DEEPER​ ​DIVE 
Leading​ ​Your​ ​Heart   

​ ​“Y​ou’ve​ ​got​ ​to​ ​want​ ​it!​”​ ​ ​We’ve​ ​all​ ​heard​ ​people​ ​say​ ​that​ ​–​ ​sometimes​ ​insisting​ ​that​ ​this​ ​kind​ ​of 
passion​ ​and​ ​desire​ ​is​ ​the​ ​“the​ ​secret​ ​to​ ​real​ ​change​.” 
 
That​ ​makes​ ​sense​ ​in​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​ways...except​ ​one:​ ​ what​ ​if​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​want​ ​it?​ ​In​ ​fact,​ ​what​ ​if​ ​lack​ ​of 
desire​​ ​is​ ​a​ ​big​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​struggle​ ​you​ ​face?​ ​  
 
For​ ​most​ ​people​ ​grappling​ ​with​ ​a​ ​compulsive​ ​habit​ ​like​ ​this​ ​one,​ ​deep​ ​conflicts​ ​in​ ​their​ ​heart​ ​(or 
core​ ​desires)​ ​is​ ​a​ ​big​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​challenge.​ ​  
 
This​ ​might​ ​be​ ​pretty​ ​important​ ​to​ ​notice...After​ ​all,​ ​how​ ​well​ ​will​ ​any​ ​of​ ​these​ ​strategies​ ​we’re 
exploring​ ​in​ ​Fortify​ ​really​ ​“work”​ ​if​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​enough​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​even​ ​try​ ​them?​ ​ In​ ​that 
situation,​ ​will​ ​learning​ ​a​ ​practice​ ​like​ ​STAR​ ​or​ ​urge​ ​surfing​ ​even​ ​matter​ ​when​ ​withdrawal​ ​effects 
start​ ​to​ ​spike​ ​or​ ​an​ ​urge​ ​comes​ ​along? 
 
Maybe.​ ​ Unless​ ​that​ ​person​ ​is​ ​not​ ​really​ ​feeling​ ​the​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​fight​ ​right,​ ​right? 
 
Clearly,​ ​these​ ​approaches​ ​in​ ​Fortify​ ​are​ ​not​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​magical​ ​techniques​ ​holding​ ​special 
power​ ​to​ ​get​ ​us​ ​away​ ​from​ ​porn.​ ​ And​ ​they​ ​cannot​ ​operate​ ​outside​ ​of​ ​the​ ​approval​ ​of​ ​your​ ​own 
heart.​ ​  
 
That’s​ ​why​ ​it​ ​could​ ​be​ ​a​ ​big​ ​mistake​ ​to​ ​overlook​ ​where​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​is​ ​-​ ​especially​ ​if​ ​it’s​ ​been 
compromised,​ ​like​ ​a​ ​hard-drive.​ ​In​ ​that​ ​case,​ ​is​ ​there​ ​anything​ ​we​ ​can​ ​do​ ​to​ ​“remove​ ​the​ ​viruses” 
and​ ​shape​ ​the​ ​heart​ ​in​ ​a​ ​better​ ​direction?​ ​  
 
SCIENCE​ ​AND​ ​THE​ ​HEART 
 
That’s​ ​a​ ​fair​ ​question,​ ​especially​ ​since​ ​historically​ ​speaking,​ ​the​ ​core​ ​desires​ ​associated​ ​with 
what​ ​we​ ​sometimes​ ​call​ ​“the​ ​heart”​ ​have​ ​not​ ​really​ ​been​ ​a​ ​focus​ ​of​ ​scientists​ ​and​ ​psychologists, 
with​ ​the​ ​bulk​ ​of​ ​professional​ ​efforts​ ​going​ ​toward​ ​developing​ ​different​ ​kinds​ ​of​ ​“cognitive”​ ​or 
“behavioral”​ ​supports​ ​that​ ​influence​ ​thoughts​ ​or​ ​actions.​ ​   
   
But​ ​that​ ​is​ ​starting​ ​to​ ​change​ ​in​ ​recent​ ​years​ ​as​ ​more​ ​research​ ​attention​ ​has​ ​gone​ ​to​ ​emotion, 
desire​ ​and​ ​“affective​ ​processes”​ ​(as​ ​scientists​ ​call​ ​them)​ ​-​ ​and​ ​the​ ​role​ ​these​ ​core​ ​desires​ ​play​ ​in 
our​ ​perceptions​ ​and​ ​actions.​ ​The​ ​short​ ​story​ ​is​ ​that​ ​underlying​ ​core​ ​desires​ ​have​ ​a​ ​tremendous 
influence​ ​on​ ​what​ ​we​ ​see,​ ​think,​ ​and​ ​do​ ​–​ ​far​ ​more​ ​than​ ​previously​ ​realized.​ ​We’ve​ ​always 
known,​ ​of​ ​course,​ ​that​ ​reason,​ ​logic​ ​and​ ​thoughts​ ​can​ ​shape​ ​what​ ​we​ ​want​ ​and​ ​end​ ​up​ ​doing. 
What​ ​scientists​ ​are​ ​now​ ​discovering​ ​is​ ​how​ ​powerful​ ​the​ ​influences​ ​are​ ​in​ ​the​ ​reverse​ ​direction​ ​– 
for​ ​instance,​ ​with​ ​desires​ ​shaping​ ​what​ ​we​ ​think​ ​and​ ​believe.​ ​  
 
Did​ ​you​ ​know​ ​that?​ ​ Contrary​ ​what​ ​we​ ​usually​ ​think,​ ​we​ ​now​ ​know​ ​that​ ​human​ ​beings​ ​generally 
settle​ ​on​ ​a​ ​desire​ ​first​ ​–​ ​and​ ​then​​ ​arrive​ ​at​ ​beliefs​ ​that​ ​justify​ ​these​ ​desires​ ​(and​ ​actions​ ​in​ ​line 
with​ ​both​ ​of​ ​them).​ ​  
 
If​ ​desire​ ​is​ ​that​ ​influential​ ​and​ ​important,​ ​what​ ​would​ ​it​ ​mean​ ​to​ ​pay​ ​more​ ​attention​ ​to​ ​the 
question​ ​of​ ​how​ ​to​ ​best​ ​shape​ ​and​ ​“train”​ ​the​ ​wandering​ ​heart?​ ​(or​ ​what​ ​one​ ​individual​ ​called 
“the​ ​education​ ​of​ ​our​ ​desires”).   
 
MINDFULNESS​ ​OF​ ​THE​ ​HEART 
 
Among​ ​those​ ​who​ ​practice​ ​mindfulness​ ​meditation,​ ​a​ ​core​ ​practice​ ​is​ ​noticing​ ​when​ ​the​ ​mind 
wanders​ ​and​ ​then​ ​gently​ ​(but​ ​firmly)​ ​bringing​ ​it​ ​back​ ​–​ ​over​ ​and​ ​over​ ​–​ ​back​ ​to​ ​the​ ​breath​ ​or 
another​ ​anchor​ ​in​ ​the​ ​body.  
 
When​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​the​ ​mind,​ ​you​ ​see,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​a​ ​problem​ ​that​ ​the​ ​mind​ ​wanders​ ​(that’s​ ​just​ ​what 
minds​ ​do!)​ ​But​ ​that​ ​doesn’t​ ​mean​ ​we’re​ ​at​ ​the​ ​mercy​​ ​of​ ​the​ ​mind:​ ​ because​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​trained.​ ​As 
you​ ​escort​ ​your​ ​own​ ​mind’s​ ​attention​ ​back​ ​–​ ​over​ ​and​ ​over​ ​–​ ​that​ ​mental​ ​muscle​ ​and​ ​capacity 
grows​ ​stronger​ ​–​ ​just​ ​like​ ​at​ ​the​ ​gym.  
 
Could​ ​that​ ​same​ ​type​ ​of​ ​practice​ ​be​ ​applied​ ​to​ ​the​ ​heart​ ​as​ ​well?​ ​  
 
The​ ​answer​ ​is:​ ​ YES!​ ​Interestingly​ ​enough,​ ​the​ ​root​ ​word​ ​for​ ​mindfulness​ ​is​ ​translated​ ​in​ ​other 
languages​ ​as​ ​“heartfulness”​ ​as​ ​well.  
 
Think​ ​about​ ​what​ ​would​ ​happen​ ​if​ ​we​ ​could​ ​become​ ​more​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​when​ ​our​ ​desires​ ​started 
wandering…you​ ​know,​ ​those​ ​moments​ ​well​​ ​before​ ​using,​ ​when​ ​a​ ​casual​ ​interest​ ​or​ ​curiosity​ ​starts 
to​ ​percolate:​ ​“Hmmm….that’s​ ​something​ ​I’d​ ​like​ ​to​ ​check​ ​out​ ​online.”  
 
And​ ​right​ ​then​​ ​(before​ ​going​ ​any​ ​further),​ ​you​ ​made​ ​it​ ​a​ ​practice​ ​of​ c​ hoosing​ ​to​ ​guide​ ​your 
desires​ ​back​​ ​to​ ​some​ ​other​ ​place​ ​you’ve​ ​chosen.  
 
Remember​ ​those​ ​anchors?​ ​ How​ ​about​ ​that​ ​life​ ​vision​ ​we​ ​encouraged​ ​you​ ​to​ ​create?​ ​ Among​ ​this 
larger​ ​dream​ ​for​ ​the​ ​life​ ​you​ ​really​ ​want​ ​are​ ​surely​ ​people,​ ​purposes​ ​and​ ​passions​ ​that​ ​represent 
the​ ​perfect​ ​places​ ​to​ ​consciously​ ​bring​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​back​ ​when​ ​it​ ​starts​ ​wandering.​ ​  
 
HOW​ ​IT​ ​WORKS 
 
Let’s​ ​give​ ​an​ ​example.​ ​ ​You’re​ ​sitting​ ​at​ ​work​ ​(or​ ​school​ ​or​ ​home)​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​same​ ​thing​ ​you​ ​do​ ​on 
a​ ​normal​ ​day,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​thought​ ​comes​ ​back​ ​to​ ​you​ ​from​ ​a​ ​pornographic​ ​encounter​ ​you​ ​had​ ​a​ ​few 
weeks​ ​ago.​ ​ You​ ​watch​ ​the​ ​thought​ ​and​ ​let​ ​it​ ​pass...but​ ​you​ ​notice​ ​a​ ​lingering​ ​desire​ ​inside​ ​to​ ​go 
there​ ​again.​ ​  
 
At​ ​this​ ​point,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​a​ ​full-on​ ​urge​ ​or​ ​craving​ ​–​ ​just​ ​that​ ​early​ ​interest​ ​and​ ​the​ ​inklings​ ​of​ ​curiosity 
that​ ​sometimes​ ​comes.​ ​You​ ​turn​ ​your​ ​attention​ ​back​ ​to​ ​the​ ​work​ ​you​ ​were​ ​involved​ ​in​ ​today​ ​and 
try​ ​to​ ​get​ ​on​ ​another​ ​track.​ ​ But​ ​you​ ​could​ ​continue​ ​to​ ​feel​ ​a​ ​subtle​ ​tug​ ​emotionally...calling​ ​for 
something​ ​more.​ ​  
 
So​ ​after​ ​noticing​ ​again​ ​what​ ​is​ ​happening,​ ​you​ ​calmly,​ ​but​ ​firmly,​ ​guide​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​away​ ​from​ ​the 
curiosity​ ​-​ ​back​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​face​ ​of​ ​someone​ ​you​ ​love​ ​that​ ​you’re​ ​looking​ ​forward​ ​to​ ​seeing​ ​soon. 
 For​ ​just​ ​a​ ​moment,​ ​you​ ​let​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​rest​ ​in​ ​the​ ​image​ ​and​ ​the​ ​reality​ ​of​ ​this​ ​person…. 
 
Then​ ​you​ ​open​ ​your​ ​eyes​ ​–​ ​and​ ​move​ ​on​ ​with​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​your​ ​day.​ ​  
 
And​ ​check​ ​it​ ​out:​ ​ That​ ​something​ ​inside​ ​is​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​tugging​ ​at​ ​you...begging​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to​ ​go​ ​back 
to​ ​the​ ​place​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​really​ ​want​ ​to​ ​go.​ ​  
 
Have​ ​you​ ​ever​ ​experienced​ ​that​ ​before?​ ​ If​ ​not,​ ​you’ve​ ​gotta​ ​try​ ​some​ ​of​ ​this!”  
 
It​ ​really​ ​can​ ​work​ ​if​ ​you​ ​give​ ​it​ ​a​ ​try.​ ​ The​ ​problem​ ​is​ ​that​ ​most​ ​of​ ​us​ ​are​ ​hardly​ ​aware​ ​that​ ​it’s​ ​even 
possible​ ​to​ ​lead​ ​and​ ​direct​ ​the​ ​heart​ ​in​ ​this​ ​way.  
 
Now​ ​you​ ​know!​ ​In​ ​this​ ​simple​ ​and​ ​deliberate​ ​act,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​consciously​ ​and​ ​proactively​ ​tell​ ​your 
heart​ ​the​ ​direction​ ​you​​ ​want​ ​to​ ​go.  
 
And​ ​like​ ​a​ ​little​ ​puppy​ ​dog,​ ​that​ ​little​ ​heart​ ​starts​ ​to​ ​recognize​ ​who’s​ ​in​ ​charge.​ ​  
 
Are​ ​you​ ​following​ ​us​ ​here?​ ​ As​ ​soon​ ​as​ ​you​ ​notice​ ​your​ ​desire​ ​is​ ​wandering​ ​off,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​act: 
 re-directing,​ ​guiding​ ​and​ ​escorting​ ​your​ ​heart’s​ ​desire​ ​away​ ​from​ ​percolating​ ​interest​ ​towards 
something​ ​–​ ​anything​ ​that​ ​provides​ ​a​ ​firm​ ​anchor:​ ​ A​ ​person.​ ​ A​ ​cause.​ ​ A​ ​commitment.​ ​ A 
passion.​ ​ A​ ​higher​ ​purpose.​ ​  
 
HEART​ ​PRACTICE 
 
It​ ​can​ ​help​ ​to​ ​write​ ​down​ ​in​ ​a​ ​simple​ ​phrase​ ​your​ ​most​ ​important​ ​anchors​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​(and​ ​even 
repeat​ ​mentally)​ ​in​ ​these​ ​moments​ ​of​ ​redirection.​ ​ If​ ​you​ ​haven’t​ ​yet​ ​established​ ​these,​ ​check​ ​out 
other​ ​parts​ ​of​ ​Fortify​ ​where​ ​you​ ​can​ ​write​ ​those​ ​out​ ​and​ ​have​ ​them​ ​ready. 
 
To​ ​review,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​break​ ​this​ ​down​ ​into​ ​the​ ​two​ ​steps:  
1. Notice​ ​when​ ​your​ ​desires​ ​start​ ​to​ ​wander.  
2. Then​ ​guide​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​back​ ​to​ ​the​ ​anchor​ ​-​ ​gently,​ ​but​ ​firmly.​ ​  
 
You​ ​could​ ​stop​ ​at​ ​this​ ​anchor​ ​point,​ ​like​ ​you​ ​would​ ​transporting​ ​someone​ ​to​ ​a​ ​new​ ​location​ ​and 
dropping​ ​them​ ​off...pausing​ ​just​ ​long​ ​enough​ ​for​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​to​ ​“get​ ​out​ ​of​ ​the​ ​car”​ ​and​ ​settle​ ​into 
this​ ​new​ ​place.​ ​  
 
And​ ​then​ ​you​ ​get​ ​moving​ ​again.​ ​  
 
If​ ​you​ ​need​ ​a​ ​little​ ​help​ ​grounding​ ​yourself​ ​at​ ​the​ ​beginning,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​use​ ​the​ ​first​ ​steps​ ​of​ ​STAR​ ​- 
stepping​ ​back​ ​and​ ​being​ ​conscious​ ​of​ ​a​ ​few​ ​breaths.  
  
We​ ​realize​ ​this​ ​isn’t​ ​as​ ​simple​ ​as​ ​it​ ​looks​ ​-​ ​and​ ​definitely​ ​takes​ ​practice.​ ​  
 
If​ ​you​ ​need​ ​an​ ​extra​ ​boost​ ​to​ ​help​ ​guide​ ​your​ ​desires​ ​back,​ ​some​ ​find​ ​it​ ​helpful​ ​to​ ​repeat​ ​a​ ​short 
phrase​ ​or​ ​mantra​ ​that​ ​captures​ ​something​ ​about​ ​their​ ​life​ ​vision​ ​or​ ​one​ ​of​ ​their​ ​anchors.​ ​If​ ​you 
haven’t​ ​yet​ ​established​ ​these,​ ​check​ ​out​ ​the​ ​Choice-Habit-Lifestyle​ ​video​ ​where​ ​you​ ​can​ ​write 
that​ ​out​ ​and​ ​have​ ​it​ ​ready. 
 
PREEMPTING​ ​THE​ ​HIJACK 
 
Maybe​ ​the​ ​most​ ​important​ ​part​ ​of​ ​this​ ​practice​ ​is​ ​its​ ​timing.​ ​ It​ ​works​ ​best​ ​at​ ​the​ ​beginning,​ ​early 
on​ ​–​ ​when​ ​our​ ​desires​ ​first​ ​start​ ​to​ ​wander.​ ​As​ ​most​ ​people​ ​facing​ ​this​ ​struggle​ ​know,​ ​once​ ​the 
heart​ ​wanders​ ​long​ ​enough,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​lose​ ​its​ ​way​ ​to​ ​such​ ​an​ ​extent​ ​that​ ​a​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​emotional​ ​“fog” 
sets​ ​in​ ​where​ ​it​ ​can​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​clearly​ ​discern​ ​what​ ​it​ ​“really​ ​wants.”​ ​And​ ​that’s​ ​when​ ​we​ ​get​ ​in 
trouble.​ ​  
 
But​ ​we​ ​don’t​ ​always​ ​have​ ​to​ ​let​ ​it​ ​get​ ​that​ ​far!​ ​And​ ​there’s​ ​something​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​ahead​ ​of​ ​time 
that​ ​can​ ​preempt​ ​it​ ​all,​ ​which​ ​is​ ​the​ ​really​ ​good​ ​news:​ ​ ​you​ ​are​ ​in​ ​the​ ​driver’s​ ​seat​ ​to​ ​make​ ​that 
happen.​ ​ You​ ​may​ ​not​ ​feel​ ​you’re​ ​that​ ​great​ ​of​ ​a​ ​driver​ ​quite​ ​yet:​ ​ but​ ​that’s​ ​okay.​ ​ Because​ ​you 
can​ ​learn!​ ​  
 
With​ ​a​ ​little​ ​practice,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​get​ ​better​ ​and​ ​better​ ​at​ ​noticing​ ​when​ ​the​ ​curiosity​ ​or​ ​interest​ f​ irst 
wells​ ​up​ ​-​ ​before​ ​it​ ​becomes​ ​a​ ​full​ ​physical​ ​urge.​ ​Picking​ ​up​ ​on​ ​this​ ​subtle​ ​play​ ​of​ ​emotion​ ​and 
sensation​ ​is​ ​not​ ​easy​ ​in​ ​a​ ​swirling,​ ​busy,​ ​multimedia​ ​world​ ​around​ ​us,​ ​but​ ​trust​ ​us​ ​-​ ​it’s​ ​so​ ​worth 
getting​ ​this​ ​down!​ ​    
     
This​ ​is​ ​not​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​a​ ​psychological​ ​trick,​ ​by​ ​the​ ​way.​ ​ There​ ​are​ ​neuroscientific​ ​reasons​ ​why 
it​ ​works.​ ​ During​ ​a​ ​full-on​ ​urge,​ ​signals​ ​from​ ​the​ ​lower​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​brain​ ​can​ ​quickly​ ​spread 
through​ ​the​ ​brain​ ​and​ ​start​ ​to​ ​hijack​ ​your​ ​executive​ ​process.​ ​But​ ​if​ ​you​ ​notice​ ​these​ ​early​ ​signals, 
and​ ​consciously​ ​redirect​ ​your​ ​attention​ ​away​ ​from​ ​them,​ ​those​ ​well-worn​ ​brain​ ​pathway​ ​never 
gets​ ​full​ ​activated!​ ​ Why?​ ​ Because​ ​you’ve​ ​effectively​ ​neutralized​ ​and​ ​“short-circuited”​ ​the​ ​brain 
reaction.​ ​  
 
Isn’t​ ​that​ ​interesting?​ ​  
 
That’s​ ​why​ ​when​ ​we​ ​“pick​ ​up”​ ​on​ ​the​ ​percolating​ ​interest​ ​or​ ​desire​ ​early​ ​enough,​ ​it​ ​is​​ ​so​ ​much 
easier​ ​to​ ​respond.​ ​ This​ ​has​ ​been​ ​proven​ ​in​ ​other​ ​areas​ ​as​ ​well,​ ​by​ ​the​ ​way.​ ​ If​ ​we​ ​can​ ​notice 
when​ ​depression​ ​first​ ​manifests​ ​itself​ ​up​ ​earlier​ ​in​ ​the​ ​process,​ ​we​ ​can​ ​intervene​ ​more​ ​easily.​ ​  
 
FEELING,​ ​BUT​ ​NOT​ ​FOLLOWING 
 
In​ ​precisely​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way,​ ​people​ ​are​ ​learning​ ​to​ ​preemptively​ ​act​ ​to​ ​guide​ ​or​ ​escort​ ​their 
attention​ ​away​ ​from​ ​the​ ​early,​ ​seductive​ ​pull​ ​of​ ​depression,​ ​letting​ ​the​ ​mental​ ​propaganda​ ​pass 
as​ ​they​ ​focus​ ​their​ ​mind​ ​and​ ​heart​ ​in​ ​more​ ​nurturing​ ​directions.​ ​  
 
Another​ ​similar​ ​technique​ ​developed​ ​by​ ​a​ ​group​ ​called​ ​Arbinger​​ ​has​ ​been​ ​shown​ ​to​ ​help​ ​people 
grappling​ ​with​ ​painful​ ​relationships​ ​and​ ​anger​ ​issues:​ ​“Notice​ ​when​ ​you’re​ ​heart​ ​is​ ​at​ ​war,​ ​and 
bring​ ​it​ ​back​ ​to​ ​a​ ​heart​ ​at​ ​peace.”  
 
In​ ​each​ ​case,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​“feeling,​ ​but​ ​not​ ​following”​ ​the​ ​play​ ​of​ ​emotions​ ​in​ ​the​ ​body​ ​-​ ​and 
effectively​ ​short-circuiting,​ ​as​ ​we’ve​ ​said,​ ​the​ ​common​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​the​ ​brain.​ ​  
 
Research​ ​shows​ ​that​ ​this​ ​approach​ ​to​ ​depression​ ​can​ ​cuts​ ​relapse​ ​in​ ​half!​ ​We​ ​think​ ​it​ ​could​ ​make 
a​ ​big​ ​difference​ ​for​ ​porn​ ​relapse​ ​as​ ​well.​ ​  
 
In​ ​both​ ​cases,​ ​those​ ​who​ ​are​ ​most​ ​successful​ ​keep​ ​up​ ​at​ ​the​ ​practice:​ ​ Watching,​ ​noticing,​ ​and 
guiding​ ​their​ ​hearts​ ​back,​ ​over​ ​and​ ​over.​ ​  
 
Over​ ​time,​ ​this​ ​can​ ​move​ ​strengthen​ ​your​ ​capacity​ ​to​ ​lead​ ​your​ ​own​ ​heart​ ​–​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​like​ ​a 
puppet​ ​that​ ​feels​ ​compelled​ ​to​ ​act​ ​on​ ​whatever​ ​is​ ​moving​ ​through​ ​your​ ​heart​ ​and​ ​mind​ ​at​ ​any 
given​ ​time.   
 
It’s​ ​time​ ​to​ ​stop​ ​being​ ​driven​ ​by​ ​every​ ​passing​ ​feeling,​ ​curiosity​ ​and​ ​interest.​ ​ It’s​ ​time​ ​to​ ​lead​ ​your 
heart​ ​and​ ​train​ ​it​ ​to​ ​be​ ​in​ ​line​ ​with​ ​your​ ​highest​ ​and​ ​deepest​ ​commitments.  
 
So​ ​what​ ​do​ ​you​ ​say?​ ​ Are​ ​you​ ​ready​ ​to​ ​take​ ​that​ ​little​ ​puppy​ ​and​ ​put​ ​a​ ​leash​ ​around​ ​it?​ ​ Let’s 
teach​ ​that​ ​cute,​ ​rambunctious​ ​thing​ ​how​ ​to​ ​behave​ ​like​ ​a​ ​good​ ​little​ ​dog.​ ​