Personal Development – 1st Semester Finals

TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE - lacks commitment

Robert J. Sternberg - easily scrapped

Companionate Love (Intimacy + Commitment)

- observed in long-term marriages
- passion is not needed

Fatuous Love (Passion + Commitment)

- no real emotional bond
- no deep bond

Consummate Love ( I + P + C )
- ‘perfect’ and ‘ideal’
- maintaining it is harder than achieving it
- not permanent

FAMILY STRUCTURES
Intimacy
- closeness 1. Nuclear Family
- connectedness - traditional family
- bondedness - married man and woman + biological children

Passion 2. Extended Family

- sexual attraction - nuclear family + other relatives (aunts, uncles,
- romantic feeling cousins, grandparents)
- feelings & desires
3. Step Family
- physical attraction
- brought together by divorce, separation or
- romance, consummation
remarriage
Commitment
4. Single Parent Family
- feelings that lead a person to remain with
- either a father or mother who is singly responsible
someone and move toward shared goals
for the raising of a child
Non-love - child can be by birth or adoption
- characterizes the majority of personal
5. Adoptive Family
relationships; simple, casual interactions
- one or more of the children has been adopted
Liking (Intimacy) - any structure of family may be also be an
- set of feelings experienced without the intense adoptive family
feeling of passion/commitment
6. Bi-racial/Multi-racial Family
Infatuated Love (Passion) - parents are members of different racial identity
- people with nothing but a sexual relationship groups
- only rounded by carnal desires
7. Trans-racial Adoptive Family
Empty Love (Commitment) - adopted child is of a different racial identity group
- when the intimacy or the liking for the spouse is than the parents
gone
8. Blended Family
- nothing but the contract of marriage is left
- consists of members from two or more previous
Romantic Love (Intimacy + Passion) families
- a common stepping stone
9. Conditionally Separated Families 16. Childless/Forgotten
- a family member is separated from the rest of the - a family without children
family
17. Grandparent Family
- may be due to employment, military service,
- grandparents take custody of the child
incarceration, hospitalization

10. Foster Family

- one or more of the children is legally a temporary TYPES OF LEADERS
member of the household
- ‘temporary’ period may be as short as a few days High-impact leaders take tesponsibility for
or as long as the child’s entire childhood everything that is happening.

- kinship care families are foster families where Low-impact leaders avoid taking responsibility as
relative(s) of on of the parents has a legal they search for others to blame.
arrangement to care for the child(ren)

11. Gay or Lesbian Family

Types of Leaders
- both of the parents’ sexual orientation is gay or
lesbian 1. Managerial Leader
- may be two-parent, adoptive, single-parent or - the least effective of the five types of
extended leaders
- weak character
12. Immigrant Family
- has the least influence
- parents have immigrated as adults
- desire is to be served because of the
- children may not be immigrants
position
- family members may continue to live in the
- strength comes from power, control,
country of origin, but still be significant figures in
formal authority and personal results
the life of the child
- sees others as tools and values the
13. Migrant Family position more than the people
- moves regularly to places where they have
employment 2. Relational Leader
- children may have a relatively stable community - builds relationships in order to influence
of people who move at the same time others
- military families may lead a migrant life, with - strong character
frequent relocation, often on short notice - desire is to serve; values people more than
the position
14. Cohabitation - strength comes from relationships and
- unmarried parents moral authority
- children may alternatively live with both parents - has an abundance mindset
or live with one and have regular visitation with the - has undeveloped and generalized
other competency
15. Transnational Family
- families live in more than one country 3. Motivational Leader
- may spend part of each year in their country or - seeks mutual benefit
origin, returning to another country on a regular - strong character
basis - desire is to serve; values people more than
- the child may spend time being cared for by the position
different family members in each country - strength comes from relationships and
moral authority, and team results
- has an abundance mindset
 - has a developed and specialized
competency
4. Inspirational Leader
- inspires managerial and relational leaders
to become motivational leaders
- stronger character
- focuses heavily on character development
- values people more than the position
- strength comes from relationships, moral
authority, and the growth of others
- inspired by the growth of those following
them
- competency is highly developed and
specialized
5. Transformational Leader
- passion and purpose is to transform others
- the most influential of the five types of
leaders
- their influence is continuously transferred
through many other leaders at many
different times in multple locations
- their reputation precedes them
- are well known for developing leaders
- strongest character
- focuses on leading people and developing
motivational and inspirational leaders
- values people more than the position
- strength comes from relationships, moral
authority, growth of others, and the respect
they have earned
- competency is highly developed and
specialized
CAREER PLANNING
Ways in Career Planning
• Visualization
• Making short-term and long-term goals
• Keeping the motivation up
• Finding a mentor
• Distinguishing a job from a career
• Maintaining good performance appraisals
• Eyeing for promotions and raise
• Skills are regularly upgraded
• Changing jobs as an option
External factors that affect the pursuit of a
career
Parental wishes and preferences
- Parental support is always an influential factor in
career decisions among adolescents.
Life situations
- family problems and unforeseen circumstances
can make an impact on the career plans of a
student.
Culture and physical environment
- The culture and physical environemtn from where
one comes can also affect the career choices of a
person.
- these two factors also reflect on the career that is
pursued by an adolescent.
Available opportunities and economic demands
- the economic demands dictate the careers that
are offered in a country.
Gender stereotyping
- there are jobs that are identified with a specific
gender that affects the impressions and career
decisions of students.
Peers
- the friends of an adolescent may also influence
the career decision; they are the soure of
information and encouragement of an adolescent.
Skills and job mismatch
- based on research, Filipinos fail to get specific
jobs because of mismatch between the demands of
the job and the skills of the applicants.