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TEEN Breathe
And the Oscar goes to… • Are selies making you sad? • Take the lead • Age of anxiety
Smile away your cares • Creature comforts • When friends fall out • Age-gap buddies
INSIDE ISSUE 10
2 SMILE AWAY YOUR CARES 34 LOOK FURTHER
A smile a day can keep After all, compliments aren’t
unhappiness at bay just about appearances
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FIVE WAYS TO
BRING MORE
SMILES INTO
YOUR LIFE
1 Have a smile
party. Surround
yourself with
happy, positive-
minded, fun-
loving people,
and focus on
enjoying life’s
light-hearted,
joyful moments.
2 Vow to be a
smiley person
and set out to
Smiling comes naturally when you’re Smile and the world smiles with you
gift a grin to all
carefree and feeling good. It’s easy to It’s true. A genuine smile lights up your
those you meet.
grin when life is going well – but how face and can transmit a sense of hope
about the times when life is challenging,
exhausting and just plain hard work?
In the change from child to adult, the
and positivity. Smiling is contagious.
When you smile at someone, they’ll
usually return the favour because it’s
3 Make time for
self-care. It’s
easier to smile
stresses and strains of responsibilities a natural, unconscious response. If when you’re
can easily make it more of a struggle someone doesn’t return a smile, they’re making space
to smile. The demands of homework, making a conscious efort not to and in your life for
routine, chores, exams, expectations that’s ine. You’re not grinning in order what matters.
and unforeseen diiculties can take you to receive one in return – you’re doing
out of the moment and make you lose
touch with your bright, joyful self.
it because it feels good, regardless of
how the other person reacts.
4 Carry a smile
totem with you
– something that
When this happens, you’re more You’ll probably ind that most people
can’t fail to put a
likely to scowl than grin, but your smile will smile back. It’s heart-warming to be
smile on your face
holds the key to a happier life. on the receiving end of a smile, and it
even when you’ve
Look upon your facial expression as can lift someone’s mood. It can make a
had a challenging
a kind of mood barometer. Are you diference to someone who’s feeling
day. Perhaps it’s
wearing a fair-weather smile or a rainy- alone or sad. A kind smile acts like a hug
a cute animal
day frown? Though it may not feel like and can create a chain reaction. Imagine
picture, funny
it, the choice is actually yours. how many smiley faces originate from
photo or a big
Of course, there will be days when the smile you’ve shared today.
smiley key ring.
you don’t feel like smiling but do it
anyway. Give yourself a big, toothy
grin in the mirror. Smile so your eyes
sparkle and notice how that feels.
5 Make time to
play. Have fun.
Be present in the
Things might not immediately moment. Laugh
change on the outside, but you lots and make
can change how you feel on the grinning your
inside right this moment and that go-to expression
makes all the diference to your of choice.
self-esteem and sense of wellbeing.
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DID YOU KNOW?
GET YOUR SMILE ON…
Smiling enhances your mood. When you smile, feelgood
neurotransmitters release dopamine, endorphins and Take a moment to think about
serotonin, the natural chemicals that make you feel happy, the people, pets, spaces and
relaxed and carefree. places that help lift your frown
Whether you have good reason to be happy or not, the and then make a note of them
facial muscles you use to smile can trigger the release of here. Keep your list in a safe
endorphins, so the more you smile the better you feel. place and reach for it when
Smiling not only boosts happy endorphins, it also helps to you’re in need of inspiration.
reduce the stress hormone, cortisol, so you’ll feel less anxious
and more at ease.
As a result of those clever endorphins, smiling is an efective
pain reliever. If you bruise your knee or knock your elbow,
grin and laugh of the pain. It really does help.
When you keep grinning through life’s various challenges,
remembering to wear a natural smile in a situation such as
a job interview – it’ll help you’ll feel uplifted, relaxed,
conident and more positive.
The world-famous smiley face was created in 1963 by the
artist Harvey Ball who understood the power of a smile. In
2001, the Harvey Ball World Smile Foundation was established
in his honour, and a World Smile Day takes place every year.
See worldsmileday.com.
No matter where you go, you don’t need an interpreter for
smiles. Smiling can help you connect with people all over the
world. It’s the universal language of happiness.
Grinning is attractive. It makes you appear warm, friendly and
approachable. If you’re looking to make new friends, build
lasting relationships, and share some happiness with the
world around you, be more generous with your smiles.
WORDS: CAROL ANNE STRANGE. ILLUSTRATION: CÉLESTE WALLAERT. PHOTOGRAPHS: RAWPIXEL.COM
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Mighty motivators WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATIONS: ANIESZKA BANKS
Imagine it’s a Sunday evening and you’re doing your art homework or some
last-minute revision – how are you feeling? Are you doing it just so you don’t
get into trouble at school, because your parents are nagging you, or are you
doing it because you’re motivated to do well in that subject and get a sensee
of satisfaction from producing work to the best of your ability?
It’s normal for anyone working on solo projects to experience feelings of
boredom, anxiety or a lack of enthusiasm. The good news is that within easy sy
reach of you are secret aids that can help you to unleash your full potential
and overcome any lingering negative feelings – your friends.
ely,
If you can share your experiences with your peers, and work collaboratively,
the chances are you’ll encourage them and work to the best of your ability.
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How encouraging others and sharing ideas
can lead to greater self-motivation…
Sharing helps
Learning and growing with friends allows you to share
experiences and make more of your own potential than THE PSYCHOLOGY
you might otherwise achieve if you studied alone. They MOTIVATION
OF MOTIVATION
can encourage you if you get stuck – and you can return
the favour. In a similar way, you can exchange ideas and Understanding
Und about the psychology
tips – a friend might be strong in one of your weaker of motivation
m can help you be a better
subjects and vice versa. Also, knowing others share motivator
mo of yourself and others. There
your concerns about a project or essay can release anyy are
ar two main types of motivation:
stress or anxiety, while a friend’s enthusiasm for a taskk
can often prove to be infectious. Extrinsic motivation is when external
factors encourage success, such as a
Use social media reward or money – or even the threat
Consider how to share your goals so others can support of something happening, such as being
you and you can help them. You could consider setting grounded or losing a phone for a week.
up a group chat for exam revision facts or tips. Friends Intrinsic motivation is based on inner
could then add to it or ask questions. It may be you share factors and your own personal desire
images on Instagram or Snapchat, which show your to do or achieve something because of
progress on a task, whether that’s a painting, improving a sense of satisfaction, pleasure or your
itness, practising an instrument or developing a skill. deep-rooted self-determination.
Having friends comment, answer questions and ofer
words of motivation will provide a real boost. Which type of motivation works?
Frequently, people are inspired by both
Get together types of motivation. For example, if
If you’re working on similar projects or ideas, meet up you’re taking part in a competition, your
for a fun brain-storming hour or two, whether it’s in motivation might be to win a medal but
a café, a park or at someone’s house. It doesn’t mean it’s likely you would also want the inner
you’re copying each other’s ideas, but you can share, satisfaction of doing your best.
ask questions and develop your own thoughts and When you think about how to work
understanding of the issues. For example, if you’re with your friends, consider ways in which
revising, you can quiz each other, share resources and you can remind each other that it’s not
boost each other’s learning. If you’re working on a just about extrinsic motivation and doing oing
physical goal, such as yoga moves or reaching itness things because you have to, butt because
targets, practising together can help you progress tisfaction
you want a personal sense of satisfaction
quicker. Everyone will be at diferent levels or stages, of having done something well.
of course,, but collaborative working
g can make thingsg Say,y, for example, a friend has to go
more fun and more interesting. running in the th rain because they’re
preparing for a big event. You could
run with them and remind them of the
bene ts it will bring you both but
physical benei
there’s also th that added motivation for them
of achieving – or beating – a personal target.
In this way, you might come to see that
a positive mindset
min can be infectious.
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Hands up – I was wrong
Everyone gets something wrong or makes a mistake at some point
in their life, so why is it so diicult to own up to an innocent blunder?
WORDS: CAROL ANNE STRANGE. ILLUSTRATION: MATT CHINWORTH
It can be an awful feeling when you realise you’ve said means having to accept that you’re not always right or
or done something wrong. Maybe you shared a piece of perfect, and that can feel deeply uncomfortable.
incorrect gossip about the new pupil in your class, told a Of course, having a sense of pride in yourself isn’t a bad
friend something that turned out to be totally false or gave thing. When you take pride in your good qualities, abilities,
someone the wrong date for a special event which meant appearance and achievements, it’s positive and encourages
they missed out. Whatever the reason for being wrong, healthy feelings of self-worth. Problems arise when you
having to admit it, often with an apology, can make your have an inlated opinion of yourself and become too proud
stomach churn, your face lush, and your pulse race. to admit, and take responsibility for, your mistakes.
No one relishes putting up their hand to say: ‘I was
wrong.’ You become accountable for your mistake and Stubborn pride
that can make you feel awkward, embarrassed, ashamed When pride rules, you believe you’re always right, even
and less than perfect. Admitting a mistake challenges when you’re proven wrong. Stubborn pride foolishly
your pride and can dent your ego. Saying you were wrong protects an inbuilt need to be seen as being perfect. It can
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make you self-righteous and your ego will simply not stand plain to see the right course of action to take. When you
down or admit failure. To do so would reveal your laws and can say you were wrong and ofer a genuine apology, it
weaknesses and your pride doesn’t want this. will help to clear up a situation that might otherwise linger
As a result, some people will go to great lengths to avoid on for years and tarnish your memories.
owning up to being wrong. They will deny, make excuses, Owning up to your mistake and taking responsibility
attack, or blame someone or something else because it’s means that you can move forward with a clear conscience.
easier than looking within and inding they’re at fault. Finding the courage to say you were wrong will feel
No one likes an arrogant ‘know-it-all’, especially one who like a burden has been lifted. There is a certain dignity in
never confesses to being wrong. This unattractive side showing that you can rise above your personal pride and
of being too proud to admit your mistakes has an impact do the right thing. It demonstrates integrity, authenticity
on yourself and others. It can ruin friendships and spoil and strength of character. It shows that you value your
experiences. Relationships are at risk, leading to a loss of relationships over the importance of being right.
trust, love and respect. It can ill you with angst and even This vulnerability and humility makes you more
guilt for not doing what you know is right – and this, in approachable. People will see you in a fresh light. It will
turn, can damage your self-worth in the long run. earn you respect, trust and admiration, and will enable
you to grow into a well-rounded individual.
Strength of character So, don’t be afraid to make mistakes and don’t be too
Imagine switching of your pride for a moment and focus proud to say you got it wrong. You are human and on a
purely on the facts of a situation that has resulted in you beautiful, but sometimes challenging, journey that will
making a mistake. When you look upon the matter often test you. Keep your pride in check, have the courage
objectively, without consequence to yourself, it’s usually to do what feels right and learn from experience.
TIME TO REFLECT
Take a few moments to consider when pride has stopped
you from saying and doing the right thing…
When was the last time you felt too proud to own
up to your mistake and say you were wrong?
By not admitting you said or did something wrong,
what happened (or didn’t happen) as a result?
How did this make you feel?
What could you have said to change the situation?
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are selfies making
you sad?
Posting pictures of yourself on social media can be easy and fun. But it can also cause anxiety
and insecurity. Here’s how to steer clear of selie-sadness
There was a time when no one would dare take photos Addicted to attention
of themself for fear of looking too vain, or obsessed with For self-confessed selie addicts, taking photos of
themselves and their looks. But now everyone does it – themselves is like a diary, documenting their day – but
and so often that it even got its own word, ‘selie’, and a they’re sharing it with their hundreds or thousands of
place in the dictionary. Smartphones make it super-easy followers. ‘I post all day,’ said one 15-year-old Teen Breathe
and their nifty editing ilters often produce funny and reader. ‘I’m not obsessed but I know people who are and
quirky results – many of which are promptly posted. But really want people to like or comment on their image. If
how many selies are too many? Can you be addicted to they don’t get many likes, they’ll remove the picture.’
taking them? And could they be afecting your conidence? For some, posting selies is a bit like a test to see how
attractive people think they are. It’s normal to want to
Copying Kim and Kylie receive reassurance, but it can lead to low self-esteem if you
A whopping 17 million selies are uploaded to social media judge yourself by the number of likes and comments that
every week in the UK. Many are posted by teenage girls, are put up. ‘When lots of people like what you’ve posted,
following in the footsteps of reality TV and red-carpet you get a real boost,’ said another Teen Breathe reader,
favourites Kim Kardashian and Kylie Jenner, who regularly 14. ‘That’s why people keep posting. But people can also
share images of their ‘perfect’ pouting selves. For some, post negative comments and that can be upsetting.’
taking selies becomes such a habit that they post to their
Instagram stories or Snapchat from the moment they wake
up to the time when their head hits the pillow.
Making comparison
It’s almost impossible not to compare yourself to the
people who populate your social media feeds with their
seemingly perfect pictures, but it’s important to remember
that people rarely post their true selves. Instead, they opt
for heavy make-up and suggestive poses. Often, older
people are trying to look younger while younger folk are
trying to make out they’re in their late teens or even 20s.
This is where apps come in – removing spots, blemishes
and scars; brightening skin, teeth and eyes; plumping up
cheeks. Ultimately, they’re disguising reality. Anyone can
fake perfection with a ilter on their face, so try not to
compare yourself to their posts. Similarly, it’s easy for
people’s posts to give the impression they’re always having
fun, but who’s going to upload a picture of themself
looking miserable, tired or red-eyed? Many of the images
you see may be sun-kissed and sensational, but pictures
rarely relect the true day-to-day realities of life.
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SELFIES – THE
ALTERNATIVES
Make your social media feed
interesting in a diferent way by Ignore the haters
sharing photos of things you see Putting your photo out for public approval will often attract positive,
and interesting scenes. self-esteem-boosting comments – but there’ll always be someone
who’s jealous or struggling with their own self-esteem who’ll post
If you feel brave, post images of hurtful remarks, often anonymously. One cruel sentence on Instagram
the ‘real’ you, such as a make-up or Snapchat can seriously dent a person’s conidence no matter how
free image or just a natural shot self-assured they seem or how hard they try to ignore it.
rather than a posed or highly
edited one. It might inspire your Stay selie safe
friends to do the same. To ensure you’re selie safe, set your social media sites to private
If you’re posting selies because (otherwise anyone can see them). It’s also useful to know the people
you feel low, boost your mood following you. Social media doesn’t have to be a popularity contest, so WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
by doing some exercise, chatting don’t be concerned by the number of likes you receive. Some people
to friends or doing an activity post for the numbers and have hundreds of followers (most of whom
that relaxes you. they don’t know). You can choose to be diferent and ensure that the
people liking your pictures are people you know.
Remember to try not to compare
yourself to others based on the
Avoid the addiction
selies they post – most are not
Addiction is a strong word, but it’s important to keep an eye on how
true depictions of real life.
many selies you post and why you’re doing it. Do you enjoy the
Funny-face ilters can be great, excitement of getting likes? Do you post because you need a boost?
but limit their reach to close Or are you posting because it’s a genuine, nice photo of yourself, taken
friends and family. at a special event, that you wish to share? If you ind that posting
selies is more about seeking approval than sharing a funny or nice
photo, it might be time to think about changing your selie habit.
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How many posts have you shared this week?
draw your favourites and savour the memory
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Find the bright side
after rejection
The sting of rejection comes to everyone, but the challenge is not
to get too disheartened – better times are just around the corner
Whether it’s being sidelined suddenly by a group of friends will have experienced what you’re feeling and once you’ve
or being told you’ve not made the sports team, rejection told someone else, you’ll start to feel less hurt and they’ll
hurts. It can be painful and embarrassing and leave you give you some comforting words and advice, too.
feeling insecure. But one thing is for sure – at some point, Other people can give you a diferent perspective and
everyone experiences the harsh emotion of being rejected. also make you see the reality of the situation and how
It could be being ignored by people you like or not being what seems a big deal right now is not as important as
selected for a role. Rejection could come from not being you think. It’s also good to put your feelings into words
ofered a place after a college or job interview. as acknowledging them can help you move on.
Wherever it comes from, rejection stings and some Think about the kind of advice you’d give someone in
people can become so insecure about the possibility of it your situation. It may help you to realise there are other
happening again that they end up avoiding many exciting solutions and opportunities ahead. However, it might not
opportunities, in an attempt to swerve that sense of hurt be a good idea to talk about it on social media, especially
again. However, there are many ways to deal with those if you’re upset and angry. You might regret it in future
feelings and bounce back, so you can learn to accept when your perspective has shifted (as it inevitably will).
rejection instead of living your life in fear of it.
1 Accept it hurts
Being rejected for whatever reason may cause real
3 Look back and then move forward
When you’re ready, consider what happened exactly
and why it didn’t work out. Was it something beyond
emotional pain so don’t be afraid to express the feelings your control? Was there anything you could have done
you experience and take time out to process events. diferently or would do diferently in the same situation?
Cry, shout and write down how you feel – anything you It may be it’s just bad luck but it could also be you learn
need to do to get those feelings out. It’s helpful to give something from what has happened. The important thing
them a label when you write or talk about them. For is not to exaggerate your faults or look for reasons you
example, ‘I feel upset that…’ These are your feelings and weren’t chosen or were left out.
they’re normal. Wallow in that hurt for a short while, as It’s easy to be very self-critical after being rejected,
it will then be easier to move forward. whatever the reasons, and you may ind yourself saying
If you keep the feelings in, they’ll slowly eat away at you things such as ‘No one likes me’ or ‘I’m rubbish’, but try
and the situation will be harder to overcome. Set yourself to stick to the facts. Be kind to yourself, otherwise you’ll
a time limit to feel sorry for yourself, and then get ready to develop a deeper fear of rejection, which in turn will mean
face the world again. If you go overboard and spend too you’ll stop putting yourself in situations where you can
long feeling sorry for yourself, you could be wasting vital be accepted and enjoy success.
time that could be better used embracing exciting new
opportunities and making new connections.
4 It will sting but not for long
Rejection isn’t always about not being made a sports
2 Talk it out
Share how you feel with a friend, family member or
teacher who you know will be a good listener. Everyone
captain or a prefect, or being sidelined by a friend you
really liked. It could be that no one gets a joke you make,
you were left of the invite list for a party or you simply
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feel ignored in a chat. It’s part of life, so try not to be too from this and look for ways to turn it into a valuable new
hard on yourself. Instead, congratulate yourself for trying or learning experience? Can you develop a necessary skill
taking a risk, especially if it made you feel uncomfortable. that you might have otherwise been lacking? You can use
WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATION: KATERINA GORELIK
In need of a quick conidence boost? Think of all the rejection to improve an aspect of yourself. One opportunity
times you’ve enjoyed those giddy feelings of success in the may not have worked out, but something else will.
past. You will triumph again and you’ll probably appreciate Think positively and become a stronger person from it.
it more after overcoming obstacles to achieve it. Have belief that this is part of your unique journey in life
and better things will come for you. Yes, rejection can be
5 Be philosophical
Often, rejection isn’t a personal attack on you. The other
person – or people – rejected you and the ‘issue’ is with
a harsh reality check, but it can actually nudge you in a
better direction for the long term.
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Whose side are you on?
Being part of a group of close-knit friends is great fun… until a couple of your mates fall out
and you’re stuck in the middle of their squabbling. When two people you care about argue,
it can put you in a diicult situation and place an enormous amount of pressure on you. But
there are ways for you to deal with it to ensure you remain friends with both, avoid stressful
situations and, hopefully, help them make up and move on
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Listen without prejudice Attempt reconciliation Be patient
3 You might not agree with their 6 If you think it might work, 9 It’s hard to be patient when
opinions, but take time to listen if and it’s the right time, encourage it’s a tense situation, but accept they
they want to talk about the fall out. them to make up. Ensure you have may not make up quickly. If you
It would be easy to say you don’t a good understanding of what’s struggle with the mediation, seek
want to hear it and wish to stay out happened before getting involved. advice from other friends or speak
of the debate, but for some, talking Often problems are caused by to both parties to see what they
is their way to move forward and misunderstandings – can you point want to happen. If they’re true
release pent-up emotions. If they ask this out? Is it a petty argument that friends, they will get over any small
your opinion, don’t start being mean quickly got out of hand? Sometimes, arguments with or without your
about the other person or agree people need reminding that life is help. Friendships and friendship
with any negative comments. It’ll too short for silly arguments and it groups change many times
end badly for you when they make may make them question whether throughout life so it could be their
up. Instead, try to ind a way to help it’s worth falling out for. relationship wasn’t meant to be.
them resolve the issue, but insist you What’s most important is you
aren’t there to take sides. Be the mediator surround yourself with healthy,
7 Arrange for your friends to positive people who realise you’re
Respect their decision meet with you at a neutral place. a really good friend.
4 While it may be tempting to Acting as the mediator in the middle,
try to get them to make up straight try to make them see you’re there
away, respect that they may not be to help everyone to move forward
ready for that even though it would because you want them to be friends.
make your life easier. Avoid forcing Suggest guidelines about arguing,
them to talk to each other or having raising voices, respecting each other
to spend time together if they need and give each person time to talk. See
time and space to fully process if you can work out a way for them to
what’s happened. Sometimes they forgive, apologise and move on. If
may just need breathing room to you can’t, at least you tried.
realise their mistakes and hopefully
they’ll be able to reconcile themselves Focus on behaviour
without your input. 8 – don’t make it personal
Sometimes it may be that you
Don’t be the messenger disagree with a friend’s comments
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WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATION: ANIESZKA BANKS
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age of anxiety
Do you often feel anxious or stressed? If not,
perhaps you have a friend or relative who 1 Be kind
It’s important to stop being hard on yourself. Imagine
the advice you’d give to a friend who conided they felt the
feels this way. Social media, excessive use of way you do at the moment, and then take your own advice.
the internet, gaming, peer pressure, family If you’d suggest they speak to someone else who might be
issues and exams are some of the reasons able to help, pamper themselves, or just stop worrying so
much about what others think – do this yourself.
given for feeling under pressure, anxious or
unable to relax.
If you do ever feel anxious, you don’t have 2 Plan treats
Ensure you have nice days or evenings planned for
future days and weeks so you have events to look forward
to sufer in silence and think there’s nothing
to. It could be catching up with an old friend, heading to
that can help. Try some of these suggestions the cinema to watch an exciting release, getting a new
to help regain some inner peace and feel hairstyle or cooking something you really love. Having
ready to take on the world again… something positive in the diary will raise your spirits.
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3 Turn of your phone
For a few hours, have no access to the internet or social
media. At irst, it will feel diicult, but the more you do it,
8 Food for thought
Some foods and drinks can raise anxiety levels. If you’re
stressed, try not to have too many cafeine-packed cofees
the more you’ll realise how stressed all those constant and hot chocolates or sugar-rich sweets. Instead, opt for
refreshes and updates can make you and how much time food deemed as calming or anxiety reducing, such as
you spend looking at the screen. You’ll also realise you yoghurt, bananas and dark leafy greens.
don’t need it as much as you think. It’s also a good idea not
to have your phone near you at night as this can interrupt
your sleep. Give your brain a break and occupy it with other
things, such as reading, meditation, yoga, exercise or sleep.
9 Write it down
Make a list of the things that are stressing you at the
moment and then start to consider how you can tackle
each one in turn. Perhaps share the list with someone you
4 Get outside
It’s easy to forget how much of a lift you can get from
being outside in fresh air and nature, so try to give yourself
trust so they can help you explore what you could do.
Writing things down is also a great way to release anxiety
and give you some clarity of thought. You might want to
some time to take notice of it. Go for a walk somewhere set yourself a few minutes a day to note stressful thoughts
nice, take your dog out or go to the park and read, taking and only allow yourself to worry during this time.
in the nature and fresh air around you. Make a point of
really noticing all the things around you that you might
not always appreciate. 10 Know when to get help
If your anxiety doesn’t improve and starts afecting
your everyday life, speak to your parents, teachers or GP
5 Breathe
Focusing on your breathing will help you slow down
your mind and reduce feelings of tension and anxiety. With
who will be able to advise you where to get help. There are
many organisations out there who have experience of
helping people who get anxious and will be able to assist
the tip of your tongue resting just behind your teeth, inhale you. Remember: you aren’t alone, so never sufer in silence.
through the nose for the count of four, hold for six and
exhale slowly through the mouth. Repeating this several
times will relax you and also help your mind and body.
6 Let go of worries
Time is often wasted worrying about things you’ve said
or done. Remember, you can’t do anything about the past
apart from learn from it. That one spelling mistake in your
homework – it doesn’t matter now. Instead, consider all the
good things you’ve done. Another thing you might worry
about is what others, often people you barely know, think.
WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
7 Sleep
Ensure you get the sleep you need. Have a regular
bedtime and wake-up time and try not to look at your
phone before going to sleep. Also avoid hot showers or
baths just before sleep as you need a while to cool down
before getting your Zs. Is that phone still to hand? You
could use it to try a podcast or app that has soothing
sounds or listen to some guided help to help you relax.
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Happy trees
Looking at a tree can change the way you feel. It’s something shapes and markings. Each one’s diferent, relecting its
that many have discovered. Research by the Woodland Trust own personality. Now think about how you might connect
revealed that almost 80 per cent of people believed trees this natural link to your own life and enjoy being creative at
were essential for relaxing and making them feel happier. the same time. One way to do this is by growing your own
It could be their powerful roots that connect with the happy tree and decorating it with well-nurtured leaves
earth and keep them grounded; their strong trunks that carrying encouraging and uplifting messages.
support a web of branches; their leaves that cast wondrous Don’t worry about whether you’re ‘good at art’. The
shadows; or their buds and berries that relect the seasons. process of being creative focuses the mind, which can help
Next time you’re walking near a tree, stop for a moment you to relax. It’s also a great way to step away from any
and observe it. Look closely at its leaves – their colours, worries and cares. Here’s how to grow your happy tree…
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HOW TO MAKE A HAPPY TREE
Choose your materials Create the roots and trunk
Select your background. It might You could draw or use string to
be a purpose-made canvas, an plant some roots and then add
old cardboard box or a piece of pieces of card, paper or layer up
plain white paper. some of your happy leaves to
There are many things you can create the trunk. It’s your tree, so
use to create the roots, trunk, use your creative spark to make
branches and leaves of your tree. whatever feels good for you.
You could collect a few real leaves
that have fallen to the ground; Branch out
scrap paper left over from other Happy leaves, string, card or paper
projects; old cereal boxes; string, can be arranged, layered or cut out
or – if you’re feeling lush – perhaps so that you have as many or as few
buy some pretty coloured card branches as you would like. Then
from the local stationery shop. it’s time to place your carefully
You could also think about how nurtured happy leaves. You might
you might create your tree from choose to mix and match them;
something that might otherwise move them around; or add more
be thrown away or left unloved, until it’s the way you want. Play
which can make you feel good around with several arrangements
and is kinder to the environment. and see which one feels right for
Finally, you’ll need to get hold of you, reading the happy messages
environmentally friendly adhesive and enjoying all the textures of
(a web search for ‘green glue’ or the materials as you go.
‘eco glue’ will suggest some
options) to set your tree in place. Solo tree or a forest?
This can be a mindful solo
Create the leaves experience, or you can make it a
If you’re not using real leaves, use more sociable activity by inviting
scissors to shape some from your friends to join you in creating one
chosen materials. Be inventive big tree of happiness. If you share
with this – they don’t have to be a the experience, plan ahead and
conventional shape, size or colour. decide who’ll bring what to help
Blue stars? Why not? Let your spread the cost of any expenses.
imagination run wild and create
whatever comes to mind. Relect
You may like to pin your inished
Add your happy words tree up on your bedroom wall, or
Use pens or paints to write put it somewhere where it’s easy
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Hung up
about
phone
calls?
WhatsApp and Snapchat are great tools for
communicating with friends, but learning
how to have a conident phone conversation
is an important skill to master, too
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Why do people experience phone anxiety? HOW TO MAKE
Phone calls are no longer the everyday habit they once MORE CONFIDENT
were. The rapid development of digital technologies over PHONE CALLS
the past two decades means it’s now more common to
‘talk’ via text or instant messaging. You might not make Stand tall. Although the other person on
frequent phone calls and, as with anything, the less familiar the call can’t see you, your body language still
you are with a particular task, the more likely you are to makes a big diference to your attitude – and
lack conidence when you do have to do it. they can pick up on that. Standing up to make a
Speaking on the telephone can seem more challenging phone call might help you feel more conident.
than other forms of communication. Social media, email Distribute your weight evenly across both feet,
and texts give you time to consider what you want to say. roll your shoulders back and down and take a
There’s less pressure to respond immediately. You have few slow breaths. Smile when you’re speaking
space to think about what people might really mean and to release tension and feel more relaxed.
what your answer is going to be. On the phone, however,
even brief pauses can feel awkward and uncomfortable. Prepare. Before the call, make notes of
You might feel rushed into giving a response. any questions you want to ask so you have a
Phone calls are, of course, diferent from face-to-face reminder if your mind suddenly goes blank.
interaction. In conversation, people use lots of non-verbal Have a pen and paper to hand to jot down
clues – such as eye contact, facial expression, body important information during the call.
language, gesture and context – to help them convey
their message and understand the other person. Rehearse important conversations. If you
When speaking on the phone, these helpful signals – have an important or signiicant call to make,
that might be taken for granted when you’re chatting to such as enquiring about a part-time job, try to
someone in person – are missing, leaving those on the call practise irst with a supportive friend or family
with some guesswork to do. Researchers suggest we might member. You might feel a little silly, but role play
understand only seven per cent of a message from the helps to improve conidence and performance.
actual words heard. The remaining 93 per cent of Ask for feedback on what you did well and what
deciphering comes from how these words are conveyed you should consider doing diferently.
(eg, tone of voice) and contextual clues (eg, body language).
It’s no wonder communicating on the phone seems tricky. Remove distractions. It can be diicult to
concentrate when there’s background noise.
Why is the phone necessary? Move to a quieter place to make your call.
Although the phone might not be your preferred or most
popular choice of communication, it’s still useful to learn Don’t take it personally. It can be easy to
how to make a phone call with conidence. misinterpret other people’s intentions without
Having conversations in this way can strengthen the usual conversational clues. If you receive a
relationships. Hearing a friend’s voice can help you to feel short or less than helpful response, remember
more connected than simply seeing their words appear the other person might be tired, preoccupied
on a screen. Sometimes the phone is the quickest way to or like you, also dislike using the phone. Always
get the information you need – when you start working, it remain polite, ask for the information you need
could also be essential. As with anything, often all it takes and inish the call in a pleasant way.
WORDS: VICKY H BOURNE. PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
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Happy to
lunch
Who doesn’t love the lunchtime bell? It signals the end
of a lesson, the start of the longest break of the day and,
importantly, food. It means a chance to refuel physically
and refocus the mind for an afternoon’s swatting…
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NOW YOU KNOW WHAT MAKES UP A NUTRITIOUS LUNCH,
TRY THESE IDEAS FOR SOME INSPIRATION:
TURN THE PAGE FOR SOME DELICIOUS AND SIMPLE LUNCHTIME RECIPES
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Midday specials
Lunch doesn’t have to mean cheese, ham or hummus sarnies on a neverending loop.
Be inventive with ingredients and look at recipes to adapt. Here, we’ve chosen enticing
snacks by Jessica Oldield and turned them into tasty additions for our lunchboxes.
Simply adjust the proportions to match your other lunchtime treats
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CHEESY PESTO WHEELS
Preparation: 10 minutes + chilling: 30 minutes
Cooking: 20 minutes
Serves 8 as party snacks or 4-6 wheels would make up
a main element of lunch
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Shake up
your thinking
Have you ever heard the expression ‘to think outside the box’? This phrase
is often used when new and original solutions are required, rather than the
usual ideas that commonly spring to mind. But why do most people tend
to think in the same way, and how can you learn to think more creatively?
If you got together a group of people and asked his weak glue, he created the world’s very irst
them to solve a problem – such as, ‘How could sticky notes in 1974.
we fundraise for a local charity this year?’ – the British cyclists had never been particularly
likelihood is that most of them will give similar successful until David Brailsford was made
answers. Their thoughts will immediately turn to performance director at British Cycling in 2003.
their previous experiences and they’ll use their He looked at things diferently and realised
existing knowledge of the world. Few will come that making many tiny changes could be more
up with truly unique or innovative solutions. efective than one big change. Dave (as he
While learning from the past is often helpful, likes to be known) even investigated which
there are times when it’s useful or perhaps even mattresses would ensure the best night’s sleep
necessary to think in bold new ways – this may for riders and which hand-washing techniques
allow you to respond to changing circumstances could make them less likely to catch a cold.
or to stand out from the crowd on your terms. Britain has since become the most successful
The world’s greatest scientists, innovators, track-cycling nation in the world.
artists, writers, entrepreneurs, spiritual leaders It’s not only world-leading scientists and
and social campaigners all have one thing in creatives who can beneit from learning to think
common – the ability to think creatively. Whatever more laterally. Whether you’re working on a
their ield of expertise, successful people realise school project, planning a party or trying to
if they continue to view things from the same resolve a conlict, looking at things diferently
perspective and do things as they’ve been done can help you to ind more efective solutions.
before, they’ll continue to get the same results. Imagine you’re on the school’s eco-committee.
People who think outside the box take the For three years, assemblies, announcements and
same information as everybody else but look at various posters about reusing and recycling
it diferently. They’re open to new suggestions have failed to make any notable diference to
and leave behind previous experiences, the amount of waste left after lunch. It’s surely
attitudes and mindsets that could limit fresh time to start looking at things diferently.
ideas. They’re willing to change their mind or How about the design technology department
admit they might have been wrong in the past. gets involved and helps every student make their
Creative thinkers ask questions. For example, own reusable food wrap, or the canteen starts to
when American chemist Spencer Silver failed serve sandwiches on plates instead of in paper
to create an adhesive strong enough for use in boxes? The more diverse ideas you can generate,
aircraft, instead of discarding it, he asked: ‘Well, the more likely you are to ind the one that’ll
what could this be used for?’ And ta-dah! – with work best for your current situation.
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Learning to think outside the box helps you to solve problems, respond to changing
circumstances and cope with new challenges. Read on for suggestions about how
you, too, can train your brain to view things diferently
1. Find an object in your environment (eg, a paper clip, pebble, book, mug or glass jar).
How many diferent uses can you think of for this object?
Example: Uses for an empty jar: a drinking vessel, a vase, a tea-light holder, a time capsule, food storage,
a display ‘cabinet’ for small objects, a desk tidy, a spider catcher or a plant container.
2. Consider how you could complete a task without using one of the usual tools, ingredients or methods.
Examples: How could you paint a picture without a paintbrush? How could you wash your hair if you couldn’t lift your arms
above shoulder height? How could you put your socks on without using your hands?
3. Play a game of Taboo with friends. Players have to describe a word without using that word or ive related
words. Other team members must guess the word. In this game, your brain works extra-hard
to structure sentences in less typical ways and to think around the issue or concept.
Examples: Describe the word ‘tennis’ without saying the word ‘tennis’ or the words: court, racket, tennis ball, net and Wimbledon.
Describe the word ‘jeans’ without saying the word ‘jeans’ or the words: denim, blue, trousers, clothing and wear.
4. Choose two seemingly unrelated objects and see if you can ind a link.
Examples: Squirrel/pencil. Possible link: squirrels live in trees and pencils are made from wood.
WORDS: VICKY H BOURNE. PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
Keep on learning to improve your ability to make new links and connections. Ask as many questions as you can about
the world around you; try to visit new places; and read books or magazine and newspaper articles on a wide range of
topics. It will all help to make thinking outside the box become like second nature.
Calm the terror
Most of the time, the world – and those around you – will be safe and function in a predictable way. But there are
times where the opposite happens and it can leave you worried that you’ll be caught up in a disaster or witness a
loved one in distress. It’s important to remember that such events are rare. The way in which they’re sometimes
reported, however, can lead the brain to overestimate how often they happen. Sometimes, it also makes you
fearful that you, or a loved one, will be in the middle of a frightening incident. Here, Teen Breathe gives you a few
suggestions that could help you to cope with these concerns and to move forward if you’ve gone through an
upsetting experience. Hopefully, these suggestions will go some of the way to helping you to take a brave and
bold step out into the world, regain your conidence and keep enjoying the life you were meant to live.
Your response is unique you can – go to sleep and wake at your regular time, eat
Each person will have a diferent reaction after something at the usual hour and attend school. When it feels right,
frightening happens. It depends on age, past experiences make time to see friends and take part in things you
and temperament. Common responses can be shock, tears, normally enjoy, whether that’s going to the cinema, having
a state of fearfulness or feeling unable to switch of from a cofee-shop lunch or a Saturday shopping expedition.
what has happened. You might wish to avoid any of the If your world suddenly feels turned upside down, it will
places that remind you of the traumatic event and decline help to do things that are comfortable and familiar to you.
activities you previously enjoyed. Physical responses to
such an experience can include shaking, sweating and Talk when it helps
reliving in your head images of the event. None of these Let those around you know that you’ll open up when
things means there’s anything wrong with you. They’re you feel ready and that it’s not helpful for anyone to try
all normal responses after a frightening encounter. to force you to discuss what happened.
Look after your basic needs Be careful about what you watch on TV
The most important thing after a distressing event is to Repeatedly watching distressing or tragic events on TV can
ensure you’re in a safe environment where you can eat and be linked to poorer outcomes for wellbeing, so it might
sleep. Aim to get back into your normal routine as soon as help to limit your exposure to such broadcasts.
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Focus the mind
Trying to block out or not think about a particularly distressing
experience might seem helpful, but it’s not always the best
coping strategy. That said, you may ind there might be times
when distracting your mind is useful. This could involve
getting stuck into a sport or activity you really enjoy or, if
you’re feeling overwhelmed, counting backwards from 300.
Draw strength
It’s possible to emerge from the aftermath of a frightening or
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Look further
Compliments are great to give (and receive), but all too often they’re tied up
with what people look like. The good news is there are plenty of other, more
meaningful, ways to express what you really love about your friends
Almost everybody knows how it feels to have their looks by heart and love the freedom of expression – you don’t
judged – whether it’s by boys and girls at school, friends want to open yourself up to the possibility of any feedback
and family, strangers, social media followers, the world. about how you look. In the same way, you might ignore
The remarks might be lattering, such as a friend saying sports trials even though you’re the fastest 100m runner
you have cool dress sense or an aunty openly declaring in school. This means missed opportunities for you and
that you have beautiful eyes. Sometimes, though, the for those who’d love nothing more than to see you shine.
observations about your appearance might be unkind But there’s a way to compliment people that doesn’t
and hurtful (this can be particularly true on social media). centre on appearance. And it might just help to quieten
Either way, it can give the impression that appearance those conidence-sapping negative thoughts (yours and
is the most important thing in life. And even though this is those of friends). It involves shifting the focus away from
far from true, it’s easy to become self-conscious and allow looks and celebrating instead what makes people diferent
worries about physical appearance to hold you back. and special. Not sure what to say? Take a look at our list
You might decide to say ‘no’ instead of ‘yes’ to a drama (see right) for some ideas and then think about what makes
audition, for example, even though you know the role of the people in your life stand out from the crowd.
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17 WAYS TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS WITHOUT
MENTIONING APPEARANCE
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Canine capers
Friendly, playful, loyal, full of energy – there are many reasons why dogs are referred to as
man’s – and woman’s – best friend. We think they’re (mostly) everyone’s pal and often a
much-loved member of the family who also happens to get the most inventive name going.
In yoga, one of the most popular postures also has a canine reference. It’s called downward-
facing dog or, to give it its Sanskrit title, Adho Mukha Svanasana.
This much-practised pose lengthens and stretches the spine; releases tension in the upper
torso, legs and arms; and provides a lovely oxygen boost to the body. It also builds strength
in the arms, shoulders, wrists, abdominals and legs. Another beneit is that it increases blood low
to the brain, which stimulates the nervous system, improving memory and concentration. If this is
what dogs get up to when no one’s looking, it’s small wonder they’re always wagging their tails.
1. On a yoga mat, position yourself on all the second goes from your hips along the full
fours and keep your back straight and strong length of your legs and into the feet.
(you should resemble a table-top!). Your knees
should be positioned below your hips, with 4. Stretch into the legs, lowering the heels
your shins resting on the loor. The soles of so that the feet are lat on the loor.**
the feet face upwards. Your arms should be
in line with the shoulder socket and reach 5. Your head should hang gently between
towards the loor, with your hands resting your arms and you can view your stomach.
lat on the ground, ingers pointing forward
gently splayed. 6. Take a few deep breaths in this position,
feeling the lovely stretch in your hamstrings,
2. From this position, turn your toes under. back, spine and arms, and enjoying the release
Then, pushing downwards evenly through in the neck.
your arms and legs, raise your hips skywards.
7. When you’re ready, bend your knees
3. Your body will form a triangle shape. There towards the loor, returning to the table-top
will be two straight lines*: one lowing down position. From here, walk your hands back
from your hips along your spine through your to a seated kneeling position and roll out
arms and then into your hands on the loor; your wrists to release any tension.
As with all physical activities, please do not attempt this yoga position if you have any medical conditions that may be aggravated.
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TOP TIPS
* To maintain a straight
stretched back and spine,
you may ind it easier
to have your knees
slightly bent.
** Many yogi ind it
diicult to lower the heels
to a position where the
feet are lat on the loor.
This is absolutely normal
and okay. With regular
practice, some ind it
becomes a little easier,
but never stretch the
heel to a point that
feels uncomfortable.
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Ever since that unforgettable penalty shoot-out between
Great Britain and Holland, hockey has become one of the
most popular sports to play and watch. It even has its
own terminology – for example, a Flamingo is when a
player lifts their leg to avoid blocking a shot.
But what is it about the sport that makes so many
people love it and how can it beneit you? We spoke to
two inspiring British hockey legends to ind out – Kate
Richardson-Walsh OBE (pictured above left) is the most
capped British player of all time, leading her country to
that incredible Olympic gold medal, and her wife, Helen
Richardson-Walsh MBE (above right), is renowned as one
of the world’s best midielders after scoring one of the
dramatic penalty strokes which sealed the 2016 win.
Now, the golden pair travel the world, encouraging
people to take up hockey and sharing how the
exciting sport is great on an emotional and physical
level. Playing the game improves itness and
releases plenty of mood-enhancing endorphins
that will make you feel positive and happy.
Can you
do the
Flamingo?
The GB women’s hockey team made worldwide headlines during
an epic nail-biting battle for Olympic gold in Rio in 2016. Here’s
all you need to know about giving the great team sport a go
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Here are a few of the main
beneits to inspire you to
pick up that hockey stick
1 It boosts conidence
According to both Helen and Kate,
who’ve both played in four Olympic
Games, one of the biggest pay-ofs
of taking up hockey is how much it
can boost your conidence.
This is because you’ll ind yourself
playing the sport with a wide range
of people, learning loads of new skills
and improving your communication
skills along the way.
‘You get to meet and play with
people who you might not usually
play with during the school day –
that was my experience,’ says Kate.
‘I was really shy and I used to blush
a lot, which tended to make my ‘We had a team of 31 amazing learn the techniques to get you
shyness worse. Hockey helped me young women, but we were all through those bad times.’
grow in conidence and helped diferent and had diferent strengths
overcome that bashfulness.’ to bring to that team. It was only
when we used those collective 5 Inner strength will be yours
Too often, girls stop playing sport
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a light touch
Caring for loved ones is admirable and part and parcel of life, but
sometimes it’s possible to stray into overprotective territory
Imagine you welcome a young puppy into your home. self-conidence. Never experiencing disappointment,
You’ll want to care for your precious pet the best you can. diiculty or rejection means fewer chances to develop the
You’ll look after her by making sure she has enough food resilience needed to cope with life’s many ups and downs.
and water, play with her, stroke her and take her for walks, If somebody around you feels you’re being overprotective
plus house-train your pup and remove any potential or stopping them from living their life, they might start to
dangers from your home and garden. Feeling so safe and resent this. In their eyes, it might look like you’re trying to
supported in this caring environment, a puppy will thrive. control or dominate them.
But what happens if you take this caring a little too far? It can also afect the overprotector, making them anxious
Perhaps you’re so worried the puppy will run away, you and fretful. If this sounds like you, try to identify where your
never let her of-lead. So, she never learns good recall or feelings come from. For example, are you afraid you’ll lose
how to play with other dogs safely. You might never let a close friend to a new hobby or diferent friendship group?
her near water as you’re so anxious she’ll have an accident. It takes self-awareness to recognise the root cause, but it
So, if she does ever fall into a pond she won’t be able to can lead to more positive solutions for everybody.
cope as she’s never had the chance to feel comfortable in Of course, there are times when you genuinely might
water. By protecting your puppy too much, she won’t be feel somebody you care about is putting themselves at
able to develop necessary life skills. risk. You wouldn’t, for example, let your new puppy loose
People can behave in similar ways towards their close near a fast-lowing river just to give her a new experience.
friends, siblings or other family members. Caring for others If you think a friend is going to do something that has the
usually comes from a good place – you want to shield your potential to harm themself or others, it’s important to seek WORDS: VICKY H BOURNE. ILLUSTRATIONS: SAMANTHA NICKERSON
loved ones from negative experiences and emotions such guidance from a trusted source.
as hurt, embarrassment or unhappiness. However, if caring How do you ofer supportive, rather than overprotective,
ends up tipping over into overprotectiveness, it no longer care? If your puppy ran back to you after being bitten by a
beneits you or the person you so dearly care about. larger dog in the local park, you wouldn’t say: ‘I told you so’,
Say a friend excitedly announces she’s going to audition would you? You’d whisk her to the vet for medical help and
for a drama production. You’re concerned she’ll totally then concentrate on building up her conidence when
embarrass herself and won’t cope if she’s rejected, so you around other dogs in the future.
talk her out of her plans. Or imagine your brother wants People need similar support. If an experience proves
to try out abseiling. You’re worried he’ll seriously injure particularly challenging, be there to support your friend.
himself, so you convince him not to go. Help them to make sense of what happened, identify the
In reality, people need to make mistakes and learn from positives in the situation and gain the conidence to try
their experiences, whether positive or negative. Avoiding again. Friends who care, support and encourage others
anything challenging limits opportunities to grow in to follow their own path are valuable indeed.
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CARING MIGHT BE WHAT TO DO IF…
OVERPROTECTIVENESS
…you feel you’re becoming …you feel a friend or sibling is
IF YOU: overprotective: overprotective towards you:
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Follow the leader…
Don’t be daunted if you’re put in charge Find your conidence
– embrace the opportunity and shine 1 To have been chosen as a leader or captain is
a huge honour – and you wouldn’t have been
selected if people didn’t think you were up to it. Yes, it may
Are you the kind of person who thrives on stepping be nerve-racking, but remember everyone feels like that at
up and leading groups and teams? Or, instead, are you irst. Embrace those nerves and take on the challenge.
the type who prefers to remain in the background as Be careful not to let that conidence slip into arrogance,
much as possible, following someone else? however, otherwise the people you lead won’t respect
Some people are born leaders and have no worries you for long. Instead, be calm, respectful and proud of
about being at the head of a team or group, whether the position you’ve been given and give it your best shot.
as a sports captain or a head girl or boy. For others,
just the thought of being in charge and having that Look to your role models for inspiration
extra responsibility can trigger anxious feelings. 2 Consider leaders you know of and keep them in
mind as role models. What do you respect about
What skills do you need to be a leader and can everybody them? Is it because they’re caring, fair and supportive? Are
develop them? Here are some tips about taking charge, they good at public speaking or motivating others? Model
gaining the (hugely important) trust of your team and yourself on their behaviours, but make the role your own
being the best leader you can be… using your skills. Be the best version of you, not anyone else.
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All ired up about taking the lead?
Put in the efort Write or illustrate here the qualities you will
3 The most important role as a captain or leader
is to lead by example. Your teammates or group
personally bring to your new opportunity…
Communicate clearly
5 Part of being a good leader is knowing how
to motivate people, especially when the going
gets tough and they really need it. For example, if a team
member has made a mistake, you need to be able to let
them know they can improve and encourage them to
look forward rather than get hung up on it.
‘HOW I DO IT!’
If your team’s losing, you’ll have to be the one to inspire Hattie Nixon, 15, is a young leader in the
them to remain hungry for the win, determined and Girl Guides and a deputy head girl at a
resilient. Consider some inspirational words and positive secondary school. Here are her top ive tips
phrases that you think will work for your group. for bossing the role of leader:
speak to them and be sure to refer to the questionable be interested in what others have to say.
behaviour rather than criticise the person. Always listen and accept points. When you’re
in a group, it’s important not to dominate.
Accept criticism Let others lead as well.
7 Your team may not like everything you do or
every single decision you make, but be conident,
Understand and respect others’ opinions.
People are diferent and that’s OK. Try to see
positive and believe in yourself. If you can, others will too, things from their perspective.
whether they agree with your approach or not. Be enthusiastic and interesting when talking
Nobody is perfect and any role takes time and practice to groups. Try to consider who you’re
– try not to let setbacks prevent you from being the great speaking to and how you can engage them,
leader you were destined to be. It’s a fantastic opportunity even during the boring bits.
and will help boost your conidence for whatever you
choose to do after school or college.
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Experience is everything
Before launching yourself at the world of work, you could gain skills and a valuable insight into
a particular sector by securing work experience. Teen Breathe talks you through the process…
Gaining work experience allows you to explore the many which ones to choose, pop online and check if any are
exciting career options out there and helps to develop within a manageable travel distance from home.
your personal skills. It also gives you a chance to add Increase your chances of getting an interview by marking
eye-catching information to your curriculum vitae (CV). the letters for the attention of particular employees – ideally
In fact, short-term experience of employment can even the relevant team leader (you can sometimes ind their
result in fresh interests, glowing future references if you information online on the company website or Facebook
wow your temporary new bosses or colleagues, and a real page – if not, a quick call to the irm might help). To cover
understanding of the industry the work falls within. all avenues, feel free to add ‘and the rest of the [insert
To take over the working world step-by-step, start by name] team’ within the letters themselves.
considering your passions and which companies might best
suit them. Do you like to surround yourself with animals or Be creative and take time when writing your
perhaps you feel drawn to music? How do you feel about letter. Focus on truly demonstrating your
volunteering, work shadowing or a Saturday job? interest and enthusiasm, then let your
Once you’ve considered your options, prepare a letter writing low naturally and you could soon
for the company you favour most. If you’re a little unsure of be saying ‘hello’ to the world of work…
Address of sender
LETTER LOGIC
Address of recipient
Master the lost art of letter writing – and Date
send out some work experience enquiries
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Make your introduction count Answer the big question: why?
Ofer the company a good sense of who you Tell the team why you like their work. Try to be
are and what you do. You could mention a few genuine and speciic here, and avoid being too
of your favourite things such as hobbies and gushy or including anything negative. Mention
school subjects, along with some compelling your relevant skills and positive qualities as well
reasons for the company to invite you for a work as those you feel could be gained or improved
placement. You should reference any of your upon through the work experience. You could
key achievements or awards you’ve received. thank them in advance for their consideration.
Use this space to note down interesting things about you Use this space to answer ‘why them?’ and ‘why you?’
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Creature
comforts
Everybody knows that winter can be a testing time
for wildlife, but taking a moment to perform just a
few thoughtful actions can make a big diference
to some small animals this season
Prickly pals
Sadly, half of all hedgehogs fail to make it through their irst
winter and, during a mild spell, many can be fooled into
coming out of hibernation too early. Help to ill them up
with minced meat, meat-based pet food or scrambled eggs.
If you spot an injured or underweight hedgehog after dark,
or if you see any hedgehog out during the day, you should
call your local vet or wildlife centre for guidance. These
WORDS: VICTORIA PICKETT. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
If ofering food, only leave out Keep an eye out for evidence. If you would like to ind out more
enough to be an extra treat. Providing Droppings, footprints and, of course, about ways to help wildlife in your
too much could encourage wild actual sightings, can all help you to region, there are lots of organisations
animals to become dependent, and provide the right kind of assistance able to ofer expert advice, including
could also attract opportunistic vermin. for the creatures that cross your patch. the RSPB (rspb.org.uk), The Wildlife
Trusts (wildlifetrusts.org) and
Tiggywinkles (sttiggywinkles.org.uk).
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And the
And the oscar
Oscar
goes to…
Making your own movie is an exciting prospect, but is it possible to make it happen when
your hard-earned cash will barely cover a trip to the cinema, let alone fund your ilm-making
aspirations? The answer is yes, providing you apply imagination, energy and resourcefulness,
you can use even the most basic smartphone or camera video to make an engaging and
atmospheric movie debut. Move over Soia Coppola and Steven Spielberg…
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Shooting your movie Post-production
Going into production and actually shooting your short Once you’ve captured all the ilm footage you need, it’s
ilm is perhaps the most exciting part of making a movie time to edit your movie and make it ready to be revealed to
because it’s where you start bringing your vision to life. the world. You can use a free movie-editing app on your
Filming can be quite demanding. In the movie industry, phone or even a basic movie-making program for your
production days are often long and it can take hours to computer. It won’t give you big-budget special efects but
create a scene that might only equate to a few seconds in it will help you to edit the footage and add sound, music
the inished ilm (if it makes the cut at all). The success of (use permissions-granted royalty-free music), visual efects,
your shoot will depend upon how well you planned titles and end credits so that it looks professional. Take
everything in the pre-production stage. your time, experiment and stay true to your vision.
There are, however, certain things that will be out of
your control. What if the weather suddenly changes when Your ilm premiere
ilming outdoors? What if an actor doesn’t show up for a Once you’re happy with what you’ve created, save it on
key scene? What if a key prop doesn’t work as expected? your computer and make a DVD copy. If you hope to work
You may have to be creative in overcoming problems. in the ilm industry, why not enter a short-ilm festival?
Allow for spontaneity by drawing on what’s already Your own movie will act as a showreel for what you
around you. Use natural light and sound efects. As you can do and is a good way of demonstrating your creative
shoot, remember to capture diferent camera angles and and technical talent. Alternatively, you can share it with the
make sure you’re happy with the footage before moving world by uploading (with your parents’ permission) your
on. Remember to enjoy yourself, go with it and provide inished ilm to YouTube or Vimeo. Why not hold a little ilm
an experience that everyone involved enjoys, too. premiere for family and friends? Don’t forget the popcorn.
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MOVIE MAGIC
MOVIE
Use the pages here to pull together a shot list and sketch your storyboard. Don’t overanalyse
it, just let the creativity low… it could be the initial step towards your irst blockbuster
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TITLE
Scene: Scene:
Scene: Scene:
Film-making support: Young Film Academy (YFA) is open to young people aged between six and 19 and ofers ilm-
making courses, schools and community ilm-making projects, ilm-making outreach events and ilm parties. It helps more
than 7,500 young people each year complete their irst ilms across the UK. Visit: youngilmacademy.co.uk. BFI Future Film
Festival is the UK’s most important ilm industry festival for young, emerging ilm-makers. Visit: whatson.bi.org.uk
Scene: Scene:
Scene: Scene:
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Time to grow up (or
The next chapter of your life is waiting to be written. There are exciting
is it?)
times ahead, but it takes courage to step out of your comfort zone
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WAYS TO EMBRACE
It’s your time to shine. As you grow up you can start exploring THE CHANGES
your own identity, learn to discover the world by yourself
and take your own decisions. But while you may be in a hurry You’re not alone
to be independent, a part of you may be worried about the 1 We all have to grow up, but
changes, confusing feelings and diicult situations that you don’t have to do it on your own.
could lie ahead. What do you see? A promising world full Ask for guidance. Guardians, older
of opportunities or a daunting life full of challenges? siblings and friends will be happy,
even honoured, to help you in such
Exciting and scary road a personal matter. Make the most
As you grow up you slowly step out of the comfort zone of childhood of the support you can get.
and gradually take control of your life. Not only is this process normal,
it’s necessary for you to eventually ly with your own wings. Make decisions carefully
Can you feel the desire to be free and diferent (and, at the same 2 Try not to throw yourself
time, to belong and it in)? It’s an exciting – and scary – sensation. into dangerous situations, blindly
It takes courage to move on from your ‘old’ life and step into the follow others or ignore the
unknown. There is much to learn and there will be expectations on consequences of your actions.
you – from society, parents, teachers and very often from yourself. Approach each situation carefully to
But remember it can also be fun if you allow yourself to enjoy the make decisions you’re comfortable
journey. You’ll discover many new experiences, new feelings, new with and take time to appreciate
friends and a whole new world of possibilities. what’s happening in your life.
If you don’t feel ready, don’t pressure yourself. You don’t have
to change overnight. Instead, you can slowly let go a little at a time No need to rush
while iguring out who you really are and what you want in life. 3 If you feel that things are
not happening fast enough, stay
Starting point patient. Things may not be as you
If you feel confused and maybe anxious about what the future holds, expected right now, but give it time
you’re not alone. Most people feel that same way. Even adults don’t and don’t be afraid to try again or
have answers to all the questions, but what’s important is to try to do things diferently. You have the
use the knowledge and wisdom you gain over time. power to make changes, and it’s
It’s experience, not time, that helps you better understand the world never too late to do so.
around you – and yourself. Experiences, whether they are good or bad,
are precious and help you to gain emotional maturity and wisdom. Take a step back
But what if you’re worried about taking on the responsibilities that 4 Sometimes life can be
come with growing up? What if you want to stay young and carefree confusing and you might feel lost.
forever? It sounds appealing, but it might also be good to know about Try not to get too emotional. Take a
the person you can be and what you could achieve in life. break and make a list of the diferent
challenges you have to deal with.
Fresh experiences Address them one at a time, and
Consider growing up as a great adventure brimming with enriching cross them of as you move through,
experiences. There’ll be crucial milestones that will give you conidence so you can appreciate your progress.
WORDS: ANNE GUILLOT. ILLUSTRATION: JAMIE EDLER
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Are you seeking revenge…
or justice?
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If someone hurts, annoys or embarrasses you, the immediate reaction is often to want to
‘get even’. Usually, that desire to take revenge fades. But what if it doesn’t? What if, in your
eyes, you’ve been wronged so badly you feel you won’t rest until you get your own back?
Or, when you really consider it, do you feel you want justice instead?
issues. A cruel, mocking or embarrassing but you’ll destroy yourself incident? It can be helpful not
comment on a classmate’s selie on at the same time. to dwell on situations. Speak
Instagram, for example, can quickly spiral to a friend, relative or teacher
into a lood of vicious online messages Take time to think. You if you’re unsure if it’s best not
that result in bullying or physical threats may feel you’ll only get to take any action. Try not to
in the playground. satisfaction when you’ve got let your mind be consumed
There are ways to get justice instead of revenge – but it will most by a desire to hurt another
taking revenge: the police can deal with likely be a temporary relief. person. If justice is possible,
crimes; teachers can deal with school You may even be more angry get it. If not, try to let it go, so
bullies; and your guardians can sort out afterwards, especially if you can get on with your life.
sibling disputes when tussles over who’s
irst into the bathroom get out of hand.
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Facebook farewells
You’ve been patient for weeks and weeks, trying as much easy to fall out with someone and remove them in
as possible not to get drawn into their Facebook rants. But a moment of anger, but you’ll look silly when you decide
you just can’t take them any more. It’s time to delete that to send a friend request again after you’ve made up.
annoying online friend. But how do you unfriend someone? If you’re unsure whether to remove them, write down
And how do you do it without causing an argument? the reasons why you’re considering it. For example, ‘We’re
You see, while it’s easy to notch up hundreds of friends not friends any more,’ or ‘I want to remove people I’ve
online, it could be that when you scan your buddy list, not spoken to for over a year,’ or ‘I’m inding their posts
you realise you don’t know some of your connections inappropriate’. So that you’re 100 per cent sure, take a day
at all or simply no longer want to have their images and or two considering your decision before inally clicking
statements popping up on your feed. Alternatively, you the ‘Unfriend’ button.
might want to restrict your Facebook crew to only your
closest friends and family members, or remove someone Remember that most people won’t notice or even care
with whom you’ve recently fallen out. You may not want to unfriend someone because you’re
worried about how you’ll look or how the other person will
Whatever the reason, if you’re thinking of removing a friend react when they realise they’ve been removed. The truth
or family member, there are some things to bear in mind to is that most of the time, they won’t even notice.
make it as stress-free as possible. It’s easy to think people register what you do online, but
more often than not they’re too concerned with their own
Be clear about your reasons lives to see what others are doing. You might be aware of
Make sure you know why you want to remove them and their posts, but they might have hundreds of friends who
that you’re not going to change your mind soon after. It’s post so much that they barely notice most of them.
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Ready? Deleting someone on Facebook is simple: It’s OK to look after yourself
Go to the person’s timeline or proile It’s natural to feel guilty if you’re unfriending someone but
Click the ‘Friends’ button remember why you’ve decided to remove them. Instead,
Click ‘Unfriend’ in the menu focus on friendships you want to nurture and go back to
Click the ‘Remove from Friends’ button Facebook being a positive experience for you, sharing it
Take a deep breath. That wasn’t so hard, was it? with people you know and like. Consider how easily you
used to add people as friends and how you might be more
To unfriend or unfollow? careful in future. It’s good to value your privacy and to
If you don’t want to fully remove a friend or are feeling know the people on your Facebook list.
anxious about the whole thing, you can choose to unfollow
that person instead. This means you’ll technically still be How to cope if you’ve been removed
friends and able to visit each other’s proiles, but their posts If someone you liked deletes you from their friends list, it
won’t automatically appear in your feed. will hurt. Firstly, consider if they’re a close friend you see
To do this, head to their proile, and untick the ‘Following’ often or just an online friend.
box under their proile picture. Alternatively, when they If it’s a ‘real-life’ friend and someone you thought you
post, click the three dots to the right of their message and a were close to, you might want to ask them why they’ve hit
menu will come up allowing you to then unfollow them. the Unfriend button and see whether you can repair the
If you don’t want them seeing any of your posts, go to relationship (if that’s what you want).
your privacy settings and click on ‘Who can see your future If it’s an online-only friend, consider the kinds of posts
posts?’. Here you add people from your friend list and you’ve been making and whether you think your online
prevent them seeing your updates. behaviour could have prompted their decision. If you’re
sure your posts have been A-OK, accept they might simply
Be brave be decluttering their friends list based on what they want
Decluttering Facebook friends can be beneicial for at the moment and that it’s not personal.
mental wellbeing. If those you deleted live far away, you It does sting, but you have other friends who are
probably won’t have to deal with them again. It may be more deserving of your attention. Try to focus on them.
best to prepare for people who do notice to ask why you Remember, it’s better to have a small group of close friends
WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATION: FERN CHOONET
removed them. You’ll have to decide whether to tell them than hundreds of people you don’t really know.
the truth or brush it of as a spot of decluttering to leave
only people you see regularly. It may be awkward, but
you made the decision to remove them and probably
rarely see them, so stick with your decision. It may feel
uncomfortable, but they – and you – will survive.
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You may come from a family where your grandparents
buddies
so far away that they can only visit infrequently.
As with most things in life, it’s the quality, not the
quantity that’s important. Having a close relationship
with grandparents when you do see them is what
really matters – and some research suggests this
bond can positively inluence how you feel overall.
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How can these particular relationships have
a positive inluence on your wellbeing?
Relationships with grandparents are often very diferent to
the ones you have with your parents. You might feel more
able to open up to them about some of the things that are
bothering you and they might have more time to be able to
listen to you and give you attention when you need it most.
When things aren’t going so well at home, grandparents
can also act as a bufer against the circumstances, helping
you to catch your breath for a moment and cope. Close
relationships between younger and older generations
can also help both groups to better understand the issues
and challenges that each is facing. It’s mutually beneicial.
You can learn a lot about navigating the ups and downs
of life from people who have already been there and done
it. They can share with you how they got through it all.
Being connected to older generations within your family
can also give you a greater understanding of what makes strengthen your relationship with them. This is when
you the way you are (did you get your nose or wicked building bonds with people from an older generation –
sense of humour from Nana or Grandad?) and a broader even when there are no family ties – can bring beneits
picture of your family background. For example, you may of their own.
ind out more about what your parents were like growing Care homes for older people often ofer volunteering
up, the trials and tribulations they went through, helping opportunities. These are not only great experiences to
you to appreciate them better during trickier times. pop on your CV (see page 44), but you’ll feel good, knowing
that you are contributing positively to someone else’s day.
What’s in it for older people? Older neighbours are another area for ofering potential
Life for some people, especially those who are older, can be support and developing friendships and those with little
lonely. If they have few social interactions it can afect their or no local family may appreciate and beneit from help
wellbeing. Many take pride and joy in spending time with with shopping or assistance in caring for their pets.
their grandchildren, and often love hearing about what
they’ve been up to recently. Research suggests that Emotional takeaway
intergenerational contact and shared activities boosts Taking time out of your day to spend with older relatives
the emotional and mental wellbeing of older people. or members of your community is a win-win situation. The
beneits both for their wellbeing and yours are clear.
What if your grandparents are no longer around or The long-lasting sense of pride and satisfaction from giving
contact with them isn’t possible? time to someone else can also help build your own sense
Perhaps your grandparents aren’t alive any more, or there of self-esteem and give you an important insight that you
are historical family reasons why you might not be able to can then carry with you into your own older years.
WORDS: DR SARAH MAYNARD. ILLUSTRATIONS: STEPHANIE HOFMANN
You could ask your grandparents Being interested in the lives they traditional letter writing. It’s a tried and
over for lunch (if it’s not too far or lived when they were your age is also a tested way to brighten up anybody’s
inconvenient for them to travel to good way to get to know them better. day and show you care.
you) or arrange a date to visit them You may even be able to arrange a
and spend some uninterrupted time nostalgic trip out with them. If your Don’t forget that your parents can
chatting. If you have a shared interest, grandparent is technologically savvy, often be the ‘gatekeepers’ to your
such as supporting the same football regular texts, emails or social media contact with your grandparents, so it
team or having a mutual TV show you contact can let them know that you’re may be a good idea to let them know
love to watch, this is a great starting thinking about them (and, of course, irst that you would like to see your
point and a natural springboard to you can share your technological grandparents more. It could be a way
enjoying your time together. skills with them too). Otherwise, try to bring the whole family together.
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Novel pastime
Step into new worlds, see a diferent point of view, travel on adventures, spend time with
beloved characters. How? Bookworms with teetering TBR (To Be Read) piles already know
that by opening a novel you can allow yourself to laugh, cry, be distracted from problems
and take time to be still. Read on to ind out how it could become your life-long passion…
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FANCY A READING CHALLENGE?
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut reading the same author or type of book.
If you’d like to try some new authors, experiment with diferent types
of writing or if you’re just the kind of person who likes to have a target
and a tick-list, you could try one of these reading challenges:
are a few general questions to get you started: a book based on a myth or folk tale
a book set in a school or college
Did you enjoy this book? Why? Why not? a sci-i fantasy
Did you get hooked into the story immediately? your parents’ favourite books when they were your age
What do you think were the main themes?
What did you want to happen to the central Challenge Five Read a book with a…
characters after the end of the book? number in the title
Who would you pick to play the characters yellow cover
in a movie adaptation? one-word title
colour in the title
and a book written by an author with the same irst name
Is it OK to give up on a book? or surname as you
Yes. You don’t expect to like everyone you meet
in real life or love every TV programme or ilm Challenge Six Over to you. Write your own reading challenge list
you see – it’s the same with books. Some will for you and your friends or family using new ideas or picking your
thrill you, while others will leave you cold. If you favourite suggestions from the ive challenges:
give a book a go but can’t get on with it, pick
another one. One day you might return to a Read:
1.
book that didn’t grab you and ind that you love
it – but there’s no need to fret about it now. 2.
3.
4.
5.
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take a moment
If you ind yourself feeling frazzled after a maths text, anxious after a squabble with a sibling
or confused because a friend’s blanked you, take a pause, breathe slowly and try this exercise
– if you can ind a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed it’ll be even better
1 Place one hand lat in front of you. This could be 6 Again, pause and breathe, before slowly tracing
on your desk, the kitchen table, the bed, the top along the facing line of the foreinger to the tip.
of your tablet, or even your lap. Pause and breathe once more before continuing to
trace the line down the opposite side of the inger.
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WHAT DOES HAPPINESS LOOK LIKE?
Is it watching your dad baking bread, a friend dancing to a
favourite song or your dog retrieving a stick (for the 10th time)?
Write or draw here scenes that always deliver a happy hit
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