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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for
His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and
whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we
bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal
of His Messengers.
Anger Management
(by Ibrahim B. Syed, Ph. D.)
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Everyday everyone experiences problems that can either strengthen or
weaken us. Many things cause one to become angry. It is our responsibility
to recognize and properly use anger in positive ways to benefit us.
For their current state of mind and conditions, people look for scapegoats
and blame their parents, teachers, counselors, associates or friends, former
sexual partners or spouse(s), etc. Various forms of exploitations,
discriminations, injustices and abuses may have victimized them. These
negative experiences result in people acquiring quick tempers and will lash
out at anyone in their immediate environment. Many times innocent
children, teens and adults are harmed in the process. Regrettably, these
unresolved conflicts could lead to emotional and mental damage, physical
injuries and homicides. Now and then these terrible consequences continue
via resentment, revenge and retaliation, a vicious cycle of human misery,
suffering and self-destruction.
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"If a suggestion from Satan assails thy (mind) seek refuge with the
Creator, for He heareth and knoweth (all things)."
(Al – Quran)
" Those who have regard for the Creator, when a thought of evil
from Satan assaults them, bring The Creator to remembrance, when
lo! They see (aright)!" ……
(Al – Quran)
All sorts of thoughts or suggestions enter the human mind all the time.
Therefore one should shield one's souls with prayer, gratitude and good
deeds to the best of one's ability. These are the fundamentals to receiving
The Creator's Grace and Mercy. If one is not conscious of one's negative
influences that cause transgression into outburst of rage, one would be
surprised and disappointed and regretful of such disrespectful behavior.
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Anger Management According to Qur'an and Sunnah
“…those who control their anger and are forgiving toward mankind;
Allah loves those who do good.”
“Don’t be angry.”
Abu Dawud in his Sunan noted that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam) stated,
“Anger comes from the Shaitan. The Shaitan was created from fire
and fire is extinguished only with water. So when one of you
becomes angry, he should perform wudu.”
We should think first, and not lose control. It is very easy for us to let go of
our tempers and blow into a rage. However, we should try to remain as calm
as possible.
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“When one of you is angry while standing, let him sit down and if
his anger goes away that is good; otherwise let him lie down.”
(Abu Dawud)
(Muslim)
“Some are swift to anger and swift to cool down, the one
characteristic making up for the other; some are slow to anger and
slow to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other;
the best of you are those that are slow to anger and swift to cool
down and the worst of you are those who are swift to anger and
slow to cool down.” He continued, “Beware of anger, for it is a live
coal on the heart of the descendant of Adam. Do you not notice the
swelling of the veins of his neck and the redness of his eyes? So
anyone who experiences anything of that nature, he should lie down
and cleave to the earth.”
(Al-Tirmidhi)
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“No one has swallowed back anything more excellent in the sight of
Allah, Who is Great and Glorious, than anger he restrains, seeking to
please Allah Most High.”
(Al-Tirmidhi)
Abdullah Ibn Umar said that he asked the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam): What protects me from the anger of Allah? The Prophet (sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam) replied: don’t get angry.
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1.His anger was never to defend himself but to ensure the dominance of
Allah’s Word: Protection of boundaries.
3.He did not confront people with what he dislikes, but the anger shows
on his face.
4.A man told the prophet: his judgment was not made for the sake of
Allah (SWT). The Prophet became angry as shown by the changes on
his face. Then the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “ Prophet
Moses was hurt by his people to a larger degree and he was patient.”
2. If angry do jihad to control your self by not hurting others until the force
of anger declines. An example was given by Prophet Moses who
restrained anger until anger left him quickly as if nothing happened
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Degrees of Anger
2.Too weak : persons who never get angry cannot fix their own
weaknesses. They cannot improve because they don’t have enough
anger that makes them counter oppose the force of their desires.
(Undesirable)
3.Moderate : The best position is the moderate position between the two
extremes. (Desirable)
Prevention
1. Ibn Abbas narrates: Oh son of Khattab I swear by Allah that you don’t
give us enough and you don’t judge among us justly. Omar(r.a)
became angry to the degree of thinking to hurt him. One of the
Sahabah (Al Hur bin Kays) reminded Omar(r.a) with Quran 7:199.
“ Take what is given freely (be easy in dealing with them and
avoid causing them difficulty) enjoin what is good, and turn
away from the ignorant”
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2. “ And those who avoid the major sins and immoralities and
when they are angry they forgive
(Quran 42:47)
3. Wing lowering
(Quran 5:54)
“ Strong is not the one who wrestles others to the ground, but
strong is the one who controls himself when angry”
(Quran 3:133)
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“ Who spend (in the cause of Allah) during ease and hardship
and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah
loves the doers of good”
(Quran 3:134)
(Quran 5:13)
Hadith
“ The believer who mixes with people and tolerate their hurts
is better than the believer who doesn’t mix and does not
tolerate”
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9. Al Hassan said, “ If a person is able to control himself against the
following four forces, Allah (SWT) will protect him from Shaytan,
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(Quran 7: 200)
2.Do wudu (washing specific parts of your body with water) according to the
tradition of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
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3.Change body positions
5.Psycho-physical approach
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) used this approach to manage the
tension of the Sahabah on their way back from the battle of Bani Al Mustalq.
Abdullah bin Obay – the head of the hypocrites said, “ If we return to Al
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Madinah, the more honored (for power) will surely expel there from the
more humble” (Quran 63:8)
The Sahabah became angry and the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)
ordered them to continue marching for two days. When the Sahabah took
rest, they slept and forgot the anger.
In the story of a tribe called “ Nose of the She – Camel” Hadrat Omar (RA)
changed events by reinterpreting the story from negative to positive.
MAY ALL MIGHTY ALLAH FORGIVE ALL OUR SINS AND ALLOW US TO ENTER THE
PARADISE.INSHA ALLAH.
“Ramadan Kareem”
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