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To cite this article: Nathaly Moreno & Emily Pearl Kahumoku-Fessler (2018): Understanding
Infidelity: How Perceptions of Infidelity Behaviors Vary by Sex and One's Own Infidelity
Experiences, The American Journal of Family Therapy, DOI: 10.1080/01926187.2018.1441760
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Infidelity is commonly defined as committing sexual acts with someone other than
one’s current partner (Wilson, Mattingly, Clark, Weidler, & Bequette, 2011).
Recent scholarship has expanded the definition of infidelity (also called: “unfaith-
fulness” and “cheating”) by recognizing the impact of emotional behaviors as well
(Kruger et al., 2013; Roscoe, Cavanaugh, & Kennedy, 1988; Wilson et al., 2011;
Yarab, Sensibaugh, & Allgeier, 1998). Emotional infidelity entails an intimate emo-
tional connection with an individual other than one’s current partner (Wilson
et al., 2011). A modern and more comprehensive definition for infidelity is any
sexual and/or emotional relationship with someone other than the primary partner
kept a secret because of the implied betrayal (Berman & Frazier, 2005). Therefore,
new literature is distinguishing between sexual/physical infidelity from emotional
infidelity, while exploring factors that lead to it and its consequences.
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infidelity when compared to staying in the same hotel room with someone other
than one’s partner (Kruger et al., 2013).
The reasons some behaviors that could be described as ambiguous in other sit-
uations are more often associated with infidelity when compared to other behav-
iors is not clear. One dominant explanation is that participant’s sex plays a role in
individual’s perceptions of infidelity—that is, males and females perceive infidelity
differently. There appears to be a cultural message in Western societies that males
will react more strongly to physical (i.e., sexual) betrayal, and females react more
strongly to emotional betrayals (i.e. their partner “falling in love” with someone
else.) However, extant research has failed to agree on how sex affect perceptions
and reactions to infidelity, and suggests that sex differences in infidelity are not so
clear-cut. Two studies suggest that female participants are more likely to view both
physical and emotional behaviors as acts of infidelity when compared to males.
Wilson et al. (2011) found that females perceived ambiguous behaviors (defined as
emotional bonding and nonsexual interactions) and explicit behaviors (comprised
by sexual interactions) as infidelity behaviors more often than their male counter-
parts. Furthermore, Kruger et al. (2013) found that females rated erotic behaviors
(i.e., watching a pornographic movie together), emotional bonding, behaviors
implying relationship status (i.e., holding hands, kissing on the lips), and resource
investment (i.e., supporting the other person financially) as unfaith
ful behaviors more often than males. Overall, ambiguous behaviors were positively
correlated with avoidance of unwanted sexual situations for both males and
females. Deceptive and explicit behaviors were positively correlated with guilt and
avoidance, and negatively associated with an unrestricted sociosexual orientation
and acting on attractions toward friends (Wilson et al., 2011).
Other theoretical explanations offer differing frameworks to examine percep-
tions and reactions to infidelity. Like the gendered explanations, findings from
studies using an evolutionary psychology framework mirrors current popular cul-
tural sentiments—namely, that sex differences in perceptions of infidelity exists
such that males are more likely to focus on sexual behavior as the defining charac-
teristic of infidelity and females are more likely to focus on emotional intimacy as
the defining characteristic of infidelity (Buss, Larsen, Westen, & Semmelroth,
1992; Goetz & Causey, 2009; Harris, 2002). On the other hand, some researchers
have rejected the gendered argument, and make the case that when examining per-
ceptions of infidelity, the dominant cultural stigmas no longer hold.
Goetz and Causey (2009) found that men were more likely than women to per-
ceive sexual behaviors as indicative of their partner’s infidelity. Using an evolution-
ary psychology framework and cognitive system theory, these researchers posit
that men are more likely to perceive sexual infidelity as a betrayal because not
doing so would result in possible investment of resources in someone else’s off-
spring—a problem that women do not face because pregnancy belies female sexual
involvement. Daly, Wilson, and Weghorst (1982) reported comparable findings
based on the analogous principles. Emotional infidelity, which usually includes the
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interest of parsimony, the current study will focus on determining which behaviors
constitute unfaithfulness in order to highlight possible differences between emo-
tional and sexual behaviors as they relate to infidelity instead of focusing on how
upsetting such behaviors are. This is because past research has demonstrated that
the way individuals react and the way they understand infidelity do not always
overlap (Wilson et al., 2011). Therefore, the purpose of the current study is to
examine how individuals’ perceptions of infidelity behaviors are related to sex and
past history with infidelity. Based on prior research, it was hypothesized that indi-
viduals with a history of infidelity, either as the involved or non-involved partner,
will be more likely to rate both emotion and physical behaviors as indicative
of infidelity when compared to individuals with no past history of infidelity.
Furthermore, it is expected the participant’s sex will have an effect on his or her
perception of infidelity in line with previous explanations in which female partici-
pants are more likely to view behaviors as indicative of cheating than their male
counterparts.
Method
Participants
The original sample consisted of 85 undergraduate students enrolled in psychology
classes from a private university in the southwest US. Two subjects were excluded
from analyses due to incomplete responses. The final sample contained a total of
83 participants, of which the majority were females (n D 65, 78%) between 18–
25 years old (n D 79, 95%; Mage D 21 years old). Participants identified themselves
as Hispanic (n D 36, 43.5%), White (n D 25, 30.5%), Asian (n D 9, 11%), Black
(n D 6, 7%), and Other (n D 7, 8%). Approximately, 80% had been in a previous
relationship and 50% of participants reported being in a current relationship with
a mean duration of 14 months. When asked about previous experience with infi-
delity, 44% identified themselves as non-involved partners (10 emotional, 6 sexual,
and 21 combined) while 34% reported being involved partners (13 emotional, 5
sexual, and 11 combined).
Procedures
Participants completed an anonymous online survey that included a 34-item scale
generated using the Perceptions of Dating Infidelity Scale (PDIS) and 20 interper-
sonal behaviors (Kruger et al., 2013) along with the history of infidelity and demo-
graphic items (i.e., age, sex, race, relationship status). Participants received extra
credit in their psychology courses for volunteering in the study.
Measures
Perceptions of Dating Infidelity Scale (PDIS;Wilson et al., 2011). The PDIS assesses
attitudes towards behaviors that constitute emotional and sexual infidelity in
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Results
Principal component analysis identified three components labeled emotional, sex-
ual, and deceptive consistent with findings from previous scholarly work by
Mattingly and colleagues (2010; Table 1). The emotional component included
items 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 21, 22, 23, 32, 34;
the sexual component included items 24, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31; the deceptive com-
ponent included items 20 and 33. Item 25 (kissing on the cheek) did not load on
any of these three components and was removed from analysis. Overall, sexual
behaviors were rated higher by participants in regards to whether the behavior
constituted infidelity (M D 4.73, SD D .74), followed by deceptive behaviors (M D
3.13, SD D 1.33), and emotional behaviors (M D 2.86 SD D 1.07; Table 2). Out of
the sexual behaviors, 90% of participants always considered behaviors such as tak-
ing a shower together, oral sex, and sexual intercourse to be infidelity behaviors,
while 88% of them perceived dating as always indicative of betrayal. Emotional
behaviors that implied high physical touch were also highly rated as always indica-
tive of infidelity. For example, 61% of participants considered heavy petting and
fondling as always indicating betrayal, while 51% of participants saw sleeping in
the same bed as always indicative of infidelity.
Two analyses of variance were conducted to determine how prior history with
infidelity and sex influenced perceptions of infidelity behaviors. A two-way
ANOVA was conducted to examine whether males and females perceived infidelity
behaviors differently if they had been non-involved partners. The analysis revealed
a significant interaction between involvement and sex on sexual behavior ratings,
F (1,37) D 6.67, p D .012. Males with no history as the non-involved partner rated
sexual behaviors lower (M D 3.93) than non-involved males (M D 4.93) and
females regardless of their involvement condition (Mnon-involved D 4.88, Mno non-
involved history D 4.85). There was a significant main effect of experience as the non-
involved partner on sexual behaviors ratings, F (1,37) D 7.57, p D .007, such that
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Table 1. Principal component analysis of selected items from PDIS and interpersonal behaviors and
infidelity scale.
Item Emotional Sexual Deceptive
Note. Analysis loaded three factors: emotional items, sexual items, and deceptive items.
Did not emerge in any components and was removed from analysis.
n M SD n M SD
analysis revealed a significant interaction between involved partner role and sex on
sexual behavior ratings, F (1,29) D 8.11, p D .006. Males with no involvement his-
tory rated sexual behaviors lower (M D 3.87) than involved males (M D 4.88) and
females regardless of their involvement condition (Minvolved D 4.84, Mno involved
history D 4.88). There was a significant main effect of experience as the involved
partner on sexual behaviors ratings, F (1,29) D 6.93, p D .010, such that involved
partners rated these behaviors higher (M D 4.86) than individuals with no history
as the involved partner (M D 4.37). There was a significant main effect of sex on
sexual behavior ratings, F (1,29) D 6.92, p D .010, such that females rated these
behaviors higher (M D 4.86) than males (M D 4.37). There was a significant main
effect of sex on emotional behavior ratings, F (1,29) D 6.53, p D .013, such that
females rated these behaviors higher (M D 3.05) than males (M D 2.31). There
was not a significant difference on ratings of involved partners that have been
involved in a specific type of infidelity (emotional, sexual, or both).
Discussion
Despite evidence that there is an increasing prevalence of infidelity in monoga-
mous relationships (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy,
2016; Wiederman, 1997), there appears to be a gray area when it comes to defining
behaviors that constitute infidelity (Feldman & Cauffman, 1999; Kruger et al.,
Non-involved partner
Gender 1 2.438 2.438 5.405 .023
Victim 1 3.413 3.413 7.565 .007
GenderVictim 1 3.010 3.010 6.671 .012
Total 83 1904.245
Involved Partners
Gender 1 3.092 3.092 6.920 .010
Victim 1 3.098 3.098 6.934 .010
GenderPerpetrator 1 3.623 3.623 8.109 .006
Total 83 1904.245
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2013; Weis & Slosnerick, 1981; Wilson et al., 2011). The current study sought to
determine which behaviors—including daily activities, emotional bonding, erotic
behavior, and sexual behaviors—constitute infidelity. Furthermore, this study
examines whether sex and one’s own infidelity experience influence on the percep-
tion of such behaviors as being unfaithful.
Limitations
The current study used a convenience sample of undergraduate, psychology stu-
dents from a private university in the Southern region of the US consisting primar-
ily of young adults, which limit the generalizability of the results. The present study
replicates results obtained in previous research with older adults (Mattingly, Wil-
son, Clark, Bequette, & Weidler, 2010)—namely, that individuals perceive explicit
behaviors as more indicative of betrayal than ambiguous behaviors—which with-
holds the complexity of defining infidelity, though with limited generalizability.
Perhaps, there is a correlation between age and previous experience with infidelity
that further influences perception of behaviors that may indicate unfaithfulness.
Another limitation of the current study is the cultural homogeny of the sample.
A majority (74%) of the participants were Hispanic and Caucasian; therefore,
application of the present results to other ethnic and cultural groups is limited.
Likewise, sexual orientation of participants was not examined. Past research indi-
cated that sexual orientation did not have a significant association with hetero-
and homosexual oriented participant’s ratings of distress of involvement with infi-
delity (Harris, 2002). Researchers make the case that experiences with infidelity
help to construct individual’s beliefs regarding how distressing named behaviors
are, independent of their sexual orientation. However, future research should
include a measure of sexual orientation, and include homosexuality, heterosexual-
ity, bisexuality, pansexuality, and asexuality to illuminate the impact (or lack
thereof) of sexual orientations on perceptions of infidelity.
The current study did not examine whether the type of infidelity that non-
involved partners’ experienced impacted their rating of perception of infidelity
behaviors. Likewise, it was not examined if involved partners rate infidelity behav-
iors lower if such behaviors resemble to their previous experience. It is possible
that the specific type of infidelity can affect how individuals conceptualize infidel-
ity, given the proposal of psychological mechanisms to overperceive certain types
of infidelity after having experienced it oneself (Goetz & Causey, 2009). Similarly,
the current study did not include an exhaustive list of online behaviors. If the
world of offline infidelity is clearly a gray area, there is an even greater lack of con-
sensus regarding online behaviors (Whitty, 2005).
romantic partner (Utz, Muscanell, & Khalid, 2015; Vaterlaus, Barnett, Roche, &
Young, 2016). Thus, future research efforts could benefit by investigating the types
of social media platforms used to connect with individuals other than one’s pri-
mary romantic partner in order to more fully understand the role that one’s online
presence plays in real-life sexual encounters. Moreover, the impact on perception
of infidelity by the association of sex, love, and marriage combined with individu-
al’s own infidelity experiences would also be a factor worthy of further investiga-
tion, given that high association of these three factors have an effect on
individual’s acceptance of extramarital involvement (Weis & Slosnerick, 1981).
Although the aim of the current study was to examine the influence that partici-
pants’ sex and past experiences with infidelity have on their perception of behav-
iors that may constitute infidelity, variables such as age, culture, and sexual
orientation may also impact individuals’ views. Future research should consider
such variables in order to provide a clearer understanding of how infidelity is con-
ceptualized. This may be especially valuable for therapists working with diverse
populations and the impact infidelity has on their relationships.
Overall, the current study advances the understanding of factors that influence
the perception of infidelity. The current study provides further evidence that per-
ceptions of infidelity are viewed differently based on one’s own history with infidel-
ity and on one’s sex.
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