conditioning in our brains that makes us

mistrustful and skeptical of just giving

ourselves a break. Unfounded stories
about how we’ll be apathetic,
unmotivated, and otherwise ineffective
unless we hate the shit out of ourselves
for being scared or having some other
“unacceptable” emotion.
How has that been working so far as
a strategy? What kind of results does it
produce? Usually mediocre at best, with
lots of unwanted side effects. Want to
know a much better, faster, cleaner, and
more effective way to move from fear to
a life of extraordinary confidence and
success? Love the fear.
Fear comes from pain. Pain about
feeling pain. Or pain about the idea that
in the future we will experience more
pain. The fear is like a wound, and your
attention and love is like the healing
salve that will bring you back to health.
So as you pay attention to the fear
and stop resisting it, go one step further
and send it love. If your mind says
“how?” that’s it just throwing up another
roadblock to self-love. It’s still a little
freaked out about the whole idea (if I
don’t hate and bully myself, then how
am I going to win at life?). That’s fine,
you can just send love to that part of the