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When two people disagree with one
another, either in social situations or at
work, it can be difficult to manage the
situation. In this lesson you will learn
about the skill of mediation.
When you mediate, you act as a
neutral third party and help conflicting
parties to resolve their differences.
This lesson will teach you some
important vocabulary and phrases for
mediation, and will give you the
chance to practise your skills!
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Conflict in our daily lives
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Arguments and negotiations
making your
raising your
keeping calm opinion
voice
understood
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What about you?
? ?
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been in the
?
position where
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you had to step
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in when two
people were
arguing?
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mediation to mediate
Mediation is when a neutral third party assists two other conflicting parties
in resolving their dispute.
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mediator
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New words and phrases
How about we
I think we should move on, everyone is entitled to their
agree to opinion. How about we agree to disagree on this?
disagree on this?
to place/put the
blame on He placed all the blame for the sales results on another
someone or team and took no responsibility himself.
something
to take
Please don’t take this personally but I think your
something proposal needs some work.
personally
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About mediation
■ Think of yourself as an
ambassador for peace. You want
to help the two sides in conflict to
reach an agreement and this can
only be done by avoiding entering
the conflict yourself.
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A disagreement between colleagues
You are at a colleague’s party. Carl, the host, is a really good cook and has
made lots of delicious food. He gets very stressed at big social events.
Another colleague, Mark, is there too. Mark arrived late because he had to
work overtime.
Read the dialogue below. Do both parties have a right to be annoyed?
Evaluate the situation.
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What happens next
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Think about Carl’s
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reply. What do you
?
think Mark’s reaction
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?
is going to be?
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But it was just a joke!
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Acting as mediator for friends
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Acting as a mediator
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Key tips for mediation
■ Mediation can be a difficult skill, but there are some things you can do to help
make your role as mediator easier.
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Should we take a break?
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More new words and phrases
from an
From an objective point of view I think it would be a good idea to calm
objective point down first before you talk.
of view
I think everyone
I think everyone here has a valid point. We just need to find a solution
here has a valid everyone is comfortable with.
point.
How about we
take a minute to I think this issue might be getting a bit out of hand. How about we take a
put things into minute to put things into perspective?
perspective.
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Things to remember
Check your body language and tone of voice, and encourage everyone to
listen to one another.
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Fill in the gaps
Fill in the gaps using the new phrases you have learnt.
I think everyone How about we take a minute to Let’s all try to calm down and take a from an objective
has a valid point. put this issue into perspective? step back from this for a moment. point of view
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Listen to your teacher read the dialogue below
I just don’t think this is the best way to approach the situation, Gina.
Why won’t you listen to me? I already told you, I tried calling them
yesterday. They promised to call back and they never did. We have to
be tough now – it’s too late for messing around!
Gina, I’m not an idiot. Do you think I want to lose my job? Of course
not! You never take what I say seriously and you always bring up the
same mistakes! You have made mistakes too, you know, but I don’t
remind you of them all the time. We need to be firm here!
Bill, you are driving me mad! It was my client first anyway. If Martin hadn’t
put us in a team together at the last minute I would have been able to
sort this all out without having to listen to your stupid ideas. I just want to
phone them and try to talk to them. Why is that such a bad idea?
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Practise your mediation skills
Reflect on the dialogue you have just heard and answer the following
questions.
1
How would you go about mediating the situation? Break it down into
steps.
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Practise your mediation skills
Reflect on the dialogue you have just heard and answer the following
questions.
1
How would you go about mediating the situation? Break it down into
steps.
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Practise your mediation skills
Reflect on the dialogue you have just heard and answer the following
questions.
1
How would you go about mediating the situation? Break it down into
steps.
3
With you as the mediator and your teacher playing Gina and Bill, role
play the dialogue with you stepping in to help them resolve their
conflict.
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Reflect on this lesson
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Exercise p. 20
1. I think everyone here has a valid point, 2. Let’s all try to calm down and take a step
back from this for a moment, 3. How about we take a minute to put this issue into
perspective? 4. From an objective point of view.
Answer key
Homework
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Homework writing activity
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Homework evaluation activity
How did you find this lesson? Which parts were most
challenging? Which were easiest? Give your feedback here!
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About this material
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