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Hackathon presents
11
Confidence
MindHacks
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Patrycja
Slawuta
Sooooo…
This
is
the
right
place
to
start
-‐
and
I’m
excited
to
share
with
you
the
11
Confidence
Hacks.
But
before
we
start
let’s
explore
what
confidence
means
to
you.
In
other
words
-‐
how
would
your
life
be
different
if
you
were
much
more
confident?
No
censorship
here
-‐
feel
free
to
write
all
the
crazy
awesome
or
crazy
insane
things
you
would
do
if
you
had
more
confidence.
If
I
were
much
more
confident
I
would:
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So
here
we
go
-‐
we
will
cover
three
essential
elements
of
healthy
confidence.
In
this
special
report
we
will
hack
the
following
sources
of
potential
fear/anxieties
and
self-‐
doubt:
1.
head
2.
body
3.
other
people
After
reading
the
report
and
doing
the
exercises
you
will
have
plenty
of
kickass
tools
to
be
much
more
confident,
more
courageous
and
more
overall
badass.
Ready?
Here
we
go!
2
*Who
is
Patrycja
Slawuta?
Let
me
just
very
briefly
tell
you
who
I
am.
And
why
do
I
talk
about
confidence
and
fearlessness.
I
have
been
researching
the
depths
of
the
human
psyche
for
the
last
10
years.
Both
inside
of
academia
(have
MA
in
psychology
working
on
PhD)
as
well
as
outside
-‐
working
with
various
promising
startups,
established
companies
as
well
as
starting
my
own
businesses.
I
studied
confidence
because
I
lacked
one
myself.
I
was
afraid
of
showing
up,
speaking
up
and
shining.
I
felt
that
another
description
could
easily
be
shame
-‐
because
that’s
what
I
was
carrying
around.
Researching
confidence
was
the
best
and
the
worst
thing
that
could
happen
to
me
-‐
it
taught
me
that
confidence
is
not
a
stable
inborn
trait
like
eye
color.
It’s
a
skill
that
can
be
learned,
developed
and
cultivated
with
the
right
tools
and
mindset.
Confidence
is
a
state
of
mind.
It’s
how
you
put
yourself
out
there,
how
you
negotiate,
how
others
see
you
and
how
you
see
yourself.
Healthy
confidence
is
like
a
healthy
immune
system
-‐
it
guards
you
from
all
the
toxic
stuff
the
world
sometimes
throws
at
you.
It’s
a
must-‐take
vitamin
for
any
entrepreneur.
And
for
ladies
out
there
-‐
well…. confidence
is
the
new
black.
It’s
sexy,
sensual
and
extremely
powerful.
Confidence
is
damn
sexy.
Ask
any
man.
Here
you
will
learn
the
art
and
science
of
confidence.
You
will
learn
how
to
strengthen
and
build
up
your
confidence
muscle.
Even
if
you
are
starting
form
a
NEGATIVE
level.
Even,
and
especially,
if
confidence
is
not
your
“thing”.
We
will
custom
tailor
a
confidence
outfit
just
for
you.
For
you
to
wear
it,
own
it
and
rock
it.
Let’s
get
started!
3
-HEAD-
aka
the
big
walnut
We
will
start
with
the
HEAD.
Because
this
is
where
your
100
billion
neurons
of
your
brain
lives.
It’s
extremely
complex.
And
that
complexity
can
work
in
your
favor
or
against
you.
Let
me
explain
-‐
our
brains
works
all
the
time
and
as
an
effect
they
create…
THOUGHTS.
Maaaany
of
them.
Research
shows
that
on
average
we
have
70,000
thoughts
-‐
out
of
which…
95%
are
THE
SAME!
What
does
that
mean?
Well
this
mean
that
we
think
the
same
sh*t
over
and
over
again.
Every
single
day.
Same
self-‐doubt,
self-‐lathing,
same
self-‐critique.
Same
thoughts
about
yourself,
who
you
are
and
what
you
deserve.
As
well
as
same
thoughts
about
people,
what
their
nature
is
and
how
they
relate
to
you.
Ok
so
here
we
come
to
the
topic
of
LIMITING
BELIEFS.
Those
are
the
beliefs
that
are
actually
disempowering.
Often
abusive,
critical
and
cynical
of
ourselves.
Those
are
the
words
and
comments
that
our
Inner
Critic
may
say.
And
in
many
cases
it
actually
does.
4
Mindhack
#1:
Recognize
-‐
in
this
phase
you
write
down
all
that
hold
you
BACK,
all
that
the
inner
critic
says,
and
all
that
you
possibly
believe
that
may
be
TRUE
about
you.
This
is
where
the
negative
self
talk
goes
to
party.
Write
the
most
crunchy,
juiciest
limiting
beliefs
you
have.
No
censorship
–
we
all
have
our
own
inner
demons.
As
great
anonymous
quote
goes
-‐
“It’s
the
same
game,
just
different
levels.
The
same
hell,
just
different
demons.”
So
what
are
the
demons
that
hold
you
back
from
flying
high
and
really
taking
off
in
this
one
and
precious
life?
Now
let’s
have
the
*magic*
begin:
write
a
sentence
that
would
be
the
OPPOSITE
of
your
limiting
belief.
5
If
this
is
somehow
difficult
for
you
let
me
give
you
an
example
-‐
if
you
had
a
limiting
belief
that
says
“nobody
likes
me”
-‐
the
empowering
belief
would
be
“I’m
a
social
superstar
and
people
enjoy
my
company”.
(This
is
actually
my
personal
example
from
3-‐4
years
ago).
Make
sure
that
whatever
you
write
makes
sense
to
you.
It’s
doesn’t
even
have
to
super
grammatically
correct
-‐
just
write
what
speaks
and
makes
sense
to
YOU.
My
new
empowering
belief:…………………………………………………………………………….
Now… write
it
again………………………………………………………………………….…………….
And
now
say
it
out-‐loud.
Yes
I
mean
it.
OUT
LOUD.
Mindhack
#3:
And
now
the
last
and
final
part
-‐
you
will
say
this
new
empowering
belief
to
yourself
every
MORNING
after
you
wake
up
and
every
evening
RIGHT
BEFORE
SLEEP
for
the
next
7
-‐
10
days.
This
is
an
extremely
powerful
exercise.
We
go
much
more
in
detail
when
it
comes
to
limiting
beliefs
in
my
Self
Confidence
Hackathon
course
so
go
there
if
you
want
to
learn
more
and
dive
deeper
into
how
the
mind
works.
For
now
this
is
a
solid
first
step
in
building
up
your
confidence.
-BODY-
Our
body
has
caused
us
a
lot
of
trouble
throughout
the
ages.
It’s
both
the
source
of
immense
pleasure,
joy
as
well
as
shame,
guilt
and
fear.
Human
bodies
evolved
to
be
gigantic
communication
antennas
-‐
we
read
and
communicate
basic
emotional
states
-‐
such
as
fear
and
anger
-‐
much
faster
with
body
postures
than
with
any
other
form
of
communication.
6
Same
goes
for
confidence
-‐
it
can
be
hacked
by
using
the
body
language
and
the
biofeedback
loop
that
exists
between
the
mind
and
the
body.
In
other
words
–
we
can
hack
the
body
so
that
we
change
our
mindset
for
the
feeling
of
confidence.
Now
let’s
focus
on
the
two
major
indicators
of
confidence
-‐
how
we
stand
and
how
we
sound.
Let’s
start
with
the
body
posture.
First
-‐
a
mental
exercise.
When
you
look
at
a
random
person
-‐
how
do
you
know/
how
can
you
tell
that
they
are
confident?
Really
think
about
that…
I
know
a
person
is
confident
when:
1………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
2………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
3………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Pretty
much
in
all
of
animal
and
human
world
one
can
tell
who
the
alpha
male/female
is
by
looking
at
their
body
language.
In
the
human
environment
people
who
are
confident
have
open
body
language,
stand
tall
and
straight.
They
take
on
something
we
call
in
psychology
-‐
power
poses.
Power
poses
are
poses
that
display
power,
confidence.
Those
are
poses
that
take
space.
It’s
almost
like
claiming
space,
owning
it
and
communicating
to
others
-‐
this
is
who
I
am
and
here
is
where
I
stand.
With
confidence.
Think
of
superman
or
wonder
woman
pose.
A
pose
when
the
chest
is
up,
the
body
is
upright
so
that
the
body
communicates
confidence
and
being
grounded.
Research
shows
that
taking
on
a
power
pose
for
just
2
minutes
boosts
your
perceived
confidence.
Not
only
that
-‐
others
see
you
more
confidence
as
well.
It
literally
makes
you
feel
and
seem
more
confident.
Pretty
remarkable,
yes?
And
the
interesting
thing
is
that
not
only
we
FEEL
more
confident
but
also
physiologically
we
become
more
confident.
Let
me
explain
-‐
when
putting
on
a
power
pose
we
send
a
biofeedback
loop
to
our
brain.
Research
shows
that
maintaining
a
power
pose
increases
testosterone
(the
winners’
hormone)
and
decreases
cortisol
(the
stress
hormone).
This
become
a
bio-‐hack
-‐
literally
-‐
where
the
body
hacks
the
brain.
7
Mindhack
#4:
So
let’s
do
it
right
now:
Strike
on
a
power
pose
-‐
it
can
contain
any
of
the
following:
- hands
up
in
a
victory
sign
- hands
on
hips,
wonder
woman
style
- chest
up,
chin
up
and
legs
firmly
grounded
Hold
the
pose
for
2-‐3
minutes
and
see
what
it
does
to
your
body,
mind
and
feeling
of
confidence.
I
encourage
you
to
watch
a
great
talk
by
Amy
Cuddy
-‐
a
fellow
psychologist
from
Harvard
who
talk
about
this
research
in
detail
here:
http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?l
anguage=en
And
here
is
a
little
cheat
sheet
of
what
NOT
TO
DO
it
you
want
to
feel
confident.
Because
this
will
actually
trigger
lack
of
confidence
by
increasing
the
levels
of
cortisol
-‐
the
stress
hormone.
Be
aware
when
you
put
yourself
into
powerless
poses
-‐
those
are
the
poses
of
shrinking,
disappearing,
becoming
small
and
contracted,
where
your
chest
is
collapsed,
head
down
and
the
spine
humped.
This
actually
makes
us
more
anxious,
stress
and
much
less
confident.
Got
that,
Wonder
Woman?
***
VOICE
-‐
as
a
quote
goes
-‐
People
will
forget
what
you
said,
people
will
forget
what
you
did,
but
people
will
never
forget
how
you
made
them
feel.
(Maya
Angelou).
Well
actually
I
would
paraphrase
it
and
say
that
you
will
forget
what
you
said
and
did
but
will
remember
HOW
you
did
it.
And
so
it
goes
for
confidence
–
it’s
really
not
what
you
say,
it’s
about
how
you
do
it.
Psychological
research
shows
that
anxiety
and
fear
(which
are
proxy
for
lack
of
confidence)
affect
the
vocal
cords:
so
that
we
speak
fast,
the
voice
gets
to
be
with
high
pitch
and
there
are
barely
any
pauses
between
the
sentences.
8
In
other
words
-‐
we
try
to
get
the
information
out
of
us
as
quickly
as
possible.
The
truth
is
that
it’s
hard
to
take
people
seriously
when
they
squeak
sentences
really
really
fast.
Confidence,
on
the
other
hand
is
conveyed
with
slow,
relaxed,
lower
and
neutral
tone.
Every
sentence
has
its
gravity.
Every
sentence
is
important
and
the
importance
is
stressed
by
how
it’s
being
said.
Some
call
it
gravitas.
Others
call
it
badass
public
speaker.
I
call
it
“Listen
up
people,
I
have
something
important
to
tell
you
so
pay
attention”.
Some
very
cool
recent
research
shows
that
perceived
power
(aka
being
in-‐
control)
affects
how
we
speak.
If
we
feel
safe
and
in
control
our
voice
naturally
deepens
and
slows
down.
When
we
feel
somehow
stressed,
out
of
control
and
lacking
confidence
the
voice
gets
that
famous
high
pitch
and
we
end
up
speaking
with
the
speed
of
semi-‐automatic
machine
gun.
Really,
deliberately
speak
2
times
slower
than
you
usually
do.
This
will
first
feel
weird,
maybe
somehow
awkward
but
this
WORKS.
That
way
you
can
actually
hear
what
the
hell
you
are
saying
and
others
will
perceive
you
as
much
more
confident.
9
And
here
is
a
BIGGIE
-‐
many
women
end
sentences
with
a
vocal
inclination
at
the
end.
As
if
they
were
asking
a
question.
This
way
instead
of
making
a
strong
statement
or
an
argument
-‐
they
pose
a
question.
The
effect
is
that
the
sentence
loses
its
power
and
sharpness.
This
actually
communicates
that
we
are
not
so
sure
of
what
we
are
saying
and
that
we
may
or
may
not
be
right.
So
we
leave
the
decision
to
the
listener.
Mindhack
#8:
Now,
this
question
thing
can
be
very
tricky.
The
best
way
of
dealing
with
this
mostly
feminine
problem
I
have
heard
came
from
Barbara
Tannenbaum
-‐
professor
at
Brown
university
who
hacked
the
question
issue
by
saying
the
sentence
as
if
there
was
a
DAMMIT!
at
the
end
of
the
sentence.
This
actually
forces
you
to
lower
the
tone
at
the
end
of
every
sentence
making
it
stronger,
more
powerful
and
much
more
confident.
Try
it
for
yourself
-OTHERS-
If
you
have
ever
taken
a
psychology
101
course
in
college
you
probable
read
this
timeless
course
book
called
Social
Animal
by
Elliot
Aronson.
Because
indeed
we
are
social
animals.
We
are
wired
to
be
social,
to
interact
with
other
human
beings,
to
feel
like
we
are
accepted
and
that
we
belong.
Some
neuroscientists
even
claim
that
our
big
brain
evolved
to
be
so
big
and
complex
because
of
all
the
social
interactions
we
had
to
figure
out.
Just
to
show
you
a
scope
of
this
-‐
think
for
a
second
what
do
you
think
about
when
you
don’t
think
about
“anything”.
In
other
words
-‐
what
do
you
think
about
when
you
mind
just
wonders.
When
you
freely
daydream.
Well
-‐
psychologist
looked
at
this
and
found
out
that
when
our
brain
is
“resting”
it’s
actually
engaging
in
all
types
of
activities
we
call
in
psychology
social
cognition.
That
is
-‐
you
think
about
you,
about
other
people
and
you
relation
to
them.
10
This
is
pretty
remarkable
finding
-‐
showing
us
that
being
and
interacting
with
others
is
hardwired
into
our
nervous
system.
So
what
does
it
have
to
do
with
our
confidence?
Well
-‐
the
way
psychology
sees
is
that
others
program
us.
That’s
right
-‐
others
affect
not
only
how
we
feel
(about
ourselves)
but
also
what
we
think
and
believe
in.
A
fascinating
research
done
at
MIT
and
Harvard
(read
a
good
summary
here:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/13/magazine/13contagion-‐
t.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0 ) shows
us
that
we
are
the
average
of
5
people
we
spend
the
most
time
with.
This
has
to
do
with
pretty
much
everything
-‐
but
the
most
important
part
for
us
right
now
is
confidence.
Are
you
surrounded
by
people
who
motivate,
encourage
and
empower
you?
Or
people
who
say
it’s
impossible,
can’t
be
done
and
you
shouldn’t
even
try.
Research
shows
that
for
every
YOU
CAN’T
DO
IT
we
need
5-‐7
YOU
CAN
DO
IT.
Yes-‐
this
is
crazy
but
this
is
also
true.
It
shows
us
how
important
support
is
and
how
others
can
define
for
us
what
is
and
is
not
possible.
Of
course
it
was
be
a
bit
radical
to
break
family
ties
and
move
to
a
different
city
to
change
the
CAN/CAN’T
ratio
you
hear
from
the
people
around
you.
Books,
authors
and
programs
are
also
programming
you
-‐
sometimes
we
just
need
to
read
an
awesome
book,
hear
a
motivational
speech
or
get
inspired
by
our
role
model.
Mindhack
#9:
So
here
is
how
to
hack
confidence
via
others
-‐
see
who
is
programming
you…
In
other
words
who
are
you
spending
most
of
your
time
with:
are
they
actually
making
you
or
breaking
you?
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Let’s
do
it
right
now:
The
people
I
spend
most
of
my
time
with
are
(list
5):
1)…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
2)…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
3)…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
4)…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
5)…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
And
now
think
-‐
are
they
inspiring,
empowering
and
supporting
you.
Or
maybe
somehow
drain
you,
disempower
you
and
limit
you.
You
can
always
find
a
mentor
to
help
you
out,
a
role
model
to
inspire
you
and
friends
to
tell
you
that
impossible
is
nothing.
How
to
do
it,
and
how
to
deal
with
not-‐so-‐motivating
relationships
gets
covered
in
detail
in
Self
Confidence
Hackathon
so
if
you
want
to
learn
more
on
hacking
confidence
via
others
that’s
your
place
to
go.
Mindhack #10:
Hacking
the
social
confidence
formula
-‐
the
science
of
little
wins.
Harvard
research
shows
that
it’s
actually
little
wins
are
what
build
big
confidence.
Confidence
does
not
descend
upon
you
like
a
pretty
sparkly
pink
cloud.
Confidence
gets
built
one
little
baby
victory
added
to
another
baby
victory.
And
CELEBRATED.
Confidence
is
the
willingness
to
take
risks,
to
speak
up
and
speak
our
mind
because
we
believe
we
have
something
to
add
to
the
conversation.
Because
you
believe
you
CAN
and
if
not
you
now
then
who
else?
That’s
where
community
and
celebrating
little
wins
because
key.
I
call
it
bragging
-‐
and
bragging
is
one
of
the
best,
most
fun
and
most
beautiful
ways
of
building
confidence.
Bragging
consists
of
you
unapologetically
saying
what
went
well.
And
what
are
you
proud
of.
Of
course
you
can
do
it
by
yourself
-‐
by
writing
it
down
every
day
in
the
evening.
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Or
-‐
and
that
can
be
much
more
powerful
and
much
more
scary
too
-‐
share
it
with
other
people.
Happiness
shared
is
twice
as
joyful.
Personally,
I
have
two
bragging
groups
where
together
with
3
other
women
we
brag
what
went
well
that
day.
Sometimes
those
are
huge
victories
such
as
getting
a
promotion
or
solving
a
big
problem.
Sometimes
it’s
small
things
such
as
going
to
the
gym
or
seeing
a
beautiful
sunset.
Bragging is sexy, it’s awesome and it makes you shine. Big time.
So
right
now
write
down
5
things
you
did
today
that
made
YOU
proud
of
YOURSELF:
1
-‐
I
brag
that
…………………………………………………………………………………………..…….………
2
-‐
I
brag
that
…………………………………………………………………………………………..…….………
3
-‐
I
brag
that
…………………………………………………………………………………………..…….………
4
-‐
I
brag
that
…………………………………………………………………………………………..…….………
5
-‐
I
brag
that
…………………………………………………………………………………………..….…………
Mindhack
#11:
If
you
feel
courageous
then
reach
out
to
2-‐3
other
people
who
you
trust
and
who
will
be
your
cheering
squad.
People
who
will
support,
encourage
and
motivate
you
to
shine
brighter,
bigger
and
power
powerfully.
Because
this
is
what
real
confidence
is
about
-‐
about
feeling
full,
worthy
and
totally
OK
with
oneself.
This
is
my
intention
for
you
as
you
read
these
11
Confidence
Mindhacks.
They
are
all
based
on
science,
super
powerful
and
super
effective
if
you
use
them.
Remember
-‐
confidence
is
a
skill
and
with
the
right
tools
you
can
learn
it
and
rock
it.
As
I
mentioned
before
-‐
Confidence
is
like
an
outfit,
wear
it,
own
it
and
rock
it.
Given
the
ability
of
our
brain
to
rewire
and
reprogram
itself
-‐
we
now
know
that
you
can
be
much
more
confident,
much
braver
and
fearless.
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If
you
want
MORE
mindhacks,
science
of
confidence
and
overall
badassness
(yes,
it’s
a
word
I
just
made
up)
come
join
me
at
Self
Confidence
Hackathon
-‐
it’s
where
we
dive
deep
into
your
psyche,
understand
what
holds
you
back
and
go
step-‐by-‐step
into
the
land
of
confidence,
fearless
and
full-‐body-‐aliveness.
I
can’t
wait
to
rock
and
roll
with
you.
Confidently,
Patrycja
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