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FAMILY COUNSELING
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2020
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PREFACE
The writer wants to thank to Almighty God bless and because of His grace, we can
finish this paper. This paper with the title is "Pra Marriage Counseling ", The writer wrote it
The writer Also delivers his gratitude to Ma'am Neviyarni and Miss TriaveNuzilaZahri,
For Reviews their guidance to complete it. The writer realizes that this paper is far from
perfect in the arrangement or in the content of the paper. The writer hopes that the
suggestions from the reader can be a support to the make her better in the next paper project.
Finally, the writer expects that it can be a medium for the reader to deepen the
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Table of Content
Cover......................................................................................................................................0
Preface ...................................................................................................................................1
Table of Content.....................................................................................................................2
Chapter I ................................................................................................................................3
A. Background................................................................................................................3
B. Problem Formulation.................................................................................................3
C. Purpose.......................................................................................................................3
Chapter II...............................................................................................................................4
References..............................................................................................................................9
Yel-Yel ..................................................................................................................................10
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CHAPTER I
PRELIMINARY
A. Background
What makes a happy marriage is not our level of compatibility with a partner, but
how much our ability and willingness to overcome incompatibility. Love might look
ideal, but it really is marriage that is truly actual. The ambiguity between the ideal (what
it should be) and the actual (what it is) is indeed endless. Statistics show the need to find
tips for a successful marriage.
B. Problem Formulation
C. Purpose
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CHAPTER II
DISCUSSION
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Therefore, marriage is really meant to form a human noble morality and liberate
humans from animal morality.
5. Cultural aspects
In the perspective of culture, marriage can be seen as part of the process of
human interaction in the formation of the smallest communities. The family is the
embryo of society which will build a larger social world. Families who have a
good cultural foundation will build a good social cultural world as well, so that the
lowest size of masyarakaat good culture is the family itself.
Thus, in achieving the aspects positive in the family itself, Counseling
Premarital very important role in it, where before Individuals do weddings, up first
given service Counseling Premarital that individuals understand the aspects of
married life harmonious future and can be useful in social life.
Nurihsan (in Mubasyaroh, 2016: 12) argues that the guidance wedding,
including the guidance of the family who are efforts to provide assistance to
individuals as leaders or family members so that they are able to create a family intact
and harmonious, empower themselves in a productive, can create and adjust to family
norms, as well as the role or actively participate in achieving a happy family life.
Therefore, premarital counseling is very important for couples who are getting
married or couples who will take a new life with a householder that will be able to
develop themselves or conform and can create a harmonious family and the whole
center of a community.
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and understand each other. Differences in background, age, educational level
becomes meaningless if the reception on the influx of family life cycle is received
and understood.
Thus, when the initial commitment of marriage is very important, but it is
undeniable that the conflict in family life caused by mrlsnggsr commitment to
each individual. Then it must be prevented through premarital counseling.
2. Sex problems
This problem often occurs in family life, where one of the individuals assume
that the other can not serve them both physically and spiritual. Most couples will
take the marriage would feel anxious or awkward with regard to sexual problems
in husband and wife, where the problem is often the case.
According to Umi Khusnul Khatimah (2013: 236) on the psychological
dimension, sexuality is closely related to psychological factors, namely emotions,
views and personalities who collaborate with social factors. The social dimension
towards how sexuality appears in human relations, how the environment affects
the formation of views on sexuality and ultimately one's sexual behavior.
So, this issue was also discussed when the individual will face a domestic life,
which will make the problem of conflict in the household.
3. Personal conflicts
According to Coser (in Eva Maizara Puspita Dewi and Basti, 2008: 43) The
conflict is always there in the common life, even in a perfect relationship even if
conflict is inevitable and conflict is increasing in a serious relationship.
Discord, disagreement and conflict within a household is something
sometimes can not be avoided, but it must be faced. This is because in a marriage
there is a unique union of two persons to carry their belief system based on
cultural background and different experiences. The differences, however, need to
be adjusted to one another to form a belief system for a family.
Therefore, through premarital counseling, these problems prevented and make
each individual will benefit memahaami and would be expected to reduce conflict
in the family.
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According Yuliatun (2016: 37) marriage counseling aimed at helping couples
to resolve the problem, it also helps couples to maintain the commitment of religious
consciousness in the development of problem solving relevance married life.
According to Huff and Miller (in Yuliatun, 2016: 43) the purpose of marriage
counseling includes several things, namely:
1. Raise awareness of himself and can salling empathize with the couple.
2. Raising awareness about the power and potential of each.
3. Enhance mutual opening up.
4. Improve the relationship more intimate.
5. Develop communication skills, problem solving, and managing conflict.
Mubasyaroh (2016: 13) argues that marriage is the initial formation of the
family, because in it there will be a father, mother and child, so that the process that
began with its formation married couples need to do in order to marriage counseling
to be carried out will be able to obtain happiness.
One approach used in premarital counseling is a humanistic approach. Belkin
(in Mubasyaroh, 2016: 16) points out that on the other side of the humanistic
approach include the family, where it discusses how the structure and communication
within the family that will take place later, so that a family will run properly by
executing their respective roles.
According to Gerald Corey (in Mubasyaroh, 2016: 15-16) there are several
goals of Existential Humanistic Counseling, namely:
1. Clients order mengaalami existence is authentic by becoming aware of the
existence and potential and realized that he could open up and act based on their
ability.
2. Fully aware of the current situation.
3. Choosing how to live in the present.
4. Shoulder the responsibility to choose.
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CHAPTER III
CLOSING
A. Conclusion
B. Suggestions
The author is certainly still aware that if the paper above there are still many
errors and far from perfection. The author will refine the paper based on many sources
and constructive criticism from readers.
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