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“I feel compelled to lick my fingers and rub them all over my elbows.
Which is weird because I don’t even like the texture of the skin around
my elbows. What’s up with that?”
“My husband is a narcissist and psychopath. What do I do?”
“My romantic relationship is amazing, so why am I into tentacle porn?”
A job hazard of being a psychologist is that you learn things about the
underbelly of humanity that nobody else knows. One topic appears to be
increasing in frequency: The number of people who mention that they suffer
from social anxiety, or that their kids do, or both. What’s interesting is that there
is a sociological trend in which people are becoming less comfortable in social
situations and more likely to avoid face-to-face conversations.
A close examination of 8,098 15-54 year olds from the United States
demonstrates that diagnoses of social anxiety disorder are increasingly
common. For instance, people born in 1966-1975 are showing a steep rise in
the prevalence of social anxiety disorder, and the onset is much earlier than
previous generations.
Generational differences in social anxiety
Source: Elsevier
Several treatments exist for social anxiety disorder. One that has fascinated
me is Social Effectiveness Therapy (SET) by Deborah Beidel and Samuel
Turner. The goal of SET is to reduce social fears, improve social skills, and
increase the willingness to approach instead of avoid social situations. There
are three parts — social skills training, exposure to feared situations, and the
production of positive social events with supernormal youth. In social skills
training, youth learn some of the basics of interacting with other people
including greetings (hitting those fist-bumps knuckle to knuckle), starting and
sustaining mutually satisfying conversations (let your friends get the weather
report from Alexa), listening and remembering social details (know what gets
people hot and bothered), strategies for joining groups (if there is
anything Survivor taught us, it's don’t be the loudest or the quietest tribe
member), and being assertive to effectively express what you like and do not
like (say no to noogies). Exposure training begins with a list of things a person
is fearing and avoiding. By rank ordering how often distress and the desire to
escape occurs in particular social situations, an exposure hierarchy emerges.
With guidance, the situations at the bottom of the hierarchy that are the least
distressing and least likely to be avoided are experienced. By remaining in
distressing situations for a lengthy period, you learn that despite the presence
of anxiety, you can persist. You learn that thoughts, feelings, and memories
cannot stop you from doing what you care about.
Another lesson is that anticipatory anxiety tends to be the worst moment and,
upon entering a situation, anxiety tends to lessen. The more exposures, the
more anxiety tends to lessen. It is often the expectation that anxiety will only
get worse if a situation is entered that prevents someone from diving into the
social world.
What I’ve described are standard operating procedures for treating social
anxiety. The magic ingredient of SET is the involvement of supernormal kids
as helpers. Socially anxious, socially isolated children and teenagers rarely
get a chance for high-quality, positive social events. And if they do, these
social events are often with socially awkward peers, or the good intentions of
parents and teachers to “force” social interactions with someone who doesn’t
want to be there. In SET, supernormal youth serve as volunteers who help
provide opportunities for socially anxious, socially isolated youth to experience
lengthy, satisfying, playful activities. Supernormal youth are recruited from
various school districts so that what happens in SET stays in SET. With the
help of popular, socially intelligent peers, group activities are set up for social
success: Trips to a skateboard park, where everyone is learning a new skill
together. Pizza parties. Floating down a river on inner tubes. Nature hikes. A
different activity occurs every week, and always includes lunch. This way
youth acquire regular opportunities to experiment with newly developed social
skills in a natural environment where success is basically guaranteed.
Activities have minimal structure to mimic the extemporaneous nature of
everyday life. And after these activities, with guidance, the experiences can be
dissected to provide behavioral evidence of social skill gains and
acknowledgment that anticipatory anxiety tends to be the peak of distress,
and declines over time. These activities offer behavioral evidence that even
when distressed, youth can execute skills and extract moments of joy,
belonging, and meaning. And perhaps most important, youth learn to judge
themselves on how they perform and not what they cannot control — whether
a friendship is formed, whether they win an athletic competition.
Yes, social anxiety does appear to be increasing. But, yes, social anxiety can
be effectively treated.