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“GETTING PAST NO:
NEGOTIATING IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS”
Submitted to:
DEAN JOAN S. LARGO
Submitted by:
ABELLA, BEA VANESSA S.
EH 306
March 2020
OVERVIEW
When you deal with others, you also have to deal with your own
negative feelings. If they refuse to negotiate with you, they are likely
nervous, upset, or have some other negative feeling about the possible
negotiation or even about you. You must then find out the reason
behind the “No” in order to overcome the “No”. If you understand each
other’s problem, you will be able to overcome them. It is important in
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this stage that you must leave your negative feelings aside. Think
about negotiating calmly and ask yourself: “What is the worst possible
scenario in which this negotiation can end?”. Having control of your
behavior is the first step in overcoming the other person’s “No”. Never
allow your emotions to control the situation. Allow yourself to calm
down and breathe. Compose yourself in a manner that would not
threaten or that would offend the other side.
Most of the time, one party usually raises a point of view and
cling on to it with supporting arguments and other additional points;
while the other side uses the opposite case and defends its position.
With conflicting ideas and positions, this then forces both parties to
choose which between them has better position. You must get rid of
automatic reactions by considering more open and creative solutions.
Start by trying to see the other’s point of view. Try to agree with each
other whenever possible. Find common points. Confrontation does not
necessarily have to end with broken relationships. It is already
expected that there will be two (2) side of the story but the key here is
to make the two (2) sides meet.
GETTING PAST NO
Forget the present and the past; adopt a positive and optimistic
communication. Show to the other party that you understand what he
or she is trying to say so that he or she may convince his or her own
self that you are really listening. Try to rephrase what the other person
said and tell them how you feel about it. Thereafter, get the other
person to understand your point of view as well. One way of showing
respect to the other party is also through asking for advices from them.
Learning to rephrase your sentences to control the direction of your
negotiations is an essential skill to succeed.
You can also indicate to the other party that this process of “joint
problem-solving” is the best option for negotiating and reaching an
agreement. Be aware of the fine line between alerting people and
making a threat. An alert gives information about what is likely to
happen, while threat suggests an action that will be taken to hurt the
other side in some way. Threats put the other person in a defensive
mode, while warnings can help make opponents think about disastrous
consequences.
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AVOID “TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT” PROPOSALS
CONCLUSION
1. Go to the Balcony.
2. Step to Their Side.
3. Reframe.
4. Build Them a Golden Bridge.
5. Use Power to Educate.
Step to Their Side. You must put in mind that you need to create
a favorable climate. Do not build any tension between the two of you.
You need not intimidate the other party so as to escalate extreme
emotions. Let them feel and see that you are listening to them. While
you are clinging onto your position, try to acknowledge their points
and agree with them. The process of negotiation is not a one-way
process but a two-way. You must understand the other side’s position
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and let the other side understand your position as well.
Build Them a Golden Bridge. Try to find out what the other side
thinks that you need to understand and why they think as such.
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