Bullying Awareness

A Research Paper

Presented to

The class of Mrs. Althea Dimpas

La Consolacion College, Lilo-an, Cebu, Inc.

In Partial Fulfillment

Of the Requirements for the Subject

English

By Joenrose Kristine Alcaria

Jean Antolijao

Pearl Darlene Quiapo

Famela Rose Ruiz

February 28, 2018

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 TABLE OF CONTENTS

Abstract ……………………………………………………………….. 4

Introduction …………………...……………………………………… 5

Acknowledgement …………………………………………………. 6

I. Bullying and its Forms …………………………………………….. 7

What is bullying? ……………………………………………. 7

What are the Forms of bullying? ………………………… 8
Why do kids bully? ………………………………………….. 9

II. Causes of Bullying …………………………………………..…… 13

Factors that contributes to bullying a person …...…….. 13

Why do people resort to bullying? …………………..….. 13

Other causes of bullying? ………………………………… 13

III. Effect of Bullying ……………………………….………..………. 14

Individual Health ………………………….……….……….. 15

Bullied ……………………………….………….…….. 15

Bully ………………………………………………..…. 24

Bystander ……………………………………………. 33

Community Health …………………..…………………….. 35

IV. Government Programs …………………………………..…… 38

Government Solution …………………………..…………..38

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V. Warning Signs of Being Bullied ……………………………..…. 43

How to know if the kid is being bullied? …………….…. 43

Why don’t kinds ask for help? ……………………………. 45

Warning Signs for Bullying …………………………………. 46

VI. Solutions ………………………………………………………….. 47

Solutions in Schools …………………………………..…….. 47

Conclusion ……………………………………………………...…… 49

References ………………………………………………….……… 50

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 ABSTRACT

This research is all about bullying. Bullying is unwanted,

aggressive behavior among school aged children. The goal of
this research is to let the readers become aware of the forms,
causes, effects, and the possible solutions of bullying. This
discusses the forms such as; physical, verbal, emotional, and
more. Its effects to the victims such as depression, anxiety, and
fear. This is connected to the growth of the number of suicide.
Its causes that may help us understand the bullies and so that
we can know their reasons to stop bullying. This also discusses
the possible solutions which can stop or minimize bullying
cases.

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 INTRODUCTION

Bullying is one of the common issues here in our society

nowadays. Bullying is the use of superior strength or influence
to intimidate someone whom they think as inferior to them,
typically to force him or her to do what he or she wants.
Bullying is also the repeated verbal, physical, social or
psychological aggressive behavior by a person or group that
has the intention to cause or inflect harm and/or distress. This
causes the victim to harbor feelings of being unwanted,
depressed, fear, anxiety, etc.

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 ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

This study will not be successful without the help and

support of many people around us. First, we would like to
express our sincere gratitude to our teacher in Practical
Research, Madame Maria Alethea B. Dimpas who is very
helpful and very patient towards us and who offered her full
guidance from the beginning until now. She has given us
important knowledge in doing this study and that she ensures
that we understand everything before applying it.

We also give our gratitude to our family, who are always

there to give their 100% and who give us encouragement to
do our task better and who provided our financial resources.
We also want to extend our appreciation to our friends and
classmate, who give us idea towards this study that we are
conducting.

There are so many things that become a problem while

conducting this research. We cannot successfully do this
research study without the help and guidance of the Almighty
Father, our creator, who give us life and enough knowledge in
finishing this on time.

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I. Bullying and its forms

a. What is bullying?

Bullying refers to any severe, or repeated use by

one or more students of a written, verbal, or
electronic expression, or a physical act or gestures,
or any combination thereof directed at another
student that has the effect of actually causing or
placing the latter in reasonable fear of physical or
emotional harm or damage to his property; creating
a hostile environmental at school for the other
student; infringing on the rights of another students
at the school; or materially and substantially
disrupting the education process or the orderly
operation of a school. It is unwanted, aggressive
behavior among school aged children that involves
a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior
is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated,
over time. Both kids who are bullies and who bully
others may have serious lasting problems.

To be considered bullying, the behavior must be

aggressive and include:

 An imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use

their power such as physical strength, access
to embarrassing information, or popularity to

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 control or harm others. Power imbalances can
change over time and in different situations,
even if they involve the same people.

 Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more

than once or have the potential to happen
more than once.

b. What are the forms of bullying?

 Physical bullying is the most obvious form of

intimidation and can consist of kicking, hitting,
biting, pinching, hair pulling, and making
threats. A bully may threaten to punch if you
don’t give up your money, your lunch, etc.

 Verbal bullying often accompanies physical

behavior. This can include name calling,
spreading rumors, and persistent teasing.

 Emotional Intimidation is closely related to

these two types of bullying. A bully may
deliberately exclude you from a group activity
such as a party or school outing.

 Racist bullying can take many forms: making

racial slurs, spray painting graffiti, mocking he
victim’s cultural customs and making offensive
gestures.

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  Sexual bullying is unwanted physical contact
or abusive comments.

 Cyberbullying is one or a group of kinds or

teens using electronic means via computers
and mobile phones (emails, web sites, chat
rooms, instant messaging and texting) to
torment, threaten, harass, humiliate,
embarrass or target another kid or teen.

 Social bullying refers to any deliberate,

repetitive and aggressive social behavior
intended to hurt others or to belittle another
individual or group.

 Gender-based bullying refers to any act that

humiliates or excludes a person on the basis
of perceived or actual sexual orientation and
gender identity (SOGI)

c. Why Do Kids Bully?

A common reason that a kid is a bully is because

he/she lacks attention from a parent at home and
lashes out at others for attention. This can include
neglected children, children of divorced parents, or
children with parents under the regular influence of
drugs/alcohol.

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 Other siblings can also be the cause of the
problem. If they’ve been bullied, they are more apt
to bully a younger sibling to feel more secure or
empower themselves.

And we cannot rule out the fact that an adult role

model is a bully. This can include parents, teachers,
coaches, etc.

Very often parents are bullies, are angry, or don’t

handle conflict well.

Kids usually bully because they learn this behavior

at home. It is learned behavior which can be
unlearned.

Some kids are just more aggressive, dominating

and impulsive by nature. It doesn’t always mean that
they are bullies.

Bullies dominate, blame and use others. They lack

empathy and foresight and have contempt for the
weak. They see weaker kids as their target, and don’t
accept the consequences of their actions.

 Bullied bullies get relief from feeling helpless

and overpower others

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 Social bullies have poor self-esteem and
manipulate others through gossip and being
mean
 Detached bullies plan their attacks and
always likeable to everyone but their victims
 Hyperactive bullies don't understand how to
socialize and acts inappropriately and
sometimes physically.

Most bullies don’t understand how wrong their

behavior is and how it makes the person
being bullied feel.

No matter what kind of bully someone is, they

have not learned kindness, compassion and
respect.

Bullies don't need a reason to hurt others. When

asked, some replied:

 Because it makes me feel stronger, smarter, or

better than the person I'm bullying
 Because I'm bullied at home
 Because it's what you do if you want to hang
out with the right crowd
 Because I see others doing it
 Because I'm jealous of the other person

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 Because it's one of the best ways to keep
others from bullying me.

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II. Causes of bullying
a. Factors that contributes to bullying a person
 The bully is jealous of someone or
something a person owns. Bullies often bully
because they are jealous and envious of
others. They may be jealous of your
relationships with others, for being popular,
your ability to make friends or because you
have a loving family.
 Family issues at home
 Some people can feel a bit insecure
sometimes, so they make other people feel
down or upset to make them feel better
about themselves.

b. Why do people resort to bullying?

 A common reason that a kid is a bully is
because he/she lacks attention from a
parent at home and lashes out at others
for attention. Kids usually bully because
they learn this behavior at home. It is
learned behavior which can be
unlearned.
 They are afraid that they’ll be the one
who will be bullied instead.

c. Other causes of bullying

 To be popular in the school. Many kids
think that if he/she bullies, he/she will

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 become famous and feared. They will
think that they are very powerful and
can do anything they want to do those
who they think as inferior to them.
 To belong in a group or frat. Some kids
are forced to bully because their friends
pressure them to do it.

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III. Effects of bullying

a. Individual Health

 Bullied

Kids who are being bullied can

experience negative physical,
emotional, and mental health issues.
Victims are more likely to experience
depression, anxiety, increased
feelings of sadness and loneliness,
changes in sleep and eating
patterns and los of interest activities
they used to enjoy. Some of these
issues may persist into adulthood.
Bullied kids may have decreased
grades and school participation.

a. Types of persons being bullied

 Are Good at What They Do

A lot of times kids will be

bullied because they get a lot
of positive attention from their
peers and from adults. This
attention could be everything
from excelling in sports,

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 making the cheerleading
squad, or getting the editor’s
position on the school
newspaper. Bullies target
these students because they
either feel inferior or they worry
that their abilities are being
overshadowed by the target’s
abilities. As a result, they bully
these kids hoping to make
them feel insecure as well as
make others doubt their
abilities.

 Are Intelligent, Determined

and Creative

At school, these students

go that extra mile on
schoolwork. Or they learn very
quickly and move through
projects and assignments
faster than other students.

For instance, gifted

students are often targeted for
excelling in school. Bullies
usually single them out

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 because jealous of this
attention.

 Have Personal Vulnerabilities

Children who are

introverted, anxious, or
submissive are more likely to
be bullied than kids who are
extroverted and assertive. In
fact, some researchers believe
that kids who lack self-esteem
may attract kids who are
prone to bully.

What's more, kids who

engage in people pleasing
are often targeted by bullies,
especially mean girls, because
they are easy to manipulate.
Finally, research shows that
kids suffering from depression
or stress-related conditions also
may be more likely to be
bullied. Bullies select these kids
because they are an easy
mark and less likely to fight
back. Most bullies want to feel
powerful, so they often choose

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 kids that are weaker than
them.

 Have Few or No Friends

Many victims of bullying

tend to have fewer friends
than children who do not
experience bullying. What’s
more, they may be rejected
by their peers, excluded from
social events and may even
spend lunch and recess alone.
Parents and teachers can
prevent bullying of socially-
isolated students by helping
them develop friendships.
Bystanders also can support
these students by befriending
them. Research shows that if a
child has at least one friend, his
chances of being bullied
reduce dramatically. Without
a friend to back them up,
these kids are more likely to be
targeted by bullies because
they do not have to worry
about someone coming to the
victim's aid.

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 Are Popular or Well-Liked

Sometimes bullies target

popular or well-liked children
because of the threat they
pose to the bully.

Mean girls are especially

likely to target a girl who
threatens her popularity or her
social standing. In fact, a lot of
relational aggression is directly
linked to an attempt to climb
the social ladder. Kids will
spread rumors, engage in
name-calling and
cyberbullying to destroy their
popularity. When these kids
are targeted, the bully is
looking to discredit the victims
and make them less likable.

 Have Physical Features That

Attract Attention

Whether a target is short,

or tall, fat or thin bullies may
target them. Almost any type
of physical characteristic that

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 is different or unique can
attract the attention of bullies.

This might even include

wearing glasses, having acne,
having a large nose, or having
ears that stick out. Many times,
this type of bullying is
extremely painful and
damaging to a young person's
self-esteem. Most bullies that
target these kids get some
enjoyment from making fun of
others. Other times they are
looking for a laugh at another
person's expense. The best
way to combat a bully who
targets this type of person, is to
take away his audience.

 Have an Illness or Disability

Oftentimes, bullies
target special needs children.
This can include children who
have Asperger’s, autism,
ADHD, dyslexia, or any
condition that sets them apart.
What’s more, kids with

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 conditions like food allergies,
asthma, Down Syndrome, and
other conditions also can be
targeted by bullies. When this
happens, these bullies often
lack empathy or are making
jokes at another person's
expense. It is very important for
teachers and parents to make
sure these kids have a support
group with them to help
defend against bullying. It also
helps if the general student
population frowns on this type
of bullying. If bullies know this is
taboo, they are less likely to do
it.

 Have a Different Sexual

Orientation

Often, kids are bullied

for being gay. In fact, some of
the most brutal bullying
incidents have involved
children who are bullied for
their sexual orientation. What's
more, prejudicial bullying, if left
unchecked can result in

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 serious hate crimes. As a result,
it is essential that LGBT students
be given a solid support
network to keep them safe
from bullying.

 Have Different Religious or

Cultural Beliefs

It is not uncommon for

kids to be bullied for their
religious beliefs. One example
of this type of bullying includes
the treatment Muslim students
received after the 9/11
tragedy. But any student can
be bullied for their religious
beliefs. Both Christian students
and Jewish students are often
ridiculed for their beliefs and
practices as well. Bullying
based on different religious
beliefs usually stems from a
lack of understanding as well
as lack of tolerance for
believing something different.

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 May Belong to a Different
Racial Group

Sometimes kids will bully

others because they are of a
different race. For instance,
Caucasian students may
single out African-American
students and bully them. Or
African-American students
may single out Caucasian
students and bully them. It
happens with all races and in
all directions. No race is
exempt from being bullied,
and no race is exempt from
having bullies. Just like with
religious bullying, these
students are singled out
because they are a different
race than the bully.

 A Word from Very well

While each of these

characteristics may be
exploited by bullies, they in no
way are faults that victims
should change. Remember,

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 bullying is about the bully
making a bad choice. It is
important that this fact is
communicated to victims of
bullying. They need to be
reminded that there is nothing
wrong with them and they are
not to blame for being
targeted. Instead, be sure
bullies are held accountable
for targeting them.

 Bullies

Kids who bully others can also

engage in violent and other risky
behaviors when they go into
adulthood. The bullies are more likely
to abuse alcohol and other drugs in
adolescents and as an adult, they
might get into fights, vandalize
properties and stops going to school.
They might also engage in early
sexual activities, have criminal
convictions and traffic citations as
adults and lastly, become abusive
towards their romantic partners,
spouses or even their own children.

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b. Types of bullies and ways to
handle them

• The Bruiser

This bully is all about the

physical approach: punching,
pushing and shoving, although
physical bullying is on the
decline, according to a
University of Washington study.
There has been a 33 percent
drop in schools from 2011 to
2012. The study also found that
35 percent fewer teachers
reported fighting as a
problem.

How to handle:

The bruiser is all about

the physicality, so what might
be best would be to avoid this
bully at all costs and seek
guidance from a teacher or
counselor.

 The Cyberbully

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 Social media’s rise has
created a new wave of
cyberbullying. In fact, 25
percent of students surveyed
by the Cyberbullying Research
Center said that they were
cyberbullied at some point in
their life. But that number has
only grown, as 87 percent of
young people have reported
seeing cyberbullying in their
lifetime, according to a
McAfee study.

How to handle:

Cyberbullying is almost
unavoidable given the
Internet’s wide reach, but
there have been campaigns
striking out against it. One 13-
year-old, for example, is
looking to stop cyberbullying
with online alerts, The
Huffington Post reported.

 The Passive-aggressive One

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 The passive-aggressive
bully isn’t as blunt about his or
her emotions, but they’re
bound to make you worry
which comments have hidden
meanings. This might be
because of built up anger
within them, according to
recent research, which
suggests that passive-
aggressiveness is caused by
kid’s bottling up their
aggression.

How to handle:

Dealing with passive-

aggressive people is
something that even adults
must face. Psychology Today
expert Preston Ni suggests not
overreacting and keeping
things calm. The only way
passive-aggressive people get
satisfied is by offending, Ni
says. So, by avoiding the
person and not letting them
upset you, you’re doing your
best to combat them.

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 The Blunt One

This bully is up front and

personal. Words of insult come
out like wildfire, burning and
charring up your emotions.
Teens and young kids have
always rejected and
disrespected each other,
according to Good Therapy, a
therapy expert website. These
insults may or may not include
swearing, something that kids
are learning about at an
earlier age, one study found.

How to handle:

Expert Neel Burton of

Psychology Today said the
easiest way to handle blunt
insults and put-downs is by
ignoring the insult altogether.
Since reactions are something
that people can control, not
reacting and letting the insult
slide away can be the most

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 beneficial in making the bully
see how futile their insult was.

 The Indirect Bully

Not all bullying is up front

and personal. Some bullies
stick to the indirect method,
giving out insults through
rumors, gossip or just talking,
according to nobullying.com,
a bullying information website.
This type of bully will gossip or
mock someone behind their
back, or even exclude them
from activities.

How to handle:

NoBullying.com offers a
simple suggestion for this kind
of bullying; tell someone about
it. Whether it’s a parent,
principal or pal, informing
someone of what’s going on
may cause action and
dialogue to occur, bringing
everyone together and

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 putting everyone on the same
page.

 The Observer

Bullying isn't the only

issue. Observing and not
saying anything can be nearly
as bad for both the non-bullied
and bully, research has shown.
Observing bullying from afar
has been linked to suicidal
thoughts in the past,
according to research by
Brunel University London.
Bystanders — those watching
the bullying go down without
doing anything about it —
usually don’t get involved
because they believe it’s not
their business or that stepping
in may hurt their reputation,
according to reachout.com, a
website advocating for the
end of bullying.

How to handle:

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 Slate’s Emily Bazelon
asked what people can do to
help encourage bystanders to
start speaking up for the
weaker man. “Bystanders,
then, represent a major
opportunity: Convert more of
them into defenders or allies of
the target of bullying, and you
could take the sting out of one
of childhood’s enduring
harms,” Bazelon wrote. So how
do you handle the observer?
Ask for his or her help and try to
get them to step in and say
something to stop the bullying
from happening.

 The Social King

It’s not all about preying

on the little man when it comes
to bullying. A 2011 study by
CNN found that some bullies
will act out to climb the social
ladder. In these instances,
bullies will go after the top dog
by insulting or belittling them in

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 hopes of taking over the social
throne, CNN reported.

How to handle:

Much like other

researchers have suggested, it
might be best to let them try to
get to you, but not respond to
it. As CNN reported, increased
aggression doesn’t make
someone any more socially
popular. So, by allowing them
to act out aggressively, you
may be helping your own
cause.

 The Workplace Bully

Away from the hallways

and far from the playground
stands another bully: the
workplace bully. This kind of
bully is on the rise, according
to the Workplace Bullying
Institute that found 35 percent
of people have been bullied
at the office. This person will
look to misuse his or her

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 authority, try to intimidate co-
workers or even destroy built
up relationships formed within
the cubicles, according to The
Huffington Post.

How to handle:

While some have said

the workplace, bully is a hard
one to stop and might not be
prevalent, avoiding the
workplace bully has helped for
many, HuffPost reported. That
may be the best strategy, too,
since workplace bullying can
be contagious, HuffPost
reported.

 Bystanders

Kids who witness bullying are

more likely to have depression
because of not being able to help
the victims or/and fear for the bully.
They are also likely to miss or skip
school due to fear of being the one

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who will become the next target of
the bullies.

c. Types of bystanders

 Hurtful Bystander

Those who support the

bullying by laughing, cheering,
video-taping or making
comments that encourage
the bully. Forwarding cruel
photos or texts and visiting
websites that are targeting a
specific youth also encourage
the bully. They may also join is
on the bullying once it begins.
Can also be those who simply
watch and say or do nothing –
they give the bully the
audience he/she craves, and
silently allows the bully to
continue with their hurtful
behavior. Even “liking” a cruel
comment on a YouTube video
or on Facebook is wrong – it’s
just as bad as writing it.

 Helpful Bystander

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 Those who directly
intervene by discouraging the
bully, defending the victim, or
redirecting the situation away
from bullying. May also rally
support from their peers to
stand up against bullying or
report the bullying to adults.
This could be as simple as
telling the bullying to "leave
him alone" or "cut it out".

b. Community Health

 Impacts to the school

When bullying continues, and

a school does not take any action to
stop the bullying, the entire school
climate and culture can be
negatively affected. This impact on
the student learning and
engagement, staff retention and
satisfaction and parental
confidence in the school will be filled
with fear and disrespect. The
students are having trouble in
learning, feeling of insecurity, disliking

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 the school and students perceives
that the teachers and school staffs
have little control and don’t care
about them.
Also, the school’s reputation is
tainted, and the parents may not let
their children study in that school in
fear that their son/daughter might
become a victim of bullying.

 Impacts on the Society

The bullied kids might have low

self-esteem, anxiety and depression
that can be the cause of the
increased number of people
committing suicide. Due to
depression, these people might not
be able to perform their best so that
employers can see their great
potential.

The bullies are most likely to become

too aggressive, violent or an attitude
problem. Because of these
behaviors, they might not be hired by
agencies and become unemployed.
There’s also a high chance of them
becoming the cancer of society

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when they become drug addicts,
abusive parents/spouse, thieves, or
worse killers and/or murderers.

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IV. Government Program

a. Government Solutions

 DepEd Order No. 40, s. 2012

The Constitution further provides that all
educational institutions shall inculcate
patriotism and nationalism, foster love of
humanity, respect for human rights,
appreciation of the role of national heroes in
the historical development of the country,
teach the rights and duties of citizenship,
strengthen ethical and spiritual values,
develop moral character and personal
discipline, encourage critical and creative
thinking, broaden scientific and technological
knowledge, and promote vocational
efficiency. (Article XIV, Section 3 [2])

The Convention on the Rights of the Child

(CRC) aims to protect children from all forms
of physical or mental violence, injury and
abuse, neglect or negligent treatment,
maltreatment and exploitation, including
sexual abuse. The same Convention
establishes the right of the child to education,
and with a view to achieving this right
progressively, and in the basis of equal
opportunity, it obliges the government to take

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measures to encourage regular attendance in
school and reduce drop-out rates. Thus, it is
mandated that all appropriate measures be
undertaken to ensure that school discipline is
administered in a manner consistent with the
child’s human dignity.

The Department of Education (DepEd)

together with its partners and stakeholders,
shall ensure that all schools are conductive to
the education of children. The best interest of
the child shall be the paramount
consideration in all decisions and actions
involving children, whether undertaken by
public or private social welfare institutions,
courts of law, administrative authorities, and
legislative bodies, consistent with the principle
of The First Call for Children, as enunciated in
the CRC. Teachers and learning facilitators
especially in learning centers are their
substitute parents and are expected to
discharge their functions and duties. In this
connection, the Family Code empowers the
school, its administrators and teachers, or the
individual, entity or institution engaged in child
care to exercise the special parental authority
and responsibility over the child, while under
their supervision, instruction or custody.

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 DepEd has adopted the policy to provide
special protection to children who are gravely
threatened or endangered by circumstances
which affect their normal development and
over which they have no control, and to assist
the concerned agencies in their rehabilitation.

Furthermore, this Department aims to

ensure such special protection from all forms
of abuse and exploitation and care as is
necessary for the child’s well-being,
considering the primary rights and duties of
parents, legal guardians, or other individuals
who are legally responsible and exercise
custody over the child. DepEd recognizes the
participatory rights of the child in the
formulation and implementation of policies,
and in all proceedings affecting them,
whether they be victims or aggressors, either
directly, or through a representative.

Accordingly, this Department reiterates

zero tolerance policy for any act of child
abuse, exploitation, violence, discrimination,
bullying and other forms of abuse, and hereby
promulgates this Department Order.

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 Republic Act No. 10627

Last December 23, 2013, the RA 10627 was

implemented to collectively address the
problems on bullying. This is an act that
requires all primary and secondary schools to
adopt policies to prevent and address the
acts of bullying in their institutions.

As requirements, the school must come up

with policies defining and prohibiting bullying
inside and outside the school premises
including retaliation against person who
reports bullying incident or bullies. The school
should also come up with admin procedures
and disciplinary actions, rehabilitation
program for bullies, and strategies and
procedures for recording system, reporting
and investigation, and filtering of false reports
and disciplinary action for students making
false reports. In addition, the schools should
have strategies and procedures for the safety
and security of the students, support services
such as counseling for victims, privacy students
involve, and education for parents and
students on bullying dynamics.

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 As it is now established in the public and
private schools, it was reported that on the school
year 2013-2014, there were 1,700 reports of
bullying in school and 60% of these were resolved.

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V. Warnings and Signs of being bullied

a. How to know if the kid is being bullied?

 Unexplainable injuries

If the child has unexplainable bruises or any

injuries without an acceptable reason or
excuses. There is a high possibility that the child
is being bullied.

 Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics,

or jewelry
if this sign is present to a child then he/she is
being bullied with the use of (extorsion). The
bullies might have forcedly taken the
possession of the child. Destroyed clothing is
also one of the clue that the child is being
bullied physically.

 Frequent headaches or stomach

aches, feeling sick or faking illness
This is one of the hints the child is being
bullied because he/she doesn’t want to leave
the house, meaning the child feels scared or
unsafe to go outside his/her house because of
the fear of getting bullied again.

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 Changes in eating habits, like suddenly
skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may
come home from school hungry because they
did not eat lunch.
This may be caused by the bullies taking the
child’s foods for themselves. Because of this
the child will starve and his/her eating habits
will be disoriented.

 Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares

This is cause by the terror of being bullied.
The child may be traumatized because of the
bullies.

 Declining grades, loss of interest in

schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school

The child loses interest in school works and

in going to school because of depression
which is cause by the constant bullying of
his/her oppressors.

 Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social

situations

The child may become detached to the

world and may feel extreme loneliness and
inferior to others.

 Feelings of helplessness or decreased self

esteem

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 The child who was bullied may feel
helplessness because he/she thinks that no
one could help him/her to stop his/her
oppressors or bullies. He/she have lower self
esteem because the bullies might have made
him/her feel ashamed of herself/himself.

 Self-destructive behaviors such as running

away from home, harming themselves, or
talking about suicide.
This is caused by the depression. This is a
critical stage and the child/ the bullied needs
tone helped by a professional since it might
cause her/ him to take his/her own life.

b. Why don't kids ask for help?

Statistics from the 2012 Indicators of School Crime

and Safety - PDF show that an adult was notified in less
than half (40%) of bullying incidents. Kids don’t tell adults
for many reasons:

 Bullying can make a child feel helpless. Kids may want

to handle it on their own to feel in control again. They
may fear being seen as weak or a tattletale.

 Kids may fear backlash from the kid who bullied them.

 Bullying can be a humiliating experience. Kids may not

want adults to know what is being said about them,

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 whether true or false. They may also fear that adults will
judge them or punish them for being weak.

 Kids who are bullied may already feel socially isolated.

They may feel like no one cares or could understand.

 Kids m ay fear being rejected by their peers. Friends can

help protect kids from bullying, and kids can fear losing
this support.

c. Warning Signs for Bullying

There are many warning signs that may indicate

that someone is affected by bullying—either being
bullied or bullying others. Recognizing the warning signs
is an important first step in acting against bullying. Not
all children who are bullied or are bullying others ask for
help.

It is important to talk with children who show signs

of being bullied or bullying others. These warning signs
can also point to other issues or problems, such as
depression or substance abuse. Talking to the child can
help identify the root of the problem.

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VI. Solution

Bullying is very common especially in the

generation right now. We can’t deny the fact
that each of us have experienced being bullied
and be the bully. For us, Filipinos, to have equal
rights and be respected, our government has
implemented a law in line with this issue.

 Solution in School

a. Educate students on the dynamics of

bullying, the anti-bullying policies of
the school as well as the mechanisms
for reporting of acts of bullying or
retaliation.

b. Educate parents and guardians

about the dynamics of bullying, the
child protection or anti-bullying policy
of the school and how parents and
guardians can provide support and
reinforce the policy at home.

c. Device prevention, intervention,

protective and remedial measures to
address bullying.

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d. Conduct the capacity building
activities for guidance
counselors/teachers and the
members of the child protection
committee.

e. Ensure effective implementation of

the anti-bullying policy and monitor
compliance therewith; ensure that
the rights of the victim, the bully, and
the bystander are protected and
upheld during the conduct of the
investigation.

f. Maintain a record or statistics of

incidents of bullying and retaliation.

g. Coordinate with appropriate offices

and other agencies or
instrumentalities for appropriate
assistance and intervention, as
required by the circumstances.

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 CONCLUSION

Bullying can affect anyone. It can affect those who

bully, the bystanders and especially the bullied or the victims.
Bullying is linked to many negative outcomes including impacts
on mental health, emotional problems, suicide, and more. it is
important to kids whether it concerns bullying or something
else before it gets worse.

We need to take bullying seriously since it is not a

laughing matter. Bullying is a very serious matter in our society
especially in school today. It can destroy lives both children
and adults. So, we should not ignore and do nothing about this
serious matter, instead we should become an upstander in
order to at least lessen bullying and its victims.

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