happiness doesnt come from

-getting what u want

-from within (like buddists say)

but comes from

-getting the right kind of relationships, between yourself and others, yourself and
work, and yourself and something larger than yourself

try to think in a way of changing the behavior of and animal or a child. What would
u do?

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meditation in indonesia

to make your mind stronger u need to exercise it, and we call it meditation

"if i have done it before i get bored, if i havent done it before i get anxious"

make the first step

more flexible - insights with meditation after some struggling

at first the guy was really excited about his new girlfriend in the meditation
camp, but after
a month and he realising he would like to have kids or whatever they perceived they
wouldnt
match with each other

there is a cut to a scene where he states he is happy when he get his motorbike,
keeps
driving within a road with a beautiful scene while listening to his mp3 player

another excitement moment is when he simply goes to hong kong and have an affair
that
suddenly sits in his lap and make he feels alive

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specialist says his problem wasnt mostly happiness, but the point that he cant
make real connections with people and some of warm, loving skills
another fact is that he is living in a foreign country
therefore meditation + a new place
a place he doesnt know people, so its been forced to make new connections/be more
open
peace of life is more slower than new york, its very beautiful and greener/natural

the sum of all those things make it less pressure to work and focus on it but
instead
be more open to the overall possibilities the guy is able to tackle with
with this is mind he feels its possible to be a more open, warm and loving person
specialist cant say whether the meditation played a hole on this

systematizing is the opposite of emphatasing, still, he is trying to change himself

dont drink alcohol

have more guts
help someone
do something with friends
be more flexible
keep weight
dairy
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therapy

-stop being just passive pleasurer: try to say up with conflicts and deal with them

-what kind of things do u avoid doing? seeking discomfort is a way to grow

confidence

having guts always works out for me

thinking life will be better in the future is stupid, i have to live now
if i dont ask i wont get
you cant please everybody
being not trutiful works agains me

weakenesses: interpersonal connection, commitment and gratitude

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work on the relationship, in the work and a big project with people that i respect
and admire