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Outline

I. Introduction
A. Statement of the problem
B. Significance of the Research
C. Thesis Statement
II. WHY IT MATTER: MARRIAGE & FAMILY
A. What is Marriage?
B. Career goals in Marriage
C. Monogamy and Polygamy
D. Divorce
E. Sexual Movement after Marriage
F. What is Family?
G. Characteristics of Family
H. Nuclear Families
I. Types of Families
1. Single-parent families
2. Blended families
3. Extended families
4. Adoptive families
5. Foster families
III. Conclusion
IV. Bibliography

I. Introduction

A. Statement of the Problem

Have you ever thought about the true meaning of marriage as well as family? Have you

ever been confused about the true meaning of these words?

B. Significance of the Research
Based on the Anscombe society, the institution of marriage is integral to the existence of

the family. We believe that marriage is a social as well as personal good. Contributing to

the health and happiness of both spouses and their children. Scientific evidence from a

variety of fields as well as human experience have shown that any deviation from this

norm is harmful even if sometimes unpreventable – as in the case of death. It is still more

harmful when this variation challenges the institution if marriage itself, as in the cases of
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same-sex unions and casual divorce. The Anscombe society recognizes the new social

and political conditions which cause these challenges, but looks to further a holistic

understanding of marriage that respects its traditional role in society.

C. Thesis Statement
Marriage is a legally recognized social contract between two people while a socially

recognized group that forms an emotional connection and serves as an economic unit of

society.
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WHY IT MATTERS: MARRIAGE & FAMILY

A. What is Marriage?
When is a love lasting emotion? When is it only a passing feeling? During

dating, love and sharing with another person become mixed with feelings of physical

attraction, excitement, and romance. These different aspect of love may blend so

closely that it can be difficult to separate one aspect from another. These feelings can

be so strong that they can temporary blind a person to the faults and shortcomings of

another.
When two people exchange wedding vows, their dating relationship ends. A

new relationship begins. Marriage brings special joys as well as responsibilities. It is

a legal contract between two people that has certain obligations. It is also a couple’s

public statement of mutual commitment.1

After completing the stages of courtship, marriage takes place. Marriage is

defined as a formal and durable sexual union of man and woman. Which is conducted

within a set of designated rights and duties. The definition implies that marriage

becomes formal when it is accepted and sanctioned by society and that relationship is

characterized by permanence. Sexual union implies sexual intimacy between man and

woman.2
“I do” are words most adults say at some time in their lives. At least nine out of

ten marry. In doing so, they make a lifetime commitment to live with and care for

another person. A commitment is a pledge or promise. Making a commitment means:

accepting responsibility and acting in a trustworthy way; sharing yourself with

another person; having respect for the other person’s needs and desires.

1Otto, James H., Julian, Cloyd T., Tether, Edward, Nassif, Janet Zhun, Modern Health
(Holt: Rinehart and Winston, 1980) p. 165

2 Leano, Roman D. Jr., Corpuz, Ronal M., Society and Culture Family Planning
(C & E Publishing. Inc, 1982) p. 295
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Working at all times to make the relationship stronger/ Most people claim they

get married because they are “in love.” Love is a strong emotional attachment to

another person. While love is important in a marriage, it is often not enough to keep a

relationship going. Many other factors affect whether a marriage will work. 3
B. Career goals in Marriage
You should ask yourselves how you plan to balance your career and family goals.

Some professions are more demanding than others, and persons who want to succeed

them must accept the demands and must be ready to lend support during times of

great pressure. Persons who choose a career in social services must realize the

emotional involvement which could affect them. Theologians and ministers, as well

as their families, have to be ready to share their lives with entire congregations.

Skilled laborers are under competitive pressure to maintain their skills and to update

their technological knowledge. Business executives have to learn to balance their ups

and downs in financial matters as well as in emotional stresses. Some persons value

the freedom to be their own boss. Others feel best working under the guidance and

direction of superiors. Some persons prefer a relatively free work environment

controlled only by their desire to produce. Others choose to work within the structure

of huge corporations. Whatever type of career you choose, it will affect your

marriage.4
B. Monogamy and Polygamy
Monogamy (one union marriage) and polygamy (multi-union marriage, in

Muslim areas) are the common marriage patterns among Filipino families. The two

forms of polygamy are polygany (a man having many wives) and polyandry in which

3 Merki, Mary Bronson Ph.D., Teen Health

(C & E Publishing. Inc, 1982) p. 295
4 Ryder, Verdene, Contemporary Living
(Goodheart: Willcox Pub, 2004) p. 155
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a woman is united with many men. Whereas authority patterns in western

communities are egalitarian where couples share decision-making, control of family

resources and childrearing, in many Asian societies, the male controls the authority

within the family. In the Philippines, this arrangement varies from one family to

another. Patriarchal and Matriarchal patterns are some of the arrangement of Filipinos

within their family.5

C. Divorce
Divorce is the legal end of marriage. When couples marry, they promise to

share love, relationships, money, children and often religion. They also take on

certain legal rights and responsibilities. A divorce ends the legal obligation of

marriage, but many experts say that spouses who separate must also get “divorced” in

other ways. By this they mean that the husband and wife need to separate

emotionally, learn to deal with their friends and relatives on their own, and eventually

make enough money to support themselves alone. For many people, these changes are

harder than the legal divorce. People most commonly get divorced because they have

serious differences they cannot resolve. Divorces also occur because one spouse has a

serious problem such as alcoholism, drug addiction, or mental illness, or one spouse

have fallen in love with someone else.

Effects on the family. Divorce may bring relief from a very unhappy family

life, but it can also be very painful. One spouse may not want to get divorced and may

feel hurt, angry, and alone. The spouse who wanted to get the divorce may believe the

decision was right but many have feelings of anger and guilt. Divorced parents worry

about their children. They may miss their children when the children are with the

5 Maguigad, Rogelip B., Singson, Jose Florante, Macasaet Romeo V., Sociology and Anthropology
( Macmillan: 1990) p. 147
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other parent but feel overwhelmed when caring for them all by themselves. Parents

also worry that their children will be harmed by the device.6

D. Sexual Movement after Marriage
To understand the commitment of sexual movement between male and female,

you must realize the total commitment of husband and wife in marriage. It will help

you see that accepting anything less than this total involvement may not be satisfying.

Sexual decision making during the engagement period can be one of the biggest

questions you face. You may feel that your future marriage allows you another step

toward more complete sharing, including shared sexual intimacy. Increased time

together and the knowledge that you will soon be husband and wife may be very

stimulating.7
Married couples have both more sex and more satisfying sex. Sexuality plays a

15-20% positive role in marriage. It allows the couple to share pleasure, enhance

intimacy, and sex serves as a wonderful tension reducer to deal with the hassles of life

and marriage.8

E. What is Family?

According to religious groups, Family is a group of person (female and male)

bonded by love, united under the sacrament of marriage, and protected by the law,

consisting of parents and their children. However, for Jocano and Mende, the Filipino

family is ideally composed of the father, the mother and their unmarried child or

6 Gronier, Inc, The New Book of Knowledge (Volume D)

(Grolier Academic Reference, 1994) pp. 146-147
7 Ibid.
8 https://www.google.com.ph/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/whats-your-sexual-
style/200903/-is-there-sex-after-marriage%3famp
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children who are either biological offspring or adopted ones, and who are either living

with them or not.9

Family systems, like other systems, can and do change. Additions to the family,

persons dying, and divorce can all cause drastic changes in the family and the way

that it functions. Fundamental changes can occur in the roles members have and in

which rules and metarules are followed. 10

The family is indispensable. It is absolutely necessary and important in a society

because of the following: the strong and weak mental and physical features of the

child inherited from the parents can be developed in the family; In the family, the

child learns the meaning of social responsibility and the necessity for cooperation. It

plays a significant role in socialization; The family is a transmitter of culture; It

serves as a model for the establishment of another family.11

E. Characteristics of Family
According to Belen Medina, families have unique and important characteristics

that are found on cross-cultural study and researchers across all societies. The unique

characteristics are; the family is the first social group to which the individual is

exposed, the family is a link between individual and larger society, it is a major agent

in transmission, not only in biological traits but also of socio-cultural heritage from

generation after generation.12

F. Nuclear Families
Nuclear family, also called elementary family, a group of people who are united

by ties of partnership and parenthood and consisting a pair of adults and their socially

recognized children. Each nuclear family is a unit composed of a married pair and

9 Ibid.
10 Aldand, Steven G., George, James D., Fitness and Lifestyle Management
(Benjamin Lummings: 1998) p.47
11 Stein, Hess Markson, Sociology
(Macmillan, 1992) p. 216
12 Ibid.
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their dependent children, living together. In any society, this nuclear family is more-

or-less closely linked to other nuclear families in the kinship group. In other words,

the major distinction is not nuclear versus extended, but the degree to which nuclear

units in the same kinship line share residence, resources, work, and responsibilities

for blood relatives. 13

G. Types of Families
1. Single-parent families – Over the past 20 years, single-parent

families have become even more common than the so-called

“nuclear family” consisting of a mother, father and children. Today

we all see sorts of single parent families: headed by mothers,

headed by fathers, headed by a grandparent raising their children.

Life in a single parent household – through common – can be quite

stressful for the adult and the children. Single parents deal with

many other pressures and potential problem areas that the nuclear

family does not have to face.14

2. Blended families – The simple definition of a blended family, also

called a step family, reconstituted family, or a complex family, is a

family unit where one or both parents have children from a

previous relationship, but they have combined to form a new

family.15
3. Extended families – An extended family can also be called

complex family, joint family, or multi-generational family. This

type of family unit has multiple generations and additional

13Ibid.
14 https://www.apa.org/helpcenter/single-parent.aspx
15 https://family-lovetoknow.com/definition-blended-family
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relatives other than just the parents and their children living in the

same household and taking on responsibilities for that household.16

4. Adoptive families – Adoption is a wonderful thing! It is placing

one person into one family, who promises to be their “forever

family.” It’s like grafting a new branch into an old tree. An

adoptive family is a family that contains at least one adopted child

and at least one adoptive parent.17

5. Foster families – The Foster Care system is responsible for placing

at risk children with families other than their own, in group homes

or in institutions when they are unsafe, or are at risk of harm in

their current situation. Other situations in which a child may be

placed in foster care include the loss of his/her parents due to

death, the inability of a parent to care for the child, or voluntary

placement by the parents. 18

16 Ibid.
17 https://www.google.com/amp/s/adoption.org/what-are-adoptive-families/amp
18 https://legaldictionary.net/foster-care/
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III. Conclusion

Marriage is a very important rite in life, and as such, you should have utmost respect,

especially of the two partners concerned. The main essence of marriage in traditional and

religious settings is to procreate and have children to fill the world and continue ones generation

or lineage. Of course, Marriage leads to Family.

A family is a group of persons united by the ties of marriage, blood, or adaption,

constituting a single household and interacting with each other in their respective social positions

usually those of spouses, parents, children, and siblings.

With this research paper, I have concluded the true meaning of marriage and family and

how it totally starts and works the right way. Out of countless researches I’ve conducted, I know

that I learned a lot about my topic all through out. I also knew that I have gained more

knowledge about my topic because of this research paper.

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V. Bibliography
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Aldana, Steven G, George James D,. Fitness and Lifestyle Management
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Bronson, Mary H Ph.D., Glencoe Health
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Gronier, Inc, The New Book of Technology (Volume D)
(Grolier Academic Reference, 1994)
Gronier Inc, The New Book of Technology (Volume T)
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Leano, Roman D. Jr., Corpuz, Ronald M., Society and Culture Family Planning
(C & E Publishing. Inc, 1982)
Merki, Mary Bronson Ph. D Teen Health
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Otto, James H., Julian, Cloyd J., Tether Edward, Nassif, Janet Zhun, Modern Health
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Ryder, Verdene, Contemporary Living
(Goodheart, Willcox Pub, 2004)
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