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by Max Berger
What’s inside:
Introduction
The “SACRIFICE” Story
The “GOVERNMENT” Story
The “POLICE” Story
The “ANARCHY” Story
The “PORNOGRAPHY” Story
The “HORROR” Story
The “OBJECT” Story
The “COLLECTION” Story
The “ART” Story
The “TEACHER-STUDENT” Story
The “HOUSE & HOME” Story
The “RECOVERY” Story
The “RELIGION” Story
The “GAME” Story
The “TRAVEL” Story
The “GARDEN” Story
The “BUSINESS” Story
The “ADDICTION” Story
The “FANTASY” Story
The “SCIENCE” Story
The “COOK BOOK” Story
The “WAR” Story
The “THEATRE” Story
The “MYSTERY” Story
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
Welcome to the Girlfriend Game Personality Matrix ebook. We are about to explore 24
unique “relationship stories”, breaking down all of the minutiae to figure out exactly what
you resonate with and who you should stay away from.
What is a relationship story? This is how individuals relate to each other in their
relationships. Every person falls into a distinct narrative, and often a particular
relationship story will attract someone from a similar matrix.
People with the same emotions and the same energy who are sharing the same
thoughts and information together; that is a symmetrical relationship story. That is what
we are aiming to achieve in a GG relationship.
However, a critical component of this material you’re reading, will dive into
a-symmetrical relationship stories to explore what happens when you and your partner
are not aligned.
How to use this material? Every matrix profile ends with a short cheat sheet to help you
quickly identify how you fit into that profile, what to do when she fits with her profile, the
most compatible stories, and which relationship stories to watch out for.
Additionally, there will be a thorough description of each relationship story to give insight
into what fuels that matrix.
Pay extra attention to the toxic relationship stories you will find below. The reason
you’ve made an investment in Girlfriend Game is to find the most thrilling and fulfilling
relationship possible, and I created this because I found way too many people falling
into extremely bad relationship patterns. Mutual low self-esteem, shaming, controlling,
emotional abuse, physical abuse... All of these are factors that feed into a low-vibration
relationship.
Sometimes changing the relationship itself is not enough. Breaking up does not
necessarily break the addiction to a negative relationship story. If you were miserable in
your old relationship but managed to get a new one, you might be happy for a few
weeks or even a few months. But eventually you will return to that old emotion because
your body would crave its chemical fix. Your outer environment may have changed, but
without addressing the cause of your issues, you will continue to crave the same old
patterns, still addicted to those old emotions.
Throughout this PDF you will frequently read the instruction to visit The Four Becomings
in Girlfriend Game. That’s because I want to make sure that if change is needed in your
life, you don’t just change the external, but you make a shift from within. Grounding
yourself into your reality as a man in your prime.
A man in his prime does not waver or falter in his path. It is your duty to handle your
emotions and circumstances and be a leader in your relationships. You firm boundaries
will be rewarded with an amazing girlfriend who was properly screened, and is just an
overall kickass girl to have around your life.
The “SACRIFICE” Story
Relationships that require a lot of compromise fall into the matrix of the Sacrifice Story.
When the Sacrifice Story is un-grounded it then becomes victim to bullshit narratives
found in the mainstream media.
This relationship story is pushed by Hollywood to sound like a gritty “true love” scenario,
where one lover must make serious sacrifices for the sake of the other. The Hollywood
agenda pushes heroic and gushy love stories out to billions of people, but this narrative
can potentially do more harm than good.
When the mainstream media frames the Sacrifice Story as a noble and heroic act of
love, it pacifies audiences into mistaking toxic coupling with “true love”. It becomes toxic
when the sacrifices involve compromising your values, goals, and boundaries for
another person, who may not even reciprocate the gesture.
On the flip side, this relationship story can be symmetrical when the sacrifices are
coming from a place of personal abundance and mutual respect. Making compromises
in relationships is inevitable. Girlfriend Game is designed to teach personal boundaries
first, and then show you methods of navigating challenges and compromises within your
relationship.
If acts of personal sacrifice are coming from a place of scarcity, a desperate feeling to
make the other partner feel satisfied, that is when this relationship story becomes toxic.
Read up on The Police Story to learn which personality matrix you should watch out for.
You regularly make yourself uncomfortable Order your life in a way that doesn’t
for the happiness of others exploit her or anyone else
You believe it’s virtuous to put yourself Explore her background and understand
second where her behaviour comes from
You feel influenced by Hollywood “Hero” Invite her to channel her “Sacrifice” story
stories of making endless sacrifices towards non-trivial causes that are
product (i.e. charity)
If one person in the relationship is making all of the decisions for the other, then it may
be that their relationship is founded on the Government Story matrix.
If this relationship style is symmetrical for both partners, then it would be a mutual
agreement of letting one partner lead the other. If two consenting people are genuinely
interested in that dynamic, then it could absolutely work.
The shadow side of this relationship story is when one person has all the power and
denies their partner any freedom. Rather than a functional relationship agreement, it
would look like a dictatorship. Read The Police Story for more information on warning
signs of how a relationship could transform into a dark dictatorship.
This personality matrix is similar to the preceding Government story, but has some
distinct behavioral differences. The Police Story is about policing every little detail of
what their partner does or has done, whereas the Government Story dictates behaviors
before any “mistakes” could happen.
Being in the Police Story looks like suspicious nit-picking for trouble. This relationship
story is obviously built on mutual Low Self-Esteem. The problem is that the person who
is doing the Policing may not show signs of this insecure behavior until later in the
relationship.
If you’re the one being Policed, it would look like being berated with questions about
every little thing you have done. Maybe you went out to spend a few hours with your
friends, but your girlfriend is suspicious that you were up to no good. It may be that she
sneaks into your cellphone, exercising all resources to find answers to her paranoia.
You need to watch out for mistaking this neurotic behavior as demonstrations of love
and care. The person who does the Policing will manipulate the situation to seem like
they just care about you so much, to the point of needing to know every detail about
you.
Eventually, this could lead to creating a nasty self-fulfilling prophecy. Where the person
being Policed is constantly persecuted for possible cheating or sneaky behavior, they
may even be driven to actually cheat on their partner in order to feel momentarily free of
the incessant Policing. The never-ending accusations end up seeding the behavior that
the Police partner was so afraid of.
If you think you’re the one being Policed in your relationship, skip to the chapter about
The Sacrifice Story t o learn more about which personality matrix you might be stuck in.
If you are realizing that you’re the one doing the Policing, please take time to comb
through The Four Becomings in Girlfriend Game. Achieving a GG relationship means
establishing freedom that is balanced with self-esteem and security. If you are acting
out The Police Story, you still have some personal work to do before jumping into a
committed relationship with someone.
You feel a need to check her texts or any Assert your right to your privacy
inbox on social media
You need to know every detail of her life Do not falter in your personal boundaries
and her past as she will NOT respect that
A relationship devoid of any intrinsic goal or purpose falls in line with the Anarchy Story.
This personality matrix is for those who don’t just embrace chaos; they’re consumed by
it.
All rules, regulations, and norms are out of question within the Anarchy Story. At first,
this relationship style could seem spontaneous and romantic, becoming a story of the
Couple vs the World. Two people passionately defying all of society’s conventions, and
sticking together in spite of having an unclear agenda.
However, the Anarchy story is also a strong indicator that someone is not remotely
ready for a relationship. Usually these people lack responsibilities and have
commitment issues. If this matrix sounds like you or your girlfriend, I would invite you to
take a closer look within yourselves.
Begin to question why someone would be acting out this narrative. Why would you or
your girlfriend be embodying the Anarchy Story?
Could it be that you’re unsure of what you want? Is that lack of certainty fueling a fear;
leading to inaction and indecision?
If this Personality Matrix sounds anything like you, I would suggest taking time to sit with
those questions and get clear about the outcomes you want out of life. Life is too short
to waste on living without a clear purpose.
You have no future plans for your Take her on spontaneous adventures
relationship
You have no future plans for anything Avoid setting long term future plans and
(career, travel, etc) expectations
You enjoy relaxing and going with the Establish respect and harmony within
flow comfortable boundaries
At first glance this relationship story would sound appealing to most guys with any bit of
a sex drive. However, the Pornography story is riddled with problems of Low
Self-Esteem.
Exploring the issues of the Pornography story is not to underplay the importance of
having a sexy relationship. An important aspect of a GG relationship is passion,
abundance, and sexual connection. Genuine excitement to share a pleasurable
experience with an attractive girl is healthy.
Having a relationship with hot sex on a regular basis with an amazing girl is what we’re
trying to achieve with Girlfriend Game.
The Pornography Story does not match up with a GG sex life. This personality matrix is
acted out when LSE issues are left unaddressed and then evolve into perversions.
Often the sex in this matrix requires some form of humiliation and getting off on your
partner being belittled.
Imposing your issues of low-esteem on your girlfriend is unfair to her and your
relationship. If you feel yourself often struggling with the Pornography story when you’re
connecting with a girl, definitely revisit The Four Becomings in Girlfriend Game.
If this act of humiliation is consensual with an agreement between you and your
girlfriend, then it does not qualify as the Pornography story. Check out the chapter about
the Business Story to learn more about making specific arrangements in your
relationship.
Getting off on feeling sexually superior by humiliating and traumatizing your lover is not
a foundation of a GG relationship. Make sure to get that handled ASAP and begin to
develop a truly amazing sex life with your girlfriend instead!
You masturbate to pornography regularly Slow down and get her present in her
body
You want to act out scenes from Act out fulfilling sexual fantasies together
pornography in a safe way
You are only excited by a girl if she is Communicate regularly about your
over-sexualized sexuality and ensure that she is
approaching it from a healthy standpoint,
rather than acting out a character she
may not want to be
This is a more severe version of The Pornography Story. Rather than just sexual
pleasure, the focus within the narrative of The Horror Story is fear.
Individuals who align with The Horror Story get off on the fear experienced by their
partner. If this relationship narrative is a-symmetrical, it can become extremely toxic to
the other partner involved.
Unfortunately, it may take time for the relationship to progress before an individual
begins revealing behavior identified with The Horror Story narrative.
An individual turned on by acting out The Horror Story c ould have some residual issues
left unaddressed from earlier stages of their life. Because of past traumas, they may
have learned to associate expressions of fear and anxiety as expressions of love. An
abusive or neglectful upbringing can create misconceptions about those painful
experiences being symbolic of care and nurture, causing them to carry those patterns
into their adult relationships.
If you feel like you resonate with The Horror Story, please revisit the section in Girlfriend
Game about The Four Becomings. Take the time to digest why it is you align closely
with this narrative and become grounded in your own center, before dragging an
unwilling participant into that frame.
If you're realizing you are in an unhappy relationship with someone who acts out The
Horror Story, you should also revisit the section about The Four Becomings. The
framework of that section is designed to re-establish your mission and understand
exactly what kind of relationship you need with yourself and then with other people.
Getting lost in destructive relationships is easy without proper guidance, which is exactly
why I created Girlfriend Game.
The chapter about The Recovery Story will dive further into what type of people fall
prey to behavior acted out in The Horror Story and other toxic Relationship Stories.
You enjoy dominating your partner and Remove yourself and offer her resources
seeing them be subservient to you to help her
You have unaddressed traumas from Understand that she may act out the
your past that you act out in your Horror Story matrix from a paradigm of
relationships her own past pain and victimization
You get off on the fear and insecurity Visit the Four Becomings in Girlfriend
expressed by your partner Game to explore why it is you ended up in
the Horror Story Matrix
This personality matrix requires superficial upkeep. The Object story is about appearing
like a happy 10/10 couple in order to appease other people around you.
The Object story doesn’t work out well if it’s rooted in Low Self-Esteem. Dating a girl just
to show her off to other people is unfair to her and yourself when it is a-symmetrical.
Presenting yourself and your relationship as a perfect fairy tale couple just to impress
others falls into the category of LSE. Concepts like the “trophy wife” would ring true for
this personality matrix too.
The LSE version will actively disregard issues hidden below the surface in order to
preserve the appearance of seeming 10/10.
The Object story could work fine as long as it’s symmetrical for both you and your
girlfriend. This would mean that when you’re showing off your seemingly 10/10
relationship, it’s because you both truly feel that your bond is that special.
Excitement to show off your girlfriend because you’re both actually awesome together
could be a fun and cool frame to share with each other within the Object Story. Check
out the chapter about The Art Story to explore this concept further.
You date women for the sole purpose of Transition the Object Story to come from
showing them off a place of abundance
You rather go on dates in public/social If she has too much LSE, remove yourself
settings, than spending alone time with from the relationship
her
This personality matrix is often found in players who have been practicing pickup for a
while. The Collection story would obviously fall under some frame of polyamory.
It could be that Girlfriend Game piqued your interest because it covers material on how
to have an amazing girlfriend and be able to game other girls. With GG, we’re trying to
achieve harmony and symmetry for the Gamey guys that fall into the Collection Story.
Girlfriend Game is all about evolving past just being the player guy, which is what I
assume most guys who get this program will identify with. Learning how to balance your
relationships is crucial for keeping the peace with your partners.
If you struggle with evolving past the collection story, it could be that you need to deal
with some remaining low self-esteem issues. If that’s the case, take the time to comb
through the material in Girlfriend Game carefully, and pay extra attention to The Four
Becomings.
The Collection Story works so long as you and your girlfriends are all having a great
time with how the relationship is set up. If you keep the symmetry aligned for everyone
involved, then enjoy it!
How To Tell if This is Your Story What To Do if this is Her story
You are in pickup in order to “get with” as Decide on what the nature of your
many women as possible relationship will be, visit the “Monogamy &
Polygamy” section in Girlfriend Game
You see your partners as a number Determine if her “Collection Story” matrix
(“batting average”) is come from LSE or abundance
You are perceived as “The Player” in your If you’re unsure of what you want with
social circles her, visit the Four Becomings in Girlfriend
Game
This personality matrix values aesthetic beauty and is charged by physical attraction. An
individual who identifies with the Art Story wants the most exquisite and stunning visuals
around them, which means having a beautiful companion with you.
The Art Story is not to be mistaken with a girlfriend having to be “so hot” to show her off.
That’s not the case with this matrix at all, and rather the need to show a girlfriend off
falls into the Object Story.
This is about understanding who YOUR “perfect 10” is and appreciating her for who she
is. It’s not about getting a girl to show off for other people, but rather to have someone
amazing with you by your side.
This only becomes a-symmetrical if your appreciation for your girlfriend’s beauty
evolves into the Object story. That could happen under the circumstance that lingering
low self-esteem causes you to want a “hot girlfriend” just to get other people to validate
you.
The Art Story is about saturating yourself in beauty and precious experiences with the
girl who is truly your perfect 10.
You lavish in the beauty of women and Make it clear that she is truly within the
the world around you “Art Story”, and not mistaken with a
different Story
You enjoy being a voyeur in the world Continue to grow into the man which she
loves and adores
This relationship Story is an example of symmetry, as both individuals play a crucial role
in the bond. They complement each other by always framing their relationship as an
opportunity to learn from each other.
The paradigm of the Teacher-Student relationship implies that both partners may
eventually outgrow the foundation of their relationship. As long as this connection is built
on mutual self-esteem, they will enjoy their time spent together while the relationship is
still in effect.
Learning and exploring has always been Travel to new locations or events
an essential value for you
Possibly the most ideal relationship story when both partners align with it together. The
House & Home story is comforting and loving.
This relationship matrix is like a well-tended home, always in order, clean… That’s what
the couple is like when symmetrically operating through the House & Home story
together.
This relationship story could converge well with the Garden story. The slight difference
is that the Garden story flourishes by focusing on growth, while the House & Home story
is already a powerful and safe establishment.
It could be that the House & Home story is something that doesn’t sound appealing
while in your youth, but eventually is a destination you would like to achieve in your life
with your lover.
How To Tell if This is Your Story What To Do if this is Her story
Comfort and Safety within the relationship Respect her needs and show up as a
is important to you powerful partner to establish safety
You have strong family values Join her in visualizing her a potent future
together
You have a strong idea of where you Continuously revisit your relationship
want your relationship to be in the future values together and ensure your on the
right path
This personality matrix sucks in people who are prone to having the fixer-syndrome. It’s
prevalent in people who feel a need to help their partner with all of their issues and
baggage. It might seem that the Recovery Story is for good-hearted and helpful
individuals, but we will explore how it’s hurting you and your relationship.
Taking on the burden of fixing someone else’s problems is a full-time job that will drain
you. For someone who identifies with the Recovery story, they may have tons of
positive feedback throughout their lives about being a “good person”. There’s nothing
inherently wrong with doing good unto others and sharing value; unless it means
compromising your own boundaries and mental sanity.
That’s the paradox of being a “fixer”, although you’re doing what seems good, you’re
also doing a disservice to other people. Compromising your boundaries and sanity for
someone else is merely a short-term solution. In the long run, that approach will turn
your relationship into a ticking time bomb.
Often the people who fall into the Recovery Story are those who felt deprived of help
and nurture when they were growing up. Spending most of their life confronting their
struggles alone without any loving guidance, can lead them to feel especially
empathetic to the needs of others.
The problem is that this “good-hearted” intervention can develop into enabling more
suffering in the lives of those they’re trying to help. Never giving other people the space
to address their problems head-on can cause the other person to fall into the trap of the
Addiction Story.
If your girlfriend has past traumas that she has not yet healed, it is not your job to fix
her. You can love her and support her through her journey, but you are not to be the
focal point of her healing.
Check out the video in Girlfriend Game called “When she has problems – You are not
her psychotherapist” to learn more about how to deal with these situations.
You have a compulsion to fix people and Identify if you’ve positioned yourself to put
situations around you her “fixer-personality” at a disadvantage
by offloading your problems
You feel you were deprived of affection Take the approach of the “Garden Story”
while growing up and take time to understand where her
behaviour stems from
You always put the needs of others above Visit the Four Becomings in Girlfriend
your own Game in order to not only strengthen your
purpose as a man, but to take care of
your own problems
This personality matrix has been a pillar of relationships for millennia. Although today a
lot of standard couple practices have changed, two people coming together through the
Religion story is still commonplace.
When the Religion Story a ligns symmetrically between two people, the relationship will
thrive due to shared values and customs. The relationship is not only a place to express
yourself spiritually, but also functions as a means to get closer to God; to whatever
extent they experience their spirituality.
This relationship story becomes tricky if the specificity of Religion affects rapport in a
couple. Read the chapter about The Cookbook Story for more insight on living out
relationship patterns with a specific formula, and how that could compromise a
relationship.
It could be that you are deeply passionate about a woman who also values religion, but
was raised with religious beliefs somewhat different from your own. That is a tough
situation where this personality matrix becomes a burden.
An optional re-frame to help embrace a religion different from your own, is simply to
recognize that you and another person both value the overall blanket of religion and
spirituality. No matter how different the nuances in your beliefs, you could get excited
about having a girlfriend who is passionate about observing religious practice in
general. Use that re-frame as a compromise to find harmony with your girlfriend when
finding balance in the Religion Story.
Harbouring a strong connection to God or Show her that you have an equally strong
Divinity is essential to you connection to some practice or activity in
your life
Wanting to marry within your religion has If you wish to, you can convert into her
been a value your entire life religion
The Game Story could encourage people to strive for greatness and cultivate an
environment where playful competition leads to achieving your goals together.
However, when the Game Story is a-symmetrical it can lead to other issues. If only one
of you identify with the Game story then it might be you’re always trying to “best” the
other one. To be better at cooking, socializing, performance at work or school, better in
bed… As well as creating competition where it doesn’t need to be.
Feeling a need to be better and strive to dominate in all areas of competitions is not fun
or playful. This could go sour if the Game story evolves into The Horror Story, where
they begin to get off on bullying their partner and seeing them be vulnerable or hurt.
In the case that you and your girlfriend are both driven by The Game Story in a healthy,
fun, and sexy way; then enjoy the playful competition and use it for growth and
maximizing on potential.
How To Tell if This is Your Story What To Do if this is Her story
You are driven to excel at any task or skill Invite friendly competition into your
you take on relationship
You get off on having competition as a Leverage her Matrix type by creating an
motivator accountability system between you two
You would not tolerate your partner being Remain resolute in your frame as a man,
better than you at something and don’t sway from your truth just to
ease her competitive frame
This is the personality matrix for the bucket list couple. Other than just exploring new
destinations together, this relationship is for two people who strive for outcomes
together.
When this relationship story is symmetrical between two people, it is obviously amazing.
You both strive for adventure together, you both love to try new things, get fit, and
ultimately grow together.
One potential risk with the Travel story is that once you and your girlfriend have
exercised all options and outcomes possible, the hunger for novelty may cause you
both to break up and seek out new experiences separately.
The Travel Story is an ideal narrative for younger people who have no intention of
settling down into complacency any time soon. Perfect for two hustlers who want to
make the MOST out of their short experience alive. Finding a person who reflects the
same relationship story as you could be an extremely enriching experience.
re hustlers who want to make the most
Individuals who are driven by the Travel Story a
of their experience.
To avoid losing interest in each other, you may want to mix in a healthy amount of
playing competitive games with each other. Always pushing one another for rising to
new heights in your lives.
You feel uncomfortable staying in one Allow your relationship to explore novelty
situation or location for a long time territory
You are always craving the next way to Take trips together, even if they’re smaller
get out but more frequent trips
You get off on trying new things Try out new things (i.e. cooking class,
seminars, sexual pleasures, etc)
This personality puts great importance on tending to the relationship the same way
someone would take care of their garden.
The Garden story is great for two people who align symmetrically with this relationship
paradigm. A found value in pulling the proverbial weeds of in the couple. Constantly
pruning, trimming, plucking…
If you don’t identify with the Garden Story you would not want to land in an
asymmetrical relationship with someone who does. When the Garden Story doesn’t
work for someone, it could cause them to interpret the relationship as too much work. It
could become distressing to always be diving into the nitty gritty of maintaining ongoing
harmony in your relationship.
This would obviously be very frustrating, which is why you should always screen
someone to find out their values and find if they match your own.
A good pairing for someone with The Garden story could be a partner who identifies
with The House & Home Story or the Travel Story. These narratives all have a baseline
of striving for positive outcomes, growth, and mutual safety.
You are focused on nurture and growth in Allow her to express herself in a way that
your life is received with your full attention
You are drawn to people who value self Dream up relationship milestones
improvement concepts together and strive for them as a couple
Continuous growth in your relationship is Stay on your path and purpose as a man
an essential value for you in your masculine
This personality matrix is defined by clear roles and determined outcomes in the
relationship. Basically, it involves treating the relationship as a shared business venture.
Often the logistics of sharing bank accounts and splitting financial responsibilities is a
factor that makes the Business Story apparent.
A couple who joins together because they have carefully weighed the pros and cons,
mutually agreeing upon the relationship’s terms and conditions would be an accurate
example of a symmetrical Business Story.
Understanding this profile is pretty straight forward, but if the Business Story becomes
too much of a “Boss” and “Employee” dynamic, rather than two co-owners, it can
become sour.
You do not want this arrangement to be asymmetrical. Eventually, this could evolve into
ruling over another person, becoming the domineering Government Story. Causing
resentment in your relationship.
Later you will read about The Cookbook Story, which has a similar format to The
Business Story. These two matrix profiles would work well together, as they’re founded
on unpacking the perfect formula for making a relationship work.
You thrive within regulated structures and Demonstrate to her that you’re a man
firm boundaries who embraces structure and discipline
This personality matrix means you feel BAD without your girlfriend’s presence.
Individual’s with the Addiction Story use their partner as a means to avoid confronting
their own problems.
Addiction is rooted in your own painful experiences. With any addiction, a substance or
activity is used to distract yourself from having to feel your pain.
We’ve already established that our learned relationship patterns were created during
the formative years of childhood. If you had experienced some kind of trauma in your
youth, it’s very likely your coping patterns started at a young and vulnerable age.
Leading you to find solace in your parents calming you down.
If you grow up never learning how to evolve past needing that parental love and
intervention to cope through life’s adversity, you will experience the Addiction Story in
your relationships.
Rather than finding comfort in drugs, food, or media, you turn to your girlfriend.
Remember, you may not be acting out the Addiction Story at a conscious level.
Problematic habits occur in an automated cycle of coping.
Hollywood loves to frame longing after someone as a great expression of romantic love.
Though, I want to invite you to question the bullshit fed to you by the mainstream
narrative. Within the Addiction Story, the feelings of withdrawal when away from your
girlfriend are not necessarily signs of love and adoration.
If you have this personality matrix, then it means you have been using your girlfriend as
a distraction to keep you from having to confront your own problems. You’ve been using
her as a surrogate for parental intervention and love.
Which is why the feelings of withdrawal felt when away from her should not be mistaken
as romantic any longer, but rather a fear of being alone with yourself and your
unaddressed problems.
Whether this description applies to you or maybe it is beginning to sound like your
current girlfriend, please stop reading now and re-visit The Four Becomings in Girlfriend
Game.
It is time to become grounded in your truth as a man and no longer use your girlfriend or
any distractions to prevent you from developing and growing through pain. In the case
that you feel you’re dating someone who has this personality matrix, the Four
Becomings will help you lay down the necessary boundaries with your partner.
It is essential to address these issues within yourself now, otherwise The Addiction
Story can evolve into The Police Story and other relationship narratives that lead you to
control your girlfriend out of fear of losing her, or vice versa.
How To Tell if This is Your Story What To Do if this is Her story
You feel bad without your girlfriend or Create space between you and her and
other support people offer her helpful resources for her
problems
You avoid or are incapable of spending Visit the “When She Has Problems - You
time alone with yourself Are not her Psychotherapist” chapter in
Girlfriend Game
You often find yourself watching netflix, Ground yourself in your personal
scrolling social media, eating junk food boundaries - reference the Four
Becomings to assist
This is a straightforward Relationship Story. It’s found everywhere you look. It manifests
when talking about the “perfect partner”, “love at first sight”, or “soulmates”.
The Fantasy Story c an work for you if it means you are so driven to attract your perfect
10; you then regularly deploy screening in your interactions.
Check out the “How to Get a GF” section in the Girlfriend Game members’ area to learn
more about how to test the girl. Screening a girl to learn if she’s a good fit for you is
essential to a GG relationship.
The Fantasy Story can become a burden if you have an unrealistic fantasy girl in mind.
Don’t get me wrong, I want you to go after your dream girlfriend. However, it’s also your
responsibility to recognize that we’re all human beings at the end of the day, which
means even your perfect 10 will have some minor “flaws”.
Just don’t let the Fantasy Story consume you to the point of being unable to relate with
any women at all.
Be sure to check out all of the content within Girlfriend Game to familiarize yourself with
what your needs and wants are in your ideal relationship.
You have been raised on Hollywood flicks Gain insight into her upbringing and what
that advocate “Happy Endings” exactly she thinks of as a “Happy Ending”
You have a crystal clear image of your Continue to progress on your path as a
dream partner man and grow into the attributes that
makes you a “perfect 10” partner
You only approach girls who resemble Visit the Four Becomings in Girlfriend
your “perfect 10” Game to get a reminder on staying in
your lane, and not succumbing to her
story
Individuals who act out The Science Story are often obsessed with analyzing situations.
Rather than wanting a spontaneous and easy-going experience in their relationship,
these people are picking apart every little detail about the state of their relationship.
This Matrix involves breaking down reactions, body language, sub-communication, and
any perceived mixed messages. This is an analytical method of dating and relating to
your partner or environment.
This Relationship Story is beneficial for coming to healthy conclusions about what a
situation may require. Being able to understand the cause-and-effect of behavior and
finding the right reactions to any given moment.
The Science Story requires having a high level of awareness and an added bonus if you
can leverage social calibration.
This becomes a disadvantage when the analyzing becomes too myopic. If you’re
picking apart small details obsessively, you can put yourself through a lot of anxiety.
Eventually, the need to understand everything can also lead to misinterpreting
behaviors. You may even project conclusions of paranoia onto your girlfriend.
If the Science Story is coming from a place of scarcity, rather than wanting to simply
understand and empathize with your lover, it’s very likely you have lingering issues of
Low Self Esteem. Rather than appreciating your partner for who they are, you begin to
see them through a filter of your own LSE.
If you identify with this relationship story, make sure to use it from a place of abundance
and wanting to empathize deeply with the situations around you.
You tend to be over-analytical about most Allow some transparency in your actions
things in your life in order to enable her to make
cause-and-effect conclusions
You are paranoid if you can’t “figure Enjoy conversations of getting to know
something out” about a situation or one another and allow her to pick your
person brain a bit
You’re a well read, and well researched Stay in line with your purpose as a man in
nerd-type order to remain observant about where
her hyper-analytical personality is coming
from (LSE vs HSE)
Individuals who need a step-by-step formula for a great relationship fall into the matrix
of the Cookbook Story. Using a predetermined plan for a good relationship is key, but
can also have some downfalls.
When you invest in programs like Girlfriend Game, you’re essentially using a reputable
relationship recipe to achieve success with women. In a sense, you’re outsourcing the
perfect ingredients and measurements for your desired outcomes. GG is your cookbook
to get the best relationship for you.
If you have the Cookbook Story, it can benefit you when looking for someone with
shared values, and other commonalities. The Cookbook story is empowered by strong
personal boundaries and a certainty in what you like or do not like.
However, if you’re pressured to adopt someone else’s agenda that does not agree with
your own then the Cookbook story becomes problematic.
If you’re pressured to follow the relationship “formula” of your parents, culture, religion,
or even your girlfriend, then you’re not living true to yourself. The suppression of your
own wants will ultimately affect the quality of your relationship.
Just remember, The Cookbook Story is empowered by personal boundaries. It’s
understanding what you want and what you DO NOT want.
Once you have determined what works for you, you can properly develop the correct
relationship “formula” for you and your girlfriend.
You’ve always had a plan or step-by-step Take time to explore the elements of a
formula for achievements in life relationship that she needs to be happy
You avoid trying out new things without Establish if her “relationship formula”
first establishing a plan works for you and be genuine about that
conclusion
You’re drawn to advice columns, how-to Given that you’ve established a healthy
articles, and self-help books relationship formula, continuously
check-in with the health and happiness of
one another
This personality matrix is ignited by drama and fighting. The War Story requires conflict
in order to thrive.
When this relationship story is symmetrical for both individuals, it means they use their
conflict as a foundation for rapport. The benefit is that they will address their problems
with each other head-on, rather than remaining silent about their relationship issues.
However, when this relationship story is a-symmetrical, it would mean only one person
in the couple uses drama and conflict as a way of deepening their bond. This would
obviously be unhealthy for the other person who would perceive the War Story as a
form of psychological or emotional abuse.
A healthy alternative to the War Story would be the Garden Story matrix. Where the
focus of the relationship is still addressing issues and potential drama, but in a safe and
nurturing way.
How To Tell if This is Your Story What To Do if this is Her story
Tension and aggression has fueled you Gauge whether her “War”paradigm
most of your life comes from - get out if it’s LSE
You enjoy having drama in your Engage in playful banter but always stay
relationships in your frame as a man in his power
Conflict feels more like a bonding Don’t let her lose control in a state of
experience to test your relationship and aggression that puts either of you in
even gets you off disarray or danger - visit the Four
Becomings
This personality matrix is a product of mainstream media making people feel obliged to
put on a façade in their relationship. It’s similar to the Object Story, but is a bit more
specific to how Hollywood narratives affect relationships.
Couples that broadcast their relationship on social media platforms are those that fall
into the Theatre Story. At a certain point, they could lose sight of why they’re even with
each other, and are just acting out roles in the relationship to fit in with society. The
opposite of this matrix would be The Anarchy Story.
Imagine a couple who takes a cute selfie together to share with their communities, and
as soon as the limelight is gone, their interest in each other disappears. They’re acting
out their love and passion as a show-and-tell for other people.
Otherwise, it could be that the Theatre Story is simply how two well-rounded people
choose to express themselves to the world. Rather than putting on a cute show, they
actually really love each other and simply get off on showing that to the world around
them.
You care a lot about public perception Set clear expectations of what can or
cannot be shared with the public
You are constantly sharing aspects of Confirm with her that a desire to
your relationship to social media broadcast her relationship is coming from
a place of abundance, rather than LSE
You take a lot of pride in being validated Do not tolerate public displays of affection
by others that are just a means to the end of getting
‘likes’ and proverbial pats on the back
When this personality matrix is symmetrical for both people involved, it can be sexy and
exciting. Always having a mysterious allure to one another adds a fun and flirtatious
dynamic to the relationship.
The Mystery Story becomes a-symmetrical when the “unknown” turns into a gimmick
that one partner gets tired of. Maintaining the Mystery Story means never establishing
proper rapport in the relationship. There is a lack of comfort and certainty. While that
may get off one partner, it can be a pain point for the other.
Being mysterious can be perceived as being aloof and unloving. There’s nothing wrong
with playful screening and flirting, but you may need to give your partner a bit more
comfort to reassure them that you’re grounded.
If establishing comfort and rapport is not a priority; the Anarchy Story would be a great
fit for the Mystery Story.
Another way to mitigate issues of causing insecurity with the Mystery Story, would be to
find excitement and curiosity by emulating the Travel Story. That way the focal point of
mystery becomes the environment around your relationship, rather than the relationship
itself.
You prefer to spend your time with new Manufacture experiences for her that
people rather than those you already maintain a sense of novelty
have rapport with
You are most excited by curiosity and Relinquish as much certainty and rapport
elusive partners that you’re willing to, and otherwise stay
firm within your boundaries
This is about being yourself fully, making informed decisions, and siphoning through the
girls and people who are driven to waste your time and suck you of your energy. This is
about being resolute and unwavering on your path.
Continue to strive for the life and relationships you desire, and become the man you’re
meant to be.
GG!
~ RSD Max