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There are so many technological ways we are connected, but what we need is a heart that is willing to
connect. The real barrier to being willing to connect is the fear of being hurt. And of course, the fear of
being hurt comes from having been hurt — and having been hurt when we were young and open, and
innocent and very willing to connect.
So, we are in the process of healing, by interrupting that repeating cycle, by using our own power and
choice. We are cleaning up the wounds of the ancestors that reside in us all. The easiest way is to
intervene and transform is with Authenticity.
Allow and follow, the Authenticity.
What is authenticity? We may not know how to define it, but we certainly know it when we see it. In
fact, when we are in the presence of an authentic person, many of us can even feel it in our bones. We
gravitate toward people whom we perceive as honest, real and sincere. We love women who radiate
warmth and that “down to earth” feeling. We gather around the people who can “tell it like it is” and
laugh at themselves in the process.
Authenticity is something we revere in others and strive to maintain in our own lives. We don’t feel
good about half-truths, disingenuous connection and fearful silence. We all want to have a clear sense
of who we are and what we believe and to feel confident enough to share that with others. I’ve always
liked the saying “We want to feel comfortable in our own skin.”
Shame often prevents us from presenting our real selves to the people around us -- it sabotages our
efforts to be authentic. How can we be genuine when we are desperately trying to manage and control
how others perceive us? How can we be honest with people about our beliefs and, at the same time, tell
them what we think they want to hear? How do we stand up for what we believe in when we are trying
to make everyone around us feel comfortable so they won’t get angry and put us down?
We cannot share ourselves with others when we see ourselves as flawed and unworthy of connection.
It’s impossible to be “real” when we are ashamed of who we are or what we believe.
Shame begets shame. When we sacrifice authenticity in an effort to manage how we are being
perceived by others, we often get caught in a dangerous and debilitating cycle: Shame, or the fear of
being shamed, moves us away from our authentic selves. We tell people what they want to hear, or we
don’t speak out when we should. In turn, we feel shame for being dishonest, misrepresenting beliefs or
not taking an important stand.
Authenticity
~ Brené Brown