The Spartan Dating Script

The Spartan Dating Script
THE SPARTAN
DATING SCRIPT
How to Attract, Approach, & Keep A Man Interested
By G.L. Lambert
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Table of Contents
Introduction: 1
Chapter 1: How To Be Approachable 5
Chapter 2: How To Approach Men 17
Chapter 3: Approaching Someone You Know (Kinda) 30
Chapter 4: Inbox Love – Baiting Men Online 37
Chapter 5: What To Say On Dates To Win Men Over 43
Chapter 6: How Not To Text Like A Basic Bitch 57
Chapter 7: Sext Tricks & Dating App Skills 66
Chapter 8: What Are We?

What To Say When The Relationship Stalls 75
Chapter 9: How To Bounce Back From Disappointment 87
Chapter 10: Spartan Up – Internal Talks To Boost Your Confidence 94

Introduction:
ow do you meet your type? That specific person that checks your most
H crucial boxes, who isn’t taken, and most importantly will find you
attractive the moment your eyes lock? There are countless books about the
“proper way” to meet men, keep men, fuck men, and all the ways to play
hard to get until men want you more. 99% of them are bullshit. The
moment you try to be what you THINK a man wants, you become an actress
trying to put on an act hoping a man picks you. “But my friend did this and
got married… but my co-worker did that and got married…” Who cares?
The gimmick one woman used to land one man may not work on
the next three. The first date behavior that makes one guy blow up your
phone the next morning could get you ghosted by another. When I give
relationship advice, it’s not about playing games, it’s about bringing out
your True self to live in that power 24-7/365, not just for the moment you
flirt with a boy or go out on a date. You’re a grown ass woman, you
shouldn’t have to be trained in how to be liked, loved, and valued. Who
you are is inherently awesome. The definition of “Spartan Up” means to
become confident in what you bring to the table, secure in your
womanhood, and the master of your own destiny. The real you is a go-
getter, sexy, beautiful, aware, calculating and mature enough to let go of
shy girl tendencies and past rejection to properly pursue any and every goal.
My goal is to unlock your inner badass Spartan and help you get what you
deserve as opposed to what you’re given. I’ve helped countless women
Spartan Up, and this Date Script is a combination of those techniques that
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have led to results in dating, relationships, and most importantly, self-

esteem.
I recognize from all the emails and conversations I have with
women, that it’s hard to Spartan Up and be all you can be when the failures
of past relationship, insecurities from adolescents, and the constant
bombardment of “perfect” Instagram images cast doubt on your ability to
manifest abundance and attract someone truly special. Half of you reading
these words will end up settling because you won’t be able to get over that
inferiority complex. You will point to bad luck, your parents not raising you
properly, the modern-day man, and even your own perceived lack of worth
as reasons to just give up and wait for an option to pop up.
The other half of you will Spartan Up, I’m willing to bet money on
that. I’m eternally optimistic because I’ve seen amazing transformations
over the years that even took me by surprise. Ladies who thought they were
too fat, not pretty enough, too shy, anger issues, abandonment anxiety,
stuck on ex-boyfriends, and even those who thought they were too old
showed me that nothing is impossible with the power of self-confidence.
Goddess Confidence will always trump the negativity swirling in your
mind. To know what you’re capable of and believe that you can overcome
anything is the best superpower ever invented. This transformation isn’t like
winning the lottery, it doesn’t take luck, it takes want and will.
Script Not Bible

The purpose of this book is to be a quick an easy reference to use in
combination with my other books when you find yourself stuck. It will also
be a step by step blueprint that you can use tomorrow to get results.
Conversations can be hard at each level, and self-esteem can go up and
down depending on your results or lack thereof, so if you struggle with
dates or meeting people, this guide will help in the following ways:
 You meet men but don’t know what to say to get their number or
bait them to ask for your number.
 Your date says something witty, but you don’t think of a funny
comeback until after you get home.
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 An argument starts because you didn’t speak up sooner.
 You end up having sex because you didn’t know how to say “I’m not
ready” without turning him off.
 You want to date your friend, but don’t know how to tell them.
 You have been dating someone for way too long and don’t know
how to get into a relationship without giving an ultimatum.
 You don’t know how to text in a way that engages men.
 You don’t know how to flirt in a way that turns men on.
 Men keep losing interest after a few dates.
 You lost the power in your relationship and want to hit reset.
 You want to Spartan Up, but all the positive things you say feel fake.
 You had to pay your own bills last month… well, that last one’s
already covered in Ho Tactics.
The point is, most women, even the extroverted ones get tripped up
when it comes to communicating what they want from a man they like. This
book will stomp that weak shit out and give you the confidence to go for
what you want in specific and practical ways. Think of this guide as a script.
It’s meant to guide you, help you, and if you want, you could memorize it
and do just fine. At the same time, I want you to treat it like a great actor
treats a script. MAKE IT YOURS.
I once worked at Warner Bros, and one day I took a stroll into the
studio museum and saw the Training Day script pages. This was the actual
shooting script used on set by Denzel Washington, and to my amazement,
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he had scribbled all over it until the typed words were barely legible. Some
of the best lines in that film weren’t crafted by the screenwriter, it was
Denzel FEELING that character, living that character, and coming up with
what he would say in that moment as opposed to what a movie character
would say to get to the next scene. Think about that for a moment.
Creativity is Queen. This book belongs to you highlight it, print it,
write on it, make notes. You don’t need someone to feed you word for
word, you only need a jumpstart, right? You may have just shaken your
head like, “Hell no, I’m a mess I need to a planned-out blueprint with no
improvisation.” That’s cool, but eventually, you will feel strong enough to
start adding your own twists and upgrades. To a limit, I hope… I mean
Denzel didn’t suddenly start playing Alonzo with a British accent and
pretending he was searching for buried treasure. Stick to the crux of what
each script is trying to get you to do and watch how incredibly easy your
love life will become. Open your mind, get your highlighter ready, and let’s
get to work in unlocking your inner Spartan.
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How to Be Approachable
hen I wrote Men Don’t Love Women Like You, I carefully crafted the top
W ways to meet and approach men. The scenarios I outlined were meant
to break the ice in public, and they worked because It was based on
years of research from both women and men who failed and succeeded.
Two things make men approach women. The first is good looks—pretty
face, a certain body part, wardrobe. The second is good energy—how she’s
carrying herself, how inviting she seems, and her ability to give a man a non-
verbal greenlight. A woman who looks good or who has an insane body
won’t get approached as much as the woman with good energy. Why?
Because men assume that if you look too good, you’re taken, a bitch, or a
ho. Male insecurity runs rampant in most of the men you would consider
top level. It’s the lower level men, the ones with nothing to lose or no ego,
that approach you more often than your type. What’s the lesson here? The
energy you bring is the ultimate tool to lure someone over to you regardless
of how you look.
But, G.L., I’m not going to walk around always smiling, not be on my phone,
and most of the times I’m out I have things on my mind, and I’m not even
looking for men.
This isn’t about smiling and winking at men, it’s about being secure
in your skin so that your eyes, your body language, and a slight grin will
make a man think, “Who’s that!?” Most of you are socially awkward
because you’ve spent more time in front of screens than in front of men
who stare back. Admit it. When you get out in public, it isn’t that no one is
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cute enough for you, it’s that you don’t want people looking at you, so you
keep a low profile. Good energy begins with being confident in your own
skin. You don’t need to hide behind your phone, your friends, or keep your
eyes low as you move through the world. The moment you walk out of the
house, you should feel excited about the opportunity to pull a new man into
your orbit. This “I’m single and working on myself” bullshit is played out.
You will always be working on yourself in some form, but that can’t stop you
from going for what you want—a real connection. Allow that internal flame
to glow, that’s what’s going to make that man walk down the aisle you’re
shopping in, rush to get into the elevator you’re about to get on or walk
across the room and tap you on the shoulder.
Now that you’re feeling good about life, secure in your goddess
status, and not afraid to venture outside and make eye contact, you’re
going to instantly see a difference in the quality and quantity of men who
approach you or simply stare waiting for an opportunity (or the courage) to
speak first. Let’s break down ways to draw shy or reserved men into you as
well as the exact things to say when approached.
Being Approachable in Public

There are three major ways to pull in a man that’s checking you out but
won’t engage.
The Eye Fuck – This has always been my go-to advice for woman, and over
the past ten years it’s been the undisputed winner in terms of success rate.
The premise is simple. If you see a man pretending not to look or if he’s yet
to lay eyes on you, simply draw him in with your eyes. We all have that
feeling “is someone looking at me?” Use that power to your advantage. You
don’t have to smile, speak, or lick your lips. Lock eyes, with intention. That
intention being that you would ride his dick until his soul lifted from his
body if given a chance. Hold onto your most perverse and sexual thought
while looking. That translate into your pupils projecting a lust that will
magnetize any man foolish enough to stare back. Practice your eye fuck
weekly, make sure you’re not shooting off “crazy eyes” by bulging your eyes
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like a bug. Think the thoughts, shoot it with the eyes. If you’re like the
women who have used it in the past, you’ll inspire any man to risk it all by
coming up to you.
The Glance & Grin – A less aggressive way to pull men in is the subtle green
light of the glance & grin. We men, pray to the old gods and the new that a
woman looks our way and gives us a sign using internal phrases like, “If she
looks at me, I’m going for it.” It’s not being a coward, it's a tactical
approach, so we don’t waste our time or pickup line. For you to finally look
up, make eye contact, then grin, before you turn away will inspire that man
to move on you more times than not. The glance gives him a full view of
you. The grin tells him you like what you see. The look away puts pressure
on him to make a move fast because his window is about to close. Some
guys may be unsure, so a double glance doesn’t hurt as you walk away.
Picture yourself in Target, you do the Glance & Grin, then right before you
are about to slowly exit the aisle, you glance one more time. This will force
him to man up or forever regret being a punk. How do I know? That isn’t a
made-up story, I personally chased down a woman who once did this to me
because my that small moved forced my nervous mind to bully me into
action. Don’t take my word for it, test it out the next time you’re in a store
or at a party.
The Perfume Position - Sometimes you need to spell it out for a man in
ways that looking at him just doesn’t get through. Guys today are
increasingly lazy, even when it comes to going after something they want.
The solution is to position yourself so close that you inspire him to shoot his
shoot. The Perfume Position is when you spot a man that you like, and you
subtly figure out a way to get within a few feet of him. The trick is, if a man
is close enough to smell the perfume you’re wearing, then he’s close
enough to talk to you without fear. This is easier than it sounds because
when you’re out in public, or at a social event, there are always excuses to
move near someone without making it seem like that was your intention.
Example: When getting coffee, you can go wait for your order near where
he’s waiting or go grab a stir straw at the same moment he’s grabbing one.
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In a department store, you can pretend to be shopping near the shelf or

section he’s currently at. If he’s at the opposite end of the bar, you can get
up and go towards the restroom, brushing by him as you slowly walk by.
Name a scenario, and you can position yourself to be on his radar. Then it’s
up to him.
As we move forward, I will break down how to also approach
verbally so you’re not waiting around, but for now, familiarize yourself with
the above techniques and make them your own.
Once He Approaches You

What are you going to do once a fine ass man is in your face looking like he
wants to dive face first into your vagina? Giggle, keep smirking, answer his
“How are you doing, beautiful?” with a basic ass “I’m fine”? Spartans are
man-eaters, so let’s get you ready to devour any man who approaches you.
The first aspect of the meet and greet script is all about perfecting your
counter-response game. A great boxer doesn’t go in headhunting for a
knockout, he stuns an opponent with a counter punch then goes in for the
kill. Throughout this guide, I’ll use the example of GUY X, think of him as
your default type. While this script can be used on any man you meet, let’s
not waste time with “Guy who you kinda think is cute and has to grow on
you.” This isn’t The Basica Script, where you go out there looking for settle
dick. Spartans aim high, they never settle low, so plan on using this to get
what you want, not to get what you can.
Scenario One - The Compliment: Guy X walks over to you and compliments
your hairstyle, article of clothing, eyes, smile, etc… He says this compliment
earnestly with direct eye contact that exudes confidence and attraction.
Your Mentality: A compliment from someone you’re crushing on may shake

all self-esteem from your body and devolve you into a little girl. Unattractive
men, men old enough to be your Grandpop, and other women, they freely
give compliments that don’t cause anxiety because you understand the
place it’s coming from. When a straight male that’s looking at you like Omar
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Epps looked at Sanaa Lathan in Love & Basketball, throws out a well thought
out compliment you can’t freeze like a deer in the headlights. Program your
mind to shake off the nerves by remembering that he’s just a boy. He’s not
proposing to you, hell he may not even like you the way you think. He’s
simply testing the waters. Be cool.
Think, “He wants to fuck me, lol, that’s cute. Let me see if he’s
worth my time.” The goal is to scoop all of that schoolgirl crush bullshit out
of your skull so you can speak clearly and calmly. No more of this “oh my
god, he’s cute, is he flirting, what should I say that doesn’t come off as
desperate blah blah blah.” Your state of mind when being approached is
most likely anxious over-thinking because you’re already thinking about
the future instead of living in that moment. Replace that with a direct
thought process where you size them all up as “boys who want to fuck.”
That generalization will keep you honest.
Remember, if he can’t read you one way or another, that’s a good
thing. To come off too cool and say “thanks,” turns him off. Why? “Thanks”
is dry, boring, and if you’re not smiling it makes you seem like an angry bitch
that doesn’t want to be bothered, and he will most likely just keep it
moving. To come off to excited makes him think that maybe something’s
wrong with you or that you’re low hanging fruit. A clear mind creates a
blank canvas for you to become the best version of you going forward.
Your Response: Lead with a thank you, then turn attention to whatever it
was that he complimented and make a joke about it, or if there’s nothing
funny or interesting to say turn it back to the exact same thing on him that
he complimented about you. For example. If he complimented your shoes, a
joking version would be, “Thanks! These are my favorites, and no one ever
notices them, it’s like I was starting to wonder if I had bad taste or what.”
It’s not a joke, it’s just a fun response that makes him smile because you’re
exuding personality. The male ego is constantly in search of a warm
response. Highlight that shit, because you’re going to need to remember to
warm up certain things you say instead of pronouncing words with some dry
monotone. By launching into something conversational and not just ending
it with a stop response of “thanks.” You push him to keep on talking to you
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because you seem fun. From there he’ll try to up his game by saying
something funny or interesting, to which you can now continue to match
him with that same energy.
Scenario Two - The Chit Chat: Guy X doesn’t approach you but happens to
be standing next to you and starts to make small talk about the weather,
the line at the store, the wait for the elevator, or any everyday happening.
Your Mentality: Unlike a compliment, you won’t know if he’s interested in

your or just making small talk for the hell of it. Yes, there are plenty of penis
wielders who are just friendly without any ulterior motive. You can’t assume
that every cute guy that speaks first in a non-direct way is after you, but you
can’t hold yourself back from testing those waters if he looks like someone
you would date. This “chit chat” scenario is something you will experience
often. In the past, you probably shied away, said the bare minimum, or just
smiled, and then kicked yourself in the ass when you went home for not
shooting your shot. Why? Because you were afraid that you would overstep
your boundaries and get humbled. Fuck that. You’re a woman, you can
enchant any man that opens his ears to you. Know that. Act that.
Your Response: Lead with an agreement statement that launches you into a
personal question. If Guy X is complaining about the weather or how he
can’t wait until the weekend, give him positive reinforcement by agreeing
with his chit chat statement. “Yes, it’s been way too cold! I bet you can’t
wait until you can sleep naked again, right?” He’ll chuckle and be forced into
a corner where he must now talk about personal details he doesn’t normally
share with a stranger. To play off this embarrassment, he will either come
back with something witty or turn the table on how you sleep these days.
Another example is a chit chat that’s even more random, like a blanket
statement: “One more day until Friday…” Instead of nodding along or saying
“yup…” hit him with, “I can’t wait. I’m going to take so many naps. What
about you, binge-drinking with your friends or binge-watching shows with
your girl?” See how that digs into his life? Now he’s forced to open up to
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you in a way that strangers never do. It’s really that easy, and it doesn’t
require you to be overly witty, funny, or creative.
What this sort of response does is to set the foundation for
oversharing details. He’s talking about the weather or a place being too
crowded. You’re indirectly finding out things like, if he has a girlfriend he
sees on the weekend, if he lives alone and can sleep nude or if he has to
worry about his mother walking around the house. After going back a few
times, a conversation that started as bullshit chit chat will undoubtedly end
with him asking for your number, social media, or whatever he’s bold
enough to go after, all because you took it to the next level and didn’t just
stand there and nod.
Scenario Three - The Joker: Guy X either approaches you or finds himself
near you, and instead of a compliment or chit-chat he begins to make jokes
about your surroundings, another person, or even something that you’re
doing or wearing.
Your Mentality: When a man leads with a joke to break the ice, women
react in two ways, either over-laugh at his joke or give him a stink eye as if
he said Beyoncé was overrated. Humor is hard because a man never knows
how a woman will take his joke, but it’s a high reward because women love
to laugh. A side-effect of having positive energy instead of walking around
mean and bitter is that you will keep things light. Roll with the punches. If
the guy makes a joke, encourage him by matching that humor even if he’s
cracking on something you’re doing or wearing. Leave the defensive eye roll
and attitude at the door and know that he’s simply trying to warm you up to
him.
Your Response: Lead with a smile, not a laugh. I don’t care if he’s hysterical,
the flirting comes in the buildup. He must earn your laugh. Smile, then fire
back either with your own joke or to set him up to keep going. For example:
Guy X saw you swiping on your phone and wanted your attention he may
say, “Okay, Hollywood, talking to your agent about that next role?” You
don’t chuckle like it’s the Apollo. You grin a bit then hit him with, “How’d
you know? You aren’t TMZ are you.” Now the ball is in his court to counter
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your smart-ass counter. Understand the joke was his way in, now that he’s
in he will either keep it light or try to transition to something more
engaging. At this moment you expose if he was joking to flirt or joking just
to entertain himself. If he trails off and doesn’t really come back with much,
that means he wasn’t interested. There are tons of men with girlfriends or
wives that just like to talk shit and get a reaction from people. He won’t
keep it going because he doesn’t want to get any ideas. Most likely, any
man that started with you will now come hard in his follow up. You didn’t
over laugh and come off like a weirdo, you didn’t give him “leave me alone”
attitude. You simply, showed him that you’re fast on your feet and
charismatic. That’s the ultimate green light to move in.
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The Spartan Script

INT. SUPERMARKET - EVENING
SPARTA aka YOU slowly pushes a cart around the corner. The
wheels squeak and twist as we open wide to an aisle housing
soda, sports drink, water, and various other grab and go
liquids. There he is, ten feet in front of you, GUY X. He has
a basket in hand scanning the shelf as if it's the decision
of a lifetime.
Sparta’s body adjusts from a slouched position over the cart, into
an upright and perfect posture. Sparta gives herself a mental
once over, checks for lint, a loose hair, anything that would
take her off her game as she takes aim at her prey.
The cart begins to roll, slower, steadier, the intent of a

big game hunter stalking the Serengeti. She drops a plastic bottle
of water into her cart, the loudest available thing that will make
a noticeable CLANG.
It works. Guy X looks up from his deep thought decision on

which Gatorade flavor to go with, and stares into Sparta's
crosshairs.
Their eyes lock. She Eye Fucks him with the unflinching
gaze of a woman that would suck his dick until with the skill
and force that would make him want to take HER last name if
every they were married.
This is intense.
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Sparta bites her lip teasingly and turns away to look at the
shelf filled with Snapple. She doesn't need to turn and look
again, she can tell that Guy X is still hypnotized.
Sparta takes her time, then begins up the aisle once more.
Guy X hasn't moved. He's now the one doing the hunting.
Sparta is now within a few feet of Guy X and with a nervous

repositioning of his basket he pushes towards her.
GUY X
I hate when they move stuff around,
I can't find anything tonight.
Sparta smirks, already knowing he's just searching for

conversation. Then pulls his basket, close to her.
SPARTA
Looks like you're doing alright,
but a word to the wise. Shop for
frozen stuff last unless you want a
melty bag.
GUY X
I knew it was a reason I ran
Into you. I’m (insert your
fantasy man's name here).
SPARTA
Good to meet you. Before I go
giving out handles, let me check
and make sure you're not shopping
for condoms or Plan B pills.
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Guy X over-laughs as Sparta now files through his basket. She

looks up, another slight eye fuck...
SPARTA
You're good. My name is Sparta. Do
you live around here or just badly
shop in this area?
Guy X is smiling unintentionally because Sparta has him open

with her sass and wit. He awkwardly pauses, and replies.
GUY X
I live a few miles away, but this
is close to my job.
SPARTA
No girls pregnant, and he's
gainfully employed. Okay.
GUY X
You got jokes. You from around
here?
SPARTA
Maybe.
GUY X
Maybe? You afraid your boyfriend is
watching?
SPARTA
I liked how you slid that in. If I
did have one of those, he would
know better.
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GUY X
I can already tell you're a
handful.
Sparta playfully smacks his basket.
SPARTA
I have to get going, remember our
lesson for today.
Sparta positions herself back around to the handle of the

shopping cart. Before she can push forward, Guy X blurts out
in a shaky voice,
GUY X
Can I at least get your number?
FADE TO BLACK.
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How to Approach
hould women approach men? The majority of females would answer

S “Hell no,” then comment that if I man wants you, he will always make the
first move. In their mind, to approach a man is considered “chasing” a man,
and that’s not ladylike. Actively going after what you want is seen as “doing
too much” again, that’s not ladylike. Some will even claim to know men who
have said, “I don’t like aggressive women,” or “I look at her as easy if she
engages with me first,” and use those anecdotes as proof that it’s better to
stay to yourself and wait to be chosen. All of this is propaganda pushed by
women who want to stay in their comfort zones for women already in their
comfort zones. The result of this “be feminine” waiting game is an
atmosphere of take what comes your way settling.
What about those that have tried once or twice to approach first
and swear it didn’t work? One girl brought up how none of the relationships
that spawned from her approaching men first have lasted—well beloved,
there are a bunch of broken hearts and divorces from relationships where
the man went after the woman first, so what’s your point?
No matter who approaches who, there’s always a risk of being
played or something not working. My philosophy is that it is better to take
a chance going for what you want than to waste time trying to make those
who do approach you fit what you want. Be prepared to be approached
AND be prepared to approach, these are two methods you can and should
use at the same time. Be open to what comes, and also be proactive when
you see someone you like. What’s wrong with that? NOTHING. Go ahead
and fold your arms and suck your teeth and give me yet another excuse that
makes you feel better about being a passive character in your own life.
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When you’re done, let’s cut the bullshit and get to the root of this
mentality.
Women hate hearing “no.” To risk a man not responding positively,
saying he has a girlfriend, or in any manner that doesn’t end with an
exchange of numbers is a rejection that most females can’t bear to deal
with. It’s not just approaching, I know a few women in two-year-old
relationships that still don’t ask their boyfriends for big favors because they
are afraid to be turned down. “I’ll do it myself because I don’t like to be told
‘no’ or to have some drag their feet.” That’s a real-life quote.
Is approaching men really about this played out gender role that
dictates that a man should choose who he wants while a dignified woman
simply has to get within eyesight of him, or is it about ego and pride? You
tell yourself how great you are in your own head, but what happens when
you’re forced to interact with someone you find attractive and they don’t
even think you’re worth a three-minute conversation let alone asking for
your number? To put yourself out there to approach a man is to potentially
destroy the false confidence you’ve spent your entire adult life protecting.
The fear of not being good enough to get what you want, that’s what keeps
most women on the bench.
You want to win the lottery, but you don’t play the lottery. Sounds
stupid, right? Well, let me reword it. You want to find a husband, but you
don’t really engage with men. Same concept, but you can’t see that. Life is
about applying one’s self. You apply for college, you apply for a job, you
apply for a home loan. You won’t find many broke women sitting at home
with their arms folded, saying they don’t apply for jobs, employers need to
come to them. Yet, single and unhappy women do sit home, arms folded
complaining about “men today,” because no one’s beating down that door.
Think about this in terms of acting. Actors must audition to land roles. Some
of the biggest actresses get scripts sent to them with producers begging for
them to star. Even still, they hear of an even better role, leave the comfort
of their mansion and go to read lines to prove they are right for a role the
studio wants to give to someone else. Go ahead and google it. Some of your
favorite movies exist because that actress swallowed her pride and went in
multiple times to fight for a role. Yet, here you are, unwilling to approach a
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man that could change the course of your life because you’re stuck on this
petty idea of “you first.”
Reminder, I’m not saying men shouldn’t approach women, and it’s
all on your shoulders. I wrote a book for men where I make the same case
that they can’t be overly shy or timid either, but let’s be honest, how many
men you know take advice when it comes to courting women? The gap
between compatible males and females will keep growing wider because a
rapidly growing number of men are just as afraid of rejection as the women.
Most of the guys that you meet offline aren’t your type, but guess what?
Undesirable men will speak first, chase you, wear you down, and do
whatever it takes to get you because they know you will settle for what
you can get more often than approach what you want. The world is
changing, and the ideas of what men should do and what women should do
are just that—ideas. If you want to win, you must innovate, not make
excuses as to why you’re going to stick to the old ways.
People often ask me how I first met my wife; did she approach me,
or did I approach her. The reason for this is that people what proof that
something works more times than the other or that the way they’ve been
doing things will one day pay off. It’s lazy human psychology 101. I grew up
with the mentality that as a man you had to go for what you want across
the board and embrace opportunity when it knocked. I’ve gone after
women, and I’ve been turned down... but that didn’t stop me from
approaching more women. I’ve had women come after me, and I didn’t
think they were easy or too masculine, I was thankful because most of them
ended up being my type. I’ve used both methods to get women, but in the
end, my “take the risk and go for it” mindset has paid off in every aspect of
life. I don’t follow anecdotes of “I heard that…” or “I know someone who…”
because these are false statistics. The reality of being someone who lives in
power is that it creates an environment of constant success.
When I say women should approach men, that doesn’t mean she
just goes racing through the streets flirting with every dude that crosses her
path, it’s a battle cry to take the risk only when the reward seems worth it.
If a guy has an energy, a look, or is someone that’s been on your radar for a
while, there is nothing wrong with shooting your shot. In the meantime, you
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will still meet those men who approach you first. Like I wrote, it’s a duel
option lifestyle. The idea isn’t to “be a man” and do what males typically do,
it’s to live in the moment and control your own destiny by being bold
enough to open your mouth when the time comes. A woman that isn’t
afraid to approach and who also knows how to position herself to be
approached will net more options than one who just waits around.
In this chapter, I’m going to go over all the ways you can Spartan Up
and approach men and the key things to say that will have them blown
away within that first few minutes. The only thing I ask is that you don’t just
read, you do what the women who have read MDLWLY or Ho Tactics, have
done and apply it the next time you find yourself in front of a man whose
soul you want to snatch.
Approaching A Stranger
You will get 90% of the men you go after. I’m that sure because I’ve seen
the real-life results across the board. The first situation you may find
yourself in is that of seeing a stranger that catches your eye and being
unsure of what to do next. We’ve already covered how to bait this kind of
man, so let’s jump to the direct approach of you making the first move.
Scenario 1 – Social Event: Imagine yourself at a party, club, bar, or any

social gathering that has music and/or mingling. Guy X is a few feet away
looking like a full-blown snack, and you are trying to mentally will him to
turn and look in your direction. The problem is you’re not Jean Grey. With
no mutant powers to help, you must take matters into your own hand.
Your Mentality: This man is already yours. Push all negative thoughts about
“if” out of your brain right now. Being prepared to approach a man started
weeks ago. You’re now mentally tough and beyond that basic bitch fear of
“what if he doesn’t like me.” Even though you’re confident, your old ways
will still pop up with one last warning, a mental life-raft screaming for you to
get off the ship before you steer forward right into the iceberg known as
“fuck it!” The voice in your head will tell you he’s not into you… that he has
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a girlfriend… to wait for a sign. Waiting is safe. Waiting gives hope. Waiting
energizes you because you tell yourself that if XYZ doesn’t happen, then
you’ll make your move. Waiting can suck a dick! You have to move at the
moment of inspiration, or else the window of courage and opportunity will
shrink, and you will be home an hour later kicking yourself for not going for
it. Kill that negative internal voice and just do it.
Your Response: Since he’s not within earshot you will have to work your
way over for him. If you’re at an event where everyone is standing, that’s
easy. You glide over to his position and try to bait him with the Perfume
Position we discussed last chapter. If he doesn’t notice you or bites after a
few moments of being closer, then launch into your sales pitch.
Lead with the event, a situation that happened, or an observation. Before
you start saying this sounds hard, let me break it down to you to show how
simple this stuff is. If you’re at Buffalo Wild Wings, the event could be the
score on a game. Event Example: “I’m so blind, can you tell me what that
score says?” or the easy, “Who’s your money on tonight?” Situation
Example: The line to the bathroom is long, which is why you’re now next to
his bar stool waiting. Or some funny looking or loud person is making a
scene (there is always that one weirdo), and you whisper to Guy X about
how crazy that person is. Observation Example: This will be the one you get
the most mileage out of. Let’s imagine that Guy X is playing on his phone
instead of enjoying himself—point it out. You see that he’s drinking a weird
colored drink—what’s that? You notice his fashion sense—bring it up. You
bump by his table and see his food—Ask how it is. See where I’m going?
There are literally all kinds of things to spark a random conversation with a
stranger that isn’t directly “hey I like the way you look; do you have
someone.”
When I say approach, it’s not about doing a song and dance, it’s
about engaging with a man with the proper energy that tests the waters of
him being receptive. In Beauty Salon language, you have to let him get a
sniff of your perfume to make his dick hard. Once a man sees that you are
saying words to him and are in a good mood, what happens? …That’s right,
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he starts to like you based on the fact that you're nicer to him than most
women ever are. The male ego is soft these days.
Guys who think you’re cute still need a green light…

Even if you’re not exactly his type, your confidence will upgrade you in his
head. Being warm, receptive, and charming takes a 7 to a 9. Does that mean
he’s settling, no, it means he realizes what matters most—personality. Trust
me, I’ve been there and had women who I barely noticed tattoo my brain
just by walking up and asking me about a shirt I was wearing. Conversation
upgrades you in the mind of males. All this bullshit about “I don’t like
aggressive women” is lip service. Talk to a guy when he’s alone or show him
attention in a group of other men, and he will be receptive more times than
not.
Girlfriend test him off top…

After the chit chat state, the crucial next step is to make your intention
known in the best way possible. “Are you here with anyone?” Is a simple
and effective question. His response to this question is what will either land
you his number or give you the direct response that he’s taken. Why ask
this? I routinely get emails about “GL, I did everything you said, started
texting him, and he ended up having a girlfriend.” Realize that when you
come at a man in a way that he’s not used to his dick swells, and his
common sense and morals evaporate. Get this out of the way early so you
can continue the conversation.
End If First…
Try to end your conversation by putting the ball in his court. The practice I
find most effective is to challenge him with, “I have to go, so do you want
my number or email?” For all of you ladies who think guys are so cool and
put together, say that even if it’s for practice, and watch how tongue-tied
and flustered they get. Put it on him to take your number down because
that puts the pressure on him to reach out to you. Sometimes you will have
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to take his number down or get his business card in the heat of the moment
because you’re being rushed away, or the music is being turned up. In this
case, you still put the ball in his court by messaging him your number so he
can be the one to use it. It’s a test to see if he was feeling you or just being
nice.
Remember, even when approaching men, it’s still understood that
they must do the heavy lifting. Talking to him is nothing, he should be the
one to show the true interest by calling, texting, or messaging after you met
(if he’s the one that walked away with your number) and then he has to
show real intestinal fortitude by being the one to set a date. Yes, there are
times where it’s fine if you want to take his number and reach out first if
you’re on a set schedule or like to be a bit more hands-on with
communication. The overall point to take away is that approaching, even
when he’s across the room, is as simple as accidentally running into him and
bringing up one of those three conversation starters.
Scenario 2 – Out & About: You walk down an aisle in Target, and there he is,
Guy X, taking your breath away while calmly shopping for toothpaste. In
addition to social events, opportunity will knock at the most random times
when you’re out and about. Stores, malls, restaurants, gas stations, coffee
shops, and the list goes on. What do you do when you come across a
seemingly single man that’s just your type physically, but who hasn’t taken
notice of you enough to approach?
Your Mentality: Know that men are oblivious, and him not noticing you or
reacting to your attempt to eye fuck him is usually a sign of distraction, not
disinterest. Men go from the extremes of thirsting after any and all women
that cross our paths even if she’s in a hair wrap and sweat pants, to being so
stuck in our own head that we wouldn’t even notice Scarlett Johansson
standing next to us at Starbucks. The moment you see someone’s son who
you want to ruin, no matter where you are, you must go into the Spartan
Strategy of this book.
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Your Response: In my book, Men Don’t Love Women Like You, I delve into
approaching men in the form of compliments, so I’ll go another route this
time around. Break the ice with a question. Unlike a party or bar
environment, being out and about won’t allow for you to just push up and
start talking. People are on the move, waiting for someone, or browsing for
something. If you’re going to interrupt to catch his attention, be in need,
as men love to play the role of hero. For example, if you’re in that Target
with Guy X, and you know it’s only moments before he leaves the aisle
without even turning back to notice you, then use your environment to
create a need. “Hey, do you know where the travel sized items are?” A
question like this forces him to turn, study you, then fake like he knows
where they are or admits that he’s not sure.
If he knows, then this is the time to step your game up and be
aggressive. Let’s imagine that he says it’s the next aisle over. You follow up
with, “You don’t sound too confident, Come show me.” This line said with a
grin will slay damn near any man in your line of fire. Why? Because despite
anything you may have heard, guys dig powerful women. There’s nothing
more powerful than pushing us to do something in a cute way. Remember
this is real life shit, and one woman who used this response above actually
added her own twist by grabbing the guy around the arm and walking with
him to the next aisle. I’m not saying you need to invade his personal space
this much, but that’s a great enhancement.
Let’s say he doesn’t know where it is, and hits you with “Sorry, I
don’t shop here this often,” Fake disappointment, hit him with that pouty
lip thing brats do, then use the reverse psychology of “So you’re going to
make me look for it alone?” Same idea, you get him to follow you. In either
of these cases if he says that he can’t, then that’s okay. The idea when
approaching is to see if a man is into you and/or available. Even if a man
isn’t sold on you, he will go along with the flow unless his girlfriend or
someone that knows his girlfriend happens to be in the store. Imagine me, a
married man having you come up to me in the store and try that line. I
would be flattered, I may even walk you to the next aisle, but I wouldn’t
engage with your flirting. Which brings me to the next step of this
scenario...
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The goal of this is to get more time to talk. No matter if it’s walking
you to the next aisle, or pointing you in the right direction, you need to
follow up with specific questions. “I’ve never seen you in here before, are
you new to the area?” or “Your girlfriend isn’t going to be mad you’re
helping a strange girl, is she?” or “Don’t you work at that office building on
3rd?” These are all bullshit words, but they push this man to start talking
freely. He wants to tell you where he lives, what he does for work, and if
he’s single or taken. If he has a girlfriend and you lead him with a teasing
question about “your girlfriend…” he will quickly affirm it as not to get
himself into trouble. Alternatively, if he’s single, he’ll be quick to let you
know that he’s a free agent. Just like in Ho Tactics, asking questions about
where you know him from or saying that you once saw him at a place of
business gets you the easy answer of “what’s your occupation” without
asking it.
I gave you the example of a store, but if you’re in line with
someone, the same rules apply. Tap someone on the shoulder and ask them
what smoothie or coffee they’re getting. Make chit chat or joke about it,
and if a man sees that you’re bubbly and receptive, he will keep the
conversation going. Ladies, I will keep beating you in the head with one
fact—all you need to do is start the dialogue, and an interested man will
take over once the awkward introduction is finished. I have helped women
do this in Jamba Juice, T-Mobile, even Six Flags, because all it takes is
opening your mouth to ask him something, and a hungry man will take over.
Scenario 3 – Close Spaces: You walk into a Super Bowl party and there he is,
Guy X, licking his lips as he leans back on the couch. He doesn’t know it yet,
but he’s already yours… Ladies, close spaces such as house party, viewing
parties for sports, elevators, stores where you’re the only two people
around besides the workers, even shared Uber Rides are often gifts from
the Universe. The question is will you unwrap this gift or sit in silence?
Your Mentality: This is the most casual environment you can ask for. When
it’s small, and you can get one on one time, you don’t need to play games,
be overly witty, or come up with random questions to ask. Of all the
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scenarios this is the most natural and straightforward. Relax, remember to

breathe, and just know that he’s going to leave there wanting to see you
again.
Your Response: Lead with a basic introduction. I haven’t discussed this part
yet, but it’s obvious. When you meet someone, you say “hi,” tell them your
name, ask their name, and then ask a legit question. Let’s say you’re at a
birthday party in a cramped apartment and you happen to be in the kitchen
at the same time as Guy X. You would recite, “Hey I’m Sparta,” He’ll give you
his name then you’ll follow up with, “So who dragged you to the party, do
you know Paul or Steve?” He will then give you background on who invited
him and who he knows and how. Once you get that out of the way, the
banter begins. If he hits you with a one-word answer without elaborating,
don’t take it to mean he doesn’t want to talk to you, he could just be
nervous or unsure how to start a conversation without being intrusive. In
case of a dry response you follow up with being warm and flirty, “I never
come to these things, but I’m happy I did. Is this what you normally do for
fun?” Put a sexy voice inflection on “I’m happy I did…”. Why is this
important? It’s a green light to talk casually about his life. If he’s married,
he’ll say, “I’m usually stuck at home with the Mrs.” If he’s uninterested, he’ll
stonewall you again. If he’s single, then he’ll open up more as he picks up on
your flirty vibe. I’m telling you, this stuff is far from hard!
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The Spartan Script

INT. LOUNGE - NIGHT
Sparta stands on the far side of the dance floor, gently
tapping her wine glass while scanning the dimly lit room. Her
eyes are drawn to the over-lit bar area. There he is, Guy X.
Dressed impeccably in a fitted blazer, and blue jeans, his

smile currently mesmerizing the female BARTENDER.
Sparta stares for a beat, hoping to catch his attention but

to no avail. The Bartender hovers as if she's about to go in
for the kill. Sparta sits her wine glass down on a table and
glides off to intercept.
Bodies part as Sparta makes it to the bar section. There

aren't any free seats, so she pushes between Guy X and
another patron. Sparta sharply presses her elbow into Guy X.
SPARTA
Oh sorry, about that.
Guy X spins slightly, taking inventory of Sparta. His eyes

press down, but he does a good job of not letting on whether
or not he likes what he sees or not.
GUY X
It's cool. I’m taking up all this
space, so I was asking for it.
SPARTA
(slight grin)
Facts.
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SPARTA
(peers down at his drink)
I know you're not drinking blue
Kool-Aid in the middle of the club.
GUY X
(wounded)
It's not blue it's more greenish
brown.
SPARTA
Nope. I'm done.
(looking off)
Bartender, can I get what he
doesn't have.
The Bartender looks back from pouring shots, not sure if

Sparta is kidding or not.
GUY X
It's good, actually.
SPARTA
If you say so.
(beat)
Who are you here with? I want to
scold them for leaving you alone to
order bad drinks.
GUY X
You won't let up. I'm here with a
few of my boys. This isn't really
my scene.
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SPARTA
What's your scene? Sitting home
watching TV with your girlfriend?
GUY X
I wish. I haven't had one of those
in a minute.
Sparta taps his glass.
SPARTA
I can see why.
GUY X
What was your name, funny lady?
SPARTA
I'm too sober to give out my real
name. Why don't you get me a drink,
then maybe I'll share.
GUY X
Funny and slick, I like that.
(calls off)
Bartender, a drink for my friend
when you get a chance!
FADE TO BLACK.
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Approaching Someone You Know

(Kinda)
f you already know a person it should be easy to flirt or flat out tell them
I you’re interested, right? Hell no! Shooting your shot at a stranger is often
easier than approaching someone you know. Most likely this is a person you
will have to see again, so if it doesn’t go well, you will have to relive that
rejection over and over again. If this is a friend, you risk ruining that
relationship if he’s not into you in that way. There are men already in your
life or who will pop into your world randomly. Some of them will check the
boxes you’re looking for in a new man, so why not go for it? Here’s a list of
some of the types I’ll be discussing.
 Guy at Work
 Guy at School
 A friend of A Friend
 Relative of A Friend
 Platonic Male Friend
 Boss/Supervisor/Manager
 Mechanic/Repair Man/Trainer
 Any casual acquaintance that you see on occasion…
Visualize a butterfly-inducing scenario by thinking back to a guy from

this list who you were once interested in. Did you pursue? Did you bait him
in? Maybe you wanted to but talked yourself out of it. “This guy I know”
lead to “This guy I’m now dating” so going forward I want you to be open to
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the possibility of a love connection. Your future husband could be someone

that’s CURRENTLY in your life.
A woman once told me about a single dad that would speak to her every
time they would drop their kids at school. She knew he was single because
she asked around the school like a stalker. Still, it took damn near the entire
school year for her to ask for his number, because she thought like so many
women, “I’ll keep being friendly until he asks me out.” He was shocked that
she was interested because from his POV she wasn't friendly, she was often
cold and distracted. What happened was that her nerves made her act
differently from the way she thought she came off in her head. Never
dismiss a Not-So-Stranger because he isn’t jumping to ask you out, he could
like you but be getting a mixed signal. It’s always in your best interest to
shake his tree to see if he’s actually into you. How? Keep reading.
Scenario 1 – Shitting Where You Eat: Guy X has been working at your office
for the past six months, although you don’t work directly together you’ve
seen him around, and he’s gotten into the habit of joking with you and
shooting the breeze whenever you two cross paths. Should you go for him
or is he just being cordial?
Your Mentality: Working with someone, going to school with them, or being
friends with one of their friends or family members gives you priceless intel.
You get to see how they act naturally. There’s no mask to be ripped off, and
information such as girlfriends, past partners, and current interests are easy
to research over time. By targeting someone like this, you set yourself up
perfectly to make an informed decision before taking the risk. Before you
dive in, make sure you checked the boxes of relationship status, personality
compatibility, and general chemistry. Again, months or years working with
or knowing someone should give you all the answers you need. Once you
establish a vibe, there’s nothing to fear. The trick of this situation is being sly
enough to shoot your shot without being noisy or messy.
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Your Response: When at work, the name of the game is isolate and pry him
open. A lunch break where you two have privacy. Access to his personal
email. A sidebar where you bait him in with “I want to show you pictures
from my trip” or “Can you help me with my computer real quick?” Doesn’t
matter how you do it, the goal is to be one on one. Now it’s up to you to use
what you already know about him to lure him into a romantic conversation.
For example, if you know that Guy X is recently single, you could bring say,
“I heard you and your girlfriend split, how are you holding up?” This quickly
takes it to 0-100 as he’ll want to be tough, talk about how he’s moving on,
and even tell you why she didn’t work out. Naturally, you listen to the words
he uses, and then take aim…
Guy X: Yeah, it was already over to be honest. She was the super jealous
type, I’m happy to have that stress out of my life.
Sparta: I know the feeling. My ex was a handful. Well, I always thought you
were kinda cool, but I didn’t want to intrude. So, if you want to grab a drink
after work with the gang or one on one, let me know.
Guy X: So, I’m only kinda cool? Yeah, I’ll let you know. I’m down for that.
Sparta: Alright Mr. Kinda Cool, I’ll email you my number before the end of
the day.
Did you see how you put the ball in his court? If he’s not into you,
he won’t follow up. At the same time by using the cover of “with the gang”
meaning co-workers, you can protect yourself from work gossip by saying
you were asking him out with the group. What any interested man will cling
to is the “one on one” part. Remember how we as men think: We take a
woman being flirty or offering something as proof that we’re already in
there. Going forward he will either reach out letting you know when he’ll be
free, come up with a date or “hang out” idea of his own that looks to put
pressure on you, or he’ll just amp up his flirting with you until you plan the
outing.
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This works with any man you’re in close quarters with like a classmate,
friend of a friend, or the dude at the gym who always speaks to you. All you
have to do is isolate them from the crowd and bring up an excuse to ask
questions. It doesn’t have to be about exes, it could be a trip they took, a
class assignment, gossip about another mutual friend, asking them for
advice, or anything that makes it one on one and gives you the opening to
give your number.
Scenario 2 – Risking Your Friendship: Guy X has been a shoulder to lean on

for a while now, you’ve always thought he was cute, but more like a
brother… suddenly he’s on your mind more than ever, and both of you
happen to be single now. Should you suppress these feelings or go for him
and risk ruining the platonic relationship you’ve built?
Your Mentality: Is this a friend, like you grew up together, spent family
vacations together or is this just a guy you met along the way that somehow
became a “buddy”? Most women collect male friends who are only platonic
because he didn’t shoot his shot properly or she was involved with someone
at the time. I’m going to assume that this friendship you have is genuine,
but it’s always had a sexual undertone, so you should go for it. You can
always find more boys to listen to you vent, pick you up from the airport,
and hold your hair back if you get too drunk. Therefore, this man is no
longer a friend, he’s another guy on your hit list ready to be taken down by
a fucking Spartan.
Your Response: Get him alone and bait him into making a move that will
lead to a deeper conversation. I’ve written about this in Solving Single, and
several women told me that chapter gave them the courage to say, “fuck it”
and go for their male bestie. My advice this time around is to hold off on sex
with your friend. Instead, the goal should be a talk where you both agree to
take a shot at actually dating and hitting reset on the type of relationship
you have.
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Step 1: Get him alone at his place or yours. Put your feet in his lap (or any
other physical playful form of touching). Eye Fuck him. Ask If he’s ever
considered the possibility of you two as an item. If he’s interested, he will
affirm that he has, with his honest feelings on why it would or wouldn’t
work hoping you will jump in and save him from making a fool of himself. If
he’s interested but shy, he’ll shoot back the same question to you OR make
a joke. If he’s not interested, he’ll lit multiple reasons why it’s not a good
idea, trying to get you to agree, so he doesn’t seem like the bad guy
rejecting you.
Step 2: Calm his fears by being positive, not egotistical. Put yourself in his
shoes for once. He doesn’t want to ruin things, he’s comfortable in the
friend zone, and like a QB with the chance to win the game, he may choke it
away with nerves. He needs to know where this is coming from. Is this a
rebound? Are you just out of options? Is this just a sex proposal? You need
to do your mental homework and know why you actually want to date this
guy. If you can’t answer the question of “I want him now because…” then
you shouldn’t be rocking the boat.
Step 3: Test run. It’s he fell into the boat of interested, then make a bet. You
are friends so you can be silly. “Let’s do this so that we never have to go
through this conversation again. One date. Super romantic. The moment we
start the date we pretend as if we don’t really know each other and take it
seriously for that night.” He will agree because men love games and playing
roles. This has gone from scary to fun. Alternatively, if a guy isn’t interested
in you, don’t push for a date. You know what “on the fence” looks like
versus “making excuses.” If you can see this at Step 2, don’t go to Step 3.
Simply agree, “You’re right, it wouldn’t work. Which is a good thing, cus I
wouldn’t have anyone to talk to if we broke up.” Laugh it off and get back to
being friends. The ironic thing is that once you say something and go back to
being normal, it’s often the “friend” who tries to get you later on down the
road. So, don’t feel like it’s completely over, there’s always opportunity to
be had once you put what you want into the universe.
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Scenario 3 – The Pop-Up Dick: Guy X is always in the shop when you get an
oil change or need something fixed. He’s always professional and polite,
you’re not sure if he’s flirting or just doing his job. Only one way to find
out…
Your Mentality: Every woman has a Pop-Up Dick in her life. He’s the guy at
the store you go into once a month who you crush on, someone in the
doctor or dentist office, someone that hooks you up with discounts, or if
you have children cuts your son’s hair or coaches his team. Unlike those
other men, you don’t see them daily or weekly, so you forget about them
until that latest encounter. You don’t know their relationship status or
anything outside of the reason you interact with them, but that’s all about
to change because so long as you can open your mouth and flirt, you can
get a man to volunteer information.
Your Response: Always keep it light and flirty when you run into your Pop-
Up Dick. For Example, Guy X is a mechanic who remembers you, so he’s
going to ask the generic “how have you been” questions. It’s your job to
show him that you’re interested if he’s yet to make a move. You can go the
teasing route: I bet you don’t even remember my name, do you? You can go
the invasive route: You’re always here, does your girlfriend ever get to see
you? You can even go the flattery route: I was thinking about you, my
friends are getting together this weekend at Bar One, and we need some
more guys to break up the monotony.
The idea is to go in guns blazing with flirting to see if he lights up
and flirts back. Go in to see if he’s taken, so you’re not wasting your time. Or
flat out invite him out under cover of a group activity to kill two birds with
one stone.
A guy who has a girlfriend will obviously bring her up in two of those
scenarios. A guy who isn’t into you or thinks it’s unprofessional will keep the
banter light and get back to the reason he’s there, or you’re there.
Regardless of the avenue, you will get a direct response within minutes that
tells you to let go of the crush or that you’ve struck gold. All of the over
thinking you do about “should I or shouldn’t I” is a waste when you can rip
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the band-aid off by using one of the methods listed. If he’s not receptive, so
what? You can keep going back to him because you didn’t directly ask him
out on a date or make a one on one play.
Additionally, if he’s taken, he will remember that you were into him
when he breaks up (and they all break up) and now you’ve opened up the
possibility of him approaching you once he’s single again. Men don’t forget
women who like them, we all keep a list of backup pussy in case our
relationships don’t work out. In the end, if never be afraid to approach
someone like this, be it a mechanic, cable guy, regional manager of your
company, etc… It could pay off in spades later.
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Inbox Love –
Baiting Men Online
very woman reading this can jump on her phone right now and have a
E date by the weekend. I don’t care about any of your weak ass excuses of
“no one ever asks me out,” or “I’ve never even been on a proper date.” Your
phone is the gateway to bait a man to come after you or for you to pinpoint
and snatch a man who is ripe for the picking. In this chapter, I will show you
how to perfectly set the stage to use social media as the ultimate tool to
secure a boyfriend... or husband.
Baiting A Man To Chase You

Approaching a man online can be as simple as sliding into his DMs with a
compliment and your number—literally, that’s all it takes. Is it a 100%
certainty that this will work? Of course not, which is why I’m writing this
chapter. 9 out of 10 women won’t go the direct route because the “what if”
of being shot down, screen grabbed, or clowned keeps them in that “I’ll wait
for them to come to me” bubble. The question remains: With so much eye
candy on the internet what will make a man risk rejection and come after
you? Is it your looks? Is it your witty captions on Instagram? Is it your
brilliant opinions on twitter? Is it your funny Snapchat stories? Name
something you do amazingly, and there are dozens of other women that do
it as well, so I ask again. How do you get the kind of men you want to shoot
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their shots as opposed to the corny men that are currently trying to get your
number? You SPARTAN UP and get aggressive. With your new Spartan
energy, let’s craft a sure-fire way to make a man come after you, in a way
that avoids any chance for rejection. These are five specific steps, follow
them, don’t jump around, and watch how easy you build your roster going
forward.
Create A Repour: Kill any idea that you can’t pull in the type of men you
want. If he has eyes, you can position yourself as his type. Men upgrade and
downgrade looks based on accessibility. Translation = the more he gets to
know you on a personal level the prettier you become or, the more you
come off as nice and down to earth the more he’ll see you as someone he
can get. Tattoo that to your brain.
A good example of this is are men who talk shit, but secretly want
you. One of my good friends in LA is Instagram famous and obsessed with
reading her negative comments. One guy wrote something along the lines
of “stuck up bitch, you’re one hamburger away from being considered fat.”
She doesn’t take these things to heart because—duh Spartan. When she
showed me this message, I DM’d the guy back from her phone and wrote,
“I’m sorry you feel that way, but I hope you have a great night.” He wrote
back within seconds a series of messages apologizing, saying he was joking,
asked how she was doing, how he thinks she’s pretty and smart, and blah
blah blah. We laughed our asses off then used Ho Tactics to get this clown
to Venmo her some money. The point is, men only talk shit because they
secretly want to know you, and some are so insecure and stupid that they
think insults are the way to get attention. Someone of you will experience
the opposite, where a guy online pretends not to notice you. He rarely likes
your pictures, doesn’t comment, nothing. Who cares! So long as you can put
your avatar in his face, you can snatch his soul.
The first step is to put yourself on his radar. He can’t fantasize about
you unless he knows you exist. Don’t just follow him, follow him and @ him
or comment about something he’s saying. Not just once, but a few times
over the course of a week. I’m not talking about flirting or saying anything
crazy for attention. Your responses to him could be as simple as putting a
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GIF under something he wrote, giving an opinion about something he’s

talking about, or @’ing him asking his opinion on something you saw. Face
it, if you think he’s cute, so does most other women. What these other
women do is sit back and like his stuff, occasionally chime in, and wait for
him to notice. What you’re doing is aggressively throwing your avatar in his
face to where he will have to ask himself, “who is this girl… does she like me
or is she just being friendly.” A man’s ego will respond to your week of
communication by deciding that you may be into him. Unlike those other
shy girls afraid to interact, he will now begin to feel comfortable responding
to you or commenting on your stuff first. Putting a man at ease and giving
him the idea that “maybe” you like him makes him comfortable enough to
reciprocate. What follows is a back and forth where he likes your pictures or
tweet while you do the same. After a few weeks of this, you two now have a
repour you can build on.
Project Your Brand: Men stalk too. They’re looking through your pictures,
they’re checking to see if you write anything about a guy, and they’re even
checking to see what other forms of social media you’re on so they can
squeeze more information out. The moment you have a repour, step your
game up by showing him how sexy you are. Post a few new glam pictures,
switch your avatar, retweet or comment on your compliments. What this
does is advertise that your brand is on fire. If he was on the fence in terms
of, “she’s okay” this will make him upgrade to, “yeah, she’s fine.” Keep in
mind he may not respond to your pictures at all, and it doesn’t matter
anyway. Too many females need instant approval from their crushes. They
post things for that ONE guy, and he doesn’t seem to notice, and it lowers
their self-esteem. Fuck that weak-minded viewpoint. Again, men stalk more
than they like. I’m a man, and trust me if a woman I’m cool with or think is
cute does something new I look… then look again.
If you’re sexy, show off your sexy side. If you’re unique, post a
picture in some obscure T-Shirt of a band, TV show, Anime, or whatever that
speaks to how you are. If you’re silly, post a video of you showing that off. If
you have seven different personalities and don’t know how to truly project
any, then aim for seduction, and post yourself from your best angle. This
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man already “likes” you because you have a repour, all this does is make
him look at you in a romantic light, and the only way you can do that is to
bait him with beauty and then personality. Remember, you’re a fucking
Spartan, there’s no such thing as “I’m not that pretty,” or “I need to lose
weight,” you are sexy as fuck, now show that off and watch how you pull
Guy X and a bunch of other guys into your orbit.
Make Him Check For You: The second part of brand projection is to turn on
your Bat signal and proclaim you’re single. A caption talking about taking
yourself out on a date, a tweet about how you’re single and happy, or even
a comment on someone asking a question about being single. There are so
many ways to sneak your relationship status into the brain of men. Again,
this isn’t so your crush reacts and slides into your DMs, it’s promotion. At
this stage, a guy who really likes you and is confident may come after you.
Let’s assume that your Guy X is reserved and unsure if you’re open to him
shooting his shot. A day or two after you post your new sexy picture or
avatar, and something about your relationship status, @ him. Remember he
just noticed you glam up, he saw that people liked your picture. He also
noticed that you are single. To @ or message him something as simple as
“That meme you posted earlier had my Group chat in tears” will give him
the green light to come after you. What this final step does is take
advantage of the lust that he’s building up for you. He’s stalking your
pictures and your life. He’s making notes that you don’t have a man. Now
he’s at the edge of “shit, maybe I should risk the curve.” At this point, he
doesn’t care about potential rejection because you’re now worth it.
Apply Pressure: Most of you won’t make it this far because the previous
steps will work 9 out of 10 times. Regardless, let’s pretend he didn’t go after
you yet. How do you light a fire under a man online? You expose his primal
nature by taking your conversations out of the public eye. The same man
that’s responding to you with emoji’s or one-word answers on the timeline
will write novels in your inbox. Why? Because men are always worried
about who is watching them flirt. This isn’t because he has a girlfriend, is
trying to fuck some other girl who follows him or anything that points to
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paranoia. Men operate better when they have time and space. In real life, a
guy who’s talking to you and your two girlfriends at the bar isn’t going to
come as hard as a guy who is only talking to you at the bar. Other people
cramp our styles. The same thing applies online.
Apply pressure by privately messaging him a question:
The Chit-Chat starter = Hey I saw you mention Birdbox, what did you think
of the ending?
The Location Check = Hey what restaurant did you get that sandwich from,
it looked so good?
The Acknowledgement = I saw you liked that picture, think I should keep
my hair that way?
The Deep Conversation = I liked the point you made about Bernie Sanders
what do you think about Ocasio-Cortez?
The Miss Me = It’s been a while since you posted so I figured I would make
sure you’re good.
There are dozens of ways to message someone without being

direct, that will instantly pressure them to respond. That response will be to
keep the conversation going until it bleeds into different topics or to give
you a one-off response. A one-off response lets you know that they either
have someone or aren’t interested in you. The beauty of this is that there is
no verbal “no” because you never asked them for anything or made your
intentions clear. Baiting a man is just that, either he falls into the trap, or
he sidesteps it. It’s smart hunting. Alternatively, if he does get into
messaging you and keeps coming up with more things to say, that tells you
loud and clear that he wants what you’re selling.
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Seal The Deal: When do you take it offline? It depends on your comfort
level. Some people are deep into dating and still use IG to text while others
give out their actual phone numbers within hours of that first DM. Think of
it like Tinder or Bumble. You want to make sure this person is interesting
enough before you let them contact you outside of the APP. Unlike dating
apps where these people are (mostly) single, you may not know if the social
media crush is single, so that should be your first transition question. Once
you get into the rhythm of chit chat and see that it’s going well, transition to
romance by being blunt. “Do you have a girl?” Don’t assume he doesn’t
have a girl because he starts to use kiss emojis and slips in dirty jokes. Don’t
assume he doesn’t have a girl because she’s not posted in any pictures.
Don’t assume he has a girl for any reason—Ask him or pay the price later.
Once that’s out of the way, it’s organic to follow up with, “Cool, well here’s
my number, don’t be afraid to use it.” That’s it.
Use these steps, and I guarantee you they will work in baiting a man
to engage with you. Remember there is nothing to lose! Are you going to
keep observing him online or are you going to try and make a connection?
“But GL, this feels like chasing him…” Stop that silly shit! I hate the term
“chase.” You aren’t chasing, you’re giving him information. 1) You’re
approachable. 2)You’re friendly. 3)You have an interest in him. Guys need
this level of info to make a choice no matter how pretty your or cool you
seem. Many men will message you randomly or because you interact with
them once, but few of these guys will be the type you would date let alone
text with. Instead of wasting your time online thirst trapping crushes only to
end up with randoms, take charge and let a man know you exist. That’s not
a chase, that’s a wink.
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What to Say on Dates

To Win Him Over
ou hate dating because all the “getting to know you” questions are boring
Y and redundant. You hate dating because you swell with excitement over a
man’s potential only to find out he’s an asshole. You hate dating because
you’re not that good at it—periodt! You want to skip to the part where you
can cuddle up and watch a movie knowing that he’s not behind your back,
texting hos. You can’t skip the job interviews and pop up with a 401k and
you can’t skip the dating process and pop up with a solid relationship.
Effort will always be necessary. I’ve given you the blueprint to go after
men, bait men to go after you, both online and offline. At this point you’ll
discover that the meet and greet is much easier than getting good dates out
of these guys. Sorry to say, but most of these sexy and charming men will
reveal themselves as basic fuckboys or creeps. All that hope and excitement
will flush down the toilet with the realization that he’s all style no
substance. It happens, and at that moment you’ll thank me for telling you to
have MULTIPLE MEN on your roster.
2 out of 5 men who you meet won’t pan out during the pre-date
stage or after the first date. That’s okay because all you need is 1 to be
impressive. Each woman reading this will meet someone worthy within the
next two months of reading and using this book—I guarantee it. BUT… What
happens when you do go on a date with someone who does measure up,
and you freeze? He’s talking about things you don’t really know about, now
you feel dumb. He’s asking a lot of personal questions that you haven’t even
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asked yourself, now you’re stammering. He’s sitting there trying to think of
stuff to say, and you’re sitting there awkwardly giving boring responses or
giggling.
Women choke on dates all the time. You’re so smooth when
texting, so charismatic on the phone, but face to face with this guy you’ve
been praying for, you come off basic as fuck. Here’s a little secret, a man
with options won’t keep dating you just because he thinks your cute or
because you seem into him enough for sex. It’s not that serious, beloved.
One date and done or two dates and ghosted happen weekly, and it has
nothing to do with the lies women tell themselves about “oh he was just
after sex.” Guys want to have fun, they want to be inspired, they want to
see something different. The typical fuck boys that are chasing pussy, they’ll
sit in your face, then try to get your bra off for a month. Exceptional men,
the ones that you actually need, they don’t have time or money to waste on
Basicas. I know you’re not basic, I know you’ve done the Spartan work
outlined in my previous books, so why are you allowing nerves and pressure
to devolve you? Let’s get you in fighting shape to slay these dates…
What Men Hate

What turns men on? Beauty, a sense of humor, low stress, predictable
attitudes, supportive mentality. What turns men off? Inconsistent attitude,
too serious, trying to mother, jealousy, a need for constant attention. When
a guy chases you, he’s chasing the shallow traits. Once he catches you, gets
a date, he’s still high on the shallow traits. Your best chance to impress him
is to come off as cool, smart, and stable. Easier said than done because it’s a
50/50 chance that the woman a man sees as a dream girl has damage. On
your dates he wants you to talk about your exes, your family, and your job
because those three topics tell him all he needs to know in short order. A
woman that is quick to get an attitude is typical, we don’t want that. A
woman who judges a new man based on what the last man did to her is
typical, we don’t want that. A woman who is miserable at work, has fake
friends, and is always going through family drama is typical, we don’t want
that. Add that up and think about your own life. Are you typical?
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Even if you’re working on yourself, you probably have issues that

will make a man just see you as sex after he exposes the truth of your life
story. I bring this up because you must check your ego at the door and
understand that you can’t go on dates thinking because a guy wants to fuck
you and because he’s gassing your head up with compliments that it’s a
slam dunk. Know who you are, know what men hate, and don’t show these
qualities. That means no stories about exes, your fucked up family, your
messy friends, or your boring job. Channel your inner Spartan, and lead with
that brand. Some of you are already there, others of you will be faking it
until you truly Spartan up… regardless don’t expose yourself on dates,
always be mindful that quality men are taking notes.
Pre-Date Checklist
Superiority Complex: Are you trying to impress him or is he trying to
impress you? “Oh my god, he’s so cute I can’t think,” tells me that you’re a
groupie, not a star. When Angelina Jolie walks into a room, people get
nervous. You need to channel that same energy. Mentally, you have to
repeat to yourself: I’m that bitch, a fucking goddess in the flesh, this little
boy is just a mortal. Know that going in you don’t have to prove how smart
you are, match him joke for joke, have a five-year career plan mapped out
or say something mind-blowing about politics. You are an established luxury
brand; this guy is auditioning to join the product team. Look down on him
until he earns the right to look directly into your eyes!
Accept a date offer on your terms: Always let men chose the first date
activity, that will show you how much he respects you. House dates, parked
car dates, meeting up with him at a bar, these are bottom of the barrel
offers. Romantic restaurants, scenic outdoor outings, and anything that
forces you to get dolled up and be spoiled are at the top of the list in terms
of telling you that this man is taking you seriously. If a man is offering you a
bullshit date, decline or reschedule until he comes correct. Never be afraid
to scare a man off, you’re more valuable than he is—remember superiority
complex!
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Regarding confidence, you need to be comfortable with where he

wants to take you before saying “yes.” If you get nervous around stuffy
fancy places, offer up a different restaurant you’ve been to before. If you
don’t like surprises, make him spell it out. If you suck at physical things,
don’t go along with a miniature golf idea if it’s going to frustrate you. You
don’t want the date activity to trigger the parts of you that you’re still
working on. Spartan sense dictates that you want him in the hot seat, while
you pull his strings and get him to reveal things about himself. Don’t be
afraid to speak out with, “That sounds fun, but how about this instead…” He
did his job by offering you something respectful, now counter with
something in your comfort zone if you’re having doubts.
Don’t Forget Your Armor: You feel how you look. You know when you look
sexy as hell. It’s that exciting feeling of looking into the mirror and wanting
to take a picture. It’s wearing that outfit or doing your hair in a way where
you want the world to see. You at your best should never be a rare feeling,
it’s what you need before any and every date. That internal feeling of BAD.
Your Spartan brand is that of a warrior queen, your wardrobe has to match
your place in this world. You’re not going to conquer a man in sweatpants
and a wrinkled tee. Accentuate your positives, wear the style of makeup
you’ve been dying to try out, go with your power color, be as tall in heels as
you want to be, wear as many bracelets as you want, it doesn’t matter how
extra you seem. It only matters that you inspire lust every time you lock
eyes with your reflection. That confidence drips off you, and it will make the
man opening the door for you putty in your hands before you even say a
word.
The Date Blueprint

Spartan Sense = Dates 2-4 should be about vetting, observing, and
consistency. No sex, just kissing. Being sure they follow up with what they
say in terms of setting up dates, returning calls, and texting back. It also
means you test them by going missing for a day to see how jealous or
worried they get. It’s also smart to test them by planning a spur of the
moment date, “hey, I’m actually getting off early tonight let’s go see a
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movie,” as this will expose a man who has a secret girlfriend or one who
doesn’t live or work where he says. I’ve gone through all these specific date
steps in Men Don’t Love Women Like You, so this time around I’ll keep it
contained to the things that men want to see more than the vetting tools
covered in that book. I want you to hit these basics, and mix in your own
personal stories, to enchant any boy foolish enough to stare into your
Spartan eyes.
Be Spontaneous: Men have a lot of practice spewing bullshit to girls on first

dates. The average male has gone on more first dates than LeBron’s gone to
the playoffs. They know what to say and what to avoid saying to keep you
high on him. They also know what to ask to get you to expose yourself as
basic, annoying, or still hung up on your ex. Your job is to jump around
topics. He asks about your last boyfriend, you hit him with, “Why are we
talking about ancient history? Speaking of history who do you think was the
first president to cheat on his wife? …George Washington? Damn, so are
you saying all men cheat?” You see how you randomly dodged a basic
question and put him on the hot seat about his personal opinions? You can
literally bait a man by being random and fun, which then tricks him into
giving his real thoughts and opinions because he’s comfortable not scripted.
Being spontaneous also helps you get out of awkward silences. Let’s
say you’re at dinner and he just finished talking about his work life. Instead
of digging into your ass and pulling out, “So do you think you’ll stay at that
company for long?” and getting a boring canned response about more work
bullshit, you can pick up a straw or dinner napkin, sniff it, and ask, “What’s
your favorite weird smell? Not weird as in nasty but just strange? Mine is
the smell when you first walk into Home Depot.” He’ll laugh at you because
you’re crazy, then chime in with his own weird smell because he’s crazy too.
Everyone thinks random thoughts, be real by bringing your own random
energy into your date.
Whenever you find yourself stuck or trying to think of something to
say—be spontaneous and blurt out a random but calculated question. What
these questions do is break the ice and make the both of you human.
Comfort is the name of the game. He needs to feel like you’re cool enough
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to be himself around and you have to be relaxed enough to be the right kind
of silly. When you combine that with the build-up to the date, this energy
begins to feel different from the date he went on with some typical “my
favorite color is blue” girl he dated a week ago. Men love the rush of
spontaneous personalities much more than a pretty girl who sits there and
says all the standard things.
Invade Personal Space: Touch your date every 15-20 minutes. Men revert
to teenage boys when a woman initiates a form of physical contact. What
does that mean? Think about a 14-year-old boy, he’s thinking about sex 80%
of his day. Every woman he comes across is objectified because his
hormones are raging as he matures. You want a grown man to devolve into
a teenager when on a date and see you as sex. Not in the sense of no
respect—she’s just a pussy waiting to be fucked, but in the sense of “she
wants me, I better not fuck this up.” When you tease a man physically, you
put him on high alert. He’s trying to play his cards right, keep saying the
right things, and maybe you’ll reward him with what he’s thinking about
every time your knee accidentally rubs up against his knee.
Touch his hand when telling a story. Rub shoulders with him making
a joke. Brush imaginary strands from his chin. Grip his arm when
emphasizing something. Accidentally play with his foot under the table
before smiling with “sorry.” Trust me, we as men read too much into
everything and make it sexual. Sitting in a movie theater and pointing your
knees towards him is seen as “she’s down to fuck,” so imagine what
happens when you lay your head on his shoulder when walking back to the
car. Your inner Basica may be saying “But I don’t want to lead him on!"
Shut that basic shit down ASAP. A man is already leading himself on
the moment he gets your number. You can literally sit there, eat your food,
and talk about music for two hours and he will still think you want the dick.
Stop worrying about perception. You’re not going to fuck him anytime soon
so who cares if he’s teased? What invading his personal space does is
overload his senses, crank up the lust, and make him like you even more.
Not only are you fun and random with your questions, but you’re also
turning him on after 20 minutes. By the end of the night when he’s sitting in
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bed with a hard dick, he’s not thinking about the other girls in his phone,
he’s thinking about you. That’s the difference between a corny first date
and a man eager to take you out again.
Make Him Go Deep: Being strictly fun and sexy is okay if you’re a K-Pop girl
group, but it’s pivotal that you show one last side of your personality—
Deepness. Some of you aren’t very deep, and that’s okay. It’s not
mandatory to care about climate change, social justice, or be able to write
an essay about the end of Interstellar. I’ve met numerous women who feel
insecure when dating because they overthink what they bring to the table in
terms of deep and engaging conversations.
Stop beating yourself up! You can only care about what you care
about, and for some of you, that’s more practical things that affect your life
directly. Compatibility isn’t if you both think each other are cute or if you
agree on every topic, it’s about if you two can find common ground with
your philosophies. The best relationships are built around people with
enough commonalities to connect but with enough differences to learn and
grow from one another. Again, I’m moving past the vetting questions that
I’ve already discussed and focusing on how you will be viewed. So instead of
leading with your hobby or your special interest, you need to use questions
that pull out what a man is truly into so you can then break him down and
further that bond before the end of the date.
Politics = “Do you ever vote in the mid-terms?” His answer could be that he
always votes no matter what’s on the ballot because it all matters… or it
could push him to reveal that he doesn’t vote at all because none of it
matters. Instead of arguing your personal point, you ask a follow-up
question delving into his personal viewpoints on how the world works,
where the country is going, and his overall sense of government.
Spirituality = “Where you raised in the church?” By pushing it to “raised”

you make this about family beliefs. Remember, people are often reflections
of their parents especially in terms of faith. His father could be the type of
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man who sees women as subservient and even had a bible verse to back up
this mentality that has now passed down to him. He won’t say this, but you
can get a sense about his present through his past as you ask follow up
questions. Again, this isn’t to argue about what religion is the best, to
defend the Law of Attraction, or to make yourself out as a holy roller, you
simply want to give him the time to talk uninterrupted about something
deeper than “what are you going to order?”
Money = “20 years from now this same menu will probably be double the
price, do you think inflation makes the minimum wage argument null and
void?” Very few of you talk about money with men, you don’t want to know
how much he makes, but you do… that’s why you google his position. A
good way to get into finances is to take it to an opinion question about the
state of current economics. You don’t have to know shit about this world,
but you can poke him to give his views on capitalism. In MDLWLY you I
wrote that a good ice breaker is to ask about “streams of income” and if he
thinks it’s smart to have more than one check coming in. This works the
same way. Minimum wage, socialism, welfare, these questions tell you
about his money in an indirect way. If this man doesn’t have much money,
he’ll be extremely passionate about being “owed” money or bitter about
how there isn’t much opportunity to earn in today’s financial climate. If he’s
doing okay for himself, he probably won’t care about it or tell you his own
hard work success story.
His Hobby = This isn’t necessarily a deep topic, but it is to a man who’s
obsessed with it. Think back to your platonic male friends throughout life, I
bet you two vibed because you were geeks when it came to the same
thing(s). The guy you’re dating is no different from the guy that worked at
your job and who was into a certain TV you liked or who would give you
music suggestions. Find out what this guy is in love with by fishing around
with a simple opening line, “What’s your favorite…” Sports team, Movie,
Artist, Album, Video Game, and the list goes on. Don’t ask a bunch of these,
just ask it once and allow his reaction to lead you.
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For instance, if a man says he loves the Knicks but doesn’t really
follow up, then that spells out that he’s into the team but not obsessed. Hit
him with, “Do you ever play those NBA games where you get to create your
own player and put yourself on that team?” This could get you hit with, “No,
I don’t really like sports games, I’m more of a first-person shooter person.”
You don’t have to know what the fuck that means, but you can continue
with, “Oh, like what? Put me down.” A gamer nerd will go on about his
favorites, why he likes it, and all you have to do is be attentive and chime in
with an occasional comment. Women generally don’t care, so they don’t ask
about favorites. That’s a mistake because after he fucks you, he’s not going
to really have anything memorable to say. Stop thinking about “I like I like I
like” and think about “What does he love.” By knowing what a man’s into
and why it gives you deep insight into his personality way more than what
job he clocks into each morning. This is information you can use to win him
over mentally.
Think of any topic you feel is a bit deeper than the standard topics
and use this format: Question about the broader issue. Follow up question
about his personal viewpoints. Keep your mouth shut and allow him to talk
about it until he’s made his point.
In a job interview, the interviewer doesn’t interrupt you and say
“Yeah, I once worked near your old job, let me tell you about this one time
when…” They sit back, listen, and get you to keep talking about things they
feel will help them choose you or eliminate you. This is how you date,
ladies. With your ears, more than your mouth. At the same time, you’re
feeding his male ego. What happens at this stage is that no matter if this
man is social justice warrior, a conspiracy theory junkie, or a firm believer in
the 48 Laws of Power, you’re allowing him to take center stage. It’s no
longer about your past or current job, you’ve now pushed him into a topic
he finds entertaining to talk about, which translate to him seeing you as
someone he can talk freely too as opposed to a ditz who he just wants to
fuck at the end of the night. Men like to run their mouths and seem smart.
By seeming smart, they’re assuming you’re impressed. You could know a lot
more about the subject than he does, but by shutting up and silently judging
him, you avoid arguments and back and forth. By the end of the night,
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what’s he going to think? That you were easy to talk to, that he showed how
knowledgeable he was, and that it was a great date because it wasn’t a
bunch of awkward silence and struggle conversations about bullshit. On the
other side of the fence, you will know by the end of this date if he’s
narcissistic, boring, and not at all what you wanted him to be or you will see
that he’s actually funny, into the same things you are, and someone you can
seriously date.
Checklist:
 You were spontaneous and fun.
 You touched him and inspired lust.
 You opened up the topics to things he was interested in and allowed
him to talk in depth.
On a normal date most women, sit and wait. He asks the questions, she
answers then shoots back the same question. She keeps her distance
because she doesn’t want to seem too into him and thirsty. She doesn’t ask
deep questions unless it’s a generic one about something that just
happened in the news. At the end of the night, the man may still be smiling,
but internally why would he want a woman like this? Dry, unengaging, and
distant doesn’t inspire him to text you the next morning or spend money to
take you out again. By doing things the Spartan way, you fuck his mind,
stroke his ego, and get him excited to keep this going. Use these steps and
watch how many more second dates you get.
The Post Date Blueprint

Everyone reading this has fucked up at the end of a date. You either allowed
a man to go too far sexually, you went back to his place, or you had sex (yes,
I’m counting oral, nasty). What was a great date, turned into shame, and
you never get a chance to prove to him that you are more than the mistake
you made because you gave away the ending to the movie. Your reputation
is important during this early stage. There are tons of relationships work
despite first date sex, BUT there are a 10x as many that don’t work because
of it, you must be disciplined post date no matter how horny you are, no
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matter how fun you had, and no matter how much pressure this guy is
putting on you.
Turning Down The Nightcap: At the end of a date, a man’s mission will be to
get you alone. House dates are popular date offers, not because a man is
broke or doesn’t know how to date properly, it’s because it’s the easiest
way to get pussy! It’s easier to break a girl down on his couch while
watching a movie than to get her to leave the restaurant and go back home.
You’re a Spartan, you don’t do house dates until you’re at least a month in.
This means that he’s going to try to get you back to his place, back to your
place, or even get some time alone in the car. You must turn down the
nightcap no matter how nicely he pitches it.
“I just want to talk some more.”

“You mind if I stop home to grab something before taking you home?”
“Can I come up and use the bathroom?”
“I’m too tired to drive, can I take a quick nap at your place?”
These are some of the things you may here. Some of you swear you
can say “no” but in the moment when the guy of your dreams who just had
an amazing date with is saying one of the above things you will buckle. I
know that you pretend to be tough and mean, but you’re nice at heart. You
don’t want to seem rude, so you fall into the trap, and an hour later he’s
sucking on your breast. The next day you’re pissed at yourself for allowing
someone you don’t even know to get you out of character. Prevent falling
into these traps by planning for them before the date. Beat him to the
punch with an excuse as to why you can’t hang too late. You don’t want to
lie in the moment, so before he even has a chance to ask, establish that you
have something to do in the morning. If you say halfway through the date, “I
wish I didn’t have to go help my grandmother so early,” he can’t try to trap
you with an excuse to go back to his place. If the dinner went well and he’s
offering dessert or coffee, hit him with “No, I have to get back home by 11,
or I won’t be able to wake up on time tomorrow.” It doesn’t matter the
exact words; the idea is to put it on his radar that you’re not someone
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lonely chick with a free calendar, you have things to do. Any man who dates
you gets you for a window, not the entire night. Drill that in your head.
Always have a time limit for your dates, if not a man will notice that you just
spent six hours on a date and take that as a sign that he can keep you out
long enough to break you down for sex or foreplay.
Excuses won’t always work, so if he still pushes you to come back to
his place or wants to come back to yours, be stern— “No, I need to get back
home. Thanks.” Or “No, my place is a mess, maybe next time.” It’s okay to
put your foot down. If you just had a great date in the ways I laid out,
turning down his advances isn’t going to be a deal breaker, if anything it
builds his respect.
Keeping It Above Neck: Let’s say you end up on a house date or in close
quarters anyway. He’s going to try and kiss you and if you want to kiss him,
do it. But have a limit. Nothing below the neck. Some of you have gone a
year without sex, but you can’t survive a night when it comes to the right
guy applying pressure. Prove that you’re not that basic little girl you used to
be. Kiss him but control his hands. This means the moment you feel his
hands trying to dig into your pants, rub between your thighs, or angling to
get your bra off, grab them and position them where you want them.
Around your neck, around your waist, down by his waist. You control sex,
not the man. Don’t allow yourself to give in and later regret your actions.
Take responsibility into your hands by following one rule—above the neck.
“I just want to taste it,” is the ultimate temptation. You don’t have
to do anything but lay back and let a man devour your pussy like he’s Oliver
Twist in the soup line. Oral sex is better than good, it feels powerful to have
a man between your leg while you grip his head, and you can convince
yourself that it’s technically not sex. Fuck that noise. Do you want a good
time tonight or do you want to build something lasting? What often
happens is that “taste it” turns into fingering, turns into trying to put the tip
in, and either turns into you just letting him or having an awkward exchange
where you have to get serious and tell him “I said NO!” Going forward you
then have a man who feels embarrassed by the interaction or insulted
because you didn’t let him fuck. He cuts you off or slowly ghosts you
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because that entire situation was shameful. Alternatively, you may have a
guy who saw eating it as a tune-up for sex the next time out. He’s not trying
to take you out again, he wants to start right back where you left off, and if
you like him, you’ll most likely take him up on that offer. Understand that
oral sex is a slippery slope. Men across generations have used this same
tactic because it works more often than not in terms of breaking a girl
down. Be better than that. Keep it above the neck.
Keeping Him Thirsty: So, if you don’t let a guy do what he wants in terms of
going below the neck, how do you keep in interested? Simple. You thank
him in a flirty way after the date. Allow me to walk you through the male
mind after we drop you off after a date where we don’t have sex or even
get close. 1) We’re horny 2) We’re unsure 3) We’re thinking of other
options. The male ego is pissed that we didn’t finish the job so of course,
we’re going to question if you’re as into us as we thought. The only thing
you need to do to refocus your date is to drop him a text, thanking him
again for the date and complimenting him…
Post Date Text: Thanks again for dinner, I can’t remember the last time I had
that much fun. I’ll go to sleep dreaming about those lips.
Appreciation, confirmation that you had a good time, compliments

on his end of date kissing skills. That will put out the fire of an insecure or
nervous man instantly. Men don’t need sex to like you or to keep chasing
you. Basicas think pussy glues a man, fuck no. Pussy is honey, not glue.
What glues him to you is your personality. What mixes things up is when a
man can’t read if you liked him or not. There are women out there just
getting free food out of dudes, how does he know you aren’t playing those
kinds of games? You alleviate these worries by showing him you did enjoy
his time, he is on your mind, and that this relationship will continue after
tonight. I know many of you are shy and don’t like to use “thank you” or
compliment males. It’s time to grow up! Gratitude goes a long way. Never
be too cool to show interest and never be so naïve that you assume that
because you went out and kissed him that he will automatically know that
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you enjoyed yourself. So many males have been hurt, so shoot a simple text
stroking his ego, it not only calms him, it energizes him to keep outdoing
himself.
One Last Thing… Juggling Men

If you follow the script up to this point you will find yourself with more
options than you’re used to, right? The guys that randomly come after you,
the guys you snatched up by taking initiative, online guys, friend hookups,
maybe even guys you used to date years ago. If you’ve read any of my other
work, you know that dating multiple men has always been my advice to
prevent overinvesting at the dating stage. We men do it naturally because…
well, we don’t give a fuck and know that single means single. Women often
feel guilty that they’re lying or being sneaky by dating multiple men. Dating
means dating, not fucking or sucking multiple men. You should feel no guilt.
You’re not bringing some unsuspecting guy back an STD nor are you
promising him that he has your exclusive rights. The key to juggling men is
to remind any man who shows jealous streaks or asks you, that he’s not
your boyfriend and it’s not his business.
GUY X: You talking to anyone else?
Sparta: I don’t “talk” to anyone, if a guy makes a good case, I let him take
me on a date. If he doesn’t impress me, then no more dates.
GUY X: So, when’s the last date you’ve been on?
Sparta: Unless you want advice on the type of food I like, then let’s keep my
past dating life in the past.
In your dating life you can’t be a wimp. Men won’t like that you
date other men but why do you care about what they like? Too many
women try to use loyalty as a crutch to get a man to take her seriously.
“Guys don’t like girls that go out too much, have an active phone, blah blah
blah.” Shut that shit up! Men like to be challenged more than we admit.
Keep as many men on your roster as you can juggle and be prepared to add
more even if a date goes well. You can’t afford to date one at a time!
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How to Not Text Like

A Basic Bitch
exting should be a simple, straight forward, and fast form of

T communication. Instead, it becomes a confusing mess that leads to
miscommunication and hurt feelings that kills a relationship before it even
begins. I’m not talking about bad grammar, shorthand, slang, and the
overuse of emojis, I’m talking about the inability for most women to truly
stand out behind a keyboard. Half of you give one-word replies, write
incomplete sentences, or WYD people to death, while the other half writes
ten blocks at a time or dump paragraphs full of rants on men the moment
they don’t text back. Too many women are bad at texting even though it’s
the top form of communication when dating. In response men don’t want to
take you out, they just want to you to send nudes, tell them when you’re
free and lure you over for sex because nothing you text about has inspired
him to spend money or take you seriously.
What do men really want to text about (besides nudes) these days?
A recently single friend has been showing me all the various conversations
he has with the women he’s either dating or attempting to date. Bumble,
Tinder, Instagram, Facebook, and of course standard text messages, full of
women going back and forth. To his credit, he’s really putting in work to find
the right woman. Unlike so many men you hear stories about or even
experienced, I can honestly say this is one doesn’t want easy sex, he needs a
connection. His frustration is that these women he messages with or texts
write the most basic things even when he’s trying to pull deeper
conversations out of them.
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Imagine if my friend was your prototypical GUY X. Are you the type
of woman that can communicate in ways that shows him that you’re not
like the rest? Be honest. Think about the text-based conversations you have
with men in general. Can you pull information out of strangers? Does your
sense of humor come through? Are you engaging? Ladies, a man that’s
looking for his equal, will judge the fuck out of you. This chapter will focus
squarely on how to step your game up when texting at each stage of a
relationship. Phones aren’t being used as frequently as in the past, we all
know that, so if you aren’t able to use your fingers in a way that can
enchant, interrogate, and bait, then you’re in danger of falling behind. It’s
time to catch you up on all the ways to mindfuck a man into craving you, via
your keyboard.
Texting With Strangers

The name of the game is to get someone on the phone before you EVER
agree to a first date. However, there is a lot of time in-between exchanging
information and going on a date where you will need to be active and
responsive via text. Here are some warm-up tips for when you first meet a
new guy.
Flex Your Personality: Never be afraid to let your light shine. If you’re sassy,
then the moment he shoots that first “what’s up” text start the process of
imprinting your brand on his brain.
Don’t Text = Hey. I’m Good. Yeah, I remember you. LOL. Or any general
statement text that doesn’t push the conversation anywhere or shows off
your personality.
Do Text = Tease him: “Who’s this? …I’m messing with you. How are you?”
Sass Him: “Oh, it took you long enough to use the number. Clown With Him:
“What’s going on, babe. Before I even get my hopes up, I need to know if
you’re Team Blue Cheese or Team Ranch?” Or use any fun or engaging
opening line that lightens the mood.
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We men are looking for ways to show our personality without being
random or weird. We can’t crack a joke when all you say is, “Just got off
work.” All we can do is respond with something generic about work or what
your plans are when you get home. You don’t want to text about that, and
neither does he. Remember, you get the energy you put out. Some of you
are either too shy or too defensive to be normal when texting, so your
default is to just text plainer than vanilla yogurt. Step. Your. Pussy. Up! By
leading with something fun, you challenge the man to keep up the pace.
Tease Him. Sass Him. Joke With Him. Those are the lanes you start with.
Stay away from the mundane!
“Okay, I will use one of those openings, then what?” This is where I
can’t hold your hand through everything. The purpose of this book is to
push you into situations where your natural instincts take over, not script
each line. If you tease a man, he’s going to fire back something like, “Oh, so
you got that many dudes on your roster that you don’t remember me.” To
which you would respond, “I just did a round of roster cuts, how does it
feel to be a leading candidate?” That’s how you keep teasing a man without
giving away any of your business. Know your personality, act the way you
would with your best friend or that guy at work who isn’t a threat. Be
personable, never make statements, even when you answer a question,
shoot another question at him to keep it going.
Make Him Overshare: This brings it into the real meat and potatoes of
texting a stranger, getting to know this person enough to see if he’s worth
dating.
Don’t = So, you don’t have a girlfriend? So, when are you taking me out? I
didn’t think you liked me. Or any thirsty compliments or weak direct
questions that give him an easy way to lie.
Do = Force him to tell stories: “What did you think when you first saw me?”
Give specifics in terms of his history: “How long were you with your last
girlfriend?” Lead him like a prosecutor: “So, are you happy with that job in
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terms of responsibility and pay?” Basically, you’re not asking anything that
would give you a one sentence answer, these are loaded questions.
For example, if Guy X texts back, “I work a chill job, and the money’s
okay.” You don’t drop it, you follow up with, “How long have you been
there? It sounds like you have something bigger on the horizon.” Now
you’re pulling from him to keep going. Every man that’s not content will
have some kind of idea of what he needs to be doing or wants to be doing,
and he’ll share it at that point, even if it’s just the formulation of a plan. If he
responds to the girlfriend question with, “We were together for about 8
months, but she was sneaky, so I ended it.” You don’t hit him with, “Kay.”
You push that bastard with, “So 8 months break up but how long were you
still having sex, some people can’t give up sex with their ex.” Now that’s a
real question that asks him directly if he’s still fucking his ex. These are just
warm-ups to catch him in lies or to get some honest answers out of him.
Take every important thing you want to know about him (relationships, job
status, etc…) and pitch him questions that lead to stories. This is a crucial
tactic as you’ll be doing the same thing face to face on dates.
Date Bait: Way too many women come to me asking, “how do I get a guy to
take me on a date, they never ask.” This goes back to texting in general.
Unlike phone calls, there’s no easy way to plan a date. A guy will say things
like, “I’m trying to see you,” “There’s this place that you should check out,”
and other beat around the bush things but they won’t specify dates because
it’s not natural when texting. If this happens, assume that men are
awkward, not uninterested and take things into your own hands.
Don’t = I want to go here this weekend. Take me to see this movie. I guess
you are too busy to see me. Or anything that comes off as a demand or
passive aggressiveness guilting.
Do = Prime him: “What would be your idea of a perfect date night?” Green
Light him: “I’m going to be free this Friday if you want to think of something
for us to do.” Test him: “Give me a call so we can talk about meeting up.”
Your job isn’t to wait on your hands, it’s to actively allow this man to prove
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that he’s down to court you or that he’s just another one of these lazy guys
who expect you to do all the work.
If you tell a man to call you and he doesn’t call, but texts you the
next day, he’s not a man at all. He’s showing you that he’s afraid to engage
on a real level. Most likely he’s hiding something, and you should take that
has a Red Flag no matter how much you like him. If you give a guy a specific
day when you’re free to meet and he doesn’t do anything with that
information, then again, snip. Cut his ass off and move on to the next one.
Some of you give hints, or half-ass tell men when you may be free. Kill all
confusion by being specific—I’m off on this day, let me know. It’s that easy,
now he has to do the work. You are a grown woman, every man in your
phone should have a purpose. If he’s not trying to take you out, then why
are you texting with him?
Daily Chit Chat: How much texting is too much texting? When you don’t
know a person limit the texting to a few times a day before you actually
meet up for the date. If he’s the one trying to text you to death, either
ignore him or if you have your Read Receipts on, tell him you’ll hit him once
you’re finished doing what you’re doing, and throw a kiss emoji, so he
knows you’re not blowing him off—dudes love kiss emojis! Don’t over-text
out of boredom. If you’re having long drawn out text conversations for four
days in a row and your date is still days away, you risk oversharing, getting
too sexual, or bonding yourself to him before he’s passed any of the date
vettings. Count the number of texts. Don’t be afraid to ignore him, and then
hit him the next day. You’re not going to scare him off if anything he’s going
to try harder because unlike the other girls in his phone you aren’t jumping
every time the phone chimes.
Dating Stage Texting

The Reach Out Rules: Who should reach out after a first date? Pride will tell
you that a man should, but common sense would tell you that the person
who was treated to the date should show thanks the next day. If you’ve
already texted him post-date, saying good night or thanking him, then allow
him time to follow up the next day. Don’t let the entire day go by without
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texting anything. For instance, if Guy X hasn’t texted you and it’s about to be
9pm, shoot him a general text.
You: My day has been crazy, how about yours?
This goes back to the fundamentals of questions getting answers. I

know what it’s like to be unsure of if I should reach out to a woman who I
had a good time with, and I can count at least two first dates that never
made it to second dates because I was too prideful. You don’t have to chase
a man, all you need to do is crack the door open because you never know
what he’s going on internally. He doesn’t want to be a bother, or he doesn’t
want you to think he’s annoying, so he sits on his hands overthinking. The
rule of thumb is if you had a great date, not good but great, it’s okay to
reach out first. Don’t assume his silence means he doesn’t like you. Spartan
Up and be direct.
Training Him: He’s not your boyfriend, and he’s not your friend, he’s just a
guy who has to learn how you like things. Your ex knew when your lunch
break was, when you were taking a nap, and when you were in need of
some cheering up. This relative stranger knows nothing. So many women
catch attitudes because a man isn’t responding at her pace or with the
reactions she’s accustomed to—kill that bullshit right now. The early dating
stage is about training males, not about getting mad because they didn’t
already come with instructions on how to communicate with you.
Always confirm = When planning a date, a meetup, time to talk or facetime,

confirm with him the details. “We’re still on, right?” This is so easy to do,
but few people do it. Not being on the same page leads to drama in the
form of him forgetting, having to rush, or other annoying things that make
you want to cut him off for not being on point with his communication.
When you always confirm, you tell him that you’re not a typical girl that just
goes with the flows, your time is precious, and you need to know specifics,
not guess. It never hurts to send this kind of text.
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Give Space = If a man is having a bad day, he doesn’t want to talk. 9 out of
10 times, he wants to retreat into his shell and do what he likes until he’s
relaxed. Doing what relaxes him is NEVER texting about “why.” When he’s
ready to get into detail, he will. For now, leave it. If he’s texting different or
writes back that he had a bad day. Respond with understanding.
You: I know what it’s like to have a bad day, so I’ll give you some space to
unwind and check in with you before I go to bed. Sound good?
Answering attitude with attitude, trying to mother a man, forcing a

visit, all those things lead to passive-aggressive behavior or create
arguments. When a man is going through things, he handles them
differently from how most females handle them. He doesn’t need to vent
like cousin needs to vent about her boss for an hour. All that noise just
irritates us, so let it go and check back later. It’s not your job to fix
everything.
Carve Out Space = This is one of my oldest rules going back to my book
Solving Single, and it remains one that pays off to this day with so many
women I correspond with. After you’re past the second date, it’s all about
becoming a part of each other’s lives. To further your bond, you need
nightly time when the attention is all on you. Before you suck your teeth
with an objection that men are too busy, let’s go through all the ways to
accomplish this no matter the man.
 Regular Joe = He gets off at a decent time, which means after his
commute, he’s going to eat, fuck around online or play video games,
then get ready to do it all over again. By the time you’ve been on a
few dates, you should know his schedule and that time where he’s
either free to text you or call.
 Mr. Odd Hours = He doesn’t work a regular schedule so he’s off

different times on different days and it doesn’t always match up
with your free time. Your job is to play the guilt game. “Make sure
you text me, on your break, you know I’ll be thinking about you.” Or
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“I’ll probably be sleep but make sure to text me, so it’s the first
thing I see in the morning.” When you train a man like this, he will
start to do it automatically and actually enjoy it because early in a
relationship he’s trying to earn brownie points.
 Mr. Super Busy = My Ho Tactics users know that successful men are
insanely busy, and they may not even be in your time zone most
times. In this case, you switch it from nightly to at least four times a
week. In Ho Tactics, it’s about becoming an escape because you’re
selling a fantasy. In actual romance, you can still entice him by
understanding his POV. Super Busy guys don’t want to talk about
work or waste time with the boring details of a day. He’s tired, mind
racing with things to do, so keep it fast and fun. Pictures. Gifs. Jokes.
Flirting. These are the things he will see when he picks his phone up
and in return, rush to respond to. Do this enough, he begins to
expect them, so when you miss a day, he will be the one that comes
looking for that energy because you’re the cup of coffee he now
craves.
Cutting Him Off: Let’s say that after one or two dates you’re not feeling this
guy anymore. How do you properly cut him off without getting into a messy
back and forth exchange? I tell men to cut a woman off via text if it’s only
been two dates and no sex. More than three she’s owed a phone call
because at that point you’re pushing into nearly a month. The same rules
apply here.
The Nice Exchange = Wait for him to text you then, “Hey, I was actually
about to reach out to you. I had a good time the other night, but I don’t
think we really mesh the way I hoped. You’re one of the few guys that
doesn’t play games, so I don’t want to waste your times and keep you from
meeting a more compatible woman that would kill for someone like you.”
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The Let-Down = You reach out then, “I don’t mean to just drop this in your
lap, but it’s better I get this out now than wait. It’s been fun dating, but it’s
not going to work out.”
The Fall Back = You stop engaging as often, then if he doesn’t take the hint
and asks to see you hit him with, “Hey. We aren’t going to work, but I wish
you well.”
All these things hurt a man’s ego, and some guys will react with
hostility depending on their personality. Think about the guy you’re dating
and match him with the best method. If he’s an asshole or abrasive, the fall
back will cushion the blow as you’re slowly fading out before breaking the
news. If he’s a super nice guy who you can tell likes you a lot, he will reach
out first, so hit him with the blunt exchange. If he’s someone that isn’t
consistent, you may want to give him the Let-Down, as it gives you a chance
to explain to him what he did wrong. Pick one, use it, and stop dragging
your feet dating guys that aren’t ever going to work out, being indecisive or
soft is how you pop up in a settle relationship.
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Sexting Tricks &

Dating App Skills
85% of women I’ve given advice to have made the mistake of having sex
too fast. Doesn’t matter their reasoning, they had sex, regretted it, and then
their intuition proved right as the man either ghosted or switched up in
terms of effort. What is sex? It’s power. A man thinks he’s fucking you,
conquering you, marking his territory even if it’s for a night. No matter the
man, he craves power through sex. To reset these boundaries, and stay in
power of a man mentally, sex should be earned. There is no better way to
make a man prove himself worthy while also seducing him to his knees than
sexting. See, and you just thought it was just talking nasty.
Picture Rules: Don’t send him any nudes until he’s your man. If he’s not
your boyfriend, then keep how your breasts look angled perfectly in the
mirror to yourself. Validation runs the world. If you have nice assets, you
want to show them off because that other person is sure to splatter you
with compliments. Being told you’re sexy, how much he wants you, or his
confession that you got him hard enough to beat off to your pictures will
flatter you no matter how much you say it won’t. Don’t get caught up in
your own vanity! Men are greedy, they’ll want more pictures, you’ll want
more compliments, so you’ll keep sending them. Alternatively, nudes have
been used to thirst bait a man into liking you more. In some female minds
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the logic of “once he knows what I’m working with, he’ll make time for me.”
No, he won’t. Nearly all my close friends and not so close friends have
shown me naked pictures of the girls they were “talking to” and made
insensitive comments that would break your heart if you were a fly in the
room. Don’t be basic!
Send him selfies, send him something implies sex, even tease him
with videos, but stay clothed! He will beg you, offer money, ask for
something to beat off to while he’s out of town, regardless of his reasoning,
you must be a Spartan. Your nudes stay on your phone until it’s an official
relationship. The goal is to drive him crazy, not spoil Christmas. Remember
that men love what they can’t have more than they will ever love what’s
given to them with little to no effort.
Getting Started: Guy X has been impressive throughout the first two dates,
and you’re inching towards a third when he begins to get a little more
aggressive with texting. It seems like every joke is filthy, and every
conversation treads into sexual conversations. Guy X is starting to get antsy
because he’s used to women having sex with him within the first two weeks.
Now is the time to cool him down while keeping that passion raging.
 Pre Plan – The object of sexting is to make a man cum. Not to have fun,
to mess around, or to be cute. Know that the end goal is to make him
whip it out and cum fast. Before you even launch into the text session
have a running list of some of the flirty things he’s said to you during
your dates. To know a man’s turn on’s will help you get him off quicker.
 Know His Schedule – When does he have the most privacy? You don’t
want to sext a man at work. At that point, he’s just playing along, not
fully engaged because he knows he can’t just whip it out at his desk. The
most you’ll get is “oh really,” or “You ain’t ready,” because he isn’t
mentally free enough to be filthy and creative. Also, know your own
schedule. If you live with roommates who are in the same room
watching TV or if you’re in the middle of cooking, how can you give your
full attention to the task? Know when he’s home alone. Line it up with
your own private moments. Then launch.
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 Lead Him – Some of you aren’t very aggressive when it comes to new
men. You feel awkward and thus allow the man to lead you. Fuck that.
Start by making a blanket statement about how you miss him and can’t
wait to see him again. A man will naturally respond with the same. This
is an opening for you to then get a little nasty… “Reading that you can’t
wait to see me too, just made my kitty tingle a bit.” Ladies, this is how
easy it is to crack a man open. Say one slightly perverse thing, and they
will take that ball and run with it. This is what I mean by lead him. The
act of saying or in this case, texting, a trigger statement. I just got out of
the shower, I need someone to towel me down… I had a dream last
night, but I’m not sure if I should share it… Thinking about how you
voiced sounded earlier nearly caused a flood warning. The goal is to
floor him to the point where he has to read that text a few times, think
about how far to take it, and come with his A Game. Not all men are
smooth, you know this, talking about sex and texting about sex often
show you just how bad at fourplay today’s men are. That’s okay because
you’re Mommy now, you’re going to lead his mind into the gutter than
wreck him.
 Set The Fantasy – Roleplay is the name of the game. It’s easier to do
this on the phone, but sexting still offers a way for you to slip into a role
that separates the “good girl” from your “freak side.” The first step is to
give yourself a nickname, it could be your initials, your Spartan Name,
something he calls you, doesn’t matter. Beyoncé sang the line “he likes
to call me peaches when he gets this nasty…” Let’s go with that for now.
He texts how he can’t wait to see you. You bait him with, “Are you ready
for Princess Peach to show you how it’s done, baby?” This entices him,
you’re making it into some freak game, and the horny little boy inside
will start to sweat. From there you set the scene. This can be: I wish you
were here because I’d do… or it can be I wish it was just you and me on
the beach… Remember, this is about your creativity and what kinds of
things you’re comfortable saying. When you pre-plan think of this
stuff—sexy pet name & where you want to fuck him. That way by the
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time you get to this part it’s automatic, know text bubbles starting up
just to stop. Hesitation during sexting kills the mood, so be ready with
your default fantasy scenario.
 Domination: Are you dominating or submissive? Doesn’t matter, you

can try both out. Since being aggressive and showing him this new side
of you is often a better setup let’s begin with you in the dominating
role. Guy X is now texting you, his Princess Peach, generic things to get
into the flow. It doesn’t matter what stupid shit he’s firing back with,
you never stray from your script. As the Dom in this situation, be
forceful. “I’m going to tie you to the bed, is that okay?” Again, you take
him out of the real world and reaffirm this is a fantasy. “I don’t know
why I asked, I’m going to do it anyway.” Now you have him on his heels
trying to text as fast as his heart is racing. “Just lay back and open your
mouth. Let me know when you’re ready.” See how you easily took
control? Now, this can play out into a full-blown face riding session
where you then go on to describe how his tongue feels in your pussy.
From there you ask him what else he wants to eat, and then build into
untying him for the main event—fucking your bomb ass pussy. This
fantasy game will make a man bust within 15 minutes.
 Submission: Some guys are still putting on fronts so they may not want
to be tied up and dominated or have you instructing what to do. If your
Guy X is more like Christian Grey, then your role becomes pulling the
nasty out by begging. “Your Princess just wants to please you, baby. Tell
me where do I start?” Then you keep allowing him to feel in control,
“How do you want me to stroke it, daddy, slow or fast?” This asking for
permission and servitude line of sexting will keep building up because
that man’s real-life dick is also on a power trip. Bossing a woman around
is a high for any man that may not have much power in the outside
world or are used to shy or reserved women. He’s going to get out all
his porn fantasies, and because he’s leading the way, he’ll come quicker
because he’s pushing you to hit his spots.
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 Back To Reality: If he’s taking too long, stop texting and write back a
few minutes later “I came.” Faking it is sometimes the only way to get
out of an overly long session. Remember the goal of this is to get him
off, to make him your bitch, not to get your vibrator out and go to
work. If you think going through with masturbating will help you, then
do it, but in general just focus on your creative. Other times a man will
finish up and say something abruptly to let you know you can stop like,
“Damn you’re wild. So, we’re still good for Thursday, right?” Changing
the subject from sex means he’s satisfied because a man with a dick
that’s still hard in an empty room will not stop. As you go back to reality,
put the fantasy character back in the box. “Princess Peach had fun, she
said that if you continue to be a good boy, you may get to see her
again.” This is what’s called training the dog. You just gave him a nut,
now he’s going to be on his best behavior that next date to either get a
repeat session or the taste of your pussy in real life. He won’t—not yet.
But it’s good that he believes in the pot of gold at the end of the
rainbow.
Finishing Him Off: Sexting isn’t a warm up to have sex the next time you see
him, it’s meant to show him A. You may be a lady, but you can and will get
nasty. B. You like him enough to think about sex with him. Remember a
man’s ego in the early stage of dating is fragile. He’s afraid you’re playing
him, that you’re a Ho, that you aren’t as into him as he’s into you. By
rewarding him with sext after the first two or three dates, it establishes a
deeper interest than kissing at the end of the night. The next time you see
him, he’s not going to bring up Princess Peach, but she’s at the top of his
brain. That means when you touch his hand, brush up against him, hug him,
it will light him up on an entirely new level. Now, when you tell him you
have to get home or stop him before he goes too far, you can feel secure in
letting him down. “Let’s take our time, babe. You know the Princess can’t
wait to show you around the castle when the time is right.” You’re giving
him a mental outlet to cum, so he isn’t going crazy, while he’s still getting to
know you. I’ll be honest, women need to save men from themselves when it
comes to sex. We build it up so big in our heads that we falsely think we
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want a relationship, we say the “L” word too fast, and we mislead our
emotions. Sexting or phone sex deflates that lust, but still keeps the want
alive. Practice this and perfect it, instead of having sex during that first
month or two.
Dating Apps
I’ve been doing a few dating app experiments with my friends and readers
because it’s becoming the go-to way to meet people. I want my readers to
stay ahead of the curve because, from the early results, this is another
avenue where some women aren’t taking full advantage. The photo you
use. The bio you write. The types of people you swipe on. These are things
that I’ll be writing about on FarFromBasyc.com sooner than later. For now,
let’s focus on the messages you send back and forth. Some of these are
similar to the text rules we’ve gone over already, but there are some key
differences.
Give Your All: Imagine Guy X swiping on you, sending you a carefully crafted
message, and you giving him one-word answers. Imagine Guy X continuing
to text you for a week, trying to set up a time you can meet up, and you’re
giving him dodgy responses. If you’re on a dating app that means every
other outlet has failed, or you’re too afraid to approach in public. Now’s not
the time to play games and half-ass the effort, this is the time to say all the
things you’ve been practicing. You have several men all trying to get you
face to face, and instead of being an Alpha female you choke under
pressure. Why? He may not like you when he sees you. You think all men are
just after sex. You don’t want to come off as liking him too much and lose his
respect. You sound silly as fuck. If you think you’re too fat, then why are you
on a dating app where you will have to see that person in person soon? If
you think men are predators and full of shit, then why are you swiping on
them in the first place? Don’t date until you have first learned to accept who
you are and learned how to navigate the dating pools! Yes, it’s easy to sign
up to date, and maybe your friends just want to see that you’re trying, but
it’s a waste of time if you aren’t 100% invested. Spartan Up and put energy
into this app, or your results will negative. Every week people are finding
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true love via these apps because good men are out there right along with
the toxic ones. Be confident that you can pull the best and go forward.
Have Fun With It: Now that you’re mentally prepared to message on these
apps, relax. The same things I wrote about being spontaneous and
exercising your character apply here. The twist is that these are total
strangers so you should be even cockier. The guy who you met at the gas
station and vibed with isn’t the same as some guy whose only contact is
seeing a few pictures. You must be fearless in your approach. Sassy = “You
probably didn’t even remember swiping me, I know you guys just speed
through with your finger.” Random = “Before this can even become a thing,
rank your last three girlfriends from best to worst in terms of sex.” Witty =
“Please no ‘what do you do for work” questions, I’m trying to keep you safe.
The opening messages should showcase whatever personality trait fits you
the best. Remember, you don’t have anything to fear they’re just guys on an
app who you can delete anytime you feel like it. Your only goal is to
jumpstart a fun and interesting conversation to see if they’re on your level.
Don’t Assume, Ask: Several women have told me they ended up dealing
with guys who were involved. “He was on Tinder, so why would I ask him if
he had a girlfriend?” You always ask men questions even if they sound
stupid. Does he have a girlfriend? Is he recently broken up? Does he have a
baby on the way? Does he work full time, and where? Does he live alone or
with roommates or family? Unlike texting or phone calls, dating apps are
meant to be straight forward. You don’t have to pull stories out of them at
this stage, so be blunt. Remember the male hustle of dating apps—seem
great, get pussy. Men will share with you the best details of their life and
leave out huge details. He’s messaging you, “I’m a photographer who had
my work in Complex, and I live in a condo on the east side of town.” A basic
bitch would hear that and be open off the fantasy of a creative man who
has risen to success. But if you don’t assume and follow up with questions,
you’ll learn the following:
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 Yes, he’s a photographer who once had an advertisement he did

three years ago appear in Complex and a lot of other mags, but he
hasn’t shot any spreads, covers, or even feature images—ever.
 Yes, he stays in a nice part of the city, but he lives with a college
friend. Let’s say you ask about the college friend and what he does.
Now you find out that the college friend is a woman he used to
date.
Ohhhhhh now you get how guys work. This out of work would be
photographer is living with his ex-girlfriend because she still wants to
mother him and make it work. Meanwhile, he’s on the dating apps trying to
find new pussy or a new sugar mamma. You may think that’s rare, but trust
me, it’s more common than a late start at a Lauryn Hill concert. These guys
are using these apps to make themselves into Mr. Perfect. You must poke
holes because unlike the people you meet in person and exchange numbers
with, it’s so easy to buy into false potential.
The Phone Number Is Earned: On social media, I always push for you to
take it off the app as soon as you can. When it comes to dating apps or sites,
I’ve adopted a more “wait and see” approach. One of my readers sent me
her bad experience on Plenty of Fish. They jumped from Plenty of Fish at the
start of the week to a date that same weekend. She would literally sit at
work and write long novels to him, and he would do the same. By Friday it
felt like “love” to her. Don’t shake your head and call her “dumb” because a
lot of you will fall into the fast trap as well.
Understand that messaging bonds people more severely than face
to face dates. This person is there to write you sweet things that you can
read repeatedly. You don’t know them, so you’re projecting the best image
of how they are based on these messages. Sexually they’re stroking your
hormones, so the lust is now mixed in with the romantic fantasy. Put that in
a blender, aka your lonely brain, and you can’t help but feel as if something
special is happening. There’s a reason people still get Catfished, why people
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in prison get letters from strangers and marry them, and why Dating app
relationship still thrives despite never going on a real date.
Here are 3 rules: Never message more than three times a day. Take
at least a week to feel them out in terms of consistency before you go on a
date. At the end of that week push for a phone call, and only go on a date
after you have that pre-date call. I don’t care if he’s a truck driver, stationed
out of state in the military, or currently traveling, you must talk to them on
the phone. No one should have extended pen pals nor should they never
hear a person’s voice before a date. Once you move to this step, you can
use the previous chapters as it’s no longer on the app.
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What Are We?

What to Say When the
Relationship Stalls
et’s flip forward in your dating life. You followed the Spartan Script and
L mastered the art of meeting men, you date on a high level, and your
special brand of Spartan confidence and strategy has netted you your
Dream Guy. What happens next? It’s been a few months, maybe even more,
and besides a loose affirmation of how much he loves and cares for you,
your relationship status remains up in the air. You’re stuck in the dating
stage with a man you love, and whom you think loves you, but he’s gotten
overly comfortable. What do you say to make Dream Guy open up about
what he truly wants?
Question His Motives

The Guy Who Thinks You’re the One: Some men don’t know how to move
to that next level because real commitment is scary. Maybe his parents
divorced, and that scared him. Maybe his last relationship broke him
mentally, and his defense mechanism is to just play it cool and take it slow,
so he doesn’t expose his heart. Maybe he has a history of moving too fast
and wasting his time and the woman’s time after he realizes it’s a false
alarm. These are things you may not think about because your ego is all,
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“Why doesn’t he want to be my boyfriend but treats me like a girlfriend.”

Stop being a brat and understand it’s not always about YOU.
Know that for every man that moves fast, there are still those guys
that are sensitive to failing at a relationship. You can’t afford to give
girlfriend benefits to guys who don’t want to give you the title no matter if
his heart is in the right place. Being a man means being willing to risk
heartbreak and take a leap of faith if a woman proves herself worthy. Two
months in, he doesn’t know you, but he should have an idea. All men know
when a woman is special. I knew with my wife within a matter of days.
These guys hold themselves back because they can’t get out of their own
head to accept that you feel right because you are right! If this is the case,
the script you have to use is one that will encourage him to be fearless.
We’ll get into that, but let’s look at another type of man and his motives…
The Guy Who Thinks You’re A Placeholder: Many of you will become
involved with men who don’t think that you are that attractive, that
charismatic, or that interesting. He’s not afraid of commitment, he’s just
trying to buy time, so he doesn’t have to give you a solid answer. Why
would any man date a woman he doesn’t think highly of? Because men
always need something or someone to do, when bored! You were a
woman who happened to be at the right place during the right time in his
life, and he pursued you because it was convenient and easy. You are a
good time girl, low maintenance, and require little energy exertion because
you just want to be picked. Any savvy man can spot a weak and lonely
woman with little to no options, so he keeps you around until he totally
exhausts your usefulness. That’s it. All the sweet words he says—lies to
keep you on the leash. All the nice things he did for you—keeping up
appearances, so you stay put. All the things you swear prove that he cares
about you—just a magic trick to maintain the status quo. You’re a
placeholder, a seat filler, Ms. Inconsequential.
How do you know if you’re a placeholder? Effort. If a man stops
asking you out. If you’re a month in and he doesn’t bother to plan anything
to surprise you. If he’s taken to not responding to your text or calls until he
feels like it. If his overall energy is off from the first week of dating. These
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are the beginning signs that a guy has gotten comfortable with you and
doesn’t think he has to do anything more than keep you on that leash. The
solution isn’t to argue, you can’t yell at a man to go back to treating you like
a special edition once you’ve already been demoted.
Researching His Actions

Before you have “the talk” with him. Understand which of the two
categories he falls into. You two have been dating for a while. Think back to
the conversations. How did his last several relationships end? How was his
upbringing? What’s his relationship with his parents? Has he lived up to the
promises of the first month of dating? What is his philosophy on exclusive
relationships?
A man that’s been through real pain brings it up often once you
crack him open. He’s mentioning the things his ex does. He talks in depth
about his broken home. He shuts down or acts differently when you do
something another girl did to him. Why? Because he’s still living in the past
and unsure of the future. When he uses words like “let’s take it slow” or
“It’s still early” he has real examples from his life. Mind you these aren’t just
about the girls he’s hurt, he may have hurt women and cares too much
about you to put you through a slip up in his character. The rule of thumb is
to match his words with his actual life story.
Alternatively, a man that’s just trying to keep you as a placeholder
won’t be able to come up with real reasons, he’ll just give you buzzwords.
I’m not ready… Let’s keep building… I care about you, but… The top
response is the obvious, “I’m not looking for anything serious,” when a man
says that he’s leaving off, “with you.” No matter if a man is stalling or he
doesn’t think he’s a relationship kind of guy, you must believe what he’s
telling you—you’re not the one. Far too many women pretend that they
want situationships too, that they’re okay with waiting, but that’s bullshit.
You mean to tell me you want to reward a man who doesn’t think that
highly of you with unprotected sex, spend most of your time with him, and
waste the best years of your life? No. You want something real, you want
someone who wants you back, not someone who is waiting for a better
woman to come along. The reason you go with the flow is because you’re a
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coward. You’re afraid you won’t find another “him,” so you hang on hoping
that he changes his mind about how special you are. That’s Unicorn
Delusion. You’re not special to him, if you were, he wouldn’t have you in the
placeholder position.
Now that you’ve researched his actions it’s time to move on to
having “the talk.” You must be brave enough to open your mouth and
express your feelings. No matter if he’s playing games or truly afraid of
commitment you can’t keep waiting. Decide on a day to go see him and use
the following scripts that correspond to your situation to get your final
answer.
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The Fear of Commitment Script

INT. APARTMENT - LIVING ROOM – NIGHT
Sparta sits on the couch, legs folded criss-cross, as the sound of running
water fills the background. Her face is stoic, calmly collecting her thoughts.
The water stops and Guy X enters from the apartment's kitchen with two
glasses of wine.
GUY X
I was out of white, hope you don't
mind cabernet.
He hands the glass off, not bothering to wait for her affirmation. Sparta
looks up after a beat and politely takes the glass with a smile.
Guy X reaches for the remote control to signal the start of their "chill" time.
SPARTA
Actually.
(putting her glass down)
Could we talk about something
before you put the movie on?
Guy X looks back, trying to hide his disappointment. Forces a grin.
GUY X
Yeah, what's up?
Sparta pats the seat next to her.
Guy X takes a sip from the wine glass and joins her on the couch.
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SPARTA
I'm just going to be straight
forward. We've been dating for
nearly three months. That isn't a
very long time, but I feel it's
long enough for the two of us to
decide what we want this to be
going forward. Do you agree?
Guy X fidgets back in the chair, a slight sigh.
GUY X
I already told you, you're the only
girl I'm seeing. I know what I
want.
SPARTA
Okay, but relationships need
clarification.
Loving me, wanting to be with me,
those aren't saying what we are.
Guy X begins to speak, Sparta raises a finger.
SPARTA
Give me one minute, please.
I know you haven't had luck in the
past and you want to be sure. I
feel the same way. But if this is
going to work, we need to take that
leap of faith and enter a
relationship to see if we can pass
that test. How do you feel?
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GUY X
I don't know. It's not that I'm not
sure about you, it's that labels
complicate things.
SPARTA
You're right. That's what we need,
to complicate things so we can
really see if this can work under
the pressure of being not only
exclusive, but 100% committed.
Sparta grabs his hand.
SPARTA
I hope you don't hurt me, and I hope
I don't hurt you. The only way to
know is to evolve from just dating
and go to the next stage. I'm not going to
give an ultimatum, that's not what
I'm about. I simply want to know if
you're strong enough to take that
leap of faith and make things
official going forward.
Guy X grips Sparta's hand, his eyes dodge around before landing on her
warm loving face.
GUY X
I don't have a problem doing that.
I'm more than strong enough, babe.
SPARTA
...so say it, fool.
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GUY X
Let's make this official.
FADE TO BLACK.
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The Placeholder Script

INT. CAR - PARKED - DAY
Sparta sits behind the wheel of her car, eyes focused in like lasers, hands
crossed over her chest as she waits. An aura of determination blankets her.
Guy X knocks on the passenger window, making a goofy facial expression as
he opens the door and enters. He's all fun and games...
GUY X
You’re not going to come up?
SPARTA
No, this is going to be short.
GUY X
Why are you so serious?
SPARTA
We need to talk.
GUY X
Uh oh.
SPARTA
Can you not?
GUY X
Not what?
SPARTA
Just listen, okay?
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Guy X leans back in the chair, already annoyed with the words about to
come from her mouth.
SPARTA
We've been dating for three months
now and it feels like we've hit a
wall. The things you did the first
month you don't do.
GUY X
Like what?
SPARTA
Like effort. Going out. Doing new
things. Communicating daily.
GUY X
We go out all the time!
SPARTA
This isn't me arguing. Can I just
finish?
Guy X throws his hands in the air.
SPARTA
I get the sense I'm not what you
want 100%--
GUY X
How do you figure--
SPARTA
Stop! Let me finish.
She exhales…
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SPARTA
I'm not mad, and I'm not accusing
you, I'm just pointing out my
feelings. I'm not the type that
just dates and builds for months.
For me to be all in, I need the
clarity of a label and the promise
of a commitment.
GUY X
Labels don't mean nothing.
SPARTA
No, it's not legally binding like
being married but it's the only
concept we have at this stage that
clears the air on what we are,
right?
GUY X
If you say so. Don't I do for you like a boyfriend?
SPARTA
I don't want a guy I date to do for
me for months and months. I need a
man, who is willing to take on the
role as my official boyfriend.
GUY X
Fine.
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SPARTA
No, it's not fine. You've shown me
through your actions that I was
convenient and I share in the blame
for allowing it to go on this long
without having a real talk about
expectations.
Sparta turns her car on.
SPARTA
I just wanted to tell you that I'm
walking away and I wish you the
best in finding what you need.
GUY X
Why are you being so dramatic? I
said we can be together.
SPARTA
You're a little too late to that
party, babe. I really do have to go.
Guy X grabs at the car door, exiting in a huff.
GUY X
(mumbles)
Fuck you then, bitch.
SPARTA
(smiles)
Take care!
FADE TO BLACK.
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How to Bounce Back from

Disappointment
uring your dating journey, you will be tested, and you will have false
D starts. By using the previous chapters your roster will expand, more
options are always better, but I have to warn you about something that
happens to a lot of Spartans in training—They get drunk on power. To finally
have control over men, make them chase you, give gifts, and shower you
with attention and royal treatment will make you feel unstoppable. What
happens next is that you let your guard down. You stop observing that man,
vetting him, and you slip back into “old you” because of that initial chase
stage in which you Spartan Up’d had you believing that he was conquered
and no longer a threat.
Men are calculating. They will give up their own power, submit to
you, kiss your ass, and butter you up beyond belief. Once they see that
you’re appeased that treatment stops, they flip the tables, and you’re back
asking me for advice on how to get your power back. Not this time. I want
you all to understand that being a Spartan isn’t start and stop, you can’t play
the role to get a boyfriend then go back to normal. Being strong and wise
has to become your new normal. When that boyfriend starts to play games,
grows bored of you, or even tries to break up, knowing how to instantly
respond to save your relationship or how to walk away confident that you
can do better will no longer be a problem you can’t solve on your own. Let’s
start with some general rules on how to maintain your supremacy.
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Keep the pressure on a man

A friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend of four years and a few
months later went after a friend of a friend after I told her that she had to
be aggressive. She pursued this new guy, got his number, demanded a
quality first date, second date, and third date, then texted me these exact
words, “I have him eating out of the palm of my hand, I feel like Cersei
Lannister.” This is a normally shy 26-year-old woman who was transformed
into a dominating goddess within weeks, but her journey wasn’t over. When
they finally had sex, she didn’t act clingy or as if sex was that big of a deal.
They still went out on dates, and even then, she didn’t fuck him until a few
weeks later. Why? Because she didn’t want him to think sex was going to be
automatic, she rationed herself and retained control.
What happened next? He begged to be in a relationship. She held
him off. He didn’t run away or get mad, he waited until she said “yes” a
month later. A few months later she was in-between jobs, so he moved her
into his condo, so she didn’t have to pay rent anymore. They are there to
this day, and I’m sure marriage will happen when she’s ready. How did this
shy girl, who was with a pushover in her previous relationship, pull this off
so fast? She kept the pressure on the man to be consistent by not over-
liking him, by not being clingy, by not blowing up his phone, by still
demanding dates, by not giving him sex when he wanted it. That’s the
Spartan Power you must keep.
Set new rules

Men will step out of line from time to time and test you. He won’t check in
for a day or so. He’ll go hang out then pop up at your place at 3am thinking
it’s all good. He will meet new female friends and pretend he’s known them
for a long time. He will lie about small stuff just to see if you catch on. He
will forget important things then make you seem like you don’t have the
right to be angry. Basically, he will poke the bear to see how you respond to
him doing what the fuck he feels like doing, and it’s up to you to rope him
back in with respect, not hostility.
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The moment a man steps out of line, typical women either argue
about it or ignore it until it builds, and then brings it back up passively. Don’t
be a yeller and don’t be passive aggressive. Be a grown ass woman. Your
words are powerful, but only when a man can clearly understand what
you’re saying and know that you mean it. For instance, if he tries to stop by
for a booty call after a guy’s night off and you ignore his texts, he’s going to
be pissed. The next morning don’t lie and say you were sleep, be real, “I’m
happy you went out and had fun but I’m not a toy that you can pick up
when you’re horny nor am I an escort on call for when you want sex. If you
want to see me, plan to see me. I will never be anyone’s backup plan.”
That’s exactly what you say in that situation or any other where a man is
trying to exploit your time.
What if a guy is still talking to his ex-girlfriend who he says is just a
friend now. You lay down the law by saying, “I’m not jealous or threatened
by her, but if this is going to work, I need you to put her on pause while we
build. If she’s a real friend like you say, she will understand. I don’t want you
to text her or call her and tell her this, just fallback on her and focus on us.”
He can then take it or leave it.
With any new rule you set, it isn’t what the man says to defend
himself, it isn’t a debate, it’s how he responds with his actions the next
time. If you catch him in a white lie and the next month he lies again, he
doesn’t respect your rule. If you tell him to do something, and he forgets
again the next time you need a favor, he doesn’t respect you. Remind him
of the previous conversation, and this time add on that this is a three-strike
relationship. If a man fucks up THREE TIMES, you must walk away. Keep in
mind these are three violations of general relationship rules in how to be
respectful, not big things like cheating or abuse, those are one and done.
Women hate to give up on relationships even when they’ve been
disrespected, so they give their power away and allow the man to dictate
the pace. Not in Sparta! You must always be willing to walk away. The next
guy you date will ask about your ex and you can then explain to him that
you have a three-strike rule. The new guy will know that you’re serious from
the start because you stuck to your word. This is how you break a man
down into being accountable and respectable. Use it.
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No Such Thing as Soulmates

Nice women who are loyal, supportive, and just want honesty and respect in
return, they usually get the short end of the stick. When you look at power
couples over the past twenty years, you see that great men select from that
pool of non-submissive women, and the nice women are left struggling with
lesser men. What makes women settle for less, what makes them take
what’s given, and keep trying to fix men? The concept of soulmates and the
fear of time running out. You, yes, I’m talking directly to you. Every year that
goes by without being married worries you because you know that the older
a woman gets, the less she’s desired in general. Find a man, impress him,
fall in love, get married before you’re one of these 40 something women
going on vacations by herself. Because of this ticking time clock, you start to
believe in magic. That right guy will come in at the right time, and he will be
glowing bright blue because he’s your soulmate. The final step in
maintaining your power is to never get caught up in the fantasy world or
romantic concepts or brainwashing.
This idea of a soulmate, one person that you are meant to be with is
magical, hopeful, and comforting. It’s also misleading, blinding, and
dangerous. The average person relies on superstitious faith to get through
tough times. Astrology, religion, prayer… Everyone will go through
heartbreak, and the easiest cure for being rejected or abandoned is to
remind yourself “They weren’t the one for me, my soulmate is coming.”
That hope makes you get out of bed and push through the pain. When your
friends or family gives you advice, they all regurgitate the same thing, “He
wasn’t the one, baby girl, have faith.” Married people will confirm that they
are with who they were meant to be, even those who were divorced and
remarried will stand firm in this belief that you eventually get it right due to
some grand design. By this logic, the person you broke up with was just one
person on the road to your soulmate, and you can take comfort in the fact
that you will eventually meet that person.
When you sip that soulmate Kool-Aid your entire life, you get
impatient, and you get paranoid: You date and date and date, but nothing
happens. You meet a handful of great guys, but they don’t want what you
want. Next thing you know, you’re deep in your 20s or entering your 30s,
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and you’re starting to second guess this soulmate shit. “Damn, maybe Victor
from 12th grade was my soulmate, and I missed out… Oh shit, if I missed out
on my true soulmate, then I’m destined to settle! I’m single because I was
too dumb to notice that Vic the asshole who tried to fuck my cousin just
needed a second chance!” This line of thinking may sound exaggerated, but
it’s a real concern. People are so afraid that they missed out or that they will
miss out on “the chosen one” that they get desperate, and when women
get desperate, they become vulnerable.
A woman who has taken the wait route as opposed to the Spartan
take route will begin to panic with each passing birthday. That woman will
then force the next appealing guy into that mythical soulmate box. I’ve
heard too many sob stories about, “he felt right, we connected, and I
know he was my soulmate.” That man felt about as right as any above
average dude with good conversation and better dick skills, feels. Your love-
sick mind was so open to this magical idea of a dick of destiny that you
ignored the facts of the relationship in favor of some assumed fate.
You want to know the truth about soulmates? It’s a fucking leash
that keeps weak minded women in check. It makes hopeless romantics hang
in there and put up with horrible relationships. It makes wives forgive
cheating husbands multiple times. It makes girls who are just at the dating
stage agree to be exclusive but not committed. You feel like the last single
girl in the world, you’ve grown tired of the dating circus, and you’re sick of
trying to compete with the hoes and the Spartans that seem to attract men
effortlessly. The clock is ticking, and you’re mentally exhausted, so you
suspend your common sense and give into the next guy that compliments
your personality without holding that motherfucker up to the standard
you’ve always had. For the sake of proving this man is who you are destined
to marry, you become overly loyal and allow your IQ to drop to that of a
fucking brick. The result is months, even years, wasted on a man that turns
out to be dick, not destiny. It’s time to stop believing in magic, and start
believing in the proof in front of you that he just isn’t right for you even
though you want him to be.
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But He Won’t Let Go

Every time I try to leave, he tells me he loves me. Every time I cut him off, he
continues to call me. Every time I try to move on, he refuses to let go by
doing the right things. How can I move on when he won’t let me?
It’s not that you can’t move on, now that he’s showing you interest
you don’t want to follow through and move on. When did text messages
become the same as chains? Does the phone plan you have mandate that
you pick up when that guy calls you? It is always your choice. Stop lying and
making up these bullshit excuses as if you don’t have the power to do what
you want to do and keep it real. You. Want. To. Talk. To. Him. Because. You.
Are. Weak. As. Fuck.
UNDERSTAND that some men can be so toxic to your health. They
don’t want to love you properly, but they don’t want to let you go either.
The more you give, the less they appreciate, and the minute you’ve had
enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and
treat you right. So, you give them a chance in the hopes they’ve changed
only to realize it was all fake. You find the strength to walk away once more
and here he comes again proclaiming his love for you and you, and there
you go giving in. That’s not a soul mate, that’s a predator! When faced with
losing something he’s become accustomed to having men suddenly go
super hard and here’s why…
A man showing anger and persistence to get you back once you try
to break it off isn’t proof of love; it’s a knee jerk reaction. A man kissing your
ass and making flaccid attempts to be nicer for two weeks isn’t proof that
he’s trying, it’s proof that he knows how to defuse your dumb ass long
enough to hook you once again. Take away a toy, a little boy cries. Take
away a relationship of convenience, a man cries. Just because he cries
doesn’t mean you give him what he wants. Grow some balls! You’re not
soulmates because you like the same shit and have become comfortable
enough to role play during sex. Show me something deeper than pet names
and zodiac signs. A lot of you girls don’t know what it’s like to be loved by a
real man. You know lust, you know joy, you know passion, and you know
the fear of abandonment. You’ve put all your faith in this promise that
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prince charming will come for all women, but now that you’re getting older
you realize that you’ve never truly been loved. Stop chasing your idea of
what love should be and recognize what love is. Love isn’t promising to act
right after he fucks up; love is him acting right from the start so he won’t
fuck it up. Love isn’t telling a grown man he needs to change to keep you;
love is a grown man changing on his own because he can’t imagine life
without you.
Healthy relationships don’t need constant CPR! There will be
obstacles to overcome in all relationships, but you fight for those that fight
for you, you don’t hold on for the sake of chemistry and compatible
horoscopes. Stop being confined to these basic ass ideals that say your
entire life is built around waiting on a bus stop until fate pulls up with your
husband. There isn’t one person out there for you, there are many. To
sacrifice your dignity, your prime, and your self-respect to hold on to a man
you falsely label as a limited edition, will be a waste of your life. Your soul
isn’t stagnant; you evolve every day to the point where you are literally a
new person every five years. So, by the laws of nature, the person that was
perfect for you at age 17 may not be perfect for you at age 24. The guy who
saw the world with the same eyes as you at age 27 may outgrow your vision
come age 35. This idea that everyone will end up with a soulmate is
flawed—bitches die single every day, b. Start taking control of your destiny
by loving those that give you a reason to love them and cutting off those
that no longer complete you.
The Script Works

Dating is a marathon, not a sprint. Embrace the grind, use the script, and
see it as a fun journey that will guide you at the perfect pace to end up with
the person you were always meant to be with. You can’t rig the game and
ONLY meet quality men, you can only do your part in vetting them and
maintaining standards no matter how much you like them. I’ve helped
women who were burnt out just like you get their fairytale. Don’t doubt
that you too can achieve these results just because you have a few bad
dates or a few start and stop relationships. These early chapters don’t mean
the end of the book is going to suck. Stay confident, stay aggressive, stay
powerful, stay the course. Spoiler Alert: You win in the end!
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Spartan Up –
Internal Talks
To Build Your Confidence
an you do the things listed in this book? Of course you can, but there may
C be doubt that creeps in. Too many steps, too much to remember, too
hard. That’s your inner Basica trying to take back control. You understand
how easy it is to exercise power over men, it isn’t about memory or steps,
it’s about WILL. Eye fucking a man takes confidence. Texting a man like he’s
nothing special, takes confidence. Going on a date and having the heart to
ask real questions, takes confidence. Telling a man whom you like “no”
when he goes for sex, takes confidence. If you are willing to put yourself
higher than men, to look down on them, to take away the nerves they
inspire, and truly not give a fuck if he likes you, calls you back, or wants to
be with you, then confidence becomes as automatic as breathing air. The
things in this book will work so long as you do and say them with 100% self-
assurance that they will work. You will get that man’s attention, you will say
these words and embed yourself into his brain, and you will expose him as
someone that is right for you or someone who was just a false alarm. Don’t
run away from this game, don’t question your abilities, just think like a
Spartan, and everything else will fall into place.
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Thinking Like a Spartan

Erase the words “I’m not” from your vocabulary. As in, “I’m not witty
enough… I’m not creative enough… I’m not smooth enough… I’m not pretty
enough… I’m not smart enough.” You are what you believe you are. Your life
is your thoughts animated. Nothing more nothing less. The moment you
walk into a situation or walk away from a situation with doubting thoughts
you solidify that you are limited and weak. In the past you have been let
down, disappointed, maybe even rejected. Think back to every negative
result and revisit what led up to it. You were hurt because you didn’t trust in
your instincts. You failed because you rushed and worried. You didn’t come
away with what you wanted because no matter how many positive thoughts
you forced, your default setting was stuck on “I never win.”
Spartan minds are projections of Goddess Consciousness. Basic
minds are projections of the human rat race, that low vibrational way of
thinking where you blame others and limit what you can attain. To
understand that nothing can stop you is to break the rules of the game that
so many of these zombies play by. To understand that if you hold on a goal
with intention and knowledge that it’s already yours is to break away from a
life as a human robot. Go to work, go out sometimes, wish for more money,
wish for an ideal love life, settle into the routine, settle for average, tell
yourself you’re happy and die. That’s what the Bots do, wish and settle.
“One time I was a Spartan, but that’s was when I was younger with no
worries.” I hear that often. Women allow life to humble them back into
place, then when they see others living that kind of life they once lived, it
triggers sadness. I know you. There is more power in your mind than you
ever imagined, but you won’t use it because you are content.
Sheep or Savior? Basica or Spartan? Peasant or Goddess? Over the
next month, you will be tested in ways that make you think back to these
words even after the weak side of you attempts to forget them. At that
moment, when you’re stressed, unsure, and about to fall back into old
habits—Remember that it isn’t the god in you, God is YOU.
Deep root that reminder right now and you will tap into your True
self when you needed most. At your lowest or most confused, you will make
a choice filled with confidence and pass the test you sent yourself. The
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moment you past that test, your life will change in all aspects. No more
overthinking, no more uncertainty, you will live in power. In the meantime,
work on your self-esteem and grow your power with this daily script...
Each Morning
 Welcome yourself back to your universe with a smile. Be thankful

that you’ve awakened back up in the game you call life, and allow
yourself one smile before you get out of bed.
 Set your intention for the day.
 Today is the day I meet someone that inspires me
 Today is the day I get that promotion
 Today is the day I prove to the background characters I’m the star
 Today is the day I get closer to my master plan
 Today is the day that I’m just going allow myself to be surprised
 Look in the mirror and breath in your Spartan Avatar. Love it.
Accessorize it. Mold it.
 Take 60 seconds to close your eyes and remember who you are…
 Once your eyes open, go and start your day.
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Each Night
 Return to your mirror and smile. You’re not going anywhere, there
is no need to rush, live in the moment of being alone.
 Close your eyes for 60 seconds and breath. Take off that human
mask that you wore for the day by letting go of all the noise.
 No gossip. No news. No entertainment. No romantic problems. No

family drama. Tell yourself that none of it matters. Remember that
it was just a game you played.
 Open your eyes and be thankful that you got to play in this sandbox
you call a world.
 Reflect on the positives of the day. There are no negatives.
 As you turn away from the mirror and get ready to sleep, visualize
what you will do tomorrow.
 Before you close your eyes one last time, talk to yourself. It can be a
whisper, or it could be at the top of your lungs, doesn’t matter so
long as you mean it, know it, and feel it:
I Am A Spartan. This Is My World.
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For more information visit:

Chapter 1: How To Be Approachable 5

Chapter 2: How To Approach Men 17

Chapter 3: Approaching Someone You Know (Kinda) 30

Chapter 4: Inbox Love – Baiting Men Online 37

Chapter 5: What To Say On Dates To Win Men Over 43

Chapter 6: How Not To Text Like A Basic Bitch 57

Chapter 7: Sext Tricks & Dating App Skills 66

Chapter 8: What Are We?

Chapter 9: How To Bounce Back From Disappointment 87

Chapter 10: Spartan Up – Internal Talks To Boost Your Confidence 94

have led to results in dating, relationships, and most importantly, self-

Script Not Bible

 An argument starts because you didn’t speak up sooner.

 You don’t know how to text in a way that engages men.

 Men keep losing interest after a few dates.

Being Approachable in Public

In a department store, you can pretend to be shopping near the shelf or

Once He Approaches You

Your Mentality: A compliment from someone you’re crushing on may shake

Your Mentality: Unlike a compliment, you won’t know if he’s interested in

The Spartan Script

The cart begins to roll, slower, steadier, the intent of a

It works. Guy X looks up from his deep thought decision on

Sparta is now within a few feet of Guy X and with a nervous

Sparta smirks, already knowing he's just searching for

Guy X over-laughs as Sparta now files through his basket. She

Guy X is smiling unintentionally because Sparta has him open

Sparta playfully smacks his basket.

Sparta positions herself back around to the handle of the

hould women approach men? The majority of females would answer

Scenario 1 – Social Event: Imagine yourself at a party, club, bar, or any

Guys who think you’re cute still need a green light…

Girlfriend test him off top…

scenarios this is the most natural and straightforward. Relax, remember to

The Spartan Script

Dressed impeccably in a fitted blazer, and blue jeans, his

Sparta stares for a beat, hoping to catch his attention but

Bodies part as Sparta makes it to the bar section. There

Guy X spins slightly, taking inventory of Sparta. His eyes

The Bartender looks back from pouring shots, not sure if

Sparta taps his glass.

Approaching Someone You Know

Visualize a butterfly-inducing scenario by thinking back to a guy from

the possibility of a love connection. Your future husband could be someone

Scenario 2 – Risking Your Friendship: Guy X has been a shoulder to lean on

Baiting A Man To Chase You

GIF under something he wrote, giving an opinion about something he’s

Apply pressure by privately messaging him a question:

There are dozens of ways to message someone without being

What to Say on Dates

What Men Hate

Even if you’re working on yourself, you probably have issues that

Regarding confidence, you need to be comfortable with where he

The Date Blueprint

Be Spontaneous: Men have a lot of practice spewing bullshit to girls on first

Spirituality = “Where you raised in the church?” By pushing it to “raised”

The Post Date Blueprint

“I just want to talk some more.”

Appreciation, confirmation that you had a good time, compliments

One Last Thing… Juggling Men