& SOME ERRORS

BY
SINGH SUKHI
(SUKHJINDER PAL SINGH)
 THANKS TO…….

Sunita and Shristy, whom I met 3 years back in Auckland, you guys exactly came into my life when I
was going through breakup, not only you guys cheer me up in this hard time, but also supported me
in every steps of my life. I am proud to say that your presence in my life not only brings me out of
the breakup trauma, but also changed me as a person a lot. Emotionally stronger, physically
healthier, mentally smarter, was the mutation in me which i felt positively. The things which i got to
learn and experience about people, the society and their mentality towards other people while living
with you guys was most amazing part and really is, what inspired me to write this book.

And to my elder brother, after dad’s demise you put yourself in his shoes, took charge and
responsibility of entire house. I got what I always demanded, from new shoes to motorcycle and
going abroad for further studied you provided me everything which I asked. If you haven’t sent me
out of India for my further studies, I may have not met Sunita and Shristy ever and not writing this
book.
 “FROM INDIA TO ENGLAND”

Today’s its 3rd July 2019 Ms Kempkers and its really hot here in New Delhi, really didn’t feel like going
out of the house. Seriously it’s so hot that I can cook a medium rare steak for you not using any
flame or fire but directly from sun’s heat. In Ancient time when there was no gas in villages, people
used to cook rice, lentils and other eatables things under the sun’s heat. Since you are Newzealand
high commissioner to India, and at presence New Delhi is your residence now, you must have
learned about different seasons in India. As it’s really hot in here, the government of Delhi had
announced that all schools whether its private or government will remain close for another week
from today onwards. My niece and nephew are really happy and now they demanding that they
want to go to “JURASSIC PARK” it’s a amusement and water park located on NATIONAL HIGHWAY 1
GT ROAD, Sonipat Haryana, around 50-55 km from Delhi. National highway 1 is most important and
crucial road which connects national capital New Delhi to the town of Atari in Punjab near Indo-pak
border. NH1 is also famous for the end number dhabas built on both sides of highway. As Its ENG vs
NZ world cup cricket match today Ms Kempkers I simply said “no” for Water Park and asked them
that will make it for some other day. Apart from India there are only two teams which I support
that’s ENG and NZ, reason behind is quite simple, I had spent two n half years of my life in ENGLAND
and one year in NEWZEALAND, I love both the countries from the bottom of my heart. I must say “ If
Newzealand had given two precious person in my life Sunita and Shristy , England had given me
confidence which I had always lacked while back In India.

In September 2011, I went to England to complete my 3rd year. In BA in Hospitality Management. Did
1st and 2nd year From IIHM, FARDIBAD, INDIA. I was really excite to explore England, because we
heard a lot about that from our relatives who were living there or from friends who already been
there. The Moment I came out of Airport I was totally stunned by the beauty of this country,
everything was different their and as Indian habit I compared everything which I saw there with the
things back in India. I was really happy and more than that in peace, because you will not find people
here continuously honking on streets, no dust , no pollution and more than that the human value is
really important here, you won’t find any corrupt person here. You will get what you want without
any hindrance.

After few days my university started , from first week we start getting assignments life get busy
then, after classes go to IT room, apply for part time job, came back to home make food and sleep ,
next day same routine. By the time we didn’t get any job, we decide to explore London, life here is
very happening Ms Kempkers, you can find people from every corner of world here, European,
Columbian, white, black, brown even yellow man is here and that’s what make this country so
happening, not only people you can find from any country is available here whether its Turkish,
Indian, Chinese, Somalia, European etc. My favourite was kebab roll and fish & chips and roast
chicken. After few weeks I got a part time job at Indian restaurant & takeaway “PRIYA’s TANDOORI”,
my job profile was serving customers with whatever they want, cleaning, handling cash.

After few months, interviews for Internship placement started, I also prepared myself with good CV,
bought new suite for interview, after 3-4 interviews with company’s I got selected with FIVE LAKES
CROWNE PLAZA RESORT as a commis chef, Ms Kempkers this resort is located at country side of
England, one and half hour drive from London in Colchester, Essex. You won’t find too much of
people from other countries here Ms Kempkers, majorly just the Whites. My hold on English on
language was very weak back in India, believe me the confidence level was zero, I always ran from
this language Ms Kempkers. But I was not in India anymore this is London I came here to study, to
learn, to get the exposure from this opportunity which lot of people can only think about it. From 1 st
march 2012, my internship started , I was quite nervous because I was only Indian working there and
apart from me all where whites, but staff here was very friendly, they welcomed me with smiles on
their face, they were all curious to know about me , my family and my country.

I am reserved kind of person Ms Kempkers, conscious, shy and most of the time silent, so it took at
least 2 months for me to get myself involved with the staff. I got a room in staff quarter, most of the
staff there was European, form Dutch to Portuguese, from polish to Hungary, Romanian, I mean at
least one person from European country was there. Slowly I started talking with them, leaving
behind my consciousness in speaking in English. That’s how you learn, the more you talk more your
shyness and consciousness will go away that’s what I started doing. For first time I was asked by one
of chef to go to club or bar with them, we three chefs, one guy from F&B service department. Took
off on same day and went to town, get ourselves some beers , drank them at one friends house and
in night went to night club, that was first time ever in my life I went inside a night club, loud music ,
beautiful white girls dancing on floor, wow that’s was amazing, I liked it. From that day Ms
Kempkers we became really good friends yeah friends for life that was our commitment to each
other, but only two of them are still in touch with me.

After a year internship came to end, I packed my bags and went back to London to finish my last
semester. Time flies I finished my studies, bachelors degree was in my hand. I decide to do MBA
from same university but unfortunately was not able to arrange money on time, and not wanted to
be illegal in country; before my visa got expires I came back to India in September 2013.
 “BACK TO INDIA AND IN RELATIONSHIP”

Even after coming back to India and living with my family I was not happy, the simple reason behind
that the life which I had spent back in London was very different from here, cleanliness, no
corruption, no dust, no loud horns or speakers. I was missing that peace which I got In LONDON. So
after few I got myself involved in Studying IELTS, I was planning to go back to U.K for MBA. Took
IELTS coaching along with one of my friend who was studying with me in London, got required score
which needed for Visa application. But money was still the issue; arrangement was not done on time
which delayed in applying for visa. I knew that it will take quite long time to arrange money, so I
decided to find a job and get myself busy with work and also will get some money.

One of my friend arranged interview with an HR of MNC, PRAXIS SERVICES PVT LTD. This
multinational company do sales and reservation of hotel rooms for big hotels of India, from three
star to five star. Cleared my interview and I was hired for Lemon Tree Hotel, doing room
reservations , handling guest queries on call and on email was the Job profile. Although the salary
was not good as compare to what I was earning in England, still I accept their offer because I knew
how much hard is get a job in Delhi and that to with one of the best MNC.

An unexpected incident happen between this time Ms Kempkers, after two months, due to lack of
callers on floor new staff got hired. Four girls and one boy were selected for lemon tree hotels batch
and one of the girl from that batch got hitched with me. It wasn’t love at first sight, I was doing night
at that time and it was last night for that shift. I received unexpected call from that girl, one guy
forgot his id card back in bay, and I was called with information to hand over the card to that guy
when he will came back next for his morning shift. After call got disconnected, I got message on
whatsapp, she wished me for Diwali and from there we started talking and things move further. On
one Sunday we both got off the day, so I texted her to meet up.

As her house is not so far away from my residence, we agreed to meet at a common point. I went
with one of my friend to Dwarka sector 5 McDonald, where she came after 10 minutes with her
brother. Her brother dropped her at point and went ahead for some work, we chat for near 45
minutes in McDonalds and came back to our homes, till this point I didn’t had any feeling for her, not
sure about her feeling towards, indeed I was very happy in her company. One day while texting I got
an intuition that she had started liking me wants to express her feeling, you know vibration you get
from the kind of words or lines opposite gender person writes to you , it was that and I was quite
sure about it., by this time I also fall for her and started liking her . Ms Kempkers it was mine first
relationship, I am a guy who had crush on many girls but it was one sided love only, due to my shy &
conscious nature I (specially in love cases) I never expressed my feeling to any girl whom liked
before, which kept me single till age of 24. So taking the initiative I expressed my feelings to her and
proposed her on text only. I was right Ms Kempkers, my intuitions were true within few seconds I
got call from her, and she too had feelings for me but was not able to express them. She said yes to
my proposal and for the first time we talked at least for 2 hours that night. I was in love in true love, I
was very happy, smiling all day and night, I felt satisfied. We used to drove in same car to office,
which was one good thing as we get lot of time together to talk, to sit holding each other’s hand and
if no one is noticing cleverly kissing on cheeks.

Sometimes happiness do not last longer Ms Kempkers, things turn around so badly which can left
you sad, broken and depressed. On night we were returning from MATHURA, it’s a religious place for
HINDUS where Lord Krishna was born, you will find lot of temples there. She received a call from her
mother about a guy whom they were looking for her to get married. Parents in India do get serious
about their kids marriage when they turn 25 either its boy or girl.

Somehow he reject that boy, because we were committed for each other and were really looking
forward to get married but on the same hand she was not ready to tell her parents about our
relationship, because first of all love marriages in India do not get yes so easily, secondly I am Sikh
and she is Hindu different religion, and last but not least Ms Kempkers its money, own house and
car. First two were not big issues but last one was really a big issue. In India these three (money,
own house and car) are important things to have with you if you are from boys family or from girls
family if want to get married with your loved one, and I was lacking in all these three sectors. I was
living in rented house with my parents, do not have car, and salary was not good at that time. If do
not have these things, you don’t have status in society. This is Indian mentality; believe me Ms
Kempkers I am not lying. By now she started losing her faith in this relationship, she was not sure if I
would be able to arrange these three in less time. One day she called me and straightway said that
she can’t be in this relationship as her parent will not accept it due to given reason and had to
breakup. I was shattered, broken and really sad crying day and night. Sadness was in till extent that I
went into depression. I tried convincing her, asking her to give some time that things will work out,
but nothing worked out and she stopped talking to me.

My personal life was totally messed up, I quite working, not eating or sleeping well, due to it my
relationship with family start getting affected. Only I was hoping for miracle to happen at that time.
But as they say whatever happen it happens for a reason, during that time I got a call from one of my
friend who was with me during study in England and we gave IELTS exam together in past. He was
planning to go to Newzealand for his further studies; we had a long discussion about it. After
breakup I was looking for some change in my life, as I was going through depression I decide to go to
Newzealand. Another thought came in my mind “if I will go abroad, might I will be able to get her
back in my life, might her parent will agree”. I and my friend started visiting consultancies that will
help us going to Newzealand. We choose different consultancies; he went to Newzealand few
months prior to me because it took some time for me to arrange money for College fees that put my
visa process in delay.

NEXT PART OF THIS STORY IS THE LAST PART MS KEMKPKERS, IT’S ABOUT MY JOURNEY AND LIFE
IN NEWZEALND. IT’S REALLY INTRESTING, CRUCIAL AND IMPORTANT PART TIME OF MY LIFE.
FROM DRUGS, MARIJUANA, A LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH A SINGLE MOTHER TO LONG DISTANCE
RELATIONSHIP . THIS PART OF MY LIFE HAD CHANGED ME LOT AS HUMAN BEING MS KEMPKERS.
THE REASON BEHIND WAS TWO PEOPLE SUNITA AND HER DAUGHTER SHRISTY WHO CAME INTO
MY LIFE AS BLESSING FOR ME. FOR THAT YOU HAVE TO FINISH THE LAST PART.
 “FROM INIDA TO NEWZEALAND AND AN
UNEXPECTED RELATIONSHIP WITH A SINGLE MOTHER”

I wanted to study MBA, but my immigration advisor Mr. Rahul Malik from VICTOR IMMIGRATION
advised me to go for PG DIPLOMA IN HOTEL MANAGEMENT as it’s mandatory to get level 6
certificate for MBA. I was okay with that, my only motive was to go far away from this place do the
trauma I was going through due to breakup. For last time I make a call to that girl and inform her
about my plan to go to Newzealand in a hope that I will make things work out to save our
relationship, but she did not care about it or was not concerned. Sad haah!!!!

On august 05th of 2015 I reach Auckland, my same friend came to receive me with another common
friend of ours, after hugs and handshakes he took me where they had rented a house. As my flight
landed in night time, I didn’t get much to see around, but came to know about lot of places because
of their funny name like Otahuhu, Papatoetoe, Puhinui, Otara and few more. We took 3 meals from
McDonalds on the way and in half n hour we are at the house. After keeping my language at living
room, got myself fresh with a hot bath, sat down in one of friend’s room and had our meals. We chat
about for 2 hour, talked about India , Newzealand , people, weather, study and girls and went finally
went for sleep as I was really tired after spending 22 hours in flight and also affected physically due
to jet lag.

Next morning I wake up early, it was the excitement to go out and see around and explore the
natural beauty which woke me too early. The moment I entered the kitchen I was struck for a
moment I look out of the window, its green , its clean, visible mountains, that’s why they call it 100%
natural beauty haah Ms Kempkers. WHAT A BEAUTY IS NEWZELAND. In afternoon one of my friend
took me to Sylvia park mall to open bank account in ANZ, which is just 5 minutes walk away from my
new house also we took some Indian meal and came back to home. It was still one week left in my
college to start so I took out sometime to explore places near to our house. My friend took me with
him to buy groceries from countdown, he show me the panmure basin where small lake was there
and track around that lake for running. This panmure basin looks really beautiful in night Ms
Kempkers; I took few pictures there which are still there on my face book page. Sorry Ms Kempkers I
forgot to tell you my new address, its 2/25A Waipuna Road, Mount Wellington Highway, Auckland,
New Zealand.

I was still missing my Ex very badly, so I texted her to inform about that I had reached safely and tell
her about the beauty here, but she wasn’t interested anymore, which made me more sad , I cried
that day a lot. Even after coming so far from her, I was missing her, was craving to talk to her like we
used to talk when we were in relationship. One day was so depressed that I went to my friends were
they were laughing very crazily because of marijuana smoking, so I ask them to give me one drag of
it. First time ever in my entire life Ms Kempkers I smoke marijuana that was just after two days of
coming to New Zealand, yes first time at the age of 26, never back in India and England, before that I
haven’t even smoked cigarettes in my life, I was the guy who always asked and requested to my
know people to stay away from cigarettes and now I was the one who is going to smoke marijuana.
Just two drags of it and I was in some other world, frankly speaking I really liked it, I wasn’t thinking
about that girl anymore. I the way marijuana hit your brain, it will make calm and will took you
some other world, thanks marijuana for helping me in forgetting that girl. From that day I started
smoking weed not on regular basis, but when ever guys bring weed I was always ready to take the
drag. After week my college get start, make new friends most of them were Indians and Chinese.
After college came back, apply for part time job, eat food, smoke weed that was my basic routine.
One thing I want share about that not only weed helped in forgetting about her abut also it build a
new habit in me and that was reading novel, and my first novel was “The Dream: How I Learned the
Risks and Rewards of” by Gurbaksh Chahal, one the most successful entrepreneur of America. At
the age of 24 he was the owner of two advertising companies and that book was totally about him,
how he achieved success at very young age. Don’t know why and how I became addicted to novels
but as they say that books can be man’s best friend, it became true. I was looking for some good
novels to read, so one of my friend who was into reading into novel advised me to read “The white
Tiger” by an Indian author Arvind adiga. One day while coming back from college I went to Auckland
library, which located just back of my college “OTAGO POLYTECHNIC” , get that book issued and
started reading. What an amazing book is it Ms Kempkers, loved it and also I will you to read it if in
any case you haven’t read it. Do it read Ms Kempkers because this book contains a lot of information
about how people used live in backward place from India, how corruption works, how rich people to
advantage of poor people and many more. I got so involved in novels that hotel management
became very boring for me, I started to realise that why I haven’t choose literature after school as
my professional studies. I started writing my own stories and lyrics; this is the power of literature.

Then I decide that I will study literature or scriptwriting once I will finish my studies, but to know
about curriculum, I started searching for colleges who gives you coaching in writing novels, how to
be a scriptwriter. Will searching on web I found about NZ WRITERS COLLEGE which provides online
courses for career in writing. I emailed them to know about the courses in detail and fees structure
for that, also simultaneously I filled application form online. They accepted my application and asked
me to deposit near 900 dollars as their fee. I was really dying to get enrol myself in that course but
as I was still in hotel management studies, I put hold on to it so that I can finish my previous studies
first.

Meanwhile in that time I came to know about Sunita and shristy who were leaving in the same
house at ground floor. Our house was divided into portions upper and lower. Upper portion where
we were living was 2/25 A and lower portion was 1/25 A. One day while coming back from college I
saw them standing outside in car parking, they gave a smile and I wave back at them and said HI,
that’s it and went upstairs in my room. That was my first counter with them.

What beautiful quote had been penned by Khalid Housseni that “Life just doesn't care about our
aspirations, or sadness. It's often random, and it's often stupid and it's often completely
unexpected, and the closures and the epiphanies and revelations we end up receiving from life,
begrudgingly, rarely turn out to be the ones we thought”.
It was the month of January 2016, when one day Shristy (Sunita’s daughter) came upstairs for a help
because her father was not present at that time, my friend opened the door and she asked him to
help them in opening their one the bed because they put up on sale and some buyer was going to
pick it from there. Because my friend was unable to open there bed, then he asked me to go down
and help them. As it was my day off I was free, so I went down in their house where Shristy and her
mum were waiting for me to come, somehow I tried my hard and was successful in opening bed,
they thanked me and I came back upstairs. We didn’t talk that much. After few days Shristy came
again for help, this time one of the speakers attached to TV was not working and I was the only one
in house, so I went downstairs again and fix their TV. This time we talked, it was a casual talk about
India, Fiji and people from these countries. After that we day we became friends, if I am standing out
of the house they used to call me and offer chai, or we used to invite them for chai.

On 21st February 2016 on the day of Sunita’s birthday, I got message from her that if I can drop them
Auckland city as they were going to Sky tower for birthday celebrations. My friend gave her my
number because only I was available on that day else everyone was gone for their work. In the
evening I went to drop them off on her car. From that Ms Kempkers we started talking each other on
phone, where she told me about how her married life was messed up, her husband left them alone
and went out somewhere without informing them and wasn’t replying them and not picking their
calls.

As Sunita’s husband had abandoned them and ran away leaving them alone behind, Shristy used to
come upstairs after her school, she found friends in us and was very comfortable spending time with
us. We used to play Table tennis upstairs or play cards. As my friends don’t call by my name they
used to call me PAAJI which means brother in English, so Christy also started calling me paaji, which I
really liked. I started treating her as my little sister; she started sharing things with us. Sunita also
used to come upstairs after her work. We started going to panmure basin for walk after having
dinner together, going together for groceries became our habit.

One thing I would like to admit here Ms Kempkers that I started having feelings for Sunita, I was
attracted to her physical appearance, her dusky complexion, and her taking style was quite similar to
one of bollywood actress HEMA MALINI .I started liking her company. But as she was already
married and I also just came out from the trauma of breakup, I put full stop on my feelings.

If something had to happen in your life, it will happen, that’s why we always say life is unexpected.
We really don’t know what will happen next moment in our lives, only god knows about it. In the
month of March Sunita was planning to go to wellington to get her and Shristy’s Fijian passport
renew. She asked me to accompany her because shristy denied going with her. As it took 6-7 hours
drive to wellington I said yes to her. She booked rooms in one of the hotel there and next day on 15th
of March 2016 we departed for wellington. After few hours of drive she handed over steering to me
and asked me to drive. In evening by 7 we reach wellington and checked in to hotel.
On that night Ms Kempkers I could not hold myself and I expressed her about my feeling for her.
Most shocking was that she too liked me but was not able to express earlier because she think that I
would not like this thing from a single mother. We proposed each other, and that night we made
love in the room, happiness was once again there at my doorstep and on her too because she
somewhere she was looking to move on in her life as her ex husband was quite abusive to her and
didn’t came back home for at least 3 months and also he didn’t share about his whereabouts to his
wife and daughter.

I love her from all my heart, but Ms Kempkers somewhere I wasn’t sure that if this relationship
works out from my end, because this relationship was between a single mother and single boy and
Indian society do not accept it, I was worried about it. The only thing I can’t do was breaking her
heart by moving away one day from her if my family would not accept this relationship. So I talked to
her about it and asked her for some time before I give any commitment to her. As an Indian she
understood this situation and fully cooperated with it.

Next day after finishing her passport work and after having lunch, we drove back to Auckland on
same day. We reached home near about 8 in evening and went straight for sleep as we were very
tired driving. A shocking incident happen after few days Ms Kempkers, Shristy wanted to have
McDonalds so in night near 10 pm we went to buy meals, but as soon we came back and parked our
car, what we see that a car was entering in our parking area, Shristy recognised this car started
shouting that it’s her father. After 3 months he back, and was keeping eye on house to see what
these two ladies doing with me. Shristy went inside to call her mum, and as soon she came out to,
that man started shouting and swearing her wife, calling her bitch and all. I really didn’t like this
attitude of him so I moved forward to talk to him, but he thought that I coming to fight with him and
in fear he quickly drove his car out and went somewhere else.

What kind of man is he Ms Kempkers, firstly you abandoned your wife and daughter and now after 3
months you came back just check if her wife is having an affair with someone or not. Is he really man
I doubt it. Sunita called police that night and registered an FIR against him. Because they both were
in fear due this incident, they asked me to sleep downstairs with them. That day I made my mind
and committed myself that I will not leave Sunita alone in any situation in my life, I will take this
relationship further and will make sure that they will cared with love and respect for rest of their life.
Their safety and security will be my responsibility. I shared it with Sunita, which really made her feel
relieved and happy. After few days we decided that we should share about this relationship with
Shristy because she is important part her life and her acceptance is important. She was very happy
to hear that, she accepted me and this relationship without having another thought in her mind.

After a month I moved downstairs to start living with them, by now I was ready to live my further life
as a committed husband and a father. Living together brings us very close to each other, being a
man of the house my priorities; lifestyle and commitments were slightly changed and most
important I quit smoking Marijuana, I don’t need that green thing anymore.

While living with them I witnessed some shocking incidents which left stunned at that time. Life of
an Indian single mother is quite different from what it’s in western countries Ms Kempkers, it’s really
hard in Indian Society to live as single mother. First of all people around you will start judging you,
they will find you lose character person if you dare to move on in life and wants to get settled with
other guy, you will became a bitch, might be prostitute in eye of people. A women is always wrong in
case if your husband had left you, people do not accept the fact that a man can do something wrong,
I am sorry to say but still in 21st century will live in male dominant society and I do not accept and
encourage this kind of mentality. Sunita was always disturbed by her Ex in laws, her sister in law
always used to call her from Fiji just to swear her, curse her. They used to Edit her pictures in nudes
and post them on her face book. Not only them, her ex husband also used to call Sunita and shristy
from private number to disturb them mentally buy calling both bitch and lot of other dirty words.
Could you believe that Ms Kempkers. It’s really shame, these incidents bring me more and more
closely to them, my relationship with them grew stronger. These ingenious incidents made me
create my own two rules for a happy life:

1. Never create your own perception about those people whom you really do not know
2. Do not listen or believe in people and follow them blindly when they got something wrong
to say about other people, use your own eyes, ears and brain and then make your decision,
because you really do not know if they are true in what they saying.

I really felt bad for both of them that they have to go through a lot of hard time in their life. Sunita is
very sweet, funny, beautiful, smart, innocent and kind women. She is always ready to help people
even if she is not in condition to help, she will do whatever best can do to assist others. And if you
are an important to her, she can go to any extent to make your life happy and better. Her
commitment and affection to this relationship made me realise the potential inside me to become a
writer, she is the one woman who inspired me to write this book about our relationship and her life.
One day we were lying on bed and I make a promise to her that I will write a book about her life,
challenges she faced during her married life and what criticism she had faced due to broken
marriage, I said her “I will write this book expecting that one day people will read my book and world
will know that how a hard can be a Indian single mother’s life”. She had always wanted to study
nursing, but due to family commitments and struggles she faced in past was not able to fulfil her
desire.

One incident I forgot to tell you Ms Kempkers, it’s about my involvement in taking drugs, during
winter break, my other friends who were already into drugs one day made plan to go for open air
psychedelic trance party. I also showed my interest in going there, hence we bought tickets for it,
one of the guy arranged drugs, LSD, ecstasy and marijuana was in the menu and also snacks and
food. We went to