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Domestic Violence
A self-help resource to help people living
What are the effects Some children may not have the words to with domestic violence
tell you how it is affecting them, but their
of domestic violence? behaviours show you how they feel.
For example: Places to go for help now: Acknowledgements:
Domestic violence has serious, • Aggressive, demanding behaviour and language
• For immediate help if you are in danger, call the
negative consequences for • Low self esteem and shame police on 000. Lifeline’s domestic violence tool kit provides information about:
individuals, families and whole • Physical reactions; eating and sleeping • For specialist counselling support if you are
communities. problems, stomach cramps, bedwetting, experiencing domestic violence contact the Understanding what domestic violence is
headaches Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault National
Victims develop survival skills to protect themselves
and their children. They may ‘tiptoe’ around their
• Withdrawing from friends or difficulty making helpline on 1800 200 526. Developing some strategies for what to do if in a violent or abusive relationship
and keeping friends • For men who use violence or male survivors
partner’s moods or change their behaviour to ‘keep
the peace’. They sometimes withdraw from their • Problems with school work of domestic violence, contact Mensline on Understanding what friends and family can do
friends and family. They try to protect children from 1300 78 99 78. Prime Super is the proud sponsor of the Lifeline
• Becoming a victim or a perpetrator of bullying
seeing or hearing the abuse. They do everything • For information about receiving a Centrelink
Information Service – your mental health and Where to go for help
• Using drugs or alcohol self-help resource.
exactly as their partner wishes, but still this does not crisis payment to help you with immediate
stop the abuse. Some victims also try to fight back. • Self harming financial difficulties, contact Centrelink on Prime Super is Australia’s only nationally operating
13 2850 or find information online at super fund dedicated to rural and regional Australia.
It is important to realise that no matter what you do, These are understandable responses to living with
www.centrelink.gov.au/internet/internet.nsf/
only the abusive partner can stop their behaviour. It is fear and worry.
payments/crisis.htm For more information on Prime Super, please
What is domestic violence? Domestic violence is not always physical.
not your fault and it is the person who uses violence It can happen in many ways and includes
who needs to change. Help for people who use • Each State or Territory has its own network ring 1800 675 839 or visit their website things like:
Children need: www.primesuper.com.au Domestic violence is abuse by
violence is available through the services listed at the of services that can help deal with domestic • Emotional abuse; humiliating someone, putting
• To know they are not forgotten and that you one person towards their partner,
end of this tool kit. violence. Some of these on page 4. them down and blaming them
notice what they are dealing with Lifeline and Prime Super are working in partnership
Living in an abusive relationship can lead to
• For help finding services whether you are a to promote mental health awareness, help-seeking girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse. • Financial abuse; strict control of money
• To feel and hear they are loved
depression; injury from assault; suicidal thoughts; survivor or a person who uses violence, contact and suicide prevention.
• Protection from direct physical, sexual, emotional It is sometimes called relationship violence or family • Verbal abuse; name-calling and yelling
panic and anxiety. You may have nightmares, Lifeline on 13 11 14.
and verbal abuse violence. If your partner’s actions make you feel • Social abuse; controlling what you do and
be unable to sleep, stop eating properly, or feel
afraid, powerless or unsafe, then you are experiencing who you see
confused and hopeless. These are normal reactions • Encouragement to talk about their worries and
domestic violence. This can happen during the
and many people overcome them with support. The make sense of what is happening • Physical harm or threats of physical harm,
relationship and also after you have separated.
information below will help you become aware of • Reassurance that the violence is not their fault smashing things, hurting pets
Children who see, hear or sense this violence are also
your choices and the help that is available. • Sexual abuse and rape
• Help with making their own safety plan for where affected. Domestic violence is a crime and the person
to go when they are fearful who uses violence is breaking the law. • Stalking; following or making excessive calls,
• To know that bullying and abuse are not ok texts or emails
What about the children? • Professional help if they show signs
In domestic violence the abusive partner uses their
power to intimidate, threaten or harm the other person,
• Spiritual abuse; controlling spiritual or
of ongoing distress cultural choices
in order to get what they want. This may include
Children living in a household possessiveness; control; limiting how the other person Non-physical forms of abuse can be just as damaging
Finally, it is important to teach your children how to
where there is domestic violence handle arguments without using abuse or violence.
can behave; or putting them down. They often enforce as physical assault. If you do not feel respected or
secrecy and isolation, so that those outside the family
usually know exactly what is going Show them that people can disagree and still respect
do not become aware of their violence.
able to be yourself in a relationship; if you are afraid to
disagree or negotiate what you want, this is a sign of
on and they may blame themselves and care for one another. Respectful relationships
domestic violence. If you realise this is happening to
involve mutual care and consideration, negotiation
for the violence and tension in and compromise. you, talk to someone and get help as soon as possible.
the household.
They need support to deal with the trauma they Who is affected by
experience and the disruption it causes to their domestic violence?
development. Unborn children or small babies can For 24 hour telephone crisis support call 13 11 14
also be directly affected by the violence and by
their mother’s fear or stress. Be aware that during For more information visit www.lifeline.org.au Anyone can experience
pregnancy and around the birth of a new baby there To donate call 1800 800 768 domestic violence.
is often a greater risk of violence.
It happens in every community, young and old;
Many women are hopeful that these major life wealthy or poor; all cultures; people in same-sex
This Tool Kit has been produced by the Lifeline Information Service as a public service.
events will change their partner. However, there is You are welcome to reproduce it without alteration and with acknowledgement of Lifeline. relationships; people with disabilities; those who
very clear evidence that these times are often triggers We invite your feedback and comments at infoservice@lifeline.org.au are socially successful and those who are struggling.
for increased violence due to jealousy and issues The assistance of Jen Hamer in producing this tool kit is gratefully acknowledged.
Z00 42873
The majority of victims are women, although men
of control. Last revised May 2010 can also be victims.
What can I do if I am in a violent
or abusive relationship?
5
Survivors of domestic violence have often been Men’s Referral Service: 1800 065 973
things around violence order (AVO), intervention order or isolated from friends and family and may have Look after yourself W.A. Government website. Information on all
(9am to 9pm)
restraining order). The protection order can direct difficulty trusting anyone. Make sure you stay in touch aspects of DV and includes a self help book for
For all of these reasons, some people decide that Try to find a safe place to have positive ‘time out’. Living in a stressful TAS
the abuser not to harm you, come near you, your and maintain your support, especially following men worried about their violence.
remaining with an abusive partner is the best choice situation can wear you down. Domestic violence can cause anxiety, panic
children, home or workplace. You will need to a separation. www.freedomfromfear.wa.gov.au Family Violence Counselling and Support:
for them at the time. If you are in this situation it does attacks, depression and thoughts of suicide. Find a supportive GP or
show evidence of the violence and reason to RESEARCH, POLICY AND EMERGING PRACTICE 1800 608 122 (9am-midnight or 4pm-midnight
not mean you have to remain silent or alone. Keep health worker and tell them what’s happening. You can also ring Lifeline
believe it will happen again. Keep your own record If the victim chooses not to leave the abusive on weekends)
in touch with people who are supportive and review for support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 13 11 14. The Australian DV Clearinghouse. A library
of incidents and see a doctor if you have been relationship it is very important to stay connected Family Violence Response and Referral Line:
your situation regularly. of research and resources and an online
physically or psychologically injured, so that a and continue offering support. 1800 633 937 (24hrs)
database of good practice programs.
medical file is created. If your partner disobeys the
Protect their safety (and your own). For example www.austdvclearinghouse.unsw.edu.au WA
Remember that part of the difficulty of leaving an abusive relationship is Men’s DV Helpline: 1800 000 599
You may sometimes have the legal option to stay in have the perpetrator leave. Practical tips for
Leaving an abusive relationship your home and take action against your partner, so Sometimes the wider community knows about coping with loss and change. You will be facing a daunting number of hard
survivors as well as project details.
the violence but does not offer support for fear issues. You may find that you regret leaving the relationship, even though
often increases the level of violence. they are removed and ordered not to return.
you are very relieved to have left the abuse. It is normal to feel this and
www.stayinghomeleavingviolence.org.au
of breaking up a family unit. You can help change
The time leading up to and following the separation community attitudes by talking about the effects of with help it will gradually become less overwhelming. Talk to supportive
You may also be able to access:
may be the most dangerous. It is important to be domestic violence and how this damages families friends, family or support workers when you are feeling this way.
aware of this and plan for your safety. Have a safety • a Centrelink crisis payment to help you with and the whole community.
plan that you have talked through with a trusted family immediate financial difficulties
member, friend or support worker. • financial compensation from Victims of Crime If you suspect someone is experiencing domestic
5
Survivors of domestic violence have often been Men’s Referral Service: 1800 065 973
things around violence order (AVO), intervention order or isolated from friends and family and may have Look after yourself W.A. Government website. Information on all
(9am to 9pm)
restraining order). The protection order can direct difficulty trusting anyone. Make sure you stay in touch aspects of DV and includes a self help book for
For all of these reasons, some people decide that Try to find a safe place to have positive ‘time out’. Living in a stressful TAS
the abuser not to harm you, come near you, your and maintain your support, especially following men worried about their violence.
remaining with an abusive partner is the best choice situation can wear you down. Domestic violence can cause anxiety, panic
children, home or workplace. You will need to a separation. www.freedomfromfear.wa.gov.au Family Violence Counselling and Support:
for them at the time. If you are in this situation it does attacks, depression and thoughts of suicide. Find a supportive GP or
show evidence of the violence and reason to RESEARCH, POLICY AND EMERGING PRACTICE 1800 608 122 (9am-midnight or 4pm-midnight
not mean you have to remain silent or alone. Keep health worker and tell them what’s happening. You can also ring Lifeline
believe it will happen again. Keep your own record If the victim chooses not to leave the abusive on weekends)
in touch with people who are supportive and review for support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 13 11 14. The Australian DV Clearinghouse. A library
of incidents and see a doctor if you have been relationship it is very important to stay connected Family Violence Response and Referral Line:
your situation regularly. of research and resources and an online
physically or psychologically injured, so that a and continue offering support. 1800 633 937 (24hrs)
database of good practice programs.
medical file is created. If your partner disobeys the
Protect their safety (and your own). For example www.austdvclearinghouse.unsw.edu.au WA
Remember that part of the difficulty of leaving an abusive relationship is Men’s DV Helpline: 1800 000 599
You may sometimes have the legal option to stay in have the perpetrator leave. Practical tips for
Leaving an abusive relationship your home and take action against your partner, so Sometimes the wider community knows about coping with loss and change. You will be facing a daunting number of hard
survivors as well as project details.
the violence but does not offer support for fear issues. You may find that you regret leaving the relationship, even though
often increases the level of violence. they are removed and ordered not to return.
you are very relieved to have left the abuse. It is normal to feel this and
www.stayinghomeleavingviolence.org.au
of breaking up a family unit. You can help change
The time leading up to and following the separation community attitudes by talking about the effects of with help it will gradually become less overwhelming. Talk to supportive
You may also be able to access:
may be the most dangerous. It is important to be domestic violence and how this damages families friends, family or support workers when you are feeling this way.
aware of this and plan for your safety. Have a safety • a Centrelink crisis payment to help you with and the whole community.
plan that you have talked through with a trusted family immediate financial difficulties
member, friend or support worker. • financial compensation from Victims of Crime If you suspect someone is experiencing domestic
Z00 42873
Over 90% of victims are women, although men can
of control. Last revised May 2010 also be victims.
Tool kit
Domestic Violence
A self-help resource to help people living
What are the effects Some children may not have the words to with domestic violence
tell you how it is affecting them, but their
of domestic violence? behaviours show you how they feel.
For example: Places to go for help now: Acknowledgements:
Domestic violence has serious, • Aggressive, demanding behaviour and language
• For immediate help if you are in danger, call the
negative consequences for • Low self esteem and shame police on 000. Lifeline’s domestic violence tool kit provides information about:
individuals, families and whole • Physical reactions; eating and sleeping • For specialist counselling support if you are
communities. problems, stomach cramps, bedwetting, experiencing domestic violence contact the Understanding what domestic violence is
headaches Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault National
Victims develop survival skills to protect themselves
and their children. They may ‘tiptoe’ around their
• Withdrawing from friends or difficulty making helpline on 1800 200 526. Developing some strategies for what to do if in a violent or abusive relationship
and keeping friends • For men who use violence or male survivors
partner’s moods or change their behaviour to ‘keep
the peace’. They sometimes withdraw from their • Problems with school work of domestic violence, contact Mensline on Understanding what friends and family can do
friends and family. They try to protect children from 1300 78 99 78. Prime Super is the proud sponsor of the Lifeline
• Becoming a victim or a perpetrator of bullying
seeing or hearing the abuse. They do everything • For information about receiving a Centrelink
Information Service – your mental health and Where to go for help
• Using drugs or alcohol self-help resource.
exactly as their partner wishes, but still this does not crisis payment to help you with immediate
stop the abuse. Some victims also try to fight back. • Self harming financial difficulties, contact Centrelink on Prime Super is Australia’s only nationally operating
13 2850 or find information online at super fund dedicated to rural and regional Australia.
It is important to realise that no matter what you do, These are understandable responses to living with
www.centrelink.gov.au/internet/internet.nsf/
only the abusive partner can stop their behaviour. It is fear and worry.
payments/crisis.htm For more information on Prime Super, please
What is domestic violence? Domestic violence is not always physical.
not your fault and it is the person who uses violence It can happen in many ways and includes
who needs to change. Help for people who use • Each State or Territory has its own network ring 1800 675 839 or visit their website things like:
Children need: www.primesuper.com.au Domestic violence is abuse by
violence is available through the services listed at the of services that can help deal with domestic • Emotional abuse; humiliating someone, putting
• To know they are not forgotten and that you one person towards their partner,
end of this tool kit. violence. Some of these on page 4. them down and blaming them
notice what they are dealing with Lifeline and Prime Super are working in partnership
Living in an abusive relationship can lead to
• For help finding services whether you are a to promote mental health awareness, help-seeking girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse. • Financial abuse; strict control of money
• To feel and hear they are loved
depression; injury from assault; suicidal thoughts; survivor or a person who uses violence, contact and suicide prevention.
• Protection from direct physical, sexual, emotional It is sometimes called relationship violence or family • Verbal abuse; name-calling and yelling
panic and anxiety. You may have nightmares, Lifeline on 13 11 14.
and verbal abuse violence. If your partner’s actions make you feel • Social abuse; controlling what you do and
be unable to sleep, stop eating properly, or feel
afraid, powerless or unsafe, then you are experiencing who you see
confused and hopeless. These are normal reactions • Encouragement to talk about their worries and
domestic violence. This can happen during the
and many people overcome them with support. The make sense of what is happening • Physical harm or threats of physical harm,
relationship and also after you have separated.
information below will help you become aware of • Reassurance that the violence is not their fault smashing things, hurting pets
Children who see, hear or sense this violence are also
your choices and the help that is available. • Sexual abuse and rape
• Help with making their own safety plan for where affected. Domestic violence is a crime and the person
to go when they are fearful who uses violence is breaking the law. • Stalking; following or making excessive calls,
• To know that bullying and abuse are not ok texts or emails
What about the children? • Professional help if they show signs
In domestic violence the abusive partner uses their
power to intimidate, threaten or harm the other person,
• Spiritual abuse; controlling spiritual or
of ongoing distress cultural choices
in order to get what they want. This may include
Children living in a household possessiveness; control; limiting how the other person Non-physical forms of abuse can be just as damaging
Finally, it is important to teach your children how to
where there is domestic violence handle arguments without using abuse or violence.
can behave; or putting them down. They often enforce as physical assault. If you do not feel respected or
secrecy and isolation, so that those outside the family
usually know exactly what is going Show them that people can disagree and still respect
do not become aware of their violence.
able to be yourself in a relationship; if you are afraid to
disagree or negotiate what you want, this is a sign of
on and they may blame themselves and care for one another. Respectful relationships
domestic violence. If you realise this is happening to
involve mutual care and consideration, negotiation
for the violence and tension in and compromise. you, talk to someone and get help as soon as possible.
the household.
They need support to deal with the trauma they Who is affected by
experience and the disruption it causes to their domestic violence?
development. Unborn children or small babies can For 24 hour telephone crisis support call 13 11 14
also be directly affected by the violence and by
their mother’s fear or stress. Be aware that during For more information visit www.lifeline.org.au Anyone can experience
pregnancy and around the birth of a new baby there To donate call 1800 800 768 domestic violence.
is often a greater risk of violence.
It happens in every community, young and old;
Many women are hopeful that these major life wealthy or poor; all cultures; people in same-sex
This Tool Kit has been produced by the Lifeline Information Service as a public service.
events will change their partner. However, there is You are welcome to reproduce it without alteration and with acknowledgement of Lifeline. relationships; people with disabilities; those who are
very clear evidence that these times are often triggers We invite your feedback and comments at infoservice@lifeline.org.au socially successful and those who are struggling.
for increased violence due to jealousy and issues The assistance of Jen Hamer in producing this tool kit is gratefully acknowledged.
Z00 42873
Over 90% of victims are women, although men can
of control. Last revised May 2010 also be victims.