The article Taking the Mystery out of Change by Nancy Schlossberg make the case for the

variability of the lifecycle. As opposed to the meet stages of Sheehy. Nancy Schlossberg ED.D.is a
professor in the counseling and personal service department, college of education at the university
of Maryland college park. She states by recognizing our strength and building on them we can learn
how to Master transitions. According to Mrs Schlossberg “the transition in our lives aare those
events or nonevents that alter our roles relationships routine and assumption.” They include:

 Anticipated transition: the major life events we usually expect to be in life such as marriage
becoming a parent starting a first job or retiring.
 Unanticipated transitions: the ofte- disruptive events that occur unexpectedly such as major
surgery a serious car accident a surprise promotion
 Non event transition: the expect events that fail to occur such as not getting married not
having a baby or living longer than expected.

As I was doing my reading on this article I begin to realize that my life has been very complicated. I
am constantly transitioning. the first one I will speak on is my non-event transition. my nonevent
transition was my relationship with my children’s father. We were together for many years.
The relationship failed, we never married, we separated. This event took me into my next transition.
Which bring a me to my next transition, the unanticipated transition. Due to this break up I was
forced to raise my children on my own, I was also in a terrible car accident none of these situations
were expected but all of them were full of stress. Through all of this I still remained
positive because I knew this is not the plan for my life. I told myself I am strong. I had to keep
pushing for the sake of my children. I continued to take my children to school, cook dinner, clean
my house, show up for school events etc. I was the loving mother that I was supposed to be.
Shortly after all the mishaps my life begin to take a turn for the better. I am currently in the
anticipated transition everything and my present life is expected for the adult life I am enrolled to
school, engaged to be married to my new found love, and life is good.

While I was in these transition notice the 4’s were present situation, self, support, and strategy.
Even though I was in a negative situation I help myself by finding inner strength. I reminded
myself you don’t need him, all he did was hurt you. I had lots of support from friends and family. I
later developed a strategy don’t call him, don’t think about him, don’t allow him back, focus on
you and your kids, Move on, meet someone new. That’s exactly what I did. I begin to get my life
back. I begin to pull out I begin to hang around friends. Surprisingly I met someone great. Me and
him are currently engaged to be married and I’m happier than ever.