Cayabyab, Marc Justine L.

B26
2017106718

Question:

Why do we need to apologize when we keep repeating the same mistakes?

Introduction

In our life, we tend to make actions or decisions that sometimes can affect other people’s
feelings. We harm them not just physically but also emotionally. We do things that really hurt
them the most. Sometimes, we commit mistakes and we don’t know how to deal with it. Mistakes
or even challenges are a part of our everyday life. They make us stronger and without them life
becomes somewhat meaningless because we have nothing to compare the good times to. Some
people says, we have to learn from our mistakes. Do we really learn when we make mistakes? Do
we really need to commit mistakes for us to learn and get some lessons from it? If we are going to
answer it in my own perspective, I could say that we ask for apology just for the sake of your
relationship to someone or just to save you from danger or having no friends at all. Then, why do
we need to apologize if we keep repeating the same mistakes? Do we really need to say sorry every
time we did something wrong or not good to other people? Is it necessary to always ask for
forgiveness if you have hurt someone? I think this is what the question really means.

As an individual, we all have our responsibilities and commitments in life. Yes, I admit
that it is really hard to say sorry or ask for forgiveness to someone because of some reasons. Like,
I am kind of shy to the person and to my other friends because I am afraid that they will judge me
because they know what I did. It is a little bit embarrassing. But why we say sorry and ask for
forgiveness? We ask for forgiveness to them but we don’t know if he or she will easily forgive us.
In dictionary, apology means a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure and forgiveness
means the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. Of course, it is our responsibility to
make the first move when we want us to be forgiven. We have to take full responsibility of it
because it is our fault in the first place. Admitting our mistakes is a must. Also, learning is a
continuous process. It will not end if you are already graduated from a school or university.
Learning is in our life forever. It is attached to us and nobody can remove it from us. In connection
to the question above, it is important to know the different perspective in answering these
questions.
Different Perspective in Answering the Question

Making mistakes and asking for forgiveness is really hard. Sometimes we are not aware in
our actions. In some instances, we are not sure what will happen next or it is just eventually happen
and you really don’t know about it. We are not sure also when or where it will happen. Is it just us
or there is something happening in our mind?

According to Robby Berman (2017), “First we didn't want to make mistakes. Then we
realized mistakes are great teachers since they provide us lessons we wouldn't think to learn on
purpose. He said that everyone can afford and do mistakes but it is up to the person what he or she
will do to fix the problem. He also added,” It has to do with neural pathways that get created as we
do things. When we do something right, a pathway is created. Unfortunately, a pathway is also
created when we something wrong”. We basically build habits this way, both good and bad. So
the reason we keep making the same mistakes is that we slip by default back into existing neural
pathways. When we keep repeating the same mistakes. It is not just comes out through our actions,
it can also come into our mind. This is connected to the saying, learn from our mistakes. Yes,
committing mistakes can also be part of learning. It can help you to be a better person in the future.
Mistakes are just the results of you trying to be the best version of yourself.

Also, to answer the question above. We must consider what the elders taught to us. As a
member of a family, we all know that we have a set of rules. We need to follow it in order for us
to have a peaceful and normal life. On the other hand, our religion have taught us about God’s
rules or commandments. It taught us to always say the truth and never harm anybody. It is
connected to the question because is like knowing and doing what is morally right. It is to admit
our mistakes and be humble all the time. We need to apologize even we keep repeating the same
mistakes because we are what and who we are. It is our choice. It is from us. The decision will
come from us and not from anybody.

To sum up all, the most important thing to remember is that you can't just make your
apology seem genuine you actually need to be genuine. That means not only talking the talk, but
also walking the walk. Be sincere and make you’re apology came from the bottom of your heart.
Do your best to offer a sincere apology and then put the steps in place to make sure that you avoid
that same problem in the future. That alone will help your apologies carry more weight moving
forward. Swallowing your pride and apologizing isn't always easy. But, if you're going to do it,
you want to make sure that you are as genuine as possible. Avoid some common mistakes, and I
am sure your apologies will definitely make an impact. Learn from our mistakes because mistakes
are proof you are trying to be better person. Indeed, learning is a continuous process.
Reference List

Robby, B. It’s Your Brain’s Fault You Make The Same Mistakes Over and Over. Retrieved from:
https://bigthink.com/robby-berman/its-your-brains-fault-you-make-the-same-mistakes-
over-and-over

Kat, B. Common Mistakes You're Making When Apologizing. A genuine and sincere apology
involves a lot more than a quick "I'm sorry" muttered in passing. Retrieved from:
https://www.inc.com/kat-boogaard/4-common-mistakes-youre-making-when-
apologizing.html