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Introduction 
Are you tired of the same day-in day-out life? Do you feel stuck in a rut or trapped in an 
endless loop but can’t seem to break free? 

It can be frustrating to hear about how to make your life wonderful by doing things that you 
can’t necessarily do on a daily basis because of your job and daily demands. Maybe you’re 
the breadwinner of the family, or maybe you have to fulfill plenty of responsibilities… 

You can live the life you truly want while still fulfilling your responsibilities and expectations. 

In this activity sheet, you will learn how to turn your life around and start living a fulfilling 
life. 

How to Break out of the Loop 

Limitations are the things that keep you constrained inside a loop. They keep you stuck 
facing the same problems, having the same choices, and taking the same actions over and 
over, and over again. 

Some people are stuck due to circumstances, but for many people, they stay in the loop 
because it’s their ​comfort zone​ -- where everything feels safe, easy and certain. When 
you’re so safe in this comfort zone, you can’t really find a reason to step out of it.   

The first essential step to breaking out of the loop is to w

​ ork on the way you think​.  

At Lifehack, our 4
​ -Pillar Breakthrough Framework​ helps people shift their paradigms and 
consistently turn any limitation into an opportunity that is achievable. 

The following steps are built upon this Framework and will help you break free from the loop 
and design the life you want. 

Step 1: Find Your Hidden Opportunities 

In life, you will always have constraints of some sort. It’s you who decide whether they 
become your limitations. 

Every obstacle has a hidden opportunity. Instead of fighting them or resigning yourself to 
them, see that there are two sides to every coin. 

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So if you want to break free from where you are, train your mind to think of opportunities 
instead of limitations. 

And this is what the 1

​ st Pillar​ is about -- ​an opportunity is a turning point that can create 
a break through. 

All you need is to get the right focus and ​know exactly what is limiting you​ r​ ight now​ -- not 
anything in the past or future. 

For example: 

● I’m limited by​ my busy work schedule b

​ ecause​ it leaves me no time to spend with 
my family. 
● It stops me from​ having a close relationship with my wife and my kid. 
● If only I could​ manage my time better, ​then I’d be able to​ spend more quality time 
with my family. 

See how limitations can be turned into opportunities? The last statement is the opportunity 
statement. 

Now it’s your turn to come up with your opportunity statement: 

I'm limited by​ ... [ the obstacle/constraint ] ​Because​ ... [ why it's a limitation ]  
It stops me from​ ... [ the thing you want to do ]  
If only I could​ ... [ the achievement ] ​then I'd be able to​ ... [ the new possibility ] 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Once you’re clear about what you truly want and what’s stopping you, you’ll be more driven 
to move forward as you now have a direction on how to turn your limitations into 
opportunities. And, this is when you can start to think about what you can do to achieve 
that.  

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Step 2: Flesh out Ideas What You Can Do 

After realizing your hidden opportunities, it’s time to come up with exactly what you can do 
about these opportunities. 

And this comes to the 2

​ nd Pillar​ -- ​planning your progression towards what you want​.  

Let’s take the father’s opportunity statement “If only I could manage my time better, then I 
would spend more quality time with my family.” as an example; it helps him to reflect about 
what he can really do to achieve the goal: 

● Set a clear time to stop working 

● Discuss about my workload with my manager 
● Schedule time to play with my son every day after work, or during weekend 
● Schedule date nights with my wife 
● No work during family dinner 

See how many possible ways to achieve his goal with a clear opportunity statement? 

Now, it’s your turn to reflect about what you can do to achieve what you want: 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
   

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Step 3: Restructure Your Lifestyle 

After brainstorming a list of things you can do to achieve your goal, create a concrete plan 
to make these things happen. 

Here, the 3
​ rd Pillar ​comes into place --​ invest your energy consciously. 

As the breadwinner for your family or yourself, it may be hard to fit all these new tasks into 
your already busy schedule. And so, reviewing your current lifestyle is necessary before 
trying to fit in anything new. 

At Lifehack, our Cornerstone Skill T

​ ime ​is dedicated to helping you master your time. One of 
the essential frameworks to help organize and prioritize your time is the ​Superstructure 
Method​.  

To help you start living your purpose, we can use a simplified version of the Superstructure 
Method: 

Review the roles you play in life and decide each role’s Must Haves tasks -- t​ asks that are 
absolutely critical to do; without it, the outcome is meaningless. 

As you’re looking into your daily schedule, keep these questions at the back of your mind:  

● What must be kept as a breadwinner? 

● What should be ditched or changed in order to get closer to your true Purpose? 

For example:  

The father who wants his wife and his son to be happy every day discovers that he has 3 
roles to play: as the breadwinner, a father, and a husband. 

He finds out that he’s been working too many hours -- a lot more hours than necessary even 
as the breadwinner. He works over time every day to just to get more compensation. This 
has allowed him little time to spend with his family.  

So he has decided to ditch working extra hours every single day and fit in date night with his 
wife and play time with his son every other day. 

This is how his new schedule looks like: 

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Monday, Wednesday, Friday 

  As the Breadwinner  As a Father  As a Husband 

Must  8 hours of work   Bedtime story for my son  Alone chatting time 
Haves    with my wife 
1 extra working hour 
to make more money 

Tuesday 

  As the Breadwinner  As a Father  As a Husband 

Must  8 hours of work   Play time with my son  Alone chatting time 
Haves    with my wife 

Thursday 

  As the Breadwinner  As a Father  As a Husband 

Must  8 hours of work   Bedtime story for my son  Date night with my wife 
Haves   

Saturday, Sunday 

  As the Breadwinner  As a Father  As a Husband 

Must  3 hours self-training  Play time with my son or  Dating or Family 
Haves  to upgrade work skills  Family staycation  staycation 

Now let’s review the roles you play and the tasks you must do achieve what you want. 

What critical roles are you playing in life? 

Role 1: ________________________________ 

Role 2: ________________________________ 

Role 3: ________________________________ 

   

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What are the Must Haves for each role to fulfill your Purpose? 

Monday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

Tuesday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

Wednesday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

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Thursday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

Friday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

Saturday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

Sunday 

  Role 1  Role 2  Role 3 

Must         
Haves   
 
 
 
 
 

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Here, you’ve created a new plan for your life. 

You’re no longer limited by your everyday obligations and demands which are stopping you 
from living the life you want. 

Start Living the Life You Want 

You don’t need to be limited by your responsibilities and daily demands. You can break free 
from the loop as long as you change the way you think and make up your mind about what 
is important to you. When you know what you truly want and what’s stopping you, you can 
make use of the 4-Pillar Breakthrough Framework to make a plan and start taking steps 
towards it. 

As demonstrated in this activity sheet, the 4-Pillar Breakthrough Framework consists of a 

handful of skills -- the ​7 Cornerstone Skills​. , which are the true essentials needed to achieve 
excellence in whatever aspect of life that matters to you. 

Til this moment, you may wonder, what about the ​4th Pillar​ in the Framework? The 4th Pillar 
is about making a self-sustaining engine to help you persist your goal when challenges arise 
along the journey. In order to not overwhelm you with too much information, we focus on the 
first 3 foundations in this activity sheet first. 

If you’d like to learn more about how applying the 4-Pillar Breakthrough Framework can 
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