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SOUL TIES: HOLY AND UNHOLY
Marrying someone sent to you by a Satanic agent is like a union joined by
While you are in captivity, it is the enemy's assignment to keep you jailed!
JOINED IN BARBED WIRE!
I believe a preface is in order,
particularly to those who are in
happy marriages, joined and
blessed by God. Much props and
praise goes out to you. I too
believe in marriage. However, I
myself am a "three strikes and
you're out" person. Been there,
done that and I was not
barbed wire.
THE NOT SO TENDER TRAP!
Some of you want to ask me,
"Didn't you have any warning
signs?" Yup. I certainly did.
However, because I was obsessed
about my desire for a mate, I
ignored every last one of them. In
fact, I was so blind that the
messages I received that were
from God, I rebuked as being "of
the devil." If the devil sent me a
message that fit into what I
desired to believe, I'd accept it
with a "Praise the Lord!"
I suspect those of you reading
this mentoring letter with a
religious mind would like to quote
me scriptures like, "what God has
joined together, let no man put
asunder," or "the marriage bed is
undefiled." I'd say "yup" again,
only I'd ask you, this. Does
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successful. However, what I am
successful at is "how to get out of
a marriage that is unholy and
defiled." I know how to climb out
of relationships surrounded by
barbwire.
I share some of the intimate
details of my life, knowing full well
that those without
spiritual maturity may judge me.
Yet I love the Body of Christ much
more than my personal concern
about public opinion. I realize that
I am casting pearls and that
there may be a few swine in the
mix. Even so, I am willing to
expose myself for ONE main
reason. Jesus Christ of Nazareth,
who knew no sin yet became sin
on the cross for me, deserves my
transparency. Consequently, I
can at least sacrifice a little self-
discloser if my testimony will help
even ONE of his sheep be set
free. This is the least that I can do
for those that my Lord and Savior
loves.
When I was an unsaved atheist,
God actually did join me in
marriage. I also had sense
enough to pick a man who was
compatible to me in every way.
Although my first husband died of
a massive heart attack when he
was very young, he left me with a
jewel, the most important person
in my life---a daughter who today
is invaluable on so many levels.
However, once I became a
Christian, I lost ALL good
commonsense, assuming that I
the bible declare that ALL
marriages are joined by God?
Does the scripture say that ALL
marriage beds are undefiled? And
your answer would have to be,
"no, the bible does NOT say that."
One day when I was desperately
holding on to my third and final
marriage, I heard in the spirit,
"Richard was sent by the devil to
destroy you." My response?
Immediately I retorted, "I rebuke
you, devil." However, in time, the
truth came to light. Without a
doubt, my marriage was "arranged
by a Satanic agent" out to "take
me out.!" How I got over, is a
marvelous testimony which one
day I may share with you. Suffice
it for now to know that I know that
two of my marriages were life
threatening.
I'm remembering a Frank Sinatra
song called "the Tender Trap." It
starts with, "you see a pair of
glancing eyes, then
suddenly....and so on." Well, the
attraction may appear to be
"sudden," however, the enemy
first begins to gradually work on
your mind and he began his work
when you were very young. For
example, in your mind, the enemy
has ever so cleverly
planted several false
assumptions. For example, now
that you are a Christian, you have
heard preachers tell you that you
have an inheritance and that your
inheritance includes
EVERYTHING. In your mind's eye,
of course that means the beautiful
dress, the glorious and majestic
walk down the aisle, and all the
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could not serve God unless I was
joined to a Christian man. Like all
stories, mine can be long and
involved so suffice me to put
things "in a nutshell."
The enemy had convinced me that
I was called to prison ministry. In
fact, a bald headed, huge and
muscular Mr. Clean looking being
came forth in a dream and
bellowed at me, "I am an angel
sent from God to show you your
future."
The "angel" sat me down at a
blueprint table and showed me a
plan for several huge facilities to
house prisoners and substance
abusers. At the time, my uncle had
promised me 300 acres of land so
it "all tied together" in a neat little
package. The angel also said "The
man you will marry will head up
the entire project. You will provide
the spiritual and counseling
component."
This dream was then used to draw
me into marriages with not one,
but 2 different men sent to me to
destroy me. The first one was
married already but he was in
prison. I had dated him when he
was free and he was married,
(claiming to be separated) even
then.
So one day I went to visit him in
prison. Immediately after the visit,
a power came on me so strong,
with the message "Bob is THE
ONE." Six months later, we were
married in prison. I thought he was
going to be released soon, not
trimmings that go into "the
wedding."
Built into your "I'm blessed"
affirmations, you are quoting to
yourself "if I delight myself in the
Lord, He will give me the desires
of my heart. Well, I pray, sing
praises to Him, give my tithes and
offerings, read the bible every day,
go to church on Sunday and
Weds. night bible class, so I am
delighting in Him. Therefore, the
desire of my heart is to be joined
in marriage so "he is going to give
me my desire because "the word
says so."
So now the trap is set. The next
step is to find someone who
"professes to be Christian"
because the bible says "be not
yoked together with unbelievers"
so I am looking for a Christian
mate. So, eventually, here he or
she comes. The mate will be sent
just at the moment when you are
"out of patience with God and you
just want to get the wedding done
because the bells are ringing and
your biological clock is ticking."
The irony is that you will probably
meet him or her in church. Moving
on by the "let's get to know you
stage," sex is looming you in the
face. First you start out petting.
Petting moves into the genital
area. I have actually counseled
with Christians who believe that
oral and even anal sex is not
fornication and so they are not
convicted by this mere
'technicality." However, once
coitus is obtained the natural way,
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knowing that Bob had TWO
consecutive sentences which
totaled 27 years.
Anyway, since Bob was STILL
married , I pulled out my
checkbook and paid for the
divorce. That was 1988. He is
STILL in prison, about to be
released any day now.
The bottom line is that the
marriage was an 8 year
nightmare. Believe it or not, I was
beat down in prison, while on a
conjugal visit, on more than just
one occasion. I thought I was
marrying a Christian, when he
turned out to be a New Age
occultist who told me that "he had
chains and gates on my soul." No
he didn't. I broke out of his barbed
wire fence without even a scratch.
Then I met Richard, the love of my
life. We met briefly and I told him
about my dream from the angel.
Richard had architect skills, so
shortly after we met, he
constructed a fantastic blueprint. I
thought he was "the ONE" cause
he could oversee building the first
site.
He was NOT the one. Rich was
even worst than Bob, if that could
be possible. That was a 9 year
nightmare with a heroin addict, a
criminal with an anti-social
personality. But the light broke
through the darkness and I was
set free by the hand of God. As an
aside--- Believe it or not, ---Bob
recently sent me a letter,
an obvious invitation to "resume
then the rush is on for "we've got
to get married."
Unholy or demonic soul ties can
occur by the sexual act. However,
I have seen such ties form even
when sex has not taken place.
What a soul tie is
The Bible speaks of what is today
known as soul ties. In the Bible, it
doesn't use the word soul tie, but
it speaks of them when it talks
about souls being knit together,
becoming one flesh, etc. A soul tie
can serve many functions, but in
it's simplest form, it ties two souls
together in the spiritual realm.
Godly soul ties are formed when a
couple are married. In Ephesians
5:31 we find, "For this cause shall
a man leave his father and mother,
and shall be joined unto his wife,
and they two shall be one flesh."
However, when a person has
ungodly sexual relations with
another person, an ungodly soul
tie is then formed (1 Corinthians
6:16, "What? know ye not that he
which is joined to an harlot is one
body? for two, saith he, shall be
one flesh."). This soul tie
fragments the soul and forms an
ungodly soul tie.
Soul ties between married couples
draw them together like magnets,
while soul ties between fornicators
can draw a beaten and abused
woman to the man which in the
natural realm she would hate and
run from, but instead she runs to
him even though he doesn't love
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our marriage now that he is about
to be released."
Well, I was polite but I was firm.
What you need to know in this is
that "if the enemy worked
something against you and "IT
WORKED," HE WILL TRY AND
TRY AGAIN, EVEN USING THE
SAME PEOPLE, PLACES AND
THINGS.
The lessons that I learned from all
of this are not really for me. I have
the luxury of age, where I can look
back over the last 40 years and
see that after the death of my first
husband, there was no man in
God's plan for me. In this hour, I
must press forward. The "I'm
waiting for my soul mate days" are
OVER. Not that I don't love men
and romance because I certainly
do. I just have other priorities
today and unfortunately, I have
assessed what I desire to do with
the rest of my days and "a
significant other" is just not in my
plans. I can't take the risk.
I think the main lesson that I have
to pass on to the brethren are
these:
1. Don't just assume that because
you are sensual, romantic,
excellent spouse material, that
there is a husband in your future.
Man was not made for woman. It
is good for him, not to be alone.
Any man who wants a wife can
have one. However, a woman can
be alone and do well.
2. God did not call anyone "in a
her, and treats her like dirt.
In the demonic world, unholy soul
ties can serve as bridges between
two people to pass demonic
garbage through. Other soul ties
can do things such as allow one
person to manipulate and control
another person, and the other
person is unaware of what is
going on or knows what is going
on, but for no real reason, allows it
to continue.
With women who are called to
be special handmaidens for the
Lord, the best strategy of a
religious fallen angel is to ensnare
her into a demonic soul tie. A
demonic or ungodly soul tie is like
an invisible rope between two or
more persons that fallen angels
and demons can use to their
advantage to cross or travel from
one person to another. Ungodly
soul ties are not only romantic or
sexual in nature because they can
also be formed with parents,
relatives and friends. In any case,
captives to a demonic soul tie find
themselves uncontrollably
attracted to someone who either
hurts them, or who is in no way
interested in them.
Both men and women under the
influence of a demonic soul ties
act like obsessed "love
slaves." To acknowledge that the
relationship is not mutually
beneficial is an understatement.
Usually the satanic agent's target
is most always the giver in the
relationship, where his or her
partner is used by evil spirit to
violate the captive's conscience
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team." The work that God has for
YOU to do as a woman may not
require you to have a husband.
Co-ministry can be rich and
rewarding. However, as a minister
for 25 years within the religious
system, I have met my share of
miserable pastor's wives. The
grass is not always greener on the
other side.
3. If you are in bondage to your
desire for a mate, the enemy will
take advantage of this weakness,
time and time again. You must
overcome the cultural cues
embedded EVERYWHERE that you
are less than a woman, without a
man or without children.
4. Certainly, fornication is a sin.
However, do not marry anyone
JUST to avoid sex outside of
marriage. If you slipped and got
pregnant, DO NOT MARRY THE
MAN SOLELY FOR THE SAKE OF
THE CHILD.
5. THE ENEMY NEVER GIVES UP
ON THIS. I thought that at my age,
I am far "under the radar," yet
men seem "TO FIND ME, ONE
WAY OR THE OTHER." Even my
88 year old mother has still not
gotten over her desire to have a
man. So don't think that you'll
simply "age out." Not so.
6. Learn to enjoy the simple
things of life. Don't covet what
others have. Learn to love being
single. Be thankful that you woke
up this morning in your right
mind. Learn to love yourself.
Love your body because its
and to manipulate its target to do
something that is against his or
her will. Most often, the captive is
manipulated through the anger,
temper tantrums, guilt trips and
even threats from a lover or
spouse who is unknowingly in the
hands of devils and demons. This
is not a union made in heaven. It
is actually a defiled marriage bed,
joined together by the enemy.
I stumbled on to a method of
deliverance that when first
introduced, shocked me to my
toes. Led by the Holy Ghost, I
called the spirit by the name of the
demonic oppressor and to my
utter amazement, it manifested,
just like a demon. In other words,
a woman I'll call Lucy in a
demonic soul tie with a man
named Frank, I rebuked it by
saying, "Frank, I command you to
come out of Lucy in the Name of
Jesus Christ of Nazareth and the
thing roared out of Lucy's mouth
like a demon."
Well, why did this happen. I'll
hazard a guess. Frank has
demons. When Lucy had sex with
him, she became vulnerable to
Frank's demons, especially if Lucy
has a passive nature. The demons
in Frank used his spirit as a means
to "climb up and into Lucy." I've
have seen such a thing
manifest several times since,
so the first person was not an
isolated case.
I myself did not have a demonic
soul tie with any of my husbands.
However, I remember a boyfriend
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YOURS and not because you
desire to seduce a partner with it.
7. If marriage is for you, develop
yourself into the kind of wife that
is going to be a blessing to a man.
Don't expect PRINCE CHARMING
unless you are PRINCESS
CHARMING. Don't depend upon
what a man can do for you.
8. Don't settle for anything less
than WHO you are. In fact, since a
man's ego is essential to his
being, make sure that he knows
who he is and where he is going.
9. The bible was written for and by
a generation that for the most part,
was not promiscuous. In other
words, "virgins were the norm." I
have counseled with clients who
were technically virgins, yet in the
spirit, they were not. Too much
experimentation. A virgin is a rare
species in our time. When sex has
been entered into, the body
desires more. It is just a natural
thing. The body will burn for it.
So don't let Satan condemn you
just because you have natural
passions. You can learn ways
how to "bring your passions under
submission to your own will."
10. Last but certainly not least, if
you have a dream, a vision or
receive a prophetic message
which declares that "this is the
person for you sent by God," run
like a bat out of hell. Its the devil.
God does not choose our mates.
He leaves it up to our own free
will. Don't just take an isolated
case out of the old testament. You
who was a corrupt minister that I
write about in "Come Out of Her,
God's People." To summarize,
uncharacteristic of me, I found
myself stuck on stupid over this
man. He did me "a lot of dirt" yet I
couldn't shake him. Yet the Holy
Ghost cast that demon off of me.
Here is what happened: "
"Then one night, one of the
strangest things happened to me.
It reminds me of the old tune that
goes "I'm gonna wash that man
right outta my hair." It was so
supernatural that I don't even have
adequate words to describe what
happened. All I can say is that I
awoke in the middle of the night
when an un-earthly wind blew into
my bedroom and settled on my
chest. I call this strange suction
cup "The Holy Ghost Vacuum
Cleaner." As I lay on my back, all
of the feelings and emotions that I
had for this man were literally
sucked out of me. The demonic
soul tie was instantly broken."
There is a lot more that I could
write on this subject but I am
trying to keep these mentoring
letters short. To know more about
the subject matter, you should
look into obtaining two of
my books: "Come Out of Her,
God's People" and "Faces of the
Religious Demon."
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 are not Isaac or Rebecca.
Choose your mate with good
commonsense.

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