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Introduction
The current problem that has been described as “relational aggression” by Tristin Jolly
who is a seventh grade school counselor for Freetown-Lakeville Middle School. She described
relational aggression as bullying with a “queen bee” mentality focusing on girls. Relational
aggression is defined as “behaviors that harm others through damage (or threat of damage) to
S., Vandergrift, N., Pierce, K., Cauffman, E., Susman, E., & Roisman, G., 2012). According to
Speiker et al. (2012), relational aggression acts within two ways. It can be reactive such as
excluding a student from a group because the other student is simply mad at them. Secondly, it
can be defensive such as spreading rumors about a student to damage their reputation and in
groups of the same sex is the norm. Supporting that the problem is focused on girl students, the
Speiker’s et al. (2012) study had concluded that girl students that participated in the experiment
had been exposed to relational aggression by third grade. In addition, the girl students were more
likely to partake in relational aggression than male students. It is evident that relational
aggression is mainly focused on the female student population in not only research but also at
There is a difference between aggression and bullying. According to The Ophelia Project,
“aggression is an isolated event where a person intentionally harms another. Bullying involves
negative actions that are repeated over time and involves an imbalance of power or strength. An
example of the difference between the two would be that aggression is a friend did not invite you
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over their house because they do not like you or want you around, while bullying is when that
same person excludes you from something every day, like not letting you play games with them,
not letting you sit with them during lunch, and not inviting you to places (The Ophelia Project,
2011).
Prevalence
Relational Aggression can be hard to report in schools. According to Yoon, Barton &
Taiarol (2016), relational aggression can be viewed as normal adolescent behavior by educators
and is often difficult to report because it is second hand information. However, the prevalence of
relational aggression is rapidly growing. According to the U.S. Department of Education (2016),
20.8% of students aged 12 through 18 reported being bullied in school year of 2014-2015. The
two types of bullying most reported were 13.3% of bullied students reported name calling, made
fun of or insulted. 12.2% reported being the subject of rumors. Both of these types of bullying
can be considered relational aggression. It is evident that relational aggression is currently the
Recent studies have shown that victims of relational aggression tend to be more
depressed, anxious, and have lower self-esteem (Yoon, Bartion, & Taiarol, 2016, p. 306). When
relational aggression becomes chronic, victims often view themselves as the cause of the
maltreatment. Producing these thoughts will result in victim’s self-esteem lowering and overall
difficulty adjusting in school (Yoon, Bartion, & Taiarol, 2016, p. 306). According to Yoon,
Bartion, & Taiarol (2016), girls report higher numbers of victimization because they value
intimacy of relationships more than boys. Girls are at a higher risk to be a victim or to perform
relational aggression. Research has shown the girls who display relational aggression experience
similar symptoms to oppositional defiant and conduct disorders. Relational aggression has been
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linked to concurrent and future adjustment problems for both victims and perpetrators (Yoon,
Possible Causes
Yoon, Bartion, & Taiarol (2016), suggest that family dynamic can be a possible cause for
relational aggressive behavior. Paternal psychological control has been positively correlated with
relational aggression for females, and maternal coercive control with maternal corporal
punishment has been associated with relational aggression in males. Another possible cause that
has been explored is the sibling relationship with the perpetrator. It has been established that
sibling aggression has been a strong influence for aggressive behavior in general. Relational
aggression has been reported to be more prevalent with siblings than physical aggression.
Although there has not been a direct link between relational aggression with sibling and peer
relationships, it is likely it plays some type of role for the perpetrator (Yoon, Bartion, & Taiarol,
2016, p. 307).
Another likely cause to be explored is peer group mentality. Most victimization occurs in
a group context and that students are threatened by peer groups. These peer groups are often seen
at the middle school level. The perpetrators all play different roles such as leaders, members,
bystanders, etc. It has been expressed that there is not just one “school yard bully” anymore
Relational Aggression has proven to have effects on victims. According to Marsh et al.
depression, and future violent behavior. For victims who have experienced repeated occurrences
over a long period of time may be at greater risk of psychological distress, severe depression,
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psychopathology, and deteriorating physical health (Marsh et al., 2016). It was noted by Marsh et
al. (2016) that a study conducted by Wong and Schonlau (2013) used propensity score matching
to measure being a victim of relational aggression as a child was associated with delinquent
behavior later in adult life. Outcomes for the aggressors are just as crucial. Marsh et al. (2016)
stated that aggressors were more at risk for developing personality disorders in young adulthood.
It was also discussed by Yoon, Bartion, & Taiarol (2016) that aggressors are more likely to show
symptoms associated with oppositional defiant and conduct disorders which highly negatively
impact learning.
Relational Aggression can result in physical symptoms in both the aggressor and target.
The Ophelia Project suggests that when a child reports physical symptoms, ask about relational
aggression. Physical symptoms can include headaches, stomachaches, fatigue, trouble sleeping,
loss of appetite, and unexplained crying. Both aggressor as well as targets experience these
symptoms. “Being a target is directly related to exhibiting symptoms like headaches and trouble
sleeping” (The Ophelia Project 2007). Physical symptoms vary by gender. Girls targeted by
relational aggression are more likely to have headaches and difficulty sleeping while boys who
were targets reported headaches, stomach aches, trouble sleeping and loss of appetite (The
Ophelia Project 2007). “Boys who engaged in relational aggression reported they experienced
fatigue and trouble sleeping. There was no relationship between girls’ relationally aggressive
Intervention
threatening information across a range of domains” (Armitage and Rowe 490). According to
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Armitage and Rowe, “people are motivated to preserve a positive, moral, and adaptive self-
image and to maintain self-integrity” (490). This can result in a subject becoming defensive
when antiaggression messages are being told because this information may be threatening to the
self.
Armitage and Rowe did a study where they “demonstrated that a simple information
message combined with a self-affirming activity significantly reduced the frequency of relational
aggression over a 1-month period” (494). What they did for the study was hand out a
questionnaire to students where students would answer relational aggression questions like “In
the last month, how many times did you threaten to stop being someone’s friend in order to hurt
them or get what you wanted from them?,” and “In the last month, how many times did you get
into an argument with classmates?” (493). The authors then handed everyone an antirelational
aggression message to read. After a month, the researchers came back and gave the students
another questionnaire. They found that student’s relational aggressive behaviors decreased in
frequency in the month after they received the antirelational aggression message.
Sherri Gordon wrote an article on ways to respond to relational aggression. She writes
that “healthy friendships are a safe place where she can truly be herself. But when the chances
for friendship are limited or destroyed due to relational aggression, the impact can be
devastating. And, as a parent, you’re often left wondering what you can do to help.” She then
gives 14 ways to respond to relational aggression. A few of the examples she gives are “Be a
Good Listener,” “Pay Attention to Your Child’s Moods,” “Monitor Internet and Cell Phone
Activity,” “Advise Her, but Don’t Try to "Fix" Things,” “Support Healthy Coping Mechanisms,”
and more. Some important ones should be highlighted, especially for parents as well as educators
and other professionals. Gordon says to “try not to intervene too soon” and that “for many
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parents, the first thought is to call the school and get the situation addressed immediately. But, as
long as there are no safety issues, sometimes it helps to let your daughter manage things. Doing
so reinforces that you believe in her ability to handle her life.” Other important ones to go with
that are knowing when to contact school officials and knowing when to get outside help. “While
it’s important to give your daughter the chance to solve the issue on her own, you don’t ever
want to delay contacting school officials if a student has threatened or physically harmed your
daughter” (Gordon). Gordon also says that “allowing bullying go on too long can have
Conclusion
Relational aggression is defined as “behaviors that harm others through damage (or threat
al., 2012). Relational aggression affects countless people every day. Going through it can cause
connected to future criminality, long-term depression, and future violent behavior. For victims
who have experienced repeated occurrences over a long period of time may be at greater risk of
(Marsh et al., 2016). One way to help reduce relational aggression in life could be to introduce
antirelational aggression messages at an early age. If they see those messages early, it would
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Spieker, S., Campbell, S., Vandergrift, N., Pierce, K., Cauffman, E., Susman, E., & Roisman, G.
Yoon, J., Barton, E., & Taiariol, J. (2016). Relational aggression in middle school.