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 Courtney E. Ackerman, MSc. 


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 20-11-2019

Have you ever thought about your own thoughts or


questioned your mental processes?

Do you sometimes take time to clarify your values in a


moment of doubt or uncertainty?

If you answered “yes,” you are no stranger to self-


reflection and introspection (terms that will be used more
or less interchangeably in this article), an important
psychological exercise that can help you grow, develop
your mind, and extract value from your mistakes.

Read on if you’d like to learn the meaning of self-


reflection and introspection, reasons why it’s important,

and tools and techniques for practicing it yourself.

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This article contains:

What Is Introspection? A Definition


What Is the Importance of
Introspection?
70 Self-Reflective Questions to Ask
Yourself
10 Self-Reflection Exercises, Activities,
and Techniques for Adults and
Students
4 Self-Reflection Worksheets and Tools
The 3 Best Books on Self-Reflection
and Introspection
A Take-Home Message
References

What Is Introspection? A Definition

Introspection can be practiced both as an informal


reflection process and a formal experimental approach,
and the two have different definitions. Still, both processes
can be undertaken by anyone with curiosity and
determination (Cherry, 2016).

The informal reflection process can be defined as


examining one’s own internal thoughts and feelings and
reflecting on what they mean. The process can be focused
on either one’s current mental experience or mental
experiences from the very recent past.

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The formal experimental technique is a more objective and


standardized version of this, in which people train
themselves to carefully analyze the contents of their own
thoughts in a way that’s as unbiased as possible.

The original idea of introspection was developed by


Wilhelm Wundt in the late 1800s (McLeod, 2008). Wundt
focused on three areas of mental functioning: thoughts,
images, and feelings. Wundt’s work eventually led to the
current work on perceptual processes and the
establishment of the field of cognitive psychology.
 

What Is the Importance of Introspection?

So, why is introspection important? Researchers have


shown that we think more than 50,000 thoughts per day, of
which more than half are negative and more than 90% are
just repeats from the day before (Wood, 2013). If you
don’t make the time and effort to refocus your mind on the
positive through introspection, you won’t give yourself the
opportunity to grow and develop.

Enhancing our ability to understand ourselves and our


motivations and to learn more about our own values helps
us take the power away from the distractions of our
modern, fast-paced lives and instead refocus on fulfillment
(Wood, 2013).

The Importance of Doing It Right

Reflecting on ourselves and our environments is a healthy


and adaptive practice, but it should be undertaken with
some care—there is, in fact, a wrong way to do it.

When your focus on introspection has morphed from a

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dedication to an obsession, you have taken it too far. In


fact, those who take self-reflection too far can end up
feeling more stressed, depressed, and anxious than ever
(Eurich, 2017).

In addition, it is all too easy for us to fool ourselves into


thinking we have found some deep insight that may or
may not be accurate. We are surprisingly good at coming
up with rational explanations for the irrational behaviors
we engage in (Dahl, 2017).

To help stay on the right path with your self-reflection,


consider asking more “what” questions than “why”
questions. “Why” questions can highlight our limitations
and stir up negative emotions, while “what” questions help
keep us curious and positive about the future (Eurich,
2017).

With this important point in mind, let’s move on to the


questions, exercises, and worksheets that you can use to
work on your own self-reflection.
 

70 Self-Reflective Questions to Ask


Yourself

There are nearly endless questions, prompts, and ideas you


can use to take a self-reflection break. Some of these can
be asked, answered, and addressed every day, while others
may best be saved for occasional self-reflection.

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Read through the following three lists to get some ideas


for introspective questions. Answering them can take you
from feeling like you don’t understand yourself to
knowing yourself like the back of your hand.

These 10 questions are great ways to jumpstart self-


reflection (Woronko, n.d.):

1. Am I using my time wisely?


2. Am I taking anything for granted?
3. Am I employing a healthy perspective?
4. Am I living true to myself?
5. Am I waking up in the morning ready to take on the
day?
6. Am I thinking negative thoughts before I fall asleep?
7. Am I putting enough effort into my relationships?
8. Am I taking care of myself physically?
9. Am I letting matters that are out of my control stress
me out?
10. Am I achieving the goals that I’ve set for myself?

The following 30 questions are questions you can ask


yourself every day to get to know yourself better (William,
n.d.):

1. Who am I, really?
2. What worries me most about the future?
3. If this were the last day of my life, would I have the
same plans for today?
4. What am I really scared of?
5. Am I holding on to something I need to let go of?
6. If not now, then when?
7. What matters most in my life?
8. What am I doing about the things that matter most in
my life?
9. Why do I matter?

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10. Have I done anything lately that’s worth


remembering?
11. Have I made someone smile today?
12. What have I given up on?
13. When did I last push the boundaries of my comfort
zone?
14. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn
baby, what advice would I give?
15. What small act of kindness was I once shown that I
will never forget?
16. How will I live, knowing I will die?
17. What do I need to change about myself?
18. Is it more important to love or be loved?
19. How many of my friends would I trust with my life?
20. Who has had the greatest impact on my life?
21. Would I break the law to save a loved one?
22. Would I steal to feed a starving child?
23. What do I want most in life?
24. What is life asking of me?
25. Which is worse: failing or never trying?
26. If I try to fail and succeed, what have I done?
27. What’s the one thing I’d like others to remember
about me at the end of my life?
28. Does it really matter what others think about me?
29. To what degree have I actually controlled the course
of my life?
30. When all is said and done, what will I have said more
than I’ve done?

Finally, the following 30 prompts and questions are great


ways to put your journal to use (Tartakovsky, 2014):

1. My favorite way to spend the day is . . .


2. If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I
would say is . . .

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3. The two moments I’ll never forget in my life are . . .


(Describe them in great detail, and what makes them
so unforgettable.)
4. Make a list of 30 things that make you smile.
5. “Write about a moment experienced through your
body. Making love, making breakfast, going to a
party, having a fight, an experience you’ve had or
you imagine for your character. Leave out thought
and emotion, and let all information be conveyed
through the body and senses.”
6. The words I’d like to live by are . . .
7. I couldn’t imagine living without . . .
8. When I’m in pain—physical or emotional—the
kindest thing I can do for myself is . . .
9. Make a list of the people in your life who genuinely
support you, and whom you can genuinely trust.
Then, make time to hang out with them.
10. What does unconditional love look like for you?
11. What things would you do if you loved yourself
unconditionally? How can you act on these things,
even if you’re not yet able to love yourself
unconditionally?
12. I really wish others knew this about me . . .
13. Name what is enough for you.
14. If my body could talk, it would say . . .
15. Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a
friend recently. Then, write down how you can do
the same for yourself.
16. What do you love about life?
17. What always brings tears to your eyes? (As Paulo
Coelho has said, “Tears are words that need to be
written.”)
18. Write about a time when your work felt real,
necessary and satisfying to you, whether the work
was paid or unpaid, professional or domestic,

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physical or mental.
19. Write about your first love—whether it’s a person,
place or thing.
20. Using 10 words, describe yourself.
21. What’s surprised you the most about your life or life
in general?
22. What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
23. I feel most energized when . . .
24. “Write a list of questions to which you urgently need
answers.”
25. Make a list of everything that inspires you—whether
books, websites, quotes, people, paintings, stores, or
stars in the sky.
26. What’s one topic you need to learn more about to
help you live a more fulfilling life? (Then, follow
through and learn more about that topic.)
27. I feel happiest in my skin when . . .
28. Make a list of everything you’d like to say no to.
29. Make a list of everything you’d like to say yes to.
30. Write the words you need to hear.

10 Self-Reflection Exercises, Activities, and


Techniques for Adults and Students

Aside from the questions and prompts listed above, there


are many exercises and activities that can open you up to
valuable self-reflection.

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For example, the five self-examination exercises listed


below (Bates, 2012) are a good way to get started with
self-reflection. They’re simple and easy to do, but they can
familiarize you with the process for more in-depth
reflection in the future.

Self-Examination Exercise 1

Consider whether or not you tend to analyze people or


diagnose their problems for them without their
encouragement or request.

Often when we hold information that has helped us to


make sense of the world, we want to share it. This
information, when unprompted and delivered to another
person, sometimes doesn’t feel so good. They may feel
like you are telling them that something about them is
wrong, something that they might not necessarily agree
with.

Remind yourself that this information needs to be asked


for and not prescribed by you, no matter how valid it feels
to pass it on (Bates, 2012).

Self-Examination Exercise 2

This is a good exercise if you tend to expend a lot of


energy trying to understand what upsets you about another
person’s actions. You may also spend a lot of energy
thinking of ways to address that person about what upsets
you.

Not only does this burn a lot of your energy, but it also can
have an unintended effect on the person who has upset
you. When you place a clear emphasis or focus on what is

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wrong when speaking with someone, it implies that you


are dissatisfied and unhappy.

Usually, the issue you have is not something that is


making you terribly unhappy, just an annoyance or
irritation, so this doom and gloom is not the message you
want to deliver. It’s just a single issue that needs attention,
but it can seem much bigger and more pervasive to the
person you are planning to discuss it with.

Try to remind yourself that this problem, no matter how


valid an issue it is or how important it is to you, is not the
whole of your feelings. When you deliver this information,
remember that a person who loves you does not want to be
the cause of your unhappiness—do not make them feel an
unnecessary amount of pain as a result of the unhappiness
they’ve caused you.

Keep your focus on the big picture when you bring up


issues, or you risk turning a small issue into a much
broader problem (Bates, 2012).

Self-Examination Exercise 3

Do you frequently interrupt people or constantly think of


your own stories to share while they are talking? If you’re
like a lot of social people, the answer is probably yes.

In order to relate to others, we have to share a little bit of


ourselves with them—your stories can help you establish
common ground with others or make you closer with
them. However, if you’re only focused on sharing your
stories, it can distract you from the greater purpose of a
conversation.

In our eagerness to relate, please, entertain, and share, we

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often remove ourselves from the present, reducing our


ability to be sensitive and engaged listeners. Even if we
spend our whole lives trying to be good listeners,
sometimes we slip out of practice in empathizing or
identifying with the person we’re talking to, or we lose an
opportunity to comfort or entertain the other person.

Next time you have a conversation with a loved one and


you find yourself thinking ahead of them, take a moment
to pause and truly listen. Don’t think about how you can
personally identify with what they are talking about, and
don’t search your memory bank for a relevant story of
your own—just listen.

It’s a rewarding experience to truly soak in what another


person is saying, both for you and the other person (Bates,
2012).

Self-Examination Exercise 4

Sometimes when we work very hard to do good things, we


get to a level of comfort with that fact, and we begin to
talk about it to others. That can be a great thing in that it
allows us to own our efforts and our actions and, with that,
acknowledge our goodness to ourselves.

But for this exercise, consider how you might feel if you
were to do things that are good, but only for your own
knowledge. The next time you do something really
wonderful, try keeping that wonderful thing to yourself
and not sharing it with anyone.

Often when a person is good and loving, they don’t have


to tell anyone; it’s a truth that shines from every angle of
their person. As an experiment, keep some knowledge to
yourself, as a gift to you (Bates, 2012).

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Self-Examination Exercise 5

For this exercise, you need only to do one thing: Consider


what you don’t know.

When we get to a place of comfort in our skin and in the


world, we tend to lose the ability to see things from a
different perspective. Things make sense to us in our own
point of view, so what’s left to know?

Everything, it turns out.

By this, we mean to try and remind yourself of these facts:


You cannot know or understand everything, and you are
not the judge of what is right for another person.

You can neither read minds nor know what the future
holds. You can only exist in one moment at a time, and
you are changing every day.

Trust that sometimes others know themselves and their


lives better than you ever could. Listen with the awareness
that you might learn something new.

Be open to the fact that you might one day feel totally
different about something that you believe to be fixed—
and that includes your sticking points, the
“unchangeables” you thought were forever set in stone.
Let what you don’t know and can’t know be a comfort
rather than something to fear, because it means that
anything is possible (Bates, 2012).

Once you have found your footing with these self-


examination exercises, the following introspective
exercises are a great next step.

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Affirmations

Creating affirmations is a helpful way to clear your mind


and put things in perspective. Affirmations can be defined
as positive phrases or statements used to
challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts.

For this exercise, write a list of at least 50 affirmations.


They should address what you want to embrace, improve,
and achieve in your life.

Follow these instructions when composing and practicing


your affirmations:

1. Write the affirmations in the present tense and be


sure to use the word “I” throughout the affirmations;
2. Focus on the things that are occurring now that will
lead to your future success. You may have negative
thoughts pop up, but do your best to let go of the
negative thoughts and replace them with positive
thinking;
3. Repeat your affirmations aloud to help reprogram
your mind with more positive thoughts.

Following these steps can help you open yourself up to the


positive in your life and take steps that will lead you to the
future you want (Holothink, n.d.).

Subconscious Mind Exercise

In this exercise, you will dive into your subconscious.


Don’t worry, it’s not as painful or scary as it sounds!

Your subconscious mind is where your self-image is


stored. All of your attitudes, experiences, beliefs, and

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values are stored deep in your subconscious, driving your


behavior and forming the core of who you are.

We don’t often take time to think about ourselves on this


level. So in this exercise, take some time and put a
concerted effort into thinking about your attitudes,
experiences, beliefs, and values. It may take a few sessions
of self-reflection to really uncover your core beliefs, but
it’s worth the effort it takes to learn about yourself.

Reflecting on this core component of yourself will help


you gain greater self-awareness. Much like meditation, it
will help you achieve a new, higher level of
consciousness, and it may just help you find valuable
information and answers about yourself and your beliefs
(Holothink, n.d.).

Visualization Exercise

This exercise offers you an opportunity to put your


creativity to use.

Create a box, a vision board, or some other medium to


store and display who you are and what your hopes and
dreams are for the future. You can create or decorate your
box or board however you’d like. Use whatever you feel
represents yourself and what’s important to you.

Place pictures, words, drawings, poems, or small items of


personal significance on your board or in your box. The
more details you include, the better.

The end result is a visual representation of yourself and


what you love. Come back to the box or board when
you’re having a dilemma or trying to figure out the best
course of action, and draw from this visual representation

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of yourself to help you make decisions (Holothink, n.d.).

For this exercise, feel free to put your imagination to good


use—the sky’s the limit when it comes to visualization.

Questions About Yourself

This exercise is simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. All
you need to do is ask yourself some questions.

Ask yourself questions about yourself. Write down the


questions, then write down your answers to the questions.
Ask yourself about your past, present, and future, and
compose answers to the questions that are positive,
insightful, and motivating to you.

Don’t worry about coming up with the “right” answers—


there aren’t any right answers, and your answers will
likely change over time. And be as creative as you’d like
with the questions and answers since no one else needs to
answer or read them but you.

Be sure to structure your questions to include details about


your hopes and dreams. The more detailed your questions
and answers, the more opportunity you have to dig into
some valuable self-reflection (Holothink, n.d.).

Write and Reflect

Journaling is great for many reasons, and it can be used in


several applications for introspection.

For this exercise, get a journal, diary, or notebook with


plenty of pages to write in.

Every day, write down three things in your journal:

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1. At least one positive thing that happened to or


around you today;
2. A question for yourself (you can use one of the
questions from the previous exercise, a question from
the lists we covered earlier, or something entirely
new), but don’t answer it yet;
3. A reflection on the question you wrote the previous
day for yourself and an answer to it.

Following these steps, you will write only the first two
components on the first day but will write three
components every day thereafter (Holothink, n.d.).
 

4 Self-Reflection Worksheets and Tools

In addition to the questions, prompts, writing ideas, and


exercises included above, here are some worksheets and
tools that can help get you started with introspection.

Self-Awareness Worksheet

This worksheet is a treasure trove of exercises and ideas to


help you think about yourself, including your talents,
qualities, values, and perceptions.

The point of this worksheet is to help you know and


understand:

Your beliefs and principles;

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What you value and what is important to you;


What motivates you;
Your own emotions;
Your thinking patterns;
Your tendencies to react to certain situations;
What you want out of life.

There are several sections to this worksheet, each of which


has its own set of questions and prompts:

– Talents
What are your greatest talents or skills?
Which of your talents or skills gives you the greatest
sense of pride or satisfaction?

– Traits/Qualities
What are your five greatest strengths?
What do you feel are your two biggest weaknesses?
What qualities or traits do you most admire in
others?

– Values
What are ten things that are really important to you?
What are the three most important things to you?
What are the values that you hold nearest to your
heart?

– Perception
How is the “public you” different from the “private
you”?
What do you want people to think and say about
you?
Is it more important to be liked by others or to be
yourself? Why?

– Accomplishments
What three things are you most proud of in your life

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to date?
What do you hope to achieve in life?
If you could accomplish only one thing before you
died, what would it be?

– Reflection
What is something that represents you (e.g., song,
animal, flower, poem, symbol, jewelry, etc.)? Why?
What three things would you like to change most
about yourself?
List three things that you are.

– Finish the Sentence


In the final section, you will be shown several prompts to
complete:

I do my best when . . .
I struggle when . . .
I am comfortable when . . .
I feel stress when . . .
I am courageous when . . .
One of the most important things I learned was . . .
I missed a great opportunity when . . .
One of my favorite memories is . . .
My toughest decisions involve . . .
Being myself is hard because . . .
I can be myself when . . .
I wish I were more . . .
I wish I could . . .
I wish I would regularly . . .
I wish I had . . .
I wish I knew . . .
I wish I felt . . .
I wish I saw . . .
I wish I thought . . .
Life should be about . . .

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I am going to make my life about . . .

Once you finish this worksheet, you should have plenty of


insight into who you really are and what is most important
to you. Use your answers to inform your decisions about
what goals you choose to strive toward, what you would
like to do in the future, and what moves to make next.

You can view, download, or print this worksheet for


yourself.

Tool 1: Persona

Before moving on to the empathy map below, first create a


“persona,” or a clear character representation of your
actual self, your ideal self, and your “ought” self (Kos,
n.d.).

In order to create this persona, you will need to thoroughly


analyze who you are, who you want to become, and what
the social expectations connected to your feelings and
behaviors are like in different situations.

Answering questions like the following can help you


define these three important selves:

1. Why do I want to become [enter a characteristic


important to you]? Who in my life was or is like
that?
2. Who would I be proud if I were [enter a

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characteristic important to you]? Why?


3. How are my feelings in certain situations connected
with my actual, ideal, and ought self?
4. Am I pushing myself to be something I’m actually
not?
5. Am I being something I’m not just because others
expect it of me?

Use your answers to these questions to help you get an


idea of who you are, who you want to be, and who you
feel you ought to be. Once this preparation has been
completed, move on to creating an empathy map.

Tool 2: Empathy Map

An empathy map can help you engage in a valuable and


informative process of self-reflection, using all of your
senses to help you identify your needs and the
disconnections between what you say and what you do
(Kos, n.d.). Don’t worry—we all have a disconnect
between what we say and what we do.

This exercise can help you figure out where you have
these disconnects and how you can best address them to
become the person you want to be.

To create your empathy map, simply draw four quadrants


on a piece of paper. Each quadrant represents a different
aspect of yourself:

Seeing;
Doing;
Thinking;
Feeling.

Next, consider a situation that evokes a specific strong

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emotion in you, like having a fight with your spouse or


significant other. In each quadrant, write down the relevant
aspects of each perspective.

For example, for the fight scenario, you could write down
something like the following:

Seeing: What are some of the things you saw during


the situation?
Doing: What actions did you do and which behaviors
did you notice in yourself? What is the behavioral
pattern you can identify?
Thinking: What were you thinking in that situation?
What does this tell you about your beliefs?
Feeling: What emotions were you feeling? Why?
Which past situation do they most remind you of?

On the backside of your piece of paper, on another piece


of paper, or next to your four quadrants, create a fifth
section. Here, you will write down your insights and ideas
based on your empathy map.

The following questions can help you with the self-


reflection process while you’re working on your map:

How is the situation connected to your fears and


hopes? What are your fears? What are your hopes?
Which of your needs are met or not met in that
situation?
What was the environment in which you encountered
the situation? What do you remember from the
environment? How did you find yourself in that
environment and why? What was your sight focused
on?
What hurts you most in the situation or makes you
feel good about the situation?
What was the feedback you gathered from your

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environment or other people?


What are all the positives about the situation? What
can you learn about yourself, others, and the world
by experiencing that kind of a situation?

Do your best to avoid falling prey to cognitive distortions


or reinforcing negative feelings while answering these
questions. Go deep, and identify why you feel like you do.
Observe, but don’t judge (Kos, n.d.).

Tool 3: Life Satisfaction Chart

A life satisfaction chart is a great way to assess how well


you are meeting your goals and furthering your hopes for
the future. You can complete this chart periodically to
track your progress toward your goals and see what needs
to be revised, improved, reduced, or eliminated to help you
strive toward them.

Draw a scale from 1 (not at all satisfied) to 10 (extremely


satisfied) horizontally, and list the following ten areas of
life vertically:

You;
Health;
Relationships;
Money;
Career;
Emotions;
Competencies;
Fun;
Spirituality;
Technology.

Assess your satisfaction in each of the 10 areas using the


scale you created.

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Next, take a second look at all the areas where you are
only somewhat satisfied (where you used a rating between
4 and 7). It can be hard to effectively reflect when you
don’t have a clear idea of whether you are satisfied with a
specific area or not.

Go back through these “somewhat satisfied” areas and rate


your satisfaction again, but use only ratings between 1 and
3 or 8 and 10. Limiting your options to either “very
satisfied” or “not very satisfied” will help you to make a
more decisive judgment about your satisfaction in each
area.

Highlight every section rated with a 1, 2, or 3 with red,


and highlight every section rated with an 8, 9, or 10 with
green. Finally, for all ten areas of life, ask yourself, Why
did you rate each area how you did? What would make
you change your rating?

Repeat this exercise as often as you’d like to help you


keep track of your satisfaction with the way your life is
going (Kos, n.d.).
 

The 3 Best Books on Self-Reflection and


Introspection

There are many books out there on self-reflection, self-


awareness, and introspection, but we recommend the
books below as resources to help you start your journey.

1. Question Your Life: Naikan Self-Reflection and


the Transformation of Our Stories – Gregg Krech

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This book will introduce the reader to Naikan, a method of


quiet self-reflection that originated in Japan.

Like the physical bags we carry when we go on a journey,


our hearts and our minds only have so much room—but
instead of carrying luggage, they carry stories. Some
stories inform our lives and help us understand ourselves,
while others don’t serve a purpose and can weigh us down.

In this book, Krech will guide the reader through several


powerful examples of people who had an important
change of heart or mind as a result of quiet self-reflection,
including a woman who hated her mother, a man estranged
from his father, a pregnant woman hit by a train, a couple
who was struggling with their marriage, and a rabbi who
neglected his shoes.

Read this book to open yourself up to seeing the world


differently, and finding a better path forward.

You can find it on Amazon.

2. Being Present: A Book of Daily Reflections –


David Kundtz

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This simple book will help the reader create a life that is
more peaceful, rewarding, and awakened.

Being present can be defined as:

Paying full attention to what is going on right now;


Staying in the moment;
Observing what is, without criticism or judgment;
Having a balanced concern for things exactly as they
are;
Accepting whatever experience one is having;
Having an awake participation in ongoing life.

You can use this book as a reminder to be more present


through every season of the year and every season of life.
The book draws inspiration from poets, scientists, spiritual
teachers, children, butterflies, and big cities, and teaches
you to accept each day as one full of possibilities and
potential surprises.

You can find it on Amazon.

3. 52 Weeks of Self Reflection – Erika R. Dawkins

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This simple but powerful book will guide the reader


through a full year of self-reflection through writing. Each
week, the book will introduce you to a new topic that you
will either reflect on immediately or incorporate into your
life and reflect on at the end of the week.

You can use this book to guide you through self-reflection.


No matter your goal, this guidebook will help you clear
your head, see the world from a new perspective, and build
a greater understanding of yourself.

You can find it on Amazon.


 

A Take-Home Message

In this piece, we defined introspection, described the


importance of self-reflection (especially healthy self-
reflection), and provided many example exercises,
activities, and worksheets for you to enhance your
understanding of yourself.

Keep in mind that self-reflection is an intensely personal


process. If you find other activities that work better for
you, feel free to focus on those—but we’d love for you to

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come back here and share with us what works.

Do you have any other techniques for self-reflection that


you like to use? How important do you think introspection
is for the average person, or for yourself? Let us know in
the comments.

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About the Author


Courtney Ackerman, MSc., is a
graduate of the positive
organizational psychology and
evaluation program at Claremont
Graduate University. She is currently
working as a researcher for the State
of California and her professional
interests include survey research,
well-being in the workplace, and
compassion.

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