How to Maintain a Positive Long Distance

Relationship
Edited by IamHEREtoHELP, Teresa, Waiit.team, Flickety and 7 others

For those who find themselves deeply involved in a long-distance relationship here is how to
keep it going with nothing but positives.

1
Make your significant other comfortable at all times. This is very important. Making him
/her feel like he / she is the most spectacular thing that has ever happened to you is one of the
most important things you can do.

2
Be comfortable in conversation. With a long distance relationship, get used to being on the
phone/computer for hours. It is your only way of connection to your significant other,
therefore a vital part. Be able to talk about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. This could
range from things you did as a kid, to past relationships you've had, all the way up to your
best-kept secrets. It is important to talk about your childhood because it's something that
everyone can relate to. Everybody did things that were special to them when they were
young, and it is a good thing to talk about. People are comfortable talking about their
childhood adventures, friends, and materialistic things. It is also important to talk about past
relationships you have had. This might be a little bit of a touchy thing, but we all know that
we want to know if our significant other has any dirty secrets we want to know about. Let
him / her know the names of your old partners, how old you were at the time you dated, and
if you still maintain a friendship with them now. He / She will be more comfortable knowing
this. Your secrets are also very important. Make him / her feel like he / she knows you
almost, if not better than you do yourself.

Do things together. Defy the distance. Frequent communication is a great thing when it can be
managed in a long distance relationship. However, constant communication over the phone alone
may tend to drag people down in the long run. It's important to do other things together besides the
usual phone call. Just think... people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of
their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to
do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously. For an extensive list of more
things you can do with each other (or for each other) click here: [1]

Send him / her Gifts. This doesn't mean to go out and spend your life savings on flashy jewelry or
expensive gadgets. Little gift packages, sent at random times will brighten their day and make them
happy. If he / she likes candy, randomly send them a package of candy with a little love note inside.
If you are an artist, sketch a picture of you two together and send it. Make a slide show of pictures
that you have taken together and send it via media mail. Obviously, expect your wallet to get a bit
lighter around their birthday and Valentines Day, or other holidays. But if you are in this for marriage
or the long haul, they will probably prefer you save money for your future, rather than blow it all on
jewelry. So be wise in your gift decisions.

5
Plan visits. Nothing would mean more to you than to see him / her, and them to see you.
Always have a next visit planned, however difficult it may be. Many people in long-distance
relationships feel that it is unbelievably difficult to go for long periods of time without seeing
their significant other. This is true, but the way I think of it, is that any amount of time is
worth waiting for the person you love.

Spend time with family. When you do visit, or vice versa, although you want to use a lot of your
time to be together, it is very important (if you are living at home, or are a teenager) for your
parents and family to get to know your significant other. Most families think long-distance
relationships are a little unhealthy. I will tell you why. You are denying yourself the constant physical
being with that person, and you spend all the time you have on talking, thinking about, or planning
to see the person. This takes away time from your friends, family, and being social at all. Carefully
construct times with your significant other of when you will talk. Maybe only talk during the day on
Friday and Saturday and go out with your friends at night. This will help you maintain your
friendships, while also maintaining your relationship (obviously, if you would not want them to
drink/smoke with you not there, don't do it yourself).

Be positive. Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping
your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad
news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your
career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more
creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As
long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and
transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.
According to psychologist and researcher , Emma Dargie LDR couples feel a connection ,
while married couples will be more intimate . "People are a long distance relationship , while
married would be experiencing satisfaction , intimacy and communication more smoothly , "
he said .

Here are five benefits of LDR relationship , namely :

1 . Better Communication

Cornell University study published earlier this year in the Journal of Communication stated
LDR couples will contact each other about three or four times a day and it was more intimate
and better than others .

2 . Interaction More Meaningful

The same study reported that more meaningful interaction exists in pairs remotely related .
Communication is more evoke thoughts and feelings more than other couples . In addition
LDR couples will be more open with each other than with the often met .

3 . Rasa Rindu So Seasonings

When the long-distance relationship will feel homesick that exceed routine couples met . This
longing to be the spice that makes the time married to arouse sexual desire . Spark nostalgia
will further add to the sensation of sex.

" By not meet during the day it will be better , because it avoids the monotony . And while
longing that never shed will create romantic sparks while making love , " said Director of
Sexual Health Promotion Lab , Christian P. Marks .

4 . More Mutually Rewarding

When a relationship is in the far distance , then the resulting deep respect . The pair will
likely always have time for their relationship . With help feeling nostalgic then you are
reminded of how important he is .

5 . More Accept It Is

Long-distance couples will be receiving their partner's behavior , and the disadvantages that
makes couples semakun close relationship . Although 30 percent of long-distance couples
meet each other only one to three times in one month , but they feel more committed and
more afraid of losing and know how valuable he is .