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This is a Matrimonial Enquary sent to you via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.

office We both are totally stranger to each-other
so far although I am humbly and very gently sending this profile including atta
ched my Bio-Data, Recommendation Letters, Health Report, Security Clearance, Wor
ld Bank Reorganization and my Latest Photographs to an unknown e-mail ID for a g
eneral enquiry and information dissemination motive, with an expectation that it
may be relevant to someone interested.
I am not sure yet, whether the marriage is matter of chance or choice. If this i
s a matter of chance and luck, I am curious to find my luck soon! I have used di
fferent approach and looking forward to see the anticipated result. Let's see wh
at will be the consequences in the future as unknown in life is both challenge a
s well as opportunity which is a part of our life.
I am extremely sorry for bothering you! You may simply ignore and delete enclose
d profile, CV and working certificates and/or kindly forward this information am
ong your relatives, female colleagues, lady friend circles and their parents, if
someone is also seriously interested for this and has made her mind for the sam
e purpose. Thank you very much for your kind cooperation in advance. The followi
ng section is only for the concerned one and her related family members, where I
have honestly described my realistic background as marital relationship must be
based on the bond of trust and honesty.

Dear Friend:
Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the matr
imonial enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healt
hy friendship at the beginning and then possible match in the near future, if bo
th of us are made for each-other upon our compatibility and comfort! I am a Deve
lopmental and Management Practitioner by training and profession. This year, pro
bably after few months, I am thinking and planning for my marriage with at least
a University Graduate, but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or Self-empl
oyed Girl.
If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after
marriage to use her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life
. The main reason for setting all these minimum practical criteria is to thoroug
hly empower the prospective life partner and acquire a reciprocal synergy for ou
r lifelong personal growth and development. For this rationale, I wish to emotio
nally, morally and psychologically encourage and motivate my ideal life partner
for her professionalism, edification and overall personality development. But, w
hat I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is: natural compassion in the he
art of a well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and optimistic mind sin
ce she will be the source of an inspiration for a man during difficult circumsta
nces as well as for a positive transformation in our lives.
However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the worki
ng class economy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some h
undreds of books in the name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemen
ted home and some pieces of land in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is
an outcome of purely my personal income! But, I was grown up and educated around
Jawalakhel from the age of 10. Consequently, at any cost, we cannot settle in T
erai and must dwell in the metropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all relativ
es have already established their own homes in this valley and I/we also must co
nstruct a permanent residence in Kathmandu soon, although for at least few years
, we have to happily live in a rental flat on temporary basis, especially around
Lalitpur Municipality.
As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the inte
rnational developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in
ninety, I started a career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Program
me Nepal; Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadc
asting Company (HBC) Radio Station; United Nations Population Fund, Country Tech
nical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFI
D/Rural Access Program (RAP); Japan International Cooperation Agency/Japan Medic
al Association (JICA/JMA) funded School and Community Health Project (SCHP) and
Save the Children-Norway (previously Redd Barna, Norwegian semi-government inter
national humanitarian organization). (Please see enclosed resume, working certif
icates, recommendation letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank re
cognization, etc.).
Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consult
ant for UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was worki
ng with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the ca
pacity of an AS Officer until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008.
At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nati
ons (UN) System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in the A
dministrative Capacity, which is a long-term permanent fixed job.
As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double Master
s Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both i
n first divisions. Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters
degree in Public Administration (MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind
to enroll for MPhil course as well to upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of m
y life, which is one of the most pertinent future dreams for me.
Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth
, Aries, 60 kg weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached ph
otos and/or click links:
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:// for my 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholic but
occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal.
I am only son with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be loca
l level politician in Triveni-Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is no
stalgia for us in these days. On the other hand, he is also an Indian retired ar
my with the pension from India (70) and mother is housewife (67). They both live
in hometown to look after home and land and quarterly visit us for a week as we
ll as collecting their pension from Indian embassy.
Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years
; if you are also seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul
considers that we both might be like minded friends for lifelong and our matchin
g will be the perfect one; if you trust me as a gentleman by the hub of your hea
rt and curious for a matrimonial relationship, we can meet as a very goodfriend
at first and should try to sincerely understand each-other thoroughly. When our
inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest and ethos are compatible and comforta
ble for both of us, we will spontaneously and unknowingly feel emotional attachm
ent based on heart-to-heart relationship, then we can rationally decide for our
marriage-life as soon as possible, basically after obtaining mutual consent and
concurrence from our family members and parents.
At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may br
ing major transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future
: we both may prove to be the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of
each-others! For this purpose, you may contact me without any hesitations at (9
77-01) 98510-86884/9841 813529. Then, if you feel comfort and secure, I will in
vite you along with your best friends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting
at Jawalakhel for our formal introduction that will be the best way to initiate
our long lasting cordial relationship. Beside this, you can assign your reliable
relatives and parents as your representative for an initial discussion with our
guardians or myself. Furthermore, alternatively, you may forward your latest sn
aps and accurate information to us in making a logical family decision for the p
ossibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust and hon
By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sister
s, I can easily understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an u
nknown person, particularly for the lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you
that: 1) Names of several referees will be provided at any time in exploring th
e facts about me and my family background; 2) Several meetings among parents/fam
ily members will be organized to properly familiarize both the family members; 3
) Medical health reports will be submitted; 4) Academic credentials and working
certificates will be presented; 5) Your parents/guardians can independently inqu
iry and research to verify my background; 6) I/we will certainly facilitate for
the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new role and responsibility in
the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be allocated to close
ly recognize and understand each-other from insight but the final decision is yo
urs: madam!
If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on
this issue more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their dir
ect contact address for further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a serie
s of meetings among our parents/guardians to materialize our lifelong visualized
dreams into the reality. Finally, please refer all the attachments with this e-
mail and looking forward to hear from you a very positive response soon!
With Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) S
ave the Children Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School
and Community Health Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for Internati
onal Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population
Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SA
WA Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office o
f the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office o
f the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID; 7) DFID/En
abling State Program-Nepal.
Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regi
onal Office for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Elector
al System (IFES); and iii) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior join
ing one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, w
here he is working as an administrative staff in these days, he was involved wit
h the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in the capacity
of an AS Officer.
Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business S
tudies (MBS) and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneou
sly, he is also perusing his third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA)
Course in the early morning in these days. Moreover, he has strongly made his m
ind to enroll for MPhil Course as well sometimes in the future to upgrade himsel
f for PhD in a long-run of his life, which is one of the significant long-term d
reams of his life.
Attributes: He is a self-disciplined, self-made, self-developed and self-directe
d person without guidance from anybody. He dreamed, visualized and worked hard t
o materialize his vision, goal and aim, which made him active, laborious and con
fident to cope the difficult challenges and circumstances. On the other hand, wh
en he was in his early teenage and younger age, he used to work exceptionally ha
rd both for his professional career as well as education. He was able to work fo
r up to 18-19 hours daily in that struggle period and used to sleep merely 4-5 h
ours. Consequently, he successfully continued his full time job and education si
multaneously. However, when he gets leisure time in these days, particularly dur
ing Saturday and Sunday, he simply enjoys for — laying on bed, traveling around co
untryside, reading newspapers, listening music, working in a computer for writin
g something, dine delicious meals, chatting, sharing and joking on generic issue
s with all the family members, especially two sisters, who are living very close
d to his house, reviewing literatures/reports, watching latest movies/TV and sle
eping for very late hours.

Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverte

d person. He often trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberne
ss and softness for their own vested interests, which makes him sad. He prefers
simple life with the better human capital for own inner satisfaction purpose.
Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he
likes straight forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immed
iately discontinues even the humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite,
arrogant and sadist persons as they are good for nothing for others.
Strength: He is strongly determined person for his goals and visions, which mak
es him exhausted and burnt-out. Consequently, he can hardly smile, laugh and get
pleasure in his life! Moreover, he mostly feels loneliness as he can hardly sac
rifice his time for an unproductive purpose and social relationship.
Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for co
oking, laundry, ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activ
ities in his entire life due to sufficient love and take care rendered by his mo
ther/sisters. b) When someone behaves dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he com
pletely ignores him/her and never attempts to reestablish any further humanitari
an relationship.

With Best Regards!

Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
Dear Friend:
This justification and all attachments will logically explain, analyze and convi
nce you not only about the e-marriage proposal, but also on the humanitarian rel
ationship in general, and male and female marital relationship in specific from
different prospective. The following section will be useful for all of us to cle
arly understand the practical difficulties during match making process in our li
fe. This text has been disseminated via
com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 on behalf of its originator, especially for the i
nterested single lady - University Graduate, Job Holder/Self-Employed and Nice L
ooking Girl.
The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system
for a general matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced braver
y. I am directly and personally approaching for the life's most sensitive, diffi
cult and challenging issue on a supposition that the marriage is the most natura
l, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both — male and female, someti
mes once in a life. Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family m
embers, relatives, social networks, colleagues and friend circles — who might have
informally searching a suitable match for their grown-up children through exist
ing traditional social network approach due to the push/pull factors, but they m
ight also have not been completely able to find out the right candidate for thei
r fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues.
We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image
for an ideal life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early
teenage of our lives. To find our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into th
e reality, our minds/souls unknowingly keep on searching/exploring around with a
n expectation that s/he, who is imaginarily living with us in our subconscious m
inds from the very early age, will come soon even in the reality of life. We hop
e that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of our lives together for the
better aesthetic values, which will permanently end the bitter loneliness feeli
ng and inner vacuum within ourselves. But, very few people are lucky enough for
such unconditional true love, which all can not find in their life. However, unf
ortunately, our age keeps on running out rapidly for waiting that especial frien
d in real life, albeit we are not sure yet, when we will meet her/him in the rea
lity. Consequently, when we do not meet our lifelong expected dreams into the re
ality, it creates enough anxiety, stress, frustration, personality and psycholog
ical disorders among us and we feel extremely sad.
Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like m
inded values and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of cho
ice for the rational selection of an appropriate life partner, is the best appro
ach since decision of social-knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limit
ed social networks, family ties and relatives, where we can hardly find the drea
med and qualified partner due to lack of an easy and direct access with her/him.
On the other hand, our extremely busy mechanical routine life from early mornin
g to late evening for our other daily priorities, has limited us for the better
option to expand the social network. As a result, the tremendously competitive w
orld, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us extremely lonely eve
n among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with them due to the
ir varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.
Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partne
r, when marries proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can h
ardly say 'no' to them despite our several reservations. The marries facilitator
s also unnecessarily exaggerate on the qualities of the possible grooms/brides,
which may not be realistic in the practical life. But, marries decision that we
make only once in a life is for the sake of entirely ourselves, not to make othe
rs happy since it determines our future. Moreover, even a self-chosen love marri
es and/or arranged marriage can hardly be guaranteed for lifelong success, durab
le and happy relationship until our death. Subsequently, it is always a creative
tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage related single decis
ion with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either we wi
ll be winner or looser!
However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a
totally unseen person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population o
n this earth. Although, we are not sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now
, what s/he is doing, how s/he will approach to us and when s/he will be our rea
l friend as well as how our future relationship will go with her/him. We, ultima
tely, need to focus merely for his/her comfort/happiness until we die as soon as
s/he enters into our life as change maker, who will impart significantly differ
ences throughout our life.
Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized oppo
site ideal partner is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication,
sufficient time for interactions and most importantly inner courage and self-co
nfidence to approach her and directly propose for marriage due to fear of reject
ion. However, the sky is unlimited and six billion-plus populated world is beyon
d our horizon, although we don't have an easy access to directly contact her. It
is not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach her and exchange our mutu
al information for an enquiry since s/he might also have been waiting for the en
try of a right person into her life for her marriage purpose — who knows we may be
the hero by mistake as we both may have been made as an ideal life partner for
each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and we can try our l
evel best to invite the proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured person/fa
mily background as far as possible.
But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favora
ble to us since the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal
decision of both — without external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and s
o on — even from family members. Let's continue our dream till we get the best one
, when dream is over and shattered, we will really suffer for loosing hope in li
fe. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat, without waging another eff
ective war to achieve the lifelong visualized person as we can find exactly the
same what and whom we dream, if marries is truly made in heaven.
I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner
and it is expected that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and re
tained in my subconscious mind from early teenage. Let's see how general people
in our conservative society will perceive such a different method as individual
interpretations/judgments are the outcomes of our backgrounds. But, I am certain
that she will be the lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not
only such a unique process, but also other several social transformations as me
diocre narrow mind can never welcome any changes in the new environments since t
hey are totally happy to live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fea
r of unwanted social criticism and likely risk in life.
The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both
male and female, first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, withou
t external influence, at a preliminary face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'cl
ick' in their minds to see each-others at the first sight. The first meeting and
its overall impressions generally determine whether the further contacts will b
e strengthened/interrupted. If both feel compatible and comfortable with each-ot
her during introductory conversation process, their minds and hearts will sponta
neously but unknowingly admit as like-minded prospective friends despite other s
everal men-made gaps and obstacles — economical, social, educational, psychologica
l and professional — as both have emotionally, mentally as well as psychologically
accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions.
If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feel
ing, thought and emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which wil
l further enhance for the deep-rooted love, affection, interdependency and psych
o-socio belongingness to reinforce the post-marital life. Subsequently, both wil
l heartily accept not only the roses but also the thrones since couple has stron
g emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart bonds based on natural attraction, tr
ust and self-commitment for the life-long association until death, which nobody
can easily alter. As the human relationship is related with the meeting of like-
minded minds and the common wave-length can further enhance for the retention of
long-term marital relationship in our life.
Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively p
ersuaded and heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exa
ctly the same natural process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — w
here inner natural chemistry between them determines their attraction/repulsion
for further relationship at a very first meeting of both.
We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through nat
ural process, if couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — recip
rocal unconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for
feeling and emotion of the husband and wife, which should based on the ground of
mutual trust and honesty. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perfo
rm, we simply act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, the
refore, generally worry and fear with the likely change process and reluctant to
renounce the comfort zones, but we have to eventually accept new roles and resp
onsibilities despite uncertain results in our life.
If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-cult
ural values, ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and v
isions, the post-marital life will enhance better synergy, positive energy, crea
tivity and prosperity for both. However, if marriage is completely based on comp
romises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it may prove count
erproductive at any time in a long run since the relationship must be based on t
he bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the beginning of relationship not t
he end. Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on the ground of untrut
h, dishonesty, exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurt your partner
due to a betrayed deal, which will make her/him lifelong regretful that will nev
er keep your partner happy. If your partner is not happy at all due to your dish
onesty, it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family members happy as well.
Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at thi
s particular juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not h
ave met their pre-occupied basic expectations and criteria as well as both may h
ave differences in terms of their so-called socio-economy, socio-cultural and fa
mily-based values, which may indirectly affect post-marital life, particularly d
uring elderly age because of the likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody
has freedom of choice for the rational decision for her/his marriage without ext
ernal pressure and persuasion since being self-master we should not feel regrets
for our self-decision.
Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relativ
es and female colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employ
ed and well-cultured pretty looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within thi
s year, please convey and forward this information. As a result, she/her family
members can rationally assess our suitability from different prospective for the
perfect matching as far as we can make it, if marries is a matter of choice! Yo
ur tiny efforts will directly support us to reduce the 'information poverty' and
search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently over. If you
r interested lady friends/their family members wish to contact me/my parents/sis
ters to discuss more seriously, please feel free to contact us.
Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soo
Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
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