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Marriage in Islam
Marriage is a social institution as old as the human race itself. It may be
defined as a relation between a man and a woman which is recognized by
custom or law and involves certain rights and duties, both in the case of the
parties entering the Union, and in case of the children born of it. Marriage has
thus two main functions to perform: it is the means adopted by human society
for regulating relations between the sexes; and it furnishes the mechanism by
means of which the relations of a child to the community is determined.
Qurán states clearly the encourage verses for muslim to get married, “And
marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among
your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor,
Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-
Encompassing and Knowing. (An Nuur (24) : 32).
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan
girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just,
then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses.
The Holy Qur'an has in so many verses pointed out the different
purposes of marriage. As one state at the beginning of this book, states: "And
Both man and woman are the progeny of Adam and thus both have the
same soul. The purpose of marriage, according to the Holy Qur'an, is therefore,
the union of the two souls which are one in essence. Their separate existence is
an unnatural state of their being which changes Into the natural state when they
are united by marriage and thus are brought close to each other physically,
“And Allah has made for you from yourselves mates and
has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren
and has provided for you from the good things. Then in
falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they
disbelieve?”(Qs. An Nahl (16) : 72).
Both man and woman are the joint heirs of the grace of life, and unless
there is a very close and intimate form of companionship in them, they cannot
enjoy the true grace of life. "It is He - Allah -Who created you from
In Islam the union of the sexes has been purified and the joy of the
married relation secured by the absolute prohibition of every kind of extra-
matzimonial connection. The Holy Qur'an stresses upon the people to marry
as it is the most effective means whereby one can lead a virtuous life free from
immorality and emotional inhibition. The Holy Qur'an says: "They (your
wives) are as a garment to you, and you are as a garment to
them" (Al-Baqarah: 187).The mutual relation of husband and wife is
here described in words which could not be surpassed in beauty. Here in is the
correct description of the relationship between the two. The husband and the
wife are for mutual support, mutual comfort and mutual protection, fitting into
each other as garments fit into each other.
Then the Holy Qur'an also makes it clear that this union is not a
temporary relationship between two individuals of opposite sexes: It is a
permanent and enduring relationship in the sense that both the parties should
put in their earnest endeavours to lead their lives in perfect harmony and
acquitting themselves creditably of the responsibilities saddled upon them by
entering into this sacred contract.
The Holy Qur'an farther points out that sexual gratification in the
married life is not meant only for the satisfaction of the physical lust, but it must
be directed to some higher ends. “Your women are tilth for you, so
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tidak menerima (lamaran)-nya niscaya terjadi malapetaka di bumi
dan kerusakan yang luas” (H.R. At-Turmidzi)
Dari Anas, Rasulullah SAW. pernah bersabda : “Barang siapa mau
bertemu dengan Allah dalam keadaan bersih lagi suci, maka
kawinkanlah dengan perempuan terhormat.” (HR. Ibnu Majah,
dhaif).
Saat menikah, banyak hal yang sebelumnya merupakan dosa kini telah
bernilai ibadah, Rasulullah bersabda, “Barangsiapa menggembirakan hati
seorang wanita (istri), sakan-akan menangis karena takut kepada
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Allah maka Allah mengharamkan tubuhnya dari neraka.” Hanya
menggembirakan hati seorang istri, maka seseorang akan diharamkan tubuhnya
dari api neraka. Masha Allah.
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Wedding Calendar
Checklist
Use the boxes to the left of the items to check off tasks as you
complete them.
P.S : I start to made this journal at the beginning of March in
which means I have approximately 6 months prior to wedding
day.. can’t wait to fill in all this check list! ^ ^
April
5 MONTHS PRIOR TO WEDDING DAY:
☐ Arrange a gathering for you and your parents.
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☐ Survey a wedding vendor includes :
o Wedding Caterer
o Wedding Decoration and Florist
o Wedding invitation card
o Wedding gown for bride and suit for groom
o Wedding souvenirs
o Make up
o Photographer and Videographer
o Band
Save the contacts for all wedding vendors you surveyed, compare the
vendors each by each, decides together which one you will hire
determined by price, things they preserve, the service and
performance.
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May
4 MONTHS PRIOR:
Book the venue by 20 % down payment
☐ Get the guest list fixed
Estimate the budget for “mahar”
List what will be as the wedding gift (seserahan) and estimate the budget
Shop for wedding material (Reception)
Goes to tailor (Norma Butik)
Shop for Bridesmaid dresses
Shop for Family dresses
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June
3 MONTHS PRIOR:
☐ Get fixed for the following rest vendors
o Wedding Caterer =. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
(write down the chosen vendor)
o Wedding Decoration and Florist
=. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
o Wedding gown for bride and suit for groom
Akad =. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Reception =
o Make up artist =. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
o Photographer and Videographer
=. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
o Band =. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
☐ Obtain a marriage license.
☐ Meet the caterer to deal with the menus, food test.
☐ Make a concept for the Pre Wedding shoot, theme, costume, and hunt
the location
☐ Schedule a Pre-Wedding photoshoot
☐ Have the Pre-Wedding photoshoot
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June progress note :
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Augst
1 MONTH PRIOR:
By Augst , the preparation progress presentation should reach above 80%.
Get the fix for the following wedding vendors (especially for the invitation
card and souvenirs so they can start making)
o Wedding Caterer = Safa Catering
o Wedding invitation card = Rofi Graphic (Sukabumi)
o Wedding souvenirs = Pusat DVD Jakarta
☐ Make Save-the-date card
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September
3 WEEKS PRIOR:
☐ Find a place to wrap Seserahan. And it should be ready by the end of the
week
☐ Final fitting for Wedding outfit
2 WEEKS PRIOR:
☐ Compile a list of all of the wedding vendors and wedding party, with
contact information. Carry this list with you everywhere you go (just in
case)
1 WEEK PRIOR:
Enclose any fees due on the wedding
day in envelopes for easy distribution.
☐ Appoint someone to act as an
“organizer” to handle any last-minute
problems.
☐ Review final details for those in the
wedding party.
☐ Get final documentation for “siraman”
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DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING:
“Siraman”
Enjoy a relaxing day with family
and friends.
☐ Try to get some rest
WEDDING DAY:
☐ Pray. Pray. Pray and pray
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Wedding Vendor List
Caterer
No Caterer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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No Decorator Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile/Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Instagram
No Decorator Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Instagram
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Wedding Dresses
No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Designer Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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Makeup artist
No Makeup artist
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/bbm/line
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website/ instagram
No Makeup artist
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/bbm/line
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website/ instagram
No Makeup artist
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/bbm/line
3. Email
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4. Address
5. Website/ instagram
No Makeup artist
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/bbm/line
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website/ instagram
No Makeup artist
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/bbm/line
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website/ instagram
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Wedding Invitation
No Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile/Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Instagram
No Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile/Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Instagram
No Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile/Bbm
3. Email
4. Address
5. Instagram
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Wedding Souvenirs
No Workshop Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Workshop Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Workshop Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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No Photographer
Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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Wedding Band
No Band Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
No Band Detail
1. Contact Name
2. Phone/Mobile
3. Email
4. Address
5. Website
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Wedding Budget
Estimasi Anual
No Decription Vendor
Cost
1. Venue Anton Sujarwo
2. Tempat Akad Mesjid Agung
Wedding
3. Awanis WO
Orgnaizer
4. KUA
Vanezza Fany
5. Makeup
Gown Pengantin,
Ibu Bapak, Pager
6.
Ayu Bagus,
Among Tamu
Sherrly
7. Decoration
8. PassionPhotoworks
9. Catering Safa Catering
10.
Bakso
Ice Cream
Jajanan
Takoyaki
Creps
Martabak
8. Undangan Rofi Graphic
9. Souvenier Pusat Dvd Jakarta
10. MC/ Upacara Adat A Hilman
11. Pemandu Siraman
12. Hiburan Bu desti
PerdanaTex
13. Bahan Kebaya
EllieSab
Jait Norma Butik
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Wedding Venue
Chosen venue : Gedung Anton Sudjarwo
Jln. Bhayangkara
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Wedding Catering
Engagment
Chosen caterer : Mrs. Mutia
Menu :
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Wedding Catering
Wedding
Chosen caterer : Safa Catering
Menu :
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Wedding Decoration & Florist
Chosen vendor : Sherly Griya Pengantin
Theme : International Wedding (Minimalist)
Color Scheme : Grey, Silver, Black,
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Bridesmaid card
Chosen vendor : Novalia Rachmah (Design)
Rofi Graphic (Printing)
Color Sceme : Peach + White
Caduy
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Bridesmaid card
Chosen vendor : Novalia Rachmah (Design)
Rofi Graphic (Printing)
Color Sceme : Purple + White
Prikitiw
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Wedding Souvenirs
Chosen vendor : Tommi Siswono (Design)
Pusat DVD Jakarta (Burning)
Type : CD music
Color Sceme : Grey, Silver, Black + Envelope
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Wedding
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Weekly Schedule
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Juni
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Weekly Schedule
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