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• Expansive
• Claiming Territory
• Trunk and Vitals
Exposed
• Head Up, Chest Up
• Shoulders Back
Interesting Fact:
• Contracted
• As little space as
possible
• Vitals Protected
• Head Down or Bowed
• Shoulders In
Recommended Power Poses
Elbow Touch
Beginner
• Keep Your Hands Visible
Intermediate
• Optimize Seating
• Master the Handshake
Advanced
• Prep Your Confidence
• Elbow Touch
Self-Soothing Gestures
• Wringing Hands
• Suprasternal Notch
• Cracking knuckles
• Rubbing Arms
• Biting Tongue or Lips
• Rubbing Tongue
Along Teeth
Positive Cues
• Chin stroking
• Toes pointed towards
the sky
• Licking lips
• Nodding
• Rubbing hands
together
Pre - Power Poses
Modified Power Poses
• Loose Arms
• Face Up
• Non-Contracted Legs
• Expansive Arms
...
• Chair Height
• Sitting vs Standing
• Product Experiences
• Stages
Blocking
• Discourage Anti-Connection
Feelings:
• Sarcasm, Criticism,
Defensiveness,
Disrespect, Superiority,
Withdrawal,
• Smile Nervously
Sales Don’ts
• Ankle Lock
• Reduce nervous
gestures:
• Jiggling, fidgeting,
drumming, tapping...
• Arm Cross
Notes for Women
• Glasses / Make-Up
• Submissive Wrists
• Smiling
• Bobblehead
Sales in Different Environments
• Introductions
• Project Updates
• Client Meetings
• VIPs
REMEMBER:
• Read your client’s
microexpressions
• Prep your confidence
• Baby steps, it gets
beforehand
better with practice
• Use the power of
• Show your hands
touch wisely
• Use your client’s
learning styles
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Spotting Nerves
• Spotting Excitement
• Blocking Advanced
Intermediate • Avoid Above Traps
• Humble Confidence • The Bow
• Power of Voice Tone • Video Proposals
• Eating and Selling • Do and Don’t Nonverbal
Customer Validation
Why Customer Validation?
• Get testimonials
• Improve your product
• Build rapport
• Get lifelong customers
• Learn more about your customers
• Practice body language
How Can Body Language
Help?
• Make them feel
comfortable to open up
• Help them trust you
with their opinions
• Feel rapport to tell you
the truth
• Encourage honesty
and depth of emotion
Mirroring
Mirroring
• When we hold
something we feel
ownership over it.
(Warm Drink)
• Research out of the University of Toronto found that
when you give a person a warm drink, the warm
sensation of the drink in their hands (and their body)
can subconsciously make them feel like you're an
emotionally warm, likable and welcoming person.
• Giving them a cold drink can have the opposite effect!
In general, people who are feeling socially isolated feel
physically cold and crave warm food or drinks.
REMEMBER:
• Sales do’s
• Sales don’ts
• Show your hands • Try to calm
nervousness if you
• Watch out for above
see it
traps
• Prep your confidence
beforehand
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Nods
• Pursed Lips
Advanced
• Using Names
• Mirroring Posture
Intermediate
• Matching Cadence
• Facial Feedback
Hypothesis • Copying Words
• Avoid Pretty Women /
Groups
• Touch
First Impressions
• Frank, Bernieri, University of Toledo
20 Minutes = 20 Seconds
First Impressions
• Bertram Gawronski:
• Accurate
• Immediate
• Lasting
Do:
• Expressiveness:
• Hands
• Voice Tone
• Body Movement
• Authentic Smile
• Face*
Don’t:
• Hop / Jump
• Fidget
• Self-Sooth
• Angle Away (90 Degrees Optimal)
• Go Beyond the Box
The Box
Un-Approachable Body
Language
• Avoid Low Confidence Body
Language:
• Turtling
• Hunched over phones
• Crossed arms
• Hands in pockets
Un-Approachable Body
Language
• Avoid Disinterest Body Language:
• Turning a away
• Feet towards exit
• Nod and smile less
• Less mirroring
Un-Approachable Body
Language
• Avoid Boredom Body Language:
• Eyes Glazed Over
• Slumping
• Wandering eyes
• Examining the time
Un-Approachable Body
Language
• Avoid Impatient Body Language
• Foot tapping
• Overhead Gazing
• Drumming fingers
• Running on the spot
• Quick Nods
(Nonverbal Exit Clues)
The Power of the Purse
• One Item
• Purse as an Emotional
Indicator
• Blocking
• Protection
• Self-Soothing
Approaching Others
• With women, always
come from the side or
the front (never the back!)
• Use slow movement
• Look for open body
language
Approaching Others
• Never approach near
the bathroom, exit or
right after people get
their food
• **Golden Area: Stand
where people go
right after they got
their drink
Interaction Tips...
• Story Toolbox
*Nonverbally Strong
• Darting Eyes
• Overhead Gazing
• “Hmms” and “Ahhs”
• Feet Pointing
Gazing
Power Gazing Social Gazing Intimate Gazing
Interaction Tips...
• Proxemics
• Intimate - 0-18”
• Personal - 18” - 4’
• Social - 4-12’
• Public - 12’ plus
Conversation Tips
• “Man, these networking events can be so crazy. Mind if
I join you over here where it’s a little quieter?”
• “Hmm, I’m not quite sure what that dish is… do you
know?”
• If they’re wearing a nametag ask about their name.
• Ask their specific opinion: “As an architect / As a
woman / As a midwesterner how do you feel about...”
• “Hi, I’m ____”
REMEMBER:
• Prep Confidence
• Set an Intention
• Read
Microexpressions
• Strong Handshakes
• Mirroring
• No Bobblehead
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Approachable Body
Language
Advanced
• Feet Pointing
• Engaged Face
• Conversation Starters
• Eyebrow Flash
Intermediate
• Proxemics
• Expressiveness
• How to Approach
• Gazing
Common Mistakes
• Hands Down:
Common Mistakes
• Pacifying Behaviors:
• Rubbing neck, biting lips,
fiddle with watch, playing
with hair...
Common Mistakes
• Prep Confidence
• Use microexpressions
• Point Your Feet
• Nod
• Expressiveness
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Deer in the headlights
Intermediate
• Lack of expressiveness
Advanced
• Only using words
• No pacifying behaviors
Online Presence
• Website • Slide Decks
• Social Media Profiles • Mailings
• Email Signatures • Fliers
• Videos • Avatars
• Business Cards
• Brochures
• PDF’s
• Press Releases
Eyes As Cues
Engage People
Eyes As Cues
• Show People Where to Look:
Gesturing and Pointing
• Positive Emotions: • Negative Emotions:
Babies!
Dilated Pupils
*Women hate when men wear brown suits
A/B Test Colors:
Money!
• Remove the $ sign
• Prime a price
• Priming Words
• “You can trust us to do
the job for you” Increased
all ratings and buys
Trust Action Not Focus Groups
A B C
Position for Readiness
Don’t Forget Your Small
Branding Opportunities
Use Unique Branding
Opportunities
Videos
OK
Better
Best
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Eyes as Cues
• Gesturing or Pointing Advanced
• Money Signs • Pupils
Intermediate • Positioning
• Positive Emotions • Creative Branding
• Babies • Videos
• Color Psychology
• Action Not Groups
Which Mode of
Communication?
In which mode of communication do people lie the most?
• Open-Ended Questions
• Baseline Change: Did their body change?
• Baseline Change: Did their voice change?
• Do you see any of the most common lying red flags...
Common Lying Red Flags
• Change in baseline
• Pursed lips
• Incongruence between
words and body • Disbelief lips / eyebrows
language • “Swear to God” “To Tell
• Nodding You The Truth”...
• Out of sync emotions • Volume Loss
and words • Touching the nose
• Self-soothing gestures
Interesting Fact:
• Double Handshake
• Elbow Touch
• Upper Arm Touch
• Shoulder Touch
• Hug
Patting
• Do Lunch
To Build Connection...
• Take off your jacket, loosen your tie, let your hair
down
To Build Connection...
• Contempt
• Lint Pick
WATCH OUT!
• Eye Rolling
WATCH OUT!
• On Documents:
• Sign on Top
AND Bottom
• Remind people of
company ethics with
classes, seminars
and a code of ethics.
REMEMBER:
• Sales do’s and don’ts
• Read for
Microexpressions
• Wear the colors you
• Watch out for above
want to represent
traps
• Mirror
• Rapport Building Tips
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Move to their side of the
table
Advanced
• Do lunch
• Haptics
• Get casual
• Patting
Intermediate
• Encourage Honesty
• Remove barriers
• New meetings
Alpha’s
• Leg hopping
• Foot jiggling
• Self-soothing gestures
• Low / protective
posture
• More wordy
Pitching Mistakes
• Pointing
• Voice Curling Up
• Hands on Hips
(Universal Battle
Stance)
• Missed Investor Cues
Pitching Mistakes
• Stop Motion
• Self-Contempt
• Blocking Behavior
• Self-Soothing with Bibs
• School-Marming
Pitching Mistakes
• Ventilating
• Loss of Volume
• Interrupting*
• Looking away during
convincing
• Impatience /
Exasperation Breath
• Praying / Begging
Gesture
Pitching Tips:
• Showing Hands
• Telling A Story to
Invoke Positive
Emotions / Sensory
Story
• Demoing Ideas with
Hands
• Expressive
Pitching Tips:
• Vocal Tone
Differentiation
• Immediate Product
Touch
• No Impatience
• Nodding to Affirm
Pitching Tips:
• Gratitude
• Showed Deference to
Alphas (stopped
talking, smiled at them
more)
• Positive Face in the
Logo
• Better Colors
Other Tips
• Success Log
Other Tips
• Steeple During QA
Other Tips
• Smell:
• 80% of men and 90% of women have
vivid emotion triggering memories
evoked by odor.
No Scent Floral Scent
84%
Clothes and Ornaments
• Glued to Notes
• No eye contact
• Head bent
• Bowing
Do’s: Podium Use
• Show Hands
• Don’t Shift Feet
• Anti-Blocking
• Lean In and Over
Public Speaking Do’s
• Expressive
• Ask Self-Reflective
Questions
• Stories
• Vocal Variation
• Flattery
Other Tips
A
Audience
Speaker
REVIEW:
Beginner
• Avoid Meals
• Take Up Space
Intermediate Advanced
• Tongue Catch • Deception Detection
• Eye Blocking • Mirror Voice Tone
• Demo with Hands
Fight “Lensing”
7 out of 15
people noticed.