Cal Banyan - 5 Path Hypnosis Training Handouts

L ist of H andouts for Each Video
Note that the handouts below are listed in the order that they appear in each of the videos.
They may be discussed or used later in the video, but are listed as they were first handed
out in class. So there may be times when you are viewing the video that you may have to
tum back to a particular handout that was given out earlier in class.
H andouts for Video 1
1. 5-PATH Structural Overview

2. The Continuum of Fear
3. All Feelings are Good
4. Feelings and What They Indicate
5. Overview of Phase I: Direct Suggestion
6. Post-Hypnotic Suggestion Using Red

7. Time Distortion Suggestions for Convincer of Post Hypnotic Suggestion
8. Eye-Lock Test
9. Elman-Banyan Rapid Hypnotic Induction
10. Elman-Banyan Rapid Hypnotic Induction (Large Print)
11. Short Elman Hypnotic Induction
12. Over Eating Rut
13. Nail Biting Script
14. StoppingPrematureEjaculation
15. The Three Mental Powers
16. Fourlm portantThings W eD o In
17. Post-Hypnotic Re-Induction Patter
18 Universal Script: Take the High Road to Success
19. What Clients Need To Say to Get Their Stop Smoking Certificate
20. Powerful Two Session Approach Smoking Cessation Using 5-Path™, A Universal
Approach To Hypnotherapy
21. Stop Smoki ng (Patter)
22. Model of the Mind (Pre-Talk Handout)
23. 5-PATH™ Tapes 1-5: Things To Watch for and Leam As Calvin Banyan Conducts
the First Four Phases: Direct Suggestion, Age Regression, Forgiveness o f Others and
Forgiveness of Self (Put this handout where you can find it. You will need it again.
N O TE: TA PE 3: P hase III F orgiveness o f O thers Therapy (M oham ed) w as not
shown or discussed during this 3-day class to save time and because of audio problems
with that tape.)
24. Like Water O ff A Duck's Back
25. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase II
26. How a 5-PATH™ Practitioner Can Succeed In Helping Children with Hypnosis
27. Phase II: Age Regression Outline
28. The Key to Successful Hypnotherapeutic Age Regression: Identifying the Initial
Sensitizing Event (ISE).
29. The Twelve Keys to Successful Age Regression Sessions
30. Moving Your Client Along When In Age Regression— Without Leading or
Emerging
No handouts were given during this video.
31. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase III

32. Ten Keys to Forgiveness
33. Phase III: Forgiveness of the Person Who Hurt You the Most
34. Overview of Phase IH: 5-PATH™ Forgiveness of Others (FOO) (Has lines drawn to
show the circular cycle.)
35. Transcript of Phase m of the 5-PATH™™ Videotapes. (Transcript of a video not
viewed in class because of time restraints and problems with the audio on that tape.)
36. Forgiveness Form (Phase III and IV)
37. To Forgive, Or N ot To Forgive: Does Forgiveness Make For Good Therapy?
38. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase IV
39. Phase IV: Forgiveness o f Self
40. The Young Carpenter: A Story for Inner Strength.
41. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase V

42. Phase V: Parts Mediation Therapy
43. 5-PATH™ and Parts Mediation Therapy: Working with Secondary Gain
Handouts for DVD 1
Banyan H ypnosis C enter For T raining & Services, Inc.
Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
ALL FEELINGS ARE GOOD!

It’s W hat You Do With Them That Is Either Good or Bad
Life not going exactly as planned? Feeling frustrated or depressed? Smoking and you want to
quit? Drinking and you want to quit or drink less? Eating more than you should? Using drugs
and it’s wrecking your life? Any ofthe above? Read on....
All o f these different problems have something in common. They all result in not responding to
feelings in a way that takes care o f the problem causing the feeling. Smoking, drinking, over-
eating and excess snacking are only ways o f temporarily coping with the feeling, by distracting
yourself from the feeling. But because the cause has not been taken care of, or satisfied, it comes
right back again. This can lead to frustration and even depression.
Here are a few lists that can serve as a guide to help you to respond to your feelings in a more
satisfying way than any compulsive behavior ever could.
First, here is an outline of the brief and simple process:
1. When you feel the desire for the compulsive behavior (snacking, drinking, drugging, etc.),
name the feeling that you are experiencing (anger, frustration, boredom, stress, anxiety, etc.).
2. Think about what might be causing the feeling. Once you have identified the cause o f the
feeling you can start to do something about it (your problem behavior is unable to do anything
about the cause of the feeling or emotion).
3. Satisfy the feeling. Do something that goes directly to the cause of the feeling, and
eliminates the cause or reduces it. For example, if you feel stressed (this is the feeling that you
probably have too much to do to be able to do it all well enough (this is the cause of the feeling),
you can begin to reduce the number of things that you have to do, or at least start working on the
most important things first, or get some help, etc.. That would be a satisfying response.
The following are a number of feelings, probable causes and some things that you might be able
to do about them. I am going to list a few different responses to the feelings. Although the list
may be useful and can be used to inspire you, it is vour list of responses that reallv matters. So
after each list, there is some room left for you to generate some satisfying responses of your own.
Once again, this is a three step process:

1. Name the feeling (or guess what it might be - you will get better at it as you go along).
2. Determine the cause of the feeling (or make your best guess).
3. Satisfy it by reacting to the cause of the feeling in such a way as to reduce or eliminate it (this
satisfies the feeling, it will go away and you will feel much better than if you just distracted
yourself from it).
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Here is the list of feelings and what you can do about them. Note that there usually aren’t that
many feelings that give you trouble, but you may have a multitude o f names for them. I will list
the most basic name o f the feeling and sometimes accompany that name with several others that
mean essentially the same thing. Example “anger” is also called, miffed, ticked, P.O.’d, jealous,
mad, etc. T h em ostim portan tth in eisto do th is before vou eetth e feeling. Ifvo u are m ad
sa d o r whatever. th e /a stth in e vou m ll H’a n tto do is sta rt wor&ine on th is Iist But, i f vou
a/readv have it, vou have a to o /t/ia t can reaZ/v n>or/c.
The process is simple. It goes like this: 1 ,2 ,3 .
1. The feeling (You may have to guess at this, but that’s okay.)
2. The cause (Usually more obvious, but if not, it is still okay to guess.)
3. Satisfying response (Have a number of different responses that you can really do.)
1. Fee/ing. B ored (leihargic, eic.J

2. Cause. Feeiing uncha/lenged
3. SatisfjdngBesponse. N eedto do somethingfun, interesting or have agrowth experience.
a. Do something new and different that you have always wanted to do, but didn’t have the
time.
b. Get a computer and leam how to use it.
c. Read a book or magazine.
d. Get a new pet.
e. Leam how to train your dog or cat (lots o f luck with the cat!)
f. Takeupphotography.
g. Organize your photos.
h. Buy some seeds and plant something.
i. Find a good cause and get involved.
j. Take a class.
k. Leam to play chess.
l. Leam how your car or motorcycle works.
m. Go garage sale shopping.
n. Have a garage sale.
o. Find out what kind o f adult education classes are available in your area.
p. Leam yoga, or other kind of stretching or relaxation technique.
q. C allafriend.
r. Get a magnifying glass or microscope and look at things really close up.
s. Get out your old stamp collection and wonder why you did that, or why you stopped.
t. Fix something that is broke in your house.
u. Go to an art store, or hardware store, or book store, or camera store, o r ______ ....
v. Ask a kid to tell you a story.
w. Go to a library - they loan out tape and videos now - very cool.
x. Go for a walk and take along a camera or some binoculars.
y. Leam a musical instmment (harmonicas are very cheap, and very cool, leam the
blues).
z. Anything I didn’t list here that isn’t illegal, immoral or fattening!
This space is open for additional insights and specific satisfying responses.
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1. Feeling. L onely (often confused w ith bored, b u t d e/in itefy n o t th e sam e).
2. Cause. You a re experiencing a g o o d h ea lth y desireforhum an com panionship.
3. Satisjying Jiesponse. fV ays to be around others th a t eith er yo u care about o r are in terested
in th in g syo u care about.
a. Call someone.
b. Get on the computer and join the vvorld of the intemet.
c. Get a job (if you are vvorking and have time, get another one).
d. Joinaclub.
e. Take dance lessons.
f. Volunteer doing something meaningful to you.
g. Take a class where you don’t get a grade.
h. G otochurch.
i. Walk around your neighborhood and meet your neighbors.
j. Visit the Humane Society.
k. Go to the library.
l. Become active politically.
m. Got the idea?
1. Feeling. A ngry
2. Cause. Som ething isg o in g on th a t is u n fa ir to yo u orsom eone th a tyo u care about.
3. Satisjying Response. fVays to red u cefeelin g s o f anger.
a. Check - was it really unfair? If it was fair, that changes your perspective.
- Give yourself some cool down time and reassess the situation; it might be fair.
- Get other’s perspective on the situation.
- Listen to the other side.
- Step back and look at the big picture.
- Were you just in a bad mood or tired and being oversensitive?
- Sometimes, it just is the way it is, and it’s equally unfair to everyone.
b. Make fair. Whenever possible, attempt to regain faimess in the situation.

- Let people know that it seems unfair to you.
- Talk to someone in charge and tell them about the situation.
- Stand up for yourself in a fair and caring way.
- Join a group that stands up for rights.
- Join with others that feel like you do and get support in your efforts.
c. Forgive them and move on - real forgiveness reduces the anger.

- Remember that forgiveness is NOT forgetting what happened.
- Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you like the person or what they did.
- Forgiveness has a more positive effect on you than it does on them.
- Try to understand why they did the unfair thing. This makes forgiveness easier.
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- Realize that most of the time, they wish that they could do better.
- Forgiveness gives you back your mental and emotional energy for other things.
- Forgiveness gives you peace of mind when all other things fail.
Anger has a twin sister, and her name is Guilt. Guilt and anger are closely related, because
they are both caused by someone doing something unfair. In the case o f anger, the cause was
unfaimess directed at you (or someone you care about). Guilt is caused by unfaimess directed at
someone else and caused by you. See how this works below.
1. Feeling: G uii( (sham e, sin /u i, evii, etc.J

2. Cause: Ih a v e been u n /a ir to som eone else (h u rt them in som e way, such a s ie ttin g them
downJ.
3. SatisJying Response: W ays to reduce th e /e elin g o /g u iit is th e sam e a s/o r anger, o n ly it
g o es in th e o ther direction.
a. Change your perspective. Was it really unfair? Would you like to have done better?
b. Make fair - if you can, make it up to the other person.
c. Forgive yourself and move on. Real self-forgiveness relieves you o f the guilt.
This space is open for additional insights and specific satisfying responses for guilt and anger.
1. Feeiing: Sadness /e e iin g biue, a n d o/ten con/used w ith depressionj.

2. Cause: L oss o/som eone o rso m eth in g im p o rta n tto yo u .
3. Satisjying Response: B egin to g e t bacic w hatyo u have iost.
a. Think about the loss and take time to feel sad or grieve, and then begin to move on.
b. Look for ways to regain what you have lost.
c. Accept that it might take a while to regain what you have lost.
d. Look for advantages of the loss, like the cloud with a silver lining.
e. Most things are replaceable; begin to replace it.
f. Some things are not replaceable - begin to look at other things that you value.
g. Count your blessings - things are generally replaceable - people are not.
h. People are not replaceable - but we can build new relationships.
- you can make new friends
- you can find another confidante
- you can get another shopping partner
- you can get help from others
- you can also help someone else
i. Most things happen for a reason and can be tumed into opportunities.
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1. F eeling: F ee/ing badaboutyourself($oox self-esteem, low self-confidence, etc.)
2. Cause: U sua//y causedby biasedthinking, w henyou a re tending to jo c u s on negative,
ra th er th a n p o sitives a n d yo u r m any successes.
3. Satisjy/ng Response: C hange how you seeyo u rse/f.
a. Realize that the bias was leamed and can be unleamed.
b. Be realistic - you regularly do lots of good things in a capable way.
c. You have successfully leamed many new skills and can leam many more.
d. Reject negative thoughts when they come and use realistic affirmations.
e. Write yourself a letter commending yourself on at least ten good things about yourself.
1. Feelžng: F ear (anxious. w orried, nervous, insecure, incom petent, o r Zac/cing confdence, etc.J
2. Cause: f m th in kin g som ethingbadm iehthappen to m e o rso m eo n eIca re about.
3. Satisjying Response: C hange w hatyou are thinking o r doing.
a. Reality check. Get realistic - if there is a real danger,
- get prepared
- get help
- be realistic; and, if there is something that needs doing, begin to do it.
b. Reality check. My worries and fears are not based in reality.
- reject useless thoughts
- consistently give yourself positive self statements like
I am safe and secure
I have people that will help me
I am competent in this situation
I know how to do this
I have done this before, competently or safely
I can chose to be peaceful and calm
- Don’t use terms like “don’t” and “not” in self statements. Example, “I am safe
and secure” works better than, “I am not afraid.”
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1. F eeling: S tressed (ovenvhelmed, worried, etc.)
2. Cause: / probably have too m any th in g s to do to b e a b le to do them a li w ell enough.
3. Sa/isjying Response: / n eed to iim it, organize, o r do som ething eise in order to g e t to th e
cause o fth ep ro b lem .
a. Reality check. Ask, “Do I really have that much to do?” If the answer is yes, then:
- get organized
- prioritize
- do the most important things first
- get some help
- delegate some responsibilities
- leam to say “No” sometimes
- be fair and let someone else do some work
- it doesn’t have to be done perfectly to be done
- it doesn’t have to be done your way to be done
b. If you don’t really have too much to do, then:
- give yourself credit
- really, it is within your ability to get it done
- maybe it is unfair and you are just dragging your tail in quiet desperation
- maybe you are wasting too much time doing other things
- you don’t have to like it, you just have to do it - this time
W hat About Frustration and Depression?
All of the feelings outlined above and on the previous pages were what I call primarv feelings.
Primary feelings occur when you have a need, want or desire that is not being fulfilled. There are
two other kinds o f feelings, secondary and tertiary. When, after several attempts to satisfy the
feeling, and it remains unsatisfied, we can become frustrated (secondary).
Frustration is additional pain. Nature probably gives us this additional pain in order to increase
our motivation. However, after more attempts, we may decide that trying to satisfy that need is
too painful, so we can stop trying.
Not trying and still having the need unfulfilled is still very painful. We call that pain depression
(tertiary). Depression happens when we feel that it is hopeless or we are helpless. Depression is
a call to action. Action instills hope, and where hope is, depression fades. Depression means
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that you need to get started again. Risk frustration.
1. F eeling: F ru stra ted (confused, m ost o/ten coupled w ith anger, o r another/eelžng)
2. Cause: W hatyou have been doing žs n o t w orking. S o yo u experience th e extra p a in o f
Jru stra tio n , added to a n o th er/eežin g th a tyo u are n o t sa tis/yin g fi. e., io n eiy a n d fru stra ted ,
angry and/rustrated, a n y/eelžn g a n d /ru stra ted j.
3. Satis/yin g Response: Đ o som ething else.
a. Be creative and try something new; frustration comes from doing what is not working
b. Review past attempts and discover what was not working, if you can
c. Do some research and get some new ideas
d. Get some advice on how to improve on what you have been doing
e. Find out what your more “not-depressed” friends are doing about similar issues
f. Read a book on the subject and try out some new and interesting ideas
h. Most importantly, remember that frustration is a call for creativity!
1. F eeiing: Đ epressed ftrapped, hopeiess, and o/ten con/used w ith sad, b u t n o t rea iiy th e
sam ej.
2 . Cause: F rustration w as too m uch to handle so J have qužt trying.
3. Satis/ying Response: S ta rt tryin g again.
a. Say to yourself - this is a call to action
b. Take a short rest from trying and start planning to do something different
c. Risk frustration
d. Do anything that brings back hope - which means start moving again
e. Most importantly, remember that depression is a call for action- get started again.
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First Priority Should Be Given To Satisfjing Your Feelings. But Sometimes W e M ust
Delay Gratification.
Here is another special category: Distracters (a delaying tactic).
For our purposes, “distracters” are anything that you can do to temporarily take your mind off
your feelings for a while. They provide temporary distraction, but the feeling and the cause of
the feeling still exists. Distracters allow us to delay our desire for instant gratification.
Distracters can either be the problem or part o f the solution.
Using distracters, instead o f satisfying the feeling, is what made you fat, or addicted you to a
substance. In the past, you felt bad and you managed to divert your attention from the feeling by
doing something more pleasurable than feeling the unpleasant feeling. Distracting for one reason
or another was more comfortable than really doing something that would deal with the problem.
Then, it became a habit.
So if distracting yourself was part o f the problem, how can it be part o f the solution?
There are two main problems with distracting yourself from feelings: 1) the feeling goes
unsatisfied, even becoming worse (taking you on a downward emotional spiral, creating other
feelings such as frustration, anger, guilt, and depression), and 2) distracters can be unhealthy if
you use food or other substances that have negative side effects (food makes you fat, smoking
affects your lungs and heart—need I go on?).
Using distracters in a positive and healthy way.
So, when is it good to distract? Satisfying your feelings should be Plan A, while distracting
should be used as Plan B.
By Plan B, I mean Use distractors under four conditions:

1. Distract when you are not using food, drugs etc. as the distractor.
2. Distract only when you are aware that you are ONLY distracting, and not really taking care of
the problem at hand.
3. Distracters should be something pleasant, so that you are likely to do it again, if need be.
4. Distract when it is not possible, or in your best interest at the time, to tiy and satisfy the
feeling.
It’s not a perfect world, where we can instantly satisfy all o f our feelings in any given
moment.
5. Distractors should NOT BE Ulegal, Immoral or Fattening.
A short list of distractors
Recommended distracters are any healthy thing that you find pleasant or enjoyable. Things on
this list are basically all things that you enjoy that are not illegal, immoral or fattening.
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1. Call a friend.
2. Loveyourpet.
3. Get a new hobby.
4. Leam to meditate, pray or ascend.
5. Volunteer and help others.
6. Take a class.
7. Read something exciting, inspiring or uplifiting.
8. Rent an old movie.
9. Leam to type.
10. Write a poem.
11. Draw a portrait of a friend.
12. Plant a garden, or if the weather is good, play in the one you have.
13. Count your blessings.
14. Write a letter or e-mail.
15. Volunteer at the Humane Society, or other places that have animals needing attention.
16. Get out the family album.
17. Go for a walk and say “Hi” to someone.
18. Go to the park and see how close you can get to a bird or squirrel (use sunflower seeds).
19. Make a picnic lunch and invite someone along.
20. Read a biography about someone else who overcame a challenge.
21. Take an art class.
22. Rsad a story to someone else.
23. Go outside for a little while - even a few minutes can help.
24. Go to the library; and go into a section where you have never been.
25. Leam self-hypnosis.
26. Try a new kind of tea and ask someone over.
27. Get a new address and telephone book and transfer over the old numbers and addresses.
28. Think about what you would do if you hađ more time - then do it.
29. Take up magic - you might amaze yourself.
30. Go for a drive or bike ride.
31. Contemplate why you got that tattoo, or never got that tattoo, and smile either way.
32. If we had 12 fingers rather than 10, would we count by dozens instead of 10? Try it.
33. Leam a new language. How about Greek, Chinese, Spanish, Japanese, Latin or Pascal?
34. Get a harmonica and a tape on how to play the dam thing - it will drive your cat or dog
crazy!
35. Listen to some of those really old albums in the closet.
36. Get a magnifying glass and look at things really close - this can be amazing!
37. Rearrange something and be creative.
38. Close your eyes and create a special room in your mind - go there sometimes just to relax
39. Create another fantasy, better than the one before, and tum it into a story you can share.
40. Read a spiritually uplifting book, like the Bible, Koran or other hopeful book.
41. Go all day long without listening to or watching the news. Instead, watch cartoons.
42. Get on the Intemet - but don’t stay there forever - you do have people who love you.
43. See if you can touch your toes - then, sign up for yoga and maybe someday you will.
44. Ventriloquism anyone?
45. Surprise someone with a new polysyllabicneologism (long word that you just made up).
46. Teach a class. You have some skills that others envy.
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47. Collect all your recipes and make a cookbook, or get organized in some other way.
48. Plan a garage sale or go to one.
49. Don’t get into photography, pet fish, computers, or moimtain biking (just kidding).
50. Make a list just like this, with ideas that are much better than mine.
Questions? G iv eu sa ca ll. (763)785-3390
Copyright © 1999 Calvin D. Banyan. All rights reserved (All Feelings Are Good wpd)
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Feelings and W hat They Indicate and How to Satisfy Them

by Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
The follov/ing is a list o f some o f the feelings that we experience. All o f our feelings are good.
They are there to help and guide us. Leam to name the feeling and associate it with what it
indicates.
S te p l Step2
Name It What does it indicate?
Bored I need a growth experience, or to do something different, fun or interesting.
Frustrated What I am doing is not working.
Hurt What just happened is not fair.
Angry What just happened (or is happening to me) is not fair.
Slighted It is unfair. They don’t appreciate what I’ve done. Or, who I am.
Unrewarded Not appreciated. I’m thinking that the reward o f a job well done, is not
enough reward.
Hateful He or she is really not being fair, and that has (or is going to) hurt terribly.
Guilty I’m concemed because I did something unfair to someone else.
Lonely I have the healthy desire for the company of someone I care about, or cares
about me.
Anxious I think that I (or someone I care about) might get hurt.
Worried I think that I (or someone I care about) might get or be hurt.
Scared I think that I (or someone I care about) is going to get hurt.
Confused What I am doing (or what others are doing) doesn’t make sense.
Crazy What I am doing (or thinking) doesn’t make sense.
Stressed I am trying to do too many things to be able to do them all well enough.
Depressed I am thinking that I am helpless, hopeless or ineffective.
Trapped In this situation, I am thinking that I am helpless, hopeless, or ineffective.
Hopeless I am thinking that there is no hope in this situation.
Helpless I am thinking that there is no help available to me.
Ineffective I am thinking that there is nothing I can do to make a difference.
Sad I feei the loss of someone or something important to me.
Worthless I see no evidence of my own worth.
Unloved I see no evidence of anyone caring about me.
Notice that some feelings seem to be related. For example hurt, angry and slighted are all forms
of anger. Frustration may also be a form o f anger. Anxiety, stress, concem, worry are all forms of
fear.
Step 3
Plan a satisfying response.
None o f these feelings can be satisfied by food, smoking, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, or any
other distracting behavior. Each feeling is there for a good reason. Plan something that you can
do to satisfy the source o f the feeling. The follovving are just examples o f satisfying responses.
Certainly a book could be written about each feeling and ways to satisfy each one.
Feeling Satisfying Response

Bored Do something different, fun or interesting. Get at hobby, go to school, get a life.
Frustrated Be creative. Try something else.
Hurt Change your perspective. Look at it as a leaming experience and begin to heal.
Angry Become assertive. Look at it from a larger less personal perspective. Make it
More fair.
Slighted Assertiveness about unfair treatment. Work on self-approval. Leam to shine.
Unrewarded Assertiveness about unfair issues. Focus on the accomplishment, rather than
recognition.
Hateful Protect yourself and the ones you care about. Forgive. Holding onto hate
hurts
you.
Guilty Make amends. Forgive yourself. Look at it as a lesson.
Lonely Call someone, or write a letter, or check your e-mail, join a club. Care about more
people.
Anxious Become more informed about the situation. Be prepared.
Worried Become more informed. Be realistic. Don’t let your imagination get out o f hand.
Scared Be informed. Be with those who can protect you. Leam to protect yourself.
Confused Get a larger perspective. Get help. Take a minute to gather your thoughts.
Cra2y Talk to a friend, family or professional. Others have felt this way, too, without
Being cra2y.
Stressed Get organized. Delegate. Take a break. Share your concems. Get help. Be honest.
Depressed Do anything that will make a difference. Even planning will lift the depression.
Trapped Change or plan to change the situation. Get advice. You have other options.
Hopeless Realize that you are focusing on the problem, rather than the solution. There is
always hope.
Helpless There is always help. Widen your perspective. Do even the smallest thing and it
can help.
Ineffective Even the smallest acts can make a difference in the long run. Act. Never give up.
Sad It’s okay to feel sad for awhile, then look at what you have not lost. Focus on
thankfulness.
Worthless There are others that have done great things, starting from less. You’re
overlooking a lesson.
Unlovable The most important love is self-love and this is under your control. Mom loves
you
And others do, too. This is always a case o f sinking thinking.
Taking back control o f your life, can be as sim ple as 1,2,3:
1. Name the feeling. Don’t wait until you are sure what the feeling is. And don’t wait for the
feeling to happen. You know what kind of feelings and situations in the past have caused you to
eat when you weren’t hungry.
2. Write down what the feeling indicates. What might be causing the feeling? Use the list above.
Add to it. Get started.
3. Write down a satisfying response. Use the list above. Add to it. Make it your list. Be prepared.
Have a plan. Don’t wait for the feeling to happen. Get started now if you haven’t already.
N eit we w ill w ork on w hat to do when you can’t satisfy yourself and Themes.
(T his m ateria/ cannot be reprodu ced vvithout th e w ritten perm ission o f Banyan H ppnosis
C enter F or Training & S ervices, fnc. JPPB@
5-PATH™ Overview: Phase I
Banyan H ypnosis C enter for T raining & Services, Inc.
Advanced H ypnotherapy Training
As you use 5-PATH keep in m ind the sim ple and effective checklist below.
Phase I
1. Intake Process (first contact, pre-talk and pre-hypnosis interview)
2. A ssessm ent for readiness for hypnosis,

“W ould you like to do hypnosis w ith me now ?”
3. Induction with covert testing (i.e., Elm an-Banyan H ypnotic

Induction)
4. Convincers (i.e., eye lock test)
5. Hypnotic suggestions (i.e., scripts, or custom suggestions).
6. Emerge
7. Post-H ypnotic Interview

Phase I: Direct Suggestion
Calvin D. Banyan, M A, BCH, CI
1. First Im pression has an effect on your hypnosis session.

A. A poor impression may lead to no hypnosis session at all for the client.
B. A good impression leads to a feeling o f confidence and increases the probability of
a successful hypnosis session.
2. Pre-Talk should be designed to remove fears and misconceptions.
3. Pre-Hypnosis Interview is a time in which the client is encouraged to talk about the history
of the problem and anything that she may think contributed to the cause o f the problem. The
therapist realizes, o f course, that this is the rational mind at work and what he or she thinks is
the problem may be completely wrong. You should put these ideas into the hypothesis file for
now.
4. The Pre-Hypnosis Interview provides the client an opportunity to present his or her
complaint and background on the issue at hand. Be a good active listener and build trust.
5. Ask, “W ould you like to do hypnosis with me now?” If she is ready, then begin induction.
This was an assessment o f Readiness for Hypnosis.
6. Hypnotic Induction should be best fitted for the client. Generally, a rapid induction, such
as the Dave Elman or an instant induction works best.
7. Deepen the client immediately after the induction and test for somnambulism. If
somnambulism is not accomplisheđ, continue to deepen or pyramid inductions and deepen.
8. Convincers, such as eye lock, can be safely used to improve the effectiveness o f the session.
Clients tend to do better when they think they were hypnotized. You can safely use eye or
arm catalepsy as a test when they have already passed a test for a deeper level (somnambulism test
is built into the Dave Elman induction, when the client loses the numbers). Always test for the
level of trance.
9. Post-Hypnotic Suggestion for Re-Induction Trance should be given here, because the
client is convinced that he or she is hypnotized and highly suggestible. So, say something
like, “The n ext tim e w e do hypnosis, a ži/ w illh a ve to do is to d ro p yo u r h a n d a n d sa y s‘ žeep ’
andyou w ilž in sta n tžyg o rig h t bacžc in io th is ževež o f hypnosis. Is th a t ažright w ith youF
10. Install Ideo-M otor Response for “yes” and “no,” assigning a meaning to two fingers by
saying something like: "This isy o u r "yes "fn g e r a n d th is isy o u r "no "fn g e r. "ffTien/ ask
yo u a guestion a n d touch yo u on th e ha n d iik e this, y o u r y e s fn g e r w illrise fo r yes, y o u r no fn g e r
w illrise fo r no. žs th a t okay w ithyou? " The “yes” finger should rise.
11. Direct Suggestion is the next thing that you do. Most often, it is best to purchase a hypnosis
script or patter book when you start off. Then later on, you can begin to write your own.
12. Emerge from hypnosis, adding additional convincers, such as time distortion or sensitivity
to a color, such as red. Also, add suggestions for feeling good upon emerging from hypnosis.
13. Post-Hypnotic interview occurs next. You will want to call attention to the convincers,
such as eye-lock and time distortion. Your client may then notice red without a reminder.
(But you may not hear about it until the next session).
(Phase I Direct Suggestion wpd32002)
Handouts for DVD 2
Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc.
2565 County Road 10
Mounds View, MN 55112
Post Hypnotic Suggestion for Convincer Using Red
Over the next couple of days (longer if you like), the color red will have special meaning to you.
The color red, red, red, will seem, sharper or clearer to you. Be it a tail light, a stop light, the
color of sign or clothing, it will just seem to catch your eye.
That’s right, over the next few days the color red, red, red, will be o f special significance to you.
It could be as small as a lady’s finger nail polish, or as large as a bill board. The color red will
just seem to catch your eye.
Every time that you see the color red, it will reinforce every positive thing we have done here
today. The color red will increase your confidence that you will succeed.
Now, you will not have to look for the color red, you will just notice it automatically. Each time
you see the color red, you will become more confident and more motivated to be successful “at
______ •” (include issu e ify o u li/ce, such a s “a t being a non-sm oker" o r “a t rea ch in g y o u rg o a lo f
about JJSpounds”etci).
Now, you will not have to look for the color red; it will just catch your eye. You may even see
red where you never noticed it before. Each time you see the color red, consciously or
unconsciously, your confidence, motivation and ability to be successful continues to grow.
(Red - As A Convincer - Modifled by Cal Banyan wpd)

2565 County Road 10, M oundsview, MN 55112
Time Distortion Suggestions for Convincer o f Post Hypnotic Suggestion
First, you want to set a mental expectancy for time distortion. Before the hypnosis session
begins, give your client the suggestion that “It does not take long to do the hypnosis session,
so the session may seem rather brief.” This is a waking suggestion and it tends to increase
time distortion (compounded later by suggestions given during the hypnosis session).
Before beginning the hypnosis session, have the client check the time. Tell them that after the
session is over, you are going to have them try to remember the time you started. If she can’t
remember when you started, you will remind her.
The suggestion for time đistortion is then given while you are emerging the client from
hypnosis. This seems to give maximum effect.
“Even though we only had time for a few minute* o f hypnosis today, you are going to be
amazed at how effective it w as for you. That’s right, even though w e only spent a few
minute doing hypnosis today, you are going to be surprised and amazed at how w ell you
have done today.”
Immediately after emerging the client ask them, “Tell me, right off the top of your head,
how many minute do you think w e spent doing hypnosis today?”
The time will usually be recalled by your client as being significantly less than really lapsed.
If so, tell them that they were given a test for post-hypnotic suggestion, because it is important
to know for sure that the suggestions were working after the session was over. Tell them that
it was suggested to them that it would seem like a few minutes and because they were
hypnotized, and were accepting hypnotic suggestions, if felt like only a few minutes. Then
have them check the real time. Usually time distortion will be in the range of 100 to 400%!
Your client will be very impressed with hypnosis, you, and more importantly, that they can be
hypnotized. From then on you will have a truly confident hypnotic subject.
* Note that I used the word “minute” instead o f “minutes.” There are at least two reasons for
this. First, Don Mottin, from whom I got the original inspiration for using this kind o f
convincer (but significantly modified above) believes that stating “minutes” in singular form
tends to decrease the client’s estimate of the time spent in hypnosis; maybe so. I think that
there is another, and perhaps more important reason for stating it in the singular. Since it
sounds a little odd to use the word “minute” in the sentence, and even though it may not be
caught by the conscious mind, the unconscious mind makes special note of the anomalous use
of the word. The oddity then serves as a verbal anchor (kind of a flag), so that when the
therapist asks, “How many minute do you think we spent doing hypnosis today?”, the client’s
subconscious mind, (working by association, then goes directly back to the last time it heard
that usage of the word “minute”; it then finds the memory o f “a few minute.” This memory,
then leads to the client responding with whatever a few minutes means to him or her, which is
usually in the 5 to 10 minute range, and since our hypnosis sessions last at least 20 minutes,
you can be confident of getting a 100 to 400% time distortion. This kind of time distortion
tends to be a very powerful experience for the client.
(Time Distortion Patter-2002)
Eve Lock Test
In a moment I am going to begin counting. As I do you will find that your eyefids begin
to twitch and tighten.. .and lock down.
1 .. . eyelids are twitching and tightening.

2 .. . locking down gluing shut.
3 .. . locked down, glued shut.
4 .. . heavey, locked down, glued shut.
5 .. . try to open them, but you cannot, try but you cannot, try but you cannot.
Oood stop testing, and go deeper.

Elman - Banyan Induction
2565 County Road 10, Mounds View, MN 55112
This is the Banyan Hypnosis Center’s version of the Dave Elman hypnotic induction, which has proven itself
effective for over 30 years. It has been updated and slightly modified by Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI. We ask
that you become familiar with it, so that you can read it to someone and not sound like you are reading it. The
best way to do this is by practicing reading it out load. This kind of verbal practice tends to produce better results
than reading it silendy to yourself. Do notpractice this induction on anyone beforeyou come to class, unless you
have proficiency and training in doing hypnosis through prior education and experience. Read only the words
that are in italics. Do not read the bolded words.
1) R E L A X T H E B O D Y :
Ta/ce a look at my hand. Take a nice deep breath and hold it. Now let it out and let your eyes close.”
“Now, take your attention to youryour eye lids. You can relax your eyelids so much that they just won’t
work. Once you are sure that you have done that, hold onto that relaxation. Now, test them to make
sure they won’t work. Good; stop testing and go deeper relaxed. Now, send that feeling ofrelaxation
down through yourbody, from the top ofyourhead to the bottom ofyourfeet. ”
“Now, l’m going to do a check to make sure you have understood and have followed my instructions. In
a moment, I am going to lift your hand and drop it. Don’thelp me Hft it. Just let it be limp and relaxed.
Let me do all of the lifting (Pick it up about 2 inches and drop it.) Good. Go deeper. ”
“Human beings do better with practice, so let’s do that one more bme and you will find that you can go
even deeper. Take your attention to your eyelids and hold onto that relaxation. One more time, test
them to make sure that they won’t work. Good; stop testing and go deeper. Now, send that feeling of
relaxation thatyou are allowing in youreyelids down across your entire body, from the top ofyourhead
to the tips ofyourtoes, as ifyou meant to go ten times deeper.”
“One more time. Take your attention to your eyelids and test them to make sure they won’t work.
Good; stop testing and go deeper relaxed. Now, send that feeling down across your body as ifyou
mean to go two times deeper.”
2) R E L A X T H E M IN D :
“Now, let’s relax your mind. Really allow your mind to relax, like your body is relaxed. In a moment, l’m
going to have you slowly and softly begin to count, starting with the number one. After each number,
letyourm ind double its relaxation. After a few numbers ( it doesn't take long), you will be able to relax
yourmind so nicely that the numbers will fade away to nothing, nothing, nothing, and disappear. Want
that-and you can have it very easily. When the numbers are gone, raise your right index tinger to let
me know how well you are doing. ”
Begin.... (Your client says, “One”) Softer... (Your client says, "Two”) Now, double yourmental
re!axation. (Then says, “Three,” and so on.) Now, let them begin to fade away as you relax yourmind.
(“Fouf) Double yourmental relaxation-fading away to noffiing, nothing, nothing.” (When numbers are
gone, say, “Good; go deeper.”)
3) T O D E E P E N T H E R E L A X A T I O N :
“ln a moment l’m going to count from one to tive; with each number that I count, allow yourselfto relax
so much (with each number), that by the time I get to tive, you will have doubled your relaxation.
One Relaxation is beginning to double.
Two Relaxation is doubling more and more.
Three Relaxation is doubling throughout your entire body.
Four Your relaxation has almost doubled.
Five The relaxation has completely doubled from the top ofyour head to the tips ofyour toes.
See notes on back of this page for special instructions.
Special Instructions
Here are some tips to help your hypnosis sessions become more successful:
• Before you use this induction procedure with anyone, make sure that you are able to read it without
sounding like you are reading it.
• Before you begin the hypnosis session, always ask, “Wouldyou like to do hypnosis with me now?”
• The only part of the induction you need to memorize is, “Take a nice deep breath and hold it. Now, let it
out and close your eyes. ” After your client has closed her eyes, you can quietly pull the script out and
readit.
• If you hold your hand in front o f your client’s face and suggest that she close her eyes as you lower it,
make sure that it does not look like you are going to touch her body when she closes her eyes (except for
where you have permission to touch). Lower your hand in front and away from her.
• Ask your client for permission to touch her hand, arm, shoulder and maybe even her head. Ask this
before the induction begins. Do not touch her until you have permission. If you do not get permission,
explain the purpose of touching and ask again. If she still does not give you permission, then do not use
touch. But, you can continue (it is verv important that you do not touch her). To continue using the
Elman-Banyan induction, you will need to leave out the part about picking up her hand and dropping it.
• Use a tone of voice consistent with the instructions.
• Instmct your client to begin the session with her legs uncrossed and her hands not touching each other.
• When doing the induction, remain observant. Walch for the signals you are asking for. If you ask her to
test her eyelids, watch for testing. Watch for the frnger signal indicating that she has lost the numbers.
• When you have given an instruction, give your client time to respond to the suggestion. For example,
when you tell her to send a feeling o f relaxation down across her body, give her a few seconds to do that.
• If your client is wearing glasses, have her remove them before the induction begins.
• If your client is wearing a dress, then ask her to use the hypno-blanket
• Advise your client that if she has to move or cough it will not affect the session.
• Time your counting with her breathing when deepening and emerging.
• Emerge your client by counting up from 1 to 5, giving her the suggestion, “And, you do feel good, don ’l
you ? ”when she opens her eyes.
(Elman Induclion Modified by Cal Banyan doc)

Elman~Banyan Induction (Large Print)
“Take look at my hand. Take a nice deep breath and hold it. N ow , let it out
and let your eyes close.”
“N ow , take your attention to your eye lids. You can relax your eyelids so
much that thev just w on’t work. Once you are sure that you have done that,
hold onto thaf relaxation. N ow , test them to make sure they w on’t work.
Good, stop testine and go deeper relaxed. N ow , send that feeling o f
relaxation down througn your body, from the top o f your head to the bottom
o f your feet.”
“N ow , I’m going to do a check to make sure you have understood and have
follow ed my instructions. In a moment, I am going to lift your hand and drop
it. D on’th e lp m e liftit. J u stle titb e lim p a n đ r e la x e d .L e tm e d o a llo fth e
lifting (Pick lt up about 2 inches and drop it.) Good. Go deeper.”
“Human beings do better with practice, so let’s do that one more time and
you w ill find that yoii can go even deeper. Take vour attention to your
evelids and hold onto that relaxation. One more tim e, test them to make sure
tnat they w on’t work. G ood, stop testing and go deeper. N ow , send that
feeling o f relaxation vou are allow ing in your eyelids down across your entire
bodv, ttom the top o f your head to the tips o f your toes, as if you meant to go
ten times deeper.
“One more time. Take your attention to your eyelids and test them to make
sure that they w on’t work. Good, stop testing anđ go deeper relaxed. N ow ,
send that feeiing down across your body, as if you mean to go two times
deeper.”
“Now, let’s relax your mind. Really allow your mind to relax, like your body
is relaxed. In a moment, I’m going to have you slow ly and softly begin to
count, starting with the number one. After each number, let your mind
double its relaxation. After a few numbers - it doesn’t take long - you w ill be
able to relax your mind so nicely that the numbers w ill fade away to nothing,
nothing, nothmg, and disappear. Want that—and you can have it very easily.
When the numbers are gone, raise your right index finger to let me know how
w ell you are doing.”
“Begin.... (Your client says, “One”) Softer... (Your client says, “Two”) Now
double your mental relaxation. (Then says, “Tnree” and so on.) N ow , let
them begin to fade away as you relax your mind. (“Four”) Double your
m entalrelaxation~fadingaw aytonothing,nothing,nothing.” (When
numbers are gone, say, ‘Tjood, go deeper. )
“In a moment, I’m going to count from one to five, with each number that I
count, allow yourself to relax so much with each number, that bv the tim e I
et to five, you w ill have doubled your relaxation. One. Relaxation is
§eginning to double.”
“One. Relaxation is beginning to double.
Two. Relaxation is doubling more and more.
Three. Relaxation is doubling throughout your entire body.
Four. Your relaxation has alm ost doubled.
Five. Ih e relaxation has com pletely doubled from the top o f your head to
tips o f your toes.”
Elman - Banyan Induction, Short Version
The following is the short version of the Elman Induction. It should only be used after
the subject has been successlully hypnotized using the full version. This is because it
suggests that the subject retum to the state of mental relaxation that was obtained during
a previous induction, when the subject relaxed her mind and made numbers disappear.
1) Relax the body:
“Take a nice deep breath a n d h o ld it. N ow ie t it o u t a n d clo seyo u r eyes. "
" / d iikeyo u to ta keyo u r attention to y o u r eyelids. You can rela xyo u r eyeiid s so m uch
th a t they/ u st won 't work. O nceyou a re su reyo u have done that, h o id onto th a t
relaxation. Now, te st them to m ake su re th ey won t’ work. Good, sto p testin g andgo
deeper relaxed. Now, sen d th a t reiaxation dow n throughyourbody,fro m th e to p o fyo u r
hea d to th e bottom o fy o u rfe e t. ’’
T m’ going to d o a check to m ake su reyo u have been fo iio w in g directions. / m’ g o in g to

iifty o u r handanddrop it. D on ’t h e/p m e iift it. T hat w ouidrem ove th e re/axation. Ju st
le t it be lim p andreiaxed. "
2) Relax the mind:
“Now, ie ty o u r body re/ax, a s i f th e lig h ts w ere o u t a n d yo u w ere as/eep a t m 'ght. L e t

yo u r m indreiax, a s i f th e num bers h a d fa d ed aw ay to nothing, nothing, nothing. "
3) To deepen the relaxation: (Use any deepening technique. Techniques that don’t
use counting seem to work best here. The following is a good example.)
“Now, ta keyo u r a tten tio n to yo u r breathing a n d ju st ie t ea ch g en t/e breathyou exha/e

ta keyo u deeper, a s i f each breath w as a step dow n a sta irca se o f relaxation. E very
breath ta kesyo u deeper. E verysound ta kesyo u deeper. E very sensatžon ta kesyo u
deeper, andfoiiow ing m y suggestions certa in iy ta kesyo u deeper. ’’
(fcIman - Banyan, Shori Version 32102)

Over Eating Rut
Patter by Calvin D. Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
You have come to a point in your life where you are ready to rid yourself o f eating in
response to emotions. You have tried it and it has not worked. At the very best, eating may
have distracted you from your emotions, but then the emotion came back again. There is no
food, candy or drink that could ever satisfy any emotion that you have ever experienced.
You tried that and it has not worked.
All o f your feelings are good. All o f your feelings are there for a reason. There is no
difference between the five outer senses: Touch, taste, sight, smell and hearing, and all o f
your inner senses that we call feelings. They are there to help you and guide you, so that you
can take care o f yourself in a way that is most beneficial to you.
Your feelings are like the gauges and lights on the dashboard o f a car. These lights and
gauges on the car are there for a reason. They help you to know what to do in order to keep it
running efficiently, so that it will run reliably for a long time. This allows you to get the
most out o f your ownership o f the car: The best performance, and value. The same goes for
you and your body. Feelings help tell you how to take the best care o f yourself.
If you treated a car the way you have been treating your body, the car would soon be in
trouble, much the same way that you are in trouble now. When the oil light lights up in a car,
the driver does not pull into a gas station and put more gas into the tank, especially if the tank
is already full. This is what you have been doing to your body.
You are here because, in the past, when you felt a feeling such as anxiety, frustration,
boredom, depression (or what ever), and you have tried to feed that feeling. You know this is
true, because you have tried it and it did not work.
When the oil light on a car goes on, it indicates that the driver needs to check the oil.
When the temperature light goes on, the driver needs to check the water in the radiator.
When the windshield wiper fluid light goes on, the driver needs to put in more fluid (and so
on). These lights are good. They need attention. Putting more gas in the car will not help
anv o f these situations.
When you feel anxious, it is a signal, to look around: Something in your life needs fixing.
When you feel depressed, it is a signal to become more effective. It’s a call to action.
When you feel frustrated, it is a signal; what you are doing is not working, try something else.
When you feel stressed out, it means that you are trying to do too much - to do it all well.
When you feel loneliness, it means that you have a healthy desire for human contact. Call
someone, write a letter, check your e-mail, join a club, or become a volunteer.
Eating does not satisfy any o f these feelings any more than putting more gas in your car will
fix an oil or temperature problem.
Now you will find it easier to know what each of your feelings are trying to indicate for you
to do. I recommend that you spend some tim e after you leave the office to write down some
o f the feelings that have "caused” you to eat in the past. Then write down what that feeling
really means. For example, “depression” means that I am feeling ineffective, helpless, or
hopeless. The right action is to look at my life and identify the area (or areas) causing m e to
feel this way. Then begin to develop a plan o f action to make things different. Finally, begin
working the “plan.” Then watch as your depression begins to fade away.
As you can now see, all o f your feelings are good - just as good as the five senses. They are
there to guide you. Somewhere you got the wires crossed. N ow we are correcting that.
The reason your wires might have gotten crossed is because some tim e ago, probably when
you were very young, you felt a feeling and you could not act in response to it. You had the
feeling, but try as you might, because o f your circumstances, you could do little or nothing
about what was causing the feeling.
So even if you did understand what the feeling was trying to tell you, there was little you
could do about it. You wound up forgetting what the feeling even meant for you to do. You
then mistakenly found temporary comfort in the distraction o f food. It didn’t really help. But
there was more food, and more feelings, and you fell into that rut. N ow you are climbing out
of that rut.
You are now ready to begin a life that is much more satisfying than the one you have been
living. N ow you are capable o f satisfying yourself like never before.
Now, when a feeling comes up again, you’ll know what to do. In fact, you will begin to look
fonvard to acting upon your feelings in a more satisfying way. For example, if you feel
lonely, you can call a friend, visit someone, or go to a place where you can meet people.
Loneliness can never be satisfied with food. You now understand that is a fact.
And, just as loneliness can not be satisfied by food, neither can stress, frustration, anxiety,
depression, boredom, or any other feeling.
You are now free from the frustrating cycle that has caused you so much distress and weight
gain. From this time onward, you will eat only when you are sure that you need re-fueling.
You will now begin to satisfy yourself in many new, more interesting and fulfilling ways.
From now on when you get a feeling, and it is not hunger, you will simply say, “STOP, this is
important. I’m giving this my 100% effort. My feelings are trying to tell me something
important.” Then listen to the feeling, and begin to act on it.
Copynght 1998 Calvin D Banyan, alt rights reserved (Patter - Over Eating
Rut wpd)
Nail Biting Rut
Patter by Calvin D. Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
You have come to a point in your life when you are ready to rid yourself o f NAIL BITfNG in
response to emotions. You have tried it and it did not make you feel better; instead, it makes
you feel worse. A t the very best, N A IL BITING may have distracted you from your feelings,
but then the emotion came back again. There is nothing that you can put into your mouth -
not your fingers, nor your finger nails - that could ever satisfy any emotion that you have ever
experienced. And most o f all, NAIL BITING won’t help. You will no longer accept a
pacifier instead o f a real solution. Pacifiers don’t work. You know this is true, because you
have tried that and it has not worked.
All o f your feelings are good. All o f your feelings are there for a reason. There is no
difference between the five outer senses: Touch, taste, sight, smell and hearing and all of
your inner senses that we call feelings. They are there to help you and guide you, so that you
can take care o f yourself in a way that is most beneficial to you.
Your feelings are like the gauges and lights on the dashboard of a car. These lights and
gauges on the car are there for a reason. They help you to know what to do in order to keep it
running efficiently, so that it will run reliably for a long time. Those lights allow you to get
the most out o f your ownership o f the car: The best performance and value. The same goes
for you and your body. Feelings help tell you how to take the best care ofyourself.
If you treated a car the way you have been treating your body, the car would soon be in
trouble, much the same way that you are in trouble now. When the oil light lights up in a car,
the driver does not pull into a gas station and put more gas into the tank, especially if the tank
is already full. This is what you have been doing to your body.
You are here because, in the past, when you felt a feeling such as anxiety, frustration,
boredom, depression (or whatever), you have chewed your nails in response to that feeling.
You know this is true, because you have tried it and it did not work.
When the oil light on a car goes on, it indicates that the driver needs to check the oil.
When the temperature light goes on, the driver needs to check the water in the radiator.
When the windshield wiper fluid light goes on, the driver needs to put in more fluid (and so
on). These lights are good. They need attention. Putting more gas in the car will not help
anv o f these situations.
When you feel arođous, it is a signal, to look around: Something in your life needs fixing.
When you feel depressed, it is a signal to become more effective. It’s a call to action.
When you feel frustrated, it is a signal; what you are doing is not working, try something else.
When you feel stressed out, it means that you are trying to do too much - to do it all well.
W hen you feel loneliness, it means that you have a healthy desire for human contact. Call
someone, write a letter, check your e-mail, join a club, or become a volunteer.
Putting your fingers in your mouth does not satisfy any o f these feelings any more than
putting more gas in you car will fix an oil or temperature problem.
A s you can now see, all o f your feelings are good - ju st as good as the five senses. They are
there to guide you. Somewhere you got the wires crossed. N ow we are correcting that.
The reason your wires might have gotten crossed is because some time ago, probably when
you were very young, you felt a feeling and you could not act in response to it. You had the
feeling; but (try as you might), because o f your circumstances, you could do little or nothing
about what was causing the feeling.
So even if you did understand what the feeling was trying to tell you, there was little you
could do about it. You wound up forgetting what the feeling even meant for you to do. You
then mistakenly found temporaiy comfort in the distraction o f NAIL BITING. It didn’t really
help. But you went on distracting yourself until your NAILS were gone; then more feelings,
and you fell into that rut. Now you are climbing out o f that rut.
You are now ready to begin a life that is much more satisfying than the one you have been
living. N ow you are capable o f satisfying yourself like never before.
Now, when a feeling comes up again, you’ll know what to do. In fact, you will begin to look
fonvard to acting upon your feelings in a more satisfying way. For example, if you feel
lonely, you can call a friend, visit someone, or go to a place where you can meet people.
Loneliness can never be satisfied with N A IL BITING. You now understand that is a fact.
And just as loneliness can not be satisfied by NAIL BITING, neither can stress, finstration,
anxiety, depression, boredom, or any other feeling.
You are now free from the frustrating cycle that has caused you so much distress and to bite
your nails. From this time onward, you will no longer BITE YOUR NAILS. The very act of
putting your fingers in your mouth will remind you that your feelings are trying to tell you
something. The very act o f putting your fingers in your mouth will remind you to straighten
out your arm, and take back control o f your life. I’m giving this my 100% effort. My
feelings are trying to tell me something important. Then listen to the feeling, and begin to act
on it.
(NailBitingRutPatter vvpd)
Stopping Premature Ejaculation
By Calvin D. Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
As you go deeper and deeper relaxed with every breath that you exhale, the subconscious
part o f your mind is focusing on my words. As you focus your attention on my words,
your unconscious mind is recording them to be used by you, for you.
The subconscious and unconscious parts of your mind leam rapidly. Somewhere in your
past, perhaps it was a moment that you were not consciously aware of, but the
subconscious and unconscious parts of your mind accepted the idea that ejaculating
quickly was in your best interest. This might even have been true at one time.
For example, most young boys have had the experience of masturbating. Masturbating is
an enjoyable experience. And, of course it is an experience that young boys and men
have in private. As a young man, you may have had this experience. Most men have.
Perhaps, back then, the more quickly you could ejaculate the better. Perhaps, privacy was
not assured. But in any case, for one reason or another, there came a time when the idea
or the thought that it was in your best interest to ejaculate quickly was accepted. Perhaps
you had an experience when, if you did not ejaculate quickly, you would not have the
opportunity to ejaculate at all.
After that, quick ejaculation became an unconscious habit. We are all creatures o f habit.
And, with repetition we can easily be conditioned. Conditioning works especially well
when training the unconscious parts o f the mind. This part o f our mind controls our
automatic body functions, such as breathing, heart rate and ejaculation, among other
things.
There are mountains o f scientific research demonstrating how this is true. One o f the
very earliest examples o f this kind o f autonomic conditioning is called Classical
Conditioning. It was discovered many years ago, when a Russian Scientist, named Dr.
Ivan Pavlov, was doing research on the digestive system. In order to do his research, he
used saliva ffom dogs that he kept near his laboratory.
Day after day, Dr. Pavlov would go to the kennels where the dogs were and collect
samples o f saliva from the dogs by giving them small morsels, which wou!d cause the
dogs to salivate. After a while an interesting thing began to occur. Pretty soon, the dogs
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began to salivate before he gave them the morsels. What happened was, the dogs could
hear him coming down the hall, and because the dogs have excellent hearing, they were
able to distinguish his footsteps from all other footsteps. The dogs became conditioned to
hearing his footsteps, and getting the morsel o f food, which caused the salivation. After
some practice, the association o f the sound o f Dr. PavlovOs boots, and the salivation
became strongly connected in the nervous systems o f the animals. The unconscious
response of salivation became automatic. Humans and dogs canOt salivate on purpose.
This idea o f conditioning works for all creatures with central nervous systems. Volumes
and volumes o f scientific research have shown that it works just as well, if not better, with
human beings.
There is an interesting aspect to Classical Conditioning. That is, this conditioned

response is not under the control of the conscious mind. It happens below consciousness
in what we call the subconscious and unconscious fimctions o f the mind.
The good news is that, just as the automatic fimctions o f the mind (also known as the
unconscious fimctions o f the mind) can be trained by Classical Conditioning, they are
always ready to be retrained.
There are two ways that the automatic ftmctions can be trained. We are going to use both
ways so that you will have rapid and long lasting success.
First, we are making this a long lasting change to interrupt the existing association. If
Pavlov stopped feeding the morsels to the dogs, then in a short while, the conditioned
response of salivation to the sound o f his boots, quickly fades. This leave them open to
new conditioning, like to a bell, a light, or other situation.
In the past, for whatever reason, your nervous system has been conditioned to ejaculation
before a satisfying period o f intercourse has occurred. It does not matter why this started.
It only matters that we know why this happens and how we can stop it.
We are now creating a new automatic response to sexual acts that will help you to
automatically last a long, long time. This is how we will do it.
(Notes to the therapist: There are three important ways that you can leam....following
instructions, thinking about things in your mind, and feeling. For example: The next part
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requires finger response o f either a “yes” or “no” response.)
I would like you to prepare yourself for a very sad experience. As you relax, prepare for
a heaviness o f emotions to move throughout your body as you begin to react to the very
sad event that I am about to describe.
Most people like cute and adorable puppies. If that is true for you, raise your QyesO
finger. (If this is not tme, come up with another lovable animal or object.)
I would now like you to think back to a time when you saw a very cute and adorable
puppy. Now, think about or pretend in your mind, that you could have that puppy with
you now. How nice it is to play with that puppy. IsnDt that a nice thought? That
puppyOs name is Max. IsnDt that nice?
Now, imagine what it would be like ifyou got some very bad news. Max is ill. There is
nothing that the veterinarian can do to save him. Max is going to die. Allow yourself to
feel sad for poor Max. Can you now feel sad for poor Max?
This feeling will occur to you any time you think o f Max, the puppy dog. You will find it
distracting and saddening. Every time you think o f Max, the dead puppy, when you are
involved in a sexual act, the sadness will block your ability to ejaculate. The sadness will
be sufficient to block your ability to ejaculate for about two or three minutes. Each time
you think QMaxO it will block your ability to ejaculate. This will break the association
between sexual acts and ejaculating before you ready. Ifthe feeling comes back before
you want to ejaculate, all you will have to do is think or say the name of that dead puppy,
Max, and it will work for another two or three minutes.
Your erections will always remain maximally strong. Whenever you use the dead
puppyDs name, your erections will remain strong.
From now on, whenever you want to prevent yourself from ejaculating, all you will have
to do is think of Max. The thought ofthat dead puppy will block your ability to ejaculate
for two or three minutes. This will recondition your automatic function, so that you can
enjoy the sexual activity for a long, long time. #axO will bring you maximum
enjoyment. And, your erections will always remain strong.
As I said before, the old, now useless response has been replaced by a new response. You
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will last a long, long time. This has come about in two ways.
The first, is by interrupting the association. Thinking o f Max will always do this for you.
As a matter o f fact, very soon just the word DmaxD will allow you to get maximum
enjoyment from your sexual activity. The word DmaxD or DmaximumD will constantly
remind the unconscious mind to block ejaculation and help you to get the maximum
enjoyment from your sexual intercourse. You will have maximum erections, and
maximum staying power; maximum enjoyment.
The second way that we are reconditioning you to last a long, long time, has already been
accomplished; because in hypnosis, your mind leams rapidly. Your subconscious and
unconscious functions o f the mind have already recorded this information. The change
has already begun.
It is the nature o f human beings to continue to improve with practice. Each time you use
OmaxO and think about the dead puppy, you will be increasing your ability to go as long
as you want, before ejaculating.
The new response o f lasting a long, long time will be quickly established. You will now
be able to go as long as you want before ejaculating. Soon, the old will be replaced by
the new, wonderful ability o f lasting a long, long time. Very soon you will not have to
think about Max, the dead puppy ever again.
(Now you can go onto Red, Red, Red. I like to make a connection between the color red
and DRed MaxD. Seems to go together and connect quite easily.)
Copyright © Calvin Banyan 1998 All rights reserved.

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The Three M ental Pow ers U sed to L ocate F eeling o f the P ast
There are three important things that we can do together whenever we do hypnosis.
First, I can talk and you can simply follow instructions; and by doing that, you have
already created a nice level o f hypnotic relaxation.
Second, you can think about things that I suggest to you. For example, I'd like you to
now think about the perfectly formed leaf o f a tree. Let it be green like spring time,
and with a single drop o f moisture upon it, like a warm and gentle rain had passed by.
Third, we can focus on feelings. The interesting thing is that most people go through
their lives totally unaware o f many o f the feelings and sensations that they are
experiencing or have ever experienced. But in this state, you can become aware o f
those feelings ju st because I suggest it.
For example, even though you might not have been thinking about it a moment ago,
because I suggest it, your mind becomes aware o f the feeling o f the shoes on your feet.
Perhaps it is the weight, or the fit o f the shoes, but in any case, it is quite different
from the sensation that you might remember o f your bare feet against the cold or wet
ground.
And now, because I suggest it, your mind goes to the feeling o f your fingertips
pressing against the fabric o f your pants. Perhaps it is the texture, or the pressure, or
the temperature.
And now, simply because I suggest it, your mind goes to the feeling o f the chair
pushing up into your back, which reminds you that you are safe, secure and
continually relaxing with every natural breath that you exhale.
And now, your attention goes to a feeling inside yourself that you don’t like. A feeling
that has everything to do with why you came here today... You have tried ignoring it,
distracting yourself from it, and even swallowing it away. Now, you are becoming
even more aware o f it. You may even be aware o f where it is in your body...
(Three mental Powers to Locate Feelings)

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Four Important Things We Do In H ypnosis - Deepening and Convincer Patter
There are four important things that we do whenever we do hypnosis. First, you can just listen to
my voice and follow my instructions. By doing that, you have created this level o f ongoing
relaxation.
Second, you can imagine or think about anything I suggest to you. For example, right now I
would like you to think about or imagine a crystal ball, with a beautiful red rose inside o f it.
The third important thing is that I can suggest feelings to you, and they will instantly come to
you. From now on, for the rest of this session, you don’t even have to try. The subconscious
mind is working with us and will respond automatically. Watch how well this works. Even
though you might not have been thinking about it a minute ago, merely because I suggest it and
because you are in hypnosis, you are compelled to become aware o f the feeling of the shoes upon
your feet. It might be the weight, or the fit, or any comfort or discomfort there. And now, even
though you might not have been thinking about it a minute ago, suddenly you become aware of
the feeling of your hands resting against your legs. It could be the pressure, the texture, or the
temperature there. (Or you could have directed their attention to the feeling o f their clothing
against their skin.) And, now you become aware o f the feeling of the chair pushing up into your
back, taking you deeper into a hypnotic relaxation, and reminding you that you are safe and
secure in my office.
The fourth thing we do is that from time to time, I will suggest memories to you and they will
automatically come to you. In a moment, I am going to suggest some pleasant memories to you,
only pleasant memories. As each memory comes to you, I would like you to let me know by
raising your right index finger (usually the “yes” finger).
Now, your subconscious is ready to provide you with a pleasant memory. It is a memory of
being a child, on or around a bicycle. And, as that pleasant memory comes to mind, the finger
raises.
Now, another pleasant memory comes to mind. It is a pleasant time when you were on or around
a swing. It could have been your swing, a friend’s swing or even a swing in a park or at school.
And, now another memory comes to mind, a pleasant time around water. It could have been a
pool, a puddle, a creek or a sprinkler. As that memory comes to mind, the “yes” finger raises
again. .
® 1998 Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc. Calvin Banyan
(Paner-4 important things we do m hypnosis wpd)
Patter Script for Induction by Post-Hypnotic Suggestion
“The next tim ey o u d o hypnosis with me o r a n yo n eyo u tru sty o u w ill f in d th a ty o u g o into
hypnosis quickly a n d m ore easily than the tim e before. A s a m atter o ffact, the next tim e
w e do hypnosis together a ll I w ill have to do is lift u p y o u r hand and drop it a n d y o u w ill
im m ediately return to this level o f hypnosis o r deeper. I fth a t is alright with y o u let me
know by gen tly n o d d in g y o u r head.”
Copyright © Calvin D. Banyan. All rights Reserved.

Take the High Road To Success
Calvin Banyan, MA, CI, BCH
Before you begin using the “script” that is to follow, please read these comments. This is more
than a script or hypnosis patter, as you will leam when you really begin to understand how you
can use it.
Since 5-PATH is a universal approach to doing hypnotherapy, it seemed that it would be

extremely useful if a universal approach to Phase I, the Direct Suggestion Phase, could be
developed. This script is virtually universal, because it is extremely flexible. In actuality, there
could be no such thing as a completely universal script, one that would work in eveiy case; but I
believe this approach comes pretty close. It uses the idea o f coming to a “fork in the road,” to
represent a life-changing choice. This idea idiom is found in almost every culture in one form or
another. It also uses the familiar idea o f a “High Road” and a “Low Road” o f which the “High
Road” is universally accepted as being the preferable choice, which may require some effort, but
well worth it.
This approach to a Direct Suggestion (Phase I) session will be particularly effective for those
who want to change behavior (as opposed to mood or phobia problems; but can be used for this
also). The behaviors could include smoking, over-eating, drug or alcohol abuse, even things like
shyness, or any other self-defeating behavior.
Also, this script can be followed by additional patter, or a more precise patter containing
suggestions for the specific change that your client wants to make (if you deem it necessary or
useful). In that case, this script can be considered as a way to prepare the client for maximum
suggestibility for the coming suggestions.
When using this script, I recommend that the experienced therapist use it mostly in principle, and
freely vary from it. Freely adapt it to your client’s needs and personality (and your style o f
delivery), changing wording as you see fit, to accomplish the goal. The goal here, is to make the
client highly suggestible for suggestions associated to the change they want to make. This is
vividly accomplished by way of comparing what they have been doing, along with its outcome
(i.e., the difficulties that smoking causes), and the likely outcome o f making the change (i.e.
better health as a nonsmoker).
In the script, doing the easy thing (taking the Low Road), is associated with ultimate failure,
while putting some effort into making the change (taking the High Road) is associated with
ultimate success and achievement.
When you take your client down the Low Road, remember to have her become aware o f the
people and objects associated with that low and painful road. For example, if working with a
smoker, as you go down the bad road o f smoking, have her look at all of the cigarette butts and
ashtrays along the way, so that the emotional pain o f the Low Road experience becomes
associated with those items. If you are working with a substance abuser, have her look at all of
the paraphemalia and drug-using friends that are all along that road. This is useful because it
helps your client to break free from associating pleasure with these items and individuals. Then
they can begin to associate pleasure and success with the people and things on the High Road on
the right, as you point them out.
The High Road To Success
T odayyou are standing a t a /o rk in th e ro a d o fy o u r iife . You have com e to a decision p o in t.

Shouldyou continue to do w hatyou have been doing w ith reg a rd to _____________________?
You th in k about a /ith ep ro b iem s a n dconcerns th a t__________ b rin g sin to y o u rh fe .

(Mention some of the reasons your client told you she vvants to make the change).
The ro a d on th e ie ft is a s/o w dow nw ardroad. I t is ea sy to ta ke th e L ow Road. You cou/dJust

co a std o w n it. I t is th ep a th o fd o in g w hatyou have been d o in g fo rso Zong. B ut, itis a p a th o f
m isery. The ro a d on th e rig h tg o es upw ard. I t w i//ta k e som e e jfo rt to ta ke th e H igh Road. B ut,
it is th e way offreedom , hea/th a n d /ife . I t is th e ro a d o f being in contro/ o fy o u r hfe. I t is th e
Ilig h R oad To Success/
L ook a t th e ro a d on th e /e ft. I t m eans carrying w ith yo u a/Z o f theprob/em s a sso cia ted w ith
continuing to ________ , even /onger th a n yo u a/ready have. T hink o f how b a d ________m akes
y o u fe e /. R eal/y a //o w yo u rse/fto fe e /th e w eight o f the burden o f th is se /fd e stru c tiv e behavior.
F ee/yo u r desire to be fre e fro m a // o f the ill e ffe cts o f h u rtin g yo u rselfth is way.
Tm g o in g to countfrom I to 3, a n d w e a reg o in g to g o dow n th a t iow r o a d o fbeing o u t o f controi

onem oreyear. I, 2, 3 / T hereyouare, a fte ro n e m o re y e a ro fb e in g o u to fc o n tro /—o fb e in g
m iserab/e becauseyou have co n tin u ed to _______________________________ . Y o u fe e l th e
w eight o f the disappointm ent in y o u rse lf You n o tice th e th in g s th a t /itte r th isp a in fu i w ay o f
Z iving(mention paraphemalia, such as ashtrays, bottles, etc.) (If it seems appropriate to the
issue, point out the people associated with the problem, the bad influences.) There is a m irror
th ere andyou se e y o u rse /fandyou a sk y o u rse /f “Am Ip /e a se d w ith m yse/f? Am Ih a p p y to have
'anotheryear o f_________ ? D o I fe e / b ette r having m ade th is decision? D o Ife e /h e a lth ie r o r
w orse? D o I /ook a n d fe e l b etter about m y se /f o rn o t? D o I fe e / sm arter? FeeZ th e
disappointm entyou have in y o u rse žffo r continuing to __________________ fo r a n o th eryea r/ ’’
Tm g o in g to countfrom I to 3 a ndw e a re g o in g to g o dow n to th e 3 y e a rp o in t on th is ro a d o f

b e in g fre e o f___________ to th e ye a r_______ / / 2, 3 / T hereyou are, a fte r 3 m ore yea rs o f
being on th e low road. B rin g fo u rth a /Z o fth e e ffe cts o f (hat choice/ R ea //y a //o w y o u rse /f(o fe e /
th e e ffe cts o fth a t decision. YoufeeZ___________ . Y o u feeih o p e/ess. N ow /ook aroundyou
andyou see a /io fth e (mention items associated with the problem, i.e., ashtrays, or candy
wrappers, etc). Those are th e th in g s th a t have done th is to yo u . So, yo u can t’sta n d th e m any
m ore. M aybeyou even ha te th e sig h t o f (hem. Ifth e r e a rep eo p le a sso cia ted w ith doing th is
_____________ , are th ey rea //y yo u rfrien d s? D o th ey rea //y care aboutyou? A gain, yo u ask
y o u rse /f “Am Ip le a sed w ith m y se /ffo r___________ fo r 3 m oreyears? D o Ih a v e th e rig h t to
do th is to m yself? Am Ih e a /th ie rfo r m aking th is choice? jIo w is it a ffectin g m y h fe? Is m yh fe
b etter o r w orse? D o Ife e lsm a rte rfo r__________________ fo r an a d d itio n a i3 yea rs? ”
A nd now Ico u n tfro m I to 3 a n d w em ovedow n to th e IO -yearpoint on th is /ow ro a d o f

continuing to th eyea r________ . / 2, 3 / T hereyou are, a fte r 1 0 m oreyears o f hurting
y o u rse /fby_____________ . O nce again, b rin g fo u rth a // o f (he cum u/ative e jfe cts o f (hat
choice/ R ea//y a llo w yo u rse/f(o fe e / th e e ffe cts o f (hat decision, o f continuing to _______fo r 10
m oreyears. Y oufee/ _____________ . Y o u fee/m o re hope/ess. A gain, yo u /o o k aroundyou and
y o u se e a //o fth e (mention items associated with the problem, i.e., ashtrays, or candy wrappers,
etc). Those are the things th a t have done th is to yo u . So, y o u can ’t standthem any m ore. M aybe
yo u even hate th esig h t o f (hem. I f (here a rep eo p /e a sso cia ted w ith doing th is_____________ ,
a re th ey rea lly y o u r Jrien d s? Đ o th ey rea //y care aboutyo u ? ffo w d o yo u fe e / about them ?
There is a m irror th ere a n d yo u lo o k a ty o u rse lf Vou a s/cyo u rse/f “Am Ip /e a se d w ith m yse/ffo r
___________ fo r JO m oreyears? Is m y /i/e b etter o r w orse? Đ o Ife e Z in te/Z ig en tfo r________
fo r an a d d itio n a l10yea rs? ” R ea //y fe e /th e consequences o f rem aining on th is low b u t easy
road.
A s Ic o u n t back from S to Iy o u com e a/Z th e way back to th e beginning o f (hefo rk in th e road. 5,

4, 3, 2, I. And, y o u fe e lb e tte rb e c a u se n o n e o fth a th a sh a p p e n e d y e ta n d itd o e sn 'th a v e to ...
Vou have d ecid ed n o t to ie t th a t happen to yo u . You have d ecid ed to ta ke th e U igh R o a d o f
Success on th e rig h t/ You know th a t it w i/lta ke a little m ore effo rt, b u t now you know in yo u r
h ea rt a n d m in d th a t it is w orth it. You have d ecidedto sta rt ta kin g b etter care o fy o u rse lf/ In
fa c t, yo u have a/ready /e ft th e o /d w ay b y com ing here today/ You a re a/ready ta k in g y o u rfrst
step s tow ardfreedom a n d su ccess on th e ro a d on th e right.
L e t s’ see how th is new decision to ____________ fo r Zife a ffectsyo u . You th in k about a llth e
g o o d p o sitive changes th a t b ecom ingfreefrom th e se/f-d estru ctive h a b ith a s brought in to yo u r
life / B eing fre e fro m a /l thoseprob/em s~ the fe e/in g o f rea //y being in co n tro la n d confdant.
You are now on th ep a th on th e rig h t, it m eans success a n d a fe e/in g o f energy and optim ism .
Im g o in g to countfrom I to 3, a n d w e are going to g o dow n th a t r o a d o fhaving m ade th is

ch angefor oneyear. 1 ,2 ,3 / T h e rey o u a rea ftero n eyea ro fb ein g in co n tro l. Y oufeelgood,
g rea t/ You have done ity o u a re a su ccess andyou n e v e rfe /t b ette r a n dyou areg o in g to fe e /
even b e tte ry e t/ Ih e re is a m irro r th ere andyou se e y o u rse lfandyou askyourse/f, “Am Ip /e a se d
w ith m yse/f? Am Ih a p p y to have a cco m p /ish ed m yg o a /fo ra w ho/eyear? (If it seems
appropriate to the problem, point out the things/items and people associated with this new way o f
living and being.) Đ o Ife e žb e tte r having m ade th is healthy decision? D o Ife e lsm a rte r” F eel
th ep rid e andhealth th a t is in sid e o fyo u . fVas it w orth it? D oyou w ant to continue to sta y on
th e B ig h R oad o fS u ccess? ”
fm g o in g to countfrom J to 3 a n d w e a reg o in g to g o dow n to th e 3 y ea rp o in t on th is ro a d o f

being su ccessfu l in m aking th is change to th e yea r______ / 1 ,2 ,3 / There yo u are a fte r 3 m ore
yea rs o f m ccess, o f reaping th e rew ards o f m aking thisperm anent change in how you
____________ . F iveyea rs o f being in contro/ anden erg ized / B ring fo rth rig h t now a llo f the
effects o f that ch o ice/ R ea //y a //o w y o u rse /ftofe e /th e effects o f th a t decžsion. Youfeelstro n g .
E verything in yo u r /ife is b e tte rfo r having m ade thisperm anent change. E nfoy th efee/in g o f
know ing th a tyo u have m ade aperm anent change, know ing th a tyo u w illn everg o b a ckto th e o ld
way.
A n d n o w Ico u n tfro m I to 3 a n d w e m ove down to th e JO -yearpoint on th is M gh R o a d o f

Success to th eyea r_______ . I, 2, 3, a n d th ereyo u are a fte r 10 m oreyears ofm aking th isg o o d
a n d p o sitive change in y o u r life . B rin g fo rth a ll o f the effects o f th a t sm art choice/ R eally a//ow
y o u rse lftofe e l th e effects o f th a t decžsion, o f continuing to be in controlfo r 10 m oreyears.
_________________ is now sim p /y som ething th a tyo u u sed to do. I t was a m istake to have ever
done it, but now you are fre e a n d w i/irem ain fre e fo r th e rest o fy o u r h fe / You /ook in to th a t
m irror one m ore tim e and a sk y o u rse lf “Am Ip lea sed w ith m y se /ffo r__________________ fo r
10 m oreyears? JV ou/dIever g o back to th a t o /d bad h a b it o f hurting m y se /fby
________________ ? Am Ig /a d th a t Ih a v e m ade thisperm anent change? A change m adefor
good? O fcourse you a ref
J c o u n tb a c k to J a n d y o u a re b a c k in th e y e a r___________________, 5 ,4 ,3 ,2 ,/. Y o u n o w h a vea
n e w fo u n d le v e io fcer(ainty th a tyo u a re ready—rea iiy ready to m ake thžs ch angei You are now
ready to acceptpow erfuihppnotic suggestions to h eip to keep yo u on th e ro a d o n th e rig h t, th e
Ifig h R oad ofSuccess.
N ow, yo ursubconscious m in d fu liy accepts th e suggestion th a ty o u w iiln ever_______________

again. (Or, “From now on you w ill_____________________________.) T h iskeep syo u on th e
ffig h Jto a d o fS u ccess on th e right. (Repeat and add benefits that your client expects to receive
from making this change. For example, "Now th a tyo u have d ecid ed to becom e a non-sm oker
fo rg o o d , yo u w iiifn d ...i)
This script can then be followed up with a short patter script or direct drive technique, etc. It
really prepares clients for lurther suggestions or procedures such as Forgiveness Therapy or Parts
Mediation Therapy, that help your clients make the changes that they want to make. We often
use this script for smoking and then follow it up with another smoking cessation script.
Here is an example o f how the approach can be used when working with smoking cessation.
Alterations and adaptations will be in bold (bolding o f text may not show up if you are not using
Microsoft Word to view this file).
The High Road To Success As A Nonsmoker
T odayyou are standing a t a fo rk in th e ro a d o fyo u r h fe. You have com e to a d ecisio n p o in t.

Shouldyou continue to do w hatyo u have been doing w ith reg a rd to sm oking?
You th in k about a ii theprobiem s a n d concerns th a t sm oking brings in to y o u r hfe.

(Mention some o f the reasons your client told you she wants to make the change).
You think abouthow it has robbedyou o f money, energy, heaith, andhaving a sense o f
controioveryouriife.
The roa d o n th e ie ft is a slo w dow nw ardroad. J t is easy to ta ke th e Low Road. You c o u ld ju st

co a st dow n it. J t is th ep a th o f doing w hatyou have been d o in g fo rso iong, by continuing to
smoke. B ut, it is a p a th o f m isery. The roadon th e rig h tg o es upw ard. I t w iilta ke som e e jfo rt to
ta ke th e ffig h Road. B ut, it is th e way offreedom , heaith and iife . J t is th e ro a d o f b ein g in
co n tro l o fyo u r life . J t is th e ffig h R oad To S u ccessi I iis th e roadyou have decided to take as a
nonsmoker.
L ook a t th e ro a d on th e le ft. J t m eans carrying w ithyou a ll o f (heproblem s a sso cia ted w ith
continuing to sm oke even longer thanyou already have. T hink o fh o w ba d sm oking m akesyou
fe e l. R eally a lIo w yo u rself(o fe e lth e w eight o f (he burden o f (his se lfd e stru c tiv e behavior. F eel
yo u r d esire to b efreefro m a ll o f(h e ill ejfects o fh u rtin g y o u rse lfby sm oking andtakingpoison
intoyourbody.
Tm g o in g to countfrom / to 3, and we areg o in g to g o dow n th a t low ro a d o fbeing o u t o f control

onem oreyear. / 2, 3 / T hereyouare, a fte r one m orey ea r o f being o u t o f control—o f being
m iserable becauseyou have continuedto sm oke cigarettes. You fe e l th e w eight o f (he
disappointm ent in y o u rse lf You notice the things th a t litte r th isp a in fu l way o f iiving—fiJ th y
ashtrays, burns in fabrics andfurniture, an dth esm elll Fou see a road littered(vith cigarette
butts, an d cartons orpacks ofcigarettes. Fou see them an d they m akeyou feelth is wqy.
(mention the associated paraphemalia, such as ashtrays, bottles, etc.) Fou see otherst/udyou
know, who sm oke, m qyhe i t is th e ones ihatjrou have sm ohed m th, o r others th atyou have
seen huddled together outside 0/ buildings o r stu ck in th e sm ohing section 0/ restaurants, and
th e sig h t o/th em m akesyou fe e tsorry fo r them . lh e y are stu ck on th e Low Jtoadofbeing a
sm oker. (If it seems appropriate to the issue, point out the people associated with the problem,
the bad influences.) There is a m irror th ere a n dyou se e y o u rse lfandyou a skyo u rself, “A m I
p ie a se d w ith m yself? A m Ih a p p y to have a n o th eryea r o f 'smoking cigareites? D o ffe e i b etter
having m ade th is decision? D o Ife e lh e a lth ie r o r w orse? D o Ilo o k a n d fe e l b etter about m y se lf
o r n o t? D o Ife e lsm a rte r? ” F e elth e disappointm entyou have in y o u rse !ffo r continuing to
smokefo r a n o th eryea rl
Im g o in g to countfrom I to 3 a n d we a re g o in g to g o dow n to th e S y e a rp o in t on th is ro a d o fa
sm oker to th e ye a r______/ / 2, 31 Ih e re y o u are a fte r S m oreyears o f being on th e Low R oad.
B rin g fo rth a ll o f the e ffects o f (hat ch o ice i B eaIIy a IIo w yo u rse(fto fe e lth e effects o f that
decision. Y o u feeI unhealthy, worried aboutth e effects o f'putting tohaccopoison in you r
m outh everydqy. Y o u feelh o p eless. N ow lo o k aroundyou andyou see a llo f those cartons and
packs o f cigarettes th atyou have hought, th e dirty stinking ashtrays, thehutts, thesm eiion
yo u r ciothes and hands andface, andyou hate i t because it brings in a ll o f these terrible
feelin g s offeelin g ou t o f control, a victim o f tohacco m arketing. (Mention items associated
with the problem, i.e., ashtrays, or candy wrappers, etc). Those are th e th in g s th a t have done th is
to yo u . So, y o u can t’ sta n d them any m ore. M aybeyou even h a te th e sig h t o f them. Fou see
others on thepath, and they iook terribie an dth eyfeeiterribie. They are outsiders. S ocietyis
pushing them out, because they seem so ignorantor stuhhorn and they smelL N oonetvants
them aropnd th eir children, o rto hearoundthem sociaIIy o r even a t tvork hecause they smelL
Fou m qy have sm oked tvith som e o f thesepeople. A re th ey rea lly y o u r frien d s? D o th eyrea lIy
ca re aboutyo u ? A gain, yo u a sky o u rse !f "Am Ip le a se d Wžth m yselffo r sm okingfor 5 m ore
yea rs? D o Ih a v e th e rig h t to do th is to m yself? Am Ih ea lth žer fo r sm oking? N ow is it a ffectin g
m y life ? Is m y life b etter o r w orse? D o Ife e lsm a rte rfo r sm okingfbr an ad d itio n a l J yea rs? ”
A n d n o w I countfrom I to 3 and w em ove dow n to th e IO -yearpoint on th is Io w ro a d o f

co n tin u in g to th eyea r________ . I 2, 31 T h ereyo u a rea fter 1 0 m o reyea rso fh u rtin g yo u rseIf
b y smoking. O nce again, b rin g fo rth a ll o f the cum ulative e ffects o f (hat ch o icel R eaIIy aIIow
y o u rse !fto fe e l th e e ffects o f that decžsžon, o f continuing to sm o kefo r 10 m oreyears. Youfe e l
tired an d tvorried ahoutyour health. Y o u fe e lm ore hopeless. A gain, yo u lo o k aroundyou an d
yo u see a ll o f the things th atare associated tvith m akingyou fe e lth is tvqy, th e ashtrqys, th e
cigareite butts, thepack andcartons o f’tobaccopoison in theform ofcigarettes (mention items
associated with the problem, i.e., ashtrays, or candy wrappers, etc). Those are th e things th a t
have done th is to yo u . So, yo u can t’ sta n d th em any m ore. M aybe, yo u even ha te th e sig h t o f
them . Ju stlookin gatallth atstu ffassociatedw žth sm okingm akesyoufeeIthis way. Fousee
th e others wfio are on th e road ofbein g ou t o f controiwith smoking. M qyheyouw ishyou
could heip them. Som e m ay befam ily orfriends. N otice, how seeing them sm oke m akesyou
fe e l ahoutcigarettes. There is a m irror th ere andyou lo o k a ty o u rse !f You a sky o u rse lf ‘Am I
p le a se d w ith m yselffo r sm oking fo r 1 0 m oreyears? Is m y h fe b etter o r w orse? D o Ife e l
in te llig e n tfo r being a sm oker fo r an a d d itio n a l I0 yea rs? ” R eally fe e ž th e conseguences o f
rem aining on th is low b u t easy road.
A s Ic o u n t backfrom J to I, y o u com e a /l th e w ay back to th e beginning o fth e fo rk in th e road.
J, 4, 3, 2 ,1 And, y o u fe e lb e tte rb e c a u se n o n e o fth a th a sto h a p p e n y e ta n d itd o e sn 'th a v e to ...
You have d ecid eđ n o t to ie t th a t happen to yo u . You have d ecid ed to ta ke th e U igh jR o a d o f
Success on th e rig h ti You know th a t i t w iiita k e a littie m ore effo rt, b u t now you know in y o u r
heart a n d m in d th a t i t is w orth it. You have d ecid ed to sta rt ta kin g b etter care o fy o u rse ifi In
fa c t, y o u have aiready ie ft th e o id w ay b y com ing h ere to d a yi You a re aiready ta k in g y o u rfrst
step s tow ardfreedom a n d su ccess on th e ro a d o n th e rig h t a s a nonsm okerforgoodi
L et s’ see how th is new d ecisio n to befreefrom th e sm oking h abitfor iife a ffectsyo u . You th in k
about a lith e g o o d p o sitive changes th a t b ecom ingfreefrom th e se ifd e stru c tiv e h a b it has
brought in to y o u r iife i B e in g fre e fro m a ii thoseprobiem s—th e fe e lin g o f reaiiy being in co n tro i
a n d co n fd en t. You a re now on th ep a th on th e rig h t, i t m eans su ccess a n d a fe e iin g o f energy
andoptim ism . You have m ore energy. Y ou feeim ore in controL F oufeeim ore seifcon fden t,
even sm arter. You are fre e o fa ii o fth e worries, costs andinconveniences th a t cigarettes
cause.
Fm g o in g to countfrom I to 3, a n d we a reg o in g to g o dow n th a t ro a d o fb e in g afree,

nonsmoker. O fhaving m ade th is healthy change fo r oneyear. I, 2, 3 i T hereyou a rea ftero n e
yea r o f being in controi, ofbein g a nonsmoker. You fe elg o o d , g re a ti You have done iti You
are a success andyou n ever fe it b ette r andyou a reg o in g to fe e i even b e tte ry e ti T here is a
m irror th ere andyou s e e y o u rse ifandyou a sk y o u rse if “Am Ip ie a se d w ith m yseif? A m I happy
to h a vea cco m p lžsh ed m yg o a io fb ein g a n o n sm o kerfb ra w hoieyear? There a re som e netv
thingsin you r life becauseyou are m ore active an d energetic. Fou are spending m ore and
m ore tim e m th fien d s th a ta re on th is B igh B oadof'success. Fou have inspiredothers to
m akethisgoodhealthy choice. (If it seems appropriate to the problem, point out the
things/items and people associated with this new way o f living and being.) Đ o lfe e i b e tte r
having m ade th is h ea lth y d ecision? Đ o Ife e ism a rte r? F e e ith e p rid e andheaith th a t is in sid e o f
you. fV as it w orth žt? D o y o u w ant to continue to sta y on th e H igh R o a d o fS u ccess? Fou have
decidedthatth is iife o fa nonsm oker is th e rig h tiifefo ryo u .
rm g o in g to countfro m I to 3 a n d we a reg o in g to g o dow n to th e J y e a rp o in t on th is ro a d o f

bežng a success in becom ing a nonsm oker to th e ye a r______ / 1,2 ,3 i T hereyou a re a fte r J
m oreyears o f m ccess, o f reaping th e rew ards o f m aking th isp erm a n en t change žn how you fe e i
Fou havefound other ways to reiax or take a break Good, heaithy tvays to take a break tvhen
you tvantto. F iveyea rs o f being žn co n tro ia n d en erg ized i B rin g fo rth ržght now a ii o f the
effects o f that ch o icei R ea liy a lio w y o u rse ifto fe e iih e e ffe cts o f th a t decision. You fe e istro n g .
This is hotv itfe e is as a nonsmoker. F verythžng in y o u r iife žs b e tte rfo r having m ade th is
perm anent change. F nfoy th e fe e iin g o f biow ing th a tyo u have m ade aperm anent change,
know ing th a tyo u w i/i n everg o b a ckto th e o id way.
A nd now I countfrom I to 3 a n d we m ove dow n to th e IO -yea rp o in t on th isH ig h R o a d o f

Success to th eyea r_______ . I, 2, 3, and th ereyo u are a fte r 1 0 m oreyears o f m aking th isg o o d
a ndpositive change in y o u r iife . B rin g fo rth a iio f th e e jfe cts o f 'th a tsm a rt ch o icei R ea iiy a/iow
y o u rse if(ofe e i th e e ffects o f (hžs decžsion, o f continužng to b e in c o n tro ifo r 10 m oreyears.
Smoking žs now sim piy som ething th a tyo u u sed to do. I t w as a m istake to have ever sm oked,
but now you are fre e a n d w iii rem ain fr e e fo r th e re st o fy o u r iife i You io o k in to th a t m irror one
m ore tim e and a sk y o u rse /f “Am Ip /e a se d w ith m yse /ffo r kicking th a t o/ddisgusting habitfor
JOmoreyears? W ouldJevergo backto tkat oldbadJiabit ofhurting m ysel/by sm o/dng? A m J
g/adt/iatJhave made thisperm anent change? A change madefo rg o o d / O f courseyou are/
J c o u n tb a c k to J a n d y o u a re b a c k in th e y e a r__________________ , 5,4,3,2, J. Y o u n o w h a vea

n ew fo u n d Ievel o f certainty th a ty o u are ready—rea lly ready to m ake th is change/ You are now
ready to a ccep tp o w erfii/hypnotic suggestion to he/p to keep yo u on th e ro a d on th e rig h t, th e
Jfig h Jfo a d o fS u ccess, th e ro a d o fa nonsmoker. Now, yoursubconscious m in d fu //y accepts th e
suggestion th a tyo u w i/žnever sm oke again. From no w o n yo u w il/a/ways be a nonsmo/cer,fre e
to be happier an d h ea/th ierfor th e rest ofyou r /ife / T h iskeep syo u on th e Jfig h R oad o f
Success on th erig h t. (Repeat and add beneflts that your client expects to receive from making
thischange. Forexample, "Now th a ty o u have d ecid ed to becom e a non-sm okerforgood, yo u
w i//fn d th atyou have im provedyour life in every wqyl)
The follovving is an example of how you can modify the script for weight loss.
The High Road To Success And Become Lean And Healthy
T odayyou are standing a t a fo rk in th e ro a d o fyo u r hfe. You have com e to a d ecisionpoint.

Shou/dyou continue to do w hatyou have been doing w ith reg a rd to tahinggoodcare ofyou r
body?
You th in k about a /i theprob/em s andconcerns th a t being ovenveightbrings in to y o u r hfe.

(Mention some of the reasons your client told you she wants to make the change).
You think abouthow being ovenveighthas robbedyou o f energy, health, success andfeeiing
con/identaboutyour appearance.
The roa d o n th e le ft is a s/o w dow nw ardroad. J t is easy to take th e Low Road. You c o u /d ju st
coastdow n it. J tis th ep a th o fd o in g w hatyou have been d o in g fo rso /ong, by continuingto be
ou t o f controlto eatin gfor th e tvrong reasons. B ut, it is a p a th o f m isery. The ro a d on th e rig h t
g o es upw ard. J t w illta k e som e e jfo rt to ta ke th e N igh Road. But, it is th e w ay offreedom , health
a n d h fe. J t is th e r o a d o fbeing in c o n tro /o fy o u r /ife . J t is th eN ig h R oad To Success/ Itisth e
roadyou have decided to take by eating on/y tvhen itis healthy to do so, a n d to ea tin on iya
hea/thy way.
L ook a t th e ro a d on th e /e ft. J t m eans ca n yin g w ithyou a // o f theproblem s a sso cia ted w ith
continuing to be ovenveight even /onger th a n yo u a/ready have. T hink o fh o w b a d overeating
andsnacking can makeyo u fe e l. R ea//y a //o w yo u rse/fto fe e l th e w eight o f the burden o f this
se lfd e stru c tiv e behavior. F ee/yo u r d esire to be fre e from a // o f the il/ ejfects o f h u rtin g yo u rse/f
byeatin gth is way andn otexercisingyour body sufficient/y.
Tm g o in g to countfrom J to 3, a n d we a reg o in g to g o down th a t iow ro a d o fb ein g o u t o f co n tro /

onem oreyear. / / 3 ! T hereyouare, a fte r one m orey ea r o f being o u t o f contro/—o f being
m iserab/e becauseyou have continued to be ovenveight Youfe e l th e w eight o f the
disappointm ent in y o u rse /f You no tice th e th in g s th a t /itte r th isp a in fi/i way o f iiving—th e snack
fo o d a n d candy wrqppers—th e secondhe/pings or theportions th at were too /arge, which made
you too/arge. Y ouseethosekindsofthingsandtheym akeyoufee/thisw ay. (mention
paraphemalia, such as ice-cream, chocolates, candy, etc.) Y ouseeothersthatyouknow , who
are ou t o f controito bad eating behaviors. M aybe it is the ones th atyou have eaten or snacked
with, andthe sigh t o f them m akesyou fee/so rry fo r them ; they are stuck on th e Low R oadof
being a ovenveight. Som e oft/tem m ay Aave even tem ptedgou to iose con trol (Ifitseem s
appropriate to the issue, point out the people associated with the problem, the bad influences.)
T here is a m irror ifte re a n d yo u se e y o u rse /fandyou a sk y o u rse /f “Am 7p le a se d m i/t m yself?
A m 7 happy to have a n o th eryea r o f being ou t o f controito food? Đ o 7 fe e i b etter having m ade
th is decision? Đ o 7fe e / h ea /th ier o r w orse? D o 7 Zook andfeeZ b ette r ahout m y se /f o rn o t? D o 7
fe elsm a rter? " F eeZ the disappointm entyou h a v e in y o u rse /ffo r continuing to iive th is way fo r
a n o th eryea r/
Tm g o in g to countfrom 7 to S a n d w e a reg o in g to g o dow n to th e S y e a rp o in t on th is ro a d o f

being ovenveightto th e y e a r______ / / 2, 3 / T hereyouare, a fte r 5 m oreyea rs o fb ein g on th e
Low Road. B rin g fo u rth a l/o f th e effe cts o f th a t ch o ice/ R ea //y a /lo w yo u rse/fto fe e lth e ejfects
o f 'th a t decision. Voufe e / unhea/thy, w orried aboutth e effects ofpu ttin g too muchfo o d in
yo u r mouth everyday. Y o u fe e / hope/ess. N ow Zook aroundyou a n d yo u se e a /Z o f'those snack
fo o d wrappers, and Zargeportions offood. The road is /ttered m th wrappers and em pty
dishes, andem otiona/pain, Fou hate Zooking a t them because i t brings back a iio f these
terrib/efeelin gs offee/in g ou t o f controland ovenveight, a victim o f m arketing andhabits.
(Mention items associated with the problem, i.e., ashtrays, or candy wrappers, etc). T hoseare
th e th in g s th a t have done th is to yo u . So, yo u can ’t sta n d th em any m ore. M aybeyou even hate
th e sig h t o f them . You see others on thepath , and they Zookterrib/e andth ey feeZ terrib/e,
because they eattoo much o rth e wrong kin d o f things, andtheydon ’tgeten ou gh exercise.
7hey are outsiders. S ocietf ispu sh in g them out, because they seem so ignorant or stubborn.
Som epeop/edon’teven w an ttobearou n dih em socia//yoreven attvork. Youm ayhave
cheated on a d iet tvith som e o f thesepeop/e. A re th ey rea //y y o u r frie n d s? D o th ey rea //y care
aboutyo u ? A gain, yo u a sk y o u rse /f “A m 7p /e a se d w ith m yse/ffor being ovenveightfor J more
yea rs? D o 7 have th e rig h t to do th is to m yse/f? Am 7 h ea /th ier fo r eatin gtoo much andn ot
gettin g enough exercise? 77ow is it a ffectin g m y iife ? 7s m y iife b etter o r w orse? D o 7 fe e /
sm a rterfo r being ovenveightfo r an a d d itio n a /3 yea rs? ”
A n d now 7 countfrom 7 to 3 a n d we m ove dow n to th e 7 0 -yea rp o in t on th is low ro a d o f

continuing to th eyea r________ . 7, 2, 3 / T hereyou a re a fte r 7 0 m oreyears o fh u rtin g y o u rse /f
b y overeating. O nce again, b rin g fo u rth a ll o f (he cum u/ative e ffects o f (hat choice/ R ea //y
a i/o w yo u rse/f(o fe e lth e e ffects o f (hat decision, o f continuing to be ovenveightfor 7 0 m ore
years. T o u feeltired an d tvorried aboutyour hea/th. Yoy fe e l m ore hope/ess. A reyou heavier?
A gain, yo u lo o k aroundyou a n d yo u see a l/o fth e things th a tare associatedw ith m akingyou
fe e /th is way; thefoods andbehaviors such a sfu stsittin g there andeating w hi/eyou watch
television or work on th e com puter or read (Mention items associated with the problem, i.e.,
ashtrays, or candy wrappers, etc). Fou see a iith e things th atyou eatth ath ave causedthis to
happen toyou, snacks, cakes, cookies andsecond he/pings. Those are th e th in g s th a t hdve
done th is to you. So, y o u can t’ sta n d th em any m ore. M aybeyou even h a te th e sig h t o f (hem.
Ju stZooking a t a /l th at stu ffassociated with being ovenveightm akesyou fe e ith is way. Fousee
the others who are on th e road o f being ou t o f con troitofood M aybeyou wish you coutdhe/p
them. Som e may befam i/y orfriends. N otice how seeing them ea ttoo much, or th e tvrong
things m akesyou fe e iabout doing those kinds o f (hingsyourse/f. There is a m irror th ere and
yo u Zook a ty o u rse lf You a sk y o u rse /f “Am 7p /ea sed w ith m yse /ffo r being ovenveightfo r 30
m oreyears? 7s m y Zife b etter o r w orse? D o 7fe e / in te //ig en tfo r being ou t o f controlth is way
fo r an additionai 70yea rs? ” R ea //y fe e /th e conseguences o f rem aining on th is Jow, b u t easy
road.
A s 7 count back from 5 to 7, yo u com e a // th e way back to th e beginning o f (hefo rk in th e road.

3, 4, 3, 2, /. A n d ,yo u fe elb ette rb ec a u sen o n e o fth a th a sh a p p e n ed y eta n d itd o e sn ’th a v e to ...
You have d ecid ed n o t to ie t th a t happen to you. Vou have d ecid ed to ta ke th e dfig h J to a d o f
Success on th e rig h tf Fou knovv th a t it w i/ita ke a litt/e m ore ejfo rt, b u t now you know in y o u r
h ea rt a n d m in d th a t it is w orth it. You have d ecid ed to sta rt ta kin g b etter care o fy o u rse /ff In
fa c t, yo u have a /ready Zeft th e o /d w ay by com ing here today/ You are a/ready ta k in g y o u r/irst
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heaithierfo r th e rest ofyou r žife i T his keep syo u on th e M gh R o a d o fS u ccess on th erig h t.
(Repeat and add benefits that your client expects to receive from making this change. For
example, 'Tou w illalw aysbe able to m aintain aslim andhealthy body, becauseyou w ill
always remember th a tthere is always som ething better to do than m akeyourseiffatby eating
too much or too/requentfy, or th e wrong kinds o f things. B y doing th is, you have im proved
yo u riifein every wqyl)
Again, let me end this by saying that this is intended to be a very flexible approach. Use it as a
basic structure and adapt it to the needs of your clients. For example, if for some reason your
client is unable to exercise, then don’t suggest that she exercise. If she can exercise and does not
want to, you can’t make her begin a program of exercise. In such a case, I would ask her how she
feels about the idea of just becoming more active by parking farther away form the office or
taking the stairs rather than the elevator. If she likes that approach, I suggest those kinds o f
behaviors. It is time for 5-PATH Therapists to move beyond the vvritten script! I present to you
this “universal” script as a way o f accomplishing that goal.
Copyright ©2001 Calvin D. Banyan. All Rights Reserved.

W hat Clients Need To Say To G et T heir Stop Smoking Certificate
Calvin D. Banyan, MA, CI, BCH
After emerging your clients from the second session, ask him or her,
A reyou now a non-smoker?
In good times and bad times?
Through thick and thin?
When you are alone or with someone?
Is there anythingyou could ever imagine that could ever m akeyou want to do
that toyou rself again?
Who is in control now? You or the cigarettes?
Then you are now a non-smoker!
When you get an affirmative response to all o f the above, take him or her up front
and have them do it again. Then give them a certificate. If they waffle, they get
no certificate. And, you can suggest additional sessions.
What Clients Need To Say To Get Their Stop Smoking Certificate.doc

Handouts for DVD 3
Powerful Two Session Approach Smoking Cessation Using 5-Path, A Universal
Approach To Hypnotherapy
Calvin Banyan, MA, CI, BCH
Five-Phase Abreactive Therapeutic Hypnosis, or 5-PATH, is a powerful and almost

universal approach to doing hypnotherapy. It involves integrating some o f the most
powerful techniques available to the hypnotherapist. Each technique is applied in a
specific order, starting with a Direct Suggestion session and continuing with Age
Regression Therapy, Forgiveness o f Others Therapy, Self-Forgiveness Therapy and
ending with Parts Mediation Therapy.
Using the 5-PATH approach provides the therapist with ample opportunity to work with
her smoking cessation client; but in the vast majority of cases, she will only need the first
two phases, Direct Suggestion and Age Regression Therapy. The Age Regression phase
will generally be used in a special and limited way. Usually age regression is used to
uncover the Initial Sensitizing Event (ISE). As most properly trained hypnotherapists
know, an ISE can be uncovered and then re-evaluated by the therapist and client, thus
reducing or eliminating the impact of that event on the client’s life.
When using age regression to help someone stop smoking, regression to the first cigarette
is usually sufficient. It is only on rare occasion that a smoking cessation client will need
to be treated using regression to ISE and other 5-PATH techniques. But, it is always
good to know that if the client’s inability to stop smoking is being caused by some event
in her past (a time before she started smoking), then the 5-PATH program can be used to
help her.
Some quick examples of how an ISE may contribute to a client’s inability to quit
smoking are any kind of trauma or childhood programming that left the client feeling
significantly inadequate or fearful. Then the cigarette or other addiction may be used as a
way to distract herself or self-medicate, such as in the use o f alcohol. Such substances
have become ways of coping with unpleasant feelings associated with those past events.
However, even if this is the case, such a client will most likely be helped to quit smoking
if other coping techniques are acceptable and suggested in the session. Examples of
appropriate and useful coping techniques include any way that your client can direct
herself away from the feeling for a while (just as the cigarette did). Here are some good
rules for such distracters:
1. They should be pleasant
2. And not illegal, immoral or fattening.
We will not make appointments with clients unless they agree to two sessions. This
allows us to work with both phases and greatly increases our chances of success with the
client.
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Phase 1: Direct Suggestion
The first session begins Phase 1. It will consist o f the initial contact, pre-talk, pre-
hypnosis interview, a hypnosis session with convincers, direct suggestion and suggestions
for post-hypnotic reinforcement. Let me take a little more time for each of these steps of
Phase 1.
Initial Contact
Always keep in mind that first impressions count. So make sure that all o f your
promotional materials make the kind o f impression that you want to make. Make sure
that the telephone is answered in a professional and encouraging way. All of this serves
not only to increase the probability that you will make the first appointment with your
client, it also begins to build mental expectancy o f success. Also, remember that when
you handle each client well, you are increasing the likelihood that this client will refer
others to you.
The Hypnosis Pre-talk
At our center, we have our hypnosis pre-talk videotaped, and so the client will experience
this part of the session before meeting with the therapist. However, some therapists will
want to do the intake or pre-hypnosis interview first.
The pre-talk has one goal and that is to remove as much o f what can get in the way o f a
successful session as possible. What can get in the way? Your client’s fears and
misconceptions regarding hypnosis can cause the client to inhibit going into hypnosis, no
matter what kind of hypnotic induction you use.
Your pre-talk should discuss briefly what you mean when you say such things as
subconscious and conscious mind. It should define hypnosis. And, it should make
clients feel they can do it. It should remove common misconceptions about hypnosis by
informing them that:
1. Hypnosis cannot hurt you.

2. You cannot get stuck in hypnosis.
3. You will always be in control and you cannot be made to do anything against
your will (including stop smoking, lose weight, etc.).
4. You will probably remember everything that happens during the session.
5. Anyone o f normal intelligence can be hypnotized.
6. Anyone who can follow instructions can be hypnotized.
7. You have already been hypnotized thousands o f times.
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Pre-Hypnosis Interview
One of the main reasons you conduct a pre-hypnotic interview (or intake interview) with
a client is to build rapport. You need to establish a therapeutic relationship. You can
easily do this by being attentive to the information that the client gives you, and
presenting yourself as being non-judgmental.
There is some information you will want to obtain from your client. Ask her why she
wants to quit smoking and write it down. This can be very useful during the hypnosis
session.
Ask your client about her commitment to quit smoking. If you can, have her make a
commitment to quit smoking, no matter what happens. If she can, have her make the
commitment to make it work. She should carry the same level o f commitment to quitting
(this time), as if she was not going to use hypnosis at all. This sets up the client with the
best mental attitude for success. Hypnosis is a tool, not mind control.
Nicotine is not addicting! I will mention this to every smoking cessation client. Pm
surprised by how many will agree with me right off the bat. There has been so much
programming in the media and other sources about the power o f nicotine. And frankly, I
just don’t believe it. Nicotine is not addicting and I believe I can prove it to you by
asking you a question. If nicotine was so addicting, how come we don’t have centers all
across the United States o f America to help people get off the nicotine gum and the
pateh? When nicotine is given in pure form, no one ever seems to get addicted. I’ve
never had anyone come into my office and ask me to help her quit the gum or the patch
and there probably never will be.
If it is not addicting, then how come people smoke and have trouble quitting? Simple, for
two reasons:
1. First, it is a habit and habits are difficult to stop unless an altemative habit is
established,
2. Second, cigarettes are used as coping mechanisms when an individual
smokes to take her attention away from an unpleasant feeling, such as
anxiety, sadness, loneliness or depression. It is a distracter.
During the pre-talk, it can be very beneficial to bring up these ideas to the client. If they
are acceptable, you can use them in the hypnosis session. Furthermore, one o f the main
reasons many people will start smoking again (other than experiencing a stressful
condition in their lives) is weight gain. I will usually suggest we make up a list o f things
my client can do as distracters when stressful situations arise. I call it her, “Quit
Smoking,Without Gaining Weight Plan.” Most people like that idea.
The Hypnosis Session
Much is argued about which type of hypnotic inductions are best. I recommend the more
modem and practical instant and rapid induction, which are typical of the type taught by
Dave Elman and written in his book, Hvpnotheraov. But, that discussion goes beyond
the scope o f this article.
When doing the hypnosis, use a hypnotic induction that is designed to take most clients
into somnambulism and contains a hiđden test for the depth of hypnosis. Then you know
that your client is in hypnosis and what level she has obtained; you will know if further
deepening is needed.
In addition to letting you know if and how deeply hypnotized your client is, depth testing
is very important, because it allows you to use convincers. Tests tell you what level o f
hypnosis your client has obtained. Convincers indicate to your client she has achieved
the hypnotic state. Basically, you should induce hypnosis, and deepen to somnambulism.
At this point, you can be sure your client will pass a test for any lighter state of hypnosis,
such as eye or arm catalepsy. Passing such a test powerfully convinces your client that
she is in hypnosis (which deepens the hypnosis, meaning that she becomes even more
suggestible). It also convinces her that she did the right thing when she selected you as
her hypnotist! (Again we are talking about receiving more referrals).
Scripts for Direct Suggestion
Most hypnotherapists use some kind of script or hypnosis patter when doing direct
suggestion. Others will use a script and add or subtract from it, depending on the needs
o f their clients. Still others will construct their suggestions built upon years o f experience
and the needs of their clients. However you decide to do it, I recommend that your
suggestions are not totally surprising! I find that in a first session, I should stay pretty
close to the material that I covered in the pre-talk (nicotine is not addicting, it is a habit,
you can do other things than smoke to handle stress, etc.). I will also begin the
suggestions by using some kind o f motivational patter that puts the client in the proper
state of mind for receiving suggestions. Such a patter would consist o f covering the
reasons she mentioned for wanting to quit and the benefit o f doing so. I will also suggest
that she will be avoiding other ill-effects o f smoking that are common. (Examples are
avoiding all of the worry and inconvenience associated with smoking.)
Emerging
Too many hypnotherapists don’t make good use o f the time when emerging their clients.
This is a great time to make last minute suggestions, such as feeling good after she has
emerged using a post-hypnotic suggestion for time distortion and sensitivity to a color or
object. I like to suggest the client will underestimate the time spent on hypnosis. This is
a powerful convincer, especially if the time distortion is over 100% (i.e., it seemed like
10 minutes when it was 20 minutes or longer).
Post-Hypnotic Interview
After the session is over, it is time to discuss the session, pointing out to the client any
convincers that were used, such as eye-lock and time distortion. This is also the time to
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discuss any questions about the session your client might have. She might want to tell
you about any subjective experiences she had, such as tingling, heaviness or profound
feelings of relaxation, etc.
At this time, you will want to make the next appointment with your client. It is best if
you don’t just have her call when she wants a second appointment. We recommend to
our clients the next session be held in 3 to 7 days.
Phase 2: Regression To First Cigarette
Pre-Hypnosis Interview
When you meet with your client for the next time, it is almost a time of suspense. You
want to hear how things went after the session, and your client wants to tell you all about
it. I recommend that you start off with a review of the last session. Find out what she
thought of the hypnosis experience. It also helps to jog your memory o f the last session.
Then, find how things went. Go chronologically. Ask her, “What was it like right after
you emerged?” Then, move on to “What was it like right after you left the office?” Find
out if she had difficulties abstaining from smoking. Congratulate her, even if she was
only partially successful. Sometimes, I will have a client go from smoking one to four
packs a day and she will come in feeling bad because she smoked one or two cigarettes
during the last week or so. Focus on the positive. Tell her that this session will be ten
times more powerful than last session. Have your client recommit if she hasn’t
completely stopped.
Most will have stopped smoking completely after the first session. Again, congratulate
her. Tell her that this session is going to really compound last week’s experience, so that
she will know even more powerfully that she will not want to ever smoke again! Be
upbeat.
If you did your work well last session, you now have an ideal client on your hands. She
knows that she can be hypnotized and that you are the one that can help her. It is time to
prepare her for the next session. Since this next session is going to be an age regression
session, it sometimes helps to let the client know that she will be speaking during the
session, so she might not feel as relaxed as last time. Talk to her a little about how
hypnosis is not relaxation, but rather focused attention.
Answer any questions, but I recommend that you don’t tell your client what you are
going to do. Anticipating an age regression almost always tends to inhibit a successful
revivification o f the experience from the past. “Don’t shoot yourself in the foot,” as
Gerald Kein would say, “by telling your client that you are going to do an age
regression.”
The Hypnosis Session
Last session, you should have suggested that the next time you do hypnosis with your
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client, she will go in quickly and easily. This sets things up perfectly for an instant
induction. If you don’t already use them, I suggest that you consider leaming how. They
are among the most universal and reliable inductions available to the modem
hypnotherapist. Follow the instant induction with a rapid deepening technique.
I like to do some quick suggestions to create hypermnesia. I’ll say something like, “The
subconscious mind is now working with us and able to provide you with recall of any
experience I suggest to you. Even though you weren’t thinking about it a moment ago,
suddenly you can recall a pleasant time when you were a child, playing with (or on)...”
and follow it with some common childhood experience, like playing in water, dirt, on a
swing or on a bicycle. I have the client signal when she recalls what is suggested. Then I
will have her recall the first time she ever smoked a cigarette and to signal me when she
remembers.
Age Regression To H er First Cigarette
Now it is time to do the age regression. I simply suggest that when I count from 5 back
to 1, she will be back at that time. Have your client “be there” and tell you all about what
is happening and who is there. Ask why she is smoking, whether she likes it and what
that cigarette tastes like?
Then, have your client in the regressed state (the child/client) go into the background and
ask, “Boy, if you knew then what you know now about all the problems smoking was
going to bring into your life, would you have ever started smoking?” O f course, the
client is going to say, “No,” unless there were some very unusual circumstances in the
client’s life.
Informed Child Technique
Then say, “Good, then if you could let her know what you know now, she will never
start.” “In a moment, I’m going to count from 3 back to 1, and when I get to 1, you will
be back there with her. You will be able to let her in on why she will regret ever starting,
so she won’t.”
I am simplifying the process a little, but next you want to encourage a dialogue between
the adult/client and the child who started smoking (even if they started at 30 years of
age). This is called the Informed Child Technique. The great strength o f using it in this
way, is that inside of the adult/client are the words that child/client needs to hear so that
she doesn’t start smoking.
The conversation is completed when the child/client has decided not to start smoking.
You can find out if the problem is solved by asking the adult/client if she believes the
child/client. If she does, that means the problem is probably over for good. You can look
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at it this way. Both the chilđ/client and adult/client are the same person. You have
conducted a hypnosis session where your client has had a good talk with herself! She has
said to herself whatever needed to be said (probably the perfect hypnotic suggestions for
her), so that she can be done with smoking permanently.
Direct Suggestion
Now, it is time to reinforce the suggestions you gave in the first session, along with any
insight that was gained in this session. Use direct suggestion, direct drive, and
compounding. One approach is to use a shorter version o f the patter you used in the first
session. Don’t overlook this time. Because of the experience your client has just had,
she has become highly suggestible for these particular suggestions.
Emerge
Before you emerge your client from hypnosis, ask her, “Are you now a non-smoker?”
She will probably say, “Yes I am.” This is a powerful autosuggestion! Saying things like
that out loud is very powerful, especially when your client is in hypnosis. O f course, if
for some reason you feel that she is not ready to make those kinds o f statements, don’t
ask, because negative statements in hypnosis are also very powerful.
After the session, ask again, “Are you now a non-smoker?” Again, saying this out loud,
right after emerging, is very suggestive, even in the truest meaning: autosuggestion.
Then, follow up with answering your client’s questions and be congratulatory o f this
permanent decision to become a non-smoker. We like to give our new non-smokers a
certificate. 1 do it when we get to the reception desk. ITl say, “Are you now a non-
smoker? And, is there anything you could ever imagine that could ever make you want
to do that to yourself again?” When she says, “No,” I pat her on the back and give her
the certificate.
This is all very theatrical and really provides encouragement for anyone sitting in the
waiting room!
Before your client leaves, make sure she knows that if she ever needs more work, you
will be happy to work with her again, whether it be to work on other issues or to teach her
self-hypnosis. Give out some brochures. I’ve done so much smoking cessation, I
sometimes think about not doing it anymore, but I’d be crazy to stop. My ex-smokers are
one of my best sources for new clients. Some of those new clients will be for smoking
cessation, but many others are for other things, too.
I hope that you have picked up a few things from this article. Keep in mind that if further
work needs to be done, then the client is experiencing some kind of emotional attachment
to smoking. Then, I will continue using the regular 5-PATH process. Using Age
Regression Therapy, Forgiveness Therapy, and Parts Mediation Therapy has given me
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very reliable results. I say the only way you can fail to stop smoking when you come to
Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc. is to fail to finish the program.
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If you have questions about smoking cessation, hypnosis, hypnotherapy, 5-Path, 7 Path
or one of our training programs, please call our office or e-mail me, at
cbanvan@hvpnosiscenter.com.
(Article- Smoking Cessation Using 5 Path)

Stop Smoking
Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
Congratulations! You have made a very important decision. You have decided to become a non-
smoker. There is part o f you that has always wanted to do this. That is what makes today (insert
date), very special.
You have decided to listen to your body, and your body wants you to quit smoking. Your body has
always hated it. Smoking has hurt you, because it has been hurting your body. You are now doing
something very good for yourself.
Nicotine is not addicting. If it were, the masses would become addicted to the nicotine patch or the
nicotine gum. If nicotine was addicting, someone would have come to me for hypnosis to quit the
gum or the patch. This has never happened; and it probably never will.
So, why do people keep smoking? It's a habit. But what is a habit? A habit is when you
automatically think about doing something. A habit is just simply responding to a thought. Well,
you don't have to do that any more. You are free from smoking. You now know that the smoking
habit is just a thought. Your thoughts have no power over you. You have thought about doing
thousands o f things and then simply decided not to do them. You might have thought about buying
something and then decided that the money would be better spent on something else. This is also
true o f cigarettes. Your money is always better spent on something else. In fact, there is always
something better to do than smoke.
The nicotine in cigarettes is not addicting, but it is a poison. Even a thimble full would be enough
to kill a horse. Fortunately, there is only a small amount of poison in each cigarette. But, it is there
and it tends to build up until your body becomes affected by it and you become sick. Sometimes it
is a major illness like cancer, heart disease or emphysema. You have decided not to let this happen
to you. Other times, it is something like a cough or bronchitis. You have decided not to let that
happen to you any more, either. You have decided to become a non-smoker - to.let go o f all the
worries and sickness associated with cigarettes. You are becoming free, so all of the urges are just
fađing away to nothing. You are now in control. You are not going to allow yourself to be made
sick or inconvenienced by a habit, a mere thought.
But how did that thought get there? You weren't just walking around one day and the idea popped
into your head from nowhere? You got the idea from somewhere. You probably saw someone else
smoking; and because they did it, somehow you thought it might be a good idea to do it. But where
did they get the idea?
Everyone smokes for one reason. It was sold to them! You smoke because o f one of the most
successful marketing plans in the history o f the world! It all started a long time ago. By the time
that America enteređ WWII, everyone was so sold on the idea that even the govemment was
buying them to give to our brave men and women who were fighting a war. Most o f those people
ćame back with the smoking habit. These people became our parents and people that we lookedup
to. They were role models; and because they smoked, you smoked. Itjustgothandeddow n. Now
more people die of smoking than did in the great wars.
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Well, that is all over for you. You are on to them. Their advertising campaign no longer affects
you. As a matter o f fact, you resent it. Y o u resen tb ein g so ld th atp ack o flies. In fact, each pack
o f cigarettes is a pack o f lies. Smoking is now simply something you used to do. You are free
from a uniformed decision that you made so long ago. It feels so good to be free - free from the
pain; free from the worry.
You will remember that there is always something better to do than take a poisonous cigarette.
That is obvious. Now that you are through smoking for good, you can fill the time that you used to
spend poisoning yourself (with cigarettes) any way that you want to. Fill up that time with any fun,
interesting or growth experience.
This information is now stored in the conscious and subconscious mind. So you no longer can
accept poisoning yourself for any reason. You tum away from tobacco in any form. You are free.
The urge is gone. You are free. You are free to drive home or to work free from cigaretteS.
Today is your special day. It could be as important as any birthday or anniversary. This is the day
you finally took back control permanently. Now you are in control. That is what you really
wanted. You are in control anđ resent the fact that cigarettes ever controlled you. You feel great
knowing that no matter what happens, you are in control, because there is always something better
to do than poison yourself witfi cigarettes.
Smokingis no longer connected to anything in your life. All o f those old self-defeating
connections are broken up completely. All o f those things you used to do while you were smoking
now go better with health (without the embarrassment, worry and frustration o f cigarettes)! Now if
you are watching TV or visiting with friends, or simply on the telephone, you enjoy not having to
worry ahout cigarettes. They were dirty (filthy) and they made you sick. Now everything goes
better with the health and confidence you find a$ a nonsmoker; free from the worry and frustration.
Smoking is simply something that you used to do. You are now free, because there is always
something better to do than smoke.
Somehow you knew that one day you would quit. Congratulations! You did it. Today, and for all
the rest of your days, you are free. You decided to quit for all o f your own reasons. You have
made a great deal! You have made a great trade! You have traded something that you don't want
for something that is priceless. There is no amount of money that could add one more day, hour or
minute to your life. How many people wish they could trade something for more time - a longer
life? Not only have you traded smoking for something precious (more time - a longer life), and it is
going to be a higher quality life. Your new life is filled with more time, more money, and more
self-respect. Your new life is filled with more confidence and energy. If you don't have your
health, you really don’t have anything. You have traded something you don't want for something
you do want - more time to fill up with anything you want! And you have better health to enjoy
every minute o f it. Smoking is simply something that you used to do. Now there is always,
always, always, something better to do than smoke.
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There is no way that you would ever go back to the old way. Smoking means pain, so you simply
traded it away. No matter what happens in your life, you handle it without cigarettes. You simply,
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stubbomly refuse to smoke (no matter what happens)! There is always something better to do than
smoke. You will always remember that. There is always something better to do than smoke. This
makes you free and keeps you free forever! Having a drink o f water is better. Having a piece of
gum is better. Doing anything (as long as it is not illegal, immoral or fattening) is better than
smoking. Because you are in control!
You handle the situations in your life effectively. You are now in control o f your body and no
longer will you put poison in it. You simply tum your back on all o f that poison. You body will
reward you with health. Y ourm ind will rew ardyouby thinking more clearly. Thesm okehas
cleared. Emotionally, you will feel better because you are firee from all the worry and stress of
smoking. Smoking is simply something that you used to do. You traded it away for something
priceless - life,health, self-confidence and p eaceo f mind.
Congratulations! You are now a non-smoker and you are going to be a non-smoker for the rest of
your life. When you are around others that smoke, it will only make you feel proud to know that
you are now in control (even though you might feel a little sorry for them). When you are around
others that smoke, the fire and smoke will not affect you in any way, because you are able to enjoy
the company of others that smoke, and it will always make you feel wonderful (inside and out)
knowing that you are back in control. You are free from being kicked around by any cigarette
company that doesn't care about you. You are proud to be a non-smoker and you are going to be a
non-smOker for the rest o f your long healthy life.
Repeat this silently to yourself as I say it out loud, "I am now a non-smoker and I'm going to be a
non-smoker for the rest o f my life." (Compound [that] 15 times.)
From this moment on you are a non-smoker. You have never felt better (and you are going to feel
better yet) as your lungs continue to become healthier and healthier, because you have gotten rid o f
all the tđbacco poison.
You are through with the poison and the smell. There is a part of you that has always hated it. You
have really always hated it, because it is filthy and dirty and it makes you sick. You refuse to
debateit. Your ipind is made up. You stubbomly refuse to smoke. When you think about
cigarettes, you know that you will never again make that mistake - never again. Never again!
Now, if for any reason (at all) in your life, you think that you might want a cigarette, all you have to
do is take a nice deep breath and as you let it out just say to yourself, "There is always something
better to do than smoke"; let yourself have that feeling o f being in control. Let’s, do that right now.
Take a nice deep breath, and as you let it out, say to yourself, "There is always something better to
do than smoke." Notice how good it feels to be free from that old useless habit.
(Additional patter you can use, if you have time.) You are here today because you have made up
your mind completely to become a non-smoker. You want to quit, because you can no longer let
cigarettes control your life. You are now filled with motivation, have let go o f the pain and
suffering associate with smoking, etc. You are now willing to face the fact that smoking is a real
poison and threat to your happiness. We are now breaking all of the links that you have made
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betvveen smoking and other things. There is always something better to do than smoke (when you
are bored, stressed, etc.). All desire for cigarettes is fading away to nothing. All connections are
dissolved. These changes we have been making have made you into a new person, a non-smoker.
You'U now find that you react to cigarettes as a non-smoker - irritated and a little revolted. Non-
smokers handle their feelings and emotions with out cigarettes and react totally đifferently. The
many benefits are not worrying about cigarettes, firesh smelling clothes and breath, health, etc.
'Tm now a non-smoker and Igoing to be a non-smoker for the rest my life!"
When you are around others that smoke it will make you feel good to know that you are in control
of your life. If ever again, you have the slightest thought o f having a cigarette, all you have to do is
take a deep breath, hold it, and slowly exhale and you will be back in control feeling good about
your new life.
Copyright © 2001 Calvin Banyan. All rights reserved.
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A Hypnotic Paradigm: M odei o f th e M ind
(763) 785-3390 www.hvonosiscenter. com
When working with hypnosis, we are well served by using a model o f the hmnan
mind/consciousness that has at least three levels: the conscious, subconscious and imconscious
funćtions o f the mind.
(?)
CRTTICAL FACTOR/FUNCTION of the
mind is like a filtering mechanism which
compares new information with old beliefs
and perceptions.
HYPNOSISIS:
1. By-pass of the Critical Factor.

2. The establishment of acceptable
selective thinking.
HYPNOSISIS SAFE & NATURAL

• 200 yrs. of experience.^
• Accepted by AMA in 1958.
UNCONSCIOUS M INP • The hypnotist cannot control you.
Autonomic Nervous System is not • You cannot get stuck
“unconscious.” We are just not consciously • Anyone of at least normal intelligence
aw areofit.
can be hypnotized.
• Breathing, heart rate, etc.
• We do it together.
• Physical emotional responses
• Smiooth mušcles EXAMPLES OF NATURAL HYPNOSIS
• PrOtective
• Highwayhypnosis
SUBCONSaOUS • Daydream
Permanent Memory is like a vast library of • Unnoticed cause of cuts or bruises
experience that works by association and • Invisible pbjects
resonance.
• Habits/Beliefs NOTES
• Conserves Energy
• Highly organized
• Unlimited
• Feeds hnagination
CONSCIOUS
Point of foćus which easily focuses on the
present but can be easily focused on the past
and our imagined future.
• Logical
• Limited (7-9 bits)
• Temporary Will Power Copyright O 2001 Calvin D. Banyan. All rights reserved.
• Interacts with the Critical Factor _V (Model o f the mind with notes)
5-PATH Tapes 1-5
Things To Watah For And Leam As Calvin Banyan Conducts
The First Four Phases: Direct Suggestion, Age Regression, Forgiveness
of Others and Forgiveness of Self
This is a guide to help students watch for important techniques and procedures used during the
videotaped sessions shown in class. This is not an assignment, but rather a study aid. There is
space between the text of this study aid so that that you can write in comments and questions to
be answered after the video.
T A P E 1: Phase I Direct Suggestion
IndUčtion of hypnosis. Notice the permissive approach to using the Elman-Banyan induction.
Don’t drop your hand toward her lap. I move it downward and away from her.
Permissive approach is used throughout this session because of issues that she has with men. I
want to be very different than the men that she has known in her past.
Notice that after I get permission to touch her, I touch her chest during the session. I no longer
do that. NowI place a female client's hand over her heart.
Notice that as I am deepening her, I am watching her chest rise and fall. I'm doing this so that I
can time my suggestion for relaxation on her exhale, which will increase her feeling of relaxation
with each suggesb'on.
Note that when I drop her hand, I say, "sleep." This is an instant induction. When you use an
induction in a session and hypnosis has already been induced, this is called pyramiding inductions
and it is a deepening technique.
The suggestions I am giving her are based on the information that I received from her during the
pre-hypnosis interview and from the intake forms. I am suggesting that the changes will bring
about the benefits that she came in for.
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Water OffA Ducks Back patter is used to help her reject any future suggestions by her friends
and fami!y that are causing her problems. I also use this patter in age regression session, with
the client regressed to the childhood state.
At the end of the session, I will have her nob'ce how relaxed her body is, and how nothing
outside of her has changed. This shows her that she has fontrol over howtense she is.
Always add suggestion for seeing red and time distortion to the emerging process.
During the post-hypnotic interview, we talk about how she wanted to open her eyes.
She also comments about how much the use of touching her helped.
TAPE 2: Phase II Age Regression Therapy
Demonstration of the use of an Instant Induction (example).
Bring up feeling for Affect Bridge.
She says, "I don't know." Cal says, 'T know you don't know. Give me your first impression" (as
I count from 1 to 3).
What is happening is "not feeling good w/your Mom". Here I am using the feeling as a name.
This takes her more into the affect and the situation of the regression.
"What do you want?" The answer to the guestion tells me more about the emotion.
She opened her eyes; note howI handle it.
Child felt OK - Need to regress further.... "Okay" is not good enough!
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Child has trouble believing Adult - so we conb'nue regression. We are not before the ISE.
Continue regression unbl you get the response of "safe 'n secure."
Remember that any resistance I encounter is fear (resistance = Fear)
Note when she says, "I want you,“ indicates that she felt unwanted by her parents. This is a part
of the problem, a feeling of being unlovable.
Part of the problem with this session is that I go from B-ISE to far from ISE to SSS of 5 yrs.
learning baton.
Let Adult take responsibility for saying what needs to be said and informing the child.
I've changed because now I know... I've changed because nowI feel... I’ve changed. As I
change you change because I am you.
Inside of you are the words that she needs to hear...
I could have regressed on the feeling of being afraid to be hurt.
"Holodeck" of the mind. You are only limited by your imagination. This is why I came up with
the foam rubber floor.
I could have stopped once she makes Grown-up proud of her - but I kept going to reinforce the
change.
Beating a dead horse with the "do you believe her" and "can shy lie to you." Be creative
(holodeck of the mind).
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Nature of human beings to do better with practice.
'Tm her teacher" surprised me.
How I handle the, "Yeah but" in the sound of her voice." And, she explains that "She doesn't do
it as well as the other giris."
She has talents doesn’t she. "I hope so."

Does anyone love you? "No." Do your children love you? What is more important: A back-flip or
being a good Mommy?
How does that make you feel? "Tired."
If someone came up to her and tried to convince her that there was something wrong w/ her,
would you let her believe it?
"That which you do to you - you do to her."
Finish up with DS.
Post-hypnotic interview. "I don't know if I feel better - 1feel relieved!" (Relief is good.)
She asked me, "Why did I open my eyes?" She was concerned that because she opened her eyes
that she might not have been in hypnosis.
Time distoition.
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She is touch-deprived and this is one reason my touch is so important to her.
OK to call me. I'm usually in session or teaching.
TAPE 3: Phase III Forgiveness o f Others Therapy (Mohamed)
Induction = Short Elman and deepening, 3 important things (3-4 minutes)
Setting up the round room
Theone person that hurt her more than anyone else was Mohamed, her father.
You*hurt me when...
Youmade me think...
You made me feel...
Go through this processfor childhood, adolescence, teens, adulthood.
Tell him howthat affected you.

Tell him howthat affected your relationships.
Tell him how he hurts you even today.
Continue to bring up the feeling by paraphrasing what she did to her.
Ask if she would like to be free of the feeling. Have her press or strike into a pillow.
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Dad, you were/are such a...
Follow my instructions instantly-be Dad/Mohamed/Offender.
Go after the offender
Did'nt you grow up in the kind of family where you learned how to treat a little girl, so that she
would feel good about herself?
Would that have been have been nice?
I have Mohamed reverse misconceptions about her that he caused: was she ugly, fat, stupid?
The offender made her think and feel these things. It is best if he is the one to tell her the truth.
There is nothing wrong with her.
Reframe what was done to her by her father as having been done out of fear.
Offender says "I’m sorry. Please forgive me."
Deprogram your client by having the offender say the things that she always wanted to hear. "I
always loved you."
Offender says "I regret that I..."
"I did that because I wanted you to be a good person.” Or "I wanted to prepare you..." Or "I
didn't want to spoil you."
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Asking, "Do you believe him?" is very important. If she doesn't, then she is not going to forgive
him.
Define what is meant by forgiveness. This will speed up the process a lot.
Forgiveness is not forgetting.
Forgiveness is not accepting.
It does not mean that you understand (but that is helpful).
It does not mean that you like or love the person.
And, you don't have to tell him that you forgive him.
Have client forgive the offender. "Keep talking until all the anger is gone.” When the anger is
gone, then the forgiveness is complete.
TA PE4: Phase III (B) Forgiveness o f Others (w ith Yassar)
Induction used was a simple Simple Hand Drop Induction
Notice the "You hurt me when..." only starts with the start of her relatjonship.
Notice how important the statement is: "What hurt me the most is when you..." It led to the
disclosure of being hit in front of the children.
Note how the emotions can be strong and that she needs to release them before she can
verbalize them. That is why she became verbal.
You want to show cause for the offender's behavior and*that she wished they had done things
differently. Show any pain that the offender may have experienced.
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I used the word "shame" because, from her response,I thought "sorry" might already have been
said; and as such, be insufficient.
I had to showthat not loving her has caused him pain too.
I constantly reframe the cause or reason for his behavior as fear. Being afraid is forgivable.
I attempted to bypass (him) asking for forgiveness. I thought that she had been through enough
to do it. But not enough of the important issues had been covered and more anger came up.
Started forgiveness but then... She could forgive only part way.
Iforgive you because ... This gives a reason for the forgiveness.
Didfou ever love him? I wanted to show some fairness - it is easier to reduce the anger if it is
fair. She can't be guite as mad at him for not loving her, if she did not love him.
Is it possible that you could have loved her and not even known it? It is not bad if we're just
confused.
"I don’t want him to be proud of me only when others say something nice." Now we have more
to forgive, so forgiveness is not done yet!
I picked up on "It’s safer with the children." This means the forgiveness is not complete. "Come
on, lets do it!"
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It is time for me to move it along. I become authoritative:
"I can't do this for you."
"Say what needs to be said..."
Be the Therapist and pull it all together. "The truth is that you carried in baggage ..."
TAPE 5: Phase IV Forgiveness o f Self-Forgiveness (Both A FOrgiveness Therapy And A

Spedal Case o f Parts M ediation Therapy)
It is a good thing to use the same deepening technique repeatedly. It brings on feelings of
familiarity, safety and security.
She has some resistant to the concept that she may have some responsibility for the pain in her
life.
Do "You hurt me when...", "you made me think" and "you made we feel."
"BeGause of you..."
"You robbed me"
"What hurt me the most was (you knewgetting married was wrong. I knew better)."
And nowyou make me feel (angry).
"And she just wants to KEEP ON DOING IT!"
Push it all down into my hand... into the pillow.
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When you ask if the Mistake-Making-Part was trying to hurt her, point out the purpose of
protection, so you can rename the part as the Protective-Part.
If the purpose WAS to hurt, we may be dealing with a spiritual issue such as DFE or Ignorant
Spirits.
Ultimate reframe of "Life Saver."
I hold her hand to provide support, giving her some strength for doing these difficult things, so
that she can say the difficult things.
Protective-Part gets a new role in life, the Body Guard.
TheCarpenter Story, used to suggest the importance of having pain in her life, in order to
answer the call. The pain leads to grovvth.
This is the Deal - The Self looks forward to the pain. The Protective-Part gets to rest.
Reality testing, job interview and dealing with her husband.
I ask if the Self believes the Protective-Part. I'mchecking.
Asking for forgiveness
The forgiveness has been accomplished when anger is gone
Re-integration of the Self and the Protective Part, with self-love and a melting into one. She will
experience a newsense of peace.
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Direct Suggestion to wrap up the session, as always.
"Ifs OK - 1can handle this" is a post-hypnotic suggestion for taking back control
Getting back her strength.

Bless the pain.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Nowyou will be...
Emerge with suggestions for feeling wonderful.
Postehypnotic interview
Kind of surprised yourself - didn’t you?
Who is in control now?
"NowI can actually believe you!" (Real evidence of change.)
"Wait until everyone runs into you - who you really are."
She gave me a hug.
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Additional information about the dient after the sessions:
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Copyright © 2001 Calvin D. Banyan. All rights reserved.
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Like W ater O ff A Duck’s Back
(For Regression and Informed Chilđ work) By Cal Banyan, M A, BCH, CI
N ote: TTierapist is ta lkin g to th e regressed c lie n t before In itia i S en sitizin g E vent.
Therapist: Let me ask you something. Have ever seen a duck? Did you know that ducks can swim?
Can chickens swim?
Client as a child: I don’t think so.
Therapist: That’s right, ducks can swim, but chickens can’t swim. And, let me tell you why. You see,
ducks don’t get wet. W ell, their feet and their beaks get wet, but that is ju st a small part o f them. So,
mostly they stay dry. This is why they float and they swim. If you threw a chicken in a tub, he would get
wet and he would sink. Prom ise me you won’t throw any chickens in your bathtub.
Client as a child: I won’t.
Therapist: Let me tell you why ducks don’t get wet. You see, they have this protective coating on them
that keeps the water from w etting their feathers. Because o f this, they can swim in the rain and still keep
dry. Isn’t that nice?
C lient as a child: Yes, it is.
Therapist: Now, you are going to get a protective coating that is like the one the đuck has. From now
on, whenever anyone says or does anything that would have hurt you or made you feel bad, this protective
coating is going to cause those worđs or actions to just bounce off! From now on, no one can cause you
to feel bad about yourself. Now, you know that when people say or do bad things, it has nothing to do
w ithyou. Thev have the problem . Y ouare just fine. Y ouareokay. You are always loveable. A ndyou
now have this protective coating. It is made out o f truth, and the truth about you is that there is nothing
wrong with you; there never was. So, you can always feel good about yourself, no m atter what is going
onaroim dyou. How does that make you feel?
Client as a child: That makes me feel good!
Therapist: So, ffom now on, you have this protective coating on at all times, ju st like the duck wears his
protective coating all the tim e. You are not a chicken. You are like the duck, and nothing can ever sink
you! You just swim and have a great tim e, because you are just fine the way you are. How do you like
that?
Client as a chOd: I like that.
Therapist: Now be the adult. D o esh eg etit?
Client as an adult: Yes, he does.
Therapist: Is he safe and secure?
Client as an adult: Yes, he is.
(Like Water O ff A Ducks Back.wpd32002)

5-PATH™ Overview: Phase II
Banyan Hypnosis C enter for T raining & Services, Inc.
A s you use 5-PA TH keep in m ind the sim ple and effective checklist below
Phase II
1. Review last session
2. Induction and deepening "
3. Affect Bridge Age Regression
4. U ncover and neutralize the ISE
5. M ove through SSEs and do age progression if appropriate.
6. Direct suggestion for issues.
7. Emerge and post-hypnotic interview

Handouts for DVD 4
How A 5-PA TH P ractitio n er C an Sucćeed In H elping C hildren W ith H ypnosis
Calvin D. Banyan, M A, CI, BCH
So many o f our 5-PATH građuates are now asking for information on how to w ork w ith
children, it has come tim e to write out some specifics. I hope that you finđ this useful,
interesting and thought provoking.
W orking w ith children can be a very interesting experience for those who w ish to extend
their practice into this area. Everything that you learned when you went through our
program w iil be o f use to you here, but there are some interesting differences.
W hen we w ork w ith children, we often ask the parents to consider going through the
hypnotherapy process themselves. We tell them that doing so w ill help them to
understand more o f what the experience is like for the child. One o f the m ain reasons we
started doing this was because, it became obvious to us, in some cases, the child’s
problem was really just and extended symptom o f the problem in the femily. For
example, if a parent is overly critical o f the child, whatever work is done in the
hypnotherapy sessions w ith the child can be quickly undone as soon as the child gets
home. So, do what you can to discuss this w ith the parents, if it seems like it would be in
the best benefit o f the child.
Also, remember that in most states (and perhaps every state; I don’t know about other
countries), if you leam about a case o f abuse, you may be required by law to report it to
the proper authorities. It is best to let your clients know tbis whenever you are working
w ith a client who is under 18 years old.
Before I go any further, I have to give you a definition o f what I mean by a “child,” from
a therapeutic standpoint. From a legal standpoint (in most places), the determining fector
is whether he or she is over a certain age; for example, where I live, the age is 18. In
applying hypnotherapeutic techniques, the determination is not so easy to make.
As 5-PATH Therapists, we have some o f the most hypnotherapeutic tools available to us.
We can use all o f them when working w ith children, but we have to keep in mind the
maturity and intellectual development each child has obtained.
Your challenge w ill be to be to first connect w ith the child (get her to like and trust you),
then conduct the process in such a way as is appropriate to the child’s level o f
understanding and insight abilities.
When you are working with a child, you have a special case. As you remember from
your training, everything that you have e)q>erienced in your life is stored in the
subconscious level o f your mind. These e?q)eriences have developed into habits and
beliefs about yourself, other people and,your world at large. When you are working with
the child, she does not have such a vašt level o f experience in the world. This causes the
child not to have the ability to reject new information if she does not have any experience
in that area. This means little or no critical factor, which equals a very good hypnotic
subject! In fact, you can do a kind o f hypnosis that few w ould even recognize as
hypnosis.
Because the child knows much less about the world than, say her parents do, she w ill do
an interesting thing. She w ill borrow the parents’ (or other trusted aduh’s) critical factor!
She w ill watch and listen to you and her parent(s) as you explain w hat you are going to
do. She w ill th en w atch to seeh o w h er parent(s) respond. Ify o u h av eco n v in ced h er
parents, then you have critical factor bypass and the change has been made! A ll you have
to do is follow through on the rest o f the process. By this, I m ean that if you tell her
parent(s) that she is going to do w ell, that children are great at using hypnosis for these
kinds o f things (whatever brought them in to see you) and all you have to do is have her
sit in the hypnosis chair and have her relax for a few m inutes and she w ill quickly and
easily overcome the problem. Then, if you have sufficiently convinced the parent(s), all
you have to do is have the child go to the hypnosis chair and relax while you give her
suggestions for the issue. Often this is all there is to it!
Fortunately, you can do much m ore than that. But that would be a great place to start.
For the child, the convincer is w hether or not Mom or Dad believes it w ill work. You
have to remember that children have magical thinking. They believe lots o f things, ju st
because adults say that it is true (i.e., Santa Claus, E aster Bunny, fairies, m onsters and
such). If her parent(s) indicates that she believes that hypnosis w ill work, then it will.
W hen doing work with a child (depending on the age o f the child; and usually you w ill
needn child that is at least 5 years o f age, who has a good ability to follow instructions),
you can use instant and rapid inductions. I like to use the B last Ofif induction, or a Dave
Elman type induction. There are also other inductions that are particularly suited to
woridng with children. The inductions that are designed to w ork w ith children w ill be
types that ask the child to imagine. I f you can have the child im agine, then you have
access to the subconscious mind.
Two hypnotic inductions come to mind that were designed especially for children. One
simply has the child sit back w ith her eyes closed and either imagine that she is watching
a favorite television show, or video game. The hypnotherapist simply encourages the
child to do that and to talk about what she is “seeing” on the screen. W hile the child’s
m ind is focused on this, suggestions for the change are given. A nother variation o f this
type o f induction is to simply have the child imagine that there is a large bucket o f w ater,
and that she has a ball filled w ith air. She is to imagine that she is pushing the ball down
into the water and to imagine that she can feel it push back up into her hand because it
wants to float. While that is going on, suggestions are given.
W hat kind o f suggestions? Short simple patter scripts w ork best. Remember, we are in
Phase I, o f 5-PATH. The main conviricer was the parent accepting the idea that hypnosis
w ill work. But you can use eye lock, time distortion, arm catalepsy, and sensitivity to the
color red. All o f that can w ork just as well with a child (as it did w ith your adult clients),
perhaps even better. I w ill give some examples o f some patter scripts for children at the
end o f this discussion.
W hen doing direct suggestion sessions w ith your chiid client, you w ill w ant to keep the
hypnosis sessions short, perhaps 10 m inutes or so, depending on the attention level and
the age o f the child (longer for older children, up to 12 or 13). Some older children, those
who are 12 or 13 years old, can be treated exactly the same as adults. I have w orked with
“children” who are 13 years old, but seem to have the intelligence and m aturity o f
someone twice that age. The converse is also true at tim es, in that I have w orked w ith
adults who are in th eir m id tw enties, who intellectually and m aturity-wise, are half their
age. You need to spend enough tim e w ith your clients before the hypnosis begins to
make a good judgm ent about these im portant aspects o f each client w ith whom you work.
In young children, you may only w ant to do direct suggestion, and that may be all that
you need to do. They are highly suggestible, and if they w ant to make the change, for
example, stop wetting the bed, in 1 to 3 sessions o f direct suggestion, you w ill probably
be successfiil.
Age regression is appropriate for alm ost any age, if handled correctly and if they have
sufficient level o f ability to understand and folk>w suggestions. During my first teaching
visit to Singapore, I w orked w ith a young girl who was only eleven years old. She was
having difficulty in school because she was afiaid o f tests and had difficulty studying and
remembering what she had leam ed. This is w hat I did for her. I spent tim e w ith her and
her mother listening to the problem, and assuring them that hypnosis w ill work great for
it. I spent some tim e visiting w ith the girl while her mother was still w ith us. Then when
it seemed like we had made firiends w ith each other, I sent her mother out o f the room.
Then I did a rapid induction (m y version o f the Dave Elman) and then did a couple o f
convincers, eye lock and arm catalepsy, gave her some suggestions for feeling better
w hen she takes a test and being able to concentrate. This w as followed by giving her the
convincer o f sensitivity to the color red. I emerged her and we talked about the session.
As we discussed the session, I found out that she felt great about it and was surprised that
she could not open her eyes or lower her arm. Then I got permission to do another
session right then. The first session only lasted about 12 minutes. I told her this tim e she
would go into hypnosis even deeper and the results w ill be 10 tim es more powerful.
I quickly re-induced hypnosis w ith a shortened version o f the induction, and then did an
age regression using the Affect-Bridge Technique. We w ent back to a couple o f
situations in school w here she was experiencing the problematic symptoms. Then I
checked to see if she ever felt that way, and found that it was a fam iliar feeling. I then
regressed her to a tim e involving her family where she felt afiraid. Then I did the
Informed Chilđ Technique w ith her and moved her through the ISE, and SSEs. I did not
do separate sessions for forgiveness, but rather had her do forgiveness o fth e people who
contributed to the problem (fearfulness) as I went through the ISE and SSEs. Children
often find it easier to forgive than adults do, so they usually don’t require a special
session for forgiveness. I did not do Phase V with her, as is usually the case w ith both
adults and children.
A fler the session, we followed up w ith how the girl did in school. As it w orked out, my
little client had a quiz the next day and she reported to her m other how she felt very calm
and confident throughout the oral exam. As it worked out, her teacher unknowingly
helped out by cairying a red purse! She said when she saw that red purse she knew
everything would go great.
I f she had some difficulty after her session, I would have done the same as if I had been
working with an adult client. First, I would talk to her about how she felt during the oral
exam. I f she feh the same w ay as she did before our session, I w ould suspect that the ISE
w as not found or completely taken care o f during the age regression. In that case, more
age regression would be indicated. I f the feeling was different, then I m ight age regress
on this new feeling, w hich may have beenthere all along, but m asked by the previous
feeling. Or, I would consider doing Parts M ediation Therapy, and w ork on any
secondary gain issues associated w ith the sym ptom
W ell, that all sounds fem iliar doesn’t it? It should. The 5-PATH system is virtually a
universal approach to doing hypnotherapy, even w ith children.
N ow , I want to include some sample patter scripts for a couple o f common childhood
issues for which parents m ight bring their children in to see y o u . Each o f the following
scripts assumes that you have induced hypnosis and have conducted w hatever convincers
youintend to give during the session and are now ready to give suggestion.
Stopping Bed W etting
As you continue to relax, your mind relaxes, and the part o f you that w ants to wake up in
a dry bed is listening very carefixlly. As this part o f you listens, it becom es m ore
powerful, as it now leam s how to have a dry bed every morning.
A s you continue to listen and relax, it is as if all other sounds are unim portant and only
m y words are important, because my words are being heard by the part o f you that is
going to help you wake up when you have to go to the bathrooha, so that you can always
sleep in a drybed.
You know how good that is going to feel. You know how proud that is going to make
you feel - to feel good and confident every night that you wake up in a dry bed every
moming.
Right now, you are so relaxed, it is like you are asleep at night. And if you w anted to get
up and go to the bathroom right now, you could do ju st that. You could ju st say to me, I
have to go to the bathroom, and I would have to let you go. We would Imve to
immediately stop our little hypnosis session and let you go. Then, after you w ent to the
bathroom (if we vvanted), we could do some more hypnosis.
This is the way it w ill be from now on when you are asleep. I f you find that you get the
feeling inside o f you that tells you that you need to go, then the part o f you that wants to
w ake up in a dry bed, w ill ju st tell you, I have to go to the bathroom, and you w ill wake
up! Y o u w illfeelg o o d th aty o u w ereab leto w akeup. You w ill feel good about
yourself. You w illthensafely and comfortably go to the bathroom and w hen you are
done, you will easily go right back to sleep. It will be that simple.
So, now the part o f you that w ants to wake up in a dry bed is in charge whenever you are
asleep at night, it will wake you up. You are now a person who is in control. You are
now a person that wakes up every day in a dry bed.
Self-Esteem : W ater O ff A D uck’s B ack
T herapist: Let me ask you something. Have ever seen a duck? Did you know that
ducks can swim? Can chickens swim?
C hild: I don’t think so.
T h erap ist: That’s right, ducks can swim, but chickens can’t sw im And, let me tell you
why. You see, ducks don’t get wet. Well, their feet and their beaks get w et, but that is
ju st <a small part ofthem . So mostly, they stay dry. This is why they float and they swim.
I f you threw a chicken in a tub, he would get wet and he would sink. Promise me you
w orft throw any chickens in your bathtub.
C hilđ: I won’t.
T h erap ist: Let me tell you why ducks đon’t get wet. You see, they have this protective
coating on them that keeps the w ater from wetting their feathers. Because ofth is, they
can swim in the rain and still keep dry. Isn’t that nice?
C hild: Yes, it is.
T h erap ist: Now, you are going to get a protective coating that is like the one that the
duck has. From now on, whenever anyone says or does anything that would hurt you or
make you feel bad, this protective coating is going to cause those words or actions to just
bounce off! From now on, no one can cause you to feel bad about yourself. Now, you
know that when people say or do bad things, it has nothing to do w ith you. Thev have
the problem. You are just fine. You are okay. You are always loveable. And, you now
havć this protective coating. It is made o u to ftru th an d the truth about you is that there is
nothing wrong with you; there never was. So you can always feel good about yourself,
no m atter what is going on around you. How does that make you feel?
C hild: That makes me feel good!

T herapist: So, from now on. You have this protective coating on at all times, ju st like
the duck wears his protective coating all the tim e. Y ou are not a chicken. Y o u arelike
the duck, and nothing can ever sink you! You just swim and have a great time, because
y o u a re ju stfin eth e w ay youare. How do you like that?
C hild: I like that.
T herapist: From ttow on, you w ill simply ignore anything that anyone says about you
that does not make you feel good, especially if it is a child. From now on, you feel good
about yourself. You find it easy to concentrate on your school w ork or do well at
anything you want to do w ell, be it making friends, or playing games, or sports or
anything you want, because you are good.
O vercom ing D ifficult S ituations: L ike D ivorce O r A D eath
We have all heard stories and we like to have stories read to us. Some stories start o ff
with, “Once upon a tim e .” And, those same stories all seem to end with, “And, they lived
happily ever after.”
Although all o f those stories started o ff the same way, the part in betw een is always
different. Those stories are about people who are on adventures and who have im portant
things to do. These stories have something that the people in the story need to do to get
to the “happily ever after” part.
Your life is your story. You are going to have many adventures and challenges and many
happy endings. For those in between times, when I w ant to focus on making things better
I wifl just say to m yself, “This too shall pass.” I think I heard that in a story someone
read to me a long tim e ago. I like to say to myself, ‘T h is too shall pass.” It makes me
remember that I w ill feel better, and that things w ork out after awhile.
Saying, “This too shall pass,” reminds me o f how things seem to w ork out.
Saying, “This to o sh all pass,” reminds me that there is a “happily ever after in my
future.”
For every down, there is an up, so saying “This too shall pass,” reminds me that I w ill
have many “ups” ahead for me. I have happy tim es ahead and so do you.
So, from now on, you can say somethitig like, “This too shall pass,” and you wifl feel
better too. Or you can use another saying like, “Every clpud has a silver lining.” In this
way, you can find som ething good in just about anything, if you want to. Or maybe you
can make your own saying.
From now on, you have something you can say to yourself to make yourself feel better,
no matter what part o f the story you are living in. Y ou can feel good if you are in the
“O nce upon a tim e” part o f your story. Y ou can feel good if you are in the middle or
adventure part o f the story. Or you can feel good because you are in the “happily ever
afler part o f the story.” Because no m atter where you are in your story, you can always
say something that w ill make you feel better. I like saying, “This too shall pass.”
A dditional scripts can be found on the Intem et, and from time to time, we w ill ofifer more
scripts through our training. So feel free to contact us or visit our web site at,
www.HypnosisCenter.com. You can also write your own patter by combining
inform ation that you receive from your client, with the High Road To Success U niversal
Patter Script available through our office.
© 2001 C alvinD . Banyan, all rights reserved.
(Working with children. Wd. Doc.)

P hase II: Age Regression O utline
C alvin D. B anyan, M A, BCH , C I
1. Induce hypnosis; deepen (and test for somnambulism, if this is the first session).
2. Bring up the feeling (i.e., there is a feeling insideyou that has everything to do with w hyyou
are here today).
3. Use A ffect-B ridge to regress client to Initial Sensitizing Event (ISE).

A. Focus on the feeling; it is connected to every time in yo u r life th a ty o u fe lt that way.
B. As I count back fro m 5 to 1, you go back to an earlier time when you fe lt that way.
C. 5, 4, 3, 2 ,1 ; be there. F irst impression:
- day time or night time? (Wait for response)
- indoors or outdoors? (Wait for response)
- alone or with someone? (Wait for response)
D. Ifw ith so m eo n e,”W h o a reyo u w ith ”? (W ait forresponse)
Ifalone, “How are yo u feelin g alone ”? (W ait for response) ■
E. D n going to askyo u a guestion. Don 1 think the answer to the question, fe e l it.
“Is thatfeelin g irtside yo u new or fam iliar"? Fam iliar like, “Oh boy, here we go
again?” O rnew ,like, “What is going on here? ” (W ait for response)
F. If “new” you may have reached ISE, but it should make sense, given the history o f
the client.
Tf “familiar” continue to regress. “Focus your attention on the feelin g and as I count
from 5, back to 1, you go to an earlier time or situation where you fe lt that way. ”
Do this until you reach ISE.
G. I suggest that even after your client reports that the feeling is new that you continue
one last time w ith the age regression. If the situation was that o f the ISE, you will
regress no fiirther.
H. The ISE should be consistent with the known history o f the client.
4. Do Inform ed Child.
A. Have the client who is regressed to a child, go into the background and address the
“adult”
B. Establish that the child is loveable, by saying something like, “lfy o u had a child like
(call regressed client by the age he/she has regressed to) in your life couldyou
________ ___
love him/her?”
C. Have the adult (often called “grownup”) go back with the child to before the ISE and
tell the child that he/she is loveable and that there is nothing wrong with them. Or
whatever is needed to get him/her through the ISE without being affected by it.
D. Inform the child that the adult cannot lie to him/her because they share the same
feelings or heart.
E. Have the adult tell the child that, “III always be here fo r you. III never let you down.
You1l never be alone. Because I love you and understand." I like to place the chilđ
in the adult’s heart so that they can keep these promises.
F. Test the effect o f the interaction. Ask the child if he/she feels safe and secure.
Ifso . then continue to inform the child with pertinent information such as:
you get to grow up
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- your m other will come back
- any insight that the adult client wishes he or she knew back then.
I f not. you may have to continue to regress because this may not be before the ISE,
after all.
G. M ove the child fonvard from ISE through SSEs, feeling safe and secure w ith
themselves and grownup helping and guiding.
5. Inform ed A dult is accomplished by having the child recognize that he/she has changed and
reporting the change to the adult. For example:
A. I ’ve changed, because n o w lk n o w _ (filling in the blank).
________________________________________________
B. I Ve changed, because now I fe e l (filling in the blank).

______________________________________ .
C. I*ve changed. A s I change, you change, because I am you. I live in your heart where
all your feelings come from .
This helps to bring the changes in the child into the awareness and perceptions o f the adult.
6. F u tu re Self is accomplished by taking the child all the way up to the age o fth e adult, feeling
safe and secure (time permitting). Then, projecting the client into the ftiture, w ith these
changes. This gives the client a more positive bias or realistic b o k at him /her-self and the
world. For example, the ovenveight client sees the slim future. The smoking client sees a
successful life as a non-smoker. The depressed client sees a hopeful fiiture and so on.
I liketo place the future-self in the client’s mind as a coach and reminder o f success.
7. Always end the session with D irect Suggestions pertaining to the changes that the client
came to accomplish. This process has forced the Subconscious Mind to reconsider past
experiences and reorganize. It is now ready to accept new suggestions, like never before.
8. Em erge from hypnosis with suggestions for success and feeling gopd.
9. Post-hypnotic Interview should include answering questions about the session and
recommendations for the next appointment.
(Phase II Age Regression Outline.vvpd)

The Key to Successful Hypnotherapeutic Age Regression: Identifying the Initial
Sensitizing Event (ISE)
Calvin D. Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
Every issue that m otivates someone to see a hypnotherapist has a beginning.

Hypnotherapeutic Age Regression Therapy (HART) is one o f the most powerful tools
available tp the hypnotherapist. It allows the therapist to find the beginning or cause o f
the issue and neutralize it. HART was briefly discussed in my previous article on 5-
PATH: it is Phase II (Age Regression/AR) o f that five-phase process.
HART enables the hypnotherapist to find the event associated with the cause o f the
problem (called the Initial Sensitizing Event/ISE) and neutralize it, as well as the
subsequent events that reinforced it (Subsequent Sensitizing Event/SSE). The process o f
using the wisdom o f the “adult” client and hypnotherapist to neutralize the problem is
called the Informed Child Technique. Together the “adult” client and the therapist give
the “child” whatever information she needs to have in order to remove the negative
effects which the event had upon her. For example the “child” may have thought that she
would die when left alone for the first time, or that she was unlovable when her m other
became angry at her, and so on. This process removes these erroneous beliefs and the
emotional pain associated with them by telling her the truth o f the situation, i.e., she lives
and she is loveable.
To be most effective, the Informed Child Technique needs to occur before the ISE, before
the damage is done. Essentially the “child” needs to go into the situation knowing what
the ađult client wished she had known then so that she can get through it without being
negatively effected by it.
The process o f HART consists o f suggesting to a client who has reached a level o f
somnambulism that she go back to the beginning o f the problem. This is usually done by
bringing up the feeling associated with the problem and using it as an “affect bridge,”
which leađs her back to revivify the first event in which the feeling occurred. Typical
feelings include but are not limited to anger, fear and guilt. The ISE is uncovered and the
earlier emotional pain and misconceptions caused by the event o f the “child” is removed
which results in a neutralizing o f the painful emotion. Then the therapist uses the insights
gained by going through the ISE to neutralize emotions associated with the SSEs by
guiding the client through those events with that knowledge.
In teaching advanced hypnotherapy courses I have found that often hypnotherapists who
wish to use HART come to the classes not knowing how to identify the ISE and confuse
it with another event such as an SSE. This leads to less than effective therapy and
frustration on the part o f the client and therapist. Sadly, these frustrated hypnotherapists
may stop using HART because if it’s apparent lack o f effectiveness.
The key to successful HART is to find the ISE. If the ISE is not found, then the Informed
Child Technique will not be effective in the long term or only partially effective. So,
how does someone know if they have found the ISE? Well, in the strictest terms you
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cannot be absolutely certain. However I would like to offer you the criteria that we use at
the Banyan Hypnosis Center for Training & Services, Inc., to establish a high level o f
certainty and effectiveness. As a therapist you need two sets o f criteria, one set that you
use while doing HART, and one that you use afterward in order to determ ine whether
additional age regression is necessary.
Criteria for establishing an ISE while you are doing HART:
1. ISE should make sense given the known history o f the client.
If the problem was known to exist earlier than the age that you have a regressed the client
to, then you don’t have the ISE. For example if you know that your client has had an
extreme fear o f spiders since she was seven years old then the ISE must have occurred at
the age o f 7 or earlier.
2. ISEs generally occur before seven years old.
Unless there has been some kind o f traum a, such as a war, rape, or natural disaster, etc.,
then it most likely that the ISE occurred before the age o f seven, and some experts will
te llf'o u it should have been earlier than that, before five years old. H owever this is the
least important o f the criteria that I am listing.
3. The client regressed to the ISE w ill report the feeling as being new.
W hen you are conducting the age regression using the affect bridge, you need to check
eachievent that your client revivifies by asking if the feeling is new. If it is a fam iliar
feeling then she has experienced it before and you should direct your client to follow the C ,
feeling back to the first tim e she felt that way.
4. Confirm that the feeling/affect is new by attempting to regress again on the

feeling/affect.
W hen your age regressed client tells you that the feeling is new, attempt to do the affect
bridge again. Most tim es there will be an earlier event. But if there is no earlier event
she will find herself in the same situation. This increases your confidence that you have
uncovered the ISE.
5. Regress before the ISE and the feeling should not exist.
Once you have the above evidence that you have uncovered the ISE, then suggest that she,
now go back a short tim e before that event (i.e., minutes, hours or a day). Then check for
the feeling or erroneous thinking that is causing the feeling. It should not exist. If it does
then you have not found the ISE and you need to suggest that she go back further to the
first tim e she felt that way.
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6. Regressed before tbe ISE tbe client should feel safe and secure, etc.
Once you have regressed before the ISE check and see how she feels. She should feel
safe, secure or innocent, w hatever she should feel before the ISE changed her from her
original state.
7. Before the ISE your client should easily accept suggestions when you are doing
the Informed Child Technique.
If your client appears to be before the ISE and you proceed to use the Informed Child
Technique and she tends to đism iss or reject the suggestions that you give her then you
are not before the ISE, or there is too much conscious interference from the adult/client.
Indications that you have missed the ISE while you are doing HART:
Once your client has connected with that earlier self as a child and how she felt then
(before the ISE) the Informed Child Technique should go fairly smooth. Extreme
difficulty in successfully utilizing the Informed Child Technique indicates that you have
not feund the ISE . D on’t be concemed about going back too far. It is not uncommon for
a client who came from a difficult childhood to regress to infancy or even to a prenatal
conđition in order to get before ISE. I have even, on occasion regressed a client to a
poini in time just after conception or earlier in order to find a tim e when they were safe,
secure, innocent, guiltless, etc.
Them ain goal o f HART and the Informed Child Technique is to uncover the event,
remove the erroneous fears and beliefs cause by the ISE and replace it with tm th as best
the “adult” client and therapist working together can provide. This removes the cause o f
the problem and offers the opportunity to give your client hypnotic suggestions that are
based on reality and addresses the issue that brought her in to see you. Many self-
defeating problems and addictions are coping strategies for dealing with painful emotions
associated with the ISE and SSEs, i.e., the alcoholic who uses alcohol to make herself
feel more confident, or deaden the pain o f guilt.
As you take your client back to before the ISE, after doing the Informed Child
Technique, you check to make sure that she remains free o f the emotion or erroneous
belief. Then proceeđ to move your client forward through tim e going through the SSEs
making sure that the negative effect ofthe ISE has been cleared. Ifthere is a problem, do
the informed child technique with the SSE, just as you did with the ISE to clear the
problem.
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Post-Session C riteria for confidence that you found the ISE after doing HART
Once you have completed a HART session you need to continue working with the client
(i.e., contine w ith 5-PATH in order to reatnove anger and guilt that has occurred because
o f the ISE). D uring that tim e you can get feedback from your client on how things are
going. Positive changes should be occurring in your client’s life.
Here are some ways to check to see if the work o f HART was completed:
1. Inform ed C hild Technique removes the feeling or erroneous belief associated

with the problem .
D uring the initial age regression session, before you emerge your client, always check to
see I fth e feeling associated with the problem has been removed. If it has not been
removed, use that feeling and the affect bridge back in tim e and keep working on it.
W hen your client reports that the feeling is gone, it should be replaced by the new feeling
which is more consistent with reality (i.e., feeling loved, innocent, safe and secure, etc.)
Then check for the feeling again after you emerge your client.
2. Your client should feel relieved when the session is over.
W hen a client emerges from a session and is upset, this means that the work has not been
completed. If HART was completed properly your client will emerge feeling changed
and w ill look fonvard to doing additional sessions. Suggest that eaćh session will be
m ore powerful and she will feel even better.
3 . A fter a H A RT session, the problem behavior ceases unless there are secondary
gain issues.
W hat if the problem gets worse?
If the problem that the client came to see you about worsens, it indicates that more age
regression needs to be done. Generally there is an earlier event that was the real ISE or
the problem was not fully neutralized. You are on the right track, you just need to be
more thorough as you continue the process. Furtherm ore, it may not have been a
problem involving inadequate technique. Sometimes a client will not reveal the true ISE.
When they come back for the next session it gives them the opportunity to be more
truthful and participate more fully in the process.
D ealing w ith Secondary G ain Issues
A good HART session should remove the cause o f the problem and any motivation to
continue in the behaviors associated with it (i.e., bad habits, compulsions and even
addictions).. If the problem persists and you are confident that you found and neutralized
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the ISE then you can suspect that there are secondary gain issues involved. Simply put,
secondary gain issues are things in your client’s life that continue to reinforce or demand
the old behavior (i.e., fam ily, job, disability payments, etc.) The best way I have found to
work with secondary gain issues is to do Parts M ediation Therapy (PMT is phase five o f
5-PATH). In PM T the hypnotherapist divides the client into Parts, takes on the role o f a
mediator and assists her client in imcovering the benefitš o f the reasons for the behavior.
The therapist and the client’s Parts work together to come up with new behaviors that are
healthier and meets the needs o f the client, a win-win solution that satisfies the Part o f the
client who wishes to change and the Part o f the client who want to continue in the
problem behavior.
Putting All Together
In order to do HART you need to achieve a level o f hypnosis called somnambulism.

M ost people can reach this level given that proper preparation has been done, such as a
good pre-talk, use o f a hypnotic induction designed to induce somnambulism and the use
o f convincers. The HART process removes old erroneous beliefs and emotions
associated with the problem. This causes the subconscious mind to go into a state o f
reorganization as these firm ly held erroneous beliefs are rejected and replaced with more
realistic and positive ones as a result o f the Informed Child Technique. This causes your
client to go into a temporary state o f heightened suggestibility with regard to the
situation. So it is very important that you end this kind o f session with a couple o f
minutes o f direct suggestion, reinforcing the changes that w ere made. The subconscious
mind will then reorganize around the new experience and the suggestions that you are
providing. After the subconscious mind has once again solidified around these new
feelings and beliefs they w ill be long lasting, even perm anent.
5
Tw elve K eys To Successful A ge Regression Sessions
Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc., M innesota State Licensed School
2565 County Road 10, Mounds View, MN 55112 • 763-785-3390 or www.IfvpnosžsCenter.com
1. The success o f your age regression session is affected by the first impression.
2. Make sure you do a very good pre-talk. Tell her the “truth” about hypnosis.
3. Listen to your client. Let her tell you what she thinks the problem is.
4. First do a direct suggestion session, using hidden tests convincers.
5. When doing age regression sessions, generally the shorter the induction the better!
6. Use the same deepening techniques that you used in the first session.
7. Condition your clients to respond to the suggestion o f experiencing feelings. This will
make it easier to use the Affect Bridge Technique.
8. Be consistent w ith your numbers. Count backwards when you want your client to
regress in age, and forward when you want them to progress in time.
9. Help your client build the gestalt of-the experience by asking, “First impression: Is it
daytime or nighttim e?”
10. Never lead your client. Encourage yoiir client to “just tell me what is happening now”
and to “go on.”
11. Stay in present tense! Never say “can you remember” or use the term “remember.” It
will take them out of revivification!
12. Know how to check for ISE.

B onustips
13. Go before the ISE to do the Informed Child Technique.
14. Make sure the emotion or misconception associated w ith the problem has been
removed and then go through some SSEs to make sure it has been completely removed.
15. Do the Informed Adult Technique, using age progression, providing an expectation of
success.
16. Complete the session with direct suggestion! Your client is highly suggestible for
suggestions that are consistent with what she just experienced.
17. Consider integrating forgiveness into your age regression sessions.
18. Consider leam ing Parts M ediation Therapy, to help with secondary gain issues.
Handouts for DVD 5
Banyan H ypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc.
2565 County Road 10, Mounds View, MN 55112, USA
(763) 785-3390 or www.hypnosiscenter.com
Cahin Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
Moving Your Client Along When In Age Regression-Without Leading Or Emerging
W hen your client is in age regression, you w ant to be able to move her along through the experience without
contam inating it. The following are suggested phrases and sentences that tend to move the client along through the
event. The focus is on gaining infonnation without leading. Also, such statem ents tend to deepen the experience.
F irs t im pression, c/aytime o rn ig h ttim e?

F irs t im pression, in d o o rs o ro u td o o rs?
Firstim p ressio n , are y o u a io n e o r w ith som eone?
W h o isth e re ?
H ow does sh e fe e iab ou t th a t?
H ow ca n y o u te iith a t s h e fe e fs th at w ay?
F irs t im pression, h o w o id a re y o u ?
A re y o u standing, sittin g o r iy in g dow n?
D escrib e where y o u a re .
D escrib e that to m e.
G ood.
G o on.
M o v e o n to a tim e when y o u fe it ______ .
Condnue.
K eep g oin g .
Te/im e everything a s it happens.
T e iim e m ore ab ou t that.
H ow does that m ake y o u fe e f?
M ove forw ard to the n e x t tim e y o u fe e i that way.
M ove b a ck to a p revio u s tim e th a ty o u fe it th at way.
M oveforw ard.
M ove on the n ext sig n ifica n t event
N ow w h afs happening?
W hathappens n ext?
W h atjust happened?
W hatdo y o u w ant?
W here are y o u n o w ?
W h atis m akin gyou fe e ith a t way, iO?(The number 10 indicates the age o f the client in the regressed
state. This is done to keep the client focused into the regression.)
Always stay in the present tense. If you must use past tense, make it clear that you are speaking to the client in the regressed state. This is
easily accomplished by calling the client by her age. For example, “Okay 10, what just happened?” This is also the case when using the word
“why.” Often when you ask ,“Why”?, the adult client (who is not in the regressed state may answer). Asking, “Why,Malso tends to call in the
tional analytical mind and lighten the hypnotic state. Asking, “Why,Mcan also cause the client to move into past tense, and out of
’ ivification (true age regression).
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Handouts for DVD 7
5-PATH™ Overview: Phase III
B anyan Hypnosis Center for Training & Services, Inc.
As you use 5-PA TH keep in mind the sim ple and effective checklist below.
Phase III
1. Review last session
2. Induction and deepening
3. Set up a room with two chairs.
4. Client expresses feelings toward offender.
5. Offender is m ade forgivable and is forgiven.
6. Direct suggestion for issues.
7. Emerge and post-hypnotic interview

Ten K eys To Forgiveness
Calvin D. Banyan, MA, CI, BCH
Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc., Minnesota State Licensed School
2565 County Road 10, Mounds View, MN 55112 • 763-785-3390 or H vm osisCenter.com
So many times in any psychotherapy process, including hypnotherapy (Phase III of 5-PATH), our clients’ ability
to move and be successful in their sessions, hinges on their ability to let go of a painful experience of the past.
This painful experience, which may have happened years ago, is still causing problems, perhaps contributing to
substance abuse, weight gain, or many other kinds ofdifficulties, including physical illness. Therapists need to
know how to ffee their clients of these old pattems, and the painful feelings. If the feeling is anger or guilt, then
we need to help them to forgive themselves or some other person.
The following are the “Ten Keys To Forgiveness,” which, when used in a therapeutic process (i.e.,
hypnotherapy), can be very effective in helping your clients to overcome anger and guilt. Helping your client
understand these keys leads to consistent results when doing “Chair Therapy,” or other kinds of forgiveness
processes. Using these principles, almost any client can be helped to forgive those they previously thought were
unforgivable.
1. Help the client to uncover any known causes of the hurtful behavior, leading to understanding.
If the cause of the hurtful behavior is unknown, the next best thing is to consider probable causes,
such as the offender never leamed how to behave properly.
2. That the offender also eiperienced pain because of the thing he or she did.
3. Uncover regret that the offender may have over having hurt your client.
4. If it is tme, discuss how the intent was notto hurt the client, but rather the offender was trying
to fulfill some need, want or desire.
5. If there was a positive intent, discuss what that was. For example, a parent might have been
overly critical; the intent was not to hurt, but to prepare the client/child for a world where “being
tough would benefit the child” (from the parent’s perspective).
6. If there is regret in the offender, then having the offender express it to your client in direct terms
is very helpful. Encourage the offender to say, “Pm sorry,” if in fact, that is the case.
7. The next step is to actually have the ofiender ask for forgiveness directly, by saying, “Please
forgive me.”
8. Let the client know that the forgiveness is nottor the offender. The forgiveness is a gift that
they are going to give themselves that will change how they feel inside, and set them free from
the past for healing.
9. The offender won’t be able to benefit from it at all because he or she will forget everything that
just happened (or wouId not actually be informed of the forgiveness), this way they will not be
made vulnerable because the offender will want to come back into their lives.
10. Let the client know that he or she does not have to forget. Forgetting is not required, nor is it
recommended! Intelligence is defined as the ability to leam from experience. Forgetting the
experience would lead to ignorance.
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Phase III: Forgiveness of Person W ho H u rt Them The M ost
C al B anyan, MA, BCH, C I
2565 County Road 10, Mounds View, MN 55112, USA
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1. Induce hypnosis and deepen to somnambulism.
2. Have your client go to “the round room ,” with two chairs, where one is the listening chair
and the other is the speaking chair.
3. Have your client put the person who h u rt them the most or other im p o rtan t person who
h u rt them (as revealed in the age regression session) in the listening chair. Suggest to
your client that you are going to have her say something to this person, but to not say those
things unless they are true.
A. Y ouhurtm e.
B. You hurt me when I was ju s t a little g irl (or boy, or whenever it was).
C. You hurt me when .............
D. You m ade m efeel.... (This focuses on the feeling component part o f the issue.)
E. You made me think.... (This focuses on the reasoning aspects o f the issue.)
F. Repeat A through E as a teenager or other subsequent time in his or her life.
G. Then as adult and add, "1 can s till f e e l th epain !"
The purpose is to uncover real feelings toward this person, so the forgiveness takes all
o f the hurt into consideration.
4. Exacerbate the pain further by calling attention to w here she feels it in th eir body. Ask,
"Where do you f e e l th a t _______ (whatever the feeling is, i.e„ anger) in y o u r body?
"
5. Have your client tell the offender w hat was done.

Encourage your client to express her feelings and suggest that this will help her to take back
control o f her life. Suggested expression o f experience might include:
A. You let me down.
B. I h a te w h a ty o u d id to m e .
C. A ll I ever w a n te d fro m y o u w a s
................
D. I 'm not goin g to le ty o u hurt me anymore!

Really encourage your client to express feelings and to either strike a pillow or push into it.
It is important that your client bring any sigrtificant negative feelings up to the surface where
they can be processed by the forgiveness. Fill “the platter o f pain” up so that they can be
neutralized in the forgiveness process.
6. Have your client become the offending person. This allows the client to unlock any hidden
understanding she may have about the situation. It has probably been locked away,
because showing any understanding may have left your client feeling vulnerable to further
pain or abuse. The transition to becoming the offender is done in this way. Say, uF ollow my
instructions instantly and autom atically. ” (Firmly touch head like in an instant induction and
say) B e ' (insert the name o f the offender, i.e., your mother, or father, etc.).
7. PowerfuIly go after the offender. It is time to reveal the weakness o f the offender and bring
an understanding of the situation to the surface where we can use it to facilitate the
forgiveness.. Maybe she never leamed how to love, or maybe she did what she did because
she was afraid. This will be uncovered here. Use phrases like:
A. What ’s wrong with you? D idn ’t you grow up in a g o o d fa m ily w here y o u learned
how to love and treat little girls (or boys) with kindness?
B. Look w h a tyo u have done to her. Is that what yOu meant to do, m ake her hate you?
C. When you w ere a child, d id yo u think, 1 w an t to g ro w up to be a terrible parent, ju s t
like my m other o r fa th er?
D. D id you alw ays w an t to hurt her like that?
The idea here is to uncover the fact that the offender probably didn' t really want to hurt your
client. The offender was probably a victim. Or they were untrained. Or they were afraid.
But in any case, it was not because there was really anything wrong with the client.
8. G et the offender to adm it th a t she wished th a t he h ad done b etter and never hurt the
client. After you have identified what w ent wrong in the offender' s past (if you can), have
her admit that if she had been raised differently, she would have been better, and would not
have hurt your client. Have the offender tell the client that she wished she hadn' t hurt her.
The following is a list o f statements the offender can be encouraged to make, which will
make her forgivable.
P lea sefo rg ive me. I 'm s o r r y .
You were right. I w a sw ro n g .
I f l knew then w h at I know now, I w ou ld have done things dijferently.
1 was too afraid to change, because o f how I w as raised
In e v er learned how to be a g o o d (i.e., parent, spouse, sibling, or friend).
_____________________
1 w as too angry about how m y p a ren ts raised me.

Note, however, that the forgiveness must NOT be based on the offender promising or being
willing to change in any way. "The offender will forget everything that goes on during the
session." So she cannot make any promises, because the session will have no effect on
her.
9. If the client (speaking as the offender) is uncooperative, go fonvard in time, until she dies
anđ meets her judgement. Clients tend to be more truthful and coOperative if they are
standing in front o f their Creator. Typically, it goes something like this, " I'm now counting
frorn I to 5; as I do, w e g o fo rw a r d ih tim e and yo u g e t older. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Your body has
died-and you are now se ein g y o u r w hole life p la y out in fro n t ofyou . But it is w orse than
that}you get to f e e l every single b it o f pain th a tyo u ever cau sed anyone else in you r life.
Anđ. it is worse than that: this a ll happens in fro n t o f the only one who has the right to ju d g e
you, you r C reator. " This usually causes the offender to change significantly and be more
cooperative, repentant and thus, more forgivable.
10. Does the client believe th a t the offender is sorry? Ask the client to respond to what she
just heard and whether or not she believes that the offender is sorry. If she doesn’t believe
the offender, allow the offender to respond, and encourage the offender to become more
convincing by saying something like, "Inside o fy o u are the w ords that need to be sa id
so th atyou w ill be believed. N ow do it.”
11. Have the offender ask for forgiveness. Once the heart-felt exchange has been made, the
offender needs to ask for forgiveness. The emphasis needs to be on how the forgiveness is
not for the offender, but in order to benefit your client. It shoulđ go something like this,
(speaking to the offender), "You have hurt th isperson (your daughter, or son, or etc.).
You have let her down. You have robbed her o f a g o o d childhood (etc.). A nd there is
nothing th atyou can do about it. It is a ll w ater under the bridgel What i f there is
som ethingyou could do to undo the dam age from this moment on, and g ive her back her
life? Would you be interested? (Wait for response.) It w ill take a gift o f love. A re y o u still
interested? (Wait for response.) You won ’t have control, she w ill have the control and have
the fin al decision. A r e y o u still interested? (Wait for response.) Good, this is w h a tyo u need
to do. You need to ask her to fo rg iv e you f o r everything th a ty o u ever d id that hurt her.
lfy o u do that, then she becomes fre e and the dam age is undone. It is a g ift o f love,
because you d o n t g e t to benefit from it at all. When you leave this round room, you w ill
'
forget that this has taken place. But (the client) w ill be free. W ouldyou like to do that? ”
12. Have your client forgive the offender so th a t she can really be free. Encourage
forgiveness by talking to your client and saying something like this, "Well, it has a ll come
down to forgiveness. I f You decide to fo rg iv e this person who has hu rtyou , y o u becom e
free. F ree o f a ll o f the hurt an d they can n ever affectyou the sam e w ay again. You g e ty o u r
life b a ck L et m e tell y o u w hat I mean by forgiveness. F irst o f all, fo rg iven ess does not
mean th a tyo u condone w h at has happened. It does not mean th a ty o u like who hurtyou. It
does not mean th a ty o u fo rg et. What fo rg iven ess is, is a change that happens inside o fyo u
that fre e s y o u fro m the p a st. W ouldyou like that? D o yo u w ant to fo r g iv e this p erso n (or
your father or your mother, etc.), and se t y o u rselffre e ? (Wait for response.) Good, this is
h o w yo u w ill do it. I am abou t to becom e quiet. Then you sta rt talking a n d keep talking
until a ll that anger fro m the p a s t is gone. When they are gone, then the
forgiveness is com plete. Begin. ”
When your client says that the forgiveness is done, have her check that place in her body
where she used to feel the anger and report how she feels there now. The forgiveness is
done when the feeling o f anger is gone. I f it is not gone then there is more forgiveness to do.
13. Ongoing forgiveness keeps your client free. After the forgiveness is done, your client will
feel great and often report feeling lighter, or that she can breathe. So, ask her how she feels.
Then, ask her, ltH ow w ou ld you like to continue to f e e l that w ay? There is a p rice. The
p ric e is th atyou must adopt an attitude o f ongoingforgiveness tow ard this person. Because
she has not changed. You are the one that changed. She is s till the victim , an d i f this
person is still in y o u r life, she might do som ething else that h u rtsyo u and ify o u d o n ' t
fo rg iv e them, yo u w ill g e tp u lle d right back into the o ld way. A r e y o u ready to take on an
attitude o f on goingforgiveness tow ard th isp erso n ? (Wait for response.) Good, then you
can always be fre e ! ”
14. I f the offender was not your client' s m other, then h er m other m ay need to be forgiven,
in order to fully free herself. It was her m other' s job to protect her, and in the mind o f the
child, she may share some responsibility. If so, repeat the forgiveness process with her
mother.
15. Silent forgiveness of others who h u rt you r client. Now, the clieht has experienceđ the
benefits o f forgiveness, and how good it makes her feel. Now, propose that she continue to
benefit from forgiveness. Go on with, "Now, you have learned about h o w g o o d it is to
fo rg ive a n d yo u have been coached through it by me. But, I w o u ld lik e y o u to take
advantage o f this p o w e r th a ty o u have right now. There are others who have h u rtyou;
perhaps they w ere fa m ily members, o r kids in the school yard, or som eone th a ty o u dated.
Go ahead a n d p u t each one in the chair, an d fo rg iv e them, too. R eally m a k e y o u rse lf free
fro m th epast. Take as lo n g a s y o u like a n d w h en you are done, ju s t say, I 'm done, so that
I don ’t interrupt unnecessarily. ” (Then wait.)
16. Direct Suggestion for accomplishing the changes that your client came in to make.
17. Emerge from hypnosis with suggestions o f change and feeling good.
18. Post-Hypnotic Interview to answer questions about the experience and to point out
changes that were observed by you (the therapist) and your client.
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Cycle Process o f Phase III o f 5-PATH: Forgiveness o f Others (FOO)
Calvin Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
1. Create round room with the two chairs
2. Client expresses anger, (i.e., You hurt m e w hen... You make me feel... etc.). 3 -------
3. Client becomes offender and therapist confironts like client did in Number 2.
4. The offender reveals causes & regrets about what was done (10 Keys to Forgiveness).
5. Client is asked if she believes the offender

I f “No”
a. Client tells offender she doesn’t believe. ◄— — - — ----- -i
b. Offender is encouraged to become more convincing, etc.
c. If client says I believe, then you move on to Number 6.
d. I f client doesn’t believe then you go back to “a” _________
I f “Yes” - th e n go to 6 — ,
L->-6. Have the offender ask for forgiveness.

If client is unwilling to forgive f'
a. Client says “No”, or “I don’t think that you mean it.” -<—i
b. Offender responds and becomes more convincing.
—------------------ c. Then if the client is willing to forgive go to Number 7.
d. If client is unable to forgive then go back to “a”. —------- 1
7. Client goes through forgiveness process, saying whatever needs to be said. Then the
client tells therapist that she has completed the forgiveness process with the offender.
8. Therapist checks to make sure that forgiveness has been complete.

a. Therapist says, “Check inside you were you used to feel the anger.”
b. “How does it feel there now?”
If still angry go back to Numbers 2 ,3 ,4 ,5 ,6 & 7. -—------------ -----—
If she says that the feeling is gone proceed.
c. Therapist reads through the list o f events that hurt her.
d. How do you feel?
If still ffee o f anger proceed.
If she is still angry, go back through Numbers 2 ,3 ,4 , 5 ,6 , & 7 .-------
Then do 8 again.
9. When forgiveness is accomplished, then suggest an attitude o f ongoing forgiveness.
10. Go to automatic forgiveness process if there is time and if your observation o f the
client indicates that she is able to proceed on her own. Other wise you may need to take .
her through the forgiveness process with someone else before doing automatic
forgiveness.
11. Always end with DS
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Handouts for DVD 8
T ranscript of Phase m of the 5-PATH Videotapes
Session C onducted By Caivin Banyan, MA, CI, C H
T ranscription By Jackie Ledo
(This dialogue begins after the client has been induced and deepened to sotnnambulism.)
T herapist: Now we're gonna use these abilities in an interesting and useful manner. Fd
like you to im agine, pretend if you have to, what it would be like to be in a round room
- a comfortably sized round room that is so round that even the ceilings are doomed
like and igloo might be inside. And now imagine that there are two chairs in that room,
tw o very simple chairs, facing each other just a few feet apart, near the center o f the
room, and now Fd like you, in your mind, to go over to one o f those chairs and sit do\!vn)
Already your beginning to look across at that other chair and your wondering who goes in
that other chair. In a moment Fm going to count from 1 to 3, when I get to 3 someone
very imporatnt is gonna go in that chair. _______________?___________ __ (while
taping on her forehead)
#1 That's the listening chair cause whoever we put in that chair must listen - he or she
cannot get up, cannot move.
#2 It's the one person in your life that has hurt you more than anyone else. The most
pain, the most tears, the most frustration, the earliest hurts
#3 Now, you can speak - who goes in that chair?
Client: MyFather.
T herapist: What's your Fathers first name?
Client: (quietly mumbles)
T herapist: Sayitagain
1
Client: Mobammed
Therapist: I want you to look over to him, he is going to listen, he cannot get up, he
cannot speak and when he leaves this room he will forget eveiything that has happened.
Thats okay because, it's not about him, this is about you. I want you to look over at Dad
and You say Dad you hurt me.
Client: Dad you hurt me
Therapist: Y o u h u rtm e w henl w a sju sta little g irl. ^
Client: You hurt me when I was just a little girl.
Therapist: Tell him about a time when he hurt you when you were small
....silence....
T herapist: Dađ you hurt me when:
Client: Dad you hurt me w h en .... you left me in Egypt and you went away.
Therapist: Tell him about how that made you feel.
Client: Like he didnt want me
Thereapist: Tell him - 'Dad it made me think that you didn't want me'
Client: Dad you made me thirik that I wasrit important
Thereapist: Tell him how it affected your life firom that time: with other kids, with your
Dad or Mom - tell him.
Client: I was all aione
Therapist: goon
Client: I couldn’t talk to you guys you wererit there - 1 was all alone
Therapist: Tell him what that was like for you
Client: Itw a s rit— It wasrit my fault

T herapist: Tell him'I can't'
C lient: Mohommed - 1 can't
T herapist: Thafsright. You made me agnry.
C lient: You made me angry.
T herapist: And then you got to be older, You got to be an adolecent; a big kid. Did he
continue to hurt you? Did he hurt You again?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: T ellhim (^)
C lient: Dad
T herapist: You hurt me when
C lient: You hurt me when you said I had a mean spirit
T herapist: And how it made you feel
C lient: Like you didnt want me
T herapist: And that wasn't fair was it?
Client: No
Therapist:Tell him
C lient: It wasn't fair (You didn't know me?)
T herapist: And how's that make you feel?
Client: How can you not love your own daughter?
T herapist: Tell him about it
Client: How can you think that - why did you leave me?
Therapist:Y ou made me think:
Client: You made me think I was bad.
3
T herapist: Thafs right, he made you think there was something wrong with you isn*t that
true?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Tell him what you thought was wrong with y ou
C lient: I was nasty, that I wasn't a nice person.
T herapist: Tell him how that affected your relationships with him and others - children,
family.
C lient: I always tried to please him
T herapist: Thats right.
C lient: Do what he wanted _________ ?________ _______
Therapist:Thats right, let it out.
C lientrl always tried to please everybody
T herapist: (while putting a tissue in her hand) Tell him what he did to y ou
C lient: fm not mean.
Therapists: Tell him.
C lient: Tm not mean
Therapist:Y ou were never mean were you?
C lient: No
T herapist: Tell him I was never mean.
Client: I was never mean or nasty.
T herapist: Alright and it wasn't fare was it?
Client:No it wasn't.
Therapist:A nd you became a teenager, did he continue to hurt you?

C lient: Ya
T herapist: Tell him You hurt me when..
C lient: You hurt me when you said I got fat.
T herapist: Tell him how that made you feel
Client: Ugly
T herapist: Thats right, tell him what that was like for you.
Client: Very lonely, I didn't want to do anything or go anywhere.
T herapist: Tell him you made me think...
Ciient: You made me think that I was unlikeable, I wasn't pretty.
T herapist: Tell him how that affected your relationships with others.
Client: I always felt I wasn't clean & everybody_____ __ ?_____
T herapist: He did that to you, how did it make you feel? He robbed you o f your ability
to feel nice and to feel attractive, how's that make you feel?
Client: Mad
T herapist: Thats right Angiy-Mad. That wasn't right was it?
Cllient: No
T herapist: Does he continue to hurt you?
Client: Ya
Therapist: Dad you still hurt me - Tell him - Tell him You hurt me when...
Client: You hurt me when you compaired me to others who'd become more successful.
Therapist: Tell him how that makes you feel.
Client: Like a failure
Therapist: Tell him You make me think...

C lient: You make me think that I'm never gonna accomplish anything.
T herapist: Tell him how it affects your relationships even today - go ahead.
C lient: I dont ever want to get really close to anybody cause I d o n t wanna be compaired
to them I wanna be like them
T herapist: He made you afraid - is that true? He made you feel mean; he made you feel
ugly; he made you feel like a failure and he made you afraid - is that true?
C lient: umhum
Therapist:T ell him what you think about what he's done to you.
C lient: Why, what made you do that? Why would you do that to someone who loved
you?
T herapist: Tell him alls I wanted ffom you was - Tell him...
Client: I wanted you to see me for who I was (?) even if I am fat and ugly - love me.
T herapist: Because o f him when you try to set a goal you sabatoge it. Because o f him
when you try to present yourself in an attractive way you don't dare and when you do well
andothers appreciate what you've done for yourself you can't accept a compliment and
beoause o f that you experience anger - I'll call that rightous anger because that was not
fare-tru e?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Tell him Dad your such a blankity-blank
Client: mumbles
T herapist: You might o f said it under your breath, take back your power and say it to
his face Dad your such a ....
Client: D ad your such a hypocritical bastard.
T herapist: As you say that I want you to notice these feelings you have inside you, that
anger, where is it in your body?
Client: It's in my chest.
T herapist: How would you like to be rid o f that feeling. Would you like that feeling to
go away forever?
Client: Yes
T herapist: This is what we're gonna do. I want you to take that feeling in your chest, put
it in the sholder, push it into my hand follow my hand all 1he way down to your hand and
push it into mine push it into mine - push that anger, push that anger, push that anger into
my hand and now tell Dad what you think o f what he did to you, tell him -'tell him, Dad
your such a ... tell him.
Client: Your such a ... mean
T herapist: Tell him - come on.
Client: I hate you, why*d you do that?
T herapist: Thats right, good push it into this pillow - two hands. Tell him what you think
about what he did - tell him.
Client: I hate what you did.
T herapist: Tell him
Client: I want you to love me
T herapist: Thats right tell him. Tell him about the hurt, tell him about the pain tell him
about how you carry it with you every single day. Tell him about how you try to do things
but, you think ifs no use. Tell him inside o f you, you think ifs no use. Tell him
Client: I've always tried to please you and have you be proud o f me and ifs never
enough, your never happy with anything I do.
Therapist: You make me feel...
Client: Like a failure. You make me feel like I’m not good enouth, I never do anything
right. I can’t keep the house clean enough I cant take care o f m yself, the kids aren't
exactly what they're supposed to be. I dont have a good job, I dont make enought
money, I dont do the right thing I don't go the right way.
Therapist: True or False - he's a bullly. If that's not true use the right word. Come on -
your such a , come on tell him. .
Client: Your never happy, it’s never good enough.
Therapist: Keep talking, feel that feeling, put all that feeling down into the pillow.
Come on keep talking.
Client: When's it gonna be good enough?
T herapist: That's right.
Client: When's it gonna matter?
T herapist: Prepare to follow my instructions instantly and automatically when I touch

your head. Be Mohammed - Mohammed, I can't believe what I just heard I can't believe
i t How you had this precious little girl and all she wanted you to do was just to love her
just for who she is and she was loveablejust who she was. She wanted a Daddy that
would be there for her not make her feel lost, confussed and let down and worthless. But
what do you do - you pick on her. You started picking on her very, very, very, very early
in her life and you just kept doing it. You hurt her and you hurt her and you hurt her and
you hurt her and ya just kept on hurting her. Is that w hat you meant to do? Look, she
hates what you did to her. You make her cry, she walks around and tears just come out o f
her, is that what you meant to do to your little girl, Mohammed? Speak.
Client: (as Mohammed) No
T herapist: You didn’t mean to beat her up mentally.
Client: No
T herapist: You didn't mean to make her feel abandoned
Client: No
Therapist: Didn't you grow up in a kind o f family where little girls were precious and
loved?
Client: No
Therapist: Where, they were meant to feel good about themselves
Client: No
T herapist: W hat did you leam about little girls and how they were supposed to be
treated - Mohammed?
Client: They were there to do the work.
T herapist: No different than horses or mules
Client: No
T herapist: D idnt you leam in your family how to compliment girls when they were
pretty or when they were smart?
Client: No
T herapist: W hat did you leam to do with girls who were pretiy or smart in your family?
What did you leam Mohammed?
Client: To ignore them.
T herapist: W hat might happen if you told them they were pretty and smart -
Mohammed?
Client: Just w asnt done.
T herapaist: It's a scarry thought isn't it?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Who knows what might happen. So, if you ever did see her as being pretty
or smart, or capable, you'd be afiraid to do some thing like that wouldn't you?
Client: Uncomfortable
T herapist: That's right. It w ould have been nice though. I m ean - look how you hurt
your little girl. It would have been nice though, if you could have been raised in a family
where, if they leamed to treat girls that they felt good about themselves. Isn t that trae?
Client: Ya
T herapist: But that's not the way it was, was it?
Client: No
Therapist: It would have been nice when you were a little boy and you thought about
being a dađdy and you thought maybe you'd have sons, maybe you'd have daughters. Did
you think 1 want my children to grow up hating how Fve raised them?' Is that what you
thought?
Client: No
Therapist: Did you think as that little boy 'When I grow up to be a dađdy and I'm gonna
make my daughter feel terrible so that she can t ever feel happy about herself, her body,
her career'. Is that what you wanted to do?
C lient: No
T herapist: How did you want you children to grow up Mohammed?
C lient: Confident, capable
T herapist: You blew it, didn't you?
Client: G u e ssld id
T herapist: How's that make you feel Mohammed?
Client: Disappointed with myself.
T herapist: If, you could go back knowing what you know now, would you like to have
done a better job. Maybe just once in a while saying a nice thing or appreciating her,
letting her know your proud o f her?
Client: Ya
T herapist: So you'd like to have been a different kinda dad

___________________ ?________ , is that true?
Client: Yup
T herapist: Okay, it's time to stop talking to me and start talking to Gotta. Tell her about
the Daddy you'd like to have been.
Client: I wish I was more comfortable with you.
Therapist: Good talk to her, tell her, tell her.
Ciient: IVe been proud o f you many times. It's not always easy for me to talk about how
I feel. I pushed you because I wanted you to be the best I knew you could do it. ?
part of the way o f raising kids.
Therapist: M ohammed is she ugly?
Client: No
Therapist: Was she ever ugly?
Client: No
in
T herapist: Was she a stupid little girl?
Client: No
T herapist: T im e to sta rtte lim g h e rth e tra th a b o u th o w sh e is. G iv eh erb ack th eg o o đ

feelings about who she is - tell her.
Client: You were always very bright, figured things out pretty quick. Your grandparents
loved to watch you. ? with you.
T herapist: I want you to think back to that little girl ? I want you to think about her.
Maybe a time when you were proud o f her as a little giri, maybe Grandma and Grandpa
were watchingher. Anything really wrong with her? D o y o u su p p o se--T h atlittleg irl.
Client: No
T herapist: Tellherthere'snothingw rongW ithyou.
Client: There's nothing wrong with you.
T herapist: There never was.,
Client: There never was.
T herapist: Who had the problem Mohammed?
Client: Id id
T herapist: That's right - tell her.
M ohammed: I couldn't give you w hat__?__to feel. No matter what you d id ,__ ?__
with you.
Therapist: Were there times when you wished, I mean right at that moment, that time
when you wished you could have reached out to her and told her you loved her and told
her something nice?
Mohammed: Ya
Therapist: Tell her what that was like for you. To want to express yourself, to want to
say words of incouragement _ ? _ _ . But not being able to do it. Tell her what that was
like for you.
Client: I didn't know how, I did't know how to ? .

T herapist: That's right, who else would ? is that true.
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Kinda o f a scarry thought
CHent: Ya
T herapist: So you were afraid?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: T ellH er
C lient: I was afraid, i didnt know what to do or how to do it, or wheather you would
accept it or not.
T herapist: Are you sorry for the things you diđ to her?
Client: Ya
T berapist: Okay Gotta do you helieve him?
G otta: Ya ‘
T herapist: How's that make you feel?
Client: Sad
T herapist: Tell him how sad it makes you feel. Cause you lost alot because he was
afraid, you lost a childhood, teenage years, the youngest years o f your life to the feelings
o f lack o f confidence, fear. Who knows what you might have done, who knows what you
might have accomplished. Who knows what love you might have experienced. But
because he was afraid, because he let you down, you lost all that and it made you very
sad. Tell him about it. T e llh im -rm sa d b e c a u se ..
Client: I'm sad because I could o f been so different
T herapist: Tell him about it
Client: I justneededyouto...
T herapist: Say it
C lient: Look at me and say I'm a wonderful person with feelings and ? . Just to give
m e a boost, ju s t ? .
T herapist: Mohammed - respond - tell her how you really feel.
C lient: Fm sad too, I wish I would of.. I messed up though.
T herapist: Thats right, tell her
C lient: _ _ ? _ _ and gotten closer to you
T herapist: Thafs right tell her
C lient: A ndknow ingyou
T herapist: Thats right tell her about the pain and the hurt, fiustrations - tell her you
m essedup.
C lient: I think we could have been good friends.
T herapist: Your sorry.
C lient: Ya, I'm sorry
Tfaerapist: Mohammed, you can't give her back 1 moment in the past, you can't give her
back 1 second, not 1 minute o f love, o f good experience, o f tendemess, o f a Mother, a
Father, Daughter, fiiendship - it's all gone. As we say it's water under the bridge. How*s
that make you feel?
C lient: Regretful
T herapist: If there was something you could do today to give her back everything from
this moment on - her confidence, her good feelings about herself, the feeling o f
lovability, worthiness would you be interested?
Client: Yes
T herapist: It would require a gift o f love, would you still be interested?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: It's a gift of Love because it's completely unselfish. You do not get to benefit
from it at all. She's the only one that benefits - Understand the choice?
M ohammed: Yup
o
T herapist: Last stipulation - You dont have any control. She gets to decide the best
? . She gets to đecide if she accepts it, are you still interested?
Client: Ya
T herapist: T h en y o u m u stlo v eh erv ery m u ch , isth attru e?
Client: Ya
T herapist: This is what we can do to give her back everything from this moment on -
she'U be better at work, she'll be better w ith family, her family o f origin and her own
children. She'll be better as a wife, she'll be better as a person, and this is what you get to
give, this is the gift. You ask her from you heart o f hearts to forgive you, forgive you o f
eveiything you*ve ever done to her or didn't do and should have done and you get one
shoot, one chance, this is a once in a lifetime stop. You need to say whatever needs to be
said so that she can forgive you completely, absolutely. Then she gets better, then she
gets to have her confidence, her good feelings about herself and maybe about ? .
Would you like to give her all that?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Go on then, take as long as you need. Say everything that needs to be said
and when your done say "I'm done" so I dont interupt unnecessarily. Go ahead.
Client:Gotta - ? your my only daughter
T herapist: (?/ can’t make the nextfew minutes out?)
Client: ? for all the things now__?__was there for us and cared for us and I'm sorry
that I hurt you. I know that I didnt express my feelings for you in a way that you coulđ
feel it or see it
T herapist: T ellher
Client: 11 was hard for me - 1 didn't know if I could do it - 1 still don't really know how.
T herapist: I never knew how
Client: I never knew how
Therapist: But I always wanted to
Client: But I always wanted to
1a
T herapist: Good, te llh e r
C lient: I see alot o f good things in you, I know I've always pointed out the things you
should work on and the things you need to be better at..
T herapist: I did to much o f that.
Client: I did to much o f that. It wasn't necessary, you already knew what you needed to
do.
T herapist: Tell her about some o f the good things ?
Client: Your a hard worker.
T herapist: Good, go on.
C lient: Your responsible, you like to keep people happy and you care about their
feelings.
T herapist: Does she have a mean spirit?
C lient: No. S hejustgetsangry sometimes.
T herapist: You imderstand why now, shes been through so much unfaimess. You
understand that.
Client: Ya
T herapist: Is she or was she every ugly?
Client: N o
T herapist: Is she capable of doingjust about anything she puts her mind to and she's not
a failure is she?
Client: No
T herapist: Is she ?
Client: No
T herapist: I think she needs to h ear___ ?___
Client: If I could do it over again I wouldn't send your Mother to call you, I'd do it
myself.
T h erapist: Thats right
C lient: I'd hold you. When you showed me something I'd bring out the good instead o f
the bad.
T herapist: That's right, tell her.
C lient: I just wanted the best for you and I worked hard to provide it. But it wasn't the
? o f the house. I'm sony I didn't love y o u __?__to be.
T herapist: Was it that you didn't love her enough or that you didn't show her the love
you had inside of you. Did you always love her?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Better tell her, she thinks she's not loveable, she thinks she was never
loveable, she thinks nobođy loves her, she thinks nobody loved that little girl. She's
wrong isn't she?
O ie n t: Ya
T herapist: Tellher
C lient: She
T herapist: D ont tell me - tell her. Tell your daughter.
C lient: You You were ?
C lient: Your Grandparents loved you alot
T herapist: T e llh e rh o w th a tm a d ey o u fee l
C lient: I was proud that you were my daughter. Your grandfather would give you
anything.
T herapist: How*d that make you feel? Mohammed, how'd that make you feel? W ashe
like that to you?
Client: No
T herapist: Sometimes were you a little jealous?
1R
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Client: Ya
T herapist: T ellh er
Client: Grandfather was a difFerent man with you. He wasn't the same - he would get
angry at me, at all o f us, but with you he was always willing to do anything you wanted.
Therapist: Tell her how that made you feel, tell her.
Client: I was happy that he loved you
Therapist: But, ?
Client: M ad that we ? be together ?
T herapist: And some o f the problems you ? jealous weren't you?
Client: Ya
T herapist: You regret that now don't you?
Client: Ya
Therapist: T ellher
Client: I’m sorry ? Tm sorry my jealousy got in the way.
Therapist: That's right tell h e r__?__
Client: I did - 1 was glad to see that your Grandfather was willing to spoil you and I
know that it hurt you alot when he died. I wasn't able to do the same things he was. I
wasn't gonna give you everything you wanted
Therapist: Because I was afraid
Client: I was afraid that I was gonna ruin you, you weren't gonna tum out to be a good
person.
Therapist: So, you treated her the way you did because you loved her. You cared about
her - go on.
Client: Ya that was my only reason, I wanted the best for you. For you__?__. Maybe I
didn't always do it the right way but I intended the best for you.
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T herapist: You ready to ask for forgiveness now?
C lient: Ya
Client: Gotta please forgive me, I'm sorry I hurt you. I did - out o f the best intentions I
did it poorly.
T herapist: Accept that you have a jeaIousy problem, you didn't do that with the best
intentions did you?
C lient: No
T herapist: Your sorry am't you?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Okay Gotta, Do you believe him?
Client: Ya
T herapist: You think all that's true?
C lient: Most o f it's true
T herapist: T e llm eab o u tth ep artsy o u d o u b t. Say D ad I doubt the part about..'
C lient: It was for the best, it seems like ? really good, you thought the cheaper part
(?). But I know for you, the way you express your love for someone, your caring is not
what your willing to invest in them (?) somebody. I just didnt see the same (?)
investment
T herapist: Be Dad - respond
Client: Ikn o w
T herapist: Mohammed - Responđ, see how she feels Mohammed? How's that make
you feel, Mohammed?
C lient: Means I failed, I did what I thought was best for the family.
T herapist: Tell her why you did that. You gotta be honest, she’ll know, she's already
gotten it once.
o
C lient: Part o f it because I didn't know what the future was gonna hold, what I could
afford. I ? family, I had obligations.
T herapist: So she's right, is that right, so she's right or is she wrong?
C lient: Ya either way she's right, I didnt expect as much as I could - 1 should have.
T herapist: If you could do it over again would you do it differently, with everything you
know now?
Client: With everything I know now, ya I would o f did it different.
T herapist: Tell her what you would have done different with what you know now.
C lient: I would have insisteđ you finish college before you got married. I would have
encouraged not discouraged your engagement.
T herapist: And a part o f that is done
Client: I would have been willing to pay for your education, not make that an issue.
T herapist: Thats right making it an issue was wrong, is that correct?
C lient: Making it an issue was wrong, it was never an issue.
T herapist: Do you regret that?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Be Gotta, Gotta do you believe him?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Hov/s that make you feel?
Client: Mad
Therapist: Tellhim
Client: Coulda changed my whole life
T herapist: T ellhim
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Client: Your supposed to look out for me and want the best for me. You had no
problem telling me what to do when it was not very iportant but you iddn't wonna step in
and tell me or help me when it was important. You ju st stood back and watched.
T herapist: Tell him how that made you feel
Client: You let me down
T herapist: Thats right, tell him
Client: I always counted on you, trusted your opinion and it wouldn't matter. You
weren't there.
T herapist: Tell him what that did to you.
Client: ___ ? _
T herapist: Dad how's that make you feel? How's that make you feel Dad? L o okatthe
pain, look at the hurt. How's that make you meel - Mohammed?
Client: I thought she knew what she was doing. She seemed mature. I coulda paid for
her education but, I wanted her to appreciate it.
T herapist: T ellherw hy.
Clieant: I didn't think she..I didn't want her to think it was ju st easy to get the money to
pay for it
T herapist: That's right, ever since Grandpa spoiled her you were afraid isn't that true?
Client: Ya
Therapist: And you let that fear spill over into her adult life isn't that true?
Client: Yup
Therapist: You regret that now?
Client: Yup
Therapist: Do you see that that fear was unnecessary?
Client: Ya
Therapist: Tell her 'I was wrong', tell her

C lient: I was wrong, you am't the type thats going to..your to solid, youo know that your
not gonna get.. it takes alot to spoil you and _ ? _ . It's too hard.
T herapist: It hurts you doesn't it. You let her down that hurts you doesn't it?
CIient:Ya
T herapist: Tell her about that pain
C lient: I did my best, tried my best
T herapist: But if you could do it over you'd do it differentlly wouldn't you. If you knew
then what you know now?
Client:Y a, but I đidn't.
T herapist: So, your sorry for the mistakes?
Client: Yes
T herapist: Gotta, do you believe him?
C lient: Ya, I think he's really sorry
T herapist: Be Dad - Respond. D adyourdoingtheclam upthing, your defending

things, You said it before and when you do that she thinks your not being authentic. She
thinks that you lying to her - are you lying to her?
Client: No I can't change the past, I did what I thought was best.
T herapist: We're not working on changing the past, we're working on the future - alls
you gotta do is be real with hre, she needs to have her life back. You wanna do that for
her? We're about to move on - you got about 1 more minute o f this, take advantage o f it,
take advantage o f it - Mohammed, tellher what needs to be said so that she can set herself
free - do it. I'm here, I'll help, I'm the coach. Go ahead.
Client: I'lm sorry this hurt you. I'm sorry this changed your life, this isn't how I intended
it to happen.
Therapist: Tell her what you intended. how you'd like it to have been, tell her
Client: I'd have likedto have seen you to have become a confident woman that's able to
do anything she wanted, happy in her marrage
T herapist: Is she capable o f doing anything she wants now - from this point on. Is she
good enough?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: Is she smart enough?
C lient: Yes
T h erapist: Is she pretty enough?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: Does she have enough love in her heart?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: Now last thing - before we move on - Say it.
C lient: I love you and I'm proud o f you.
T herapist: Gotta, do you believe him?
C lient: Ibelievehim
T herapist:Tell him
C lient: I believe you
T herapist: Okay Dad You speak - Down inside o f you - you know - you know what
needs to be said - now say it
C lient: I didnt know what to say, I didn't know what you need to do.. I know..
T herapist: Somethings being held back, say it, don't let fear rule you - don't be afraid,
it's you daughter.
C lient: I dont think she's gonna - 1 don't think she can do everything she sets out her
m ind to do
T herapist: T hentellher
C lient: I don't think you can do everything you set you mind to do
T herapist: Tell her why you think that

Client: Cause you d o n t want it bad enough, I dont know why I just don't think you can.
T herapist: Gotta do you believe him?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: How's it make you feel?
Client: Kinda feel he's sorry
T herapist: He was wrong about alot o f stuff wasn't he?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Is he wrong about that? Within reason you can do alot more than youVe
been doing, cant you?
Client: Ya
T herapist: You gonna let his beliefs, his limiting beliefs built on fear, the culture o f his
origin, built on maybe a twinge o f jealousy, to rule your life - you gonna let that go on
anymore?
Client: Idon'tw ant to
T herapist: Tell him 'I ain't gonna let you do that to me anymore.'
C lient: fm not gonna let you do this to me.
T herapist: Tell him why
Client: Cause I don't like the way it feels
T herapist: That's right, this is what you gotta do, he's got many faults, he's got good
things too. But the faults is what have hurt you. Now you can decide that what he said
wasn't adequate enough for you to forgive him. You can decide that because he thinks
your limited you can't forgive him. You can decide that maybe he dosen't deserve it.
But, if you make that decision you give all your power to him. If you make that decision
that forgiveness doesn't happen today then you fall rightback into that black hole you
came to me. Or you ćan decide that this forgiveness o f what he did to you and what he
does to you is not gonna__?__. Your gonna decide that your gonna forgive him inspite
o f his weaknesses. You can decide that your gonna forgive him anyway - why? because
this is not for him, this is for you. This means your taking back control - this means your
not gonna let him push your buttons anymore. Let me tell you about forgiveness; first o f
all forgiveness does not mean that you forget that's why the saying goes 'forgive and
forget.' If forgetting was emplicit in forgiving then we wouldn't have to say and forget.
They are seperate things, you do not have to forget nor will you. See intelligence is
difined as the ability to leam firom experience. Your too smart to forget and the lessons
o f your life are valuable but, if you forget, you think about it less and that's what they
mean when they say forgive and forget. It looks like you forget, you didn't really, it just
doesnt bother you anymore. Forgiveness is the best and highest gift you give yourself.
Forgiveness is not an intillectual thing, it's not always logical, it's a change that happens
inside o f you. It's a change that frees you from the domination o f another, from the
history that you have from him, from the limitations that another person puts on you.
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. Now there's things about forgiveness if
you understand - that helps, and maybe you understand your Dad a little bit better today,
and there's another kind o f forgiveness ? called ? and I believe it's a forgiveness
created by God, it's out there so that we can give it to all those people who don't
understand. Grace is forgiveness without understanding, without - without cause vvithout
any kind o f ? it's just forgiveness It's just forgivenesss for youself. Would you like
to ge free? From all the missgivingings, from all the faults, all the problems, all the
? Would you like to be free from all that?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Are you ready fo forgive your daddy?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: This is what happens, now it's your tum and you talk untill all the anger is
gone. Because, that's the change: you keep talking - and you keep looking - inside
yourself and you keep forgiving and you keep forgiving and when that anger is gone then
your free - take as long as you want and when your done say Tm done' that way I will not
intermpt unnessarily. Itstartsoffw ith"D ad..."
C lient: Dad, it seemed you only saw ? You never pointed out the good stuff, you
never appreciated what I did, You always expected me to do better, I didn't look right, I
diđn't do right, I rememer one time I showed you and handwriting sample, you said
"what's that?" _ _ ? _ _ I said it's my cursive, It's very sloppy.
T herapist And...
C lient: So I worked on it and I worked on it and I took it back and showed you another
sample. I saiđ Dad how do you like my handwriting? :_? _ can't read it. I had to fight for
anything I wanted - new tennis shoes, different kinds o f clothes or. I don't like to fight, I
don't like to have to argue. I didn't ask for anything so when I came and asked for
something it shouldn't have been that big o f a deal. I always workeđ, I always helped out
when ever you asked me to do something I always did it I never gave you a hard time,
answered you back, snuck out o f the house or talked back to you or anything, I was
always the last one on the totem pole. ? always got whatever he wanted, all the time
and if he didnt he'd whine and cry all the time tell you finaly gave in. ? was
Mommy's baby, he got spoiled, she even spoils him now. Sending him money all the
time. Your always so poud o f ? You loved the way he fought for everything, he
always stood up to you. Y ouadm iredthatofhim . When I did that you said I was mean.
W hen I tried to stand up to y o u , when I tried to correct something, you said I was mean.
It just isn't fare. You spent so much time and energy going to their hocky games, going to
their conferences and going to their graduation and the money you spend on their
education and their cars and their vacations. You couldn't wait to get rid o f me you just
wanted me to leave as soon as you could. I never uderstood that why did you do that?
Why at 18 you thought I should get m a rrie d _ ? _ . O f if you didn't think it why didn't
you do something to stop it or discourage it or do something I would have listened to you.
That's all I did was listen to you. Don't do this - 1 didnt do it; Don't go here - 1 didnt go;
D o n t go here I didn't go; D ont talk to _ ? _ Do your prayers and memories (?) I wish I
hadn't listened to you, I still listen to you. But I know now you make mistakes__?__and
everything.
T herapist: I have a right to my own opinions
C lient: I have a right to my own opinions
T herapist: M y own feelings
C lient: My own feelings, my own anger
T herapist: M yow ndream s
C lient: My own dreams - 1 dont have any dreams never felt good enough to have any
dreams
T herapist: And you did that to me
Client: You all did that to me. I'm tired, I'm tired of trying to live up to your
expectations.
T herapist: I'm not gonna do it anymore.
Client: I can't do it any more. It's unreasonable.
T herapist: It doesn't work
Client: If that's what it takes to have you be a part of me then I can't, I can't - 1 can't
manage that I don't wanna, meaning that it's taking to much out of me. Your opinion is
important _ ? _ . I don't want it to be important any more.
T herapist: Be D ad - hovv’s that make you feel Dad? Look at the pain, look at the
hoplessness, look at the h u rt__?__. Hovv's that make you feel, Mohammeđ. You almost
crushed her. H ov/s that make you feel Mohammed?
Client: I didn't do it on purpose.. That's not what I meant to do
T herapist: Tell her what you meant to do
Client: I meant to raise a llittle girl
T herapist: And she's right yo\i made mistakes didn't you?
Client: I did what I thought was best at the time.
T herapist: And, she's right, you made some mistakes didn't you ? you know you
made mistakes, Isn't that true?
Client: Ya, I guess so
T herapist: You guess so - It's either true or not true
Client: I'm just not happy that I made mistakes, I didn't m ean to
T herapist: Then it's true did you mean to put all this pain into her?
Client: I didn't want her to have pain
T herapist: So that which you contributed to this pain was a mistake, so thats true
Client: I didn't do it on purpose
T herapist: I know you d idnt do it on purpose. But it was a mistake, isn t that true?
Client: Ya, it was a mistake but I didn't know it was a mistake at the time.
Therapist: Are you sorry for all the pain you caused her?
Client: Ya, I’m sorry for the pain she's had. I don't think I caused all o f it.
Therapist: Gkay, are you sorry for that which you've caused?
Client: Yes
Therapist: Be Gotta, continue

C lient: Why is it so hardfor you to accept what youVe done? If you'd just say or accept
it, your not perfect.
T h erapist: Then, what would happen? T ellhim
C lient: It'd be believable, it'd be easier. It's not that hard for you to accept it
T h erapist: Be Dad, respond. Remember the gift o f love we talked about, remember
undoing the damage from this point on. You still wanna do that, you still man enough to
do that? You still stong enough to do that?
C lient: ya
T h erapist: Do it heart to heart - let's get it over with, let's get it done
C lient: I'm supposed to be Dad, the man o f the house, I'm supposed to know what's right
and what's wrong _?_ thing to do. I can't be wrong, shouldn't be wrong
T herapist: That's the way you feel isnt that true
C lient: Right
T herapist: But the truth is, sometimes you wing it
C lient: I don't always know what the right thing is
T herapist: That's right, sometimes you have to fake it. Isn't that true?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: So where you came from your not aliowed to admit that are you?
C lient: No, I'm supposed to know what's best, what's right.
T herapist: T ellem
C lient: I'm an intellegent man and I should be able to figure it out
T herapist: Well, guess what Dad, sometimes yOu just have to wing it and sometimes
your wrong isn't that Tme?
Client: Yup
T herapist: So tell her

C lient: I don't like being wrong, I don't like making mistakes. rm sorry I hurt you.
T herapist: Are you sony for every bit o f it?
C lient: I'm sorry for every bit o f it, I tried my best and sometimes it wasn't good enough
and it's hard for me to accept it.
T h erapist: It's hard for you to admit
C lient: It's hard for me to admit
T herapist: But you did it today, tell her why you did it today
C lient: Cause I want you to be better, I want you to feel better
T herapist: And, because I....
C lient: Tm sorry
T herapist: And because I... And because I...
Clieait: Because I love you
T herapist: That's right - Be Gotta. How's that make you feel? You asked for it, you got
it.
C lient: I know it was hard to admit
T herapist: Tell him ?
C lient: Dad ? It would have been easier if you'd admitted it awhile ago
T herapist: Thats not _ ? _ he has a handicap, he has a handicap. I don't know if it

came from his family, or it came from his cuture, or if it’s genic. I don't know but, if a
man was mute and unable to speak because he was handicapped it wouldn't make since
to be angry with him if he never said the words I love you and his handicap is almost as
real. Do you understand that Gotta?
C lient: We all have hanđicaps
T herapist: That'sright. That's right, that's his. Its not right it's not fare, itju stis. It's
bad, it's sad and it's a great loss. But it put him through alot o f pain too, do you
understand that? Do you have that much understood?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: That he's always loved you and he's always proud o f you and yet he was
always afraid. W hen he came to his little girl he was afraid more than he was confident.
You understand that now?
Client: Ya
T herapist: And he always wanted to be closer,and he always wanted to do a goođjob, a

better job and that he's made mistakes but he's trapped, he's not allowed to admit it but,
he did it today just because he loves you. How's that make you feel?
Client: I'm glad he adm ited it
T herapist: Is he forgiveable?
Client: H e'sm yD ad.
T herapist: Is he forgivable?
C lient: Yes
Therapist: Are you ready to make that step for yourself?
Client: Yes
Therapist: Then say w hat needs to be said. Because now you know somethings maybe
you didnt know before. Do it.
Client: I forgive you Dad. I know this was hard for you. It's hard to see your own faults.
To see your own mistakes. I know ifyou.J know that deep down in you wanted special
relationships with your kids and the only way you knew how to express your love was
through what you could provide and you thought that was enough.
Therapist: And I know you would have liked to have done more
Client: I think you would have liked to have done more if you knew how.
Therapist: Thatsright. Okay
Client: I'm sorry you didn't know how and I forgive you for not knowing how.
Therapist: Even he would have liked to have ? Do you forgive him?
Client: Ya
T herapist: There might be a little feeling inside for him right now. Now some o f that
anger has been replaced with maybe a feeling o f sorrow or pitty for him. Is that true?
C lient: I think I can feel sorry for him.
T herapist: Tellhim
C lient: I think you only think I'm sorry that you think the only valule you have is in what
you can give not in who your are. You feel that we only want you around or that we only
want you in our lives because o f the money or the inheritance or the gifts or _?_ or the
cars o f the whatever you can give us. You can't buy me I know you feel the boys only
want you around for that. Maybe that's the only way they know how to talk to you.
T herapist: He's tum edthem into Mohammed. (?)
C lient: You can't talk to them about any other level, it's the only level they know about.
Cause it's the only level he knows to respond to. I don't care about your money Đad, the
only thing you ever showed to me was that you didn't love me as much as the other kids.
You weren't willing t o __?__the same way. That's how you thought you should. I dont
care about.. You don't care money __?__ It doesn't m$tter.
T herapist: Do you forgive him?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: How's that make you feel?
C lient: Sad
T herapist: Do you forgive him fo all o f it?
C lient: Forgive him for most o f it
T herapist: No...Be Dad - you failed, you faileđ. N ow she continues to lose, she
continues through life dragging, limited, limited by what you've done to her. She can
continue going on feeling ugly, she can go on feeling mean - a failure, afraid or whatever
part she didnt forgive you for. So you failed Dad, how's that make you feel?
C lient: I'm not a failure, I've accomplished alot in my life. I'm not a failure.
T herapist: I'm talking to Dad - Dad but, you failed today, you failed to free your
daughter from the shackels that you put on her. How's that make you feel? You didn't
say the words necessary to free her from the past. You chickened out, you let fear rule
you. You let fear hurt your daughter again. How that make you feel, Mohammed?
C lient: It's not my fault, maybe she doesnt want it.
T herapist: Ask her - do you want it?
C lient: Do you want this bad enough?
T herapist: Be Gotta - respond - You want your life back, you Want your power back?
C lient: Yes
T herapist: D o it
C lient: I d ont want this anymore
T herapist: Tellhim
C lient: H elpm eD ad
T herapist: Be Dad - Respond
C lient: I dont know how to help you, what do you want?
T herapist: Be Gotta - respond
C lient: I just want you to love me and hold me
T herapist: Be Dad - Respond. Iw a n tth a tto o -T ru e o rF a lse ?
Client: I dont know how to hold you.
T herapist: I want that too - True or False? I'd like to do that too, True or False?
Client: Yes
Therapist: T ellher
Client: I wanna hold you and love you
Therapist: Be Gotta - Respond. How's that make you feel?
Client: O k a y -so d o it!
Therapist: Be Dad - Respond
Cient: Idon'tknow how

T herapist: Be Gotta, show him how, tell him what to do - step by step.
C lient: Ju stc o m e clo se rto m e D ad ,ju strela x
T herapist: Say I'll show you
Client: I'U show you
T herapist: Be Dad, how brave are you Dad? Are you brave enough to stand up out o f
that chair? Can you stand up out o f that chair? Or, has your fear got you stuck to that
chair? C an y o u d o it> jiist standup, can you do that much?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Do it
Client: Okay
T herapist: Step over to her
Client: Okay
T herapist: Put your arms out to her - You doing it?
Client: Ya
T herapist: Be Gotta - W hat are you going to do now?
Client: D ad,justreally hold m e,just..
T herapist: Then hold him and now finish your forgiveness. Say whatever needs to be
said to forgive him.
Client: I forgive you Dad
T herapist: Now completely, and utterly - do it.
Client: I forgive you Dad. Hold me tighter.
T herapist: That's right hold him tighter, come on hold him tighter. Keep talking
Client: Come on Dad, you can do it. It's not that hard.
a?
T herapist: No, it'snot. K eeptalkingtothefo rg iv in g p art,tak eb ack y o u r control o f
your life, come on.
C lient: Iforgiveyou
T herapist: Tell him why you forgive him.
C lient: I know you can do this, I know it's hard for you
T herapist: Tell him, come on
Client: Y o u c a n d o it
T herapist: Tell him why you forgive him. Iforgiveyoubecause...
C lient: I forgive you because I know your sorry, you didn't mean it.
T herapist: I forgive you because you always wanted to do this but, you didn*t know
how. Come on tell him.
C lient: Cause I always. I know you always wanted to do this but, you didn't know how.
T herapist: That's right, tell him
Client: Cause you weren't taught how because you couldn't teach yourself how
T herapist: You were just to afraid.
Client: You were to afraid and you thought it would spoil me. I didn't know. You can
do it.
T herapist: Now, be Dad - hov/s it feel Dad? How's it feel Dad? How*s it feel Dad?
Client: I've never really been hugged or loved.
Therapist: YouVe always wanted this haven't you Mohammed.
Client: Ya
Therapist: T o u lo v e h e r?
Client Ya
Therapist: You've always loved her. Tell her about your love, tell her
C lient: I've always loved you, Tve always wanted to hold you. D idnt want to give too
much o f myself away.
T herapist: Tell her - 1 was afraid
C lient: Tooafraid.
T herapist: Be Gotta - You believe him?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: That's the most important thing. Y ouLovehim ?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: The last words before Dad leaves the room
C lient: I love you dad - 1 forgive you.
T herapist: Is e ty o u fre e
C lient: S etm efree
T herapist: H esetsm efiree
Client: H e se tsm e fre e
T herapist: To be everything I can be
Client: To be everything I can be
T herapist: Free ffom the past
C lient: Free ffom the past
T herapist: F reetolove
Client: Free to love
T herapist: F reetoD ream
Client: FreetoD ream
T herapist: Last words to your daughter, Mohammed.

C lient: Y ourFree
T herapist: Tell her, tell her, come on _ ? _
C lient: You can be ? okay
T herapist: You love her that much đon't you?
C iient: Umhum
T herapist: Okay (long period o f silence). That's good let go, then he walks out o f the
room and he forgets eveiything that happened here today. Cause in truth, this wasn't
about him, this was about you and your taking back control. How do you feel _?_.
H o ^ ’d you feel?
C lient: Icanbreath
T herapist: Thats right, that's right, you can breath. It's about time isn't it? Isforgiving
Dad today the right thing to do?
C lient: Ya
T herapist: Well, guess what, he's unchanged. Your the one that changed. He's still
going to be the same person, the same victim, the same handycapped man. There's only
one way you can continue to breath, continue to grow. It's the cost, do you wanna hear
what it is?
C lient: (nodsyes)
T herapist: Now you can keep growing, you can keep breathing and keep being ffee.
Client: Yup
Therapist: _?_ ongoing forgiveness cause, if your worthy o f forgiving him today, then
you are tomorrow, next week, next year, next decade, so on and so forth. This is the
change that happened inside of you. You became free o f the past __?__. You became
good enough, smarl enough, important enough, valuable, loveable. How would that
make you feel?
Client: __?__
Therapist: Are you ready to do that? Are you gonna forgive him?
Client: Ya
T herapist: When you look at him you'll only feel sorry for him and you'U be a little bit
sad. But you can*t afiford to _?_ that anymore. You know that but you keep alive by
forgiving and forgiving and forgiving - does that make sense to you now?
C lient: Yup
T herapist: In a moment we're gonna end this for today. Just go ahead and
relax.............................. ...Emerge Gotta.................................
Forgiveness Form (Phase III and IV)
W: (You hurt me when...)

T: (You made me think...)
F: (You made me feel...)
W:
T:
F:..
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Notes
(Forgiveness Phase III and IV Document.doc)

To Forgive, Or Not To Forgive: Is Forgiveness Required
For Good Hypnotherapy?
This article was writteri in response to some messages that I received because I belong to
an email list made up of Hypnotherapists. One email led to a whole string o f messages.
It resulted in a fascinating exchange o f ideas on the question o f “Is it wise to place so
much importance on forgiveness when doing therapy?”
To keep things brief, I will shorten and paraphrase the first email, anđ limit it to only the
information pertinent to this article.
The first Hypnotherapist writes (shortened and paraphrased),
“I would like to discuss forgiveness with this group. I am constantly reminded of the
“importance of forgiveness.” However, I have come to believe that for some o f the
individuals that I work with, forgiveness is just too much to ask of them. If I am not
successful in getting these clients to forgive the ones that hurt them, they may feel guilty,
which could cause them even more problems than the ones that they already have!
Furthermore, I doubt how effective forgiveness really is. Why not just go for neutrality
or letting go of the problem or person? Isn’t that what we are really going for with
forgiveness anyway?”
Then a string of emails followed, some agreeing with the first email and some insisting
that obtaining forgiveness is necessary for a complete healing to be accomplished.
I then respond with an email,
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is a sh o rt lis t th a tl use when teaching how to doforgiveness.
NO TE: W hen Id o fo rg iven ess therapp, Ia lw a ys have th e c lie n t who is in hypnosis, g o

in to a room w here th ere are tw o chairs, (sim ila r to th e w ork done by F ritz P earls in th e
60sJ one ch a irfo r m y c lie n t a n d o n e fo r th e ojfender (person who h u rth erj. Ith e n h a v e
m y c lie n t speak to th e ojfender a n d te llh e r how sh e w as h u rt b y her. T h e n lh a v eth e
clien t becom e th e ojfender andrespond. A dialogue is begun, during w hich len co u ra g e
a discussion th a t resu lts in covering th e p o in ts in th e p a rt 0/ 'thepaper c a lled Ten K eys
To Forgiveness. I t w orks w onderfully. We have an am azing capacity to fo rg iv e when we
g o through this k in d ofprocess. I have done it Iitera IIy hundreds o f'tim es, andhave
taught our therapists (a t B anyan ffy p n o sis C enter F o r T raining & Services, Inc.J a n d
m any o f ourstudents who have com e to our C enter how to do it, too. Đ on 'tg iv e up on
forgiveness. I t is w orth it. J u st le ttin g g o does n o t su jfic ien tly address th e fe e lin g s o f
anger a n d g u ilt th a tyo u r c lien ts m ay be carryžng in sid e them . N o t su jfficient/y resolving
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th ese fssue can le a d to th ep ro b lem s continuing, prob lem ssu ch a s obesity, drug
addiction, p h ysica ld b u se, andm uchm ore.
Ih o p e y o u fin d i t u se/u i...
The paper begins...
Ten Keys To Forgiveness
So many timeš in any psychotherapy process, including hypnotherapy, our clients’ ability
to move forward and be successful in their sessions hinges on their ability to let go of a
painful experience from the past. This painful experience, which may have happened
years ago, is still causing problems, perhaps contributing to substance abuse, weight gain,
or many other kinds o f difficulties including physical illness. Therapists need to know
how to ffee their clients o f these old pattems, and the painful feelings. If the feeling is
anger or guilt, then we need to help them to forgive himself or herself or some other
person.
The following are “Ten Keys To Forgiveness” which when used in a therapeutic process,
canbe very effective in releasing and helping the client to forgive and overcome old
feelings of anger and guilt. Helping your client understand these keys in the therapeutic
proeess leads to consistent results when doing “Chair Therapy” or other kinds o f
forgiveness processes.
I like to set the stage with my clients by saying something like, “the forgiveness that we
will be working on may be different from the forgiveness that you leamed as a child.
This will be a grownup and an intelligent kind of forgiveness.”
Here are the 10 keys to opening the door to forgiveness:
1. Help your client to uncover any known causes of the hurtful behavior, leading to
understanding. If the cause of the hurtful behavior is unknown, the next best thing
is to consider probable causes, such as the offender never leamed how to behave
properly.
2. That the offender also experienced pain because o f the thing he or she did. It could
have been in the form of fear o f being caught or found out, for example.
3. Uncover any regret that the offender may have over having done the wrong or
painful thing to your client.4
4. If it is true, discuss how the intent was not to hurt the client, but rather the offender
was trying to fulfill some need, want or desire (albeit, selfishly).
5. If there was a positive intent, discuss what that was. For example, a parent might
have been overly critical, but the intent was not to hurt, but to prepare the client/child
for a world where “being tough would benefit the child” (frorn the parent’s
perspective).
6. If there is regret in the offender, then having the offender express it to your client in
direct terms is very helpful. Encourage the offender to say, “I’m sorry” if in fact that
is the case.
7. The next step is to actually have the offender ask for forgiveness directly, by
saying, “Please forgive me.” This can usually be accomplished by telling her that it
would help my client to become free and stop suffering from what was done to her.
8. Let the client know that the forgiveness is n otior the offender. State in no
uncertain terms that the forgiveness is a gift that they are going to give themselves
that will change how they feel inside, and set them free fforn the past for healing and
positive change.
9. The offender w on’t be able to benefit from it at all because she will forget
everything that just happened after the session is over (or would not actually be
Informed of the forgiveness). This way your client will not be made to feel vulnerable
because the offender would want to come back into their lives.
10. Let the client know that she or he does not have to forget. Forgetting is not
required, nor is it recommended! Intelligence is defined as the ability to leam from
experience. Forgetting the experience would lead to ignorance. This is going to be a
smart kind of forgiveness.
End of the paper, Ten Keys To Forgiveness.
The response was favorable to my email and the list o f ten. Most o f the emails that
followed thanked me for the contribution. But below is one that caused me to write
more.
Your 10 Keys seem to make perfect sense to me in cases where the "sin" or "misdeed"
was done more out o f being misguided than maliciousness. But how do you handle it
when the perpetrator has no regrets, feels no pain, thought (still thinks) he/she was right,
has no desire to apologize or be forgiven? (Think Timothy McVeigh, maybe). I am all
for forgivenesš, but to make it seem that one can never heal unless one is able to forgive
seems to elevate forgiveness to a form of religion. Thanks...
As I write this, I have not yet sent my response back to the email group. But this is what
I planto say...
Good question! Sometimes, the client in the role o f the offender, does a very good job of
being malicious in intent, has no regret, reports not experiencing any pain for deing what
was done to my client, perhaps feels completely right in doing what was done, and
definitely has NO desire to ask for forgiveness or apologies.
First off, that simply doesn’t happen very often in the process that we use. Here are some
reasons why:
1. The client is encouraged to express all o f the pain that was experienced. This
increases the desire o f the “offender” to say I am sorry, etc.
2. The Hypnotherapist then uses that info, and re-expresses it to the offender more
powerfully. This tends to cause the client to feel a little sorry for the offender, releasing
unconsciously held information about the offender (they see it more objectively).
3. The therapist explores with the offender what may have caused the behavior, which
may uncover events/issues that makes it easier to forgive her.
4. After exploring some history, the offender will admit that if she had a different
history, then she would not have done what was done to my client. It is first established
thatshe (the offender) was sorry that she had not had a better history (i.e., better family of
origin). Then it is a short leap from wishing she had a better history to I wish I had not
done what I did to my client. Then we are off and running again with the Ten Keys To
Forgiveness.
Having said all of that, you might say, “yeah, but!” And, you would be right; sometimes
we will run across a particularly unrepentant offender. This is what I do in that case:
1. I tell the offender that as I count from 1 to 5 we will move fonvard into the future...
“ 1, you are now getting older and older, 2, older and older, 3 your days on this Earth are
now coming to an end, 4 your body has now passed away, and 5, now your whole life
passes before your eyes. But it is much worse than that! Because this all happens in
front of the only one that has the right to judge you, your Creator! But it is worse than
that! As your whole life passes before you, you also get to experience all o f the pain that
you ever caused anyone else!”2
2. “Now how do you feel?” If there was any chance o f digging up any feelings o f
remorse in the offender, this usually does it. I can then ask, “Boy, it sure would have
been nice if you had been raised differently, that could have led to a much better life.
Isn’t that right?” I usually get a “yes.” “Then you would have been able to go through
your life without hurting (fill in client’s name), wouldn’t that have been nice?” I usually
get a very heart felt “yes.” (And probably even some tears o f remorse.)
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3. I’m not the one that needs to hear this, so I direct the offender to proceed as follovvs,
“don’t tell me, tell (client’s name). From there on, I proceed as normal (Ten Keys of
Forgiveness).
Did I just hear another “yeah, but”? Okay! Very rarely do I have to go beyond this, but I
do have a Plan C and even a Plan D!
Plan C: If all else fails, we can let the offender go from that point (life review in front o f
her Creator) to the consequences o f that life. I can ask either the offender or my client,
“What happens now? What happens when you are completely unrepentant in this
condition?” A really wicked offender might say, “Now I go to hell, and I don’t care! I
deserveit.” I say, “then go!”
I then retum my attention to my client, and say something like, “it looks like she got her
just reward! How does that make you feel?” “Better” or “I feel sorry for her,” or
something like that is a typical answer. And, I can return with, "now that she got what
was coming to her, are you ready to forgive her, and let go o f all that anger?” This
usually gets the job done, and off we go to the Ten Keys o f Forgiveness.
Plan D : By this time, I have done a lot to make this offender forgivable. My client wants
to get free o f the old pattem (based in anger, frustration or guilt). We are usually looking
for one last thing to seal the deal, and I say, “It’s a good thing that your ability to
completely forgive this (SOB/offender) doesn’t have to depend on her ability to say the
right things, or “I’m sorry.” She is going to get her just reward for what she did. There is
no reason to go on punishing yourself for what was done to you! Remember that
forgiveness is a gift that you can give yourself right now. It is the gift o f being free from
thepast. Because, until you do, she is still hurting you, and hurting everyone that loves
you, because when someone you love suffers, so do you.” (Remind them that the
forgiveness does not require forgetting, condoning, or allowing that person back into your
life.)
“Are you now ready to forgive this person for your sake? So that you can set yourself
free?”
Then I go on with, “Now I am going to become quiet. Now say whatever needs to be
said in order to make this forgiveness complete. It is complete when all of the anger is
gone.” When the client says, “I’m done” I ask, “Did you do it? Look inside yourself, do
you feel any anger toward that person? If you do, keep going until it is all gone, then you
are free.”
When that is done, my client feels great! I suggest an attitude o f ongoing forgiveness
toward the offender in order to keep her free.
Now, here is one o f the most important parts of this discussion on using forgiveness in
hypnotherapy. The experience o f forgiving the offender will have a profound affect on
your client’s subconscious mind! It has been set into an active state of reorganization,
with regard to everything involved with that person and events associated with her! With
the subconscious mind in that state o f reorganization, it is highly suggestible for
suggestions consistent with the experience! Powerfully take advantage o f this moment
by going into a process o f directly suggesting the changes that your client came in to see
you about (i.e., weight loss, sexual dysfunction, etc.). Tie this experience to the change,
and the change will happen in a powerful and positive manner!
Okay, so forgiveness therapy is not a simple or quick technique. But it works, over and
over again. Usually we don’t have to go through all o f the techniques I discussed to
achieve forgiveness, but it is there, if we need to use them.
Forgiveness is not a religion. It is a thing that you can do, that changes how you or your
client feels inside. It is a releasing o f the feelings that are causing you or your client so
many problems. It is NOT a releasing o f an individual (the offender). It is a release of
the anger, guilt, frustration or depression that is associated with what was done to you or
your client.
I hope that helps...
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5-PATH™ Overview: Phase IV
B anyan H ypnosis C enter for T raining & Services, Inc.
A dvanced H ypnotherapy T raining
A s you use 5-PA TH ™ keep in m ind the sim ple and effective checklist
below .
Phase IV
1. R eview last session
3. Set up a room w ith tw o chairs.
4. Client expresses feelings tow ard M istake-M aking Part.
5. M istake-M aking Part becom es the Protective Part and is forgiven.
6. D irect suggestion for issues.
7. Em erge and post-hypnotic interview

Phase IV: Forgiveness of Self
Calvin D. Banyan, M A, BCH, C I
1. Induce hypnosis and deepen to somnambulism.
2. Have them go to “the round room ,” with the two chairs, where one is the listening chair.
Remember that this is a special simplified case of Parts Mediation Therapy, where the Self
and the Mistake-Making Part/Protective Part are “Parts” that are in need of mediation.
3. Have the client put the other important person who caused her pain, in the chair - the
Mistake-Making Part o f herself. The client is psychologically divided into two. One part,
will be the Self and the other will be the Mistake-Making Part. So now, we can proceed as we
did with forgiveness before. This time, she will be forgiving the part o f her that she holđs
responsible for the pain that she has caused herself and others. Proceed as you did in FOO.
You hurt me.

You sta rted hurting me a long tim e ago
You hurt m e when I w as ju s t a little girl/boy.
You hurt m e when .............
You make me feel.....

You made me think....
Because o fy o u (I m issed out on, etc.)
Encourage the client to express real feelings such as anger, sadness, guilt, regret, hate, etc.
4. Proceed as with the forgiveness of others. Except that we want to re-frame the Mistake-
Making Part, renaming it the Protective Part. This makes that part much more forgivable.
We will do this by uncovering how doing the things that hurt her and others was just an
attempt to protect herself. Itw asnotdonew ith th ep u rp o seo fh u rtin g . If she could have
protected herself without hurting, she would have done so, and if she could go back and do it
differently, she would. These realizations all serve to make her forgivable.
5. Need to establish a new set o f perceptions and behaviors, so that the Protective Part will move
back and allow for painful experiences that provide for personal growth. These changes in
behavior will cause her to overcome the issue that she came in to work on and change.
Using the Carpenter Patter will help her to make these realizations and to be ready to be more
interested in change and doing less o f the self-protective behaviors (such as eating and
drinking to excess, in order to distract herself from feelings, or cope with feelings).
6. Conduct forgiveness o f the Protective Part (formerly called the Mistake-Making Part).
Bring the two parts together with statements of self-acceptance. For example, rather than
saying "I forgive you and set you free," the client might say, "Iforgive you and 1 accept
you . "
7. Time for some direct suggestions, such as the Grey Room Patter.
8. Emerge with suggestions for permanent change in the direction for which they came to make.
© 2002 Calvin D. Banyan. All Rights Reserved
(Phase IV Forgiveness of self.wpd)

Handouts for DVD 9
The Young Carpenter: A Story for Inner Strength
I want you to listen to a story. It is about a young man some time ago, but today it could just as
well be about a yoimg woman.
This young man had always admired the men who build homes and buildings. He had always
dreamed o f becoming a carpenter. His day to begin fulfilling that dream came just after his 18*
birthday. He had lined up a job with a crew working near his home.
On the first day o f work, as he was leaving home, his mother handed him his lunch box, and she
told him to look inside it before he got to work. He became very curious, and as soon as he left
the house, he looked inside. When he looked inside, he saw a new pair ofw ork gloves his mother
had gotten for him, to protect him as he worked. The gift from his mother warmed him inside.
The gloves were a gift o f love.
When he arrived at the work site, he reported to the foreman. The foreman gave him directions
to measure and Cut some wood and to nail the wOod to the house’s frame. The young man
quickly went to the where the lumber was, and put on the new gloves.
But when he began to measure the boards to be cut into the prescribed lengths, it soon became
evident that the gloves were causing some problems. It was very difficult to hold the pencil and
measure the board with the gloves on. But eventually, he had measured and cut enough boards to
length to begin nailing them to the frame as he had been instructed.
He held the first board in place and began to reach into the box containing the nails. He found it
was very difficult to pick up a nail and then hold it just right so that he could nail the board in
place wearing the gloves that his mother gave him
Beginning to feel frustrated, he began to look around at the other men who were the experienced
builders. These were the men he grew up admiring for their skill and ability as builders. He
looked at their hands, and he saw that they did not wear gloves, and that their hands were strong
and calloused.
Looking closer, he noticed that they bore the marks o f experience, the small scars from cuts and
scratches collected over the years.
Then, he looked back at his gloved hands. He took offthe gloves and looked at his stiU soft and
inexperienced hands. They were the hands o f a boy, untrained, undeveloped and untested. He
came to an understanding in that moment. Even though the gloves given to him by his mother
were a gift o f love and concem, he would have to take them off if he truly wanted to become an
experienced carpenter, a buUder.
So, he decided to take the gloves off. He kept in mind that there may stiU be times when he could
use the gloves lovingly given to him by his mother, times when his hands were in significant
danger o f being injured, perhaps when moving heavy bricks or stones.
When he decided to take off the gloves, there was another change that occurred inside o f him.
The glo ves came off and from that point on, not only would he expose himself to the dings, cuts
and bruises, but he would actually look fonvard to them.
Those cuts would come from the experiences that would transform the boy into the experienced
carpenter that he felt called to become. He would eam each scar like a soldier eams his stripes.
And so, as time went by, he eamed the title o f carpenter, and he became a builder, one scrape, one
cut and one unavoidable bruise at a time. Over time, his hands became strong and capable, and
the little things that would cut and bruise him in the past no longer did, because he had become
conditioned to the work.
Then he could look back and see that those small pains and injuries he experienced were nothing
compared to the good feelings and satisfaction he experienced, because he answered his calling.
He had become what he was meant to become, a man, a builder.
Handouts for DVD 10
5-PATH™ Overview: Phase V
B anyan H ypnosis C enter for T raining & Services, Inc.
A dvanced H ypnotherapy T raining
A s you use 5-PA TH ™ keep in m ind the sim ple and effective checklist
below .
Phase V
1. R eview last session
3. Identification o f the Parts
4. Benefits o f changing and not changing are uncovered.
5. Solution is generated that will be w in-w in for both parts.
6. D irect suggestion for issues based on w in-w in agreem ent.
7. Em erge and post-hypnotic interview

PhaseV : Parts M ediation Therapy
Calvin D. Banyan, M A, BCH, CI
In Parts Mediation Therapy (PMT), we again divide the psyche of the client. But this time, the
division is into two parts, where one is the part that wants be changed and the other part wants to
continue in the old way.
This is called Parts Mediation Therapy, because in essence, it is an application of mediation

procedures. hx PMT, the therapist takes on the role of the mediator, who is not there to judge, but
rather to facilitate communication that will lead to an agreement that is beneficial to both parts.
A mediator focuses on issues, rather than solutions. The parts want to do what they want to do
because they are focusing on solutions, their solutions to the problem. When the focus is shifted
to issues (the problem) and away from solutions, new solutions can be generated. O f these new
solutions, one may be developed that can better answer the needs and concems of each o f the
parts.
An overview of the process would look like this:

• Bring up the parts
• Establish your role as mediator
• Uncover issues and concems
• Generate new solutions that better meet the needs o f both parts
• Have the parts agree to the new solution
• R ealitytestthenew solution(setofbehaviors)
• If necessary, set up a trial period for the new behavior, with another meeting to make any
changes if the agreement is lacking in some way.
The session would go like this, after you have again induced hypnosis, etc.:
1. There is a p a rt o /y o u th a tfe e /s /ik e continuing to _______ _______ (insert problem behavior)

isa g o o d id ea .
2. Compliment part. T h isp a rt is fu ifi/iin g an im p o rta n t/o b /o r (client's name, who will later be
referred to as the self). B u t th is o th erp a rt o fyo u (th a tl m /ic a /lth e S e /f) is unhappy. So,
perhaps, b etter com m unication a n d understanding is in order.
3. Ia m only th e m ediator here. I t is n o t m yjob tojudge, b u t on/y to im prove com m unication. /

believe th a t a/Z o fy o u rp a rts a reg o o d p a rts, andeach is encouragingyou to do th e th in g s th a t
yo u d o fo rso m everyg o o d rea so n s.
4. S e lf(o r clien t’s nam ej, is it o/cay i f fsp ea k to th a tp a rt d irect/y? (Get a positive response.)
Good. la m now speaking to th a t o th erp a rt g/jplient’s name).
5. / know th a t it is u n u su a /fo ryo u to com m unicate d irectly w ith som eone other than th e s e /f.
T han kyo u fo r th e opportunity.6
6. A sk about its p u rp ose or fu n ctio n . Today we wou/d/ike to iearn more about this
_____________(behavior that is being worked on). T ellm e about how doing th a t is u seju l (Or,
why you like to do that. Or, why that seems like a good idea to do.)
7. Emerge other parts if necessary. Examples o f other parts might be: Fun, Joy, Wisdom, etc.
8. Begin negotiation and mediation.

A. Find out what are the issues or concems.
B. Separate issues from behaviors.
C. Note that both parts want the same things, like happiness, achievement, relationships.
D. Establish that the part was not trying to hurt the Self.
E. Parts are now forgivable.
F. Agree on new behaviors and roles.
G. Reality test - does it seem like this really works?
9. Establish terms o f agreement. Clearly state what each part is going to do or stop doing and
how each part will benefit from the changes.
10. Integrate parts.
12. Suggest that in the past, they have been both doing what they thought was best. They have
been stmggling. The struggle is now over and they are experiencing much more peace. This
peace gives them more energy. The energy that was being used in the struggle can now be used
for successfully implementing this new plan.
13. Finally, use direct suggestions or direct drive techniques to strongly and hypnotically suggest
these new changes.
14. Emerge
© 1998 Calvin D. Banyan, Banyan Hypnosis Center For Training & Services, Inc. All Rights
Reserved.
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5-PATH and Parts M ediation Therapy: W orking with Secondary Gain
3/9/2002
The Hypnotherapist who uses 5-PATH (Five-Phase Abreactive Therapeutic Hypnosis)

has at his or her disposal some of the most powerful hypnotherapeutic techniques
available, arranged to be used in the most beneficial way:
1) Hypnotic Direct Suggestions with Convincers,

2) Affect Bridge Age Regression,
3) Forgiveness o f Others Therapy,
4) Forgiveness o f Self Therapy and
5) Parts Mediation Therapy.
This article will go into detail about how to conduct a Parts Mediation Therapy (PMT)
session.
Why Parts M ediation Is Phase V
In the field of Hypnotherapy, there are many dififerent approaches to doing the work.
Most only do Direct Suggestion or Visualization Therapies. Others specialize in
Hypnotic Age Regression, while others focus on Forgiveness Therapies or Parts
Therapies. Because some hypnotherapists have dedicated themselves to the practice of
these very powerful therapies, these therapies have developed to the state o f the art that
we practice today.
However, I believe that restricting our practice to only one or two o f these therapies alone
reduces our ability to fully help our clients. In addition to encouraging our field to
embrace all five o f these useful therapies, I wish to promote using them in the order listed
above. I believe that using these therapies as đelineated allows the practitioner and
clients to gain the maximum benefit from each.
In 5-PATH we start off with Direct Suggestion (DS) because it is the simplest way to
begin and it allows us to transform our clients ffom someone who may have fears and
misconceptions about hypnosis, which will limit that depth of hypnosis, into what I
would call “The ideal client.” The ideal client is someone who feels comfortable with
hypnosis (is fearless), has experienced it before, so she knows what to expect (having
realistic expectations), knows that she can be hypnotized, knows that she can do hypnosis
with her hypnotherapist, and is looking forward to her next session.
Phase I: DS allows us the opportunity, through the use of a good pre-talk, pre-hypnosis
interview, appropriate selection and use of induction, use o f covert testing, use of
convincers, hypnotic suggestion for what they came in for, to make the transformation
into this ideal client.
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In Phase II: AR we need to be working with a client who can now easily go into a deep
level of hypnosis. Only in somnambulism is the client deep enough to be able to
experience a true age regression (a revivification). It has been my experience that the
time spent in the first phase, transforming the average client into the ideal client is time
weU spent. When the ideal client comes into your office she is easily hypnotized and
deepened into a state o f somnambulism. This is vdiy AR follows DS.
During the age regression we accomplish a great deal. Using techniques such as Affect
Bridge Age Regression, Informed Child Technique, Age Progression and Informed Adult
Teclmique, we are able to uncover the cause o f the problem (the Initial Sensiti2ing Event
or ISE), remove the effect that the ISE had upon your client, and give them a mental
expectation of success in the fiiture. As we take them through the process o f AR, we also
leam something very important, which is very important before we move on to the next
phase (Forgiveness Therapy). We leam who hurt her. We find out who the people are in
her past that contributed to the problem. These are the individuals who need to be
forgiven. This is why A R precedes the forgiveness therapies in the 5-PATH system.
Once we have uncovered the cause o f the problem and the people in your client’s life
who were associated with it, we are now in the best position to begin the forgiveness
therapies. Phase III: Forgiveness of Others (FOO) is best done when the therapist has
this kind of information about the client’s pasL In addition, during the AR process
additional individuals may have been identified who need to be considered for
forgiveness therapy whom the client may not have been aware of when she came in for
hypnotherapy. This is why it is important that AR precedes FOO.
During the FOO therapy the client uncovers more material, because this, like AR is an
“insight therapy.” She leams more about the situation, the people involved in the
development o f the problem, and herself. As the forgiveness is done in Phase III, the
client is being prepared to forgive herself. If your client is continuing to harbor angry
feelings toward others, it makes it more difficult for her to fully forgive herself. In fact,
continuing to experience these ill feelings toward others may continuously generate
feelings of guilt or anger within herself, making her feel unworthy o f forgiveness. So
when we take the time to conduct Phase III: FOO, we clear the way for tmly forgiving
the self. Some clients may even feel that after forgiving all these people that have hurt
her, then it would seem unfair to her if she does not then receive forgiveness also. Then
the client has been fully prepared to do Phase IV: Forgiveness o f Self (FOS).
Phases I through IV constitute a very thorough and effective process. Completing this
process with your client removes the initial effect that caused the problem, and removes
that associated emotions, fear, anger and guilt. It is important that these emotions have
been removed because holding those emotions within the client, causes the intemal stress
that leads to addietions, compulsions and even physical illnesses.
Once these phases have been completed, the issue or problem will completely collapse,
unless it is being encouraged, meaning reinforced by something or someone in your
client’s present situation. In such cases, even though the cause o f the problem has been
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removed the problem can continue to exist. This is because if there is a change in
behavior or if there is a healing in the case o f physical illness, then the client must lose
something o f value. So then there is something to gain in continuing to behave in the old
way, or in continuing to be ill. This is called Seconđary Gain.
Phase V : Parts Mediation Therapy (PMT) is specificaily to address this conflict. In this
case the client wants to both respond to the therapy and not respond, to get well and
remain ill, or to change and continue in the old way. PMT is appropriate, only when this
kind of intemal conflict exists and the client is not responding to the previous four
phases. This is why PMT is the last phase in the 5-PATH system.
Why W e Do Not Do It Often
One of the challenges o f doing good PMT is that, because the previous four phases of 5-
PATH are so powerful (and even more so when combined with 7*11Path Self-Hypnosis)
that the use o f 5th Phase is unnecessary in the majority of cases in which most therapists
work with. This is because the first four phases address the cause o f the problem, and
phase 5 is only needed if-the problem or issue continues after the cause has been
removed.
Because o f this, it may take a long time before the 5-PATH hypnotherapist begins to feel
comfortable with this process. For this reason 5-PATH therapists are encouraged to read
articles like this one and view or listen to PMT sessions conducted by others in order to
remain proficient.
Before You Decide to Use Parts M ediatiou Therapy
Before moving firom the first four phases into PMT some thought should be given first.
Before you begin PMT you should take a look at the age regression work that was done
and ask your self about how confident that this work has been completed. How confident
are you that tihie Initial Sensitizing Event (ISE) was uncovered? How confident are you
about the Informed Child work? Did you take the informed child through the Subsequent
SensitizingEvents(SSEs)fi:omoftheissue? Was any Informed Adult work done? Did
you do any work progressing the client into the future?
All of these things should be considered before going into PMT. It will not compensate
for work that was not properly or sufficiently done in the previous sessions. That is not
what it was designed to do. The same goes for the forgiveness therapies that are a part of
the 5-PATH process. Phases II through IV were designed to remove the cause o f the
problem. Phase V was designed to deal with intemal conflict, especially secondary gain.
So upon consideration, you may want to revisit some of the previous phases before going
on to Phase V.
W hat Parts M ediation Does
Remember that PMT is used to remove intemal conflict which can result from secondary
gain. It should not be used simply as the next step in the process when, for some
unknown reason the previous phases have not been effective or fully effective.
PM T works to remove the behavior by replacing the old behavior with a new one. The
new behavior should be as effective as the old one (or better) at fulfilling the needs,
wants or desires that the old behavior was fulfilling.
This is done by dividing the client into at least two parts, the Self and the part who wants
to continue in the old way. All parts are satisfied when the process has been completed
successfixlly. A “win-win” solution is generated and agreed to by the two or more parts.
Then the parts are reintegrated. This will be covered in more detail below.
W hat Is Secondary Gain
When the therapist decides to begin the process o f PMT with a client, the therapist should
have reason to suspect that secondary gain is an issue in the continuance o f the problem.
So all 5-PATH therapists should have a good understanding o f what constitutes
secondary gain.
Remember that secondary gain has nothing to do with what initially started the problem.
Itis not associated with an ISE. There may or may not have been a benefit in doing the
problem behavior. There is usually something to be gained in starting even the most
destructive habits, such as smoking, drug abuse and so on. That would be the initial or
primary gain. For example, picking up the habit o f being shy may have had the benefit of
avoiding criticism by an overly critical parent. The problem occurs when being shy no
longer benefits the individual but the pattem of shyness has been accepted at the
subconscious level.
When the client gets older and goes through therapy, such as 5-PATH or 7* Path, the
cause of the problem (the habit or unconscious pattem) has been removed. If the client
continues to behave in a shy manner, then there is something going on in her environment
that is causing the problem to continiie. There is some benefit in the present
circumstance that is reinforcing the old pattem. This current benefit is the secondary
gain.
Here are some examples of common secondary gain issues.
1. In the case of psychogenic pain, an individual may be unwilling (or unable) to allow
the pain to leave, becauše doing so may lead to a loss of monetary benefits, or he or she
may have to experience the stress (fear) of going out into the world and having to support
him or herself.
2. Take for example, a young woman who is having sexual problems in her marriage.
She is unable to really enjoy sexual intercourse with her husband so she goes for therapy.
Afler the cause o f the problem has been uncovered and eliminated, she becomes much
more uninhibited and begins to have a normal and healthy level o f enjoyment of her
sexual relations with her husband. Then she finds that her husband becomes very
insecure and makes statements about it and how he is worried about how he is afraid that
she will want to have sexual relations outside o f her marriage. Then she may relapse
back into her old pattem in order to bring a sense o f stability back into her marriage.
3. A young man who has come to you to overcome his habitual use o f marijuana goes
through the first four phases o f 5-PATH and the cause o f the substance abuse is removed.
Then after a little time, he retums to using the substance so that he can be with his old
ftiends who smoke marijuana. The secondary gain is the social interaction that he
experiences when he smokes marijuana with his friends.
In each of the examples, the cause o f the problem was removed but there was some
benefit to either continuing to experience the problem or to relapsing back into the old
problem behavior. W hat changed is the motivation or drive that is propelling the
behavior. It is now being motivated by something in the present.
Overview of Phase V: Parts M ediation Therapy

• Pre-hypnosis interview
• Induce hypnosis and deepen to somnambulism •
Bring up the parts
• Establish your role as mediator
• Uncover issues and concems
• Generate new solutions that better meet the needs of both parts
• Have the parts agree to the new solution
• Reality testthenew solution(setofbehaviors)
• If necessary, set up a trial period for the new behavior, with another meeting to
make any changes if the agreement is lacking in some way.
Interview Client and Gather Evidence of Secondary Gain
Always remember when considering the process o f PMT that you need to suspect that
there is a secondary gain issue. If you have no reason to suspect that this is not the case
then you would be better off doing more age regression work, suspecting that the ISE was
not sufficiently dealt with.
Waking Suggestion For Parts
Before you begin the hypnosis session, I recommend that you somehow casually mention
the word “part” or “parts.” For example you could say that you admire how she has been
so courageous and that the courageous p a rt of her is really strong. Or here is another
example, you could suggest that the p a rto i her tha ants to change is very determined.
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Once the idea of her having “parts” has been suggested in the waking state it helps make
the rest of the process which is conducted in hypnosis seem more natural.
Role o f the hypnotherapist Is M ediator
PMT follows the conventions o f the mediator in a standard conflict resolution process. It
is the same process used by mediators who help resolve all kinds o f conflicts ranging -
ffom divorce cases to those who help warring countries set up treaties.
The role of the mediator is one who has no real authority in the situation. The role of the
mediator is that o f a guide who helps people improve their communication as they
proceed through the conflict resolution process or uncovering each parties interests,
generating mutually beneficial agreements, reality testing those agreements and
implementing those agreements. The main theme o f the process is that o f working
toward a win-win solution for both sides in the conflict. The process must be mutually
beneficial so that both parties want to continue to use the solutions generated.
The mediator/therapist explains to the client who is in hypnosis that her role is Only to
facilitate communication and understanding and that she has no power or authority to
judge.
It could go something like this, “I am only the mediator here. It is not my job to judge,
but only to improve communication. I believe that all o f your parts are good parts, and
each is encouraging you to do the things that you do for some very good reasons.”
Hypnotic Suggestion For Parts
Once you have the client in hypnosis and deepened to a level o f somnambulism, you are
ready to begin PMT. It is time to suggest that she is experiencing some conflict inside of
herself. Suggest to the client that there is part o f her, called the “Self’ which wants to
change, but there is another part of her that seems to think it is better to continue in the
old way.
It does not matter which part you start with. So you could start by asking your client,
who is in hypnosis, if it is alright for you to speak directly to that part of her who wants to
change. Your client will easily consent to this, and you can continue by asking about the
benefits of making the change. As the mediator/therapist you can suggest that these
benefits are ways of fulfilling important needs, wants or desires.
Then proceed to have the part that does not seem to want to change or talk about the
benefits of continuing to do the behavior. I will usually, in the beginning call the part the
“Still-Wanting-To-(fill in the problem behavior)-Part.” Here are some examples:
The-Still-Wanting-To-Smoke Part
The-Still-Wanting-To-Go-To-The-Bar Part
The-Still-Wanting-To-Eat-Before-Bed Part
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Later after the cause o f the behavior has been uncovered the part will probably undergo a
name change. When w e find out what need, want or desire is being fiilfilled by the old
behavior we can change the name to refiect that new understanding.
For example, if a person first started drinking because he had low self-esteem, but having
a few drinks made him feel better about himself (which also enabled him.to be more
social after a few drinks) then drinking was useful. But, there are many side effects o f
drinking too much, so he undergoes hypnotherapy, the cause is removed (the low self-
esteem). The hypnotherapist aids him my doing 5-PATH and the cause of the low self-
esteem is removed and he feels much better about himself. But later on, because he never
really developed the skills involved in seeking groups to become involved in (out side of
going to the bar or tavem) he begins to feel lonely. In order to fulfill his social needs he
retums to the bar, not to drink, but just to be arbiind people. After a while, he may then
begin drinking again because he felt like an outsider by not drinking along with his
drinking buddies. The secondary gain in this example is that going into the bar or tavem
is a way to fulfill his social needs.
In the beginning o f the PMT, the client is divided into two, the Self and the Still-
Wanting-To-Drink Part. When each part talks about the benefits o f not drinking (said by
theSelf) and o f continuing to drink (said by the Still-Wanting-To-Drink Part) we find out
that the Still-Wanting-To-Drink Part wants all the benefits o f not drinking, and that the
Self wants all of the benefits o f drinking. They find that they have a lot in common!
Take a look at this. The Self wants to quit so that he can hold a job, have some self-
respect, get back his driver’s license and so on. The Still-Wanting-To-Drink Part wants
that too. Ih e Still-Wanting-To-Drink Part wants to have some fun and have friends, and
the^Self wants that too. This is the kind of thing that happens when we really work to
uncover the benefits o f each of the parts. Even the parts that seem to be self-defeating or
dumb, are trying to do something that is good. It is how they are going about fulfilling
those needs, wants and desires that is the problem. This is why we need to find another
way to fill these important needs, wants and desires. And it needs to be something that
both Parts want to do.
Generate New Possible Solutions
Once the benefits have been disclosed and the needs, wants and desires have been
discussed, then we are ready to begin generating new solutions.
This process is called brainstorming. Brainstorming is a process in which we generate

ideas uncritically. We do not want to begin throwing out ideas until we are fmished
generating them. If we begin to criticize these ideas prematurely then we stifle our
creativity for fear of being criticized. So the mediator/therapist encourages all creative
ideas and discourages criticism. The mediator/therapist can also be part of this creative
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process by adding some of his or her ideas to the mix of suggestions. We just want to
avoid jumping too soon to a solution.
Select New Behaviors In Light of Expressed Needs, Wants and Desires
When the brainstorming process is complete, then you move on to eliminating ideas that
do not satisfy the needs, wants and desire o f both parts. You should also remove
suggestions that are not practical or will not work in the long run.
Construct an Agreement
Then you take the ideas that are left over. These are the ideas that are agreeable to both
parts and appear to fulfill the needs, wants and desires. Out of this is crafted an
agreement which is usually stated injust a sentence or two. The new behavior or
behaviors should be stated simply, and the benefits to both parts should be obvious.
Let me continue with the example from above. The Still-Wanting-To-Drink Part is
renamed to the Fun-and-Sociable part because that is the need that it was trying to fulfill.
The Self wants to be fim and sociable also, so they only need to agree on other ways to
meet that need.
S© the agreement might go like this, “From now on I will begin to seek out clubs or
organizations that are o f interest to me. (For example, if he likes fishing and playing on
his.computer then those kinds of clubs or organizations would be o f interest). Fm not
very good at meeting people so I’m going to read a book on it and start using what I
leam.
The benefit to the Self is that he gets to stop drinking which is what he came to the
therapy process to do. The benefit to the Fun-and-Social Part is that he can do what he is
supposed to do without harming himself any more.
Reality Test the Agreement
Once the agreement has been formed into a couple of sentences, then have each part take
a look at it and see if there is anything that would keep him from fulfilling his part o f the
deal. Also, the part should consider if it is realistic.
If the plan seems to have flaws then adjustments can be made.
Discuss the W in-W in Nature of the Agreement
When you have an agreement that looks like it would work, make sure that each part
knows how it will benefit his interests. Then get a commitment from each part to the
agreement as it is plainly stated.
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Set Up A Trial Period If Necessary To Get Agreement
If there are any aspects o f the agreement that are shaky, like they are not sure if it will
really work, because o f real-world considerations, or because a part is unsure if it will
really fulfill his needs, then set up a tentative agreement that will be fully implemented
for a short period of time.
This tentative agreement will help you come to an agreement when sometimes you would
not otherwise be able to. Y o u d o n o th a v e to b e su re th a titw ill work. Y oucanjusthave
them agree to try this agreement for a week or two.
It could also be stated that this trial agreement is a real reality testing of the agreement.
We get to find out if the plan will really work. If it does not, then a new plan will be
implemented rather than going back to the old way (i.e., drinking in order to be social).
Reintegrate the Parts
Once the agreement has been made, then the two parts are reintegrated back into one
person. If there was any anger disclosed between the two parts, then before integration
have each part forgive the Other and then reintegrate.
A sim ple way of doing that, is have the two parts “shake on it” and as they do, suggest
that they melt back into one person.
Direct Suggestion
At the end ofphases two through five, always end with DS. This DS should suggest that
the plan will be implemented and that it will bring about the desired results.
Post-Hypnotherapy Interview
After emerging the client you need to spend a short period o f time with your client so that
he or she can talk about the experience and so you can answer any questions that your
client might have.
M ake Next Appointment
After the session, if more appointments are needed make them right away. Thisis
especially tme if a tentative agreement has been made. Then you need to make an
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appointment with your client in order for the parts to decide to either change the
agreement or to accept it as permanent.
Summary
PMT is similar to Forgiveness of Others (FOO). In fact, a case could be made that FOO
is just a special case o f PMT where there is the Self and the other part is always the
Mistake-Making Part which becomes the Protective Part. In FOO, the emphasis is on
forgiveness, whereas in PMT the emphasis is in finding out why the old behavior is
continuing so it can be replaced by a more desirable and healthy behavior.
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L ist of H andouts for Each Video

H andouts for Video 1

1. 5-PATH Structural Overview

H andouts for Video 2

6. Post-Hypnotic Suggestion Using Red

H andouts for Video 3

H andouts for Video 4

H andouts for Video 5

H andouts for Video 6

No handouts were given during this video.

H andouts for Video 7

31. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase III

H andouts for Video 8

40. The Young Carpenter: A Story for Inner Strength.

H andouts for Video 10

41. 5-PATH™ Overview: Phase V

ALL FEELINGS ARE GOOD!

First, here is an outline of the brief and simple process:

Once again, this is a three step process:

The process is simple. It goes like this: 1 ,2 ,3 .

1. Fee/ing. B ored (leihargic, eic.J

b. Make fair. Whenever possible, attempt to regain faimess in the situation.

c. Forgive them and move on - real forgiveness reduces the anger.

1. Feeling: G uii( (sham e, sin /u i, evii, etc.J

1. Feeiing: Sadness /e e iin g biue, a n d o/ten con/used w ith depressionj.

W hat About Frustration and Depression?

Here is another special category: Distracters (a delaying tactic).

Distracters can either be the problem or part o f the solution.

Using distracters in a positive and healthy way.

By Plan B, I mean Use distractors under four conditions:

A short list of distractors

Questions? G iv eu sa ca ll. (763)785-3390

Feelings and W hat They Indicate and How to Satisfy Them

Feeling Satisfying Response

Taking back control o f your life, can be as sim ple as 1,2,3:

1. Intake Process (first contact, pre-talk and pre-hypnosis interview)

2. A ssessm ent for readiness for hypnosis,

3. Induction with covert testing (i.e., Elm an-Banyan H ypnotic

4. Convincers (i.e., eye lock test)

5. Hypnotic suggestions (i.e., scripts, or custom suggestions).

7. Post-H ypnotic Interview

1. First Im pression has an effect on your hypnosis session.

2. Pre-Talk should be designed to remove fears and misconceptions.

Post Hypnotic Suggestion for Convincer Using Red

(Red - As A Convincer - Modifled by Cal Banyan wpd)

Time Distortion Suggestions for Convincer o f Post Hypnotic Suggestion

1 .. . eyelids are twitching and tightening.

Oood stop testing, and go deeper.

• Use a tone of voice consistent with the instructions.

(Elman Induclion Modified by Cal Banyan doc)

1) Relax the body:

“Take a nice deep breath a n d h o ld it. N ow ie t it o u t a n d clo seyo u r eyes. "

T m’ going to d o a check to m ake su reyo u have been fo iio w in g directions. / m’ g o in g to

2) Relax the mind:

“Now, ie ty o u r body re/ax, a s i f th e lig h ts w ere o u t a n d yo u w ere as/eep a t m 'ght. L e t

“Now, ta keyo u r a tten tio n to yo u r breathing a n d ju st ie t ea ch g en t/e breathyou exha/e

(fcIman - Banyan, Shori Version 32102)

There is an interesting aspect to Classical Conditioning. That is, this conditioned

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(Three mental Powers to Locate Feelings)

Four Important Things We Do In H ypnosis - Deepening and Convincer Patter

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Calvin Banyan, MA, CI, BCH

Since 5-PATH is a universal approach to doing hypnotherapy, it seemed that it would be