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conversant in thee language of social mediam rarelyy consumes our lives, it can be addictive and co on-
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(since they are liimited to 140 characteers). All thee pitfaalls and teemptations. For thosee who follo ow
while, words like l “screeenager,” “vvlog,” and d Chririst, we are called to ssubmit everry area of our o
“cyberrslacking,” are findiing their way into o livess to His lorrdship—inclluding how we use soccial
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using social mediaa.1 Twitterr has over 100
1 million ones. Instead of enhancing deep ffriendships, it
tends to flatten out and impersonalize the dynamics unidirectional, made up of sound bites instead of
of human interaction—creating what Umair Haque deep interaction.
calls “thin relationships.” Writing for the Harvard
Business Review, Haque notes, “Despite all the Moreover, it often distracts people from existing
excitement surrounding social media, the Internet relationships. Instead of pouring themselves into
isn’t connecting us as much as we think it is. It’s the real-life friendships they currently have, people
largely home to weak, artificial connections, what I now spend hours with pseudo-friends online. This
call thin relationships. . . . Thin relationships are is especially seen within the family, where social
the illusion of real relationships.” He goes on to networking constantly threatens to invade, bringing
explain that, thanks to the explosion of so-called a barrage of cultural influence into the private
friendships in the world of social networking, the world of family life. In the home, focused training
very word “relationship” has lost its value. “It used in godliness is essential for the development of
to mean someone you could count on. Today, it spiritually-healthy relationships and biblical
means someone you can swap bits with.”4 worldviews. But instant distraction is only a text-
message away.
Haque is not alone 39% of American adults
in his observations. As believers, we are called to
Gervase Markham, a are ‘Facebook addicts.’ love, encourage, instruct,
Mozilla Foundation admonish, and serve one
programmer quoted another. That requires far
57% of women ages 18 to more than social media can
in The Sydney Morning
Herald, echoes that 34 talk to people online provide. The life-on-life dis-
same concern: “So- cipleship that characterizes
cial networking en-
more often than they Christian friendship goes
courages people to do face-to-face. much deeper than any
have a greater Facebook update or Twitter
number of much post. Insofar as our fellow-
shallower friendships. I know what 15 of my ship is limited to 140 char-
friends had for breakfast, but I don’t know whether acters of text, it is not true fellowship at all.
any of them is struggling with major life issues. If
this trend continues, people in 2020 will have
hundreds of acquaintances, but very few friends.”5 Every Careless Word
Researcher Mark Vernon, writing in USA Today, he book of Proverbs tells us that, “He who
agrees: “While social networking sites and the like spreads slander is a fool. When there are many
have grown exponentially, the element that is words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who
crucial, and harder to investigate, is the quality of restrains his lips is wise” (10:18b-19). A maxim for
the connections they nurture. . . . A connection all of life, that statement certainly applies to social
may only be a click away, but cultivating a good media.
friendship takes more. It seems common sense to
conclude that ‘friending’ online nurtures shallow Those who spread slander and gossip online can
relationships.”6 His advice for maintaining real now find themselves in court.8 Some might be
friendships is simple: “Put down the device; engage sued.9 Others simply fired from their jobs.10
the person.”7
But even if such potential consequences did not
Social networking gives the illusion of knowing exist, Christians answer to a higher court. And God
everyone, and yet the reality is that oftentimes no has made it clear what He thinks about gossip: “He
one is truly known. It creates an environment who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets,
where selfish, one-sided relationships seem to therefore do no associate with a gossip” (Prov.
flourish, and where communication is largely 20:19).
A study in the New York Daily News found that 80% But this is not just about wasting time at work. It’s
of normal conversations consist of gossip.11 Those about wasting time, period. By its very nature,
numbers seem to be consistent with online social networking is a massive distraction. It
interactions, where talking about other people is detracts from disciplined study, thoughtful
almost as popular as talking about oneself. In a meditation, and concerted prayer.
helpful article entitled “Solomon on Social Media,”
Tim Challies gives this timely warning: “There are In a Time Magazine article entitled “It’s Time to
many web sites, blogs and Twitter accounts Confront Your Facebook Addiction,” Kayla
dedicated almost entirely to gossip, to sharing what Webley shares some startling statistics. “One-third
is dishonorable rather than what is noble. Avoid of women ages 18 to 34 check Facebook first thing
these people and their gossip!”12 in the morning. . . . Of the 1,605 adults surveyed
on their social media habits, 39% are self-described
But even beyond the world of slander, one has to ‘Facebook addicts.’ It gets worse. Fifty-seven
wonder how many careless words are posted, percent of women in the 18 to 34 age range say
texted, or tweeted every moment of the day. they talk to people online more than they have
Statistics suggest that there are about 700 Facebook face-to-face conversations. Another 21% admit to
status updates and over 600 tweets every second.13 checking Facebook in the middle of the night.”15
Even if some of those are profitable, that still
leaves a lot of empty chatter. Some Facebook “addicts,” like Maria Garcia of
Philadelphia, spend as much as 56 hours a week on
Our Lord addressed this issue directly in His the site.16 Reporting on her story, ABC News
statement, “Every careless word that people speak, recounted the concern of those in the medical
they shall give an accounting for it” (Matt. 12:36). community: “The popularity and social acceptance
That’s a sobering thought, especially when paired of networking sites is one of the reasons Dr.
with the maxim of Proverbs 17:28: “Even a fool Joseph Garbley says Facebook addiction is
who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes becoming a very real problem. . . . Garbley says
his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” (Many a young unlike alcohol or drugs, social networking addiction
blogger would do well to memorize those verses.) is psychological not physical. But he adds it is still a
serious problem: ‘The problem comes in when life
In 1 Corinthians 10:23–24, Paul explains an intercedes, when school work calls, when
important principle about Christian liberty. He relationships demand your attention and you chose
writes, “All things are lawful, but not all things are Facebook over those relationships.’”17 It seems
profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things social media sites have become the new soap
edify. Let no one seek his own good, but that of his operas!
neighbor.” If we apply that truth to the world of
social media, we can quickly separate that which is Of course, the real problem is a heart issue, not a
valuable from that which is merely wood, hay, and psychological one. But the point remains. For many
stubble. Tweeting about the inane details of life Americans, the amount of time spent using social
might not be sinful, but if it doesn’t build others up media is out of control. Whether defined as
spiritually, it might be better left unsaid. “addicts” or not, people spend vast amounts of
time browsing blogs, watching YouTube videos,
reading tweets, and managing their profiles. We’ve
Time Mismanagement already noted that, on average, the active Facebook
user spends nearly 24 hours a month on the site. In
ccording to recent statistics, the average September 2010, the amount of time spent on
American worker spends almost six hours a month Facebook surpassed Google for the first time.
visiting social networking websites during work Combine this with time spent blogging, micro-
time. The majority of that time is spent on blogging, commenting, texting, instant messaging,
Facebook.14 and surfing—and the sheer hours represented
become staggering.
Ironically, people can spend hours jumping from class, age and profession who want to talk about
link to link without even realizing how much time themselves, expose themselves, and promote
they are wasting. As author Ivan Misner explains in themselves in glorious and often gory detail. . . .
BusinessWeek, “You go to LinkedIn or Facebook They blog and bleat and tweet and text you all the
and you read a comment and it takes you to time. The medium may vary, but the message is
another link and now you’re on YouTube, watching always the same: Me. ‘Me, Me, Me!’”23
someone’s video. Pretty soon something weird
happens in the space-time continuum and you look Dr. Lauren LaPorta, Chairman of the Department
up and you’ve lost two hours.”18 of Psychiatry at St. Joseph’s, sees the popularity of
social networking sites as a direct result of the
As believers, the command of Ephesians 5:15–16 is growing narcissism in American culture (due largely
just as binding upon our modern lives as it was in to the self-esteem movement of the 90s). Writing
the non-technological world of the first century. for the Psychiatric Times, she observes, “It is my
“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise contention that these sites would not have risen to
men but as wise, making the most of your time, because such prominence but for the fact that a generation
the days are evil.” Paul’s exhortation has massive of narcissists needed an outlet. The millennial
implications for how we interact with social media. generation needed a way to assert their uniqueness,
One day we will stand before Christ to give an their specialness and garner the attention and praise
account for how we used His resources (including of the masses. Facebook, MySpace, YouTube and
our time and energy). With that in mind, how much Twitter filled the bill.”24
of this life can be justifiably devoted to Twitter,
Facebook, YouTube and the like? Just a few hours But the me-centered world of social media is clearly
each day, over the course of a lifetime, adds up to at odds with the biblical call to humility and
years of wasted opportunity. selflessness. Consider just a brief sampling of
relevant Scripture passages on this subject:

Putting the ME in Media Proverbs 16:18—“Pride goes before destruction,

and a haughty spirit before stumbling.”
f there is one word that perhaps best describes Proverbs 27:2—“Let another man praise you and
social media it is this: self-promotion. The narcissism not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own
fostered by status updates and tweets is undeniable. lips.”
And cultural critics have taken notice.
Proverbs 30:2—“If you have been foolish in
Some respond with humor.19
A few see it as a good exalting yourself . . . put your hand over your
thing. Others are concerned that social media is
20 mouth.”
ramping up society’s psychological maladies—like
Narcissistic Personality Disorder.21 (Of course, Isaiah 66:2—“‘To this one I [the LORD] will look,
what psychologists label “NPD” the Bible calls the to him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and
who trembles at My word.’”
sin of pride.)
Matthew 23:11–12—“The greatest among you shall
Even the majority of social media users admit that be your servant. Whoever exalts himself shall be
self-promotion is at its core: “A national study humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be
fresh out of SDSU is confirming that Generation Y exalted.”
really is Generation Me. The jaw-dropping
conclusion? 57% of young people believe their Philippians 2:3–5—“Do nothing from selfishness
generation uses social networking sites for self- or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard
promotion, narcissism and attention seeking.”22 In one another as more important than yourselves. . . .
the words of one British journalist: “The Me-Man Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in
is everywhere. And so is the Me-Woman. They are Christ Jesus.”
the millions of men and women . . . from every
To these, a host of other passages could be added. experience. He writes: “This is, I think, the real
All of them make the same point: God opposes the danger of social media and Twitter. . . . It changes
proud but gives grace to the humble. the way I process information. Or to be more
precise, I no longer process information—I merely
When so much about social media panders to pride consume it. I speed read hundreds of bits of articles
and shameless self-exaltation, believers need to a day, absorbing lots of information, but rarely
think about their motives before they jump on the actually thinking about it. . . . The difficult
bandwagon. If the goal is simply popularity or thoughts, the ambivalent thoughts, the repulsive
personal promotion, it’s time to do a heart check. thoughts, the thoughts too complicated to be
Our celebrity-driven culture craves for notoriety. reduced to a tweet. They are labeled low priority
But Christians are called to be different. We have and sent to the back office of my mind.”27
died to ourselves. Thus, our concern should not be,
“How many people can I get to follow me?” but Geoff Dyer, writing in The Guardian, echoes that
rather, “How can I bear witness to the wonder of concern: “Sometimes I think my ability to
following Christ?” concentrate is being nibbled away by the internet;
other times I think it’s being gulped down in huge,
Jaws-shaped chunks.” 28 A CNBC article entitled,
Trivializing Truth “Is Twitter Making You Stupid?” concludes with
this sobering assessment: “It seems that we’ve
one other than National Public Radio recently managed, in the words of playwright Richard
lamented the growing trivialization of values in Foreman . . . to transform ourselves into ‘pancake
American society. In an NPR web-article en- people’—spread wide and thin as we connect with
titled, "Trivialization Na- that vast network of
tion” (Feb. 2010) Linton information accessed
the dumbing down of by the mere touch of a
Weeks writes, “The wide-
spread trivialization of doctrine has character- button.”29
meaningful things is indis- ized American evangel-
putable. Sound bites and While scientists and
silliness reign supreme. . . . icalism for decades. social critics debate the
Perhaps the tendency to effects of social media
trivialize is born of band- on how we think, one
In many ways, sites like thing remains clear:
wagonism or laziness. . . .
Trivializing large ideals is Twitter and Facebook Christians must guard
easier than living up to themselves against
exacerbate that problem. becoming theological
them. And it’s less scary.”25
pancakes. Thanks to
Elsewhere, the article cited an interview with the the market-driven methodologies of the seeker-
president of Harvard, Drew Faust, in which she sensitive movement, the dumbing down of doctrine
was asked to respond to the dumbing down of has characterized American evangelicalism for
American culture. “I worry about attention span,” decades. In many ways, sites like Twitter and
Faust said, “because people will not listen to more Facebook only exacerbate that problem because
than a couple of sentences or read more than a they provide a venue in which reductionism and
couple of sentences. Does everything have to be a extreme brevity simultaneously coincide with
sound bite? Is everything to be digested into information overload and infinite distraction.
something brief? And aren’t there complicated But not every theological truth can be adequately
ideas that we ought to have the patience to give our summarized in just a phrase or two. And not every
attention to?"26 debate can be resolved in just one blog article.
Many doctrines require extended time and thought
One novelist-turned-blogger provides firsthand to properly process. Mature believers reflect deeply
testimony of that trivialization in his own on the things of God and the truths of His Word.
They are not a mile wide and an inch deep. Instead For me, as a pastor, this issue is particularly
their lives are marked by rich devotion, focused important from a shepherding perspective.
study, prolonged prayer, and careful mediation. Christian leaders are called to equip their people to
Cultivating those kinds of spiritual disciplines takes think through every area of life with biblical
time and effort—traits that are rarely prized in the wisdom. And this is no exception.
information age.
Moreover, believers (and especially pastors) need to
In light of that, believers must not allow blogs, be careful what they communicate to the world
tweets, and status updates to become their primary about their lives. Once something is posted online
source of theological education or spiritual input. If it can be seen by anyone else. Once it’s cached,
they do, they will inevitably become doctrinally there is a permanent record of it. That means every
shallow and spiritually malnourished. status update and
every tweet is part of
God’s Word repeatedly calls the believer’s public
us to use our minds wisely. Every status update and testimony as a Christ-
We are to think on things ian.
that are right and true (Phil. every tweet is part of the
4:8) as we test all things believer’s public testi- As Paul told the
carefully (1 Thess. 5:21) and Galatians, “I have
bring every thought captive mony as a Christian. been crucified with
to the obedience of Christ Christ; and it is no
(2 Cor. 10:5). Our minds are The focus must not be on longer I who live, but
to be renewed (Rom. 12:2) Christ lives in me; and
as we allow the Word of me, but on Christ. When the life which I now
Christ to dwell in us richly someone hears from me live in the flesh I live
(Col. 3:16). We are to be by faith in the Son of
sober-minded (1 Cor. 15:34)
publicly, I want it all to God, who loved me
as we set our minds on point to Him. and gave Himself up
things above (Col. 3:2) and for me” (2:20). Like
prepare them for action (1 Paul and every other
Pet. 1:13). believer, my life is no longer my own. The focus
must not be on me, but on Christ. When someone
Clearly, God cares how we think and what we think hears from me publicly, I want it all to point to
about. Insofar as social media websites cultivate the Him.
trivialization of profound truths, while simultan-
eously fostering shorter attention spans, believers
would do well to proceed carefully.

Something to Think About

t this point it is important to reiterate what I
said at the beginning. Social networking can be a
useful tool when it is used in moderation and for
the right things. At the same time, however, pitfalls
and temptations do exist; and believers need to arm © Copyright 2010 Grace Community Church 
themselves accordingly. Social media are obviously  
not going away any time soon. But that doesn’t Readers are welcome to print and make copies          
mean we can be undiscerning in how we approach of this article for ministry purposes,                    
them. provided they do not sell them for profit. 

* Special thanks to members of the Grace Church staff for helping to find these online sources.

* The citation of sources here does not imply blanket endorsement of these websites or authors.
      In my case, our staff at Grace to You maintains a social media presence for me (on both Facebook and Twitter) in

order to direct people to biblical teaching resources. Though I am not personally involved in posting anything to
Facebook or Twitter, I do see the value of those sites for ministry purposes. 
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