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Stacy Symons
This semester’s interpersonal communication class has given me so much insight into
how much power there is to be had when interacting with others. Interpersonal communication
influence, usually for the purpose of managing relationships.” At the same time, I better
understand there are limits to that power. We have the power to encode our own messages and
decode those of others, however we do not have control over how our communication partner
chooses to interpret those messages. One of my favorite understandings is that the degree to
which we can handle uncertainty is correlated to our ability to feel confident and successful. To
become better skilled at something means you can better control and predict outcomes of the
activity to which you are skilled at. The knowledge I have gained in my Interpersonal
There have been a few select skills from this class that I have been focused on throughout
the semester to become more proficient at. One of the more affective abilities I consistently
utilized was empathic listening. Our textbook describes being empathic as the “essence of being
other-oriented.” To practice this skill, I attentively listened to friends, family, and acquaintances.
I truly paid attention to the many channels through which messages are encoded in order to better
understand the sentiment and emotion behind the words. By making myself more aware of the
various channels, I was able to glean better insights into the experiences and lives of others. A
key aspect of empathic listening is to do so without judging your communication partner and
his/her experiences, opinions, and beliefs. One tool that helped me in this regard is mindfulness.
To be mindful is to be present in the current moment and to be the observer of your own
thoughts and emotions. By practicing mindfulness, I was able to minimize noise coming through
my own filters and experiences and pay more attention to what is being said and shared by my
communication partner. The affect this skill had on my conversations was impactful, to say the
least. The more the semester went on, the more I found people warm up to me and become
willing to share what they had to say with me. Several times, people I hadn’t gotten to know
very well would divulge information that they admitted they don’t often reveal about themselves.
in their world. For example, if I sent a communication message and failed to receive a message
back in a timely manner or in an expected fashion, I noticed it was easy for me to assume that it
meant I wasn’t as significant to my partner as I desired. This would lead to unnecessary stress
within the relationship. Once I gained the awareness and intent to modify this behavior, I
noticed that I had a lot more control over the meaning I assign to other people’s actions. After
several months’ practice now, it has become easier to separate my worth and validity from being
In order to better utilize both previously mentioned communication skills, there were
times where clarification was necessary. To better express myself, I used the skill of “I” and
perspective and experience. I would most often use this tool for expressing what I had decoded
through communication and to code my feelings. I felt like using “I” language was a good
common facet of every life as well as a skill that we can all improve with. During the four-
month course of the semester, I gained and utilized a lot of information that made a significant
empathic listening skills. I grew closer with friends and family by taking ownership of my
feelings, employing “I” and “extended I” messages where appropriate. And I also took a more
centered approach when observing and assigning meaning to behaviors, avoiding extremes of
“good” or “bad.” By improving how well and how frequently I used skills, I was able to become
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