
70. mabait ako, pero hindi.
71. I4: kasi yung sabi mo kanina hindi mo sya kilala? Bat hindi mo siya kilala?
72. R: Kasi bata pa ako nun eh, mga 2 years old nung umaalis alis sya,
73. tapos nung nag-permanente na sya sa Pilipinas, mga 6 years old na ako.
74. I4: as in bata ka pa nung umalis sya? So kelan sya bumalik ulet?
75. R: di ko nga maalala eh, basta hindi ko talaga sya kilala.
76. I4: So yung papa mo yung kinalakihan mo?
77. R: Oo, tapos pag umaalis pa sya, di namin namamalayan kasi laging
78. tulog kami noong bata, basta wala na talaga akong memories sakanya.
79. I4: Hindi ka nac-curious bakit wala kang mama katulad ng iba?
80. R: Wala, kasi nasa bahay lang kami. Wala akong alam sa ano na
81. kailangan may nanay kailangan may tatay, bata pa kasi talaga ko nun tsaka lang
82. ako nagstart mag kinder.
83. I4: So hindi parang na-open sayo yung concept ng family?
84. R: Oo, Hindi.
85. I4: Ano lang alam mo? May kasama ka lang sa bahay? (5:57-6:00)
86. R: Yung tatay ko, oo, tatay ko yun, pero wala talaga eh. Hindi ko
87. inaano yung nanay ko, wala akong pake.
88. I1: Kahit minsan hindi mo natanong? Parang andyan lang po siya ganon?
89. R: Kahit minsan hindi ko natanong na paano ka nabuo, wala nga
90. talaga akong pake nga. Kasi parang inaano nya naman na may nanay ako na
91. nagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa, pero parang di ko talaga magets.
92. I2: Parehas lang ba kayo ng pag-iisip ng kapatid mo na di rin nila nakilala yung
93. nanay nila?
94. R: Alam nila, masyadong ano eh, basta maano ako eh, iba kasi ako
95. eh. Iba yung utak ko eh, parang bast a ayoko sabihin eh, mabagal yung ano ng
96. utak ko eh.
97. I1: Okay lang, sige po.
98. I3:Kapag may libreng oras o panahon sa isa’t isa, ano yung mga bagay na
99. madalas pinaguusapan, kung naguusap kayo.
100. R: noong bata ako, wala. Ngayon naman, wala naman, wala pa
101. naman, di pa naman siya umuuwi pero nakakapagusap naman kami sa chat.
102. I2: Ano yung mga madalas niyong napag-uusapan?
103. R: Ayon yung sinusumbong ko yung tatay ko kung ano yung
104. kaganapan sa bahay, (laughs) yung mga kalokohan ng tatay ko.
105. I4: Noong bata ka, walang freetime yung mama mo para magbuild ng
106. relationship sa’yo?
107. R: Wala talaga akong maalala noong bata ako, yung ano talaga, yung
108. pinaka-huling punta na niya ng Japan, diba. Hanggang ngayon nga hindi ko na
109. maalala kung anong taon siya umalis eh, wala talaga akong pake.
110. I4: So parang, namimiss niya yung important events sa buhay mo dati?
111. R: Hindi naman, kasi 6 years old na ako nagstart mag-aral diba?
112. I4: Andito siya noong grumaduate ka?
113. I2: Paano ka nakakapagcope up sa pagkawala ng presensiya magulang mo?
114. R: Noong bata ako, wala, as in nasanay talaga ako na wala siya kaya
115. walang pagcocope-up na nangyare.
116. I1: Hindi niyo po ba minsan inasam na paano kaya kapag naandito sya?
117. R: Ngayon, iiisip ko kapag nandito sya, edi sana hindi ako naglalaba,
118. ganon (laughs) praktikal pramis! Hindi ako naghuhugas ng pinggan mga ganon,
119. iyon ang naiisip ko tsaka hindi magloloko yung tatay ko ulet.
120. I4: Kamusta yung relasyon mo sa mama mo ngayon?
121. R: Magulo kasi nga diba tinatawag niya akong abnormal ako kapag
122. nagsusumbong or whatever na nagsasabi ako ng feelings ko, sasabihin niya
123. abnormal ako.
124. I4: So open ka sa kanya?

125. R: M-m (nods).
126. I4: Sinasagot naman niya yung feelings mo?
127. R: Lagi niyang sinasabi hayaan mo na, hindi niya nga ako
128. kinakampihan.
129. I4: Anong nafefeel mo kapag sinasabi niyang hayaan mo na?
130. R: Edi hindi ko na sya chinachat, parang wala kasing kwenta.
131. I4: So hindi mo sinasabi sa iba yung sinasabi mo sa mama mo?
132. R: Sinasabi ko sa’yo.
133. I4: Bukod sa’kin.
134. R: Sinasabi ko sa iba kong kaklase. Siya lang talaga yung na-iiba
135. yung sagot, “hayaan mo na”.
136. I4: Napupunan naman ba yung role ng mama mo sa pagsagot ng sinasabi
137. mong feelings mo sakanya?
138. R: Hindi.
139. I4: Bakit hindi?
140. R: Hindi niya kasi nabibigay yung hinahanap kong kasagutan. ‘Di ba
141. minsan kapag nagsasabi ka ng problema mo, meron ka namang naiisip na dapat
142. niyang isagot tas parang nadidisappoint ako kasi laging iba yung sinasagot niya
143. eh parang anlayo tas lagi nyang sinasabi, “hayaan mo na”.
144. I4: So parang iba yung expectation mo na sasagutin nya?
145. I1: So saan mo binabaleng yung atensyon mo since wala yung magulang mo?
146. R: Hindi ko talaga alam kasi ang alam ko talaga nagkaroon ako ng
147. kalayaan.
148. I2: Sa ngayon po diba sabi niyo nga po nung 17 years old po kayo, umalis na
149. ulet yung mama niyo, so sa paanong paraan niyo inabaleng yung atensyon niyo
150. dahil nga po wala na yung mama mo?
151. R: Katulad din ng dati, wala, parang dahil nahandiyan siya tapos wala
152. siya, ganun pa rin ako, ayon papasok, umiikot lang naman yung routine ko sa
153. ganon eh, kasi kung sasabihin kong nagdodrawing ako, hindi rin naman dahil
154. dun dahil parang diba nalulungkot ka, sige dapat ibaleng ko sa ganto, hindi eh,
155. hindi ko rin masasabi hindi dahil don.
156. I4: So nagdodrawing ka dahil sa ibang rason?
157. R: Oo, hindi dahil dun eh.
158. I4: Ah okay.
159. I2: Kamusta naman po yung performance niyo sa school?
160. R: Ganun din, ganun din talaga (laughs).
161. I4: Nagiging usapan niyo ba ‘yon? Kinakamusta niya ba yung study mo?
162. R: Dati kinakamusta niya yung grades ko, ngayon di ko na sinasabi,
163. wala naman na siyang magagawa. Di na naman niya ako mapapalo eh (laughs).
164. I1: Para sa’yo ba, ano yung naidulot sayo ng pag-alis ng magulang mo?
165. Masama man o mabuti.
166. R: Noong una, maganda yung nangyayari noong umalis sya,
167. nagkakaroon ako ng permanenteng baon kasi nag-aalangan ako kasi yung
168. scholarship ko baka mawala. Edi mag-i-i-stop ako ng pag-aaral, pag nag-abroad
169. sya edi ang maganda magkakaroon ako ng baon tsaka naisip ko rin kung umalis
170. sya, mawawalan ng bantay yung tatay ko, magloloko uli yon tsaka isa pa,
171. magkakaroon ako ng kalayaan.
172. I4: So puro maganda effects?
173. R: Hindi eh, ewan ko, ang laki din kasi ng effect yung walang
174. nagbabantay ng tatay ko eh.
175. I4: Paanong malaking epekto?
176. R: Syempre parang naiinis uli ako sakanya.
177. Naiinis ako sakanya, nakaka-inis naman talaga siya.
178. I4: Ano bang ginagawa ng papa mo?
179. R: Siya’y nagagagala, nagsusugal at nambababae.
180. I4: Di sya nasasabihan bilang anak?
181. R: Kasi kahit sabihan mo yun, ganoon na talaga sya eh. Pamula
182. noong bata pa kami, matagal na yung gawain yon.
183. I2: Sapat ba yung mga binibigay sayo ng mama mo para matumbasan yung
184. kung ano mang pagkukulang nya sayo? Kung meron man.
185. R: Di ko alam kung anong klaseng.. Paano ba? Kasi inisp ko dyan
186. una,.. pera eh. Yung naiibibigay niya tama. Kung financially lang ba? Dati?
187. I4: Oo dati, kasi di ba kaya sya nangibambansa kasi para ----
188. R: Hindi, hindi talaga dati wala kaming pera dati eh.
189. I4: Kaya nga, kaya sya nangibambansa.
190. Parang ngayon, consistent naman ba yung financial?
191. R: Ngayon naman, ewan ko kasi kulang talaga yung binibigay nya eh
192. kasi may scholarship ako. Eh kung matatanggal yung scholarship ko, kulang
193. talaga yung binibigay nya.
194. I4: So yung pagkukulang nya sayo dati pera lang?
195. R: Kasi yung resposibilidad nya nandon nga pero yung pagmamahal
196. nya, wala.
197. I: Paano mo nasabing yung resposibilidad nya nandon nga pero yung
198. pagmamahal, wala?
199. R: Kasi di ba walang may trabaho sa kanila, edi parang alangan
200. namang tumunganga silang dalawang mag-asawa. Kaya ayon napilitan siyang
201. magtrabaho, pero parang alam mo yun, responsibilidad kasi talaga nya kaya
202. dapat talagang magtrabaho sya.
203. I4: Hindi ba parang halimbawa sa ibang perspective, kaya niya ginagawa nya
204. yon dahil mahal nya kayo kasi sa dahilan na responsibility nya.
205. R: Sa perspective nya, mahal nya kami pero para sakin, hindi.
206. I3: Ano bang definition ng love para sayo?
207. R: Yung totoong may care sya sayo, eh kasi tignan mo kapag
208. naguusap nga kami sa problema ko sasabihin nya, “hayaan mo na” pero
209. nagpapadala sya ng pera.
210. T: May mga panahon ba na nararamdaman mong kailangan na kailagan mo

211. yung presensya ng magulang mo? Kung meron man.
212. R: Oh my gosh! Nakakatawa yung sagot ko diyan, kasi ganito yan.
213. Kapag nanonood kami ng Koreanovela, ngayon wala na.
214. I: Anong favorite mo po?
215. R: Yung Master’s Sun, pinanood namen yun ng sabay pati Innoncent
216. Man.
217. K: Kapag nanood ka ng Koreanovela, kailangan mo yung presensya nya?
218. R: Wala na akong *girly screams*, yung mga girl thing! Wala, mag-isa
219. lang akong kinikilig.
220. K: Sinasabi ba sayo ng mama mo na mahal ka niya?
221. R: Oo, pero siyempre keme keme lang yon.
222. K: Paanong keme keme lang?
223. R: Parang syempre kunwari nagpaalam na kami sa chat parang matic
224. na sasabihan ka ng “I love you”. Ganon.
225. T: Kanina po kasi nacurious po ako kung sa tinitirhan nyo po ngayon, parang
226. bang ano. Iniisip nyo na “Kaya ko ‘to! Ako nalang ‘to”. Ano yung naging
227. inspirasyon mo para gawin yung mga bagay bagay kasi wala na nga po yung
228. ano. Hindi nyo na masyado inisam yung bagay na yon?
229. R: Kasi nung nasa Valezuela ako, naisip ko din yan. Kasi nga yun
230. talaga, kasi di ba nga naiwan kaming magkakapatid don tapos nahati yung mga
231. gawain. Tapos nung nag-away kami sabi nya sakin, ako nalang maglaba ng
232. damit ‘ko kasi gawain nya yon. Tapos nung lumipat ako sa Antipolo naisip ko
233. nga ayon na ako nalang mag-isa pero iniisip ko kasi mas masasaktan ako kung
234. andon ako sa Valenzuela, kaya mas pinili ko sa antipolo para kahit magpagod
235. pagod ako atleast wala nang away.
236. T: So pinagdesisyonan nyo na ikaw ang aalis? Pinaalam nyo po yon?
237. R: Oo, sa nanay ko.
238. I4: Anong reaksyon ng mama mo?
239. R: Wala, kasi tiningnan nya yung positive na dahilan, na sige,
240. samahan mo yung ate mo pero di na naisip “bakit”.
241. I4: Ah! Hindi ka niya tinanong kung bakit?
242. R: Oo, alam niyang nag-away kami ng ate ko pero hindi niya kinonek
243. na “Ah kaya ka pala lilipat kasi nag away kayo ng ate mo sa Antipolo” HINDI!
244. Ang naisip nya, “Ah sige samahan mo yung ate mo sa Antipolo”.
245. I4: Feeling mo ba naisip na baka kaya ganon sumagot yung mama mo kasi yun
246. talaga isasagot nya or hindi mo ba naisip na ganyan siya kasi hirap siyang
247. makipagusap sayo?
248. R: Siguro, kasi parang alam niya kapag nag desisyon ako yun na agad
249. kahit na sabihin niyang “Wag ka umalis”, aalis parin ako.
250. I1:Sino pong kapatid niyo yung kasama niyo doon?
251. R: Yung pangalawa.
252. I1:So panganay yung nasa Valezuela.
253. R: /nods/.
254. I1:Edi mas close pala kayo sa kasama mo ngayon? Mas better ba yung
255. pakikitungo nyo sa isa’t isa?
256. R: Magiging biased ako kasi nag away kami nung ate ko pero kaclose
257. ko silang dalawa.
258. I1:Ano po ba yung pinag-awayan nyo?
259. R: Omygad! Mahaba habang kuwentuhan.
260. I1:Osige po! ienlighten nyo nalang po kami para mas maintindihan namin, ba’t
261. mas pinili nyo po sa Antipolo?
262. R: Kasi diba, yung tatay ko, ayoko sa ugali nya. Tas yung ate ko, yun
263. nalang kinakausap ko sa bahay, as in kasi pag nasa bahay ako, yung tatay ko
264. hindi ko kinakausap ko yon. Tas meron pa akong isang batang kapatid, alangan
265. kausapin ko yun eh hindi naman kami makakapagusap, tas ngayon, nag-away
266. pa kami ng ate ko. Yung tatay ko, ayoko na nga sa tatay ko tas nag-away pa
267. kami ng grabe talaga yung away naming, basta parang hindi na tinuturing na
268. kapatid. Edi ano pang gagawin ko sa bahay, wala na akong kausap don.
269. I4: May tanong ako, feeling mo ba factor yung pagkawala ng mama mo kaya
270. ganyan yung environment ng bahay niyo?
271. R: Oo.
272. I4: Paano po?
273. R: Yun nga, walang maghahandle don sa tatay ko. Di ba ang insip ko
274. nga eh kung may kalayaan ba ko, ganon din yung tatay ko, edi nagkagulo gulo
275. na.
276. I1:Maari po bang malaman kung okay yung mama at papa mo?
277. R: Paiba-iba eh kasi yung nanay ko, napaka martyr yon kahit alam nya
278. yung kalokohan ng tatay ko, okay. Mag-aaway sila pero bandang huli, mahal nya
279. talaga yung tatay ko. Nagpapadala siya sa mga dahilan ng tatay ko na parang
280. “Hindi wala lang yun, wala yung babaeng yon.”, edi parang okay na sa nanay ko
281. na ganon pero bandang huli, yung nanay ko yung, normal na lang yung ganon.
282. I1:May mga times po ba na nagbobonding kayo as a family? Yung kumpleto
283. kayo.
284. R: Meron naman.
285. I: Anong pakiramdam?
286. R: Eto ah, yung totoo lang mas gusto ko umaalis magisa lang ako.
287. I3: Paano mo nasabing mas gusto mong mag isa?
288. R: Kasi diba kapag mag–isa ka, minsan “Uy punta tayo sa ganito” edi
289. ano parang “Sinong yung sasama?” edi parang “Eh ayoko dito lang ako, doon
290. kami pupunta sa ganito ganyan ganyan” edi parang nagkahiwahiwalay na kayo
291. sa pinuntahan nyo. Eh kung mag-isa lang ako, edi punta ako sa ganto tas
292. babalik ulit ako, parang kahit saan ako pumunta, walang kokontra sakin. “Eh wag
293. na tayo gumala” “napapagod na ako” “umuwi na tayo”, kasi di ba kapag may
294. kasama ka.
295. I4: So kahit magkakasama kayo umalis, hiwalay-hiwalay kayo?
296. R: Oo, ganon kasi ang ano talaga namin umaalis kami magkakasama
297. sa MOA pag new year, eh umaalis din kami naiiwan yung nanay ko don
298. nagbabantay ng kapatid ko tas gumagala din kami 3 magkakapatid.
299. I4: Ba’t di isama yung kapatid mo?
300. R: Eh mapapagod yun sa lakad eh atsaka ayaw namin ng obligasyon,
301. pag yun nadapa sisihin ka pa ng nanay mo, “Bat may sugat to?” Wag mo na
302. isama.
303. I3: Last, kung ikaw nasa kalagayan ng magulang mo, sa tingin mo worth it ang
304. paghihirap mo sa pagta-trabaho?
305. R: In terms saken? Ay! Wait ano?
306. I2: Kung ikaw ang nasa kalagayan ng magulang mo?
307. R: Ng magulang ko? Tas may asawa akong ganon? Hindi!
308. I3: Paanong hindi?
309. R: Kasi naghihirap yung nanay ko, yun pa yun eh yung dahilan kung
310. bakit ako naiinis. Nung bumili sila ng TV nainis ako kasi yung tatay ko, ang haba
311. ng kwento. My God!
312. I1:Okay lang po makikinig kami.
313. R: Kasi yung nanay ko pangarap nya yung flatscreen TV. Yung tatay
314. ko, go rin kasi gusto niya eh, pasosyal sya eh, gusto nya rin yon. Tapos, eh ang
315. gusto ng tatay ko, 1 year installment, yung nanay ko gusto 6 months.
316. I4: So mas malaki babayaran pag 6 months?
317. R: Oo, tapos ngayon kaya gusto yun ng nanay o kasi nga uuwi na sya
318. ng July. Edi kapag 1 year, hindi na maabutan, walang panghulog kasi yung tatay
319. ko, ewan ko ba don nagpapabebe gusto 1 year. Edi sila maghuhulog, edi
320. napatagal yung TV tapos sabi ko sa isip ko, ay! Sabi ko sa kanila “Bakit kasi ang
321. mahal ng TV pwede naman yung ganyan yung presyo pwede naman yung
322. ganyan ganyan”. Tapos parang wala, gusto kasi talaga nila magpasosyal, tapos
323. iniisip ko bakit parang wala silang konsiderasyon sa nanay ko yun yung
324. naghihirap. Tapos sila nagpapakasasa lang, tapos yung ate ko yung cellphone
325. ang mahal mahal, 17k yung cellphone nya.Tapos nag hulugan samantalang ako,
326. nung nangailangan ako ng laptop sa autocab, hanggat maari yung pinaka cheap
327. na laptop yung pinili ko tapos yung scholarship ko, naghulog din ako ng 4,500
328. para naman10k lang sagot nya kasi iniisip ko talaga mahirap yung buhay sa
329. ibang bansa. Tapos parang iniisip ko na ikaw, “Okay ready ka na magbigay ng
330. pera.” Pero yung tao dun sa bahay nyo, walang konsiderasyon.
331. I2: Hindi man lang inintindi na pinaghirapan yung pera.
332. R: Parang iniisip lang nila na ay meron naman… “Ayy okay lang
333. handa naman sya magbigay ng ganyan ganyan” Parang hindi worth it. Nakaka
334. inis yung mga tao dun, tapos minsan pa nga sabi ng nanay ko sa chat “Bibilhan
335. kita ng cellphone”. Sabi ko “Nay wag na” kasi ayoko talaga.
336. I4: So sa bahay nyo ikaw yung pinaka…
337. R: Praktikal.
338. I4: Atsaka pinaka considerate.
339. I3: Atsaka naiintindihan niya talaga yung parents niya.

340. R: Tapos nag-away pa sila dahil don sa nagpadala kasi yung nanay ko
341. kasi bibilhan ng tablet yung kapatid ko, tapos ngayon yung tatay ko laging “Ay!
342. Wala! Wala!” kasi ang mahal ganyan. Ang ginawa ng nanay ko, di ba kunwari
343. hindi ko alam saktong sahod niya eh, alam ko 17k tapos kada 17k sabihin nating
344. 500 nagtatabi siya. Tapos lahat na ng 16,500 pinapadala nya samin, tapos
345. iniipon nya 500 hanggang sa nakabili na sya ng tablet sa Saudi.
346. I3: Hindi ka ba naiinggit? Kasi di ba binibigyan sila ng material na bagay. Ikaw…
347. R: Hindi kasi kung sabay-sabay kayo ng inggit, wala nang mangyayari.
348. I4: Ang hirap ng sitwasyon ng mama mo.
349. R: Kasi magkano lang naman Saudi. 40k !? Nakakainis kaya, kaya
350. naglayas rin ako sa bahay. Tapos isa pa na moment yung ate ko na taga
351. Anitpolo, hiniram yung relo ate ko. Tapos sabi ng ate kong taga Valenzuela
352. “Sabihin mo na lang kay nanay. Magpabili ka ng relo”. “Nay bilhan mo ko ng
353. ganyan ha!?” LAHAT NALANG PABILI!
354. I1: So ibig sabihin mo nung mga panahon na yon, parang … kasi ang sabi mo
355. kasi kanina po parang wala lang sya . Ngayon parang, mas naiintindihan mo na
356. ngayon yung kalagayan nya?
357. R: M-m
358. I1:Ok po.
359. R: Basta dun ako sa side na praktikal eh, ang hirap kasi mag-ano ng pera eh.
360. I1:Parang don nyo po mas napipicture out yung mama mo.
361. R: Naintindihan ko na yung pag-alis nya.
362. I1:Nasusuklian ba yung sakripisyo mo kung ikaw yung nasa lugar ng magulang
363. mo, mapalayo sa kanila?
364. R: Kasi ang tanging bilin ng nanay ko, alagaan ang kapatid kong maliit
365. pero ngayon pinapabayaan lang ng tatay ko. Yon na lang tanging gagawin nya,
366. wala pa, laging nadadapa yung kapatid ko or anuman kaya parang feeling ko
367. hindi rin.
368. I2: Ilang taon na nga yung kaptid mo?
369. R: 5.
370. I1:Kung ikaw naman po, ikaw sa ngayon. Paano mo masusuklian bilang anak
371. yung sakripisyo ng magulang mo?
372. R: Pagpapatuloy ko yung pag-aaral kahit ayaw ko na talaga.
373. I4: Anong nagmomotivate sayo?
374. R: Di ko rin nga talaga masabi ng parang ano eh… /chuckles/ my gad
375. ang sama ko talaga
376. I4: Hindi kasi para madaming out comes, hindi kasi typical yung sagot mo kaya
377. nakakatuwa.
378. I1:Kung ikaw, nasusuklian ba bilang anak yung sakripisyo ng magulang mo?
379. Sa paanong paraan?
380. R: Ah sige, di ba nagpapadala sya ng pera? Parang yun yung sa…
381. nya. Siguro ano, gastusin mo sa ano, tama yung pera. Yung ate ko kasi inuuna
382. nya yung pagkain sa restaurant kesa bilhin yung libro nya kaya nakakaiinis kasi
383. nangungutang sakin, kaya nakakainis talaga sila dahil don.
384. I: Nagpadala yung nanay ko e di ba tig 2k lang kami kada month tas yung ate ko
385. aba! Naggala agad. Kumain sa Savory tapos kumain sa Divisori tapos ang dami
386. niyang biniling damit tas ngayon pagR:uwi niya sakto, nangutang bigla sakin,
387. bibili raw siyang libro tapos sinumbong ko yun sa nanay ko. Sabi ng nanay ko
388. “Oh bakit wala na siyang pera e kapapadala ko lang” tapos yon parang ano ba
389. yan parang ginasta mo lang sa luho mo yung paghihirap ng nanay mo parang
390. ganun naisiip ko. Sana manlang talagang nilaam mo yan sa baon sa school,
391. yung parang ganon.
392. I: Ikaw po without considering yung sa ate mo, ikaw po yung may hawak ng
393. pera. Pano mo mapapahalagahan iyon? Sa paanong paraan?
394. R: Ayun, para sa pagR:aaral talaga
395. I: Pero di ba sabi mo ayaw mo ng mag-aral?
396. R: Oo, ayoko ng magR:aral talaga e. Anong dahilan?
397. R: “Kasi wala akong future”
398. I: Anong course mo ba dapat?
399. R: “Wala”
400. I: Sino yung pumili sayo ng course na tineR:take mo ngayon?
401. R: Tatay at tito ko
402. I: Bakit mo kinonsider yung decision nila? Pwede ka namang magdecide?
403. R: kasi wala rin talaga akong mapili. Una kong pinili Psychology tas ayaw pa
404. nila.
405. I: Gusto mo pala Psych?
406. R: Oo, pinigilan nila ako. Sabi nila “Mayaman ka ba? May pampatayo ka bang
407. clinic?” Ganon kala mo talaga pang mayaman yon. Wala raw akong future sa
408. Psych
409. I: Wala ba tayong future?
410. R: Oo, yon ang sabi ng tatay ko. Damuho talaga yon, di ba ang sama niya
411. talaga.
412. I: Nakarelate ako don sa part na sinabi niya na nambababae yung dad niya.
413. Ako naman yung nambababae yung tito ko then yung sa asawa niya OFW din.
414. R: O di ba nakakainis? Parang di worth it.Parang naiisip ko nga yung padala
415. ba nung nanay ko napupunta pa sa babae. O di ba di talaga worth it.
416. I: Totoo yon, yung tipong magpapadala yung tita ko tapos kung anu-ano
417. pa yung isusumbat niya kesyo bakit ganto lang daw yung pinadala, di raw sapat.
418. Puro gadgets ang pagbibilan pero yung damit ng anak niya di manlang mabilhan
419. ng bago sa mama ko pa inaasa
420. R: Yon nga sa pera, yung ate ko kasi gastos ng gastos, may pake naman siya sa
421. mama at papa ko pero napapansin ko kasi, nagchachat lang siya sa papa ko
422. kapag may kailangan. Tapos kapag tumatawag yung papa ko sasabihin niya
423. “Ano na naman ba yan?” E yung papa ko kasi mas love niya si ate kasi
424. kamukha niya tas ako kamukha ko si mama. Tas sabi ko, “Ano na naman ba
425. ‘to? Bakit di niya kinakausap?” e mas love nga siya ng papa ko parang ang
426. unfair mahal ka tapos di mo ammahalan tapos binibigyan ka pa. Tapos
427. nagtatampo yung kuya ko sa papa ko kasi nanghihingi siya ng pera sa papa ko,
428. binibigyan naman siya ng pera pero minsan “May trabaho ka naman e, gamitin
429. mo muna yan. Papadalhan na lang kita kapag sahod ko na” May binabayaran
430. kasi siya sa motor, napupunta yung sahod niya sa yosi, alak, sa bisyo niya.
431. Tapos nagagalit siya kapag wala siyang naihuhulog sa motor niya.
432. I: Napansin ko kasi sabi niya napapansin niya na mas love raw ng papa niya
433. yung ate niya. Dumating ba yung point na parang hala! Baka mas mahal sila ng
434. mama mo. Parang iba yung pakikitunggo sayo.
435. R: Di talaga dumadating sa utak ko eh kasi napaka practical ko talaga. Inaalis
436. ko na yon sa isipan ko. Iniisip ko talaga na kapag inisip ko pa yon naku!
437. I: Nakaramdam ka ba ng di kompleto? Kasi di ba nga sabi mo kanina may
438. kulang, na love dapat binibigay sayo.
439. R: Matagal ng wala kasi ang iniisip ko dati basta kaya naisip k yon kasi di ba 1
440. year nawala yung tatay ko, sumama siya sa kabit niya.”
441. I: Sino yung nag-alaga sa inyo?
442. R: Nanay ko lang tapos ang una ginawa namin nagbenta kami ng damit or
443. whatever tapos yung tatay ko medyo naguilty, nagbigay ng negosyo samin,
444. yung mga tokneneng mga ganyan. Tapos may nangyaring masama kasi sa
445. tatay ko basta binaliktad siya ng kabit niya. Ninakawan siya ng kabit niya tas
446. ngayon.
447. I: May anak ba siya don?
448. R: Pina-abort niya
449. I: Edi kayo lang yung mga anak niya?
450. R: Oo, tapos ang nangyari kasi di ba may resignation fee yung tatay ko, kinuha
451. ng kabit niya. PinautangR:utang niya tas nung naghiwalay sila. Ang ginawa ng
452. tatay ko, pinapabalik yung resignation fee niya. 6,000 din yon. Tapos ngayon
453. nung kinukuha ng tatay ko, nagR:iskandalo yung tatay ko, hinahatak niya yung
454. bag. Sabi ng kabit niya “magnanakaw!” kaya nakulong siya ng 1 month kaya
455. ngayon ang nagbigay ng bill ay yung nanay ko tapos ngayon, tinatanong ng
456. nanay ko “Gusto niyo pa ba pabalikin ang tatay niyo?” Edi ako “Ay! Hindi hindi!”
457. As in lahat kami, hindi talaga. Ikasisira ng buhay namin. Si nanay ko nauwi rin
458. sa desisiyon niya, mahal na mahal nga niya yung lalakeng yon, pinabalik niya sa
459. bahay. Ang naiisip ko, mas inuuna niya pa ang asawa niya.
460. I: Bakit sa tingin mo ganon ang behavior ng papa mo?
461. R: Feeling ko kasi di ba undergrad siya nung college tapos natigil siya tapos
462. nagpart time job lang siya edi parang part time job lang yun, alangan naming
463. ikabubuhay ba namin yon.
464. I: Simula ba pagkabata niyo ganon na ba siya?
465. R: Hindi dati talaga, binata pa siya. Mahal naman niya yung nanay ko.
466. I: Kayo rin ba?
467. R: Yata? Hindi ko alam e. tas yon, grabe siya magdisiplina samin tapos yun nga
468. nung umalis yung nanay ko. Edi parang ang datingan sa kanya siya na yung
469. palamunin, ganon. Siya na yung nagR:aalaga samin. Tas yun, parang nagR:iba
470. iba na yung ugali niya, naging babaero na siya. Grabe yung pambababae niya
471. pero dati talaga ang tino niya.
472. I: May nakikita ka bang dahilan bakit nagbago yung behavior niya?
473. R: Ewan ko lang talaga, namana niya rin yon sa tatay niya talaga. Lolo namin,
474. daming asawa. Mapride siya ng bonggang bongga. Kaya nga pala sila
475. nagR:aaway din, sa feeling ko lang ah.kaya siya nagpapabebe siya kapag
476. nagchat sila, sa mga desisyon nila kasi ayaw ng tatay ko naapakan yung
477. pagkalalaki niya kasi wala siyang trabaho. Kaya parang, kunwari sa TV na yan,
478. pinaparating niya na “Di! Superior pa rin ako kahit na may trabaho ka. Ako pa
479. rin. Ako pa rin” parang ganon yung pinaparating niya. Kaya lagging nag-aaway
480. pa rin sila kahit maayos naman yung nanay ko kausap
481. I: Sabi mo nga kanina, siya na yung nagR:aalaga sa inyo dati. Sa ngayon ba?
482. Since yung mother mo po ay source of income.
483. R: kami ang nagsisilbi sa kanya, yun ang nakakainis, nung bata kami iba ang
484. posisyon. Pero ang OA pa rin talaga parang yan, nagkasipon lang ako sasabihin
485. niya na “Yung anak mo nagkalagnat, ganyan-ganyan. Magpadala ka ng malaki
486. dito” tas magdaR:drama na tas grabe siyang magdisiplina, as in namamalo.
487. Ngayon, wala nga siyang trabaho. Wala siyang maipagmamalaki so anong
488. karapatan niyang mamalo parang ganon kaya nga kahit sagot sagutin siya ng
489. ate ko okay lang kasi wala e, wala siyang maiaano pero kung may trabaho siya
490. naku! Di mo masasagot yon, bugbugin ka, p[alayasin ka pa non.
491. I: Since, nandito na sa Antipolo yung titirhan niyo. May balita ka ba sa kanya
492. kanila sa Valenzuela?
493. R: Kasi nung nagalit yung ate ko, binlock niya ko sa Facebook at Messenger
494. kaya malay ko sa kanya pero nung New Year pumunta kami don. Nagbati
495. naman kami ng ate k okay alang ang sabi ng ate ko nung Saturday “Pano yan
496. pagnagkabati na kayo ni ate?” Mga ganyan. “Edi babalik ka na ng Valenzuela”
497. sabi ko “Hindi pa rin, ayokong makita yung tatay ko ganyan.
498. I: Sa palagay niyo po ba, magkakaayos kayo?
499. R: Hindi, kasi nung last na punta ko don. Ayon, nagR:away pa rin sila. Grabe!
500. Dahil lang sa limang pisong nawala. Grabe talaga! Sinabihan niya ate ko ng
501. “Ang bobo mo” tas ayon, nag-away-away sila.
502. I: May paglalaanan ba ang limang piso?
503. R: Kasi, meron silang pinapaarkila, basta tas sabi niya “Ayun, nabudolR:budol
504. ka ng bata” Magnanakaw ng limang piso. Tas naisip ko limang piso lang naman
505. yon, tas grabe na siya, iskandalo na yung nangyari sa bahay naming. Sabi ko
506. nga “bayaran mo na lang kaya yung limang piso para manahimik yan” basta
507. kasi minsan kang maging tanga naku! Sasabihin niya “Ang tanga mo!”.
508. I: Kahit sa inyo ba magkakapatid, wala bang nagkaroon ng serious talk with your
509. father?
510. R: Wala, wala talaga. Sa nanay ko mayroon pero sa tatay ko, never. Ang ano
511. kasi. Alam mo ba, di nyo kasi kilala yon e, basta napaka imposible kasi
512. mangyari yon. Yung open forum, napaka imposible talaga.
513. I: Since, wala yung mama mo, meron bang parang pumalit sa posisyon niya
514. parang mother figure?
515. R: Ate ko.
516. I: Sinong ate?
517. R: Yung nasa Valenzuela. As in, yun nga ako lang naman kasi talaga taga
518. -hugas non tapos tagaR:saing tapos siya tagaR:luto, naglilinis.pang ano na
519. talaga, siya na talaga yung nanay tas siya rin nagR:aalaga sa kapatid ko na bata
520. pa. Kaya nga nung nagR:away kami, parang inisip ko na parang bago. Nung
521. nagR:away kami parang yung datingan ng salita niya sakin,parang pinapalayas
522. niya ko, edi parang pinalayas na rin ako ng nanay ko.
523. I: Sa ngayon, ano nararamdaman mo? Ba’t parang ganyan na yung point of view
524. mo?
525. R: Di ko rin alam e. Di ba yung ate ko, umalis siya, pupunta siyang Antipolo at
526. Nag-asawa. Tapos parang wala akong pake. Parang oo, kasama ko siya,grabe
527. yung bonding naming pero kahit wala siya, wala akong pake. Tas nung umalis
528. naman ako, pumunta akong Antipolo kahit di ko kasama ate ko, wala pa rin
529. akong pake.
530. I: Pano yung way of talking nyo?
531. R: Parang tropahan

532. I: May pagkakataon ba na pakiramdam mo may pakialam sila sayo?
533. R: Nung Pumunta ako sa People’s Park, nagtext sakin yung ate ko “Uy asan ka
534. na?” sabi ko wala, dyan lang naman, malapit lang. Tas yun nga sabi ng ate ko
535. “Uy! Galit nag alit na si tatay, wala ka pa rin daw, di ka nagpaalam” Wala akong
536. pake kung magR:alala sila or whatever basta umalis na lang ako. Alam ko rin
537. naman pagR:uwi ko yung galit na yon, wala. “Saan ka galling?” “Diyan sa
538. Malinta” “Ah okay” Edi parang wala lang talagang ganon, walang pagR:aalalang
539. naganap. Tas nung pumunta kami sa Band Rehearsal, sa Tagaytay. Yung
540. mismong paalis palang ako atsaka palang ako nagpaalam na magR:overnight
541. ako. Di one day before di ako ganon kasi di naman talaga sila nagR:aalala
542. sakin.
543. I: Ano ba talaga ang freedom para sayo?
544. R: Basta yung walang humahawak ng oras ko. Masaya na ko sa ganon. Before 5
545. dapat andito ka na sa bahay, wala. Kahit anong oras ako dumating okay lang.
546. I: Yung sa Love yung definition mo is care talaga?
547. R: Ang iniisip ko kasi talaga ganto, umalis ka ng bahay ng di nagpaalam, kapag
548. nagkeR:care talaga siya sayo, mahal ka talaga niya. Baka napano na yon, yung
549. anak ko, mga ganon. Pero kapag responsibility sasabihin niya, “Yung anak ko,
550. naku! Kapag namatay yon, naku! Gagastusan mo pa lamay yon. Mapapahiya pa
551. ko sa kapitbahay, mamaya sabihin na pabaya akong ina” mga ganon. Yun ang
552. naisip ko kaya ka nagbibigay ng responsibility, baka kung anong sabihin sayo.
553. I: Feel mo ba LOVE mo sila?
554. R: Sinabi ko sa ate ko don sa Antipolo, sabi ko sa kanya “ Di ko na mahal yung
555. ate ko sa Valenzuela” inasar niya ko sabi niya “Nagmamahal ka pa pala” “Siguro
556. oo, yung sa ate ko lang, sa tatay ko hindi.
557. I: Sa mama mo?
558. R: Sa nanay ko? Kasi di ba konsidirasyon ko sa kanya, naawa ako as person sya
559. na naghihirap pero ewan ko ba, siguro.
560. I: Scale 1 to 10, Gaano mo siya kamahal?
561. R: 7
562. I: Ano yung gusto mong sabihin sa nanay mo na hindi mo kailanman nasabi sa
563. kanya?
564. R: Wag na lang siyang magpagod sa pagtatrabaho at yun. Wala akong masabi
565. sa kanya, dir in naman niya papakinggan yung mga sinasabi ko. May ginawa
566. akong tula para sa kanya.
567. I: May maidadagdag ka pa ba?
568. R: Sana yung mga, tulad dati nung nanalo ako sa poster making, sana parang
569. maging proud talaga siya as nanay hindi yung parang may maipagmayabang
570. lang siya sa kapitbahay na o ito ganyan ganyan. So kahit kami kami,
571. maipagmamalaki nya ko kahit walang audience na kasama parang kahit sa
572. pamilya lang naming or sa sarili niya parang yun, parang proud siya sakin.
573. Tapos, gusto kong itanong sa kanya kung gaano niya talaga yung parang sa
574. percentage gano niya kamahal yung tatay ko kaysa sa aming magkakapatid,
575. gusto ko talagang malaman yon.
576. I: Sino yung kabilang sa pangarap mo?
577. R: Lola at lolo ko
578. I: Kaninong side?
579. R: Di ba yung tatay ng nanay ko kapatid nya lang yon na lalake, yung lolo ko tas
580. lola ko, as in ang layo di ba. Kasi doon lang talaga ako nakaramdam ng tunay
581. na pagmamahal.
582. I: So parang sila yung magulang mo?
583. R: Nung bata ako
584. I: Sa kanila ka lumaki?
585. R: Medyo, dumadalaw lang kami pero mahal talaga ako ng lola ko. Kasi
586. isinasantabi ko na yung feelings, dapat nandon ka na sa praktikal.
587. Minsnan napapanuod ko na “Ah hindi, ayoko sayo, pinabayaan mo ko” Ang lagi
588. kong sinasabi na “ Ang tanga mo! Nagtrabaho siya para sayo” Kung iisipin mo na
589. mada-down ka, hala! Kailangan ko ng magpapayo sakin, isipin mo ulit. “Bakit
590. wala yung nanay mo?” “Nagtrabaho.” “Bakit siya nagtrabaho?” “Kasi kapag
591. walang trabaho, di ka makakapagR:aral lalo kang mada-down” DI ba? Kaya
592. ewan ko sa ibang kabataan, ang tanga-tanga.
593. I: Saan mo piR:feel ang sense of belonginess?
594. R: Sarili ko lang
595. I: Paano mo nasabi?
596. R: Ang pinaka makakaintindi kasi sakin. Oo si Clarence, masarap kausap kapag
597. mga gantong may problema ka. Eh yung mga gusto ko talaga pero yung may
598. moment talaga na di lahat ng problema ko parang minuR:minuto kunwari may
599. probvlema ako, [imposible naman na sabihin ko sa kanya lahat, syempre parang
600. inaaccept ko yon so parang kahit wala si Clarence, okay lang. Na kaya kong sarilihin
ang problema.
Respondent 4: Erza
Q: Question of interviewer, “Answer of the respondent”
1. Q: Country:
2. “Saudi”
3. Q: Problems?
4. “Friends, Classmates (uncooperative), and profs (feeling major).”
5. Q: Kung nandito yung papa mo, sa tingin mo, mag-iiba yung nararanasan
6. mo ngayon?
7. “Hindi, ganon din siya eh.” (may conflct kasi sa mama medyo) “Halimbawa, “
8. Kapag pagod ako, nag-uutos pa.”
9. Q: Meron bang pagkukulang?
10. “Meron. More on understanding.”
11. Q: Unang naramdaman nung umalis yung papa?
12. “Una, namiss, pero pinaintindi naman niya. ”
13. Q: Gaano kadalas nag-uusap?
14. “Kapag nat-tyempohan sa messenger”
15. “Minsan tumatawag or via skype. “Kausapin niyo yung papa niyo”, sabi nimama.”
16. “Dumating sa puntong (ayaw kausapin si papa) kasi inaantok na kami (kasi
17. gabi na).”
18. F-UQ: Kung sa isang week, mga ilang beses (nagkakaroon ng contact)?
19. “Thrice a week.”
20. Q: Naf-feel kapag umuuwi?
21. “Nung una awkward, pero nung tumanda, nasanay na.”
22. Q: Ginagawa kapag umuuwi? Paano nagb-bond?
23. “Lumalabas, pumupunta sa relatives, kumakain. Kasama family.”
24. F-UQ: Paano makitungo (kapag umuuwi)?
25. “Halos walang communication, sweet siya, kami, oo lang ng oo.”
26. F-UQ: Why ganon (makitungo)?
27. “Matagal hindi nagkita, hindi po ganoon kakilala nung umalis siya. 6 years
28. old nung umalis.”
29. Q: Naging epekto ng pag-alis?
30. (Positive) = “Maganda, kasi kung hindi umalis si papa, si mama yung
31. magtatrabaho,
32. tsaka maraming pasalubong.”
33. (Negative) = “Minsan kapag kailangan ng representative sa school, minsan si
34. lola yung pumupunta.”
35. “Kapag may outing, kumpleto kami pero wala si papa.”
36. Q: Nararamdaman kapag naaalalang wala si papa?
37. “Nalulungkot ng panandalian.”
38. Q: Paano mag-cope up?
39. “Wala naman akong ginagawa.”
40. “Naaalala ko na lang, yaan mo na, kailangan niya gawin yun eh.”
41. “Feel ko factor yung ate ko sa pag-fill sa pagkawala ni papa”
42. Q: Sapat ba yung binibigay para mapunan yung kunganomang
43. pagkukulang?
44. “Oo, sakto lang. . 50/50. Okay lang. Parang wala naman kaming
45. nararamdamang kulang.”
46. “Minsan naiintindihan, minsan hindi”
47. “Pag nakikitang tama sila sa sinasabi nila” (realization about sa pangaral ng
48. magulang)
49. Q: Kung ikaw papipiliin, dito or ibang bansa?
50. “Mas gusto ko yung nasa ibang bansa”
51. F-UQ: Why?
52. “Example, yung sa family ko, may financial prob, tapos magkakasama (sila-
53. extended fam), tapos may problema sa pagkain, panggastos, uuwi na lang
54. (kapag may vacay).”
55. “Ganon din (choice mangibang bansa), kasi yung salary (high salary). May mga
56. tourist
57. spots. Travel and trabaho (ang habol sa ibang bansa).”
58. Q: Relationship with fam?

59. “(In terms of pagiging ‘united’), minsan oo, minsan hindi. Kapag sinabi mo kasing
60. united, kapag may problema.. minsan hindi naaayos kasi wala nang
61. understanding (kasi kulang dahil wala si papa).”
62. (Rel with mom) = “Okay lang. Sakto lang.” (umiiling habang sinasabi) – nasa
63. likod kasi yung mama nya that time.
64. Q: Pagkakaintindi sa father and child relationship:
65. “(Dapat) nagkakaintindihan po sa mga bagay na pinag-uusapan.
66. Nakakapag-usap naman kasi kami pero minsan, halimbawa, kapag pagod,
67. hindi iniiintindi.”“Dati may barrier, pero ngayon wala masyado.”
68. “Ramdam ko naman, close kami, pero parang hindi naman matibay, hindi
69. close na
70. close na close. Close lang.”
71. Q: What hayop gusto maging?
72. “Bird. Gusto ko lumipad, kahit saan pumunta, escape, and yung typical na
73. answer,
74. freedom.”
75. F-UQ: Freedom? From?
76. “Society. Halimbawa, dito sa Pilipinas, kapag hindi ka grumaduate or hindi
77. natapos yung course, binabatikos. Unlike sa ibang bansa, okay lang.”
Respondent 5: Kylie
Duration: 00:19:41
R: Respondent, I: Interviewer
1. I: Anong pangalan n’yo po ate?

2. R: Kylie Mendoza po.
3. I: Ilan taon na po kayo?
4. R: 17
5. I: Anong grade year level nyo na po?
6. R: Grade ano po, 11 po.
7. I: Ilang ano na yun, 7, 8, 9, 10… So parang dati first year college yun no? San po
8. kayo nakatira
9. ate?
10. R: Pampanga
11. I: Malayo po ‘yun dito? Uh, magpapakilala po muna tayo sa isa’t isa. Ano pong
12. tawag n’yo sa
13. magulang n’yo?
14. R: Mama, Papa po.
15. I: Sinong magulang yung…
16. I: umalis?
17. R: Si mama po.
18. I: Ano sa tingin mo yung dahilan ng pag-alis ng mama mo?
19. R: Para po sa kinabukasan namin.
20. I: Ano’ng naramdaman mo nung sinabi n’ya ‘yun sayo?
21. R: Okay lang naman po sa’min. Kasi naiintindihan ko naman po ‘yung rason
22. kung bakit siya aalis.
23. I: Ilan taon ka nung umalis siya?
24. R: Grade 8? 9? 15 po ata. 15 po.
25. I: 2 years na… Sino na lang yung mga kasama mo sa bahay?
26. R: Yung mama po ni mama.
27. I: Lola mo?
28. R: Opo. Nanay po kasi tawag dun e.
29. I: Ah. Okay. So isa na lang, sya na lang kasama mo sa bahay?
30. R: Opo. Tapos yung ibang tita ko po. Kapatid ni mama.
31. I: Tapos mga pinsan mo? Hindi?
32. R: Nandu’n din po. Pero malayo din po.
33. I: Ah. So kumusta naman yung relasyon mo sa mga kasama mo sa bahay n’yo?
34. R: Okay lang naman po. Masaya pa rin.
35. I: Masaya pa rin… Positive tayo. Uh, umuwi ba ‘yung mama mo?
36. R: Ano lang po, Last year, November 16.

37. I: So bago lang po?
38. R: Opo.
39. I: Ah. So ano po… t’wing kelan…
40. R: Di po. Kakaalis lang po. Ano lang po, first time nya po umalis.
41. I: 2 years ago lang.
42. I: Ahh. Ano yun, twing 2 years uuwi sya?
43. R: Opo.
44. I: Mga ilang buwan siya nandito?
45. R: Ngayon po, 3 months vacation lang po siya. Pero di na po ata siya aalis.
46. I: Nung paguwi nya ba dito, ano yung mga ginagawa nyo?
47. R: Ano po, umaalis po.
48. I: Gaano kadalas?
49. R: Ano po yun, araw araw po yun haha.
50. I: Saya.
51. I: Ilan kayong magkakapatid?
52. R: Dalawa po. Panganay po ako.
53. I: Ilan taon na yung kapatid mo?
54. R: 9.
55. I: Ah. Malayo yung age gap nyo. So, close naman kayo ng kapatid n’yo?
56. R: Opo.
57. I: Ano nagging reaksyon ng kapatid mo? Alam niya ba?
58. R: Opo.
59. I: So syempre bata pa sya nun diba? Anong sabi sayo ng mama mo na aalis
60. siya?
61. R: Sabi niya kailangan daw po niya umalis para samin. Kasi hiwalay po yung
62. mama
63. at papa ko. So, sya lang po yung bumubuhay samin. Kaya naiintindihan din po
64. ng
65. kapatid ko. Kasi close naman po kami kaya okay lang naman po. Tsaka masaya
66. naman po yung family naming sa mother side, kaya okay lang po.
67. I: kapag ano, may mga libreng oras ikaw or yung mama mo o kayo, naguusap ba
68. kayo?
69. R: Opo, araw araw po.
70. I: Araw araw? Pano kayo naguusap?
71. I: Ano gamit nyo? Phone?
72. R: Phone lang po.
73. I: Ano madalas yung napaguusapan nyo?
74. R: Yung tungkol po sa pagaaral. Kumusta po yung kalagayan namin . Ganun.
75. I: Ano naman yung mga sagot mo o mga sinasabi mo sa kanya?
76. R: Yung totoo po. Minsan nahihirapan ako kasi madaming project tas malayo din
77. po.
78. I: Saan ka naman nahihirapan?
79. R: Ano po. Minsan sa math.

80. *someone laughed*
81. I: Mahirap din talaga.
82. I: Anong favorite subject mo po sa school?
83. R: Science po.
84. I: Ay so anong… may course ba kayo?
85. R: Opo. STEM po.
86. I: Kumusta naman yung grades mo?
87. R: Okay pa naman po. Kaya pa naman pong magsurvive.
88. I: Yung course nyo po, pagkagraduate nyo…
89. I: Anong gusto mong kunin?
90. R: Architecture po.
91. I: OOOOHHHH
92. *laugh*
93. I: Math yan ate, math.
94. I: Puro math yan.
95. R: …onti lang daw po yung math.
96. I: Umuulan ng singko sa … Galing ako dun dati. Kaya nagtransfer ako.
97. I: Pagkatapos ng klase mo anong mga ginagawa mo?
98. R: Ngayon po wala kaming klase, magti-thesis po kami. Magse-survey din kami
99. sa ibang ano.
100. I: Anong thesis nyo?
101. R: Sa Filipino po e. Tungkol sa mga brand ng sabon.
102. I: Ilan kayo. By group yan?
103. R: Opo. 11.
104. I: Ah so naghihintay kayo ng members nyo?
105. I: Mahirap talaga ang thesis. Saang part na kayo ng thesis nyo?
106. R: Ano po, chapter 1-3 palang po.
107. I: Parang sa’tin lang ah.
108. I: So since malayo yung bahay nyo dito diba? Nakwekwento mo ba yun na
109. mahirap bumyahe? Or pagkauwi masyadong puyat. Pano po. Pano mo po
110. sinasabi sa mama mo yun?
111. R: Alam naman po ni mama na malayo ‘to kasi yung tita kop o sa father side po,
112. dito po nagaaral dati. So alam niya rin po kasi siya po nagpasok.
113. I: Pa’no ka nagko-cope up sa pagkawala ng presensya ng mga magulang mo?
114. R: Ginagawa ko lang po yung mga kadalasang ginagawa ko po talaga.
115. Facebook… ganun.
116. I: Social media.
117. R: Kasama mga kaibigan bonding din po.
118. I: Anong mga ginagawa nyo?
119. I: Anong klaseng bonding yung kadalasang ginagawa nyo?
120. I: Ilan kayong magkakaibigan?
121. R: Lima po.
122. I: Ah. Nice. Okay na yun. Madami na yun ah.

123. I: Saan mo sila nakilala?
124. R: Sa highschool po.
125. I: Highschool friends…
126. I: Nice.
127. I: Ah okay… So ano magkasama when you graduate ganun?
128. R: Yung ano po. Yung dalawa ko po. ICT na section tas yung isa malayo po.
129. Taguig po.
130. I: Kayong dalawa po yung.. kayong tatlo po yung nasa PUP?
131. R: Opo.
132. I: Ay. Kasi nacurious lang ako kanina. Kasi parang kung ilalagay ko yung sarili ko
133. sayo. Kung mangingibang bansa yung mama ko, tapos medyo wala yung papa
134. ko. So, anong
135. pakiramdam nun?
136. R: Sa sarili ko po?
137. I: M-m.
138. R: Ano po, ayos lang po.
139. I: Baka paiyakin mo yan ah.
140. I: Ah okay lang po ba yun? Thank you po ah.
141. R: ‘Di. Ayos lang po kasi talaga kasi ano, naiintindihan ko naman po kung ba’t
142. sila naghiwalay kasi po close po kami ni mama. Lagi po kami naguusap. Parang
143. bestfriend po talaga kami. So naiintindihan ko po. Kung bakit ganito, ba’t ganyan.
144. Napaliwanag naman po ni mama po. Tsaka di naman po kami nawawalan ng
145. ano, kung bakit malulungkot kasi po yung family din po ni mama parang mas
146. gustong bonding po talaga sa family
147. I: So napupunan pa rin yung pagkukulang?
148. R: M-m.
149. I: Ay ate. Gustong naming malaman if okay lang ilang taon na po yung mama
150. mo?
151. R: Uh, 37 na po.
152. I: Yung sa father mo po?
153. R: Ganun din po. Ganun din po parehas po sila.
154. I: Nakita mo yung father mo?
155. R: Opo. Nung ano po, January
156. I: Maganda po yung relasyon mo sa Papa mo?
157. R: Opo. Okay lang naman po. Pero yung sa ngayon po kasi, hindi po kami…
158. I: Nung nasa ibang bansa mama mo, sa anong pagkakataon mo naramdaman
159. yung presensya nya?
160. R: Araw araw po. Pag birthday. Araw araw po kasi araw araw po kami naguusap.
161. Nandyan po siya lagi.
162. I: Saang bansa siya?
163. R: Bahrain po.
164. I: Para sayo, meron bang naging epekto? Maganda man or hindi? Yung pagalis?
165. I: Anong naidulot nun sayo?

166. R: Yun ano po, yung pangit po, parang ano syempre yung iba hindi nalalaman
167. yung ginagawa naming dalawa ng kapatid ko. Parang ano po. Minsan may mga
168. conflict po sa mga tita.
169. I: ohh..
170. R: Tapos pag ano naman po, yung maganda, syempre nabibigay niya po yung
171. mga kailangan na para samin po talaga.
172. I: Bakit sa tingin mo naging ganun yung epekto?
173. R: hm, dahil din po siguro sakin. Kasi matigas po ulo ko.
174. I: M-m. Matigas din ulo ko. Namin.
175. *laugh*
176. I: So.. Para sayo, sapat ba yung nabibigay ng magulang mo sayo? Parang
177. natutumbasan nya ba yung pagkukulang nya? If meron man.
178. R: Opo. Okay lang naman po. Pero minsan may ano hindi natutumbasan kasi
179. ung sahod nya po minsan kulang po.
180. I: Pero most of the time kasya naman? nakakayanan naman?
181. R: Opo.
182. I: So.. Ano kung ikaw ung nasa kalagayan ng magulang mo. Worth it ba yung
183. paghihirap sa trabaho sa ibang bansa?
184. R: Okay naman po. Kasi kung nakikita mo naman po na may nagagawa ung
185. padala mo po sa Family mo. Okay naman po.
186. I: So nasusuklian ba?
187. R: Opo.
188. I: So ikaw naman bilang anak. Paano mo masusuklian ung sakripisyo ng.. Ay
189. tawag ka po.. Ayun so bilang anak. Paano mo masusuklian ung sakripisyon ng
190. magulang mo?
191. R: Siguro po by grades din po.
192. I: By grades.. So nagaaral ka talagang mabuti.
193. R: Para po pag dating ng ano Graduating na po tas work. Siya naman po ung
194. pagpapahingahin ko tapos ako naman po ung magwowork para sa kanya.
195. I: Ah.. Bait!
196. I: Kinikilabutan ako sa sagot nya
197. I: Hahahaha
198. I: Oo parang napakaresponsible nyang panganay.
199. I: Ay nahiya ako wait lang. Hahahahaha!
200. I: Kaya nga e. Grabe ung sagot nya
201. I: Ay. Ayun so meron pa kong last sana. Kung may sasabihin ka sa mama mo na
202. hirap na hirap kang sabihin..
203. I: Oohhh.
204. I: Sorry. Sorry na. Deh ate..Sorry..
205. I: Treat ka namin mamaya..
206. I: Tara libre na natin..
207. I: Libre ka namin..
208. I: Halaaa.
209. I: Sorry ate.
210. I: Halaaa.. Wait lang.. Hahaha.
211. I: May tissue ko. Meron po akong tissue..
212. I: Si kid po ung nagpaiyak hindi po ako.. Sorry po ate..
213. I: Maganda ka po promise. Ganda nyo po.. Hahahahaha. Uy sorry..
214. I: Omygad.. Eto ung mga ano ko e.. Hehe
215. I: So.. Ayun kung may mga bagay ka bang hindi masabi sa mama mo. Isipin mo
216. ako or sya ung
217. mom mo kung okay lang sayo sabihin mo ngayon ung mga bagay na hindi mo
218. masabi sa mom mo.
219. R: Na ano.. Hi ma.. (Crying)
220. I: Okay lang.. Ay actually ofw din yung parents nila so nakakarelate sila sayo.
221. I: Okay ka lang?
222. I: Wait lang nakakarelate ako kaya nga ayoko tumingin e. Hahahahahaha.
223. R: Sorry kasi yung mga panahon na nangibang bansa ka ang pasaway ko kala
224. nanay. Then yung iba di mo alam ung nangyayari pero ung iba po alam mo kasi
225. syempre hindi ako nagsisinungaling sayo kasi ayokong dumating ung time na
226. malalaman mo pa sa iba ung mga nangyayari sakin. Then thank you kasi kahit
227. wala kami sa piling mo nung andoon ka sa ibang bansa kinakayanan mo para
228. samin, Kahit minsan nagaaway tayo sa phone kasi nga ang tigas tigas talaga ng
229. ulo ko. Tapos di ko minsan naalagaan ung kapatid ko ng maayos. Tapos alam
230. mo bang miss na miss kita nung nasa ibang bansa ka.. Kasi wala yung mama ko
231. na nagluluto sa bahay..
232. I: Ate.. Hinga ka muna..
233. R: Wala ung.. Ung ano .. Ung mga panahon na graduation ko na ang dami dami
234. kong medal para sayo. Gusto kong ipagmalaki sayo yun kaya lagi kong pinopost
235. sa facebook para makita mo. Ung mga activity na ginagawa ko para sayo kaya
236. nandidito ako para suklian ung mga pagkukulang ko. Ung mga sakripisyo mo
237. nung nandoon ka sa ibang bansa. Nandidito lang ako para sating.. Para sating
238. tatlo na kahit wala si papa kaya kong ibigay yung mga ano.. yung mga sakripisyo
239. mo kahit di man lang ganun kalaki pero gusto kong tumbasan yun hangga’t
240. makakaya ko. Mahal na mahal kita, ma.
241. I: Aaaaaah.. Ate omygad.. Ah. Omygad..
242. I: May natutunan din po kami sa inyo..
243. I: Ah last na po talaga, Kung ikaw po yung papipiliin, uhm gusto mo po bang
244. nandito siya tapos hindi ganun kataas yung sahod, or nasa ibang bansa siya
245. tapos mas natutustusan niya kayo?
246. R: Para po kasi sakin half half po kasi, syempre po panganay po ako so
247. kailangan ko pong mag-isip ng mas makakabuti para sa kapatid ko po. Kasi
248. syempre elementary palang po yung kapatid ko, tas ako po magka-colloge na.
249. Yung course ko pa po masyado pong mahal kasi po Architecture po. So mas
250. gusto ko po na nasa ibang bansa po siya. Para po kahit wala po siya, kung
251. makakabawi naman po ako sa kanyapag nagtrabaho po ako, papauwiin ko na

252. lang po siya dito. Ako na lang po yung magta-trabaho para sa kanilang dalawa
253. ng kapatid ko.
254. I: Ituloy mo lang yang pangarap mo kasi napakaganda ng hangarin mo. Yung
255. dreams mong makasama mo sila. Tuloy mo lang yan.
256. I: Tsaka po, since sinabi niyo po yung panglan niyo, tapos may problema po
257. kayo in the future, okay lang po…
258. I: Yun nap o yung therapy nyo samin.
259. I: Opo.
260. All: *laughing*
261. I: Sabihin natin yungcourse natin.
262. I: Psychology students po kami.
263. R: Psych po? Gusto ko din pong course yan e.*laugh*
264. I: Nung umpisa talaga di namin alam na yun yung sagot mo, na magaganda.
265. Kasi yung iba maiiksi, okay lang, ayos lang, ganun lang yung sagot nila, pero
266. sayo, parang punong puno e,
267. I: …ng emotions.
268. I: Alam mo yung sincerity niya talaga mafi-feel mo.
269. I: So, salamat.
270. I: May gusto ka po bang kainin ngayon?
271. I: Paano po ba naming masusuklian yung…
272. I: Time na ibinigay nyo po samin. Tsaka yung pagpapaiyak po sa inyo.
273. I: Sobrang precious po nung binagi nyo samin. So magi-guilty po kami kung
274. walang maibigay.
275. R: Mais na lang po siguro.
276. I: Mais po?
277. R: Fries po.
278. I: Saan po yung bilihan nun dito,
279. R: Ay malayo po kasi yun dito e.
280. I: Dito lang po kayo?
281. R: Opo.
282. I: Hanggang anong oras dito?
283. R: Hanggang 8:30 po kami.
284. I: wow.
285. I: magaantay ka lang ditto? Hanggang 8:30?
286. R: Di po. Mamaya pang 6:30 po may klase po kami ng Filipino po.
287. I: Anong oras ka naming maaabutan dito?
288. R: Mga ano po siguro.6:30. Kasi po minsan late naman prof namin.
289. I: Ah so 6:30 ka naming madadatnan dito? Sige po, babalik po kami dito ng 6:30
290. na may fries. Wala po kayong drinks na gusto?
291. I: GOODLUCK.
292. R: Shake.
293. I: Anong shake po gusto nyo? Gusto mo mango graham?
294. R: Opo.
295. I: Sige po.
296. I: Thank you po ate. Thank you.
Appendix D
Response Strand Number
Themes Kylie Jany Gea Erza Pearl
Theme 1: Longing for the 213, 218-220, 33-34 48-50,

Parental Role of the OFW 52
parent 217-219 341,
428-430,
433-434
Subtheme: Pagtatampo 127-128 171-172,

320,
322-323
Theme 2: Distant 121-123, 228-229, 16-17

Relationship 127-128, 236
195-196,
205,
207-209,
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity 62-63 27

with the OFW parent
Subtheme 2: Understanding 140-143 60-61

Discrepancy
Theme 3: Numbness to 35-36

Absence
Theme 4: Change in Family 277-281 237-238, 88-91

Structure
477-478,
486
Theme 5: Financial 33-34, 178-182

Awareness 48-50,
350-353
Theme 6: Debt of Gratitude 191, 322-329, 636-639 308-312,
193-194, 372 321-323,
343
Appendix E
Cluster and Themes
Respondent Strands
Theme 1: “Longing for the Parental

Role of the OFW parent”
01 Pearl
“Naiinggit din ako sa iba kasi kapag may
Family Day tas walang umaattend sakin.
Wala sila nung graduation ko din, wala sila.
Ever since nung elementary walang
umattend ng graduation ko.” (48-50)
“It’s either busy sila or ewan. Wala lang

silang paki.” (52)
“Hindi na kami masyadong nagkikita sa..

ano.. skype, ganon. Chat na lang.
02 Gea madalang sobra kasi busy din siya kaya
kapag may free time, tsaka lang kami
nagkaka-chat. Chat lang” (218-220)
“Malungkot.. tapos syempre, bata ka

palang, naghahanap ka ng mama.” (341)
“Mahirap kasing lumaki na wala yung

mama mo sa tabi mo.. iba kasi yung
pagpapalaki sa kapag may mama ka sa
wala eh.. parang mas okay ka kapag
nandyan siya” (428-430)
“.. isang yakap nya lang, okay na. Iba kasi

yung lambing ng nanay kaysa sa tatay eh.
Yun lang para saken. “ (433-434)
“Kapag nanunuod kami ng Koreanovela

(noon), ngayon wala na.” (213)
“Wala na akong *girly screams*, yung mga

girl thing! Wala, mag-isa lang akong
kinikilig.” (217-219)
03 Jany
“Minsan kapag kailangan ng representative

sa school, minsan si lolo yung pumupunta.”
04 Erza
02 Gea “kasi marami namang opportunities dito

kahit mababa naman yung sweldo para
makasama kami tapos mag-aabroad pa
siya.” (171-172)
“Na-aano, nagseselos ako. Maano kasi ako

eh dati parang selfish ako.” (320)
“Parang ano.. hindi naman sa attention

seeker. Parang pag gusto ko, ako, ako
lang. pag ako, ako lang. selfish ako eh
parang sa mama ko.” (322-323)
“Lagi niyang sinasabi hayaan mo na, hindi

niya nga ako kinakampihan.” (127-128)
03 Jany
Theme 2: “Distant Relationship”
02 Gea “Okay lang. hindi kasi ako palasabi ng

serious problem kay mama eh. Kapag may
problem ako tapos kayak o naman
solusyunan, hindi ko na sinasabi” (228-229)
“Ayoko silang ma-ano..mag-worry. Kaya ko

naman eh.” (236)
“Pag nagsusumbong or whatever na

nagsasabi ako ng feelings ko, sasabihin
niya abnormal ako” (121-123)
03 Jany
“Hindi nga niya ako kinakampihan” (127-
128)
“Kasi yung resposibilidad nya nandon nga

pero yung pagmamahal nya, wala.” (195-
196)
“Sa perspective niya, mahal niya kami

(kaya siya nagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa)
pero para sakin hindi.” (205)
“Yung totoong may care siya sa’yo eh kasi

tignan mo kapag nag-uusap nga kami sa
problema ko sasabihin niya, “hayaan mo
na” pero nagpapadala siya ng pera” (207-
209)
“Dumating sa puntong ayaw kausapin si

papa kasi inaantok na kami kasi gabi na.”
(16-17)
04 Erza
Subtheme 1: Unfamiliarity with the OFW

parent
03 Jany
“Komplikado, noong bata pa ako, di ko
talaga siya kilala kaya noong umuwi siya,
grabe sobrang ilang ako, parang.. ’Sino
to?’” (62-63)
“Matagal hindi nagkita, hindi po ganoon

04 Erza kakilala nung umalis siya” (27)
Subtheme 2: Understanding
Discrepancy
03 Jany “Hindi niya kasi nabibigay yung hinahanap

kong kasagutan. Diba minsan kapag
nagsasabi ka ng problema mo, meron ka
namang naiisip na dapat niyang isagot
tapos parang nadidisappoint ako kasi
laging iba yung sinasagot niya eh parang
ang layo tapos lagi niyamg sinasabi hayaan
mo na.” (140-143)
“Kapag may problema.. minsan hindi

naaayos kasi wala nang understanding
(kasi kulang dahil wala si papa).” (60-61)
04 Erza
Theme 3: “Numbness to Absence”
01 Pearl “Parang nasanay ako na wala siya, so mas

parang magugulat ako na lagi siyang
nandyan. Nag-grow naman ako na wala
siya.” (35-36)
Theme 4: “Change in Family Structure”
01 Pearl “Hindi.. hindi ko nararamdaman yung.. as a

mother sa kanya, parang siya yung naging
yaya ko. Si mama, siya yung naglalaba,
nagluluto sakin sa umaga hatid medyo kasi
mas gusto ko” (88-91)
“Si papa ano eh, hindi ko naman

masabihan ng problema kasi lagi siyang
busy” (237-238)
02 Gea
“Ako kasi nagluluto kasi wala si mama,

walang tao. Kailangan, ako yung magluluto
kay papa.” (477-478)
“Ako yung naglalaba, naglilinis, nagluluto.”

(486)
“Yung nanay ko napaka martyr yon kahit

alam niya yung kalokohan ng tatay ko
okay.mag-aaway sila pero bandang huli,
mahal niya talaga yung tatay ko.
Nagpapadala siya sa mga dahilan ng tatay
ko na parang ‘Hindi, wala lang yun, wala
03 Jany yung babaeng yon.’ Edi parang okay na sa
nanay ko nag anon pero bandang huli yung
nanay ko yung normal na lang yung ganon.”
(277-281)
Theme 5: “Financial Awareness”
02 Gea “Nahihirapan daw tustusan yung mga

gastusin sa bahay. Tsaka sa pag-aaral ko.
Eh nung time na yon, private pa ako kaya
sabi ni papa, para daw samin naman yung
ginagawa ni mama. Kaya ayon pero nalipat
din naman ako ng public nung grade three
(3) ako.” (178-182)
“Ayon kasi walang trabaho yung tatay ko

edi kung walang kikilos, walang pera kaya
ayon.” (33-34)
03 Jany
Wala, praktikal lang eh, kailangan din
talaga kumita parang wala, alangan naman
mag-inarte ka parang sa ibang bata, eh
kailangan mo naman talaga ng pera.” (48-
50)
“Nakakainis kaya, kaya naglayas rin ako s

abahay, tapos isa pa na moment yung ate
ko na taga Antipolo hiniram yung relo ng ate
ko. Tapos sabi ng ate kong taga

Valenzuela, ‘Sabihin mo na lang kay nanay,
magpabili ka ng relo’. Nay bilhan mo ko ng
ganyan ha!?’ LAHAT NA LANG PABILI!” (
350-353)
Theme 6: “Debt of Gratitude”
01 Pearl “Worth it siya kung more on positive yung

nasa utak ng papa ko, kunwari ‘ah para to
sa future ng anak ko’ ganto, ganyan.
Kailangan ko magtrabaho ng mabuti. Hindi
lang yun, pwede rin sa other side na ‘ah
magtatrabaho ako para s aano sa future
mababalik naman nila sakin yun na kapag
humingi ako ng pera sakanila mabibigay
nila agad’.” (308-312)
“Sinusumbat niya sakin bakit daw, bakit pa

niya ako pinag-aral dati kung ganyan lang
din yung kinalabasan ko ngayon, ganun.
Parang sinusumbat niya lahat.” (321-323)
“At the end of the day, tatay ko pa rin siya.”

(343)
“Gusto ko talaga silang bilhan ng sariling

bahay though may lupa na sa probinsya
pero wala pang bahay. Gusto ko talaga.
Yun talaga yung pinaka goal ko.” (636-639)
“Tapos parang wala, gusto kasi talaga nila

magpasosyal, tapos iniisip ko bakit parang
02 Gea wala silang konsiderasyon sa nanay ko yun
yung naghihirap. Tapos sila
nagpapakasasa lang, tapos yung ate ko
yung cellphone ang mahal mahal 17k yung
cellphone niya. Tapos naghulugan
samantalang ako nung nangangailangan
ako ng laptop sa autocab, hangga’t maari
yung pinaka cheap na laptop yung pinili ko
tapos yung scholarship ko, naghulog din
ako ng 4,500 para naman 10k lang sagot
03 Jany
niya kasi iniisip ko talaga mahirap yung
buhay sa ibang bansa.” (322-329)
“Pagpapatuloy ko yung pag-aaral ko kahit

ayaw ko na talaga.” (372)
“Siguro po by grades din po.” (191)
“…para po pagdating ng ano.. graduating

nap o tas work. Siya naman po yung
pagpapahingahin ko tapos ako naman po
yung magwowork para sa kanya.” (193-
194)
05 Kylie
Appendix F
Validators
Appendix H
Personal Data Sheet
Name: ___________________ Age: ______ Status: _________________
Provincial Address: __ __________________________________________________________
Permanent Address: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: _ ____________________ Place of Birth: ___________________
Contact number: ___________________________
Mother's Name: ____________________________ Father's Name: ________________________
No. of Siblings: _____ No. of Siblings w/ children: _____
Address: __________________________________________________________________________
Name of Siblings: _________________________
(If applicable) ___________________________ ___________________________
___________________________ ___________________________
___________________________ ___________________________
___________________________ ___________________________
Recent Occupation: _________________________
Past Occupation/s: _________________________
_________________________
Educational Attainment:
Elementary: ________________________________________________________________________
Highschool: _________________________________________________________________________
College: ____________________________________________________________________________
Vocational: ________________________________________________________________________
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Consequences of having an Overseas Filipino Worker- parent among Adolescents 1

Consequences of having an OFW Parent among Adolescents

Presented to the Faculty of College of Arts and Sciences

Our Lady of Fatima University

Of the Requirements for Sikolohiyang Pilipino

Bobis, Clarence Faye DL.

Palabay, Maria Teresa Z.

Valeriano, Kristine Yna Mae

Results and Discussion 21

This study explores the consequences of having an OFW- Parent among

referral. The researchers created an interview questionnaire to have an in depth

parent, distant relationship, numbness to absence, change in family structure, financial

awareness, and debt of gratitude.

really live happily?

is lower compared to the female OFWs. As stated by the Philippine Overseas

Employment Administration (POEA), the highest number of OFWs was deployed in

Agricultural workers, sales workers, clerical workers, production workers, administrative

the major occupational groups of Filipinos deployed abroad.

Most of the Filipinos grew up in a condition or community where working abroad

economic condition, discrimination experienced when applying jobs locally, contractual

employment arrangement as the performance is limited to five month duration of

professional marketability globally. In addition, there is the opportunity to travel and

sacrificial for OFWs (Fernandez, 2013).

mothers showed poorer social adjustment and suffered impeded psychological

development which was contradicted by Scalabrini (2003), where the outcomes

displacement, disruptions, and changes in caregiving arrangement. It is experienced

particularly as a sense of loneliness and abandonment. They generally lagged behind

experiences of orphans and abandoned children. Their vulnerability to abuse and

phone calls, having conversations through sending messages, parent-child association

looking out for them.

differences on the development of adolescents with OFW parent in comparison to those

is separated to their parents because they are working abroad.

The main purpose of this study is to determine the consequences of having an

financial stability, maturity and social support.

of neglect and abandonment in Parental Relation. This is the time where

(Atienza, Kapunan, Noe & Panlilio, 2012).

Then, the researchers wanted to know the consequences of having stability

with the situation and problems.

Moreover, when it comes to social support in terms of connectedness, an effective

communication is important for parent-child relationship to be able to communicate

to lean on like extended family.

family changes in relation to a child’s well-being. One of the consequences of having an

psychologically. A study conducted by Bandy and his co-researchers (2011),

child social competence; child school engagement, child internalizing (depression),

parent-child communication, and parental feelings of aggravation.

age and consequently goes on with it.

the freedom to harm themselves.

According to Bowlby’s (1973) attachment theory, the lack of contact between an

Migrant remittances transferred to families in home countries directly become part

research on Economics took interest in finding the impact of receiving remittances in

of expenditure on education, health, durable goods, transport and communications, and

role of solo parents in academic performance of children of OFWs. The study

negatively correlated with the children’s academic performance (Cabansag-Taguiam,

migration and school outcomes among young adolescents. Specifically, they

out by data showing that non-attendance in school decreases as the children’s

households increase in income level.

Emotional maturity, as defined by Atienza, Kapunan, Noe & Panlilio (2012), is

Schram (2015) of Unversity of Amsterdam, knowing and understanding why parents

sometimes leads to children attaining emotional stability, as it compensates for their

sadness and stimulates their acceptance of parental absence.

Sarason & Sarason (1985), defined social support as the availability of

interpersonal resources. Sources of social support can be from parents/family,

and well-being of people.