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Like You’ve
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WAY
Kisses,
THE
#GOALS
Touches
& Positions ISSUE
Secrets From Beauty,
To Satisfy Fashion & Fitness
Your Body— Influencers

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Get It, Girl!
“My
Last Gum
Will
Love Got
ell If Stuck
w to T in His
Ho Junk!”
Hilarious
Tales of
Sex Gone
Wrong
Cosmo Exposé
Why Women HOT HAIR &
MAKEUP
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THE
#GOAL S
IS SUE

COVER
S TORIES
29 “My Gum
Got Stuck in
His Junk!”
Hilarious tales of
sex gone wrong
96 How to Tell If
Love Will Last
113 Hot Hair
and Makeup
Trends
133
P H O T O G R A P H E D B Y E L L E N V O N U N W E R T H . P R O P S T Y L I S T: E VA N J O U R D E N . P R O D U C T I O N : V I E W F I N D E R S . H O T E L : T H O M P S O N N A S H V I L L E .

Miley Like
You’ve
Never Seen
TOP, JEANS, Jonathan Her
Simkhai. INITIAL 160 Sex…Your Way
NECKLACE, EAR CUFFS,
Kisses, touches
Miley’s own.
NECKLACE, Shay. & positions to
EARRINGS, Selim satisfy your body—
Mouzannar get it, girl!
186 Cosmo Exposé
Why women are
hit with more
student debt
than men are

FE ATURE S
142 6 Ways to Step
Up Your Style
148 Powerfully Pretty

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CONTENTS

GET MILEY’S
HOT LOOKS
160 A: Top, jeans, Jonathan Simkhai.
Initial necklace, ear cuffs, Miley’s
own. Necklace, Shay. Earrings, ring,

T H AT T H E M O D E L S A C T U A L LY E N G A G E I N T H E C O N D U C T D I S C U S S E D I N T H E S T O R I E S T H E Y I L L U S T R AT E . S E E PA G E 1 9 9 F O R S H O P P I N G I N F O R M AT I O N .
D E W E Y N I C K S . T H E M O D E L S P H O T O G R A P H E D I N C O S M O P O L I TA N A R E U S E D F O R I L L U S T R AT I V E P U R P O S E S O N LY; C O S M O P O L I TA N D O E S N O T S U G G E S T
Selim Mouzannar. B: Bra, briefs,
in ever y issue Jeremy Scott. Necklace, earrings,
bracelet, ring (right hand), Selim
Mouzannar. Sunglasses, ear cuffs,
belly ring, ring (left hand), Miley’s
14 From the Editor own.To get Miley’s look, try Double
196 Horoscope Wear Nude Water Fresh Makeup
Broad Spectrum SPF 30 in Cool
198 Bitch It Out!/ Bone, The Brow Multi-Tasker in
Dark Brunette, Pure Color Envy
Shopping Information Lash Mascara in Black, Pure Color
200 Cosmo Quiz: Lip and Cheek Multistick in Rose
Exposed, and Pure Color Envy
What First Impression Hi-Lustre Light Sculpting Lipstick
in Drop Dead Red, all by Estée
Do You Make? Lauder. Style director: James
Worthington DeMolet. Hair: Teddy
Charles at The Wall Group. Prop
stylist: Evan Jourden. Production:
Viewfinders. Hotel: Thompson
Nashville. Photographed by
Ellen Von Unwerth.

TOTALLY S T YLE BE AUT Y BODY SE X


COSMO 39 Get All the Likes
Standout side
57
64
#HairGoals
#SkinGoals
98 #FitnessGoals
Kayla Itsines is
157 Crystals Get
Kinky
18 Best Sept Ever pieces 70 #ManiGoals pure inspo 166 The Silent
26 The Cosmo Guy 46 #WeekendGoals 106 12 Easy Sexual Assault
74 Only $10!
Jay Ellis Olivia Palermo Food Fixes Stealthing,
sports off-duty 76 Sexy This Second explained
29 Confessions Eat this, feel
upgrades 78 Trending better 168 Sex Q&A
32 Dates From Hell Treatments!
52 Fun, Fearless 108 Gyno Info 170 Cosmo’s
34 Fierce vs. Fail Finds Under $50 Reduce your Ultimate
36 On My Mind
Bethany Mota is
Embroidered
denim
LOVE risk of cervical Dicktionary
cancer
on a digital diet 54 Look Hot
Tonight
83 He’s Your BF,
Not Your BFF
110 #MindBody
Goals
LIFE
Go monochrome! 88 Dating & Mating Limber up 175 #PizzaGoals
Forget work. with Jessamyn 178 How to Ask for
It’s date night! Stanley More Money
92 Ask Him 182 Desk for Success
Anything Spruce up your
96 All About Men workspace

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EL AINE & TRAVIS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR FIVE YEARS.

HER DIAMOND IS MORE THAN TWO BILLION YEARS OLD.


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T HE BETTER
So instead of
“I want to get in
shape,” try “I
want to see more
tone in my arms
to provide inspiration for your #Goals. by next month.”
Their impressive number of followers
is a result of their ability to motivate.
Take, for example, the mind-blowing

All the
before-and-after shots of personal
trainer Kayla Itsines’s fans, featured
prominently on her Insta feed. (You PROGRE SS

#Goals
can get an exclusive dose of her fitness BEGETS
know-how on page 98.) Or the hair MORE
gurus who work their mane magic to PROGRE SS
eye-popping effect. (Check them out on Research indicates
page 57.) And that’s just for starters— that as you get
A NOTE FROM COSMOPOLITAN’S we have plenty of other influencers in closer to reaching
EDITOR-IN-CHIEF, MICHELE here (hint: #PizzaGoals).
a goal, your brain
PROMAULAYKO. FOLLOW HER As for me, I have an ever-chang-
may pump out
@MICHPROM. ing array of goals. But one remains
feel-good chemi-
cals, such as
constant: my intention to create the dopamine, which
CHANCES ARE, YOU’VE USED THE HASHTAG best possible magazine for you. I hope further propel you.
#GOALS in one of your social feeds—as I’ve surpassed that this month with
in #BootyGoals, #ApartmentGoals, the special content we’ve created,
#BoyfriendGoals! Well, it turns out including a rare peek inside the farm-
that broadcasting your aspirations house where cover star Miley Cyrus
is actually the first step in achieving grew up and a yearlong investiga-
them. (That is, as long as you’re seri- tion into why so many young women C AU T I O U S
ous and not just using a trendy/conve- are struggling with crippling student OPTIMISM IS
F R O M L E F T: B E N W AT T S / E ! E N T E R TA I N M E N T; G E T T Y I M A G E S .

nient/funny photo caption.) A bunch debt. And of course, I wouldn’t be YO U R B F F


Overthinking or
of studies have found that sharing doing my job if I didn’t include some
fantasizing about
your desires with friends and fam- #SexGoals. So flip to page 162 for our
the end goal can
ily—and sending regular updates— 30-day sex challenge! Hopefully, that sabotage your
increases your odds of success. Part will keep you blissfully busy until I efforts. It’s impor-
of that is asking those people to hold can come up with more goodies for tant to stay posi-
you accountable, so don’t fly into a you next month. tive, but you have
hangry rage when your BFF asks if to have realistic
you’ve been sticking to your vow to cut expectations too.
carbs—she’s just keeping you on track.
Actually, you may want to thank her.
In this issue, we’ve gathered some of Michele Promaulayko
our favorite social-media influencers Editor-in-Chief

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26
CONFESSIONS Cosmo
readers reveal
their most
embarrassing,
ridiculous,
what-was-I-
thinking
moments.

“One night, my
friend and I
went to a party
where we didn’t
know anyone.
Eventually, I
found a guy I
was interested
in, and I could
tell he felt the
same. We
started kissing,
and someone
shouted at him,
‘You have a girl-
friend!’ I
stopped right
away and left. I
wasn’t trying to
be a cheater!
Outside, we saw
a girl crying
and realized
she was the girl-
friend. I feel so
bad about the
whole thing
that I’ve kept it
a secret!”
—ISABELLA R., 19, STUDENT,
MIAMI, FL

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“I was dressing models for fashion week. As I “I had two one-
was returning from a restroom break, I walked night stands.
in on one of the male models. His robe was In the same room.
undone, and he was totally exposed! I had no On the same night.”
idea that he’d already started getting —HAYLEY R., 21

undressed so quickly. It was only the begin-


ning of fittings, and I had to work closely with
him for the next two weeks, even though I’d
“My boyfriend
already seen him naked. Let’s just say our rela- and I like to try
tionship was pretty awkward after that.” new things, so
—DOMINIQUE R., 23, WARDROBE STYLIST, NEW YORK, NY we decided to
CELEB have sex while
CONFESSION
he was tied up.
“When I was at Right in the
university, we got
a brand-new gym.
middle of our
There was a steam hot time,
room, and I was in his phone
my towel—I just
didn’t even think
started ringing.
about it and sort We let it go to
of flung the towel voice mail the
over my shoul- first time, but
der and walked in.
There was a cloud when it started
of steam, and I took again, I quickly
another step and hopped off
the door sucked a
little bit of the steam
to see who it
out, and I could see was. It was his
everyone in there. grandmother!
I realized that not Since his hands
only were people
wearing clothes were tied, I

G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 4 ) . C O N F E S S I O N S M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D F O R L E N G T H , C O N T E N T, O R C L A R I T Y.
inside, it was also a had to hold
mixed sauna. So I the phone up to
took this moment
where I was like, ‘I’m
his ear while
just going to have to he talked to
own this. Pretend her. Needless
like you meant to
do it.’ I walked in
to say, it killed
and just sat there. the mood.”
—JENN C., 21
And the funniest
thing is that every-
one walked out of
the steam room.
I had the place to
myself. Didn’t do
it again though! I
think you just have
to own those awful
moments.”
—BEN ROBSON,
ANIMAL KINGDOM

30 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


“I was drunk at GUY CONFESSION “I was hooking up
my boyfriend’s with a guy in my
“I was with my ex and had to use her car. I tend sorority house.
apartment, and to drive fast, so she told me not to crash. The fire alarm went
we were watching Everything was fine until I pulled out of my spot off, and the house
a movie. We had and someone hit the car. It left only a small dent, mom was banging on
recently started my door, so I threw
but the next day, her mom saw and started him in the closet and
dating, so I yelling at her. I told her mom that someone prob- opened the door
thought it’d be fun ably hit it when my ex was parked at the mall. naked. She said
to spontaneously that we had to
Neither of us got in trouble.” —DOMINIC V., 20 evacuate because
go down on him. of a gas leak. I left
We were both into the poor dude naked
it and passed and afraid. I told him
out after. The to run down the
fire escape where
next morning, he he had to pass all
said he felt some- the cops and
thing sticky and firefighters.”
—HAYLEY B., 22
uncomfortable....
I forgot I’d had
gum in my mouth!
It had gotten stuck
in his pubic hair
during my spur-of-
the-moment act. I
was horrified. He
had to get rid of it “I snapped a pic
with scissors!” of my new lip-
—MAGGIE S., 20 stick and posted
it on FB before
work. I didn’t
check my phone
till 5 p.m. and
had texts from
my friend asking
if I was pregnant.
“He was trying to Turns out, the
unzip my dress, and pic had an open
the zipper got stuck. pregnancy test
“I am really into fitness, and I am particularly
We were in the moment
and couldn’t get my proud of my ability to squat with heavy weights. I box in the
dress off, so he cut me made plans to work out with this hot guy I had a background! It
out of it. The scissor thing for, and when the day arrived, I was too looked like I was
slipped and sliced my nervous to eat. As a result, I started to pass out
about 10 minutes into the workout! I had to sit
announcing a
arm! I ended up crying
on the floor in a out for the majority of the time while I watched pregnancy, and
strapless bra and him exercise. I had told him all about how strong I got tons of
Spanx, gushing blood!” I was, and I wound up looking like a total poser.” comments.”
—LAUREN B., 20 —KATYA B., 22, STUDENT, MIAMI, FL —OLIVIA F., 24

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DATES FROM HELL
“I went out with a dude who
lived far from me, so he
asked if he could drop off
some of his work stuff at my
place before dinner. Little did
I know, he was vegan and
taking me to a vegan restau-
rant. The whole night, he
was rude to the waitstaff and
me. I asked him questions
about himself (he asked me
nothing), and he said that I
was interrogating him. I was
annoyed and hungry—all he
ordered was celery root and
a mushroom. I wanted to
JUST ditch, but he had to grab his
CLUELESS stuff from my apartment!

DOUCHE-O-METER
Then his train back home
UM, NO wasn’t for a while, so I had to
avoid his sexual advances.”
CHECK,
PLEASE —NICOLE K., 24

SO
OFFENSIVE
“I was working as a social-
EPIC FAIL media manager but nannied
on the side for extra cash.
LITERALLY
DERANGED
Anyway, I went on a date
with a guy, and when we
were talking about my job,
he goes, ‘Wait, so you, like,
babysit?’ And I said, ‘Well,
I nanny for extra money.’
He replied, ‘I told my room-
mate I thought you were
stupid because you are 25
and you babysit.’ We sat
in awkward silence the rest
of the time.”
—SOPHIE L., 25

“I got to the bar where my


date was already sitting with
a drink. He told me to get
myself one plus another for
him, then handed me $10....
The drinks were $20 each!
He worked in real estate,
“I was on a first date with this guy I knew from high school. First, he spilled and the whole time, he kept
his entire drink on me, so I sat in a puddle the whole time. The rest of the saying I couldn’t afford any
night was a bit awkward because our waiter, who he happened to know, of his listings. Then a couple
kept standing and chatting with us when I really just wanted to talk to the of things fell out of his
pocket. He picked up all his
guy I was with. When the check came, I offered to pay and he wouldn’t let
items and threw them on the
me, but I asked if I could pay the tip. He agreed, and then when he saw how table. One was a condom,
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much I put down, he says, ‘Aren’t you going to give her more? I know her.’ and he shouted, ‘Well, at
I’d given her 20 percent—calm down.” —DANIELLE N., 24 least I’m prepared!’ Ew.”
—BETSY H., 30

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we ’ ve all been there : out with post it online. And if I did take pic- thereof), you’re actually taking your-
friends at an amazing restaurant, and tures but they weren’t great, I’d be so self out of the moment—and it is
everyone is Snapping and Instagram- bummed about it because I felt like it bound to lead to disappointment. It’s
ming and no one’s looking up from didn’t fit this certain standard for me too easy to get wrapped up in what
their phones. Don’t get me wrong, to post. There would be this lingering our lives look like to other people…
I don’t think it’s a bad thing to docu- feeling, like Oh, I didn’t get the shot, the people who aren’t even with you
ment the things you do. After all, I even if I’d had the best time ever! at that awesome restaurant. And it’s
started my YouTube channel at The truth is, I was never fully pres- the ones there who really matter.
13 as a way to express myself, and at ent. I wasn’t building bonds with peo- I’m not saying I’ll be going dark
the age of 21, I’m still at it on every ple, and I wasn’t happy. I had to ask on social media anytime soon. Again,
social-media platform. So, yeah, I myself who “the shot” was for anyway. I love it, and I understand its impor-
love sharing my life. But at a cer- Was I taking it to impress somebody? tance for my career. But every day,
tain point—maybe it was at one of Or did I really just want to capture the it’s important for my emotional well-
those hangouts where everyone was moment because it meant something being that I fit in at least five min-
checked out on their phones—I real- to me? When I would post something, utes where I close my eyes and allow
ized I was giving it too much power. I found myself worrying about what myself to be at one with my thoughts.
I found myself feeling like I had to specific people would think—like the I also do my best to minimize the
share everything I did. And I mean person I was crushing on or my digi- time I have my phone out when I’m
everything: from my morning cap- tal audience. It was a bad mind-set, with friends or family, because it
puccino to my favorite red sneakers to because to think that way is essentially starts to consume me and then I stop
the latest inspo quote I came across. to live your life for others. So lately, I’ve using all my senses to fully experi-
I even started to feel guilty if I just been trying something radical: docu- ence what’s happening. And if I do
went to the movies for fun, like What menting a little less and living life a lit- feel compelled to share what I’m
could I be doing on social media? tle more. The first time I went to a cool doing at that very minute, I’ll post,
Sometimes, I went places for the sole coffee shop and the beach and didn’t put the phone away, and check back
reason of showing other people on document the whole thing, I was like, later…after I’ve had a good time
social media that I’d been there. If Wow, I still had a great time, even with the people around me IRL.
something was trending or I visited a though no one on social media saw it!
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popular vacation spot, I couldn’t fully When you post a photo or video Bethany Mota’s book Make Your
Mind Up is out now from Gallery Books,
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Retro Cuties
Throw back to the swinging ’60s in pieces
with serious mojo. Yeah, baby, yeah!

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1. HEADBAND, L.
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Erickson USA, $48, a
franceluxe.com

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ct.
2. SHOES, Bill Blass,
$198, billblass.com
3. HANDBAG, Kate

Romantic
Spade New York,
$498, katespade
.com

Overtones
4. BOOTIES, Kenneth
Cole, $129,
lordandtaylor.com

Set the mood (no hashtag


needed) in velvet, brocade,
and florals that add
Victorian-era drama.

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STYLE TOP, Elizabeth
and James, $295,
nordstrom.com

TOP,
Prabal
Gurung.
BRIEFS,
Hanes

BAG, Lulus,
$37, lulus
.com

DRESS, Banana
Republic, $128,
bananarepublic
.com

FRIDAY

PHOTOGR APHED BY MA X ABADIAN. FA SHION DIREC TOR S: AM Y BANNERMAN, K RIS T EN INGER SOL L . FA SHION S T IL L S: C OUR T E SY BR AND S.
DRINKS
Ditch basic black and
radiate in baby blue and
millennial pink that let you
skip the filter and go
straight to Share.

SKIRT, Scotch
& Soda,
$98, scotch- RING,
soda.com Pandora
Jewelry,

#WeekendGoals
$115,
estore-us
.pandora
.net

JUST ’CAUSE YOU’RE OFF THE CLOCK DOESN’T MEAN YOUR


WARDROBE SHOULD HIT SNOOZE. STEP OUT (OR STAY HOME!)
IN COOL TWISTS ON FEMININE CLASSICS, AS MODELED
BY STYLE INFLUENCER OLIVIA PALERMO.
SHOES,
Mango, $80,
mango.com

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STYLE T-SHIRT, Alexa
Chung, $100,
alexachung.com

SATURDAY
HANG
Take evening accessories
out for a spin during daylight
hours. Dangling earrings
make jeans and a tee
look way more
adult.

T-SHIRT,
Rebecca
Minkoff.
JEANS,
Mother.
EARRINGS,
Ashley
Williams

A N I TA S A L E R N O FO R R J B E N N E T T R E P R E S E N T S . A L L OT H E R S: C O U R T E SY B R A N D S .
FA S H I O N S T I L L S ( O L D N A V Y, M I S S M E J E A N ) : S T U A R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D . S T Y L I S T:
JEANS, Miss SWEATSHIRT, Old
Me, $99, Navy, $30,
missme.com oldnavy.com
EARRINGS, Officina
Bernardi, $265,
call 212-273-
0797 for info

SNEAKERS,
Lidl, $25,
Lidl stores

HANDBAG, Vera
Bradley, $198,
verabradley.com

48 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


© Procter & Gamble 2017

FOR ALL
INVISIBLE
STYLE
TOP,
Banana
Republic.
BRIEFS, Fifi
Chachnil

HANDBAG, Who
What Wear, $30,
target.com

TUNIC, Vince TOP, Pinko, $225,


Camuto, $129, pinko.com
vincecamuto
.com

SUNDAY PAJAMA PANTS,


FA S H I O N S T I L L S ( TA R G E T, V I N C E ) : S T U A R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D . S T Y L I S T: A N I TA
SALERNO FOR RJ BENNET T REPRESENTS. ALL OTHERS: COURTESY BRANDS.
Gap, $50,

BRUNCH gap.com

Pajama-striped shirting
and drawstring pants let
you roll out of bed already
dressed. Just don’t
forget to brush!

SHOES,
Gunmetal,
$80, dsw WATCH, Citizen Watch,
.com $275, citizenwatch.com

50 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


STYLE GIVE AN
OLD JEAN
JACKET BOOTS, Forever 21,
NEW LIFE $45, forever21.com
BY ADDING
YOUR OWN
PATCHES.

JACKET, T.J.
Maxx, $20,
tjmaxx.tjx
.com
CROP TOP,
Boohoo.com,
$24, boohoo
.com

FUN, FEARLESS FINDS


CHOKER,

UNDER
Forever 21,
$9, forever
21.com

$50
Cultivate a look that’s anything PURSE, Like
Dreams, $41,
but garden variety in rose- likedreamsusa
embroidered denim pieces— .com
so fresh!

MINISKIRT,
PrettyLittle
CROSS-BODY Thing, $35,
BAG, Boohoo prettylittle
.com, $30, thing.com
boohoo.com
MAIN HOLDING: @THRIF T SANDTHRE ADS. DRE S S: ST UAR T

BENNE T T REPRE SEN T S. FA SHION S T IL L S: C OUR T E SY


T Y S O N / S T U D I O D . S T Y L I S T: A N I TA S A L E R N O F O R R J

JEANS, P R O T IP
Lulus,
$39, lulus “WITH MULES,
.com GO FOR A
T I G H T E R F I T.
IT KEEPS FEET
FROM SLID -
I N G O U T.”
MINIDRESS, MULES, Mix
Forever 21, $25, No. 6, $30,
BRANDS.

Aeyung Kim,
forever21.com dsw.com fashion editor
@Aeyung

52 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


STYLE
Look Hot
WHITE HOT
Sofia Richie
Slouchy suiting

Tonight
looks chic in an ivory
palette. A peek of
bandeau keeps things
interesting.

Call it color therapy: Monochrome separates let


you kick back, breathe easy, and still serve ’tude.

SHOP 1
THE
LOOK

H O L D I N G S : G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 3 ) . PA N T S : S T U A R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D ; S T Y L I S T: A N I TA
1. TOP, H&M
Conscious, $50,

SALERNO FOR RJ BENNET T REPRESENTS. ALL OTHERS: COURTESY BRANDS.


hm.com
2. COAT, Boohoo
.com, $26,
boohoo.com
3. BOOTS, Guess,
$129, shop SILVER
.guess.com LINING
4. PANTS, T by
Alexander Wang, Chanel Iman
$295, alexander For a big night
wang.com out or bedtime,
a platinum slip
5. CROSS-BODY dress is extra
BAG, Bebe, $69, dreamy.
bebe.com
RED BLEND
Hailey Baldwin
5 Mix a variety of
wine-hued pieces for
a smooth finish.

54 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


K E NNE T H W IL L A R DT/ T RU NK A RC HI V E .

#HairGoals
CRAVING A NEW CUT? IT’S SEPTEMBER.…OF COURSE YOU ARE. SATISFY THE URGE—NO REGRETS!—
WITH THESE STYLES, PICKED BY SOME OF THE BEST STYLISTS IN THE HAIR BIZ.
BY ERIN STOVALL 57
BEAUTY

WISPY AMIKA Heat Defense


BANGS Serum, $30,
loveamika.com
Anh Co Tran,
@AnhCoTran,

JESSICA BIEL
L’Oréal Professionnel
ambassador and
co-owner of Ramirez
Tran Salon in L.A.

WHY NIKKI LOVES IT


A pixie cut is a
bold move, but
the impact is huge.
Another bonus:
It shows off
WHY ANH LOVES THEM your bone structure
“’60s-style bangs better than

JESSICA, ZOË: GET T Y IMAGES (2). PORTRAITS: COURTESY SUBJECTS. BE AUT Y STILLS: COURTESY BRANDS.
(shorter in the any other cut, says
middle, longer at Nikki.
the sides) that
graze your brows NAIL THIS LOOK
feel relaxed and Always prep
super modern,” with a smoothing
says Anh. heat protectant
(Nikki likes this one
NAIL THIS LOOK from Amika). Then
When it comes to
prepping with PIXIE blow-dry with a
comb attachment
product, too much Nikki Nelms, (it’ll help smooth
can make fringe fall L’ORÉAL @NikkiNelms, your strands, so
flat. L’Oréal PROFESSIONNEL celebrity
Tecni.Art Dual you don’t have to
Professionnel’s
Stylers Liss &
hairstylist do as many passes
gel-cream combo Pump-Up, $28, with your flat iron),
pulls double duty to us.loreal and go in afterward
add volume and professionnel.com
with an ultrathin
preempt frizz. straightener
When you blow-dry, (travel-size ones
use the concentra- are clutch) to tame
tor nozzle to dry any strays.
bangs to the left,
and then to the right
to tame cowlicks
ZOË KRAVITZ

and ensure that


they fall straight.

58 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


BEAUTY
CLASSIC
BOB
BLUNT Mara Roszak,
@MaraRoszak,
LOB L’Oréal Paris hairstylist
César DeLeön Ramirêz, and cofounder
@Cesar4Styles, of Mare Salon in L.A.
Mizani global
artistic director

WHY MARA LOVES IT


KHLOÉ KARDASHIAN

A cut that hits


mid-neck is
timeless yet fresh.
NAIL THIS LOOK
Clip up the top half
of your hair, and
starting with the
bottom half, wrap
WHY CÉSAR LOVES IT
one-inch sections
Strong, sharp lines
around a curling

LILY COLLINS
make every woman
iron until the
stand out, he says.
bottom layer is
NAIL THIS LOOK done. Continue
For glasslike shine, on to the top layers,
work a heat then hit roots
protectant spiked with lifting spray
with coconut oil for extra body.

L I LY, K H L O É , C H R I S S Y: G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 3 ) . P O R T R A I T S : C O U R T E S Y S U B J E C T S . B E A U T Y S T I L L S : C O U R T E S Y B R A N D S .
(like Mizani’s)
through towel-dried
strands. For max MIZANI
smoothness, Thermasmooth
blow-dry with a Sleek Guard
Smoothing Cream,
paddle brush and $18, ulta.com
go over face-
framing pieces with
a flat iron.

L’ORÉAL PARIS
Advanced
Hairstyle Boost It
High Lift Creation
CHRISSY TEIGEN

Spray, $5,

SHAGGY lorealparisusa.com

CROP
Jen Atkin,
@JenAtkinHair,
celebrity hairstylist and
founder of Ouai Haircare WHY JEN LOVES IT “It offers lots of sexy movement,”
says Jen, and “it’s a great way to transition out of a shorter cut.”
NAIL THIS LOOK Texture is key, so flip your head over and
rough-dry strands with your fingers and a blow-dryer until they’re
80 percent dry. Then rub a dime-size amount of pomade
between your palms (it makes it more flexible) and work it through
OUAI Matte Pomade, hair for piece-y, bedhead vibes. Let it air-dry the rest of
$24, theouai.com the way and you’re good to go.
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BEAUTY

TRIANGULAR
CURLS
Larry Sims,
@LarryJarahSims,
Schwarzkopf
celebrity hairstylist WHY SARAH LOVES IT
This cut is so
versatile (meaning
you can style it a
hundred ways)—
and subtle layers
give hair natural
movement too.
NAIL THIS LOOK
Spray a lightweight

GABRIELLE UNION
oil from your
mid-lengths to
ends to prevent
frizz (skip the
roots—long hair is
easily weighed
down). Then twist
WHY LARRY LOVES IT
hair into two loose
It’s the easiest way
topknots to
to embrace your
create a slightly
natural texture.
beachy texture.
“Plus, it has an ’80s
Once dry, undo
quality to it with big,
the buns, and use a
voluminous curls
one-inch wand to
that fall around your
touch up any

GABRIELLE, LEA: GET T Y IMAGES (2). PORTRAITS: COURTESY SUBJECTS. BEAUT Y STILLS: COURTESY BRANDS.
face,” says Larry.
unruly patches.
NAIL THIS LOOK
The more moistur-
ized your curls are,
the more definition
you’ll have. Smooth
a leave-in condi-
tioner all over to SCHWARZKOPF Gliss
hydrate (use a Hair Repair Oil
wide-tooth comb to Nutritive
distribute it from Weightless Oil,
$5.50, target.com
root to tip), then dry
with a diffuser from
the ends up to the
root. (Optional:
Pull the top half into
a bun to accentuate
the cut’s shape.)
Finish with a spritz
of lightweight ALTERNA HAIRCARE
oil for extra shine. Caviar Anti-Aging
Omega+ Anti-Frizz
LEA MICHELE

Dry Oil Mist,


$34, sephora.com

LONG LAYERS
Sarah Potempa, @SarahPotempa,
celebrity hairstylist
and creator of the Beachwaver
62 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017
BEAUTY
Cleanse
“I tell every person I see to

#SkinGoals
use a gentle cleanser,” says
Darden. “Too-harsh, sulfate-
heavy formulas often make
skin dry—which can lead
to dullness.” Simple Skin-
Our trusted influencers agree: Finding the right care’s version skips strong
routine—and committing to it—is the single most effective way surfactants for a combo of
to get a gorgeous complexion. hydrating plant extracts and
BY L AUREN BAL SAMO micelles (cleansing bubbles
that attract dirt and oil with-
out stripping skin).
1. SIMPLE SKINCARE Water Boost
Micellar Gel Wash, $8, drugstores
YOUR GOAL

A SEXY Treat
Darden recommends using
GLOW her nightly retinol serum to
even tone and boost glow.
Three times a week, sub
in Dr. Dennis Gross’s peel
pads to dissolve dead skin
cells, which allows light to
bounce off your face evenly.
2. RESURFACE BY SHANI DARDEN
L.A.’s most Retinol Reform, $95,
sought-after facialist, shanidarden.com
Shani Darden, @ShaniDarden, 3. DR. DENNIS GROSS Alpha Beta
Universal Daily Peel, $88 for 30
(she’s behind Jessica Alba’s packettes, drdennisgross.com
and Rosie Huntington-
Whitely’s red-carpet
radiance), spills the secrets Moisturize
to luminosity. When it comes to hydra-
tion, it’s all about hyalu-
ronic acid, says Darden.
HA (try it in Garnier’s gel
cream) acts like a sponge—
soaking up to 1,000 times
its weight in moisture and
binding it to the skin.
4. GARNIER SKINACTIVE Moisture MAIN HOLDINGS PHOTOGRAPHED BY RUBÉN VEGA. BEAUT Y COMPOSITIONS:
Bomb the Antioxidant Super JEFFRE Y WE STBROOK /STUDIO D. PORTR AITS: COURTE SY SUB JECTS.

Moisturizer, $17, drugstores

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SO MUCH MORE than a


MAKEUP REMOVER

Olay Daily Facials cleanse, exfoliate, and hydrate


without leaving residue behind, unlike the #1 makeup
remover wipe. Get a more complete clean.
A cleanser’s just a cleanser. Unless, it’s Olay.
BEAUTY 1 3 PIMPLE
POPPING
101
1.
4 Only extract
a blemish when it
2 comes to a head.
“Acne cysts cannot
be extracted, and poking
will only cause
inflammation and spread
bacteria under
the skin,” says Dr. Lee.

2.
Use steam to soften
skin and open pores.
Before you squeeze, take a
hot shower, stand
Treat over a sinkful of hot water,
Retinol isn’t just a glow get- or apply a hot compress.
ter. It’s also one of the most 3.
effective ways to treat acne. Forgo fingers for a
“It regulates skin-cell turn- comedone extractor.
over to reduce blackheads, Center one of the holes on
whiteheads, and cysts,” the metal instrument
(below) over your breakout
says Dr. Lee. We love Dif-
and press down.
ferin’s gel, which contains “The even pressure will
a specific retinoid called push the clog out
adapalene that is easily without traumatizing the
skin,” says Dr. Lee.
tolerated by the skin. In
addition to retinol, using a 4.
sulfur mask (like Algenist’s) Set a timer!
once a week can help draw “If you can’t get your
YOUR GOAL out excess oil from pores to pimple out in 30 seconds

ZERO
or less—hands off,” says
prevent clogs. Dr. Lee. Forcing it can
2. DIFFERIN GEL, $30, drugstores cause scarring or infection.

BREAK- Cleanse
3. ALGENIST Perfect Clarifying Pore
Corrector Mask, $55, algenist.com 5.

OUTS “Acneic skin is often oily,


so you want a cleanser that
Moisturize
Post-extraction, use
a spot treatment with
Even if you’re zit-prone, you benzoyl peroxide.
is going to address that,” need moisturizer (dehy- “It will help prevent
explains Dr. Lee. The solu- drated skin overproduces bacteria growth,” says Dr.
tion: salicylic acid (like in oil, causing more break- Lee. (Try hers, below.)
Bioré’s wash), which dis- outs). You want something
Follow up with an OTC
hydrocortisone cream to
solves excess oil and also noncomedogenic (aka non- nix redness and swelling.
removes layers of dead pore-clogging) and free of
Dermatologist Sandra Lee, MD, skin that can clog pores. If
@DrPimplePopper, synthetic fragrance (like DR. PIMPLE
you’re tempted to scrub: Pai’s cream). “Fragrance
POPPER
on the clear-skin regimen she Comedone
loves and what Hold off. “Beads and other can be drying, and if you’re Extractor,
to do if you can’t resist effing physical exfoliants can already using strong acne $20,
drpimplepopper
with that zit lurking potentially disrupt the medications that have dry- .com
on your chin skin’s barrier and cause ing side effects, you don’t
irritation, which can actu- want to compound the
ally end up creating more problem,” says Dr. Lee.
blockages,” adds Dr. Lee. SLMD Acne Spot
4. PAI Geranium & Thistle
Treatment, $20,
1. BIORÉ Charcoal Acne Clearing Rebalancing Day Cream, $60,
slmdskincare.com
Cleanser, $6.50, drugstores paiskincare.us

66 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


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BEAUTY
WHAT
YOUR GOAL ABOUT
SMOOTH Cleanse
Opt for an exfoliating
Treat
“If you want smoother skin,
BOTOX?
Dr. Lancer—who

TEXTURE cleanser that contains sali-


cylic acid or glycolic acid
look for a serum with reti-
nol and vitamin C,” says
injects 30 (or
more!) patients with
Botox every day—
(SkinMedica’s, here, has Dr. Lancer. (His Advanced answers all your
both), says Dr. Lancer. C Radiance Cream con- burning Qs.
“These ingredients keep tains both.) The combo can
skin smooth by eliminat- increase collagen produc- Q: How does it work?
Botox is a neuromodulator,
ing dry, flaky skin cells and tion and protect against explains Dr. Lancer.
speeding up your skin’s free-radical damage (both “It works to reduce the
Howard Lancer, MD, key for keeping skin line-
natural shedding process.” appearance of wrinkles by
@DrLancerRx, restricting muscle move-
(the Beverly Hills derm And a cleanser that exfoli- free). Need to plump lines in
ment and nerve action.”
behind J.Lo’s and Bey’s ates allows the ingredients a pinch? Pop on this sheet
flawlessness) dishes in your subsequent steps to mask, which uses peptides Q: How long does
on the importance better penetrate skin. to create an instant firming it last?
of exfoliating, moisturizing, 1. SKINMEDICA AHA/BHA effect in the skin. About four months. How-
and daily SPF. Exfoliating Cleanser, $47, ever, a woman who is
2. LANCER Advanced C Radiance superexpressive often dis-
skinmedica.com for locations Cream, $85, lancerskincare.com solves her Botox faster
3. LANCER Lift and Plump Sheet
Mask, $35, lancerskincare.com
than someone who is less
so, explains Dr. Lancer.

Moisturize Q: How do I know


Moisturizing seals in all the if I’m a candidate?
good stuff (like the ingredi- “If furrows, wrinkles, or
folds are visible while your
ents in your previous steps) face is at rest, then it’s
and creates a barrier against worth considering,” says
all the bad stuff (like pol- Dr. Lancer.
lution), says Dr. Lancer. Q: Is preventative
More important, a good day Botox BS?
cream, like Olay’s, should It depends. If a 19-year-
contain SPF 30 or higher. A old who is a chronic
yearlong study found that squinter or frowner comes
to him, then using Botox as
women who wore SPF 30 a way to stop that bad
every day and used zero habit can be helpful, says
other antiaging products Dr. Lancer.
saw significant improve-
Q: Will frequent Botox
ment in skin texture.
eventually make
4. OLAY Regenerist Micro-
Sculpting Cream with SPF 30,
my forehead sag?
$27, drugstores If you’re abusing Botox
(i.e., too much,
too often) and your face
3 looks “frozen,” then
1 possibly. When muscles
don’t move for extended
periods of time, they can
atrophy (similar
to what happens when
you put a muscle in a
cast). You want enough
Botox to relax muscles, not
freeze them.

2
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BEAUTY
#ManiGoals
Detailed nails are back—and actually DIY-able this time.
BY PAIGE STABLE S

PAINT
LIKE
STRIPE RIGHT A PRO
TIBI

On each bare nail, paint thick lines


in various directions—straight down
the middle, diagonally, over
the tips (there’s no wrong way here).
DIOR Vernis in #742 Sophisticated,
$27, dior.com

Julie Kandalec,
celeb nail artist
(Emma Roberts
is a reg) and
ONE AND DONE creative director
of NYC’s trendy
Proof that less is more: salon Paintbox,
A vibrant pop on your pointer fingers shares her
is all it takes to nail this look. artsy hacks.
JINSOON Nail Lacquer in Charme,
$18, jinsoon.com Don’t Skimp on Prep
Smooth ridges with
a buffer, remove oils
with a swipe of pure
TRACY REESE

acetone (non-ace-
tone-based remover
contains moisturiz-
ers that cut paint’s

H O L D I N G S : C O U R T E S Y B R A N D S . ( D I O R V E R N I S ) C A R I S S A L A N C A S T E R . P O R T R A I T: C O U R T E S Y S U B J E C T,
life span), then apply
a base coat.
Steady Your Hands
Instead of resting
your nails on a
DARE TO PAIR table—which places
your hand down-
Double-down on the cool factor ward (shake city!)—
by painting pinkies silver and position the hand
everything else black. Craving more? palms up (tips
ULLA JOHNSON

Embellish ring fingers with toward you) for the


a silver stripe. best angle.
ESSIE Gel Couture in Hang Up The Erase Your Mistakes
Heels, $11.50, essie.com Slipped on a stroke?
SALLY HANSEN Miracle Gel in Buffalo Dip an angled eye-
Nickel, $10, Ulta liner brush with stiff
bristles into pure
acetone, and sweep
it along rough edges.

GOLD RUSH Make It Last


Apply two layers of
Ignite some magic by dabbing top coat: first to
MONSE

glitter lacquer near your cuticles. arted areas only to


prevent smudging,
So simple, so sparkly.
then over the entire
SMITH AND CULT Nailed nail surface a minute
Lacquer in Shattered Souls,
or so later.
$18, smithandcult.com

70 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ SEPTEMBER 2017


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BEAUTY
BRUSH UP

ONLY
Copper bristles:
tough on tangles but
flexible enough to
avoid breakage.
GOODY Clean Radiance

$10!
Paddle Brush, $7,
walmart.com

Budget-friendly buys
for a kick-ass fall
#TBT TIPS
BY ERIN STOVALL Paint on this shim-
mery shade and
party like it’s 1999.
ESSIE Nail Polish in
Dressed to the Nine-
GLOW CRAZY ties, $9, essie.com
This highlighter will
keep skin lit well past
Labor Day.
MILANI Strobelight
Instant Glow Powder
in Afterglow, $10,
milanicosmetics.com

FRIDAY NIGHT
MAGIC ERASER LASHES
The fastest fix for a Cool wand. Full
cat eye gone rogue: lashes. Can’t lose.
makeup-melting CATRICE Rock
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STRENGTHENS YOUR
CATEGORY
WRITER BRITTANY
ACTUALLY BE YOUR
BEST FRIEND.
YOUR PARTNER
YOU’VE HEARD.
Your BF,
Not Your
BFF
He’s

83
LOVE

WOULD YOU
KISS YOUR BEST
FRIEND
WITH THAT MUCH
TONGUE?

On the night before our wedding, I


snuck my fiancé, Jeremy, into a
corner of the restaurant where we
were holding our rehearsal dinner.
Champagne glasses in hand, I
sternly reminded him: “Please don’t
refer to me as your best friend in any
Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, or
toast over the next 24 hours…or
ever.” He laughed in agreement,
I know I’ll get hate for this And because our culture
interlocking my fingers in his. opinion, considering that increasingly holds up
I was, and still am, opposed to the 83 percent of American these relationships as ones
“I’m marrying my best friend!” BS. adults say their significant to aspire to, it doesn’t
Every time I see or hear that cliché, other is their BFF, accord- seem like this #Couple
ing to a 2017 Monmouth Goal is going anywhere
it takes serious restraint not to University poll. Some of anytime soon.
comment: Wait, did you erase your these couples could have Here’s why it should.
actual besties when you got a ring? actually started out as
I love Jeremy and I happily chose him pals before dating. But HE CAN’T
as my life partner, but being with it’s more likely that since BE YOUR
they have so much in com- ABSOLUTE #1
him doesn’t mean he’s replaced my mon and spend every Jeremy’s not my only
girls. It seems like so much to ask moment together, they’ve emotional rock—and I
of someone—be my lover and my started to refer to each think that’s why our rela-
other this way, says Cosmo tionship is as strong as it
closest confidant. Why can’t your contributor Ian Kerner, is. “To have your partner
guy just be your romantic partner PhD, a sex and couples be your sole resource for
and do it well? therapist in New York City. friendship, support, and

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LOVE
love is just too much for HE SHOULDN’T
any one person to possi- KNOW
bly fulfill,” says Isadora EVERYTHING
Alman, a relationship Speaking of not so sexy, tell-
therapist in Alameda, ing your S.O. every detail of
California. To me, it your existence can poten-
seems nearly impossible. tially backfire. “You want to
When I go through tough keep a relationship exciting
times, I want to know that and somewhat mysterious
I have my partner and in order to avoid letting too
my friends, family, and much comfort and familiar-
community at my back. ity set in,” says Kerner. “For
And I’ll always need other example, I un-Friended my
people—like my bestie, wife on Facebook because
Meghan, or my college I don’t need to know each
roommate, Melissa—to little thing about her life on
talk to and get advice social media.” MORNING
from when Jeremy and I Now, this is totally dif- PDA? THAT’S
SOMETHING
hit a snag. ferent than keeping secrets ONLY HE CAN
PROVIDE.
After all, what can from your partner, which is
you do if the boyfriend problematic and can drive
you’re royally pissed at is a wedge between you, says
also the only person you Kerner. You should have a
go to for help and sup- safe and secure base where place—with all its sur- By detaching your
port? With no outside buds you can feel free to talk prises—is exciting. Dating hips every so often and
to call, you’ll likely wind about important goings- a non-BFF who has differ- hanging with your respec-
up complaining to your on in your lives. But convos ent interests and hobbies tive best friends, he’ll have
guy about him, putting about the camping gear than you do can be simi- room to try new activities
him in an overwhelming he’s desperately coveting larly rewarding, says that he wouldn’t be into
(and, honestly, annoying) or the microdermabrasion Kerner. The trouble with and vice versa. Then when
position, says psychiatrist treatment you want to try? your partner sharing the you come back together,
John Jacobs, MD, author Yeah, not as vital to share. same social circle, friends, you’ll both be more inter-
of All You Need Is Love and schedule as you do is esting and interested in
and Other Lies About Mar- HE WON’T that you can start to lose each other. As Dr. Jacobs
riage. “Doing that puts ALWAYS BRING your individuality. And says, the most successful
an enormous amount THE NEW strong couples need to con- couples have a lot in com-
of pressure on your rela- Why does everyone you sist of two unique people mon,
tionship. And having to know want to travel who each bring their own but they also “strike a bal-
handle such a needy part- abroad? Because immers- special passions to the lives ance between spending
ner is not very sexy.” ing yourself in a foreign they share. time together and apart.” ■

Who Should You Tell First, Him or Your Girls?


You got a promotion at work. You sprained your ankle at A cute guy hit on you at the
HIM YOUR GIRLS Spinning class. supermarket.
It’s okay to tell your friends first HIM YOUR GIRLS HIM YOUR GIRLS

and plan drinks—they’ve been cheering Shoot an SOS text to your BF Revel in the resulting ego boost
you on for years. But, says Frieda as soon as you can, before you broad- with your besties—but there’s no need
Birnbaum, PhD, a research psychologist cast the whole play-by-play on your Insta to notify your guy and cause
who studies women and relationships, Story. “A core tenet of a good relation- unnecessary drama. “Most likely,
“money is a major issue, so tell ship is helping each other, so if you get you’re going to make your partner
your partner soon after, especially injured, you need to share that with jealous, which shouldn’t be the
if you share finances.” him,” advises Birnbaum. goal,” says Birnbaum.

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FORGET
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IT’S DATE to a date can be a challenge, to say the


least. That’s because you’re moving
between two radically different mind-

NIGHT!
sets. At your job, you’re thinking in a way
that prioritizes goals, productivity,
structure, and organization. On a date,
ROUGH DAY ON THE JOB, BUT YOU you’re prioritizing relatedness, play,
HAVE PLANS TO MEET SOMEONE NEW? imagination, and surprise.
TRANSITION TO A MORE ROMANTIC If you don’t take a moment to pause
HEADSPACE WITH THESE STEPS. and reset in between these two
situations, it can be easy to get stuck in
checklist mode, treating your date the
same as you do your to-do list.
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LOVE ite podcast as you drive
or reading a juicy book on
the train (instead of just
absentmindedly scrolling LOVE screen, waiting for phan-
You’ll show up with your through Instagram). Giving QUIZ tom alerts or messages
evaluation chart and ana- your brain a hit of amuse- to pop up. Instead, com-
lyze the person’s looks,
profession, college degree,
ment will help create some
downtime between the
Is Your pletely hide your cell in
your bag, where it’s truly
family background, etc., demanding scene you just
Job a Third out of sight and out of
and determine if they fulfill left and the romantic place Wheel? mind. You’ll be much more
your expectations. That’s where you’re heading. 1 present and attentive to
not going to be a good date the person you’re with.
During a first date,
for either of you. As tempt-
ing as it may be, you simply
LUXURIATE do you go to the
That makes for a better
night for both of you
can’t apply office efficiency IN THE PREP restroom more than
twice—mostly just
(and it’s also just good
to the ways of the heart. You may not realize it, date manners!).
so you can check
Instead, meeting some- but the rituals of getting your phone and
one should be a discovery—
of yourself, the person, and
dressed up or putting
on makeup (even if it’s
reply to e-mails? AVOID SHOP
the encounter. You want just feverishly swiping
Yes No
TALK
to arrive feeling curious, on some lipstick) for your 2 Even if a date is going well,
emotionally open, and in night ahead are crucial it can be natural for your
an experiential mode. This to bridging the stress-to- Would you follow thoughts to drift back to
way, you and your date will fun transition. Getting
up a story about his that bothersome comment
mom’s garden
have much better odds of date-ready is a nurtur- with complaints your boss made to you just
having a great time, and ing process for you, and that your boss as you were heading out
you’ll be able to tell if this is the mere act of putting makes you water the door...and make you
really someone with whom on heels or changing her office plants? want to talk about it—
you might have a future. your hairstyle puts you Yes No right now. Rather than fill
Here’s how you can make in a mood to seduce the flirty air with a dull
the mental switch. and attract. (French- 3 discussion of the reports
women, in particular, have you’re responsible for or
Is your convo
WASH AWAY understood the pleasure
and value of these expe-
sounding more job
interview than
the cranky customers you
wait on every day, make a
TENSION riences for generations.) “can I imagine him point of shifting the focus
Avoid heading straight Such physical switch-ups as my boyfriend”? onto your suitor instead.
from your desk to the bar. also send a subtle signal Yes No Ask him or her an interest-
If you can, make a stop to your mind that you’re ing question, like his most
at home first so you can about to enter into a new IF YOU ANSWERED YES embarrassing moment or
take a quick shower. It will phase of your day. TO TWO OR MORE, how she thinks her most
allow you a moment of self- you’ve got a romance- recent ex would describe
care, which can help you
relax and ease into a very
BURY THE crasher on your
hands. Be honest with
her (the response to this
question is always telling!).
different mentality. You’re DRAMA your date and
apologize up front that Listening to the
literally washing away the Tech tension is real. When your work woes are answers will force your
stress of the past several your phone is out and vis- going to have a heavy brain back into the pres-
hours so you can emerge ible—even if it’s just peek- presence—they’ll ent, resulting in a more
prefer that over your
feeling happier, refreshed, ing out of the top of your engaging, fertile conversa-
tuning them out.
and more open to having purse—you’re liable to be tion...and hopefully, more
a good time. distracted. The problem IF YOU ANSWERED NO than a few laughs. You’ll be
No way you can swing by you tried solving with your TO TWO OR MORE, able to relax, learn more
your house or apartment? coworker will keep replay- there’s clearly no room about who’s sitting across
At least do something ing in your head, causing for your 9-to-5 to butt from you (as opposed to
en route to the date that you to steal glances at the in here. Keep it up— just what you both do for a
and make sure your
hits the pause button and date gives you the living), and have a better
makes you feel good. Maybe same courtesy. You chance at making a strong,
it’s listening to your favor- deserve it! passionate connection. ■

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ADVICE FROM
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GURU, LOGAN
Q/ M Y B F B RO K E
UP WITH ME ON MY
B I R T H DAY, A N D I
WA S C O M P L E T E LY
D E VA S TAT E D . NOW,
W E E K S L AT E R ,
H E ’ S B E G G I NG M E
HILL T O TA K E H I M
Q/ After how many a few dates with B AC K . S H O U L D I didn’t care that he
dates with a dude this guy, you’ve met GIVE HIM ONE was ruining your
do I need to tell him his friends, and M O R E C H A NC E ? special once-a-year
that I’m still seeing things seem to be moment (which you
other people? heading in a direc- A This might be the may now forever
A All the single guys I to DTR” or “Um, will tion that borders on most definitive associate with this
know who are dating you, like…be my serious, then it may answer I’ve given: breakup), and that
assume that if they girlfriend?” So until be a good time to No effing way. Any means he doesn’t
S I M O N B U R S TA L L / T R U N K A R C H I V E .

haven’t yet had “the one of you utters give him a heads-up. dude who chooses truly care enough
talk” with a girl, then some version of these Otherwise, abide by to dump you on your about you or your
they’re not exclusive. magic words, you’re this golden rule: b-day—rather than, happiness. My
Typically, this convo in the clear. Also, When would you at the very least, advice? Blow out the
will sound some- it might help to ask want the person doing so a few days burning candles of
thing like: “Want to yourself what feels you’re dating to tell before or after—is his hope, wish for a
make it official?” or right to you. If you’ve you? Give him the seriously cold. His much better man,
“I think we’re ready been on more than same courtesy. timing proves he and move on.

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Q/ WHY DO GUYS Before you judge Q/ After our first
FIND IT SO SEXY us for being so date, this guy told
base, consider me he’s only ready
T O WAT C H T WO
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pleasure. And for followed by gay
some men, male. Of course, being friends. When
watching girl-on- the site doesn’t a guy tells you what
girl action is, simply stop there; it he wants and how he
simply put, fantasy shows a whole lot sees you, believe him.
math. The typical more than two We don’t usually lie
guy will get twice women or men just about that stuff. And
as aroused by kissing. But I say sure, some dudes just Q/ M Y F I A NC É G O T D R U N K
twice as many girls that we should take don’t want to get O N E N I G H T A N D T O L D M E T H AT H E
doing something this as more involved with a single D I D N’ T L OV E M E A N Y M O R E . H E NOW
sexual, like kissing. evidence of just parent, as unfair as C L A I M S I T WA S T H E B O O Z E A N D
He can get turned how hot these that may be. But there C O L D F E E T TA L K I NG . B U T D O YO U
on just thinking make-outs can are so many other T H I N K H E WA S T E L L I NG T H E T R U T H ?
about it...so to be—for any gender men out there—and a
witness it in person that happens to be lot of them will want A Hmmm...it’s hard to say how serious this
is even hotter. watching. you, kids and all. is. Several tequilas in, he may have blurted
out the truth—or this may be a very
exaggerated version of those cold feet.
Either way, don’t let him blame it on the
alcohol and brush you off. Force him to
DOUBLE talk. Say, “We’re getting married and it
THE BUMS—
AND FUN?
won’t always be perfect. We need to be able
to talk about tough stuff that comes up if
we’re going to make it. What you said hurt
me deeply, and I need to know what you’re
feeling. So tell me: What’s really going on?”

Q/ I eat at the same a little something


restaurant all the extra when you’re
time, and there’s paying the bill—a
one cute waiter who note with your name,
constantly checks
number, and the
in on me, even
when he doesn’t words: “Here’s
have to. How should another tip. Call me.”
I ask him out? Very few guys would
not be into that.
A Next time he asks,
“Can I bring you any-
thing else?” Say, “Yes.
Hill is a
Your phone number.” contributing writer
If you’re not quite for Cosmopolitan
and Cosmopolitan
that bold, leave him .com.

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THE
MALE BRAIN
EXPLAINED
all about
“Beer for sure,
’cause I can get
drunk off whiskey, “If you get rid of
tequila, vodka, either, you lose the
“OMFG. 110%
and wine. BJs are potential of getting
beer. Because I
one of a kind.” shower head while
could definitely
drinking a shower
not give up BJs. —STEFAN M., 21
beer. Which is the
Those were sent
dream.”
from heaven.”
Bl
—JACKSON B., 21
—GREG H., 25
ow
r
B ee Jo
bs

“Well, hmm…
one is a decently “Beer is about
tasting (at just me, and BJs
best) carbonated involve someone
alcoholic bever-
age. The other WOULD HE else. They’re nice,
but they include
is a BJ! Please
don’t ever ask RATHER… some baggage,
even if you don’t
that again.”
—JESSE B., 23 GIVE UP BEER realize it at first.”
—RICHARD H., 21

OR BJ’S?

WILL YOUR LOVE LAST?


Dating expert Matthew Hussey’s four moves to make passion more permanent

Flatter With a Stick to Real Dates Flaunt Your Dial Him Up


Purpose He texts: “Want to Enthusiasm Yes, I mean actually
It’s no secret that watch a movie at my It can be over use the phone…to
men respond to place tonight?” Your something small— talk. Next time you’re
praise. Wrap a future reply: “I’d love to, a great meal, a new walking home from
date request in a but I prefer to get out place, the coffee work, call and ask
compliment. As in, into the world with you’re looking how his day is going.
“I love how curious someone before the forward to—or much A quick, 5- to 10-
you are. I bet you’d stay-home snuggle. deeper. When you minute chat is fine.
be so much fun to Keeps things talk about things you This simple act shows
go to a museum interesting.” In the love (and ask him real confidence and
with.…” Now, you’ve first 14 days, about his passions separates you from
made him feel good, he’ll have to leave too), it makes him the conversation-
and he’ll want to live his apartment to feel much more phobic crowd that
up to your bet. see you. connected to you. lives on Snapchat.

FOR MORE PRACTICAL TIPS ON HOW TO LOCK DOWN HIS LOVE, DOWNLOAD
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men WWMBD:
HELP ME, DUDE!
As writer Julian
Stern explains, guys
are the same amount
of clueless, so they
compare their thoughts.
“Hopefully, we’ll figure
it out, but if not, we’re
in it together.”

WHY GUYS LIE


WHAT
WOULD MY
BRO DO?

ON DATING-APP
PROFILES
At last, an explanation for
this pathetic ploy
His bio said he’s 6'3"…but in person
he needed a booster seat. Dating
app Hinge recently coined such
fibbing to make yourself seem more
attractive as kittenfishing—not to
be confused with catfishing
(assuming a whole new identity).
Here, digital-age intimacy and
relationships expert Robert Weiss
breaks down the reasons a man
might try to dupe you.
IF HE KIT TENFISHED YOU (1) He has
low self-esteem and hoped that
once you met him, you wouldn’t
notice the traits he tried to hide.
(2) He just wants to bone. He
WHO HE TAPS FOR LOVE ADVICE
figured you might choose to ignore When men need help in the hookup department,
his white lie and take him home. it’s a little like the blind leading the blind.…
(3) He thought that if you fell for him
online first, his stretch of the truth
wouldn’t matter after so much time.
IF HE CATFISHED YOU (1) He tried to
gain your trust so he could use or
manipulate you for his own needs.
(2) He wanted to cheat on his
current S.O. without getting caught.
(3) He presented himself however he
48% 34% 20% 13%
B E E R : C H A R L E S M A S T E R S . H U S S E Y: M A R L E Y K AT E . A L L O T H E R S : G E T T Y I M AG E S .

wanted to lure in an online-only GF.


ASK THEIR ASK THEIR ASK THEIR ASK AN EX
GUY FRIENDS FEMALE COWORKERS SOURCE: SINGLES IN
AMERICA 2017
FRIENDS

47
FUNNY.
YOU LOOKED
BIGGER IN
YOUR PROFILE
PIC.

P E R C E N TAG E O F M E N W H O
A DMIT TO SENDING A DICK PIC.
A N D O F T H E 5 3% O F WO M E N
W H O H AV E R E C E I V E D
O N E ? 49 % O F ’ E M D I D N ’ T
E V E N R E Q U E S T I T.
SOURCE: MATCH.COM SINGLES IN AMERICA 2017 SURVEY

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BODY
She went from that fit Aussie on
your feed to one of the most influen-
tial trainers in the world. Now Kayla
Itsines—whose Bikini Body Guide
(BBG) community favors strength A B
over perfection—has launched BBG
Stronger, a program of quick circuits,
found in the Sweat app, which was
created by her man, Tobi Pearce.

2
She built this exclusive, total-body, SNAP JUMP on the balls of your feet [B].
seven-minute workout just for Start from standing, • Jump feet in toward your
Cosmo. And it’s customizable for all feet slightly wider than hands, keeping feet shoulder

levels. “For beginners who’ve never


shoulder-width apart. width apart. That’s 1 rep.
Bend at hips and knees Do 20 total.
trained before, those first seven into a crouch, placing hands on
minutes are special,” says Kayla. the floor right in front of feet [A].
• Kick both feet backward to
PRO TIP “Engage your core! It
should be going in and out, kind
“They make you feel like, ‘Okay, I can extend legs behind you, resting of like an accordion.”
do this.’” Preach.

M A STE R THE SE MOV E S


Set your timer for seven minutes, and
aim to complete the circuit as
many times as you can before the
timer goes off. Then, if you’re up for it,
do seven more minutes. Repeat
until you get to 28 minutes (is that a
developing six-pack we see?).

1
REVERSE LUNGE
+ KNEE LIFT
Start from standing,
feet slightly wider than
shoulder-width apart.
Take a big step backward with
left foot, bending both knees
approximately 90 degrees. Your
front knee should be over your
ankle and your back knee should
hover just off the floor [A].
A B
• Straighten to standing,
shifting your weight completely KAYLA SAYS
to right leg and bringing left When you’re feeling unmo-
knee up to your chest [B]. tivated, ask yourself
• Release left leg, bringing it
why. Have you eaten?
down and back into reverse
Are you tired? Do you
lunge. Alternate 12 reps per side,
need water? If you actually
for a total of 24 reps each.
break down the ‘why’—
and take care of it—you’ll
find yourself pushing
through more often.”

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BODY

3
X MOUNTAIN toward left elbow [B], then
CLIMBER return to start. That’s 1 rep.
Start with both Alternate sides for 40 total.
hands on the floor
beneath your shoul- PRO TIP “Challenge yourself
ders, legs straight behind you, by gradually increasing speed.
resting on the balls of your feet. Keep good form—your moving
• Keeping right foot on the leg shouldn’t drag on the floor.”
floor, bring left knee into your
chest toward right elbow [A],
then return to starting position.
• Keeping your left foot on the
floor, bring right knee into chest

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KAYLA SAYS
I want to change women’s focus from ‘I want to
look like this,’ to ‘I want to feel like this.’”

4
SIDE-TO-SIDE
CRUNCH
Start flat on your back,
knees bent, right
foot on floor. Rest your A
left ankle below right knee.
• Place your hands behind your
ears and slowly lift your head
and shoulder blades off floor.
Twist torso to the right so that
right elbow touches the floor [A].
• Twist torso to the left to bring
right elbow across your body to
left knee, keeping knee still [B]. worldwildlife.org/together
• Slowly release torso back to
the right, and repeat for
12 reps. Then switch legs and B
do 12 on the other side.

PRO TIP “Don’t lead with


your head—it will make your
neck hurt! Instead, engage
your entire body.”

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THE PROBLEM THE PROBLEM

PAINFUL PMS KILLER


THE FIXES
FLAXSEED
HEADACHES
Two ground tablespoons THE FIXES
daily in your morning PICKLE JUICE
smoothie or cereal Prevent a hangover
can reduce inflammation headache by sipping
(thanks, omega-3 ¼ cup of this Polish folk
fatty acids), a common remedy before bed.
cause of cramping. Its super-high electro-
lyte count can help stop
SALMON the skull pounding.
This cold-water fish
is another anti-inflam- WATERMELON
matory star. One serving Dehydration is a huge
three times a week trigger for head pain,
can even relieve breast and this H2O-rich snack
tenderness. can provide sweet relief.

EGGS DARK LEAFY GREENS


Crack open a few for Yet another reason to
breakfast regularly, yolk chow down on Swiss
and all. They’re a great chard and spinach:
source of vitamins D, Studies show their mag-
B6, and E, which help nesium content reduces
ease symptoms of PMS. migraine frequency.

THE PROBLEM THE PROBLEM

BELLY BLOAT CHRONIC


THE FIXES
PARSLEY
LOW ENERGY
Chop and toss this herb THE FIXES
on a salad or in soup to QUINOA
help deflate your belly— Iron is a must for
it’s great for preventing revving your energy
water retention. levels. One cup, cooked,

12 Easy
packs 15 percent of
PAPAYA the daily recommended
It contains papain, an
18 milligrams.
enzyme that breaks
COCONUT OIL

Food Fixes
down gut-clogging
foods. One cup, raw and Blend a dollop into
cubed, should get your your coffee. The oil’s
bowels back on track. fatty acids slow your
body’s absorption of
WHOLE GRAINS caffeine, which helps
Slowly add this fiber to
your diet to keep your
It’s no news flash that some grub can make you feel… extend your buzz.
GI system running (too ugh (hate you, post-brunch carb crash). But Mehmet CHERRY JUICE
much at once will Oz, MD, America’s beloved TV doc—and btw, heart Sip a shot with dinner.
worsen bloat). Add 5 surgeon—believes that the flip side is also true: The The fruit’s natural
grams per week (about right eats can be secret weapons for curing all kinds of melatonin (which
one slice of sprouted- regulates sleep) will kick
health issues. “Food should always be your first step,” in by bedtime for a
grain bread) until you hit
25 grams per day.
he says. “It has the positive impact of medications, better night’s rest.
without the side effects.” Check out his healing snack
prescriptions for common woes.
A R T+ C O M M E R C E .

BY HELEN ZOOK

D R . O Z ’ S N E W B O O K , F O O D C A N F I X I T, I S AVA I L A B L E F O R P R E - O R D E R AT B O O K S E L L E R S .

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CANCER SCARE ● PEE PROBLEM ● NIPPLE BUMPS

DID THE
#1 STI JUST GET
DEADLIER?
We unpack troubling new stats about a
dangerous—but preventable—disease.
BY K RIS SY B R A DY

MAYBE YOU SAW the doomsday


headlines: Fatality rates for
cervical cancer are twice as high
as previously estimated. Black
women are now 76 percent more
likely to die of it, and women
from other racial groups have
more than 45 percent higher
odds. Meanwhile, diagnoses of
precancerous cervical lesions—
i.e., abnormal cells that can lead
to cancer—among women ages
21 to 25 are up nearly 10
percent. What?! How did this
barely-talked-about condition
become such a killer overnight?
The truth: It hasn’t—not
really. It turns out that old
fatality studies were based on
flawed data, and while these
new stats sound way scary, they
still reflect a relatively small
GET T Y IMAGES (2)

number of people (cervical


cancer kills 10 in 100,000 black
women every year and nearly 5
in 100,000 white women).
LESBIANS
Meanwhile, more young women Since HPV is transmitted

25
are being diagnosed because,
ARE primarily through skin-to-skin
under the Affordable Care Act, contact, you can lower your risk
testing became more accessible. by always using condoms.
The earlier it’s caught, the
better: Cervical cancer is Consider the Vaccine
seldom deadly if precancerous The HPV vaccine protects
cells are ID’d during a Pap against the virus strains that
smear and treated. In fact,
PERCENT
cause 90 percent of cervical URINE
screenings and vaccinations,
which can prevent 93 percent of LESS LIKELY
cancers, says Tina Raine-
Bennett, MD, an ob-gyn at TROUBLE
all cases, have made the disease Kaiser Permanente in Oakland, If your leggings get a little,
relatively rare in America (about THAN California. Yet almost 40 uh, moist during your
workout—and it’s not just
13,000 full-blown cases each STRAIGHT OR percent of women under age 26
sweat—you may have
year versus 250,000 breast- are going without it (most
cancer diagnoses). BI WOMEN insurers don’t cover the shots
stress urinary incontinence
(SUI). Even if you’ve never
So: sigh of relief. But you still TO GET for women older than 26). Some pushed a human out of
can’t let your guard all the way understandably fear side your vagina, frequently
down. Black women remain at REGULAR effects. But experts say the straining to poop or even
sucking in your stomach
higher risk, which researchers PAP SMEARS, most commonly reported ones
can lead to leakage, says
attribute to poorer access are soreness or swelling at the
to health care. And all sexually POSSIBLY injection site. Of the 90 million
Evelyn Hecht, president
of EMH Physical Therapy,
active women should stay BECAUSE HPV vaccines administered in in New York City. So can
vigilant, since cervical cancer is the U.S. in the last decade, only loads of exercise. In one
virtually always caused by DOCS INSIST 0.003 percent have resulted in study, up to 80 percent of
human papillomavirus (HPV)— ON PAPS more adverse reactions. athletes who’ve never
given birth had SUI while
the most common STI in the
U.S. (An estimated 79 million BEFORE Get Tested playing high-impact
sports. Luckily, you can
Americans are currently PRESCRIBING More than 50 percent of new retrain your body to hold it
infected.) Here, your action cases strike women who’ve in. In addition to kegels
plan for staying safe. BIRTH never or rarely been tested. But (squeezing your down-
CONTROL— since cervical cancer grows there muscles), Hecht
Use Condoms slowly, regular Pap smears can recommends squats,
Of the 150 or so different WHICH catch it early, when the lesions
bridges (lie on your back
with knees bent and feet
strains of HPV, around 15 are LESBIANS can be easily removed. Women flat, raise and lower your
linked to cervical cancer, says should get a Pap every three
Mario Pineda, MD, a gynecologic MAY NOT years in their 20s and every
hips), and hip adductors
(place a soft, medium-size
oncologist at Northwestern NEED. three to five years after age 30 ball between your knees
Memorial Hospital in Chicago. SOURCE: RICE (along with an HPV test, and squeeze knees
UNIVERSITY, 2017
One report found that 20 percent another swab screening that together). At least 2 sets of
10 reps of each exercise
of women and 25 percent of men aids in early detection), unless
three times a week should
ages 18 to 59 are currently your doc says otherwise, keep your Spandex dry.
infected with high-risk types. according to Dr. Pineda. ■ —HELEN ZOOK

Ask I have bumps on my areolae. Is that normal?


Dr. That depends on what you mean by bumps. Your areolae have glands
underneath them, which can produce soft, raised nodules known as
Ashton Morgagni tubercles around the edges of the nipple. Those are totally normal.
But an isolated bump on your nipple could be a pimple or blocked hair
follicle, both of which are a type of infection. Ask yourself: Is the bump new?
Is it red or painful? If the answer is yes, you should get it checked out.
SOURCE: JENNIFER ASHTON, MD, OB-GYN AND ABC NEWS CHIEF WOMEN’S HEALTH CORRESPONDENT

SEPTEMBER 2017 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ 109


#MindBodyGoals
Yoga influencer
Jessamyn Stanley
believes anyone can be
flexible. “We’re all born
that way—but our
daily habits [hunching
over computers,
lugging heavy hand-
bags] create tightness
in our bodies,”
she explains. “Yoga is
about tapping in to
what’s already there.”
For Jessamyn,
author of Every Body
Yoga, the practice
is also about becoming
mentally limber:
“Flexibility of mind and
spirit can be even
more important than

P U B L I S H I N G ) . C O P Y R I G H T © 2 0 1 7. P H O T O G R A P H S B Y C H R I S T I N E H E W I T T .
E XC E R P T E D F R O M E V E RY B O DY YO G A , BY J E S S A M Y N S TA N L E Y ( WO R K M A N
physical flexibility.”
Here, she breaks
down her fave poses
for fostering strength,
peace, and confidence.
BY A N D RE A S TA N LE Y

“THIS POSE
HELPS CREATE
A MIND-SET OF
‘I AM FREE AND

Dancer Pose
STRONG AND
POWERFUL,’”
SAYS JESSAMYN.

“To really feel the flex—and to


strengthen your lower back and
hamstrings—push your body
forward, twisting your midsection
while you kick back your foot.”

GET IN POSITION

• Place your right hand on your


hip for balance, and bend left knee
Tree Pose GET IN POSITION

up and back, clasping your left foot “As you root through your • Bring the sole of your right foot
with your left hand and lifting thigh. standing foot, you may feel like to your left ankle, mid-shin, or
you’re wobbling—and that’s upper thigh. Actively press your
• Keep squaring your hips forward good, because you’re accepting right foot and left leg into
and lifting your left thigh, flexing that wobbling is a part of each other to maintain balance.
your foot into your hand. Sweep life. That’s mental flexibility.”
your right arm forward and up. • Place palms together in front
of your heart, with eyes closed
• Push your standing thigh back, or gazing forward. Take a
and soften your chest forward. Stay few breaths, then switch sides.
for a few breaths, then switch sides.

110
Wheel Pose
BODY
“This move engages every
part of your body. It could
take days, months, or even
years to perfect. Go slowly,
and don’t obsess over it.” Monkey Pose
GET IN POSITION “Our hips trap our fears, so
• Lie on your back, feet on when you open them up, it
ground, knees pointing up. gives your body the opportunity
Place palms flat on the to release emotions. As your
ground next to your head, hips and hamstrings slowly
thumbs next to ears, relax (this may take some
and wrists facing back. time!), it’s really beautiful.”

• Press into your feet and GET IN POSITION


hands, lifting the back
of your head off the ground. • Kneel on your left knee, arms
at sides with hands on floor,
• Rest the top of your head right leg forward, heel on floor.
on the ground for balance
as you continue pushing into • Wiggle right leg forward
feet and hands, using your until your thigh lowers to
core, thighs, and shoulders ground, keeping leg straight.
to lift you into the wheel. • Curl your left toes under, lift
knee, and slide your foot back
as far as possible. Shimmy
slowly until your pelvis lowers to
floor. Take a few breaths.
• Flex right toes, square your
hips, and press left toes into
ground. Place fingers on ground
or sweep arms up. Take a few
breaths, then switch sides.

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An It brow? That’s like having an It
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arch is the one that looks good on
you—and this can certainly change
from day to day. Luckily, the beauty
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there are countless new products
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arch using a stiff brush dipped in a
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guts for. Everything looks better
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thing feels better (self­assuredness
makes a home where self­doubt once
nested). But badass comes at a price—
in the form of gentle co­washes,
intensely hydrating conditioners to
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Rosy Future
Brian Underwood,
Beauty Director,
O, The Oprah Magazine
Why pink? For one thing, it’s the color
of extravagant good health. Nothing
says youthfulness and abundant energy
like a rosy flush. But blush isn’t the only
way to play with pink. From cotton-
candy bright to the palest salmon, a pop
of pink lip color can transform any look.
Pair a bold, traditional smoky eye with
a delicate, matte mauve; a neutral eye
with a vivid Popsicle cherry. Or if you
are blessed with beautiful skin (or have
worked hard for it), just swipe on
a blackest black mascara, and finish
off with a raspberry lip.
The most daring way to wear pink:
as a bold eye shadow. (Although, if you
have very pale skin, this is probably
not your best choice—rabbity is not a
good look. But all other complexions,
rejoice!) Create a modern smoky eye
with a bright watermelon or dusty rose
on the lids, sheering it up as you move
toward the brow bone. I like to think of
pink as the prettiest and most versatile
neutral, the one most likely to give you
the rosiest outlook.

+ Think pink with LANCÔME Ombre


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Soft Wear
April Long,
Executive Beauty & Fitness Editor, ELLE
While there’s something to be said for a
polished, dressed-up red or a hint-of-
tint nude, when it comes to outright
cool, nothing rivals a slightly smudgy,
merlot-hued lip. The shade suggests its
wearer is likely a woman of appetites—
for berries, for wine, for kissing—and
the soft-focus application implies she
may have recently been partaking in
any or all these passions with aban-
don. This look can be worn as a subtle
stain or a bold daub of color—I lay the
lipstick on thick, then tamp it down
with tissue until I get just the right level
of hazy imprecision. Then? I leave it
alone, because to overthink it or try
to correct any stray smears would be
to miss the point: This is a mouth that
says, “I choose to live deliciously.
Want to join me?”

+ For the best blur, McCulloch


recommends smudging with your
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Glow Getter
Erin Flaherty,
Beauty & Health Director,
Marie Claire
“Kontouring”? So last year. This fall,
the masses formerly mesmerized
by YouTube tutorials are moving
on to greener pastures where the
aesthetic is more milkmaid fresh
than reality star. Consider a world
where kombucha is the new cham-
pagne, and personally, it’s no surprise
that we all want to look like we just
came from hot yoga. Of course, as a
Bikram devotee, I can assure you that
effortlessly dewy is not quite how I
can describe my complexion after
spending 90 minutes sweating in a
108-degree room. Luckily, high-tech
new makeup and skin-care products
have been designed to keep “you,
but better” in mind. To achieve that
glow—which, let’s face it, makes you
look younger and healthier and there-
fore sexier—routine exfoliation is key,
as is an arsenal of brightening serums
and light-reflecting makeup that
behaves like second skin, no punish-
ing fitness regimen required.

+ Protect and serve skin with JOSH


ROSEBROOK Nutrient Day Cream
SPF 30 ($85). Dress: Reiss.
BEST IN GLOW L’ORÉAL PARIS Infallible Pro-Glow Concealer ($9.99) hides imperfections and illuminates tired
eyes, while Infallible Pro-Glow Powder ($12.99) provides coverage without dulling shine. MAYBELLINE NEW YORK
Fit Me! Loose Finishing Powder ($7.99) offers an airbrushed, barely there look, while the innovative Brow Drama
Shaping Chalk Powder ($9.99) can be layered to take arches from mellow all the way to major. YSL Touche Éclat
Neutralizers ($38) put a color-correcting spin on the cult classic. VICHY Minéral 89 ($29.50) boosts moisture
with French thermal water. L’ORÉAL PARIS Revitalift Bright Reveal Brightening Peel Pads ($19.99) gently resurface
skin with glycolic acid, as Revitalift Bright Reveal Brightening Moisturizer with SPF 30 ($19.99) balances
uneven skin tone. SKIN INC Regenerate Vitamin A Serum ($45) banishes dullness, and SKIN DESIGN LONDON
Designer Balm ($90) is a retinol peel that adds radiance minus the downtime.
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Light Show
Leah Wyar Romito,
Chief Beauty Director, Hearst
Back in ’97, my college friends and
I pored over the pages of Kevyn
Aucoin’s Making Faces between psych
lectures and flip-cup tournaments.
The preeminent makeup artist’s 160-
page dissection of the face plus easy-
to-follow tips gave anyone—novice or
zealot, utilitarian or dreamer, sorority
sister or fraternity brother—the power
to transform...or just simply tweak.
One of my favorite images is of model
Adia Caulibaly. Every millimeter of
her already luminous face is dusted
with gold glitter. (Ditto her hair, ears,
neck, and skinny black tank strap.)
Pure fantasy (save for our annual
Space Odyssey party), the image is
balanced with Kevyn’s IRL tip on the
adjacent page: Spotlight cheeks or
brows with a highlighting stick for a
luminous, shapely lift.
continued > > >
Twenty years later, we’re manic for
metallics again—and in the same all-
or-almost-nothing kind of way. On one
end of the spectrum: all-lit everything
(from smearing your part with glitter
to going full-on Adia). On the other:
shimmer sticks and lotions that make
basic contouring a breeze (slide them
along the ridges of your cheeks to reveal
sharp angles sans bronzer). Or meet in
the middle by swiping lips or lids with
liquid metal pigments. As the master
said, “It’s up to you to decide which
effect you want to achieve.”

+Hug your crease (or just your lash line)


with the budge-proof MAKE UP FOR
EVER Aqua Matic Waterproof Glide-
On Eye Shadow in D-12 ($22). Previous
page, Trenchcoat: Boss. This page,
Dress: Jason Wu. Earrings: Jade Trau.
BRILLIANT! Shine a light
with YSL Touche Éclat Blur
Primer ($52), COVER FX
Custom Enhancer Drops
($42), and LANCÔME Click
and Glow Highlighter ($23).
Give cheeks the Midas
touch using MAYBELLINE
NEW YORK Master Chrome
Metallic Highlighter ($9.99)
and CHARLOTTE TILBURY
Bar of Gold ($42). Strobe in
a stroke with BEAUTY BY
BRENT B3 Spot Light
Shimmer Stick in 60 Watts
($12.50). Foil lips and lids
with MAYBELLINE NEW
YORK Color Sensational
Matte Metallics Lipsticks in
Copper Spark, Molten
Bronze, Copper Rose, and
Smoked Silver ($7.49 each),
L’ORÉAL PARIS Infallible
Paints Metallic Lip Color in
Moon Lust ($9.99), and
MAYBELLINE NEW YORK
Master Precise Ink in Stellar
Sand ($8.99). And don’t
forget hair: L’ORÉAL PARIS
Féria Fashion Metallics in
Rose Gold ($9.99).

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C H I L L I N’

A T Photographed by
ELLEN VON
UNWERTH
Style Director
JAMES
WORTHINGTON
DEMOLET

M I L E Y’S

TOP, Johanna Ortiz.


SHORTS, Wildfox.
HAT, BELLY RING,

H O U S E
Miley’s own. SHOES,
Susi Studio. STAR
NECKLACE, EARRINGS,
Selim Mouzannar.
INITIAL NECKLACE,
RING (left hand),
Miley’s own, worn
throughout.
BRACELET, Annina
Vogel. RINGS (right
hand), Shay
Full name:

The three words that best describe my


upcoming album:

but when MILEY CYRUS


needs a reset, she decamps to A weird thing that happened during the
songwriting process:
her childhood home just out-
side Nashville. On a brief break
between performances and
finishing her new album, the
24-year-old invited Cosmo over
for a glimpse inside the place
that helped shape the megastar.
She gave us an all-access
The hardest part about recording it:
pass to the family farm (her mom
and dad—Tish and Billy Ray—
were also hanging out), her
girly, bubblegum-pink bedroom,
even her tween-age diary.
Read on to find out what the out-
spoken activist and current
judge on The Voice has to say My saddest moment in the last year was:

about life, love, and marriage…in


her own uncensored words.

But my happiest moment was:


GET T Y IMAGES. GET T Y IMAGES (3).
OPENER BACKGROUND IMAGE:

One thing in my old room that I’ll never get rid of:

134
Miley’s mom, Tish,
converted her shoe
closet into a cozy
room for little Miley.
Tish spent hours
tissue-papering and
painting the walls—
Miley’s friends (and
fam!) then wrote
all over it! To find
out what’s inside
Miley’s diary, go to
Cosmopolitan
.com/MileyCyrus.

BRA, BRIEFS, Jeremy


Scott. SHOES,
Beyond Skin. STAR
NECKLACE, EARRINGS,
Selim Mouzannar
You can take the
girl out of
Nashville, but you
can’t take the
Nashville out of the
girl. Give Miley a
hat and boots and
she’s ready to
rock. She says she
loves it that people
dress up as
her for Halloween.

136
Miley says
nobody makes her
laugh harder than
her dad does.
And the first person
she calls when
she’s on the verge
of a breakdown?
“My mama.”

LEFT: TOP AND SHORTS,


House of Holland.
HAT, EAR CUFFS, Miley’s
own. EARRINGS, STAR
NECKLACE, Selim
Mouzannar. TOP
RIGHT: BODYSUIT,
Gooseberry. SHORTS,
Levi’s. EARRINGS,
BRACELET, RINGS,
Selim Mouzannar.
BOTTOM RIGHT: DRESS,
Zimmerman.
NECKLACE, EARRINGS,
BRACELET, RINGS,
Selim Mouzannar

137
The weirdest thing in my childhood home: Eff/marry/kill—The Voice coaches:

The best part about having Dolly Parton


as my godmother:
ADAM LEVINE JENNIFER HUDSON BLAKE SHELTON

If I were auditioning on The Voice, I’d pick

as my coach because:

My biggest source of anxiety:


WITH ALICIA
KEYS

What I do to de-stress:
My pre-show pump-up ritual:

The last website I visited:


One thing I've learned about marriage from
my parents:

My mother hates it when I:

The best meal I’ve had in the past year:

My favorite look from a red


carpet in my career thus far:

My least favorite look:

My go-to beauty hack:

138
Score roll-in-the-
hay hair with
Kevin Murphy
Bedroom Hair, $29.
It’s a lightweight
spray that adds
shine (thanks to
sunflower-seed
extracts) and gives
crazy-sexy texture.

BRA, BRIEFS,
Alessandra Rich.
HEART NECKLACE, Shay.
EARRINGS, Selim
Mouzannar. BRACELET
(top), Alison Lou.
BRACELET (bottom),
Louis Vuitton. RINGS,
Daniela Villegas

139
Located on 500 acres
of land, the Cyrus
farmhouse is special
to the family. Dad
Billy Ray had
it blessed. Here,
Miley runs around
with her sister
Noah’s dog, Leo—
back home in L.A.,
she has seven
pups of her own.

DRESS, Topshop
Bride. NECKLACE,
EARRINGS, BRACELET,
RINGS, Selim
Mouzannar. HAIR:
Teddy Charles at The
Wall Group. PROP
STYLIST: Evan
Jourden. PRODUCTION:
Viewfinders. HOTEL:
Thompson Nashville.
See page 199 for
shopping
information.

140
P R E V I O U S S P R E A D , C L O C K W I S E F R O M T O P L E F T: G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 6 ) . C O U R T E S Y O F B R A N D .
T H I S S P R E A D , C L O C K W I S E T O P R I G H T: C O U R T E S Y M I L E Y C Y R U S / I N S TA G R A M . G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 4 ) .

JOHNNY CASH ELVIS PRESLEY JANE GOODALL

Advice I live by:

I feel most fearless when:


I always feel at home with:

My biggest hope for Noah’s career:


One of my proudest career moments:

If I could have dinner with anyone, I’d pick:

I’d love it if no one ever asked me this again:


What drives me to advocate for LGBTQ rights:

NOAH
WITH SISTER

141
MIX BIZ
WITH
PLEASURE
Rebel against
corporate culture by
pairing a boss-lady
blazer with moto-
cross-style bottoms.
BLAZER, PANTS, BOOTS,
EARRINGS, Altuzarra.
HANDBAG, Sara Battaglia
6
WAYS
TO
BEING
UNDERSTATED
IS OVERRATED.
THIS FALL,
WORK THESE
BALLSY
FASHION RULES
LIKE YOU OWN
THE STREET—
ACTUALLY,
MAKE THAT
THE TOWN.
PHOTOGRAPHED BY

STEP
JASON KIM
FASHION DIRECTOR
AYA KANAI

UP
YOUR
STYLE

SHIFT YOUR
SHAPES
Show off your figure
in sweater weather
with a cropped
knit top and loose,
high-waisted trousers
with tapered ankles.
CROP SWEATER, PANTS, BOOTS,
HANDBAG, EARRINGS, Fendi

143
ADD SOME
LEATHER
Found: leather that
doesn’t send you into
a sweat. Outsmart
unseasonably warm
days with a fitted
bodice over light-
weight pieces.
TOP, BLOUSE, SKIRT, 3.1
Phillip Lim. BOOTS, Roger
Vivier. BAG, Miu Miu

144
PUNCH UP
MONO-
CHROME
Embrace girliness
in a head-to-toe
wash of color
that’s less sweet,
more shocking.
VEST, DRESS, PANTS,
Emporio Armani.
SUNGLASSES, BAG,
Miu Miu
SPARKLE
BEFORE
NOON
Go full glamazon
in an animal print
’70s silhouette
and glittering gold
booties.
DRESS, HANDBAG, Michael
Kors. BOOTS, Olgana
Paris. EARRINGS, Eddie
Borgo. SUNGLASSES,
Jacques Marie Mage
HAIR: Nicolas Eldin using
Kérastase Paris
L’Incroyable Crème.
MAKEUP: Christian
McCulloch at Streeters
using Chanel Ombre
Première. MANICURE: Casey
Herman for Dior Vernis

BEAUTY at The Wall Group.


MODEL: Rose Smith/Muse.

TIP
See page 199 for
shopping information.

BADASS DRESS,
MEET YOUR
AROMATIC MATCH:
MUGLER ALIEN
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Punk up any LBD
with your new
favorite layering
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netted number.
BODYSUIT, DRESS, BOOTS,
BAG, EARRINGS, BRACELETS,
Alexander Wang

147
WOKE
WINE
Riots not diets, fries
before guys.…Whatever
your motto, a shiny
berry hue helps get the
message across.
(The lips at Jonathan
Simkhai’s fall
fashion show, which
inspired the look here,
represented a woman’s
power over a man!)
Try BareMinerals
Luxe-Shine Lipstick in
NSFW, $20.
T-SHIRT, Baja East. HAT,
LittleDoe. EARRINGS, Diane
von Furstenberg

148
P O W E R F U L LY
PRETTY
MODERN WOM EN K NOW YOU C A N C A L L
ATT EN T ION TO YOU R LOOKS AT
T H E SA M E T I M E YOU CH A M PION A C AUSE.
B E HOL D, BA DA SS RU N WAY L I P T R E N DS
INSPIRED BY EPIC FEMINIST MOMENTS.

by kate foster // p h o t o g r a p h e d b y e r i c r a y d a v i d s o n // f a s h i o n d i r e c t o r : a y a k a n a i
MAJOR
MAUVE-
MENT
Nineties nasty
women (think riot grrrls!)
were the muses
for the purplish brown
lips backstage at
Mara Hoffman. Channel
their rebellious
vibes by painting on
CoverGirl Melting
Pout Liquid Lipstick in
Gelebrity, $8, a
lipstick-gloss hybrid.
T-SHIRT, Prabal
Gurung. EARRINGS, Closer
by WWake x Tome
8
mighty
makeup
moments
1886

California Perfume
Company (now Avon)
is founded. Its female
employees earn an
independent income
decades before they
can vote. FIRE
STARTER
19 0 6

Madam C.J. Walker,


the most successful
The Jason Wu show
self-made black
female entrepreneur of featured a two-tone
her time, starts her look made to command
hair business. attention. Step one:
Coat your top lip in a
1 912

Elizabeth Arden matte orange shade


supplies red lipstick to
(like L’Oréal Paris Colour
suffragettes. Thirty-
one years later, during Riche Matte Lipstick in
WWII, she makes the Matte at Bat, $9). Step
shade Montezuma Red two: Add a scarlet gloss
to match the U.S. to your bottom lip (try
Marine Corps Women’s Sephora Collection
Reserves uniform. Flash Shine in Red in a
Flash, $12). Step three:
1953

Christian Dior creates


Dior Rouge, the brand’s Start a revolution.
first lipstick line. Its T-SHIRT, Monogram.
signature red, #9 (now JEANS, Hudson. EARRINGS,
999), is famous for Rag & Bone
flattering every woman.
HAIR: Mark Townsend for
Dove Hair Care.
19 6 3

Mary Kay Ash founds


Beauty by Mary Kay. MAKEUP: Allan Avendaño
using Lancôme Monsieur Big
The women she
Mascara at Starworks
employs can make their Artists. MANICURE: Stephanie
own hours, ideal for Stone for Chanel Le Vernis at
suburban housewives Nailing Hollywood.
with children at school. MODEL: Isabella Peschardt/
Photogenics. PRODUCTION:
First Shot Productions. See
1 975

Tracey Norman
appears on a Clairol page 199 for shopping
dye box, becoming the information.
first transgender
African-American
woman in a major
cosmetics campaign.
2 0 07

Hillary Clinton’s words


and bronzy-red lipstick
gain followers during a
Democratic primary
debate. Makeup artist
Kriss Blevens
manufactures the color
and calls it Debate.
2 017

Women gather
worldwide for the
Women’s March. Pink
joins red as a symbolic
shade of girl power.

151
SLUG

WICKED
CONFIDENT
The midnight mouth at the
Adeam show was all about
celebrating a woman’s
individuality—and it
basically screams, “Don’t
eff with me…or my rights.”
Rock a liquid lipstick
(like Maybelline New York
Color Sensational The
Loaded Bolds in Pitch
Black, $7.50) for intense
color and long wear.
T-SHIRT, Zadig & Voltaire. MESH
TOP, Creatures of Comfort.
SUNGLASSES, Gentle Monster.
EARRINGS, Eddie Borgo

152
RED
RALLY
Making herstory
means being loud
and proud. This
diffused look (bold in
the center, slightly
worn around the
edges) signals that
you won’t be shutting
up anytime soon.
TANK, Alice + Olivia by
Stacey Bendet. SCARF,
American Eagle
Outfitters. EARRINGS,
Jennifer Fisher

easy
lip t rick
Apply a matte cherry
red lipstick onto the center
of your pout (try Rouge Dior
Lipstick 999 Matte,
$35), then use your finger
to blur the edges.
PRESENTED BY DIOR
HOW YOU,
not how-to
The diverse fans
Unicorn installations prove there’s no one Instagram-ready in the
where fans scribbled notes form of beauty.
silver confetti walkway.
were among the festival’s
fun moments.

NO LABELS
necessary “[THE CREATORS]
MADE IT FEEL LIKE WE
WERE BEST FRIENDS.”
“SO FUN —KIRA
GETTING TO
PLAY MUSIC
AND DANCE
AT THE
FESTIVAL!”

©Marielle
Sales

IRL experience lets


DJ Dani Thorne, fans live and breathe
pictured here with what the brand
sister Bella Thorne offers them.

BEAUTY
IN THE WILD
JOIN US AT #BEAUTYCONLA
After going to her first Beautycon earlier. “Who’d like to carpool from
festival, one attendee shared So Cal area to Beautycon LA?”
a picture of her new tattoo on another user tweeted in April—
Facebook: a lipstick bearing the anxious to share what’s been called REVEAL or
Beautycon logo. “So much fun this “just too bomb!” and “an event like CONCEAL,
weekend!!” she wrote. The fandom no other.” just be real
and sense of community is real at “It’s not about making yourself
the festival that brings creators, [in the traditional sense] prettier,
brands, and aficionados together to younger, or any other ‘er’,” says
celebrate beauty as self-expression Beautycon CEO Moj Mahdara.
in a meaningful way. While day-of It’s about “HOW YOU, not how-
#hashtags blow up Twitter and to” and staying true to yourself.
Instagram, the buzz starts months See you there, beauties!
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inside their vaginas to is quite porous). The shaft to keep him stiff.
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powers and attract posi- more surface area there
tive energy. They’re using is for bacteria to grow.
quartz dildos to open their That bacteria may lead to
heart chakras to love and totally un-Zen bacterial
their G-spots to more Os. vaginosis, says Jeanna
The ancient Chinese Piper, MD, an ob-gyn
swore by such practices at the National Insti-
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w hen wa s the last time


you and your partner
got it on: Last night? Last
week? Last…? If you’re
drawing a blank, welcome
to the Dry-Spell Club,
where you have plenty of
company. According to a
recent study in the Archives
of Sexual Behavior, people
in their 20s and 30s are
more undersexed than any
other generation—includ-
ing Americans born
in the 1930s. Yup. At your
age, your granny was
boning six times a year
more than you do!
“It’s not an enormous
difference, but it goes in the
opposite direction of what
you would expect,” says
lead study author and
psychologist Jean Twenge,
PhD. After all, today’s
young adults talk more
openly about sex, have
SEX
FOR YOU FOR HIM FOR BOTH OF YOU

Your Period Strenuous Stress


When estrogen Exercise Anxiety—from
easier access to mates via and progester- Men whose work, your busy
dating apps, and are typi- one hormones workouts are schedules, or
cally cool with premarital peak around very long and anything else—
sex. But not only are they day 14 of your intense experi- can raise
menstrual ence lower libido cortisol, a
under-pleasured, their sexy
cycle, you’ll be than those hormone that
time continues to decline. who get moder-
all over your puts your body in
How bad is the manpiece. But ately swoll, conservation
problem, really? Well, if after, they pla- per a new study. mode. This can
you’re in a relationship and teau, and PMS further eff up
Caustic
wish you got laid more, symptoms kick your hormones,
Chemicals
then we don’t have to tell in, cooling your resulting in a
BPA, a sub-
you: It’s pretty bad. Most sexual appetite. weaker desire to
stance found
pairs have the hottest and Birth Control in plastic water hook up.
most frequent sex about six Hormonal kinds bottles and Medications
months to a year into can lower your receipt paper, Multiple
a romance—aka the honey- testosterone, could hinder his studies show
moon phase. After that,
though, there’s a slow
What’s which in turn
can dampen
erections. And
BVO (found in
that popping
certain serotonin
fade on romp-filled nights Killing Your libido, says
Yvonne Bohn,
some sodas)
has been linked
reuptake
inhibitor anti-
(womp, womp). And
the repercussions are real. Mojo MD, an ob-gyn
in Los Angeles.
to weakened
male sex drive.
depressants
Less sex can make you or
your partner feel self-con-
(and His) Low Self-Esteem A High-Fat Diet
can calm your
nerves (yay!),
You could just Neg thoughts Guys with but they also
scious, less desirable, high cholesterol decrease
be tired. But are toxic. “For
frustrated, and lonely. women, so levels may be dopamine, a
Getting busy every more likely, one much about more likely feel-good
night isn’t the answer. of these sneaky wanting to have to have trouble hormone you
Surprisingly, just once factors is cock- sex is based on getting it up, need in order
a week is all you need blocking how we feel,” research to want to smash
for a happy relationship, your intimacy. says Dr. Bohn. has found. on the reg (no!).
according to one 2016
study. “If you’re having
weekly sex, you’re main-
taining your sexual con-
FEEL THE
nection and maximizing RUSH OF
the benefits for your well- DESIRE MORE
OFTEN.
being,” says lead author
Amy Muise, PhD, assistant
professor of psychology at
Toronto’s York University.
Ramping up your sessions
can be tough when you’ve
been in a drought for a
while. That’s where Cosmo
comes in—first, we help
you ID what’s keeping you
quasi-celibate, then we
present our failproof solu-
tions for more (and
better!) sex. Get ready for
maximum satisfaction.

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Could It
Be PTSD?
But not the kind you’re
thinking of: If you
haven’t been in the
mood since, oh, early
November 2016, you
may be suffering from STAY ON
Post-Trump Sex YOUR
TOES THIS
Disorder. It’s a sudden MONTH.
and swift aversion
to sex caused by the
anger, fear, and
confusion you’re
absorbing from the
current political climate.
“All this talk about
alternative facts and
fake news makes us
distrust everything:
news, politics, and
maybe even the person
you’re having sex with,”
says sex therapist
Susan Block, PhD.
That’s a legit passion
destroyer, even if you
and your partner are on
the same political page.

30-Day Challenge:
Women, in particular,
have been hit hard
by PTSD. Says Block:

End a Dry Spell!


“When the crude,
misogynistic comments
were not just ignored
but rewarded with the
presidency, it certainly Your one-month plan to overcoming a drought—for good!—using fresh
made a lot of us feel positions from our forthcoming book, Cosmo’s Sexy Sutra
horrible.”
How to overcome DAY 1 DAYS 3 AND 4 DAY 5
this affliction? Right
Break the touch barrier. Post-shower, send him a S-E-X day! Get in a
before bedtime with
your S.O., avoid reading Physical flirting sends a sexy selfie—just a glimpse spooning position, but curl
the news or checking sexy signal that you’re in of skin will give him a bigger up into a ball. He can wrap
your social feeds, and the mind-set for action. jolt than his Americano. his arms around you and
instead, focus on During convos, touch his The next day, wear a pop enter you from behind.
creating intimacy. Also, arm or his leg—or of red (a scarf or even
find like-minded friends elsewhere!—for emphasis. lipstick works). Research
PHOTOGRAPHS BY DEWEY NICKS.

and outlets where you shows men are most DAY 6


feel heard. “Protests
attracted to women who Write three sexy fantasies
are powerful…and they
DAY 2 wear rosy hues, and on three strips of paper, and
can be a great aphro-
disiac,” says Block. Add a new angle to oral. knowing his eyes are have him to do the same.
Keep calm and march Try 69, but lie on your sides. on you can be a majorly Shake ’em up, and see how
on with your woke bae... It’s way less strenuous. hot turn-on. many you can do tonight.
right into the sack.

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DAY 7 DAY 14 DAYS 19 TO 21 DAY 24
And on the seventh day… S-E-X day! Switch Make him ache for you. Make a spicy meal together.
take a rest! You deserve it. positions in missionary Arouse his “almost area” A study found that men
Plus, eight or more hours so you’re on top with your by giving him an erotic who like to add hot sauce
of uninterrupted sleep can legs pressed together massage, focusing on his to their food are also
lower your cortisol levels, between his and your arms lower abs and inner risk takers in other areas
says Dr. Bohn, and boost holding you up. He can thighs. At dinner, pass of their life, including
your need for erotic fun. thrust extra deep inside your panties to him under the bedroom.
you, and you’ll get clit- the table. Demand he
stimulating taste you for dessert.
DAYS 8 TO 10 benefits. DAY 25
Dabble in dirty talk to rev up S-E-X day! Stand up and
your brain for X-rated DAY 22 lean against a wall, facing
action. Then spring for the Add a dose of purple to your him. Lift one leg and wrap
guac when dining out. naughty space. Couples it around his body while he
Ancient Aztecs believed who do have sex on average enters you. The upward
that avocados had major DAYS 15 TO 17 three or more times a angle of your hips means
aphrodisiac qualities. Dab your lips with a minty week, one survey found. he’ll tickle your G-spot.
One night at home, set a menthol balm to give him
timer for 15 minutes… cool, tingly oral. Kick
and do nothing but kiss. things up a notch with DAY 23 DAYS 26 AND 27
foreplay in the backseat of S-E-X day! Straddle him Guide his hands all over
your car. Then watch a reverse-cowgirl style, then your body as he undresses
DAYS 11 TO 13 racy video or sexy movie extend your legs back you—relishing the moment
Encourage him to ditch the scene together. toward his shoulders. Slide gives your libidos a chance
razor for a few days. forward and back, holding to heat up. Give yourself
Women looking to hook up his ankles for leverage. a gentle nipple squeeze
go for guys with five- DAY 18 to ignite the same part
o’clock shadows, according Do a good deed. Altruism of your brain that lights
to a study. (Patience is makes you hotter to sexual up during any clitoral
worth it here!) partners, says science. touching.

DAY 28
S-E-X day! Fill up the
tub halfway, and loll in
KEEP THINGS
his arms while he pumps
INTERESTING AT upward from behind.
EVERY TURN.
The water makes you
weightless, so he can rock
you all bath long.
PHOTO G R A PH S BY DE W E Y NIC K S . IL LU S T R AT IO N S BY JE NN Y Y UE N.

DAYS 29 AND 30
Buy your wig for Halloween
early. Role-playing can
help you attempt kinky
new bedroom moves. Then
give your sexy self a pat on
the back. Dry spell = over! ■

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SEXUAL
ASSAULT
IT’S NOT GOING TO BE AN ALARMING ACT
PLEASANT, BUT PICTURE THIS: CALLED STEALTHING
You’re hooking up with a IS NOW BEING
guy and the sex feels good…
almost too good. You look
RECOGNIZED AS THE
down to discover that he’s SERIOUS VIOLATION IT
pumping away unprotected, IS. STAY SAFE WITH
after having secretly pulled THIS MUST-KNOW INFO.
off his condom. BY STACE Y COLINO
What you’re envisioning
is called stealthing, an
abhorrent practice that’s
been getting increased
attention after an article in ing STIs and unintended or breaking one mid- When she realized he had
the Columbia Journal of pregnancies. “It’s an deed. Of those, some had ejaculated inside her, she
Gender and Law described invisible form of violence done it at least 63 times was furious.
it as a form of sexual assault. that’s been going on for a total, the max number So was Audrey, 39, from
Stealthing transforms while,” says Brodsky. they could choose in the Santa Fe, New Mexico,
consensual sex into Now, it finally has a name. survey, says lead author who had sex with a guy she
nonconsensual sex by Kelly Cue Davis, PhD. met on a dating app last
disregarding the terms— SHOCKING When it happened year. “I was very clear that
condom use—both part- DISCOVERIES to Marie, 25, of Boston, it was important to me to
ners agreed to, explains While there are no con- she was with a guy who’d have protected sex,” she
article author Alexandra crete stats on stealthing’s pursued her for months. recalls. They did it once
Brodsky, a civil-rights prevalence, a 2014 survey “There was lots of in and using a condom, with a
attorney. It happens of 313 single, straight men out [penetration] during a repeat performance in the
most often in hookup or between the ages of 21 and long night of sex,” she says. morning. In the a.m. ses-
casual sex situations and 30 found that nearly 10 “While he was behind me, sion, though, “there was a
can leave victims feeling percent admitted to engag- he paused so he could last moment when it felt a little
duped, disrespected, angry, ing in “condom sabotage,” longer, and that’s when he different and I realized he
and ashamed—and fear- surreptitiously removing ripped off the condom.” had taken the condom off,”

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SEX
Public Health at Rutgers
University. “But it’s a viola-
tion, pure and simple.”

HOW TO PROTECT
YOURSELF
Before you get into bed
with any new partner, come
Reconsidering prepared with your own
the Female condoms, male or female
Condom (see “Reconsidering the
Female Condom,” at left),
Old versions were and have a candid convo
poorly designed and
about expectations. If a guy
hard to find—hence,
a lack of enthusiasm
whines about wrapping
(and use) among it up and you don’t know
women, says Harry (or trust) him well, think
Fisch, MD, a clinical about avoiding intercourse.
professor of urology “If it’s an orgasm you’re
and reproductive after, there are plenty of
medicine at the Weill other ways to get it,” says
Cornell Medical Pepper Schwartz, PhD, a
College and chief professor of sociology at the
corporate officer at University of Washington
the Female Health
at Seattle and coauthor
Company, makers of
the FC2 female
of 50 Great Myths of
condom. Newer, Human Sexuality.
improved lady If you do opt for pen-
sheaths adhere to the etration, keep in mind that
walls of the vagina, it’s easier to see if a condom
are 95 percent is in place when you’re fac-
effective at ing each other (i.e., in mis-
THIS ILLICIT DEED IS protecting against sionary or girl-on-top).
A TWISTED TURN-ON pregnancy and STIs,
FOR SOME MEN. Whenever you switch it up,
and are available at use your hand to guide him
many health clinics
back inside you and feel
or through an Rx
from a doctor. (The
for the condom, suggests
she says. “I was really upset. communities in which— FC2 is the only one ob-gyn Lauren Naliboff, a
He couldn’t believe that I brace yourself—guys that’s currently FDA- fellow of the American Col-
thought it was a big deal.” encourage others to stealth. approved and lege of Obstetricians and
Some justify their actions available in the U.S.; Gynecologists. If you think
WHY MEN DO IT as a man’s right to “spread others are in clinical you’ve been stealthed, go to
Unsurprisingly, stealth- his seed.” As one stealther trials.) Bonus: a pharmacy for Plan B and
ing may be more likely to wrote, “You can’t have one Female condoms can to your doctor or a clinic to
R O B E R T W H I T M A N / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M .

occur when there’s alcohol and not the other. If she be inserted up to two get tested for STIs.
hours before sex, and Finally, make your voice
involved and a guy makes wants the guy’s penis, then
they don’t need to be
a bad drunken decision she also has to take the guy’s heard. In May, lawmakers
removed immediately
(think: Seth Rogen’s charac- load.” Others use stealthing afterward.
in California and Wiscon-
ter’s actions in Knocked Up). as a power play to reclaim sin introduced bills seeking
But booze isn’t always a control in a world where to legally define stealthing
factor. The practice is more women are increasingly say- as rape or sexual assault,
common among men who ing, “no condom, no sex,” both criminal offenses. To
already have hostile atti- explains psychologist Perry help get similar legislation
tudes toward women, says Halkitis, PhD, dean and in your state, call or write
Davis. The proof is in online professor at the School of your representatives. ■
Sex Q&A
No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo

Q Why can
I not stop
talking—I
mean, it’s
QDo I have serious
to tell my E -M A IL YOUR SE X
QU E ST IONS TO SE XQ A NDA
TMI—
doc my @ C O S M O P O L I TA N . C O M .

after sex?
sexual A Blame it on evolution:

orienta- We’re designed to blab our


deepest, darkest feelings
tion? post-deed to facilitate
attachment, which helps
A You don’t have to, but in ensure the survival of our
this case, sharing is caring offspring. In general, chat
for your girl parts. “Your away. Just don’t go over-
sexual practices may influ-
ence how your doctor does
QI know I’m itself) toward and into your
urethra, where it can cause
board with your confes-
sions if you’re sleeping
your exam,” says ob-gyn
Allison Hill, MD. For
supposed a urinary tract infection,
says Dr. Hill. If your blad-
with someone new. “Talk-
ing about your emotions
example, a gyno may use a
smaller speculum on a les-
to pee der is full when you’re
buzzing, you’re even more
after sex should be recip-
rocal and gradual,” says
bian who doesn’t engage in after sex, likely to get a UTI, because Gurit Birnbaum, PhD,
penetrative sex. It’s also
worth speaking up because, but what any germ buildup hasn’t
been flushed out since your
who has studied post-sex
oversharing. Too much
strangely enough, your pro-
vider probably won’t ask. A about last pee. The simple solu-
tion? Go to the bathroom
too soon can backfire. If
your partner’s response
new study published in
after before your session and seems meh, it might be a
MICHAEL HAUPTMAN/ TRUNK ARCHIVE.

JAMA Internal Medicine right after you’re done. sign that he’s less inter-
revealed that while nearly
80 percent of docs said they
using my Clean your toy after each
use with mild soap and
ested in taking things to a
deeper level. Then again,
didn’t think patients would
want to disclose their sex-
vibrator? warm water or an antibac-
terial toy cleaner, and let it
some men aren’t super-
quick to discuss their feel-
ual orientation, only 10 per- A Yes. Just like a penis, a dry completely. That way, ings....Others might just
cent of people said they vibe can push any bacte- you’re less likely to bring be catching their breath
would refuse to give it. ria on your skin (or the toy about that burning feeling. after insanely good sex.

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NOW, IF ONLY
HIS HEAD
COULD DO A
180-DEGREE
TURN.

Q How do
I get my
guy to go
down on
me more
often?
A One new study found
that while oral sex on a
woman is one of the most
common predictors of
orgasm (love you, clitoral
stimulation), it’s also one of
the least practiced sexual
acts among couples. The
encouraging news: “A guy is
more apt to try something if
it’s fun and he knows you’re
going to get pleasure from
it,” says sex therapist Dawn
Michael, PhD. So make
foreplay a hot game. When
it’s your turn, you get to
have whatever you ask done
to you, and on his turn, he
gets the same. When he’s
downtown, be sure to show
him how much you like it
through your moans. He’ll
be so turned on by turning
you on, he might just take
up residency there.
—JULIE VADNAL

169
SEX

Dicktionary Here’s the cheat sheet you’ll need when you can’t
find the words for your shaft-related sitch.
BY DANIELLE K AM

Dickcicle (n) Dickcipline (n)


dik-si-k l / A dik-s -pl n / When
guy with such a you exercise the
cold heart, he willpower not to hook
smashes and up with a bro, even
dashes without a if you really want to.
drip of remorse.
Dick Flick (n)
Dickter dik flik / A
Scale (n) testosterone-infused
dik-t r skal / A blockbuster—typically
numerical rating involves nonstop car
for how magical chases, over-the-top
a penis is (e.g., explosions, and
“he’s a solid 8”)— random shots of
the phallic half-naked women.
Dickstracted (adj) equivalent of the
dik-strak-t d / The state Richter scale.
of being unable to concentrate
after seeing the outline of Dickcision (n)
a guy’s impressive manhood dik-si-zh n /
through his pants. When a dude acts
by thinking solely
Dicknapped (v) with his D rather than
dik-napt / When you with his actual brain.
have plans with your crew,
but your boy entices Dick
you so you never make Magnet (n)
it out the door. dik mag-n t /
A woman who
Dickcited (adj) attracts any guy
dik-sı-t d / The feeling of she wants without
being amped up to get some having to say a word.
action. As in, “I’m seeing Jake The female version of
tonight. I’m so dickcited!” chick magnet.
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1 c. crushed tomatoes
4 oz. mozzarella
cheese, coarsely
grated
2 oz. thinly sliced
pepperoni
“Roasted
broccoli is best ¼ c. sliced pickled
jalapeños
served on top
Honey, to taste
of grilled pizza
dough!” Spread tomatoes
on dough, and
1 c. small broccoli top with cheese,
florets
pepperoni, and
Sea salt and black jalapeños.
pepper, to taste
Place on a
2 T olive oil
greased baking
¼ c. Pomi strained sheet, and bake at
tomatoes 500 degrees until
4 oz. fresh crispy. Drizzle with
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Toss broccoli, salt,
and pepper in 1 T
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Brush top of pizza
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Trader Joe’s. Roll it
into a 14-inch flat circle
that’s ¼-inch
thick. Then follow the
recipes below.

“Its chocolate
and marsh-
mallows
“Perfect remind us of Brush the dough
bites of salty a campfire with melted butter,
clams and treat!” and sprinkle with
1 oz. stone-ground dark and white
crunchy crust!” yellow cornmeal, chocolate. Top with
¾ c. grated Pecorino for sprinkling marshmallows.
Romano cheese 2 T butter, melted Increase oven
1 T dried oregano 6 oz. dark chocolate, heat to 450
18 littleneck clams, chopped degrees. Bake until
shucked marshmallows
2½ oz. white Dust a baking
2 cloves garlic, chocolate, chopped sheet with are golden brown,
finely chopped cornmeal, and 3 to 4 minutes.
15 marshmallows,
4 T olive oil halved place dough on top. Add sliced
Parsley and 1 c. sliced Bake at 400 strawberries
crushed red strawberries degrees for 6 to 8 before serving.
pepper, to taste minutes. (Use a
Sprinkle cheese, sharp knife to pop
oregano, clams, any air bubbles as
garlic, and 2 T olive it cooks.)
oil on dough. Place
on a greased baking
sheet, and bake at
500 degrees for 10
to 15 minutes. Dot
with remaining oil,
parsley, and pepper. *ALL RECIPES INSPIRED BY AND ADAPTED FROM RESTAURANTS LISTED.
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her lifetime if she doesn’t
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SOME OF
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FEMALE FACES
OF FINANCIAL
STRAIN

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by
JENNIFER
WO L F F
CAUGHT
Por t r a i t s b y
J ON NO
IN A
R AT T M A N

COLLEGE

TRAP

Americans now carry an epic $1.4 trillion in student debt.


Nearly two-thirds of that belongs to women—and they’re not all
drowning in costs from pricey Ivy League institutions. More and more,
it’s state schools that are pulling degree-seekers under. A yearlong Cosmo investigation
reveals how striving for an education can derail your future.
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E R I
Civitarese knows about hard work—and
making ends meet. As a teenager in small-
town Massachusetts, she logged up to 40
hours a week at an Auntie Anne’s pretzel shop
so she could afford clothes and car insurance.
In her spare time, she raised money for survi-
vors of domestic violence. Erika figured she’d
keep working after high school and apply for
college once she’d stockpiled enough funds for
K
with a degree in communications. But
her debt has snowballed to $38,851, and
A

other financial-aid options before suggesting


students take out private loans.)
Four years later, Erika is set to graduate

she expects it will be around $42,000 by


the time she leaves school. “It’s scary to
think how the interest will just keep build-
ing,” says Erika, now 22. “If I’d known I
“I’ll be
working
more
hours than
I’d like—
working
nights
instead of
having a
life with
tuition. But her guidance counselor, she says, would owe this much, I definitely would’ve
my friends—
urged her not to put her future on hold. delayed college and gotten a job.” to pay off
In March 2013, Erika got the letter that these loans.”
changed her life: The University of Massa- Erika
chusetts at Amherst, the crown jewel of the GETTING HIT CLOSE TO HOME Civitarese, 22
state’s public school system, wanted her. And
they were offering what looked like a near It’s no secret that students can rack up University of
full-ride—more than $22,000 in financial debt at costly private universities. What Massachusetts
aid, just shy of the school’s $23,697 yearly is shocking: 61 percent of this country’s at Amherst
in-state cost. The package was a mix of a indebted women didn’t go fancy. Like
scholarship, grants, and federal loans, but the Erika, they attended public colleges, Student Debt:
particulars didn’t really register with Erika, according to an analysis of government
then 17. “I was like, cool, lots of money,” she data by Mark Kantrowitz, publisher of
$
38,851
says. “Tuition and fees, housing and meal Cappex.com, a website that helps students
plans—the aid I got covered it all.” make informed college decisions.
That summer, she spent the last of her sav- Used to be, not-for-profit state universi- After Erika’s grant
ings on books, linens, and a mini fridge for ties were a vital part of the American dream, money—not to men-
her dorm room. “I was pumped!” she says, engines of upward mobility that guaranteed tion her work study—
was yanked before
until a few weeks before school started, when young people from all backgrounds access
she arrived on cam-
her mom logged on to Erika’s financial-aid to education and opportunity. Now, that pus freshman year,
account to find that more than $10,000 of opportunity comes with sticker shock. The cutting her aid nearly
her money had vanished. A frantic series of typical public student graduates with close in half, she followed
phone calls to UMass revealed that Erika’s to $27,000 in debt, a figure that has nearly the advice of the
aid had been adjusted due to a small property tripled in the last 25 years. financial-aid office
sale on her parents’ tax return. (The initial The most obvious reason is the skyrocket- and took out private
offer had said the money was subject to eli- ing cost of tuition, which rose more than 200 loans. She’ll soon
gibility.) Erika pleaded, telling the aid office percent between 1997 and 2016. One culprit: have a BA in commu-
nications…and
that money had gone toward medical bills for States are cutting public-school funding;
crushing debt she’s
her father, a construction worker who’d had per-student spending decreased by 21 per- already worried about
an accident. But the school told her there was cent between 2008 and 2014 alone, accord- defaulting on.
nothing it could do, she says—and suggested ing to a report by Young Invincibles, an
she take out a private loan. Now committed advocacy group for millennials. This has cre-
to going to college—whatever it took—Erika ated an unprecedented mess, with the needi-
borrowed $7,100 with a sky-high 11 percent est students paying for the cleanup, quite
interest rate. (UMass says it exhausts all literally. As young scholars help finance their
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189
“Getting my
living expenses
covered is a
continuing
struggle for
me. I couldn’t
afford a
textbook
freshman
year and
would have
failed the
course
if a friend
hadn’t loaned
me hers. I
opted out
of having a
meal plan last
semester to
save money.”

Kara
Freise, 19

State University
of New York at Fredonia

Student Debt:
$
20,120
In high school, Kara
lived in a homeless
shelter. She left for
college without a dollar
to her name. Last
summer, the double
major in music therapy
and psychology slept
on friends’ couches so
her entire Pizza Hut
paycheck could go to
school bills. She
expects to owe around
$40,000 by the time
she graduates.

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“I feel a lot of
shame. I lose
a lot of sleep.
I’m working
up to 50
hours a
week on top
of school, Tiara
doing home- Burtin, 22
work on my
phone. I feel University
like I’m of Missouri at St. Louis

stuck in a
system that Student Debt:

isn’t built for


success.
$
54,200
There is
Tiara worked hard to
always a secure enough aid to
roadblock go to college. She lost
and, beyond a large chunk of her
that, another money sophomore
year, after debilitating
roadblock. endometriosis left her
But I don’t unable to attend
want the classes regularly,
debt without affecting her grades
and credit hours.
the degree— Determined to gradu-
when I walk ate, she took on tens
across that of thousands of dol-
stage, it’ll be lars in loans.
because I
want to say,
‘You didn’t
break me.’”
The True
Cost of College

$ 2 4 6 1 0

Compared with typical fees at a private university, the price of public-school tuition
sounds like a sweet bargain—until you factor in housing, food, books, transporta-
tion, and other real-life expenses. The average full-time, four-year, in-state student’s
college bill for the 2016-2017 school year was a no-joke $24,610.
SOURCE: THE COLLEGE BOARD

local public universities with loan money, money. But the truth is murkier, accord-
the schools themselves “are replacing lost ing to the University System of Georgia’s
revenue in part by accepting more out-of- Lives latest data. Nearly 60 percent of HOPE
state and international students, who tend in Limbo scholars at UGA lose their funding, with
to be better-off and pay higher tuition rates,” only 19 percent of those earning it back.
Owing money doesn’t
says Kantrowitz. To entice these kids, col- “An interesting thing about these scholar-
just cause financial
leges dangle a dwindling number of scholar- ships is that they wouldn’t work unless a
angst—it puts futures
ships and grants in their direction and make substantial number of students lost them,”
on hold, causing...
expensive campus upgrades. says William Doyle, PhD, associate profes-
Walk around UMass at Amherst—which sor of public policy and higher education at
in 2015 accepted more out-of-state than %
Vanderbilt University. “They are designed
in-state students for the first time in its his- 21 to get people in the door. The positive is,
%
tory—and you’ll see a new multimillion- 28 more people go to college. The negative is,
dollar “football performance center,” a a decent number of them lose funding.”
%
structure that’s meaningless to struggling 43 (UGA says it focuses on students’ academic
students like Erika but that helps attract bet- success, not their finances. “We don’t look
ter players and alumni money. Adding to the 54 % specifically at how you can retain HOPE,”
frustration: The football team can’t manage says Rahul Shrivastav, PhD, the school’s
to fill its stadium. vice president for instruction.)
55 % It’s not just state aid that dries up. Col-
leges insist they don’t front-load their own
A PUBLIC PROBLEM scholarships. “But look at the data that shows
% students get more financial aid in their first
Shrinking state budgets are only part of the
62 year than they do in later years,” says Sara
issue, as Morgan Atteberry, now 22, learned Goldrick-Rab, PhD, author of Paying the
when she arrived in 2014 at the University Price: College Costs, Financial Aid, and the
of Georgia on a state-administered HOPE Betrayal of the American Dream. “Some
scholarship. “Being a UGA Bulldog had *21 percent of colleges are behaving badly.”
borrowers to postpone
been my dream since I was little,” she says. getting married. The fallout lands squarely on the shoul-
So had becoming a pharmacist. To that end, ders of poor, inexperienced teenagers. Once
she says, her adviser suggested an over- *28 percent to delay enrolled, they’re rarely advised on how to
starting a family. keep their aid, which can be yanked for frus-
whelming course load, including chemistry
and pre-calculus. *43 percent to move trating or confusing reasons (one bad grade,
“In retrospect, my classes should’ve been back in with the slightest change in family income). And
spread out,” says Morgan. With endless work, their parents after while federal law mandates student loan
she failed pre-calc and lost HOPE (which graduation. counseling, colleges often deliver it via a 20-
covered about 80 percent of her tuition *54 percent to or 30-minute e-course. The result: 37 per-
and requires a 3.0 GPA). In order to stay take a job outside their cent of students underestimate how much
in school, she abandoned her yearned-for field of study. they really owe, according to an Iowa State
career and switched to special education, tak- *55 percent to University study; 13 percent don’t know they
ing out some $12,000 in loans. Cruelly, the hold off on buying have loans at all. What’s worse, often stu-
swap may leave her in debt longer: The aver- a home. dents aren’t alerted that they’re about to lose
age special-ed teacher makes $58,000, while their aid until it’s too late. This is a critical
*62 percent to defer
pharmacists can pull in $122,000. saving problem, since as little as $1,000 in revoked
In cases like Morgan’s, the rules seem for retirement. funding puts them at higher risk for drop-
clear-cut—keep up your GPA and keep your SOURCE: AMERICAN STUDENT ASSISTANCE
ping out, per the Education Advisory Board.
2015 SURVEY

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“I spent
seven months
living out
of my car
in 2016.
I joined a
gym around
the corner
from school
so I could
shower and
change. I was
working
as a teacher’s
aide. No one
knew what
I was going
through.”
Tanisha
Saunders, 27

California State University


at Dominguez Hills

Student Debt:
$
19,744
(plus $3,700
in credit-card debt)

“Clearly, the goal is not to actually help chusetts. “The irony is that the smartest kid She wants a degree
more than anything,
students,” says Goldrick-Rab. “The goal is to might be the kid who reasonably says, ‘I can’t
but after several
say you helped them. This is not the system go. I can’t go into debt. I can’t take that risk.” attempts to graduate—
we would build if we wanted ordinary peo- she sometimes worked
ple to get through college.” three jobs while
Left to their own devices and eager to THE AID QUAGMIRE attending school full-
graduate, students borrow more and time—what Tanisha
more (Morgan’s estimated eventual total: Questionable school practices aside, even has instead is
$30,000). But those who drop out are in the the most careful budgeters can get lost in the overwhelming debt.
Unable to afford rent,
worst position of all. Without a degree, they’ll financial-aid labyrinth, says Goldrick-Rab.
she’s now staying with
be less likely to find a job or to pay back their “This is an enormously complicated system
relatives, commuting
loans—and defaulting can ruin their credit, that a PhD might have trouble navigating.” two hours to and from
hobbling them financially for years to come. It starts with a fat acceptance letter— campus each day.
“Look at these kids, the problems they one of life’s great thrills—that often
face, the debt they graduate with,” says Max includes a difficult-to-decipher financial-
Page, PhD, a UMass at Amherst architecture aid letter, which may not even distinguish
professor and founding member of the between free money and what needs to be
Public Higher Education Network of Massa- paid back with interest. “These letters can

193
Student
Loan
SOS
The best way to deal
with debt: Accrue less.
Or if you’re already in
deep (no judgment),
learn to work the repay-
ment system. Here’s
how to stay solvent.
If You Need
Money...
Apply for an under-
the-radar scholarship.
Websites like AAUW
.org and Scholarships
.com act as databases
for private aid, includ­
ing scholarships just
for women, says Sara
Goldrick­Rab, PhD.

Get the best advice.


Make sure your aca­
demic adviser knows
you need to maintain
your aid. Visit her
before enrolling in
classes every semester
to discuss how difficult
and time­consuming
each course will be.
Seek emergency cash.
Some colleges are cre­
ating emergency funds
for students facing ill­
ness, family deaths,
and more. “These are
often held by individual
departments in addi­
tion to or instead of the be so deceiving,” says Paula Bishop, CPA, a
financial­aid office,” amazing: President Set up automatic
says Goldrick­Rab. Trump has threatened payments. Some college financial-aid consultant in Bellevue,
Start by checking with to abolish this policy.) lenders offer interest Washington. “I’ve had more than one
the dean of students or rate reductions of .25
Refinance. Consolidat­
or 0.5 percent if you
client say to me, ‘Look, I have a free-ride!’
student affairs. ing your loans—federal But it’s not a free-ride. It’s a $30,000 loan.”
do. Call your loan ser­
Think beyond financial and private—with a
lower interest rate (aim
vice provider to check. In 2013, the U.S. Department
aid. If you’re really of Education (USDE) implemented the
struggling, try applying for less than 5 to 6 per­ Ask your employer
for the earned­income cent) can lower your to chip in. Some com­ Financial Aid Shopping Sheet, a docu-
tax credit or govern­ monthly payments. panies now offer stu­ ment that demystifies the cost of a college
ment­run programs like Shop SoFi.com or dent­debt assistance.
LendEDU.com for the Aetna, for example, (including tuition and living expenses)
food stamps, says
best deals. matches up to $2,000 a and delineates grants, scholarships, and
Goldrick­Rab.
Adjust your monthly
year in loan repay­ loans. The sheet makes crystal clear what
ments. Not at your job? a student or her family will owe. “It was
bill. Go to Student
If You Owe Money... Ask HR to consider
Loans.gov and check if a godsend,” says Bishop.
Work in public service. launching a program.
you qualify for an According to the USDE, more than
Spend 10 years in a income­based repay­ Nab your tax
government or tax­ ment plan, which will breaks. You can 3,200 colleges now use the sheet. But when
exempt nonprofit job— cap your federal loan deduct up to $2,500 Cosmo reviewed a random selection of
while making on­time payments at 10 or 15 of interest on your 2016-2017 financial-aid letters provided
monthly payments— percent of your salary federal tax return.
and your remaining fed­
by the College Funding Service Center in
(meaning, you won’t (Sites like TurboTax
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be forgiven. (Less you need to live on). as a few clicks.) dents navigate financial aid—we found

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that 19 of 30 state universities claiming to Worst off are women. The downside of
use the Shopping Sheet actually weren’t. their hard-won educational equality—they
Then there’s the Free Application for now comprise 56 percent of undergraduates
Federal Student Aid, or FAFSA, a form in the U.S.—is an unequal share of the debt
“In the students must submit each year to secure burden. Women take on more and bigger
school’s government loans, which are typically low- loans than men, according to a new report
eyes, my interest. Administered by the USDE, its by the American Association of University
parents can algorithms can overestimate how much Women. And because college-educated
help pay a family can contribute toward a child’s women in full-time jobs earn about 25 per-
education. And FAFSA verification, a vet- cent less than their male peers do, it takes
for college. ting process that happens after aid letters them longer to pay the money back.
They can’t— have been sent out, may squeeze students’ Real solutions will require reform of just
their money aid further. In an awful twist, “economi- about every part of the financial-aid system.
goes to rent cally disadvantaged students are about 20 Progress has been glacial but hopeful. This
and food. percent more likely to be selected for verifi- year, Senator Elizabeth Warren and Con-
The only cation,” says Lindsay Page, PhD, who coau- gressman Joe Courtney reintroduced a bill
way I can thored a study on FAFSA. that would allow people with federal loans to
afford my Celeste Villalobos, 20, is well-acquainted refinance at current interest rates, lowering
with FAFSA’s shortcomings. Right before their monthly payments. And in July, Mary-
private loan her freshman year at the University of land restricted scholarship displacement, the
is to start California at Riverside, Celeste got notice sketchy practice of schools stripping finan-
paying it that her family was on the hook for $6,191— cial aid from motivated students who seek
off while the amount the government calculated supplemental scholarships elsewhere.
I’m still in they could afford, based on their income. Some universities are also stepping up.
school.” This was news to her parents, a supermar- UGA has instituted smaller class sizes for
ket-warehouse worker and a home health- certain courses, including—too late for
Celeste care aide who already had a son in college. Morgan Atteberry—pre-calc. (Failure rates
Villalobos, 20 Despite Celeste’s filling out her FAFSA dropped from 33 to 14 percent over one
correctly, the government erred in calcu- year.) Nearby Georgia State University gives
University of California at
lating the family’s expenses, according to students who lose HOPE scholarships and
Riverside
Maira Hernandez, at the time Celeste’s agree to academic interventions $1,000 to
counselor at Bright Prospect, a nonprofit help them try to reclaim funding.
Student Debt:
dedicated to helping low-income kids go Also fighting are everyday women: Flor-
$
16,694 to college. “These kinds of mistakes are
happening more and more to public school
ida International University student Alexis
Calatayud, 23, who lost $12,000 in scholar-
students,” says Hernandez. Celeste says ships after her freshman year, has worked
An aspiring social her FAFSA misinterpretation doubled the with her school to create a warning system
worker, Celeste amount of the high-interest private loan for students on the cusp of losing aid.
believes her federal- she had to take out to cover her parents’ In March, Erika Civitarese testified
aid application was bill. (This is on top of more than $10,000 in before the Massachusetts Legislature in sup-
misinterpreted,
federal loans she’s on the hook for.) Now a port of free public college education—an idea
forcing her to take out
a high-interest private junior, she’s working the register at McDon- that’s being introduced in some form in cit-
loan. In addition to ald’s—and estimates that that $6,191 will ies and states around the country, including
class, she works cost her $13,000 by the time she pays it off. San Francisco, Tennessee, New York, and
up to 16 hours at Rhode Island. “We hear a lot that ‘college is
McDonald’s on the an investment,’” she told the committee. “So
weekends to pay off WHY WOMEN RACK UP MORE why aren’t we investing…[in] these institu-
her debt and avoid tions that we want [students] to thrive in?”
more loans. Slated to graduate this month, Erika will
Working long hours—at McDonald’s or else-
where—isn’t the answer, says Alan Byrd, soon be back at home, waitressing at a local
dean of enrollment services at the University café. She wants to work at a record label or as
of Missouri at St. Louis. “This whole vision of a DJ—goals that would require moving to
working your way through college is almost a city, “where I’d have to pay rent and car
unrealistic at this point. We have students insurance and utilities...and my loans,” she
with two jobs who can’t make their monthly says. With her dreams on hold, she feels
payments. Even with a full-ride, they can’t stuck: “I did not go to college to end up liv-
buy toiletries or eat on the weekends.” ing with my mom and serving coffee.” ■

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Coming off a steaming-hot summer, it’s time to cool down and focus. A stack of planets
BY AUROR A TOWER in realistic Virgo will invite you to de-clutter as fall approaches. The Sun moves
@AUROR A ASTRO into diplomatic Libra on the 22nd, nudging you to problem-solve like a boss all month.

0 9. 2 3 –10 . 2 2 10 . 2 3 –11. 21 11. 2 2 –12 . 21 12 . 2 2 – 01.19 01. 2 0 – 0 2 .18 0 2 .19 – 0 3 . 2 0 0 3 . 21– 0 4 .19
Life has felt out of This is a total Things are You are on the You’ve been on a Make way for Your plate is
your control, but slam-dunk month looking up. Since verge of a transi- wild ride recently, Cupid’s arrow: overflowing this
take a breath. A for you—and the 2014, disciplined tion, so skip slow and your most Romance is month, so
generous act will 12th will be your Saturn has been and steady and important coming for you! If remember: The
surprise you on half-court basket in your sign, be bold and relationships you’re on the more organized
the 2nd, lifting day. Celebrate all bringing tough liberated! Don’t may be in need hunt for someone you are, the more
your spirits in a the good on the lessons. But be afraid to make of some TLC. On new, the 6th is a you will thrive
major way. You 19th, when an you’re about to changes when the the 18th, loving fantastic time to and be able to
will feel more opposition reap rewards Sun forms a har- Venus influences swipe right on take advantage of
centered on the between Mercury bigly: Five monious aspect your ruler Uranus any promising a creativity boost
22nd, when the and Neptune planets are now to powerful Pluto and brings an prospects. on the 2nd.
Sun moves into helps connect in your fame and on the 9th. Be unforgettable Taken? Your sex Time outside will
your sign. That’s you with the success zone! open to chance night that life is about to bolster you, as
the time to aim people you love. Set high goals on meetings on the reminds you skyrocket. The will finding time
high and follow Just make sure to the 20th, then 28th—someone who you really 29th is a perfect for friends, old
through on your avoid burnout reconnect with new could spice care about. day for that and new. Just
dreams—naughty with some your tribe. up your life. Indulge in a smolder-fest. say yes to happy
and otherwise. outdoor me-time. YOU NEED: To go YOU NEED: To tap luxurious getaway Focus on finance hour!
YOU NEED: To YOU NEED: Praise! with your gut. into your fun, on the 28th. at month’s end. YOU NEED: To
trust that the Take a bow. SAGITTARIUS GUY: fearless side. YOU NEED: To YOU NEED: A recommit to
universe has SCORPIO GUY: The future’s so CAPRICORN GUY: tune out wardrobe your health.
your back. He’s crushing bright, he’s He’s ready to distractions. pick-me-up. ARIES GUY: He
LIBRA GUY: Boo is work, so werk the wearing shades. see the sights. AQUARIUS GUY: PISCES GUY: hates asking for
moody at the mo’, sitch to your Bond over daring So pack a bag, He’s opening up Someone’s frisky! help, but he
but sensual tub advantage by new ideas— buy a ticket, and about his deepest Let out your inner needs it. Give him
time for two will celebrating with in the bedroom explore the world feels. Lend a kitty to make him some after-hours
ease his tension. him all night long. and beyond. (and each other). loving…ear. really purr. support.
LIBRA
SCORPIO
SAGITTARIU

PISCES
CAPRICORN

ARIES
AQUARIUS

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VIRGO
0 8.23 – 0 9.22
Stellar gifts: You are ultra­
organized and totally patient.
Friends rely on you to keep
their worlds in order.
Blind spots: Your
Danielle Brooks is perfectionism can sometimes be
as warm and loyal a curse! Try to stay self­aware and
as any Virgo. tuned into others’ perceptions.
September 17,
1989 Fashion faves: Classic and cool,
your style mixes sharp blazers
with minimalist accessories.
Indulgence: Decadent spa days
and far­out wellness treatments.
0 4 . 2 0 – 0 5 . 21 05. 22– 06. 20 0 6 . 21– 0 7. 2 2 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2
Seduction style: Your high IQ
You’ve been As busy summer All your friends You’ve been on
and brainy banter draw
crushing your comes to an end, want to hang right a roll at work,
professional you are in need of now, and you’ll and all your fascinating sweeties into your
game, but all some serious chill feel energized hard efforts life, and you know how to keep
work and no play time. Put some when flitting from are about to them wanting more. For you, love
can make you a effort into making party to party. pay off. Lock is a marathon—not a sprint.
snooze, so chan­ your home a cozy But leave room in down a big
oasis. Then get your schedule for project on the Your month: The Sun, passionate
nel your silly side.
The 12th will be a ready for a big some sexy time, 2nd, when Mars Venus, confident Mars, and
huge day for love
when your ruler
career push on
the 6th, when the
especially around
the 9th, when the
makes a perfect
aspect to
VIRGO your ruler Mercury are all in your
sign right now, and they’re helping
Venus makes an Full Moon falls Sun and sturdy Uranus. By the
end of the month,
GUY you kick ass and take names!
amicable aspect into your zone of Pluto are in your Don’t be afraid to stand center
to pragmatic fame and relationship zone. you’ll be looking Liam Payne stage, especially early in the
Saturn. A New success. It’s time Not feeling it? to get buck wild,
0 8 . 2 9.93 month, when a surprising dude
Moon on the 20th to dazzle your Wait until after so say hello to
ignites your team with fresh the 28th, when Mr. Right Now on could sweep you off your feet. The
creative juices. ideas that Pluto goes direct the 22nd, when New Moon in your sign on the
YOU NEED: The sparkle. Say hola and emboldens the Sun moves 20th brings about the perfect time
fun! Revel in it. to a new beau on you to get yours! into coy Libra! to set sky­high goals for the rest of
TAURUS GUY: the 22nd. YOU NEED: To YOU NEED: To be
the year. You’re on fire, so enjoy it!
Meet Mr. YOU NEED: To flex your flirt present in this
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Confident. Get follow your heart. muscles. fab moment. Your year: This is one social year.
your goofy on, GEMINI GUY: He’s CANCER GUY: He LEO GUY: He’s in a Expect dozens of swanky invites
and let your freak on edge—plan a is busy AF but still giving mood—let and generous offers. Try not to get
flags fly high staycation to wants his nookie him satisfy you in
swept up in the chaos—stay loyal
together. mellow him out. nights with you. every single way.
LOVES: to trusted friends and family, and
Sweet and only say yes to things you actually
sensitive ladies want to do. November and
who appreciate
January will be red­hot months
LEO
GEMINI
CANCER
TAURUS

his fiery and


intense passion. for love. Get cuffed early in the
season! Save up for a big vacay
HATES:
Rigid partners in March so you can be well
who won’t hear rested in April, when a fantastic
him out. new career prospect may arise.
DREAM DATE: You need: To be open to new
Long, peaceful people, ideas, and connections.
hikes followed
by a steamy, BEST MATCHES
sexy shower Taurus: You trust each other
together. enough to get totally raunchy
WIN HIM OVER: between the sheets.
By being patient
and showing Cancer: You can rely on him
interest in his through thick and thin…and
hobbies. have created an amazing group
of friends together.

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1

spot a hottie in a
Your go-to
hostess gift is:
a. Whatever’s
bar, your eyes

WHAT FIRST
unopened in your fridge.
immediately go to: b. Poo-pourri.
a. Your phone.
c. An engraved
b. His package. soap dish that looks

IMPRESSION c. The flirting antique. (Thanks, Etsy!)


triangle—left eye, right
eye, mouth. 4

During a

DO YOU
3
lull in a dinner party
On day conversation, you’re most
one of a new job, you likely to bring up:
make sure to:

MAKE?
a. The overall trend in
a. Avoid asking colleagues rainfall over the past 10 years.
personal questions. You’re not b. Another guest’s failed
here to make friends. attempt at concealing a hickey.
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b. Add every single coworker on Sex jokes always break the ice.
Snapchat, HBIC and receptionist included. c. The last Shonda Rhimes
c. Prep a (funny but profesh) show you saw, before encouraging
30-second explainer to rattle off each a roundtable discussion on its
time you introduce yourself. feminist undertones.

Your typical
first-date move:
a. Show up 15 minutes late
and ask the guy for change to put
in the parking meter.
b. Request a comprehensive
relationship history with the first round of
drinks. It’s like ripping off a Band-Aid.
c. Come prepared with Kate
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YOUR GLASS so you can turn on the charm
ISN’T THE
ONLY THING at any point.
THAT’S
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ICE QUEEN OVERSHARER PUBLIC PERFECTIONIST
Your chilly vibe may be coming off as You don’t believe in boundaries and You dazzle new crowds to the point
where it seems you’ve been studying.
C OUR T E SY OF T HE C W.

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off. Once you’re better acquainted, they’ll to broaching others’ personal business. but showing your true self will win
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