Ease’s guide to becoming a Julien

V2.0
Date: March 19, 2019

Never try to analyze everything that happens in a interaction.

Life is chaotic and full of surprises.
There is no linear model that encompasses all variables of human interaction.
You don’t need to use all the tools to have results!

The man’s desire is for the woman, the woman’s desire is for the desire of men! let that sink in

The women social role is to get offended by what you say, don’t let that annoy you.

For better results, never go game frustrated. How do you expect to lead a fantastic hot women to an
amazing experience, if you’re frustrated as fuck?

Your current emotional state dictates your reality.

Keep your state of mind clear.

When you are in a bad emotional state you naturally assume many negative things about the person's
you want to interact with.

A lot of times you transport negative emotional states from one interaction to the other, making the
new person your interacting with victim of those bad emotional states.
Always doubt your bad perceptions in life

And also remember that you can be having bad emotional states cause someone is projecting them on
you also its of extreme importance to learn calibration

CALIBRATION = get to the point you instantly know in what emotional state the person your interacting
is and adjusting your behavior to it.

People don’t rise to the occasion, but fall to the level of their training.

Never project bad shit during your opener this will hinder your results 100 %
Also never project the expectation of rejection.
Contents
Female Psych................................................................................................................................................. 5
You’re a tool! ............................................................................................................................................ 5
Women’s mental evolvement................................................................................................................... 6
Men’s mental evolvement ........................................................................................................................ 7
Parasitic love ............................................................................................................................................. 8
The predatory Female ............................................................................................................................. 10
Winnergame ............................................................................................................................................... 12
Rules of winning ...................................................................................................................................... 12
1. Play to win! ................................................................................................................................. 12
2. Be stronger than your excuses! .................................................................................................. 12
3. Always make the right choice! (even if it means defeat, you live in a world of odds) ............... 13
4. Be patient with results, but be impatient with your actions. Take massive action, work hard! 13
5. Replace “I should” and “Try” with “I will do” and “I Do” ............................................................ 13
6. Know the rules of the game you are playing so you can take advantage of them! ................... 14
7. Know when to practice, and know when it is game time ........................................................... 14
8. Make mistakes – Learn from them! ............................................................................................ 14
9. You are decisive in critical moments! ......................................................................................... 14
10. Lose battles to win the war (winning the right way)! ............................................................. 14
Pickup lies exposed ................................................................................................................................. 14
The truth about infields ...................................................................................................................... 14
The truth about natural game ............................................................................................................ 15
Cold approach (meeting, talking and knowing strangers) .................................................................. 16
Truth about looks and money ............................................................................................................. 16
The truth about approach anxiety ...................................................................................................... 16
Alcohol in game....................................................................................................................................... 17
Being a hard closer.................................................................................................................................. 18
Dealing with people who don’t game ..................................................................................................... 18
Start implementing (Winner) Game in your life! .................................................................................... 18
1. Warning............................................................................................................................................... 19
2. Action vs theory .................................................................................................................................. 20
3. Make mistakes .................................................................................................................................... 22
4. Taking care of yourself ............................................................................................................................ 23
5. You are the shit ................................................................................................................................... 24
6. You are the gamer............................................................................................................................... 25
7. Mindset ............................................................................................................................................... 27
What is a Mindset ................................................................................................................................... 27
We are not aware that we have a mindset ............................................................................................ 27
Social Conditioning.................................................................................................................................. 27
Victim Mindset ........................................................................................................................................ 28
Superiority mindset................................................................................................................................. 29
The Eternal Student Mindset .................................................................................................................. 29
Don’t Chase Approval ............................................................................................................................. 30
I Suck With Girls, I’m Not Happy Mindset............................................................................................... 31
Your Memories Shape Who You Are ...................................................................................................... 32
8. How the mind works ........................................................................................................................... 33
Rationalizations ....................................................................................................................................... 33
The critical factor .................................................................................................................................... 34
Understanding personal beliefs .............................................................................................................. 35
What is a belief system? ..................................................................................................................... 35
Look at what people Do, not what they say ....................................................................................... 36
Creating new beliefs ............................................................................................................................... 36
Imagination and Visualization ............................................................................................................. 36
Perception and Imagination are the same.......................................................................................... 37
Let go of your negative identity .......................................................................................................... 37
9. Mindfulness......................................................................................................................................... 38
Reality checks .......................................................................................................................................... 40
Being present .......................................................................................................................................... 40
Letting go ................................................................................................................................................ 42
Equanimity .............................................................................................................................................. 42
What are sensations?.......................................................................................................................... 42
spectator role ...................................................................................................................................... 43
Grounding ............................................................................................................................................... 43
Expectations ............................................................................................................................................ 44
State control............................................................................................................................................ 44
10. Meditation ...................................................................................................................................... 46
 Practical meditation ................................................................................................................................ 47
Phase 2 expanded ............................................................................................................................... 47
Never identify with feelings and sensations. ...................................................................................... 48
11. Intent............................................................................................................................................... 49
Know what you want .............................................................................................................................. 50
12. Congruency ..................................................................................................................................... 51
13. Visualization .................................................................................................................................... 53
14. Self sabotage ................................................................................................................................... 54
15. Projecting ........................................................................................................................................ 56
16. How to read people ........................................................................................................................ 56
17. Body language ................................................................................................................................. 57

Female Psych
To learn about game, you must learn about the female psychology so you know what you are working
with.

You’re a tool!

“Feminine traits are called weaknesses. People joke about them; fools ridicule them; but reasonable
persons see very well that those traits are just the tools for the management of men, and for the use of
men for female designs." -- Immanuel Kant, Anthropology from a Pragmatic Point of View, Southern
Illinois University Press 1978, originally published in 1798

One thing our society struggles with as it continually fails feminism's cultural fitness tests is the silly
notion that men and women are "equal" and thus we are essentially coming at each-other from the
same point of view regarding our interactions with the opposite sex.

This is the wrong way of thinking.

We are not "blank slates" who are different merely because of society's externally imposed social
constructs upon us.
In fact, anyone who believes in evolution would scoff at the idea of men and women being essentially
the same.
Natural Selection is what "evolves" us.
Sharks mate with the fastest swimmers and the sharks best able to feed themselves. By selecting those
with the genes which display these traits, they continually evolve to become better swimmers and
better predators.
Animals evolve to do the tasks which they are best suited for. Thus, the sharks of today are likely
"better" sharks than the sharks of 10,000 years ago as the genes of those best at survival continually get
passed on more often than those who fail to survive.

Between the sexes, we also evolve to do the tasks which we are best suited for.
You can see that men and women are physically different, each being designed for what they do best.
Certainly there are some social constructs that society imposes upon men and women, but they are
based on our biological natures, not upon the blank slate.

In women's case, their entire bodies are designed for giving birth and caring for children.
They have wide hips to give birth and have breasts to feed children with.
Note that it is also these traits - women's "curves" - that are a large part of what men find sexually
attractive in women. It is their "reproductive features" we find attractive.
Further, even a woman's mind has evolved to make her more suitable for rearing children, thus a
woman's "multi-tasking brain" is more suitable to care for children - or to do other tasks while also
caring for children.
But it goes even further than this multi-tasking feature.
Women are somewhere in between that of a man and a child. Often times, the men of old observed
women were merely children of a larger growth:

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple
reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted — in a word, are big children all their
lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the
word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then
consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place." -- Arthur
Schopenhauer, On Women

Women’s mental evolvement

Women have mentally "evolved" to be something intermediate between the child and the man.

We have all heard that women are more emotional than men and are more "in tune with feelings" than
men. And this is correct, for tell me, how do infants communicate except through the language of
emotions and feelings?

How does a baby indicate it needs to be fed? It is through the emotional response of crying - certainly
not by saying, "Hey momma, bring those soft, round milk thingies over to my mouth."

Children communicate emotionally, and since women have evolved to become "better care takers of
children," they have also evolved to be more in tune to the language of children, which is emotion.

"... Because the female connections link the left hemisphere, which is associated with logical thinking,
with the right, which is linked with intuition, this could help to explain why women tend to do better than
men at intuitive tasks, she added. “Intuition is thinking without thinking. It's what people call gut
feelings. Women tend to be better than men at these kinds of skills which are linked with being good
mothers,”

We also often hear that girls mature faster than boys.

This is also true, and to refer back to Schopenhauer again, he acknowledges this as well:

“Man reaches the maturity of his reasoning and mental faculties scarcely before he is eight-and-twenty;
woman when she is eighteen; but hers is reason of very narrow limitations. This is why women remain
children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the
appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important.” -- Arthur
Schopenhauer, On Women

The reason girls mature mentally before boys again goes back to their biological function as the bearers
of children.
Everywhere in nature, when an animal is physically capable of giving birth it is also mentally developed
enough to care for its offspring - at least in the most primal of ways.
This is also true of human females.
When they reach puberty, they are mentally mature enough to give at minimum the basic care to an
infant to keep it alive. Even though we don't encourage girls to have children as soon as they reach
puberty, we do see in our culture that adults begin to trust girls at the age of puberty for tasks such as
babysitting, thus lots of girls in the 12 to 14 age group begin to earn some pocket money in this manner
- they have become mentally mature enough to adequately do the task.

Why does Schopenhauer indicate women reach the maturity of their reasoning and mental faculties at
the age of eighteen?
Well, what would be the evolutionary advantage to women growing out of this phase of relating to
children and beyond it? There is none.
But then, what is it that men have evolved to become?
Once we realize that everywhere in nature the male is the sexual servant of the female, it's pretty easy
to see the plot of evolution:

Men’s mental evolvement

Men have evolved to become the best providers and protectors we can possibly be in order to meet the
needs of the female.

- especially during her most vulnerable time, which is when she gets pregnant, gives birth, recuperates,
and then raises the child until it becomes self-sufficient (ie. It can walk, talk and feed itself).
This whole process takes about four years to complete, and then her rotating polyandry cycle kicks in
and she discards the male in order to seek out a new man to repeat the cycle again.
This is the primitive method of assuring genetic diversity amongst her offspring, which increases their
overall chance of survival

So aside from merely being sperm donors, men have also evolved into being the best at what we do -
and these are also the things women find attractive in a man:
 • Our protecting and providing skills.
• We have developed upper body strength which is vastly superior to the female's, and so it is tall,
strong, broad shouldered men which women find sexually attractive.
• Men have developed linear thinking brains which help us figure out how to perform specific
tasks as efficiently and productively as possible.

No matter what men set out to do, aside from raising children, women cannot compete with men on a
level playing field because we have evolved to best perform our tasks in order to make ourselves useful
to women.

Most women admit that they are sexually attracted to men who are more intelligent than they are - this
does not mean that all men are smarter than all women, but merely that each woman tends to seek out
a man who has higher intelligence than she possesses.

But ultimately, men do all of these things in service of women, in the hopes of gaining - or maintaining -
her favor. However, the kink in this plot is that women don't actually "love" men, only gay men truly
love men. Rather women love being loved. "Love" means different things to men and women.

"Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so
intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long,
they are incapable of giving you any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do
so." -- Florence Nightingale

Parasitic love

Think of a man as a stick in a woman's hand - a tool which she uses for her own purposes.
The woman with the biggest stick will fare better in society than women with smaller sticks - or
especially women with no sticks at all. This is a further reason for women to give men fitness tests - to
test how strong of a stick he is. If she finds him sufficiently strong, she will begin to conform herself to
him, creating the illusion that she is his ideal mate so that he will begin to fall in love with her and thus
become useful to her as a "tool.
This is one thing that men must always keep in mind in his dealings with women. For women, their love
is parasitic - it is based upon what she gets from a man. But for men, their love is the host to the
parasitic nature of the woman - it is based upon what he gives.
"When I started researching this book, I was prepared to rediscover the old saw that conventional
femininity is nurturing and passive and that masculinity is self-serving, egotistical, and uncaring. But I did
not find this. One of my findings here is that manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless
generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again we find that 'real' men are those who give
more than they take." -- David Gilmore in his 1990 book Manhood in the Making
Also, one must keep in mind that relationships don't mean the same thing to women as they do to men.
Relationships are a "tool" for women - they get things from it, or rather from the man.
Women get over relationships far more easily than men do. They are never as deeply "in love" with a
man as a man is in love with the woman.
Men and women are polar opposites. We are two sides to the same coin, but those sides are not the
same. Women have more emotions but they are shallower. Men have fewer emotions but they run
deeper.
In evolutionary survival scenario, it makes sense too, that men would love women deeper than women
would "love" men. It is a man's deep love that will make him sacrifice his produced goods and even his
life for the woman he loves. This rarely happens the other way around. While there is an evolutionary
survival advantage for the female to lose interest in a man after completing her four year rotating
polyandry cycle, there is no similar advantage for the man to lose interest. In fact, just the opposite. It is
in both her and her offspring's advantage to have the man still hopelessly in love with her, providing and
protecting his brains out while she slyly seeks out her next suitable mate before giving the present "tool"
his walking papers.

Everything a man does in a relationship is in her benefit. This is the basis of Briffault's law.
The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can
derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.” -- Robert Briffault,

The Mothers
1 - Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.
2 - Any agreement where the male provides a current benefit in return for a promise of future
association is null and void as soon as the male has provided the benefit (see corollary 1)
3 - A promise of future benefit has limited influence on current/future association, with the influence
inversely proportionate to the length of time until the benefit will be given and directly proportionate to
the degree to which the female trusts the male (which is not bloody likely).

Briffault's law is the reason the most important word a man must learn in his relationships with a
woman is "No!"
If a man keeps nothing for himself and simply gives it all to her, she has no reason to continue to
associate with him. No matter what he does, it soon will become "What have you done for me lately?"

He must keep the benefits he bestows upon her under his control, and learn to say no often, as she will
naturally try to get him to pass them on to her. No, I won’t spend $100 for roses on Valentine’s Day. No,
we’re not going to Hawaii for a vacation (unless you are paying, Toots!) No, you cannot move in with
me. No, you cannot move in now that you’ve been evicted – that is what your girlfriend’s couch or your
parent’s spare room is for. NO! We won’t get be getting married. No! You are not going on the pill so we
can have bareback sex. No! No! No! No! No! NO!
There were only a few thousand divorces annually in the mid-nineteenth century when divorce cost wives
their children and Dad’s paycheck. This family stability began eroding as later nineteenth century divorce
courts, under pressure from the rising feminist movement, began awarding child.

https://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/rotating.pdf
(Click for "Rotating Polyandry & Its Enforcers" custody to mothers. -- Daniel Amneus, The Case for Father
Custody, p360)

“Between 1870 and 1920 the divorce rate rose fifteenfold, and by 1924 one marriage out of seven ended
in divorce” — James H. Jones, Alfred Kinsey: A Public/Private Life (New York: W. W. Norton, 1997),
p.292.

Women's attitude to men is easiest to understand by comparing it to our attitude towards a job.
Whether we love our job or not, most of us think we must have one. We often think a bad job is better
than not having a job at all. No matter how much we may love our job, we'll jump ship and go with a
better one if it's offered. And no matter how good our job may have been for us in the past, if
something happens that upsets us, the love has probably gone forever. We don't ever think we are
owed for the past.
"What do women have jobs for?
To entertain themselves while they aren't working"

The predatory Female

Women never want to be without a "tool" in society, for it is through her man-tool that she
accomplishes what she needs in society - thus, women are like monkeys and never let go of one branch
until she has gotten hold of the next.

This is why you usually find that at the end of her relationship with a particular tool, er, man, there is
always another man hanging around somewhere in the wings. Female "independence" is an illusion.

What women's independence actually means is that they want the freedom to change from one tool to
the next without consequences. Men would view independence in a much different manner. In fact,
Buddhism acknowledges the three phases women go through of using men as "tools" for their own
designs during their lives:
“Women have the “five obstacles” (inability to become anything great) and the “three followings”
(follows first the father, then the husband, then the son).”-- Buddha - from Selected Writings of Nichiren

In her youth, a woman gains her power through her father - he is the "tool" that serves her and
represents her in society. In adulthood, she gains power through her husband, who spends his life's
energy providing for her and the offspring they produce together. In her old age, she gains her power
through her son. In each case, she uses a man as her tool to deal with society.
I can certainly attest to the last one about the son with my own mother. Since my father died a few years
ago, it is now me who my mother uses to navigate life. When she has a problem, she comes to me to
deal with it. If she suspects the mechanic at the shop is trying to rip her off, it is me who goes there to
talk with him. When she needs to make a financial decision, it is me who she seeks advice from and who
she hands over the authority to make ultimate decisions. Since she lost my father as her "tool," she
transferred the responsibility to me. She is not independent as a man would be. I'm not upset about it. It
is the natural order of life. And since she didn't stuff me into daycare to have strangers raise me, but
rather did a good job for me as a true mother when I was young... and because she did not selfishly
destroy our family with divorce, but stayed with my father for 48 years (and I'm sure not all of those
years were easy ones), I am willing to let her use me as her "tool" in her old age because she deserves it.
Winnergame
After having acquired the proper mindset, you must learn the rules of winning in life. Learn what
winning means and learn what lies you have been fed about game.
Rules of winning

1. Play to win!
2. Be stronger than your excuses!
3. Always make the right choice even if it means defeat, you live in a world of odds.
4. Be patient with results, but be impatient with your actions. Take massive action, work hard!
5. The words “I should” and “Try” don’t exist, you replace them with “I will do” and “I Do”
6. Know the game you are playing and know the rules so you can take advantage of them!
7. Know when to practice, and know when it is for real
8. Make mistakes – Learn with them!
9. You are decisive in critical moments!
10. Lose battles to win the war!
Apply these rules in any area of life and you will be successful!
Game is emotions, not logic!
1. Play to win!
If you never practice your celebration for when you score a goal, you are not ready to score.
Chose to win, play to win!
Choose to win and prioritize winning over any obstacle that shows up! If you do this, you will get what
you want.
People actually are afraid of winning….
Winning sounds good on paper but you need to be ready to win if you actually want to win. Winning has
a lot of consequences, worse than reaching the top is to keep at the top.
You always need to be ready to handle what happens when you win.
ALWAYS PLAY TO WIN
Don’t play to look good
Take risks
Play to win
Decide to win
Don’t be afraid to look stupid
Always play to win to get results
Even if drama is the only road ahead….
Winning comes with consequences, chose to win regardless
If you don’t decide to win, another person will decide to win instead and will take your place!
2. Be stronger than your excuses!
Don’t listen to the negative little voice inside your head. You are stronger than your stupid insecurities.
Those insecurities only want to keep you stuck in your comfort zone.
Be realistic, we all have our own limitations:
Forget about anything that you can’t change, forget it, because thinking about it is a waste of energy.
If you can do something about it, take action and own it!
Work through your strengths, eliminate your weaknesses. But that what you can not change, does not
fucking matter.

3. Always make the right choice! (even if it means defeat, you live in a world of odds)
You will do anything and everything within your capabilities to win. If you lose after all, then there’s
nothing you could’ve done about it, you gave it your everything. It was not your fault that you lost,
sometimes you just get unlucky in life, we live in a world of odds.
You can lose while playing your best game:
Even if you make the right decision a thousand times, you cannot always win. The world we live in is a
world of odds and possibilities.
Even if you have a great (poker) hand but your opponent just got better cards, you will lose even while
playing the game as good as you can. Sometimes it is just not up to you….
4. Be patient with results, but be impatient with your actions. Take massive action, work
hard!
Put the gas pedal on your actions, take the gas pedal off your results.
Be patient with your results, be impatient with your actions.
Your results are not controllable by you, you can only influence them through taking the right action.
If you are making the right decisions and choices, the results you wish will eventually appear!
5. Replace “I should” and “Try” with “I will do” and “I Do”
I should have had that promotion
I should have done that
I should have that
I will try to do this

Those words will turn you into a victim and they will make you insecure!
Reframe: I will try to catch the ball vs I will catch the ball
I will do, I do it
I will do, I do it
I will do, I do it
These words are the new sheriff in town!
 6. Know the rules of the game you are playing so you can take advantage of them!
You have to know the rules of the game before you can start playing.
You need to know the rules before you can take advantage of them!
For example: A girl doesn’t want to feel like a slut, so know what to do.
7. Know when to practice, and know when it is game time
Every skill requires practice. There are times where you should practice to get better at a certain skill.
And there are times where you have to play the game for real, to get the result and to apply everything
you have learned. You practice so you know what to do when it is game time.
There is time to practice and there is time to play for real!
8. Make mistakes – Learn from them!
Make millions and millions of mistakes.
That is the only way to learn.
Always play on the offensive, always!!
Never play on the defense.
This means, never care if you make mistakes or not!
Do not try to prevent mistakes, this will stifle you! Don’t be afraid of losing, let go of your ego!
Don’t think “I need to get 100/100 attempt right”, instead think “I need to get 100/500 attempts right”.
9. You are decisive in critical moments!
Clutch moments are critical moments in life which, depending on the decision you make at that point in
time, are going to have consequences later.
This is a scary moment which you have to dominate!
If you don’t dominate and fail at clutch moments (critical moments) you can set back your progress a lot.
Clutch moments are the moment for growth!
Hold the pressure
Dominate
Be rock solid
Dominate those moments!
10. Lose battles to win the war (winning the right way)!
A lot of times, we lose a battle on purpose to get what we want in the future.
You never want to win all the battles, this way you never allow yourself to make mistakes which are the
moments from which you learn the most.
Only noobs want to win all battles. They will stay a noob because they don’t allow themselves to learn
from their failures and they will stay a noob forever!
If winning today causes you to lose you later on in life you need to win in a different way.
Make it Win-Win, the win should be mutually beneficial. The other person should be walking away
better than the way you found them. Your reputation depends on it.

Pickup lies exposed

The truth about infields

Infields are a powerful tool to tech, but they are also a powerful tool for marketing and deceiving
people.
Infields should be the most real example of seduction techniques being applied in front of your own
eyes.
In reality infields are mostly edited footage to show off and no real game is thought.

What are the best infields:

Long infields, long unedited infields, so you can see the realness.

What are bad infields:

Short infield footage can easily be manipulated and edited. You see crazy shit on short infield clips and
then you think that shit applies to the real world when in fact the infield was just showing off a one time
success out of 100 tries. This will fuck you up.

Good game looks like you and the girl already know each other for a long time.
What to look for in infield footage:
• Silent compliance
• Female qualification
• The less energy, the better (low key)

Silent compliance:
The girl must be happy and comfortable with your advances/moves/escalations

Female qualification:
She explains herself to you
She tries to impress you
She contributes to the interaction
The less energy, the better (Low key)
Good good game, looks boring. Because it is very subtle. (That is how you end up fucking your teacher)

Never look for:

• Instant makeouts
• Spinning girls in the air
• Crazy weird shit in general
• Flashy stuff
• Obnoxious stuff

The truth about natural game

Imagine you start playing tennis, you never played it, and you refuse to be taught. You will need the
quadruple of time to learn shit by your own instead of listening and watching the masters.
You will get good naturally at tennis , but then you will reach a cap and you will need to study tennis if
you want to be a master at it.

In game, its socializing, be a master in socializing

If you follow the Natural route and don’t study game, you will only get decent at game (aka interacting
with people)
why?
Because your only putting in the effort without any conscious goal to pursue.
To anything in life you will need 2 things:
• Effort
• Know how to do it
Studying Game is: study how to interact with people, how to socialize, how to be a master at it.

Cold approach (meeting, talking and knowing strangers)

If you don’t know how to cold approach a stranger out of nowhere, interact with them, and bring them
to your social circle your fucked.
Being in a social circle already doesn’t mean you are going to get girls. You still need game.
You still need the skill to; Open, Interact and attract a person you have never talked to in your life.
If you manage to make a girl of your social circle your girlfriend, it is way harder to fuck another girl from
that social circle if you are not an elite master in game.
If you see a fucking hot girl that attracts you on the other side of the street, a person that you never
talked to, how are you going to approach her and bring her in to your social circle if you never did cold
approach before? You must know and be capable of talking to strangers!
Social circle is a great complementary skill when you reach master level. It is where the real fun is at.
But the main skill you must have is, the skill of cold approach; Meeting, Knowing and Talking to
strangers!
Then you can always build your own social circle.
Always remember:
You are the average of the 5 people you hang out the most with!

Truth about looks and money

There is an average about looks and money. This is a baseline.
Just make sure that you are 1% above that average and you will be fine!
If you are not getting results and you are 1% better than average, it is because of your lack of skill at
interacting with others.

The truth about approach anxiety

Approach Anxiety feels very real, you feel it!
What this is, you feel resistance all the time before talking to a stranger for the first time.

Approach Anxiety is a stupidity and shouldn't exist, it’s just a garbage self-defense mechanism we
inherited from our times in the savannah's when meeting a random person outside your tribe could
mean danger:
1. Having AA is normal
2. It’s a problem inside your head
3. It’s easy to master and separate

It’s all a matter of fucking perspective:

You decide if you want to see things as frightening or as exciting!
Both of them are from the same part of the brain.
Choose excitement and accept the challenge of bringing that hottie to your bed!

One of the reasons you find AA so scary is:

You are putting a lot of pressure on that specific moment, saying hi to a stranger becomes this huge
fucking deal.
As a result you will feel (like 90 % of people) , if the reaction of the stranger is good you feel good, if the
reaction of the stranger is bad and you are rejected you feel like shit.

What you always should be thinking is:

I want to get laid.
You got rejected? doesn't matter, can you save the set? no? NEXT

Even if you are rejected:

- you will feel good with yourself because at least you tried
- you will learn something new

There is no down side in approaching a stranger, get that shit out of your head.

If you are inside your head during most of the day, all quiet and shit , and then you see a hottie walking
by, it will be fucking difficult to be in your best conversation ability while talking with her cause you
didn’t fucking talk for so long.

Start balancing your head time:

Inside your head time for planning , meditating and thinking about shit.
Outside of your head time for live in reality time, being live in the present moment time, game time.

You should not give a fuck about what other people think of you, have fun!
The moment you said hi you already won!

Imagine if you don’t approach/start talking with that stranger you will die:
• If the stranger reject you - victory
• If you reject yourself and don't even open the stranger - loss

Always approach that hottie

• You will feel bad for not doing it
• You will live in the “what if”-land

Before you approach, convince yourself that it will go right and expect an overall good outcome.
The worst mistake you can do before approaching a stranger is being pessimistic about it and thinking
ahead that it will go wrong.

Alcohol in game
In some environments it will be easier to socialize and be relatable if you drink a little bit. You don’t
want to be a stubborn guy who fucks the vibe of the party up because he doesn’t want to drink. It is
okay to drink as long as you are not using it as a tool to make your game easier. If you learn to game
while you are drunk, you will need to be drunk every time you want to game. The things you learn will
be associated to the state you were in.
It’s okay to buy girls a drink, just don’t expect to get the girl by buying her a drink.

Being a hard closer

Also known as, getting what you want.
It is absolutely necessary to ask for what you want, on average you can ask 3 times for what you want
without feeling ashamed.
When the other person objects to what you want, you have to solve the objection for them.
Be a solver to close!
You must really really really really really believe that what you are offering the other person is GOOD!

Dealing with people who don’t game

You don’t have to discard friends, just because they do not game like you.
Everyone has value and skills, if someone is not good at game it doesn’t mean that they are not good at
something else!

Start implementing (Winner) Game in your life!

These were the first things you should start implementing in your life.
You have read the truth about the female psychology and you acquired the student mindset .
Next steps will be working on your vibe, also known as:
• Mindfulness
• State control
In other words, Transformation Mastery and Ten Game.
 1. Warning
Never try to analyze everything that happens in a interaction.
Life is chaotic and full of surprises.
There is no linear model that encompasses all variables of human interaction.
You don’t need to use all the tools to have results!

The man’s desire is for the woman, the woman’s desire is for the desire of men! let that sink in

The women social role is to get offended by what you say, don’t let that annoy you.

For better results, never go game frustrated. How do you expect to lead a fantastic hot woman to an
amazing experience, if you’re frustrated as fuck?

Your current emotional state dictates your reality.

Keep your state of mind clear.

When you are in a bad emotional state you naturally assume many negative things about the person's
you want to interact with.

A lot of times you transport negative emotional states from one interaction to the other, making the
new person your interacting with victim of those bad emotional states.
Always doubt your bad perceptions in life

And also remember that you can be having bad emotional states cause someone is projecting them on
you also its of extreme importance to learn calibration

CALIBRATION = get to the point you instantly know in what emotional state the person your interacting
is and adjusting your behavior to it.

People don’t rise to the occasion but fall to the level of their training.

Never project bad shit during your opener this will hinder your results 100 %.
Also, never project the expectation of rejection.
 2. Action vs theory
Inner game has a lot of tools, one of these tools is the ability to force yourself to take action.
It takes a lot of work on yourself and on changing yourself to have the inner game to approach a total
hottie in a natural and effortlessly way.

Outer game is the ability to influence the emotions, thoughts and behaviors of others by having a deep
understanding of principles of various arts like:
• Influence
• Persuasion
• Propaganda
• Mind control
• Hypnosis
• Nlp

Inner game is better than outer game

Inner game is greater than outer game

If you don’t have inner game, you can’t obtain outer game.
Inner game gives you the ability to force yourself to take action.

Outer game is a skill, in the art of persuasion and influence.

You can’t obtain skill in seduction unless you are able to get yourself to take action. You can’t obtain
seduction skills without taking action!
Skill in game is dependent upon understanding, not knowledge alone. You can only gain understanding
from practical real-life experience

You need both inner game and outer game to seduce a hottie, both are indispensable. But inner game is
more important in the sense that without it you can’t obtain outer game, only theories.

Most of the community focus on learning outer game; the techniques. They want to learn the
techniques, the theory, how to talk, how to attract, how to open, how to fuck.
Most of the community is chasing technical knowledge about persuasion. Most of the community
believes that once they obtain enough technical knowledge about persuasion, the "what to do", they
will then have the confidence to finally take action. Open the girls they want and seduce them.
In reality what happens 90 % of the time is the average joe learning game reads and watches so much
material without taking action that when finally a situation happens where he can open a girl he likes
and seduce her, he become overwhelmed with conflicting thoughts and emotions and theories about
how to game and then he paralyzes and is unable to open.

Everyone in game had or will have this experience, it happens to all of us. Males love theory,
more theory is a rationalization we use to not take action.
We are scared to do it because approaching a stranger that you never talked to before is a step in the
unknown and the unknown is the biggest fear of men, we fear death because we don’t know what
happens next. Learn and cultivate your ability to take action!
How? By fucking taking action .
Approach girls you never seen before, approach girls you seen before. Don’t try to do it right, just go out
and take action.
The game, this game, is played on the field, not online. Not in books, but on real life. This game is played
on the real world and the real world is its arena .
Then, and only after you took action and your failing, you can then go search and seek information
about what you’re doing wrong. And you go take action again before more and more theory. The way to
learn game is not by studying but by taking action. Aapproach at least 1 new girl a day, 1 stranger of the
female sex you never seen before and remember:
Opening girls is your only criteria for success

If you get rejected by 5 girls in a night and you got home alone
Say to yourself: “Fuck yeah I approached, it was a success!”

Why is this?
You can’t control other people’s behavior. You can only control your own behavior.
Getting yourself to take action is the only measurement for success or failure.
If you don’t take action then you’re a worthless piece of shit and you should feel shitty cause your just
like a girl; hoping for things to happen to you; waiting a prince charming to come to rescue you.

There is no rejection, only results. Approaching and opening is what matters. Taking actions is what
matters.

Taking action makes you happy, not the reactions you get.

By taking lots and lots of action (opening strangers of the female sex), your brain starts to figure out
what works and what doesn’t. You start succeeding automatically. Repetition is key.

The only way to get to that point where your mind works in your favor is by taking lots of action all the
time. You’re taking action and approaching hotties on a regular basis, then when you see that one girl
that you really like; Opening her and attracting her is not hard at all.
It’s the same if you practice any instrument. Imagine you have a big play. You practice and practice and
practice on the stage and when the big night arrives you go there and play your thing.

The audience is like, wow, he is so talented, look at that, what a natural , I could never do that, it’s not
for me. When in reality you just did so many practice sessions that the big night feels like another
practice session and you’re there. Natural and effortlessly.
 3. Make mistakes
Everything that is worth mastering is worth doing it poorly.

Nobody is going to call you out for socializing with people,

including girls.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes, people like being opened so
much that people forgive your lack of skill.

People love being engaged!

Never dwell on a mistake, admit it, and move on (of course if you
do it again, you’re dumb).

This is caused by a major problem in our current education

system which values the “correct” answer so much that by the
time most people reach adulthood, they are afraid of making
mistakes.
They think that making mistakes means they are a failure or stupid.

Of course, making mistakes is not fun, but the truth is that if we are not prepared to be wrong from time
to time, we will never create or learn anything new.

Everything that is worth mastering is worth doing, in spite of potential failure, for a while.
How can you handle mistakes so that they actually serve your growth and self-development?

While you can't avoid mistakes while learning this material, how you relate to them will make a
significant difference in your learning experience:
Whenever you make a mistake,
1. first step should always be admitting that you made it. You should not dwell on it, but just admit
that you made mistake.
Period.

This way you don't need to tell yourself a story about it or try to blame yourself and others about what
happened.

2. To avoid conditioning yourself to feel negative about trying again, you should also laugh inside
your mind and say to yourself "That's not it".

3. After admitting you have made a mistake and laughing at it, focus your attention on what went
right.
The reason for this is obvious. If we only focus on the negatives, there is very high risk that we will never
notice what went right in the first place.

4. Only after honestly assessing what went right should you focus on what needs improvement.
Honesty is an absolutely vital part in this process as most people exaggerate their mistakes or what it
means in their life.
Of course, it is also possible to belittle mistakes too. After you have honestly assessed both sides of the
equation, you just go at it again, applying what you have learned.

You are putting so much pressure on yourself that you are bound to fail.
Begin to practice in less intimidating and challenging situations first, where you don't feel pressure
about success.
Only after you have successes under your belt should you move on to more intimidating situations.

You should be focusing most of your effort into practicing basic skills and practicing them all the time.
Even the most accomplished artisan or musician spends most of his time using basic techniques; don't
undervalue something because it is simple and clear. It is also true that after getting over basic mistakes
first, everything else will go much smoother and easier.

4. Taking care of yourself

To be in the GAME you need to take care of yourself.

If you don’t have control over your emotions and actions you’re not in the game. Taking care of your
emotional baggage is much more than just :
- willpower
- self discipline

However, everyone can feel like a god and have awesome frame
control!
The reason most people don't have it, is because of social
conditioning since young age.
let’s look at amazing tools to help you have amazing frame control
and feel like a god.

ALWAYS. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

- take care of your body
- sleep as much as your body and mind requires
- eat healthy
- drink lots of water
What you put into your body matters

Have positive thoughts - they give more energy

Fuck negative thoughts - they deplete you of energy

5. You are the shit

“How do I get into state????
I couldn’t do it, I wasn’t in state
I have many problems maintaining state
Once I’m in state I am the king”

These sentences are so common to read in the self dev, pickup world that is sickening.
However this is something the modern self-help industry loves to promote.

State is a huge trap

It assumes 2 things:
- You are not in an optimal state of mind;
- That you are not enough by being yourself.

Think about this as if you were in your optimal state of flow, if you asked someone "how do I get into
state" - your now out of state, out of the optimal state.

The right questions you should ask are:

- Why exactly do you need to get into state in the first place?
- Why is this?

What is currently happening in your life that prevents you from having your optimal state of flow?
 o Your parents
o Some girl
o Work
o The place you are right now in this exact moment

But even assuming this is fucked up. Why?

Because it assumes that your optimal state of being is only accessible under specific circumstances or
around a specific type of person.
It also assumes that you need to trigger your state.

What does this means if that is true?

- That everything is outside your control and that the event has power over you.
- That if you aren’t in that particular situation, where everything is fine, you can’t access your
state.

Instead of thinking your optimal state of being is something you need to trigger, start to think that
you are, as a matter of fact, in your optimal state of being even now.
You are just expressing different aspects of it. Even while working with other people and working
according to your role, you are inside that person who is being in his optimal state.
Even when you are feeling down or downright crying, you are still doing it from your optimal state of
mind.

6. You are the gamer

you want to get to the point in life where you are the gamer and not just someone who does game.
Slowly get to the point where you use the tools in this course to lead your life. Your personality is just a
construct. Your personality is just a presupposition about how you will act in a specific scenario.

To get really good at game, control what personality of you, you bring into an interaction:
1. Decide who you are going to be today (can be a "famous" person, Julien, whatever);
2. After deciding who you want to be, think what that person would do right now and just do it;
3. Continue this process for the whole day.
You will discover that acting like you were that person will often give you dramatic results in life even in
areas that you were "not good" at. Most of your self made limitations are just that, self made
limitations. They are results of your beliefs and thoughts, not actually physical limitations. When you do
this exercise for a week you will discover that it’s very difficult to return to your "old self".
Changes happen very quickly when effort and energy is put behind it.
 7. Mindset
Now that you know the truth about the female psychology, you must shift your way of thinking to a
mindset that is beneficial to master the game and mastering life.

What is a Mindset
Mindset is a group of ideas and beliefs that we have faith are 100% truth and that we all have. You have
a mindset Alfred has a mindset I have a mindset Everyone has a mindset Each and every one of us has its
unique mindset Our mindsets ( group of ideas and beliefs) affect the way we perceive, comprehend and
interpret life Our mindsets affect the way we interpret and filter information that is given to us Mindset
is the most important thing in life

We are not aware that we have a mindset

What's most surprising is that we as human beings generally aren't aware of our own mindset (group of
ideas and beliefs we consider 100% truth)
Why? Because we think we see the world as it is, but this idea is so fucking wrong!
The vision and image you have of the world and reality depends on the mindset you personally have.
You don’t see the world as it is, it depends on the mindset you currently have.

(Arnold Schwarzenegger 2018 - The speech that broke the internet - Most Inspiring ever)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNDA-o9yJNw

Social Conditioning
Social Conditioning, you were programmed. Catch them when they are young!
Since the moment we are born into this world that you are bombarded with information from every
fucking side. You’re welcomed into this world with a fucking spank so you cry, to see if your lungs work.
Anyways you are bombarded with info from every side and angle since you are born into this world:
• Parents
• Friends
• Family
• TV
• Internet
• Movies
• TV shows
• Music
• School
• Work
• News
• Publicity
Aware of it or not, all these ideas that are passed and are given to you since child. They shape your
mindset.
Feed your brain right!
Consume the right information Filter out unnecessary bullshit that will take you away from your goal!

(Feed Your Mind With Success - Motivational Video)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cEEhBmEJMEc

Victim Mindset
The first step to leave victim mentality is recognizing you have that mentality sometimes, and that
sometimes you make yourself a victim. If u have been acting like a victim for a long time this will be hard
to do. One of the first things you need to understand so you stop being a victim is: You are not the
center of the fucking universe! You are not unique, shit happens to all of us, you are not alone in this.
Not everything that happens , happens because of YOU. Be realistic, the world is : cruel, hard, cold,
unfair. Bad things happen all the time, shit happens, it is random and happens to everybody. Everybody
has their problems, billions of people have fears and are afraid. But everybody is stuck in their own little
world in their head, so they are often blind to what others are experiencing in their little worlds. Stop
putting people on a pedestal! Just like you, everybody has their own problems. Some people have even
worse ones! Never desire to be someone else Desire to be the best version of yourself. Accept where
you are right now and focus on changing that. Even if you start at the bottom, doesn’t mean you have to
stay there. It is up to you to do something about it. Get a passion and a new hobby, set goals and focus
1000% on accomplishing your goals. Your mind will not have time to be a victim now. It doesn’t matter if
you are a victim or not, nobody fucking cares. Stop crying like a little bitch, wanting for your mommy (or
other people) to comfort you. Stop waiting for comfort and reassurance from others. You got what you
deserve in life. If you want more, you’ve got to work more, work harder. You are not the little voice that
is inside your head. Laugh and dissociate yourself from that stupid negative little voice in your head. She
is so ridiculous. You are not that voice, you don’t identify with it. Dissociate yourself from it and laugh at
that pathetic insecure little voice in your head.

People who struggle with the victim mindset are convinced that life is not only beyond their control,
but is out to deliberately hurt them.

What you win with being the victim

• Not having to take responsibility for anything
• Other people lavishing you with attention
• Other people feeling sorry for you
• Other people are less likely to criticize or upset you
• You have the “right” to complain
• You’re more likely to get what you want
• You feel interesting because you get to tell people all of your stories
• You don’t have to feel bored because there’s too much drama going on
• You get to avoid and bypass anger because you’re too busy feeling sad

Signs of the Victim Mentality

• You’re constantly blaming other people or situations for feeling miserable
• You possess a “life is against me” philosophy
 • You’re cynical or pessimistic
• You see your problems as catastrophes and blow them out of proportion
• You think others are purposely trying to hurt you
• You believe you’re the only one being targeted for mistreatment
• You keep reliving past painful memories that made you feel like a victim
• Even when things go right, you find something to complain about
• You refuse to consider other perspectives when talking about your problems
• You feel powerless and unable to cope effectively with a problem or life in general
• You feel attacked when you’re given constructive criticism
• You believe you’re not responsible for what happens in your life (others are)
• You believe that everyone is “better off” than you
• You seem to enjoy feeling sorry for yourself
• You attract people like you (who complain, blame, and feel victimized by life)
• You believe that the world is a scary, mostly bad, place
• You enjoy sharing your tragic stories with other people
• You have a habit of blaming, attacking, and accusing those you love for how you feel
• You feel powerless to change your circumstances
• You expect to gain sympathy from others, and when you don’t get it, you feel upset
• You refuse to analyze yourself or improve your life
• You tend to “one-up” people when it comes to sharing traumatic experiences
• You’re constantly putting yourself down

Superiority mindset
You have the illusion that you are above everyone and above game and above hard work…..
Be humble
You are not above hard work, it doesn’t matter who da fuck you are; be humble, work hard, drop that
shitty ego that you have that whispers to you: “You’re already good mate, you don’t need this shit; your
great, they are peasants”.

Start judging yourself on your intentions

Stop judging others on their actions

(RSD Derek – Always be learning and analyzing your work)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=0qIXGBe5Y0o

The Eternal Student Mindset

Adopt this mindset
You are always ready to learn you are always open to new experiences
Never see yourself as a finished product where you are "finished".

Life is about the process not about the rewards!

(Bill Hicks - It's Just A Ride)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgzQuE1pR1w

Don’t Chase Approval

In long term thinking you want to step away from approval as a meter of success.
Never believe you’re good at game because you have good reactions from women.
This is not sustainable.....
If your motivation is based on good reactions that you receive, that's always an external factor to you,
you can't control it.
If you do this, the moment you get bad reactions instead of good ones you will feel depressed and lose
motivation.
People open other people, if they receive good emotions they feel good. If they feel bad emotions they
feel bad.
If your chasing approval or good reactions, unconsciously you will put people on a pedestal and you will
become needy and desperate to get them. Learn to have fun on your own!
• You don't need the girl to be enthusiastic
• You don't need the girl to be happy
• You don't need the girl to have fun
• Remember she will not complete you
• You are already complete on your own
• You must always feel complete and the girl is a nice bonus
• You are 100% with girl you become 125%
• You are already complete! Have fun, interact with the world, experience with it
• You are complete since the very beginning, since you are born, she will never complete you

You complete yourself with your actions and behaviors

It's you doing stuff, going through stuff, that shape who you are and that makes you feel good!
Get hyped by the actions you take and not the reactions you receive
Focus on bettering yourself as a person and results will naturally be a byproduct.

I am complete, I don’t need anybody approval or validation. I have a good time alone, if she wants to join
that’s good.

You are at the cause with good energies, everybody else is at the effect, fuck whether they like you or
not, your intentions were good!

My emotional state is not dependent on outside sources. That means, she doesn’t affect me
So I never become butthurt or take her too seriously.

GET BETTER NOT BITTER

Never become butthurt or take things too seriously, nothing is a big deal. Being a man is like being a
lighthouse of positivity, while the world is an ocean of negativity.
Get better not bitter
Give good vibes, never expect good vibes back
(You are already complete)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sOt4O_i1NSc

This is the cornerstone in game and at getting good at socializing and life.
Your love for others must come from abundance of loving yourself so much that you have love to give to
others.

I Suck With Girls, I’m Not Happy Mindset

If you identify with this, realize, this is not you.
This is not you!

This is the story of your life up until this point.

The past doesn’t equal the future. Your life right is now only an accumulation of stories up until this
point. You are not those stories

You are a completely different person than the one from those stories. Those are just stories and
experiences but they are not who you are.

Who you are right now is a combination of 2 things; your environment and your upbringing.

In 90 % of cases, you are bad with girls because you had a late start and a lack of a optimal male role
model (father). Maybe your dad was absent and didn’t care about you or teaching you the art of being a
male, or maybe your dad was a tyrant.

What matter is, he was not a good role model for masculinity in your life. Or maybe with all due respect,
your dad tried his best with the knowledge he had, but there was no info about game back then.

If you are like this, then you are a slow starter, a late starter.
Because you had a late start, you have poor momentum and for some reason you couldn’t catch up with
the momentum of life.

And down the road you ask that fucked question to yourself:
All these results that I’m lacking .... is this because of the environment, or is it me?????

You start looking around to the other people, analyzing and you think to yourself;
Fuck..... this guy is getting it... that guy is getting it ..... that one is getting it as well....
You turn on the TV and see other people there and they are getting it, You watch some rap video they
are getting it ... everyone is getting it....

“It is me, the problem is definitely me.”

And this thought is supported by the poor results you are getting.

And all of the sudden, this question shapes you and now IS who you are.
you are the guy that is bad with women, you identified yourself with it, it’s who you are now.

congratulations for being your worst enemy.

“I am the guy that sucks with girls” becomes your new reality.

If you are by nature a shy person, an intelligent person, an analytical person, an introverted person or a
introspective person; these people tend to not be that extroverted , they prefer to go to a room, watch
people for a bit and then make a move.
If you’re the kind of person that goes into a room, and is afraid of saying hello to everybody then you’re
a late starter.

Most people have fear of engaging with others, they are afraid and are not engaging.
You are afraid and you don’t engage, but then you have that sad combination of stories, you think to
yourself "yeah, we are not engaged because of me, who would want to engage with me, I suck"

Then the more life progresses, and you are 22 , 23 , 25 years old you will get a lot of triggers from the
past:
• A hot girl passes by and you go into your mind "oh this is just like high school"
• You text a girl, that girl doesn’t text you back "oh this fucking bitch, all women are like this"

Basically anything that happens to you, you link it to the past; "this is just like before, all women suck
and I am a failure".

The more life progresses the more triggers all over the place you have that provoke emotionally
responses in you. The triggers are basically triggering recalls , from bad experiences you had in your past

Let’s remind ourselves; that guy is not you, it’s only the story that happened until now in your life and
it’s a combination of your environment and your upbringing.

Your Memories Shape Who You Are

If you could decide which memories to install in your mind and you would install amazing fake
memories, it would change the person you are right now. You would be a totally different person if you
had different memories from your past than your current ones.

When you go on a vacation, the vacation can last two, three or four days or even longer. However, the
memory of the vacation lasts twenty, thirty or sixty years.

Let’s say that in your past, you had two or three really bad experiences that really hit home on an
emotional level. Those two or three experiences all happened on a different day, so three separate days
of your life and there are 365 days in a year. You are holding on to those bad memories and relive them,
over and over and over, again and again.

In fact it was just a few days, but you relive that so many times that it becomes part of your identity.
So those three days changed the shape of your life, because you relive them.

You choose who you will be in the future by the behaviors your having in the present
You choose who you will be in the future by the behaviors your having in the present
You choose who you will be in the future by the behaviors your having in the present
You choose who you will be in the future by the behaviors your having in the present
You choose who you will be in the future by the behaviors your having in the present

Eliminate these sentences:

⦁ "I don’t do that"
⦁ "that’s not me"
⦁ "I’m not about that"
⦁ “I never did that before and will not do it"
⦁ “That stuff is for idiots, I will not do that"
⦁ "Why does shit like this only happen to me

Think to yourself, if you’re unhappy, most likely the things that you have been doing are not the correct
course of action.

Adapt
Adopt what works
Ditch what doesn’t

GO TEST IT

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fANFN_8DPg
(Tyler's Secret To Effortless Motivation: "Buy In" To What You're Capable Of Accomplishing (+Infield))

8. How the mind works

Rationalizations
Most people make decisions for emotional reasons.
People don’ want to be sold to; however, people buy.

When making decisions, people often tend to think they are being rational agents.
In reality, the part of the mind that actually makes decisions is emotional!

This emotional part of the brain is only interested in two things:

• Energy
• Effort

Rationalizations
We create rationalizations to justify the decisions we make based on emotional reasons.
We believe the rationalizations we create like they were 100% true.
why? Because the rationalizations come from inside the mind of the most important being in the
universe, You!

Observation: there is no reality checks inside your mind, in your inner dialogue
Everything we tell ourselves inside our mind must be true because it all happens inside of you!

If you want to influence anyone you must appeal and bring forth their emotions
Because most people make decisions based on emotional reasons!
And all the actions we have are aimed to making us feel good!

If you want to make someone do what you want

Make them imagine, Inside their mind, a better reality than the reality they are currently living!
If you are able to do this the other person will follow your lead if no down side is present!

Make people imagine a better reality than the reality they are currently in and they will do what you
want if there is no downside to it.
Aka, it must be win-win

By deductive reasoning and rationalizing our actions, we create for ourselves different emotional states.
However, science has proven that very often these rationalizations happen only to justify decisions our
mind has already made.
No matter what causes these rationalizations, they feel so convincing that we believe them to be
absolutely true.
Why?
Because there are no reality checks inside our minds. Everything you tell yourself must simply be true
because it all happens inside the mind of the most important being in the universe – You!
Most people make decisions for emotional reasons, and in the end, all your actions aim to connect
positive emotional states to your own personal outcome.

The critical factor

We are inside our heads all the fucking time.

Imagining;
Daydreaming;
Having cool ideas and thoughts;
Imagining different scenarios that reality presents to us.

While we are always imagining and coming up with different possibilities of what we would do in the
real world we have a system inside our mind that Filters and Interprets reality for us.

That system is called:

The critical factor, the policeman inside our heads.

The critical factor’s main job is to verify all information we receive It then compares all the previous
information we have stored in our mind. To see If the information you are receiving right now in the
present moment is congruent with the precious info you had stored in your mind.

If someone comes up to you and says 'the earth is flat' your critical factor kicks in and will cross check
that new information against all the previous information you had about earth. If we didn't have the
critical factor, we would be depended on outside influences all the time and everything we witnessed
would become reality for us.
This is insanity and we can say psychotics lack critical factor.

The critical factor helps us keep and maintain the reality we have right now and if we succeed in doing
so, our brain rewards us with pleasure since this gives us a sense of stability and steadiness.
At the same time, while the critical factor is awesome, it can really butt fuck you

The critical factor can prevent you from internalizing information that could be beneficial to you
We all know someone that is depressed and doesn't believe our positive and well-meaning messages.
No matter what we say.
Then that someone always comes up with weird rationalizations and excuses and continues doing the
same shit that lead him into their problem in the first place... Hoping for different results.

Our positive and well-meaning messages are getting stuck in that individual’s critical factor!!
The messages aren't compatible with his current world view and with what that individual believes to be
true!

The critical factor makes you rationalize your decisions, doesn't matter what they are and the mind has
an infinite capacity to rationalize. This sometimes results in rationalizations that are stupid and illogical
but the person at question really believes them.

Understanding personal beliefs

A belief is anything a person considers to be true.
For example, through experience and social conditioning,
• you most likely believe that water is wet.
• You believe that fire burns if touched.
• You believe that you will die someday.

Whatever your beliefs are right now, you acquired them via experience and learning!

When beliefs are put together, they create a Belief System

What is a belief system?

A belief system is a larger set of beliefs that work in union and determine/establish/create personal
values. Personal values can be simple or complex but they always depend on the beliefs you have, aka,
what you believe.
For example,
 • perhaps you believe that you should treat people kindly.
• Perhaps you believe your family is more important than your career.
• Perhaps you believe you should have children by the age of 30.

When we believe in something to be real, we act on it like it was real

Time to think about in what you personally believe to be true!

Most of the human population aren’t aware of what they really believe in and just kind of live life
wandering around in a perpetual low level trance, always bad mouthing and criticizing others.
To put this in simple terms:
Most people say this and that but when something actually happens they react in a completely different
way from what they talked before
To put this more into simple terms:

Look at what people Do, not what they say

Always try to understand what the other person believes in, because every action we have are because
of our current beliefs.
Even if the beliefs of others seem total illogical to you there is always a reason someone holds a specific
belief - maybe it protects them from humiliation - maybe it offers them a sense of security - maybe it
gives them a sense of identity.

There is always a reason why we believe in things!

Our minds love to defend our current reality and keep it steady cause then our brain rewards us with
good chemicals.

Why? because it gives us stability and a sense of self!

Sometimes due to rationalizations people have really weird and strange beliefs
The mind has an infinite capacity to rationalize and justify any belief no matter how illogical it may
appear to someone else! Only if and when we are able to offer a more compelling alternative they are
willing to change their belief.

If you want to change someone belief, offer them a better reality than the reality they are currently in.
They need to believe in you and you need to believe in you as well.

Creating new beliefs

Imagination and Visualization
The best way to create new beliefs inside you is by imagination and visualization.

The policeman inside your head (critical factor) that is always trying to keep you in the same place and
state forever is only bypassed when you are inside of your head imagining and visualizing and that
imagination and visualization feels more true and real to you than the current reality in the real world!

Read and re-read that again and again until you understand.
You may think this is a rare occurrence , but for 99 % sure you do this all the fucking time.
You’re always inside your head imagining and daydreaming.

The problem is you have bad beliefs about yourself. Like we studied, you act on the beliefs you have as if
they are 100 % true, it’s just human nature.
So if you believe bad shit about yourself, or have limiting beliefs, your constraining yourself. You are
manifesting that reality that you are imagining because:
You act on the beliefs you have like they are 100 % true, it’s just human nature.

Perception and Imagination are the same

Even if you know you are just imagining things, your mind and body can’t distinguish the imagination
from reality.

You have natural mind and body responses depending on what you imagine:
Imagine you’re going to meet a babe, a 10.
You will start imagining bad shit, like being rejected by her, being humiliated , you imagine you are not
enough, etc. Now you don’t want to go meet that 10 anymore, you know why?
Because your body and mind can’t distinguish imagination from reality.

When you imagine someone rejecting you, your mind and body have the experience has its actually
happening in the real world!

SO START IMAGINING GOOD SHIT, TO GET NEW BELIEFS!

Anytime you make a girl imagine things, you are bypassing her policeman inside her head, and you can
plant new ideas and beliefs in them, and if it feels good they will act on it.
(this is why being "sexual", being a dude that talks about sex like he was eating a bag of Doritos, works
so well when done right, cause the girl will always be imagining sex when she is with you)

Let go of your negative identity

Some people won’t let go of some of their negative experiences, because they have built their identity
around them.
If you still can’t imagine some cool shit about you, and you can’t let go of current beliefs like:
"I suck, I hate myself, women never want me" this has an explanation:
This is because you built an identity around those beliefs that you know that hurt you.

Now you know the truth, start imagining new beliefs:

- You are the shit
- Women dig you
- You are a womanizer
- You are high value

The social hook point = basically the girl acknowledging you are alive and present and that you are
talking to her
The sexual hook point = that moment the girl is so absorbed by what you are saying that she is imagined
it and its liking it so much that she wants more, with those big anime eyes.

You hook them by creating new beliefs in them, either by speaking or simply by being.
She saw a better reality than the previous one and she will act on it!

Understanding this allows us to understand why other people seem to sometimes have such strange
beliefs.
The mind has an infinite capacity to rationalize and justify any belief, no matter how illogical it may
appear to someone else.
You can’t make someone do anything against their own benefit.

9. Mindfulness
Before you can begin to influence anyone else, you need to learn to influence yourself and to manage
your own personal state.

It is extremely hard to influence someone else if you don’t have the slightest control over your own
emotions and actions. In this section , you are going to learn various techniques which will allow you a
higher degree of control over your own personal emotional state.

What is mindfulness?
When most people think of mindfulness , they immediately begin to think about a person with great
willpower and self-discipline, who can extend their will upon the world.
This is a good description, but it misses many nuances of what makes someone have great mindfulness.

People often believe great mindfulness is something that only a few, rare people can achieve, but in
reality everyone is capable of it.
The main reason why more people don’t have good mindfulness is that they have been taught confusing
and contradictory ideas about it and its true meaning.

In this section, we explore the true meaning of mindfulness.

Reality checks
1. Take a deep breath
2. State your thoughts out loud
3. Listen carefully
4. Ask yourself, what I said made any sense?

Most of the time, our thoughts seem very real inside our head but when said out loud they make no
fucking sense.
There are no reality checks inside out mind. When you say things out loud your critical factor will kick in,
the cop inside our head
Testing your thoughts are a vital part of the game.

Being present
Being present in the moment solves most of the problems we have about game.

Most people are bad at game because they are constantly thinking about their past and their previous
mistakes, or thinking about the future and endless scenarios (often bad ones).
No wonder why they are INSECURE

Your subconscious can’t understand the difference between imagination and reality.

When you are NOT present and in the moment you miss the opportunities that life gives you right in
front of you.
When we try to picture the future , your sub conscious will always try to predict it based on your current
emotional state.
That means that when you’re feeling like shit and you think about the future, your sub conscious will
always create obstacles and barriers where they don’t exist.
Those obstacles and barriers feel real, why?
Because:
Your subconscious can’t understand the difference between imagination and reality

To fix this always remember this:

Only face obstacles and barriers when faced with them, never before!

Always permit yourself to see what’s going to happen if you do or say something.

Calibrate after , do it for the reference

Remember:
Being present solves all the above problems.
If you’re present in the moment:
- you can’t focus on the past
- you can’t be thinking about the future
- when faced with a problem you find an
immediate solution

Thinking about the past and the future has it time and place.
The problem is people do it way 2 much.

Your sub conscious mind will always give you what you want, but
it can easily be set in the wrong direction with useless thinking.
Letting go
You can’t control everything, you control only yourself! - even if you learn enough , you can’t

None of us can avoid tragedy!

- Real life is chaotic
- People are unpredictable
- Sometimes bad luck happens to you
- Shit happens

Never believe you can control everything because then you’re going to get frustrated when shit happens
to you and doesn’t go according to your plans.

If you believe you can control everything then everything that happens is your fault ... this is not true!
Of course you still need to take responsibility, never forget that.
But life happens, tragedy happens shit happens, you can’t control everything.

You can only control yourself and influence the world around you!
If you focus on being in control of yourself, then you can allow things to happen!

A lot of times things work better when we don't interfere with what is happening!
if you let go of the need to control everything and focus only on controlling yourself you can then let go
of:
- Grudges
- Anger
- Frustrations
- Negative feelings

When you focus on only controlling yourself, you

can let go of everything.

Equanimity
Definition: calmness and composure, especially in a difficult situation.
"she accepted both the good and the bad with equanimity"

All the sensations and feelings we feel are created by the sub conscious mind

What are sensations?

Sensations are signals that are meant to tell you something is happening in the real world.

When you focus on a sensation it starts to control you!

Sensations get amplified if you dwell on them. When you focus on a sensation you start to identify with
it, when you focus on a sensation it starts to constrict and control us !
Never:
- try to resist a sensation or feeling
- suppress a sensation or feeling
- struggle with a sensation or feeling

spectator role
You should always accept what you are feeling and start watching that feeling from aside , 3rd person
view , not 1st person view.

When you accept sensations and feelings, they then take its natural course and they can’t control you!
- Imagine you’re feeling sadness if you accept it , you can then choose what to do with it.
- Imagine you’re feeling sadness, if you fight it and want to get rid of it (your focusing on the
sensation) that sensation will control you and your behaviors. You’re doing everything to not
feel sadness, that sensation now rules / controls you!
Accepting things is an essential part of game and there is a great wisdom in accepting things as they are.

Accept both negative and positive feelings and sensations.

When you accept positive feelings as well, they begin to flow naturally around your body, making you
feel complete and fulfilled.

Grounding
To become grounded in yourself :

- focus on our feet and feel the surface your standing on

 - breathe into your belly through your nose in a steady movement

If your experiencing difficulties bend your knees while doing this and straight up again.
By doing this you get out of your own head you become more aware of your surroundings and you
become more aware of your own internal state!

Most people don’t monitor their emotional state.

Because of this, when they catch themselves in a bad emotional state, it’s too late

Expectations
Most people have problems with bad expectations, but having too much positive expectations is equally
destructive.
Adopt the eyes of curiosity, be an eternal student, you’re never a finished product, you’re always
learning.
Don't be frustrated when things don’t go as expected, learn with it. Adapt

State control
To get into any emotional state you want

Do the grounding technique:

- Feet on the floor
- Attention on the surface
- Close your eyes
 - Steady belly breathing
- Imagine yourself in your desired emotional state vividly

Congratulation, you can now control the state you’re in.

If you’re having trouble into getting into your desired state, you’re tense.
Relax your muscles.

You can’t be tense, then this won’t work!

Never try to maintain state

Don’t be worried to be in state all the time, be worried in how to get back when your "out" of it

Never focus on maintaining state but on how to get back into it.

Another amazing exercise is this one:

1. Imagine and feel yourself in a neutral state of emotion
2. Pick 2 opposites of emotion ex: sadness and joy
3. Imagine how happiness feels , go to the extreme
4. Go back to neutral state
5. Imagine how sadness feels, go to the extreme
6. Go back to neutral state

choose other 2 opposites ( love, hate) , repeat

Benefits:
- You will have control over your emotions
- You can consciously decide in what state you want to be
- You are able to move quickly and easily between emotional states
- You will become aware of how your emotions color your perception of reality
- You will become more aware of your emotional state

If you have trouble showing emotions in the exercise above, and your too stoic. You have been social
programmed to hide emotions.

Yes, men are less emotional than women but not as much as believed to be.
Also it takes only a few seconds to get angry, but longer to chill out and become neutral again.
This means, to do this exercise you need to be relaxed, just like Jeffy here:
 10. Meditation
Meditation is not emptying your mind!

Meditation is observing your own

thoughts without being emotionally
attached to them.
Thoughts will always enter your mind,
you just don't give a fuck about them
and watch them from a distance.

After some time practicing meditation, your mind will feel less busy than before, you will feel more
relaxed!

Most of the human population spends their time inside their heads concentrated on useless thoughts
that lead nowhere. And because you’re always lost in your thoughts you end up going nowhere in life as
well.

You can never go further in life if you are not present in the moment and perceiving what is happening
around yourself.
Practical meditation
As we saw, practicing meditation/mindfulness has many positive benefits like:
- Reduces stress and anxiety
- Decreases pain
- Increases positive thoughts
- Improves self-control
- Improves ability to bond with others
- Makes you more present in the moment and focused
You can achieve this results after 2 months of daily 10 min meditation

Find a quiet spot where you can sit, sit down comfortably, close your eyes.
Three phases, each lasts 3 minutes:
1. Phase 1 - Breathe into your belly through your nose, breathe out slowly and evenly through your
mouth.
2. Phase 2 – Focus on the first sensation/feeling you notice in your body. Focus on it for 3 seconds
and then let go of it. Search the next sensation/feeling and repeat the process.
3. Phase 3 – focus on the surface you are sitting. When you begin to wander, put your focus back
on the surface you are sitting.
4. Open your eyes, stretch, the meditation is done.
This may sound small and simple but the benefits of doing this daily are massive.

After two months of doing this daily, you will have a more calm and clear conscious and sub conscious
mind, no matter what task you are doing.

Phase 2 expanded
You are improving your ability to observe feelings/sensations and to accept them

How to do the second phase expanded:

1. Sit-down and ground yourself , check Being grounded
2. Close your eyes
3. Focus on the first sensation that appears
- don’t push it away
- don’t run away from it
- don’t delve into it
 4. Observe the sensation without any attempt of changing it
- You accept sensations or feelings
- The sensation might change
- The sensation can remain the same
- The sensation can get stronger. Why is it getting stronger? cause your focused on it...

After some time if you’re really accepting sensations and feelings, the sensation or feeling becomes
weaker and weaker and then your negative emotions and feelings are greatly dismissed. Then with time
your sub conscious mind will understand that you’re accepting sensations and feelings and not fighting
against them. And then your subconscious mind starts working in your favor.

Stay away from traumas and big sensations and feelings in the first 2 months of your starting accepting
sensations and feelings.
Always remember to watch sensations and feelings in 3rd person, this is from aside, never on a personal
level.

Benefits of accepting your sensations and feelings:

- No obsessions
- No compulsions
- No unhealthy addictions (escapism in general, compulsory eating, bad habits to escape
"reality")

Never identify with feelings and sensations.

A lot of the human population makes feelings and sensations their identity!
If you say “I’m sad” it assumes sadness is part of you and you can’t change it. This makes you feel
helpless and on the mercy of the environment you’re in.
Nothing of this is true, but it’s true as long as you believe in it, and if you believe you’re sad, then, its
true.

Never say you’re sad, always say “I’m feeling sadness”.

Document: Shadow Work (Attachment 1)
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11. Intent
Liking something is not wanting it.

When you really want something, you put energy behind your thoughts, and you take action.
When you really want something and pursue it, your subconscious mind takes it seriously.
This is why so many people achieve a lot when they have a deadline they need to comply to.
Things just flow naturally because you really want it to get it on time.

Wanting something is not being desperate

When you’re desperate, you’re "trying" to make things happen.
In #winner-game that the word "try" doesn't exist for you
Your sub conscious mind gets stupid when you want to "try"
Trying prevents innovation.

you always get what you rehearse the most.

You don’t rise to the occasion, you always fall to the level of your training.
TAKE ACTION
When you say to yourself you’re going to do something, you stick to it and you do it
This trains your sub conscious to take you seriously at all times, and makes you a man of your word.
Always doing the things you tell yourself you will little by little train your sub conscious mind to take you
seriously.
Your ability to get what you want will increase through the roof.

You also need to build up your focus muscle.

Most of the human population has the attention time span of a fish.

How to develop and train the focus muscle:

start focusing on the specific task you’re doing at all times. It doesn't matter which task it is, focus your
attention there.
Also remember that if you practice mindfulness everyday your ability to focus rises hard.

(practical guide here #pratical-meditation )

(theory here)
#you-above-all
#reality-checks
#being-present
#letting-go
#equanimity
#grounding
#expectations
#changing-your-state
#you-are-in-state
#what-is-meditation

Know what you want

You are in Game and you run Game to get what you want.
But do you have a clear idea of what the fuck do you want?

When you don’t have a clear idea of what the fuck you want in game, you just speak aimlessly hoping
that something happens in the interaction. You always need to know what you want.

Poor plans get poor results. Like Todd says, have a System.
When you are in a interaction, don’t take a bigger step than your own leg.
Think about what you want, reverse engineer it, and baby step your way.

To get what you want you need to have a clear mind and be relaxed.
You can never lead someone into an amazing experience if you can’t control your emotions and
thoughts. Focus on the things that need to happen so you reach your end goal - baby step. Do the steps
you need to get what you want ( baby step) but never become obsessed with it!

Remember that; You want it, You don’t need it.

Knowing what you want is different from wanting things to go exactly as you want. Adapt your behavior
to chaotic real life to still get what you want!
What’s happening around you in the present moment in a interaction is more important than what you
want.

With this said, if the girl says a hard NO, it’s a hard NO. Don’t go with your plan of getting laid.

To conclude:
What da fuck do you want? Do you even know it?
Or are you just a leaf in the wind?

12. Congruency
What is Congruency ?
Congruency is you believing in what you’re doing at any given time. If you don’t believe in what you’re
doing, you’re not going to have results. When you believe in what you’re doing, you attract people and
people respond strongly to your game.
Believing in what you are doing at any given time is hard but it’s necessary to have great game.

For any of you lazy fucks that don’t leave the house , ....

When and if you practice game, you clearly see that your totally comfortable leading girls in some
contexts but not on others. You need to become aware of when you don’t believe in what you’re doing
and what things in life are preventing you to believe in what you are doing.
Identify when you don’t believe in what you are doing
A good exercise:
1. Ground yourself
2. Say something you don’t really believe in
3. Notice what you feel in your body, that’s incongruency
4. Start getting familiar with that feeling, you will start recognizing it in real time in real life

When you are infield and you are noticing and feeling incongruency:
1. Notice incongruency
2. Use MINDFULNESS ( equanimity, letting go )
3. Set yourself a new rationalization or belief that is more congruent to you

In practice, this will look like this:

Imagine your interacting with a 6. But you like her personality. (you’re desperate and you want pussy)
If you think to yourself you want to fuck her, you will feel incongruent, she’s a 6 after all, you can do
better.

To fix this let go of that thought, and say to yourself you don’t want to fuck the girl cause “she is a 6 and
you’re desperate”.
You want to fuck the girl cause “you want to be good at game”, do it for the reference experience right?

What you did here was create a realization on a more global level you don’t just want to fuck.
No you want to fuck to get good at game.

How to recognize incongruence on other people ( to see if they are lying , or in doubt):
some people know how to lie, and others , really believe in lies and speak of them as truth

Incongruence always shows up as a state change, even if its subtle

1. Be grounded in yourself, relaxed, clear mind
2. Have comfort / rapport with person your interacting with
3. Ask 3 question you know the person at question will answer honestly
4. Pay attention to their state
5. Know you know how they are when being sincere
 13. Visualization
visualization is one of the best ways to build congruency (to start believing in yourself).
Build a mental picture of what you want to achieve, feel it like it were real. (imagination and perception
are the same to your mind)

This automatically makes you express your desired outcome more congruently (you express better what
you want, cause you saw it in your mind). When your know someone for a while, that other person
instinctively picks up your mental picture, whatever it is!
You can be talking about the fucking weather to the girl, and she knows your hitting on her.
Or you can be talking about the fucking newscast and have a sexual underlying tone about it.

You communicate your visualizations all the time sub consciously. This is why you need to have
approach excitement and not approach anxiety and fear of approach ( I bet you imagined yourself being
rejected).
When you create visualizations you change the context of the interaction. The simpler the visualization
is, the easier it is for the girl to pick it up.

Instead of visualizing sex in the woods at 3 AM, just visualize sex.

Visualization is one of the strongest ways of communicating with your sub conscious mind.

Take charge of it, now.

Muhammed Ali (Boxer) said “Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something
they have deep inside them – a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the
will must be stronger than the skill.” “To be a champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not,
pretend you are.

14. Self sabotage

Have you ever met a person that seems to really know what he wants ( intent) and really believes in
what he is doing ( congruence)?
But even then, something is not quite right about him?
You may not know what it is, but you can feel it.

The answer to that question is:

The other person is trying to suppress what he really wants from the interaction he is having with you.

The more you hide what you really want from a interaction, the more of a uneasy vibe you put off.
Always remember to be present and baby step what you want, that’s crucial, check #intent

Sometimes it’s not the other person hiding what he really wants that is putting the uneasy vibe off,
sometimes the other person legit doesn’t know what he really wants from the interaction and is just
speaking aimlessly. Remember, most people don’t know what they want from interactions. And the
question that rises is:
Why do you hide what you really want to get from an interaction, why do you hide your intent?

Most of the times the answer is: Self sabotage

Most people are masters at self-sabotaging and if they by any chance have the opportunity to get what
they really want and desire they start having feelings that they are unworthy, don’t deserve it and end
up blowing the thing up.
Imagine you want a girl, but you self-sabotage, you procrastinate and never get out of your comfort
zone and you don’t take the steps needed to be attractive to girls. Because of this self-sabotage you will
never obtain your desire (getting girls), and what you resist persists and gets stronger. That desire will
grow to desperation and guess what, desperation scares people away like crazy.
That desperation grows stronger and stronger, cause you don’t obtain your goal, and then that
desperation creates this vibe that creeps everyone out.

Let me ask you some questions

How many male friends do you know that really know what they want?
Of that group of people
How many know how to do it, how to get it?
And out of that specific group
How many accept with no shame what they want and take action after it like a mad man?
I have a feeling that not many people are left after these questions

Most of self-sabotage is heavily related to low self-esteem and guess what; social conditioning.
How to break free of social conditioning
All societies have a code of ethics, Ethics are rules society have given to herself.
We are not talking about laws, we’re talking about this code of ethics and "good manners" that every
society has. Every different society has its own unique code of ethics.
For example: you can drink alcohol in most western countries and you can’t smoke weed. But in the
middle east you can’t drink alcohol but can smoke hash.

Ethics are not the law, they are just ethics.

It’s your choice to follow them or not. You’re not going arrested if you don’t break the law.
Who says touching a girl is rude? Probably some retard in a western country of the 21st century that is
full of mass confusion about how to be and how to behave (it’s called too much free time)

Anyways if you don’t follow the ethics of the society your inserted in, you are told that you’re a "bad
person", even though you didn’t actually hurt anyone. You just didn’t follow what society told you what
is "normal behavior".

Every group, organization, cult, ideology or society has its own group of beliefs and doctrines of how to
be a "normal person", including us in this very own document, if you don’t follow the rules or act like a
chode, we will make fun of you, outcast you, saying you don’t understand shit or how to be a pua.

Create your own code, your own rules, your own belief system.
Practice and defend the values you choose to believe.
If you believe we should help the elderly and the children or pets, practice it yourself and defend that
shit against who says the contrary.

When creating your own code, your own rules, your own belief system, please;
Keep it sane. Don’t rush this. Take time. Dwell on it.
But this is crucial:
- One thing is by creating your own code and rules you liberate yourself from the irrational
and arbitrary ethics of society;
- Another is using your own code and rules as an excuse to be a dick!

With all this said:

Gg, Start creating it!
 15. Projecting

16. How to read people

Remember State = the emotions your feeling

This requires you to have the previous channels all covered, I don’t care how much time you need to
have it all covered, but you really need to have it and implemented because this requires STATE
CONTROL, see why mindfulness is like the fucking basis of everything?

Master yourself and you will be able to master the art of socializing and having "charisma".
Imagine your interacting with a friend, and you are aware of what state is and you’re working on
controlling your state at all times. When you are able to do that, you can detect when your friend is
lying or being doubtful all the fucking time.

Why? Because not matter how subtle the change is, incongruence (lying, not believing in what you’re
doing) always shows up as a state change.
When you are aware of your own state you can detect when the other person state shifts.

Let’s apply this even further:

How to find out when someone is lying to you:
1. Ask 3 questions that you know the person you are interacting with will answer honestly
2. Pay close attention to the state of the person your interacting with while they answer
3. Congratulations, you have a base line state
4. Now that you know what someone state is when they are being sincere
5. You can detect when they are having doubts or lying
 6. When you start practicing it and getting some references, you will get to a point that sometimes
the other person doesn’t even have to speak for you to know, cause you pick up the state
change immediately.

This works 90 % of the time with the masses. Always remember, sometimes you can still get lied to or
get false information, you know why?
Some people really know how to lie, or people can really believe in lies and you will not be able to catch
the state change cause their state didn’t change at all. They are answering sincerely, they just believe in
a lie and they are telling it as truth. They believe in the lie so much, they are so deceived, that they speak
it with so much conviction like what they are saying is gold.

Remember again!
- Most people are deluded and believe in lies;
- Some people know how to stay congruent while lying.

How to lie?
Really believe in your lie like a schizo. A schizo really believes in
his visions and speaks of them as truth.

17. Body language

How you present yourself to others make a great difference in your ability to persuade people. It’s
because of this statement alone that body language and the analysis of it is so popular nowadays.
It’s also believed that body language can give you the edge you need to get what you want.

There are problems about how body language is perceived and taught nowadays:
First, a lot of people generalize body language and assume its applicable to every human on earth.
How to read someone body language with no fluff or complications;
1. Notice how someone body language is while being normal and relaxed - this is your baseline
2. Notice any changes that deviate from that
3. Done gg

Second, lot of people focus on analyzing micro expressions to determine if someone is lying. This works
but its extremely difficult to do on real time on a "pro" level while interacting with someone.
It’s also unnecessary with emotional awareness:
#mindfulness
#mindset
#you-are-the-shit
#take-care-of-yourself
#meditation
and remember
#how-to-read-people

Third, a lot of people say you should mirror the body language that projects confidence and trust. This is
not critical, don’t obsess with this.
Don’t obsess with body language.

We humans tend to lose immediate present control over body language while interacting with people
and being outside of our comfort zone. The most important lesson is this:
Your body language always follows your emotions. If you are relaxed your body language follows along.
This is why #mindfulness #meditation is so important, cause you work on your own bullshit so you can
be relaxed.

Body language is a complementary art, the real deal is working on your emotions.