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Changing Habits for a killer confidence

Confidence isn't just being good at talking to girls or saying the right words to get
noticed by your boss, confidence will help you navigate throughout your everyday
life, having confidence will help you to reconnect to your friends, to have a deeper
connection in your relationships (not only in a romantic way!) let me explain all this.

So if you usually tend to keep conversations going on but over the same topic over
and over again not worrying if the other person would change it, you are sending a
message, that you don't feel comfortable talking about other topics or showing that
you actually not know about other themes. So if when you are in a conversation the
topic will change naturally like a boat floating on water, and for that meaning, the old
topic is over so don't try to resurrect it. Just be ​spontaneous​, and this is the ​first
behaviour we need to nurture, if you are spontaneous and talk, ask, laugh and
debate about different topics that are not planned in your head or arguments that you
had already prepared that will show how confident you are about your own ​ideas
and the way you see and think about the world.

Before I even started thinking about changing my life, when I went out with my
friends I would tend to stay quiet and not say much because of what they would think
of my opinions, maybe they would think I'm stupid or just nothing came to my mind,
all of this had a nucleus and the reason behind all of this was “OVERTHINKING”,
when you overthink a situation the mind tends to do 2 specific behaviors:

1) Paralyze, when we are overthinking the mind gets blurry and stop processing
the information we are receiving from the environment we are in, therefore we
just get into a “catatonic state of mind”.
2) Try to not repeat that situation or scenario, that means your mind
(YOURSELF) will start trying to avoid those scenarios by any cost, going out
less with your friends, or even if you are still going out you will find any excuse
to either go to the bathroom for you to have a little “you time” or just bail early.
Now, as wise men say “everything has a solution” so the first action we need to take
is to stop overthinking, and listen to me here I'm not saying just stop thinking and say
stupid shenanigans or to try to read crude facts without understanding them just to
use them as your ammunition, just try to say whatever comes into your mind about
the topic, say it with confidence and just try to explain your point of view.

How can we get started with this?

1st topic Just think a situation that happened to you that you can also​ chip into the
conversation​, if you don't have one then that’s you to go point “I’ve never faced a
situation like that but….” will be enough.

2nd topic ​Enhance your presence​, you want people to crave to be close to you,
take space (take a wider stance), fine-tune your scent, be open with your body
language,

The 3rd topic just ​be yourself​, as corny as it sounds if you can´t be real and honest
around people that lack of honesty and a build up “personality” will crumble and it
can backfire at you by people mistrusting you.

Confidence is a skill that can be worked on, if you use this advice on your everyday
life for sure you´ll feel more empowered and have a killer confidence, if you want to
know more on how to start driving your life into the best life ever make sure to check
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